Pride and honor are the hallmarks of the Eastern way of life. As a foreigner, if you disrupt this way of life you can find yourself immersed in a world turned against you.
You make an important point. I have seen and heard many complaints from other Americans about life abroad. Many of them seem never to have visited anywhere else, just a straight shot from Kentucky to the Philippines, or something similar. Developing your travel portfolio really helps you put things in perspective. Congrats on the anniversary, btw. :)
appreciate your video, i just came back from IloIlo. (Oct 5-19. 3rd time in PH ) and I was listening to a foreign couple ( not from US ) having a conversation with the bar hotel staff about former president Duerte. I told my fiance who is Filipino, lets get away from this conversation, and we got up and moved far away to another area in the resort. I will never ever talk about politics in a country where I'm staying. i learned that lesson years back when I used to visit the Dominican Republic. Its none of my business and I stay clear from it always. I still plan to retire in PH because my experiences have been wonderful. i know where to go and where not to go, what to say and what not to say. its been going great for me.
@madrical777: Good advice to anyone in another country whether you live there or are a tourist. Not your country, not you politics, not your business. Stay out of it!
Actually non-citizens talking about filipino politics is a crime just like US. It is interference of sovereign country's politics. In US they don't enforce it.
Excellent Video Tim, my ex (Muslim from Zamboanga) would never allow me to travel to her home, she would say too dangerous for me as an American even though she was an upper class local with a military family. She would say the NPA mingle amongst the locals. Her relatives wanted me to visit anyway since I was brown skin (hispanic), would not stand out. She taught me how to always be respectful and be humble to the locals throughout the Philippines and in turn they will take good care of you.
she a lied to you.. NPA's are new peoples army.. a Christian rebel group..😂 they are not present to those muslim territories.. because they already have far worst groups like MILF and ISIS.. don't ever go to south of mindanao or else you will ends up like that blogger..
No matter where you are in the world, it’s essential to treat others with kindness and respect. Remembering to stay grounded can make a meaningful difference in how we connect with those around us.
I had one expat that built a very large two story home with a pool tell me that he went into that knowing he would have to build the walls higher than normal around it, literally and figuratively. You want to block what you built and what you have from as many eyes as possible if you're a Westerner looking to have a Western style of comfort and not wanting to live more simply. And that goes for workers you hire and even extended family members. That last group maybe even more than anything. But it was his wife that helped him understand that in the beginning. The woman you marry is one of the most important decisions you will ever make. Choose wisely. Take your time even if you feel time is running out. It might not end up happening but that's better than marrying a bad woman.
Envy hmmm Yes before I married my ,, GURL,, she had 10+ close friends in her group Now 2 ..and there jealous as ,,f,, .. because she now has everything .. house farm.overses travel cars new motor bike..I also pay her ,,mum only,, medical expenses..
@@Jimmy-mx4cc Just having a foreign boyfriend is enough even if she gets nothing much. The filipinos turn against eachother way more than they do against foreigner in my opinion
ENVY plays all over the world. You singleing Philippines 🇵🇭 as one is very UNFAIR & rude!! If you feel like that in MY country, you are free to leave anytime!😠
Hello Tim, I must acknowledge and thank you for hitting the nail directly on it's head. I am 66 years old, part Asian and part white. I was born and raised in Makati, Manila and left the Philippines as a 12 year old. I have witnessed many an American or westerner become humbled at the playground or park because they were just too cocky for the local basketball players. You do not get ahead by putting anyone down in the Philippines.
I've lived here in Cebu for 12 1/2 years and nothing suprises me anymore but I have never gotten into any disputes. I've learned bisaya and just made my own path. I've never got into a physical face to face dispute with anyone. Anything that happens or if I want to complain I just directly go to the barangay Kaptain and or video it. Seven years in the city and the rest in the province. Foreigners will always be second rate in the Philippines. One thing I've learned though that people never do anything unless you offend them. Different islands treat people differently. Cebu, Negros Occ, Iloilo, Leyte, and Samar are all different.
I live in Vietnam with my Vietnamese wife. As long as you always possess the "I'm a visitor here" mentality, you'll be fine. It's those that start believing that the country they're in owes them something or needs them there, they quickly find out they made a mistake. When a citizen frustrates you, it's always best to smile and walk away.
Hi, I was looking to visit a foreign country in SE Asia mostly because it's cheaper. Can't figure out which countries to go. Vietnam seems like one of the best out of all. Phil gets a lot of typhoons. What place in Vietnam do you think a foreigner should visit. I found some farm stays on Airbnb
What you said about people being so interconnected is SO true. It is not to your benefit to humiliate anyone as you never know the family, relatives or connections you have offended. I keep my opinions solely to my wife, not even to her family to ensure everyone saves face.. I have learned to always leave an Asian the opportunity to save face which carried into my life here in the states, too..
I am Christian in a Muslim area. One rule we don't forget is not to marry a muslim girl if you don't convert to Islam. It can end very badly for you. It happens all the time even for Filipino christians.
@@andrevdende8244it is a beautiful faith. Most of us will not compromise our beliefs. As a Vietnamese Muslim I am proud of our traditions that unite Muslims worldwide.
It’s a great way to make those who don’t follow your religion submit, imagine not being Muslim living there, all the women can be taken by Muslim men but you can’t have any since you’re not part of the club
Well said, Tim. What I have noticed in most Asian countries I have been to is if you show people respect and appreciate their culture, they will normally show you the same respect. Laugh with them and they laugh with you. What you have said is great advice for people who haven't travelled enough and spent real time in these proud countries.
That's very much true in any country and place, not just in Asia. Know the culture of the country and respect it, and people will also respect you. Of course be cautious as well. The Philippines in general is safe but there are areas where you really have to be aware of the environment.
@@jimbo8888 disagree totaly they friendly about small nonsence but if u get screwed by one or group not them that they know at best they stay out of it. They are never yiur friends to trust and count on. Aka experience in panama. Essentially you are only good for taking from not giving to.
The older I get the thing I know is that I don't know anything especially here in the Philippines 🇵🇭🇺🇸. Been here since 2019 and still learning new things every day but that's part of the adventure of being here
man i dont really watch your vids even tho im seeing you in my feed. but this couple of vids that you made regarding about the american made me appreciate the quality of content that you do. please continue to provide honest and no bs guide to the philippines.
This is 100% what everyone needs to hear. I left the US to live in Eastern Europe, And then Asia. it doesn't matter where you are in the world. As Americans we are too care free, open, personal. And too many Americans want to "brag" I lived in a Eastern European country that Americans have been deleted in, because they bragged about money, status, made fun of locals choice in clothes, and the food they eat. Americans watch too many bloggers talk about how amazing things are and never talk about the realities you face in these countries.
Americans are anamolies in Europe especially Eastern Europe. They don't understand that bragging and forcing your existence on others is not considered positive outside of the U.S.
Thank you for this...and next time those people bragging about being expats and how wonderful their new nation is and how bad so many things in the US are, when they get kidnapped, don't expect US taxes to be spent for the CIA, FBI, and Special Forces to look for and rescue you. Personally, I love losing these people with no loyalty or patriotism to the US, because when the next great war starts that the world, once again, expects the US to save them from as evil countries like China, Russia, NK, and the Middle East try to collectively dominate, I'd rather they incompetent brainwashed, disloyal US citizens to already have self-selected out and moved. But, as usual, I'm sure they will all start crying and begging for the US to save them. Good comments; thanks. (I will add that the only main issue your succinct post didn't touch on is how a majority of foreigners come to the US and feel entitled, get free services, and yet don't show US citizens or our nation respect or try to assimilate into our culture. This is also a reality that most won't address for fear of being called xenophobic, racist, and other derogatory terms.)
Yes very well said, People’s are saying he’s a loan shark in that Parts of The southern, That Even Filipinos Afraid to go … And I watch one of his Videos… Titled Living in a Dangerous parts of the Philippines as American and he’s bragging… But he’s just a kid just ignore the warning, I hope they bring him back safe …. 🙏🙏🙏
Yes, I've seen quite a few Americans here brag and get themselves into strife. They don't seem to be able to read the situation and shut up. But then British, Australian and Europeans sometimes act the same way too
I worked overseas for over 25 years. I found that being humble and very polite allowed me to prosper and really do well. The day I retired, I moved back to the US as there is no place like America.
My filopina's wife's brother overtook another Filipino near our house. They were both on motor bikes. My wife was sat on a hillside a little further up the road. She was using her laptop and trying to get a better signal to do some school work being a teacher during lockdown. The Filipino took offence at being overtaken by her brother, stopped his bike next to them, proceeded to take out a handgun, and held it against my wife's head. She then pleaded with him not to shoot and apologised for her brother overtaking him. He then put away the gun and carried on his way. Early next morning, my wife's mother waited at the roadside for him to appear, standing in the middle of the road she forced him to stop and gave him a piece of her mind threatening to report him to the police. It turned out that his brother was a local police officer and the gun belonged to him. Anyway, the gunmen started crying and was full of remorse, so the matter went no further. For me, living in the west at the time. I felt she should have had him arrested for what is in the west, a very serious crime. But here in the Philippines, they certainly do things differently. I don't think I'll ever understand the culture here, but thank God for my wife having a very brave mother
Hi Kelvin, as a Filipino American let me explain this to you; Your mother in law as an elder holds a ranking respect status. Even though what happened to you guys on that night was serious, in the Philippines if an issue no matter how serious it might be as long as you didn't killed or you or someone got killed can always be talked it out. For us, there's always solution to an issue, police, barangay officials are the last resort. But, don't mistaken that as a sign that you can just disrespect someone just then and there. I know here in the United States we always have common courtesy and respect but to me thats o ly superficial. Respect in the Philippines is more complicated and deep all the way through your soul.
@@entertexthere1127 like the respect of threatening to shoot someone for being overtaken, lol. Just say it is a culture where little feelings are hurt way to fast, lol
So never stay in the same place for too long. 2 years max. Rent instead of buying. Because when you rent, you are flexible to go or stay. As soon as they know you and they just think what you are. Then it stays that way in their heads. (Rich, poor, bluff, weak, crazy etc)
This is some of the best information you'll get on living in the Philippines. I too live in the province. No matter how frustrated I may get I never forget that I'm a visitor in someone else's home.
My Grandpa was a merchant marine, traveled all around the world his whole career, one piece of advice he gave me that came to mind when hearing about this was "Never flash a wad" Meaning don't ever flaunt money in front of people, especially cash.
keep it hidden in separate little 'stashes' all over your body or clothing. So that only a little is bought out or shown at any one time. You go to a bar, only the next note value up from the price of a drink is offered.... maybe you have two notes of that value.... ok, but you should be OK with that. Then you have some more money somewhere else, for later. That sort of thing works.
I came to the Philippines first in 1999. Your assertion that NOT loosing face is spot on. Understanding this well is critical. Many Americans seem to think the world is their Disney. Even still, many get away with pure idiocy, but sometimes, they do not.
and when it doesn't work out, it may involve legal problems, visa problems, jail, deportation. Unless of course, you just get beaten up by a mob. One pissed off person will often attract a crowd really fast, especially if a foreigner is involved. Even if he wasn't trying to do that to you... it will just happen. And you get to pay the hospital bill, what a winner...... too bad, never mind.
Well said Tim, I live in Mexico (I'm white and my wife is Mexican). I need to remind myself often that I am a guest in their country and always will be.
Wise words Tim K. I have been travelling and visiting the Phillipines since 1996. Such a beautiful place and wonderfull people. Pack mentality is the way. I have seen it over and over. Piss off the wrong people and your paradise will turn into a hell. Don't try to change it, just enjoy the hospitality and be respectfull. Your experience will always be positive.
There is a river near where I live, and about a mile southeast from a local bridge is the hunting ground for a bevy of otters. I go there throughout the season and lie silently and watch that family get on with their busy lives. I've seen three generations of whelps bless that riverbank. So be damned with people and their sensitivity based on supposed moral superiority and childish fears. They can keep their "beautiful" countries and all their oppressive oddities. I will go visit my otter romp any day over their country of confused "-isms".
Tim i watched id say 98 percent of your videos and being in my late 60s and lived on and off in the Philippines since 1981 and marrying a Filipino l must say l admire you especially hearing your admissions on your findings and your wrongs and to me that makes a better man and person of you, thanks Tim for your thoughts and findings and best wishes for the future and also your beautiful wife, take care 🙏
The Philippines is very simple. When it comes to living as a foreigner in the provinces, you'll get all the love and respect from everyone just as long as you are respectful, polite, and keep yourself out of the drama that you'll find simmering all around you. Put your wife and her family in front of you and let them be your shield from any drama that tries to find its way to you.
As an american in taiwan I agree with you about never going to be asian . I've been here for 15yrs now and I still feel like a foreigner and people treat me as such . It's ok though because I'm more comfortable being on my own anyways. But yeah that's something foreigners need to know .
When filipinos can speak with you fluently in their local dialect, you are as close as you can get to becoming unnoticed as a foreigner. My brother in law speaks tagalog fluently and for the most part, we always forget he is a Republican.
And yet, the expect the protection of the US. Are they enjoying the constant, increasing encroachments in the South China Sea, the manmade islands they turn into military outposts, and the recent blockade/quarantine by the Chinese navy?! Maybe we should just let them try to did their pompous ass out of this one...and we all KNOW where THAT would end up.
Do people really think they will ever be seen as the same? I had an uncle from India that passed away recently and he never felt truly American. He would watch Jerry Springer to laugh at the Caucasians and feel better about not being a White Anglo Saxon Protestant (WASP) that founded the nation. If you're a European-American and you live in SE Asia be happy to be to be yourself. It comes with benefits in most countries and really no unique drawbacks aside from everyone will think you're rich. Maybe you are, maybe you are not. You can set those boundaries early on. Don't go to the Rolex store and then walk around with the bag in public view unless you're staying in BGC. Even then it's probably a dickhead move.
Tim, your face has really cleared up man! I admit to not having seen you in a while. You look great! Looks like you've been eating well and taking good care of yourself.
This is ridiculous. While the US has its share of problems, including crime, nowhere do you constantly hear it said to "always be vigilant" to people traveling in, immigrating to, or born in the US. You also don't hear these constant warnings about the UK, Canada, Australia, Scandinavia, and a lot of Europe...but we sure do about a lot of Latin America, Mexico, the Middle East, the PI, and much of the rest of Asia. One should always have situational awareness, but the very fact that you and so many other PI expats and expats (and merely travelers) in certain other countries feel the need to constantly express this speaks volumes about what crappy countries they are an a fundamental difference between them and decent, developed, western nations. And, too bad that same humble advice isn't shared by most immigrants TO those developed, western nations.
@@Theodicy101No it's because far too many westerners have an attitude so it's best to warn others to be careful. I lived in several very safe East Asian countries, but you still should be humble and respectful as a guest.
HAPPY ANNIVERSARY TIM AND CHRISSY! I attended your wedding via RUclips. I married a Filipina co-worker here in the US, the OC Timoy. She grew up in Tacloban. The stories she told me about her father getting drunk and challenging everyone to a fight were disturbing. Because he caused a neighbor to 'lose face' they had to move several time to different areas to avoid the harassment. So it is cultural. Foreigner or not mind your own business. Be respectful, we are just visiting. The Filipino Americans are very respectful, honest, hard working and they mind their own business. Thanks for your thoughts Tim. Words to live by.
It's not nearly as common, but they do exist. My wife is Thai and enjoys listening to some Thai comedians on occasion. The humor is much different, though, as you noted. They're not poking fun at people individually.
@anthonyantoine9232: Anthony, having lived in both Thailand and the PI they are two different worlds apart. In Thailand you can get public workers motivated in their office by getting real excited to the point the headman comes out and probably says "do whatever needs to be done because I don't want him back in here". That's after pursuing the regular routes with no success. Try that in the PI once and the guy riding on a pillion will put one in you. The locals I can get along with. The expat crowd not anymore. And BTW, I don't live in the PI anymore and haven't since 2013 but I still live in SEA but stay away from expats. I did hear about that guy down in Zamboanga. Not very smart and the people that get on utube and tell the world how safe it is there should have their necks rung. I did live in Davao city for three years and yep, safe during the day! 23 years and four countries and everyone is different. Also, things like the expat crowd aren't the same as they were in the early-mid 2000s. People used to be that they understood you were over here because you disliked your country too for the most part. Now they dislike you because of where you came from and they know right away from your accent. Trust me.
Not really true because I am from Poland and we have tons of comedians taking the piss of ourselves as the nation but British humour I think is the best in the world ever hehehehe 😅😅😅😅
Thank you for that. A lesson for many to learn. I have been married into a Filipino family since 2010. Never a truer word said and very measured. Still recently retired from the uk and living with my middle daughter and here husband and my grandchildren. Although my wife passed away 2022. I could not be happier, expecting when my other two daughers are home and maybe my kids from UK are over. (Stepdaughters)
If you plan to live in a different culture, then take time to learn that culture, and especially learn what not to do in that culture. You are not entitled to be there. Good Job Tim K!
Does that also apply to the millions of foreigners in the US--a ton illegally--who commit crimes, get free money, services, food, lodging, and other benefits, while not trying to assimilate and act entitled...not to mention harming our nation and showing no loyalty...but only trying to change it to the lousy country from which many of them came?!
Hi Tim , I was previous viewer of your channel and at first I didn’t like you I won’t mention why but life has humbled me and I appreciate your channel and things you speak about Eliot . I have subbed.
Respect and humbleness…. Arrogance and disrespect will get anybody in trouble especially if you are an expat acting like you didn’t know(tanga/stupid). Good information Mr. Tim.😊🇺🇸🇵🇭
Very wise words, my man. I'm 67 and have been in Davao since June of 2024, I've come to the conclusion that I'll always be on the outside looking in. Hell, even in my home around the dinner table, I feel alienated because everyone will slip into their native language. Never once thinking of me sitting right there in front of them. And that's just one of many situations I experience daily. I try to be humble ( quite ) most of the time, but there are days when I want to scream at people. I've been blatantly cheated, lied to, and ignored. It's my opinion that there are a lot of passive-aggressive people here, and that's probably because of the shaming culture. Confrontation isn't a thing here, regardless of who is in the right or wrong. Forgive and forget, or just live with it.
I've been married to a filipina for over 38 years, built a home in Samar, traveled a lot, and have spent over 8 years living in the Philippines. I learned a long time ago that when you think you have things figured out, you absolutely don't (though, I can cook a pot of rice as fast as anyone). I know what you should and shouldn't do and I'm still learning. Tim is right, the cultural intricacies run very deep here and can get you in trouble faster than the speed of love in hooker town. 🌴😎
Hey Tim, good feedback! My Filipina wife and I have been married for over 28 years. She is from Naval, Biliran Province. Located on the very northern tip of Leyte. Complicated is an understatement. One of her high school classmates is an attorney in town and she has become very corrupt and seems to find more time working on her Facebook page than on her caseload. She is always posturing on facebook on how important she is and is sure to let everyone know when she travels to Europe on vacation. Imagine that, going on vacation to Europe as a small town provincial prosecuting attorney! Anyway, a few weeks ago while having my usual "night cap" before bed, I see one of her postings and I make an editorial comment(honestly cannot remember what it was), and by the time I wake up the next morning, she is over to my mother in laws house threatening charging me with cyber bullying! Honestly, am really not that type of person, but I think she was publicly convicted by my comments and embarrassed with her large following. Something like that happens here, we blow it off and move on, especially if there are elements of truth to it. BUT, like you stated, it does not work that way in the Philippines. Anyway, the politics, complications, noise level at night, lack of infrastructure, pollution, etc has relegated our max future visits to perhaps 3 months/year and possibly less. We just recently came back from a 6 week stay and I look at the Philippines as more of an activity stay(scuba, sightseeing) now rather than considering it as a retirement destination. I think my Filipina wife is happy to stay away from the Philippines as it was noisy as hell during the night and the both of us got little sleep from all of the inconsiderate neighbors. Anyway, certainly not has nice as it was 30 years ago and I agree that going to those areas less travelled are the way to go. As ex-military, I also am extremely cautious to not advertise my presence and stay as low key as possible while there. Our itinerary is not even shared with our local family. We trust no one.
My dear, I'm so lucky to bump into your video tonight. As of today, you have become my second sociology professor. All along, I don't know the world is divided into two, The east, which is the world of shame, causing the victim to retaliate and then West, which is the world of guilt, causing Justice to get involved. Wow, this has become an eye-opener for me.....
And that's exactly right. Take for instance when becoming Filipino toured the mosque and telling everyone how safe and kind it is there and that the whole time he has arm guards with him just outside the video frame. I wonder if the Eastman kid watched his videos and listened to becoming Filipino telling him how safe it is
He sure fooled me!! And I thought he was a good honest guy. But it looks like he was working overtime as ambassador for that region!! I am beginning to find out a lot of YTers are not who they are!
Becoming Filipino did emphasize the need to coordinate with the local tourism office. There are parts of the Philippines that are still tribal/medieval where the overlords must be paid their dues for safe passage.
I think we’re missing the part where we ask the question, what could have Mr. Eastman done that caused this unfortunate thing happened to him? I know this sounded as victim blaming, but I think it’s a valid question, no?
I lived 8 months in the Philippines and I can't see any reason I would go back at this point. As a foreigner living in a small town there would be nuts, to much BS. Pros are beautiful women and lower cost of living but the fact you will never fit in and alone seen as an ATM by most people sucks.
I am a Filipino. He stayed in the wrong place where life is hard. He should have stayed in Subic or anywhere in Zambales where most Americans are staying and retires. Based on his video, he seems loud.
Can't remember if it was Thailand or the Phillipines but a guy that went to my school got a little too drunk at the bar and got attacked and stabbed to death by some locals.
Former Philippines resident here. Things that can get you and your family k*lled in the Philippines: Staring at someone in the street or mall. Pointing your finger at someone or wagging your finger at someone to "come here". Insulting the Philippines country, culture or people. Embarrassing someone or acting aggressive to someone in public. This can be deadly. I have seen the reactions to foreigners doing the above things and it resulted in people dying. Remember, Filipino's are VERY sensitive to what you say to them, but not sensitive about what they say to you. Filipino's are not good at controlling their emotions as emotions are kept under control at home and they have very little experience handling emotional situations.
Well said, and yet another great reason why it's just better to avoid the PI and nations like it. A LOT more negatives than positives. And maybe, the next time a Filipino expects respect, including what is said to them and how it's said...but not showing the same courtesy in return, maybe they should remember who saved their ass in WWII from the Japanese, and where the PI will again beg assistance from the US when their problems with China get worse...as they will soon, it's obvious to anyone closely watching world events. Just ask Taiwan, Tibet, Nepal, and fishermen in the South China Sea!
This is way over exaggerated,most Filipinos couldn’t and wouldn’t hurt a fly.. i was in cebu city for many months and there were days I had to tell 3 guys to F-off because of their scammy ways or how they treated others in public. Cebu city is pretty hectic…everyone’s in a hurry,the people driving are terrible drivers,so inconsiderate… here in Canada we also have people who lose face sooo easily… we call them insecure baby boys… I felt good some days standing up for people being bullied by Filipino men or the never ending petty scams…but most days it drains the life out of you… so I went to a smaller city and problem solved haha I highly doubt you seen anybody killed,ever…neat story though.
Tim, the point about walking humbly is a good idea in any situation, caring about others, caring about animals and the world/environment. I also think it's great to explore one's own country and outside of it, but you also bring up an interesting comparison about cultural differences and how welcoming or not they are. To me, it's long been obvious that "strength in diversity" is one of the biggest socio-political lies ever told, and the rising diversity and declining native culture and civilization in the US, Scandinavia, Canada, Australia, and a lot of Europe is proof. Hungary finally figured it out and is finally contructing better border control and kicking out a lot of the ones they let in in the past few years...ones, like in the US and other countries I just mentioned, that have a vastly different religion and culture, and who not only DON'T want to conform TO the new culture but actually want it to conform to THEM and try to actively, even through bullying and terrorism to change it. Diversity works ONLY if the immigrants are very similar with their original culture to the country to which they are immigrating AND where they actually care about becoming a full part of that new country...e.g., Canadians moving to the US, Americans moving to the UK or Scandinavia, Aussies moving to a lot of Europe, etc.. In the US--and with many other "woke"/socialist/marxist-leaning governments, that has gone on increasingly over the past few decades--and which has reached a breaking point under the horrible "leadership" of Biden-Harris, has been to allow floods of immensely different cultures into our country, causing immensely more negatives than any possible positives...people who want to change the US into the very (to quote Trump, and it's true) "S**THOLE" countries from which they've come, to take full advantage of the US and its citizens while giving nothing in return, not being grateful, and not being loyal to their new country. While common courtesy and respect are important, it's important for a lot of these other nations, including a lot of developed "western"-type nations is that because of brave service men and women like you, Tim (Thank you again for your service!), and other citizens who sacrifice in many ways, we've saved the world's ass in two world wars (including the PI which would now be speaking Japanese if not for the US), and have overly funded NATO, the UN, and all sorts of humanitarian relief around the globe. I'm sick of the disrespect to the US--my nation which has its problems for sure, but which I love and of which I'm proud--and I think it's time to start excluding people, kicking many out, and kicking ass again and taking names around the world...and we should demand loyalty and for all allies to do their fair part...and we need to quit being so kind when we are the victors--especially when someone else starts problems (and also act when countries indirectly and cowardly cause problems but smile to our face--a great example being the Saudis). In the future, when we win a war, we should have a new US territory. Finally, who is the PI going to rely on when China gets even MORE aggressive in the South China Sea and Philippine territorial waters...and they WILL soon, as is obvious from their recent act of war against Taiwan, the increasing interference (including boat rammings) against the PI, BRICS, and many other things in their master plan of world domination. Decades ago, Americans were respected because the US was respected and feared, and it was generally safe to go almost anywhere. Today is a polar extreme in the way Americans are viewed and treated. The US needs to start drastically changing that, no matter how harsh they have to get.
Just to clarify, a caucasian looking guy with blue eyes can be treated as a local filipino as long as he is fluent of the language. Chances are, this blue eyed caucasian is really a filipino. He is a local filipino and he considers himself a local filipino. I can see them in supermarkets. They look very much caucasian but they speak tagalog like the locals because they are locals. So, a caucasian guy can be treated as a local filipino as long as he speaks the language like the locals and he considers himself a local. If you think you are an expat, then don't dream to be treated like a local by the locals. You don't even consider yourself a local.
Well said I am a Filipino but I prepare not to argue but instead step backward to avoid grudges and hatred which we do not know what a head on the streets is, it can kill you
Four reasons that is not him : the wife is aware of this guy and has said it's not her husband as he was wearing black shorts. This body was found over 180 mi away. The feet are totally different. Also no gunshot wounds to the left leg. Why would they abduct a guy and kill him at sea when they could have just killed him and left ? They have a different plan for him and there is still hope.
The local authorities are planning on bringing tourism to the area so they are now conveniently making false statements, like it wasn't a kidnapping it was an incident. BS..... Gunman with machine guns violently shot him and took him out to sea and he is still missing. That is not a fricken incident. An incident would be your dog crapped in my lawn or my neighbor stole my pancit. Furthermore why is it international news and the FBI is involved ?
Losing face is dangerous you're right. In Thailand, I meet a nice 'Lady'. We got along well. While having coffee, she told me she was actually a Ladyboy. I didn't get angry. I reacted honestly and kindly. I apologized several times explaining I wasn't interested. I tried to be very empathic and understand him. He reacted by saying, 'You are a kind man.' We had another coffee enjoying conversation together. We parted ways on a positive note. What could have a disaster with another man turned into a positive experience.
A similar thing happened to me over there. I made the choice to see what it would be like and my butt was sore for weeks bro. Definitely saved a lot of trouble though by saying yes.
Well i am a Veteran traveller to Phils. Was there 2 times in 2015 and in 2017 and in 2019 and in 2022 and now i go there again in 2024 in less than 14 days. Stay there 5 months.Got my own place to live in Phils allready. So stay safe and be humble and show respect to people in you area and they threat you well. Do not show off your money all time. Not a good idea. Just be nice to local people and they are nice back to you. I know people in my local area allready so i never cause any trouble in my neighbourhood. Then you can have a good life. Just play your cards right and you can have a safe life in phils.
in cebu i experienced yanks talking loudly in a fastfood restaurant for everyone to hear. they were complaining about the food, that's it's not up to US standards. it's harrassment but the people just ignored them so i ignored them as well. 😂
Tim spitting facts. Especially the last minute. We will always be foreigners, no matter how long we’ve been there. We have to remember that each region has different customs and rules and languages and that we will never understand. Be respectful but also true to yourself, and be safe ❤
My situation exactly the same as.. yours..I ended up in the police station in Barrio Baretto.. Another wandered up the Mountain with a fillipino guy I met few times..Invited me to a non existent party..up.in the slum.. I was drunk 😊. Then he proceede to try and rob me..I got away but not without a fight. I had to report it to the police before he did I was advised in case he reported me first to say I attacked him..NOT FUNNY I was not a tourist I lived there.😮 Third time ended up in a police station after my girl went berserk and smashed up the apartment punched herself on the breast and accused me of both.. I was the foreighner who's side were they on .GUESS.😮 Great video Tim..respect 😊
Tim not sure you read the responses or comments.. This from my 10 + years experiences to add to my previous reply.. You said rightly so..we are foreighners and never forget that. What I'm going to write next will not please everyone "the truth" . Never in the years I lived in the Phillipines did I meet a better off filipino girl or professional marry or get involved with a foreigner..Only girls from poor families.. I had a girlfriend not from a bar..However was accused of being a bargirl because she was with me..That predjuice is not far under the surface if we scratch a little..😮
Glad to know you know 'bout the interconnection of people in the Philippines. That's very real and can get one in very serious situation. As a Filipino, I really don't wanna step on someones foot.
With over 50 years in Asia, I can confirm all your points. "Face" is the most important thing in the east. You can give face to someone or you can cause them to lose face. Losing face is a powerful motive for revenge. Good job, Tim.
A lot of people say the hospitality in the Philippines is the best in the world. I haven't experienced that. It's not a chip my shoulders or expecting the same accommodations as the West...There are differences even in IT Park or BGC...The nicest areas of the Philippines....Some Expats are walking around thinking they are going to get 5 stars vacation for half the price... For me it's about being provided with what was promised, in expensive areas...If you are renting a apartment in a working-class neighborhood curb your expectations. If Wifi and Hot Water is listed, it should work upon arrival...50-100 dollars a night is enough to get a 4-star hotel, 5-star 200-300 dollars. If an Airbnb is charging that in the Philippines...It should smooth check in process and unbroken appliances. You have to wonder do the Hosts care? Not really, they have your money, and they don't. More often than not it seems, normal basic things we expect as guests simply go by the wayside. Waiting 45 minutes to check in at the Security Post because someone forgot to let them know you were coming or cleaning the apartment...Common. Now retail, If you ask for something is in stock, why tell me it's not but help my fiancé later? My patience has been tested and it seems like people feel they can speak to an Expat anyway they choose and not get a negative reaction. I have never yelled at someone or acted aggressive in the Philippines....But people have pushed the limits. The scams are real, the dismissiveness, the seemingly unprepared to handle basic tasks and questions.... Like you told me I can't exit through this door.... Where is the exit at an International Airport. At times it seems like insanity. Even questioning something you are told as being not right.... Is seen as a insult. Been lied to multiple times... This guy made so many mistakes, it’s clear he had no understanding of the culture he was entering…much less first hand experience. They were never going to accept him as a member of the community.
I've watched your videos basically on and off for years, most just you and Chrissy's regular life, especially liked the videos where you taught about the reality of living in phillipines as expat like COL and laws. Just wanted to say, really great video man. My favorite of yours probably.
Never disrespect and yell at anyone in asia or it can end badly. Dont mistake friendliness for weakness because asians when angry will shock you on their ferociousness
I gave a local Bali Grom a loaned board. He stole the fins and returned the board. I shamed him in public, and that’s where it all started….. your right Tim
Thanks for giving me a new perspective about the guilt and shame culture! Couples of months ago I started posting clips in facebook of drivers with no regard to others' safety. Like those who still keep going to my lane despite of flashing my headlight and honking and other traffic violations. I thought it will work coz youtubers posting these kind of content in the west are even being supported by a lot of followers. But here in the Philippines, people hated me. They hate that I am not letting other drivers get away of wrong behaviors they've presented on the public road. Now, these views helped me as well as a Filipino.
Simple. Observe animals in nature. Then compare the behavior patterns to them. You will see the noises, gestures, movement patterns are the same as animals in nature.
Filipino here, my kin will always you see you differently, heck we see even others who are close to our race like indonesians and Malaysians differently and crazier is that we also see just different province people differently. It won't change. The perspective has been set. It's like a weird bias. And im sure you know. Even a Filipino who will care about you or cares about you will see your personality and aspects as a part of your blood. Your race, where you come from. Not fully you as an individual. Not only that but aspect of your money, your childhood etc. if you're a good person we will mostly appreciate everything you do. And be courteous. But we severely get offended by any slight hint of disrespect. We take it more seriously from foreigners being disrespectful than if a Filipino is being disrespectful. We hold you In a different standard. So it's always most likely you're the one who will always find yourself compromising. It's quite of a toxic thing. I'm just being honest.
You make a great point. I’ve spent much of my life traveling across the U.S. and even toured with a band in my early 20s. I’ve also visited parts of Europe, Iceland, Ukraine, and Cambodia. Travel wasn’t something I actively pursued, it just happened naturally. When the time came, the Philippines felt just as natural. You’re absolutely right that experience over time helps you make wiser decisions in foreign lands. Jumping into an ‘exotic’ destination without proper knowledge can easily lead to trouble.
Philippines is a easy destination. Going off the map and into a red zone is like going down a double black diamond ski run at vail your second time skiing.
@@TimKyoutube I’m glad you see the Philippines the same way, especially coming from you since you have experience living there. I only get to occasionally visit.
Wow. Great message. Very insightful. I think what you said also applies to the local communities in Western towns and cities. They are very integrated. Often times I've heard that people back in the home town village know just as much as the local community. Not that surprising I guess but there are no secrets and the consequences are drastic and effect the whole family for shameful behaviour. I briefly dated a Vietnamese young lady and did not have a clue of the complexities of what I was getting involved in.
That has nothing to do with this. What the dude did was like trading drugs in rural mexico, its guaranteed you will end up like that, even if you do nothing wrong within the organization.
My parents and my older sister coming from germany lived in arab countries all the way trough the 80's. Aside from a cutural difference, there was also the iraq/iran war going on. Coming from germany, they adapted pretty quick and my dad even started to learn the language. One thing, that was basically self explanatory was that you respect their rules, their religion and their way of living. They quickly made friends and respected each other. Obviously there were also negative experiences in the daily life, also because of the war, but no where in the world will you always have peace and sunshine. It shows, that its always important to respect their ways, when you come to a new country. You cant act like a jackass, treat ppl bad around you and then expect them to just take it. Be correct, open minded and show some damn respect. Usually you will be fine.
Why would you want to reduce yourself and dignity to live in a third world country? I had considered the Philippines until I talked to some of my Filipina friends here in Miami. They said it is not what bloggers/vloggers are saying. It's very primitive in all ways. Your video gives confirmation to that cultural ideology of mob rule. The whole concept of saving face is basically a rational/justification of acting act on your feeling of hopelessness. Who would want to put themselves in that environment. I am sure this would be a nice place to visit for a minute. But to live there; life is too short.
You see there are ways to takle problems in ways you dont make people lose face do it privately but make sure those close to you know the problem and are ready to back you up
Excellent information Tim. It’s certainly a one way street living in a place like the Philippines. Wonderful people with a great welcome but you have to respect their beliefs and opinions as part of their culture and history makes them who they are. Live there and you really have to keep your options to yourself as you will not change the world to suit yourself. I have been part of Chismis and people trying to break up our relationship through jealousy and it was not a Filipino who was behind most of it but another foreigner. Embrace the people and the culture and you can have a wonderful peaceful life there.
Another great video as always Tim, especially the final segment of "Be True To Yourself", it's so true, and to be honest I love the fact that I will always remain an outsider of sorts. Being humble is definitely the key takeaway from this, and just spend your time listening rather than talking, because you rarely end up in trouble when listening
Wow…. That was some sage advice; frankly priceless. Each time I go to the Phil’s I think I’m going to be less tense n more at inner-peace--they always pick up on our Western anxiety which, depending on other personality factors, can make a native uncomfortable. I notice the serenity on seasoned expats faces and even differences in the pace, haste or fear embedded in their speech. Yes and I can spot the semi-rookie’s like myself who’ve only visited several times to maintain their LDR…never staying longer than 3 weeks; not yet able to make a more long term move.
Yes giving someone that loss of face in Asia will get you in trouble or worse. Thailand, Cambodia, Laos, Myanmar, The Philippines, and more places have the same thoughts on this. It is what it is, you just do not get involved in confrontations or local gossip. Another example of this is, what these tick tockers are doing all throughout Asia.
Making someone lose face in Thailand can be very dangerous. It is a very big deal to Thais and I believe many other Asian countries such as Japan and as you say the Philippines also. It may seem rather bizarre or minor to us westerners but it is a very real thing we should be mindful of.
Wow Congratulations on your 5th anniversary! can’t wait to say the same thing with my pina wife! And your video is sooo informational as a Travel Vlogger myself. Thank you for this video… yes i started traveling small… went to a local place where i live, then to different cities in USA 🇺🇸 then to Japan, philippines, so on… But your very right.. just respect people, definitely don’t yell or have an attitude, and be humble and myself especially since im a vlogger and trying to make a name for myself…. 😊
People in the West undervalue the West. Because their rights are normal to them they don't appreciate them. They fantasize about poor countries, because being a tourist in those countries is nice. But that is not the same as living there. I am from Malaysia and living in France now. Never going back to Malaysia especially as a woman. I will visit family or go on Holiday, but living in France is 100 times better.
Don't let it get to you my Home in Arizona is probably worse in many ways and if you go to "Town"(Phoenix) you have to be aware of things!! At least take a Trip of a Month or longer to see and absorb its an Amazing place and people!!
Philippines is definitely not a perfect country... So is the United States. Wherever you go, you decide which discomforts / cons you'll tolerate and which one you can't. As an Asian man who've been to the U.S. twice, I am not comfortable being told to "Smile for Christ's sakes, you're in Disney World".
You make an important point. I have seen and heard many complaints from other Americans about life abroad. Many of them seem never to have visited anywhere else, just a straight shot from Kentucky to the Philippines, or something similar. Developing your travel portfolio really helps you put things in perspective. Congrats on the anniversary, btw. :)
appreciate your video, i just came back from IloIlo. (Oct 5-19. 3rd time in PH ) and I was listening to a foreign couple ( not from US ) having a conversation with the bar hotel staff about former president Duerte. I told my fiance who is Filipino, lets get away from this conversation, and we got up and moved far away to another area in the resort. I will never ever talk about politics in a country where I'm staying. i learned that lesson years back when I used to visit the Dominican Republic. Its none of my business and I stay clear from it always. I still plan to retire in PH because my experiences have been wonderful. i know where to go and where not to go, what to say and what not to say. its been going great for me.
@madrical777: Good advice to anyone in another country whether you live there or are a tourist. Not your country, not you politics, not your business. Stay out of it!
Actually non-citizens talking about filipino politics is a crime just like US. It is interference of sovereign country's politics. In US they don't enforce it.
I hope you are not going away from the saviour, Bible like that just saying. I understand what you are saying 😊
You give great advice.
@madtical777 very smart. I don't discuss political issues here 🇺🇸🇵🇭 either although I have a lot of opinions about it but I keep them to myself
Excellent Video Tim, my ex (Muslim from Zamboanga) would never allow me to travel to her home, she would say too dangerous for me as an American even though she was an upper class local with a military family. She would say the NPA mingle amongst the locals. Her relatives wanted me to visit anyway since I was brown skin (hispanic), would not stand out. She taught me how to always be respectful and be humble to the locals throughout the Philippines and in turn they will take good care of you.
she a lied to you.. NPA's are new peoples army.. a Christian rebel group..😂 they are not present to those muslim territories.. because they already have far worst groups like MILF and ISIS.. don't ever go to south of mindanao or else you will ends up like that blogger..
No matter where you are in the world, it’s essential to treat others with kindness and respect. Remembering to stay grounded can make a meaningful difference in how we connect with those around us.
No matter which country you visit, always be respectful and kind. Also, listen to the locals and always be on alert. 🙏🙏
In addition to being a guilt based culture, never underestimate the role that envy plays in the Philippines.
100%
I had one expat that built a very large two story home with a pool tell me that he went into that knowing he would have to build the walls higher than normal around it, literally and figuratively. You want to block what you built and what you have from as many eyes as possible if you're a Westerner looking to have a Western style of comfort and not wanting to live more simply. And that goes for workers you hire and even extended family members. That last group maybe even more than anything. But it was his wife that helped him understand that in the beginning. The woman you marry is one of the most important decisions you will ever make. Choose wisely. Take your time even if you feel time is running out. It might not end up happening but that's better than marrying a bad woman.
Envy hmmm
Yes before I married my ,, GURL,, she had 10+ close friends in her group
Now 2 ..and there jealous as ,,f,, .. because she now has everything .. house farm.overses travel cars new motor bike..I also pay her ,,mum only,, medical expenses..
@@Jimmy-mx4cc Just having a foreign boyfriend is enough even if she gets nothing much. The filipinos turn against eachother way more than they do against foreigner in my opinion
ENVY plays all over the world. You singleing Philippines 🇵🇭 as one is very UNFAIR & rude!! If you feel like that in MY country, you are free to leave anytime!😠
Hello Tim, I must acknowledge and thank you for hitting the nail directly on it's head.
I am 66 years old, part Asian and part white. I was born and raised in Makati, Manila and left the Philippines as a 12 year old. I have witnessed many an American or westerner become humbled at the playground or park because they were just too cocky for the local basketball players. You do not get ahead by putting anyone down in the Philippines.
I was there last year
I've lived here in Cebu for 12 1/2 years and nothing suprises me anymore but I have never gotten into any disputes. I've learned bisaya and just made my own path. I've never got into a physical face to face dispute with anyone. Anything that happens or if I want to complain I just directly go to the barangay Kaptain and or video it. Seven years in the city and the rest in the province. Foreigners will always be second rate in the Philippines. One thing I've learned though that people never do anything unless you offend them. Different islands treat people differently. Cebu, Negros Occ, Iloilo, Leyte, and Samar are all different.
Exactly! To Be Aware is to Be Alive, and mind your own business!
they are all the same bisaya😂
I am still learning tagalog
Haven't started on the other dialects yet
Girlfriend is in Lapa Lapa Cebu
I live in Vietnam with my Vietnamese wife. As long as you always possess the "I'm a visitor here" mentality, you'll be fine. It's those that start believing that the country they're in owes them something or needs them there, they quickly find out they made a mistake. When a citizen frustrates you, it's always best to smile and walk away.
Hi, I was looking to visit a foreign country in SE Asia mostly because it's cheaper. Can't figure out which countries to go. Vietnam seems like one of the best out of all. Phil gets a lot of typhoons. What place in Vietnam do you think a foreigner should visit. I found some farm stays on Airbnb
@@timbell6615 elliot barely even left his house. He wasnt looking for trouble he was just an inexperienced kid.
Lol that sounds like the illegals that go into USA.
What you said about people being so interconnected is SO true. It is not to your benefit to humiliate anyone as you never know the family, relatives or connections you have offended. I keep my opinions solely to my wife, not even to her family to ensure everyone saves face.. I have learned to always leave an Asian the opportunity to save face which carried into my life here in the states, too..
He's absolutely right. Be humble, kind, patient, keep your mouth shut, do your research before traveling, and pay attention.
I am Christian in a Muslim area. One rule we don't forget is not to marry a muslim girl if you don't convert to Islam. It can end very badly for you. It happens all the time even for Filipino christians.
What a beautiful faith that is.
@@andrevdende8244it is a beautiful faith. Most of us will not compromise our beliefs. As a Vietnamese Muslim I am proud of our traditions that unite Muslims worldwide.
@@difencrosby no its not, its like letting predators roam your neighborhood
Why are you even in Muslim area bro. Elliot converted to Islam, look what still happened to him...
It’s a great way to make those who don’t follow your religion submit, imagine not being Muslim living there, all the women can be taken by Muslim men but you can’t have any since you’re not part of the club
Well said, Tim. What I have noticed in most Asian countries I have been to is if you show people respect and appreciate their culture, they will normally show you the same respect. Laugh with them and they laugh with you. What you have said is great advice for people who haven't travelled enough and spent real time in these proud countries.
That's very much true in any country and place, not just in Asia. Know the culture of the country and respect it, and people will also respect you. Of course be cautious as well. The Philippines in general is safe but there are areas where you really have to be aware of the environment.
Wasnt he found dead of just not confirmed?
@@jodav4631 not confirmed
@@Milliardo5what you mean in General is Safe, Obviously not Safe…
@@jimbo8888 disagree totaly they friendly about small nonsence but if u get screwed by one or group not them that they know at best they stay out of it. They are never yiur friends to trust and count on. Aka experience in panama. Essentially you are only good for taking from not giving to.
He was able to read the room and even vlogged about it, but he didn’t leave once he got multiple warnings. Thank you, kuya Tim.
The older I get the thing I know is that I don't know anything especially here in the Philippines 🇵🇭🇺🇸. Been here since 2019 and still learning new things every day but that's part of the adventure of being here
man i dont really watch your vids even tho im seeing you in my feed. but this couple of vids that you made regarding about the american made me appreciate the quality of content that you do. please continue to provide honest and no bs guide to the philippines.
This is 100% what everyone needs to hear. I left the US to live in Eastern Europe, And then Asia. it doesn't matter where you are in the world. As Americans we are too care free, open, personal. And too many Americans want to "brag" I lived in a Eastern European country that Americans have been deleted in, because they bragged about money, status, made fun of locals choice in clothes, and the food they eat. Americans watch too many bloggers talk about how amazing things are and never talk about the realities you face in these countries.
Americans are anamolies in Europe especially Eastern Europe. They don't understand that bragging and forcing your existence on others is not considered positive outside of the U.S.
Thank you for this...and next time those people bragging about being expats and how wonderful their new nation is and how bad so many things in the US are, when they get kidnapped, don't expect US taxes to be spent for the CIA, FBI, and Special Forces to look for and rescue you. Personally, I love losing these people with no loyalty or patriotism to the US, because when the next great war starts that the world, once again, expects the US to save them from as evil countries like China, Russia, NK, and the Middle East try to collectively dominate, I'd rather they incompetent brainwashed, disloyal US citizens to already have self-selected out and moved. But, as usual, I'm sure they will all start crying and begging for the US to save them. Good comments; thanks. (I will add that the only main issue your succinct post didn't touch on is how a majority of foreigners come to the US and feel entitled, get free services, and yet don't show US citizens or our nation respect or try to assimilate into our culture. This is also a reality that most won't address for fear of being called xenophobic, racist, and other derogatory terms.)
Yes very well said, People’s are saying he’s a loan shark in that Parts of The southern, That Even Filipinos Afraid to go … And I watch one of his Videos… Titled Living in a Dangerous parts of the Philippines as American and he’s bragging… But he’s just a kid just ignore the warning, I hope they bring him back safe …. 🙏🙏🙏
Yes, I've seen quite a few Americans here brag and get themselves into strife. They don't seem to be able to read the situation and shut up. But then British, Australian and Europeans sometimes act the same way too
@@rogerwilco4736 I love how you exclude the British from "Europeans" lol
I worked overseas for over 25 years. I found that being humble and very polite allowed me to prosper and really do well. The day I retired, I moved back to the US as there is no place like America.
America will always be a great place just like Denmark, Switzerland, Japan, Norway, Australia and Austria if and only if you can "afford" it.
My filopina's wife's brother overtook another Filipino near our house. They were both on motor bikes. My wife was sat on a hillside a little further up the road. She was using her laptop and trying to get a better signal to do some school work being a teacher during lockdown. The Filipino took offence at being overtaken by her brother, stopped his bike next to them, proceeded to take out a handgun, and held it against my wife's head. She then pleaded with him not to shoot and apologised for her brother overtaking him. He then put away the gun and carried on his way. Early next morning, my wife's mother waited at the roadside for him to appear, standing in the middle of the road she forced him to stop and gave him a piece of her mind threatening to report him to the police. It turned out that his brother was a local police officer and the gun belonged to him. Anyway, the gunmen started crying and was full of remorse, so the matter went no further. For me, living in the west at the time. I felt she should have had him arrested for what is in the west, a very serious crime. But here in the Philippines, they certainly do things differently. I don't think I'll ever understand the culture here, but thank God for my wife having a very brave mother
Hi Kelvin, as a Filipino American let me explain this to you; Your mother in law as an elder holds a ranking respect status. Even though what happened to you guys on that night was serious, in the Philippines if an issue no matter how serious it might be as long as you didn't killed or you or someone got killed can always be talked it out. For us, there's always solution to an issue, police, barangay officials are the last resort. But, don't mistaken that as a sign that you can just disrespect someone just then and there. I know here in the United States we always have common courtesy and respect but to me thats o ly superficial. Respect in the Philippines is more complicated and deep all the way through your soul.
It's hard to understand stupid 🤣 added with corruption
@@entertexthere1127 like the respect of threatening to shoot someone for being overtaken, lol. Just say it is a culture where little feelings are hurt way to fast, lol
So never stay in the same place for too long. 2 years max. Rent instead of buying. Because when you rent, you are flexible to go or stay. As soon as they know you and they just think what you are. Then it stays that way in their heads. (Rich, poor, bluff, weak, crazy etc)
This is some of the best information you'll get on living in the Philippines. I too live in the province. No matter how frustrated I may get I never forget that I'm a visitor in someone else's home.
As a U.S. foreigner living in Indonesia...great content.... key words Be humble!!
My Grandpa was a merchant marine, traveled all around the world his whole career, one piece of advice he gave me that came to mind when hearing about this was "Never flash a wad" Meaning don't ever flaunt money in front of people, especially cash.
Spouting whales get harpooned.
@jfet6705, that's commonsense even in your own country
@@mtuk4538 Indeed
And some sailors told me that in every place, where there's poverty, there is always a pussy.
keep it hidden in separate little 'stashes' all over your body or clothing. So that only a little is bought out or shown at any one time. You go to a bar, only the next note value up from the price of a drink is offered.... maybe you have two notes of that value.... ok, but you should be OK with that. Then you have some more money somewhere else, for later. That sort of thing works.
I came to the Philippines first in 1999. Your assertion that NOT loosing face is spot on. Understanding this well is critical.
Many Americans seem to think the world is their Disney. Even still, many get away with pure idiocy, but sometimes, they do not.
and when it doesn't work out, it may involve legal problems, visa problems, jail, deportation.
Unless of course, you just get beaten up by a mob. One pissed off person will often attract a crowd really fast, especially if a foreigner is involved. Even if he wasn't trying to do that to you... it will just happen. And you get to pay the hospital bill, what a winner...... too bad, never mind.
Well said Tim, I live in Mexico (I'm white and my wife is Mexican). I need to remind myself often that I am a guest in their country and always will be.
Outstanding analysis Tim, really enjoy the past few videos and the topics you are exploring.
Thanks, I appreciate it. Took a risk to talk about this stuff and it seems to be paying off.
Wise words Tim K. I have been travelling and visiting the Phillipines since 1996. Such a beautiful place and wonderfull people. Pack mentality is the way. I have seen it over and over. Piss off the wrong people and your paradise will turn into a hell. Don't try to change it, just enjoy the hospitality and be respectfull. Your experience will always be positive.
There is a river near where I live, and about a mile southeast from a local bridge is the hunting ground for a bevy of otters. I go there throughout the season and lie silently and watch that family get on with their busy lives. I've seen three generations of whelps bless that riverbank. So be damned with people and their sensitivity based on supposed moral superiority and childish fears. They can keep their "beautiful" countries and all their oppressive oddities. I will go visit my otter romp any day over their country of confused "-isms".
Tim i watched id say 98 percent of your videos and being in my late 60s and lived on and off in the Philippines since 1981 and marrying a Filipino l must say l admire you especially hearing your admissions on your findings and your wrongs and to me that makes a better man and person of you, thanks Tim for your thoughts and findings and best wishes for the future and also your beautiful wife, take care 🙏
Thanks my man. Glad you are faithful to the YT cause. People like you keep me going and allow me to do this. Much thanks your way as well.
The Philippines is very simple. When it comes to living as a foreigner in the provinces, you'll get all the love and respect from everyone just as long as you are respectful, polite, and keep yourself out of the drama that you'll find simmering all around you. Put your wife and her family in front of you and let them be your shield from any drama that tries to find its way to you.
As an american in taiwan I agree with you about never going to be asian . I've been here for 15yrs now and I still feel like a foreigner and people treat me as such . It's ok though because I'm more comfortable being on my own anyways. But yeah that's something foreigners need to know .
When filipinos can speak with you fluently in their local dialect, you are as close as you can get to becoming unnoticed as a foreigner. My brother in law speaks tagalog fluently and for the most part, we always forget he is a Republican.
@rl8571 you can be close to them , I have many close friends here but the cultural perspective gap is MASSIVE.
And yet, the expect the protection of the US. Are they enjoying the constant, increasing encroachments in the South China Sea, the manmade islands they turn into military outposts, and the recent blockade/quarantine by the Chinese navy?! Maybe we should just let them try to did their pompous ass out of this one...and we all KNOW where THAT would end up.
Do people really think they will ever be seen as the same? I had an uncle from India that passed away recently and he never felt truly American. He would watch Jerry Springer to laugh at the Caucasians and feel better about not being a White Anglo Saxon Protestant (WASP) that founded the nation. If you're a European-American and you live in SE Asia be happy to be to be yourself. It comes with benefits in most countries and really no unique drawbacks aside from everyone will think you're rich. Maybe you are, maybe you are not. You can set those boundaries early on. Don't go to the Rolex store and then walk around with the bag in public view unless you're staying in BGC. Even then it's probably a dickhead move.
Tim, your face has really cleared up man! I admit to not having seen you in a while. You look great! Looks like you've been eating well and taking good care of yourself.
It comes and goes based on time in the gym
This is an outstanding video, and I think one of the best you have ever made. Calm and to the point with valuable information.
Thank you sir
The good outweighs the bad I agree remain humble enjoy yourself while being vigilant.
This is ridiculous. While the US has its share of problems, including crime, nowhere do you constantly hear it said to "always be vigilant" to people traveling in, immigrating to, or born in the US. You also don't hear these constant warnings about the UK, Canada, Australia, Scandinavia, and a lot of Europe...but we sure do about a lot of Latin America, Mexico, the Middle East, the PI, and much of the rest of Asia. One should always have situational awareness, but the very fact that you and so many other PI expats and expats (and merely travelers) in certain other countries feel the need to constantly express this speaks volumes about what crappy countries they are an a fundamental difference between them and decent, developed, western nations. And, too bad that same humble advice isn't shared by most immigrants TO those developed, western nations.
@@Theodicy101No it's because far too many westerners have an attitude so it's best to warn others to be careful. I lived in several very safe East Asian countries, but you still should be humble and respectful as a guest.
HAPPY ANNIVERSARY TIM AND CHRISSY! I attended your wedding via RUclips. I married a Filipina co-worker here in the US, the OC Timoy. She grew up in Tacloban. The stories she told me about her father getting drunk and challenging everyone to a fight were disturbing. Because he caused a neighbor to 'lose face' they had to move several time to different areas to avoid the harassment. So it is cultural. Foreigner or not mind your own business. Be respectful, we are just visiting. The Filipino Americans are very respectful, honest, hard working and they mind their own business. Thanks for your thoughts Tim. Words to live by.
Very sensible and insightful take on this matter. As a Filipino, I say there's so much truth and wisdom in this video.
Great advice! Show respect and be humble. You are a guest in their country. And don't get hammered and shoot your mouth off!! Always be aware.
I noticed stand up comedians don't exist in the "shame" countries. You can't make fun of people in public as we do in the USA.
interesting take
It's not nearly as common, but they do exist. My wife is Thai and enjoys listening to some Thai comedians on occasion. The humor is much different, though, as you noted. They're not poking fun at people individually.
Very interesting observation.
@anthonyantoine9232: Anthony, having lived in both Thailand and the PI they are two different worlds apart.
In Thailand you can get public workers motivated in their office by getting real excited to the point the headman comes out and probably says "do whatever needs to be done because I don't want him back in here". That's after pursuing the regular routes with no success.
Try that in the PI once and the guy riding on a pillion will put one in you. The locals I can get along with. The expat crowd not anymore. And BTW, I don't live in the PI anymore and haven't since 2013 but I still live in SEA but stay away from expats. I did hear about that guy down in Zamboanga. Not very smart and the people that get on utube and tell the world how safe it is there should have their necks rung. I did live in Davao city for three years and yep, safe during the day!
23 years and four countries and everyone is different. Also, things like the expat crowd aren't the same as they were in the early-mid 2000s. People used to be that they understood you were over here because you disliked your country too for the most part. Now they dislike you because of where you came from and they know right away from your accent. Trust me.
Not really true because I am from Poland and we have tons of comedians taking the piss of ourselves as the nation but British humour I think is the best in the world ever hehehehe 😅😅😅😅
Thank you for that. A lesson for many to learn. I have been married into a Filipino family since 2010. Never a truer word said and very measured. Still recently retired from the uk and living with my middle daughter and here husband and my grandchildren. Although my wife passed away 2022. I could not be happier, expecting when my other two daughers are home and maybe my kids from UK are over. (Stepdaughters)
If you plan to live in a different culture, then take time to learn that culture, and especially learn what not to do in that culture. You are not entitled to be there. Good Job Tim K!
Yup. I lived in Batangas for 2 years with my wife and her clan. Courtesy, politeness, and respect for others kept me out of any conflict.
Does that also apply to the millions of foreigners in the US--a ton illegally--who commit crimes, get free money, services, food, lodging, and other benefits, while not trying to assimilate and act entitled...not to mention harming our nation and showing no loyalty...but only trying to change it to the lousy country from which many of them came?!
wait, we are not entitled to be in a different country that WE PAID to be in? so whos money is it then that paid for our stay, food ,etc? ill wait.
Tell that to the millions of illegals coming into the US and Europe unwanted and demand that you adjust to them and give them everything they want.
Hi Tim , I was previous viewer of your channel and at first I didn’t like you I won’t mention why but life has humbled me and I appreciate your channel and things you speak about Eliot . I have subbed.
please, speak your mind. and welcome back.
I'm ashamed of my guilt.
lol
I'm ashamed of my small cock.
You should be. 😅
Respect and humbleness…. Arrogance and disrespect will get anybody in trouble especially if you are an expat acting like you didn’t know(tanga/stupid). Good information Mr. Tim.😊🇺🇸🇵🇭
Well said, Tim. Thanks for sharing some much needed truths.
Very wise words, my man. I'm 67 and have been in Davao since June of 2024, I've come to the conclusion that I'll always be on the outside looking in. Hell, even in my home around the dinner table, I feel alienated because everyone will slip into their native language. Never once thinking of me sitting right there in front of them. And that's just one of many situations I experience daily. I try to be humble ( quite ) most of the time, but there are days when I want to scream at people. I've been blatantly cheated, lied to, and ignored. It's my opinion that there are a lot of passive-aggressive people here, and that's probably because of the shaming culture. Confrontation isn't a thing here, regardless of who is in the right or wrong. Forgive and forget, or just live with it.
That’s the best breakdown so far now it’s beginning to make sense
I've been married to a filipina for over 38 years, built a home in Samar, traveled a lot, and have spent over 8 years living in the Philippines. I learned a long time ago that when you think you have things figured out, you absolutely don't (though, I can cook a pot of rice as fast as anyone). I know what you should and shouldn't do and I'm still learning. Tim is right, the cultural intricacies run very deep here and can get you in trouble faster than the speed of love in hooker town. 🌴😎
Losing face is the first rule of SEA club, life is dirt cheap in the PH
As cheap as $100
HOW ABOUT YOUR COUNTRY
@@pickledbeaker5916 you can't live in asian if you say that here your life is in danger here
@@alvinchan8499cheaper!
I’m glad to see that it looks like life is getting sorted out for you.
Hey Tim, good feedback! My Filipina wife and I have been married for over 28 years. She is from Naval, Biliran Province. Located on the very northern tip of Leyte. Complicated is an understatement. One of her high school classmates is an attorney in town and she has become very corrupt and seems to find more time working on her Facebook page than on her caseload. She is always posturing on facebook on how important she is and is sure to let everyone know when she travels to Europe on vacation. Imagine that, going on vacation to Europe as a small town provincial prosecuting attorney! Anyway, a few weeks ago while having my usual "night cap" before bed, I see one of her postings and I make an editorial comment(honestly cannot remember what it was), and by the time I wake up the next morning, she is over to my mother in laws house threatening charging me with cyber bullying! Honestly, am really not that type of person, but I think she was publicly convicted by my comments and embarrassed with her large following. Something like that happens here, we blow it off and move on, especially if there are elements of truth to it. BUT, like you stated, it does not work that way in the Philippines. Anyway, the politics, complications, noise level at night, lack of infrastructure, pollution, etc has relegated our max future visits to perhaps 3 months/year and possibly less. We just recently came back from a 6 week stay and I look at the Philippines as more of an activity stay(scuba, sightseeing) now rather than considering it as a retirement destination. I think my Filipina wife is happy to stay away from the Philippines as it was noisy as hell during the night and the both of us got little sleep from all of the inconsiderate neighbors. Anyway, certainly not has nice as it was 30 years ago and I agree that going to those areas less travelled are the way to go. As ex-military, I also am extremely cautious to not advertise my presence and stay as low key as possible while there. Our itinerary is not even shared with our local family. We trust no one.
My dear, I'm so lucky to bump into your video tonight. As of today, you have become my second sociology professor. All along, I don't know the world is divided into two,
The east, which is the world of shame, causing the victim to retaliate and then
West, which is the world of guilt, causing Justice to get involved.
Wow, this has become an eye-opener for me.....
And that's exactly right. Take for instance when becoming Filipino toured the mosque and telling everyone how safe and kind it is there and that the whole time he has arm guards with him just outside the video frame. I wonder if the Eastman kid watched his videos and listened to becoming Filipino telling him how safe it is
He sure fooled me!! And I thought he was a good honest guy. But it looks like he was working overtime as ambassador for that region!! I am beginning to find out a lot of YTers are not who they are!
Ps...good point: what if Elliott watched his videos and saw how great it was in that region!!
Becoming Filipino did emphasize the need to coordinate with the local tourism office. There are parts of the Philippines that are still tribal/medieval where the overlords must be paid their dues for safe passage.
@@Dan-q6v1vYes so true especially the Filipinas vloggers selling themselves to their subscribers.
I think we’re missing the part where we ask the question, what could have Mr. Eastman done that caused this unfortunate thing happened to him? I know this sounded as victim blaming, but I think it’s a valid question, no?
I lived 8 months in the Philippines and I can't see any reason I would go back at this point. As a foreigner living in a small town there would be nuts, to much BS. Pros are beautiful women and lower cost of living but the fact you will never fit in and alone seen as an ATM by most people sucks.
I fully agree! I spent 8 months there also until covid...I was threatened a few times and felt the dark side of it all. I'm staying in America. 👍🎅🇺🇲
My uncle got killed in COVID times.so sad
Nicely summarized.
You are living in the wrong place in the Philippines. Live in the big cities. No one will bother you. Live in bgc.
I am a Filipino. He stayed in the wrong place where life is hard. He should have stayed in Subic or anywhere in Zambales where most Americans are staying and retires. Based on his video, he seems loud.
I was disrespected many many times and when I say something i'm the bad guy
Wise words from a wise man
My dad told me im in my 40s now.... i finally have some perspective :)
Excellent video Tim, so many truths in it, learned the hard way.
Can't remember if it was Thailand or the Phillipines but a guy that went to my school got a little too drunk at the bar and got attacked and stabbed to death by some locals.
Good advice bruh. It's best to avoid trouble and maintain a low profile 👍
Former Philippines resident here. Things that can get you and your family k*lled in the Philippines:
Staring at someone in the street or mall.
Pointing your finger at someone or wagging your finger at someone to "come here".
Insulting the Philippines country, culture or people.
Embarrassing someone or acting aggressive to someone in public. This can be deadly.
I have seen the reactions to foreigners doing the above things and it resulted in people dying.
Remember, Filipino's are VERY sensitive to what you say to them, but not sensitive about what they say to you. Filipino's are not good at controlling their emotions as emotions are kept under control at home and they have very little experience handling emotional situations.
Well said, and yet another great reason why it's just better to avoid the PI and nations like it. A LOT more negatives than positives. And maybe, the next time a Filipino expects respect, including what is said to them and how it's said...but not showing the same courtesy in return, maybe they should remember who saved their ass in WWII from the Japanese, and where the PI will again beg assistance from the US when their problems with China get worse...as they will soon, it's obvious to anyone closely watching world events. Just ask Taiwan, Tibet, Nepal, and fishermen in the South China Sea!
This is way over exaggerated,most Filipinos couldn’t and wouldn’t hurt a fly.. i was in cebu city for many months and there were days I had to tell 3 guys to F-off because of their scammy ways or how they treated others in public. Cebu city is pretty hectic…everyone’s in a hurry,the people driving are terrible drivers,so inconsiderate… here in Canada we also have people who lose face sooo easily… we call them insecure baby boys… I felt good some days standing up for people being bullied by Filipino men or the never ending petty scams…but most days it drains the life out of you… so I went to a smaller city and problem solved haha
I highly doubt you seen anybody killed,ever…neat story though.
So in other words, they are herd animals.
Philippines is the armpit of Asia.
The armpit of asia
Tim, the point about walking humbly is a good idea in any situation, caring about others, caring about animals and the world/environment. I also think it's great to explore one's own country and outside of it, but you also bring up an interesting comparison about cultural differences and how welcoming or not they are. To me, it's long been obvious that "strength in diversity" is one of the biggest socio-political lies ever told, and the rising diversity and declining native culture and civilization in the US, Scandinavia, Canada, Australia, and a lot of Europe is proof. Hungary finally figured it out and is finally contructing better border control and kicking out a lot of the ones they let in in the past few years...ones, like in the US and other countries I just mentioned, that have a vastly different religion and culture, and who not only DON'T want to conform TO the new culture but actually want it to conform to THEM and try to actively, even through bullying and terrorism to change it. Diversity works ONLY if the immigrants are very similar with their original culture to the country to which they are immigrating AND where they actually care about becoming a full part of that new country...e.g., Canadians moving to the US, Americans moving to the UK or Scandinavia, Aussies moving to a lot of Europe, etc.. In the US--and with many other "woke"/socialist/marxist-leaning governments, that has gone on increasingly over the past few decades--and which has reached a breaking point under the horrible "leadership" of Biden-Harris, has been to allow floods of immensely different cultures into our country, causing immensely more negatives than any possible positives...people who want to change the US into the very (to quote Trump, and it's true) "S**THOLE" countries from which they've come, to take full advantage of the US and its citizens while giving nothing in return, not being grateful, and not being loyal to their new country.
While common courtesy and respect are important, it's important for a lot of these other nations, including a lot of developed "western"-type nations is that because of brave service men and women like you, Tim (Thank you again for your service!), and other citizens who sacrifice in many ways, we've saved the world's ass in two world wars (including the PI which would now be speaking Japanese if not for the US), and have overly funded NATO, the UN, and all sorts of humanitarian relief around the globe. I'm sick of the disrespect to the US--my nation which has its problems for sure, but which I love and of which I'm proud--and I think it's time to start excluding people, kicking many out, and kicking ass again and taking names around the world...and we should demand loyalty and for all allies to do their fair part...and we need to quit being so kind when we are the victors--especially when someone else starts problems (and also act when countries indirectly and cowardly cause problems but smile to our face--a great example being the Saudis). In the future, when we win a war, we should have a new US territory. Finally, who is the PI going to rely on when China gets even MORE aggressive in the South China Sea and Philippine territorial waters...and they WILL soon, as is obvious from their recent act of war against Taiwan, the increasing interference (including boat rammings) against the PI, BRICS, and many other things in their master plan of world domination. Decades ago, Americans were respected because the US was respected and feared, and it was generally safe to go almost anywhere. Today is a polar extreme in the way Americans are viewed and treated. The US needs to start drastically changing that, no matter how harsh they have to get.
Just to clarify, a caucasian looking guy with blue eyes can be treated as a local filipino as long as he is fluent of the language. Chances are, this blue eyed caucasian is really a filipino. He is a local filipino and he considers himself a local filipino. I can see them in supermarkets. They look very much caucasian but they speak tagalog like the locals because they are locals.
So, a caucasian guy can be treated as a local filipino as long as he speaks the language like the locals and he considers himself a local. If you think you are an expat, then don't dream to be treated like a local by the locals. You don't even consider yourself a local.
Well said I am a Filipino but I prepare not to argue but instead step backward to avoid grudges and hatred which we do not know what a head on the streets is, it can kill you
My number one rule for traveling is staying in America because it’s dangerous enough here.
Four reasons that is not him : the wife is aware of this guy and has said it's not her husband as he was wearing black shorts. This body was found over 180 mi away. The feet are totally different. Also no gunshot wounds to the left leg. Why would they abduct a guy and kill him at sea when they could have just killed him and left ? They have a different plan for him and there is still hope.
Never said it was.
Well then there's another young white guy dead , so it's not a isolated case and is worse ...
It's him
The local authorities are planning on bringing tourism to the area so they are now conveniently making false statements, like it wasn't a kidnapping it was an incident. BS..... Gunman with machine guns violently shot him and took him out to sea and he is still missing. That is not a fricken incident. An incident would be your dog crapped in my lawn or my neighbor stole my pancit. Furthermore why is it international news and the FBI is involved ?
@@TimKyoutube Then anybody knows who the poor dead guy is? shame
@@bbgcars some filipino guy that went pale because of blood loss
Losing face is dangerous you're right. In Thailand, I meet a nice 'Lady'. We got along well. While having coffee, she told me she was actually a Ladyboy. I didn't get angry. I reacted honestly and kindly. I apologized several times explaining I wasn't interested. I tried to be very empathic and understand him. He reacted by saying, 'You are a kind man.' We had another coffee enjoying conversation together. We parted ways on a positive note. What could have a disaster with another man turned into a positive experience.
A similar thing happened to me over there. I made the choice to see what it would be like and my butt was sore for weeks bro. Definitely saved a lot of trouble though by saying yes.
Well i am a Veteran traveller to Phils. Was there 2 times in 2015 and in 2017 and in 2019 and in 2022 and now i go there again in 2024 in less than 14 days. Stay there 5 months.Got my own place to live in Phils allready. So stay safe and be humble and show respect to people in you area and they threat you well. Do not show off your money all time. Not a good idea. Just be nice to local people and they are nice back to you. I know people in my local area allready so i never cause any trouble in my neighbourhood. Then you can have a good life. Just play your cards right and you can have a safe life in phils.
Thank you, Tim, for sharing your personal life experiences in the Philippines!! Love your videos!
in cebu i experienced yanks talking loudly in a fastfood restaurant for everyone to hear. they were complaining about the food, that's it's not up to US standards. it's harrassment but the people just ignored them so i ignored them as well. 😂
Tim spitting facts. Especially the last minute. We will always be foreigners, no matter how long we’ve been there. We have to remember that each region has different customs and rules and languages and that we will never understand. Be respectful but also true to yourself, and be safe ❤
My situation exactly the same as.. yours..I ended up in the police station in Barrio Baretto..
Another wandered up the Mountain with a fillipino guy I met few times..Invited me to a non existent party..up.in the slum..
I was drunk 😊.
Then he proceede to try and rob me..I got away but not without a fight.
I had to report it to the police before he did I was advised in case he reported me first to say I attacked him..NOT FUNNY
I was not a tourist I lived there.😮
Third time ended up in a police station after my girl went berserk and smashed up the apartment punched herself on the breast and accused me of both..
I was the foreighner who's side were they on .GUESS.😮
Great video Tim..respect 😊
Tim not sure you read the responses or comments..
This from my 10 + years experiences to add to my previous reply..
You said rightly so..we are foreighners and never forget that.
What I'm going to write next will not please everyone "the truth" .
Never in the years I lived in the Phillipines did I meet a better off filipino girl or professional marry or get involved with a foreigner..Only girls from poor families..
I had a girlfriend not from a bar..However was accused of being a bargirl because she was with me..That predjuice is not far under the surface if we scratch a little..😮
is your wife bisaya😂😂😂😂
lol for sure your wife is from bisaya😂
I'm surprised he attempted to rob you given that Americans are larger and stronger than Filipinos.
Glad to know you know 'bout the interconnection of people in the Philippines. That's very real and can get one in very serious situation. As a Filipino, I really don't wanna step on someones foot.
Great breakdown Tim. Spot on.
With over 50 years in Asia, I can confirm all your points. "Face" is the most important thing in the east. You can give face to someone or you can cause them to lose face. Losing face is a powerful motive for revenge. Good job, Tim.
A lot of people say the hospitality in the Philippines is the best in the world. I haven't experienced that. It's not a chip my shoulders or expecting the same accommodations as the West...There are differences even in IT Park or BGC...The nicest areas of the Philippines....Some Expats are walking around thinking they are going to get 5 stars vacation for half the price... For me it's about being provided with what was promised, in expensive areas...If you are renting a apartment in a working-class neighborhood curb your expectations. If Wifi and Hot Water is listed, it should work upon arrival...50-100 dollars a night is enough to get a 4-star hotel, 5-star 200-300 dollars. If an Airbnb is charging that in the Philippines...It should smooth check in process and unbroken appliances. You have to wonder do the Hosts care? Not really, they have your money, and they don't. More often than not it seems, normal basic things we expect as guests simply go by the wayside. Waiting 45 minutes to check in at the Security Post because someone forgot to let them know you were coming or cleaning the apartment...Common. Now retail, If you ask for something is in stock, why tell me it's not but help my fiancé later? My patience has been tested and it seems like people feel they can speak to an Expat anyway they choose and not get a negative reaction. I have never yelled at someone or acted aggressive in the Philippines....But people have pushed the limits. The scams are real, the dismissiveness, the seemingly unprepared to handle basic tasks and questions.... Like you told me I can't exit through this door.... Where is the exit at an International Airport. At times it seems like insanity. Even questioning something you are told as being not right.... Is seen as a insult. Been lied to multiple times...
This guy made so many mistakes, it’s clear he had no understanding of the culture he was entering…much less first hand experience. They were never going to accept him as a member of the community.
I've watched your videos basically on and off for years, most just you and Chrissy's regular life, especially liked the videos where you taught about the reality of living in phillipines as expat like COL and laws. Just wanted to say, really great video man. My favorite of yours probably.
Never disrespect and yell at anyone in asia or it can end badly. Dont mistake friendliness for weakness because asians when angry will shock you on their ferociousness
What a great, enlightening video. I'm impressed!
thank you sir.
I gave a local Bali Grom a loaned board. He stole the fins and returned the board. I shamed him in public, and that’s where it all started….. your right Tim
Thanks for giving me a new perspective about the guilt and shame culture! Couples of months ago I started posting clips in facebook of drivers with no regard to others' safety. Like those who still keep going to my lane despite of flashing my headlight and honking and other traffic violations. I thought it will work coz youtubers posting these kind of content in the west are even being supported by a lot of followers. But here in the Philippines, people hated me. They hate that I am not letting other drivers get away of wrong behaviors they've presented on the public road. Now, these views helped me as well as a Filipino.
Coming here for 40 years now...Still can't work them out! That said,I know very well how to deal with them and it's all good!
Simple. Observe animals in nature. Then compare the behavior patterns to them. You will see the noises, gestures, movement patterns are the same as animals in nature.
Filipino here, my kin will always you see you differently, heck we see even others who are close to our race like indonesians and Malaysians differently and crazier is that we also see just different province people differently. It won't change. The perspective has been set. It's like a weird bias. And im sure you know. Even a Filipino who will care about you or cares about you will see your personality and aspects as a part of your blood. Your race, where you come from. Not fully you as an individual. Not only that but aspect of your money, your childhood etc. if you're a good person we will mostly appreciate everything you do. And be courteous. But we severely get offended by any slight hint of disrespect. We take it more seriously from foreigners being disrespectful than if a Filipino is being disrespectful. We hold you In a different standard. So it's always most likely you're the one who will always find yourself compromising. It's quite of a toxic thing. I'm just being honest.
@@princesszelda8577 herd mentality. The consciousness of females and animals
You make a great point. I’ve spent much of my life traveling across the U.S. and even toured with a band in my early 20s. I’ve also visited parts of Europe, Iceland, Ukraine, and Cambodia. Travel wasn’t something I actively pursued, it just happened naturally. When the time came, the Philippines felt just as natural. You’re absolutely right that experience over time helps you make wiser decisions in foreign lands. Jumping into an ‘exotic’ destination without proper knowledge can easily lead to trouble.
Philippines is a easy destination. Going off the map and into a red zone is like going down a double black diamond ski run at vail your second time skiing.
@@TimKyoutube I’m glad you see the Philippines the same way, especially coming from you since you have experience living there. I only get to occasionally visit.
Be humble and don't drink to excess in public. Alway keep your wits.
This is the truest advice about you can hear, you do not know who knows who! Walk humbly!
Wow. Great message. Very insightful. I think what you said also applies to the local communities in Western towns and cities. They are very integrated. Often times I've heard that people back in the home town village know just as much as the local community. Not that surprising I guess but there are no secrets and the consequences are drastic and effect the whole family for shameful behaviour. I briefly dated a Vietnamese young lady and did not have a clue of the complexities of what I was getting involved in.
That has nothing to do with this. What the dude did was like trading drugs in rural mexico, its guaranteed you will end up like that, even if you do nothing wrong within the organization.
A really good and interesting video! I've been following you since the beginning. Great work!
Thank you for your loyalty.
Again Tim, Bam…Hammer meet head of nail. Spot on, and seeing eye to eye. Great points.
My parents and my older sister coming from germany lived in arab countries all the way trough the 80's. Aside from a cutural difference, there was also the iraq/iran war going on. Coming from germany, they adapted pretty quick and my dad even started to learn the language. One thing, that was basically self explanatory was that you respect their rules, their religion and their way of living. They quickly made friends and respected each other. Obviously there were also negative experiences in the daily life, also because of the war, but no where in the world will you always have peace and sunshine. It shows, that its always important to respect their ways, when you come to a new country. You cant act like a jackass, treat ppl bad around you and then expect them to just take it. Be correct, open minded and show some damn respect. Usually you will be fine.
I lived in Zamboagna Del Norte. I lived there longer then Eastman and had ZERO problems out of anyone.
Why would you want to reduce yourself and dignity to live in a third world country? I had considered the Philippines until I talked to some of my Filipina friends here in Miami. They said it is not what bloggers/vloggers are saying. It's very primitive in all ways. Your video gives confirmation to that cultural ideology of mob rule. The whole concept of saving face is basically a rational/justification of acting act on your feeling of hopelessness. Who would want to put themselves in that environment. I am sure this would be a nice place to visit for a minute. But to live there; life is too short.
You see there are ways to takle problems in ways you dont make people lose face do it privately but make sure those close to you know the problem and are ready to back you up
Tim, this is one of the most interesting and informing video I have ever watched relating to expat living. Thank you.
Thank you my friend. I appreciate the kind feedback.
Excellent information Tim. It’s certainly a one way street living in a place like the Philippines. Wonderful people with a great welcome but you have to respect their beliefs and opinions as part of their culture and history makes them who they are. Live there and you really have to keep your options to yourself as you will not change the world to suit yourself. I have been part of Chismis and people trying to break up our relationship through jealousy and it was not a Filipino who was behind most of it but another foreigner. Embrace the people and the culture and you can have a wonderful peaceful life there.
Another great video as always Tim, especially the final segment of "Be True To Yourself", it's so true, and to be honest I love the fact that I will always remain an outsider of sorts. Being humble is definitely the key takeaway from this, and just spend your time listening rather than talking, because you rarely end up in trouble when listening
Yes! You are 100% right.
Wow…. That was some sage advice; frankly priceless. Each time I go to the Phil’s I think I’m going to be less tense n more at inner-peace--they always pick up on our Western anxiety which, depending on other personality factors, can make a native uncomfortable. I notice the serenity on seasoned expats faces and even differences in the pace, haste or fear embedded in their speech. Yes and I can spot the semi-rookie’s like myself who’ve only visited several times to maintain their LDR…never staying longer than 3 weeks; not yet able to make a more long term move.
Walk very humbly as you go on with your business specially if you’re a guest in that country 👍
Disrespect abroad can be very deadly. Very true. I pray that God will protect us.
Yes giving someone that loss of face in Asia will get you in trouble or worse.
Thailand, Cambodia, Laos, Myanmar, The Philippines, and more places have the same thoughts on this. It is what it is, you just do not get involved in confrontations or local gossip.
Another example of this is, what these tick tockers are doing all throughout Asia.
Making someone lose face in Thailand can be very dangerous. It is a very big deal to Thais and I believe many other Asian countries such as Japan and as you say the Philippines also. It may seem rather bizarre or minor to us westerners but it is a very real thing we should be mindful of.
Wow, Tim. This video was the best one yet. Very well done.
Wow Congratulations on your 5th anniversary! can’t wait to say the same thing with my pina wife! And your video is sooo informational as a Travel Vlogger myself. Thank you for this video… yes i started traveling small… went to a local place where i live, then to different cities in USA 🇺🇸 then to Japan, philippines, so on… But your very right.. just respect people, definitely don’t yell or have an attitude, and be humble and myself especially since im a vlogger and trying to make a name for myself…. 😊
To be honest with you all the negative things I hear about the Philippines, more and more. I don’t think I’m gonna retire there after all.
Nah, dont let someone going to the extreme ruin it.
People in the West undervalue the West. Because their rights are normal to them they don't appreciate them. They fantasize about poor countries, because being a tourist in those countries is nice. But that is not the same as living there.
I am from Malaysia and living in France now. Never going back to Malaysia especially as a woman. I will visit family or go on Holiday, but living in France is 100 times better.
Don't let it get to you my Home in Arizona is probably worse in many ways and if you go to "Town"(Phoenix) you have to be aware of things!! At least take a Trip of a Month or longer to see and absorb its an Amazing place and people!!
Philippines is definitely not a perfect country... So is the United States. Wherever you go, you decide which discomforts / cons you'll tolerate and which one you can't. As an Asian man who've been to the U.S. twice, I am not comfortable being told to "Smile for Christ's sakes, you're in Disney World".
This video and your last one were your best. Very informative 😊