4 Differences Between Good Friends and Toxic Friends
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- Опубликовано: 2 май 2020
- In this journey called “life”, you will not only meet good friends who are always there to support you, encourage you, and want the best for you. But also toxic friendships along the way who only perceive you as an opportunity for personal gain. One bad friendship will affect you physically, mentally and emotionally. So, how do we differentiate between a real friend and a "toxic" friend? Watch this video to find out. Also, if you get a chance, we did a video on Signs It's time To Let Go of A Best Friend here: • 6 Signs That it's Time...
Be sure to watch it too if you have a chance! The animation and points are really good!
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Writer: Dawn Tan
Script Editor: Kelly Soong & Cindy Cheong
VO: Amanda Silvera
Animator: Mocha
RUclips Manager: Cindy Cheong
References:
Robbins, K. (2017). “11 Types of Friends You Will Have in Your Lifetime.” Retrieved from lifehack.org/articles/communication/11-types-friends-you-will-have-your-lifetime.html
Fucarino, C. (2018). “8 Types of Friends You Need to Have in Your Life.” Retrieved from lifehack.org/articles/communication/8-types-friends-you-need-have-your-life.html
Stedman, P. (2016). “The Four Types of Friends You’ll Make in Your Life.” Retrieved from patstedman.com/2016/01/13/making-friends-4-types/
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Happy Sunday everyone! Are you the good friend or toxic friend? Curious, but comment below!
I don't have any friends imao
I love your videos I want to be a therapist some day and love mental health thank you for making these amazing videos
I am the friend that keeps your secrets and helps when you are down but I have had toxic friends but not anymore
I'm a good friend
I’m the good friend ☺️
Hi
*I'm trying to make sure I'M not the toxic friend*
You too
Omg sameee
I think we all want to know if we are toxic or not =w='
Same
They all say the "same" thing (Fuck my joke.)
When you don't have friends and just decided to watch this video for extra information-
Omg me ♾
@@gayxenomorph5306 but who need friends?
I dont have friends
*they dissapoint me*
Same here haha 🤣 wanna be my friend?
@@damienchiew4074-_-
I feel like “good friends” dont exist anymore. And whenever you feel like you finally found a “good friend”, they end up throwing you under the bus.
LIKE ME
thats cause you don't know someone like me yet
seems like you're the common denominator, like you're the one looking for these people unknowingly. When your family is toxic you'll look for friends who make you fel the same, or at least theyre dramatic. When youre used to toxic people you'll get easily bored of the actual good people. it takes time to get used to feeling a certain way.
That's because humans are disgusting
And that's why I want to be the good friend to others it's challenging but it's possible.
The most dangerous toxic friend is the one who pretends to care. Only to betray you later
I've been there
Yes
YES 👏 I’m dealing with one of those right now
Happened to me 20 times over
Agreed
"do you have a friend who..."
-no
Your pfp makes this so much better
I have the inly two fake toxic bitches my bffs😢😢
Hoda Lashen HECK NO SWEARING ALSO IMA BE YOUR FRIEND NOONE’LL HURT U ANYMORE >:C
Idc if I’m being weird U JUST NEED SOMEONE TO HUG U
Hoda lashen: You deserve a better friend🥺. My friend was bieng fake towards me and she would talk smack about me. And after all the support and confidence I gave her, in return me and my other friend would sometimes get used by her. . She was manipulating us😔.
Shoto Todoroki I-
lemme take u as my friend child u need actual support. U GONNA FEEL BETTER TRUST MEH >:€
Most of my friends just all talk about themselves and don't ever ask how I am.
Sounds like your friend needs to be learn to be a good friend ..
if u want u can tell me how u are i care :)
You should tell them that you are having a problem with this
Wow I literally have this problem with all my 'friends', they just talk about themselves without caring about anything I say.
I feel like I'm just supposed to listen and give them the reaction they want to be considered their friend.
my friends dont talk to me
i dont even have a friend
Just gained enough courage to block my toxic friend today. Ask me anything.
How did you build the courage to block them ? I want to but I feel bad.
@@daisyx1002 it was honestly one of the hardest decisions I’ve ever made and I kept thinking to myself “maybe we can make it work again?” But I didn’t let it cloud my judgment. This may not sound healthy, but I kept thinking back to all the toxic aspects of our friendship, and it did help me to cut them off. I still think about them a lot and miss them everyday, but it’s getting better. Going back to look at their social media usually makes me feel worse though, so if you’re going to block them, do not look back. Don’t ever visit their page even if it’s just for nostalgic purposes, because then you’ll feel the urge to talk to them. And if they keep pestering and finding you to talk about it, just tell them straight up that you don’t want to be friends anymore and completely ghost them. They’ll get the message. Just don’t allow yourself to be manipulated again.
Happy for you! Hey, I’m dealing with a toxic trait and toxic environment so i want to know how can i handle myself not to become toxic and creating drama?
How to remove toxic friends from life
ACTUALLY I'm dealing with that ,I cannot directly block her because she has many of my secrets and she has blackmailed me with that already, what I just do is whatever happens talk nice to them if they don't talk nice to you back in 1 week just block them.....
True friends: Really deep conversations
Me and my best friend: Conversation about potatoes that lasts two hours
That’s Good
Potatoes are extremely important
Potatoes for the win!!
Potato of potata :)
TRUE
"Bro."
"Sup, bro?"
"Close your eyes, and tell me what you see."
"Nothing, bro."
"That's my world when you're not around, bro."
"Bro..."
Bro....
Friendship goals smh
@4holePatriot even better
@4holePatriot Bromance ( ͡° ͜ʖ ͡°)
Deep
I’ve cut out all toxic people in my life... and now I’m lonely and have no one.
Hey don't lose hope!
I cut all of my toxic Friends and it's been around 7 months and I have found so many great friends who genuinely want to talk to me,
It takes a while to find friends like this, just have patience and keep on trying.
I believe in you!!!
Hey you are pretty brave you did that proud of you girl we can be friends too
Girl same , the peace is different though
I got my first friend when I was 17. I'm 20 and we won't give up on each other. I'm lucky to have her in my life ❤️
Prob better that way happiness comes from the within
when you have good friends but see them turn into bad friends throughout the years.
hurts the most, i had a friend let go of me for this, ive been trying to be better to them since but no one around them is willing to give me the chance to show them ive changed. ive been through therapist and neurologists to better myself, and although they cant trust me and i understand why its just so depressing to have to let go of all the good memories ive had with them
Exactly me
I was there 10 min ago. Some shit happened and i finally blocked them. Now I watched this video to strengthen my resolve. The worst thing is that I don't think I have any good people at school. They always make fun of me. But it's fine, I will be alone. I have been with these friends for 3 years. They slowly became toxic. I even tried to tell them not to but they say that they are just joking and I am being dramatic. Now when I responded calmly and gave comebacks they snapped and are picking from me. And one friend who pretends to care but talks behind back is telling to stop. When they abuse me, he didn't tell them to stop. Instead he was laughing and making fun of me. I have had enough. Perhaps I just don't deserve friends. I am short, have average looks, and am middle class. Though my academic ability is far higher than theirs and I didn't pick up on that they make fun of me for my height and say I will never get a gf and say I have small pp.
Yup that's the hell I was living in
This cuts deep... literally all of my oldest friends have turned out in later years to be major backstabbers and petty traitors who hate to see others do well. Depressing world.
Honestlyyy I have been friends with them for 4 years and everything was good now they just started to avoid me and not even talk to me anymore
I think my toxic trait from what I learned in this videos is that I do a lot for someone I care and when they cannot give me the same care I get upset. Everyone has a toxic trait and that is okay, I feel like people need to accept it and try to fix it or at least comprehend it. By just calling someone toxic and shutting them down and not bringing up a conversation, keeps the the habit on an ongoing cycle,
you're better off having no friends than toxic people who put you down constantly.
facts
Yup, my friends jumped one of my fake friends and trapped him in the locker lmao, my true friends inv me to a party and go to my partys my fake friend goes to other parties and not mine witch idc but its a sign he was fake.
Yo guys should i drop my friends? Ever since quarantine started they have stopped calling to hang with them. They've been out when quarantine has been less strict and havent invited me. We still talk in discord but I feel left out bc I dont hang with them. Whenever they talk about plans and stuff, some of them kind of say it quietly bc I'm in the call and dont want me to hear it I guess. But I'm scared bc I dont want to be lonely in grad but with the pace of this, I feel like they are distancing themselves from me bc I'm not like them. After every call I always feel lonely bc they talk about the shit they did or what someone said in a group chat I'm not in and I'm just there.
@@yuno6097 bro I used to have friends just like that.... They didn't really let me join in on stuff... It eventually started to get worse to the point where they ignored me... And acted like I was annoying when i talked to them. After I realised that they didn't want me around I stopped hanging out with them. I felt a lot more better 🤔
drop them and start making new friends that won't make you feel left out 🙃
yes
I always have this fear that I end up being the toxic one with my friends, they're always so nice to me and I feel like I'm always selfish. I don't mean to be, and when I ask them about it, they say I'm a great friend, buy I feel like they're lying. So I always watch these videos to check myself.
Thanks for sharing! Would you like a video on "X Signs You're A Toxic Friend To Others" to help you find out more?
@@Psych2go that would be very helpful!
oml same
I have same problem.
@@Psych2go yes please!
“Good friends are mature and responsible.”
Me: “If one of us is weird, the rest of us understands.”
I find its harder with my girls that are friends. However I find that my girlfriends that are quieter, more reserved and kind, are the best. The ones that have to be center of attention or only talk about themselves or others are ones you have to stay away from. I've spent hours and lots of energy on people that could care less about me. I won't make that mistake again. I truly love my friends but at this age, I can't pour from empty cups or take abuse and drama
“a good friend accept you for who you are”
My friend and I: **weird noises**
Me and my best friend: burp in front of each other, say weird things and laugh about the silliest stuff. But then we know we can always talk about anything that is happening in our lives XD
I feel like this list is feminine because there is an expectation on guys that they can’t show their emotions.
Fried Fish I’m a girl and I’m comfortable with being weird in front of them, but I never talk about my problems or show my emotions, I just listen to theirs
some person I mean that there is an expectation to always be fine. Just look at the video and see that most of them wouldn’t fit in the “expected male personality”. Not saying I like it of course, but guys are made fun of for showing emotion.
some person but also in society there is an expectation on women that they can’t be mad. If a guy got mad and threw his keys he would be “committed”, but it a girl was assertive she would be thought of as a drama queen. Society has unrealistic expectations on everyone.
1. Good friends protect you when you’re vulnerable.
Toxic friends only take, demands for a lot & give little back.
2. Good friends are trustworthy and accept you for who you are.
Toxic friends give you praises to your face and stab you in the back.
3. Good friends are compassionate with you & others.
Toxic friends give you false hope and impressions.
I was looking for the saint who lists. Thank you!
Thanks Jotaro! Did we miss any?
@@lyndsaybrown8471 friends are not the only people who are toxic, your family can be toxic, also; so if you're a single parent, you will not only want to keep your children away from your family, you also want to surround them (your children) with good people, and especially, good friends.
Psych2Go I don’t think so, this is a pretty good list. 😊
1. I don't know if I'm doing anything to be good or toxic.
2. I might be both good and toxic. Hopefully just good.
3. I'm probably both good and toxic, but the toxic is unintentional.
Some people here are worried that they're the toxic friend. But I would like to offer some peace of mind to all of you. If you're worried about being a toxic friend, you are probably not a toxic friend. Toxic people don't care. They don't care if they hurt anyone, they're not the ones worried about being the toxic friend. But those who are actually good friends will worry and they will wonder if they're bad and how they can improve. C.S. Lewis said in one of his books that in a perfect circle, each friend will feel like they don't deserve the other friends.
I've been holding onto a friend for 4 years now only to find they only want to boast about themselves and never care about my mental health and problems. This video really helped me see the difference between right and wrong.
Toxic friends: always there for you when they need you
True....
Ngl, you had me in the first half
toxic friend help
Tozxi FRAT: EAT UR MINCE MINT
y
ONLY HUMAN same
Toxic friends gaslight you when you catch them in lies or red-handed.
Maddy from Euphoria is quaking
Omg so true
That hit too close to my feels. 😭 I still can't get over her. Yet I know she's not good for me. 😢
@@anumitachakrabarty1 you've not got what she needs. But you remember what you need. Just admit you're not as accomplished as you'd need to be to get her. You learned you're just chicken scratch.
I confronted some toxic friends and listed a bunch of things they did that made me feel depressed - rather than listen and take what I said on board, they just blamed my autism and left
Fun Fact: Some people here are actually tryna make sure THEY arent the toxic friend
*I hope I'm not alone. I hope.*
Same!!
I realize that I'm the toxic one cuz I often vent about negative stuff to them but I'm not sure cuz they also kinda show some toxic positivity.
Trust me, you're never along in whatever you're feeling there's always someone out there experiencing the same thing 💖💖
Why do people forget that power always comes into play when it comes to making friends? Think about this. Winners get everything. Losers get absolutely nothing. This is why jerks get so many friends, more opportunities, you know, the ones who don’t play by the rules. No wonder why rule followers become poor and miserable later on in life.
@@celebrity_rooster7488 ...? I'm in a very happy friendship with my closest friend right now, where we've both happened to fall back a grade from not being able to mentally keep up, call that "losing". We also don't play by rhe rules though, we talk about so many different things other people outside our circle have never even heard about and every day it never seems to run out. So thank you very much I'm glad to be a loser.
Thank you I needed to hear this. I am so surrounded by lousy relationships in my social and familiar circle that I have to watch this to validate my opinions of what a healthy relationship is to myself. I am looking forward to friendships in 2021.
me : *feeling down*
my best friend: now this looks like a job for me
So everybody, just follow me
‘Cause we need a little... controversy
And it feels so *empty without me*
(begins comically weeping due to missing best friend, even though it’s been about one day since we’ve talked)
How lucky you are!
same.
@@MvsicAdd7ct so u r a good friend ;)
Awww..they are good friend! Meanwhile I’ve never been sad in front of my friends bc I’m scared to show my feeling to anyone 😬
Am I the only one who is having a hard time to evaluate what kind of friend someone is because I don't really share my problems
same here
If you have an inkling they have at least a hunch there is something beneath the surface with you, then you know.
Same here ._.
jhen lee it's okay
Ah... I feel the same
When you realise you dont have any friends who keep ur secrets and that ur bsf is toxic
I have been getting very anxiety filled about myself lately, and have been searching things to see if I’ll fit in a category.. but almost every time I end up watching one of your videos. the calming voiceover and judgeless examples.. it relaxes me every time. and I thank you, so much, for being a channel I can rely on when I think I might need to find advice that I can’t get irl.
“Vent for hours” is a little much. A lot of us can’t handle that much negativity being dumped on us because of our own hardships, it’s just too much. That doesn’t make us toxic. I definitely try to hold space for my friends to vent and let their negative emotions out in a healthy way, but I have to take care of myself too. If all you do every time you talk to me is either amuse yourself or vent for hours and complain, then you are the toxic friend here. I need reciprocation that I can vent too without interruption, and that we also talk about positive things like hopes and dreams and things we’ve learned.
AGREE
A toxic friend will vent for hours regardless of it's effect on you. A good friend will recognize the psychological limits of their friends and not lean on them emotionally to the point of breaking.
I never vent because I feel selfish for even doing a little bit, but yes i totally agree
When we want to rant we ask the other "do you in the right headspace for me to rant?"
Agreed
Thank you very much for that video. This really helped me get the confidence to confront my friends and get out the toxic relationship i was in and now i feel much happier and free to be my real self . Send you much loveeee
I've been loving this channel and the knowledge it offers and I'm so happy their vids are being used in our lesson
I always have trust issues whenever I'm trying to make friends or someone trying to make friends with me.
YuzuIsMyName QwQ I feel you
Same. And I am always ask why I am so cold and why I "hate" a "new friend" in our group, but I just need more time to trust a random dude that appear from nowhere.
Sameeee
Yeeppppp
Same
When you realise everyone around you is toxic... even your family.
Shall I be the exception?
So sad that this comment is so true. I realize that after my divorce and learned the hard way that loving myself is the only way to live a happy life.
Like my dad. Its already 11 years now.not even a happy birthday. isn't he a CARING DAD. I'm sick of all the happy fathers day stuff on my phone. He didn't just ALMOST killing my mother but he left my mom and me for 11 years and mom still thinks he's a good person.god bless her.
@Williams Jack Lopez Castro my mom is the best therapy :)
Williams Jack Lopez Castro true words. I wished I learned that earlier though because it would had given me a chance to have a more meaningful life. I would had stop wasting time with women, meaningless interactions with friends and go into a field that I can help others without expectations.
I am trying to see if my friendship is toxic. I know he doesn't mean to be and he doesn't see himself as toxic but I often feel that if I don't benefit him, he doesn't care. He's really sensitive because his insecurities leave him feeling people are disrespecting him and he gets angry and judgemental. He doesn't listen, but he's often honest about his opinion about you even if it's bad. I don't feel safe, respected or valued in the friendship but I can't tell if that's my own insecurities and I should be responsible for how my actions leave him feeling. We've been trying to clean it up but so far it's mostly just me listening to him and he can't seem to hear my side. He also said our friends encourage me to my face but say things behind my back which is making me feel bad. I'm tempted to let the friendship stay unhealthy and just pull away or should I stand for having healthy communication, even if I don't know how to be heard...
This is exactly what I’m going through, except my friend tries to make every other friend around me seem bad. I blocked him today because i realized how it emotionally hurt me.
This is pretty late but I hope you're doing okay. No matter what he has went through, you deserve to be treated right. Dropping people for your own mental health is not selfish. There is a fine like between someone being insecure but trying to get better with coping mechanisms etc etc, and being insecure and expecting someone else to carry your burden with you. I'm not saying they're a bad person, they just need to learn and grow, and while you can tell them that, you are not responsible for them and what they do. I wish you the best xx
Well if u know that he's honest than it shouldnt be that big of a problem... If u really wonna know who is honest with u then u should invite all these ppl that he says r talking trash behind ur back and make a big confronting circle... Its very uncomfortable but then u can see whos speaking the truth
You helped do my essay for the importance of having a good friend ! 😌💕
I used to be a good friend, for toxic friends. so now I ended up being real toxic and it hurt people but myself too. when I realized it it's hard to change cause that become my personality like im really salty. That's why I isolated myself so no one will get hurted and I hurt no one.
Give yourself some time. Perhaps a few rounds out of the friend-game will reset your social habits. Worked for me.
That's pretty unhealthy, trust me. After a while you struggle with socialising and basic confrontation, which is even harder to recover from than being toxic. Regardless I wish you farewell!!
Plz don't isolate yourself ....that's not healthy and you can always improve
I don't have a lot of friends but the people I am friends with say there should be more people like me. So if you need someone to talk to I'm hear.
@@prodsuga9482 no I will do it my classmates don't care about me anyway they only like the crazy idiot called rhea
It hurts to realize that a friendship is one-sided, or that your friend is toxic for you. But you care too much about them to hurt them, even if it hurts you.....
Ahhh....I feel you .
@@stacyplay__ Yeah. it sucks
That’s what’s happening with me and one of my dearest friends right now. I don’t want to let them go, but I probably should. They’ve already deteriorated my mental health so much.
@@socialanxiety9153 same, i realized, that on one hand, my friend probably made my life 200% better and gave me a better view of the world, but on the other hand he rly messed up my self-consciousness. He always tells me, that i should get a gf, but he do not even realize, that he is the reason i do not have one
I feel you😊
my problem was that my toxic friend never gave me the same understanding i would give her. when she needed someone to talk, i was always there. but once i needed to talk to her, she’d give me the “oh, im sorry. i went through some stuff and talking about that stuff triggers me,” and left it there, having me apologize for bringing up something i genuinely wanted to share and talk to someone about to help figure things out. and although i understand why she would do that and appreciated her honesty, it left me feeling like my issues were a burden, but when she’d need someone to talk about her issues, even if they were triggering for me, i was always there for her.
i know she isn’t a bad person, but she has stuff to work through, and i won’t sacrifice my mental well being for someone who admitted to taking me for granted.
watching these videos helps me realize traits i have due to low self esteem because of my long friendship with her. and i do hope i will grow. i strive to not treat my friends the way i was treated.
I would love to be your new friend. We can go to a concert together.
It’s very important & very human of us to feel the need to always fill other people’s cups, but you need to make sure your cup is being filled too ❤️
When you notice that you're the good friend and most of you're friends are toxic.
Same lmao
Exactly! I just don’t know how to feel now
I kinda realized this earlier and it's mostly because of two reasons that I think some of you here will probably recognize,
1. I never tried to indicate my problems to my friends (until now ._.)
2. My friends.... aren't really the notice and ask type, they emphasize by talking about themselves for the most part and whatever I told them before they emphasized about it is on the dead end on the conversation.
omg finnally, someone in the world understands TwT
I have been trying to make my life more healthy in friends and relationships this account has been really helping thank you
these are amazing news 🥰🥰
i thought i had a friend at the skatepark but when i got a new skateboard setup he ended up using me and had another buddy so i would get set up i wanted to cry because i didiny even know what was happening at the time and he didint tell me till weeks later when i told em i was depressed and he kept being mean to me
MedievalShadows awwwh I feel bad for u I am so sorry for your depression :(
My old best friend used to always mention how I didn’t have other friends. Kinda as a joke which I always thought was weird and would tell her, I know why she used to say it. She wanted to keep me down. She wanted me to think she was the only one who cared about me. I finally cut her off and It was very painful but worth it! I love her but sometimes it’s the right to do. If anyone else knows they need to let someone go but are scared. You got this just remember to be gentle with them and yourself and honest. You got this, your happiness needs to come first.💗
Thank You 🙏🏽 Soo much☺️ this is exactly what I need to hear. ✌🏽
I have a lot of trouble expressing my emotions to people when I'm feeling down so I just tend not to do it. But one day I just kind of accidentally broke down in front of one of my friends one day and decided to just ramble on everything that had been bothering me for a while. One of the things I said was "I feel like I bother you when I talk about things I like sometimes," and she said "No, you don't bother me, that's what makes you you!" And that made me feel good until 2 days later she randomly got mad at me and said I was selfish and I always made things about me and I was in fact bothering her but she didn't say it then because she didn't want to upset me. And then I went into a spiral thinking how long I could've been annoying her without knowing it simply because she wouldn't tell me. I felt horrible that I could've been annoying someone without knowing and I also felt horrible wondering how long I'd been lied to.
Dude i feel the same way, but for me, no one says i’m selfish and annoying, i think i am, and i attack myself in front of one of my friends whenever i vent, and now i think she doesn’t want to be my friend. She’s been with me for 8 whole years, and i’m really sad. She never vents to me anymore, and when i do she gets angry all the time, and doesn’t help me with my anxiety. I still want to be her friend though, because i feel like if i’ll lose her, i wouldn’t ever be happy. I know this is so confusing lmao
I LOVE YOU! Be you and be happy. It's hard but just like everything, it starts of weird and scary but the more you do it, the easier it gets
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SUMMARY:
1)Good friends will protect you when you're vulnerable
2) Good friends are trustworthy & accept you for who you are
3) Good friends are mature & responsible.
4) Good friends are compassionate with you and with others
I am a really toxic friend, and I just realized it
I agreed with you until number 3, I think that a friend doesn’t have to be mature to be a good friend they can often be immature and still have all the qualities to be a good friend.
@@shamartist7593 act on it, and improve.
Thanks for the answers for my school work 😂
@@stonkers7703 It's a summary of the hecking video- complain to the script makers not the commenter -.-
For number one you can be there for friends, but you also have to know when to look after your own mental health. You can't always be there for others problems and worries, especially if it's hurting you.
Number two, it is important to no judge your friend and supports them for who they are, unless they are actively harming people around them by their behaviours and beliefs.
Number four is the same as number one, you can't always be there for others mental health, you can't always be there to support and encourage them if it means your mental health is on the line and they start to expect you to always be there for it. As long as you try and direct them to someone who can help and listen and know when its really serious, it's okay to sometimes back off to deal with your own problems.
Thank you so much i was searching this kinda videos 😊😓
*The realest ones don't have a lot of friends*
You're right about that. I used to hate myself for not being able to have more than 1 friend and because of that I resented people who seemed to have so many fiends on social media. But I've come to realize that 1 real friend is better that 100 internet friends. But maybe I'm overreacting after all I'm only 13. Maybe I'll have more friends in the future :)
That's me. I only have 2 real friends. My bestfriends. And I don't need many. Because a million friends is useless if nobody is real.
The realest and the smartest 😉
@@roxy2492 Yeah most of those "Internet Friends " are just people who only want content or want to hate on you later. Like not many of them will DM you daily. So for now stick with the one until you get older and get more authentic with yourself as well, and then figure out relationships. It doesn't hurt to practice but the roller coasters that come with the territory are nothing to be jealous about, I am 28. And I got only a few people I hang out with too even with a big social media base. You're doing just fine. And yeah you will have more in the future.... I think out of RL friends that I consider "Good Stable Friends" I only have 4. One of them is my Partner.
And online I don't think it's 100 but more like 26.
I also count Family lol.
Yes, usually introverts are the best friends, because they don't have so many.
Nice, I've got a whole group of toxic narcissist friends (or rather had)
What did you say??? I kinda have that problem, two very toxic "friends".. But in a year I'll be moving away, so I'm wondering if I should just not talk to her and be a little cold so she gets the point and then I move away and never have to talk to her again. One year is a long time tho..
@@greendragon2875 and that’s why I wish quarantine was still going on smh
@Pierre Robin had
@@greendragon2875 Don't play implication games, that hurts everyone in the long term. Just be curt about it when the time comes.
I’m sorry you had the same experience. I just lost two of my bridesmaids cause they kept starting fights with myself and my family members..... we will grow with this experience. Hope you’re ok
Loved, “what matter(s) is that we learn and become better versions of ourselves.”
I can never forget my best friend who made me laugh. She made me a backbencher but also she made me mentally stronger than before. She helped me. She liked me being near her. Now we are far due to corona but in chat she says that she is missing me, even I miss her too.
A good friendship can help us forget all our hard times - I understood from this video.
Yep then i have two good friends till now!
I got this from somewhere,
“Best friends walk in when everyone walks out”
So that’s a thing to always remember!
pardon me, are you a-
@@slushy711 ?
@@amanimango hamilton reference. their name and pfp.
@@slushy711 ohh ok
@@slushy711 That depends who's asking? xd
I avoid most toxic friendships (or know when one is turning toxic) by being my own good friend first. This way, I know my boundaries and can choose accordingly. To be a good friend, I practice the golden rule: be to others as you would like them to be to you.
Thank u so much. You just me realize something really important.
I had self hate but when i watched this video i realized my friends were here to support me. Thanks for making me realize this!
This just showed me I have no real friends...
*sigh* bro.
You're not alone
Let’s be honest, if we really look into our friendships we’ll find most of them are toxic
Part of the time, but it shouldn't be most of the time
Not really, I have only had one toxic friend when I was really young. Now I have friends who I can be myself around, and we always look out for each other.
I had lots of toxic friends in the past but now I only have a few good friends.
True....
I don't. I comes to cgoosing who you want to be friends with. Personally I find making friends difficult but what I get are gems. It all comes down to choosing
yes i really needed this
I have a friend with a few of these habits, but she's been through a lot over the past few years. She's a really good person underneath. I love her to bits and can't wait to see her come out the other side of this. 🥰
I, on the other hand, have a few too many of these traits. 😐 Looks like I need to do some work on myself.
I had this toxic friend. She manipulated me into doing bad things with her like stealing and saying bad things about other people from our class yet she ran after those people. So before it got too bad I got away from her. But now I only have 1 friend but at least she's a true one. But it never feels enough I want more but I don't know how to get that
having one friend is a good thing tho, how often do you talk with your friend?
(No you do not have to answer, I just felt like knowing that, oddly)
One real friend is better than many toxic friends, or a toxic group friend. Do you think so?
candyxapple x I’ve heard if you have 1 friend in a lifetime, you’ve been blessed.
i went through that, hold on to that real friend, you won't find anyone like her and in the long run youll be happy with just a few real people than lots of fake ones
Dang this situation is the same happened to me; lucky for you, you’ll step out of it but for me I got a CS even I’m fucking innocent
I had a group of toxic friends my whole childhood. Because of them I almost ended up in jail. I usedto see them as family untilI realised how dangerous they were for me.
Thanks for the video Psych2go
I hope u are living a happy and beautiful life... Ur past is just ur past never let it stop u from looking for a bright future.... Everyone is unique in their own way and I know u must be a really precious diamond to the people who really care bout u.... Be happy and don't worry 😊😊....
THANKS FOR YOUR HELP
I needed to watch this.
Got rid of my toxic friends my doing the "fade out." I didn't completely cut them out (to avoid drama) I just stopped being so frequent with them. Our conversations became super casual until they got bored enough to leave on their own. They slowly faded out of my life.
That's good! There's so many other great and amazing people you can be friends with, all you gotta do to determine wether a person is good or bad, is by observing. Hang in there!♡
That’s what I’m currently doing. I’m not in any way afraid of conflict, but I won’t fight because I want out, and I’m more than done. She doesn’t get it since I’m the great friend to her. I have chipped away at myself for too long, enough now. Not wasting any energy on that anymore. I deserve better. 😊💖
kissedbyfire probably better than me, i ghosted a toxic friend with no warning- oops
I completly cut someone out of my life, wish I could've done it slowburn. Turns out things are a bit more complicated when the person you're trying to leave behind is your own mother.
Evagand yeah, I’m unfortunate enough to have that one too, but it’s my dad... and actually most of my dysfunctional ass family. But I’m much happier without their bullshit, so that’s something. 🤗😅😭💖 just wish I didn’t feel so shitty, guilty and self doubting about it though.
Good friends
1. Good friends protect you when you're vulnerable.
2. Good friends are trustworthy and accept you for who you are.
3. Good friends are mature and responsible.
4. Good friends are compassionate with you and others.
Toxic friends
1.Toxic friends only take, demand a lot and give little back.
2. Toxic friends give praises to your face and stab you in the back.
3. Toxic friends are reckless and immature.
4. Toxic friends give you false hope and impressions.
Do you want to add to this list?
No. That's silly, manipulators do the 'good friend' stuff, it's called 'love bombing'. Then later they do the toxic stuff. It's a game of you against them. The more clever they are, the more dangerous.
@@keplermission4947 agreed
Thanks, I think I'm a friend
I have 3 'friends' who I thought I can trust, we had a school trip where I had the worst belly ache ever, half sleepy and nauseous in the bed and they were joking about it, saying some rude things about me and my health and didn't say a basic 'sorry'... The level of support is... And now acting like victims and blaming me for not talking to them..
They showed you who they really were. Thank God for that. Move on now… I have a chronic illness that is invisible & my friends could care less. I am unable to work, maintain relationships and hardly take care of myself full-time and while I’ve been there through so many milestones for my friend circle nobody’s coming forward to help me out. I’ve just learned to expect less from people to avoid disappointment.
@@mulliganstew72 I'm sending as much love to you as possible!!! You are amazingly strong! I have chronic abdominal pain after appendectomy with no diagnosis and it sucks 😩but thanks to this I have few real friends and know who is who..
Please keep in mind that you are loved by me💘I know it probably isn't much but just keep it in mind 💋
Useful video !!
Im feeling so bad for the nowadays generation who seems so lonely, and craving for friends. Hope them find one.
If most of us aer lonely (I'm not) then why don't they find another lonely guy and be friends with them
I mean it is that easy
I dropped my “best friend” after 9 years when I realised that all he ever did was trying to put me down
I just did today with my friend of 15 years
Smashplayer 01 Well done. I know it’s very hard. I successfuly carried on and got rid of him. Resisted his manipulation :)
My bsf of almost three years has said pretty effed up things to me and I never looked at it and just thought “oh but she’s a good person I trust her” but a few days ago when she talked about what she thought my sexuality was (btw im queer) I just couldn’t take it anymore, but she’s still my friend ig and I haven’t dropped her yet but I will soon
Same bro... Feel u hope it wasnt that hard and ifit was then hope u will get better soon.
I did last month, it was a 9 yrs friendship and even though I used to get a lot of gifts and all, there was lack of affection. She didn't even use to ask how I am in months. And ghosted me often, unapologetically. Once or twice was okay.
And later, her newfound partner messed with my head by lusting after me. It was nasty and messy so I cut her off. The only regret I have is not telling her what her partner was being like and manipulated me into smth.
Maybe I was toxic is some cases too. So I guess it was what it was.
Oh I definitely have a “friend” just like the toxic one you describe (actually a few of them left) but I’m happy to report that I’ve started to build Friendships with the healthy friends you’re talking about as well which is an empowering feeling.
(sry for my bad english im still learning) 1:47 2. really touched me cuz we had a race with the whole school and i was in that race, everyone was cheering up for their kid from their class. And so i expected atleast my so called "best friends" to cheer me up ... and they dident they cheered up for another kid from another class i won and then they were trying to talk to me and get the chocolate that i got from the prize before they could say anything i just left slowly with my head down while they are like: "dont go" cmon come back!" just to get the prize i layed in my bed and after 10 minutes i started crying cuz i relized i have no true or real friends and there is no one in the school that likes memes, games, anime and learning there is just none and now im sad i changed my whole life style and im a quiet kid, when they try to roast me or say something bad about me i just say: " go away u toxic id*ot* and that isent the frist time that happend
"the conversations you have are real deep."
me thinking about my best friend.
two weeks ago: "Hey ever wonder why rats have weird worm tails?"
"dude it's 5 a.m..... how about why ferrets are agressive noodles?"
"duuuuuuudddeee"
yea... deep conversations
Sometimes it's the exact type of conversation you need in your life
I once talked with my best friend for a whole hour about what a single ant we saw on the sidewalk was saying/thinking lol
No one:
Me: *checking to see if im toxic*
Mee too 😂😂
Yes I had met many toxic friends from past three years I realised after watching it, and I don't eant to be sensitive and fall to their emotional dialogues and emotional blackmails, I deserve a good friend and I found her😍 thanks for sharing this video to mee
Recently, I made a new friend. She was so similar to me, and we got along well. However, this past week I’ve been having so many serious conversations with her about our friendship like setting my boundaries, etc. When I tell her these things, she always reacts with anger and gaslights me. Just a few days ago I realized she also doesn’t listen to the things I say like the important things about myself. It’s all so disheartening because I really trusted her and believed she could be a close + good friend. Turns out I was wrong 😓 So this week I just stopped talking to her (because no matter what I tell her…she doesn’t listen and care). And she hasn’t put any energy into fixing the relationship or talking. It just shows that I was the only one who cared about our friendship. I hope everyone else who’s struggling with a horrible friend…will have enough self-love to put themselves first 💕
having good friends sounds so comforting
How to not have toxic friends:
*NOT TO HAVE FRIENDS IN GENERAL*
*I honestly don't know how to avoid them*
Edit: **virtual hugs for everyone** 😊😘❤
Meeeeeeeee!!!!!!!
be a good friend and you should find good friends ^^
@@Kamkkko and even if you spot bad friend, dont giveup on them, they can become the goodie :-)
You’ve got this, just give it time and you will find your person, meanwhile I can be your non toxic internet friends * hugs * 💗
@@Kamkkko
Ohhhhh
Story time 😊:
Sooo um I had a seatmate and she was an attention seeker she became popular for a "newbie" (I'm new too) we got to know each other and she had became friends with the popular kids at my grade soooo she auditioned for the campus dance(thingy) and she gained followers and whenever I'd ask her or be school work groupmates with her she answers me though she ignores me the whoooleeee time the last time I talked to her personally was 1 month ago
I might sound or look like I'm the toxic friend maybe it's my fault that I have another failed friendship 😊
luckily I'm blessed wid a true friend and believe me she is just amazing and the best part is we both are the support system of each other but have never praised each other face to face. throughout this lockdown phase there is not a single day when i felt alone bcoz she was there wid me all the time , may not be physically but mentally.
OK words are not enough to describe her .................................................
"Good friends are mature and responsible."
*Guess I'm a toxic friend*
when you have a 2 faced friend that gossips about you but u think you dont know but u do: you may have outsmarted me, but i outsmarted your outsmartness
Same
They always make u feel like nothing
Toxic friends give you praises to your face and stab you in the back.
What about the ones who say thing's about you in your face, and they don't even feel guilty about it even after seeing your reaction to certain compliments they don't stop
I have one 🙁
To yall watching this right now, yall better stay safe during the pandemic!
And thank you Psych2Go again for having me to work on this topic! ♥
yes i'm from the future
Oki
huh??
😂😂😂
MochaThrone How did you do that?
Accurate and helpful a lot
This is for our school module uwu. I was happy cuz my favorite channel is one of the videos we have to watch
I'm missing two important elements here:
1. They are *present* when you need them and actually care about you. This sort of made an appearance but just in passing, while this is really a key point. I had multiple "friends" in the past who seemed to not care much when I needed them or counted on their support, even though they more or less fit the other points here, often covering it with layers of elegant-sounding, high-horse phrases.
2. They do not just turn on you. This may seem obvious, but this happens more often than I had ever expected, and have had two traumatic situations in the last year alone when someone I considered a rather close friend just completely turned against me with no second chances - in both cases they lost it after I got slightly upset over them defending something awful. It's incredibly toxic and those are the people who usually have built up an entire ideology to "prove" that the whole escalating situation was somehow your fault when you thought it was just a disagreement.
The 2nd point... I relate to that a lot. My best friend was extremely toxic to me for no apparent reason, and that put me thru major depression for such a long time, even affecting my academic performance... But after a year he finally owned up to his mistakes and apologized to me and explained why he did that to me. If only he opened up to me a little bit earlier... But yeah at least we're on good terms now, altho the past really still hurts bcoz it was almost a traumatizing experience for me
Deborah N you’re genuinely brave forgiving your best friend!! I can totally relate to losing a best friend I know it sucks :(( I also lost a best friend of 10 years and went through depression and anxiety. However, I didn’t go back to being friends as she negatively impacted my life (as she was also being toxic to me )to the point where my grades and everything went down. I decided to cut her off as she was treating me so badly.
Anyways, I hope you guys are still on good terms and that the past is behind you!!!
@@jakeblinkk3453 I genuinely wish I could let the past just stay behind me but for some reason it's constantly haunting me... Yeah we are on good terms but we barely talk anymore. Sure it felt weird since we went from being chatty 24/7 to almost silence all the time, but somehow... I got used to it, sadly. And it's very heartbreaking to say... That I actually feel better this way. I decided to let go and pretend as if we're just normal friends and nothing special happened between us. It's hard at first, but I needed to do this for myself. I was hurting, but as I let go, I'm finally feeling so much better. I'm happier on my own, and idk if this counts as sth unfortunate or not. Wow I almost cried typing this but honestly, I don't miss him at all. That past experience is just too traumatizing for me that I don't wish to go back to how close we were anymore. I'm way too scared of being hurt that way ever again, esp considering it came from someone whom I once thought of as the dearest person to me :'(
@@jakeblinkk3453 thank you for your words, and I'm sorry for your loss as well. But I hope you're doing much better right now. We don't need toxic people in our lives, is what I figured. Stay strong ♥️
I had the second one the same, except it was 3 (maybe 4) people at once
I had toxic friends, now I have no friends. I am definitely a good friend and will not deal with toxic people ever again! Self-love is the best love of all.
I’ve realised that most of my friends were toxic and decided to quit. It was so painful. But then I found many good friends on Voicely, so now I can say that it was even worth it. You deserve better!
Honestly, the most important thing is that you are your own friend first in order to attract and have good friends. Knowing what you value and prioritize makes it easy to spot those who accept you for who you are and to spot those who wants to change you for the worse just to benefit from it.
I learnt this the hard way but I take the blame for being too naïve. In fact, it took me 4 years to open up to my current close friends and I'm only lucky enough because they were patient.
Hence, I believe that everyone has a close friend. Just that they will turn up at the most unexpected ways and times. You can't actively search for them but by knowing your self-worth, they'll eventually come into your life
I don’t why I’m watching this I literally don’t have any friends to compare to.
Ha... Wait... Me too :
Me to???
Me too
Can relate
“A bad friend is immature and reckless.”
*Uh oh*
*oh no*
*oh no²*
*oh no3*
oh no4
oh no5
This video is special. 🙏
It’s sad how they make us feel guilty when we can’t do anything about our choices.
had a toxic friend for 2 years but now that I've got a good friend, I'm really happy. Just wait for the correct time, everything's gonna be alright and your time will come
Yes it will
Me too but I had this toxic friend for bout 4 years I'm soo happy that I have a friend who is truely worth calling a friend now...
lmfao exactly same
This opened my eyes a lot. I have recently cut off a friend from my life of 8 yrs, and it hurt. And I'd been feeling guilty but they had put me in way too many uncomfortable situations and would belittle me about being "too introverted" and "boring". And although I miss the good times, since graduation they've changed and this made me feel a bit better about my decision
I let a toxic friend go today and most of these applied to her. I think I did the right thing. She was only there for me when it was convenient to her, she is indifferent when I express my feelings, she flips the blame around to me when I point out how she neglects our friendship and takes more than she gives. She apologizes but doesn't change. Acting like a great friend only between romantic relationships. Once she's in one, they are her number one priority and I'm just a nuisance. It feels good to be done and severing a toxic tie. Thank you for the validation.
Be who you are and say what you feel, because those who mind don't matter and those who matter don't mind.
-Dr. Seuss
Diferentes between good friends and toxic friends
Me: What is a friend? 😶
Friend is you too ;)
I'll be you're friend lol
@@Psych2go haha, thank you
You really should find yourself some friends, it's not that hard, and it's actually really good fit you.
@@gamermapper I do have friends, i was just joking, but thanks for the advice
once i cut out my toxic friend, all my other friends just go away.. i hate it here
Why does every single video art have to be so danm good
Its insane how many people can disguise themselves as being "friends."
My problem was that I was too trustworthy and I thought I got along with everyone. Looking back I feel crappy for not being more empathetic towards people I couldn't understand because they could have been real ride or die people..at that time I was an angry person and I knew I took it out on the wrong people and in rude or harsh ways. I surrounded myself with people that weren't any better than I was and thought I couldn't and wouldn't be able to attract people with any real great energy. Letting go of people that were just using me for whatever reasons were very smart decisions. You don't think so at first because you thought those years hanging out and getting to know that person or people mattered, but in the end it didn't. If you weren't beneficial to them in some way they would drop you. Everyone stay positive and keep those gems who are friends as close to you as possible. Now we need it more than ever due to this virus. Be careful and safe everyone.
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