Secrecy or privacy - How much should you be sharing about your past? | Men, Explain (Ft. John Lim)

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  • Опубликовано: 2 июл 2024
  • Honesty is the foundation to every strong and healthy relationship, right? But how important is it to be honest about things that are no longer in the present?
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    0:00 Introduction
    2:24 Sharing about history and ex-partners
    3:30 Secrecy vs privacy
    4:45 Sonia avoiding conflict with her boyfriend
    8:33 How important is love language in a relationship?
    10:06 How do you tell your partner about your needs?
    13:38 What to share and not to share with your partners?
    15:54 Sonia dated an ex who was related to her current boyfriend
    18:15 Let's talk about sex
    22:15 Is it important to discuss STD testing with your partner?
    25:45 John wants to get a vasectomy
    26:48 Conclusion
    Host:
    Sonia Chew - / ​
    Featuring:
    John Lim - / johnjohnah
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Комментарии • 45

  • @noitulive
    @noitulive 2 года назад +180

    By far, one of the best guys interviewed. Thoroughly enjoyed the candid perspectives from John. This is real quality.

  • @Jay-ru2cw
    @Jay-ru2cw 2 года назад +73

    Wow! Please have another episode with John on his take to not wanting a child. Would love to hear that because I personally do not want to have a child too. But it is still quite a taboo because it seems like a normal thing to create a family when you get married.
    Btw, great conversation! Love the openness between both Sonia and John to keep the conversation flowing smoothly and safely!

    • @fauzanganz716
      @fauzanganz716 2 года назад +1

      B

    • @bongjunting6864
      @bongjunting6864 2 года назад +1

      Kids are noisy, expensive and annoying. You cant even count on them taking care of you when youre old in this century. Take your money, travel the world, and enjoy your life

  • @johnedward7498
    @johnedward7498 2 года назад +71

    Thanks for having me!
    ps. nabei my sock half rolled down need to stop it 😩

    • @Skyrockerification
      @Skyrockerification 2 года назад

      awesome stuff man

    • @itsclarityco
      @itsclarityco  2 года назад +7

      Thanks for being such an awesome guest and sharing such great insights!
      ps. TBH, no one noticed until you mentioned! Now we're going back to look at them sock...

  • @JessChew
    @JessChew 2 года назад +14

    Can’t believe this is the first time I’m listening to this podcast from Clarity but THIS IS AWESOME.
    I immediately sent it to my girlfriends. Super relatable. Thanks for being honest, Jon. And Sonia, best host 😍❤️

  • @edamame5540
    @edamame5540 Год назад +3

    John is such a matured guy - which is very rare

  • @xyo6310
    @xyo6310 2 года назад +2

    Best episode!

  • @neekng1759
    @neekng1759 2 года назад +7

    John is so cool!!

  • @adeFriedBrainCells
    @adeFriedBrainCells 2 года назад +7

    Love this ep…

  • @ZERO_0594
    @ZERO_0594 2 года назад

    I like this series v informative and useful.

  • @SparkzMxzXZ
    @SparkzMxzXZ 2 года назад

    19:40 preach it KING

  • @kimpoh911
    @kimpoh911 2 года назад +9

    Very insightful! Thank you

  • @Kai-pq6nm
    @Kai-pq6nm 2 года назад +5

    sonia look great again

  • @mkz3616
    @mkz3616 2 года назад +8

    John’s perspective 💯

  • @DemocritusLam
    @DemocritusLam Год назад +1

    this needs to be longer

  • @Adamaqz
    @Adamaqz 2 года назад +6

    OVERTHINKSG FAM IS HEREEEEEEEEEEEEEEEE

  • @mrpotato7734
    @mrpotato7734 2 года назад +11

    I loved Sonia's impression of how guys talk to their bros hahahaha

    • @itsclarityco
      @itsclarityco  2 года назад +5

      Should we cut that out and put it on repeat? 😂😂😂

    • @mrpotato7734
      @mrpotato7734 2 года назад

      @@itsclarityco yes! 🤣

  • @HumdrumSingaporeanREACTS
    @HumdrumSingaporeanREACTS 2 года назад +15

    【Honesty is the foundation to every strong and healthy relationship, right? But how important is it to be honest about things that are no longer in the present? 】
    Thank you so much @
    itsclarityco for this incredible description!
    *Ps. ... ...*
    *_To be honest with you~_*
    I really respect the individual who came out with it!!!
    Really helps set the narrative of an informative and knowledgeable conversation!

    • @HumdrumSingaporeanREACTS
      @HumdrumSingaporeanREACTS 2 года назад +1

      100% grateful for this positive video~

    • @itsclarityco
      @itsclarityco  2 года назад +1

      Thank you!!

    • @HumdrumSingaporeanREACTS
      @HumdrumSingaporeanREACTS 2 года назад +1

      @@itsclarityco
      That's really sweet and polite of you~

    • @austen98
      @austen98 2 года назад

      With regards to your statement, I agree with it wholeheartedly. As you say, it's in the past so it shouldn't matter. However, to some, and its mostly women, IT IS very important because you or her can't possibly be together if that happened or one did that etc. I would understand if one was a murderer or a lifetime criminal, however, this isn't so most of the time.

    • @HumdrumSingaporeanREACTS
      @HumdrumSingaporeanREACTS 2 года назад +1

      I agree that the person who quote the description = *_Super Awesome!!!_*
      Oh! Oh! Oh~
      *Thank you to @itsclarityco too*
      🙏
      @@austen98

  • @bboxremyproductions9140
    @bboxremyproductions9140 2 года назад

    Hey Sonia, are you able to make a video about like guys who date their partner who is older than them. Hope you would consider this topic.

  • @yzeuthium
    @yzeuthium 2 года назад

    God is fair. I love Jon ❤️

  • @kimjoshua3519
    @kimjoshua3519 2 года назад +1

    Be sure to catch overthinksg podcast stream over on twitch tomorrow guys!!! hehe sorry to pluggg =p

  • @missdk
    @missdk 2 года назад

    Hello:)) could you kindly make suggestions on where to get therapy or how to go about getting one too? Thank you!!

  • @DragonBonder
    @DragonBonder 2 года назад +12

    John has really good perspectives and gives good advice. Loved this episode
    But I don't get why cannot share income? Unless you super rich la

  • @SparkzMxzXZ
    @SparkzMxzXZ 2 года назад +1

    19:52 so iconic

  • @50left42
    @50left42 2 года назад +1

    5:32 🙃

  • @SparkzMxzXZ
    @SparkzMxzXZ 2 года назад +3

    great ep but kind of surprising that sonia immediately assumed john meant he didn’t want kids “yet”, vs just not at all. kind of a strange thing to jump to conclusions to unless you’re from the boomer generation hahah

  • @waterdispensersdiy2511
    @waterdispensersdiy2511 2 года назад

    What to share and not to share with your partners? What your Share? Want to Share?

    • @tgimul
      @tgimul 10 месяцев назад

      I think if you have change sex before, you should share it.

  • @davechan7406
    @davechan7406 2 года назад +1

    Shldnt our partner be more than happy to hear that i had so much fun outside?

  • @amuthaoly1590
    @amuthaoly1590 2 года назад +1

    John feels that it is taboo for questions about one's past relationships and family issues to be spoken about on a first date, and is ready to go for vasectomy in five years, but is ironically not fine with abstaining from sex before marriage. Doesn't make sense to me. Why not practice absteinence or even better, not be in a relationship to begin with.

    • @eunagiii
      @eunagiii 11 месяцев назад +1

      huh? u can enjoy sex yet not want it to result in a baby.