Job hopping won’t solve your work boredom. Here’s why…
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- Опубликовано: 26 июн 2024
- Are you an ADHD adult that job hops? Do you get bored of careers and burn any progress you've made down to the ground and start over again and again? If this sounds like you - and you're sick of starting over - then watch this video! I wish I knew this when I started my career!
RESOURCES MENTIONED
Myers Briggs Test - 16personalities.com
Values Assessment - personalvalu.es/
TIME STAMPS
00:00 Introduction
00:27 Why Job Hop?
01:40 Novelty Craving
02:28 Chasing Novelty
03:39 Finish Degree?
04:42 Beyond Degrees
06:01 Career Alternatives
07:20 Self Awareness
08:22 Finding Happiness
09:16 Reader's Struggle
10:18 Managing Novelty
11:30 Importance of Meaning
12:31 Goal Clarity
13:45 Importance of Meaning
13:59 Conclusion
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answering the question from the end of the video. after jumping hoops, I realized that it's ok that things are slow sometimes and I started to train myself to being able to except it and to learn riding along when something is going slow, because a change always takes time by itself and by that logic you will have done more by going slow than by changing things.
well said .. I'd work on this
Thank you for this!!! I pinned this comment, so I hope others see it. I am telling myself the same thing right now as I not only like to job hop, but also move houses a LOT. So right now, I'm telling myself that it's okay to slow my roll and appreciate where I am right now. I'm here for a reason, and maybe this discomfort is meant to teach me something.
@@CarenMagill awesome. thank you. nobody ever pinned my comments before. I appreciate your appreciation.
@@sartajsingh24 or... orrr.... we can make a collab together. do you have some unproduced songs or ideas in the long-term drawer?
There are two things I tell myself. One from the Bible and the other from a book on mindfulness. The Bible passage from Leviticus says “afflict your soul.” If you want to get to your fullest potential on earth you’re gonna have to afflict your soul. Because the soul has good and bad parts to it that can delay or destroy our promise land.
The other quote I use is “accept discomfort by no longer relieving pain.” This quote helps me sit on the uncomfortable “feelings” I have when I feel when the dopamine has warn off.
for normal people job quitting is a stressing and huge decision, for us - it's like a narcotic, you just need to try it once and you'll become a quit-junkie.
Yes it can be freeing, especially if you have a great job but don’t like the environment. Just do the same job at a different place! It’s fun and chances are you’ll get paid more for it!.
Omg you get it!
Depends. It's often the opposite. Many "Normal," people easily plan ahead and line up job quit/rehire with little stress. Many neurodivergent folks find it quite stressful.
Scary how true this is!
I quit my corporate job at 42 amd retrained to be an actor. 9 years on, I'm still working survival jobs for ridiculously low pay and I hate it. I've even trained as a Career coach but can't even get people to coach for FREE to get some practice in. I'm SO tired of not knowing what I should be doing while striving for my acting break.
Most actors work part-time jobs & gigs because that's the nature of show business
thank you for being so honest .. easier said than done, but I hope you're able to see it "one day at a time" .. all the very best. 🥂
One of my ADHD coaching teachers was an actor and an ADHD coach. He works with actors and creatives. I remember him saying he tells his clients, if you can do anything other than acting, do it, because it's such a hard lifestyle to sustain.
I don't know if that's helpful or not, but I would encourage you to flip the script. There's no one thing you "should" be doing. It's not a magic destination. You get to choose what you think you should do.
Same. I quit my corporate job and retrained to be a singer. It's been 8 years, but I'm still working survival jobs just to continue paying the rent and paying for lessons, so that I can continue holding on to the hope that my dream will come true one day. I'm well into my thirties now, and everyone just thinks I'm delusional for thinking I still have a shot. And it's a constant battle to try and put myself out there, because of rejection sensitivity. And it makes it EVEN MORE tiring that everyone around you is like, come on, you should just do something else already, like maybe get a proper job and settle down. Or get yourself a family and settle down.
Hey @abstrawn I'd be happy to be your career coaching guinea pig if you still need someone?
In terms of advice that I can give, I'd say if you're looking for better paying side jobs then creating UGC (user generated content) might work for you. Essentially you're scripting and filming mini social media ads for companies I've heard it can pay well. And/or you could try being a public speaking coach or delivering corporate team building events (employees learn about trust and communication etc using acting techniques and work together in teams to film a scene each of a bond movie based on their workplace (or something similar) which gets filmed on smartphones and played at the end on a larger screen.
I used to receive an amazing high from solving problems at work then about 8 years ago I noticed that the joy was replaced with doubt and worry during the process. Now at 52 I’m trying to find my muse and reinvent myself.
Nothing but positive thoughts!!
Entrepreneurship/ self-direction can be worse. Out thriving happens in structured flexibility, not in supposed absolute freedom. She could become an nurse consultant who works set hours/ set time periods. But yeah it's important to have structures -- we're like tomato plants or vines that need a trells to support our growth!
wow love this comment - "structured flexibility" and the visual of the tomato plant!
YES!! We're a freaking tomato plant!!! Love it!
I tend to be more introverted and need my time to be alone with myself and collect and process my thoughts. But also I find fulfillment in being around others and helping others especially in a job. It’s the weirdest and strangest combination feeling like your introverted but also feel fulfilled interacting and helping others. It’s the main cause of my burnout as I seek jobs where there’s a lot of people interaction but end up burning out from my introversion and end up hating interacting with others until the burnout stops. I also can’t see myself in a job where I’m just working by myself because I’m missing that fulfillment from that people interaction. There’s a specific balance that I’ve been trying so hard to find in a job.
Uhhh. Finish & get a degree/ credential. Also demonstrates the capacity for tenacity & persistence. And get money to at least pay down loans. Those loans will still be there regardless of degree attainment, which sucks
Ever since I left the job I was at for 15 years, I have struggled with job hopping. I've even emailed my resignation and then not come back in. It's a terrible feeling, but i had to do it. I like the job i have now, but it pays terribly. I need more money, so I'm keeping a look out for yet another job. I don't know what to do with myself. 😢
I understand that frustration, but the fact that you like your job now, is a good place to start. What do you like about it? How can you replicate that in a higher paying job? Get curious!
In exactly the same situation, easy enough job, enough to keep me occupied and good co workers.
Pay makes life a struggle though
I have had a portfolio career all my life while working one main full time job, Been doing a lot of things on the side especially when I get bored and need extra money.
I think that's a solid way to go about it. Keeping your side hustles as your curiosity outlet is both safe and gratifying.
I started a RUclips channel because I wanted to document my travels and share. I listened to all these YTer's saying start before you are ready just start. I quickly became overwhelmed with things I had to learn. Video making, content creation, video editing, photography, cameras, lighting, videography, story telling, and it was the WRONG niche for me. I never fit in, the people I met were nice but I couldn't seem to form any friendships.
Being an intravert with learning disabilities/difficulties and all the D's, PTSD,ADHD, OCD, really sucks. My journey through life was hell. I needed this channel 50 years ago.
I've discovered that despite being an introvert, I feel fulfilled when i'm helping others. The issue is, even when I'm doing that, I still get bored sometimes. I'm learning that this is normal and ok to be bored sometimes. It's hard to imagine because we think we have to always be engaged, but that's the start of the road to burnout
Just clicked this video because i start suffering after 1,5 years in a job. I really hate it... I loved my studies... But the practical work is horrible. Social worker... The jobs are really challenging emotionally, psychology and also requests a lot of self managing... I really get depressed every other month. Still i do not dare to change... Since i failed twice leaving this career behind. I really hope this video gives me some inspiration..
I have been working with my therapist on this same subject. This is definitely one we have to work with, I too, have done many jobs yet my creativity is itching more and more. It’s not about money but it is a lot money. We are stuck in the generation right now, we want more freedom and less control from our sometime not good employer’s (because we’re constantly work hard at) and get under unappreciated, invaluable. It’s not just the outsider, but knowing what makes us content in some way, hopefully will give me less depression and more opportunities. Sorry to go on. I go in circle trying to explain my point. But if you’d made this far. Keep going. I’m 38yrs and working on my Art career. You can do anything you set your mind to.
Agreed! you can do anything you set your mind too, but not everything (all at once)
For people who have a lot of difficulty adjusting and trying to look for better job options, I think temperament is the key.
Because work involves, a lot of collaboration, one of the important things to consider along with your skill set, money is knowing your temperament with respect to work interactions and collision of working styles between different people, not just employee-supervisor-manager-leadership which are typical possible interaction/conflict/stress points people consider.
How well you can gel with fellow team members and get the work done, combine that with temperament, working style of yours with respect to possible other temperaments, working styles that tend to exist more in a field/job and consider the nature of teams/departments you will be interacting/working with.
This could help narrow down possible job opportunities where you could stick for a longer time.
Caryn, you are a good example because you are using skills & background knowledge from your psych degree in your coaching 👍🏽
Yes, I am now, but it took me a LONG time to get here. I'd love to see our community getting to that result faster than it took for me.
I am UI UX Designer, I found out that I have adhd few months ago, and also I started to do photography, I fell in love with photography so much that I don't want to do anything else anymore. But also I am a refugee in New country where I don't have so many connections as in mine. I felt really stressed with the feeling that I don't want to do design anymore, but I still do, I think I can be good at design, but I always wanted to do something more artistic, where I can decide. Honestly it makes me feel sad because I am afraid to end up under the breege at some point 😂 I really don't know what to do. Try to motivate myself to work by looking at my empty bank account. At least I understand what is happening to me right now
Part-time UX, part-time photographer
@@Heyu7her3 yeah, for now I will do that and see how it works
What made you get into UX design? Isn't there creativity in that? Is it the lack of personal expression that you don't enjoy? Photography as a side hustle is a great way to keep it as your creative expression and not a "job". Because if it becomes your FT job, then it's not about creating what you want, it's what the customer wants, and then it's no longer creative, right??
@@CarenMagill in my country if you work in Tech it gives you opportunity to have a decent life and I choose design because it was kind of creative profession in Tech. I mostly was thinking about financial aspect. But it was always hard for me. I understand that strategy and business is more easy for me in design than working on UI. But such a excitement and pleasure I have from photography I had only from dancing, difference is only that I am much better in photography and I can see that in this I do really have a talent. I will try to sell my prints and maybe it gonna work.
@@CarenMagill thank you so much for your comment!
thank u for giving me clarity on what i should actually be doing
There's nothing worse than being stuck at a job that destroys you every day because it's like pulling teeth to do each task.... Seriously, I have a decade long career in logistics and make six figures at this point, and I'm actively looking for new work in a completely different field of work, which will come with a significant pay cut, because I'm in the exact same situation as this person.... Nothing about my job makes me feel like I'm doing anything valuable with my life, and it's killed me to the point where I finally figured out, after 37 years, that my mild challenges in life have all been ADHD related, and this stupid job contains every trigger for an ADHD individual like myself. I can manage my ADHD with only minor depression and anxiety back when life was normal, but I can't when it comes to this dumbass profession any more...
Dude! Start trading :)
I've been watching and listening to your videos the last few weeks and everything you discuss on this channel is me. I'm 51 years old and you have given me new perspective on why I do what a do. For so many years I thought it was only me doing these things or feeling this way. Like I said I'm 51, married 26 years, and we have 4 adult children. Now that the kids are doing there thing, I need to find my thing. Mind you I think I've created or started 20 plus businesses and have 100s of ideas in my lifetime, so you can call me a serial quitter. Since listening to your channel, I've found a little bit of peace and understanding knowing that I have hope in figuring out what to do next with my second half of life. Thank you again and keep doing what you're doing!
I can see where this applies to a lot of people. For myself, I think anxiety and sustainability are the main drivers for my job hopping.
I know that feeling well.
I wonder if the nurse is also going some hormonal upheaval. I got an ADHD diagnosis at 46 years old. I was then and am still in peri-menopause. It’s so hard and I can’t seem to do anything.
I really enjoyed taking the values assessment test. Thanks for sharing!
very well put, Caren. 👌
Thank you kindly!
Love the cookie monster graphic.
I don't job hop cause it means I have to learn something new, deal with new idjots, go to a new location--which sounds good at the same time, BUT the grass isn't always greener. I like stability in my life, and also being a quitter is not in my blood...I'm many things, but not that! I have thought many times about leaving my current job. I have. Truly. I get through it, though. The devil you know and the devil you don't. ¯\_(ツ)_/¯
I job hop because of performance issues. I love my career, working with people as a counselor fits me perfectly. The variety is provided by the clients, I have become very effective at this work. But, if I do the notes too soon, I write a book. It’s TMI for the medical record. It also takes too much time. Bosses don’t like that I’m always behind. It got worse when I had COVID brain on top of ADHD and dyslexia. I do SMART notes to rein in the desire to write a second by second account of the session. Hope that helps as you collect info for another video.
The culture / team / people is most important for me then i stay haha.
I have been teaching Pre-K for 5 years with a year off after Covid because it did not work out in one school. I have been teaching for three years at my current school and make a good salary. However, I could always earn more and there is no pension. Still having a semi-young child (aged 10) who is very attached to me, I feel like this school may be enough for me. I am 48 years old and part of me doesn't want to start over. My school has very basic expectations and hardly any ongoing guidance. I teach in a basement and some days, I never see a director. I do miss more guidance but it affords me less stress too. It would be nice if I could also create friendships with a coworker but they are all in their 20's with no children of their own. With an older child 3 years away from college, do you suggest I "suck it up" and try another school for better job security with a pension and the ability to move up in salary or do I stay where I am? Thank you! (P.S. I never really truly liked teaching and have struggled in the past with classroom management)
I can feel it in my bones that I want to be an Ombud, change agent. I have a MS Degree in Conflict Resolution and Analysis help.....So hard finding a job with a specialized degree.
Hitting like button only two minutes in. ughh watching this while im deciding if i should buy a course, when i have a whole bunch i havent finished/implemented. sigh.
Because we are dealing in a neuro typical world.
This is really difficult when you identified your interest but unfortunately the job opportunity is not working out as expected due to your symptoms. In that case, is it just accepting / having the self awareness to move on?
Can we chase novelty within the same thing? for example, I love making contents, can I chase loving making contents with learning new things, or I just shouldn't chase novelty?
If you are chasing what you love, and it's consistent, then you're on the right track!
@@CarenMagill aaah thank you so much, you're level of understanding reaaly encourages me 😍
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