How Do Men Deal with Emotions, Texts, and Arguments? | MEN, EXPLAIN EP 4

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  • Опубликовано: 16 окт 2024
  • #relationship #communication #couplefights #podcast
    DISCLAIMER: All precautionary measures were taken during the production. (Both parties seen in this video live in the same household)
    Gender differences between men and women are not just a sweeping generalisation, but observations analysed over centuries of human behaviour. These fundamental differences exist in the way in which men and women function, think and most importantly communicate. In this episode, we invite a male guest to dissect the thought process and the meaning behind their words (or lack thereof) in times of both endearment and arguments.
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Комментарии • 97

  • @Piedutch
    @Piedutch 3 года назад +184

    Jeremy sounds so diplomatic, what a chad. Can be the next Minister for Foreign Affairs

    • @itsclarityco
      @itsclarityco  3 года назад +20

      🤣🤣This dude can really wear many hats!

    • @heyasoniachew
      @heyasoniachew 3 года назад +10

      HAHAHA winning comment

  • @Jay-ru2cw
    @Jay-ru2cw 3 года назад +70

    LOVE LOVE LOVE THIS CONVERSATION!!! More of Sonia and Jeremy! Both of you are so open and frank sharing your thoughts!
    Like how the both of you can complete each other sentences at times and understand each other. Lovely and respectful relationship! Last long guys!

    • @heyasoniachew
      @heyasoniachew 3 года назад +3

      Thank you Jay! HAHHA clearly I could barely speak in between fits of laughter. Glad you enjoyed it!

  • @getfitwithnicol
    @getfitwithnicol 3 года назад +48

    Jeremy is so well spoken. I love you both together & the dynamic!!!

  • @jaychow3208
    @jaychow3208 3 года назад +59

    Sonia, your partner Jeremy is awesome, charismatic and mature in thinking! Both of you seem so compatible together! All the best...

  • @manifacetwit
    @manifacetwit 3 года назад +43

    I think calling each other to check in is an underrated and very sensible thing for couples to do in the Age of Texting (I'm nominally a millennial btw). I've lost count of the number of times a 'nothing' fight arose between me and my gf because of some silly text ambiguity like the difference between Jeremy's gentle "k" and the way it might come across to Sonia... All's fine when you hear the other person's voice

    • @heyasoniachew
      @heyasoniachew 3 года назад +3

      I totally agree! I’ve come to enjoy talking on the phone too though many may find a phone call potentially confrontational 🤣🤣

  • @jellycode7460
    @jellycode7460 3 года назад +26

    You guys have the best friend couple vibes. I enjoyed listening to this convo. Will be rooting for you two!

  • @crehmenti
    @crehmenti 3 года назад +21

    I think he sounds very mature, good to hear advice from. :)

  • @drkslayer00
    @drkslayer00 3 года назад +27

    Hey Sonia and crew. Maybe another topic or two that could be for discussion, between you and Jeremy or another guest on another episode, could be about:
    1) Age gap of couples and if you two faced any issues or worries from family or friends or the rest of society (given your quite public persona)
    2) Family issues (if any) that helped or hindered your personal relationships, or experiences or stories of any other couples
    Anyway, looking forward to every episode and you guys definitely always have my like and subscribe :) Keep it up!

  • @faizneutron
    @faizneutron 3 года назад +10

    It's good to watch this type of casual intellectual discussion on a public platform. Like most of us agree, everyone has their own expression of thoughts, emotion and perspective.
    Similar like other comments, Jeremy do sounds diplomatic and tactful.... (MFA uh) but this is one example on how we show respect and protect our partner when ask about them. Even to the level of sharing their flaws, we need to exhibit the relevant points. (Guys can complaint more than ladies...). It's like a wave; there are days that we hit on the wrong stone, but we need to step on the right path back.
    All in all, communication is key point for any relationship.

  • @geraldinetan6544
    @geraldinetan6544 3 года назад +11

    I loved this episode! I think in my case my boyfriend is the one who talks more. I find it more difficult to express myself. When we argue, I think both of us look at body language. I am more impatient, my bf tends to be more patient with me and so he would wait for me to cool down and then we would come back to address the issue. A rule we set between ourselves is that we should never sweep our problems under the carpet. Both of us have to be brave enough to discuss the problems so we can learn from that experience and look at how we should approach it the next time.

  • @ieliang
    @ieliang 3 года назад +22

    Jeremy’s voice is quite soothing. I fell asleep listening to him .

  • @BritneyLearingClub
    @BritneyLearingClub 3 года назад +39

    I like the freshness that Sonia brings to the room! However, the entire basis of this show seems very rooted in this idea of gendered expectations - what do men say? How should women be? Especially in the line of questioning initially where Sonia asks what men, women do. I think there is a niche in this podcast, I just wonder if it can be done without making it seem like people should always follow stereotypes?
    Commented cause I love Sonia’s energy but less so how the conversations pander to stereotypes .-(

    • @astrolight5000
      @astrolight5000 3 года назад +1

      Men and women are fundamentally different. It is this natural contrast that gives rise to even topics to discuss and talk about.

    • @itsclarityco
      @itsclarityco  3 года назад +10

      Hi Alex, thank you so much for leaving your feedback and comments, we appreciate them. The concept of this series was to identify these stereotypes and have an open conversation about them in hopes to bridge the two genders beyond the differences. We definitely agree that one shouldn't feel the need to conform to stereotypes and will be mindful about how it appears in future episodes! (:

  • @AlfrescoD5678
    @AlfrescoD5678 3 года назад +5

    U guys r like perfect for each other.. was wondering what kind of guy Sonia would date n dam this man’s spot on! All the best to you guys🤩

  • @winshah05
    @winshah05 3 года назад +53

    Jeremy impersonating Sonia while on live stream AHAHAHAHA epic!!! 😂

    • @heyasoniachew
      @heyasoniachew 3 года назад +3

      HAHAHA DAMN IT. It’s not that accurate I swear 🤣🤣

  • @foocien5316
    @foocien5316 3 года назад +10

    Dont usually leave comments but this is so relatable to many!! Thank u for sharing

    • @heyasoniachew
      @heyasoniachew 3 года назад +2

      I’m so happy to hear that!! Hope you enjoyed it and laughed along with us 🤣🤦🏻‍♀️

  • @junyutan9408
    @junyutan9408 3 года назад +17

    Reasons for interviewing your partner: Phase 2 HA distancing measures.

  • @vXnite
    @vXnite 2 года назад +4

    My girl friends and I have agreed that there are different levels of replies.
    K = rude and you don’t care
    Ok/emoji = u’re busy / unbothered
    Okay = Neutral
    Okie = Nice
    Okayyy/Okiee = Enthusiastic

  • @summerswift13
    @summerswift13 3 года назад +29

    Favorite couple. Wish it was longer though, could listen to Jeremy and Sonia for hours. This ep was insightful and super funny.. couldn't stop laughing!

    • @itsclarityco
      @itsclarityco  3 года назад +1

      Yay! Glad you enjoyed it as much as we did!

  • @cwang3388
    @cwang3388 Год назад

    I really enjoyed this one and would love to see more with both of you. The points were very relatable and real things couples with different communication styles go through. It has helped me reframe my behaviors and try to be a better girlfriend to my partner. Thank you!

  • @noitulive
    @noitulive 3 года назад +3

    4 episodes in, we don't get to hear Sonia's depths, just her talking casually with her guests. Please do dive deeper, it's not just about the interviewees, but rather the interviewer to bring herself out a lot more than just giggles and chuckles.

    • @heyasoniachew
      @heyasoniachew 3 года назад +13

      Thanks for your feedback! We’ll take note moving forward. Just to be clear… I’m not all giggles and chuckles. This just happens to be a guy that I’m happy with and talking about our personal issues happen to crack me up. Cheers!

  • @Jay-ru2cw
    @Jay-ru2cw 3 года назад +5

    So true Sonia! I DISLIKE ‘K’ kind of replies too! #standbyyou

  • @2snish
    @2snish 2 года назад

    Very insightful.
    Thank you for choosing worthy topics!
    Kudos to the team ! ❤️

  • @lilili379
    @lilili379 3 года назад +3

    The reason you asked if he was upset was cos he has a rbf and sterner demeanour than the emotionally expressive people you are used to and you are not as skilled at perceiving emotions. You are also concerned about upsetting him, nothing to do with projecting

  • @AutisticTraveller
    @AutisticTraveller 3 года назад +5

    This is an amazing podcast! Learnt a lot about life in this podcast!

    • @heyasoniachew
      @heyasoniachew 3 года назад +2

      That’s fantastic! Thank you for watching ♥️

  • @Marcus-ty3pi
    @Marcus-ty3pi 3 года назад +33

    this guy looks like the academia version of ip man

  • @alcanng2723
    @alcanng2723 3 года назад +1

    Great sharing, came from joakim’s twitch stream

  • @reyesthan3567
    @reyesthan3567 3 года назад +3

    amazing podcast! many things to learn from the both of them, great job!

    • @itsclarityco
      @itsclarityco  3 года назад

      Thank you! We loved having the both of them too!

  • @jiayingcute
    @jiayingcute 3 года назад +6

    Soulmates ⭐️

  • @RandyHong
    @RandyHong 3 года назад +7

    jerm is so relatable 🤣

  • @ezzatisaid
    @ezzatisaid 2 года назад

    Is it possible to find out what are the books that were mentioned?. :)

  • @hillarywee2264
    @hillarywee2264 3 года назад +6

    i loved this episode!! y'all are so awesome :"))

  • @mrphangoldwing
    @mrphangoldwing 3 года назад +9

    @3:55 False. Men CAN BE AS EXPRESSIVE as women on text. Obviously they’re his opinions so people need to be aware he is NOT spitting out facts.

    • @heyasoniachew
      @heyasoniachew 3 года назад +8

      You’re absolutely right! Everything that’s said are personal opinions based on our own experiences. It’s an open discussion for everyone to participate in :)

    • @Name-dw5vk
      @Name-dw5vk 3 года назад +1

      He did state that “at least for him”

  • @bc2238
    @bc2238 Год назад

    Idgi. is jeremy saying on the off chance where he does talk to his friends about issues, it would be so considered "consulting" his friends and even mentioned about not seeking help coz its seems weak for a guy to that? But for girls "they yap yap yap and talk about making jewelry" whut

  • @nanat9306
    @nanat9306 3 года назад +5

    Jerm is so funny! You two are so cute! Please do more videos together! 👌🏻👍🏻👍🏻😂

  • @watarumomo2449
    @watarumomo2449 3 года назад +1

    Joakim asked me to leave a comment. But legit, well done la HAHA

  • @Name-dw5vk
    @Name-dw5vk 3 года назад +1

    Wished this came 2 days earlier. I just broke up with my girlfriend and I think we had majority of these problems. It’s actually normal based on this video but to us, it’s something that cannot be fixed.

    • @itsclarityco
      @itsclarityco  3 года назад +1

      We are so sorry to hear this, sending virtual hugs to you! ❤️

  • @slothyying6580
    @slothyying6580 3 года назад +2

    Love this special episode 😌💙

    • @itsclarityco
      @itsclarityco  3 года назад

      Yay thank you! Glad you've enjoyed the episode!

  • @nwmchia
    @nwmchia 3 года назад +1

    🔔🔔 yup that’s right... u heard it here first

  • @victoriaaaneo
    @victoriaaaneo 3 года назад +2

    love you both so much and this is super relatable!!! love it and also 5:42 LOL I M DEAD

  • @TJianWei
    @TJianWei 2 года назад +2

    Is it me or does Jeremy look like Donnie Yen when he's facing the side or facing Sonia?

  • @ezzatisaid
    @ezzatisaid 2 года назад

    "I love that, really nice"
    "Ok cute"
    7:22
    😭😭😭😭😭

  • @cedricquey5289
    @cedricquey5289 3 года назад +5

    Jerm the influencer is back

    • @heyasoniachew
      @heyasoniachew 3 года назад +6

      HAHHA he needs his own channel

    • @cedricquey5289
      @cedricquey5289 3 года назад

      @@heyasoniachew he needs to make his ig Public

  • @maressaz
    @maressaz 3 года назад +2

    Loved it! :D We watched it on Joakim's live stream :)

    • @itsclarityco
      @itsclarityco  3 года назад +1

      Gotta admire their friendship! ❤️

  • @joeljohahnen6
    @joeljohahnen6 3 года назад +1

    Jeremy is F**ing funny la i love this! HAHAHAHAHHA

  • @ivanlimzg
    @ivanlimzg 3 года назад +1

    If i can relate to the female perspective more than the male(such as prefer chat time vs short texts) is that something i have to fix?

    • @itsclarityco
      @itsclarityco  3 года назад

      It really depends on the communication style between you and your partner! Some couples are both not text-ers and that's totally alright!

    • @ivanlimzg
      @ivanlimzg 3 года назад

      @@itsclarityco it's my personality to be chatty and prefer to be in depth, which is opposite of the typical guy. Even the friends that i have(both male and female) also know me as someone who talks more in the conversation...

  • @eleanor1195
    @eleanor1195 Год назад

    when she clarified beads BAHAHAHAHAH

  • @jethrophuah6694
    @jethrophuah6694 3 года назад +5

    Just me or Jeremy looks like ip man from the side view

  • @boeing747686
    @boeing747686 2 года назад +1

    Get yourself someone who looks at you like how Sonia looks at Jeremy

  • @leongxudong7229
    @leongxudong7229 3 года назад

    Got subtitle?

  • @HarshanalHalim
    @HarshanalHalim 3 года назад +1

    Jeremy seems a cool dood!

  • @kenken5622
    @kenken5622 3 года назад

    What beads?

  • @maxlimgj
    @maxlimgj 3 года назад +3

    Yala, men got tear duct for what? I only don't know men nipple is for what

  • @ad1r137
    @ad1r137 3 года назад +4

    So much hate in the comments section, all jealous they cant date sonia LOL.

  • @uqilin
    @uqilin 3 года назад

    Capricorns… 😍

  • @slaiyfershin
    @slaiyfershin 3 года назад +3

    This vid is gonna be real awkward in future if they break up.

    • @Tidyabqoc
      @Tidyabqoc 2 года назад

      I think they have so you’re right

  • @Guyver02USA
    @Guyver02USA 3 года назад +3

    - He sounds so much like Joakim thou .

  • @princeuy8021
    @princeuy8021 3 года назад +2

    False, I like long texts. In my experience females don't.

    • @itsclarityco
      @itsclarityco  3 года назад

      Interesting! And that's definitely possible!

    • @princeuy8021
      @princeuy8021 3 года назад

      @@itsclarityco they always tend to say, it gets cloudy when too long. And I'm fairly composed when I text, I just have to explain clearly to make sure that things are understood. Because during text/chat u can't see and feel emotion so one has to explain more properly. That's the way I see it. Otherwise we risk miscommunication on many levels. Cheers.

  • @Tidyabqoc
    @Tidyabqoc 2 года назад

    I’m guessing they’ve broken up by now

  • @Sturussia1
    @Sturussia1 3 года назад +1

    Great discussion, but please use Jeremy's name and stop calling him, "he"!! If I was Jeremy, I'd be fuming inside because he now knows he is only referred to as "he", when you're having your 6 hour girl talks. Poor Jeremy!!!

  • @fm86868686
    @fm86868686 3 года назад +8

    Cringe af

  • @mrpolarbearrrrr
    @mrpolarbearrrrr 3 года назад +4

    Wtf, thought that’s her father.