I've noticed that so many people are desperate to find real love. Everything she said here is true. But also, check on yourself, do the hard work of truly searching what makes you like the people you like. Work on yourself so hard that you know your value not because you are hot but because you broke the cycle and did the work you needed to do. Because you are capable of being by yourself. Look for the trauma, look for the shadow part of yourself. There is no point in judging how others treat us if we are not willing to search inside. Take responsibility too. Please don't think "finding the right person" will change your life or it will make you happy. Put your expectations on yourself, in how you live your life, and stop caring about other people's life (including those who look like they have a perfect life). Focus on being thankful for the many forms of love you experience daily. Do not waste time holding grudges because a relationship didn't go the way you wanted, don't blame yourself or other people. You got to love the process, not only the goals. There is love out there for you.
"You deserve to be loved and chosen..not Almost loved or Almost chosen" THat is ssoo truee .this explainns so much of me always feeling the ALMOST and not being worthy.
My heart is so broken.....I broke my own heart cause I knew he didn't want a relationship he just wanted the benefits..I fooled myself into thinking I could handle it cause I loved him and maybe he would eventually love me back......he died about two weeks ago and now I feel broken and lost......💔💔💔💔
Sending you much peace and love❤Going through a difficult time as well, I know what grief feels like, love you!! Love yourself and take care of yourself, you did everything right ❤
Your words changed my perspective. Now you have a dedicated listener. Thank you. I’m not crazy crying. I’m not upset. I’m looking at it differently where if I let go and don’t put in all this effort, maybe someone meant for me will come for me. I’m dealing with not even getting bare minimum. I deserve better. Making room for something i deserve.
Hi Bianca, This was a very powerful podcast. It made me cry because I have witnessed that same type of love with my late parents. My mother had been permanently sick since a few years after I was born. I love seeing my parents together, and unfortunately that love I witnessed went away when my mother became sicker than usual in her last months I saw a change in my father that baffled me. I couldn't understand who was the man I was seeing in front of me during that time. I vowed from that day I did not want a future partner or love like that. I wanted the relationship I saw that my parents had a few years before my mom had fallen ill. I still believe in it, even though I have not met the right suitors. It is challenge to keep my heart open, I am trying though. Starting with fixing the broken pieces from 11yrs ago. I look forward to hearing more of your podcasts. Blessings ❤️🦋
Thank you B! im literally crying here. I really needed to hear this episode. Today was one of those days where i felt negative and almost just gave up believing true love exist. but thank you for reaffirming that it does and it will happen one day.
When I hear or read something from Bianca Sparacino I feel understood. I feel seen. I feel a sense of hope and encouragement knowing that there are other deep feelers and lovers in this world too. Thank you B for this beautiful heartwarming Podcast! I love you! 🌹
i reluctantly clicked on this video half thinking "oh great more love advice" but your words and sentiment were heart felt and genuinely helpful for me at a really low point. Thankyou so much for the reminder
Bianca! I bought your book !Gentle reminder" and it's the first thing I read in the morning and the last thing that comes into my consciousness. Your words are truly special and healing! Thank you for sharing your light, love and your beautiful soul. I admire you so much:) You inspire us to spread love too:) Thank you for being you! By Miku
The love you describe is the love I have the capacity to give a woman just haven't found the one life partner that will love me the way I do and matches me on that intensity too
I think my personal practice on finding love, and not only romantic... I want friends who see and appreciate my heart as well. But I am cultivating a practice of leaning into love from a wise and discerning space, rather than a naive space. Awesome episode!
Thanks B, this is such a beautiful message for my heart, and I believe many of us have healed in somehow by listening to your words. I truly wish all of us the soul we all deserve ❤️
Wow, thank you for listening & connecting with us 🎧💓 We are so honored to be a part of your beautiful healing journey 🌻☀️ Keep going, we are here for you 💛
I met a friend at work 5 years ago. I instantly bonded with her & we began hanging out. 8 months later, she left for her hometown & it hurt to see her go. I tried maintaining our friendship even after she left, and it worked for a while. After one bad incident at a theme park, she avoided me for 2 years. We cleared the air about a lot in Jan 2023 & I thought things were finally gonna get better. As of June 2023, we went our separate ways and I was blocked off due to bringing up our past again. I’ve been severely depressed since & I miss her very much. I screwed our friendship all because I couldn’t let go of past issues.
... this made me cry, like few other things in my life. Because I AM like yo Bianca. My heart, it is like yours. And.. the kind of love, that you're talking about, the one of your parents... it's the same my mom and dad had. I've seen it too, with my own eyes. .. but, since my Dad died, .. I think I kinda stopped believing in it. ... this video, reminded me of who I am. Of the kind of things I believed in, and searched for.. It reminded me of the person I've always been. And I can't thank you enough for that.
Future? The future I dreamed about is gone. I’m 53 and never been in a relationship. At this point in life I’ve completely lost interest. I now realize there was no point in ever pursuing it in the first place. There are several things I did well in life, but love wasn’t one of them. It’s just that simple, no need to complicate it.
Really odd but perfect timing. Thank you, I think love is bullshit, and I haven't felt it from a romantic partner thus far so yes I don't believe it exists... thank you for this video 🙏❤ I needed to hear this and I know a lot of other people probably do to.
No one deserves to be loved. Love is a sacrificial gift. If we deserved love we could demand it like a worker demands their wages. Until love is understood as a sacrificial gift, it will never be fully appreciated. Today, tell someone who loves you, 'thank you for loving me'.
I wasted four and a half years thinking he would finally chose me pick me love me and then he died I am so confused and hurt........why wasn't I good enough??😪
Love is sacrifice. I fell in love with him after 4 years of friendship but he still only wanted to be friends and my heart was extremely broken to pieces and that was because I loved him so much. Its been 9 months of highs and terrible lows. We didn't hear from each other for 4 months. Then I had a tremendous urge to call him so overpowering because a mutual friend had said he might be moving to another country and that hurt me so badly that I would never see him again. I thought it would go to his voicemail because he should have been at work but ge answered and I just straight up answered Mark, are you moving to another country? And he thought it was a job calling for him but then he said , "Jan?" Now we are talking again. Where this goes from here is in God's hands.
I'm a 47 year old man that has never kissed a female and never experienced love or a relationship. Through the years I've come to discover that not all of us are meant to experience love. The one thing that needs to be acknowledged is that physical attraction determines the possibility of love and there are men like me who are so physically unattractive that love from a woman is never a possibility. I learned in in this life that no matter what you do, you will not be chosen because you are simple not good enough. We can all continue to believe the lie from women in this world that looks don't matter, when it clearly does more than ever before. An unattractive man with a great personality will only be put in the friend zone and no considered as a potential mate.
I feel like an island. I feel so alone in my convictions. I get laughed at, I deal with so many evil people, and it's getting closer and closer to much harder times. I've seen so many instances of long time love just DYING. i don't know if I'll ever be held in the same bed again. I'm a heretic. I'm a social pariah. I'm a non-conformist. I don't know if I deserve forever love after all the big mistakes I've made. I feel like a TOTAL FAILURE of a man.
Wow, Bianca!! Your Soul is Amazing!! I've not heard such words before:) Many Many Smiles and Cheers!! You Are Awesome and Beautiful like Luna the Leopard!! You've Got Soul-Shine!! Loving. Kindness. Worldwide:) 💛💛🐈⬛🐈⬛💛💛 🐈⬛🐈⬛💛💛🐈⬛🐈⬛
I used to hope like this untill a COVERT narcissist came along an seemed to be those things untill i gave up my home and moved im with him.. Be careful dear. Your heart makes you a target 😢
The problem is I miss treated my ex’s heart for a long time and she started to withdraw when I started to clean up my act and really fall in love with my ex
I don't have anything to give but only love..i don't have money, i don't have any house, i don't have any asset, i lost my father, i don't anyone who can support me. I only have a small job and a responsibility to take care of my mother, sister and my niece financially, mentally and in every way. People like me does deserve a family? Does I deserve a loving husband? Does I even deserve to be a mother...? Boys showed pity on me..they want to love me only for time pass but not for life long committed relationship. I know I don’t have much to offer in a relationship other than love, loyalty...but they rejected me as i have issues in life. So many times i have been rejected for this reason..so.. I really don’t think that i deserve any love.. I don’t deserve love, loving husband, children...I ACTUALLY DESERVE NOTHING...
Biologically speaking, many of us will never be chosen. Our looks simply won't pull them. I'm 45, and all I ever wanted was a Valentines date one time...not happening.
Some of us are too ugly, too old fashioned and too old for love. Not to mention there are some of us having disabilities that guarantee no love. It hurts, but this is the reality. I was never attractive enough, never religious enough and often too serious to be given a chance. At 44, I raise a white flag of defeat. I will never find a spouse and will never have children.
Oh Baby your my answer now. You just made me forget all about her. ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤ Who needs her since I met you! 🎉 Your the missing link to my heart! She can go to HELL! Only eyes 👀 for you now! 💋 💜 😂
Hopeful too, but I don't think there's anyone out there like me🥹YEAHHHH...7...BILLION people and I can't find her🤣😆...WTF???...ur a sweetheart love 🙂thanks, God bless 🙂✌️❤🌞
My heart is so broken.....I broke my own heart cause I knew he didn't want a relationship he just wanted the benefits..I fooled myself into thinking I could handle it cause I loved him and maybe he would eventually love me back......he died about two weeks ago and now I feel broken and lost......💔💔💔💔
I've noticed that so many people are desperate to find real love. Everything she said here is true. But also, check on yourself, do the hard work of truly searching what makes you like the people you like. Work on yourself so hard that you know your value not because you are hot but because you broke the cycle and did the work you needed to do. Because you are capable of being by yourself. Look for the trauma, look for the shadow part of yourself.
There is no point in judging how others treat us if we are not willing to search inside. Take responsibility too.
Please don't think "finding the right person" will change your life or it will make you happy.
Put your expectations on yourself, in how you live your life, and stop caring about other people's life (including those who look like they have a perfect life).
Focus on being thankful for the many forms of love you experience daily. Do not waste time holding grudges because a relationship didn't go the way you wanted, don't blame yourself or other people. You got to love the process, not only the goals.
There is love out there for you.
Love this!! Pour into yourself first so others can know what kind of love your heart accepts 💕
Thank you. Yesterday, I chose to let go someone who isn't choosing me. I finally chose myself.
@@lazyoverthinker7194 you will never regret choosing yourself. I promise
@@ohlamaria697 aww thanks so much for your reply. Means a lot as I'm still trying to move on from this. 🤍
"You deserve to be loved and chosen..not Almost loved or Almost chosen" THat is ssoo truee .this explainns so much of me always feeling the ALMOST and not being worthy.
My heart is so broken.....I broke my own heart cause I knew he didn't want a relationship he just wanted the benefits..I fooled myself into thinking I could handle it cause I loved him and maybe he would eventually love me back......he died about two weeks ago and now I feel broken and lost......💔💔💔💔
A lot of us have been there. Forgive yourself. Hope you're doing well now ❤️
Hi can I ask how you moved on….
I'm so sorry for your loss. Sending you so much healing, love, and hope ❤
Sending you much peace and love❤Going through a difficult time as well, I know what grief feels like, love you!! Love yourself and take care of yourself, you did everything right ❤
@@margueritedrya9807 thank you! I needed that! Thank you so much !Sending you love as well!! Love you! We got this!!❤️
😮What wonderful words. Five minutes in and I said this is for me. Thank you sweet lady!!❤ At 72, hopeful is a good exercise.
Your words changed my perspective. Now you have a dedicated listener. Thank you. I’m not crazy crying. I’m not upset. I’m looking at it differently where if I let go and don’t put in all this effort, maybe someone meant for me will come for me. I’m dealing with not even getting bare minimum. I deserve better. Making room for something i deserve.
Hi Bianca, This was a very powerful podcast. It made me cry because I have witnessed that same type of love with my late parents. My mother had been permanently sick since a few years after I was born. I love seeing my parents together, and unfortunately that love I witnessed went away when my mother became sicker than usual in her last months I saw a change in my father that baffled me. I couldn't understand who was the man I was seeing in front of me during that time. I vowed from that day I did not want a future partner or love like that. I wanted the relationship I saw that my parents had a few years before my mom had fallen ill. I still believe in it, even though I have not met the right suitors. It is challenge to keep my heart open, I am trying though. Starting with fixing the broken pieces from 11yrs ago. I look forward to hearing more of your podcasts. Blessings ❤️🦋
.... this video made me cry, when I was hopeless.
.. Thank you.
I feel sadness and hopeless I'm so hurt but I'm grateful I came across this it helps!
Stay strong you got this ! This too shall pass
Thank you B! im literally crying here. I really needed to hear this episode. Today was one of those days where i felt negative and almost just gave up believing true love exist. but thank you for reaffirming that it does and it will happen one day.
* sends virtual tissues * you are not alone friend 🥺💜 we're so happy these words could help you out a little today 🌱☀️
Thank you for helping me not feel broken and unworthy.. and thank you giving me hope that I’ll find someone who can love me the way that I love
When I hear or read something from Bianca Sparacino I feel understood. I feel seen. I feel a sense of hope and encouragement knowing that there are other deep feelers and lovers in this world too. Thank you B for this beautiful heartwarming Podcast! I love you! 🌹
You're absolutely right.... Good afternoon how are you doing over there it's a lovely day that the lord has made
i reluctantly clicked on this video half thinking "oh great more love advice" but your words and sentiment were heart felt and genuinely helpful for me at a really low point. Thankyou so much for the reminder
.... this is one of the most beautiful things I've ever watched in my life.
Bianca! I bought your book !Gentle reminder" and it's the first thing I read in the morning and the last thing that comes into my consciousness. Your words are truly special and healing! Thank you for sharing your light, love and your beautiful soul. I admire you so much:) You inspire us to spread love too:) Thank you for being you! By Miku
Miku, thank you for sharing such kind words 🤗 We are so honored to be a part of your beautiful healing journey 🌻☀️ Keep going, we are here for you 💛
The love you describe is the love I have the capacity to give a woman just haven't found the one life partner that will love me the way I do and matches me on that intensity too
Oh this is exactly exactly how I’ve been feeling loved your book and discovered your podcast never felt words so comforting thank yoy
I think my personal practice on finding love, and not only romantic... I want friends who see and appreciate my heart as well. But I am cultivating a practice of leaning into love from a wise and discerning space, rather than a naive space. Awesome episode!
Beautifully said! Us empaths have to stick together 🥺💞💞
Thanks B, this is such a beautiful message for my heart, and I believe many of us have healed in somehow by listening to your words. I truly wish all of us the soul we all deserve ❤️
Wow, thank you for listening & connecting with us 🎧💓 We are so honored to be a part of your beautiful healing journey 🌻☀️ Keep going, we are here for you 💛
Thank you!❤️
This was so sweet, needed the lift
Ive never even been almost chosen, you cant help but think something MUST be wrong with you
I met a friend at work 5 years ago. I instantly bonded with her & we began hanging out. 8 months later, she left for her hometown & it hurt to see her go. I tried maintaining our friendship even after she left, and it worked for a while. After one bad incident at a theme park, she avoided me for 2 years. We cleared the air about a lot in Jan 2023 & I thought things were finally gonna get better. As of June 2023, we went our separate ways and I was blocked off due to bringing up our past again. I’ve been severely depressed since & I miss her very much. I screwed our friendship all because I couldn’t let go of past issues.
I am sorry to hear that! How does it feel now? What happened?
... this made me cry, like few other things in my life.
Because I AM like yo Bianca. My heart, it is like yours.
And.. the kind of love, that you're talking about, the one of your parents... it's the same my mom and dad had. I've seen it too, with my own eyes.
.. but, since my Dad died, .. I think I kinda stopped believing in it.
... this video, reminded me of who I am. Of the kind of things I believed in, and searched for.. It reminded me of the person I've always been.
And I can't thank you enough for that.
I don't feel like I will ever find real love
Future? The future I dreamed about is gone. I’m 53 and never been in a relationship. At this point in life I’ve completely lost interest. I now realize there was no point in ever pursuing it in the first place. There are several things I did well in life, but love wasn’t one of them. It’s just that simple, no need to complicate it.
If you are 53 and never had a relationship, you didn't loose interest: You never had it
it’s never too late. look at how many people ended up accomplishing great things at even 80 years old.
But despite all that hopelessness, you survived. You're still alive. That's your greatest accomplishment.
@@joseandrada264 not true. I never said it was for lack effort.
I feel so discouraged and hurt....💔💔
dang....i really needed this video today
It is an addiction for the priviledged. One must focus on oneself and it's liberation.
beautiful message thank you
I really needed this. Thank you. ❤
I love this podcast, love your voice.
After 35 years, there's no one out there for me. Done.
Don’t say that Kirk you still can and will find love, age is literally just time… time is what? Nothing right? Time is nothing so age is nothing.
Really odd but perfect timing. Thank you, I think love is bullshit, and I haven't felt it from a romantic partner thus far so yes I don't believe it exists... thank you for this video 🙏❤ I needed to hear this and I know a lot of other people probably do to.
Sending you light & love ☀️💛
Thank you so much
No one deserves to be loved.
Love is a sacrificial gift.
If we deserved love we could demand it like a worker demands their wages.
Until love is understood as a sacrificial gift, it will never be fully appreciated.
Today, tell someone who loves you, 'thank you for loving me'.
I believe that I don't deserve love,and I don't know how to handel it. It's painful. My heart hurts
I wasted four and a half years thinking he would finally chose me pick me love me and then he died I am so confused and hurt........why wasn't I good enough??😪
looking forward to hear this soon!! 🤍🌱
Thank you for listening & connecting with us 🎧🖤 Let us know if there are any topics you'd like to hear B cover in future episodes 🤗
Love is sacrifice. I fell in love with him after 4 years of friendship but he still only wanted to be friends and my heart was extremely broken to pieces and that was because I loved him so much. Its been 9 months of highs and terrible lows. We didn't hear from each other for 4 months. Then I had a tremendous urge to call him so overpowering because a mutual friend had said he might be moving to another country and that hurt me so badly that I would never see him again. I thought it would go to his voicemail because he should have been at work but ge answered and I just straight up answered Mark, are you moving to another country? And he thought it was a job calling for him but then he said , "Jan?" Now we are talking again. Where this goes from here is in God's hands.
What you have said is heart warming, thank you for this. Lol
Thank you so much ❤❤
Waiting for this
Thank you for listening & connecting with us 🎧🖤🤗
I'm a 47 year old man that has never kissed a female and never experienced love or a relationship. Through the years I've come to discover that not all of us are meant to experience love. The one thing that needs to be acknowledged is that physical attraction determines the possibility of love and there are men like me who are so physically unattractive that love from a woman is never a possibility. I learned in in this life that no matter what you do, you will not be chosen because you are simple not good enough. We can all continue to believe the lie from women in this world that looks don't matter, when it clearly does more than ever before. An unattractive man with a great personality will only be put in the friend zone and no considered as a potential mate.
I've been waiting for this one for so long. And I predict it will hurt ...
We are here for you ❤️
@@thoughtcatalog awww thank you for voicing all the thoughts we can not give a voice to by ourselves.
Love does not exist. I'm 35 and I've Never Been Loved. I have been told I'm too kind
Then you're special 🤍
Thanks.
He hurt my but I still love him and can’t forget him
Me too. Now he wants to know if I want to go to his possible wedding. Told him I don't know that yet but really I never will be able to.
I feel like an island. I feel so alone in my convictions. I get laughed at, I deal with so many evil people, and it's getting closer and closer to much harder times. I've seen so many instances of long time love just DYING. i don't know if I'll ever be held in the same bed again. I'm a heretic. I'm a social pariah. I'm a non-conformist. I don't know if I deserve forever love after all the big mistakes I've made. I feel like a TOTAL FAILURE of a man.
Wow, Bianca!!
Your Soul is Amazing!!
I've not heard such words before:)
Many Many Smiles and Cheers!!
You Are Awesome and Beautiful like Luna the Leopard!!
You've Got Soul-Shine!!
Loving. Kindness. Worldwide:)
💛💛🐈⬛🐈⬛💛💛
🐈⬛🐈⬛💛💛🐈⬛🐈⬛
Will this be available in podcast form?
I need this!!!!
I used to hope like this untill a COVERT narcissist came along an seemed to be those things untill i gave up my home and moved im with him.. Be careful dear. Your heart makes you a target 😢
You deserve to be loved and chosen not almost loved and almost chosen. .👆 Book name please?
The problem is I miss treated my ex’s heart for a long time and she started to withdraw when I started to clean up my act and really fall in love with my ex
I don't have anything to give but only love..i don't have money, i don't have any house, i don't have any asset, i lost my father, i don't anyone who can support me. I only have a small job and a responsibility to take care of my mother, sister and my niece financially, mentally and in every way.
People like me does deserve a family? Does I deserve a loving husband? Does I even deserve to be a mother...?
Boys showed pity on me..they want to love me only for time pass but not for life long committed relationship. I know I don’t have much to offer in a relationship other than love, loyalty...but they rejected me as i have issues in life.
So many times i have been rejected for this reason..so.. I really don’t think that i deserve any love.. I don’t deserve love, loving husband, children...I ACTUALLY DESERVE NOTHING...
Biologically speaking, many of us will never be chosen. Our looks simply won't pull them.
I'm 45, and all I ever wanted was a Valentines date one time...not happening.
Same, still wanting one of those
Some of us are too ugly, too old fashioned and too old for love. Not to mention there are some of us having disabilities that guarantee no love. It hurts, but this is the reality. I was never attractive enough, never religious enough and often too serious to be given a chance. At 44, I raise a white flag of defeat. I will never find a spouse and will never have children.
Omg don’t say that!!! I’m pretty sure that your person is somewhere out there!!! 😢 are you okay?
❤️🙌❤️ Wooow
For me true love has to come through God. The bible says God IS love. I think it will only last following biblical principles.
Y are so beautiful😍
Inside and out
B, where is that candle from?
You can find the candle & B's books at ShopCatalog.com :) Thanks for listening!
@@thoughtcatalog do you have any idea if you will be shipping in Canada at some point?
@@sunshinestar6076 We ship worldwide ❤️
@@thoughtcatalog i tried for the 4 candles and it says no shipping to Canada…
Do I really deserve love, though?
Treat yourself with love get a taste of your own medicine 🥰❤️
Look for God. He will help you.
Oh Baby your my answer now. You just made me forget all about her. ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤ Who needs her since I met you! 🎉 Your the missing link to my heart! She can go to HELL! Only eyes 👀 for you now! 💋 💜 😂
This was one of the most sweetest most beautiful videos I’ve ever watched. This helped so much.🥹♥️
Z
In your feelings? Smh. That’s the problem with people today they are so worried about their feelings they can’t think.
Hopeful too, but I don't think there's anyone out there like me🥹YEAHHHH...7...BILLION people and I can't find her🤣😆...WTF???...ur a sweetheart love 🙂thanks, God bless 🙂✌️❤🌞
My heart is so broken.....I broke my own heart cause I knew he didn't want a relationship he just wanted the benefits..I fooled myself into thinking I could handle it cause I loved him and maybe he would eventually love me back......he died about two weeks ago and now I feel broken and lost......💔💔💔💔