Breeny you just opened my eyes. I recently started my femininity journey and like any journey, it takes time, but when you talked about trust issues it started to make COMPLETE sense to me. Everything you said about trust I could relate to. Thank you sooooooo much
The best thing you can do to "keep" a man is to be okay with the possibility of him leaving. You have to have your own identity and realize that your life is not over if you're single.
@GG T87 It's not wrong either to have a goal to share your life with someone and to raise a family. You have to be honest with yourself. You have to give clear intentions to the universe what you want because the unoverse has your back. If you in your heart want to get married but you verbalize your independent and don't need no man, you are sending conflicting messages out into the universe. and when your messages are confusing, you will get confusing results. If a chick says I am on a mission to find a husband, that is fine too, it's what you genuinely want.
@@nicksmith-cx1fx I agree I think ppl view a desire for a relationship as being desperate when its not that at all I think alot of ppl also down play wanting a relationship based off of past experiences yet their hearts yearn for it like u stated its the power of the tongue
Balancing masculine/feminine energy: 1. Ask for help 2. Receive help 3. Resist the urge to micromanage everyone/thing 4. Manage your emotions 5. Pause before responding 6. Talk/Say less 7. Regulate yourself & add a smile Thanks for sharing Breeny 💛
I’m failing to see how this isn’t stuff everyone including men should follow. Pushing this as only feminine pushes men away from being healthy functioning people
@@kstar1489 the title of this video is balancing both feminine & masculine energy so of course it applies to both men & women. She’s just generally speaking towards women since that’s her main audience.
I can’t get enough of how much I agree with EVERYTHING this woman says! Why can’t I meet people like her? So much connection! Such a rich woman, so much worth and strong values and morals.
Femininity is important but you need both in order to be a balanced human being 🙌🏾. Femininity you’re right it’s not just about aesthetics it depends on your nature too in my opinion
Balance it the key to everything. About the nature thing, i feel that way too. With some people it just seems natural and effortless with others you can see it when they act different sometimes it seems fake. Not necessarily with being feminine though but in general
I’ve had learn to live in masculine energy in order to survive in a world that can be threatening to a woman. On the streets at night, driving alone, a career to secure finances, paying my bills etc. It wasn’t necessarily an informed choice. Yet I hope a mature man will realise that I can help take care of business with him. A great team mate who has lots of femininity too. It’s learning to balance it out. Still learning. This was helpful.
I completely understand what you mean by needing masculinity to survive when you’re by yourself in a dangerous area or if you generally don’t have anyone to protect yourself. That is what masculinity is about: calculating, finding solutions, protecting oneself and others - the only thing is of course men are more masculine and are bigger so they are better at being masculine than us. It would be lovely to walk down any street and enter any public building without having to watch my back, but I do. I wish you well on your feminine journey. 💕
@@tonytony-fc6gq There is no need to use all caps. I beg to differ. I can switch it on/off depending on the environment. The environment demands the transition. The best example I can think of is Sarah Connors transition from a cute, waitress on the run in Terminator to her badass development in Terminator 2. The same with Ellen Ripley in Alien to Aliens. They still maintained their femininity in some way though. Mother figures etc. We are living in Covid times. This current world and environment requires strength. The key will be knowing when to use gentleness, sweetness, beauty, compassion and the gifts of nuture that only a woman can bring to the table. ✌️
It's ok to have masculine energy when you want to get stuff done, but in a relationship that masculine energy will cause issues. You have to learn to not bring that masculine energy into a relationship. I personally am also feminine at times, I am kind compassionate loving nuturing. But I am also a entrepreneur and I have to be 100% in my masculine when I am building and growing my business and I have to dominate my path in life. If I encounter a woman who is masculine, no matter how hot she is I won't get with her.
@@deanna6742 l agree. It is an insult to femininity; and it's an insult to intelligence and dignity and strength to promote the idea that blathering on in a baby voice is "feminine". Intelligence, dignity and strength are gender neutral; so is stupidity. They are selling a lie. That's what ultimately annoys me. Breeny, however, is a queen. 🌺
I noticed that society always acts like the lightskin mixed girls are super feminine, like Aaliyah, Zendaya, and Lori Harvey. The way Zendaya acts in interviews really isn’t that feminine at all, she’s just a biracial lightskin so she gets a pass
@@serenitybeats1677 I know my grandmother is full creo she look white I’m just speaking facts momma and dad is black and even though my daddy is creo they still know they are black
Breeny: "Being feminine does not guarantee you a man" Preachhh girl!! 🙌🏻 I never really agreed with these feminine channels either because we need to learn to balance both of our feminine and masculine and work on ourselves for ourselves, not a man! Love you Breeny! 💞
I agree. Be yourself, that's it. I used to try and be this "Ms. Perfect" but now I said forget it if he doesn't accept me then at least I wasn't being someone I wasn't. His loss, not mine.
Don't trust to soon, but if there is no trust there is no reason to continue. Trust should be one of the foundations of any relationship. Love is the opportunity for 2 people to share their lives in a open and honest manner and without pretense.
Feminine energy is coming back to the world.. balance.. polarity... it’s not just about being nice and soft.. but about meeting our shadows with love.. yesss their should be balance in all of us 💜💜✊🏼✊🏼 ur looking beautiful 😻
I'm studying law rn and have realized that I really have to lean into more masculine energy to stand a chance in my field. It's quite hard for me tbh, it's so competitive, and even though my department has 70% women, the vibe is really agressive. I have cried quite a lot because of it last year, but i'm learning to "toughen up". It sucks that people with a more "feminine energy", or at least a softer/ more shy personality, are not taken as seriously or are always push overs in the workplace. One of my male friends feels exactly the same, he is gay with a softer energy, and we have both seriously considered if law was really for us even though we love to study it so much. It's about balance like you said
I have attended some public court hearings and I can guarantee you I have seen women and men who were feminine and kinder in the courtroom, both judges and lawyers. It heavily depends on the case and whether or not you are the one cross examining. If you have a case on murder, prostitution, some form of trafficking, it’s probably most appropriate to be serious and emotionless. Although, like I mentioned, not everyone is masculine in law. What is most important is knowing how to control your emotions and knowing when to not take things personally. You can be sweet, just not overly emotional. Good luck and God bless
Maybe because you associate things with masculinity that are actually universal. Masculinity and femininity are made up polars. If anyone were to be 100% one or the other they wouldn’t function as a human
@@BreenyLee Hello Ms. Breeny Lee I love your content! I'm not sure if you watch TV shows here in the USA, but there is this show called Married At First Sight, it in its 12th Season. The one couple that was paired together this season on the show, Chris and Paige, turned out to be a complete disaster to say the least. I'm surprised that these relationship/matchmaking experts paired these two together in the first place. I wanted to get your take on these two because you have very insightful advice and reviews. Anyways, keep up the GREAT work with your RUclips channel! I wish you ALL the BEST on your channel and your future endeavors! 😊
This is one of the things my Husband has always loved about me is the balance that I bring! The way that I can be feminine and dainty yet can shoot a basketball/ watch a game with him and we both trash talk! 😂 I love when there is just a balance 💘
One other thing to note is yes it’s essential to be in both your masculine and feminine energy but make sure you’re not in your WOUNDED masculine and feminine energy!! ♥️♥️ ♥️
Lol I don’t think I can ever be 80% feminine. I feel like I’m naturally a bit more masculine but the past few years I really learned to embrace my feminine side.
Yes sis please preach 👏🏾 There has to be a bloody balance, but they don’t know tho. These energies have their roles to play in society, both women and men just need to learn and understand how to balance it out and know when to make use of which or even at times just balance both! Breeny you gave amazing points 👏🏾👏🏾
Read "feminine lost" by Jennifer Granger and that book literally put the masculine/feminine polarity into perspective for me. I highly recommend it. Thank you Breeny.
OMG YESSSSSSSSSSS. This video came at the perfect time. I've literally been feeling strange... because even tho I consider myself a very feminine woman, I've always felt like I switch it up at work, specially when it comes to speaking out / mentioning things I'm not happy about. And so many of these "how to be feminine" videos on YT makes me feel bad sometimes (for not being feminine 24/7 basically) but now I get it!! When Im with my partner/friends/family Im always sweet and caring.... when it comes to business, I boss it up.
Number 5: if on the phone, use the mute button while the other person is speaking. It will help to not in interrupt the other person. Your video makes so much sense. I am both. I use more of my masculine side than my feminine because I have been hurt and traumatized over past relationships. I don't know how to be calm again. I need the Lord. Thank you for the video. Didn't see myself like this until after watching this video. Need to rewatch it with another mood. Gosh! Having mixed feelings right now.
I walk in my masculinity waaaaay more. It sorta jeopardize my relationship but thankfully I go to therapy. It’s definitely a defense mechanism so people won’t walk all over me... I was told I had the sweetest disposition lol
I don’t know why were are calling defensive, argumentative, distrusting masculine and therefore male traits. It’s just dysfunctional, man or woman, and usually comes from being hurt. I’m glad you went to therapy. More people should
Thank you for this video. I've met a tomboy who radiated quite a lot of feminine energy to an extent that everyone enjoys her presence. Femininity is beyond a look and it's much deeper than catching a man.
5:00 She is 100% right!!! I thought I was more masculine till I met this guy that I fell in love with.. everything was natural, all my femininity came out so easily,I didn't force it ,, for the first time in my life I felt vulnerable and wanted a man to take care of me(he told me he finds it sexy 😍).. I respescted him, always wanted to cook for him even tho I hate cooking 😄😄, I let him lead( something that I struggled all my life to do) and the crazy thing is he was 4 years younger than me 😄😍 trust me, femininity is within you baby girl!!
Thanks for this 💕 I grown up so masculine Now I’m trying and learning to be more feminine It’s no easy when u being masculine all ur life, but I feel like now I can balance thank God 🙌🏽 xoxo from Angola 🇦🇴
I am a black girl and I use to compress my masculine energy and felt weak, but both masculine and feminine energy is beautiful. Like you said you need both! Periodt!
I can totally relate those videos do look like a pinterest moodboard. I love these videos because it feels like am listening to my big sister. And it feels like a sister who truly cares about me. Thanks for making these. Congratulations on 500 k 🎉
What you said about it not being possible to be in your feminine 24/7 is really true ,cause that would get me chewed up in this wicked world 😂😂😂😂 can’t wait to have you back ma’am , you’re the best ❤
Im very masculine and glad this video showed up in my recommended. Definitely dont trust people to do things or do them well, history of let downs and also being a strong woman i didnt feek femininity was part of that. My mom is a superwoman, she's definitely gotten more feminine along th way. For me, im gonna be working on changing my tone of voice since i do a lot of what you recommended, bit with an overal masculine energy. Im a very intensr person anyways so i think changing my tone and being more patient will help.
Thank you That’s what I was looking for Because I’m feminine but I also love my masculine side And all the videos on RUclips are canceling the masculine energy so thank you ♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️ greetings from Algeria 🇩🇿
I feel like if you’re a woman in today’s day and age, and you’ve been exposed to modern society, you’ve been subconsciously programmed to be masculine. So unless you live under a rock and have completely isolated yourself from modern society and the modern media you NEED more time in your feminine because you already spend quite enough time in the masculine. I think the femininity movement is beautiful and EXTREMELY important, especially for woc specifically black because they have been forced into their masculinity and have been more hurt than other groups of women. Balancing the energies will come natural once you’ve mastered the feminine energy. The problem is a lot of women are completely out of touch with their feminine energy so yes it needs to be highlighted, it needs to be studied and it needs Extra attention, time and effort to cultivate. I don’t think it’s fair to even suggest to black women to not be feminine because they’re already so programmed to be masculine so I’m actually not a fan of this video. Let the feminine movement shine and blossom and grow and have eyes on it because it is necessary.
How about let people be who they are. How about don’t say it’s not feminine and therefore bad to stand up for yourself, demand your equal treatment. I’m tired of the narrative that being feminine is about doing nothing, sitting there and taking disrespect, lying down and giving up yourself for a man of all things. The sooner people realize femininity and masculinity are made up and have changed and varied throughout time and cultures, have meant different things, the better. All humans can have any human trait, it is not relegated to a certain gender.
‘Rather than act like someone has killed your mum’ 😂 I used to be quite aggressive when getting my point across in my early 20s but I’ve learnt now to take a moment and not respond in my feelings. Also the bit about the guy who’s has his energy correct will bring out your feminine side - so true!
I have always ignored the part of "getting a man" just because I wanted to get back my femeninity for myself, the ones that i love and the world. I used to be so kind when i was a kid, i loved making present for everyone and cooking for my family, even for my cousins that didnt like me. Kids are just beautiful clean creautures, so kind, so full of love, so innocent and with pure intentions, and then the world is in charge of shaping their hearts. For me femeninity is about being kind with myself first, providing everything i need, is about listen to my friends and family, to not keep resentment in my heart, to not yell but ask for something, to explain my feeling in a calmer way, for myself because i deserve peace and love. Thank u breanny for the video, i will show it to my sister. 💕🌱🌸
Exactly! When I love and trust someone, I can relax and just be a sweetheart. I dont have to worry about staying alert. At work or in public (when alone), I have to be fierce, alert, confident, self assured and assertive to maintain boundaries that keep me safe
Sis, it’s hard being feminine while living where I’m from in Chicago. If you do, you find yourself not really fitting in with the rest of the women because you’re too feminine OR instead of being feminine you’re busy in survival mode instead of feeling graceful, comfortable and protected.
I’m from Chicago too born and raised. The men there don’t make you feel safe to be feminine. They look at it as a weakness. Honestly moving to a different environment will help a lot with that. Chicago men are not it tbh
Hi my friend found her husband in Chicago she’s a very feminine woman total girly girl and party animal so even moving in your own city can be beneficial. Don’t be afraid to just be you.
I literally was googling how to manage my emotions last night. It’s something I’ve always know that I have to learn but wow... this video is ABSOLUTELY SPOT ON. It’s like you’re talking to me. +++I added this to my healing playlist.
I've been very feminine my whole life. I was raised in a Caribbean household, where we were taught me cater to a man and be submissive from a young age. I'm 33 and still single with no children 🤷🏾♀️
I have the same situation with my mom, and agree with trust issues and also will add that moder age is pressuring girls to hustle more in a wrong way and that is something that many girls can't escape, because they are survivors and warriors, and it's tough being feminine in masculine world. It tricks you too be more competitive with everything, even with your boyfriend. So inner work and contemplating on our past deeds is something I have done, to evalue myself and to determine what is difficult and why from the beginning of my story/life. We need to go back to our roots. Forget all the Cosmo and other toxic magazine's advice and start to listen to our soul. God bless you Breeny for always telling the truth!
Breeny, this is the first time I've "met" you on RUclips. I operate about 80% in my masculine. Mostly because I'm anxious, depressed, heartbroken and trying to guard and protect myself. I've also been struggling with feeling like I might be Transgender because my masculine energy is so high. I need to soften into my feminine I'm just scared of being rejected and abused or taken advantage of. I think what I'll try is a simple trick of using feminine colours in my wardrobe to express my loving, deep side. I have this pink/red lipstick that really encourages me to be open. As you said though, I need to not be an over sharer. Between the masculine and feminine I tend to always swing too far in either direction.
I see that love is not about personality of people, but about vibe/frequency of our being (including body). Since I realized that, I stopped being worried about if love partner, and focused more on living my best life. Love will come and it doesn't depend on how do I look. Sometimes we just can't resist some people. That's frequency in work. And that's beautiful
Thank you! Just thank you this is literally the best video on feminine energy I've ever watched!! Balance is the keys I felt so sick trying to kill my masculine energy. Now I understand there's a balance to both energies.
Lordt! I can be a whole dude at times, but I'm working on the balance. I want to be more feminine, but I want to be with someone who's aware and accepting of both sides of me. I loved this! You've inspired me to produce some of the content that I produce. I love you, sis!
Can we all please watch her videos, like and share them?? Breenys channel need to blow up and get millions of views because every woman on this earth can benefit from the wisdom she gives us ❤️
Here's my take on this..I think the epitome of femininity or owning your womanhood is defining what kind of woman you are. I understand that traits such as assertiveness or dominance are traditionally 'Male' traits. But can't we just have traits and not associate them a specific gender.
Yep I too feel it is more ideal/helpful to just see them as normal character traits for a human not about fem or masc which literally everyone is that whether they like it or not
I thought about it recently and i think women are actually the alpha in the world. Men are jusy physically stronger but spiritually women are stronger Momma bear energy is crazy
@@edss7778 Do you see the hypocrisy in this comment? If a man said this you guys would call him a mysognist, sexist, woman hater and try to shame him. Why is it okay for woman to say woman are the alphas?
I love love your channel I sit at my job and listen to a lot of videos when I was going through a bad breakup a couple of days before Valentine's Day. I am 41 years old and I'm still learning the ropes of life itself. You have definitely put some knowledge into my mind
I would say I'm more masculine than feminine because of life situations. Balance is the key! Thanks for this video! Going to definitely put your advice into practice. Great advice and wisdom!
This is exactly what I needed to hear...I find that a lot of the time I am doing something for my future husband first and THEN God, which I know is not the way to go! A lot of these femininity channels put that in my head (unintentionally), so I've been limiting how much I consume of that content.
i’m going to definitely practice on moderating my emotions because sometimes i get so angry i give up and turn my back on my responsibilities. it’s going to be hard but it’s going to be worth it. thanks breeny.
The Masculine Energy you put in your videos are definitely soul catching!! Thanks I needed this as well as whatever else the GOD OF ALL Universes puts in your heart
I definitely am tapped more into my masculine energy. You were absolutely right when you said it comes from being let down, (which has happened more often than not), past hurt (which has me on guard) or simply just dealing with people who did not respect my time or concerns. I'm working on changing the way I think and more, to bring more balance to my life so that when I'm blessed with the man God has for me, I'll be ready for him.
it was great reminder for those of us that have to be man and woman all at once! I also appreciate the fact that you were so natural about it. I don't like it when other women try tell me how to "be femenine" from their very own pinnacle of femininity while they cannot even walk in my shoes. People tag me rude, arrogant and masculine when I let it be know that I don't like that! Loved your balance, boldness and understanding. Thank you!
Great video. I don’t like watching these types of videos from some RUclipsrs because I don’t believe on changing who you are to be someone else or manipulating tactics to get a man. I’m mostly a tomboy but I switch up sometimes. I believe God has someone for me at the right time. I wish people would just heal because trying to be someone you’re not is a waste of time.
Word!! I'm just realizing I've got Soo much masculine energy within me, people often told me to stop being a tomboy and Yes I reduced more than half; but this video is very realistic and needed it focuses soo much on the inside which matters a lot more than we know. I'll really practice them little by little and I may not necessarily even have to force myself to be less of a tomboy physically, it could happen naturally. Thanks for this, I really loved it, I'm inspired 😄
Thank you Breeny, I knew I had this problem and thought I wasn't feminine enough, it turns out I just couldn't balance it cause I did not know how. I have been hurt in the past and my masculine energy has always been like a way for me to protect myself it got to a point I knew I was showing too much of it and didn't know how to work on myself to tone down the masculinity and bring out more of my feminine side. I did a lot of reflection and work on myself and it was harrdddd but worth it! I've met someone and I see myself more feminine than before, i'm loving it myself, its going really really well! You are ALL RIGHT on this one, i've taken your words and i'm moving with it SIS!
Breeny this video is so healing to my heart!! YES! The problem isn’t always us needing to be “more feminine” it’s recognizing that our trust has been hurt and focusing on healing around that not just “being more feminine.”
Love this video. It's no surprise that a lot of the things you said, the control, micro-managing, overreacting, I recognize in my mother, I feel like it's a sign of overcompensating too, which also alienates you from yourself and makes you feel inauthentic. I've had to work through those things myself too, to unlearn that behavior (and still do at times) and realize that I'm better than that, because my life is worth more than wasting my energy on that behavior, we're all worth so much more growth, than trying to force others to be 'you' so you don't have to. If anyone can relate, and as you mentioned in the video, I feel like I tend to have a more feminine father, and a masculine, emotionally-blocked yet overdramatic/overcontroling mother, so I had to be more masculine around my father, and more feminine around my mother to not trigger them and to balance it out, depending on at what home I was (divorced parents). And yet, therefore starting to feel more masculine with my mom too, to not have to have it affect me that much or loose myself in her emotions. I can say, these times, living on my own and nearing my thirties, it's been one hell of a rollercoaster, hurting and eye-opening and beautiful at the same time, learning now that it's safe for me to get in touch again with my own femininity, embracing me being the woman and the person that I am, without having to fearfully relate being feminine to my mother's need for validation, her co-dependence, and her need to be seen as feminine, as the woman in the house, and yet also the one in control, the man. You kind of feel used in a way, as a child, as a teenager. Therapy definitely helps to have a mirror showing you the reality of this and being able to set your boundaries again in a safe space and to free yourself from this. Feel balanced withing yourself. Only a few months ago did I finally realize: Hey, I can be a woman, I don't have to be a girl anymore, because: I AM a woman. I AM an adult. Without needing to being afraid to intimidate my mother - or grandmother & grandfather on that side of the family at that - to trigger her jealously or anything. It's kind of like you realize you've been holding your growth in, embracing yourself, because others would be triggered/confronted with their fears and passivity to grow and embrace themselves, so they try to keep you small, pull you down, undermine your growing, until you realize that YOU are the only one who decides wether you want to grow and embrace and love yourself and live your life or not. No one can decide that for you, so no one can choose in your place either. No one can stop you from growing or authenticity when you decide to grow and become authentic, and embrace both your masculine and feminine based on, as you said Breeny, what you NEED yourself, based on you being you and encouraging yourself to be yourself (and with the help of loving people around you), not on what (you think/feel) others want/need in order for them to love you. It's not worth it. You're worth more, everything.
Sometimes i feel like ive earned my “masculine energy” and usually i try to keep it. I respect it bcz thats what i cultivated to survive so my instincts tell me to value it highly. But ur right i dont often let my guard compltly down anymore. But i hadnt even thought about it until recently.
Sooo very true and interesting to hear from someone who puts this all into words. When I met my now husband, I was pretty independent and stand offish and had masculine habits. With time, his masculinity brought out the feminity in me and I didn’t have to think about it, it just came out and we both balance each other. It’s amazing.
Girl!!! You’re preaching a whole word here!! I’m literally at work (clearly not working lol) and had to pause the video to whip out my note pad to take notes! You have a gift & I pray God continues to use you to help heal those willing to listen 🙏🏾🙌🏾💛
This video is so refreshing! Having trust issues, being angry all the time - I feel incredibly unbalanced. But after watching a lot of these feminine help videos, it just felt really expensive and time consuming. And that's not me. Energy, I feel, is just that - energy - it has nothing to do with the outside (though the outside is important.) For someone that's lived with self-loathing and depression, absolutely, the outside needs work too but, some of the stuff in those videos just felt too much for me. And then I decided: I'll just take what works for me and drop the rest. Plus: it's incredibly comforting to know that feminine energy around a masculine man will come easier and more naturally. And that balance is key.
after watching all your videos I pretty much changed my vision and my actions according to logic and your tips and I’m finally in a healthy relationship with no shit going on at all ,I still watch your videos ,you do something really important most girls have no idea how to manage heart issues thank you for everything you taught us🙏🏼
As a trans man whose trying to find the balance between his masculine and feminine and has explored videos on both.... thank you for this. This entire video is such a healthy and clearly intelligent persepctive.
I feel like I relate to the being overly feminine in the past and then flipping the switch out of hurt and now I’m finally learning to find the balance. Ty!
Real shit right here and I needed to hear this 😁. Also glad your calling out the feminity movement was feeling abit uneasy of it for a while 😨. Changeing for anyone but yourself is pointless, it's not remotely fun and feels like way to much emotional work kind of like a third job, not fun grr 😡 😠 just screams low self worth, value and esteem. Besides I always have to question what makes the other person so worth while doing all this for in the first place? Not like their God or anything of the sort. On a side note my current Christian group were talking about forgiveness, thing is that just isn't in me.
Being feminine guarantees you a man that is masculine. Maintaining that man is a different story because no one is designed to be with someone forever. Whether anyone believes in God or not people are put in your life for reasons and for seasons. When a woman is feminine and a man is masculine life is much easier for them both...absolute truth or definitely truth?
"Being feminine guarantees you a man that is masculine." Nope. I know super feminine women that have feminine husbands. Just like I know really masculine tomboy women that have super masculine bf/husbands
Weirdly I know a lot of “power couples” where both partners seem masculine and are go getters when it comes to success. They seem happy but I don’t know the intricacies of their relationships
@@crazysmilingdonut804 Your anecdotal experience don’t really matter. In general man are attracted to feminity and woman are attracted to masculine guys. Your setting woman up for failure with your logic cause a masculine man will just leave the masculine chick. Man want peace more than anything else and a a masculine chick is nothing peaceful.
Can u make a video about not having any friends and being lonely. For whatever reason, people just don’t like me.... I’m really depressed and afraid that I’m going to spend the best years of my life alone
That makes sense... I feel like I haven’t met a manager I can trust! I feel like I’ve been always on the defense and protective mode, and always came off as feisty. I always wonders by looking around at my friends and see how feminine and sweet and gentle they are with their men, and thought to myself: maybe I’m not a gf or wife material? But then I also thought about how I haven’t been around a man that I can trust and be myself or vulnerable with.... 🙂
Breeny you just opened my eyes. I recently started my femininity journey and like any journey, it takes time, but when you talked about trust issues it started to make COMPLETE sense to me. Everything you said about trust I could relate to. Thank you sooooooo much
Ditto
The best thing you can do to "keep" a man is to be okay with the possibility of him leaving. You have to have your own identity and realize that your life is not over if you're single.
@GG T87 It's not wrong either to have a goal to share your life with someone and to raise a family. You have to be honest with yourself. You have to give clear intentions to the universe what you want because the unoverse has your back. If you in your heart want to get married but you verbalize your independent and don't need no man, you are sending conflicting messages out into the universe. and when your messages are confusing, you will get confusing results. If a chick says I am on a mission to find a husband, that is fine too, it's what you genuinely want.
@GG T87important life skill💓
@@nicksmith-cx1fx I agree I think ppl view a desire for a relationship as being desperate when its not that at all I think alot of ppl also down play wanting a relationship based off of past experiences yet their hearts yearn for it like u stated its the power of the tongue
@@letrice2892 Thanks I am glad at least someone agrees with my perspective. We don't want this youtube channel becomming a echo chamber.
@GG T87 yes maybe there is something on :)
Balancing masculine/feminine energy:
1. Ask for help
2. Receive help
3. Resist the urge to micromanage everyone/thing
4. Manage your emotions
5. Pause before responding
6. Talk/Say less
7. Regulate yourself & add a smile
Thanks for sharing Breeny 💛
She is too much 😍
I’m failing to see how this isn’t stuff everyone including men should follow. Pushing this as only feminine pushes men away from being healthy functioning people
@@kstar1489 the title of this video is balancing both feminine & masculine energy so of course it applies to both men & women. She’s just generally speaking towards women since that’s her main audience.
"nothing guarantees you a man" - in the words of Auntie Breeny
But somethings sure do help your chances
The first sentence is a revelation on its own sis!
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Lol yup I hit like soon as she said it
It may not but it sure does increase your chances!
I liked because of the first sentence!
Say it louder for the people in the back!💕 @chuma
I can’t get enough of how much I agree with EVERYTHING this woman says! Why can’t I meet people like her? So much connection! Such a rich woman, so much worth and strong values and morals.
Thank you sweetie,, that’s a compliment and a half 😘
I feel the same way, wish it was that easy!
Honestly
Femininity is important but you need both in order to be a balanced human being 🙌🏾. Femininity you’re right it’s not just about aesthetics it depends on your nature too in my opinion
Balance it the key to everything. About the nature thing, i feel that way too. With some people it just seems natural and effortless with others you can see it when they act different sometimes it seems fake. Not necessarily with being feminine though but in general
I’ve had learn to live in masculine energy in order to survive in a world that can be threatening to a woman. On the streets at night, driving alone, a career to secure finances, paying my bills etc. It wasn’t necessarily an informed choice. Yet I hope a mature man will realise that I can help take care of business with him. A great team mate who has lots of femininity too. It’s learning to balance it out. Still learning. This was helpful.
I completely understand what you mean by needing masculinity to survive when you’re by yourself in a dangerous area or if you generally don’t have anyone to protect yourself. That is what masculinity is about: calculating, finding solutions, protecting oneself and others - the only thing is of course men are more masculine and are bigger so they are better at being masculine than us. It would be lovely to walk down any street and enter any public building without having to watch my back, but I do. I wish you well on your feminine journey. 💕
@@tonytony-fc6gq It is difficult to do, but it's possible.
@tony tony actually it is
@@tonytony-fc6gq There is no need to use all caps. I beg to differ. I can switch it on/off depending on the environment. The environment demands the transition. The best example I can think of is Sarah Connors transition from a cute, waitress on the run in Terminator to her badass development in Terminator 2. The same with Ellen Ripley in Alien to Aliens. They still maintained their femininity in some way though. Mother figures etc. We are living in Covid times. This current world and environment requires strength. The key will be knowing when to use gentleness, sweetness, beauty, compassion and the gifts of nuture that only a woman can bring to the table. ✌️
@@kathyalex778 💕
I clicked so fast. I needed this. Femininity youtubers make me feel like it's bad to have masculine energy
It's ok to have masculine energy when you want to get stuff done, but in a relationship that masculine energy will cause issues. You have to learn to not bring that masculine energy into a relationship. I personally am also feminine at times, I am kind compassionate loving nuturing. But I am also a entrepreneur and I have to be 100% in my masculine when I am building and growing my business and I have to dominate my path in life. If I encounter a woman who is masculine, no matter how hot she is I won't get with her.
Most "femininity RUclipsrs" act and speak like ninnies.
@@miriamhavard7621 yess it is odd in my opinion. Why would they change their voice?
@@miriamhavard7621 I hate to say it but some of them really are annoying
@@deanna6742 l agree. It is an insult to femininity; and it's an insult to intelligence and dignity and strength to promote the idea that blathering on in a baby voice is "feminine".
Intelligence, dignity and strength are gender neutral; so is stupidity.
They are selling a lie. That's what ultimately annoys me.
Breeny, however, is a queen. 🌺
Aaliyah and zendaya are a perfect blend of masculine and feminine energy.
I noticed that society always acts like the lightskin mixed girls are super feminine, like Aaliyah, Zendaya, and Lori Harvey. The way Zendaya acts in interviews really isn’t that feminine at all, she’s just a biracial lightskin so she gets a pass
@@serenitybeats1677 I’m with you 👏🏿 👏🏿 👏🏿
@@serenitybeats1677 Aaliyah is light skin but all black her grandmother had Indian in her ancestry but that’s most black females
@@britt2224 she’s still most likely not all black. Most African American people are around 16.7% to 26% white
@@serenitybeats1677 I know my grandmother is full creo she look white I’m just speaking facts momma and dad is black and even though my daddy is creo they still know they are black
Breeny: "Being feminine does not guarantee you a man" Preachhh girl!! 🙌🏻 I never really agreed with these feminine channels either because we need to learn to balance both of our feminine and masculine and work on ourselves for ourselves, not a man! Love you Breeny! 💞
hope your men is feminire too
I agree. Be yourself, that's it. I used to try and be this "Ms. Perfect" but now I said forget it if he doesn't accept me then at least I wasn't being someone I wasn't. His loss, not mine.
Preach 👏🏽
lol die alone...
My trust issues are so bad to the point where I don’t believe people even when they are being honest😭😭
Don't trust to soon, but if there is no trust there is no reason to continue. Trust should be one of the foundations of any relationship. Love is the opportunity for 2 people to share their lives in a open and honest manner and without pretense.
same honey sameeeee
@Leilla M. But how would you even know if they're being honest?
Is it cause they said so? 🤔
@@Katrica670 yes. ((In the end, sometimes I find out that they were actually telling the truth but it’s like ...it’s too late now.
@@Ley_19867 oh. Most times you could Never tell. How did you find out?
Being feminine doesn’t guarantee you a man”
Quote of the day
But it sure does help though..........
Feminine energy is coming back to the world.. balance.. polarity... it’s not just about being nice and soft.. but about meeting our shadows with love.. yesss their should be balance in all of us 💜💜✊🏼✊🏼 ur looking beautiful 😻
and no one ever said you shouldn't balance
I'm studying law rn and have realized that I really have to lean into more masculine energy to stand a chance in my field. It's quite hard for me tbh, it's so competitive, and even though my department has 70% women, the vibe is really agressive. I have cried quite a lot because of it last year, but i'm learning to "toughen up". It sucks that people with a more "feminine energy", or at least a softer/ more shy personality, are not taken as seriously or are always push overs in the workplace. One of my male friends feels exactly the same, he is gay with a softer energy, and we have both seriously considered if law was really for us even though we love to study it so much. It's about balance like you said
I wonder if you could both make it work for you ie not all clients want aggressive lawyers. It could be your USP?
@@katec9893 I am trying to find my place at the moment but yeah it's an ongoing process, thanks for your concern Kate :)
I’d try to learn how to use kindness and flattery as a flamethrower
This is my personality as well. In business environments and personal life it's crucial to be more assertive and bold to receive what you want.
I have attended some public court hearings and I can guarantee you I have seen women and men who were feminine and kinder in the courtroom, both judges and lawyers. It heavily depends on the case and whether or not you are the one cross examining. If you have a case on murder, prostitution, some form of trafficking, it’s probably most appropriate to be serious and emotionless. Although, like I mentioned, not everyone is masculine in law. What is most important is knowing how to control your emotions and knowing when to not take things personally. You can be sweet, just not overly emotional. Good luck and God bless
I neglected my masculine side for a while now and now I have zero control of my life, I am all over the place . I’m happier when I’m masculine 😔✋
Balance baby balance ♥️
@Breeny Lee that’s what I’m gonna do. Ily breeny 💕💕💕
Maybe because you associate things with masculinity that are actually universal. Masculinity and femininity are made up polars. If anyone were to be 100% one or the other they wouldn’t function as a human
@@BreenyLee Hello Ms. Breeny Lee I love your content! I'm not sure if you watch TV shows here in the USA, but there is this show called Married At First Sight, it in its 12th Season. The one couple that was paired together this season on the show, Chris and Paige, turned out to be a complete disaster to say the least. I'm surprised that these relationship/matchmaking experts paired these two together in the first place. I wanted to get your take on these two because you have very insightful advice and reviews. Anyways, keep up the GREAT work with your RUclips channel! I wish you ALL the BEST on your channel and your future endeavors! 😊
This is one of the things my Husband has always loved about me is the balance that I bring! The way that I can be feminine and dainty yet can shoot a basketball/ watch a game with him and we both trash talk! 😂 I love when there is just a balance 💘
Marriage goals 😍
One other thing to note is yes it’s essential to be in both your masculine and feminine energy but make sure you’re not in your WOUNDED masculine and feminine energy!! ♥️♥️ ♥️
Absolutely
Pause before responding 👏🏽 so important. And Talk less. GOLD🙌🏽
It is a real blessing to have someone telling you HOW to do things, rather than TO DO them.
Yay!! Balance is important. I had to learn I needed to stop relying on being overly feminine. It was a hindrance.
Men: 80% masculine and 20% feminine.
Women: 20% masculine and 80% feminine.
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70%, 30%
Who decided the percentages!?
Glad I'm more 60% masuline and only 40% feminine. 80% feminine sounds horrible as a woman
Lol I don’t think I can ever be 80% feminine. I feel like I’m naturally a bit more masculine but the past few years I really learned to embrace my feminine side.
Yes sis please preach 👏🏾 There has to be a bloody balance, but they don’t know tho. These energies have their roles to play in society, both women and men just need to learn and understand how to balance it out and know when to make use of which or even at times just balance both!
Breeny you gave amazing points 👏🏾👏🏾
Read "feminine lost" by Jennifer Granger and that book literally put the masculine/feminine polarity into perspective for me. I highly recommend it.
Thank you Breeny.
OMG YESSSSSSSSSSS. This video came at the perfect time. I've literally been feeling strange... because even tho I consider myself a very feminine woman, I've always felt like I switch it up at work, specially when it comes to speaking out / mentioning things I'm not happy about. And so many of these "how to be feminine" videos on YT makes me feel bad sometimes (for not being feminine 24/7 basically) but now I get it!! When Im with my partner/friends/family Im always sweet and caring.... when it comes to business, I boss it up.
I feel like since I am in the military, I have to operate more in my masculinity. I’ve been wanting to balance it out more especially when I’m angry.
This is harder to do especially once you separate from the military. It's like I left in rage lol but it's all good
@@indy_442 HAHA
Breeny is the big sister I never had 🥺❤❤❤
Number 5: if on the phone, use the mute button while the other person is speaking. It will help to not in interrupt the other person. Your video makes so much sense. I am both. I use more of my masculine side than my feminine because I have been hurt and traumatized over past relationships. I don't know how to be calm again. I need the Lord. Thank you for the video. Didn't see myself like this until after watching this video. Need to rewatch it with another mood. Gosh! Having mixed feelings right now.
I walk in my masculinity waaaaay more. It sorta jeopardize my relationship but thankfully I go to therapy. It’s definitely a defense mechanism so people won’t walk all over me... I was told I had the sweetest disposition lol
I don’t know why were are calling defensive, argumentative, distrusting masculine and therefore male traits. It’s just dysfunctional, man or woman, and usually comes from being hurt. I’m glad you went to therapy. More people should
KStar no no no no. I don’t think you really understand what I’m saying. But yeah therapy helps balance out masculine and feminine.
Thank you for this video. I've met a tomboy who radiated quite a lot of feminine energy to an extent that everyone enjoys her presence. Femininity is beyond a look and it's much deeper than catching a man.
the feminine community is indeed getting out of hand. thank you for this!
"When you find a man you genuinely respect and trust, femininity comes naturally "💯💯💯
I operate in my masculine too much, for the reasons you stated. I’m working on my trust issues and balancing my energies.
5:00 She is 100% right!!! I thought I was more masculine till I met this guy that I fell in love with.. everything was natural, all my femininity came out so easily,I didn't force it ,, for the first time in my life I felt vulnerable and wanted a man to take care of me(he told me he finds it sexy 😍).. I respescted him, always wanted to cook for him even tho I hate cooking 😄😄, I let him lead( something that I struggled all my life to do) and the crazy thing is he was 4 years younger than me 😄😍 trust me, femininity is within you baby girl!!
Thanks for this 💕
I grown up so masculine
Now I’m trying and learning to be more feminine
It’s no easy when u being masculine all ur life, but I feel like now I can balance thank God 🙌🏽 xoxo from Angola 🇦🇴
I am a black girl and I use to compress my masculine energy and felt weak, but both masculine and feminine energy is beautiful. Like you said you need both! Periodt!
This is honestly the most realistic video around this topic that I’ve seen. These tips are really helpful🙌🏽✨
I can totally relate those videos do look like a pinterest moodboard. I love these videos because it feels like am listening to my big sister. And it feels like a sister who truly cares about me. Thanks for making these. Congratulations on 500 k 🎉
What you said about it not being possible to be in your feminine 24/7 is really true ,cause that would get me chewed up in this wicked world 😂😂😂😂 can’t wait to have you back ma’am , you’re the best ❤
“When you find a man that you genuinely respect & trust feminist will come easy to you” FACTS !!!
Im very masculine and glad this video showed up in my recommended. Definitely dont trust people to do things or do them well, history of let downs and also being a strong woman i didnt feek femininity was part of that. My mom is a superwoman, she's definitely gotten more feminine along th way. For me, im gonna be working on changing my tone of voice since i do a lot of what you recommended, bit with an overal masculine energy. Im a very intensr person anyways so i think changing my tone and being more patient will help.
Thank you
That’s what I was looking for
Because I’m feminine but I also love my masculine side
And all the videos on RUclips are canceling the masculine energy so thank you
♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️ greetings from Algeria 🇩🇿
I feel like if you’re a woman in today’s day and age, and you’ve been exposed to modern society, you’ve been subconsciously programmed to be masculine. So unless you live under a rock and have completely isolated yourself from modern society and the modern media you NEED more time in your feminine because you already spend quite enough time in the masculine. I think the femininity movement is beautiful and EXTREMELY important, especially for woc specifically black because they have been forced into their masculinity and have been more hurt than other groups of women. Balancing the energies will come natural once you’ve mastered the feminine energy. The problem is a lot of women are completely out of touch with their feminine energy so yes it needs to be highlighted, it needs to be studied and it needs Extra attention, time and effort to cultivate. I don’t think it’s fair to even suggest to black women to not be feminine because they’re already so programmed to be masculine so I’m actually not a fan of this video. Let the feminine movement shine and blossom and grow and have eyes on it because it is necessary.
thank you ...
How about let people be who they are. How about don’t say it’s not feminine and therefore bad to stand up for yourself, demand your equal treatment. I’m tired of the narrative that being feminine is about doing nothing, sitting there and taking disrespect, lying down and giving up yourself for a man of all things. The sooner people realize femininity and masculinity are made up and have changed and varied throughout time and cultures, have meant different things, the better. All humans can have any human trait, it is not relegated to a certain gender.
‘Rather than act like someone has killed your mum’ 😂 I used to be quite aggressive when getting my point across in my early 20s but I’ve learnt now to take a moment and not respond in my feelings. Also the bit about the guy who’s has his energy correct will bring out your feminine side - so true!
I have always ignored the part of "getting a man" just because I wanted to get back my femeninity for myself, the ones that i love and the world. I used to be so kind when i was a kid, i loved making present for everyone and cooking for my family, even for my cousins that didnt like me. Kids are just beautiful clean creautures, so kind, so full of love, so innocent and with pure intentions, and then the world is in charge of shaping their hearts. For me femeninity is about being kind with myself first, providing everything i need, is about listen to my friends and family, to not keep resentment in my heart, to not yell but ask for something, to explain my feeling in a calmer way, for myself because i deserve peace and love. Thank u breanny for the video, i will show it to my sister. 💕🌱🌸
She needs to give us teenagers girls lessons on youth ❤️
Exactly! When I love and trust someone, I can relax and just be a sweetheart. I dont have to worry about staying alert. At work or in public (when alone), I have to be fierce, alert, confident, self assured and assertive to maintain boundaries that keep me safe
"When you find a [person] who you genuinely respect and a [person] who you genuinely trust, femininity will come easily"
Sis, it’s hard being feminine while living where I’m from in Chicago. If you do, you find yourself not really fitting in with the rest of the women because you’re too feminine OR instead of being feminine you’re busy in survival mode instead of feeling graceful, comfortable and protected.
I’m from Chicago too born and raised. The men there don’t make you feel safe to be feminine. They look at it as a weakness. Honestly moving to a different environment will help a lot with that. Chicago men are not it tbh
Hi my friend found her husband in Chicago she’s a very feminine woman total girly girl and party animal so even moving in your own city can be beneficial. Don’t be afraid to just be you.
I literally was googling how to manage my emotions last night. It’s something I’ve always know that I have to learn but wow... this video is ABSOLUTELY SPOT ON. It’s like you’re talking to me.
+++I added this to my healing playlist.
I've been very feminine my whole life. I was raised in a Caribbean household, where we were taught me cater to a man and be submissive from a young age. I'm 33 and still single with no children 🤷🏾♀️
I have the same situation with my mom, and agree with trust issues and also will add that moder age is pressuring girls to hustle more in a wrong way and that is something that many girls can't escape, because they are survivors and warriors, and it's tough being feminine in masculine world. It tricks you too be more competitive with everything, even with your boyfriend.
So inner work and contemplating on our past deeds is something I have done, to evalue myself and to determine what is difficult and why from the beginning of my story/life.
We need to go back to our roots.
Forget all the Cosmo and other toxic magazine's advice and start to listen to our soul.
God bless you Breeny for always telling the truth!
Breeny, this is the first time I've "met" you on RUclips. I operate about 80% in my masculine. Mostly because I'm anxious, depressed, heartbroken and trying to guard and protect myself. I've also been struggling with feeling like I might be Transgender because my masculine energy is so high. I need to soften into my feminine I'm just scared of being rejected and abused or taken advantage of.
I think what I'll try is a simple trick of using feminine colours in my wardrobe to express my loving, deep side. I have this pink/red lipstick that really encourages me to be open.
As you said though, I need to not be an over sharer.
Between the masculine and feminine I tend to always swing too far in either direction.
I see that love is not about personality of people, but about vibe/frequency of our being (including body). Since I realized that, I stopped being worried about if love partner, and focused more on living my best life. Love will come and it doesn't depend on how do I look. Sometimes we just can't resist some people. That's frequency in work. And that's beautiful
The tips you gave counter a lot of toxic masculinity traits which affect both males and females, so technically everyone can benefit from them!
Thank you! Just thank you this is literally the best video on feminine energy I've ever watched!! Balance is the keys I felt so sick trying to kill my masculine energy. Now I understand there's a balance to both energies.
Lordt! I can be a whole dude at times, but I'm working on the balance. I want to be more feminine, but I want to be with someone who's aware and accepting of both sides of me. I loved this! You've inspired me to produce some of the content that I produce. I love you, sis!
The Bahamas is Watching🇧🇸
Can we all please watch her videos, like and share them?? Breenys channel need to blow up and get millions of views because every woman on this earth can benefit from the wisdom she gives us ❤️
Here's my take on this..I think the epitome of femininity or owning your womanhood is defining what kind of woman you are. I understand that traits such as assertiveness or dominance are traditionally 'Male' traits. But can't we just have traits and not associate them a specific gender.
Well, that's all good for an ideal world
But we are in the real world
But it’s not gender it’s energy. That’s why we need to have both and balance them
Yep I too feel it is more ideal/helpful to just see them as normal character traits for a human not about fem or masc which literally everyone is that whether they like it or not
I thought about it recently and i think women are actually the alpha in the world. Men are jusy physically stronger but spiritually women are stronger Momma bear energy is crazy
@@edss7778 Do you see the hypocrisy in this comment? If a man said this you guys would call him a mysognist, sexist, woman hater and try to shame him. Why is it okay for woman to say woman are the alphas?
I love love your channel I sit at my job and listen to a lot of videos when I was going through a bad breakup a couple of days before Valentine's Day. I am 41 years old and I'm still learning the ropes of life itself. You have definitely put some knowledge into my mind
♥️♥️♥️🙏🏾
I would say I'm more masculine than feminine because of life situations. Balance is the key! Thanks for this video! Going to definitely put your advice into practice. Great advice and wisdom!
This is exactly what I needed to hear...I find that a lot of the time I am doing something for my future husband first and THEN God, which I know is not the way to go! A lot of these femininity channels put that in my head (unintentionally), so I've been limiting how much I consume of that content.
I just discovered you are days ago and I just want to say I love you.your personality, your aurora, vibe, knowledge is very inspiring. True beauty
i’m going to definitely practice on moderating my emotions because sometimes i get so angry i give up and turn my back on my responsibilities. it’s going to be hard but it’s going to be worth it. thanks breeny.
The Masculine Energy you put in your videos are definitely soul catching!! Thanks I needed this as well as whatever else the GOD OF ALL Universes puts in your heart
I feel I have a great balance of masculine and feminine energy. Both are turned on when its needed, basically its mostly go naturally for everybody
I definitely am tapped more into my masculine energy. You were absolutely right when you said it comes from being let down, (which has happened more often than not), past hurt (which has me on guard) or simply just dealing with people who did not respect my time or concerns. I'm working on changing the way I think and more, to bring more balance to my life so that when I'm blessed with the man God has for me, I'll be ready for him.
it was great reminder for those of us that have to be man and woman all at once! I also appreciate the fact that you were so natural about it. I don't like it when other women try tell me how to "be femenine" from their very own pinnacle of femininity while they cannot even walk in my shoes. People tag me rude, arrogant and masculine when I let it be know that I don't like that! Loved your balance, boldness and understanding. Thank you!
Great video. I don’t like watching these types of videos from some RUclipsrs because I don’t believe on changing who you are to be someone else or manipulating tactics to get a man. I’m mostly a tomboy but I switch up sometimes. I believe God has someone for me at the right time. I wish people would just heal because trying to be someone you’re not is a waste of time.
Understanding energy is everything. Know the energy you are giving out. You attract what you give out♥️
Word!!
I'm just realizing I've got Soo much masculine energy within me, people often told me to stop being a tomboy and Yes I reduced more than half; but this video is very realistic and needed it focuses soo much on the inside which matters a lot more than we know. I'll really practice them little by little and I may not necessarily even have to force myself to be less of a tomboy physically, it could happen naturally.
Thanks for this, I really loved it, I'm inspired 😄
Balance is key. Masculinity gets you what you need. Femininity gets you what you what.
Thank you Breeny, I knew I had this problem and thought I wasn't feminine enough, it turns out I just couldn't balance it cause I did not know how. I have been hurt in the past and my masculine energy has always been like a way for me to protect myself it got to a point I knew I was showing too much of it and didn't know how to work on myself to tone down the masculinity and bring out more of my feminine side. I did a lot of reflection and work on myself and it was harrdddd but worth it! I've met someone and I see myself more feminine than before, i'm loving it myself, its going really really well! You are ALL RIGHT on this one, i've taken your words and i'm moving with it SIS!
I was searching for videos about femininity just yesterday, and couldn't find anything good enough for me. God speaks through you🙏🙏🙏
Breeny this video is so healing to my heart!! YES! The problem isn’t always us needing to be “more feminine” it’s recognizing that our trust has been hurt and focusing on healing around that not just “being more feminine.”
Love this video. It's no surprise that a lot of the things you said, the control, micro-managing, overreacting, I recognize in my mother, I feel like it's a sign of overcompensating too, which also alienates you from yourself and makes you feel inauthentic. I've had to work through those things myself too, to unlearn that behavior (and still do at times) and realize that I'm better than that, because my life is worth more than wasting my energy on that behavior, we're all worth so much more growth, than trying to force others to be 'you' so you don't have to.
If anyone can relate, and as you mentioned in the video, I feel like I tend to have a more feminine father, and a masculine, emotionally-blocked yet overdramatic/overcontroling mother, so I had to be more masculine around my father, and more feminine around my mother to not trigger them and to balance it out, depending on at what home I was (divorced parents). And yet, therefore starting to feel more masculine with my mom too, to not have to have it affect me that much or loose myself in her emotions.
I can say, these times, living on my own and nearing my thirties, it's been one hell of a rollercoaster, hurting and eye-opening and beautiful at the same time, learning now that it's safe for me to get in touch again with my own femininity, embracing me being the woman and the person that I am, without having to fearfully relate being feminine to my mother's need for validation, her co-dependence, and her need to be seen as feminine, as the woman in the house, and yet also the one in control, the man. You kind of feel used in a way, as a child, as a teenager. Therapy definitely helps to have a mirror showing you the reality of this and being able to set your boundaries again in a safe space and to free yourself from this. Feel balanced withing yourself.
Only a few months ago did I finally realize: Hey, I can be a woman, I don't have to be a girl anymore, because: I AM a woman. I AM an adult. Without needing to being afraid to intimidate my mother - or grandmother & grandfather on that side of the family at that - to trigger her jealously or anything. It's kind of like you realize you've been holding your growth in, embracing yourself, because others would be triggered/confronted with their fears and passivity to grow and embrace themselves, so they try to keep you small, pull you down, undermine your growing, until you realize that YOU are the only one who decides wether you want to grow and embrace and love yourself and live your life or not. No one can decide that for you, so no one can choose in your place either. No one can stop you from growing or authenticity when you decide to grow and become authentic, and embrace both your masculine and feminine based on, as you said Breeny, what you NEED yourself, based on you being you and encouraging yourself to be yourself (and with the help of loving people around you), not on what (you think/feel) others want/need in order for them to love you. It's not worth it. You're worth more, everything.
Sometimes i feel like ive earned my “masculine energy” and usually i try to keep it. I respect it bcz thats what i cultivated to survive so my instincts tell me to value it highly. But ur right i dont often let my guard compltly down anymore. But i hadnt even thought about it until recently.
your makeup is so flawless! Please do a tutorial one day
Sooo very true and interesting to hear from someone who puts this all into words. When I met my now husband, I was pretty independent and stand offish and had masculine habits. With time, his masculinity brought out the feminity in me and I didn’t have to think about it, it just came out and we both balance each other. It’s amazing.
It's true beautiful lady I am happy to hear these words. Only a man who wants to be kept will be kept
Girl!!! You’re preaching a whole word here!! I’m literally at work (clearly not working lol) and had to pause the video to whip out my note pad to take notes! You have a gift & I pray God continues to use you to help heal those willing to listen 🙏🏾🙌🏾💛
Girl 🤣🤣🤣🤣 died whn you said beating his chest like KingKong LMFAAOOOO🤣 girl IM THE MAN yes true we MUST balance things out
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This really helps I'm more on a masculine energy you really help me a lot
This video is so refreshing! Having trust issues, being angry all the time - I feel incredibly unbalanced. But after watching a lot of these feminine help videos, it just felt really expensive and time consuming. And that's not me. Energy, I feel, is just that - energy - it has nothing to do with the outside (though the outside is important.) For someone that's lived with self-loathing and depression, absolutely, the outside needs work too but, some of the stuff in those videos just felt too much for me. And then I decided: I'll just take what works for me and drop the rest. Plus: it's incredibly comforting to know that feminine energy around a masculine man will come easier and more naturally. And that balance is key.
after watching all your videos I pretty much changed my vision and my actions according to logic and your tips and I’m finally in a healthy relationship with no shit going on at all ,I still watch your videos ,you do something really important most girls have no idea how to manage heart issues thank you for everything you taught us🙏🏼
You're real girl ♥️
As a trans man whose trying to find the balance between his masculine and feminine and has explored videos on both.... thank you for this. This entire video is such a healthy and clearly intelligent persepctive.
it's just unbelievable how you make me think about things differently and make me realise stuff... wow
I feel like I relate to the being overly feminine in the past and then flipping the switch out of hurt and now I’m finally learning to find the balance. Ty!
She’s the best in her field of work.. period 💐
You just talked about everything i am, hard to be feminine and have your own back. Its survival mode.
Masculine energy for work and getting things done, feminine for home and love🤗🤗🤗🤗
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Reclaiming my femininity, especially for myself & not the approval of men, as been a huge thing for me lately
Real shit right here and I needed to hear this 😁. Also glad your calling out the feminity movement was feeling abit uneasy of it for a while 😨. Changeing for anyone but yourself is pointless, it's not remotely fun and feels like way to much emotional work kind of like a third job, not fun grr 😡 😠 just screams low self worth, value and esteem. Besides I always have to question what makes the other person so worth while doing all this for in the first place? Not like their God or anything of the sort. On a side note my current Christian group were talking about forgiveness, thing is that just isn't in me.
Being feminine guarantees you a man that is masculine. Maintaining that man is a different story because no one is designed to be with someone forever. Whether anyone believes in God or not people are put in your life for reasons and for seasons. When a woman is feminine and a man is masculine life is much easier for them both...absolute truth or definitely truth?
That masculine energy is going to come in handy though if you need to decide someone’s lying right off the bat
"Being feminine guarantees you a man that is masculine." Nope. I know super feminine women that have feminine husbands. Just like I know really masculine tomboy women that have super masculine bf/husbands
Weirdly I know a lot of “power couples” where both partners seem masculine and are go getters when it comes to success. They seem happy but I don’t know the intricacies of their relationships
@@crazysmilingdonut804 Your anecdotal experience don’t really matter. In general man are attracted to feminity and woman are attracted to masculine guys. Your setting woman up for failure with your logic cause a masculine man will just leave the masculine chick. Man want peace more than anything else and a a masculine chick is nothing peaceful.
Can u make a video about not having any friends and being lonely. For whatever reason, people just don’t like me.... I’m really depressed and afraid that I’m going to spend the best years of my life alone
Make friends means getting out and finding those with common interest (same school, sport, music, art etc). Then open up your mouth and be friendly
Praying for you! I know how you feel. I have been there. That's when I developed my relationship with the Lord.
That makes sense... I feel like I haven’t met a manager I can trust!
I feel like I’ve been always on the defense and protective mode, and always came off as feisty. I always wonders by looking around at my friends and see how feminine and sweet and gentle they are with their men, and thought to myself: maybe I’m not a gf or wife material?
But then I also thought about how I haven’t been around a man that I can trust and be myself or vulnerable with.... 🙂
True! "Nothing guarantees you a man." I felt that part! 😏