Every time I watch this scene I cry. My father was a really big addict who put me and my brother threw a lot and I always yelled at him when I got older for all of the pain he caused us. Right before he got sober me and him had something just like this scene in the hotel room happen. He passed 4 years ago and boy do I miss him. Rip pop I love you. Always cherish your father if you can find a way to do so.
I'm sorry to hear that brother. This scene would mean so much to you. I understand a little. I'm lucky that my old man overcame his demons and I realise how lucky I am to have him. You keep staying strong because he watches over you.
Lex Bedelov thank you very much it means a lot bro! I'm glad you father was able to overcome it that's a wonderful thing! I am grateful every time I hear that somebody was able to do that! Much love!
What really sold this whole scene for me is Tom. His posture and reaction to Nick walking up to him almost like a child, kind of flinching and turning a bit. It does a lot for his character showing that he never really got over the shit he went through like he thought and deep down he really is still a child
One key thing I caught when I first watched this movie: When Tom opened the door to see his dad standing there drunk with a bottle in his hand, you can tell he immediately had flashbacks to his childhood. His stature, body language, and he immediately went into defense mode.
The look on the father’s face as soon as Tommy throws the quarters at him kills me every time. I don’t think I’ve ever seen such an expression of pain in film.
This movie is SO under rated. This entire film honestly is a masterpiece. I had a drunk father, I have 3 brothers, so much of this film hits home for me. This scene is master class and I had never cried so hard watching a movie before.
You can see the pain on Tommy's face after he says that to his father. After a rocky relationship with my father and whole family, I feel how hurtful it is to have these things said to you, and be on the receiving end of it. This is one of Tom Hardy and Nick Nolte's best performances. This movie is a masterpiece for brotherhood and family.
This scene brings back painful memories. Addiction is a a double edged sword. you hurt yourself and everyone around you. I remember as a kid i would hide under my bed whenever my dad would get more out of control than usual on one of his benders. he'd tear the house apart breaking shit and yelling. Sometimes hed start crying for no reason when he was especially hammered. I used to think he was just crazy but he wasn't. As an addict myself i know he was just in a lot of pain but didn't know how to deal with it. I thank God everyday for my sobriety. Its a pretty miserable existence in active addiction. Def dont miss it
I understand this. The sympathy I feel looking back, w the mistakes I’ve made, I feel shame for my judgment and wished he could have came out of it as I did
Watched this last night and this scene literally brought me to my knees. When he turns to Tommy and says "Ahab, you Godless son of a bitch, you stop the ship!" I think he see's himself in his son and is begging for an end to the circle of hate and violence that he ultimately started.
"Tommy: You're trying? Now? Where were you when it mattered? I needed this guy back when I was a kid. I don't need you now. It's too late now. Everything's already happened. You and Brendan don't seem to understand that."
First time I saw this scene; I cried. I cried so hard because it reminded me of my alcoholic father and how we fought for so long. I've never seen something that depicts the relationship between an alcoholic father and a son like this. It shook me so hard that I'm glad I saw it. I'm glad that it reminded me of the times I didn't give up on my old man when he was battling his disease/demons. R.I.P. James Allen Wright. I miss you so much.
My love and respect for you, your family and your departed father. So is that what Alcohol does to people? Cuz I drink dude, I love to drink but I drink no more than twice a week, these days once a week. I felt the addiction making me wanna drink everyday, but I don't let it. Does this shit happen to everybody? Goddamn. Anyways I am really sorry to know about your father. Please don't blame yourself, if someone is abusive all the time, you have no obligation to cater to their whims, that goes for everybody. You are not in the wrong.
This scene, especially when Paddy relapses, causes me to break. Even now while watching this, I cry because it reminds me of the life my sister and I had with our father and my current relationship with him. Because of him, my sister estranged herself from me for the last 9 years and it’s painful. The only one that stayed in my corner was my mother, who raised me. What caused the abuse and later the divide was alcohol, which in turn caused me to feel confused, depressed, self isolated, anxious, fitting the PTSD criteria, hurt and angry. What helped the pain go away is when my best friend from high school and I met the time we both left our abusive fathers and bonded like long lost brothers.
This scene, above all, makes me so grateful I never had a alcoholic father. It is so gutwrenching... it makes me (somewhat..I wont pretend to relate) feel for those out their who did have a drunk father and Im sure you feel it for real. God its amazing acting
Love this film and the firm lesson that is being taught here. Don't fuck-around when you have little kids because this is the sort of relationship you will end up with when they are adults. You will be old and your kids will hate you.
As a victim of child abuse let me say that Tom Hardy’s acting after he’s called a godless son of a bitch is fantastic. His face takes on the look of a scared little boy again. I’d like to know if that’s in the script or if it was something ad libed by Tom Hardy.
This was a GREAT but overlooked movie. I didn't even know it existed till I saw it on the shelf at a Walmart. Man. I would have seen it multiple times in the theatre. This was the best performance for all 3 of the main characters If you ask me.
you've been brainwashed by society that you should care about these bastards because they basically donated sperm to give you life. they know this that's how they keep pulling their kids back into their abuse
transgirltalks By caring about them you become compassionate and forgiving. You succeed in being better than the one who came before you. You live a life of love. By holding them in contempt and loathing their existence you become hatred and it consumes you. You become them...or worse.
@@transgirltalks1140 Idiots like you are too busy giving a shit about murderers getting off death row because of the colour of their skin, virtue signalling bullshit that spits in the face of real compassion and understanding.
Thank you. Tom is like a Spencer Tracey ( not in looks or acting style); he is in the moment. He lives it, & that takes the viewer in & makes it real. It is the stuff of magic. Sorry to be cryptic here, but this is personal knowledge: He is a kind & loving regular guy, who is still humble about his skill set & lucky lot in life. If you met and could calm down long enough, you would see what a regular young man he is. NO DIVA, no grand Movie Star. AN ARTIST, working his ass off for the best.
"Where were you when it mattered? I needed you back when I was a kid, I don't need you now." This perfectly sums up my relationship with my born again christian mother who abused and neglected me in my childhood, and now wants to reconnect in her old age. XD
I’m a recovering alcoholic … I ha a daughter who is almost 2 years old that I cannot see until I go through rehab … this hits me hard as I never ever want this to be our relationship . I’m so sorry alison. Daddy loves you so much
As a father of two kids I would say the lesson is that if you choose to be a father naturally or adopt be sure you are ready for what is coming. Raising children is a long rewarding but painstaking journey. Even do a lot research and think carefully before bringing a pet home. Far too many dogs end up in shelter for no fault except that their owners may had just adopted them based on what their unrealistic expectations
Ohh man, so hard to watch this scene brings tears to my eyes. To anyone who’s has gone through something like this with their father, may you find peace some day.
Нолти в интервью сказал , что сцена в гостинице, когда Томми обнимает своего отца была импровизацией Тома Харди. Этого не было в сценарии. Талантливый мистер Харди ❤❤❤
Yes ..Bronson,Stuart a life backwards,RocknRolla,The Take....everything with him...everything.His is my number one actor.People say that he is gorgeous and i agree,but i think that he is 1000000 times more talented than gorgeous...that's how good he really is!
What a powerhouse of a scene; and it proves once again, Hollywood ain't got a clue. Tom Hardy in Warrior and Tom Hardy in Lawless_______hollywood could've cared less. Tom is the actor to watch, his choices and talent are like no other (the closest in the past: paul newman and marlon brando of course); but Mr Hardy is unique and seeking to play all levels of parts; no tom cruise movie star path for him___he is an artist first, play actor second. Breathtaking for this Oklahoman. well done, tom
my dad, have passing away from alcoholism when i was in sophmore year in high school a few years ago, this part of this movie really hit me by surprise, it was the cold truth, nothing makes me feel more sick or mournful than to think about the cold truth of what happened. :' '(' but maybe il grow up and be a strong man like tom because of it, so maybe it was a blessing, il never know
Growing up with an alcoholic drunk is hard, as an adult it's hard not to look at them with hate for all the pain they've caused. But if you don't forgive them, you'll turn into a drunk yourself.
This scene as well as the movie was so underrated. This movie is far fictional when we compare the scenario and the real life of this kind of scenario... Broken family, unfaithful brother jealous that his alcoholic and rough father took care of his younger more talented brother that ends being abandoned at the end and has hatred and disgust...
Not only did this movie ressurect the fighting spirit of an underdog, but also the fighting spirit of an underdog director. And I'd like to give a personal thank you to Mr. Gavin O'Connor for making such a spectacular film that really shows us that there are always genuine things in this world worth fighting for.
An endearing scene, as a child how many times did TOM'S character run away from his abusive father, only for at his most need; tom hardy decides to walk toward his dad and provide the comfort that he needed. This movie is about fighting and forgiveness, an amazing film.
This scene really hits home. My father has always been an abusive alcoholic. He put me, my sister and my mother through so much pain. No amount of time will ever truly heal the wounds made by him. Funny thing is, when I got older I turned to drinking just like my dad. To try and bury the wounds left from a person you thought loved you. Just like he did from his abuse he endured from my grandfather. I'm in my thirties now and got 6 months sober. The more time goes by the more I sit back and think. In the moment of being abused you think it's the absolute worst. But that pales in comparison to the life long anxiety/depression and mountains of other feelings you get left with after the abuse stops. That's what I can't forgive. I catch myself day dreaming about the type of person I would have been and could have been had I not been abused. Probably wouldn't have the crippling depression and fear of things most don't think twice about. Again the wounds left from alcoholism that I just don't think I'll ever be able to forgive him for.
Hardest punch in the movie hits you right in the feels.
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Man, the way paddy walks away after what Tommy says. Just so defeated and broken. That walk alone crushed me.
tom hardy and Nick nolte should have won an award just on this scene alone
Every time I watch this scene I cry. My father was a really big addict who put me and my brother threw a lot and I always yelled at him when I got older for all of the pain he caused us. Right before he got sober me and him had something just like this scene in the hotel room happen. He passed 4 years ago and boy do I miss him. Rip pop I love you. Always cherish your father if you can find a way to do so.
I'm sorry for your loss mate :( stay strong bro.
thanks alot brother i appreciate it dude
I'm sorry to hear that brother. This scene would mean so much to you. I understand a little. I'm lucky that my old man overcame his demons and I realise how lucky I am to have him. You keep staying strong because he watches over you.
Lex Bedelov thank you very much it means a lot bro! I'm glad you father was able to overcome it that's a wonderful thing! I am grateful every time I hear that somebody was able to do that! Much love!
Should I forgive him then?
Oscar level performance.
haha well he DID get an oscar nom
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To good for the Oscar, Oscar is a pathétic academy
Fucking Academy!! Nick Nolte should've got an Oscar for this scene.
+CitySkin09 Agreed. Nothing against Plummer, but Nolte was friggin' amazing. He broke your heart - you could see the pain and hurt in his eyes.
Hhhhhhhh
PiCheZvara fhhh
Abso-fucking-lutely!!
PiCheZvara Plummer played a closeted homosexual who had kids but was secretly gay for decades. It’s all fucking biased AF
Such a beautiful scene with immaculate acting. Very underrated performances from Nolte and Hardy.
What really sold this whole scene for me is Tom. His posture and reaction to Nick walking up to him almost like a child, kind of flinching and turning a bit. It does a lot for his character showing that he never really got over the shit he went through like he thought and deep down he really is still a child
Flinching? Are we watching the same thing
@@robertomurri1278 We are, given that you aren't blind
OMG now I see it! He does 3 or 4 times I just thought he didn't wanna talk about the war in Afghanistan
Right on the money,this scene hits home for me, I see so much of Tom and his attitude towards his father in myself.
I’d argue that is what makes Tommy the villain, unlike Brendan he completely lets his past and his emotions toward it control him.
"Tommy, I'm really trying here..." makes me cry ffs...
It’s always to late like me and my pops he tries but now I’m responsible for my own he was never there it to late
One key thing I caught when I first watched this movie: When Tom opened the door to see his dad standing there drunk with a bottle in his hand, you can tell he immediately had flashbacks to his childhood. His stature, body language, and he immediately went into defense mode.
Agreed 🙏
Thats when he realised he didnt missed that guy
The look on the father’s face as soon as Tommy throws the quarters at him kills me every time. I don’t think I’ve ever seen such an expression of pain in film.
This movie is SO under rated. This entire film honestly is a masterpiece. I had a drunk father, I have 3 brothers, so much of this film hits home for me. This scene is master class and I had never cried so hard watching a movie before.
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You can see the pain on Tommy's face after he says that to his father. After a rocky relationship with my father and whole family, I feel how hurtful it is to have these things said to you, and be on the receiving end of it. This is one of Tom Hardy and Nick Nolte's best performances. This movie is a masterpiece for brotherhood and family.
2:55 - The pain in his eyes. Nick Nolte!!
Man...this scene makes me cry every time.
damn tom hardy says so little in the last part but you can feel the emotions so strong
awesome actor
One of the most authentic and real scenes of all time!! If this doesn't hit you in the feels you are dead inside!
This scene brings back painful memories. Addiction is a a double edged sword. you hurt yourself and everyone around you. I remember as a kid i would hide under my bed whenever my dad would get more out of control than usual on one of his benders. he'd tear the house apart breaking shit and yelling. Sometimes hed start crying for no reason when he was especially hammered. I used to think he was just crazy but he wasn't. As an addict myself i know he was just in a lot of pain but didn't know how to deal with it. I thank God everyday for my sobriety. Its a pretty miserable existence in active addiction. Def dont miss it
I understand this. The sympathy I feel looking back, w the mistakes I’ve made, I feel shame for my judgment and wished he could have came out of it as I did
Nick Nolte...such an emotive performance....unbelievable.....deserves an Oscar.
Watched this last night and this scene literally brought me to my knees. When he turns to Tommy and says "Ahab, you Godless son of a bitch, you stop the ship!" I think he see's himself in his son and is begging for an end to the circle of hate and violence that he ultimately started.
@M T he was doing wall squats.
"Tommy: You're trying? Now? Where were you when it mattered? I needed this guy back when I was a kid. I don't need you now. It's too late now. Everything's already happened. You and Brendan don't seem to understand that."
...this scene cuts deep...
Such a superb performance by Nick Nolte. I've watched this scene over and over again. So real.
First time I saw this scene; I cried. I cried so hard because it reminded me of my alcoholic father and how we fought for so long. I've never seen something that depicts the relationship between an alcoholic father and a son like this. It shook me so hard that I'm glad I saw it. I'm glad that it reminded me of the times I didn't give up on my old man when he was battling his disease/demons. R.I.P. James Allen Wright. I miss you so much.
My love and respect for you, your family and your departed father.
So is that what Alcohol does to people? Cuz I drink dude, I love to drink but I drink no more than twice a week, these days once a week.
I felt the addiction making me wanna drink everyday, but I don't let it. Does this shit happen to everybody? Goddamn.
Anyways I am really sorry to know about your father. Please don't blame yourself, if someone is abusive all the time, you have no obligation to cater to their whims, that goes for everybody. You are not in the wrong.
How alcohol is legal but cannabis is illegal is beyond a fucking joke.
Seen this movie over 200 times. Even got a WARRIOR tattoo. This scene and the one that follows are my all time favorites.
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This scene, especially when Paddy relapses, causes me to break. Even now while watching this, I cry because it reminds me of the life my sister and I had with our father and my current relationship with him. Because of him, my sister estranged herself from me for the last 9 years and it’s painful. The only one that stayed in my corner was my mother, who raised me. What caused the abuse and later the divide was alcohol, which in turn caused me to feel confused, depressed, self isolated, anxious, fitting the PTSD criteria, hurt and angry. What helped the pain go away is when my best friend from high school and I met the time we both left our abusive fathers and bonded like long lost brothers.
Heartbreaking absolutely heartbreaking.
This scene, above all, makes me so grateful I never had a alcoholic father. It is so gutwrenching... it makes me (somewhat..I wont pretend to relate) feel for those out their who did have a drunk father and Im sure you feel it for real. God its amazing acting
Kingslayer64 stfu bitch! You NOW NONHING About IT!
This scene takes my breath away. Standing ovation. Powerful.
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Nick Nolte's performance in this film and the Thin Red Line are amazing.
heartbreaking scene, nick nolte always a class act!! tom hardy is a gorgeous individual!!!!!
Love this film and the firm lesson that is being taught here. Don't fuck-around when you have little kids because this is the sort of relationship you will end up with when they are adults. You will be old and your kids will hate you.
This breaks my heart every time, both of their pain, just so real, so raw, and the father falling off the wagon because of tommy, just ouch dude
That last moment when checked how hot he was and rested his head on his, was actually heartbreaking
I can honestly think this movie is one of the greatest
Breaks my heart, every single time..
you can tell there is still love because Tommy still calls his father pop
This was a strong scene. As a child of a broken alcoholic mother, this was so spot on. Literally made me tear up.
As a victim of child abuse let me say that Tom Hardy’s acting after he’s called a godless son of a bitch is fantastic. His face takes on the look of a scared little boy again. I’d like to know if that’s in the script or if it was something ad libed by Tom Hardy.
This was a GREAT but overlooked movie. I didn't even know it existed till I saw it on the shelf at a Walmart. Man. I would have seen it multiple times in the theatre. This was the best performance for all 3 of the main characters If you ask me.
i felt so sorry for paddy in this scene.
I cried so hard in this scene . I'm a child of an alcoholic 😢...forgive don't forget. Nolte and Hardy are unforgettable in this scene. 😢😢😢
This is the best acting I've ever seen.
Best underrated movie on the planet!
Reminds me of my own dad, he's absolutley fucking useless to me most of the time, but I still somehow still feel sorry for him deep down
you've been brainwashed by society that you should care about these bastards because they basically donated sperm to give you life. they know this that's how they keep pulling their kids back into their abuse
God, that was perfectly put- the guilt of an abused, neglected child 💖
transgirltalks By caring about them you become compassionate and forgiving. You succeed in being better than the one who came before you. You live a life of love. By holding them in contempt and loathing their existence you become hatred and it consumes you. You become them...or worse.
@@transgirltalks1140 Idiots like you are too busy giving a shit about murderers getting off death row because of the colour of their skin, virtue signalling bullshit that spits in the face of real compassion and understanding.
Thank you. Tom is like a Spencer Tracey ( not in looks or acting style); he is in the moment. He lives it, & that takes the viewer in & makes it real. It is the stuff of magic. Sorry to be cryptic here, but this is personal knowledge: He is a kind & loving regular guy, who is still humble about his skill set & lucky lot in life. If you met and could calm down long enough, you would see what a regular young man he is. NO DIVA, no grand Movie Star. AN ARTIST, working his ass off for the best.
Tommy knew he went overboard here that's why when his pop's had the set back he comforted him.. Very Very emotional scene
"Where were you when it mattered? I needed you back when I was a kid, I don't need you now." This perfectly sums up my relationship with my born again christian mother who abused and neglected me in my childhood, and now wants to reconnect in her old age. XD
This is my Number 1 favorite film 🇺🇸
The man-feelings in this film are off the fucking chart.
Women: Men are weak
Men: going thru a battle like this everyday
And they wonder why we are quiet and alone 24/7 focusing on ourselves 💯🔥
Fuck em.. it'll take a real woman to realize the pain and agony.
I’m a recovering alcoholic … I ha a daughter who is almost 2 years old that I cannot see until I go through rehab … this hits me hard as I never ever want this to be our relationship . I’m so sorry alison. Daddy loves you so much
The acting in this is phenomenal
Tom hardy could totally play wolverine when Hugh jackman is done
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diferente, I know its been years since your comment, but I ve been thinking the same for years. He would be a great Wolverine.
ibringit987 he could play anything
@@jdpattack anything
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The second half is such a beautiful scene.
so real...love watching this scene...Nick Nolte made it so real.
As a father of two kids I would say the lesson is that if you choose to be a father naturally or adopt be sure you are ready for what is coming. Raising children is a long rewarding but painstaking journey. Even do a lot research and think carefully before bringing a pet home. Far too many dogs end up in shelter for no fault except that their owners may had just adopted them based on what their unrealistic expectations
Men: raising children is not rewarded until you are gone.
Women: Raising children are rewarded until you are gone.
One a the greatest scenes...EVER!!
One of the greatest scenes I’ve ever seen
Ohh man, so hard to watch this scene brings tears to my eyes. To anyone who’s has gone through something like this with their father, may you find peace some day.
Great, powerful scene. I watch this scene sometimes when I am confronted with the decision on continued sobriety. These guys are keeping me sober.
This movie is not about pain, it is about the gulf between men and their boys.
So sad that things like this happen all the time in real life.
Numerous times tom hardy shines, especially, bronson, and alfie solomon lucky boro fc liveforever by order of the peaky blinders Rkid 🎉
This was a great movie
Нолти в интервью сказал , что сцена в гостинице, когда Томми обнимает своего отца была импровизацией Тома Харди. Этого не было в сценарии. Талантливый мистер Харди ❤❤❤
Yes ..Bronson,Stuart a life backwards,RocknRolla,The Take....everything with him...everything.His is my number one actor.People say that he is gorgeous and i agree,but i think that he is 1000000 times more talented than gorgeous...that's how good he really is!
Hell, getting blasted and listening to audiobooks sounds like a pretty good way to relax
Seeing your dad in that condition is heartbreaking
Nolte was so powerful!
U can tell Tom Hardy regretted what he did when he saw paddy was drunk
I’m not crying, just some dust in my eyes
What a powerhouse of a scene; and it proves once again, Hollywood ain't got a clue. Tom Hardy in Warrior and Tom Hardy in Lawless_______hollywood could've cared less. Tom is the actor to watch, his choices and talent are like no other (the closest in the past: paul newman and marlon brando of course); but Mr Hardy is unique and seeking to play all levels of parts; no tom cruise movie star path for him___he is an artist first, play actor second. Breathtaking for this Oklahoman. well done, tom
It’s been 7 years since the war my hands haven’t stopped shaking yet god help us all
Watching this on Father’s Day 🥺
Nick Nolte deserved an Oscar for this movie.
This movies basically titanic for dudes. And some women of course but holy hell this movie gets to me and I love it
my dad, have passing away from alcoholism when i was in sophmore year in high school a few years ago, this part of this movie really hit me by surprise, it was the cold truth, nothing makes me feel more sick or mournful than to think about the cold truth of what happened. :' '(' but maybe il grow up and be a strong man like tom because of it, so maybe it was a blessing, il never know
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Growing up with an alcoholic drunk is hard, as an adult it's hard not to look at them with hate for all the pain they've caused. But if you don't forgive them, you'll turn into a drunk yourself.
"Just some old vet I train with" Yea right Tommy, you love himmmmm..
This scene as well as the movie was so underrated.
This movie is far fictional when we compare the scenario and the real life of this kind of scenario...
Broken family, unfaithful brother jealous that his alcoholic and rough father took care of his younger more talented brother that ends being abandoned at the end and has hatred and disgust...
Best MMA movie hands down
I think alot of people can relate to this scene. Cause there's alot who have or had parents that were either alcoholics or drug addicts
god damn it, who is cutting onions in here
Jake Orzel my bad lol amazing right!
"Where were you when it mattered?" Damn I felt that one.
This whole movie hits home so well In ways I can’t put too words , I hate it but love it
I will never forgive my dad for he did to my mother and my sisters. But I will always love him. Even for the monster that he was…
this scene..omg
Not only did this movie ressurect the fighting spirit of an underdog, but also the fighting spirit of an underdog director.
And I'd like to give a personal thank you to Mr. Gavin O'Connor for making such a spectacular film that really shows us that there are always genuine things in this world worth fighting for.
An endearing scene, as a child how many times did TOM'S character run away from his abusive father, only for at his most need; tom hardy decides to walk toward his dad and provide the comfort that he needed.
This movie is about fighting and forgiveness, an amazing film.
This scene deserves everything such a sad scene 💔
Damn it i thought I was a man. Shit like this got me cryin and shit. Something's wrong 😂
Christian Dinero It's ok to cry as a man.
i love this scene tommy finally confronted his past
One of the best scenes!!
Just watched this on netflix this scene is seriouly HEARTWRENCHING!
I'm Going to Literally Make These Men An Oscar Each!!!
Live through a few of these in my childhood/early adult life due to my pops
This scene really hits home. My father has always been an abusive alcoholic. He put me, my sister and my mother through so much pain. No amount of time will ever truly heal the wounds made by him.
Funny thing is, when I got older I turned to drinking just like my dad. To try and bury the wounds left from a person you thought loved you. Just like he did from his abuse he endured from my grandfather.
I'm in my thirties now and got 6 months sober. The more time goes by the more I sit back and think. In the moment of being abused you think it's the absolute worst. But that pales in comparison to the life long anxiety/depression and mountains of other feelings you get left with after the abuse stops. That's what I can't forgive.
I catch myself day dreaming about the type of person I would have been and could have been had I not been abused. Probably wouldn't have the crippling depression and fear of things most don't think twice about. Again the wounds left from alcoholism that I just don't think I'll ever be able to forgive him for.
I can`t watch this without crying...is so deep, so god performance. Impossible not be sad ;(