Battle of the Sexes: Who pays for the first date? || STEVE HARVEY

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  • Опубликовано: 29 сен 2024
  • When it comes to first dates, does finance equal romance? Steve Harvey and his "Battle of the Sexes" panel find out.
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  • @ArtbyAtlas
    @ArtbyAtlas 8 лет назад +1342

    Woman: "I was raised to be independent!" *crowd applauds*
    Man: "I was raised to be independent!" *crowd laughs*

    • @jamesrandles6514
      @jamesrandles6514 8 лет назад +111

      +Art by Atlas Woman: A man should pay on the first date *crown applauds*
      Man: Cant we just go dutch *gets knocked out with baseball bat*

    • @amymusa2
      @amymusa2 6 лет назад +5

      :(

    • @HighMaintenanceMinimalist
      @HighMaintenanceMinimalist 6 лет назад +62

      They laughed because men are never raised to be dependent.

    • @discotech6178
      @discotech6178 6 лет назад +9

      Man: We created women to be a independent

    • @victorialiebsch4120
      @victorialiebsch4120 6 лет назад +6

      For the only thing a man or a woman need each other is to have a baby, even if using In Vitro Fertilisation (IVF) you always need sperms and ova/eggs, but nothing else... Don´t be illogical ...

  • @d-fenz
    @d-fenz 8 лет назад +537

    "A man needs to be the provider" but if a man still has old school views on what a woman should be (a stay at home house wife who prepares his meals) then suddenly hes a misogynist lol i swear its women like that makes me feel glad i'm single. The level of double standards is mind boggling. A woman does'nt want to be viewed as stay at home wife anymore then why should men still be the providers? it works both ways

    • @TheJoelef
      @TheJoelef 8 лет назад +28

      yep they don't want to be june clever but wants men to be don drapper

    • @d-fenz
      @d-fenz 8 лет назад +5

      Joseph LeForte lool exactly

    • @VHale-yz7hc
      @VHale-yz7hc 7 лет назад +13

      Machismo lol no the girl who wants to be provided for is the one who dosent work and stays at home

    • @kathleen7197
      @kathleen7197 7 лет назад +16

      some women do wannt to be house wives

    • @ExelsioHD
      @ExelsioHD 7 лет назад +3

      Some opinions from people makes me wanna kill myself because they so stupid. I dont mean you btw :) if this was bad english im sorry im german

  • @lawsonxkreased2431
    @lawsonxkreased2431 5 лет назад +34

    The woman in red thought she was gonna get claps for that “no finance, no romance” Lol

  • @amandaclbn8324
    @amandaclbn8324 8 лет назад +391

    Whoever asked for the date should pay. You can split in the following dates

    • @idomagirlabahi7786
      @idomagirlabahi7786 8 лет назад +5

      I agree.

    • @brendakabanda2181
      @brendakabanda2181 8 лет назад +3

      exactly, I have always said that.

    • @raph2ael
      @raph2ael 8 лет назад +61

      +Mandy X'O-twod Absolutely not, how many women are ever asking guys out on dates, by saying that you may as well say men should pay for the first date.

    • @bedwenchingwithbenifits4553
      @bedwenchingwithbenifits4553 8 лет назад +5

      Agreed. I've asked men on dates and I paid. Some of them refused to let me pay even when I asked them out. And some men do not like when a woman asks them out. Some women don't think they should ask a man out.

    • @bellacortez
      @bellacortez 8 лет назад +9

      agree, if he asks you he pays if you ask him you pay. now in relationships it depends on who is more financially stable to pay more. and those men who want ask a girl out but not pay? say what , that is not attractive and says a lot about your character.

  • @SteelandSouls
    @SteelandSouls 5 лет назад +22

    "This is an investment in my future"
    "I'm not a car!"
    Yeah, no kidding. Children aren't objects either but they are still investments.

    • @Jambuc829
      @Jambuc829 4 года назад +2

      SteelandSouls15 how many first dates end in children? Less than 10%

    • @PeachthePomMom
      @PeachthePomMom 2 года назад

      Run, run far away from those dudes

  • @Chrisbit1
    @Chrisbit1 7 лет назад +63

    Women should NEVER expect men to pay for their meal you BOTH decided to go on a date, so you BETTER pay your way!!!!

    • @strawberriesncandii
      @strawberriesncandii 7 лет назад +6

      I agree.

    • @CarsonLP3
      @CarsonLP3 6 лет назад +3

      Fully agree as well

    • @RDAquariums
      @RDAquariums 5 лет назад +6

      @Cherry Blossom Happiness Still single huh?

    • @RDAquariums
      @RDAquariums 4 года назад

      @Blue Finally Gets A Clue You need Jesus friend :)

    • @Godlywoman88
      @Godlywoman88 4 года назад +4

      @Cherry Blossom Happiness Right! And women should never ask men out. They are supposed to be providers.

  • @johndo9889
    @johndo9889 8 лет назад +30

    A man pays. I asked you out, I pay. I was raised in the south & I'm just a nice guy who benefited from southern hospitality so I know to always be a gentleman with women. I go out with a girl (whether she's my date or just a friend) I'll pay. But when it comes to female friends make sure the actions are always reciprocated. You have to be really careful cause you could be saved in her phone as" free meal Freddie".

    • @decadesmusiclover
      @decadesmusiclover 8 лет назад +8

      I'm born/raised in the south but learning/understanding(5th grade) women's rights changed my views. Everything equal.

    • @marciloni12
      @marciloni12 4 года назад +3

      @John Do, it sounds like you have a healthy attitude towards women! You understand the value of a good woman but are not a pushover.

    • @Jambuc829
      @Jambuc829 4 года назад

      zadose I agree.

    • @Jambuc829
      @Jambuc829 4 года назад +1

      marciloni12 Steve Harvey said a man should pay for EVERY!!! Date if you have to pay for every date how can you possibly know you aren’t being used?

  • @NateEjobsonComicArtist
    @NateEjobsonComicArtist 8 лет назад +230

    No finance, no romance. She call herself a mother? What she teaching her kids?

    • @NateEjobsonComicArtist
      @NateEjobsonComicArtist 8 лет назад +18

      Tell me about it. So women fight against gender bias but when it comes to things like these, gender inequality is accepted. Why are women so confused on the definition of the same values they are fighting for.

    • @TheJoelef
      @TheJoelef 8 лет назад +10

      just like how woman are fighting ti be included into the draft of wait

    • @NoName-sp5dp
      @NoName-sp5dp 6 лет назад +4

      Don't be cheap. You asked her

    • @monicagarcia8375
      @monicagarcia8375 6 лет назад

      Nate Ejobson I agree !!

    • @JGallis
      @JGallis 6 лет назад +1

      Nate Ejobson she is a escort lol

  • @morrilynblake2716
    @morrilynblake2716 6 лет назад +6

    My BF pays for our dates most of the time, but sometimes, I say to him babe it’s my treat this month and I pay . And it works for us :)

    • @princelevi1804
      @princelevi1804 6 лет назад

      500thoughtsofmorgan that’s perfect... but there woman that want the guys to pay every time ...

    • @Jambuc829
      @Jambuc829 4 года назад

      That’s your BF we talking about strangers on a date.

  • @chriscodling6573
    @chriscodling6573 8 лет назад +147

    its ridiculous that where having these discussions while mens rights are being stripped away from them.

    • @vecelche
      @vecelche 8 лет назад +3

      +chris codling Rights being stripped away from men? What rights have you lost?

    • @chriscodling6573
      @chriscodling6573 8 лет назад +43

      vecelche take a look at custody laws and all your questions will be answered

    • @jermainewilliams5561
      @jermainewilliams5561 8 лет назад +14

      +chris codling Chris do you also hear Crickets?

    • @sweetie1753
      @sweetie1753 8 лет назад +2

      +chris codling a custody battle can go either way so you don't have a point

    • @jermainewilliams5561
      @jermainewilliams5561 8 лет назад +24

      +Miya Edwards if that is the case than why so many women are getting the kids while the men are left to foot the bill? You know the laws are screwed in favor of the woman. What happens to a woman when she wants to abort her child? Is she off the hook in the eyes of the courts? of course she is but let that man express how he feels about not wanting a child. Of course he isn't off the hook in he eyes of the feminist family laws. Women have all the rights while men rights are being stripped aways concerning his kids or his right to right abandon his responsibility if a kids wasn't what he wanted in the first place.

  • @codrinvechiu2832
    @codrinvechiu2832 8 лет назад +109

    there goes the white knights :))

    • @omaramer7022
      @omaramer7022 8 лет назад +27

      apparently the white knight was black in this one

    • @codrinvechiu2832
      @codrinvechiu2832 8 лет назад +10

      booty call911 :)) no finance no romance are you kidding me? 70% of the women thought that and most of the men a few wanted to split the bill

    • @omaramer7022
      @omaramer7022 8 лет назад +1

      +Codrin Vechiu wtf are you talking about? you said the white knight... I simply stated that the white knight was actually black in this video.. so I'll try to say it nicely... wtf are you on about?

    • @codrinvechiu2832
      @codrinvechiu2832 8 лет назад

      watch the video

    • @omaramer7022
      @omaramer7022 8 лет назад +3

      +Codrin Vechiu I did watch it, what you said has nothing to do with what I said

  • @JessiCocoa
    @JessiCocoa 8 лет назад +101

    I personally think it's best to go dutch.

    • @courtney2262
      @courtney2262 8 лет назад +9

      on this first date ESPECIALLY if he asked YOU out, no... Dates after that i think thats ok

    • @decadesmusiclover
      @decadesmusiclover 8 лет назад +9

      +Courtney U know the majority of the time a man is going to ask.

    • @decadesmusiclover
      @decadesmusiclover 8 лет назад +1

      Jessi I applaud u.

    • @decadesmusiclover
      @decadesmusiclover 8 лет назад +1

      Yes ma'am!

    • @GoddessBlueYozakura7
      @GoddessBlueYozakura7 7 лет назад +1

      I personally go dutch when I eat ALONE as does anyone that is out having dinner by themselves.

  • @henrikstaaf3293
    @henrikstaaf3293 8 лет назад +52

    I hope 100 % of that audience also think its fair that guys earn more money

    • @marciloni12
      @marciloni12 4 года назад +3

      Why? Are you planning on paying for first dates for the rest of your life??

    • @Jambuc829
      @Jambuc829 4 года назад +1

      zadose So a man is judged on how much money he makes and a woman is judged on her looks? Must be nice. It’s much easier to work out and have a sexy body than it is to have great earning potential in this dog eat dog world.

  • @mrsturner8532
    @mrsturner8532 6 лет назад +1

    To me the first date should be casual; coffee, park, county fair, somewhere that you can talk and do something fun. It should never feel like a job interview. Pay your way unless he insists. If you are not interested don't let him pay. I never want anyone to leave a date with me and think I am unkind, or entitled.

  • @pursuingancientpaths8131
    @pursuingancientpaths8131 8 лет назад +15

    Also look what woman here is married.

  • @lovely1986ist
    @lovely1986ist 7 лет назад +2

    Split the bill on a first date! That guy is crazy I will pretend I want to go to the bathroom and get out of there so fast. lol

    • @Jambuc829
      @Jambuc829 4 года назад

      Delisa Orr I can pay for that date that’s fine I have a good job so it’s not big deal at all. But how do I know when I’m being used? My phone was saved in a woman’s number as “free food”

  • @alreem9891
    @alreem9891 8 лет назад +11

    Such an interesting segment! 2015 is the year when all the traditional gender roles that we've been taught to abide by are being challenged.. and its always nice to gain different perspectives. Im only 19 but I still think the guy should pay on the first date, unless its a casual lunch or something.

    • @GoddessBlueYozakura7
      @GoddessBlueYozakura7 7 лет назад +3

      Buying someone a meal that you asked out makes the woman a prostitute? Where does that make any sense?
      Look if you're strapped for cash perhaps you shouldn't ask people to go out with you in the first place. Seriously?

    • @Suptrshi
      @Suptrshi 6 лет назад +2

      GoddessBlueYozakura Even women who are strapped for cash shouldn't be going out in dates anyway then.

    • @Jambuc829
      @Jambuc829 3 года назад +1

      @GoddessBlueYozakura Someone saying you are not having sex with me unless you spend money. This is exactly what hookers say and it’s also exactly what the Latina was alluding to.

  • @bejoypradeep
    @bejoypradeep 8 лет назад +7

    Just randomly...."lets go out...dinner is on me..."that would make any guy happy

    • @GoddessBlueYozakura7
      @GoddessBlueYozakura7 4 года назад

      That's for husbands and long time boyfriends not random dudes.

  • @BigTwill0218
    @BigTwill0218 8 лет назад +11

    i would take the bill but i hate how SOME women feel like they deserve this and that or we owe them something. like it would make us feel good too if you look out for us. Like this goes back as far as the playground why does the lil boy always has to say he likes the girl first or all the rest of the stages in life why do women feel like we have to ask them out or ask them to prom. I guarantee you if your a girl and you ask a man out if he's not just a jerk the fact that you actually asked him out will make his response a whole lot better

    • @marcusmelton2295
      @marcusmelton2295 6 лет назад

      BigTwill0218 its because of how things were back then.

  • @ed3523
    @ed3523 7 лет назад +7

    First date or couple of dates, Man pays. It's a given. Long term relationship it can go either way. If you got years invested then it doesn't matter at that point but it should never get to the point where the woman is paying on a regular basis. Still need to remain a Gentleman.

    • @NoName-zl1nl
      @NoName-zl1nl 6 лет назад +1

      Edward Greene I am actually getting annoyed with comments like yours, WHY DO YOU EXPECT MEN TO PAY FOR WOMEN WHILE THE WOMEN JUST DOES NOTHING, MEN ARE NOT JUST FREE MEALS FOR WOMEN

  • @westerngothia59
    @westerngothia59 8 лет назад +46

    What if the guy pay for his meal and drink and the girl pay foer hers and if they share anything (bottle of Wine) they split that 50/50.

    • @GoddessBlueYozakura7
      @GoddessBlueYozakura7 7 лет назад +12

      That sounds like two friends getting together not a date but platonic friends are great too so that's always fun!

    • @westerngothia59
      @westerngothia59 7 лет назад

      I live in Sweden.

    • @JerryNapper
      @JerryNapper 7 лет назад +12

      Well must admit that does sound like a lot better than what gold diggers expect

    • @MocroPowerzz999
      @MocroPowerzz999 6 лет назад +16

      so in your definition a date is a free meal voucher ?

    • @StoicBehavioR
      @StoicBehavioR 6 лет назад +12

      @GoddessBlueYozakura
      Why are you entitled to a free meal? Lets be real, the first date is basically the interview process of whether both parties are going to go further. So it would be a appropriate for both parties to pay for his and her meal.(separately)

  • @ndifrekeekwere1435
    @ndifrekeekwere1435 6 лет назад +1

    A man paying for dinner is like a complement (I had a great time with you and it was lovely to get the opportunity to meet you) and stopping him from is saying i do not want your complement.

  • @wisethemaster
    @wisethemaster 6 лет назад +1

    That was how he was raised...
    I was raised that A women that dont & wont go Dutch is not worth you time....

  • @indigobeauty1
    @indigobeauty1 3 года назад +2

    It hurts me to admit this...but when a guy doesn't pay for the 1st date, it feels like a cue that he's just not that into me and I should move on.

    • @janefelix3821
      @janefelix3821 3 года назад +1

      Question, if you don't offer to pay, should the guy think that you are not interested and just wanted a freebie?

  • @jenifer223
    @jenifer223 6 лет назад +1

    It’s so simple. You take me out, you pay. I take you out, I pay.

  • @sarahsahar5622
    @sarahsahar5622 7 лет назад +5

    yes. court me or we not talking. if we are in an relationship, thats different. now we have an understanding and i would love to organise fun things and pay for it. but he still has to take care of me or at least want to take care of me.

    • @kujas
      @kujas 7 лет назад +16

      take care of you? Sounds like a child-like mentality.

    • @Jambuc829
      @Jambuc829 4 года назад

      It should be the other way around.

  • @holypeeg2934
    @holypeeg2934 6 лет назад +1

    No finance, no romance... now my question is:
    Are these should be related. what kind of a place money has on relationships and why?

  • @RGTomoenage11
    @RGTomoenage11 8 лет назад +3

    that bkack dude just trying to show off to the girls in there lol

  • @megshimatsu8615
    @megshimatsu8615 4 года назад +3

    The Latino girl is 100% right. Any man who doesn't pay on the first date is cheap and rude.

    • @superkamiguru4389
      @superkamiguru4389 4 года назад +1

      A woman that want's a man to pay is even cheaper and rude.

  • @glorywilliams7155
    @glorywilliams7155 7 лет назад +2

    here's how I see it... if I the girl ask you on a date, then I'm paying , then if you the boy ask me out on a date you're paying

    • @Godlywoman88
      @Godlywoman88 4 года назад

      Women should never ask men out.

  • @ulipeterson6112
    @ulipeterson6112 7 лет назад

    "no finance, no romance."
    -what a nice attitude. at least she is honest.
    "he sees it as an investment."
    -than that probably must be the most romantic thing that she has heard from her husband.

  • @robertmiguelpantaleon236
    @robertmiguelpantaleon236 6 лет назад

    Money and Love should not be in the same conversation. Chivalry and money should not be in the same conversation.

  • @BrightRomeo
    @BrightRomeo 6 лет назад

    4.21 She looks like... ''Emmm, what way ?'' hahahahah

  • @rrtlife2167
    @rrtlife2167 6 лет назад

    I feel like a man should pay for the first date. Any dates after we can actually split. That is what my husband and I did and now we are married. He would pay for dinner and I would pay for the movie. I paid to show him that he is not dealing with a gold digger and that I value him enough to offer to pay. After 8 years, we are still going strong. I never asked him for money or expect him to pay for everything and he said that is one reason he respects me and knew I was the one for him. Now I'm in nursing school and he pays all the bills so I can focus on helping build a financially stable family and he doesn't mind one bit because he knows the type of woman I am and I have his full respect. A relationship is about team work.

  • @marquisofsloth9867
    @marquisofsloth9867 7 лет назад +1

    You want equality or you want men in control. Tf u want? I can either treat you like an equal and a companion. Or I make all the decisions

  • @joineejones4935
    @joineejones4935 8 лет назад +27

    That's why Nick is single

    • @sylkyj
      @sylkyj 8 лет назад +2

      +Joinee Jones
      So true!! Wonder who would date him or the fat lady in purple. I guess it's to do with them being unattractive.

    • @Climatepolice
      @Climatepolice 8 лет назад

      too true

    • @joineejones4935
      @joineejones4935 8 лет назад

      oh dang... I really meant Joe, lol

    • @joineejones4935
      @joineejones4935 8 лет назад

      +Jide Whesu I'm guessing you haven't seen all of my comments. I've said on other comments, yes I'm expecting you to pay on our initial first date. Afterwards I will pay because I love to treat my man. He may not want to get married, that's fine. But as for me I date with a purpose. I'm done with breaking hearts of my own and other guys. Like the Latin chick said, I believe sex is a sacred act between to beings which has really been devalued by its easy access, that even commitment is starting to seem abnormal. If you want your whore go ahead, have her, but even a prostitute has wished for more at some point.

    • @joineejones4935
      @joineejones4935 8 лет назад

      +Joinee Jones *two beings

  • @shazajo1
    @shazajo1 6 лет назад +1

    wait so the guys in the audience wanna keep the gap when it comes to the things the girls do BUT when it has to do with what guys 'have' to do its a problem?? IM CRYING YALL ARE CRAZY DHSJS

    • @GoddessBlueYozakura7
      @GoddessBlueYozakura7 4 года назад

      There isn't a gap. If women are asking you out then find but if they aren't then what are you complaining about? Only date women that ask you out and then you will never need to pay for a full meal again!

  • @maylynbayani
    @maylynbayani 5 лет назад +1

    I havent been on the dating scene for a while but when I first met my husband, he always offer to pay. I can pay for my own but he's working on getting my affections and I didnt want him not to pull an effort. However, I always insist on going to places where I know it is more economical for him. Once, he invited me to an expensive restaurant. He had never been there so he didnt have an idea how expensive it could get. When we looked at the menu, i saw bullets of sweat trickling down his face. I closed the menu, said I didnt like the food and got up. I then suggested a restaurant that serves good food that is more within the budget. I know he was happy in thinking he made a good impression and I sure was relieved that I didnt blew up his bank account.
    Allow a man to be a provider, but do not be cruel.

    • @Jambuc829
      @Jambuc829 4 года назад

      Maylyn Bayani Lucky man. Beautiful and considerate. Do you have a twin who thinks like you! 🥰

  • @bellebritish8035
    @bellebritish8035 5 лет назад

    Whoever asked for the date pays. If the woman said 'lets have dinner' then she pays and vice versa. You don't invite someone out and expect them to pay.

  • @BeautifulOnes876
    @BeautifulOnes876 Год назад

    Steve always sets things straight! I love Steve Harvey!

  • @jasminmostafa3595
    @jasminmostafa3595 7 лет назад

    My partner is not a rich man but I love him very much. I do have to pay for things sometimes, but I do appreciate when he pays too. I don't expect it but it is nice to be taken care of too.

  • @jasontoryk6603
    @jasontoryk6603 2 года назад

    You literally have a grown woman, arguing that she SHOULD NOT HAVE TO PAY FOR ANYTHING, and calling a man cheap if he doesn't pay. That's the exact definition of the word "entitled". The very second you look at a man picking up the check as an expectation, and not an act of kindness.... not only are you rude, but you're incredibly ignorant.

  • @nate8414
    @nate8414 5 лет назад

    As man I’ll pay for the bill on the first date or any other dates, but when a women doesn’t even offer, suggest or attempt to even pitch in to pay half, it’s not going to work, it’s not going to be an equal relationship, It’s pretty much her saying (you need to pay for my time.)

  • @LichfiendRazool
    @LichfiendRazool 7 лет назад

    "No finance-no romance" literally just watched someone go on about it on a facebook post. and reality is that basically saying that is saying "You have to pay for my time" and that just means My time is worth more than yours, therefor you should pay for it. there is a difference between a guy Offering to pay, and just assuming he is going to pay for the rest of the relationship

  • @kyleh4121
    @kyleh4121 6 лет назад

    Whoever asked the other one out pays. Next question.

  • @charity9660
    @charity9660 5 лет назад +1

    The one time i actually got to pay for my boyfriend food he was upset lol not like mad but like he told me he felt bad about it. And I’m like oh damn i just wanted to help out cause you pay for everything for me.

  • @NightOwl_30
    @NightOwl_30 6 лет назад

    If you are the one who called someone out on a date then you have to pay. After all that person is there because you wanted them to be. But if you hit it off then you start sharing.

  • @innabalykina308
    @innabalykina308 8 лет назад +2

    A God fearing man will respect your soul, not just want to use you for sex and pleasure.

  • @323azteca
    @323azteca 5 лет назад +1

    Men pay on the first date. PERIOD. Women already invested on her looks. He pays. PERIOD.
    When a relationship is established, then maybe. Marriage, its one account, but its nice that my man takes the bill.

    • @Stalingrad17
      @Stalingrad17 4 года назад

      So, if I as a man invested in my intelligence, personality and fit body, you must pay for me? PERIOD?

  • @vvho2428
    @vvho2428 6 лет назад

    The guy who said he was raised that way to pay the bill. My man that’s how it’s supposed to be

    • @Jambuc829
      @Jambuc829 4 года назад

      Vahan Vardanyan Funny how he is the single father. That’s what happens when you try to buy love.

  • @bighou2359
    @bighou2359 7 лет назад +3

    Ha ha, this all is too funny. Women out here act like Good men grow on trees. We all know that's not the case. Just to make to end all this madness, here's what should be done fellas. After the first date, you put all the cards in her hands. You make the first date plan, you pay for the first date, and then that's it. If she doesn't come back at all with the second date plan, it's now her loss. You did the good deed of being a gentleman, she can't say nothing to you or to anyone else that you didn't do all you could do for her on that first date. So fellas, just take the first date L and then it'll be up to her to take the life long L because she didn't show interest in return by trying to be cheap.

    • @GoddessBlueYozakura7
      @GoddessBlueYozakura7 7 лет назад

      +Bighou Actually that sounds far too complicated and ridiculous. Just tell the fellas to date each other. Both can split and both can bring their own lube! Simple.

    • @GoddessBlueYozakura7
      @GoddessBlueYozakura7 7 лет назад

      You have MEN KILLING WOMEN FOR REJECTING THEM!! SERIOUSLY?
      Who said women punching men was acceptable? Now you're all over the place picking random situations to cry "it's not fair". This topic is about approaching women for a date that didn't ask you to out and didn't even know you even existed before your approach but you're talking about men rejecting women? How often does a woman hit a man that rejects her?

    • @GoddessBlueYozakura7
      @GoddessBlueYozakura7 7 лет назад

      +36
      If a man asks me out and I don't enjoy the first date there's no requirement for a second or any other date. I simply politely decline and move on. Equality doesn't exist in dating because there's no equality in AGE, there's not equality in LOOKS, there's no EQUALITY in status, there's no EQUALITY in educational achievement. There is no ECONOMIC EQUALITY WORLD WIDE!

    • @GoddessBlueYozakura7
      @GoddessBlueYozakura7 7 лет назад

      THIS IS THE SOCIETY MEN CREATED! You fools blame feminism like that's even a real thing when MEN AT THE TOP OF THE FOOD CHAIN DON'T DO THINGS THAT DON'T BENEFIT THEM.

    • @GoddessBlueYozakura7
      @GoddessBlueYozakura7 7 лет назад

      Just think about that for a second. Would there actually be a 3rd world in the first place if MEN weren't about abusing others for resources? I mean is anyone on here thinking logically? Yet you think women raised to watch men and learn from their own men would some how be different in your own land? Lmao! You see all of this PUA , "how to get a woman", "how to be ugly and get laid", strippers, porn, cam models, escorts, the drug addicted prostitute, human sex trafficking ALL CREATED BY MEN FOR MEN. Excuse me? Equality? Lol Where?

  • @brandonj.williams4661
    @brandonj.williams4661 7 лет назад

    If she asks me out she pays, if I ask her out I pay simple as that.

  • @sumasuma5648
    @sumasuma5648 2 года назад +1

    I like the lady with red dress mentality and personality 👍

  • @deydraniadiancecht8298
    @deydraniadiancecht8298 5 лет назад +1

    A woman's time means nothing on a first date. A first date is nothing more than an interview. She's interviewing to form a relationship with me. There is absolutely no relationship on a first date. A woman has no value before that relationship begins. If she can't even pay for her own dinner during that application, then she's already failing the interview because she's obviously bringing nothing to the table.

  • @dutchymcdutch2553
    @dutchymcdutch2553 4 года назад

    First date: She should offer to pay and the man should not accept the offer and pay.
    Old fashioned: if a woman insists on splitting the bill on the first date she's making clear she doesn't want a second date, she's not romantically interested in the guy.
    Longer term: if the girl never pays, fine, than she should put out whenever the guy wants.... No? Yeah, I didn't think so. No man wants to be taken advantage of.

  • @beezowduduzopitybobbobbob8476
    @beezowduduzopitybobbobbob8476 7 лет назад +1

    The women who complaints about wage gap must watch this video. Why men need to get paid more CAUSE THEY ARE THE PROVIDER even if he doesn't wanna be always.

  • @doncorlione1284
    @doncorlione1284 6 лет назад +1

    If he is planning he will pay
    If he is gaming , he let you pay

    • @decadesmusiclover
      @decadesmusiclover 6 лет назад +1

      Don Corlione If she's genuinely interested in him she wouldn't mind paying for her share.

    • @doncorlione1284
      @doncorlione1284 6 лет назад +1

      T J agree , even more , I have dated one a girl , she was asking me if she can pay for the meal because it was a pleasure for her to treat me with one and she was a real lady with good manners and good attitude

  • @snowbird1381
    @snowbird1381 2 года назад

    If you’re the one who did the inviting, you’re the one who pays. But if you’re the one invited, It’s good curtesy to offer to pay for other little things like gas.

  • @willietaylor5869
    @willietaylor5869 3 года назад

    I believe whoever asked for the 1st date should pay unless specified before

  • @Ajg97
    @Ajg97 6 лет назад

    All women are different. All men are different. However, all the(good) men I have known will tell you that if they want to be with you they will treat you like a princess. They will give less an effort if they think it's gonna end.

  • @JCastro-ex4pc
    @JCastro-ex4pc 6 лет назад +1

    You want equality? Ok then, pay.

  • @S550Sheed
    @S550Sheed 5 лет назад

    If I'm paying for 3 dates in a row and you dont even offer to pay or leave a tip . No more dates for you

  • @mahmoudmito418
    @mahmoudmito418 7 лет назад

    I think the one who asked for the date should pay lol

  • @dayton.sutphen_hockey7561
    @dayton.sutphen_hockey7561 6 лет назад +1

    The feminist are TRIGGERED and PISSED OFF

  • @HashimThaDream
    @HashimThaDream 7 лет назад

    Saw Juanita's answer coming a continent away! I've dealt with enough Latinas in my life to know that (for most of them) money comes first!

  • @bboyStuntZ
    @bboyStuntZ 7 лет назад

    Why does a man ask a woman out or vice versa? To receive the pleasure of her company and to give her the pleasure of his company. Works both ways. First dates each pays for their own. It will eliminate any confusion. What does she really want? A free movie and or dinner? Or does she actually like being around the guy? If a man pays, that question will come up in his head. Or at least it should come up. Everyone pays for themselves? It's not gonna be a question. If a woman goes out with the guy again, she'll go out cause she wants to go out again usually. Same other way around. Doesn't matter who asks who out.

  • @tolutaiwo5416
    @tolutaiwo5416 2 года назад

    To the guy next to Steve, wow do you know she can pay when you don't let her pay?
    For the first date, the initiator should pay.

  • @EverydayEboni
    @EverydayEboni 6 лет назад

    Let the damn man be a gentleman!I agree with Steve.

    • @Jambuc829
      @Jambuc829 4 года назад

      Eboni Dowell feeding random women is not being a gentleman.

  • @lilsparrow7845
    @lilsparrow7845 7 лет назад

    When I went on dates (many moons ago, before my marriage) I automatically paid for my portion of the bill. If my date insisted he paid, then I would treat him to a movie, or drinks or a round of minigolf etc. I never let my date foot the entire bill (even if I wasn't into the guy...I still.respected him) I wanted him to know I didn't expect anything from him, that he should not expect anything from me and that when I do things...its fair.

  • @Sofoluwe
    @Sofoluwe 6 лет назад

    So in essence what Mr Steve is saying is that if a woman pays the bill once in a while, then it means the man doesn't care for her. Now that doesn't make sense.

  • @itsyaboi1846
    @itsyaboi1846 7 лет назад

    It depends on who ask who. If the female ask the man she should pay, if the man ask her out he should pay.

    • @Ashbringer36
      @Ashbringer36 7 лет назад +1

      And if the person who got asked (the woman 99%) Gives off any air of "that was great, where are you taking me next time" you run like hell and cut your losses.

  • @NoDebt
    @NoDebt 4 года назад

    All of a sudden gender equality is out of the window

  • @marciloni12
    @marciloni12 4 года назад +2

    First dates are meant to be the time to impress. I would never chase a man or be the one to ask him out. If I am invited out by a man because he’s interested in me, he pays. What happened to the days when men wooed and courted women?? Men would bring you flowers or a small gift, dressed nice, didn’t have a cell phone to look at constantly. Ladies don’t settle for any shmuck! We can buy our own dinners or drinks, we don’t need to do it sitting next to a “man” that most times aren’t worth it!!

    • @IndianPrince04
      @IndianPrince04 4 года назад

      At one time men had to woo women, decades ago back when men were providers. But here in 2020, women have begun to dominate all the high paying jobs once held by men, so in other words, women have collectively decided to become providers. It's a futile endeavor for a man to try and impress a woman with his money when she herself is a working woman that earns as much as he does. Perhaps you didn't receive the memo, but it's typically the socially uncalibrated "shmucks" who shower women with dinner and gifts on the first date.
      Now the corollary is also true, in that if a woman can't pay for her own meal on the first date, thats a red flag. It may indicate that she's a moocher that won't be contributing financially to the relationship. If all you bring to the table are your ovaries, then you are so replaceable it's not funny (by a more desirable working female that will happily pay 50-50 on dates). The reality is that a cheap stingy female could never compete with a working female, all other things being equal. Working females snag all the high value men, and the cheapo females remain single well into their 30's at which time they have to settle for the same shmucks that they mocked back in their 20's.

  • @pmbarro
    @pmbarro 6 лет назад

    Bottom line, if you like her enough, you'll pay. If you know you'll never see her again, you won't wanna pay.

  • @heatherhudkins4043
    @heatherhudkins4043 7 лет назад +2

    If a guy offered pay I would say sure free food.

  • @federicozacchi2880
    @federicozacchi2880 6 лет назад

    I am not a serial dater but I have never had this kind of problem because I have always dated girls that I was sure that were into me.
    Going to a date should not be a favor you do to me so that I should feel like I at least owe you a meal.
    C'mon! I honestly think that it's pathetic!

  • @heavenranae
    @heavenranae 4 года назад

    Whoever asks who out should pay end of story

  • @funnyxFE3Rx
    @funnyxFE3Rx 8 лет назад

    okay for the disrespectful girl saying no finance no romance, she must be against equal rights and such. if you expect the man to pay and provide then youre not equal to him plain and simple.

  • @tulsatornado1578
    @tulsatornado1578 6 лет назад

    Thank you for that Steve.

  • @janetbaccus9358
    @janetbaccus9358 Год назад

    If you ask me out, you pay!

  • @kierraogden6771
    @kierraogden6771 6 лет назад

    I say the man should pay. It’s nice for me to feel spoiled. Yes she can pay for her own meal but it’s nice to be treated like a queen.

  • @emth5741
    @emth5741 3 года назад

    Yes every man wants to be taking care of that is one of d reason almost every man loves their mother so much because there mom

  • @kikruneinosachu9370
    @kikruneinosachu9370 6 лет назад

    I feel awkward when others pay the bill so I try to do it first, guy or girl . Unless I don't have the money or if my group of friends say let's split the bill.

  • @LoriWolfcat
    @LoriWolfcat 6 лет назад

    I mean, whoever says “Wanna go out on a date?” Should be the one who pays. But a man And a woman should always be ready to pay, cuz you don’t know if the person who questioned is a cheapskate. Always be generous and you can always leave.

  • @briannacarlson9831
    @briannacarlson9831 6 лет назад

    I think if a women asks to go on a date she pays! If the man ask to go on the date he pays. If you both want to hang out then you split the bill. Or just go every other date the guy pays.

  • @TheWorks27
    @TheWorks27 8 лет назад

    If I ask someone out on a date then I'll gladly pay for us both, but if I'm the one who was asked then I'll opt to split the bill.

  • @nicolec.5938
    @nicolec.5938 6 лет назад

    If you wanna pay for your own dinner. Dont go out on a date ! Take yo self out !

  • @asmrwolfofficial
    @asmrwolfofficial 4 года назад

    If anything it won't hurt the woman to pay, a woman can pay at least once in a while

  • @TheNiggler17
    @TheNiggler17 5 лет назад

    Seeing women argue is like watching children fighting in a play ground. It’s stupid. It’s called being a nice person me paying for you doesn’t mean your not independent.

  • @daveyjones3016
    @daveyjones3016 8 лет назад +565

    This is why the divorce rate is so high

    • @GoddessBlueYozakura7
      @GoddessBlueYozakura7 7 лет назад +15

      Wait the divorce rate is high because someone can't afford to feed the woman they asked to join them for dinner? If that's the case then that says something serious about people that are harassing women to date them when they can't afford a date.

    • @daveyjones3016
      @daveyjones3016 7 лет назад +50

      No the divorce rate is high because of this mindset. 70 percent of divorce is filed by the wife and that says a lot

    • @GoddessBlueYozakura7
      @GoddessBlueYozakura7 7 лет назад +9

      +Ricy Bob-
      70 percent of divorce is filed by the wife but have you looked into why?
      You're seeing a percentage and making up your own conclusion but studies paint a different picture.
      70-80 percent of women don't consistently get off through penetrative sex either.
      Studies have shown that
      Married women reported lower levels of relationship quality than married men, he found. In contrast, unmarried women and men reported equal levels of relationship quality.
      So what is it about marriage that leaves women less satisfied and more likely to walk away?
      "Meaning that as much as women’s roles in society have changed, women’s roles within the families have changed very slowly,” he said, citing husband’s expectation for wives to do the bulk of the housework and childcare, even when both spouses work.-" Huffpost
      The life expectancy of women shortens when they're married but men's life last longer. I know that seems odd but it's a fact.
      Even sex in marriage. Sure married men may complain about not having as much sex as they'd like in marriage but married women complain that the sex that happens is often not fulfilling for them or their male partner is only interested in getting himself off.
      Look at casual sex reports that talk about pleasure between men and women. Women always report unsatisfactory experiences where men tend to state that sex was great.
      Other reports on sex quality:
      Divorced or separated men are twice as likely to have been unfaithful in their marriage.
      Women's stats on cheating has only increased but that has in part to do with the economic options women have now and also has to do with sex quality and the brunt of responsibility for childcare and cleaning up after the entire house being on their shoulders.
      It's not entirely fair to just throw a stat out there without following it up with the supporting facts.

    • @ChaoticButterfly
      @ChaoticButterfly 7 лет назад +8

      Divorce rate's actually going down, and is higher among baby boomers than Gen X and Millennials.

    • @rebbacabradford4289
      @rebbacabradford4289 7 лет назад

      I agree

  • @HighMaintenanceMinimalist
    @HighMaintenanceMinimalist 6 лет назад +50

    I feel like people should have the kind of life that works for them. You want extreme equality in your relationship? Cool. You want each other to take on traditional gender roles? Cool. Everybody doesn't have to be the same.

    • @jewelparham9577
      @jewelparham9577 2 года назад

      If you pay the bill are you expecting sex afterwards.

  • @idomagirlabahi7786
    @idomagirlabahi7786 8 лет назад +267

    Humans are too damn complicated.

    • @JJRichardson_
      @JJRichardson_ 8 лет назад +35

      We're quite simple but we make it complicated

    • @jackiemontrose1279
      @jackiemontrose1279 8 лет назад +1

      +JLifeAdvice yea right

    • @jomontanee
      @jomontanee 8 лет назад +2

      +JLifeAdvice Absolutely right.

    • @agirlyoudontknow332
      @agirlyoudontknow332 8 лет назад +6

      so true. thats why we look to animals for comfort/friends/love.

    • @javiermgtaoism5702
      @javiermgtaoism5702 8 лет назад +9

      No, they system has brainwashed us to be difficult. Marriage and family is about 'mutual sacrifice'.

  • @jforeman540
    @jforeman540 8 лет назад +1612

    If a man must always pay for dates and "be the provider", doesn't that pretty much justify the wage gap?

    • @manii8397
      @manii8397 8 лет назад +164

      I've never thought of that

    • @BriefcaseWanker
      @BriefcaseWanker 8 лет назад +359

      if there was a wage gap

    • @gold-inmelanin2919
      @gold-inmelanin2919 8 лет назад +102

      it does not justify by wage Gap because wages are based on work and not dating we should get paid according to our works it has nothing to do with dating

    • @naruhina012607
      @naruhina012607 8 лет назад +144

      There isn't a wage gap by the way the reason man technically get paid more is because they tend to put their career first while women put family first, men are also more ambitious and seek out promotions, they work longer hours averagely and put in more effort and they also seek out higher paying jobs like lawyers, engineers while women go for lower paying jobs like teachers, etc. The reason many feminist think there is a wage gap is because they like to twist statistics and information in their favour and they will reject and ignore facts that do not go well with them.

    • @willatabitha5841
      @willatabitha5841 7 лет назад +2

      food for thought u need a whole newsletter on that

  • @juanpablocastanoval2180
    @juanpablocastanoval2180 3 года назад +38

    The stay-at-home girl in red is amazing! Keep it up, help girls maintain their value.

    • @TeaCup1940
      @TeaCup1940 Год назад +3

      Of all of the women on that panel she is the only one that is married.

    • @gaby5546
      @gaby5546 10 месяцев назад

      Wtf she was arrogant af

    • @mimia.4810
      @mimia.4810 9 месяцев назад +1

      @@gaby5546Nope. She’s the only lady on the panel. She’s the best.

  • @polobreak3249
    @polobreak3249 7 лет назад +132

    Gender equality still has a long way to go. Has it ever occurred to women that us men want to feel appreciated as well.

    • @bullballsallday
      @bullballsallday 4 года назад +17

      Nobody cares about men's problems. Why do you think 78% of suicides are men? Something like 95% of work-related deaths are men.

    • @jayfreeman5117
      @jayfreeman5117 4 года назад +3

      Blue Finally Gets A Clue wow the generalization and sexism.

    • @jayfreeman5117
      @jayfreeman5117 4 года назад +1

      Blue Finally Gets A Clue I hope you realize that not all men are like that, and some of us realize that women of men alike shouldn’t be objectified.

    • @DianaRik
      @DianaRik 2 года назад

      This is so on point.

    • @Mae-rr5ye
      @Mae-rr5ye 2 года назад +2

      I think that's something women need to realize more but on the other hand we have to be aware that money isn't the only way to make someone feel appreciated. A lot of men that I know Express their Love by spending money and buying a gift or getting something nice to show their love for their partner a lot of women show their love by being affectionate or dressing up for their partner to make them feel nice. That doesn't mean that the other partner in the relationship can't take on those other roles every now and then which I think is healthy and would be very nice but we also have to keep in mind how the majority of men and women communicate when showing love and how different those languages often are.

  • @dollarzanddiamondz
    @dollarzanddiamondz 8 лет назад +220

    Where in da world did Steve get this panel from??? The guys are ok but the women. .....EMBARRASSING

    • @vbrad6226
      @vbrad6226 8 лет назад +1

      ikr lol

    • @tmntsuperhiros
      @tmntsuperhiros 8 лет назад +3

      I'm just over here laughing because y'all didn't feed the troll! There is hope!

    • @jyde50
      @jyde50 8 лет назад +1

      +tmntsuperhiros what troll, i think he is saying the truth although i don't agree about the black part., do you think these men are really truthful about always wanting to pay the bills? so when someone comment on RUclips, and you don't agree with it then its a troll? you are dumb.

    • @jyde50
      @jyde50 8 лет назад +4

      +Jide Whesu it's 2015 women have rights and jobs , so women cannot keep telling men to always pay,

    • @talkactive1
      @talkactive1 8 лет назад +1

      +Jide Whesu please speak for yourself.

  • @chrisbrown2037
    @chrisbrown2037 8 лет назад +377

    I thought we want to get rid of gender bias? Or is it only gender bias against females

    • @xxuncexx
      @xxuncexx 8 лет назад

      +chris Brown Can't help the genetics.

    • @sosmcs
      @sosmcs 8 лет назад +6

      Yes, only against females. The world already hands men everything.

    • @xxuncexx
      @xxuncexx 8 лет назад +49

      Sosmcs See Like rape convictions and jail sentences even when in reality nothing happened, the girl just dislikes said guy.

    • @niku10
      @niku10 8 лет назад +46

      men and women are equal, unless its time to pay the bills

    • @locomoco2012
      @locomoco2012 8 лет назад

      +chris Brown that is what I am saying..but you can't say that on tv..you know that.

  • @kdotdot4397
    @kdotdot4397 8 лет назад +1083

    the latino woman just turned me off! her husband better never fall on hard times...smh

    • @decadesmusiclover
      @decadesmusiclover 8 лет назад +93

      He'll get the treatment that my cousin got. His woman left him bcuz he fell on hard times, but, as soon as he got back on his feet she came back. Obviously, he didn't learn that she's all about the Benjamin's. Smdh.

    • @LossLeadas
      @LossLeadas 8 лет назад +18

      right she gone jump ship

    • @javiermgtaoism5702
      @javiermgtaoism5702 8 лет назад +62

      If she loses her job...it okay, If you lose yours, you will be on a timer. She will start looking elsewhere for a provider. Knowing that part of women's nature should tell us to NEVER depend on women in anything.

    • @LossLeadas
      @LossLeadas 8 лет назад +5

      Javier Gonzalez sad to say it but o agree

    • @Nelcomarproductions
      @Nelcomarproductions 8 лет назад +31

      it's female nature body. mgtow is the only way to go.

  • @e84fresh
    @e84fresh 8 лет назад +279

    If these women are as independent as they claim to be then paying their half wouldn't be no problem. These women want equal rights but don't want equal responsibility

    • @jomontanee
      @jomontanee 7 лет назад +30

      Dating is not responsibility. It's courtship.

    • @yourarchnemesis8453
      @yourarchnemesis8453 6 лет назад +9

      Jo Montanee have fun being single.

    • @tolar9
      @tolar9 6 лет назад +3

      ... and deserve equal lefts.

    • @karmichaelblue
      @karmichaelblue 5 лет назад +11

      Cherry Blossom Happiness because the mother’s don’t let them be fathers...they tell him his role as a father isn’t valuable and she doesn’t need him, that their children doesn’t need him...in the courts the women gets custody most of the time...etc.

    • @karmichaelblue
      @karmichaelblue 5 лет назад +6

      Cherry Blossom Happiness what crowd are you messing with? I’m sorry you’ve had bad experiences, but that’s to be expected when you hang around low hanging fruit

  • @dmp762
    @dmp762 8 лет назад +503

    It's interesting how "modern Independent Women" still want to be treated like it's the 1950s when it favors them.

    • @doityourselfpakistan6535
      @doityourselfpakistan6535 6 лет назад +23

      That was the comment i was looking for :D

    • @LGDarksteed
      @LGDarksteed 6 лет назад +18

      Traditional roles still apply to men but women got to be free from their traditional roles.

    • @BabyAbood123
      @BabyAbood123 6 лет назад +5

      @@LGDarksteed traditional role must be applied to women too! They better be making a meal for their man in order to "provide" them with food. Just how men "provide" with paying for a date or whatnot

    • @MusicVEVOchannel
      @MusicVEVOchannel 6 лет назад +6

      I do think that it's polite and gentleman like to offer to pay if you are the one to ask a girl out. Because you are the one asking her to accompany you. If it was the other way round the girl should offer. That's just how I see it. And in my experiences the guys that don't offer to pay often are quite selfish disrespectful individuals in general. If we would go to a quite pricey restaurant I would insist on splitting the bill because I wouldn't want to let him pay that much but if we are just getting a coffee somewhere like common...

    • @LGDarksteed
      @LGDarksteed 6 лет назад +8

      @@MusicVEVOchannel The problem with that analogy is that women are almost never the ones to ask a man out. So it is pretty much a moot point. Like when you ask your friends "Hey, you want to get something to eat?" Do you buy all your invited friends their meals. Probably not. Even though you are the one that technically invited them out. Now for the coffee. Yes, I can agree with you that paying for someone else's coffee is just fine. Especially for a get to know you sort of date before an actual date.