How To Get Over Your Past Mistakes
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If you're someone who spends hours every single day thinking about past mistakes or embarrassing moments then you have to consider why you think about the past in the first place. There's a reason letting go of the past is so hard for you. So in today's video we're going to show you exactly how to get over your past mistakes. You'll also learn how to forgive yourself for these past mistakes.
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Me: Ok! Time to sleep!
My brain: Here are some embarassing and shameful moments
Exact scenario
Same
Same
Ugh same happened to me... I just want to forget it 😑
same
Am I the only one here not because of a relationship
Me too
I’m not here for a relationship
I'm here because I am just an awkward guy in general and I think back on awkward situations
because i got found out abt smth rlly embarrassing
No .
Every night i remember the shittiest things and the most embarrassing things i did. i feel guilty and embarrassed i can’t even sleep :’)
I feel that. It sucks, happens a lot throughout the day for me, unless I'm distracted I'll remember something lmao. Tis a big ouchie
Same
Me too it’s pretty annoying
Yea & it makes me cringe so much, then I get mad at myself for even thinking it 🤧
Yeah some things I did because of the bad position I was in and now it’s just messing w lot of things up for me and I regret it that’s why I’m watching this video and a lot of other ones on this type of thing
You need to REALISE that you will always make MISTAKES in the future as well. And that is the way for growth. Be foolish thats the way to LEARN.
it just sometime pain blind u to see that fact !!!
That’s right
NOPE
being pras I visibly shaked in fear from this
666 complete because of me no thanks needed 👌
Guys your past mistakes make you who you are,that’s how you grow.Try not to regret anything because without making that mistake you wouldn’t have learnt the lesson you now know❤️
I disagree. You’re mistakes don’t define you. You only learn from them and know not to do them again.
sadly there are too many things i prefer to un learn
I agree with you but it still hurts remembering our past mistakes 😔
Or it can make you surfer more by keep on remembering it
@Ammon like you
I've made a mistake and my friends keeps on bringing that up even tho I already said sorry
It's just sad that you want to improve yourself but they keep on pulling you down and telling you about the past you've made
I feel that
Crabs in a pot effect. Look it up. Many people will pull you down to their level so you don't succeed and make them feel bad.
you should say "yes, i did that. i did it because *explain yourself, well i already say sorry tho, why u keep bringing that thing up ?"
then just leave that friend that keep bring that thing up
its better to say what is on your mind and being judge than not saying anything 😊
Wow same. That literally happened to me. I dropped that friend
Hello!
I'm here not because of relationship but out of humiliation with myself, my embarrassing moments! Its often now even it happened years ago even though I learned from mistakes it keeps coming back.
If you don't acknowledge your past mistakes, then it's not your fault. Maybe write the list of mistakes on a paper and remember it.
Man. The pain
@Patrick Noufal Even if it last for years ?
@Patrick Noufal Well it is true thanks
I feel you.
i feel youuuuu
I feel you man
It has come to the point where I have to be perfect in order to not overthink. Even the smallest mistake is really stressful for me and I really do think, that I have to do everything perfect in order to avoid judgement from other people
That happens to me often, and it can really take over your life. If it helps, a lot of people are so fixed on their OWN imperfections, that they don't take notice of yours. Everyone's more similar than we think!
I believe that the reason why you are afraid of judgement to the point where you are trying to avoid it is because it’s a reflection of how much you hate yourself, and being perfectionistic is how you deal with your own negative perception about yourself.
If you slowly start to forgive yourself for your past mistakes and learn from them, you’ll most likely get rid of your perfectionistic tendencies.
No I’ve just had many embarrassing moment in my life and also trauma that actually impacts too much 😭 like I just think about it at random moments I just need to move so I don’t see people who knew me at my worse
Feel the same way also
Me too! I want to move to another country staying here makes me anxious
The problem is lack of acceptance. Many bad things that happen are beyond our control or we will never know why they happened. We can’t be 100% prepared for every possibility in life. Instead of trying that approach, we need to focus on accepting things we can’t change or fix (changing our perception and perspective). What you’re suggesting is setting you up for failure, IMO.
Accepting things that are not under our control is one thing, but telling people to accept themselves leads to them not even trying to change the things that are under their control and NEED to be changed.
Depression , anxiety , fast heartbeats everything has happened when I sit alone , and thinking about my mistakes this pain is unbearable 😢
This video should be titled 'Guys: How to get over rejection".
I'm just here cuz I keep thinking about the cringy things I've done
Kiyoshi Kirishima yup
I'm a girl
I’m not here for being rejected. I don’t ask random people out.
Doom's Way same *cringes*
forgive and forget everyone!
not so simple
@@BunnyUK in some instances i agree it's not so simple, such is life...
@claudiusxyx i understand to a certain extent what you mean!
Forgiveness is an ideal, but if you can't forgive someone, then you can end up feeling like a bad person for not being able to forgive. I think people can be forgiven, if they engage in a dialogue and show a genuine desire to put things right. But without that willingness to engage and seek forgiveness, then it is almost impossible for anyone who is not a buddha or a superbeing, to forgive really bad things.
@@BunnyUK i like your response, and i know what you mean, like about how sorry they are and how willing they are to fix things.
I have been very toxic in early highschool. I understand why a lot of people dislike me
This is a feeling that makes me SCREAAMMM OUT LOUD IN PAAAIIINNNNN
I keep thinking about how people bullied me in the past. I'm trying to find a way to overcome it
KK Xie So sorry How long also was it?
I'm with you man, I'm still struggling to let go of the time a gym teacher in high school said that I have a small manhood because of my hand size and I was unable to catch a football one-handed, he was also one of my football coaches and he said this stuff to my face and even got some of my teammates to laugh at me.
hey! this is kind of late but I hope u have let go of your past! just letting u know that u r a great person. think about the people who bullied u. If u bullied someone, you would be feeling so guilty for that. Luckily all u have to do now is forget about those people who treated u so badly. Just know that their opinions will never matter to u in life. They hurt u in the past but don’t let them continue hurting u in the present by making u feel bad about yourself :)
David Ringwald I feel you, I'm also struggling with feeling manless. It takes a lot of courage to share what you've been through. I respect you man. Love.
Same :(
To overcome the past, one must overcome the future!
I do not agree ....tell me why and how
@@shrutitrivedi6704 it's your future self that's stuck in the past.... tackle the root of the issues in the present...set goals on who you want to be in the future
@@KeemoAnimatedFilms ok well said...also we have to correct our mistakes from past do it correctly in present,right?
@@shrutitrivedi6704 yeah your 100% right! ... Agreed, yes
Thanks man
anxiety: happens
this vid: already ends its career
thanks a lot :)
Me:*Did An Embarrassing Moment*
My Brain:This Moment Will Make A Fine Addition To My Collection.
*Fantastic! One lesson I learnt years ago was my whole life, my self confidence and my perspective changed when I stopped focusing so much on the problems in my life, but instead focused on the solutions*
Practical Inspiration how do you get over something really bad you did a long time ago? I can’t change it but I want to make amends with myself
i have no solition to mine but damnation
The thing is, I am the mistake.
I feel you!😞
Judith Portillo 😢
Mann u removed all my stress
No your not your beautiful 😊
Keep y’all head up ❤️💯🔥keep y’all flame lit
The fact that people dont even care about you... so why think they they think of you? You don think of them
I tell myself that all the time but my brain doesn’t fking listen 🤦🏻
I once saw a comment saying, if u are depressed u live in the past if u are anxious u live in the future if u are at peace u live in the present
I remember how weird I am in the past. Now it stops me from sleeping bc I can't stop thinking how disappointed I am in myself. Everytime I try to change, my mind would'nt stop bringing it up. It just slowly becoming more and more stressfull.
“Great losses are great lessons.”
I have spent the last 6 months everyday, mourning and grieving about that one thing i did that probably no sane human in their right mind never done and think to myself "what if i hadn't done that?" or "i'll give everything to be able to start over" every time everyday. Everytime i see possibilities and challenges, instead of taking action i say "why didnt i do this instead back then?!" or "i would be in a much better place if i never done that" then continues to feel even miserable. Moving on has never felt so painful. Sure, being present is the right thing but that doesnt mean its all easy peasy
and i dont think my mistake gives me any important lesson other than endless suffering and long-lasting regret
Yeah, I feel like that about almost everything in my life, I wish I could just start over, I wish I could be someone else
@@abcdefgh6951 Everyday is getting better for me while im slowly recovering. i hope the best for you! remember that its okay to not be okay :)
Me : * wants to sleep *
My brain : lmao remember that time when you ran into the glass door ?
I woke up this morning with a bad memory which caused a cascade of other bad memories. This video is perfect timing, and clear cut and dry. You're absolutely right, and it's easy to get lost in the bad feelings to accurately analyze things. Thank you for laying it out so flat.
There are lots of flashbacks that I want to forget so badly but I can't because it feels like it's stuck forever but I remember someone told me that if you forget things you wouldn't move on like you wouldn't learn any mistakes that you made if you forget things.
There are levels to the mistakes we make. Some mistakes are so great that they cloud our minds for years to come. We believe we deserve to suffer for them. People believe we should suffer for them. Whether it be murder, or something as simple as a lie. The point being is this...
Not every mistake is meant for humans to hear, but only for you to learn. Humans will tell you that you need to walk in a pit of snakes and let the poison sink in for your wrongs. When really, all you need to do is to look at tomorrow and tell yourself: "How different am I from the past?"
i daytime i dont even remember my past mistakes but at nights i remember all of them :(
My whole life is a cringe compilation...I just wanna isolate myself from everyone.
I feel you big time and the funny thing is i have been isolating myself for a long time it's not all that bad and I'm only here because i did stupid things in my isolation
“Congratulations! You Just Got Mugged” 😭😭
YOU ABSOLUTE SAINT!!! THANK YOU FROM THE BOTTOM OF MY HEART FOR THIS!!! I'VE BEEN SUFFERING FROM THIS A LOT THESE DAYS AND I AM SO ELATED YOU'VE MADE A VIDEO ON IT.
I love these videos because you are so great at communicating and getting your point out to the viewers:))
I love how insanely practical your videos are
You’re the man improvement pill; you and dan lok are awesome; I’ve listened to the f.u. Money audio book and it’s very insightful.
I've been dwelling on a huge mistake that I made last weekend. This video has provided me with a lot of clarity on how to move forward. Thank you!
I remember seeing you touch upon this topic in the comment section once when responding to a question. I'm glad that you decided to go in depth for people that struggle with this, myself included.
WOW thank a lot , improvement pill for this video , wish it come out sooner , but thank I appreciate it .
You can’t go back and change the beginning... but you can overcome it and change the ending. poetry:100
embarrassing things in the past still bother me to this day. help
“Congratulations, you just got mugged” 😂 absolutely love it
I never get easily over embarrassing moments because I just try to force myself to forget it by distracting my self. But the more I do that, the more I lose confidence on my self.
Nice video. Kind of needed it right now. Thank you Improvement Pill:)
These videos are great! And I love how you show the evidence to back up what you're saying!
Would you ever consider making a video on mental toughness?
Living for this 🙌
Finally something clear and concise. Thank you.
Improvement Pill thank you very much for this video presentation. For years I have been rejected by many women who have told me that I'm not manly enough for them or that I'm not successful enough for them and I didn't know why they would say that to me.
Thank you so much man, ive been meditating for a month now because of your tamed course. BEST DECISION I MADE
Same pinch
"Are you someone who spends hours every single day replaying the same bad memories over and over again? If so, then you're in luck."
ok
Looooooool
Hey man. I subscribed to your channel probably a year ago. After subscribing, I scroll down to the end of the video-list and then slowly scrolled up and saved the videos I needed. But I did not watch this video, I did not had that kinda past mistakes. But recently, I did just some small mistakes and it kind of messed up my life so much. You can't imagine what kind of little mistake created such problems. And I am hurting right now. --- And finally, now I clicked on this video.
Thanks for being here on RUclips.
I’m here to try and accept my mistake and how it ruined my friendship with someone who I deeply respected
So helpful
Keep doing what you do
You're saving more lives than most doctors
“Just make it happen” wow.. so helpful
it aint easy, when you work towards something, and you've made the wrong decisions the whole time, making it harder to achieve your goals than it already is, learned from that, blessed to have the strength to turn things around, once again
Loved this! Thank you so much!
Thank you. I am reliving these memories over and over again when I'm trying to sleep and it doesn't stop. I need to try these new things.
I have autism, and i always feel like i have to hide those tendencies in public, because if i don't, more often than not, i end up making a fool of myself, which makes me seem extremely introverted in public spaces, when in reality, its just me trying to avoid creating an uncomfortable situation for myself and others.
This video has really helped me, thank you very much bro!
THE MOST HELPFUL VIDEO. THANK YOU.
CONGRATULATIONS you just got MUGGED! hahaha love that
That part had me rolling 😭😭😂😂
OH MY GAH THANK YOU! I have that exact problem and it always affect my mood
Great encouraging video! The way I managed to get over my past mistakes is by simply being more present. The past is the past, and there is nothing we can do about it. However, we can always live in the present, enjoying every single moment :)
You are absolutely spot 👌 👏 thank you.
Translate. How to not feel any guilt about the people I’ve destroyed with my narcissistic personality
no, not really. if you apologized or you just embarrassed yourself or someone hurt you and embarrassed you /
bullied you then you're fine
I got really jealous of my friend when I was little, and started doing bad things then saying she did it. Now I’m worried I’ll get caught and it will ruin my life. We don’t talk anymore at all
@Justice Stanford No I stopped a long time ago
Are you really someone with a narcissistic personality? I thought they never feel guilt. They are incapable of feeling such emotions.
I had a mistake from few months ago and my mind got conditioned from uttering bad words out of dismay and embarrassment right after I remember that scenario. It sucks. I feel really stupid and foolish. I cannot forget how they reacted. it really hunts me until know. I kept on rationalizing but it is no use.
You see the thing with me is that I keep on thinking about embarrassing things that don't even exist.
Can you make a video on how to get over past mistakes that were caused because of yourself?
Thanks man, this video really helped me😁
Even though I am a 29 year old woman, I must in fact be a 16 year old boy because every self-improvement video I ever watch is always telling me that I'm a guy getting rejected by girls. As a girl in highschool I was rejected lots... you take the 'no' and move on to find a 'yes', it's really not that hard.
bro this is absolutely on point
thanks a lot!!
lol this video has nothing to do with mistakes
how the hell is getting rejected a mistake?
Righttt
Asking the person out is a mistake
@@mogumogu9765 🤣🤣🤣👍
Great video. Thanks, IP.
Well I used too hate who I was not for looks but for not trying because to me laziness was a strong factor of who I was. Now I am only 30% lazy, improvement pill can you make a video for lazy people???
How does laziness manifest in your life? I mean, if these 30% is just relaxation / winding down after a day of hard work, it's not really laziness it's common sense :)
@@polinaa5896 Well it would be more than relaxation, I would play my playstation for hours because I felt sad about who I was. Until I watched improvement videos, than I had a thought what if it was just me? Only through my own self realization did I figure out. I wasn't trying hard enough. Also I had a big fear of rejection, it wasn't like I haven't been rejected, it is just I felt like it happened more than it should have. If it all makes sense.
@@doodlezdanteaquaflow6239 if you're feeling sad about who you are and using the PlayStation as an escape, I'd stop escaping and try to understand the Root cause of your sadness, why don't you like who you are, why don't you accept yourself fully. To get this understanding what can help is meditation and generally some time alone. Without books, games, mobile phone, computer. Just you and an empty room or you and nature. Go away for several days and spend some time alone in nature without all the distractions, you'll probably have some profound realisations about who you are
Pola Vahler that's going to be hard if you have an addiction
Makes a lot of sense, thanks
Really needed this video. I joined a pyramide scheme when I was 18 and hopeful, and basically scammed all my friends and family being somewhat charismatic.
After everything crumbled up and I realised what I’ve done, I could never forgive myself. Coming from a small place where everybody knows everybody sure didn’t help. It’s been 6 years now and I’m still struggling with depression after this event.
Evil is clever, and is always lurking around to trip us up.
But become strong and determined, a wiser and accomplished person. That someday you will make them all proud, and repay them all back.
(Maybe not in cash, could be something more important, who knows, other than maybe Odin)
Take this depression that you feel and turn it into something that will benefit you and your family. Use all the emotions you feel for good. Use it to become better, maybe start a business, or create something, and make a come back. Prove to yourself and to everyone else that you're much more than an 18 year old who made a silly mistake. People are actually amazing, and many don't realise this. We let one little mistake from the past define our whole lives. Why? Life is long. And it's short at the same time. Realise that you will die one day and you can't allow yourself to waste time, you weren't born here for that. Anyway, hope it helps you somehow. I also have some videos on my channel dedicated to this, accepting mistakes, changing your self image, ect. All the best to you :)
Lmfao I hope your comment is just a joke
Wow tell me about the pyramide scheme. How much did you make money?
I LOVE YOU IMPROVEMENT PILL UGH
This video really helped me. Thank you
What happens to me is that my mind tends to erase terrible memories of things that happened to me from my memory but sometimes I just wake up in the middle of the night and remember one of those things. Does it happen to any of you? Do you know if this is a kind of weird brain mechanism?
It did happen to me as well. What helped me personally was meditation / calm moderate exercise and deep breathing. Also somehow sleeping on my back helps. Don't know exactly why. I still have nightmares every once in a while, it happens when I'm stressed. Or facing a challenging decision. And it's a sign for me to pause, rest, ect. Hope it'll work for you as well, I'm sorry you're going through this.
I've been through traumatic experiences in the last year too and I find that sleeping on my back helps as well. Though usually I don't intentionally sleep on my back-usually I fall asleep on my side and will end up waking up on my back-and every time I do so I feel momentarily better for the first 10 or so minutes of my day. (It is said doing so is better for your spine) Relating more to your comment though, My twin sister and I went through the same experiences, though she is forgetting a lot more of them than I am because her brain is employing that coping mechanism to protect her from reliving that past emotional pain again more than mine is (I believe). It's natural and oftentimes useful to forget about these experiences. She can only remember certain events now when I mention them. I remember almost 100% of the traumatic things I've went through or have been told about so I personally don't wake up in the middle of the night and remember something-but I think my sister might do from time to time. I hope you are in a better environment now and are not being subject to the same kind of trauma as you have previously experienced. Thankfully me and my sister are seperated from the original source of our trauma but I really need to take up meditation because I think about my trauma about half the time I am awake. I guess because I can remember the experiences and I replay them so much there are a myraid of scenes that are rather wedged into my brain. I think for that reason I'm not coping as well as my sister at the moment. Again I hope you are well.
I love one great insight which is that I'm stuck thinking about somethings simply to avoid falling in that situation again and I'm sure realizing I'm not going to stop thinking about it until I find the solution or at least am headed to the solution
Thanks for uploading video bro so long😁😁
I like the steps put forward but I think the analogy doesn't fit well. There could be a plethora of reasons why a girl rejects you, most of which has nothing to do with you in particular. Eg. She could have a boyfriend, be attracted to a specific type of guy, not be into guys or wants to focus on her own self development etc. A girl rejecting you harshly really says more about the girl than it does about you (only really meanspirited people reject harshly. Most nice women will try to let you down easy unless you badger them in spite of rejection) it's not possible to "earn" affection like that. These steps do help if you want to improve a skill though, like let's say conversatinal skills. You can detect if you were awkward, got stuck, etc and can use these steps accordingly as I use a similar system to get better at Chess :)
You hit the nail on the head... it's not all about "you" (you being the person this video is addressing). What is with this notion that if "you" were just Jason Momoa, you would never hear 'no'... ask Jason Momoa, that's not how the world works. Sometimes you fall for people who aren't in any place to be loved by you or anyone. Not everything is a dick measuring exercise.
That helped me a lot thanks man
Thank you!
Congrats on 1m subs keep it up!
Great helpful episode.
I was having such problems with studying maths i think i will find some solution thanks...
I have been waiting for your video for a long time though😂
Great video. Thanks.
I just made the mistake of talking bad about a group of people I work with occasionally, and found out that someone told them what I said. I was told this in confidence and cant confront the person who told and dont know what to say to the people I trashed, especially since they are higher up than me. I cant stop thinking about it!
This sounds similar to my case! I never knew exactly what the managers heard, but whatever I said got back to them.
These videos are so relatable
Your channel is awesome
*keeps on thinking about past mistakes while watching the video*
I feel you need to sometimes step towards past trauma. Rather than try to leave it behind you.
Stuff effects us in ways we can’t imagine, there’s no point looking for intellectual answers to these emotional challenges/problems.
I’ve found it freeing to look at my traumas, get to know them, understand them and begin to see how they’re effecting me now.
‘The past has created the present, and the present is creating everything in the future’
Thankyou for this guide
Hello Improvement,
Would you consider preparing a video on worst habits to give up on in order to have a great energized life?
I appreciate this channel ❤️
Thanks a lot man
I can see how people would be stuck in this process, because some past mistakes are not within our control to change/improve. They just exist as a constant painful mental reminder. It just becomes like some bad feedback loop, playing over and over again with no solution in sight until it drives a person crazy. Improvement Pill, what of those scenarios then?
Thank you.
This really helped thankyou