I totally agree with you! As someone’s whos 20 years old, I literally have majority of your issues (minus the body + age). These dating apps (even bumble) attract men who want to have fun and not trying to take you out on a traditional date. the best way to find high quality men with traditional values is most likely through in person. Otherwise, you gotta go through a LOT of whack people to get to someone decent
Yes exactly and now everyone on social media shoves it in your face that they didn’t want you, they want the relationship just not with you. People need to realize that some people have never been asked to be girlfriend. So I am just wondering did they all not want me or are the majority of guys looking to mess around?
There's a lot of reasons why meeting people online isn't really ideal. However, there are those who find it more accessible than going out to new meet people. So to those who prefer Tinder or any other dating apps than dating the traditional way, please make sure to be safe. Don't ignore red flags. Check the identity of your potential date before agreeing to meet. Do background check first. The numbers about assault and victims do not lie.
Ladies take it from me. Tinder is like McDonalds. You can eat there if you are hungry but there is no nutritional value and gourmet food out there to truly satisfy you. You might meet someone nice at some expensive, special skill course.
I understand it's lonely being on your own. I've just ditched the apps myself. Don't change who you are just to attract a man. Go out & find love the old fashioned way. There are people of all ages & sizes. Everyone wants & deserves to be happy. If you're big you're big. Accept it & embrace it. Be yourself then you'll be happy!
I quit tinder after I started thinking “after meeting me, did he delete the app or still keeping it “just in case” or “what if we argue and instead of trying to make up he will just download tinder again because it is easier and simpler, not to value the person, but simply replace you with a few swipes” This insecurity sucks and now I do not want a man who even knows what tinder is
Sorry the lighting goes a bit dark in places, didn't have time to re-film. Just thought I'd let you know that it's not just men that struggle on Tinder. Women struggle too. It's an urban myth that women are bombarded by messages. Have a nice week. X
It's probably because 80% of women are gushing over the top 20% of male profiles, while 80% of men are invisible to most women. It was bound to catch up to you ladies sooner or later. Most men are done with dating altogether.
Bumble is just as bad too! And I don’t like how the woman has to message first because it makes it difficult to know if the guy is genuinely interested or not. I feel it’s easier to tell when a woman is interested vs a man so idk why they included that for bumble
Because women NEVER write first to men..NEVER, unless the guy is at LEAST 8/10. I don't like dating apps, infact I hate them. But girls need to show interest as well. Worst thing is women write like 5 year olds and expect that the guys write highly intelligent messages. "Stop asking me how im doing, write something interesting". Meanwhile girls " yea ok", "nothing, u?", "ah ok", "ok". I almost dare putting money on u writing the same stuff to men and eventually YOU find them boring when they are trying and you are not because your too busy collecting matches and constantly searching for the bigger better deal while also suffering from Fear of missing out syndrome. Womens standards on mens messages are so high while they give men shit to work with. For men chatting with women on Tinder, is literally like talking to wall, and im not even trying to be funny. Women suffer from Paradox of choice in Tinder. You have so many options that u cannot decide which option to go for or that no option is good enough for you because Tinder screwed your brains up so hard that nobody is good enough and ur just hoping to maybe come across a young Brad Pitt. I sympthatize with the girl on this video. Fact is, if she looses weight she'll do the same. She will go 100% on looks and she'll also notice how many more matches she'll get so she will always be on the hunt for the best of the best.
Oh please ladies! You guys have no idea that amount of JUNK that men have to endure on apps like Tinder. You can message hundreds of women and literally few of them will respond OR they get SO many messages from dudes that they feel overwhelmed and just quit. You all would be suicidal if you had to endure a FRACTION of the rejection the average man has to endure.
I agree with this so strongly, especially the fact that when you are presented a person in tinder, the first thing you usually see is the physical person, and not their personality. But us people shouldn’t assume that someone is better or worse based off looks, and I never understood why if someone’s a certain height or not what they think is pretty or handsome, they immediately reject them. Maybe in the next video you could talk about how tinder could fix these issues. great video tho 😄
Hey, thank you. I've already filmed a couple of videos ahead, but thanks for the suggestion. A friend of mine suggested an app where people are only looking for relationships not sex. l think men would still hijack this though lol. I think it would help if Tinder made the bio longer, you can only write a few paragraphs on there.
It’s because people nowadays aren’t really trying to find an awesome person. They’re moreso trying to find someone who LOOKS GOOD on their arm/in pictures.
Women think their photos is their personality. And somehow they are right. An old man balding doctor = beta provider z, helper. Schizofrenic guy full of tatooes? badboy, fun, thresome, one night stand
As a curvy girl I can relate. My skinny, pretty friend gets mobs of likes. LOL. This world is superficial especially online. That's why my fine ass is off of them.
Problem with dating apps all the women are chasing the top 20 percent of men who are the only ones that get any luck on apps and the rest of the 80 percent are invisible to women this is actual facts which has been researched. Now am not assuming but I can take a guess that you probably do get a lot of matches but you have to narrow it down to the top ten guys you see fit which are probably the top 20 percent of guys.
That's funny because you women say that you want a good man but instead end up dating the jerk. Alot of women online just want validation... but don't get me wrong you could find someone but that's about 20%...
Yup superb video.. Realistic genuine feelings explained so beautifully.. Well i, as a man have same approach towards dating like yours.. And i am single too 🙂
I think your attitude is your biggest issue, not the body weight. Sure, having a slim body weight helps. However, it seems like you have an issue with your self esteem and outlook. I don't blame you for feeling the way you do as the dating apps pull out the worst in people, so I wish you the best in your journey and the happier you can make yourself the more people will be attracted to you.
I love the honesty. but I find it hard to believe that no men wanted to be you seriously. There had to be men that you thought you were too good for. These men would have dated you seriously and took you out on dates, but it sounds like you also want the guys that all the girls want.
IF you are on dating apps in the Boston/Cambridge area, beware and stay away from a chess player/streamer who is a sex addict and scammer. Lots of sob stories to get anything out of you (including $).
@@text_ghost_love yeah i agree! as a matter of fact, i'm building a totally new social media experience, i'm hoping to launch within this year, your style of content would be perfect to be a central part of what i'm building, i'll return in the future to offer when the opportunity is immediately available, keep up the good work 👍
I bet you still get tons of messages, I'm like a 6 or 7 and get maybe 1 or 2 matches a week who just give one word replies. Eventually I just don't take it seriously or put any effort due to the lack of results.
Never put a 'number' on how attractive you are. Attraction is so much more than looks. Well it is for evolved people. Don't bother with shallow people that go by numbers. They are usually miserable themselves.
I find you to be super attractive but I'm probably not your type. This isn't a come on this is literally something I've observed that seems to be the norm. We're generally attracted to the ones that we can't have. Also generally probably going to be toxic for us.
Thank you. The older I get the more I realise that dating is just pure luck. The combination of finding someone that likes you and you like them back at the same time. Perfect timing for both, both healed emotionally, both wanting the same thing. It's something you can't predict so we all just do our best.
I certainly wouldn't mind observing you, to me you're attractive but it's not so much about looks for me, it's mostly about you as a woman, specially a woman of God 😉
I totally agree with you! As someone’s whos 20 years old, I literally have majority of your issues (minus the body + age). These dating apps (even bumble) attract men who want to have fun and not trying to take you out on a traditional date. the best way to find high quality men with traditional values is most likely through in person. Otherwise, you gotta go through a LOT of whack people to get to someone decent
Thanks for watching! Don't worry about boys at your age. They're more trouble than they are worth ;-)
Its all about whats hidden in destiny
You care about looks a lot, when you said "decent"
@@text_ghost_love i really like the body type u have
Yes exactly and now everyone on social media shoves it in your face that they didn’t want you, they want the relationship just not with you. People need to realize that some people have never been asked to be girlfriend. So I am just wondering did they all not want me or are the majority of guys looking to mess around?
There's a lot of reasons why meeting people online isn't really ideal. However, there are those who find it more accessible than going out to new meet people. So to those who prefer Tinder or any other dating apps than dating the traditional way, please make sure to be safe. Don't ignore red flags. Check the identity of your potential date before agreeing to meet. Do background check first. The numbers about assault and victims do not lie.
Ladies take it from me. Tinder is like McDonalds. You can eat there if you are hungry but there is no nutritional value and gourmet food out there to truly satisfy you. You might meet someone nice at some expensive, special skill course.
I understand it's lonely being on your own. I've just ditched the apps myself. Don't change who you are just to attract a man. Go out & find love the old fashioned way. There are people of all ages & sizes. Everyone wants & deserves to be happy. If you're big you're big. Accept it & embrace it. Be yourself then you'll be happy!
Thank you :-)
@@text_ghost_love you are very beautiful, just do workout and don't let others opinion demotivate you.
Tinder Is NOT for long term relationships
Well said
Strongly disagree, change yourself to attract the type of man you are after
Thank you for the message 🙏I have just decided to delete all the apps in my phone.
I quit tinder after I started thinking “after meeting me, did he delete the app or still keeping it “just in case” or “what if we argue and instead of trying to make up he will just download tinder again because it is easier and simpler, not to value the person, but simply replace you with a few swipes”
This insecurity sucks and now I do not want a man who even knows what tinder is
Sorry the lighting goes a bit dark in places, didn't have time to re-film. Just thought I'd let you know that it's not just men that struggle on Tinder. Women struggle too. It's an urban myth that women are bombarded by messages. Have a nice week. X
It's probably because 80% of women are gushing over the top 20% of male profiles, while 80% of men are invisible to most women. It was bound to catch up to you ladies sooner or later. Most men are done with dating altogether.
Bumble is just as bad too! And I don’t like how the woman has to message first because it makes it difficult to know if the guy is genuinely interested or not. I feel it’s easier to tell when a woman is interested vs a man so idk why they included that for bumble
Same. How do you know if a guy even likes you if you are initiating at outset?!
Because women NEVER write first to men..NEVER, unless the guy is at LEAST 8/10. I don't like dating apps, infact I hate them. But girls need to show interest as well. Worst thing is women write like 5 year olds and expect that the guys write highly intelligent messages. "Stop asking me how im doing, write something interesting". Meanwhile girls " yea ok", "nothing, u?", "ah ok", "ok". I almost dare putting money on u writing the same stuff to men and eventually YOU find them boring when they are trying and you are not because your too busy collecting matches and constantly searching for the bigger better deal while also suffering from Fear of missing out syndrome. Womens standards on mens messages are so high while they give men shit to work with. For men chatting with women on Tinder, is literally like talking to wall, and im not even trying to be funny.
Women suffer from Paradox of choice in Tinder. You have so many options that u cannot decide which option to go for or that no option is good enough for you because Tinder screwed your brains up so hard that nobody is good enough and ur just hoping to maybe come across a young Brad Pitt.
I sympthatize with the girl on this video. Fact is, if she looses weight she'll do the same. She will go 100% on looks and she'll also notice how many more matches she'll get so she will always be on the hunt for the best of the best.
Oh please ladies! You guys have no idea that amount of JUNK that men have to endure on apps like Tinder. You can message hundreds of women and literally few of them will respond OR they get SO many messages from dudes that they feel overwhelmed and just quit. You all would be suicidal if you had to endure a FRACTION of the rejection the average man has to endure.
Cheese and rice...modern women literally messed up a sight in which they are the ones initiating.
I agree with this so strongly, especially the fact that when you are presented a person in tinder, the first thing you usually see is the physical person, and not their personality. But us people shouldn’t assume that someone is better or worse based off looks, and I never understood why if someone’s a certain height or not what they think is pretty or handsome, they immediately reject them. Maybe in the next video you could talk about how tinder could fix these issues. great video tho 😄
Hey, thank you. I've already filmed a couple of videos ahead, but thanks for the suggestion. A friend of mine suggested an app where people are only looking for relationships not sex. l think men would still hijack this though lol. I think it would help if Tinder made the bio longer, you can only write a few paragraphs on there.
It’s because people nowadays aren’t really trying to find an awesome person. They’re moreso trying to find someone who LOOKS GOOD on their arm/in pictures.
Women think their photos is their personality. And somehow they are right. An old man balding doctor = beta provider z, helper. Schizofrenic guy full of tatooes? badboy, fun, thresome, one night stand
Its nothing to do with your looks. Online dating is more superficial and many are looking for hook ups.
Thank you sweetheart.
As a curvy girl I can relate. My skinny, pretty friend gets mobs of likes. LOL. This world is superficial especially online. That's why my fine ass is off of them.
Keep being you lovely.
Problem with dating apps all the women are chasing the top 20 percent of men who are the only ones that get any luck on apps and the rest of the 80 percent are invisible to women this is actual facts which has been researched. Now am not assuming but I can take a guess that you probably do get a lot of matches but you have to narrow it down to the top ten guys you see fit which are probably the top 20 percent of guys.
This chick is dating dudes outside her league and now she thinks she is entitled to these top guys just because they want to sleep with her.
Id date you no problem. I wouldnt change yourself for nobody. Your a good looking girl!
Kind soul, thank you.
@@text_ghost_love No problem. Not enough woman like yourself around these days.Keep being yourself and change for nobody☺
That's funny because you women say that you want a good man but instead end up dating the jerk. Alot of women online just want validation... but don't get me wrong you could find someone but that's about 20%...
Yup superb video.. Realistic genuine feelings explained so beautifully..
Well i, as a man have same approach towards dating like yours..
And i am single too 🙂
Thank you so much honey k. Good luck to you in your journey.
I think your attitude is your biggest issue, not the body weight. Sure, having a slim body weight helps. However, it seems like you have an issue with your self esteem and outlook. I don't blame you for feeling the way you do as the dating apps pull out the worst in people, so I wish you the best in your journey and the happier you can make yourself the more people will be attracted to you.
I done with dating apps in 2010. So I stop it. I didn't have no luck with tinger with the men.
“She’s beginning to believe!”
- Morpheus (The Matrix)
Lol
Dating in the real world is the best way to go
Thank you for sharing! It resonated a lot!
Glad you liked it thank you :-)
I love the honesty. but I find it hard to believe that no men wanted to be you seriously. There had to be men that you thought you were too good for. These men would have dated you seriously and took you out on dates, but it sounds like you also want the guys that all the girls want.
And her non-response to your comment says it all.
great video , im a guy and relate to a lot of what you are saying!
So happy that the men are watching too.
IF you are on dating apps in the Boston/Cambridge area, beware and stay away from a chess player/streamer who is a sex addict and scammer. Lots of sob stories to get anything out of you (including $).
Oh god, that's terrible. Thanks for letting everyone know :-)
mischief of rats part was funny, i hope i too am taken by a pack of rats in the end
Forgot about that. My channel needs to blow up!
@@text_ghost_love yeah i agree! as a matter of fact, i'm building a totally new social media experience, i'm hoping to launch within this year, your style of content would be perfect to be a central part of what i'm building, i'll return in the future to offer when the opportunity is immediately available, keep up the good work 👍
Thank you :-)
I'm looking for a relationship too.
I want to know wh u are!
80% male experience 😂
I bet you still get tons of messages, I'm like a 6 or 7 and get maybe 1 or 2 matches a week who just give one word replies. Eventually I just don't take it seriously or put any effort due to the lack of results.
Never put a 'number' on how attractive you are. Attraction is so much more than looks. Well it is for evolved people. Don't bother with shallow people that go by numbers. They are usually miserable themselves.
I got 1 or 2 matches in every 3-4 months LOL
If we were matched on tinder, I wound have take you for a dinner date beautiful lady. Love from Ireland
Aww thank you. We need more men like you in the world:-)
I find you to be super attractive but I'm probably not your type. This isn't a come on this is literally something I've observed that seems to be the norm. We're generally attracted to the ones that we can't have. Also generally probably going to be toxic for us.
Thank you. The older I get the more I realise that dating is just pure luck. The combination of finding someone that likes you and you like them back at the same time. Perfect timing for both, both healed emotionally, both wanting the same thing. It's something you can't predict so we all just do our best.
I certainly wouldn't mind observing you, to me you're attractive but it's not so much about looks for me, it's mostly about you as a woman, specially a woman of God 😉
Thank you
you are attractive
Aww thank you sweetheart. Trying to not let things get to me anymore :-)