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People forget making love during ramadhan is important and it is a form of Ibadah (worship) which you get rewarded for & all rewards are multiplied heavily during ramadhan why not get rewarded for something so enjoyable. Originally during the early stages of ramadhan sexual relations between spouses was forbidden during the whole month of ramadhan then Allah changed the ruling and made it halal during the evenings when not fasting and recommended you to go to your spouses in the evening. So why not follow Allahs recommendations.
Jazak Allah brother for taking on this taboo (we made it) topic and educating ummah in right manner You don't get to decide what right is and what is wrong our creator Allah decides what right and what is wrong.
MashALLAH. Although I am not yet married but it's good to see that these issues are being brought to the light. Unfortunately in my culture talking about these things is 'Ayb' or shameful whilst half the people who shout shame bring televisions and iPads for their families to watch movies and shows portraying intimate scenes, nudity, and suggestive sexual material at best. Talk about the dichotomy of the situation. I know there is a lot of khayr in the majority of this Ummah but we have a media that is propagating a bipolar society. Whereas I think most of the perils of this Ummah could be fixed or avoided if there was a proper media body that was well funded to educate people out of the darkness of ignorance. You sir are doing us a great service by speaking for our consciences and playing your part in using this modest alternative media platform to pull people out. For that I respect and salute you. Jazaakum ALLAH Khair Ameeeen
Never understood how couples have the energy. Rush to make Iftar, rush to eat rush to go to masjid and long pray taraweeh Get back home maybe eat meal light snack, get hydrated, maybe rest perhaps read Quran Repeat at 30 days even more exhausted with children Physical intimacy is just not an option Spiritual needs more demand that month
I don't know, but I do know, the second khalifa Umar R.A used to break hist fast with his wife (getting intimate) I guess that's where you fill in the time. lol. Also, I never understood how someone can not feel aroused or sexually frustrated going 30 freaking days without sexual touch, explosive chemical release through climax and close bonded love with a partner. It's really strange, gee I wonder.
@@A-Pro100 fasting takes a lot if energy, 30 days of a person entire sleep patten, diet ,work schedule completely changes extra additional acts of worship Sexual frustration or thoughts of physical intimacy disappears , knowing it’s a single month to gain more deeds more rewards ask god for more blessings than before. Once the month is gone it’s gone Sexual intimacy after that is a day night every time chance. Ramadan is once a year
A whole month!!! I feel like if u have a strong loving relationship that is too long to wait. Islam makes our lives easier why do ppl make their lives harder than they need to
Fasting lowers desires though, our prophet, pbuh , made this clear. My cousin has high desires, but as soon as Ramadan starts and she begins fasting, she said her desire for intimacy with her husband is reduced to zero. This is what fasting does, it truelly lowers desire. Im not married but my desire during Ramadan is significantly reduced, alhamdulillah
Assalamu Alaikum! Although I agree with you about the desires during the fast, as a newly married man I can say that right after iftaar and before taraweeh, I am up and running lol. Also verse 187 of surah al baqara was revealed for those who still had the desire to engage with their spouses during Ramadan so I guess it depends on the individual
@@TheSaady20 hmm interesting. Is it the same for your wife? From what I've noticed, fasting seems to effect women's desires a lot more to the point where it's non existent for the whole of Ramadan like my cousin
@@stariehearts2366 I would say it depends on the day and its the same for me tbh. Certain days due to stress and capacity of work I can feel light headed and weak and so would she. However, on days where we can relax a little, I would say the drive is still there. Although in this month it is not as frequent but still there for both.
Fasting is not only by our mouth, it's a fasting month for our hands for doing bad, self desires for one's spouses, eyes for seeing haram, mind for thinking bad, tongue for saying bad.
It’s not a fasting month. It’s a month were we fast between Fajr and Maghrib. The time between Mahgrib and Fajr, the other way around, is the time were we don’t fast. Please rephrase your comment. You make it seem as if we fast for a whole month and where one has to curb their desire for their spouse; speaking of the content of the video.
Asalaamu alaikum. I don't know if there is a problem with understanding the English, but a Muslim fasts between Fajr and Maghrib. That does not mean he/she doesn't have a desire or need for food. Those needs and desires can be fulfilled between Maghrib and Fajr by the Mercy of Allah and Allah knows best.
Eating drinking and intimacy is Haraam during the day , it becomes Halaal again after Iftaar , spouses have needs even in Ramadaan nothing wrong with it
@@stariehearts2366 but won't it go away when you eat and drink again? I mean won't you have the desires back right after eating or does it have a long effect?
@@OsadeTOOT it has a long affect. That's why fasting is recommended for unmarried people because it lowers desire for a long time. I'm not married and normally my desire is high, but as soon as Ramadan starts, my desire is at zero. I imagine it will be the same for married people, desires are at zero due to fasting lowering it
Gabriel, you explain things so logically and intellectually. Speaking truth of the message of Allah. Please make more Romanian speeches as well so that I can share them to the Romanian people that I know too.
I’ve done it but not to be neglectful of my wife’s needs but to increase in my worship for these 30 days. But it also helps increase the intimacy after Ramadan. We also do this 30 days before our anniversary day! But if one of us breaks then it’s fine but we try out best to abstain. And Allah knows best
Hmm I can understand, this is a method to also increase healthy pleasure between husband and wife and not constantly being addicted, balance is so important in every aspect of life.
Assalamu alaikum, Interesting topic of discussion. The problem may be psychological, where sex is perceived as dirty and therefore presents a barrier for us when we are trying to achieve spirituality, particularly during the month of Ramadan. We are fasting, working, praying taraweeh and Qiyam and then suhoor. Something has to give. And with the practicalities of child, changing sheets, finding time it’s easy to just do away it for the month. However, I would like to see more about how we can break that psychological barrier between sex and dirtiness v spirituality. Particularly where the ghusl is obligatory and changing of clothes/sheets - how do you separate that? And in a culture where a lot of our sexual ideas come from the non-halal whether it’s movies, porn or just advertising? It’s definitely not so black and white and the unman would benefit from further discussions on this. There is definitely an opportunity to take this ‘act’ to a higher level and link it to our spirituality and our relationship with Allah.
PEOPLE ! Don't marry someone you are not SEXUALLY COMPATIBLE WITH ! You should have a sense of your future spouse's Sexual Identity before your Nikah !
@A simple Guy Just simple exactly. And you can't even ask because the girl's dad is right there listening to everything and you can't bring it up. I know marriages that have ended because 1 partner is into experimenting but the other person isn't into it. And they find out after marriage because they can't discuss this in the marriage meeting in front of the wali. So marriage is a gamble
@A simple Guy Just simple Bro it's easy, When you are in talks to get married and you have advanced to the point where you asked all of the important questions and you both are inclined to declare an engagement with a future date for a Nikah. Stop and ask the person you are intended with the following question, "Where sex is concerned, are you sexually conservative or are you the kind of person who is open to exploring your sexuality "? It's that simple, her answer should give you some insight to her sexual nature and you go from there.
@@marlonhosten4693 you can't ask that in front of the wali. No girl is going to be comfortable answering sexuality questions in front of her dad because then her dad will know what her bedroom preferences are and that's not appropriate. I'm a sister, and the thought of my dad knowing something like that creeps me out
@@stariehearts2366 When you have agreed to set a wedding date, you are now engaged. You will now have the final private one on one conversations before you move in together. Now is the time to ask those questions. A wali is only required in the initial stages of the procedure.
Well it depends on sex drive, if you want to them do it, if it not then thats fine as long as your spouse is ok with it and its a great form of ibadah too. Im 23 still single yet talking like Im married haha. 1 day InshaAllah
Just a quick comment: Look how no translation can refer to the real meaning of the words that Allah uses to describe things in the Quran. . For example: Allah said فالآن باشروهن And in the translation it has been translated as sexual connection ... Yes it is the meaning... But it could never be the same how Allah described it in a manner where no reader could be ashamed of .. SubhanAllah
I think you're in a trauma because your husband cheated on you, if so, please don't blame islam for it, especially when islam has made it haram while the west is promoting it.
@A simple Guy Just simple you're not even married and talking already about not being able to be loyal to one woman. What the heck. Do you think she is fine with having only one man all her life? She also wants to have more and different. But she won't do that because she has some meal and human responsibility, and above all, religious responsibility. And you should have too if you truly care about her.
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Subhan Allah, I was thinking about this lately and you clarified it for me. Jazakallah khair brother.
The book is really great i recommend everyone to read it
Here's someone who's unmarried, watching a lecture on Intimacy. 😎
#virginityiscool
Intimacy is ibada ppl !!!! Allah has made it Halal for us with our spouses .......
People forget making love during ramadhan is important and it is a form of Ibadah (worship) which you get rewarded for & all rewards are multiplied heavily during ramadhan why not get rewarded for something so enjoyable.
Originally during the early stages of ramadhan sexual relations between spouses was forbidden during the whole month of ramadhan then Allah changed the ruling and made it halal during the evenings when not fasting and recommended you to go to your spouses in the evening. So why not follow Allahs recommendations.
Jazak Allah brother for taking on this taboo (we made it) topic and educating ummah in right manner
You don't get to decide what right is and what is wrong our creator Allah decides what right and what is wrong.
May Allah bless you for tackling these real problems most people don’t touch
That was a sweet story of the Prophet SAW smiling.
MashALLAH. Although I am not yet married but it's good to see that these issues are being brought to the light. Unfortunately in my culture talking about these things is 'Ayb' or shameful whilst half the people who shout shame bring televisions and iPads for their families to watch movies and shows portraying intimate scenes, nudity, and suggestive sexual material at best. Talk about the dichotomy of the situation. I know there is a lot of khayr in the majority of this Ummah but we have a media that is propagating a bipolar society. Whereas I think most of the perils of this Ummah could be fixed or avoided if there was a proper media body that was well funded to educate people out of the darkness of ignorance. You sir are doing us a great service by speaking for our consciences and playing your part in using this modest alternative media platform to pull people out. For that I respect and salute you. Jazaakum ALLAH Khair Ameeeen
Bravo ....well said......but definitely a controversial/sensitive topic. May Allah guide us all on the right path.
Never understood how couples have the energy. Rush to make Iftar, rush to eat rush to go to masjid and long pray taraweeh
Get back home maybe eat meal light snack, get hydrated, maybe rest perhaps read Quran
Repeat at 30 days even more exhausted with children
Physical intimacy is just not an option
Spiritual needs more demand that month
Even physical intimacy with right intention is good deed
Intimacy is spiritual with you husband/wife (if you truly love them)
I don't know, but I do know, the second khalifa Umar R.A used to break hist fast with his wife (getting intimate) I guess that's where you fill in the time. lol.
Also, I never understood how someone can not feel aroused or sexually frustrated going 30 freaking days without sexual touch, explosive chemical release through climax and close bonded love with a partner. It's really strange, gee I wonder.
@@A-Pro100 i think it was his son not umar RA
@@A-Pro100 fasting takes a lot if energy, 30 days of a person entire sleep patten, diet ,work schedule completely changes extra additional acts of worship
Sexual frustration or thoughts of physical intimacy disappears , knowing it’s a single month to gain more deeds more rewards ask god for more blessings than before. Once the month is gone it’s gone
Sexual intimacy after that is a day night every time chance. Ramadan is once a year
Masha’Allah a much needed, really talked about topic. Thank you for speaking plainly on the subject.
Jazak Allah Khairun. Barak Allah Fek
A whole month!!! I feel like if u have a strong loving relationship that is too long to wait. Islam makes our lives easier why do ppl make their lives harder than they need to
Wait until you have a baby and then a toddler 🤣
Fasting lowers desires though, our prophet, pbuh , made this clear. My cousin has high desires, but as soon as Ramadan starts and she begins fasting, she said her desire for intimacy with her husband is reduced to zero. This is what fasting does, it truelly lowers desire. Im not married but my desire during Ramadan is significantly reduced, alhamdulillah
Assalamu Alaikum! Although I agree with you about the desires during the fast, as a newly married man I can say that right after iftaar and before taraweeh, I am up and running lol. Also verse 187 of surah al baqara was revealed for those who still had the desire to engage with their spouses during Ramadan so I guess it depends on the individual
@@TheSaady20 hmm interesting. Is it the same for your wife? From what I've noticed, fasting seems to effect women's desires a lot more to the point where it's non existent for the whole of Ramadan like my cousin
@@stariehearts2366 I would say it depends on the day and its the same for me tbh. Certain days due to stress and capacity of work I can feel light headed and weak and so would she. However, on days where we can relax a little, I would say the drive is still there. Although in this month it is not as frequent but still there for both.
Mine is the same lol
Not everyone is the same. This is why the prophet allowed one man to kiss his wife and not the other.
Jazak Allahu Khayhran Brother
This was interesting and educative .thanks
Subhan'Allah this was a much needed, wise and practical reminder - Alhamdulillah.
MashaAllah good advice and perspective... ☺️👍
Fasting is not only by our mouth, it's a fasting month for our hands for doing bad, self desires for one's spouses, eyes for seeing haram, mind for thinking bad, tongue for saying bad.
It’s not a fasting month. It’s a month were we fast between Fajr and Maghrib.
The time between Mahgrib and Fajr, the other way around, is the time were we don’t fast.
Please rephrase your comment. You make it seem as if we fast for a whole month and where one has to curb their desire for their spouse; speaking of the content of the video.
Asalaamu alaikum. I don't know if there is a problem with understanding the English, but a Muslim fasts between Fajr and Maghrib. That does not mean he/she doesn't have a desire or need for food. Those needs and desires can be fulfilled between Maghrib and Fajr by the Mercy of Allah and Allah knows best.
Jazaka allah khair
God bless you
Well done 👍
جزاك الله خيرا
Eating drinking and intimacy is Haraam during the day , it becomes Halaal again after Iftaar , spouses have needs even in Ramadaan nothing wrong with it
@@redsquirrel6176 are you unmarried too? Lol
Well fasting actually lowers desires, the prophet, pbuh, made this clear. So it's normal to not even have the desire in the first place due to fasting
@@stariehearts2366 but won't it go away when you eat and drink again? I mean won't you have the desires back right after eating or does it have a long effect?
@@OsadeTOOT it has a long affect. That's why fasting is recommended for unmarried people because it lowers desire for a long time. I'm not married and normally my desire is high, but as soon as Ramadan starts, my desire is at zero. I imagine it will be the same for married people, desires are at zero due to fasting lowering it
@@stariehearts2366 hmmm... i thought there was something wrong with me, Suphan Allah am not the only one.
Oops, I am fasting, I will watch this after iftar ^_*
Watching the vid is not going to break ur fast, no problem
Knowledge doesn’t break your siyam. Alhamdulillah
Cringe comment
@@HeyShades 🤣😂😭
@@HeyShades Yup very cringey 😬.
Gabriel, you explain things so logically and intellectually. Speaking truth of the message of Allah.
Please make more Romanian speeches as well so that I can share them to the Romanian people that I know too.
I feel ya, there aren’t a lot of good and concrete resources to learn about Islam in Romanian InShaAllah he can do that
MashaAllah thank you very much for these good fatwa information bro ...🌹🌹🌹
Weird how people are considered with dirtying the sheets. Is laundry really that hard to do?
I’ve done it but not to be neglectful of my wife’s needs but to increase in my worship for these 30 days. But it also helps increase the intimacy after Ramadan. We also do this 30 days before our anniversary day! But if one of us breaks then it’s fine but we try out best to abstain. And Allah knows best
Hmm I can understand, this is a method to also increase healthy pleasure between husband and wife and not constantly being addicted, balance is so important in every aspect of life.
Subhanallah that’s not easy to do
@@user-ov1ps7go4m lol we both broke a few times early in the first week over 10 years but alhumdulilah it’s very rewarding imo
@@anikaabida6019 I didn't know that not staying away for 30 days means that one is addicted
Bro
Anniversary day isn't there in islam
MashaAllah
Assalamu alaikum,
Interesting topic of discussion. The problem may be psychological, where sex is perceived as dirty and therefore presents a barrier for us when we are trying to achieve spirituality, particularly during the month of Ramadan. We are fasting, working, praying taraweeh and Qiyam and then suhoor. Something has to give. And with the practicalities of child, changing sheets, finding time it’s easy to just do away it for the month.
However, I would like to see more about how we can break that psychological barrier between sex and dirtiness v spirituality. Particularly where the ghusl is obligatory and changing of clothes/sheets - how do you separate that? And in a culture where a lot of our sexual ideas come from the non-halal whether it’s movies, porn or just advertising?
It’s definitely not so black and white and the unman would benefit from further discussions on this. There is definitely an opportunity to take this ‘act’ to a higher level and link it to our spirituality and our relationship with Allah.
PEOPLE ! Don't marry someone you are not SEXUALLY COMPATIBLE WITH ! You should have a sense of your future spouse's Sexual Identity before your Nikah !
@A simple Guy Just simple exactly. And you can't even ask because the girl's dad is right there listening to everything and you can't bring it up. I know marriages that have ended because 1 partner is into experimenting but the other person isn't into it. And they find out after marriage because they can't discuss this in the marriage meeting in front of the wali. So marriage is a gamble
@A simple Guy Just simple Bro it's easy, When you are in talks to get married and you have advanced to the point where you asked all of the important questions and you both are inclined to declare an engagement with a future date for a Nikah. Stop and ask the person you are intended with the following question, "Where sex is concerned, are you sexually conservative or are you the kind of person who is open to exploring your sexuality "?
It's that simple, her answer should give you some insight to her sexual nature and you go from there.
@@stariehearts2366 Check out my response down below !
@@marlonhosten4693 you can't ask that in front of the wali. No girl is going to be comfortable answering sexuality questions in front of her dad because then her dad will know what her bedroom preferences are and that's not appropriate. I'm a sister, and the thought of my dad knowing something like that creeps me out
@@stariehearts2366 When you have agreed to set a wedding date, you are now engaged. You will now have the final private one on one conversations before you move in together. Now is the time to ask those questions. A wali is only required in the initial stages of the procedure.
If you have to reduce intimacy to only once per week, make a date, and make it count. 😄
intimacy with the wife is also charity, if done with correct intentions. So, why not give charity at night? 😆
Lol
Well it depends on sex drive, if you want to them do it, if it not then thats fine as long as your spouse is ok with it and its a great form of ibadah too. Im 23 still single yet talking like Im married haha. 1 day InshaAllah
What about when there is 30 mins until suhoor or sometimes less and you debate if there is enough time LOL.....
You are permitted to perform ghusul after fajr too in the state of fast.
Red Squirrel bruh...
Quickie..
i dont have sex last 12 years .
How does the prophet split his time among his wives because we never hear of the rest except aisha which is not right
He used to go around all his wives in one night
Just a quick comment:
Look how no translation can refer to the real meaning of the words that Allah uses to describe things in the Quran.
.
For example: Allah said فالآن باشروهن
And in the translation it has been translated as sexual connection ... Yes it is the meaning... But it could never be the same how Allah described it in a manner where no reader could be ashamed of ..
SubhanAllah
Abdullah Ibn Umar used to break his fast by getting intimated with his wife.
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Allha gives u permission so hit it.
What about the single women, no making love at all ( before/ during/ after Ramadan), believe me this is the real problem. Lol.
And the single man too sister 😪
Pray to Allah that he grants you a husband who fulfills your halal desires. No time better than Ramadan to make dua. I am doing it too
It's sad how it's such hard to get married when there's all this fitna out there in the world.
Marriage is hard nowadays because real men are little and women who wants to be housewives are also little
@@aatif7518 I’d like to understand why do men want women to stay at home and be housewives?
I am too shy to openly talk about sex with my husband..now what should i do ?
You should break your shyness and talk to him when he is free i am sure he will understand.
It is lack of education nothing else
CHEATING MUSLIM HUSBAND DON'T CARE WHAT YOU SAY
Just because your husband cheated on you, it doesn't mean you can blame us for it. What about women who cheat when their husbands are at work?
I think you're in a trauma because your husband cheated on you, if so, please don't blame islam for it, especially when islam has made it haram while the west is promoting it.
@Ex yeah Ex atheist 👍🏻
@@redsquirrel6176 i agree with the second reason.
@A simple Guy Just simple you're not even married and talking already about not being able to be loyal to one woman. What the heck. Do you think she is fine with having only one man all her life? She also wants to have more and different. But she won't do that because she has some meal and human responsibility, and above all, religious responsibility. And you should have too if you truly care about her.