the beautiful thing about Theo is his ability to perfectly relate his feelings of deep insecurity, while simultaneously saying the funniest, most out of pocket thing you could hear all day.
you can. its because he's expressing himself all the time. he's practiced in opening up. many people that I know that have a beautiful soul but have a hard time articulating it because of their own internal judgement.
You can friend. Just be honest, it's hard at first, years of penting up, years of being afraid to for a multitude of reasons, to protect yourself, etc. Just try, and you'll stumble, womble, fall off the way. That's okay, as long as when you realize it, you course correct, and it'll likely happen again, don't be discouraged, recognize, reflect, and get up again. If it takes a million times, you'll get it at a million and one, and I realize that may sound disheartening at first, but you've got all the time in the world when you think about it, because time is all you really have. It's impermanent sure, but y'know the old rhyme, Row Row Row Your Boat. Take a leap of faith, and recognize that sometimes you'll win some, and sometimes you'll lose some. Just remind yourself of these little things, and keep at it. You'll find your way in good time. I wish you the best internet stranger, best of luck to you.
Dark truth is that no one cares People would rather see you fail than you succeed, as it can justify their own flaws. As much as i want to admit that I’m a good person, it won’t take angry emotions of wanting vengeance, from those who’ve wronged me. You might have people who are rooting for you, and they need to be kept close and supported. Forgiveness. Sometimes people really are alone, physically and mentally at worse. We really are struggling and only see our reflection in others and as a result we hurt both them and ourselves.
Nobody cares. The ones that do are outliers. It's our job to find the outliers who find our dysfunction endearing. People who would be like water for you and vice versa.
I'm about to turn 30 in August and I still live with my parents, which I'm ashamed of. I have lifelong depression which medication has helped a little but I'm still sad all the time. I got laid off 3 weeks ago from my job of 5 years that I got my brother and friend into last year (they still work there) and have mostly been laying in bed all day and staying up all night and going to the gym twice a week. Went through a breakup with the girl I love 4 months ago which still affects me. Life is fucking brutal. But these type of videos actually help. We need more content like this instead of all the negativity, which just reinforces everything bad in your brain. I always felt like a black sheep, but I feel a little less alone after watching this. If you read all of this, thank you for listening and I hope you're doing well.
Feel that dude. Same shit, feeling depressed, going through a breakup, failing at everything I do. You just gotta stay positive and try to move past all of that. Learn from the mistakes then put them aside. You can't dwell too much on the past or it'll consume you and you'll never live in the present. Life's so much more beautiful then you might think, you just gotta spend some time with yourself and how to manage your thoughts. Wishing you the best dude.
I feel you bro. I also resonate with you as I went through a breakup with a girl I love too. Man its exhausting but bro, it gets better. As cliche as it sounds there will be a breakthrough in your life which leads you to unparalleled joy man. Keep pushing man, much love.
Bro.. you can say you worked a job for 5 years, you can say you know dedication, discipline, and fitting in. There are work places that will understand and accept you - take this as a chance to face the world honestly and powerfully. You fucking got this mother fucker
I just want to say, thank you for still being around to share this with us. It’s hard, and I don’t know you, you don’t know me, but I love you brother. Human to human, I love you man, and life will get better, but you have to be around for it to get better. I don’t know if suicidal thoughts are something you struggle with or not I just felt like I should say that. Love you man, keep moving forward.
I started listening to this when I was shitting and now I’m sitting in my room with tears down my eyes because everything he says is actually something that resonates with me and I thank him for talking and being open about it and thank you to whoever put this together needed this
As an older brother the part about his brother was actually beautiful. I hope my younger brother feel like that towards me. i hope i can give him that.
I would be so fucked without my older brother. He struggled in more ways than I. But he always pushed forward. He helped me so many times, I looked up to him so much. What he said about his father, exactly my bro.. he was always there for me and helping me and he was the father figure. Classic he walked so you could run. I got him back during the end of university once I was on my feet. He worked and did university and kept us Alive while I was complaining about depression/ bp. He got me on my feet, taught me how to walk, taught me how to run, and was always there when I fell. ❤ Luv u guy
Speaking as a former class clown...i went home to a house that was a warzone...if dishes werent done my father would come home slam doorw scream spit in your face kick the dog...sometimes throw things...then a few days later sometimes that very same night after drinking "sorry i lost my temper"
@@tobaz4956 meh lost someone i loved last summer due to my own bs...have great job my own place $$ a truck...new tattoo...just had motorcycle accident...feel like im at top of mountain but im alone...and cant fix my mistakes so back in therapy...my dad is on meds now so less angry but still shitty to me...just wish i could feel normal
It's nice seeing a guy like Theo being so emotionally intelligent and eloquently spoken. We need more people who are comfortable with being vulnerable.
@@wacemarand yet he powers through and it speaks to people thats why these callers open up to him like that. Its truly inspiring but it must be a heavy burden aswell when people lean on you like that. Life aint easy when you care.
That section on judgement and feeling like you won... "the only thing I won, was being alone" "not only did I miss out on caring about people, but I probably missed out on feeling a lot of the love that the people have for me" The hardest part is remembering that every day and living better
the zerking off segment was actually really smart on Theo's side, he could hear the sadness and despair in the callers voice so he tried to just cheer him up instead. Maybe because he didn't know the answer or maybe because Theo was feeling the same way at that time, he resorted to making the man laugh and forget about his depression for even a little bit.
This was not really a joke. Compulsive masturbation is an unhealthy coping mechanism that is numbing and some people use when facing depression or anxiety.
it's incredible the emotional maturity and awareness it takes to even realize that these things are going on inside you. To even be aware that the reason you don't take care of yourself is you feel someone else has to... Thatt's a lot. It's years of therapy, and for some it's an unreachable state.
The "Lose" section is really profound to me. You do everything you can to make yourself lose so at least you feel you have some modicum of control over the situation. No risk, no fear of failure, no nothing... just comfort in resigning from life. Making things bad for yourself feels safer than actually trying, and I think that interaction is what defeats most people in their quest for a good life.
Holy crap man I never viewed my drinking problems that way but you are so right. I’d rather wreck myself alone in my room. This comment just opened my eyes to what I’ve been doing to myself.
"i never wanted to take care of myself because then I was doing somebody elses job" all I could think of when watching this video was the second half " when you look at me you're gonna see how much I hurt" hearing that first half again really made me connect how much of this relates to my realizations about my childhood & coming to terms with trauma. Learning to differentiate hurt from love. thanks
This man is doing so much for men. Suicide amongst men is rampant because so many people were never properly taught to process feelings and are ashamed to feel scared or depressed because that’s somehow not masculine. Our dads and our role models might not have had it taught to them either it’s not their fault, but we have an opportunity to break that curse this generation.
26 alone when I go out see happy couples and seeing dudes with they girl it gets to me hopefully one day I meet that one girl who loves me for being me and loves my flaws I hope every guy I here gets that some day love y’all god bless
25 here and same man. My childhood friends are engaged and married and I’m in a city with no family or friends. I keep having hope that one day God will provide but I have to make a change to make my life the life I want it to be
Keep your head up boys. It’ll find its way to you. But untill then be yourself and enjoy the things you enjoy. Don’t let the idea of someone else dictate your happiness. I wish nothing but the best for you guys. It’s a crazy world we live in. Don’t waste your short life wishing for something.
9:20 Hearing Theo talk about his dad really resonates with me. My biological father was never in my life much, and then my step-dad is like 45 years older than me which made it really tough to foster a close relationship with him. In my early to mid teens, we were not in a good spot at all and I resented him a lot, but now that I'm 22 and been away from my parents for a few years, I look back and see how much he did for me and I can kind of re-write some of those harder years and also take some personal responsibility for being a pain his butt. haha We have such good conversations about all kinds of stuff now and he's one of the primary people I go to when I need help or advice on something. Theo is the goat, man.
Watching this has me in tears. Theo speaks so honestly and freely, in a way that I wish that I could. He's so relatable. The man is a therapist for so many people without even realizing it. He allows himself to be vulnerable for the world to see, which is something I deeply fear, and yet - it makes me have so much respect for him. Through him I see that hiding your vulnerabilities isn't nearly as brave as showing them. Theo is such a gem. Protect him at ALL costs.
I’ve been feeling pretty good lately but I had friend pass away three years ago and he loved Theo and Theo even gave us a shoutout at one of his shows when we told him our friends story… this made me remember how me and my friend came to enjoy in Theo in the first place. Thank you
daniel you made it you love yourself now it gets better you're doing good now im so grateful for you and i know you don't love yourself right now but i love you i hope i come back here cause i know this is only the start but im still so proud of you, your good person daniel u going get the love u deserve i believe in you
The meaning of life is enjoying the passage of time (living, breathing, eating, sleeping to their fullest capabilities) taking care of the little things will bring gratitude towards yourself, from you, self respect
Been listening to Theo since probably 2016/17..religiously..I’d often turn off when he’d mention sobriety towards the end of active alcoholic life..took me to make the decision but could only listen to Theo and Bobby and others as well saying how 12 step does work..I think I knew all along having heard it said it does while celebrating my 21st birthday in rehab (only to escape jail I told myself). Theo will never know how much I needed his words in my hears..4/13/21 27 months alcohol free working on cigs/vaping..gang gang yall. It gets better. Be good be cool.
beautiful human being, Theo is such a wonderful guy, he really hits it home when explaining what it feels like to go through those hard times, he's like that one guy who gets it and that's comforting
I don't know what led me here. But boy, I'm so glad I found this. I hope everyone is feeling a little lighter. Hope for the hopeless, much love everyone.
Life is the beautiful thing I’ve ever done but it’s also the hardest thing I’ve ever done and man does it get tough sometimes It gets so tough that it sometimes gets hard to see the bright parts, I’m glad to be alive but it really has a way of bringing you to your knees sometimes
I love videos like this. A lot of people can't take comedians seriously when they open up about deep stuff like this but this video really captures the duality of humans. It shows that sometimes tragedy is what creates these comedic geniuses and that behind all of the jokes and bullshit there is another human being going through the same tough situations.
Theo being able to articulate himself in a way most of us aren't able to is so helpful to those who are in this place, I know RUclips isn't the best place to offload mentally, I just can't stand living this life where I'm drowned with responsibility, working a job that doesn't fulfill me and I'm just going to work doing something I don't want to do in order to scrape by every month. When I was a child, the world was my oyster full of opportunity and spontaneous moments, now it's just a drag every day and I can literally see the next 40 years of my life play out in front of me, I'm now 30 and feel completely stuck. I'm rooting for everyone who is struggling with this same problem, I hope you find what you need to give your life meaning. Somehow we're in this, whatever this is - together, let's keep trying to make something happen, there's always hope and that can never be taken away from us.
Theo put something into words that I've been trying to figure out for a while, at 12:44. That feeling of wrecking yourself in order to give your mental pain a physical form. 'When you look at me, you're gonna see how much I hurt'. It took me years to realise what Theo said next. At a certain point you realise, that YOU have to take care of yourself, even if you don't want to. Because the harsh truth is that few, if any, people are gonna really care that you're hurting. You have to be there for yourself.
“I don’t want to tell someone else that I care” bro I’ve felt like this for so long and now that I’m changing for the better I still can’t bring myself to show that I care. Idk why or even how to change it but I know that if I did I would become a whole lot better
Theo ist giving me a Light at the End of the Dark tunnel So i keep fighting through the Darkness until i've done it I would love to stay daily with Theo cause he is a good Soul and i think staying with him will heal you Thx Theo for beeing a big Part of my Motivation
I cried watching this. 2 minutes in and im bawling my eyes out. As a 26 year old young man, I’ve had to deal with a lot but more so myself and I’ve been running away from my problems. My first child is in Oklahoma with her mom because her mom is trying to get back at me, my mom walked out on my sister and I early on in our lives. I cry often yet my dad and sister don’t see me do it. I drown my feelings with weed, alcohol, or even sex. It’s hard to tell my sister that I need help because she sees me as competition. She struggles both mentally and emotionally as much as I do, only I tend to hide it better. I get ridiculed for being able to not show my stress. I’m not looking for a break, I’m looking for transparency and understanding. Keep your head up fellas! Theo is that step that we need to be ourselves and find out more about ourselves! Thank you for this edit! Much love from Oakland, California Brethren 🫡😎
“man im tired of not even being there for myself” that really hit especially in my life today. i know it’s bad to put others feelings and joy before mine but it genuinely makes me happy to see others happy and enjoying the life God gave us to enjoy. but in that, i forget about my happiness and making sure i am actually happy with everything. it’s just tough man and i as read through these comments, i realize that i am not alone in fighting these battles. and with theo talking about his personal experience, it really helps not only me, but everyone else watching these clips.
Theo has said some powerful things that really make me think, reflect, and feel grateful for everything i have. I havent been on the verge of suicide or anything, but theo has changed my life for the better.
This goddamned beautiful man has been getting me through one of the worst life situations i've had to deal with, it's so nice to know that theres so many other people struggling through and trying to help each other. I wish I could spend an hour or two on his podcast just chatting about life. Theo Von is otherworldly.
I admire Theo for being able to articulate his feelings, I wish many other men could do the same. I wish other men would just let out the pain they're feeling. Whether it's letting it out to a friend, family member, thin air, a piece of paper, or a complete stranger, we need to just let go and allow ourselves to live.
It comes from fear. Men are expected to be stoic and strong but feeling emotions is human. Bottling it up is never healthy and can lead you down a very dark path.
When this was uploaded, i was realising that my relationship with my now ex girlfriend was coming to an end, she was my first real girlfriend, life is great now. I still miss her, Theo helped me through it. Thank you for the hope and the light in my darkest time
I literally came here thinking this was gonna be something funny to laugh at and now im staring at my walls lost in thoughts... im glad this exists and i found it...
Just split up with my girlfriend of 6 years. Coincidence, the algorithm, whatever it is, is a magical thing sometimes. I needed to hear this. Even if there’s no solutions it helps to know other people feel this way and come out ok, they feel like this and still manage to have good days.
I have so much hate in my heart man. But everyday im always laughing and smiling. But these videos make me cry so damn much. They fucking touch me every time…
Yo I swear u the realest shit I ever heard bro no exaggeration.. everything u said bro I swear I feel it and ask myself those same things everyday bro EVERYTHING U SAID I honestly wish I could talk 2 u
Seing how fragile and vulnerable he can be some how makes me stronger and more great full of everything I have. I can’t resonate with 95% of the things he is saying, and in return I feel gratitude in the sense that I can see and live the beauty of life. And I wish everyone can one day see it, if not see it, illuminated and guided in the right direction.
Theo Von is out here saving lives by being honest about his problems on the internet, you know how big o balls you gotta have to put this out there knowing damn well people are gonna respond to it? Theo is a damn good role model boys someone who came back from the dark arts a whole different person, a honest person. Thank you Theo, your keeping us alive right now keep being honest bro your showing us the ways of the light brother
When he said im proud of you i just broke down,i can relate a lot to theo grew up without a father in an abusive household with little love i became so hard on myself just wrecking myself im lost confused and lonely and all the people and friends i had in my life just seem like they wanted to hurt me so i distanced myself from everybody but thats not the solution either fuck man this video hits hard
I really resonate with the feeling of not wanting to take care of myself because it feels like it's someone elses job. Especially when they are the ones who didn't do it or actively caused the pain. So i show you my pain to almost in a way appeal to you to make amends and do your job.
Most of what Theo said about his depression, anger, shitty family relationships, pretty much the whole video made me cry like a lil bitch, finally feel like someone else is out there that understands me and that i can relate too
Theo’s ability to have immediate and direct reflections on the emotions he felt when he was a kid is the type of perspective that I wish I can one day have. Him letting his adult self experience those emotions again in real time to provide insight to us is a gift from God. I remember so vividly how I didn’t even have a chance to feel hurt when I was being hurt. I was so used to it that my child mind associated it with normalcy. So many destructive behaviors I displayed because I wanted somebody to be there with me. Not necessarily being there FOR me. I just felt so alone that I all I wanted was somebody to be around me. When he said, “Watch me wreck my life! Don’t you care?!” God damn man… hit the nail right on the head.
Man when he described choosing to lose on your own terms that hit home, I think I do it to myself cause I can't ever seem to win, but I have control of losing and choose to lose than fail at winning
I really see myself in him, been doing nothing my all life, i'm still really young but I fear nothing and everuthing at the same time, i fear comitment, i fear relationships, dont got no one to talk shit with, cant love no one cause i dont even lover myself, i try in the dead of night to mentally wake up, to stop being this larva, just crawling doing nothing, just letting time pass, dont even have a driving licence. Done nothing my whole life, didnt accomplish anything, nothing bring me joy anymore, jjust playing some video games, but even that is taxing on my mental and not a getaway thing. Life is shit and will ever be that way, especially how the world is today. Hope y'all are good tho
Start small man. While you’re gaming tomorrow look up what papers you need to get your DL. Play around some more and then maybe go find those papers and get them in a folder. Baby steps man. 6 years ago I was sitting in a dorm room littered… I mean dude they were everywhere, littered with soda cans and food trash. Dirty laundry all over. I didn’t go to class and I flunked out. I’m standing on the other side looking back man. Got a job. My room is clean but it wasn’t yesterday. It’s just baby steps. You took a baby step tossing your feelings out into the void, so take another tomorrow. Do some good shit for yourself. If you can take those baby steps to get the driver’s license, the world is gonna open up to you a little bit and then we’ll see from there. You got this though man. Don’t give up. Like you said you’re really young. So was I. I said it’s 6 years later but it got a lot better at one week, and one month and one year too. Sometimes I felt worse too. It’s a process. Trust the process.
Theo, you are truly an incredible person and give so much to people by way of your humor, your transparency, your humility, and your love towards people. You are a profound blessing in a very cold world.
Thank you for opening up about your brother. So much wisdom in this man. "doing the best I can" and beating yourself up, good one. Good seeing men sit and talk about their problems. One thing I learned, when you do drugs or drink, people often view this as you do not respect yourself, which is why predators look for people like us. Same when you wear shirts with a bunch of holes, it is like a signal. Problem is with that signal, it attracts all kinds. "never any peace in the house" which is why I do not like yelling, it solves nothing, when you yell you will never get a point across. If I want yelling I can join the military.
It makes me so sad to think that, so many people are alive just because they know others are struggling just as much as they are, and that they can't let themselves be the weak one. It's great that such a thing is encouraging people to live but at the same time it's so gruesomely sad that they feel that way.
I was in a dark time in 2019 and this past weekend podcast with Theo Von got me to get me my phD in the dark arts son!! He helped me get through the hard times, the shit he said. I was sad, listening to Theo, his funny shit made me get by and the dark tal helped me get perspective that everyone has their battles. Humble. Love you Theo
the beautiful thing about Theo is his ability to perfectly relate his feelings of deep insecurity, while simultaneously saying the funniest, most out of pocket thing you could hear all day.
"yea man depression sucks, I masterbated too much" proceeds to talk about masturbation instead of depression for 2 minutes. Theo Von cracks me up lmao
@@christopherrogers1818it still relates to the main topic
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Wish I could express myself the way Theo does, dudes got a beautiful soul.
you can. its because he's expressing himself all the time. he's practiced in opening up. many people that I know that have a beautiful soul but have a hard time articulating it because of their own internal judgement.
You definitely can. Start by talking out loud to yourself.
My can my brother/sister
you can, meditate
You can friend. Just be honest, it's hard at first, years of penting up, years of being afraid to for a multitude of reasons, to protect yourself, etc. Just try, and you'll stumble, womble, fall off the way. That's okay, as long as when you realize it, you course correct, and it'll likely happen again, don't be discouraged, recognize, reflect, and get up again. If it takes a million times, you'll get it at a million and one, and I realize that may sound disheartening at first, but you've got all the time in the world when you think about it, because time is all you really have. It's impermanent sure, but y'know the old rhyme, Row Row Row Your Boat. Take a leap of faith, and recognize that sometimes you'll win some, and sometimes you'll lose some. Just remind yourself of these little things, and keep at it. You'll find your way in good time. I wish you the best internet stranger, best of luck to you.
"watch me wreck my life. Dont you care?" Hits so hard as someone who had neglectful parents
Dark truth is that no one cares People would rather see you fail than you succeed, as it can justify their own flaws. As much as i want to admit that I’m a good person, it won’t take angry emotions of wanting vengeance, from those who’ve wronged me. You might have people who are rooting for you, and they need to be kept close and supported. Forgiveness. Sometimes people really are alone, physically and mentally at worse. We really are struggling and only see our reflection in others and as a result we hurt both them and ourselves.
Nobody cares. The ones that do are outliers. It's our job to find the outliers who find our dysfunction endearing. People who would be like water for you and vice versa.
@@travisturner9118 you have to earn 'care' from people who aren't your family, often by 'caring' yourself. the world can be a beautiful place or not
@@Luca-tw9fk thanks Andrew Tate. I had no idea!!!
@@travisturner9118what tf does that have to do with Andrew Tate lmao the concept/philosophy has been around since ancient greece
this side of theo von is the reason why i respect him , truly
I'm about to turn 30 in August and I still live with my parents, which I'm ashamed of. I have lifelong depression which medication has helped a little but I'm still sad all the time. I got laid off 3 weeks ago from my job of 5 years that I got my brother and friend into last year (they still work there) and have mostly been laying in bed all day and staying up all night and going to the gym twice a week. Went through a breakup with the girl I love 4 months ago which still affects me. Life is fucking brutal. But these type of videos actually help. We need more content like this instead of all the negativity, which just reinforces everything bad in your brain. I always felt like a black sheep, but I feel a little less alone after watching this. If you read all of this, thank you for listening and I hope you're doing well.
Feel that dude. Same shit, feeling depressed, going through a breakup, failing at everything I do. You just gotta stay positive and try to move past all of that. Learn from the mistakes then put them aside. You can't dwell too much on the past or it'll consume you and you'll never live in the present. Life's so much more beautiful then you might think, you just gotta spend some time with yourself and how to manage your thoughts. Wishing you the best dude.
I feel you bro. I also resonate with you as I went through a breakup with a girl I love too. Man its exhausting but bro, it gets better. As cliche as it sounds there will be a breakthrough in your life which leads you to unparalleled joy man. Keep pushing man, much love.
Keep your chin up brother.
Bro.. you can say you worked a job for 5 years, you can say you know dedication, discipline, and fitting in.
There are work places that will understand and accept you - take this as a chance to face the world honestly and powerfully.
You fucking got this mother fucker
I just want to say, thank you for still being around to share this with us. It’s hard, and I don’t know you, you don’t know me, but I love you brother. Human to human, I love you man, and life will get better, but you have to be around for it to get better.
I don’t know if suicidal thoughts are something you struggle with or not I just felt like I should say that. Love you man, keep moving forward.
I smoke cigarettes and “I wasn’t smoking to enjoy smoking I was smoking to burn myself down” is an excellent way of putting it into words
im doing the sam fuckin thing...
@@DRC0690 It is just a slower form of suicide.
I started listening to this when I was shitting and now I’m sitting in my room with tears down my eyes because everything he says is actually something that resonates with me and I thank him for talking and being open about it and thank you to whoever put this together needed this
I did the SAME EXACT THING
nice hail the sun pfp
I hope you wiped though, bro.
Currently shitting too while reading this and also whilst writing this comment lmao
Ok…
As an older brother the part about his brother was actually beautiful. I hope my younger brother feel like that towards me. i hope i can give him that.
im also the older brother and my younger brother is something in what Theo experienced, i hope it will get better
I would be so fucked without my older brother. He struggled in more ways than I. But he always pushed forward. He helped me so many times, I looked up to him so much. What he said about his father, exactly my bro.. he was always there for me and helping me and he was the father figure. Classic he walked so you could run. I got him back during the end of university once I was on my feet. He worked and did university and kept us Alive while I was complaining about depression/ bp. He got me on my feet, taught me how to walk, taught me how to run, and was always there when I fell. ❤ Luv u guy
@@littlewigglemonster7691Make sure you let him know. Im sure it would mean the world to him.
"at least I'm in control when I lose" I feel that like a heartbeat man...
this the class clown when he goes home from school
Speaking as a former class clown...i went home to a house that was a warzone...if dishes werent done my father would come home slam doorw scream spit in your face kick the dog...sometimes throw things...then a few days later sometimes that very same night after drinking "sorry i lost my temper"
@@funkbros3141 How you doing brother?
@@tobaz4956 meh lost someone i loved last summer due to my own bs...have great job my own place $$ a truck...new tattoo...just had motorcycle accident...feel like im at top of mountain but im alone...and cant fix my mistakes so back in therapy...my dad is on meds now so less angry but still shitty to me...just wish i could feel normal
@@funkbros3141I feel so sorry to hear that. Life wasn't easy on you, but it sounds like you are still fighting ,which gives me hope for you ❤
@@jimraynor4383 just gotta come to grips im not meant to have women in my life...
It's nice seeing a guy like Theo being so emotionally intelligent and eloquently spoken. We need more people who are comfortable with being vulnerable.
Ohhh brother, he aint comfortable at all, you can se everytime he say something painfull his body and mind is trying to shit him down.
He’s a good speaker. He doesn’t say um much at all. And that’s not easy. He only says what he thinks
@@wacemarand yet he powers through and it speaks to people thats why these callers open up to him like that. Its truly inspiring but it must be a heavy burden aswell when people lean on you like that. Life aint easy when you care.
That section on judgement and feeling like you won...
"the only thing I won, was being alone"
"not only did I miss out on caring about people, but I probably missed out on feeling a lot of the love that the people have for me"
The hardest part is remembering that every day and living better
the zerking off segment was actually really smart on Theo's side, he could hear the sadness and despair in the callers voice so he tried to just cheer him up instead. Maybe because he didn't know the answer or maybe because Theo was feeling the same way at that time, he resorted to making the man laugh and forget about his depression for even a little bit.
It didn’t seem like a joke tbh.
This was not really a joke. Compulsive masturbation is an unhealthy coping mechanism that is numbing and some people use when facing depression or anxiety.
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It's not supposed to be a joke. Masturbation is incredibly destructive. Anyone who disagrees is honestly trying to excuse their own addiction.
@@Ian-c9y masturbation by itself isn’t inherently bad given context but pornography definitely is
it's incredible the emotional maturity and awareness it takes to even realize that these things are going on inside you. To even be aware that the reason you don't take care of yourself is you feel someone else has to... Thatt's a lot. It's years of therapy, and for some it's an unreachable state.
Why is it unreachable for some?
@@sj19991they may lack the emotional intelligence necessary recognize it and change.
@@sj19991 or they literally just dont live long enough to
The "Lose" section is really profound to me. You do everything you can to make yourself lose so at least you feel you have some modicum of control over the situation. No risk, no fear of failure, no nothing... just comfort in resigning from life. Making things bad for yourself feels safer than actually trying, and I think that interaction is what defeats most people in their quest for a good life.
Holy crap man I never viewed my drinking problems that way but you are so right. I’d rather wreck myself alone in my room. This comment just opened my eyes to what I’ve been doing to myself.
Theo's beyond relatable. He's blessed to be able to speak on his emotions like that. Amazing music as well.
Brought me to tears, thank you. I hadn’t cried in a very long time
Same brother
me to..i thought i lost the ability...
this is what happens when you uninstall rust
Real my friend still plays rust and he’s an absolute loser who complains constantly while I quit rust 2 years ago and I’ve been having a sweet life
@@deeznutz1261 What a friend you are. In a comment section talking shit about your “friend”.
It was a great game back in 2016-19. But yeah, better off without it
Comment made my day bro
@@deeznutz1261you’d have to hate him to not try to pull him out of that, knowing how miserable it is to be in and how amazing it is to be out
I really love this man.
"i never wanted to take care of myself because then I was doing somebody elses job" all I could think of when watching this video was the second half " when you look at me you're gonna see how much I hurt" hearing that first half again really made me connect how much of this relates to my realizations about my childhood & coming to terms with trauma. Learning to differentiate hurt from love. thanks
This man is doing so much for men. Suicide amongst men is rampant because so many people were never properly taught to process feelings and are ashamed to feel scared or depressed because that’s somehow not masculine. Our dads and our role models might not have had it taught to them either it’s not their fault, but we have an opportunity to break that curse this generation.
I agree, and Theo is using his experience to help others it’s awesome.
hey man, no matter how hard it gets or how it will end, at least we shared the stage with this man
At least I shared the stage with you!
^^🤝🏽🤝🏼❤️
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You perform stand up comedy to massive theatres? Congrats!
@@bryanbryan6108 you can get off the stage now
26 alone when I go out see happy couples and seeing dudes with they girl it gets to me hopefully one day I meet that one girl who loves me for being me and loves my flaws I hope every guy I here gets that some day love y’all god bless
25 here and same man. My childhood friends are engaged and married and I’m in a city with no family or friends. I keep having hope that one day God will provide but I have to make a change to make my life the life I want it to be
Keep your head up boys. It’ll find its way to you. But untill then be yourself and enjoy the things you enjoy. Don’t let the idea of someone else dictate your happiness. I wish nothing but the best for you guys. It’s a crazy world we live in. Don’t waste your short life wishing for something.
"Keep playing just to lose" I felt that.
9:20 Hearing Theo talk about his dad really resonates with me. My biological father was never in my life much, and then my step-dad is like 45 years older than me which made it really tough to foster a close relationship with him. In my early to mid teens, we were not in a good spot at all and I resented him a lot, but now that I'm 22 and been away from my parents for a few years, I look back and see how much he did for me and I can kind of re-write some of those harder years and also take some personal responsibility for being a pain his butt. haha We have such good conversations about all kinds of stuff now and he's one of the primary people I go to when I need help or advice on something. Theo is the goat, man.
Happy new year everyone. Hope you boys win every battle you don't talk about. Love you all
Thank you. I wish you the best ma man
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Watching this has me in tears. Theo speaks so honestly and freely, in a way that I wish that I could. He's so relatable. The man is a therapist for so many people without even realizing it. He allows himself to be vulnerable for the world to see, which is something I deeply fear, and yet - it makes me have so much respect for him. Through him I see that hiding your vulnerabilities isn't nearly as brave as showing them.
Theo is such a gem. Protect him at ALL costs.
I’ve been feeling pretty good lately but I had friend pass away three years ago and he loved Theo and Theo even gave us a shoutout at one of his shows when we told him our friends story… this made me remember how me and my friend came to enjoy in Theo in the first place.
Thank you
All the love brother
he really is a bright ass light in a dim ass world. love that man. shine that light on me theo son
theo speaks to me man im grateful it helps me feel like im not alone in these battles
daniel you made it you love yourself now it gets better you're doing good now im so grateful for you and i know you don't love yourself right now but i love you i hope i come back here cause i know this is only the start but im still so proud of you, your good person daniel u going get the love u deserve i believe in you
The meaning of life is enjoying the passage of time (living, breathing, eating, sleeping to their fullest capabilities)
taking care of the little things will bring gratitude towards yourself, from you, self respect
This comment made my year
Real talk, screw self improvement, they’ll look back and realise they forgot to live.
Theo Von is the duality of man.
Been listening to Theo since probably 2016/17..religiously..I’d often turn off when he’d mention sobriety towards the end of active alcoholic life..took me to make the decision but could only listen to Theo and Bobby and others as well saying how 12 step does work..I think I knew all along having heard it said it does while celebrating my 21st birthday in rehab (only to escape jail I told myself). Theo will never know how much I needed his words in my hears..4/13/21 27 months alcohol free working on cigs/vaping..gang gang yall. It gets better. Be good be cool.
Souls like these torch up the greatest sights through their words. Sublime, a sublime country man, what a life
beautiful human being, Theo is such a wonderful guy, he really hits it home when explaining what it feels like to go through those hard times, he's like that one guy who gets it and that's comforting
He deserves a million hugs 🥲
“When everything seems to be going against you, remember that the airplane takes off against the wind, not with it.”
--- Henry Ford
I don't know what led me here.
But boy, I'm so glad I found this. I hope everyone is feeling a little lighter.
Hope for the hopeless, much love everyone.
The realest i've seen him, he really has a gift to explain what he is thinking about and to explain his emotions, love to him
Saved my life literally I wish he could know he mattered to me
I watch it over n over.. to remind me.. i have to be good to myself.
Life is the beautiful thing I’ve ever done but it’s also the hardest thing I’ve ever done and man does it get tough sometimes
It gets so tough that it sometimes gets hard to see the bright parts, I’m glad to be alive but it really has a way of bringing you to your knees sometimes
I love videos like this. A lot of people can't take comedians seriously when they open up about deep stuff like this but this video really captures the duality of humans. It shows that sometimes tragedy is what creates these comedic geniuses and that behind all of the jokes and bullshit there is another human being going through the same tough situations.
this video actually made me cry the first time i watched it
bro made us cry and left us with a laugh at the end with the "two dudes being honest and not even being gay" joke; godspeed brother
I'm not proud of myself yet, but I plan to be Theo is amazing to listen to. If you see this you can prosper I believe in you.
I don’t.
We doing alright boys we trying our best. Just keep being kind and we will find each other it’s all good brothers
Man i feel like heavy all times. Cant see the light anymore. I came here to feel something. Tired of feeling nothing at all
Theo's solo podcast episodes hit different man. Bro's a modern day philosopher.
Theo being able to articulate himself in a way most of us aren't able to is so helpful to those who are in this place, I know RUclips isn't the best place to offload mentally, I just can't stand living this life where I'm drowned with responsibility, working a job that doesn't fulfill me and I'm just going to work doing something I don't want to do in order to scrape by every month. When I was a child, the world was my oyster full of opportunity and spontaneous moments, now it's just a drag every day and I can literally see the next 40 years of my life play out in front of me, I'm now 30 and feel completely stuck. I'm rooting for everyone who is struggling with this same problem, I hope you find what you need to give your life meaning. Somehow we're in this, whatever this is - together, let's keep trying to make something happen, there's always hope and that can never be taken away from us.
Theo put something into words that I've been trying to figure out for a while, at 12:44. That feeling of wrecking yourself in order to give your mental pain a physical form. 'When you look at me, you're gonna see how much I hurt'. It took me years to realise what Theo said next. At a certain point you realise, that YOU have to take care of yourself, even if you don't want to. Because the harsh truth is that few, if any, people are gonna really care that you're hurting. You have to be there for yourself.
“I don’t want to tell someone else that I care” bro I’ve felt like this for so long and now that I’m changing for the better I still can’t bring myself to show that I care. Idk why or even how to change it but I know that if I did I would become a whole lot better
Just try little by little
Theo ist giving me a Light at the End of the Dark tunnel
So i keep fighting through the Darkness until i've done it
I would love to stay daily with Theo cause he is a good Soul and i think staying with him will heal you
Thx Theo for beeing a big Part of my Motivation
This man is special.
Diamond in the rough. An original, not only as a comic, but as a man. It's a hard life.
Man Theo really knows how to describe these emotions and struggles better than anyone I’ve ever heard.
I cried watching this. 2 minutes in and im bawling my eyes out. As a 26 year old young man, I’ve had to deal with a lot but more so myself and I’ve been running away from my problems. My first child is in Oklahoma with her mom because her mom is trying to get back at me, my mom walked out on my sister and I early on in our lives. I cry often yet my dad and sister don’t see me do it. I drown my feelings with weed, alcohol, or even sex. It’s hard to tell my sister that I need help because she sees me as competition. She struggles both mentally and emotionally as much as I do, only I tend to hide it better. I get ridiculed for being able to not show my stress. I’m not looking for a break, I’m looking for transparency and understanding. Keep your head up fellas! Theo is that step that we need to be ourselves and find out more about ourselves! Thank you for this edit! Much love from Oakland, California Brethren 🫡😎
Same age
Can relate it’ll be better just keep on going
“man im tired of not even being there for myself” that really hit especially in my life today. i know it’s bad to put others feelings and joy before mine but it genuinely makes me happy to see others happy and enjoying the life God gave us to enjoy. but in that, i forget about my happiness and making sure i am actually happy with everything. it’s just tough man and i as read through these comments, i realize that i am not alone in fighting these battles. and with theo talking about his personal experience, it really helps not only me, but everyone else watching these clips.
Wow the "Judging" Chapter was straight from the heart. Its hard to piece the feeling of emotions into words like Theo did. Beautiful.
It's always the funny guys..
This helped me a lot, more than some of the therapy sessions i used to have. Gracias Theo!
There’s always hope
Theo is a gem
I come back to this video ever since it was uploaded and it’s only been a couple days
Theo has said some powerful things that really make me think, reflect, and feel grateful for everything i have. I havent been on the verge of suicide or anything, but theo has changed my life for the better.
Sometimes I play just to lose too
This goddamned beautiful man has been getting me through one of the worst life situations i've had to deal with, it's so nice to know that theres so many other people struggling through and trying to help each other. I wish I could spend an hour or two on his podcast just chatting about life. Theo Von is otherworldly.
I admire Theo for being able to articulate his feelings, I wish many other men could do the same. I wish other men would just let out the pain they're feeling. Whether it's letting it out to a friend, family member, thin air, a piece of paper, or a complete stranger, we need to just let go and allow ourselves to live.
❤️❤️❤️
It comes from fear. Men are expected to be stoic and strong but feeling emotions is human. Bottling it up is never healthy and can lead you down a very dark path.
“Nothing changes, if nothing changes”. This hits hard
When this was uploaded, i was realising that my relationship with my now ex girlfriend was coming to an end, she was my first real girlfriend, life is great now. I still miss her, Theo helped me through it. Thank you for the hope and the light in my darkest time
I literally came here thinking this was gonna be something funny to laugh at and now im staring at my walls lost in thoughts... im glad this exists and i found it...
Just split up with my girlfriend of 6 years. Coincidence, the algorithm, whatever it is, is a magical thing sometimes. I needed to hear this. Even if there’s no solutions it helps to know other people feel this way and come out ok, they feel like this and still manage to have good days.
How are things as of now Jett? Hope you’ve been well.
I have so much hate in my heart man. But everyday im always laughing and smiling. But these videos make me cry so damn much. They fucking touch me every time…
The world doesn't deserve how amazing this man truly is. Thank u Theo your a godsend brother❤
Yo I swear u the realest shit I ever heard bro no exaggeration.. everything u said bro I swear I feel it and ask myself those same things everyday bro EVERYTHING U SAID I honestly wish I could talk 2 u
u and me both brother
Theo helps me so much. Nobody else can convey feelings like this.
Seing how fragile and vulnerable he can be some how makes me stronger and more great full of everything I have.
I can’t resonate with 95% of the things he is saying, and in return I feel gratitude in the sense that I can see and live the beauty of life.
And I wish everyone can one day see it, if not see it, illuminated and guided in the right direction.
Theo Von is one of the greatest humans to walk this planet
this was really helpful. thank you. i dont feel so alone after hearing these things happen to people i look up to
Theo Von is out here saving lives by being honest about his problems on the internet, you know how big o balls you gotta have to put this out there knowing damn well people are gonna respond to it? Theo is a damn good role model boys someone who came back from the dark arts a whole different person, a honest person. Thank you Theo, your keeping us alive right now keep being honest bro your showing us the ways of the light brother
So beautiful.
To whoever made this, thank you so much from the bottom of my soul🥹🙏🏻
When he said im proud of you i just broke down,i can relate a lot to theo grew up without a father in an abusive household with little love i became so hard on myself just wrecking myself im lost confused and lonely and all the people and friends i had in my life just seem like they wanted to hurt me so i distanced myself from everybody but thats not the solution either fuck man this video hits hard
Praise God! Amen Theo, amen, God bless you bro.
I really resonate with the feeling of not wanting to take care of myself because it feels like it's someone elses job. Especially when they are the ones who didn't do it or actively caused the pain. So i show you my pain to almost in a way appeal to you to make amends and do your job.
Man I just cried myself to sleep while watching this 😢
I would do anything to have a real talk with Theo. He has a sense of wisdom, and i need it
Most of what Theo said about his depression, anger, shitty family relationships, pretty much the whole video made me cry like a lil bitch, finally feel like someone else is out there that understands me and that i can relate too
Theo’s ability to have immediate and direct reflections on the emotions he felt when he was a kid is the type of perspective that I wish I can one day have.
Him letting his adult self experience those emotions again in real time to provide insight to us is a gift from God.
I remember so vividly how I didn’t even have a chance to feel hurt when I was being hurt. I was so used to it that my child mind associated it with normalcy. So many destructive behaviors I displayed because I wanted somebody to be there with me. Not necessarily being there FOR me. I just felt so alone that I all I wanted was somebody to be around me.
When he said, “Watch me wreck my life! Don’t you care?!” God damn man… hit the nail right on the head.
The connection of brain and heart with a curve instead of an intersection of emotions is just a beautiful and on point metaphor 10:16
Theo has a way with words that my mind couldn’t evoke verbally…but Theo found a way to and I respect that so much
Man when he described choosing to lose on your own terms that hit home, I think I do it to myself cause I can't ever seem to win, but I have control of losing and choose to lose than fail at winning
I really see myself in him, been doing nothing my all life, i'm still really young but I fear nothing and everuthing at the same time, i fear comitment, i fear relationships, dont got no one to talk shit with, cant love no one cause i dont even lover myself, i try in the dead of night to mentally wake up, to stop being this larva, just crawling doing nothing, just letting time pass, dont even have a driving licence. Done nothing my whole life, didnt accomplish anything, nothing bring me joy anymore, jjust playing some video games, but even that is taxing on my mental and not a getaway thing.
Life is shit and will ever be that way, especially how the world is today.
Hope y'all are good tho
Start small man. While you’re gaming tomorrow look up what papers you need to get your DL. Play around some more and then maybe go find those papers and get them in a folder.
Baby steps man. 6 years ago I was sitting in a dorm room littered… I mean dude they were everywhere, littered with soda cans and food trash. Dirty laundry all over. I didn’t go to class and I flunked out. I’m standing on the other side looking back man. Got a job. My room is clean but it wasn’t yesterday. It’s just baby steps.
You took a baby step tossing your feelings out into the void, so take another tomorrow. Do some good shit for yourself. If you can take those baby steps to get the driver’s license, the world is gonna open up to you a little bit and then we’ll see from there.
You got this though man. Don’t give up. Like you said you’re really young. So was I. I said it’s 6 years later but it got a lot better at one week, and one month and one year too. Sometimes I felt worse too. It’s a process. Trust the process.
I can relate to a LOT of what you said. Hope we both get out of this.
Stay strong out there man
Theo, you are truly an incredible person and give so much to people by way of your humor, your transparency, your humility, and your love towards people. You are a profound blessing in a very cold world.
Going to see Theo on Friday!! So fucking excited. Your podcast is helping millions of people man thank you for being you ❤
Theo has such a beautiful self reflection. Truly inspiring.
Thank you for opening up about your brother. So much wisdom in this man. "doing the best I can" and beating yourself up, good one. Good seeing men sit and talk about their problems. One thing I learned, when you do drugs or drink, people often view this as you do not respect yourself, which is why predators look for people like us. Same when you wear shirts with a bunch of holes, it is like a signal. Problem is with that signal, it attracts all kinds. "never any peace in the house" which is why I do not like yelling, it solves nothing, when you yell you will never get a point across. If I want yelling I can join the military.
It makes me so sad to think that, so many people are alive just because they know others are struggling just as much as they are, and that they can't let themselves be the weak one. It's great that such a thing is encouraging people to live but at the same time it's so gruesomely sad that they feel that way.
Comedians man, I swear they're sages.
Dammit why has it gotta be funny and wholesome 🤣
When he spoke about being a better son, i felt that. This guy is so awsome.
I was in a dark time in 2019 and this past weekend podcast with Theo Von got me to get me my phD in the dark arts son!! He helped me get through the hard times, the shit he said. I was sad, listening to Theo, his funny shit made me get by and the dark tal helped me get perspective that everyone has their battles. Humble. Love you Theo
the conclution when he said im proud of you had me tearing up
fr bro