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Marry someone and studying doesn't work that a false idea Brother marrying brothers young is dangerous and cause many major problems but if the brother is mature in the head and can dis[aline and organise his life then yes but that happens if he has gone through certain things You are wrong and making much more problem in the Ummah
@@ahsenkhan5386 A cousin of mine has gotten married when he just got into college. The girl he married is also studying. And they live in different continents. But their parents had an agreement. His wife recently visited him. This one has worked. No pressure on the man or the woman.
30 year old Virgin, Single. Been having excessive sexual temptation for the last 5-6 years, having psychological issues for the past 10 years and still going on, parents haven't cared about the issue ever(I still have a lot of respect for them). Every word of the Brother hits hard on my mind and heart. I wish Allah(swt) blesses everyone with early marriage.
May Allah bless you with a good pious righteousness husband who will treat you with respect and kindness and help you get closer to Allah as soon as possible
@@fz1118 . Ummm..... I think it's a male. The name is a male name, plus I would think it's rather unlikely that a female Muslimah will write that on a public platform comments section to strangers including men.
@MrSaifkamal . Say the dua of Musa(peace be upon him) when he was in desperate need and In-sha'ALLAH soon may ALLAH bless you with a spouse that's good for your dunya and akhira.
@W Thank you bro.. And they think that we are robots and don't have any needs even though i guarantee they were the same as us when they were at our age
@@immortalxsoul They aren't arrogant. It is a matter of how you deliver the message and how they were raised. Many of them were taught from a young age in schools that were influenced by western ideas. Even if they are more conservative, that is why this generation is more liberal than the last.
As a teen male in my late teen years, I really needed this. This is Golden advice 💯 . Brother Gabriel is the only Man i have seen who understands and speaks for the Muslim youth issues and gives solid solutions, Thank you so much.
Salam. My tears drop while listening to this lecture. My wrong way of thinking - wait until the guy gets his PHD first before marrying my daughter... now my daughter is almost 30 years old! No wonder i sense sadness that comes from their hearts but didn't know why!! Thank you, Mr Gabriel - for the great reminder. May Allah grants you more. Aameen 🌷
the whole point of education after industrial revolution which removed slavery was to make ppl study longer because there was so many jobs replaced by technology, and this delayed marriage and public schools came to manipulate ppl. this delaying of marriage for education is very manipulative in origin.
I think another big issue is that children are reluctant to tell their parents that they want to get married when young. Often, in muslim cultures, parents decide everything.. Parents need to be flexible.
I'm all for my sons to marry young. I've been looking for my 18 yr old now he's 21 MashAllah and graduating this year. But we've come across families and fathers with the same issue, how will he provide etc. Alhamdulillah still looking.. If you or any sisters you know are interested then contact me inshallah. We prefer 18-21yrs old. I will send you his details.
Salaam my bro! I got married when I hit 17 years old and my husband was 25 . Marriage was really hard in the beginning. Had my first child when I was 4months into my marriage it was really hard but Alhamdillah we both had our ups and down that’s part of life Alhamdillah! I’m on my 24th year of marriage 😊Alhamdillah as we grow together marriage gets easier and happier every year was a struggle, being patient makes a marriage last a long time. There was so many times I wants to end it but I didn’t for the sake of my kids and my mom always say be patient my daughter marriage is hard not easy Allah is with the ones that have saber and it’s so true Alhamdillah!!
@@centric145 You should never think like that. You CHOOSE to stay for the kids and if you are miserable, that is your choice. Allah Most High has given us freewill, we choose what we want to do in life and staying in a miserable marriage is your choice.
@@centric145Assalamoaliakoam warahmatulah he wabarakatuhu how can you question ALLAH Allah SWT Does not say stay in for marriage for kids if the husband is abusive or this and that its is the humans Who do these things Be greatful to Allah if he wills he could stop your next heart beat And sister why are you commenting these things just be Grateful to Allah if we follow the sunnah of Muhammad SAW and the deen strictly this types of issue wont occur
@@centric145 sister if we are true Muslims who follow the sunnah and the deen of Allah SWT we are gonna be tested with trials jazakal Allah khair ruin may Allah guide you and me Assalamoaliakoam warahmatulah he barakatuhu
Absolutely agree, ppl will get shamed for wanting to do nikkah and not moving in immediately, but these same ppl that do the shaming dont say anything of haram relationships. The question is raised, would u rather ur kids be secretly doing haram vs. something halal which they will be rewarded for?
It’s a joke..no girls want to marry a person without unstable career. I have seen oldest and ugliest of men with stable career with the most beautiful women but seen most handsome mens with ugly girls cause tjey don’t have a stable career.
For all the young men out there. Since your parents unfortunately wont listen to this. Dont wait till you finish university and get a “stable” job. Be entrepreneurial and think of ways to make money online and within your community of course in halal. Because you are doing this for the sake of allah he will help you provided that you put in the effort to protect yourself and get married and please him swt.
Here's a dua to help you get married In Sha Allah “Our Lord! Grant unto us spouses and offspring who will be the comfort of our eyes, and give us (the grace) to lead the righteous. (Rabbana hab lana min azwajina wa dhurriyatina qurrata a`yunin wa’j`alna li’l muttaqina imama)” [Qur’an, 25:74] رَبَّنَا هَبْ لَنَا مِنْ أَزْوَاجِنَا وَذُرِّيَّاتِنَا قُرَّةَ أَعْيُنٍ وَاجْعَلْنَا لِلْمُتَّقِينَ إِمَاماً
Four years ago, at 27, my father told me that he got married at the age of 24. As an encouragement. He keeps reminding this knowing that I can't afford it before I don't have a job and that I had been studying. Sometimes some parents want their children to get married, but they don't know how to put that into action.
Subhanallah I’m 28 and still not married but I know very well the reason why not married. That’s why I have to work on my character and manners and other personal I have to deal before I get married because I believe it will be detrimental to future marriage if I don’t solve this. But inshallah I hope Allah will guide me through this.
Maturity of handling responsibility doesn’t come with higher age, it comes with imposing responsibilities at an early age..hence early marriages will make the spouses mature early.
As men there are 7 criteria tha we brothers need to fullfill 1) Being patient 2) Earning Money 3) KNows how to organise his life 4) Is Disciplined 5) Being Humble 6) Standing on his own feet and taking Charge 7) Learning Islam to its core and understanding fully not the bare minum and in a fundamental way but actually using it in everyday life and asking Allah9swt) quetsions about you so thet He can guide you how He wan you to be.
Prophet (pbuh) said " I was given the rizq of loving Khadija(Ra)" Meaning it's Allah who made them strongly bonded even though they were very different.
well actually traditional scholars have pushed the concept of marriage in early stages but now the modern western scholars want to go along the flow of the society & are pushing for the late marriage programs..
I'm so glad that you did this talk brother.. Because a lot of scholars will tell you that it's the man's sole responsibility to provide a home for his wife..and I know it is.. But then does he have to wait till he gets his own place? At a young age, men often aren't earning enough to move out and afford rent, etc. I'm glad you've advised parents to support their children /son's so even if for a while, they continue to live with parents, it's OK. Nikkah shouldn't be so difficult.. Subhana Allah
Prophet (pbuh) said " I was given the rizq of loving Khadija(Ra)" Meaning it's Allah who made them strongly bonded even though they were very different.
Most men are earning enough to move out and pay rent for themselves. But if they married a woman who is very demanding or isn't pulling her own weight, or a woman who demanded a lot of money for wedding/nikkah, then it makes it more difficult for the man to provide housing for his wife. This is an extremely common problem that can be easily solved if marriage was more affordable!
Yes, he should provide for himself and his wife. It’s not difficult at all to earn enough for basic needs. You just need to be disciplined and work for it.
I started searching for a wife when i was 21, last year of university. I told my parents and they were supportive. But the problem is that no one accepts to get his daughter married to some one "young" (they consider less than 25 young). In our culture, man should get married on 27 - 34, and should be older than his wife about 5 to 10 years. Now I am 23, I have a stable earning and good job but still get rejected so many times. I think the only solution is to marry someone from another culture.
Assalamualikum bro, can you tell me your name so I can make dua for you, also make dua thaat Allah helps me in business idea. I feel for you bro, is hard for us men o be chaste in these days, but gotta be on the grind. I recommend "Wives of people in jannah dar pdfs) as a book to find out aboiut reward in jannah.May Allah protect us
Mashallah such beneficial reminder to the youth , to us parents to all of us , thank you respected brother for addressing the Real issues people are dealing with and real solutions needed May Allah preserve you .
I wonder what it looks like to have you as my father. Masha Allah. Alhamdulillah, your children and the people who watch your videos are got a good advisor from Allah. I don't have words. May Allah shower his mercy and rahma upon you.
As salaamualaikum brother, may Allah make this a cause for you to be provided with a place under the shade of HIS throne on the day when there's no shade. Aameen
29 years old and I’ve been rejected by every sister I’ve approached. Depressed and struggling with my life. I need a woman to love and love me but it isn’t written in everyone’s qadr
May Allah make it easy for you brother ameen, try to make small healthy changes in your daily habits to make yourself into someone you would be proud of, try to live a purposeful life and then inshaAllah people with purpose will start coming into your life
I wonder how I’m going to nikah, I’m a revert coming from a strong Christian family. I feel that it’s harder for revert men to find wives, I try to increase my knowledge of the Quran and Sunnah everyday for my wellbeing and to show my future wife’s family that I am serious about my deen. I am 20 and in my third year of college. My father expects me to work while obtaining my master’s degree. InshAllah I will find a wife around that time to help me with my stress. SubhanAllah!
Aslaamualukoum brother first Jazah Allahu khairan for creating content that is helpful to our ummah. It’s refreshing to see leaders dealing with real issues in the community. About this video what your suggesting, get married and not live together. Being intimate if the man leaves the woman before they live in one home she will feel used. Also this removes the responsibility of the husband to provide for his wife while benefiting his right as husband with intimacy. it’s easy for man to use the woman for intimacy and dump her after he is done with her. That is emotionally damaging to the woman. I think it’s better to just get to know each without involving physical aspects of nikah. There are some Muslim men with sickness in their heart who want the Muslim woman who saves herself for halal marriage to marry her play with her and dump her. This tends to be with sisters who don’t have mahrim, older or divorced. It’s very sad and scary. Anyway that is the fear some women have.
Im tired of hearing that stupid divorce excuse 😂. Since when did we start wishing for the worst, you should be making dua that Allah place barakah in the marriage. Technically speaking every marriage has a chance to fall apart. Does that now mean that nobody should get married 😂? Every time you ride a plane it has a chance to crash, does that mean nobody should ride a plane? No, we make dua and have tawakkul in Allah. The fact that the first thing that comes to their mind is divorce shows some deficiency with their trust in Allah.
I am in the situation I can’t get married because I am living outside of my country with my family , we don’t know anyone, we don’t have any relatives,Also it is very very hard to find men in deen and have good character. Me and my siblings are in the age of 30 and over. This is our problem, May Allah make it easy for all young Muslims .Amen.Jazzy Allah khair for sharing this topic.
Baraka lah fik borther. This makes lot of sens. In adition, the corporate world theses days don't want married employess; they want carreer focused employees. You get a PHD, once in corporate life, you'll start chasing high positions in an organisation; you'll have to work 7 days a week, 16 hours a day. Lot of people get to their 50s without ever getting married.
I completely agree brother. Ive been telling people exactly this for years. They think Im crazy. But what is better for our children? Halal or haram? Get married and sit and home and do your study if you need to. What could be better? Encourage and support your children to be responsible and have a focus of their own family life. They would be able to save knowing that they have someone to build their life with. We have let our cultures take over what the deen says. When we do the halal we will get Allahs blessings.
After watching it today I think now altogether I have watched this 5 times atleast. In'Sha'Allah will keep it updated until I get married. edit: probably my 8th time now
@@rkhan1 got 3 grown up children and very happy MashaAllah. They both have jobs, their own home and live a decent life. Alhamdulillah. And tell who doesn't want to live a decent life in the chaotic world of today.?
@@preciousstone37 allahuma barik. Great to hear and it's refreshing to hear this rather than divorce stories from people who don't want to see you get married
@@rkhan1 my brother didn't have a penny to his name when he got married but now MashaAllah he's moderately wealthy and we are people brought up in England. There is this assumption that muslims in the west have forgotten their deen . Thats not true. He was shy to approach my father at the time though so me being big sister had to persuade my Dad.
I have always said that as soon as my eldest son asks me for a wife I will inshaAllah try to help him, some parents make me really angry, as if they dont remember how they felt when they were young , my son is only 7 and he already have some conscious about a partner, asks me about love, how do you chose a partner , even what he wants in a woman and what he doesn't, compared to my oldest daughter she is 6 , has no interest whatsoever in the topic. We must support our chikdren to marry as soon as they feel that necesity, keeping them without a partner for 15, 20, 30 years, subhanAllah, that is torture and it is damaging them I every aspect of their lives. Instead of pushing away, parents would guide the young couple. May Allah help me fulfil my word and to be there for my children . Ameen.
May Allah bless you and your son. Last day I've been asking my mother that I want to get married she clearly refused the idea because I didn't finish university even though I have a good income and I'm literally 22 Years old.
@@aliaadels3 keep pushing it on them brother, and work on your income and your deen. Let them know how serious you are. And send them videos like this, and also inform them how much of a necessity it is in todays Haram age. They have to understand. May Allah help you.
@@hafsah6823 1. what does ethnicity have to do with marriage 2. shouldnt they focus on his deen 3. He said, ‘My Lord! Indeed my bones have become feeble, and my head has turned white with age, yet never have I, my Lord, been disappointed in supplicating You!
@@aldeen9190 ethnicity is definetly a factor. If you marry someon from a culture thats not compatible with your own its gonna be hard or language so they coudnt even understand your family
Could you touch on culture? I think alot of parents don't want their kids to get married because they only see back home as an option until it's too late
I agree 100% , but coming from a single parent household, south asian culture, some guys are stuck being son/husbands because the mistakes made by their parents etc, and frankly nobody cares about when your 31 and raising this issue of marriage you just get ignored & basically insulted.
As guys being 30+ unmarried it’s not a big deal. Every women in the neighbourhood and every masjid bro will take care of them. As extra life support Women biological clock starts Decreasing by 30+ This Is when marriage becomes more difficult. Parents these days are fully aware of the sins boys are doing. Yet as long as the sons bank account is Controlled by the parents they don’t really care of the sons marries or not
Prophet (pbuh) said " I was given the rizq of loving Khadija(Ra)" Meaning it's Allah who made them strongly bonded even though they were very different.
Jazak allahu khair, Brother, your video always puts smile on my face. You are the best. May Allah bless you with all the blessings you wish for. May Allah bless you which is good in this world and also in the akhira. Ameen.
I did this, I had nikkah without moving in together. The woman couldn't bear it and divorced me after 9 months. I was searching for a house though. Anyways, my story isn't a reason to not do it. I have friends who did this and are now moved in with their wives.
Prophet Musa peace be upon him lived with his inlaws for years. People that find a problem living with inlaws should look at Prophet Musa peace be upon him as a example.
I've heard this a couple of times in English but I've never heard anyone say this is my own country in Indonesia, even though this is also important here 😔
Ironically the rate of divorce cases and marital problems are on the rise too. Seems both ways are not functioning well nowadays. Sign of The Hour is coming closer?
i agree its not natural to be alone, esp with society messings with us, h/e Allah blesses who He will,s there was a scholar its not allowed for a believer to be lonely meaning, be busy worshiping Allah, even with social issues, as its atttributed to Ibn taymiyyah there is no sin except there is a better good deed while preparing.
@@angelinataherin3102 Asalam Aleikum sister, what I was saying was that its very natural to be married and, in hadith it says its from fitrah. However, Islam is a wholesome religion so we can be busy with many worship and knowledge that helps us be better single ppl preparing for marriage.
“O young men, whoever among you can afford it, let him get married, for it is more effective in lowering the gaze and guarding one's chastity. Whoever cannot afford it, let him fast, for it will diminish his desire.”
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Brother a very good message may Allah bless u & u r familly we need to ask u in private according this... Can we
Marry someone and studying doesn't work that a false idea
Brother marrying brothers young is dangerous and cause many major problems
but if the brother is mature in the head and can dis[aline and organise his life then yes but that happens if he has gone through certain things
You are wrong and making much more problem in the Ummah
@@ahsenkhan5386
A cousin of mine has gotten married when he just got into college. The girl he married is also studying. And they live in different continents. But their parents had an agreement.
His wife recently visited him. This one has worked. No pressure on the man or the woman.
: (وَأَنْكِحُوا الأَيَامَى مِنْكُمْ وَالصَّالِحِينَ مِنْ عِبَادِكُمْ وَإِمَائِكُمْ إِنْ يَكُونُوا فُقَرَاءَ يُغْنِهِمُ اللَّهُ مِنْ فَضْلِهِ وَاللَّهُ وَاسِعٌ عَلِيمٌ ) النور/32
30 year old Virgin, Single. Been having excessive sexual temptation for the last 5-6 years, having psychological issues for the past 10 years and still going on, parents haven't cared about the issue ever(I still have a lot of respect for them). Every word of the Brother hits hard on my mind and heart. I wish Allah(swt) blesses everyone with early marriage.
May Allah bless you with a good pious righteousness husband who will treat you with respect and kindness and help you get closer to Allah as soon as possible
😶
@@fz1118 . Ummm..... I think it's a male. The name is a male name, plus I would think it's rather unlikely that a female Muslimah will write that on a public platform comments section to strangers including men.
@MrSaifkamal . Say the dua
of Musa(peace be upon him) when he was in desperate need and In-sha'ALLAH soon may ALLAH bless you with a spouse that's good for your dunya and akhira.
In the same boat as you bro. Turning 31 in a few days iA. I am dying atm, I need a female in my life.
Parents really need to see this.
@W Thank you bro.. And they think that we are robots and don't have any needs even though i guarantee they were the same as us when they were at our age
@@salahadin6128 ours is worse cause we have smartphones anf grow up ib mixed schools
I have a 16 year old daughter thinking to do this one day in sha Allah
They are arrogant.
@@immortalxsoul They aren't arrogant. It is a matter of how you deliver the message and how they were raised. Many of them were taught from a young age in schools that were influenced by western ideas. Even if they are more conservative, that is why this generation is more liberal than the last.
I am 26 now...but truly I will make my children get married soon in future... Insha Allah
Same age, same idea SubhanAllah 😅
@@halalpolice23 Mashallah sister...our generation have learnt a lot...from our parents about what not to do with our children:)
@@Ana-qw2zv mainly because our parents have gone through allot in the recent decades. And so did the muslim world go through allot.
@@LearnTawhid yaa I guess.
May Allah ease all of our difficulties
@@Ana-qw2zv amiin
As a teen male in my late teen years, I really needed this. This is Golden advice 💯 .
Brother Gabriel is the only Man i have seen who understands and speaks for the Muslim youth issues and gives solid solutions, Thank you so much.
Salam. My tears drop while listening to this lecture. My wrong way of thinking - wait until the guy gets his PHD first before marrying my daughter... now my daughter is almost 30 years old! No wonder i sense sadness that comes from their hearts but didn't know why!! Thank you, Mr Gabriel - for the great reminder. May Allah grants you more. Aameen 🌷
aameen.
I dont know if you do but if you do you should stop watchint shows like lucifer brother/sister
Jazzak Lah Khair
I'm a daughter, I completely agree with you but my parents think I should finish my studies first.
May Allah guide the Umma
the whole point of education after industrial revolution which removed slavery was to make ppl study longer because there was so many jobs replaced by technology, and this delayed marriage and public schools came to manipulate ppl. this delaying of marriage for education is very manipulative in origin.
It's become the norm pretty much now.
I think another big issue is that children are reluctant to tell their parents that they want to get married when young. Often, in muslim cultures, parents decide everything.. Parents need to be flexible.
@bintnxtdoor Max 3rd or 4th year of degree. Any more just reeks of careerism
I'm all for my sons to marry young. I've been looking for my 18 yr old now he's 21 MashAllah and graduating this year. But we've come across families and fathers with the same issue, how will he provide etc.
Alhamdulillah still looking.. If you or any sisters you know are interested then contact me inshallah. We prefer 18-21yrs old. I will send you his details.
Salaam my bro! I got married when I hit 17 years old and my husband was 25 . Marriage was really hard in the beginning. Had my first child when I was 4months into my marriage it was really hard but Alhamdillah we both had our ups and down that’s part of life Alhamdillah! I’m on my 24th year of marriage 😊Alhamdillah as we grow together marriage gets easier and happier every year was a struggle, being patient makes a marriage last a long time. There was so many times I wants to end it but I didn’t for the sake of my kids and my mom always say be patient my daughter marriage is hard not easy Allah is with the ones that have saber and it’s so true Alhamdillah!!
@@centric145 You should never think like that.
You CHOOSE to stay for the kids and if you are miserable, that is your choice.
Allah Most High has given us freewill, we choose what we want to do in life and staying in a miserable marriage is your choice.
@@centric145Assalamoaliakoam warahmatulah he wabarakatuhu how can you question ALLAH
Allah SWT Does not say stay in for marriage for kids if the husband is abusive or this and that its is the humans
Who do these things
Be greatful to Allah if he wills he could stop your next heart beat
And sister why are you commenting these things just be Grateful to Allah if we follow the sunnah of Muhammad SAW and the deen strictly this types of issue wont occur
@@unknxwnxdany8714 you are right.Of course Allah wants good for us.I was just wondering reading the sister post
@@muneebibnimtiaz9879 you are right.Of course Allah wants good for us.I was just wondering reading the sister message.alaykum salam
@@centric145 sister if we are true Muslims who follow the sunnah and the deen of Allah SWT we are gonna be tested with trials jazakal Allah khair ruin may Allah guide you and me Assalamoaliakoam warahmatulah he barakatuhu
Absolutely agree, ppl will get shamed for wanting to do nikkah and not moving in immediately, but these same ppl that do the shaming dont say anything of haram relationships. The question is raised, would u rather ur kids be secretly doing haram vs. something halal which they will be rewarded for?
Honestly where did this idea come from that after nikah you gotta live together? You don't have to. There's no rush
It’s a joke..no girls want to marry a person without unstable career.
I have seen oldest and ugliest of men with stable career with the most beautiful women but seen most handsome mens with ugly girls cause tjey don’t have a stable career.
@@immortalxsoul that doesn't hold true in your teenage years
For all the young men out there. Since your parents unfortunately wont listen to this. Dont wait till you finish university and get a “stable” job. Be entrepreneurial and think of ways to make money online and within your community of course in halal. Because you are doing this for the sake of allah he will help you provided that you put in the effort to protect yourself and get married and please him swt.
Thanks brother
Here's a dua to help you get married In Sha Allah
“Our Lord! Grant unto us spouses and offspring who will be the comfort of our eyes, and give us (the grace) to lead the righteous.
(Rabbana hab lana min azwajina wa dhurriyatina qurrata a`yunin wa’j`alna li’l muttaqina imama)” [Qur’an, 25:74]
رَبَّنَا هَبْ لَنَا مِنْ أَزْوَاجِنَا وَذُرِّيَّاتِنَا قُرَّةَ أَعْيُنٍ وَاجْعَلْنَا لِلْمُتَّقِينَ إِمَاماً
MashaAllah, great advice. I wish someone had told me this 25 years ago, but Allah Azza wa Jal is the Best of Planners! SubhanAllah!
I literally had that conversation with my father today and he was very supportive
AllahummaBaarik
Four years ago, at 27, my father told me that he got married at the age of 24. As an encouragement.
He keeps reminding this knowing that I can't afford it before I don't have a job and that I had been studying.
Sometimes some parents want their children to get married, but they don't know how to put that into action.
Subhanallah I’m 28 and still not married but I know very well the reason why not married. That’s why I have to work on my character and manners and other personal I have to deal before I get married because I believe it will be detrimental to future marriage if I don’t solve this. But inshallah I hope Allah will guide me through this.
MashAllah thats good you have that outlook! May Allah help you!
May Allah make it easy for you my brother!
Maturity of handling responsibility doesn’t come with higher age, it comes with imposing responsibilities at an early age..hence early marriages will make the spouses mature early.
As men there are 7 criteria tha we brothers need to fullfill
1) Being patient
2) Earning Money
3) KNows how to organise his life
4) Is Disciplined
5) Being Humble
6) Standing on his own feet and taking Charge
7) Learning Islam to its core and understanding fully not the bare minum and in a fundamental way but actually using it in everyday life and asking Allah9swt) quetsions about you so thet He can guide you how He wan you to be.
*2) Earning Money *
Words of pure GOLD. Barakallaho feek! 1000% behind you on this. May Allah make it easy for us.
Finally someone who understands our needs.. because other scholars are saying "wait until you can take care of her"..
Prophet (pbuh) said " I was given the rizq of loving Khadija(Ra)" Meaning it's Allah who made them strongly bonded even though they were very different.
@@abusadi4742 subhanallah
well actually traditional scholars have pushed the concept of marriage in early stages but now the modern western scholars want to go along the flow of the society & are pushing for the late marriage programs..
Yeah he should be able to take care of her. Stop being a bum.
Yes I feel the Muslim scholars are now westernised,
I'm so glad that you did this talk brother.. Because a lot of scholars will tell you that it's the man's sole responsibility to provide a home for his wife..and I know it is.. But then does he have to wait till he gets his own place? At a young age, men often aren't earning enough to move out and afford rent, etc. I'm glad you've advised parents to support their children /son's so even if for a while, they continue to live with parents, it's OK. Nikkah shouldn't be so difficult.. Subhana Allah
Prophet (pbuh) said " I was given the rizq of loving Khadija(Ra)" Meaning it's Allah who made them strongly bonded even though they were very different.
Most men are earning enough to move out and pay rent for themselves. But if they married a woman who is very demanding or isn't pulling her own weight, or a woman who demanded a lot of money for wedding/nikkah, then it makes it more difficult for the man to provide housing for his wife. This is an extremely common problem that can be easily solved if marriage was more affordable!
Yes, he should provide for himself and his wife. It’s not difficult at all to earn enough for basic needs. You just need to be disciplined and work for it.
I started searching for a wife when i was 21, last year of university. I told my parents and they were supportive. But the problem is that no one accepts to get his daughter married to some one "young" (they consider less than 25 young). In our culture, man should get married on 27 - 34, and should be older than his wife about 5 to 10 years.
Now I am 23, I have a stable earning and good job but still get rejected so many times. I think the only solution is to marry someone from another culture.
YES!
Assalamualikum bro, can you tell me your name so I can make dua for you, also make dua thaat Allah helps me in business idea. I feel for you bro, is hard for us men o be chaste in these days, but gotta be on the grind. I recommend "Wives of people in jannah dar pdfs) as a book to find out aboiut reward in jannah.May Allah protect us
what culture is this?
If you are getting rejected it’s a sign from Allah that she’s not the one for you. He knows there’s someone better for you have sabr brother
Mashallah such beneficial reminder to the youth , to us parents to all of us , thank you respected brother for addressing the Real issues people are dealing with and real solutions needed May Allah preserve you .
I wonder what it looks like to have you as my father. Masha Allah. Alhamdulillah, your children and the people who watch your videos are got a good advisor from Allah. I don't have words. May Allah shower his mercy and rahma upon you.
Ameen
Subhana Allah. The best talk on a cultural problem. Jzk. May Allah SWT bless you and your family.
As salaamualaikum brother, may Allah make this a cause for you to be provided with a place under the shade of HIS throne on the day when there's no shade. Aameen
Jzk bro. I love u for the sake of Allah swt. I'm a father of 2. I respect u for this
Parents won't understand this pain. Controlling own desires is really so hard. I am really tired. But parents won't understand. May Allah Guide them.
allahu akbar brother, thanks alot barak allahu fiik!!!!!!!
may allah let us meet in jannah
I love to listen to this amazing words
Thank you so much may Allah bless your work that you are Doing for us
Thank you for speaking it so straight brother.
Jakaz Allahu Khair.
This is a real man! Ma sha ALLAH.
Great message again
May Allah guide our parents...
And may Allah protect us from the evil.
29 years old and I’ve been rejected by every sister I’ve approached. Depressed and struggling with my life. I need a woman to love and love me but it isn’t written in everyone’s qadr
Look at Russian muslimat or Ukrainian i was know russian sisters was struggling find muslims husband..
May Allah make you easy, turn to you Lord and ask and you will find good one biznillah.
May Allah make it easy for you brother ameen, try to make small healthy changes in your daily habits to make yourself into someone you would be proud of, try to live a purposeful life and then inshaAllah people with purpose will start coming into your life
Why do u think this is the case?
Is it how tall u are
Or bc u dont search in the correct place
Or how you look like?
Mashallah you're giving solutions to the youngs
I wonder how I’m going to nikah, I’m a revert coming from a strong Christian family. I feel that it’s harder for revert men to find wives, I try to increase my knowledge of the Quran and Sunnah everyday for my wellbeing and to show my future wife’s family that I am serious about my deen. I am 20 and in my third year of college. My father expects me to work while obtaining my master’s degree. InshAllah I will find a wife around that time to help me with my stress. SubhanAllah!
How is it going brother?
@@Muslim-oc6up I am doing well and I am blessed. How are you brother?
How is your Iman ?
May Allah ease your affairs and make it easy for you to hold on to the Quran and sunnah. Aamin
Mashallah May Allah preserve you and protect your family sheikh you just opened a door I never thought was there.
we need more daees like this, the idea is so amazing and good!
Wallahi you are speaking the truth. JazakAllahu khairan, may Allah swt bless and preserve you.
I really appreciate the topics u cover here on ur channel for the ummah, may Allah bless you abundantly.
Aslaamualukoum brother first Jazah Allahu khairan for creating content that is helpful to our ummah. It’s refreshing to see leaders dealing with real issues in the community. About this video what your suggesting, get married and not live together. Being intimate if the man leaves the woman before they live in one home she will feel used. Also this removes the responsibility of the husband to provide for his wife while benefiting his right as husband with intimacy. it’s easy for man to use the woman for intimacy and dump her after he is done with her. That is emotionally damaging to the woman. I think it’s better to just get to know each without involving physical aspects of nikah. There are some Muslim men with sickness in their heart who want the Muslim woman who saves herself for halal marriage to marry her play with her and dump her. This tends to be with sisters who don’t have mahrim, older or divorced. It’s very sad and scary. Anyway that is the fear some women have.
Im tired of hearing that stupid divorce excuse 😂. Since when did we start wishing for the worst, you should be making dua that Allah place barakah in the marriage. Technically speaking every marriage has a chance to fall apart. Does that now mean that nobody should get married 😂? Every time you ride a plane it has a chance to crash, does that mean nobody should ride a plane? No, we make dua and have tawakkul in Allah.
The fact that the first thing that comes to their mind is divorce shows some deficiency with their trust in Allah.
At this point I can only dream
i want my children to get married young inshaAllaah their future spouses will make it easy for them as well. may Allaah guide the ummah!
I am in the situation I can’t get married because I am living outside of my country with my family , we don’t know anyone, we don’t have any relatives,Also it is very very hard to find men in deen and have good character. Me and my siblings are in the age of 30 and over. This is our problem, May Allah make it easy for all young Muslims .Amen.Jazzy Allah khair for sharing this topic.
Great minds think alike. May ALLAH bless you and your great works.
👍Real solutions to relevant problems.
Salaam love what your doing and contributing to this wonderful Ummah very straight forward and true keep going !💯
Jazaakum ALLAH Khair Ameeen
Baraka lah fik borther.
This makes lot of sens.
In adition, the corporate world theses days don't want married employess; they want carreer focused employees.
You get a PHD, once in corporate life, you'll start chasing high positions in an organisation; you'll have to work 7 days a week, 16 hours a day. Lot of people get to their 50s without ever getting married.
I completely agree brother. Ive been telling people exactly this for years. They think Im crazy. But what is better for our children? Halal or haram? Get married and sit and home and do your study if you need to. What could be better? Encourage and support your children to be responsible and have a focus of their own family life. They would be able to save knowing that they have someone to build their life with. We have let our cultures take over what the deen says. When we do the halal we will get Allahs blessings.
After watching it today I think now altogether I have watched this 5 times atleast. In'Sha'Allah will keep it updated until I get married.
edit: probably my 8th time now
I've been fighting with myself whether I open this discussion with my family
@@aliaadels3 May Allah (Subhanawata'ala) help you and us all, Ameen.
Jazakumullahu khairann brother - strong man ma sha Allah ✨💯
Wise lecture
You are 110% correct
Maa Sha Allah you just address the matter wholeheartedly, leaving no stone unturned
I pray our parents get the message
Very hard to control 😪😕😫
Brilliant suggestion
If my kids found this good am definetly following it
Jazakallah khair
The quality of this video is too crisp Allahuma barik
So beneficial JazakAllah Khayrun
Alhamdulilah this is exactly what i try to tell people around me. May allah bless you for your dawah
My brother got married young. My father supported them until they were able to stand on their own feet. Pakistanis living in England.
How is he doing now?
@@rkhan1 got 3 grown up children and very happy MashaAllah. They both have jobs, their own home and live a decent life. Alhamdulillah. And tell who doesn't want to live a decent life in the chaotic world of today.?
@@preciousstone37 allahuma barik. Great to hear and it's refreshing to hear this rather than divorce stories from people who don't want to see you get married
@@rkhan1 my brother didn't have a penny to his name when he got married but now MashaAllah he's moderately wealthy and we are people brought up in England. There is this assumption that muslims in the west have forgotten their deen . Thats not true. He was shy to approach my father at the time though so me being big sister had to persuade my Dad.
:)
This should be viral although uploaded 2 years ago
Excellent advice MaShaAllah. I have small children and InShaAllah I will do my best to take a lesson from this video when the time comes.
Man you're the best you spoke exactly about what I'm going through
I have always said that as soon as my eldest son asks me for a wife I will inshaAllah try to help him, some parents make me really angry, as if they dont remember how they felt when they were young , my son is only 7 and he already have some conscious about a partner, asks me about love, how do you chose a partner , even what he wants in a woman and what he doesn't, compared to my oldest daughter she is 6 , has no interest whatsoever in the topic. We must support our chikdren to marry as soon as they feel that necesity, keeping them without a partner for 15, 20, 30 years, subhanAllah, that is torture and it is damaging them I every aspect of their lives. Instead of pushing away, parents would guide the young couple. May Allah help me fulfil my word and to be there for my children . Ameen.
May Allah bless you and your son. Last day I've been asking my mother that I want to get married she clearly refused the idea because I didn't finish university even though I have a good income and I'm literally 22 Years old.
I'll keep pushing them I'm not a child anymore I'm a man
please do you have any advice, on how I can let my parents agree to my request of marriage?
@@aliaadels3 keep pushing it on them brother, and work on your income and your deen. Let them know how serious you are. And send them videos like this, and also inform them how much of a necessity it is in todays Haram age. They have to understand. May Allah help you.
jazakallahu khairan Ustadh
Spot on!
Jazakallah Khair Ustadh Gabriel.
Best eye opener for all of us!
what you said are right, i agree with you. when nikah become hard, zina become easy.
We make the haram easy and the halah hard, May Allah guide us all
Baraka Lahoo fik ya akhii
In sha Allah. One of my future plans is to help others get married. May Allah make it easy for me first.
Why dont you get married
@@aldeen9190 my parents are not ok with the person i want even though he is of my ethnicty , may Allah make it easy for me
@@hafsah6823 1. what does ethnicity have to do with marriage
2. shouldnt they focus on his deen
3. He said, ‘My Lord! Indeed my bones have become feeble, and my head has turned white with age, yet never have I, my Lord, been disappointed in supplicating You!
@@aldeen9190 no problem will find ways out
@@aldeen9190 ethnicity is definetly a factor. If you marry someon from a culture thats not compatible with your own its gonna be hard or language so they coudnt even understand your family
جزاك الله خيرا.
Thank you brother for this lecture it is surely the reality of Arab muslim communities.
Could you touch on culture? I think alot of parents don't want their kids to get married because they only see back home as an option until it's too late
I dont think its even culture but liberel/ feministic and capitalistic influence. I mean our parents grandparents all married young back home
I agree 100% , but coming from a single parent household, south asian culture, some guys are stuck being son/husbands because the mistakes made by their parents etc, and frankly nobody cares about when your 31 and raising this issue of marriage you just get ignored & basically insulted.
As guys being 30+ unmarried it’s not a big deal.
Every women in the neighbourhood and every masjid bro will take care of them.
As extra life support
Women biological clock starts
Decreasing by 30+ This
Is when marriage becomes more difficult.
Parents these days are fully aware of the sins boys are doing. Yet as long as the sons bank account is Controlled by the parents they don’t really care of the sons marries or not
Men were getting married above 30 half a century ago. Its normal
Prophet (pbuh) said " I was given the rizq of loving Khadija(Ra)" Meaning it's Allah who made them strongly bonded even though they were very different.
@A simple guy Just simple It's better if you just not talk.
@A simple guy Just simple are you the guy that i think you are?
SubhaanAllah true❤
I wish I could seriously and literally follow what's written as the title of this video🤲😭.
: (وَأَنْكِحُوا الأَيَامَى مِنْكُمْ وَالصَّالِحِينَ مِنْ عِبَادِكُمْ وَإِمَائِكُمْ إِنْ يَكُونُوا فُقَرَاءَ يُغْنِهِمُ اللَّهُ مِنْ فَضْلِهِ وَاللَّهُ وَاسِعٌ عَلِيمٌ ) النور/32
Jazak allahu khair,
Brother, your video always puts smile on my face.
You are the best.
May Allah bless you with all the blessings you wish for.
May Allah bless you which is good in this world and also in the akhira.
Ameen.
I feel you brother jazakalahu kheir this the reality but......the clock that says ding.... 😂
جزاك الله خير اخي الكريم
I am also an advocate for early marriage but the relatives and family around me stopped thinking on these lines.
I did this, I had nikkah without moving in together. The woman couldn't bear it and divorced me after 9 months. I was searching for a house though. Anyways, my story isn't a reason to not do it. I have friends who did this and are now moved in with their wives.
Ma sha Allah
جزاك الله خيرا
Inspiring
Families need to support youngsters
Prophet Musa peace be upon him lived with his inlaws for years. People that find a problem living with inlaws should look at Prophet Musa peace be upon him as a example.
I've heard this a couple of times in English but I've never heard anyone say this is my own country in Indonesia, even though this is also important here 😔
بارك الله فيك
brother, you are completely right. first time to hear something about you and for sure listening further lessons sure
Thank you
Very well said akhi.
May Allah reward you ❤️
I totally agree with u
EVERTHING YOU SAY JUST 💯 AGREE
Ironically the rate of divorce cases and marital problems are on the rise too. Seems both ways are not functioning well nowadays. Sign of The Hour is coming closer?
Very true
Atleast this video is good for sympathizing with me
i agree its not natural to be alone, esp with society messings with us, h/e Allah blesses who He will,s there was a scholar its not allowed for a believer to be lonely meaning, be busy worshiping Allah, even with social issues, as its atttributed to Ibn taymiyyah there is no sin except there is a better good deed while preparing.
brother, can you explain it in details?
@@angelinataherin3102 Asalam Aleikum sister, what I was saying was that its very natural to be married and, in hadith it says its from fitrah.
However, Islam is a wholesome religion so we can be busy with many worship and knowledge that helps us be better single ppl preparing for marriage.
“O young men, whoever among you can afford it, let him get married, for it is more effective in lowering the gaze and guarding one's chastity. Whoever cannot afford it, let him fast, for it will diminish his desire.”
What does a woman bring to the table?
@Elias Megadmini so a woman brings nothing to the table
@Elias Megadmini
Dowry, Maintenance, money, etc
@Elias Megadmini then she doesn't bring anything to the table
@Elias Megadmini she should bring money