Men Secretly Want THESE 6 THINGS, But Don't Ask For It
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- Опубликовано: 13 июл 2024
- Get "How To Get A Man To Cherish You" here 👉 bit.ly/BeCherishedByHimYTSpecial - Men Secretly Want THESE 6 THINGS, But Don't Ask For It... In this dating advice video, I will lay out for you the 6 things men want but don’t ask for that you need to look out for when dating or while in a relationship. I want you to know what men secretly want so that your relationships can thrive with mutual understanding, where you'll both feel valued and fulfilled. Take heed to these dating tips and ensure you watch the full video to understand men better and know what men want.
The things that men secretly want will serve as keys to unlocking fulfilled and healthy relationships. When you know what men secretly want, you will be better equipped to meet men's emotional needs and build relationships based on trust, understanding, and shared desires. When you address and acknowledge what men secretly want, it will serve as a pathway to more profound satisfaction, stronger connections, and a more enriched life experience.
I don't want you to think that men will always tell you what they want. There are some things men want but don’t ask for, and in this dating advice for women, I will let you know what men want but don't ask for. I want you to be able to understand men better so that you can enjoy your dating and relationships and be able to give men what they want.
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1. Cooking what he likes and being open to feedback
2. Maintain independence
3. Give him his space
4. Initiate sex
5. Be aware and sensitive to his feelings
6. Let him lead and believe in him (the right man)
thanks!
If you know you know ..
🥳happy birthday 🐐
Women need them too i guess. Not just men
THX YOU
Thank you for this!!!
I agree with all these especially number 2- women need to have an amazing life on her own, interests, friends, family, hobbies etc. We need to be whole and complete before joining with another. We can’t expect others to be responsible for our own happiness!
Thank you for sharing, I appreciate that ❤️
💯 facts
Yes! There’s a difference between interdependence and codependence. People need to have their own hobbies, friends, interests, etc. outside of their romantic relationship
1. Better cooking
2. Keep your independence
3. Give him space
4. Initiate sex
5. Be aware of and sensitive to his feelings
6. Let him lead and trust him.
I feel like men should be more open with their feelings so we can understand them better and be a better partner for them.
Thank you for sharing your thoughts, I appreciate hearing from you ❤
Exactly. Like how we supposed to know how you feel.
Yes i love that 🙏🏼
It’s funny a lot of men say the same about women - they’re not mind readers, yet many women expect their men to “just know”. And sadly a lot of men were taught from a young age, that expressing their feelings isn’t safe/acceptable. & some women are not receptive (in a kind & loving way) to men sharing their feelings. I believe we as women should be encouraging our men to talk to us, to be open, & honest with us, & let them know we are a safe space for them to express themselves
@@PR_23 you're very right
They want you to have fun without them, then get mad because you're having fun without them. 😅
My ex would encourage me to go out… then when I get home he’d ask with an attitude “you have fun” 😂
Great video. I personally think that both men and women should be able to cook, have their individual life with hobbies and such. Men should also learn how to communicate their needs so they can be understood. Just as men have a hard time understanding women's needs, we are not abe to guess their needs unless it's communicated. In summary, open conversation towards both feeling/needs and wants is the key to a lasting relationship. Sex should be an open conversation. Nobody can ever know what the others' needs are. The sex conversation for a couple should be as easy as discussing what's for dinner tonight before getting married 🤷♀️, not talking about it is taboo.
This is a great video Stephen! Its good to have your own personal space to have a healthy balance with your significant other. I like to read a book, tend to my vegetable garden, hang out with my friends, or take myself out to a movie. Make sure both of you are whole and have a foundation in God before you enter in a relationship. 🙏🏽 ❤️
When does mom get a break daily? Mom seems to have all the responsibilities of the children, cooking, everyday household duties, and going to work. Dad goes to work and comes home. He still gets time to decompress? What about mom?
Im celibate until im married. But im very affectionate and love cuddling and very loving, soft and feminine.
Same
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This was a really good video. From a man’s perspective, this was very insightful to watch. The last point about leadership is so important…..a man cannot properly lead if his woman does not TRUST and believe in him enough to properly lead. Often times I hear women saying the man should lead, but I never hear women saying that some of them cannot be led because they’re afraid or they don’t trust their men enough to lead. This obviously stems from bad experiences, childhood trauma etc which needs to be dealt with. Again, this was a really good video🙌🏾
My man shall never have the worry about being sexually neglected. God has preserved me to fulfill all his needs.couples must be open and transparent.
Always Love Almeta ❤️🙏🏿😘
*A loving relationship is one in which the loved one is free to be himself - to laugh with me, but never at me; to cry with me, but never because of me; to love life, to love himself, to love being loved. Such a relationship is based upon freedom and can never grow in a jealous heart.*
That’s why I say stay. Until you are ready to care about the new person. Stay where you are. Hope the new person will still be there
Thank you for sharing your thoughts I appreciate your feedback ❤️ 🙏🏼
Unfortunately, I’m in love with a man who was pursuing me hard, made me fall in love with him now he’s playing games! I’m too old for this ish!
🙏🏼 I'm sorry to hear about that. I pray that he reaches the point of doing what is truly best!
@@MeetStephanSpeaks yes thank you! Your videos have helped! I’ve ignored him he’s coming back but need to see more action and how he’s gonna treat me for my birthday on the 30th. We both turned 50 this year
@@amoywaid8907 😔😔💖 i don't like
Heartbreaks because it does take time
To Heal. But Healing is Truly Possible
So my dear please check if there's a
Real Connection.. If not don't worry
Move forward and prepare yourself
For the true man Gid has for you. And
Spending single time to find the
Amazing person God made you to Be
Will make people Wonder why they lost you In the first place!! 🤗😅🙏💖
My man is a chef, honestly it makes me feel like a lesser woman , nothing I can make comes even close to his standards
I cooked well , I cleaned, I had my own hobbies and interests, he drank and drank more, his boys outings became more and more frequent, left in the afternoon and got home 2am. His friends became more important than me. I had to leave because I become toxic. In the beginning 6 years ago we had that connection. Just finished your 2 books, love after heartbreak and The man God has for you. Still feeling sad as I moved to another province. We were not married, he didn't want to hear about it as we were both married before.
I'm sorry to hear about that. I pray that you heal from all that you have been through and be able to keep moving in faith 🙏🏼
He has an addiction and NOONE can compete with that. If he ever gets clean, he'll call you and apologize. I know it hurts; however, he loved you enough to leave because he really had NOTHING to offer you. Know that in the predicament you described, you're better off WITHOUT him. 🙏🏽💯😇
@@MeetStephanSpeaks thank you, your content has really helped me, I am well on my way to healing think I have already, 3 months now and just focusing on my journey with prayer 🙏
@@thepaperedsleuth you're right, I keep getting confirmation. Thank you
Bless you and your videos Stephan! They have changed my life so much. It's been a year since I found your channel and I am a completely different person. I grew up with parents that have a very unhealthy relationship dynamic and without wanting to, I replicated the same behavior in my connections too. Now I am healing in my current relationship and learning a lot about myself and how to deal with my emotions. I feel like I am growing more and more every day as a person.
You always bring me a lot of peace and clarity. Thank you for your advice, from the depths of my heart.
I'm happy this has been helpful to you. Don't forget to share so that others can receive love, healing, and clarity ❤ 🙏
You are a relational peacemaker ☀️
❤️ 🙂 Thank you!
Always good stuff!! Only thing left is to find a man who finds his good thing (me)!!
I pray that you receive the man who is truly best for you, the man God has for you 🙏🏼
I love your sense of humor 🤣and I also agree with everything you have said.
@StephanSpeaks, I give the last man I dated his props. I asked how he knew what to do. He said he went to 'Google University' to make sure the woman is pleased first. Also, I encourage the women to initiate intimacy. Thank you for reinforcing the importance of men knowing the woman wants him, TOO!
Thank you so much Mr Stephen 😊❤️
Preach it! As far as the space thing, I immediately thought of The Keys to the Kingdom by Alison A. Armstrong. I think every woman should read that book.
In the Caribbean community , the men wont be afraid to tell his lady the cooking could get better
your advice is great Stephen. very realistic
Thank you for your videos ♥️♥️ I've never been in a relationship and you are helping me so much lately. Keep up your incredible work 💪😊😊
I'm happy this has been helpful to you. Don't forget to share so that others can receive love, healing, and clarity ❤ 🙏
Thank you.. I will comment more .. but this was good.
God bless you Precious Stephan this is an excellent video. You are an amazing person and your laughter and humor is a blessing.
Always Love Almeta ❤️🙏🏿😘
Thank you for sharing this information. I have several things that I need to do. I need to believe and trust that he is making the right decisions. I need to give him space when he needs it. Because I require me time so this something that I can share with him.
Thank you for your feedback, I appreciate hearing from you ❤️
Is it normal that when you were single you knew how to be on your own and when you get involved with someone in a relationship you get clingy and doesn’t know how to be yourself?
I understand. I wonder the same thing. We just love hard.
@@lovelyleah1 I guess we do
I wanted to make a comment here about Stephan’s book “How to get a Man to Cherish You” and was reading all of the reviews and there must have been over 50 or so reviews I’m not sure because all I did was kept on scrolling and scrolling down and every single review with an exception of one or two who didn’t like it. The rest were all five stars and it just kept on going and going and going like this for all reviews just pure thumbs up and five star ratings and never had I seen that much reaction from any othe author and I’m a book worm. Always getting books. I just think it’s safe to say that Stephen knows what he’s doing and saying. And im about to order this book on payday! 🙏🏼
Thank you for your feedback, I appreciate hearing from you ❤️
Take out everyday is crazy.. great video. Thank you!
My pleasure ❤️
Thank you true
Amazing. Well said.
❤️ 🙂 Thank you!
Powerful video!🙏🏾
❤️ 🙂 Thank you!
GREAT video! Can you make another video about tip #6, allowing men to lead and helping them feel valued?
Great suggestion, I will add it to my list to get it done!
I love missing my Husband, but not for long. Thank you Stephan ❤
good morning. listening may 2024! bless all us here amen.
Hi Stephan thanks for this video
My pleasure ❤️
Food is one of the unspoken love languages ♥ it's definitely mine and cooking is one of my most favourite ways to show my love 😍
What advice do you have for an older couple that's getting to know one another
Thank you for the video Stephan. If he doesn't like the cooking, maybe he could cook with her to show her how he prefers his food and then she can show him how she likes her food for the days when he cooks. Cooking together is more fun and saves time when possible.
Thank you for sharing, I appreciate your feedback 🙏
Thank you so much for always sharing with us such valuable impulses🫂🙏🏼♥️
I fell in love with a great man. I messed up, and I've tried so hard to show him how sorry I am, and how much I care. Is there anything I can do or should I just leave him alone? I've prayed, I've worked on myself, my career and I'm a great cook...
Spend the time with God and if it’s meant
@@yx5991 that's all I do..
You'll find my video on the 7 steps to build trust in a relationship helpful. Check it out here 👉 ruclips.net/video/61yzqs6aad8/видео.html
He needs to love you too! Love doesn't hold a grudge, love forgives. Did he forgive you? Have you forgiven yourself
What did you do?
Are these tips or suggestions from men who are married/committed relationships?
Great advice as always! Do you think it becomes harder for married couples to maintain passion over the years? As much as they still love each other and have sex on regular basis, the same passion might not be there. Any thoughts?
I love you Stephen
so real and raw information, i enjoy himbetter than steve harvey, hope this man gets his own show if he wants it. but God bless him with the desires of his heart.
About initiating sex: I have known only one man who liked me to initiate sex. He was a Southerner. Nordic men don't like it. I have heard from several married women that the man pushes them away when they try to initiate sex and this destroys their self-esteem even though they are in very good shape. I would really like to know if it is just a cultural difference or some personal complex when a man says that he doesn't like if the woman initiates sex?
Stephan, if you see this comment, please do a video on this topic!
Girl! This is so tricky! What's the middle ground as well?!😂
i cooked for my man for 10 years, dinner ready for him every night, he loved my cooking but left me eventually... it's just food. they can cook for themselves.
Hmmm, I guess I should take my sign down that's in my kitchen. "I only have this kitchen because it came with the house"
Just prefect ❤
❤️ 🙂 Thank you!
Oh boy.
Just a short question for me to understand it better...so if the husband comes home from work and needs some time for himself that's fine with me but what if the wife spent all day with the kids and taking care of the household and she'd really like to have half an hour to herself as well? A friend of mine told me that she told her husband that when he gets off work she gets off work as well cause she also had a day full of work and the chores in the evening are the chores for both of them and I think that's an amazing way to look at it. So if both of them like to spend half an hour to themselves in the evening when is family time gonna happen? Sometimes deciding to have kids and a family means to put your needs behind and maybe have your half hour free time on the weekends... everybody should know that before you start a family is what I think or did I just get the message wrong?
I commented the same thing. This is a trash take. I like his videos thus why I'm a subscriber but this is terrible. How can I let him lead when he can't handle "the stress" of coming home?
they are not simple very complicated
There are a lot of good men out there and I pray that you receive the man who is truly best for you, the man God has for you 🙏🏼
@@MeetStephanSpeaks thank you so much I can't wait to get your new book and enroll in that masterclass,I'm thinking of getting a bundle
I.m ADHD so I .m like the energizer bunny . I work I clean I cook and feeding my man is just as important as taking care of business in the bedroom. He has no complaints. 🎉❤
I was like that when i used to be married, his solution was work more. So that was a problem
I must be the exception to this
Thanks
My pleasure ❤️
what if there's an age gap, being that women is older than the man and he needs space to figure himself out, but its valentines day. If he doesn't reach out, or even send flowers, does that mean hes no longer serious about you? been together year and a half and are very much serious about each other, but have our own issues to deal with and can only do that alone (for both sides). Just one side would feel more secure and better if we still gave each other small gift...
Great tips..even better you encourage people to wait until marriage..which is the principle that God states in the Bible! Flee from sexual immorality people! It's not easy, no..but God has it this way to protect you/memories! God bless anyone reading this message!
Plus He knows who is dirty and who isn't.
How come all the men I have dated always want to spend every second of every day with me? It’s excessive. I feel unable to breathe. I have explained the healthy need to hav a few hours on a Saturday for example to go shop/brunch with my girlfriends and always say they should do the same with their male friends. They always complain saying I never want to spend time with them! It is as if we are not together every minute they panic: it is as if when many men actually meet a woman who is mentally healthy and stable they panic because they are used to women who are clingy. And when it is the female asking for space and alone time it only makes them more crazy attached to unhealthy levels. How to solve this? ❤
Before I clicked on this video I said "They want you to leave them TF alone" Lol Then I was like nah let me just watch the video and see what a man has to say. Then you say the first 3 points and its "cook for me but leave me tf alone". Smdh This is really why I did not do well with past relationships and I'm just learning this in my late 20s but luckily I am very aware now. I definitely stop myself in the talking phase. It's also why letting the man lead the pace of the relationship is so important because the LAST thing I want to be to a man is clingy or annoying.... * continues watching *
Thank you for sharing, I appreciate that ❤️
Thank you for the awesome work you do! Great video @@MeetStephanSpeaks
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When truly in love the vibes tell without the need for strategy. Is that any part of reality in a man’s psyche?
You're absolutely right!
1. Better cooking
2. Maintain your independence
3. Intiate sex
5. Be aware n sensitive of his feelings
6. Let him lead and believe in him
What was number 4?
You’re missing “give him space”
Now the 30 mins you think he should get, is the Mom getting it too ? Because most likely she is NOT. So maybe be mindful of the Mom
If he wants better cooking maybe he can show her.
To be with a woman for 5 years and she doesn’t ever cook is crazy if shes not cooking for you she’s not really feeling you bro
Thank you for sharing your thoughts, I appreciate hearing from you ❤
You're not lying about cooking
I'm going to have to find me a chef. I not a really good cook.
Thank you for your feedback I appreciate hearing you ❤️ 🙏🏼
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@@MeetStephanSpeaks The word says he will give us the desire of our hearts.
My heart has always desired to be the submissive wife; pregnant, barefoot and in the kitchen always appealed to me,…to marry and have a big family (I wanted 6 kids),…that was the desire of my heart.
Im 41 and never married. G-d denied the desires of my heart.
Every ex I’ve ever had has come back and told me how perfect I was and that they were just too young and wild to see it when they dated me but now (usually years and a divorce or two later) they are all the sudden ready for me. …..eff that, I don’t want a man who couldnt see my value, I don’t want a man who threw me away and made me feel worthless then came crawling back to me as his second choice after he couldn’t make it work with his first choice.
I appreciate your videos,…. You erase a lot of my self doubt, you show me that who I have chosen to be over the years is correct.
Sadly, though, I am still single and now too old to have the big family I always dreamed of.
I love your laugh and positive energy, Stephan, but this video made me sad because it brought me back the memories I wanted to forget forever. There was a man who always praised my food and always took more of it, even though I was young and didn't know how to cook much. Then there was another man who ALWAYS criticized my food. One day he said my sauce was too salty, the next day too peppery, the third day too sweet, the fourth day tasteless.. until one day I managed to make a super tasty sauce. That time he tasted the sauce several times and said," I don't know what it is, but something is missing here.."
Let me add that was the last time I ever cooked for him.
That was an evil spirit. They are never satisfied. They will always find fault in others. He is the only perfect creature. They do this pushing down thing everywhere they go except to the places or people who do the same thing.
@@Erica-cf1xb You are so right. That's exactly what I heard about him later from other people. Thank you!
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Can you do a video on why a side chick gets the ring or main chick
Great suggestion, I will add it to my list to get it done!
Great suggestion, I will add it to my list to get it done!
Amen! God knows best. Sex was His idea, after all. Wait til marriage to honor Him.
Stephen what aren't there more BLACK MEN like you. We know there are some but we need MORE so it's enough to go around to more BLACK WOMEN 😢
Cooking 🧑🍳 no… we hire a chef… why women have to do things that they don't like and just waste their time? It has more important things to do instead of wasting time in the kitchen 🍳 cooking
Thank you for sharing your thoughts I appreciate your feedback!
Minus the sex, I think I follow these things . I’m not sure if we are in a relationship though.
When he gets sick, I drop off food for him.
And when I ask him “why he does things for me”, he said it’s him being nice. He hasn’t said he likes me. But we will talk for hours when we meet. Pay for all of my food. He just let me pay one time at Starbucks but the other restaurant places , he always pay. He said this, “ you have kids” so he will bless me. He is divorced and I’m a widow with two kids .
He texts me everyday, update his day. Is that being nice??? I’m controlling myself not to reply right away. But he will message me first. Check on me if I’m okay? But again, is that because he is just nice with me.
Does he like me or him being nice and being a good brother in Christ? Seriously, I’m soo confused!!!
Just ask him. If this is a friendship or a romantic relationship.? It is important that if you view him as someone that you would want to commit to that you do not settle on a friendship. However, if you view each other as company and he feels the same then at least you both know where you stand. You won't know if you don't ask x
Given that women also come back home after work , who is giving the woman space to breathe tho? Ypu cant ask the children to give parents space...
Anyone know where in the Bible that allows a woman to divorce her husband?
the client who had a girlfriend who didn’t cook for him in five years sounds like the guy I was dating who said my food needed more salt.. broke up with him this morning because he was giving me other red flags. Salt is to taste. My taste is not everyone’s taste.
He couldn’t add salt to his plate?
My gosh Steph why man timing could be so horrible
When it comes to sex ?
A quick story
M ex came from psrtying late one night
Phoned me ,asking whst i was doing
Told him i was actually studying
For an exam next day ,
Ask if he could drop by
I said oh thsts ok
Dont you know he came over wanting SEX 😅
Believe me i had to chase his ass off
Why when it come to sex they can be so
Inconsiderate ?
I’m no expert, but men naturally have a higher libido than women. Also, I think it depends on the man, his values and his intentions when it comes to sex. You mentioned this guy was your ex and that he hit you up late one night. So it sounds like y’all weren’t together anymore or talking like that. But for him to hit you up randomly, after being out partying, and want to come through, he set the stage to show there was only one thing on his mind, sis. You giving him permission to come through late was probably him thinking he was about to get something. Please know that I say this w no judgement, and I’m so happy you kicked him out 😂😂👏🏾👏🏾
Steph just by the topic you already had me laughing
OMG men u all can be bitter sweet 😅
Open your dam mouth and dunk it in my face
Never shut the hell up and expect me to know
Steph, after all we re not super woman ah !!!😂😊
Thank you for your feedback, I appreciate hearing from you ❤️ 🙂
You should be able to tell your man what you like just like he should be able to tell you in the bedroom.
Maybe he should cook for himself if he wants it a certain way
No offense but a mature man should be able to speak his mind, if not, he's not a mature man.
Thank you for sharing your thoughts, I appreciate hearing from you ❤
If the womb/yoni says no it’s a no
10:55 sorry but progesterone requires we get about 5 consecutive days off per lunar cycle. Just sayin. That's why us women are a hot mess now -- running. every. single. day of the year. B/c most have never been informed about their true hormonal requirements.
I'm so enjoying this lecture and kind of reflecting on my marriage, even though he's no longer with us... Wow everything happened so fast..moving from being best friends and lovers and quickly into marriage and having our first born...careers getting messed up and missing out on a few conversations and discussions. Lord I was still so young and ooh he
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