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3 times are times of privacy as told by Quran: -Before Fajr prayer -After Zuhr when people rest or have a nap -After Isha prayer These are the three times of privacy and Quran tells us that one should seek permission before entering the room at these times. If Muslims are knowledgeable about this en masse... there would be no problem as everyone and every Muslim family would be aware of this and hence give couples their right to privacy. Solutions to our problems lie in coming back to Islam.
If the couple are young then it’s a great way to save up for their own place, if they are living rent free. Otherwise it’s not healthy for a relationship long term
If you can afford it, having your own place is better because sometimes people don’t know how to mind their own business when you live with in-laws. I also think that having your own place can strengthen the relationship because it allows the couple to have that alone time and freedom as a couple. By all means visit the in-laws as much as you like, but living with them…nah. I understand that every couple has to do what is best for them. Allah knows best.
I can’t imagine living with in-laws. I would never show any deep romantic affection to my husband in front of non-mahrams. I want to be able to do that freely.
Before you get married you should have a separate place to live for just you and your wife so you can enjoy each others company without your family's interference. If both of your parents are healthy then there isn't a necessity to live together. The joint family system where the wife is expected to move in with the in laws is not from islam. This is a cultural practice mainly with the Indo/Pak culture. Everyone has the right to their own place. Ties can still be kept. Minimize a lifetime of conflict and break this archaic tradition as its not healthy for your relationship or your future family
We lived in a nice rented apartment for a few years before we saved enough money to purchase a house. The idea of living with in-laws didnt even cross our minds. It's easy. Anyone can do it. Work 2 jobs if you have to. Do whatever it takes but dont live with your parents/in-laws
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I totally agree with you. We lived in another city but my husband's brother and his witch wife still managed to create hell for us. Imagine if we lived close to them 😱😡
@@thetruthwithproof8802Brother can you avoid spamming on peoples pages and in the comment sections in the future, thanks! You and that Syed guy need to do something productive with your lives.
Subhanallah you reminded of my grandma, so my dad has 5 brothers and they are all married and they all used to live in a big apartment but…. My mom and my aunts were like MAIDS they had to serve my grandma and her daughter by taking dad by day their is nothing wrong with that but they were forced… and my grandma was aggressive to them and very unjust sadly, may Allah forgive her. So after 20 yrs they all bought their own houses and like that and my grandma now suffers from pain in her legs and body she could hardly walk bc she was relying too much on my aunts and mom so she wasn’t able to walk she would just relax on the couch for like 30 yrs. May Allah forgive her she taught me a lesson.
Imagine you going to the bathroom, after you've done the deed, and you bump into your father-in-law on the way and he's got his salwaar and bunaain (vest) on. How awkward would that be! The thought of copulating in a house with your family members is just so off putting. I really don't get how couples do it.
Fob cousin moved right back to his parents home with his Mrs shes got knocked up that night pregnant 9 months after the wedding night! How awkward for the parents siblings that share the same home His parents never acknowledge he knew about sex lol Shocker when they here noises coming from his room now!
Lol one of my friends was telling me in the villages in 3rd world countries its even worse, they have this joint family system, people are very nosy, you take bath in the morning and the whole village knows it's like .."I know what you did last night"... lol Oh I forgot to mention the bathroom/toilet it's situated outside thats why everybody can see you!
That would be awkward, that is why married couples should have their own place . No more living with the in laws unless there is absolutely no other option .
Religion states men should give the wives separated accommodations for privacy especially the wedding night adventures. Yet sadly some men act like animals leave them with the mrs next thing you know She’s already pregnant while in the in-laws crib
@@themercifulguard3971 look online mufti menk video any marriage rights of a spouse videos marriage is important so I made sure I did my own research. Plus I was never going to have sex with my Mrs in my parents home!! Never that out of line for me
This is the exact reason why I'm waiting to own my own property before considering marriage. There is no way I am going to limit myself to silent intimacy and only at specific times. A man and a woman should have the freedom to get it on whenever and wherever they want around the house, having in-laws, especially nosey ones, will ruin your relationship.
@@mohammedmiah7554 I'm lucky enough to be in a position where I'll be able to afford a property upfront in a matter of years insha'Allah. For most people though, yes, renting is the only option unless you mortgage your home, and that's haram because of riba anyway.
Very important topic this and never really talked about. Things can be very awkward for newlywed couples living with in-laws, the in law might hear them be intimate, and then they take shower which basically confirms it. Best for couple to have their own place. Also what demented culture makes the couple sleep in the same room as everyone else? That is absolutely unacceptable.
As an arab i heard multiple horror stories about women living with in-laws , how the woman was abused and she had to put up with it ,if she doesn’t then she is a spoiled brat , even in one case when the woman got her own house the mother in law was like “ you were patient and allah rewarded you” because she knows she’s evil , thank god it is not that common nowadays
I lived in anorher city yet my brother- in law and his evil wife still managed to make our lives miserable. May Allah punish them for what they did to me.
Just imagine you live with your in laws and you have a brother in law and you can't even take your hijab all day, f, what about a niqab, it is no no no,
@Abbas Abdullah do you think that fair, because they have no choice, even inside the house, it's hard , what if it hot, I can't imagine, have some mercy, please
@Abbas Abdullah I could NOT do that, I wear full Abaya, long, something knee-length khimars, sweat galore if I kept it on all day! I’d have to shower every 5 hours!!
Unless if your parents are senile and can’t take care of themselves, I don’t think you have to stay with them. You can take care of them without living with them.
Your parents getting bored is an issu between them and their relationship, it has nothing to do with the child. It's a couple's own responsibility to create excitement in their marriage.
Most of Arabs nowadays they live in a separate place 👍🏻 they rent a apartment or if they live with the in-lows normally they have their on a apartment in the house
Never understood how brothers happily move back to there parents home after marriage with the wife on the wedding night do the “halal intimacy” while the parents room is next door with siblings and guest are living in the same household. That wedding night!! Madness Especially if she’s pregnant 9 months after the wedding night
Yeah thats crazy. I understand that couples may need to live at home because they can't afford it. But getting it on whilst everyones at home is weird.
@Northern Rebel because once you are intimate, that mystery is gone forever and you'll never get it back. There's no rush, why not keep the mystery a while longer because it's exciting? You can take it slow and build up to it, and just get to know each other in small steps. I'm all for preserving the mystery and taking it slow
@@sweettea1193 It’s not such a good idea to delay because the desire keeps building up and the more you delay the more it adds to the frustration. Sort of defeats the purpose of marriage. But I guess everyone functions differently.
If after 9 months no child that is also problem because people think they didn’t sleep together , people say husband is gay, there is problems, or other back bitings lol
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Who gets intimate while there are other people in the room? That's just weird. That's the type of thing you see on reality shows like love island where everyone is in the same room and doing whatever they want in front of everyone else. We shouldn’t be watching that type of content but whatever.....
Not making noise isn't the answer, can't expect the couple especially the woman to simmer down her moaning when she's getting pleasured, that is bad, conjugal activity is extremely important and has to be enjoyed to the max, that's why its important for them to have their own place nearby. The wife shouldn't be anywhere near her brother in law, the brother in law is death as narrated in Hadith. Why would you wanna be near death? The husband should facilitate another accommodation for him and his wife as and when he can afford, it's better to secure a property beforehand.
Can a woman even control her moans when she's climaxing and at the hight of her pleasure?? Serious question. I was under the impression a woman can't control it
@@sweettea1193 Its mostly involuntary I hear, controlling it would mean being too conscious of herself and people in the house hearing her, and that isn't right at all.
@@SDSen yes I've heard it's involuntary too. If she has to think about controlling it then it means she won't be fully immersed in the experience since her mind will be elsewhere. I agree that's wrong, same for the man as well. Getting your own place solves all problems imo
@@sweettea1193 noise is a natural response but you can have a level of mindfulness without ruining intimacy. You don’t have to be an opera singer in the act. Even in your own place you can have kids that can hear. I have a friend who her child asked if she was watching a scary movie last night because she heard her screaming 😅. That’s my worst nightmare.
@@sarahosman9030 that's far better though then having big family members lurking around by the time kids grow up you will already be immersed into their needs and other things, it's still a whole lot more private then sharing with other members. It's not just about sex but about physical affection hugging joking around a certain decorum that you won't do in front of your own parents out of haya.
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3 times are times of privacy as told by Quran:
-Before Fajr prayer
-After Zuhr when people rest or have a nap
-After Isha prayer
These are the three times of privacy and Quran tells us that one should seek permission before entering the room at these times. If Muslims are knowledgeable about this en masse... there would be no problem as everyone and every Muslim family would be aware of this and hence give couples their right to privacy. Solutions to our problems lie in coming back to Islam.
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If the couple are young then it’s a great way to save up for their own place, if they are living rent free. Otherwise it’s not healthy for a relationship long term
@Abbas Abdullah I might be wrong but that came of a bit cynical.Be a bit more positive brother
If you can afford it, having your own place is better because sometimes people don’t know how to mind their own business when you live with in-laws. I also think that having your own place can strengthen the relationship because it allows the couple to have that alone time and freedom as a couple. By all means visit the in-laws as much as you like, but living with them…nah. I understand that every couple has to do what is best for them. Allah knows best.
I can’t imagine living with in-laws. I would never show any deep romantic affection to my husband in front of non-mahrams. I want to be able to do that freely.
Before you get married you should have a separate place to live for just you and your wife so you can enjoy each others company without your family's interference. If both of your parents are healthy then there isn't a necessity to live together. The joint family system where the wife is expected to move in with the in laws is not from islam. This is a cultural practice mainly with the Indo/Pak culture. Everyone has the right to their own place. Ties can still be kept. Minimize a lifetime of conflict and break this archaic tradition as its not healthy for your relationship or your future family
We lived in a nice rented apartment for a few years before we saved enough money to purchase a house. The idea of living with in-laws didnt even cross our minds. It's easy. Anyone can do it. Work 2 jobs if you have to. Do whatever it takes but dont live with your parents/in-laws
Agreed 👍🏻👍🏻👍🏻
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Please Note the perfected & complete religion was without any bid’ah ( Eid Milad )
No hadiths Exist which instruct us to celebrate the birthday of Prophet P.B.U.H (Eid Milad )
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The Prophet P.B.U.H said “Every innovation is going astray, and every going astray will be in the Fire. ” Narrated by M-uslim (867) and an-N-asaa’i (1578)
I totally agree with you.
We lived in another city but my husband's brother and his witch wife still managed to create hell for us. Imagine if we lived close to them 😱😡
@@thetruthwithproof8802Brother can you avoid spamming on peoples pages and in the comment sections in the future, thanks! You and that Syed guy need to do something productive with your lives.
Subhanallah you reminded of my grandma, so my dad has 5 brothers and they are all married and they all used to live in a big apartment but…. My mom and my aunts were like MAIDS they had to serve my grandma and her daughter by taking dad by day their is nothing wrong with that but they were forced… and my grandma was aggressive to them and very unjust sadly, may Allah forgive her. So after 20 yrs they all bought their own houses and like that and my grandma now suffers from pain in her legs and body she could hardly walk bc she was relying too much on my aunts and mom so she wasn’t able to walk she would just relax on the couch for like 30 yrs. May Allah forgive her she taught me a lesson.
Brother Gabriel looks like he is about to burst out laughing in the thumbnail 😂
Imagine you going to the bathroom, after you've done the deed, and you bump into your father-in-law on the way and he's got his salwaar and bunaain (vest) on. How awkward would that be! The thought of copulating in a house with your family members is just so off putting. I really don't get how couples do it.
Very strategically 😂
@@mohammedmiah7554 : You nailed it. 😎👍
Fob cousin moved right back to his parents home with his Mrs shes got knocked up that night pregnant 9 months after the wedding night!
How awkward for the parents siblings that share the same home
His parents never acknowledge he knew about sex lol
Shocker when they here noises coming from his room now!
Lol one of my friends was telling me in the villages in 3rd world countries its even worse, they have this joint family system, people are very nosy, you take bath in the morning and the whole village knows it's like .."I know what you did last night"... lol
Oh I forgot to mention the bathroom/toilet it's situated outside thats why everybody can see you!
Awkward but nothing haram. Even Mufti menk got that part right
That would be awkward, that is why married couples should have their own place . No more living with the in laws unless there is absolutely no other option .
Religion states men should give the wives separated accommodations for privacy especially the wedding night adventures.
Yet sadly some men act like animals leave them with the mrs next thing you know She’s already pregnant while in the in-laws crib
@@piqueny8872 Give us source material first dude.
@@themercifulguard3971 look online mufti menk video any marriage rights of a spouse videos marriage is important so I made sure I did my own research.
Plus I was never going to have sex with my Mrs in my parents home!! Never that out of line for me
Ma sha Allah, Well Said Dear Brother Gabriel👌👌💯🤗🤲
This is the exact reason why I'm waiting to own my own property before considering marriage. There is no way I am going to limit myself to silent intimacy and only at specific times.
A man and a woman should have the freedom to get it on whenever and wherever they want around the house, having in-laws, especially nosey ones, will ruin your relationship.
Just rent
@@mohammedmiah7554 I'm lucky enough to be in a position where I'll be able to afford a property upfront in a matter of years insha'Allah. For most people though, yes, renting is the only option unless you mortgage your home, and that's haram because of riba anyway.
@@ahmedalmahdi9254 good to hear brother, inshallah it works out.
@@mohammedmiah7554 Ameen, jazak'Allah!
😭😭😭!!!
Very important topic this and never really talked about. Things can be very awkward for newlywed couples living with in-laws, the in law might hear them be intimate, and then they take shower which basically confirms it. Best for couple to have their own place. Also what demented culture makes the couple sleep in the same room as everyone else? That is absolutely unacceptable.
As an arab i heard multiple horror stories about women living with in-laws , how the woman was abused and she had to put up with it ,if she doesn’t then she is a spoiled brat , even in one case when the woman got her own house the mother in law was like “ you were patient and allah rewarded you” because she knows she’s evil , thank god it is not that common nowadays
Most of Arabs nowadays they live in a separate place 👍🏻 they rent a apartment
I lived in anorher city yet my brother- in law and his evil wife still managed to make our lives miserable. May Allah punish them for what they did to me.
@@RedRose-cn8ln because apartments are cheap to rent in arab countries
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Just imagine you live with your in laws and you have a brother in law and you can't even take your hijab all day, f, what about a niqab, it is no no no,
@Abbas Abdullah do you think that fair, because they have no choice, even inside the house, it's hard , what if it hot, I can't imagine, have some mercy, please
Oh yeah.
@Abbas Abdullah I could NOT do that, I wear full Abaya, long, something knee-length khimars, sweat galore if I kept it on all day! I’d have to shower every 5 hours!!
Saving up for a place is good and all that but its impossible to move out of your parents house when your the only child and have to take care of them
Unless if your parents are senile and can’t take care of themselves, I don’t think you have to stay with them. You can take care of them without living with them.
Nonsense these expectations are what ruin future relationships
@@northernrebel1402 They get bored when they are with me, imagine if they were there alone. It gets lonely I suppose
Your parents getting bored is an issu between them and their relationship, it has nothing to do with the child. It's a couple's own responsibility to create excitement in their marriage.
@@leonardodavinci9814 They’ll have to get used to it.
May Allah protect you
Ustad Gabriel full Moustache looks really good on you plz don’t shave it barakallahu feek 😎
Most of Arabs nowadays they live in a separate place 👍🏻 they rent a apartment or if they live with the in-lows normally they have their on a apartment in the house
Property is cheap in arab countries
Never understood how brothers happily move back to there parents home after marriage with the wife
on the wedding night do the “halal intimacy” while the parents room is next door with siblings and guest are living in the same household.
That wedding night!! Madness
Especially if she’s pregnant 9 months after the wedding night
Yeah thats crazy. I understand that couples may need to live at home because they can't afford it. But getting it on whilst everyones at home is weird.
@Tahira Khan That’s the whole point. Why delay when you already have the license to do it?
@Northern Rebel because once you are intimate, that mystery is gone forever and you'll never get it back. There's no rush, why not keep the mystery a while longer because it's exciting? You can take it slow and build up to it, and just get to know each other in small steps. I'm all for preserving the mystery and taking it slow
@@sweettea1193 It’s not such a good idea to delay because the desire keeps building up and the more you delay the more it adds to the frustration. Sort of defeats the purpose of marriage. But I guess everyone functions differently.
If after 9 months no child that is also problem because people think they didn’t sleep together , people say husband is gay, there is problems, or other back bitings lol
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The Best way to show your ❤️ for the Prophet P.B.U.H is by following the Quran & Sunnah - > And whatever the Messenger gives you, take it, and whatever he forbids you, abstain ( Quran 59:7 )
Please Note the perfected & complete religion was without any bid’ah ( Eid Milad )
No hadiths Exist which instruct us to celebrate the birthday of Prophet P.B.U.H (Eid Milad )
The Prophet P.B.U.H made it very clear there will be no reward for biddah ❌ & Allah made it very clear Islam is complete and perfect ( Quran 5 : 3 )
The Prophet P.B.U.H said “Every innovation is going astray, and every going astray will be in the Fire. ” Narrated by M-uslim (867) and an-N-asaa’i (1578)
you should only live with the in laws if you want to marry earlier due to zina but make sure to leave when you can afford
9:03 how it’s possible to be intimate without be loud I mean how can you intimate and don’t do any noise?😅😆
If u share a bathroom and take shower before fujr u bring attention to yourself infront of the whole household
Who gets intimate while there are other people in the room? That's just weird. That's the type of thing you see on reality shows like love island where everyone is in the same room and doing whatever they want in front of everyone else. We shouldn’t be watching that type of content but whatever.....
Who said intimate when someone else is in the room
Some are poor...they have only a room..FIL,MIL,DIL, husband plus kids, I dont know how they manage it, May Allah make things easy for them!
@@bellah09 oh OK. I didn't think of it in that way 😶
My sheikh looking suave
Why do you keep removing my comments?
Who does intimacy when there are other people in the bed room.
This is rediculous
It's because of poverty...quite common in 3rd world countries
Not making noise isn't the answer, can't expect the couple especially the woman to simmer down her moaning when she's getting pleasured, that is bad, conjugal activity is extremely important and has to be enjoyed to the max, that's why its important for them to have their own place nearby. The wife shouldn't be anywhere near her brother in law, the brother in law is death as narrated in Hadith. Why would you wanna be near death?
The husband should facilitate another accommodation for him and his wife as and when he can afford, it's better to secure a property beforehand.
Can a woman even control her moans when she's climaxing and at the hight of her pleasure?? Serious question. I was under the impression a woman can't control it
@@sweettea1193 Its mostly involuntary I hear, controlling it would mean being too conscious of herself and people in the house hearing her, and that isn't right at all.
@@SDSen yes I've heard it's involuntary too. If she has to think about controlling it then it means she won't be fully immersed in the experience since her mind will be elsewhere. I agree that's wrong, same for the man as well. Getting your own place solves all problems imo
@@sweettea1193 noise is a natural response but you can have a level of mindfulness without ruining intimacy. You don’t have to be an opera singer in the act. Even in your own place you can have kids that can hear. I have a friend who her child asked if she was watching a scary movie last night because she heard her screaming 😅. That’s my worst nightmare.
@@sarahosman9030 that's far better though then having big family members lurking around by the time kids grow up you will already be immersed into their needs and other things, it's still a whole lot more private then sharing with other members. It's not just about sex but about physical affection hugging joking around a certain decorum that you won't do in front of your own parents out of haya.
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Dont make too much noise😂🤣🤣🤣
Lol i died when he said it
Cant enjoy sex without making the noise; men love that noise and takes sex to another level!
@Tahira Khan what’s wrong with that dude
Musa (as) moved in with his in law
That's good to know but we only follow Muhammad (SAW) for the simple fact that other prophets were sent to their own tribes for that time only
We only know that he lived in the same village AS his in laws, not that he shared a house with them.
@lost_poet_ Disagree because with ur logic we should be disregarding the Quran in that sense
I just came here to tell you that you are fine as hell.
This comment is highly inappropriate. Is lowering our gaze not a thing anymore. If you want to approach him for marriage, message him privately. If this is just a thirsty comment then fear Allah sister
@@sarahosman9030 🙂😮😂😂
Lol
Calm down lmao