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5 Levels of Friendships
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- Опубликовано: 16 авг 2024
- Are you wondering what stages of friendship you are with someone? Are you questioning how far in your friendship with someone is and how to move it to the next level? Well, we have this figured out for you. We start with how friendships are formed to how you become best friends? While there’s no widely accepted theory about the formation of friendships in social psychology just yet, there is a natural progression to it that’s easy to see. So, here are the five levels of friendship.
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References:
Fehr, B. (1996). Friendship processes (Vol. 12). Sage.
Rawlins, W. (2017). Friendship matters. Routledge.
Savin-Williams, R. C., & Berndt, T. J. (1990). Friendship and peer relations.
Berndt, T. J. (2002). Friendship quality and social development. Current directions in psychological science, 11(1), 7-10.
Spencer, L., & Pahl, R. (2006). Rethinking friendship: Hidden solidarities today. Princeton University Press.
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Do you have any challenges making friends? Comment below! If you don't have any challenges, what are some tips you have for others who are struggling to make more friends?
Yep, I have some. I have a tip too, though. Compliment others. :)
I don’t but when people are near me, they don’t notice me at all
Yes a lot
I’m kind of introverted, so even when I want to talk to someone, my brain just shuts off my voice. It kinda sucks
I only have one real friend who is my best friend
The level my friendship with my best friends: The “We Don’t Even Talk Anymore” level
Same and it hurt
Yea same
That’s level -1 :(
"We don't talk anymore like we used to do~" yeah, i just gotta sing that.
yuuunkii_desu I LITERALLY SANG THIS IN MY HEAD WHILE READING THIS TIRJEJE
its scary to call someone a best friend then they don't consider u as their best friend
That happened to me and they just ghosted me 😶 I hate her but I have my soulmate with me so I'm alright now 😌
(When I meant by soulmate its a friendship one)
@@dearloonies how can you khow that someone is your soulmate?
@@peachiigloss9804 We met by "coincidence" (sorry if I replied late I was busy for school)
@@peachiigloss9804 its like a 'you just know' feeling.. you take a look at them and you already know
yeaah, which is why i never say that to anyone. i lost my best friend and idk what to do anymore
1. Strangers (“I know of you”) ...
2. Acquaintances (“I know you”) ...
3. Casual Friends (“I like you”) ...
4. Close Friends (“I understand you”) ...
5. Intimate Friends (“I connect with you”) ...
gay much
@@iiReTr0Z I like this joke. I think that's more suitable to o want to physically connect to specific parts of you
Bff : I no understend u ❤
Ngl my friend usually just says "I love yall"
6. Homies ("I hate you and you hate me and we both know that we would die for each other")
I think most of us found out who our real friends were during quarintine
the computer?
Periodt luv🙃
I think that’s after high school. 12 Years and still going strong with my best friend.
Unfortunately that is way to accurate. No matter how close you thought you were with someone Covid shows who’s willing to put effort into seeing you.
@@joshjordan5085 yup exactly
I just want a best friend who feels and consider me one
You mean a reciprocated friendship?
Psych2Go yes 😌
You'll find him/ her one day, don't give up!
@@Psych2go probably because majority of the population wants that kind of friendship.
There are people who wanted to be recognized or be called out as who they wanted to be ( being called as a bestfriend)
And if you still dont find one, dont rush things okay?
Lexi hardyman thank you 🙏
I met this girl in the 3rd grade once and she always hung around me and I told her that she was being too clingy. I was told later that i made her cry. I felt bad and apologized.
She's been my best friend for 9 years now.
Awww
I was in a kind of friend group and then one of the members left, and we kinda split up a bit. This one girl and I started talking and our first conversation was about Zombie sticks. Yeah, don’t ask. She’s been my bff for five years now.
Aw.
@@millerfamily6814 Zombie sticks...
That must of been an AMAZING conversation
omg same story as me! but i met her at 1st grade
YESS I FINALLY GET TO BE THE ONE TO DO THESE
0:06 - intro
0:31 - strangers (level 1)
1:04 - acquaintances (level 2)
1:39 - Casual friends (level 3)
2:16 - Close friends (level 4)
2:53 - intimate friends (level 5)
Congratulations! 😄
Sure thing bro😂😂
I made the quiet kid my best friend, and he isn't "quiet" anymore lmao
same
Sad that would be my best friends story when she made me her friend lol
Same . My best friend did this to me ....
We the "quiet kids" won't be quiet around people we trust
I'm the quiet kid from the class. I will not be afraid to start a conversation, flirt, insult, touch and cling to my most intimate friends.
When you realize that you only have casual friends, but innerly you want someone who understands you, but you know that you'll never gonna get it because you have too many problems to open up to people.
So much mood. Me too. That's why I think I live vicariously through media which is unhealthy because it's unrealistic. Hello darkness
Yeah, it really is like that... But don't give up the hope, you'll find that person someday :)
I lonely anyone wanna dm at lilsweety690
Hey, the time will come when you will find a best friend. You always grow over the years and even if you might not think it is possible to open up for you right now, everything can be different in a year. Or maybe in two years. Sometimes time alone does the job for you, don't to worry about it:)
@@vanessac.6533 on what?
Level 1: strangers
Level 2: acquaintances
Level 3: casual friends
Level 4: close friends
Level 5: intimate friends
6: HA UR IN LOVE LMAO
@Lily Smith 8: then they start to act awkward around you
I skipped all of them and went straight to level 4
@@Raven-sx4ql 9: you guys don't talk anymore because it's awkward😔
@@i_have_friend6639 lmao🙈😼
When you realize your intimate friend is slowly becoming an acquaintance;
👁️💧👄💧👁️
Friendship is prescious. Try to see what happend and connect with them. Friendship is very important.
💚
Yeah
Sad momento
I always feel like I treat people like close friends while they only treat me as casual friends. I try to cheer them up when they have problems, but when I'm depressed they just want to get away. ):
oh... oh god
I’m sorry. I hope one day they feel the same way you do❤️
Same
yeah, i understand so well
whenever my friends are going through a hard time i always try to help them,cheer them up etc but when im sad they really dont care or just dont try :/
@@theramenguy6797 When I wrote this comment I was actually going through a very difficult time and was very sad about that one friend.
I had helped her through years of bullying and always gave her advice to find more self-confidence. I was there for her for hours when she cried.
After four years of that I told her about how my family member got sick and would soon die, but she just said: "Oh, okay" and left.
I actually confronted her about that a few months after that when I was having a breakdown. Turns out, she just didn't know, how to react to that. And she "couldn't imagine something like that".
I'm not friends with her anymore. We work together, but no problem-helping anymore.
I started setting more boundaries and actually just sometimes tell it people into their face when I thought their were disappointing me. I haven't found someone who really _really_ understands me yet, but my friend circle changed a lot and I just feel a bit more free right now than before.
Just saying as someone who has been there, sometimes a clean cut helps. (And you don't have to become enemies)
When you realize that the people you were calling "good friends" for nearly two years are just acquaintances 😐
Oof
Oof this hurts
Dm at lilsweety690
SAME
ouch
Level ???: Adopted.
When you're an introvert and an extrovert takes you in as one of them
boss level
i- your not wrong.
yes.
Level 6. The mothering time.
@@IBRich62 i-
so happy to say i have an intimate friend. she’s been with me through everything. she knows the real me. i’m very, very lucky
Yess! You are but be careful it’s *precious*
Adorable! I know how it feels like.
I have an intimate friend too :D we've been friends for almost 12 years now :) i really appreciate frens who stays even after a long break
You wanna know how I made my best friend and have still been for 3 years??
I sat next to her in maths class and then just asked her simply,
*Do you want to be best friends?*
It worked
solid
@@SurvivorSimpPodcast ikr lmao 😂
@madjid E ?
@madjid E how do you see me ?
my dog ran away (bc we moved and he didn't like our new house) and my neighbors found it lol
*That moment when your best friend doesn’t see you as their best friend*
Edit: didn’t realize so many people could relate to this comment :/
I hope everyone’s doing ok!
Edit 2: I noticed a ton of people were asking for a friend! Don’t worry, someday you’ll find someone who’ll be you friend too!
you know what is even more nerve-racking? Not really knowing if your friends actually finds you as a friend..or if you are just annoying..
@Samir Deshpande *uh oh that’s happening to me with 3 of my friends too-*
@@deadaccountlol340 oof. I am sure that they consider u rly good friends doe
@Samir Deshpande aw, thanks! If that’s happening to you, I’m sure they also consider you a friend as well!
basically me
The moment when you realized you don't even have friends, they're just acquaintances
Acquaintances can move up to being casual friends. Start asking them to do things with you: coffee house, come over for a movie, share a lunch at the park or someplace public. If it clicks, you have a closer friend. If not, no harm. Try it again with another person. The truth is, it can take work to make and keep friends.
yeah but at least they're friendly acquaintances
, right?
samee
I only have 2 best friends I havent lost touch with them since quarantine started, 1 close friend same with them and 1 casual friend, i have ent lost touch with them either :)
yep... same
Ok after watching this it made me realize I don’t think I’m capable of having an intimate friend since I hate letting my guard down in front of anyone and I refuse to share secrets with any of my ‘friends’
I used to live in San Francisco, but I moved the summer between 1st and 2nd grade. I met this girl at summer camp, and we were acquaintances. I then found out she was also going to the school I was planning to go to. In about 4th grade is when we started becoming close friends due to a fight within our friend group. By 5th grade we had sleepovers every Friday, and we even had a codenamed Google Doc so we could chat in class about what we were going to do next sleepover without getting caught. To this day she is still my best friend in the world, and I talk to her through Hangouts every single day! Just goes to show that someone you didn't think was going to change your life can.
Hangouts and Docs and I changed schools, met this girl, didn't care until around now. We say we're best friends.
We're level 3. :(
@@wolfescave There's another video around the channel somewhere abt how to build meaningful friendships, so don't worry at all! Also, it's okay if you're only level 3, because there's always a chance to bond with your friend!
I just punched this random girl in the arm once and ran, she’s been my best friend for 3 years now 🤣
@@ONM9 lol 😂😂
yeah, I always punch her and she’s my close best best friend just idk- it’s fun playing around with each other. I hope she will stay my best friend.. I don’t know about it.
I almost Broke a girls finger she’s now meh bestie
Lmao 😂
Ohh, that would be perfect if you are both grown ass adults
When you realise most of your friends are actually acquaintances...
Yeah bro, I feel u ( and I have like zero intimate friends tbh)
@@flippingstories6294 same
Want to be friends what u fav animal 🦩
I’m stuck on lev 3....
Oof that’s tough
A few years ago a weird boy gave me a little piece of paper that said "Do you want to be my friend?", I wrote him yes because I felt sorry for him, I don't regret it, he is one of the sweetest people I have ever met and one of my best friends to this day.
" When we are friends with everyone, we are friends with no one. "
6. Level impossible:
Girlfriend/Boyfriend
Yes, the next ultimate stages. Want a video?
@@Psych2go no thanks, I'm good, I'd rather be like Olive oil, extra virgin.
@@Psych2go Yes please!
@@dragoncitychampion3482 lmao good one
instructions unclear, she became my new sister I never had
When your bestfriend get's called Bestfriend by someone else: *instant
jealousy*
Aww that's true
Hahahahaha
When your best friend calls someone else their best friend: So you’ve been lying to me?
Tbh that’s me
That happened to me i hated the her other best friend but eventually I became friends with her too
i have 5 best friends
This video made me meet my bestest friend ever who's now my boyfriend and my soulmate, and my significant other, my world, my everything. We happened to read the same comment and reply to it, and that's how we met on May 23rd 2020. Thank you so much, Psych2Go! ❤️
Holy shit, sorry for my language but WOW that's having the luck of three alternate dimentions
I know right! It was meant to be 😍
Covid has revealed who my true friends are ... let’s just say I don’t have that much to talk to 😞
want to write with someone? I am there if u want
@@its.florentina6899 thank youuuuuu
@@christophertampol4602 seriously, if you need a stranger to write with, tell me
I don’t even have a friend just strangers and acquaintances lol and that was before covid
@@LemTheDemon hey I am really bored (sorry) and if you have discord, maybe we could chat or smth... however I am Florentina#7630 there
You know you're at level 5 when the person insults you and you answer "i love you too" and then you laugh
or when u slap each other hard and it's a normal thing to do
Can't relate okay bye
@Lainey Mathews omfg i have a friend who does that 😏🙃
So I have this friend she's one year older but then she's shorter than me so this one day I was playing with her hand and she said " yeah I know I have baby hands " and I said
" so you have the baby hands
I have the baby voice
Then to top it all up you have the baby height and she literally said piss off but as a joke 😂🤣🤣 then laughed with me
@@browncat204 yes lmaoo🤣 once I was out w my bff's the bff who I am fighting the most slapped me so I slapped her too and then we were slapping each other and we almost beat each other and the third bff was recording us🤣🤣🤣🤣 but like we were laughting all the time😂😂
“But a best friend stays with you forever.”
Well..got that one wrong..
@Friend i feel ya........... we dont talk about "her" anymore
@@DoodleDumble hey im sure youll figure it out soon :) i wish the best of luck to you :)
Facts
I didn’t realize how manipulative my “best friend” was. She was Always deciding what to do, where to go, etc, and whenever I tried to say what I wanted to do, she would ignore me. I don’t talk to her anymore and got 2 super close friends that are awesome and supportive :)
@@jordandraws4212 nice!!!
In some classification, they included 'good friends', the tier between casual friends and close friends.
Good friends are like closed friends. You can trust them with your secret, but like casual friends, they are not always present. What separates close friend from good friend is the level of commitment to maintain communication and bonding.
By adding good friends within the tier, intimate friend become more important, and one can only reach the top of the tier
underrated comment.
I see myself as an introvert but when I'm around my best friend, I become a yapper. And he's fine by it, we share all the sides, the edges of each other with out a second thought. It's funny that we bonded through game at first, both very addicted and decided to quit game together. We hang out through daily breakfast and he seems to know all the good places to eat. We are far apart now as I left for my study in a different country but sometimes we call to catch up with each other. I missed him so much and I am really grateful for our friendship.
Level 10 of friendship "the bois" : you usually greet them with curse word or their parents name, usually make fun of them after break up but actually supporting them in away that any level of friendship cannot comprehend, this type of relationship is unbrakeble.
@Fluffy X321 we belong to the hommies
The second I saw "Greets you with a curse word" I knew this was my bestfriend xD
My friend always call a beach 😭😭
Sometimes this too breaks😑
hi bItCh
(what my bff says to me whenever she sees me)
My friend levels are just:
Best friend: 1
Acquaintances: 20
Strangers: 50
Sammmmeee
I agree
At least you have 1 best friend, mine is a 0
I just everyone is my stranger
Mines are
Bff:1
Acquaintances: 0
Fake fiends: 3
Casual friends: 1
I actually went through all 5 levels with a friend, in the end I would let her know the fullest all my dark side plus my good sides. It's stayed longer then expected but it broke soon as well. It was unexpected but it seemed as if I let her inside to much. This much that she now started to over use me. It was hard letting such close friend go but I managed it. It's very important to let the right person close to you if you let the wrongs person in your inner circle you'll end up completely broken. It's hard to trust people after that ☹
Sooo true. Need to becareful who becomes an intimate friend.
ive been struggling with my friends, i thought i was the problem, having overthinking habit is making me worse at friendships, but turns out, they were just casual friends which i should not be worried too much right?.. thanks! it was just what i needed 😊💜
I’ll be prepared for this, *when I actually get a friend*
We can be your friend. ;0
Psych2Go that sounds great 😅
I can be your friend 🥺
We can be friends
Anyone wants to be friends with me?
Even the people I’ve know all of my life are only on the stage of casual friends, and at most, close friends
Edit: the people I’m talking about are people who knew me before I was even born (my older siblings, parents, and one other person) . And even they are only at most a somewhat close friend
Sameee
Not sure if I even have casual friends tbh lol. I only hangout with my classmates out of school perhaps an average of 1-2 times a year OOOF
Samee
I mean, there not much after that. + You can always level up your friends. Just find right place to get maximum exp.
I hope one day you have and intimate friend! Unless you don't want one, then nevermind
I feel like my friendship isn't the same like before. My bestfriend is an extrovert and I'm an introvert. During the pandemic, I feel like she's drifting away.
“What matters most in this stage is impressions.”
I met my friend on a school van and all we did was sleep, yet one day she started talking to me-
I’m confused
i've lost too many "best friends" but at least i'll always have random strangers in youtube comment sections.
i am always here for you dont worry (⊃・ᵌ・)⊃
- random stranger
im a random stranger
Hi!
-lonely random stranger
If you’ve lost them then they were probably barely even causal friends.
I got ur back 👊🏻... Another stranger
Level 6: _You're obsessed. You will NEVER leave them alone. E V E R_
Level 7: You married them
Level 8: You force them to watch My little pony so that they would be brainwashed to be your friend
Level 9: You kidnapped them and locked them in your basement to be friends *FOREVER*
Level 10: You murder everyone they know and love so that no one can be friends with them
Level 11: You destroy the country they live in so that no one will know who they are
Level 12: Murder everyone in the planet so that they can’t be friends with anyone
Level 13: You kill the animals too
Level 13: You kill them and then yourself and make a blood compact so that you’ll be together in Hell for ETERNITY
sEmNpAi
@@lezmoundakari5267 :0
ah yes im at that level
almost 69 likes boys
I have a best friend and she means so so much to me. We share a really really special bond and we are always there for each other. She knows more about me than I know about myself. I know she will always be there for me. I love her with all my heart.
“It may take a while to develop a close friend”
My friend Ethan: 3 minutes, take it or leave it
When you discover that you never had one friend in your entire life ༎ຶ‿༎ຶ
Damn im sorry-...
All of the friends I've ever had are level 3 (casual friends)
I thought I had a level 4 friend but she was just a narcissist using me for her own entertainment/benefit
TMT
@@zak3172 I have had 10 friends and only 1 was there for me...
sorry 4 uu
I generally don't trust people, so mostly, just casual friends.
Who hurt you?
That's fine, i feel you , now my best friend is my phone
atleast u got friends..
Same, all of my friends are casual or acquaintances
Anyone wanna dm at lilsweety690
It took me 8 years to fully trust and connect with my best friend. Now that I’ve known him for over 10 years now he’s still a great friend and we’re both at level 5.
Sad thing is I am the one who took my time to connect with him, but I’m happy I did and I don’t think I will ever meet someone like him again in this life.
It took me 8 years to make my best friend be my best friend.I really love her ,but sometimes we fight ....you know...she s always by my side ...I can t actually describe her..She s perfect 💕
"Only among people of good can friendship exist, since the perverse people only have accomplices, the interested people have partners, the political people have supporters, the people of royalty have courtiers, only good people have friends." - Voltaire
What do you think?
👏👏👏 wonderful
Maybe that's why I don't have friends.
I have none of those, what am I? Lol
This entire analysis lacks a dimension. No surprise. You’re idiots
No wonder i treat everyone as a partner, makes sense
My longest friendship went through all of these levels and is still going strong for 10 years 😊❤
Ikr
Mine was 11 years❤
You’re lucky
That’s so awesome!
Wow, mine was 8 years.. but then she betrayed me😔😔
I feel like I’m getting more casual friends now, one of my best friend who has been on and off of arguing with I’ve seen less this week (it’s about this trashy racist guy who she’s refriended and he acts like a toddler).
But I started talking to one of my old friends who I had a fallout with (it was a very big misunderstanding) and his new friends are so genuinely nice to me and they barely know me. Since I’m a person of colour, who is AFAB non binary, queer, and autistic who has undiagnosed depression and a diagnosed anxiety disorder in this unfair world, people rarely treat me like an actual human being, let alone be nice to me.
They seem like they really want to get to know me, unlike most of my past friendship where they either felt unnecessary sorry for me, wanted to use me or both. These new friends of my old friend have really lifted my spirits, because I already know it isn’t one sided like my few past friendships.
It is really magical to have met V(don't want to type out her name). We both felt the “click” right at the moment when we first talked and became familiar within weeks. An enormous amount of trust was already established early at this stage, which was unbelievable. Since then, we talk about our deepest fears and wildest dreams, only with each other. It has been a year since we first met now, and I am really grateful to have known you in my life. Hope we can be lifelong friends and accompany each other until the end of our lives. Wish you all the best, as well as those who are reading this :)
Wait but my name starts with V
Today I realised that I have no friends above level 3... Except my cats. Me and my cats are level 5.
me too
SAMME except my dogs and sewing machine. They are both my babies
Mood
All of my friends are level 3...
YOU SOUND LIKE MY SISTER OMG
Casual friends: “Casual friends share interests”
Me friendships: *lets put that as level 1*
Y’all why did I get 1.4k likes from this-
Because you are an introvert? :)
@@Psych2go I'm an introvert myself :)
yeah, same
My friendships: let’s just skip that part
I thought I was the only one..
Evolution of me and best best friend
Day one: year 4 strangers we were in the same class.
Day two: year four acquaintances.
Day five: year four casual friends.
Week Two: close friends.
Mounth three: best friends we know everything about each other.
The closest I am to someone is on the "casual friends' level
strangers: 4
acquaintance: 7
casual friends: 4
close friends: 2
intimate friends: 1
okay bye 😀🤚
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edit: thank you guys for becoming my friends :)
aw dam
same lol
strangers: 3
acquaintances: 1
casual friends: 2
close friends: 6
intimate friends: 1
strangers: 0
acquaintance: 4
casual friends: 0
close friends: 2
intimate friends: 1
Aww i hope things got better for ya
Has anybody else had to go through the experience of having a friend that is your best friend, but you are only their casual friend?😢
Me.And the worst part is it happened in middle school.Worst part of my school life
yes, my man.
i've had a friend like that. for three years i thought we were besties, but then she found someone else and even told me she doesn't have true friends at all. my heart broke in that moment.
but you know what? im pretty glad i've had such experience. it has helped me to become much more mentally stronger and less attached to people in general. i've begun to understand that each person has own life, and i can be not the most important human for them. it is okay.
p.s. we are still in great terms, but i just dont expect her to be a best friend for me, or pay me a lot of time. i cant really trust her my biggest secrets because i dont want to get hurt again, but i can be myself with her and she accepts me. i appreciate that as well. we get on really well, thats all. such relationships exist as well, so dont worry!
its all valuable experience in the end))
Nina Shark true.Same thing happened to me in fourth grade.My friend told me I’m too boring cause of always scrapbooking and making bracelets all the time .She told me that this other girl did other things and was more fun.That truly broke my heart.Im now in my senior year of high school,same year as her,and we are casual friends but not besties like we were before
I've never had a best friend, but people I think are casual friends or even close friends, find me as a "level" loser or two
Emma I get what your saying and I’m keeping my distance.With people like that it’s not right to like pour yourself into the friendship.We’re just buddies here and there
I have two intimate friends and it's amazing. You don't have to worry about embarrassing yourself or saying the wrong thing, because you know each other in and out. I can call them crying or laughing. They mean the world to me.
Nobody:
Me when I was five: wE aRe bEsT FriEnDs
And that’s how it rolled and we are still best friends
I was waiting for the stage called "friends with benefits"
That would have been a hilarious u turn
Lmao😂 100th like
Such a _pleasurable_ friendship
Anyone wanna dm at lilsweety690
Ahhh 😂 but frfr same
this made me realize how friendless i am-
ill be ur frend
Meh to i wanna be your friend
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I be ur friend too
let all the lonely kids become friends
If you have trouble making friends, just reach out to someone in your class you think is chill.
I went into highschool knowing no one, I emailed a guy in my class and we ended up becoming friends before the year ended. After I reached out, we ended up talking to eachother almost everyday.
When you have a mental breakdown because you have literally no close friends
Bruh I think I just had one of those
When you have an existential crisis because you realize your "close friends" aren't really that close and even though you spend lots of time with them you actually don't know much about them and they don't know much about you and you both never talk about your struggles even though you're in very great pain because you don't want to make each other sad and you realize you don't actually understand each other and you only experience happiness together but never sadness and you feel so isolated and left out even though you value each other so much and you just wish that they open up and rely on you more but then the reason they're not opening up is because you're also like that and you curse yourself and your social incompetence and you feel bad and to make it worse you remember the fact that you're probably gonna be like this for a long time and this hollow but nice friendship will one day come to an end as you both move on in life and become busier and busier and the stupid dreams you talked about as kids about being together forever probably won't come true and stay a dream and your friend you used to cherish so much is drifting further and further apart and they will eventually become no more than an old aquintance and your whole life feels like a lie and even if you find new friends no one will truly understand you not even yourself
Edit (written 4 months into the future): So I slowly started opening up by talking about my problems to the "close" friend I trust the most. It felt very uncomfortable and weird at first but also very satisfying. Well, we're not exactly friends anymore now, but I'm glad I opened up.
We are now girlfriends.
nah. just do everything your dang self, its better that way.
@@annenymous well you just summed up all of my reasons for sad
@@suburbanfreak87 Your so right, except I'm slowly being more and more emotionally closed off, but in a kind of good way? I can't explain things very well.
even RUclips knows that i don't have friends.
lmaoo let's be friends
Want to be friends what you fav animal 🦄🦄🦄🦄🦄
LOL
@@sparklebear1194 u said that already
Letz be frendz
When you have a friend that is willing to come over to your house just to give you a hug because you’re having a bad time and said you needed one🥰
I went from strangers to close friends with some of my friends now in a month and it made me so happy 😁
Level 6 : never talk anymore, bur still hope the best for each other, and have a special spot in your heart . Cause, things just dont work. Too much love, bring to too much expectations, bring to toxicity. Okay imma out of it.
Yeah I've been through that😔
I get so angry at myself because every single person I've met weather it's a close friend or a casual, I always give them my all. Sure I'm sounding selfish rn but intamate friend is right on the nail of how I act with all my friends. I've always put so much pressure on myself to get to know everyone and give everyone my all. Even if I don't like them. I've never been part of a small concentrated group or any group at all. Because I change the way I act around other people, I can just pick what people I wanna hang out with for the day. I'm not popular though. Not everyone knows me and I honestly hope they don't find out. Over the past few years now I've just felt really drained and used by all these people that I have always come to first. I have always been the one that has kept all their secrets. I have always been the one to contact them first. I go through all my contact lists and not once has anyone reached out to me first except for maybe one or two people but that was just to share memes with me. I'm just honestly not having the best time with my friends rn and honestly just myself. The funny thing is, I don't even like people, I don't like hanging out with people and I just want to be alone with some quite time that's all. I'm that kind of girl that screams at the top of her lungs and is in that loud friend group at school. And I always have been. Ever since I was 6 or 7 I've been in that group. The thing is I don't even like people. Sure there are people that I get along with and others that I have fun with. That doesn't mean I genuinely like them. I don't have anything against them or anything. It's just people in general. And I just want to be by myself. But when someone's mood just suddenly changes like that then people start crowding and asking "are you OK?" and all I wanna do is just scream at them because from all the time we have ever met eachother I have let you rant and rant on about who hurt you and who you like and all of your emotional problems that you have been going through and every single time it starts off with me asking you if you are OK. Not once have you reached out to me so now all of a sudden when I sit down and take a break you think that I'm suddenly really sad and depressed. If you would listen and actually let me talk without putting in a snarcky joke every 4 seconds then I might actually want to tell you and have a talk about my emotions for a change. I'm just not happy rn and I honestly found the lock down to be such a refreshment I didn't have to raise my voice and scream all the time. I could stop focusing on everyone for a bit and focus on me without feeling guilty or selfish about it. I need help learning to let things go like these friends of mine but I'm too much of a pussy to do that because of my Athazagoraphobia. fear of being forgotten. And I'm just so scared and confused and I have reached out to people that I genuinely trust but some have just made it sound so easy and others have blamed me for it and caused drama. I know what I have to do but I'm scared that since I want to cut off everyone and be the kid that's alone. And I know a heck of a lot of people, that no one will want to be near me again. All of the people that I know witch is like about 5 huge groups of different people. I will be cutting off. Who else would I have left then. No one. No one new to make friends with and rant on abt eachother to eachother. So I feel like I *have* to stay. its not a feeling of need or want it's the feeling of obligation.
Sorry to the people that actually read this. I'm just some random girl going through some things rn and just want to tell someone instead of trying to bottle it up ya know. Anyways I think that's definitely enough abt me now aha. Have a nice day stranger😔😅
Masked Heart I have read every word of your comment......and I recognise quite somethings. in my friend group I’m the “quite one”, because I’ve kinda given up on always needing to raise my voice to even be heard to somebody, let stand someone actually listening to me.
I’m the person someone comes to when the others are busy or when someone wants to rand about something. I always listen and if they ask for advise or help I will try to help them, because I would like if people would do that for me. I’m always the second or last choice. When I am talking with one of my friends I always have difficulty starting a conversation or keeping it going, because I just don’t know what to say.
I’m the one that reaches out to others, but nobody reaches out to me. It hurts when it feels like you don’t have anybody were you feel actually comfortable with, were you can share feelings with. I have this problem even with my own family, because my sister is a person that takes a lot of attention from my parents. I don’t blame her because she doesn’t do it on purpose. I hate being like this, because I do want someone to be able to talk too, to hang out with( without needing to talk the entire time without making it akwerd), I want some one that reaches out to me and not only when they need something.
if anybody red this entire comment....... this is also just another stranger needing to let something out. 😅
(english is also not my first language, so sorry if the spelling and grammar are terrible)
Sorry and I hope life is better...
the fear of being forgotten.. I've gotten used to it cause happens. but im sorry about your struggles with friendship.
Jeez, I feel bad for you. You seem ike you're going through a lot... I hope you find who you're looking for one day
I feel like I've always rant to someone about my problems, there's even this friend of mine who I just came to rant about and I'm trying to fix my relationship with her and just be normal friends but I can't move easily from the past
But I don't want to make this about me, I want to atleast try and make others who read this feel loved and cared about you know?
So uh, if anyone just wanna talk about anything I'm more than willing
xD
Have a nice day
Thank you for good explanations. I have had a hard time to define relations/friendships. Which has bothered me a lot, I'm still very unsure. But this gave me some kind of base of understanding
When you realize friendships have broken more hearts and trust than love.
Right!!!
So true
I have a bestfriend whom i feel like is drifting away from me
And im scared of losing my bestfriend
But...all of a sudden i feel an attraction to my own bestfriend
The romantic kind?
Don't hide your feelings!
its funny for me cuz im a girl and my 2 best friends are boys and NOT ONCE have i ever looked at them with different eyes. _idk why i find that so funny_ But all jokes aside i think you should tell him or her how u feel. don't take my opinion seriously i'm just a random girl on youtube with nothing better to do.
@@elbagonzalez5712 i already did confess and he just accepted it but he didnt feel the same way as i am
And to my suprise he all of a sudden dropped a confession that he and my other female best friend are already together for a 1 year...
It made me a little achey but i accepted it too and start to move on
I didnt know that 2 of mg bestfriends are together and just hid ut for 1 year, i was really supportive of their relationship tho.
He was my 1st male crush out of all the boys in my school...
@@nowanimportant8887 maybe
I have this all the time
Me and my bff:
Me: *insults her*
Us one second later:
*laughing Like we just heard the best joke in the world*
that’s me and my cousin but she lives so far away i’m lonely
Ha ha I wish my best friend would do that...now we are not even friends anymore. She left me and started ignoring me and hanging out with others :( I thought we were going to be best friends for a long time. :(((((
Rubber Chicken And Gang **laughs in no cousins**
Julya Flyer Hello, it seems I have met another like me
@Julya Flyer Thank you a lot😉
I have a friend. We have been friends from past 10 years. I can proudly say that our friendship has reached at intimate level.
I have a intimate friend XD - I’m always at least a bit uncomfortable about showing my true self, feelings, and stuff. I would say I’m a bit self cautious. but, my bestie treats me like a Intimate friend. I can tell she’s fine sharing her true emotions and feels to me. She shares SOME a of her secrets because I understand having some privacy even though we’re intimate friends. We really do share a very special bond (even though I only met her 2 years ago.)
Surprisingly, we share a bigger bond then my other friend who stayed my friend since pre-k. I really do like my intimate friend. It always hurts me when she gets sad or hurt. Both mentally or physically. (Alright maybe not physically mostly mentally. I’m not the best friend.)
She trust me. And I can tell by how she acts around me and stuff.
If you feel comfortable about telling us (as for people seeing this comment and me) about one of your good friends, please do! :D in reply’s
I've had a close friend since I was 4. She just approached me while I was crying and we were both lonely so we hung out. We hardly saw each other until we were 12 and finally shared another class together, then in high school we became close again. She and I have been best friends since we were 4 and we are both almost 19 now
aww
That's so sweet. I had a friend that I knew since I was four to six but sadly she moved away when I was six. I'm 15 now and my mom said she's back in town and that her grandmother goes to church. I'm going to go back to church again since I haven't in a while and I really want to find out if she would come to church soon so I can see her again.
Wish me luck😊
@@go_home-lilly1552 Best of luck, I hope yall become close again
Omg this thing is relatable on me and my bff
Awww, that's what I call *friendship*
Strangers: 0?
Acquaintances: 0
Casual friends: 0
Best friends: 1-dead
Intimate friends: my plushie
I've been intimate friends with my teddy bear for 14 years so were pretty close 😌
My intimate friend is a lego tank.
i have a intimate friend which is a pikachu plush from my dead close frend ):
@@oatatus4102 wtf-- that's actually deep...
@@leniee2125 i know..
This video has made me realise I have one friend one the last level. This friend was there for me when no one else wanted to. They were either scared of getting treated the way I was or just didn’t want to be seen with me. But this friend didn’t. This friend was the only one that checked up only without being asked to (they were going through shit too, and they found a friend group of their own, so they couldn’t visit all the time.) I had known them at the start of the first year of secondary school, and they always stuck with me. They were one of the few friends I could rant to about ANYTHING, and they’d never judge. I love them so much, and they were one of, if not the only friend who told me I was their best friend and that would never change. Even after I moved countries due to burnout, they still kept in touch, and we plan on visiting each other sometime this year. I miss them still.
So, if your reading this, and if you recognise yourself in this, even if your not the one I’m specifically talking about, thank you. You are an incredible friend and your friends are so lucky to have you by there side.
Never change.
My mother and father got divorced a few years ago. This year my father moved 13 hours away to a farm. I had to leave my school that I have been enrolled in my entire life. Most of my classmates were acquaintances but I had some causal friends. But there ways this one girl named Scarlett. She came in the middle of the year in kindergarten. We became friends quickly. Over the years our friendship grew. We were in fourth grade when I left. By then we were extremely good friends. I could tell her heart broke when I told her I was moving. I knew I was going to come back but she isn’t good at answering the phone so we rarely talked. 3 months away at my fathers house and we basically didn’t know each other anymore. I miss her very much and I wish we could be good friends again. Thanks for listening to my story! Goodbye.
You should reach out to her.
Level 6: The Bromance of Sherlock & John😂😂
👏👏👏
I still do not know whether it's love or friendship but either way it doesn't matter
Jason Park it’s a def bromance since Sherlock is married to his word and John has girlfriend and they’re super cute together
FELLOW SHERLOCKIAN
Minnie B oof
*Villain:* _Finally, a worthy opponent, our battle will be legendary._
*Magic of Friendship (Level 5):* POWER!!!! UNLIMITED POWER!!!
*Villain:* _Hehehe! I'm in danger._
You just quoted 3 memes. I'm proud of you.
Your profile pic fits this more
MLP be like:
Kingdom Hearts be like:
3 memes in one format...
*finally, a worthy comment!*
How my friend ship went
Found another lonely person online
We started chating
One day later : I gOt A cRuSh
3 weeks later : "Hey would you wanna date I really like you"
When ur acquaintance calls u a best friend in less than 2 months
._.
Level 7, even above caught feelings: You just sit together quietly a lot but it's not awkward at all. Telepathy involved.
This is my parents and it scares me when I’m in trouble.. they just stare at each other deeply before saying what punishment they are going to give me.. as if they were discussing it inside each other!!
no but me and my friend can actually do this.
My friend levels :
Strangers - idk many
Acquaintance - idk many
Casual Friends - 17
Close Friends - 5
Intimate friends - 2
You have a lot of friends. Can't relate, i prefer a small group of them. Around 2 people or 1.
wow u have so many friends and u are so popular
And I thought I had a lot of friends
Strangers:a lot
Acquaintances:16
Casual friends:2
Close friends:0
Intimate friends:3
My acquaintances are my classmates my casual friends are some friends that I speak with once in a while my intimate friends are my dog (known for 2 years)and my two besties(known one of them for 3 years and the other one for 1 year)
Damn you're lucky..
I have a few close friends, but two best friends who know my deepest darkest secrets and know me more than anybody else. I’m thankful for them
I instantly like this video! This should be helpful to me and people with disabilities who have been having tough times, nowadays, trying to make positive and healthy long-lasting friendships and relationships.
It’s hard to see your only best friend having another best friends and you’re like :-/
God forbid your friend doesn't belong to you
People think we’re bff but we’re not we’re in the same college, she has many friends but the fact that I only have her, am The one Who only thinks about the friendship, for her it’s easy to make friends, but for me it’s hard bcz I want someone will make me feel what the real friend is.
EggyBagelface93 I’ve never said this it just hurts
X Jazmin I can relate :((
Uuf, I feel attacked
"but a best friend stays with you forever"
that really hit me
Serene-chan same I don’t have any friends
Unless they die like mines did....
@@asherrhodes6345 nah i was just saying my best friend left me cuz i told him he hurt me (cuz of some personal reasons) and like he just told me that he shud just leave me cuz he didnt wanna hurt me more
he promised me he would never leave me
thats why it hit me hard
i shouldn't have been so harsh on him when i was writing the message telling him i was hurt....he ended up leaving me just because he didnt wanna hurt me more....but thats not what i wanted umu.
also sorry for rambling hahaha
anyway, i know you do have friends....look im just some random person on the internet but like hey, i know its hard to find friends that truly care abt you but i know one day you will uwu
we can be fwends owo!
@@lulu0724 holy cow! omo
im so sorry for your loss man.....but they're now at somewhere else better. Right? I know they'll always be by your side.
stay strong owo!
Hmm i just realised my online bestfriends doesnt give a shit i havent contacted to them
Strangers - ♾
Acquaintances- 27374
Casual friends - 300
Close friends- 3
Intimate friend- 1
😊
Did you count the acquaintance?
@@icer9591 i used an abacus 💀
This video reminds me of my English teacher, she showed this video to our class before studying an article about friendship
"but a best friend stays with you forever" *bursts in tears* great here i was going to sleep now im gonna spend the next few hours questioning my social circle 😂
What level would you put friends who you're really close with for years, they call you their best friend but yet they never message you and you feel out of place whenever you're with them?
Toxic.
Don't mind me I'm just waiting for an answer 😉🍿
Maybe 2 for me coz I don’t know exactly what’s your situation like but I have had this kind of friends like we’re in a group then suddenly someone new came in and they started making me feel uncomfortable with them and making me feel out of place so I started get out of their way, I want to give you an advice which is you should cut them off but in a nice way so things could get better for both side😊
I can 100% relate to this. my best friend calls me “bestie” and stuff when we text and says she would give me hugs if it weren’t for this quarantine, yet before this whole quarantine thing, whenever I actually see her I feel like she is much more occupied by her other friends and gives them more attention, so I’m just left awkwardly walking behind the group. Sorry, I just wanted to vent this too, I feel ya
And you keep growing so far apart...its weird to be on the phone with them sometimes.
I have a good friend! I understand her, she understands me. Whenever I have a busy schedule, she gives me time. And when she needs some alone time, I give her time. We're helping each other.
Hey, guys, I'm finally between casual and close friends with someone. Man, that was hard work.
I'm the kind of person who tries to jump straight to "close friends" level when everyone else would be at "stranger" level, hehah!
Same.
Same here and for me it actually works-
Yessss
Me too, I like friends
U ain't alone
Fact: if you think of someone when they said "level 5" it's someone you trust.
You may be asking how I know that, its because this whole video I was replacing all the steps with me and one of my closest, best friend :)
💣
You read my mind hhh
I was doing the same thing. I have four close friends, and two best friends.
Ikr! My friend and I are at level 600 lol
@@acharich bruh. I mean you trust all of them. But on a different levels 😂.
When you realize most people you're close to are strangers...
My best friend and I are together for 9 years. I know her from grade 1 our fathers are also best fend for almost 25 years. She is like my own sister.Everybody in my school knows about our friendship and call us soulmate.I am really happy and grateful for having a bff like her who was always by my side since I was 5 till now 😭💜💜💜