I follow this creator who is blind, but he still has 10% of his vision left. People have accused him of lying cause his eyes were looking towards them. Same guy told a story of how he was in an elevator with a lady who had a dog…he proceeded to talk baby talk to her ankle cause he thought that’s where the dog was lol
to be fair, i heard that from my dad too. i wrote it off - you hear it a lot from all sides, you know? but then a couple years later, we were driving someplace together and he cautiously asked me if i had panic attacks, and what they were like. later my mom told me he was realizing he has panic attacks. he didn't know they were panic attacks. he thought everybody had those.
Tbh sometimes when I'm very tired or over stimulated/overworked I legitimately have a processing issue where it takes me a moment to understand what I've heard, like my ears work perfectly fine but it's like my brain just lags for a few seconds..... Then I'm like "OH"
For real though! So many people do this with any friggin mental health disorder. It's not only frustrating, but also deeply hurtful and disrespectful to anyone suffering. Next time use the explanation of that everyone pees, but when you have to pee a hundred times per day and it takes a lot of functioning, time and energy away, it's kind of a problem, you know?
My mom went through years of intense speech therapy because of her deafness and her parents embarrassment by it. She talks like someone who is hearing and it only makes it harder for the world to be kind to her and realize that no you can’t look away from her when you’re talking to her she needs to see your face to read your lips, and yes it still takes a lot of energy to lip read all day every day, and doctors are the absolute worse when it comes to her deafness because they for some reason refuse to believe that she’s as deaf as she is. Sign language whether a deaf person is mute or not is the best thing.
I recently started learning ASL, and working through the alphabet. I've always wanted to learn it because I enjoy learning languages, but I also want to understand more perspectives in my life. I'm hearing, I actually hear a lot, even from pretty far away or even electricity, but I feel like it helps to be better
If there’s objective test data that shows her level of deafness and the doctors refuse to believe it, I think that would possibly fall under a malpractice issue. At the very least you would have every right to complain to someone higher up. You can’t just refuse to give someone accommodations for their disability that they have medical documentation for.
I have ADHD, and hear the “aren’t we all a little bit…” a lot when I meet new people. But it’s absolutely MIND BOGGLING when people say that to a deaf person. 😳
@@Hudston 100%.. You wouldn't say to a person relying on a wheelchair: "yeah, I have a hard time standing for long times, too".. :D Even if that were the case.. It's not the SAME!!
I also have ADHD & I only just realized this last year that neurotypical people deal with every single ADHD symptom, but ADHDers deal with them to such a degree that it’s detrimental to normal functioning/living & that’s why so many people don’t understand. I’ve switched to explaining it as a “chemical imbalance in my brain,” but even then saying what the chemical imbalance causes brings it right back to the “don’t we all” responses. “I’m late ALL the time.” “Same.” “I perceive almost everything as having the same weighted importance.” “Prioritizing is hard.” “I forget the simplest things & remember the most ridiculously niche things.” “Memory is wild, right?” “I know what I need to do, but - unless I can apply some ever changing level of novelty, interest, challenge, or urgency - it’s a crap shoot if I can get my body to actually do it.” “I don’t wanna do the stuff I have to do either.” “I’m extremely sensitive to judgement, rejection, & negative criticism because during my formative years many caretakers (and even doctors & researchers of the time) didn’t fully understand my condition & I wound up judged by the metrics applied to everybody else & chastised when I couldn’t keep up EVEN THOUGH I had higher levels of understanding & processing complex information.” “Growing up isn’t easy, am I right?” Not that you’re looking for advice, but if you can 1) simultaneously acknowledge your ADHD caused shortcomings while not using them as excuses or crutches, 2) pursue affordable ongoing psychiatric AND behavioral therapy support, & 3) surround yourself with forgiving & loving people who strive to understand, pass no judgement, & work with you instead of telling you to rise to their level, then you stand a chance to thrive. Oh, and don’t forget to register your condition with your employer so you can pursue legal action for shitty reactions to a mental health issue/disability. Looks like the stimulants are finally kicking in. That’s my hyperfocus for the day (hopefully). Thank you for coming to my TED Talk.
One time at a shopping mall there was no wheelchair friendly thing so me and my friend heard someone asking a security guy if he could show him where the elevator is. And the security guy looked at the guy in the wheelchair up ajd down and asked "for what?" 🙂 If I were near them i would've said "to go to heaven easily"
@@SerynityTvan actual conversation I had: "I'm autistic" "Well you don't seem autistic" "Yeah well, I'm on the verge of an autistic meltdown because everything is so loud and my shirt is touching my neck and this chair is so uncomfortable" "Stop being dramatic" "I'm autistic, it's not being dramatic" "Well, I've known you for so long, I think id know if you were autistic" People really try and tell me what I am 😂. It's ridiculous
I'm autistic and while I am hearing, I felt this. " oh but you can talk" " oh but you can work" it goes on and on but when I dare melt down or not mask, I get the " oh I thought you were high functioning " " I think you're playing it up now "
I feel like the 'able passing' vs 'visibly disabled' (based on able folks' perception anyway .) Is maybe a universal dichotomy with all disabled folks... Like you either have to deal with people being able to see how you are different all the time, or not being able to see it, and in either scenario you won't get respect, access, support,etc..
@@unknownintp2994"then I must be autistic too" I have ADHD and I get the "everyones a little adhd" or "I do that too I guess I have it" it's not a quirk, yes sometimes it's funny when I forget simple things or when I ramble and interrupt myself but it's actually very hard to live with. It's so frustrating that people don't take mental disorders seriously. Having autism, or adhd is very frustrating and stressful most of the time and it's actually caused me to have severe depression and anxiety and it sucks when people think it's funny or quirky or they think that they have it just because they forget to eat breakfast sometimes and they can't focus on something boring one time. It's exhausting trying to explain to people who just don't understand and will never understand that I actually struggle with it and it's not a "funny quirk"
I know this is a compliment, but a lot of the times when people say this stuff to you in situations that are not about looks, it doesn’t feel good. People don’t earn beauty. It’s randomly gifted upon them through genetics. Getting compliments about that over the things you work for starts to make people feel like their efforts and achievement are minimized or overlooked by their appearance, which they have limited control over. It warps your self esteem over time, actually. It’s best to compliment people on what they do instead of what they look like. P.s. if you’re young you may have a different perspective on this once you get older.
I wish more people understood this, and also that even if some deaf people can vocalize, that doesn’t mean they can speak. My second cousin and his wife are both completely deaf and while they can of course make noises, it’s mostly just grunts and other noises like that that they make as they sign. It made communication a little more cumbersome at family reunions for most people, but for my little brother and I, we had a lot more fun talking to them using our tablets because it was much less overwhelming. We had entire conversations typed out through our notes app and I’m sad that those files eventually got deleted.
Theres also people like me who werent born deaf but became it later in life. So i can speak properly because i spent 14 years with full hearing, doesbt make me any less deaf now. ❤
@@readingwithfrenchythanks this answered the question I wanted to ask. I think it’s impossible to develop such a good pronunciation without feedback, but your story explains it.
Tip for cashiers: if you have a pen and paper you can write to the deaf ppl when they need to talk to you. I did that for a long time and it's very easy.
as a deaf person myself, this is sooo relatable! 😭😭 it's so hard to explain people about this, people just refuse to understand doesn't matter how many times I've been trying to elaborate! !
Maybe it's just not something easy for us to understand? 🤔 Because we totally can't relate. But I believe a genuinely kind person would try to understand if u tried to elaborate. If they still doesn't understand the concept behind it, at least they'll be nice and kind to u. Sometimes we all can't understand everything. And it's okay if we couldn't understand. We ain't Google (: Just be kind to each other, that's what's important isn't it?
I feel this, haha. I'm HOH and some people seem to think it means "oh, I struggle understanding people sometimes, but my ears are perfectly healthy!". In reality, I have chronic TMJ that tends to swell my ear canals and has managed to crush some of my ear's mechanics. I primarily struggle with mid tones and soft sounds, but if the swelling is bad enough, it's like someone taped several layers of cotton batting over my ears before walking a far distance away to whisper at me.
@@kettunainenJust to clarify, a normal flare up of TMJ won't contribute to hearing loss, and even a mildly prolonged case won't pose much of a risk. My jaw is malformed, so for almost three decades, my jaw has been under stress leading to TMJ. The mechanics getting crushed is due to this severe and prolonged version of TMJ.
You being able to talk while deaf is really impressive to me. You cant hear yourself, yet you make sure other people can hear you. Thats really considerate and impressive
A family member of mine was recently born deaf and I plan to learn some sign language… I’m bad with learning languages in general, so we’ll see how that goes haha
@@junbh2 Thanks for the reassurance! We’re actually not too terribly sure if she’s fully deaf now, but she’s definitely at least partially deaf. She sometimes reacts to louder noises and her parents plan to check in with a doctor to see if anything has changed in the diagnosis. Hopefully it’ll help make communication less frustrating for her. I still plan to learn as much sign language as possible, but I’m glad to know that interactions with other children will be a bit easier to deal with with her being able to hear them a little. I’m sure she would have been just fine once her peers reached an age capable of understanding her deafness, but the early years were a point of anxiety in her parents’ planning.
I’m a cashier and I’m studying asl. I love being able to communicate with the few deaf people that come in (even if I’m a little sloppy lol). It always makes them smile :)
I'm sorry if this is a bit ignorant or insensitive but I have two questions that I'm really curious about: 1. How did you learn to talkwith correct pronunciation if you can't hear your voice? 2. If you can't hear your voice, that what doyou hear when you think about something. Thank you in advance ❤.
I did intensive speech therapy throughout my childhood and still continue to practice with a speech therapist as an adult. I don’t know what my voice truly sounds like, only through the pitches I can understand in my cochlear implant.
@@ChrissyMarshall_ I can assure you, you have a very sweet-sounding voice! Also, you are quite pretty! Do you have any videos of you without makeup? I'm quite curious!
I work in customer service, and there is a regular who is deaf. I just always be sure I am facing them, and I speak to them still, tho I know it must be difficult to navigate a hearing world when you can't, so alot of times he comes to order food and I will write the questions I am asking so he can let me know what to get him. I find it simpler for both of us to communicate using a method more universal. Also, of course, facial expressions go a long way. I am naturally expressive as is, so I tend to connect easily with other people.
As someone with adhd who hears “we all have a little adhd” told to me constantly, I didn’t know other people with other disabilities get told the same thing….😮 Damn i feel conflicted… cause im happy im not alone in this experience, but frustrated that others have to deal with how ANNOYING it is to hear that phrase 😅 Thx for educating tho, so hopefully all ppl with disabilities don’t have to hear that stuff anymore 😂
Same thing happens with anxiety. Had people tell me even anxiety isn’t really real and the time I fainted from an anxiety attack was for attention. It’s really reassuring to see other people experience the same thing but also kinda sad
Ocd… people do this with ocd all the time, especially with contamination ocd or intrusive thoughts (since that’s kinda gone trendy recently), including my mom “well I’m a little ocd too” or “being around you has started making me ocd” which, no.
It doesn't have to be a disability either. I'm Black and people always constantly telling me how they're part Black like I give AF. Same with being named Hope, always telling me all their obscure relatives who have that name in some capacity. It's absolutely exhausting.
Someone I knew was deaf but you would never be able to tell since he was a master at lip reading, social ques, and would talk like he was able to his entire life.
I’m hearing impaired and I’ve worked in retail as side jobs, due to the invisible nature of my disability I always get the worst customers, once I tell them I’m hearing impaired their entire mood just 180’s but the damage’s already been done..
Whenever i mention Im hard of hearing I just get ignored or the person says "no youre not, youre talking and understanding me right now" like yea, thats years of me practicing trying to understand people without hearing half of what they said, and I usually take a wild guess half the time on what you just said.
that's so cool. i really wanna learn asl because i mean then i could talk more easily with deaf people obvi but also because sometimes i get very overwhelmed and being able to communicate without speaking sounds like the best thing in the world
Whenever i met the older generation of deaf people i always forget that theyre better lip readers or they dont sign so i sign at the same time when talking even tho ik they dont understand sign.
Ok, I'm deaf in my left ear. This happens so much and some people even go on that side on purpose making jokes. Most people say though "but you can still hear me so I can stand on that side of you".
Dude omg I’m hearing impaired in my right ear. I can hear just not weep in that ear. When i was little kids would ask to wear my hearing aid and if I wasn’t wearing it would snap near my ear and ask if I could hear it. It was so annoying. First of all no you may not touch my hearing aid that’s gross and I’m not aloud to let anyone touch it other than my parents and doctors sometimes friends if I don’t want to lose it and I need to go on stage and not want to be overwhelmed by the loud microphone. Second I just said I can hear just not well. I can’t hear high and low frequencies I can’t barely hear my dogs if they growl if I even hear them same with high pitched noises I can’t hear some of Mariah caries high notes. Snapping is still able to be heard. Just as whispering and talking is it’s just harder.
@Youdontknowmeletskeepitthatway I swear omfg!! I can't hear high or lower frequencies.. but just before a high frequency is at the point where I can't hear it, It hurts.. ear peircing hurts. People have found that frequency in the past and played it next to my ear to annoy and hurt me. It hasent happened in a year, luckily. 💀🤘
I got an ear infection on my eadly 20's and I can barely hear from the right ear. Not a lot of people know that because I unconsciously started to read lips and match some sounds to get what peoplle are saying. My left ear compensated for the right and can now hear certain frequencies (dog whistles hurts like a b***h although I can barely hear it...what are we doing to them poor floofs?)
Just to clarify because I am not sure if it has ever been calmly explained by someone before or not but the reason a lot of hearing people are confused when deaf people can talk and assume you must have more hearing left then you do is because for us learning a language is a very auditory thing, we listen to how words are pronounced and how they are used to be able to to learn to speak and while I am aware that even people who are completely deaf no hearing left at all can learn to talk it is still hard for my brain to comprehend how people could learn to speak without being able to hear the words
@MsMcwill Intellectually, I know that but it's impossible for my brain to comprehend HOW it works because my only experience of the world is only as a hearing person
I grew up in a town with a LOT of deaf people. There is a school and college here for the deaf, so I had to giggle. I've literally seen this conversation (it ended differently, though. More impactful.)
i'm a half deaf person, i lost my hearing on my left ear when i was 9, and i lowkey relate!! i always have to remind my friends and family about it and my friends forget and whisper on my left ear, or stay on my left. i don't like telling anyone about it because i don't want people to think i can't do some things. like in school, i was participating in a sports fest and my house panicked because they didn't know about my impairment and thought it would affect the game. so thank you! it's great that you're spreading awareness about hearing loss, and i hope more people can understand that we're very capable, we just need some understanding!!
I'm unilaterally deaf too! My advice, is just remind people, they know who are just as capable as them, they can just forget cause it's an invisible condition.
9 yo? Can I ask how? I had a friends son go through something similar. I don’t know all the details, but he just all of sudden couldn’t hear hardly anything from one ear. I’m wondering if you had a similar experience and having dealt with it, know more about it.
Man I was at church and I asked this nice older man in a wheelchair that was talking to me “hey I can’t hear you, I’m deaf can you please speak up”. Dude said “you’re not deaf… you just don’t have a relationship with God yet”. Man if I wasn’t at church and he wasn’t my elder. I’d tell me exactly where to go ❤
It's like they are trying to relate or something but it just comes off as invalidating our struggle by trying to make it seem like it's not a struggle.
i love it when deaf people have the bravery to talk cause so many people disregard deafness "if you can talk you arent deaf" and it doest work like that!! i think so many people disregard disability
signing with my friend in public while walking my dog, as one does. this complete stranger approaches us and waves his hand between the two of us to ask if he could pet my dog. that was obviously rude, so we both just... stared at him. what else did he do? "ohhh, y'all can't speak english, i gotchu."
She is absolutely in the right to be mad though :) she can't spoon feed every ignorant person she comes across, I'm sure that gets tiring. But it is nice if she does take the time to explain if she feels like it
Im in a wheelchair and was in PE back in college. The professor asked me to tell him about my condition and I explained how i was born permanently disabled and wouldnt be able to use my legs. He looked me in the eyes and said: “That’s fine! I wanna put you in our hand bike with your feet strappd in the peddles so when you move the bike with your hands it’ll teach your brain to move your legs again”
@@Macabrebifidus37 actually i only dealt with this kind of person once the convo went like: One of moms friends this is their friend: i will massage your feet so you can walk again some day my parents run a great physical therapy place i will make appointment for you with them so you can walk again some day! :D *very happy pleased look on their faces as the massage my feet* Me not sure what to say: uhm y- yea! *smile but actually kinda uncomfortable* Them: that feel good? :D Me knowing i cannot feel below my waist still unsure what to do: *nods* yep! Just to be clear i was uncomfortable because they just sort of grabbed my feet and set them in they're lap and started massaging them and honestly never been in that sort of situation up till that point so didnt really know how to react
A girl on my softball team had a deaf mother. She always took photos, and was just a massive sweetheart. I was always trying to be kind, and not make her feel bad when i couldn't make out what she was saying. I wish her the best, she was insanely sweet. When I'd talk to her, I made it my mission to get her to laugh atleast once.
Wow! You should be proud of yourself! I completely by accident stmbeled upon one of your videos and just had to watch of few more! It was a very interesting experience to watch how you have progressed from the beginning to how you speak now. You have a beautiful voice!
Literally, you could tell me you are deaf but can still like speak verbally, and honestly, I'd believe you. The thing is, you can tell if you are talking to people who are having a hard time understanding you. Whether that be language or impaired senses or any number of things that can contribute to people having unique communication needs. Thank you for sharing so I can further my education and understanding ❤
I'm partially deaf and still struggle and have to deal with awful eye rolling when I ask someone to slow down or raise their voice. It's hurtful when people down play deafness.
It is astounding in a way because hearing people do rely on hearing for voice but having a deaf friend growing up i learned theres ways to learn to talk withoutbhearing. Its awesome. Its crazy how stubborn people can be underatanding this though lol
I don’t know sign language (yet!) but I have a client I work with who is deaf. She’s so sweet and tells me everytime that she is deaf and apologizes like it’s something she even needs to apologize for. Even tho I don’t know sign language, I speak very slowly and deliberately with her because she lip reads. I will also “write” on her palms or write out my recommendations on paper for her to review after our appointments. She’s so sweet and a joy to have around. She’s actually one of the reasons why I’m looking for an ASL course currently that fits into my schedule so I can learn and be inclusive
You are SO GORGEOUS!!! SO SO BEAUTIFUL!!! Also I am so dissapointed there are people like this 😞 You are truly just... devastatingly beautiful, so so stunning, and I needed to tell you!! 😍😍😍😍
Deaf lady here! Thank you! Thank you! I was always told, 'You hear me just fine. You're just not PAYING ATTENTION!" No Mrs X.. I'm DEAF." If your back is facing me, I got nothing. I came from a time where no matter how little hearing you had, you were expected to learn to speak and be mainstreamed.
This reminds me the time I was using Auslan and someone thought I knew how to sign property, I just did a blank stare at him and said I knew the basics. Then told a few people I knew to get lost instead of 'thank you'. But lip reading is also fun.
I'm going deaf from meniere's disease, most days all I hear is the ringing. When I was a baby to toddler I blew both eardrums 12 times. I spent 6 years in speech therapy. I'm just happy for the 15 years I could hear. The thing I miss most is music. Next step cochlear implants. I tried regular hearing aids but some frequencies in the vocal range are already completely gone.
I'm blind.
"Well, you're not invisible, so you can't be completely blind."
Underrated comment this was actually so funny
@@yourlocal_loserl7621Ikk!!
I follow this creator who is blind, but he still has 10% of his vision left. People have accused him of lying cause his eyes were looking towards them. Same guy told a story of how he was in an elevator with a lady who had a dog…he proceeded to talk baby talk to her ankle cause he thought that’s where the dog was lol
@Forevergreenclover Matthew and Paul are such an amazing couple ❤️
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“Aren’t we all a little bit?” My dad when I explain my anxiety and depression.
to be fair, i heard that from my dad too. i wrote it off - you hear it a lot from all sides, you know? but then a couple years later, we were driving someplace together and he cautiously asked me if i had panic attacks, and what they were like.
later my mom told me he was realizing he has panic attacks. he didn't know they were panic attacks. he thought everybody had those.
Well, it's kinda genetic
Tbh sometimes when I'm very tired or over stimulated/overworked I legitimately have a processing issue where it takes me a moment to understand what I've heard, like my ears work perfectly fine but it's like my brain just lags for a few seconds..... Then I'm like "OH"
How I feel telling people I'm autistic nowadays when everyone thinks autistic just means being a bit quirky
For real though! So many people do this with any friggin mental health disorder. It's not only frustrating, but also deeply hurtful and disrespectful to anyone suffering.
Next time use the explanation of that everyone pees, but when you have to pee a hundred times per day and it takes a lot of functioning, time and energy away, it's kind of a problem, you know?
People need to listen, not with their ear, but with their heart. Too bad most of the time they don't.
Yeah, lemme just pull out my heart ears real quick
🫀👂🏻
I’d prefer people stuck to listening with their ears and using their brains to logically comprehend things.
Well you know
She keeps responding to each sentence
@@Literally___Mebecause most deaf people probably learn lip reading? How else are they supposed to live?
Nah, with their brain
My mom went through years of intense speech therapy because of her deafness and her parents embarrassment by it. She talks like someone who is hearing and it only makes it harder for the world to be kind to her and realize that no you can’t look away from her when you’re talking to her she needs to see your face to read your lips, and yes it still takes a lot of energy to lip read all day every day, and doctors are the absolute worse when it comes to her deafness because they for some reason refuse to believe that she’s as deaf as she is. Sign language whether a deaf person is mute or not is the best thing.
that’s why i’m so interested in ASL!! i’m excited to learn!! i hope your mom gets taken more seriously as well
Invisible disabilities can be frustrating to live with. I relate to that story about your mom quite a lot. I should learn sign language
ur mom is just like me.... i truly understand her struggles. im also deaf like her.
I recently started learning ASL, and working through the alphabet. I've always wanted to learn it because I enjoy learning languages, but I also want to understand more perspectives in my life. I'm hearing, I actually hear a lot, even from pretty far away or even electricity, but I feel like it helps to be better
If there’s objective test data that shows her level of deafness and the doctors refuse to believe it, I think that would possibly fall under a malpractice issue. At the very least you would have every right to complain to someone higher up. You can’t just refuse to give someone accommodations for their disability that they have medical documentation for.
I have ADHD, and hear the “aren’t we all a little bit…” a lot when I meet new people. But it’s absolutely MIND BOGGLING when people say that to a deaf person. 😳
Same!
It's like dismissing the needs of a wheelchair user because "Everyone needs to sit down occasionally."
@@Hudston 100%.. You wouldn't say to a person relying on a wheelchair: "yeah, I have a hard time standing for long times, too".. :D Even if that were the case.. It's not the SAME!!
Well, I use a wheelchair because I have a hard time standing for a long time, like a whole minute @@BMoll87
I also have ADHD & I only just realized this last year that neurotypical people deal with every single ADHD symptom, but ADHDers deal with them to such a degree that it’s detrimental to normal functioning/living & that’s why so many people don’t understand. I’ve switched to explaining it as a “chemical imbalance in my brain,” but even then saying what the chemical imbalance causes brings it right back to the “don’t we all” responses.
“I’m late ALL the time.”
“Same.”
“I perceive almost everything as having the same weighted importance.”
“Prioritizing is hard.”
“I forget the simplest things & remember the most ridiculously niche things.”
“Memory is wild, right?”
“I know what I need to do, but - unless I can apply some ever changing level of novelty, interest, challenge, or urgency - it’s a crap shoot if I can get my body to actually do it.”
“I don’t wanna do the stuff I have to do either.”
“I’m extremely sensitive to judgement, rejection, & negative criticism because during my formative years many caretakers (and even doctors & researchers of the time) didn’t fully understand my condition & I wound up judged by the metrics applied to everybody else & chastised when I couldn’t keep up EVEN THOUGH I had higher levels of understanding & processing complex information.”
“Growing up isn’t easy, am I right?”
Not that you’re looking for advice, but if you can 1) simultaneously acknowledge your ADHD caused shortcomings while not using them as excuses or crutches, 2) pursue affordable ongoing psychiatric AND behavioral therapy support, & 3) surround yourself with forgiving & loving people who strive to understand, pass no judgement, & work with you instead of telling you to rise to their level, then you stand a chance to thrive.
Oh, and don’t forget to register your condition with your employer so you can pursue legal action for shitty reactions to a mental health issue/disability.
Looks like the stimulants are finally kicking in. That’s my hyperfocus for the day (hopefully). Thank you for coming to my TED Talk.
“I’m deaf.”
“Nah”
Edit: I ate a bean one time
One time at a shopping mall there was no wheelchair friendly thing so me and my friend heard someone asking a security guy if he could show him where the elevator is. And the security guy looked at the guy in the wheelchair up ajd down and asked "for what?"
🙂 If I were near them i would've said "to go to heaven easily"
It's giving my pe teacher who said I'm not asthmatic- or autistic when I started crying
@@SerynityTvan actual conversation I had:
"I'm autistic"
"Well you don't seem autistic"
"Yeah well, I'm on the verge of an autistic meltdown because everything is so loud and my shirt is touching my neck and this chair is so uncomfortable"
"Stop being dramatic"
"I'm autistic, it's not being dramatic"
"Well, I've known you for so long, I think id know if you were autistic"
People really try and tell me what I am 😂. It's ridiculous
"No, thank you"
@@snap.-_- thats crazy
I'm autistic and while I am hearing, I felt this. " oh but you can talk" " oh but you can work" it goes on and on but when I dare melt down or not mask, I get the " oh I thought you were high functioning " " I think you're playing it up now "
And then you get the "but you don't seem autistic" or the "then I must be autistic too"
💀that's not how it works!
I thought the same. My mom says that and it's like: your brothers are not like you and my grandpa, mom IT'S GENETICS! 🥹
I think a decent response to "oh you're just playing it up now" is "actually I was playing it down before"
I feel like the 'able passing' vs 'visibly disabled' (based on able folks' perception anyway .) Is maybe a universal dichotomy with all disabled folks... Like you either have to deal with people being able to see how you are different all the time, or not being able to see it, and in either scenario you won't get respect, access, support,etc..
@@unknownintp2994"then I must be autistic too" I have ADHD and I get the "everyones a little adhd" or "I do that too I guess I have it" it's not a quirk, yes sometimes it's funny when I forget simple things or when I ramble and interrupt myself but it's actually very hard to live with. It's so frustrating that people don't take mental disorders seriously. Having autism, or adhd is very frustrating and stressful most of the time and it's actually caused me to have severe depression and anxiety and it sucks when people think it's funny or quirky or they think that they have it just because they forget to eat breakfast sometimes and they can't focus on something boring one time. It's exhausting trying to explain to people who just don't understand and will never understand that I actually struggle with it and it's not a "funny quirk"
"I don't have legs"
"well, you have other body parts, so you can still walk"
44 likes and no replies? Lemme change that
Also people can become deaf after learning to speak! If someone says they're deaf, they're probably deaf, no matter how they speak.
Someone saying the classic "aren't we all X sometimes?" TO A DEAF PERSON is next level
Can we all just notice how pretty she is like you’re so pretty❤
Omg seriously! So true!
Yea she is. And sometimes that prettiness is what causes people to overlook the actual issues going on too. It's annoying
I know this is a compliment, but a lot of the times when people say this stuff to you in situations that are not about looks, it doesn’t feel good. People don’t earn beauty. It’s randomly gifted upon them through genetics. Getting compliments about that over the things you work for starts to make people feel like their efforts and achievement are minimized or overlooked by their appearance, which they have limited control over. It warps your self esteem over time, actually. It’s best to compliment people on what they do instead of what they look like.
P.s. if you’re young you may have a different perspective on this once you get older.
@@spacedaze1860possibility nr 2 you're not attractive and never got any compliment.
@@spacedaze1860 THANK YOU! Best comment of the week.
I wish more people understood this, and also that even if some deaf people can vocalize, that doesn’t mean they can speak. My second cousin and his wife are both completely deaf and while they can of course make noises, it’s mostly just grunts and other noises like that that they make as they sign. It made communication a little more cumbersome at family reunions for most people, but for my little brother and I, we had a lot more fun talking to them using our tablets because it was much less overwhelming. We had entire conversations typed out through our notes app and I’m sad that those files eventually got deleted.
Theres also people like me who werent born deaf but became it later in life. So i can speak properly because i spent 14 years with full hearing, doesbt make me any less deaf now. ❤
It'd be cool if you learned sign language too. It's so beautiful
I made a deaf friend through my notes app in a waiting room once
@@readingwithfrenchythanks this answered the question I wanted to ask. I think it’s impossible to develop such a good pronunciation without feedback, but your story explains it.
Tip for cashiers: if you have a pen and paper you can write to the deaf ppl when they need to talk to you. I did that for a long time and it's very easy.
“Its just D E A F” *jazz jands* lmao I loved that
as a deaf person myself, this is sooo relatable! 😭😭 it's so hard to explain people about this, people just refuse to understand doesn't matter how many times I've been trying to elaborate! !
Maybe it's just not something easy for us to understand? 🤔 Because we totally can't relate.
But I believe a genuinely kind person would try to understand if u tried to elaborate. If they still doesn't understand the concept behind it, at least they'll be nice and kind to u.
Sometimes we all can't understand everything. And it's okay if we couldn't understand. We ain't Google (: Just be kind to each other, that's what's important isn't it?
My niece is mostly deaf and I’m gonna start learning sign language soon
I feel this, haha.
I'm HOH and some people seem to think it means "oh, I struggle understanding people sometimes, but my ears are perfectly healthy!".
In reality, I have chronic TMJ that tends to swell my ear canals and has managed to crush some of my ear's mechanics. I primarily struggle with mid tones and soft sounds, but if the swelling is bad enough, it's like someone taped several layers of cotton batting over my ears before walking a far distance away to whisper at me.
This is sooooo helpful to know that TMJ can cause hearing issues. ❤ Thank you sm for posting this!
@@kettunainenJust to clarify, a normal flare up of TMJ won't contribute to hearing loss, and even a mildly prolonged case won't pose much of a risk.
My jaw is malformed, so for almost three decades, my jaw has been under stress leading to TMJ. The mechanics getting crushed is due to this severe and prolonged version of TMJ.
You being able to talk while deaf is really impressive to me. You cant hear yourself, yet you make sure other people can hear you. Thats really considerate and impressive
She's adorable. 🥹
A family member of mine was recently born deaf and I plan to learn some sign language… I’m bad with learning languages in general, so we’ll see how that goes haha
I'm sure she'll be so happy you're signing with her and won't mind too much if you make lots of mistakes :).
@@junbh2 Thanks for the reassurance! We’re actually not too terribly sure if she’s fully deaf now, but she’s definitely at least partially deaf. She sometimes reacts to louder noises and her parents plan to check in with a doctor to see if anything has changed in the diagnosis. Hopefully it’ll help make communication less frustrating for her. I still plan to learn as much sign language as possible, but I’m glad to know that interactions with other children will be a bit easier to deal with with her being able to hear them a little. I’m sure she would have been just fine once her peers reached an age capable of understanding her deafness, but the early years were a point of anxiety in her parents’ planning.
I’m a cashier and I’m studying asl. I love being able to communicate with the few deaf people that come in (even if I’m a little sloppy lol). It always makes them smile :)
I'm sorry if this is a bit ignorant or insensitive but I have two questions that I'm really curious about:
1. How did you learn to talkwith correct pronunciation if you can't hear your voice?
2. If you can't hear your voice, that what doyou hear when you think about something.
Thank you in advance ❤.
I did intensive speech therapy throughout my childhood and still continue to practice with a speech therapist as an adult. I don’t know what my voice truly sounds like, only through the pitches I can understand in my cochlear implant.
@@ChrissyMarshall_dw, your voice sounds really pretty :)
@ChrissyMarshall_ what age did you get your CI?
@@ChrissyMarshall_ I can assure you, you have a very sweet-sounding voice!
Also, you are quite pretty! Do you have any videos of you without makeup? I'm quite curious!
@@humansperson3404very weird thing to ask. She can show herself to the world however she chooses…
I work in customer service, and there is a regular who is deaf. I just always be sure I am facing them, and I speak to them still, tho I know it must be difficult to navigate a hearing world when you can't, so alot of times he comes to order food and I will write the questions I am asking so he can let me know what to get him. I find it simpler for both of us to communicate using a method more universal. Also, of course, facial expressions go a long way. I am naturally expressive as is, so I tend to connect easily with other people.
Wow that's amazing. Ive been told I look like a rock and my emotions dont match what I'm saying. I think you have a very valuable skill ❤
Shes adorable, protect this woman at all costs
As someone with adhd who hears “we all have a little adhd” told to me constantly, I didn’t know other people with other disabilities get told the same thing….😮
Damn i feel conflicted… cause im happy im not alone in this experience, but frustrated that others have to deal with how ANNOYING it is to hear that phrase 😅
Thx for educating tho, so hopefully all ppl with disabilities don’t have to hear that stuff anymore 😂
It happens with autistic people a large amount too
Same thing happens with anxiety. Had people tell me even anxiety isn’t really real and the time I fainted from an anxiety attack was for attention.
It’s really reassuring to see other people experience the same thing but also kinda sad
Ocd… people do this with ocd all the time, especially with contamination ocd or intrusive thoughts (since that’s kinda gone trendy recently), including my mom “well I’m a little ocd too” or “being around you has started making me ocd” which, no.
@@aphrodites-son-eros I've been told I'm not really autistic because I can talk
It doesn't have to be a disability either. I'm Black and people always constantly telling me how they're part Black like I give AF. Same with being named Hope, always telling me all their obscure relatives who have that name in some capacity. It's absolutely exhausting.
Someone I knew was deaf but you would never be able to tell since he was a master at lip reading, social ques, and would talk like he was able to his entire life.
I’m hearing impaired and I’ve worked in retail as side jobs, due to the invisible nature of my disability I always get the worst customers, once I tell them I’m hearing impaired their entire mood just 180’s but the damage’s already been done..
Precious. Love this.
Whenever i mention Im hard of hearing I just get ignored or the person says "no youre not, youre talking and understanding me right now" like yea, thats years of me practicing trying to understand people without hearing half of what they said, and I usually take a wild guess half the time on what you just said.
I'm taking an ASL class in school and I am excited to possibly be able to have a conversation with someone deaf
that's so cool. i really wanna learn asl because i mean then i could talk more easily with deaf people obvi but also because sometimes i get very overwhelmed and being able to communicate without speaking sounds like the best thing in the world
I've never met a deaf person in real life. Or maybe I just didn't realise. Is it harder for deaf people to make friends I wonder.
“Notice how it’s coming from here [my throat], & not there [my ears]” 😂 LOVE IT
This is why you need some form of sign language in school because you learn a lot about ears and how hearing is impacted on your life
Whenever i met the older generation of deaf people i always forget that theyre better lip readers or they dont sign so i sign at the same time when talking even tho ik they dont understand sign.
This is so heartwarming.
What
Ok, I'm deaf in my left ear. This happens so much and some people even go on that side on purpose making jokes. Most people say though "but you can still hear me so I can stand on that side of you".
That’s a crappy way of thinking. And besides wouldn’t it be easier to stand on the right side so you can hear us? 🤔
Dude omg I’m hearing impaired in my right ear. I can hear just not weep in that ear. When i was little kids would ask to wear my hearing aid and if I wasn’t wearing it would snap near my ear and ask if I could hear it. It was so annoying. First of all no you may not touch my hearing aid that’s gross and I’m not aloud to let anyone touch it other than my parents and doctors sometimes friends if I don’t want to lose it and I need to go on stage and not want to be overwhelmed by the loud microphone. Second I just said I can hear just not well. I can’t hear high and low frequencies I can’t barely hear my dogs if they growl if I even hear them same with high pitched noises I can’t hear some of Mariah caries high notes. Snapping is still able to be heard. Just as whispering and talking is it’s just harder.
@dolphindiver7724 yeah, but people are stupid and go on my left side on purpose..
@Youdontknowmeletskeepitthatway I swear omfg!! I can't hear high or lower frequencies.. but just before a high frequency is at the point where I can't hear it, It hurts.. ear peircing hurts. People have found that frequency in the past and played it next to my ear to annoy and hurt me. It hasent happened in a year, luckily. 💀🤘
I got an ear infection on my eadly 20's and I can barely hear from the right ear. Not a lot of people know that because I unconsciously started to read lips and match some sounds to get what peoplle are saying. My left ear compensated for the right and can now hear certain frequencies (dog whistles hurts like a b***h although I can barely hear it...what are we doing to them poor floofs?)
I really appreciate this video. This is how I feel sometimes when disclosing my disability to people.
Just to clarify because I am not sure if it has ever been calmly explained by someone before or not but the reason a lot of hearing people are confused when deaf people can talk and assume you must have more hearing left then you do is because for us learning a language is a very auditory thing, we listen to how words are pronounced and how they are used to be able to to learn to speak and while I am aware that even people who are completely deaf no hearing left at all can learn to talk it is still hard for my brain to comprehend how people could learn to speak without being able to hear the words
Thank you~
Exactly! Thank you for this comment.
Well, it is really difficult to learn to speak without hearing. Most people take many hours of speech therapy to learn even a little bit.
Speech therapy 2-4 hours a week from the age of 3 until 14 can help you learn to talk.
@MsMcwill Intellectually, I know that but it's impossible for my brain to comprehend HOW it works because my only experience of the world is only as a hearing person
In sign class today we learned this. It’s important to explore other cultures even thought they‘re „English“
Good explanation... 😂😂
This is truly stunning!
She’s so pretty 🥰
This deserves all the love and recognition.
The fact that we know she is deaf, and no one outside of America would think she isnt.
What does this mean?
I grew up in a town with a LOT of deaf people. There is a school and college here for the deaf, so I had to giggle. I've literally seen this conversation (it ended differently, though. More impactful.)
The slow awkward hand removal :) lol.
I have a similar problem, sometimes people don’t realize right away that I am profoundly DEF. But soon enough, they recognize.
i'm a half deaf person, i lost my hearing on my left ear when i was 9, and i lowkey relate!! i always have to remind my friends and family about it and my friends forget and whisper on my left ear, or stay on my left. i don't like telling anyone about it because i don't want people to think i can't do some things. like in school, i was participating in a sports fest and my house panicked because they didn't know about my impairment and thought it would affect the game. so thank you! it's great that you're spreading awareness about hearing loss, and i hope more people can understand that we're very capable, we just need some understanding!!
I'm unilaterally deaf too! My advice, is just remind people, they know who are just as capable as them, they can just forget cause it's an invisible condition.
9 yo? Can I ask how? I had a friends son go through something similar. I don’t know all the details, but he just all of sudden couldn’t hear hardly anything from one ear. I’m wondering if you had a similar experience and having dealt with it, know more about it.
She is such a hoot!! Ahh I love this so much 😂❤🙏 amazing
Man I was at church and I asked this nice older man in a wheelchair that was talking to me “hey I can’t hear you, I’m deaf can you please speak up”. Dude said “you’re not deaf… you just don’t have a relationship with God yet”. Man if I wasn’t at church and he wasn’t my elder. I’d tell me exactly where to go ❤
You're a better person than me, I would've quipped something like, "Damn you must not either if you're using that wheelchair."
id tell him his relationship with god gon be reallll close in a second
@@yaboicolleenshit I laughed. Solid comeback.
This stuff happens all the time, it's almost always like:
Disabled person: I have this disability
Non disabled person: Don't we all a bit though
It's like they are trying to relate or something but it just comes off as invalidating our struggle by trying to make it seem like it's not a struggle.
I love my deaf brother so much.
So off topic but oml you are so pretty. Like I can’t you are gorgeous ❤️
She looks like a Disney princess ❤😊
ur so pretty and ppl that act like that towards ppl who are deaf should get a kick in the arse
What a hero
Sending you so so much love 🩷💕💕💕🩷
YOU ARE SO PRETTY!!!! ☺️😁
i love it when deaf people have the bravery to talk cause so many people disregard deafness "if you can talk you arent deaf" and it doest work like that!! i think so many people disregard disability
I was married to a profoundly Deaf man for 6 years. Bruh the struggle is real. People refuse to understand. 😂
Your speech is amazing!!❤😂🎉
"Im deaf"
"No its just a phase"
Miss gurl is so pretty its giving goddess
“i’m deaf”
“no you’re not”
I love how it just flies over people's heads that some people aren't born deaf and lose their hearing.
signing with my friend in public while walking my dog, as one does. this complete stranger approaches us and waves his hand between the two of us to ask if he could pet my dog. that was obviously rude, so we both just... stared at him. what else did he do? "ohhh, y'all can't speak english, i gotchu."
It's amazing how your voice as the second partner in the dialogue sounds almost completely normal!
I love how she tought them instead of getting mad!❤
She is absolutely in the right to be mad though :) she can't spoon feed every ignorant person she comes across, I'm sure that gets tiring. But it is nice if she does take the time to explain if she feels like it
You love her free labor? 🙄
@@hopeebrown81exactly these ppl feel so entitled to answers for their ign0rant questions but then when ppl ask for payment for it then they get mad😂
Lmaoo y’all aren’t entitled to being educated 😂get a grip
She should get mad
her smile is so beautiful omg
Im in a wheelchair and was in PE back in college. The professor asked me to tell him about my condition and I explained how i was born permanently disabled and wouldnt be able to use my legs. He looked me in the eyes and said: “That’s fine! I wanna put you in our hand bike with your feet strappd in the peddles so when you move the bike with your hands it’ll teach your brain to move your legs again”
What 😅
@@AshDoesGacha_ yep lol. It’s like some non disabled people see us and their brains just break down lol.
@@Macabrebifidus37 actually i only dealt with this kind of person once the convo went like:
One of moms friends this is their friend: i will massage your feet so you can walk again some day my parents run a great physical therapy place i will make appointment for you with them so you can walk again some day! :D *very happy pleased look on their faces as the massage my feet*
Me not sure what to say: uhm y- yea! *smile but actually kinda uncomfortable*
Them: that feel good? :D
Me knowing i cannot feel below my waist still unsure what to do: *nods* yep!
Just to be clear i was uncomfortable because they just sort of grabbed my feet and set them in they're lap and started massaging them and honestly never been in that sort of situation up till that point so didnt really know how to react
@@AshDoesGacha_ that’s…that’s a whole other level of ignorance lol
@@Macabrebifidus37 actually i saw lots of traits pointing to that maybe they were bipolar or whatever thing where the moods change random and fast
She's adorable
Woah how do you have conversational intonation/inflection down so well if you haven’t heard others use it?
Two words: speech therapy plus she wears a cochlear implant device.
Cochlear implants and hearing aids can help people hear, so she could hear it using those
And also speech therapy tends to teach that
Some people become def when there older so that can also could of happened
1. she seems to have been talking before she went deaf (based on her vocabulary and annunciation)
2. cochlear implants
3. speech therapy
@@Preslie511 thank you!
Good friend of mine loved raves, best vibration for him. Awesome smile
you are so cute! I love this explanation, so sweet and informative for people out there who don't know things like this.
She is a pearl, her English is better than mine after 30 years learning.
Not to mention the looks. :-)
You're so gorgeous!!
Is this how you learned to speak so incredibly well? 💪
A girl on my softball team had a deaf mother. She always took photos, and was just a massive sweetheart. I was always trying to be kind, and not make her feel bad when i couldn't make out what she was saying. I wish her the best, she was insanely sweet. When I'd talk to her, I made it my mission to get her to laugh atleast once.
As a deaf person I felt this
shes adorable someones gotta look after her well
Success does not consist in never making mistakes but in never making the same one a second time.
I love this 😂❤ comedy gold, "I hear with eardrums and talk with me vocal chords." 😂
wait- wait oh my god she's so pretty- WAIT SHES ACTUALLY SO PRETTY 😭😭
Wow! You should be proud of yourself! I completely by accident stmbeled upon one of your videos and just had to watch of few more! It was a very interesting experience to watch how you have progressed from the beginning to how you speak now. You have a beautiful voice!
Literally, you could tell me you are deaf but can still like speak verbally, and honestly, I'd believe you. The thing is, you can tell if you are talking to people who are having a hard time understanding you. Whether that be language or impaired senses or any number of things that can contribute to people having unique communication needs. Thank you for sharing so I can further my education and understanding ❤
I'm partially deaf and still struggle and have to deal with awful eye rolling when I ask someone to slow down or raise their voice. It's hurtful when people down play deafness.
I would never do that. *hugs*
Hope you'll meet more nice people than the eye rolling ones (=
The smiling while proclaiming “profoundly deaf” 🤣
She is beautiful
As a deaf person this is so true
It is astounding in a way because hearing people do rely on hearing for voice but having a deaf friend growing up i learned theres ways to learn to talk withoutbhearing. Its awesome. Its crazy how stubborn people can be underatanding this though lol
the way i held my hand to my ear and said "hello"
I'm touching my throat while trying to sound
I don’t know sign language (yet!) but I have a client I work with who is deaf. She’s so sweet and tells me everytime that she is deaf and apologizes like it’s something she even needs to apologize for.
Even tho I don’t know sign language, I speak very slowly and deliberately with her because she lip reads. I will also “write” on her palms or write out my recommendations on paper for her to review after our appointments. She’s so sweet and a joy to have around. She’s actually one of the reasons why I’m looking for an ASL course currently that fits into my schedule so I can learn and be inclusive
This is terrific!
You are SO GORGEOUS!!! SO SO BEAUTIFUL!!! Also I am so dissapointed there are people like this 😞
You are truly just... devastatingly beautiful, so so stunning, and I needed to tell you!! 😍😍😍😍
You havre great voices !
You’re amazing
"i'm deaf i can't hear"
*proceeds to respond to everything*
YES I KNOW ABT LIPSYNCING DON'T COME FOR ME
Deaf lady here! Thank you! Thank you! I was always told, 'You hear me just fine. You're just not PAYING ATTENTION!" No Mrs X.. I'm DEAF." If your back is facing me, I got nothing. I came from a time where no matter how little hearing you had, you were expected to learn to speak and be mainstreamed.
Imagine what she could have become if she was not deaf. She is brilliant.
This reminds me the time I was using Auslan and someone thought I knew how to sign property, I just did a blank stare at him and said I knew the basics. Then told a few people I knew to get lost instead of 'thank you'. But lip reading is also fun.
SHE'S SO PRETTY
I'm going deaf from meniere's disease, most days all I hear is the ringing. When I was a baby to toddler I blew both eardrums 12 times. I spent 6 years in speech therapy. I'm just happy for the 15 years I could hear. The thing I miss most is music. Next step cochlear implants. I tried regular hearing aids but some frequencies in the vocal range are already completely gone.