2023 South Korean Adoption Adventure (Second Trip) Part 10: *** Deaven's Custody Gotcha Day! ***
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- Опубликовано: 27 сен 2024
- January 4, 2023 is our Deaven's Gotcha Day! We began our adoption journey 2 years prior, so it still feels surreal that this day even happened. This video show the last meeting with the foster family and it does get emotional. Overall, we feel forever grateful to Deaven's foster family and so proud of how Deaven handled the entire transition.
I was so touched to see how the social workers were supporting foster mom. Trauma for everyone but a brighter future for the baby.
I have nothing but respect and admiration for the foster-parents, it takes a strong character to have a 'job' where success means getting your heart broken!
흔한 여행인줄알았는데
입양이었군요
감사합니다 한국사람으로써 한아이의 엄마로써 마음은 아프지만
저아이 꼭 잘 키워주시고
앞날에 축복이 가득하시길 빌어요
세상 모든 단어 중 제일 경건하고 좋은 단어로 진심을 다해 축복드려요
This brings back so many emotions! We have two wonderful and amazing grown children, both adopted from Korea, ages 27 and 26. They were 5 and 9 months old when they came home to us. I vividly remember the grief that hit about 48 hours later. There is nothing so heartbreaking as the cries from a grieving baby. If you aren't already doing this, I highly recommend ongoing professional family counseling from an adoption-competent therapist. It can help tremendously in the long-haul for everyone in the family. My best wishes to you!
Thank you :) and appreciate you sharing your story as well.
Yes, I heard about that (non stop crying for couple of weeks)
I was adopted at 3 months old from S. Korea to a family in the United States. This advice is incredibly important. A family or adolescent therapist who specialises in adoption (bonus points if they work with interracial family dynamics) can go a long way in helping Deaven when he gets older; should he have questions about his adoption and background. This isn't to say that you, as his parents, can't provide support. But there's a lot that even my adoptive parents (who were and continue to be amazing) weren't able to identify because we saw and experienced the world differently. Now that I'm in my 30s, I'm having to work through the trauma that took a backseat in what I could only describe as a happy childhood and life with my adoptive family...but had always been present.
@@littlemisosoup Very well put! I think a must read for any adoptee/adoptive family is "The Primal Wound" by Nancy Verrier. It's gives invaluable insight into the emotional and often misunderstood dynamics that are unique to adoption.
@@ga6589 I've read The Primal Wound. While the intention behind the book is good, I found it wildly problematic. Nancy Verrier is not an adoptee nor is she a birth mother. Her research was based on isolated anecdotes that were biased by her own bad experiences as an adoptive mother.
She makes a lot of generalisations about adoptees, ignoring the complexities of family dynamics separate from her own. Assuming that her insights based on her "professional opinion" rather than direct experience are up for consideration when there's a whole body of subtext she ignores throughout.
Thank you for giving an opportunity to this beautiful boy. God bless you both. The world would be a better place with people like you. Again, God bless you. 🙏🙏🙏
I too am adoptee , I wish this family all the best!! The little boy is cute and didn't cry. Australia 👍💖
부모님이라는걸 아기가 모두 알고 있군요 똑똑한 아이네요 그동안 여러곳을 옮겨다녔는지 울지도 않고 따라가는게 더 마음아프네요 좋은 부모님 만났으니 앞으로 행복하길 빌어요
Congratulations! I hope you have a wonderful life with your new son!
I love this story so much. He is a beautiful child who I know will be loved and cherished. Please continue to post stories about your family.
Thanks Joe! We plan to post a first month home video soon. Deaven is doing so well!
Not surprised he's doing well but good to hear
Congratulations on your family day! I remember so very clearly how we felt that day as well. I hope and pray your transition is going well! ❤️🙏🏼
Hi Grace!!! 😊 Thank you so much. You inspire me. ❤
I dont know why this episode made me cry, hope everything went well and you guys are an absolute amazing family for little Deaven!
Lots of Love from SWEDEN 💙💛💙💛💙
Hi! I still cry looking back at these videos. ;) Such an amazing experience. I'm happy we vlogged it and able to share the experience. Deaven is doing awesome! We have a 6 month video update coming soon. :)
@@DBWorld_RUclips I am definatly looking forward to watching it!! 💕
Definitely crying have got placement with our Son 6 month's ago the whole process is super emotional.
Congratulations! I'm so happy for you. The wait is hard but so worth it.
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@@DBWorld_RUclipsaww so sweet of you can't wait to see how she is growing up 😊😊
Thank you for giving opportunity to very beautiful boy .
God bless you both of you and your new family 🙏💕
สวัสดีค่ะ พึ่งมาเจอคลิปของคุณ
Congratulations 🌹💐💐
เห็นแล้วร้องไห้😥 ตาม ที่การจากลาของคนที่เลี้ยงดูเด็กมาตั้งแต่เกิดคะ
ฉันขอบคุณคุณพ่อคุณแม่คนใหม่ที่รับเลี้ยงดูเด็กน้อย เพื่ออนาคต..
ขอให้พระธรรมอวยพรให้ครอบครัวของคุณและลูกชายของมีความสุข สุขภาพแข็งแรงนะคะ จาก Thailand.🇹🇭🇹🇭🙏💓
เป็นความรักที่ยิ่งใหญ่คะ
ขอให้เลี้ยงดูเขาด้วยความรักเป็นคนดีในอนาคตคะ
May your lovely family continue to grow and be happy🥰 Congratulations 💗👏
beautiful and heartbreaking at the same time...praying adjustment is going well...
Thank you! ☺️ Deaven handled the transition way better than we had anticipated.
He is Precious y’all! Your gift from Yahweh indeed!
Congratulations 🎉🎉🎉🎉
As a grown Korean American Adoptee by Christian family in the US l pray that God will give you strength and wisdom to raise your new son. ❤️💕🙏
Thank you! ❤
Thank you for sharing your beautiful baby and happy family. It's always so nice too see such a happy ending too what was an unforseen start. God Bless and keep your family safe. When will the next child be?
Thanks Vickie! 💖
The photos were the best family photos I’ve seen. Really.
Thanks Dianna! Means so much.
God bless you all. Beautiful 👍👍🙏🙏
9:04 She is keep saying ‘I love you harang Please be happy and healthy good bye’ As Korean I just cried when harang said bye bye 👋 to biological family.And it also make me sad still Korean people just pregnant without responsibility.Congratulations successful adopt and I wish your family always have beautiful days with her.❤❤
Thank you for translating. I always wondered what the foster mom was saying. I am planning to learn Korean for when we go back to Korea when my son turns 10. Thank you again. ❤
Language barrier might prove to be a challenge at first. Prayers up for you all. The foster mum is finding it tough to let go
1❤the comments.
A beautiful kind couple with their cute son.
Wish this family all the blessings and love.
Thank you to those ❤folks who changed the lives of many kids.
Thank you May!
@@DBWorld_RUclips
Thank you too..Have a great blessed day ahead😀🙏
I was adopted from Seuol, South Korea when I was like 4 months old and Im 18 now. Im glad that you guys were able to get this opportunity to adopt a healthy baby boy
Thank you for your comment and for sharing! 🤍
A very strong spirit little boy
Beautiful Baby Félicitations BRAVO pour vous un petit Baby plein de bonheur De France Bisous
Top! Incroyables ces enfants!
And i’ll admit every one deserves to feel wanted and loved in life
And I’ll never understand why people don’t adopt children more often, especially teenagers they’re time is pretty much up when they turn 18 years old
Congratulations!!!
Thank you :)
Видно, что хорошими родителями будете, Всевышний вам в помощь, завтра .. ваша доча станет знаменитой, что вложите в ее воспитание, то и пожнете, возможно станет сильным юристом или экономистом, возможно архитектором, что покорит мир своими идеями, возможно будет знаменитым хирургом... Или полицейским, защищающей покой мирных граждан, в любом случае, желаю вашей семье благополучия и много много успехов вашей семье, да хранит вас Всевышний 😊
I’m just beginning to watch this series today. I have two adopted children from South Korea. A son aged 27 and a daughter aged 24. They came as infants at under 5 months of age.
Thank you Mary for sharing your experience.
May jesus bless you and your family
We receive this blessing! Thank you so much for your lovely comments.❤
Wow perfect timing for u to adopt a korean healthy baby. Would love to adopt a korean baby but they have since closed since covid. Was waiting but its taking so long so now looking into taiwan
🤧💦I love happy endings .
♥️🌈🍼🧃🧸🧺🧮📚🌈
❤❤😊😊😊
Thank you! Our Holt baby is 28 now!
Amazing!! Thank you for sharing.
Are the foster parents able to see videos of your little boy?
Hi Judy! 🙂Great question! Foster family is provided pictures and letters. Birth family is also provided the opportunity to view our son's file if they choose.
My birth dab also told my mom to take good care of his kids last time he saw us my mom told us
Thank you guys so much for sharing your experience. My husband and I have just started the adoption process and it helps to see others experiences. 😊 May the Lord bless you and your family. I’ll be keeping all of you in my prayers.
I thought you may like this song. It’s the blessing but in Korean.
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Not sure if God was speaking to but I literally have been listening to this song throughout this entire process. I did not know there was a Korean version. Literally, I have goosebumps from your message. Thank you so much and blessings to you and your husband in starting this adoption journey. Please email me anytime DeannaRuthPhotography@yahoo.com if you have any questions about the process.
@@DBWorld_RUclips thank you so much! I really appreciate it 😊
Was that the foster mom crying when he was put in the car?
Hi! The foster mother was tearing up and trying not to cry. Our son was the foster mother's 10th foster child so she was experienced and tried making this transition positive for him. She was a wonderful foster mother to our son and we are forever grateful for her. Thank you for the question.
Because like adopting a cat or a dog you can basically choose what you’d love your child to enjoy
And you can choose if you don’t want a child with behavior issues and that,
So adopting is better than giving birth to a baby, giving birth is more scary because you don’t really know
If your child is going to grow up with his or yers own house and have a fantastic career,
Or if he or she is going to live in jail for all their life or most or it because of they horrible stuff they can do in the future
Giving birth your taking that chance and sometimes people are extremely lucky. Moat children are kind people and caring towards everyone they meet
But sometimes they’re not like that, at least with adoption you can choose basically if you want to adopt a troubled child or if you want to adopt a child who doesn’t have behavior issues and doesn’t cause problems
Normally children who have behavior issues usually ate the ones who really just want to he loved and their pretty much lost in the world
Every child is different but sometimes children act violently because they just want a family to call their own,
Once they get that family they eventually don’t avt violent anymore once they realize they have a home and they never going back to where they came from
Them they start to settle down and they’re extremely happy,
And I remembered my last group home before I lived back with my parents. I was living in Barrie again and they got me into other special Olympic sports feet I think they’re the ones who got me into the Barry integrated baseball
Where it’s not Special Olympics but it’s integrated so you have people that are not special-needs people that are special needs so everybody is able to play doesn’t matter what issues a person has or what they don’t have you know
And I that was one of my favourite organizations because it allowed everybody to play baseball and I love that and I am really really really hoping that in the future I am able to join it again and hopefully play on that league.
As well as the Special Olympics bowling in the winter, I’m hoping I will live in a group home again in the city of Barrie and I know that they will get me or help get me and whoever else do you support into different things they want to do as well.
As the group home support staff are there to help everybody do what they want to do in life. You ask them and you tell them that you want to do something they’re not allowed to say no because it’s against human, right
They are very very very strict rules at a group home they are not allowed to say or to tell you that you can’t do something. They could suggest maybe that would be a good idea or
They could suggest to you that maybe you can try it out but if the person says no, then they can’t really make them do it because it will be against the right of that person right.
But it’s their job to try and get you into some thing that the person really wants to do.
So Maggie I’m pretty sure would have a better life in a group home then she probably would ever have with a family member.
Even somebody who wanted to adopt a child and they didn’t want her. She’s got a pretty good now because people that support people at the group home usually do you support people and what do you want to do in the future?
So if Maggie wanted to join an event or the Special Olympics sports, they can’t tell her no or they can’t say she can’t do that because she’s not able to
Thank you so much Leigh and for sharing your story!
How can you find an agency that is open I have been looking and they said they are temporally closed
Hi there! Last I was told, were were one of the last groups to adopt from South Korea due to the low birth rates in the country. I'm not sure when they will reopen. Other countries nearby like Philippines, Thiland are open and many children needed to be adopt from there. Holt International was our agency and we had great experience with them. I suggest reaching out to them if you haven't already. Best of luck and please reach out if you have any other questions.
I'm not sure if this to personal to ask but my family is just getting into the international adoption process ( we live in Florida) from south Korea and I was wondering how long did it take you from the start to "gotcha" day? Also is there any adoption agencies or programs you used that you would recommend? It's a bit overwhelming for us and we aren't sure which international agency would be best to adopt from south korea. Thank you!
Hi Caitlyn! I meant to respond sooner. We are pretty open book and happy to answer any questions. It took us about 2 years - which is actually quick for South Korea adoption these days. Deaven was a waiting child so the process is faster for a waiting child compared to a referral. Every country is different, however, in the timeframe it takes from start to finish. I'm happy to answer any questions and wish you all the best in your adoption journey: DeannaRuthPhotography@yahoo.com
very rare to get a Korean boy..
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This might be personal feel free not to respond if it is.. but I'm curious is he still learning his Korean culture and stuff?
Hi Maggie! We are pretty open book and appreciate you asking. Yes! We love Korean culture and family so much that we now, as a family, are incorporating Korean culture and food. We have already starting incorporating Korean foods everyday (as much as we can) and celebrating Korean holidays. Although I am not Korean, I am half Asian and grew up Asian culture - I feel like that has helped Deaven transition very well. We are planning to post a small little follow up video soon! Thank you for the wonderful question. :)
@@DBWorld_RUclips I absolutely love that...
I hope you send pictures to his foster mother. I also hope you put him in groups to keep his first language so one day he can communicate with them.
Thanks Michelle. ☺We have indeed sent many pictures and notes to his foster mother and plan to teach him more Korean and even learn Korean ourselves.💙
@@DBWorld_RUclips wonderful!! Congratulations to you all.
@@SMichelleS974 💖
What a beautiful little boy and an amazing experience. All the best.
Thank you Josie! Means a lot. Deaven has been home for over a month now and he truly is doing amazing. 🙂
한국은 아직도 입양 보내나 나라가 도데체
우리는 한국에 대한 많은 존경과 사랑을 가지고 있습니다. 최근에 법이 통과되어 이제 한국은 아이들의 국제 입양 문을 닫고 있습니다.
I was foster kid I meet my parents as a baby but so truly heart warming moment
What an absolutely gorgeous little one. He was so good in the car. I know what moment you meant when the foster mom looked you in the eye to take care of him. I think the moment you had your arms around him, he felt your love & knew that you were his mom. I wish you many, many years of happiness. God bless you for adopting this little angel.
Thank you Nancy 💖
Pure Love ❤
I pray that he lives the best life ❤
Scanned through pts 10-13. Waiting to see your daughter's reaction. No worries. Looks like you guys are going to be a happy family
I love it when people adopt children,
Dolores Cannon a famous hypnotist said that adopted children picked their adoptive parents before they were born.
Love this!!!
Ridicole queste maschere poveri bambini già abituati a questa farsa per fortuna che è finita
It's really heart touching moments....
I went to school with a girl who was in the foster care system. Her name is Maggie, and she never got adopted.
She nobody wanted her I guess and it’s sad. Really really really sad Really really really sad
And as she got older, she had to move into a group home and that’s where she is today you know
She doesn’t have the best family life you know I don’t think that her biological family like her biological dad or whatever really loves her
I don’t know I don’t know much of her biological family, but nobody wanted to adopt her in the past because she has schizophrenia and other mental issues to
And I guess people overlooked her you know people didn’t see past her issues and they didn’t see that she just wanted to be excepted and loved by a family that she can call her own.
Because I remember when we were in elementary school together, sometimes she just didn’t feel like she fit in with other people I guess because she was foster cared and other people had a mom and dad and they had a family. And she never did and it is extremely sad. You know
Because all she wanted was to be wanted and excepted by people around her. She has mental issues she can’t help that.
It’s not her fault she is really sick. In her mind but she’s also a very, very, very nice person and despite her problems. She is very very very nice. She’s a very nice young lady now.
And I am sure for the most part she’s very happy where she is you don’t need nobody deserves to be treated badly by anybody you know if nobody can see past your problems
People in general if nobody can except you, or anyone for who you are and only go inside you one time and think that you’re absolutely weird, then they’re not the ones for you you don’t wanna be around them
People need to surround themselves with people who except them, and laugh and joke and are positive and happy
People in general don’t deserve to be around people who are negative all the time and cranky.
It doesn’t matter whether it’s your parents or anybody else you know if nobody wanted to adopt her and have her part of their family then she is better off where she is now because at least she has a roof over her head and at least she has support where she is now
Because in group homes, people do you support you you have support workers there that support everybody and everything that you want to do. They will try to get you into different activities in groups as well.
Like I am in Special Olympics bowling and that because I remember when I was playing with the Wednesday girls and it was a group of ladies who play bowling on Wednesday and the lady who ran it
Didn’t want me to play anymore with that group, so the support worker who was working at the group home in Orillia suggested about the Special Olympics bowling
And as soon as I got there and made a few friends there, I loved it I absolutely loved it and I’ve been there ever since.
So very sad. :( I wish for every child to have a loving family and home.
I also want a baby what's the process Ma'am
Hi! That is great you are looking to adopt. I would start by checking to see if there is an adoption agency near you and contact them. Best regards.
Los mexicanos también pueden adoptar a un niño coreano?
He is a beautiful child. God bless
Thank you I'm from South Korea and was adopted to amazing Christian family in America. God does beautiful wonders I know you guy's will be amazing parents ❤️ I'm so grateful for wonderful people like you. I am giving you guy's all the love, support to a amazing beautiful family.. 행 믿는 ❤️새 혀수 ㅈㅑㅣㅣ ㅠㄷ ㅁㅡㅁㅋㅑㅜㅎ ㄹㅁㅡㅑㅣㅛ. Thank you for giving us a new beginning and life ❤. Seaung Young Lee
Your 😇😇😇💖💖💖💖💖🙋♀️
😍🥰♥️
❤❤what a sweet child❤
He really is! Thank you
Wow amazing!
He is such a pretty child
Thank you! He is truly an amazing little boy.
Is he an orphan ?
He’s a beautiful boy
Thank you! He truly is.
the mask is awful for the children
한국은 중국에서 날어오는 미세먼지 오염으로 인해 공기질이 좋지 못해요. 그래서 마스크를 자주 씁니다… 현재 한국은 코로나로 인한 마스크 착용의무를 일부 해지하였어요. 그러나 공기가 좋은 날이 많지 않아 마스크를 자주 씁니다. 슬픈 현실입니다. 미세먼지와 대기오염은 아이들에게 치명적입니다….
@@Goody792 sorry
@@mouahhlasauffie7303 Don’t be sorry! 😉
My sister wants to adopt a baby from SK but she's worried about how they'll treat black people or if they allow black people to adopt their children. Please tell me if her concerns are legitimate or not🙏🏾🙏🏾
Hi and thank you for your question. :) As far as I know, there would not be a problem as long as your sister goes through all the required procedures (home study, medical reviews, etc...). I will say, however, South Korea is closing doors to adoption recently due to low birth rates. There are waiting children (medical concerns or challenges) that are available for adoption which is more likely an option these days.