Boyfriend? Where to next? Beating Anxiety? - THINGS IVE NEVER SHARED
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- Boyfriend? Where to next? Beating Anxiety? - THINGS IVE NEVER SHARED
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amen to this whole entire video! you've got some very sensible, well-founded opinions on (what I consider to be) important things, which shows just how much you've worked on yourself and how well-educated you are. thanks for sharing 💕
Thank you so much 💕
I loved this heart to heart session. I’m about to turn 40 and I’m still super unsure about kids and petrified that (as society tells me) I may regret it later … but don’t want to make a decision out of fear. Loved your openness, really needed to hear this xx
I feel you! Just turned 40 myself.. decided not to freeze eggs. I’m trusting my journey 🙏🏻❤️
@@AO-nq3kw going to follow your approach and trust the journey ❤️
Totally can relate, everyone’s journey is different you need to go with your instinct, trust your judgement and enjoy life because as we know things can change in an instant
Then again, you may have babies just to fulfil society’s expectations and regret that. At least if you regret not having children later, it only affects you. And you can’t really regret what you never knew.
Regretting having children on the other hand is an entirely different story that comes hand in hand with a wealth of psychological trauma and damage to the child in question.
36 and feeling I don’t want to have kids. I will get a lovely dog to keep me company. Please do not follow « the standards » if your heart doesn’t want to do it. I love my life as it is now. I don’t want that nothing change. I am in a incredible love relationship, we have a cute cat which is my baby 😊 and I love my liberty to choose everyday want I want to do. When you have kids it is all about them, because they depend on you. From that point of view I think I am quite selfish with my time and how I am spending it. 😊😊😊😊
Loved this video so much! Especially about the pressure to conform to society. It’s so refreshing to hear such an honest conversation especially about attachment styles etc. and knowing that you’re not ready for something 💕
I’d love to hear more about your journey of becoming comfortable talking to people (guys) and the ability to just start chatting with someone. I’m introverted and I think societal dependence on dating apps and social media to meet guys has made it harder to just start a conversation IRL, especially in the context of dating.
First of all, I want to say how wonderful you look and happy! And I have a daughter who is almost 34 and is not married and has no children. And I will never be the parent that says when are you gonna have a baby when are you gonna get married. I think that’s absolutely horrible to say to your children. It’s their life they get to do what they want to do with it. And your dad is so right. I’ve said that many times before as long as my children are happy I’m happy. Wishing you all the best . ❤️
Girl, I feel you! I have the same anxious-attachment style and had the same energy in my 30s of meeting someone for the sake of having kids. It didn’t happen. I just turned 40 and my energy and outlook has changed. Yes, I wasted a decade searching for something I couldn’t find, however Now I just want a partner to do life with.. travel and have fun. Chance of having kids has dwindled but at the end of the day, that is up to fate. What is meant to be, will be. Just trust your journey. Would love to meet up in Europe this summer! I’ll be in Switzerland, Italy and Turkey then moving to Dubai (from Brissy). Thanks for sharing your life with us ❤
Fantastic attitude to life. You put yourself out there do the things you love and if you meet someone special along the way great… but the best R’shop you can have is with yourself. I think this comes from life experience and age is just a number. Do what makes you happy! Yay 😊❤
Rachel, I have followed you for several years and I LOVE your content and your energy. I admire you a lot and your videos bring a smile to me.
Thank you so much! 💕😊
You look beautiful Rachel! Thank you for the life update! This made me realize I have been following you for nearly 3 and a half years now. Time flies!
Oh wow thank you so much for being on this journey with me 😊
Omg nearly nodded my head off when you said there is no perfect person. Wanting a perfect person to just waltz in and complete your life means you assume you’re already perfect, that your life is perfect and that someone needs to fit in with you. No. Just no. Everyone needs to change and adapt and grow to form a partnership. Each person needs to give and take and compromise. We all grow up in similar yet completely different circumstances and we all have our own beliefs and ways of doing things. A healthy relationship is listening to the other person and saying “Huh, well I never thought about it that way. That’s a really interesting opinion” and exploring that together.
This video is my most favorite and thank you for sharing.. coz I’m on the journey of becoming my best version… I was a people-pleaser before and was struggling with self-worth issues … but getting improve day by day and knowing myself more and more … always trying to listen inner voice and trusting my instinct.. still on the journey and all the best to you as well ❤ cheers 🎉
My ex-boyfriend broke up with me and then I turned 40, realizing beeing 40 allone, not married, no kids.. So I decided I want to focus on myself, my life, my business. Just do the things I want to do. If I meet the one, great, if not, good too.
Great video Rach. I’m in Melbs and single and can def relate. The whole, why aren’t you married? No kids pressure. In my 20’s i was more impressionable, and didn’t really know myself and what I wanted. Once I hit my 30s i became more aware of what I want and less tolerant of what I don’t want or suffering fools 😂. I have my own house, live by myself. I do love to travel and always have, love to explore meet new people. Tbh yes it does get lonely at times, but I enjoy my own company, but having flexibility to see friends or go and do what I want is nice. I’m of the opinion don’t live and hide in four walls, get out enjoy your life if you meet someone great but if not that’s ok too. 😊❤. I’ve just jumped into my 40’s and still have no regrets on how I’ve lived my life, I’m going to keep doing my thing.
We have a lot in common! Go you!
I LOVE YOUR ATTITUDE !!!!!! YOU GO GIRL
Video suggestion: How you stay organized whilst traveling? And not have it take so much time each place you go? BTW, I can see how much more relaxed and content you are now and have loved watching your evolution! xo
Id watch that
I’m so happy for you. I imagine anyone judging you is envious or jealous of your life, confidence and freedom. I have seen the anxiety go from your face since I started watching you. It’s inspiring to hear that it’s a possibility to conquer your anxiety as most people with anxiety that I’ve met seem to accept it’s part of their biology. Your moves/travel’s definitely make interesting content although I equally love a morning routine/cleaning video. Thanks for your sharing x
thank you for answering my question 🥰
your mindset about social pressure and life in general is a way of thinking which i try to achieve, so mature and inspiring!
You explained dealing with anxiety perfectly. We need to face our issues and no more bandaids over them.
Okay but this video was way too short😭 I watched this soon after going to therapy and everything you said resonated with me and opened up my mind and my heart, this was so amazing!!! Thank you for opening up and being so vulnerable❤️
LOVE the fact that you stopped doing "morning routine" content and other videos like that. I've had anxiety as long as I can remember and I've always searched for a "quick fix". "If I just do this..." or "if I just have this..." I will be happy. But that's not how it works, is it! I'm turning 30 this year and it's tanken me this long to realize that there is only therapy and working on my self that works. Sure, a great work out routine and a good sleep schedule is great and can help you, but not fix you.
Just wanted to say that I really like you and your content, it feels so authentic! 😊
I’m still watching… but I wanted to say for kids everyone warned me about kids and how rough it is… and even during motherhood moms groan about their kids and different things about having children… my personal experience seems to be opposite. I mean I had rough pregnancy but no morning sickness (3) kids I pushed for less than 4 minutes for each, no tearing. My kids slept through the night from the beginning only woke to eat. My kids listen to me but I also follow through on my words. I actually enjoy my kids. Other moms ask me how I get my kids to listen how they behave to well how it is they actually like me. I think it’s a good idea to ignore the influence of society like you said and not do it if you’re sure… but I wanted to share that not everyone has the same experience. I hope this message came across the way I hoped and not a form of bragging.
I find this so inspiring, I'd like to think this is what it would be like for me if I did have kids. Thank you for sharing 💕😊💛
This is so true because the same thing has happened to me and I'm in my late 30s..having a baby has been the best thing
Regarding wedding, it’s possible to do it without spending a lot of money. I had a really small wedding, only 60 of our closest friends and family, and it was wonderful and magical and everybody loved it. It wasn’t costly at all and we really enjoyed the feeling of being sorrounded only by the people we truly love and truly love us back. We literally felt the love around us. A big, expensive wedding is not the only way to get married.
You're such a great human, very self aware and positive. I always feel good after watching your videos, thank you so much for sharing with us :)
Always love your videos, no matter what the content. They are very engaging and inspiring ❤️
Glad you like them!
I really, really enjoyed this video! I love your approach to therapy and want to recognize how much effort you've put into it! Were there specific criteria you were looking for when you started looking for a therapist? I know it's going to be different for everyone, it's just such a daunting task so a jumping off point in when you looked for would be helpful (especially for folks like me who are considering it!)
Thank you so much 😊😊
I’m so glad you are out there living your best life Rachel! I’ve been following you for a few years now and I’ve loved watching your journey so far - excited to see your next chapter in whatever city it is!
❤love this! I travelled a lot during my 20's and the only thing I regret is not doing it more! Enjoy whilst you're young 😊
I love that you are confident enough in yourself to know what you want in your life. Im nearly 40 and I decided a loooong time ago I never wanted children, the hardest part about that was convincing others that it was ok and the best thing for me. I met someone 3yrs ago who has 3 children of their own and I love it (it's hard taking on someone else's children) but I know 100% I do not want my own haha
Keep up the hard work, living you life the way you want to. ❤
This video came at the perfect time! I am starting my “digital nomad” life in two weeks. It’s stressful to leave plans to chance, but I agree with you that you have to take it a day at a time and go with the flow! You are such an inspiration! Thank you for sharing!
omg yay I love this. Good luck with everything, I'm sure you'll love it
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Will you be making content? Any way to follow?
Love all your videos! ❤❤ Please do a skincare and make up routine!! Totally loved to see that.
She's literally the only person I can watch over and over again without getting bored or tired 💖 you inspire me sm w my channel 💖🥰🍓♥️♥️🥰♥️
I agree of watching her video’s or her life. She has come along way with her anxiety concerns and the horrific headaches as you recall she would get. Remember her journey with fashion at Uni? It was so fun to watch her fashions. I am amazed her spirit and just getting on with life. She travels alot and we get the best of it also.
Great vid. A European summer sounds so fantastic. You seem very happy and content doing your thing and open to every opportunity. Safe travels from a fellow Aussie.
Loved this so much! Resonated with everything you said! Thank you for sharing ❤
Glad you enjoyed it! 💕
I loved this video!! 😍😍 I am in my 30’s and I felt very connected to you in your struggles and your evolution. This heart to heart video was amazing and honestly I can see how your energy changed in a beautiful way. It would be amazing if you could do the video about how you choose what counties to move 🥰🥰🥰🥰
Love this type of video! Very real and honest. 🖤
Thank you for sharing, this was so relatable and inspiring to watch and hear 🤍
Loved this video!!! As someone that is going through the anxiety of having to decide where to live and I’ve moved a lot on the past 5 years, I would love to hear your thought process towards making that decision.
Generally, people who tell you you won’t feel fulfilled if you don’t have children, are the people who didn’t feel fulfilled by having children.
Exactly! They put their own feelings of disappointment and regret off on other people and that’s not cool at all!
Such a brave woman so clear and honest about everything. Can you talk about your entrepreneurship journey and how are you doing it?
Great video Rachel. I’ve been watching your videos for a few years and you have definitely blossomed 🌸 it’s so interesting what you say about anxiety
This is amazing❤ life is so so so short and good on you for doing what your doing❤🤗no one should ever put anyone in a box or pressure anyone xxx I’m very similar to you and have an anxious style so I want to work on myself also ❤ everything youve said about anxiety, I can completely relate , you inspire me and it gives me hope regarding my anxiety ❤️Thankyou 🤗xx kudos to you❤😘
Thank you so much beautiful for being so open and vulnerable with us. Listening to you, I can relate. I'm 51 about to turn 52 soon and I've been trying to heal my traumas as well. Unfortunately though despite seeing a psychologist every fortnight and having worked with coaches in the past, I don't feel anything has really changed inside me other than I'm the most self aware I've ever been. I would love to move from being anxiously attached to secure confident and really trust myself love myself. Would you mind sharing who your coach and therapist are? Finding a good one is hard so if they've managed to help you that's great. Xo
What an interesting video! Looking back now, I would invest even more in travelling than the big wedding.
I have been following you for years Rachel you are awesome… your so real and authentic and just you. I love that ❤❤
Thank you so much 🌸💕❤️
Oh my god! Thank you for answering my question xx 😊 it made my day
I hope I answered it ok 💛😊
Thank you. I'd love to know more about your diet and exercise. You always look so radiant
Everyone is different. I am 47 and single and don’t have kids. A lot of my friends envy me. Some are happily married and some are divorced. Some are grandparents. We all have different lives. There is no one size fits all. I know those kinds of pressures when you hit 30, but it really doesn’t matter. I think millennials seem to have this extra pressure put on them. Just enjoy life ladies 😁 x
Hi Rachelleea, I think you are absolutely right , nobody should dictate our lives. Enjoy your life every day and leave destiny decide. If you don't mind can you please speak about the skin care in one of your videos?
You look gorgeous as always 👍. Hope to see you soon 😘
Love this video! Would love a skincare and make up update ☺️
great video! i feel the same way about social expectations etc.
Thank you for answering on question❤
I love your videos Rachel I genuinely believe it will only happen when u meet the right person u will know if he's the one also u will probably never be 💯 percent perfect for a partner so don't waste your life Hun doing all this work on yourself he should love you for you I hope everything works out for you also I'm a 49 yr old woman in Ireland never had kids and married over 25 years to the most amazing man trust me not having kids is not the worst thing in the world he's my best friend keep doing these videos I love them Hun xx
Loved this video. I have been so anxious lately about turning 31 and not married and no kids. This past year, most of my girls had a baby or got married so I’ve been feeling a little lost and sad about where I am in my life. Your video made me feel much better. How do you find friends who are not busy with their married and baby life? Sometimes it can get lonely.
I live in Toronto as well. Wish we can be friends. I would love to have a friend who is on the same page with life when it comes to marriage and kids. ♥️
I love your hair in this video!
I honestly thank you for your mindset placing a bar regarding relationship been a do or die affair because the internet or RUclips has makes it impossible to be single,now I need to do my own too❤❤
Woohooo!!! Love when I sit down and have a new video to watch ♥️
Do you not feel lonely at all, or how have you overcome feeling like that (since you spend quite a lot time alone?). Do you find it easy to meet new people and like minded people - if so how to try to?
Nope never lonely. I love being alone, I learnt to like my own company which was part of the journey working with my therapist. I try to learn about lots of different random topics in life so when I meet people I find I'm able to connect on something. People love talking about themselves so you just have to ask questions. You will most likely fine like-minded people if you go to places of things you enjoy. If you have hobbies etc you'll meet people you'll connect with. You just have to put yourself out there and say hi. The worst someone will do is not talk to you. On to the next if thats the case
@@rachelleea Isn’t it tricky as part of being a human is that we are social creatures so is there some point where you need and want that connection with other people and not just alone?
@@kazianika4897 yeah it can be really tricky. It’s all about balance between going out and being social and having down time 😊
Thank you for this video! I agree and share your thoughts and approach!❤ You are inspiring! I adore the way you talk about Life!
Thank you so much! 😊💛🌼
I loved this video!
I feel like you would really like Sweden if you ever Went there! Good luck with everything, love following along! 🛫🏡😀
Loved this video! You’re so wise xx
I really enjoyed this video it was very open and honest. I did have a couple of questions around the digital work that you do, if that's ok ? I'm looking at trying to transition to working for myself and maybe starting some sort of digital business and getting back into content creation myself. I was hoping to pick your brains for some tips that would help kick start some inspiration for me.
May I ask what sort of online work you do aside from youtube ? Do you have an online business an how does that work ? Thank you in advance for any tips and keep up the great work
Love this video so much, thank you for sharing ❤
If someone wants to put me in a box, I hate it! -+1. I detested this since I was in high school. People do like to label you based on what you did, but like you said, things cannot categorised into boxes, not everything can fit in into a box, there is no black and white.
Getting my nails done watching this😂❤
I love your life. I wish I did things differently. So do what makes you happy x ❤
Video suggestion: your workouts and healthy meals
I really LOVED this video! Thanks!
Glad you enjoyed it! 🌸💕
This was really fun, I relate to lots of things, I confess that I'm actually planning to download the apps again (last time would have been 7 years ago or so) and I know that you're pass that but could you please share some tips about tips about how to spot those "green light" guys?
Ok so when I am on the app I refuse to match with anyone with a shirtless selfie. Not my vibe.
Then when I do match with someone if they comment on my appearance within in the first few messages its a no go. All the nicest men I have met refrain from commenting on my appearance and stick to getting to know me. Maybe on the first date they'll compliment me and thats ok.
They need to be responding and asking questions. Vague one word answers or only answering your questions but not asking you any is not good enough.
Let them make the date, I will never make a date.
I prefer dates that are doing things not just drinks. The wonderful man I talked about in this video originally suggested going to the museum as a first date. Massive check for me, I love that but we decided on a games arcade which was just as great.
Everyone I dated while using the apps were so nice. I never had an awful experience they just weren't the right fit.
Oh and when chatting in the app before meeting I never double text. If they dont reply, they dont reply... next haha
I hope that helps :)
I just love listening to u so much❤
amen to not being put in a box 🙏🙏🙏
Hi, Rachel. Love your channel, you are a big inspiration. I invite you to Croatia this summer if you will be in Europe. ☺️
I personally don’t want kids because i never liked going to school, being part of society, living on earth 😅❤ it never made sense to me.
yes, i’ve had some good moments in my life, but I just don’t want to put another human into this system.
My only non negotiable with a partner is someone who want to do the work, in the relationship and on themselves ❤ otherwise it just won’t matter if they’re funny or intelligent.
Loooooved this 😊
Hello Rachel. I really like your videos and I want to become a digital nomad can you make advices video or how to become a digital nomad :)
Wish you all the best ❤!!!! 💋🌹😘
Thank you! You too!
Great video
GOOD video
I got more out of this video than any other one you have ever done.
oh I'm so glad 😊💛
I always say:" if you are unsure about something than it means a yes".
Sweet 😊
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Hi Rachael being a lot older than you and I not having had the opportunity to have children it’s my biggest regret. I have always chased the wrong men when good ones were around. You are a beautiful girl let love find you and it will and don’t fully throw away the chance to have children even one is enough. Just talking to you like a mum would. Hope I don’t offend you ❤
Aren't you worried about your ecological footprint because you travel so much? Do you think about the environment and are you worried about the climat?
I’m so glad you are out there living your best life Rachel! I’ve been following you for a few years now and I’ve loved watching your journey so far - excited to see your next chapter in whatever city it is!
Thank you so much!! 💕💕
You're such a great human, very self aware and positive. I always feel good after watching your videos, thank you so much for sharing with us :)
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