Yeah, it's ironic and sad in a way.... and you can't fake disinterest. When I met my last gf, in the beginning I wasn't interested in her. In fact, she was in a relationship, and had guys hitting on her all day long, but I "ignored" her because I wasn't interested (and was a bit oblivious). She flirted with me hard for many weeks, then finally just told me how much she wanted me. For the first few months, I still wasn't into her the way she was into me (it takes me a long time to get attached) and she worked hard for my attention. But then at some point, I fell for her, and started giving her all the attention. Guess what happened? She started to not make time for me, and I began chasing her, and she lost respect for me and 2 years later she cheated on me, then dumped me. The only good thing is, I didn't chase her or ask her back, I just said "ok" and cut contact. It's been over a year now, she's sent me a couple breadcrumbs, but once I saw her with another guy, I once again lost interest.
When a girl flakes after showing interest and dating, that means there's another guy in the picture ALWAYS. No matter how hard I tried to think some women were different, that was ALWAYS the reason. They make rules and excuses for the guys she doesn't want. She breaks ALL the rules and doesn't give a shit about the world when she really wants the guy. These are painful facts my friends.
Dont erase the number they allways come back and then your, like who's this? I kept erasing my txt threads and numbers. And then they come back all of a sudden. I'm stuck like "who the fuck is this"
Mike Gates bro that happens to me too! But I figured out a method to deal with it: If they text you, “Hey,” continue to play along with conversation. A few texts in ask her, “Do I have you added on Instagram or Snapchat?” Boom. You can pretty much figure out from her username who she is and then the reminiscing sets in haha.
Not really, that shows that you are really butthurt, best way to respond is being indifferent just by saying no worries then you disappear and let her chase you... That shows a lots of class than not responding at all
@@borhan181818 I am not so sure about it, if you reply something like "no worries" girl might think that you will always want to meet with her, and when she asks about another meeting, flake can happen again
@@borhan181818 Nah dude, it shows that you're not going to waste your time on ppl who don't respect your time Imagine you had a chance to sit down and talk to Warren Buffet or The Rock or Obama, and you flake on them last minute with a text. Do you seriously believe you would get a reply back?
Guys, just do you. Don't stop working hard and having fun. If you find interest in someone just ask them out. If they say no then you need to accept it and move on. The woman I married said no and then 2 weeks later reached back out to me. All the women who said no to be before ended up failed relationships or are still single. Have confidence and pride. Never be afraid to walk away.
Darby Wilson Jr agreed. It’s utterly damaging to a man’s self esteem when he is in love with a woman, but she doesn’t find him desirable, but will keep him around for all kinds of support, including crying to him about the guy she is in love with. Friendzone is for cucks
I heard that if a woman tests you, it's okay because she wants to see if you're a potential mate. In other words, if you're in the friend zone, you will not be tested.
I cut contact not because I want to arouse someone attention back. But because FLAKING someone itself, or DITCHING for an appointment itself, is DISRESPECTFUL. That's not how you treat another human being, regardless of gender. That's not a moral and decent thing to do. If you are not interested, why would you make the appointment at the first place? I will just cut off with them forever after few times of flaking, not even a friend P.S: Just blocked a girl totally after ditching me for few times.
I agree. It's funny to me how people tell women to watch how the man they're going on a date with treats wait staff, cashiers, etc., because how he treats strangers is who he truly is. I apply the same rule to the woman; if she flakes, shows up late, etc., it's 100% disrespectful, and shows you who they truly are. They're someone who thinks they're better than you, so they have no problem wasting your time. Avoid, avoid, avoid.
Unless there is some explanation on her part, do not give a woman who does that a second chance. Drop her right there, drop her that very moment and never look back.
Daniel Wong Spot on. Not respecting someone's time or simply not respecting should be enough. If someone can not genuinely meet with you, they will renegotiate another time or ask to do so with you...or ...take responsibility for rescheduling. Whomever cancels should be left with the responsibility to offer to reconnect. Then you should have the option to bother or not. If this happens over and over again, chances are someone else is more of a priority than you. Depending on whether or not that sits okay with you (maybe she or he is not that much of a priority for you either ), then you can decide where on your list of priorities to put that person and proceed accordingly. But as a friend once said on this subject with respect to dating, if you have 199 "friends" and you don't need 200, then to hell with that person: friend, potential lover or foe. Move on. Respect and being an adult about things is more important. Peace...
I tend towards this too. People always tell women to watch how men treat wait staff/cashiers/etc., because how they treat a stranger is who they truly are. So if a woman is willing to treat you like that... you're basically teaching her that you'll put up with her anti-social behavior, and she's showing you who she truly is.
@@Ricky.Ricardo No harm in a second chance, the first time is usually a test. You don't reply to her flakey text and let her get paranoid over it. When she realizes what she's done and reaches out, give her one more chance to meet up. If she does it again, then you cut contact. I will say this though.. A girl did this to me twice and I stopped replying to her, after 3 or 4 blanked texts over the space of a month she basically offered herself to me on a plate. I guess what I'm trying to say it NEVER block them unless they start blowing up your phone. Women, like children, do eventually learn from their mistakes.
Winning formula: 1. Have your own purpose and goals in life. Work towards them. 2. Have multiple options. If one woman is flaky or on the fence, you can just go to another who is more interested. This also makes it harder to get emotionally attached to women. Don't be afraid to flaunt that you have multiple options (right time, right place, of course). Women perceive competition different than men do.
I've been single for 8 months now and have used your second rule quit a lot. Beware that you if you date and have sex with multiple women, you will lose interest in all of them for a relationship. You got to be strong enough to accept being alone if it doesn't workout and not deceive women. I always tell the truth and when I tell them I've dated other women they get hurt and I lose interest in them.
Cut the contact , dont think about her dont think about her dating with other guy it will kill you let her go , work hard improve your self learn a lesson , if she will comeback it will be good if not it will be good for you also you still can find another good girl better than her now you are equiped because you learn from your past experience you will be the new and improve you to handle a relation.. life goes on ..
Every time a woman flakes for a date, put the money you would've spent on the date into a Roth IRA, lol. Pretty soon you'll be loving women that flake. Actually, you'll start to see what women would've cost you in time and money. Your focus will quickly change from chasing women to chasing financial independence.
When a girl is truly excited to see you she will even go out of her way to buy a new outfit get her nails done and plan her day if she can’t even meet you once she’s just not that into you it says a lot it doesn’t lessen anyone’s worth it’s just that there is no mutual attraction.
you can't generealize that way some girls matter of fact likes the guy but due to family restrictions so forth they can't do anything about it. period. dont apply the attraction rules to everything
Wrong There can be huge attraction for the girl but she is involved with someone else already and doesn't want to confuse herself going out with someone new. Doesn't mean she doesn't like you just she has known someone else longer and it is going to take a lot to get her away from that other relationship.
I girl who stopped me and offered me her number later flaked on me.. kinda. Instead of meeting me where we planned.. she invited me to a nearby restaurant where she was with one of her friends. Except.. She didn’t tell me before hand, she let me get there then when I text her, she was like “oh I’m over here.” She did specifically mention how close it was, but still was I confused af. I didn’t know wether to be mad at the disrespect or understanding ‘cause I don’t know what’s going on with her and her friend. I turned down meeting her with her friend because where they were didn’t have veg food. But i invited her back out later that night (I just meet up with some friends) nearby and she didn’t come, (which worked out cause another girl sorta hovered around me till i started talking to her and we hooked up,) but still feel like I shouldn’t have recontacted the initial girl. The whole thing is still a wtf moment in my life.
putmyname ontheinternet? She just wanted to take things slow. You should have hung out with her. She probably realized how forward she was being and took a step back. Which is normal for us girls to do.
I set-up a second date, where she invited me to a works night out. A few hours before she flaked and said she was too ill to go out and was really sorry. I left ir with a yeah ok. Then what do i see a fee hours later, her on fb with pics she uploaded and she was out! She realised i found out and sent me a message apologizing, but i just cut all contact. Huge red flag, like the guy says, you got to be willing to walk away!
Sorry to hear man -and am actually upset emotionally through hearing your comment and for other people going through bad situations in general -im actually in tears now swear to God 😓 FucK that bitch off man seriously, SAVE YOURSELF FIRST FROM GOING SLIGHTLY INSANE. Thanks
@ Conford Anon, That type of disrespect would not be tolerated at the workplace. The employee would either be reprimanded or downright fired. In other words, there are consequences.
When a woman likes you she will always have time to respond and make time for you. If she says she was busy that's a red flag. No one is busy for 24 hours and no time to respond especially when they have phone on them.
This channel helped me so much to have more value for myself, don't go chasing a woman. If she wants you she'll come to you. Thank you for this channel
My rule of thumb has always been: If she cancels the date at short notice but apologizes profusely and immediately suggests an alternative date (i.e. she's clearly telling the truth), then accept her excuse and meet up later on. If, however, she cancels without offering an alternative, then drop her entirely and don't meet her again, even if she changes her mind later on. She is definitely bad news for you.
Got the “Hey, I’m sorry to do this you think we can reschedule for next weekend or so? Something came up I won’t be ready on time” so I just sent some simple reply and all forward movement is done
I had a girl flake, she asked if we could do this on another date as she was busy with working, told her that’s totally fine and to let me know when your are free, started no contact, let’s see what happens
If she texts that she can’t make it, you ignore her message, don’t try and be polite and offer the reschedule, she flaked! She doesn’t deserve a response at this point, you’re a friggin man, stand up tall with broad shoulders and be the man! Don’t block her, cut contact and watch her womanly instinct kick in.. ie ... starts to chase you
I see it like acting. Robert de Niro talked about acting and how one should not try to do anything. You are enough. So, you ought to just relax. It's harder than it seems.
The fun part for me is that I was standing back gauging her reaction and judging her character based on if she kept her word or not. She flakes twice on plans, so I cut ties. I don’t need unreliable liars in my life.
flaking is disrespectful without question, no matter what the excuse. no point trying to get them to explain the reason for flaking or rescheduling because no matter what you say, she just doesn’t respect you. cut contact and do yourself a favour. if she doesn’t respect you before you’ve even met then you’ve dodged a bullet and a lifetime of headache. if she comes back with an excuse and a willingness to make it up to you, then you can consider it if you think she’s being genuine. otherwise just leave her on read like she left you on read
Adolf Hitmaker Not really I had a girl flake on me 3 times then I walked away then she was banging like crazy one month later. One flake rule no good mine is 2 or 3 if she's hot then you have to let her prove she's worth it.
The biggest reason I'm single right now and not dating is because I refuse to accept things from women that they wouldn't accept from me. When they start getting flakey, start switching up, taking too long to respond etc etc I just keep it moving. Unfortunately, it's just been women who are uninterested in me because they make zero effort to follow up. But, on the upside, I am saving a lot of money not taking worthless women who don't want me but will take a free meal out on dates so hey, could be worse 🤷🏾♂️
If she ignores you, delete her from your contacts and walk away, never looking back. women come and go like the clouds, and there are too many out there. give them a bit of their own cold medicine. show them you are the price.
If she is really interested she will put time and effort. If she doesnt put time and effort, but she is interested then she treats you like an option. Walk away, if she find it in herself to make you a priority then come back.
EXACTLY! I met a girl once on a bar, we talked for hours, and made what I thought to be a good connection. She asked me if I would like to meet back there the following morning, and we exchanged numbers and all, she even texted me when she got home. Well, the next day, a few hours before we were scheduled to meet down there, she texted and told me that she had some errands to run and could not make it. She did ask though if we could reschedule. Now, I am aware that things do come up, sometimes things happen where you legitimately cannot make it. But the fact she was doing this and it was the first time we agreed to meet up again, I thought to myself, when she brought up the idea of rescheduling: "Hell no." I took it as her in a polite way declining, even though she originally brought up about meeting up again. Maybe she changed her mind, well okay that's fine. Did not worry me a bit. But I figured in light of the circumstances, I felt best to cut my losses. So I politely texted back and just said: "No thank you."
@@alexanderdelarosahidalgo3092 - Thanks! I figured it was the best move to make. Did I get it wrong? Perhaps. But I just felt that it was the right move to make. And I don't regret it.
You should NEVER reply, not even "No worries", which implies no consequences for this rude attitude. Actions are a lot more powerful than words. When a girl likes you, she WILL make time for you. The one who cares the least, holds all the power! Those who do not appreciate my presence, will appreciate my absence. I deal with those who deal with me.
Exactly, you just say something like I am not interested in meeting people who have a low interest level in meeting. Then delete her number and Ghost her, she will try reply but just ignore
If she flakes, cut contact. Shes done. The first date is like a job interview. If you show up late to a job interview you're done! They're not going to call you back or ask if you're still Interested. They will move on to other options and you should too. Have some self respect.
Tests ended with my final degree exams. If I'm being tested, she can clear off. Not interested. Happy to throw my lot in with the MGTOW campaign than be tested.
Well I had a 9 that texted me she couldn't make it for our first date. We rescheduled for the next day. Ended up going back to her apartment after drinks and making out.
It’s easier to just forget about it. I prefer convenience and simplicity. When they come back around I just give polite but short responses. Respect gets respect, so if they can’t be cordial and tell me their not interested they won’t get the same from me, but once they make it harder than it has to be, it’s over.
Yeah this tactic worked like a charm a few years ago but now? They'd rather find another guy for boosting their ego instead of making any effort at all. I'm tired of this sh*t, what kind of sick world we live in
I just had this situation. I called the fact she might be nervous (I met her on tinder) she worked a double, so I just fell back,it doesn't really bother me because I know she will contact me if she wants to meet.
i matched with a few women that basically work 7 days a week just to get by... yeah they aint making time for me even though they gave their number without me asking
I messaged her on the day of the date early on. She replied 4 hours later 2 hours before we would of met up saying “sorry just seen this now, guess who has covid. I’ve deleted her number and I’m not contacting her again. I don’t believe for one second she’s telling the truth, far too much of a coincidence and such an easy excuse to use right now. I left it on read and I’ve had no follow up message so I guess I confirmed it myself 👍🏻
Next pay I'm definitely buying this book . I've never seen more precious advices in seduction .Respect mate you're helping a lot of us with your knowledge
I have had similar situation. She wanted to be with me, i agreed. She became sick and went to the hospital (2 months). I was there for her, supporting and trying to be of help. The moment she became better she became distant, extremely flaky and never finding time to catch up (work, university, arangements). No explanation needed, no harsh feelings, i simply deleted her from my life. Never chase a person who doesn't value you, never! That is destructive for you as a human being. Find people who value you and stay positive, do not let it affect you. I am writing it down as a person who let it affect him and thrust me, its something which eats you up from inside!
Women have their prime in their 20s, when they are young and pretty. Men have their prime in their 30s, when they are strong and successful. Keep digging kings, we will get our prime and we will make our own decisions too!
im not a whiner but if she flakes doesnt it show she doesnt respect you?is a man so low in a womans eyes?after all by default men are leaders its the core of who we are designed by God
Yeah I think it does... For me it depends on the approach. Because if a woman comes to me all "I want sex and I want this and that with you"... I'm very harsh and immediately shut that down because that's a disrespectful approach. Trust me... It can feel like that sometimes (if not most of the times!). But if a girl comes to me all respectful and actually interested in who I am... And it turns out that I have no attraction for her... I respectfully explain why there's nothing between us and will never be. Doesn't matter how many times or time that I have to explain that to her but I won't leave the conversation until that's perfectly understood. And in the end I always throw that "hey we can be friends regardless". Women don't do that! Not even close! They're lacking humility, humbleness and yeah... Respect for another person's feelings. They're just treating people like a piece of paper. Feminism is freaking great... Turns out, it turns women into nazi sociopaths that puts in their heads that men are disposable irrelevant beings. It's like they are this supreme leader and no one is able to criticize or point the finger at them because otherwise you'll end up dead. Which is not far from the truth really... If you criticize a woman... You're almost gone from society! And that's because the power of the p*ssy... If you say no or negative things... Another idiot will do the contrary to fill your place. Because he's "thirsty". And the supply is endless! It's very hard to stop it. Unless you cut out the libido of men around the world... Which is impossible... It will never stop! We can raise awareness for starters... If a woman treats people like crap make sure everybody knows! Next time a man tries to approach her, he will be thinking with his brain instead of his d*ck
I do this with first dates. If a woman cancels on me with a casual attitude like "eh sorry I can't make the date, maybe some other time" then I'm hitting them with the "good luck in your future endeavors". If she seems genuinely apologetic and gives me some times she can reschedule then that at least let's me know she cares, and I'll allow it. But otherwise I'm just gunna keep it moving.
Toda I asked her out after watching this video, now I will apply the Cut Contact if she flakes me out again, Thank you chris, I hope this works, and if she doesnt came back to me, I will move on.
@grit that seems like what an insecure, unstable male would do. A man with high value and an abundance mentality does not do that. Ever. His indifference creates the anxiety in her to make her react. He doesn't manipulate her for no reward.
@@66kaisersoza you never have to play by rules. You can do what you want. But if the outcome you want is a secure, happy relationship you must establish boundaries and standards in your personal conduct to find that right person. Otherwise you'll just be a doormat, or a bitter and lonely man.
This advice is spot on. When I was young and dumb, I would get upset and call a woman out for blowing me off or cancelling. This is 100% wrong. The first time you ask a girl out, if she flakes it is almost always a test. She wants to see if you get all rear end hurt. All you prove by getting upset is she knows she dodged a bullet. Before having these videos, it took me til I was almost 30 to get this. Your best move if she flakes is to say, "gee that sucks "x excuse" happened, hope you or it is okay! Give me a call next week if you want to reschedule." And then no contact. I learned that 90% she will text you early that week with a gee sorry! That was crazy! Feel so bad, how about Thursday!" Because you passed the test. Now if she does it more than once, THAT is low interest and stringing you along, and she is not going to go out with you, so delete her number and do not waste your time. If you are literally sitting at a restaurant by yourself then maybe call her out as that is rude. But it is not going to get her back interested.
Is it not better to handle it by rersponding to her flake by saying something like "Hey no worries, sure get in touch when you know when you are going to be free and we can arrange something", then go no contact until/if she replies? That way you are showing that you are unaffected by her flake (showing masculine qualities and passing her test). This also puts the ball firmly in her court to contact you if she wants to meet and that you are not going to chase her. By not replying to her flake and going no contact right away she could be thinking you are really upset and pissed off at her, which means you have failed her test.
That's the beta way of handling it, if you prefer getting rattled and jerked a bit more.. Cutting contact is more bold and effective. Its shows you are willing to move on, she's not high priority and that value your time. Its raises your value.
Completely agree. You should never just ignore or not acknowledge a text. By responding in a positive and friendly way, it shows that you are unaffected by her behaviour, which is attractive in itself. I wouldn't want a girl thinking I was bitter and resentful towards her - that wouldn't inspire her to contact me.
if you don't reply it makes you seem butthurt. I just tell em "that's ok maybe we can try some other time" and don't text her again till she reaches out
Jtothez, That's right. Best thing is to respond with something that says you don't care like No problem, you can reschedule with me next time. And then I never text or call her again. If she's interested she'll reschedule. If she doesn't reschedle then she was never interested.
joelombrdo I didn't respond when she sent a msg like this , "Hello , how are you " - 3:39pm "Can't make it today, let's make it next week ." - 3:39pm "Won't u say anything " - 7:13pm "???" -7:16pm Well I never responded back and that was 4months ago , didn't delete her tho , today she sent a merry Christmas message to and some warm wishes , well I didn't respond still . And this is a girl who showed high interest in me in physical with signals and talks smh , well she wants to me to chase her and I don't chase chicks , either u come up to me or u don't simple . And they keep coming tho lol
Bernard, I have the same type of situation right now. A lady cancelled on me early the morning of a day we were supposed to get together. Some story about she felt a cold coming on. I replied "No problem, you can reschedule with me next time." She replied to the effect of okay, will do. So she sent me a message the other day talking about how she was getting ready for Christmas. I responded but didn't say anything about getting together. If she wants to get to together she'll have to make the move. I'm not gonna sweat it. I did notice that the same day that she said she had a cold coming on she was on the chat of a dating site that I use, LOL. So I don't trust her ass. But I'll chat with her. I'll never ask her out again.
She knew I was low on cash and I had to travel 2 hours to meet her, I asked her if she wanted to meet later, she asked to meet her at a train station out in a shitty area with nothing to do, I simply asked if she wanted to meet me later...2 hours later still no response, to which I texted 'thanks for wasting my time and money', the next day I asked her what happened? and asked if was really nervous about going on a date? I said I wasn't pissed off but let down. still no response since 30/12/18.
@@metaldude8726 two things with women that have never failed me. 1. If they flake even once 2. If they take ages to reply to your messages or not at all. (If it happens once in a while it's ok) You MUST drop that girl , any time I have experienced any of this I have never recovered and ended up chasing
You chased her bro. If she flaked why would you want clarity. Females tend to use guys as an ego boost smh. If that ever happens again just cut your loses, and stop all contact.
Chris make video on "How to deal and response ur girlfriend when she try to come back and want a relationship again" and my problem is i patched up early and she brakes up often and thinks its easy to come back..! Thanks
Here’s a slightly different take on the same scenario: went on a spontaneous tinder date a few weeks ago with a girl from out of town who was just passing through. Things went great, and so as she lived in another city, she agreed to drive back up on the weekend to stay over at my place. However, she then texted me at the last minute to say she’d ‘lost track of time’ and given the 2 hour drive, we should probably postpone until the next day. I told her that no, tomorrow would not work and she needed to stick to the original plan - letting her know that if she didn’t come tonight, there would be no second date. She then got straight in the car and drove up here in record time. When she arrived, she was visibly shaken and immediately apologized. I accepted her apology and then calmly told her to never do it again. She thanked me for being so assertive, and things have been going great ever since. This was a major shit test on her part. She didn’t even bother to make up an excuse or blame it on something else - instead just saying “Yeah I’ve been fucking around and now I can’t be bothered anymore”. She was testing to see how much of a pushover I was, and how desperate I was to see her again. If I had simply said “no problem, I’m available tomorrow as well”, I can just about guarantee she would have flaked again, and the second date would never have materialized. I would have become just another one of those desperate guys blowing up her phone in the middle of the night looking for breadcrumbs of attention. But because I stood my ground and put a high price on my time, showing her that I would walk away before tolerating any disrespect, she immediately identified me as a high value man. So although she still instinctively throws tests at me now and again, I never have to tell her anything more than once. She knows that if I say something, I mean it, and that if she keeps pushing I will be gone. So far, I have never been so adored and well treated by a woman. If something like this had happened on the first date, I might have actually been more flexible, but as it was a second date with a lot planning and logistics already invested in it - postponing was a sign of disrespect that I chose not to tolerate.
When a girl likes you, she WILL make time for you.
Yass
Ofcos bitch, this flake is like stage one of 9999999 stages you got to go through 😅😅😅😅
Unless she is involved with some other guy too. She may like you but knows the other guy for a longer time.
Actions really do speak louder than words
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I never chase a woman...if she's not showing interest...NEXT!!!!!! 😎👍
I don't chase even if they show interest now imagine the ones who don't lol
Unfortunately can't find enough women to have interest in me that I like all that much.
It will be next all the time then.
😂guys please.....
@@rascal211 anytime you work on yourself they come
the one who cares least holds all the power
The one who care least about the relationship is the one in power in the relationship.
How
Yeah, it's ironic and sad in a way.... and you can't fake disinterest. When I met my last gf, in the beginning I wasn't interested in her. In fact, she was in a relationship, and had guys hitting on her all day long, but I "ignored" her because I wasn't interested (and was a bit oblivious). She flirted with me hard for many weeks, then finally just told me how much she wanted me. For the first few months, I still wasn't into her the way she was into me (it takes me a long time to get attached) and she worked hard for my attention. But then at some point, I fell for her, and started giving her all the attention. Guess what happened?
She started to not make time for me, and I began chasing her, and she lost respect for me and 2 years later she cheated on me, then dumped me.
The only good thing is, I didn't chase her or ask her back, I just said "ok" and cut contact. It's been over a year now, she's sent me a couple breadcrumbs, but once I saw her with another guy, I once again lost interest.
Daniele Gaglio because the person who cares the least, hurts the one who cares the most and therefore has power over the other.
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When a girl flakes after showing interest and dating, that means there's another guy in the picture ALWAYS.
No matter how hard I tried to think some women were different, that was ALWAYS the reason.
They make rules and excuses for the guys she doesn't want.
She breaks ALL the rules and doesn't give a shit about the world when she really wants the guy.
These are painful facts my friends.
Truth. I've experience it myself a few times
its true. a woman always has 3 guys waiting in line. no matter how ugly..
They crave attention.
100% true. As coach Mike from the 33 Secrets states. Women make rules for the Beta and break rules for the Alpha.
it also means you acted beta, it can only be corrected by turning alpha and walking away until she submits, if not, on to the next one.
Fk it just Delete her number and move on....don’t waste your time guys on just one girl!
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Dont erase the number they allways come back and then your,
like who's this?
I kept erasing my txt threads and numbers.
And then they come back all of a sudden.
I'm stuck like "who the fuck is this"
@@SmallsGang_773 I have a question for you does this work with the same sex..
Mike Gates bro that happens to me too! But I figured out a method to deal with it: If they text you, “Hey,” continue to play along with conversation. A few texts in ask her, “Do I have you added on Instagram or Snapchat?” Boom. You can pretty much figure out from her username who she is and then the reminiscing sets in haha.
@@SmallsGang_773 can't you see that's what you want them to see!.Thanks
"Dont even bother to respond it actually increases your value " Awesome advice
Not really, that shows that you are really butthurt, best way to respond is being indifferent just by saying no worries then you disappear and let her chase you... That shows a lots of class than not responding at all
@@borhan181818 I am not so sure about it, if you reply something like "no worries" girl might think that you will always want to meet with her, and when she asks about another meeting, flake can happen again
1000Staver if it happens again then you don’t reply and you drop her and forget about her so I don’t see the issue with saying no worries
@@borhan181818 Nah dude, it shows that you're not going to waste your time on ppl who don't respect your time
Imagine you had a chance to sit down and talk to Warren Buffet or The Rock or Obama, and you flake on them last minute with a text. Do you seriously believe you would get a reply back?
@@BestKayneUwU One time is enough
Walk away with dignity. Or beg with no dignity!
Never beg for anything.
When a man has no self- respect, then the woman will continue to disrespect him.
Lol
Guys, just do you. Don't stop working hard and having fun. If you find interest in someone just ask them out. If they say no then you need to accept it and move on. The woman I married said no and then 2 weeks later reached back out to me. All the women who said no to be before ended up failed relationships or are still single. Have confidence and pride. Never be afraid to walk away.
I saw all of them look confused without paychecks
Mirror her actions. If she flakes, walk away and continue to date other women
Learning there’s other women I can date and that want to date me, and it’s really nice
@@robbyalbrght9226 Im trying to learn that, but failing.
Instead I'm doing my own thing, cause there's always Righty Tighty.
The friendzone is a no no! I'd rather be dumped then friendzoned
Darby Wilson Jr agreed. It’s utterly damaging to a man’s self esteem when he is in love with a woman, but she doesn’t find him desirable, but will keep him around for all kinds of support, including crying to him about the guy she is in love with. Friendzone is for cucks
@@michaelangel25 she can't friendzone without him allowing her to do it. easy, never see her again
I heard that if a woman tests you, it's okay because she wants to see if you're a potential mate. In other words, if you're in the friend zone, you will not be tested.
@@michaelangel25 ... Deadass !!! ...
@@mrcool665 ... For real ...
I cut contact not because I want to arouse someone attention back. But because FLAKING someone itself, or DITCHING for an appointment itself, is DISRESPECTFUL. That's not how you treat another human being, regardless of gender. That's not a moral and decent thing to do.
If you are not interested, why would you make the appointment at the first place?
I will just cut off with them forever after few times of flaking, not even a friend
P.S: Just blocked a girl totally after ditching me for few times.
I agree. It's funny to me how people tell women to watch how the man they're going on a date with treats wait staff, cashiers, etc., because how he treats strangers is who he truly is. I apply the same rule to the woman; if she flakes, shows up late, etc., it's 100% disrespectful, and shows you who they truly are. They're someone who thinks they're better than you, so they have no problem wasting your time. Avoid, avoid, avoid.
Unless there is some explanation on her part, do not give a woman who does that a second chance. Drop her right there, drop her that very moment and never look back.
Daniel Wong
Spot on. Not respecting someone's time or simply not respecting should be enough. If someone can not genuinely meet with you, they will renegotiate another time or ask to do so with you...or ...take responsibility for rescheduling. Whomever cancels should be left with the responsibility to offer to reconnect. Then you should have the option to bother or not. If this happens over and over again, chances are someone else is more of a priority than you. Depending on whether or not that sits okay with you (maybe she or he is not that much of a priority for you either ), then you can decide where on your list of priorities to put that person and proceed accordingly. But as a friend once said on this subject with respect to dating, if you have 199 "friends" and you don't need 200, then to hell with that person: friend, potential lover or foe. Move on. Respect and being an adult about things is more important.
Peace...
the world doesnt owe us nothing.
@@AZITHEMLGPRO and we don't owe the world nothing either, also is not an obligation keeping these girls as friends, period
This guy is too good
He is, isnt he
When a girl flakes even once , she MUST GO.
I tend towards this too. People always tell women to watch how men treat wait staff/cashiers/etc., because how they treat a stranger is who they truly are. So if a woman is willing to treat you like that... you're basically teaching her that you'll put up with her anti-social behavior, and she's showing you who she truly is.
Thing is sometimes emergencies do come up and maybe she wants to tell you or not,either way I say three strikes in a row and you're out!
RicYouSick don't let it get to 3 trust me I just let that happen, I feel like a shmuch
@@tttgaming8762 sorry that happened to you bro, if not 3 then 2, so they at least have a second chance.
@@Ricky.Ricardo No harm in a second chance, the first time is usually a test. You don't reply to her flakey text and let her get paranoid over it. When she realizes what she's done and reaches out, give her one more chance to meet up. If she does it again, then you cut contact. I will say this though.. A girl did this to me twice and I stopped replying to her, after 3 or 4 blanked texts over the space of a month she basically offered herself to me on a plate. I guess what I'm trying to say it NEVER block them unless they start blowing up your phone. Women, like children, do eventually learn from their mistakes.
Never chase women. There are plenty of fish in the sea!
Secret Billionaire where is the fish let me know ... Iam waiting with the net ..
@@jagdishm3072 A net in one hand and a huge erection in the other ready to ram them hardcore!.Thanks
Not really. The best ones are always taken. Most women I don't care for at all.
Not really/ Most of the fish I don't care for , not even attracted to most of the fish
Not if you are an average man, but the advice not to chase them is still sound.
Winning formula:
1. Have your own purpose and goals in life. Work towards them.
2. Have multiple options. If one woman is flaky or on the fence, you can just go to another who is more interested. This also makes it harder to get emotionally attached to women.
Don't be afraid to flaunt that you have multiple options (right time, right place, of course). Women perceive competition different than men do.
I've been single for 8 months now and have used your second rule quit a lot. Beware that you if you date and have sex with multiple women, you will lose interest in all of them for a relationship. You got to be strong enough to accept being alone if it doesn't workout and not deceive women. I always tell the truth and when I tell them I've dated other women they get hurt and I lose interest in them.
Usually she'll flake because her dog is in outer space and she has to find him
Max Gillin or she was kidnapped by giant flying panda bears
😂😂😂😂😂
or she was abducted by the manbearpig himself
Yeah the perfect excuses my friend is sick or my dad died lmao
Her alpha male is poking his rod in her
Cut the contact , dont think about her dont think about her dating with other guy it will kill you let her go , work hard improve your self learn a lesson , if she will comeback it will be good if not it will be good for you also you still can find another good girl better than her now you are equiped because you learn from your past experience you will be the new and improve you to handle a relation.. life goes on ..
You wanna see her again? Cut contact.
You wanna get rid of her? Date her
You wanna see her again? Cut contact.
You wanna get rid of her? Tolerate her bad behaviour
This exactly what I gonna do cut contact... someone is keeping her busy and I'm not that guy for her
Same here bro
Simply
100%
Every time a woman flakes for a date, put the money you would've spent on the date into a Roth IRA, lol. Pretty soon you'll be loving women that flake. Actually, you'll start to see what women would've cost you in time and money. Your focus will quickly change from chasing women to chasing financial independence.
Or even spend on the dating money every time you get flaked on a prostitute and know that the upside is you got laid for sure!.Thanks
Smart!
Wow, it's funny because recently, I realised that I enjoyed more seeing my bank account grow than spending money on dates!!
haha! We need to smarter and emotionally intelligent men.
This is actually pretty brilliant!
Walk away without even responding...classic
Don't let a chick weaken your armour move on a the right one will come along
Well said!
Love the life you have while you create the life of your dreams
If she flakes, she's fake move on
💯
I’m angry with her
@@user-bu9ne7ef3qwalk away if they drop one bit of disrespect
She won't flake on Chad and Tyrone 😏
But Chad and Tyrone will flake on her.
That's because Chad's and Tyrone could care less about them.
I am Tyrone 😀
Yr Right,I FLAKE OFTEN.
gg
Haha yep
When a girl is truly excited to see you she will even go out of her way to buy a new outfit get her nails done and plan her day if she can’t even meet you once she’s just not that into you it says a lot it doesn’t lessen anyone’s worth it’s just that there is no mutual attraction.
you can't generealize that way some girls matter of fact likes the guy but due to family restrictions so forth they can't do anything about it. period. dont apply the attraction rules to everything
Wrong There can be huge attraction for the girl but she is involved with someone else already and doesn't want to confuse herself going out with someone new. Doesn't mean she doesn't like you just she has known someone else longer and it is going to take a lot to get her away from that other relationship.
I girl who stopped me and offered me her number later flaked on me.. kinda. Instead of meeting me where we planned.. she invited me to a nearby restaurant where she was with one of her friends. Except.. She didn’t tell me before hand, she let me get there then when I text her, she was like “oh I’m over here.” She did specifically mention how close it was, but still was I confused af. I didn’t know wether to be mad at the disrespect or understanding ‘cause I don’t know what’s going on with her and her friend. I turned down meeting her with her friend because where they were didn’t have veg food. But i invited her back out later that night (I just meet up with some friends) nearby and she didn’t come, (which worked out cause another girl sorta hovered around me till i started talking to her and we hooked up,) but still feel like I shouldn’t have recontacted the initial girl. The whole thing is still a wtf moment in my life.
putmyname ontheinternet? She just wanted to take things slow. You should have hung out with her. She probably realized how forward she was being and took a step back. Which is normal for us girls to do.
Infinite Warrior all of us break the rules for the right one 😉
Break it off, and leave in the past. She let you know upfront you mean nothing to her. I will not talk to a woman who flaked on me before, ever again.
Taras Wertelecki I feel you bro .
But is it 1flake or multiple before you don't talk to her again ?
I set-up a second date, where she invited me to a works night out. A few hours before she flaked and said she was too ill to go out and was really sorry. I left ir with a yeah ok. Then what do i see a fee hours later, her on fb with pics she uploaded and she was out! She realised i found out and sent me a message apologizing, but i just cut all contact. Huge red flag, like the guy says, you got to be willing to walk away!
Sorry to hear man -and am actually upset emotionally through hearing your comment and for other people going through bad situations in general -im actually in tears now swear to God 😓
FucK that bitch off man seriously, SAVE YOURSELF FIRST FROM GOING SLIGHTLY INSANE. Thanks
An absolute bitch.
Man it doesn't lessens your worth a bit. It was just lack of attraction...so its important to see the red flags from day 1
@ Conford Anon,
That type of disrespect would not be tolerated at the workplace. The employee would either be reprimanded or downright fired. In other words, there are consequences.
How did I go from "I'm free anyday" to "I totally forgot!" 🤦🏼♂️
ha! free but not free
When a woman likes you she will always have time to respond and make time for you. If she says she was busy that's a red flag. No one is busy for 24 hours and no time to respond especially when they have phone on them.
This channel helped me so much to have more value for myself, don't go chasing a woman. If she wants you she'll come to you. Thank you for this channel
Best to just cut contact and move on...IF she does want to reschedule annouce that you're busy.
My rule of thumb has always been: If she cancels the date at short notice but apologizes profusely and immediately suggests an alternative date (i.e. she's clearly telling the truth), then accept her excuse and meet up later on. If, however, she cancels without offering an alternative, then drop her entirely and don't meet her again, even if she changes her mind later on. She is definitely bad news for you.
Yup, just happened to me today. She texted first on the day of the date. she apologized and already made another date in 2 days.
yep happend last week but is scheduled this saturday lets see.
Agreed.
Got the “Hey, I’m sorry to do this you think we can reschedule for next weekend or so? Something came up I won’t be ready on time” so I just sent some simple reply and all forward movement is done
I had a girl flake, she asked if we could do this on another date as she was busy with working, told her that’s totally fine and to let me know when your are free, started no contact, let’s see what happens
If she texts that she can’t make it, you ignore her message, don’t try and be polite and offer the reschedule, she flaked! She doesn’t deserve a response at this point, you’re a friggin man, stand up tall with broad shoulders and be the man! Don’t block her, cut contact and watch her womanly instinct kick in.. ie ... starts to chase you
The juice is no longer worth the squeeze.
The juice is nolonger worth the squeeze 🍊🍋💦
Og words
Or worth drinking.
When they flake it's tricky - don't pursue her and let her pursue you ! Date other ones and avoid one- itis👎
Even when she gets back to you, do not eagerly reply or show high interest. Be aloof and let her come to you. She has to earn you back.
Lol. The lesson here is to have a plan B. And remember not to beg, your emotions are priceless
The best part is minimum effort! It's not natural to beg
@// pvnda道教 // Are you referring to the natural flow of things in the universe?
Are you Chinese as well.?
@// pvnda道教 // wow, pretty awesome man ,and you speak a Chinese dialect fluently I'm assuming?
I see it like acting. Robert de Niro talked about acting and how one should not try to do anything. You are enough. So, you ought to just relax. It's harder than it seems.
The fun part for me is that I was standing back gauging her reaction and judging her character based on if she kept her word or not. She flakes twice on plans, so I cut ties. I don’t need unreliable liars in my life.
I'm 50, and I've made all the mistakes, and I agree 100% with the title, don't even respond to a woman who flakes.
You have any other valuable advice sir?
@@keerthivasanmanu
Text others
Thats good advice guys. Cut contact and dont even look back. Just move on.
Make her feel bad about her character. Then cut contact. Because it demonstrates self-worth. It's cold hearted. But that's the way it is.
flaking is disrespectful without question, no matter what the excuse.
no point trying to get them to explain the reason for flaking or rescheduling because no matter what you say, she just doesn’t respect you.
cut contact and do yourself a favour. if she doesn’t respect you before you’ve even met then you’ve dodged a bullet and a lifetime of headache.
if she comes back with an excuse and a willingness to make it up to you, then you can consider it if you think she’s being genuine. otherwise just leave her on read like she left you on read
You cannot know if it she's genuine or not. Chances are she's not.
Don't take any chances, just leave her.
@@jujuju20121exactly leave her in the dust
Walk away. Say okay and no more contact
Don't even respond. Just walk away.
Doesn't matter what you do, just cut contact asap
👏👏
No second chances either. One flake is one too many, after that just cut her loose
Adolf Hitmaker Not really I had a girl flake on me 3 times then I walked away then she was banging like crazy one month later. One flake rule no good mine is 2 or 3 if she's hot then you have to let her prove she's worth it.
@@theexadvice1664
No ass good enough to ignore you fuck that
I guess you don’t know how women work
Typical noobie move of you
@@theexadvice1664 you don’t value yourself as much as the one flake rule guys which is fine..
Good video. I been talking to this girl for a week and agreed to hang out. She flaked well time to cut contact and find someone worth my time
That's what I am doing to her now.. people just don't know how to act.. so it's best to do radio silences also. It's crazy but it's has to happen .
The biggest reason I'm single right now and not dating is because I refuse to accept things from women that they wouldn't accept from me. When they start getting flakey, start switching up, taking too long to respond etc etc I just keep it moving. Unfortunately, it's just been women who are uninterested in me because they make zero effort to follow up. But, on the upside, I am saving a lot of money not taking worthless women who don't want me but will take a free meal out on dates so hey, could be worse 🤷🏾♂️
I just say to womans its not you, its me!
Good focus on you my g 🙏
This has never brought back any girl to me. I just simply never ever hear from them again.
If she ignores you, delete her from your contacts and walk away, never looking back. women come and go like the clouds, and there are too many out there. give them a bit of their own cold medicine. show them you are the price.
lol prize
Flakes = DELETE / No-show = DELETE / 10hs to reply text = DELETE / Doesn't answer phone = DELETE / 2 dates no action = DELETE
Very true. All men must know these.
If she is really interested she will put time and effort. If she doesnt put time and effort, but she is interested then she treats you like an option. Walk away, if she find it in herself to make you a priority then come back.
EXACTLY!
I met a girl once on a bar, we talked for hours, and made what I thought to be a good connection. She asked me if I would like to meet back there the following morning, and we exchanged numbers and all, she even texted me when she got home.
Well, the next day, a few hours before we were scheduled to meet down there, she texted and told me that she had some errands to run and could not make it. She did ask though if we could reschedule.
Now, I am aware that things do come up, sometimes things happen where you legitimately cannot make it. But the fact she was doing this and it was the first time we agreed to meet up again, I thought to myself, when she brought up the idea of rescheduling: "Hell no."
I took it as her in a polite way declining, even though she originally brought up about meeting up again. Maybe she changed her mind, well okay that's fine. Did not worry me a bit. But I figured in light of the circumstances, I felt best to cut my losses.
So I politely texted back and just said: "No thank you."
That was a boss move
@@alexanderdelarosahidalgo3092 - Thanks!
I figured it was the best move to make. Did I get it wrong? Perhaps. But I just felt that it was the right move to make. And I don't regret it.
@@thecowboy9698 There are too many Women's out there. don't waste your time on attention whores
You should NEVER reply, not even "No worries", which implies no consequences for this rude attitude.
Actions are a lot more powerful than words.
When a girl likes you, she WILL make time for you.
The one who cares the least, holds all the power!
Those who do not appreciate my presence, will appreciate my absence. I deal with those who deal with me.
Aye, well said bro.
Exactly, you just say something like I am not interested in meeting people who have a low interest level in meeting. Then delete her number and Ghost her, she will try reply but just ignore
@@FKEGFRfacts!! Get a next girl
If she flakes, cut contact. Shes done.
The first date is like a job interview. If you show up late to a job interview you're done! They're not going to call you back or ask if you're still Interested. They will move on to other options and you should too. Have some self respect.
Needed to hear this.. Thanks! I actually did this and when I walked away and said don't text me again I'm done, she started blowing my phone up.
Tests ended with my final degree exams. If I'm being tested, she can clear off. Not interested. Happy to throw my lot in with the MGTOW campaign than be tested.
Everytime I watch your vids all I can say is thank you!
Facts, all you really gotta do as a man is show interest and set up the date after that it’s up to her to cooperate
Just walk away especially if she's a daddy's girl and flat broke
Absolutely , a flat broke ....
I literally got the "my mom just got out of hospital". Hahaha! I didn't even bother responding to that. I hit up Menards and did man shit!💪🏾😤
Great video straight to the point
Well I had a 9 that texted me she couldn't make it for our first date. We rescheduled for the next day. Ended up going back to her apartment after drinks and making out.
It’s easier to just forget about it. I prefer convenience and simplicity. When they come back around I just give polite but short responses. Respect gets respect, so if they can’t be cordial and tell me their not interested they won’t get the same from me, but once they make it harder than it has to be, it’s over.
She aint test she got better options
Maybe your right.
that's why you have to be alpha
In her mind...
Yeah this tactic worked like a charm a few years ago but now? They'd rather find another guy for boosting their ego instead of making any effort at all. I'm tired of this sh*t, what kind of sick world we live in
under rated comment
This is so true
I just had this situation. I called the fact she might be nervous (I met her on tinder) she worked a double, so I just fell back,it doesn't really bother me because I know she will contact me if she wants to meet.
i matched with a few women that basically work 7 days a week just to get by... yeah they aint making time for me even though they gave their number without me asking
this is a boss move
Ma father always said: "never chase women nor busses. If one bus goes, the next one comes 30min later"
I messaged her on the day of the date early on. She replied 4 hours later 2 hours before we would of met up saying “sorry just seen this now, guess who has covid. I’ve deleted her number and I’m not contacting her again. I don’t believe for one second she’s telling the truth, far too much of a coincidence and such an easy excuse to use right now. I left it on read and I’ve had no follow up message so I guess I confirmed it myself 👍🏻
Did she reach out to you ?
Next pay I'm definitely buying this book . I've never seen more precious advices in seduction .Respect mate you're helping a lot of us with your knowledge
I have had similar situation. She wanted to be with me, i agreed. She became sick and went to the hospital (2 months). I was there for her, supporting and trying to be of help. The moment she became better she became distant, extremely flaky and never finding time to catch up (work, university, arangements). No explanation needed, no harsh feelings, i simply deleted her from my life. Never chase a person who doesn't value you, never! That is destructive for you as a human being. Find people who value you and stay positive, do not let it affect you. I am writing it down as a person who let it affect him and thrust me, its something which eats you up from inside!
Women have their prime in their 20s, when they are young and pretty. Men have their prime in their 30s, when they are strong and successful. Keep digging kings, we will get our prime and we will make our own decisions too!
lol cope
im not a whiner but if she flakes doesnt it show she doesnt respect you?is a man so low in a womans eyes?after all by default men are leaders its the core of who we are designed by God
True-in goods mould and spirit. Thanks
It shows you are nothing in her eyes, and you dodged a bullet.
Men used to be leaders, but feminism has flipped that on it's head now
Yeah I think it does... For me it depends on the approach. Because if a woman comes to me all "I want sex and I want this and that with you"... I'm very harsh and immediately shut that down because that's a disrespectful approach. Trust me... It can feel like that sometimes (if not most of the times!). But if a girl comes to me all respectful and actually interested in who I am... And it turns out that I have no attraction for her... I respectfully explain why there's nothing between us and will never be. Doesn't matter how many times or time that I have to explain that to her but I won't leave the conversation until that's perfectly understood. And in the end I always throw that "hey we can be friends regardless".
Women don't do that! Not even close! They're lacking humility, humbleness and yeah... Respect for another person's feelings. They're just treating people like a piece of paper.
Feminism is freaking great... Turns out, it turns women into nazi sociopaths that puts in their heads that men are disposable irrelevant beings. It's like they are this supreme leader and no one is able to criticize or point the finger at them because otherwise you'll end up dead. Which is not far from the truth really... If you criticize a woman... You're almost gone from society! And that's because the power of the p*ssy... If you say no or negative things... Another idiot will do the contrary to fill your place. Because he's "thirsty". And the supply is endless! It's very hard to stop it. Unless you cut out the libido of men around the world... Which is impossible... It will never stop! We can raise awareness for starters... If a woman treats people like crap make sure everybody knows! Next time a man tries to approach her, he will be thinking with his brain instead of his d*ck
I do this with first dates. If a woman cancels on me with a casual attitude like "eh sorry I can't make the date, maybe some other time" then I'm hitting them with the "good luck in your future endeavors". If she seems genuinely apologetic and gives me some times she can reschedule then that at least let's me know she cares, and I'll allow it. But otherwise I'm just gunna keep it moving.
like a boss chris... like a boss... i've levelled up much more watching your videos . Thank you man .Thank you
It's very hard when you love her. But I will try. Thank you very much
been there, but it's not worth it dude trust me.
You're better off loving yourself.
Get a life man
Guys fall in love real deep if they let themselves.
I can't believe I was a simp...
All these years trying to impress her, my soul will never forgive me.
Toda I asked her out after watching this video, now I will apply the Cut Contact if she flakes me out again, Thank you chris, I hope this works, and if she doesnt came back to me, I will move on.
I had a girl flake on me today. I almost had to buy a new phone until I saw your video...
Fck yeeeeah bro I have been on this situation but now i CUT CONTACT FOREVER I really understand you broo 💯
They always use their kids as the excuse for everything
That's why you don't date mothers.
Never date mothers. They are the best with excuses . Kids kids kids
@@airlebron7467 The dad left for a reason💯
@airlebron7467 lol and the girls who dont have kids always use there dog as a excuse 😂😂😂
best advice ive seen on flaking. no time for time wasters
I think the real boss move is after she reaches out, schedule another date... then flake on her. Give her some of her own medicine.
Grit never a smart approach. Men are the rock, always.
@grit that seems like what an insecure, unstable male would do. A man with high value and an abundance mentality does not do that. Ever. His indifference creates the anxiety in her to make her react. He doesn't manipulate her for no reward.
@@Maldridge815 men shaming other men like that puts us in a weak position with women.
Why should we play by a set of rules when women don't? Fuck em
@@66kaisersoza you never have to play by rules. You can do what you want. But if the outcome you want is a secure, happy relationship you must establish boundaries and standards in your personal conduct to find that right person. Otherwise you'll just be a doormat, or a bitter and lonely man.
Eye for an eye
This advice is spot on. When I was young and dumb, I would get upset and call a woman out for blowing me off or cancelling. This is 100% wrong. The first time you ask a girl out, if she flakes it is almost always a test. She wants to see if you get all rear end hurt. All you prove by getting upset is she knows she dodged a bullet. Before having these videos, it took me til I was almost 30 to get this.
Your best move if she flakes is to say, "gee that sucks "x excuse" happened, hope you or it is okay! Give me a call next week if you want to reschedule." And then no contact. I learned that 90% she will text you early that week with a gee sorry! That was crazy! Feel so bad, how about Thursday!" Because you passed the test.
Now if she does it more than once, THAT is low interest and stringing you along, and she is not going to go out with you, so delete her number and do not waste your time. If you are literally sitting at a restaurant by yourself then maybe call her out as that is rude. But it is not going to get her back interested.
So true. When they flake you must say absolutely nothing in response. Do not even dignify it with a response. This is the way.
Brilliant advice - l just got flaked- not even responding!
So if she texts back calling you out for not responding still ghost her?
just tell her that you ended up making other plans, got busy and forgot to reply back.
@@ryuhayabusa5 No, busy with another woman. : )
Thanks for reminding me of what I should be doing Chris. 👍🏻
A call with Chris Canwell can be life changing. Highly recommend his book and phone session
Is it not better to handle it by rersponding to her flake by saying something like "Hey no worries, sure get in touch when you know when you are going to be free and we can arrange something", then go no contact until/if she replies? That way you are showing that you are unaffected by her flake (showing masculine qualities and passing her test). This also puts the ball firmly in her court to contact you if she wants to meet and that you are not going to chase her. By not replying to her flake and going no contact right away she could be thinking you are really upset and pissed off at her, which means you have failed her test.
chrismac7777 way better..thanks man.!!
yup than go complete ghost..
That's the beta way of handling it, if you prefer getting rattled and jerked a bit more.. Cutting contact is more bold and effective. Its shows you are willing to move on, she's not high priority and that value your time. Its raises your value.
Completely agree. You should never just ignore or not acknowledge a text. By responding in a positive and friendly way, it shows that you are unaffected by her behaviour, which is attractive in itself. I wouldn't want a girl thinking I was bitter and resentful towards her - that wouldn't inspire her to contact me.
It seems pretty passive aggressive.
Please can I apply this on a long distance relationship?
i delete their contact if they flake
Delete the whole text thread
If they truly love you they gonna have to start doing things.
Replay this one every now and then as a refresher.
I wish I had been given this advice when I was a young man.
They all want a nice guy until they meet one. Women like this do not deserve your time or effort, move on!
if you don't reply it makes you seem butthurt. I just tell em "that's ok maybe we can try some other time" and don't text her again till she reaches out
If your lucky she might reach out.
Kind of on the fence about that myself. Seems like either way would work.
Jtothez, That's right. Best thing is to respond with something that says you don't care like No problem, you can reschedule with me next time. And then I never text or call her again. If she's interested she'll reschedule. If she doesn't reschedle then she was never interested.
joelombrdo I didn't respond when she sent a msg like this ,
"Hello , how are you " - 3:39pm
"Can't make it today, let's make it next week ." - 3:39pm
"Won't u say anything " - 7:13pm
"???" -7:16pm
Well I never responded back and that was 4months ago , didn't delete her tho , today she sent a merry Christmas message to and some warm wishes , well I didn't respond still .
And this is a girl who showed high interest in me in physical with signals and talks smh , well she wants to me to chase her and I don't chase chicks , either u come up to me or u don't simple . And they keep coming tho lol
Bernard, I have the same type of situation right now. A lady cancelled on me early the morning of a day we were supposed to get together. Some story about she felt a cold coming on. I replied "No problem, you can reschedule with me next time." She replied to the effect of okay, will do. So she sent me a message the other day talking about how she was getting ready for Christmas. I responded but didn't say anything about getting together. If she wants to get to together she'll have to make the move. I'm not gonna sweat it. I did notice that the same day that she said she had a cold coming on she was on the chat of a dating site that I use, LOL. So I don't trust her ass. But I'll chat with her. I'll never ask her out again.
Once I do that soon as she says ok , I vanish
Im #1 priority period. She cancel she gets ignored. "But" like you said she will usually text back willing to meet same night😂
She said she can't as she just finished work so I replied with "it's cool" and I haven't spoke to her since. Have I done the correct thing?
She knew I was low on cash and I had to travel 2 hours to meet her, I asked her if she wanted to meet later, she asked to meet her at a train station out in a shitty area with nothing to do, I simply asked if she wanted to meet me later...2 hours later still no response, to which I texted 'thanks for wasting my time and money', the next day I asked her what happened? and asked if was really nervous about going on a date? I said I wasn't pissed off but let down. still no response since 30/12/18.
That's the thing , women always moan about guys treating them like crap. They ain't no better
@@80skid83 damn right
@@metaldude8726 two things with women that have never failed me. 1. If they flake even once
2. If they take ages to reply to your messages or not at all. (If it happens once in a while it's ok) You MUST drop that girl , any time I have experienced any of this I have never recovered and ended up chasing
You chased her bro. If she flaked why would you want clarity. Females tend to use guys as an ego boost smh. If that ever happens again just cut your loses, and stop all contact.
@@80skid83 Oh yeah, I changed my ways and dropped a lot of Women. Only the Women that are keen will show you and express it.
Chris make video on "How to deal and response ur girlfriend when she try to come back and want a relationship again" and my problem is i patched up early and she brakes up often and thinks its easy to come back..!
Thanks
break up with her and date someone else.
Here’s a slightly different take on the same scenario: went on a spontaneous tinder date a few weeks ago with a girl from out of town who was just passing through. Things went great, and so as she lived in another city, she agreed to drive back up on the weekend to stay over at my place.
However, she then texted me at the last minute to say she’d ‘lost track of time’ and given the 2 hour drive, we should probably postpone until the next day.
I told her that no, tomorrow would not work and she needed to stick to the original plan - letting her know that if she didn’t come tonight, there would be no second date. She then got straight in the car and drove up here in record time. When she arrived, she was visibly shaken and immediately apologized. I accepted her apology and then calmly told her to never do it again. She thanked me for being so assertive, and things have been going great ever since.
This was a major shit test on her part. She didn’t even bother to make up an excuse or blame it on something else - instead just saying “Yeah I’ve been fucking around and now I can’t be bothered anymore”.
She was testing to see how much of a pushover I was, and how desperate I was to see her again. If I had simply said “no problem, I’m available tomorrow as well”, I can just about guarantee she would have flaked again, and the second date would never have materialized.
I would have become just another one of those desperate guys blowing up her phone in the middle of the night looking for breadcrumbs of attention.
But because I stood my ground and put a high price on my time, showing her that I would walk away before tolerating any disrespect, she immediately identified me as a high value man.
So although she still instinctively throws tests at me now and again, I never have to tell her anything more than once. She knows that if I say something, I mean it, and that if she keeps pushing I will be gone. So far, I have never been so adored and well treated by a woman.
If something like this had happened on the first date, I might have actually been more flexible, but as it was a second date with a lot planning and logistics already invested in it - postponing was a sign of disrespect that I chose not to tolerate.