Boundaries that make narcissists uncomfortable
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They don’t like boundaries because it stops the love bombing and supply cycle! And the ultimate boundary is NO CONTACT ❤🎉
Right on, it works too!🎉
That is very true especially with non family
Yep... knew someone like this, they were so used to getting supply from everyone else and couldn't believe they weren't from me and that I saw through them. Be ready for the smear campaign and triangulation after this though.
Bingo
No contact for life, especially after what I just personally went through.
A simple word makes them uncomfortable: NO.
Boy is that true
Yes it does.. they do not like that or no thats not right when they lie straight to your face. Saying we are not friends we are not going to have a conversation. There's a few of them really.
You can't let them know what upsets you. You just give short no answers and no that's not true. And pause done elaborate. Do not tell them anything about your life and flat outnjust ignore their calls and do not speak to them at all. Don't acknowledge their existence. They only use it against you and look for a wedge between you snd their children and women are way worst than men with my experience. Especially if it's her son you are with. Just no contact fully it's best. They will make sly comments to your face and play it off like a joke. When you say something they get upset and say I was just making a joke and now they are upset bc you just don't understand them and their humor. Again no apologies just victim mentality. One thing I learned from theb1st male narcissist was to not apologize. She hates that I eont do that and demands it from her son and I refuse and tell him I've done nothing wrong and won't apologize for her delusions. Another reason she is doing a smear campaign on me now.
If my boyfriends mother showed up and we told her that she would at least say ok I'll wait and keep trying to talk to us through the door and at the worst she may literally try to come in and watch bc she dreams of doing it with her son in my opinion. I can't stand her and she makes me very uncomfortable with her touchy Feely ways she is with her son to the point she tells me everywhere we go is their place and thats where he takes her. I mean really?? She threw a fit at Thanksgiving bc my family was there and they are very accepting of my boyfriend but not his mother and wasn't giving her full attention bc she was being awkward and tried to turn them against me which didn't work bx we are close but loving and respects each other's boundaries so they quit talking to her andbher son was busy with my family so she was angry and told me and him she's leaving early and wr said ok be careful driving home and I think she pooped her pants lol. She decided to stand by us for 20mins waiting for something god knows what andnwhen we ignored her then shebwent to the door and held it open for 20 more mins saying good bye over and over and that she was leaving and we said ok you said that an hour ago. She then slammed the door and left and guess what? Bo one cared and was happy she left bc she made everyone uncomfortable anyway so good riddance. This is what I have to deal with. And crazy enough it's even more that she's done. I'm tired and posted enough times here so I'll stop now and I'm going to bed lol. This was stressful just typing it out it's that bad.
That's a complete sentence, right there 👍
My boundaries didn't work until l realised boundaries are about me and for me.
Yes, I heard don't even tell them what your boundaries now that you are putting up - just put them up for you! and move on and go 'no contact' if necessary.
They will always overstep others boundaries because they don't even respect themselves.
Good stuff ...application way better than declarations .
Kevin, you are by far, the most realistic, authentic RUclipsr on the topic of narcissism. I love how you don't pull any punches or sugar coat anything. I always give your videos a like as soon as they start playing.
It's so refreshing hearing someone who gets to the point! TRUTH 💯!
We can all relate to his stories because Narcs are all the same. Once you figured one out, you have figured them all out! They function in the same manner.
Kevin is the best!!
. . . I agree and I also appreciate when you share your personal stories with us out here! I helps to really feel we are not alone.
Very good for sure. Listen to Richard Grannon too amazing.
Also he's one of the most authentically practical Christians speaking on this topic I've seen. Most Christians advise to just pray for the narc and turn the other cheek and bend over for more.
Yes I'm new but he's my coach! I have so much more understanding. Cigar, coat, conversation! 😁
You are so right. Tried telling people how they’ve hurt me - it was only ammo. They kept doing the same which hurt even more. Finally, blocked these people in my family. No more pictures or texts from them. Free at last…
The worst thing you can do is try to tell these people how you feel. You will be gaslit and there will be no reflection or apologies. It’s super hard to do when it’s family and there is guilt but I finally gave up.
Me too plus I always knew I was sacrificing myself, had enough love to spread around in spite of earlier abuses but heck, I deserved to be doormat treated didn't I!
Never apologize for taking back your life from a malignant narcissistist
And never apologize for giving them the once over when your finally pushed too far.
@@janiced.hatcher1272 Exactly
The one thing I wish I had never done, was tell a narcissist what I dislike. They are waiting to find out what you dislike, so they can do it, over and over. They love when you are on a hamster wheel constantly explaining why you didn't like it.
That would explain why they do stuff just to piss you off.
@feckless7989 I'm thinking that you'd be aware that a lot of narcissistic, or just plain rude, neighbours will keep doing what annoys other ones when they've been politely asked to turn loud music down, or whatever the reason for the issue. 🙁
Yes!! My soon to be ez used all my boundaries against me!! Everything I said that I didn't won't done to. Me he did!
if I tell her I dont like sex , will she have sex with me ?
These sites have taught me to Grey Rock with great skill. I am the most boring person in the world.
Oh I thought I was
@@laurac.9322 LOL I was fixing broken water pipes (bad freeze) for my elderly parents just this evening and my mother had to start in on me. She started up with, "Have you met someone yet? You never share anything with me and I wonder what's going on in your life." I just gave her the "stare" and said, "There's not a damn thing for you to report to anyone.. Your water line is fixed. Have a nice evening."
Me too. Apparently I'm cleaning my house non stop
I am because I'm constantly cleaning all the time. When I do see them they're always asking me where did I get those shoes, purse or something. I'm not always shopping, they just aren't invited very much to my home.
With a normal person, they respect a boundary, but with a narcissist, they now know exactly what to take aim at.
Sometimes I have this feeling, while listening to channels like Kevin's - that we all met the same person, just in different human shapes, do you too?
And Kevin, really, thank you for keeping me sane.
Yes all textbook, devil's clones!
Oh yeah, Satan's family
Demons in human clothes.
It crazy isn't it? I feel like Kevin is in my head! Lol 😂
My final straw after 35 years - he mocked me in my grief in the death of my mother 3 days earlier. Timing & ultimate cruelty.
sorry about that bro. Mine once asked me if I like her nail polish 5 minutes after finding out a close friend of mine died suddenly of a heart attack
Yes, action, not words for your boundaries.
When someone turns up to my front door and they weren't invited, I don't answer it. It doesn't require me to compromise myself.
That's exactly what I thought, but Kevin's suggestion did make me laugh, which I needed! 😊
Over the last year my husband and I tried doing talks, letters, and calls with my parents and it only resulted in worse gaslighting, scapegoating and boundary violations. Ended up going no contact after getting the silent treatment (that lasts for weeks at a minimum) once again. I am now taking advantage that ongoing silence to begin healing. We tried everything. All that was left to protect myself, our marriage and my kids was to walk away from my family of origin. I refuse to continue the generational trauma.
I was told to put the past behind us and move forward together, this was after my brother was trashed in a family meeting and was suicidal I vowed I would never be treated the same but here we are.
My boundary is no contact.
Narcissists dont have boundaries and thats why they dont understand or get when others do and then they wonder why their lives are full of chaos, because they let everyone in and stay in everyone else's business but their own and then wonder why they stay psychotic.
wow , this is exactly what i,m dealing w/now
They tell everyone their business. But then complain how people take advantage of them.
They meet people and all of a sudden, they're besties. Like in elementary.
They ask people to do take care of their personal affairs.
Like give his credit card etc...
Weird to me!
I set a boundary and holy hell my aunts freaked out and started calling my husband and calling my mom. They went as far as to talk crap about me and how I'm tearing a family apart but then literally cried and didn't know why I don't want to see them for the holidays. Bunch if freaks for sure. I completely blocked both of them and haven't talked to them since yet it's been almost 2 months and they are still freaking out. Weirdos.
Lol 😂
YEP! AUNT AND BROTHER...NO MORE CONTACT EVER AGAIN!!!!!!!
My absense doesn't make them uncomfortable. They don't want me there period.
Yep.
@blessed7927 they cut us off from seeing our grandkids. And have said if we try to go by to see them they will file for a restraining order. My narcopath son goes to court soon for the CDV he has from 2 years ago. Choked his wife in front of the baby. I'm praying for justice! And in the meantime have gone no contact. I don't believe for one minute it has caused them to be uncomfortable because it's exactly what they wanted!
Thank you for comparing narcissists to stinky skunk. I’ve never heard a more accurate representation.
What breaks my heart is I as an adult, saw my family for what they are. But they pulled ugly crap on my youngest, who is autistic, just because they hurt her feelings. I thought it was just me, but nope, they are just a holes,I took her, we left and I only spoke to my own mother 1 other time before she passed. I had to protect my kid.
Seems like I always have to defend myself which only causes more drama. That is my mistake. Now I know how to do it without having to fight for respect. Thank you!
D.E.E.P. - an acronym I saw on Dr. Ramani's videos! Don't 'Defend', Don't 'Explain', Don't 'Engage' and Don't 'Personalize'.
Narcissist have so much to say, yet don't actually say anything at all. We don't say anything and it says it all. Let that sink in friends.
Don't give your vital energy away to these life force sucking vampires. They're bottomless pits.
The lectures . I get them constantly
They understand very well.
They just pretend to not geht it, because they don't care.
Went no contact with most of my family over 20 years ago and they STILL talk smack about me! I just shake my head and chuckle when I hear about it.
GOOD FOR YOU!! SOME FAMILY MEMBERS JUST DON'T HAVE THE CHARACTER AND INTEGRITY IT TAKES TO BE IN OUR LIVES!!
My neighbor dismissed every boundary I tried. I had to document everything and eventually call the cops. Amazingly calling the cops WORKED! She responded to that hahaha
I called the police n after, this one got nasty. No respect for boundaries at all. Lorded it up over the police too. Unbelievable🤪🙄🤥
The best way to assess new people or in my case a new man is when I say no to a man and see how he reacts....
This does make sense. I had a last conversation with my husband about the Pain he's put me through from his Cheating...one last talk and since then I stopped communicating with him...no eye contact....nothing! I'm OUT of the FOG and can see Who he really is....and my feelings for him are totally gone.....but I still have to live under the same roof and only in a 900 sq. foot home. Now I live like he's not even there..I go about my business....I go to the gym, I garden, I hike, I do my Art Paintings...and go out to meet likeminded people...I'm 71 yrs old and been Hurting and putting up with his SHIT for so long.... I found that he Can't hurt me.....because I just don't care anymore what comes out of his mouth and looking at him brings out the hate I have for him....sooooo I stopped Eye contact...and when he starts to say something to me.......I WALK AWAY..it's sad and awful to live this way...I don't have the funds to leave, so I have to cope with this Narcissistic ass who now can't control or hurt me.....because I JUST DON"T CARE ANYMORE.
I had the same situation, he hated me not showing emotions only surface communication. He always tried to break down that boundary with his games😮 I never gave in! Living like this will take its toll on you , if you can get out, do it. I lost everything leaving but I gained my freedom.xx good luck. ❤
I'm sorry you are stuck in this situation. I'm in similar situation. So far gardening and gym proved to be great ways to get some happiness and avoid conflict :) Painting must be a great hobby too. Take care ❤
Same here... When the realization hits it pains more to know you unable move out n have to see his face everyday.. You have huge strength to face him and still go about your business. ❤
The gaslighting is insane
It's the Hannibal Lecture of doubt and hypnosis,
LMAO 🤣 "Having sex is a priority over dealing with toxic people " 😂😂😂 but seriously... everything said here is exactly on point! I too experienced the mockery that's crazy how they all do the same shit. Great points in this video 👍
Yes it's absolutely nuts how they all act the same and play off the same playbook.
It sounds like applying boundaries is kind of like going "no contact" when they are right there waiting for your attention.
I had a picture on the wall about boundaries that was ripped down by the narcissist , surprise surprise lol
😂
Funny that! 🤭
I'm A Teacher...That's Like Posting The Class Rules And Your Students Totally Ignore Them....
Really appreciate the importance of actually doing something rather just saying something! I’m totally onboard with that! Had to install major locks where I live to keep the skunks out. No more Mr. Nice Guy!
Absolute game changer 😊
Exactly!!! Keep them scared be unpredictable
Such a great post, so so true. Thanks for this reminder. The person in question mocked my boundaries, got resentful on me, protesting my boundaries n attempted to make me feel bad for having that self autonomy. Had this happen with a few people in the past too. Had to cut em off. Ps I love the skunk n rats analogy / symbology, made me laugh.
My family would laugh their butts off if I called a meeting and tried to explain why I need to apply boundaries to our relationship. They'd make jokes about it afterwards for months!
Mine would deny everything.
This is just awesome and I stumbled on it after a week of sheer hell… much needed… “when the student is ready the teacher appears”
How true, huge thanks x
My father just showed up at my house exactly after my ex and I had just had sex! Had it not been that, I would have accepted his visit. I said he needed to call first. His entitled response was, "I should be able to visit my daughters whenever I want," and he went away in anger 🤭
They love to mock you. Like a juvenile delinquent. When they do that I make sure I let them know how immature they really are.
Closing the door in their faces works well when family members just show up. My mother stopped when she walked into my apartment unannounced (the door wasn't locked), and told me to get up and wash my dishes. I told her that the soap and dishcloth were under the sink, knock yourself out. She never came back.
Makes a whole lot of sense. I made all the mistakes of declaring my boundaries. They were all ignored or used as ammunition. My whole family shunned me. Until I decided quietly to shun them. Then they changed the narrative and said I ghosted them. That I was being controlled. Okay. They have tried to triangulate cousins and others to pry and offer to help draw me back in. My answer is “no thanks” every time.
Just made a few this week ..boundaries for my space and have to show it in action. “I leave the house free of your last minute demands.. write me a note if you have request etc..I need to leave and feel free to start my day and be focused “
i got lectured at by a bunch of narcissistic women about "sisterhood" when I put up boundaries against their covert abuse and toxic BS. I was feeling so attacked until God led me to this video. This is all exactly what I'm going through; a psychological assault on my mind to stop me from enforcing my boundaries aggressively. Because now these narcs are actually starting to feel the pain.
Mocking was a daily thing with my narc ex. It's sad looking back at it now, but being so weak in the moment when it was happening. My only regret is letting myself down when I needed me most. Ok the brightside, my work with boundaries has improved 100% in the last year. Thank you for your videos, they are very helpful ❤️
It blew my mind! I told him this is not cool. It's a disrespectful to me to our relationship. It's unacceptable. And he would do more of it.
I had a major fight with him and that night, there he was doing it!!!!!
Before knowing about this tactic, I felt he did it to hurt me. To prove that I couldn't control him and dictate his behavior, his life!!!
Makes perfect sense. Explaining boundaries is a joke to them. Applying nips it in the bud. I have lived it. Thank you Kevin.
Indoor or outdoor cameras. My neighbour is always up to no good, and a total narc with enabler mother, flying monkeys, and random men she picks up and drags into her lair - even with her kids home! I took all steps necessary, and then was gaslit by the police --about the camera!!! He didn’t have a leg to stand on, since it is faced on a public parking area. After quoting him the law, I escorted him out the door, and decided this is all in God’s hands. Planning to move back home to America.
I put up a boundary when Kevin ghosted me on my appointment asking for a refund. He was unresponsive and kept my money. Great job respecting people OR Their boundaries, Kevin. Watch out if you want to buy time from him.
I’ve been there too. Definitely need to show them, stand firm & follow through ! Also in my situation- live at least 30 minutes away from these types of families because typically they will not make the effort to go that far to visit you or anyone else - they expect people to come to them .
😳😳😳 holy cow Kevin how about just NOT ANSWERING THE DOOR, TAKE THE HIGH ROAD AND SIMPLY LOCK YOUR DOOR AND DON'T ANSWER IT ... rather than joining them & trying to outshock them!! They want it to be a competition, so why indulge them? 🤦
I mentioned not answering the door out loud because I wouldn't even consider doing what Kevin suggested, especially with family members! I did laugh about it though.
I'm thinking that he might not have meant it, yet he seemed serious and didn't say not to do so at the end. 🙈
You're RIGHT! It takes a while to understand that they DO use what we say AGAINST us to mock us. I got angry with my narcissistic sisters husband for having porn magazines around their KIDS & they MOCKED me, by texting a picture of a naked man & had their son call me JUST to tell me that he is ALSO a pervert like his Dad. I just don't BOTHER answering the door, phone calls or texts. Before I knew about narcisism, I DID write them a long letter & text, listing ALL of their bad behaviors, as ALL of the REASONS why I REFUSE to talk to them & it WORKED! They don't bother me anymore! 😂
Love you being yourself here and smoking your sigar.!
@forhisglory_ awww thank you! 😊
I needed this video. I have been declaring my boundaries for so long and just now starting to learn how to apply them. The hard part is doing it in real time.
It never sinks in. They ignore you and your boundaries. You become a broken record. It's like you can't take sense into them. They're not having it. Spoiled brats. I'm almost thinking that I have to turn into them, the narcissist. If you can't beat em join em....lol. Be the narcissist right back at them. They are not worthy of us. End of story.
You can't talk sense into them.
I've listened to many Podcasters on Narcissism; but you are the most down to earth and give anecdotes and realistic advice that hits right to the core.
You are so on point, so funny & get right to the truth of the matter. ! Love your straight forward way of describing exactly what these people are & how they act. Thank you..for validating my reality. They are soo toxic & evil in my estimation.
Skunks & rodents..lol..😂I needed a laugh .
You just described my life..
Yes, I am going through that right now. I try and try and forgive and forgive. And every time he knows that I still feel for him, he hits me back and smashes me into the ground with his evil words
Hi all, I would like to give you a little gem. When it comes to boundaries use your health. It's a strong boundary for me as I value my well being now over others(that don't care about me) Zero tolerance is applied boundaries. I made my narc uncomfortable by their own doing. Their job can be threatened by what they're saying and how much they don't match the character they're playing. This person values money and their job as it makes them seem like they care. So scummy these people
It depends on the person and relationship of course but I believe in giving them a chance before erecting the boundaries. Thats the declaration. But after that, apply apply and apply some more.
“Rational sit down” lol not gonna happen 😂😂
If it does it goes in one ear and out the other or a barage of excuses
You are completely right about this…
However, the narc also gets mad and uses it as ammunition when you apply those boundaries too. They dont like ‘no’ in any way shape or manner.
❤ Amen! Apologize for wasting time with you.
Thank you for sharing what applied boundaries actually look like in practice!
I only did the naked door answering to solicitors. 😅
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I hope they didn't keep returning to see you though! ☺
@@cyndigooch1162 😍
@@cyndigooch1162 🤣
You want to wait? It’s going to be a couple hours..😂that’s a great idea!
Now that’s a real man…"a couple hours”!!!❤
This is why therapy is education to one up on you. Nothing worse than a narcissist who spouts out therapy language to confuse you and make themselves look more intelligent and then say, oh I'm sorry you feel that way 🤮
I learned this through much reading and love how you made an easy sentence to remember. Applying boundaries vs declaring boundaries. #applyboundaries #bold #assettive for ourselves! Saves our energy too.
I needed this because i need to know more about boundaries 😪
This info is the best ammunition ever. Very grateful.
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I haven't laughed that hard in a long time. Thanks, Kevin!!
1:25 just sick. I hate them so much
This is absolutely one of your best videos ❤. Thank you!!
Thanks for keeping things REAL 💯!! You describe them perfectly! They are all exactly the same!!
Could you do a video on the book of "Job" in reference to narc abuse?
Would love your insight!
My mother in law showed up my door without asking many times. She cried that she is not invited to our private party. She goes around and trash talk about me to my husband. Finally enough is enough. I set a firm boundary and it’s the most effective way to save my positive energy.
Strip naked and open the door …. 😂😂😂 good one! In my experience if you just tell them NO a bunch of times and then hang up the phone while their screaming will do the trick. They will be gone.
Great information 👍
Be you. Happy healing. ❤
This is true. All I got was "Oh, our family has issues" ha, ha,ha,ha,ha...
What you’re saying is “This is my life, I’m living my life, and you are going to respect my boundaries, my time. Make them uncomfortable (eg by your absence, as they can’t control you.). Build boundaries around you.”
Thank you! I did this once but not on purpose. I was at working chatting with a colleague in her office when a narcissist comes over looking for attention. In her mind she believed we’re friends. We’re not. She bulldozed her way into our conversation so I looked at my friend like, is she talking to you? But my friend looked at me like, I thought she was talking to you. She was SO uncomfortable she excused herself.
This has really made me laugh. Applied boundaries naked!!
Thank you for the work that you do. 🙏
This is such a confirmation Mr. Royal We!! Like most, I had such a hard time grasping the concept of what boundaries were…… I heard a saying a while back that goes, “ If you want to be taken seriously, don’t explicate, demonstrate.” Then I learned that boundaries are to be “enforced”, in other words followed up with an action.. Then I learned to “give them the gift of your absence “ …. This video tied it all together for me: at the core essence of boundaries, are ACTIONS performed on one’s own behalf. Thanks for your ministry!! ~ We need it!!!
My wife’s parents would show up whenever they wanted unannounced. Drove me up the wall. Told my wife she needs to deal with it because she wouldn’t want me to. They continued to do it and would ask my wife if she spoke with them yet and she would make excuses. Her mother is a toxic narcissist and has full control of my wife and it’s scary stuff.
I can confirm this after years of experience with this strategy.
I found out how narcissist men and women get in relationship, when you told them youre not yet ready they will insist on it and entitled enough to announce youre a couple already
I love the cigar. It is a statement !
This is such valuable insight. I have a combo overt/covert narc mom who constantly thinks she's mother Also to my children. But thankfully my kids already know who better to listen to 😊
So on point as usual I just love your videos I don't feel a victim and I take accountability for my role in this too.
Perfect sense....you know your stuff, so helpful, thanks so much for this
I really appreciated this advice - thank you.
Uf they show up unannounced, don't answer the door. Don't even acknowledge the door, doorbell, their calls, etc.
If/when they bring it up later (not at that time), say nothing. IF they call first, be sure to at least answerthe doot so they know the difference between what happens when they do not call vs when they do call.
No insult to dogs, but it's very similar to training a dog.
You are so on point. I was laughing to myself about the "answering the door". So funny 🤣🤣🤣
For me we must think about the moment we think that our boundaries have efficiency. For me we make boundaries in hope to be respected. We may think about at what time we think somebody respect us. We may outline our needs and follow if they have been fulfiled.
I seem to be setting the world record on the number of narcs in my life and the no contact or minimal contact I am setting. Fled the country and cut contact with my narc mother and her slave - my father. Finally went no contact on my brother and stupid sister in law. Threw my narc friend out of my life with the AH landing on her ass. She tried her best to crawl back into the toxic relationship through so many other people - no success. Once I kick a narc out, that is it.
Finally left my narc husband to go on 6-7 months holiday every year, self repairing and making good friends. Any more narcs out there? Send them my way. They will go flying out with a resounding kick on their ugly backside 😂
Sound advice Kevin, thank you!
I think you are the best at explaining all about the narcissts I love yoy on you tube it gives me a better understanding of what makes them thick I hate them there everywhere
When I told my narcissts neighbour to stop coping what I do she started doing it more
Thease people don't have a clue they have to copy