Sometimes i feel like I only get a crush on someone if they have a crush on me... that's probably not true, but i feel like i can intuitively tell if someone likes me, but my Ti is telling me that it isn't logical to think that they would, and there isn't enough evidence. Lol maybe I should just ask them I think the point on being seen as strong is really true. I don't like being called cute, even though it's a compliment. Cute portrays me as this soft squishy tiny weak child, thats not me! First world problems...
Oh man, this is spot on as an INFJ! Some insight if you are dating an INFJ . . . 1. I am made to feel like the grinch if I ever even mention that I don't really care about any significant day. I can't ignore that Valentines day was 100% INVENTED by Hallmark to sell cards. The santa that everybody knows and loves, was INVENTED by Coke Cola! That's why he's red and white. The list goes on about the commercialism that is holidays with most of it driven by peoples need to out do each other in either what they received or what they gave. Cough - engagement ring - cough. Don't get me wrong, I don't want to ruin them for others but I always struggle with the double standards of others. They're so intolerant of you being anything less than completely enamored with it. While I exercise complete tolerance by not only keeping my mouth shut, but usually feigning interest to complete your enjoyment of the charade, haha. 2. As you said. I believe in showing my love for someone when it matters = the days that no one sees, the other 350 odd days in the year! Often in some form of service and practicality that you may not even notice has occurred to make your life better in some way. But I have noticed myself without being prompted. Then spending many hours, tirelessly thinking about, researching and then implementing. And as you said, I don't need or want gifts. I just want it to be appreciated and that drive to help not to be taken advantage of. Not in a shrine built of my pictures, fall at my feet kind of way. Just a genuine direct thank you or I love you. 2a. Also stemming from "1", I actually completely agree with sentiments of days like valentines day. In something done just for the sole reason to make someone feel special. But I would much rather (if it was an ENFP partner for example) pick them up from work on after work, give them some loose idea of the type of clothes to pack and take them away for the weekend. That way, we both get to function in our happy place. I get to do a bit of planning of some options of what to do depending on what they feel like. They get the spontaneity. I would add that every INFJ I have ever met = this works 100% in reverse! I'm always down for an adventure if you have something you want to do. Most of the best things I have done in my life have been with good people just winging it. We are not completely adverse to getting loose. I love it but I need to trust the people I am with. Everything else can be figured out. So anyone who says that INFJ's are boring, set in their ways, too structured = I guarantee they just don't trust you or not enough yet. 3. The avocado thing = One thing you can do FOR an INFJ in that analogy = Before you tell them something. Literally treat them like a computer with a command in front of it. i.e. I just need to vent and have someone be on my side Or, I just need to vent and tell me if I'm missing something. Because as you said, INFJ's often see a situation from many angles while also intuitively knowing the most likely way something went down simultaneously. Or, I don't want to talk about it, I just need someone to listen. Or every INFJ's absolute favourite! I need a sounding board, this is what I've got, this is how I feel, this is what happened, have a think about it and get back to me, haha We can be all things, just tell us what you need. Then spew it all out. End bible. Can you tell I'm INFJ, haha.
infj's don't like grandiosity. They may be intrigued initially by others who are capable romancers. They might even fantasize about being in that mix, but at the end of the day (and after some grief), they realized that's not them or who they are. This is sort of a double-edged sword when trying to deal (have a relationship) with them. They are consistently elusive and aloof. Ask me how I know.
I don't speak for all INFJs, but personally, I wouldn't say I don't like grandiosity, but what I will say is that it can be kinda suspicious. I often wonder if the grand gesture is really meant to be _for_ me, or if it is meant to get something _from_ me instead. I'd do my best to understand the intentions behind it and go based on that.
Is this where all the INFJ's hang out?! ^.^ That's pretty cool, to see so many of the rarest type in one place! I'm an ENFP and I don't think I've ever met a INFJ in person.
You probably have and just didn't know it. Even with a low percentile of the population, the sheer number of people in most places makes it unlikely that you haven't encountered an INFJ at some point. Though it may have just been in passing-INFJs aren't the type to engage others very frequently.
INFJ's have an inner toughness at their core, and is often very useful when Se inferior becomes Se aspirational. They can access their ESTP subconscious in a healthy way. Mushy on the outside, yes :)
The setting and gestures don’t have to be big because the feelings are big. It makes those mundane things feel magical because they’re associated with the love felt. That’s how I feel anyway, I don’t know if this applies to other infj’s maybe
Yeah. I don't like attention on me. I don't like big ceremonies and displays of love in public. The whole spectacle of weddings and proposal kind of turns my stomach. Not that I don't feel deeply for the person but I also don't feel like other people should know. They don't have to know as long as I know and the other person knows my feelings. She hit the nail on the head with how people celebrate only on the holidays or birthdays. I am random because if the mood strikes or I am thinking of the person I will get something they like and usually it is useful to that person too. I think an INFJ in love is very beautiful because they exude this love. However, down side if they are dark or sad it also exudes from them. Ha ha.
I can relate to all of this! You did a really good job at explaining as well! (I thought you were not an INFJ yourself you definetly have a lot of knowledge surrounding MBTI)
This is pretty accurate. I am tearing listening to your video. Thank you for sharing this information. It's nice to listen to someone who actually reading me... oh well you're so right about the coffee mug which I received from a good friend which I use it a lot.
I think you get MBTI better than so many others. Your thoughts are so well put together. Studding it up, girl! Thanks for being such a powerhouse, and see you next time
Why am I still a black sheep even around my fellow INFJs. I'm personally a hopeless romantic and I do enjoy the small things like just being together but sometimes I like to do grand gestures.
Omg I’m the same, I’m a complete hopeless romantic, and I think large romantic gestures are great, I love celebrating the people I love and I hope they like celebrating me too! I’m not a huge fan of having gigantic party’s for myself simply because I can have social anxiety and being a host makes me nervous, but I still like my birthday, And Valentine’s Day, and Christmas, and travelling, and adventuring, and being spontaneous and getting lost, who doesn’t? Besides who are others to call those things superficial, conceded, and materialistic, their beautiful! Beauty is valuable, quality is valuable, and people who don’t appreciate the effort that goes into art are the ones who are superficial and conceded
@@queenofalltheflowers2290 Nice to know I'm not alone lol. I like your response. I have a question for you. Feel free to reject this. So my friends and I started a discord server for INFJ's and there are currently 3 of us in it because we wanted to keep it small for now and we're looking for one more member for now. Do you think you'd be interested in joining? If you are interested, reply and I'll post an invite here. Thanks. 🤗
I really enjoyed this one! You had a really good, informative flow going on and the technical things like lighting and audio were well done too. I notice your videos are getting better and better every time! As an INFJ myself, I can agree with everything you said; it's all accurate to my own experience.
would you consider making a video about common miscommunications between different types and how to effectively approach/talk to certain types and what language to avoid speaking to types.
Dude we are almost 8 billion on this earth. Of course there are people who feel and think like you. Ithink also like this. This comment is just for fun. 😂😂
7:20 this is spot on.. i mean i dont want to seem braggy but it is really really easy to read to us does someone like us or no.. but i think we tend to manipulate people without them or us realising it..
The watcher I would say yes. Being the center of attention of a group at a birthday party or worse, a surprise birthday party isn’t ideal for the INFJ. If one doesn’t celebrate their birthday they can keep themselves out of that scenario,
Real Love and compassion are really the strongest thing a soul can do and like you said the fact that people see it as weakness, especially also like you said also INFJ want to be seen as strong; is why we come off reserve. Good job, you got us.
Hey Kate ! This was extremely spot on !! Every single thing you said was true ! Thank you so much for the most perfect description of INFJs in this area ! You must've done extensive research 😛 & we truly appreciate it ❤ I enjoyed watching every second of this video ❤ (and felt incredibly understood :D )
You are spot on. Our biggest problem when it comes to romance is that we wait way too long to find the right situation to adversely ask with out asking directly. Plus the last thing we want to do is exclude anybody. Especially if the person we like might all ready have kids. Cause I am 32 and leftovers is all there is at my age. But it's my fault for not chaseing women when I was younger. Cause all I saw was the work that is needed to keep things going. Now I just don't care anymore. I just like only being called on when they need so thing fixed. Witch usealley leads into a massage, which I really like to give. But not in a sexual way although it maybe. But I do my best to control it. But truth is I know that I will probably die alone and I am learning to accept it. Btw I have only been this direct in lauange the last week or so. Cause I use to try and talk without offending or making people angry, but I realize that I have to be direct cause people do not peice things together.
so true all of it. And I think Aladdin is a good fictional INFJ (that's not an old man lol). And Jasmine an ISFJ. But neither here nor there I'm very impressed with the take. And yes, we are strong. Caring I suppose. "they take my kindness for weakness, still coming out strong". -the weeknd. Thank you for mentioning that part. we do like to be appreciated but don't really ask for it or expect/think of it.. I try to be the "real deal" in everything I do. But when I am appreciated, I definitely do feel appreciative towards that lol but yea, thank you, I appreciate your video :)
I love how my wife is like this. She enjoys long walks, deep conversations, being able to vent or share her enthusiasm about stuff. She loves to figure out what I enjoy doing and to invite me to do that with her. She'll suggest going to the archery range, or arcade, or comic book store kniwing that I'll enjoy it. I don't think she was surprised when I asked to marry me. I think she realized that I loved her maybe before I was sure myself. I like the analogy of the avocado. It fits her. She's soft and emotional on the outside but strong and determined on the inside deep down. Following the analogy, one might say that an INTJ like me is the reverse: like a Tootsiepop - hard shelled on the outside but a bit softer on the inside.
4:03 **now liked and subscribed** My ex didnt understand that im not good at giving gifts and that it gives me anxiety. Maybe if i had known how to explain it, it couldve saved us a lot of hassle... anyways back to watching the rest of the video now lol
TypeMatch: INFJs are like Avocados 😃 Me (INFJ): Ooh~ I wonder where she's exactly going with this one 🤔 TypeMatch: They are soft on the outside but have a hard core; very dense. Me: I though she was going to say "We're well rounded and delicious. Leave us out for too long and we......turn....br..~own 😅👀". Nope her explanation was better. 🤔😒🙎🏽
so basically, you are a programmer and you are releasing this app? I just have a hunch that is the case. Also, you know the INFJ modus operandi very well. You dated one before? How do you know so much?
We don't. We just don't assign value to that which is superficial and prefer an actual valuable bond with someone before pursuing romance. Being in love is not necessarily a main objective of ours. Personally, I generally just want to connect with others.
Cos we idealize too much and get disappointed later. Too much over thinking and predicting of future cos uneasiness. We can be very self sufficient ppl so if two persons mean more chaos, we choose our own peace instead
I won't speak for all INFJs, but one of the reasons I run away from it is because becoming too attached to someone is scary... opening myself up to being hurt is scary, and sometimes I think (unconsciously) I will focus on what isn't working as a way to push people away so that I don't risk getting hurt.
Hate fake romantic stuff. Red roses are the worst. Valentine’s Day is the stupidest idea ever. Was asked to marry with a ring in my stocking at Christmas in front of my family 😳 yes on useful, needed, wanted gifts.
I can be cheesy romantic to certain people who would appreciate it. My day dreaming normally has a romantic theme in one way or another. EXAMPLE: the song 'Layla' by Eric Clapton was written about(his best friend) George Harrisons wife.(who was the muse of Beatles song "something"(They had an opened relationship because, why would one of the Beatles want that?) Anyway, Clapton wound up pulling off the unachievable by marrying her... with Harrison as best man and Beatles playing the wedding... That shit is like magical.. Something about that is more than special. (Retrospect, that feeling I get from that situation has enabled a few self serving mistakes / regrets.. ) I guess, even if im not doing something romantic at the time, I do value it so much, it drives my passion for ideas or naive, fairytale like framing... I'm a late bloomer in a lot of areas... keeping my child like curiosity is important to me but an adult based logic will always be necessary for actions of change. Idk.. hope something in this chaos helps.
As an INFJ male, I never consider myself a romantic person, in fact far from it. But my t/f is almost similar, so that's why. I even don't like fiction, more interested in non-fiction or reality around the world. It makes me seem dry and aloof comparing to other feelers.
The thing is, 'romantic' is portrayed in a million different ways. Even I, an INTP, am romantic in a sense. I just can't understand how it's often approached (like, how do flowers and chocolate touch her heart? My theory: SFJs are satisfied by the 'it's the thought that counts' rather than expecting something that indicates real connection and understanding). The romantic functions are Fe, Fi, Ni, Ne, and Si imo. Every type has two of these minimum, and INFJs have their lead two as these. They won't be NFP/SFJ level, but generally they'll have the other types beat in this department.
Infj girls can do all that but for infj male romance is just not a feasible venture. I use to think that I am romantic and stuff but what I have learnt from my experience is that romantic relationship would be just a waste of my life.I just lose myself in these relationships. I would rather employ my energy into something useful. For self preservation purposes, I chose to stay away from draining romantic nonsense.
AS an infj i wish i could get my daydreamer and visions back :'( i have ptsd and since i got it it hadnt been the same and IT makes me depressed 🥺 and anxious. So much brain fog uughh! To visualise is a suoerpower and without IT my mental health has been a mess and IT has made me overwork myself and never say NO especially to idiots who treats empaths like the jar of sarepta 😐😥 Someone plz halp ! :(
Me in my room after eatin lunch: Let's see, she touches me alot, messes with her hair constantly, laughs at my cheesy dad jokes, likes spendin time with me and about 12 other things I've noticed, oh yea she's crushing really hard.. now all I have to worry about is how to let her down without makin her heart emplode like a dying star...
For me, when I'm in love and she belongs to me in the real way I'm like a dragon and his treasure, its mine and mine and mine and Not yours and if you try to take it I'll roast you alive enjoying your agonizing screams of brutal pain n agony while laughing at you, I AM a Very greedy dragon and my treasure is Mine and not yours
Me lapis: hey baby I got an idea Her unknown: what? Me lapis: let's fuse😃😃😃😃😃😃 God I'd love to be a gem, lapis is such an amazingly blutiful blue golly gee💙💙💙💙💙💙💙💙💙💙💙💙
I’m an INFP and have an INFJ boyfriend and I just had a nightmare that he proposed to me at a baseball game in front of everyone 🫣🤣🤣🤣. I know that would not happen. Lol I show him my love in everyday things like sending him real letters with perfume as often as I can… and we text throughout the day and make it a point to call and at least say “goodnight I love you” I love that even if he’s exhausted and I call (we set a specific time)… he is so sweet and never gets upset…even if I wake him up. He’s always looking for opportunities to give me little gifts and listens to my needs. Like my ninja foodi finally died and I knew he would want to help me but I didn’t ask him to help…I just told him the “funny” story of how I was making dinner and it finally died on me…. A few days later he surprised me by telling me he wants to get me a new one but I had to “promise to make him some good food” And it’s funny because I can see how he’s already thought a day and planned it out but acts like he hasn’t…he asks me what I would like to do (to see how our plans line up and to make sure what he’s planning is in line with what I want) but he doesn’t know I know this 🤫🫢 For instance… he knew I was coming to town with my kids and we didn’t have plans yet…(he already looked at the movie schedule but didn’t tell me) And he asked what I thought about taking the kids to a movie. I said that sounds nice…let me see what’s playing..he said ok… randomly and somehow our conversation spaghettied into all sorts of different movies and stuff and he mentioned how much he hates minions and I absolutely agreed with him. After we got off the phone I looked at what movies were playing and the 2 kid movies available were the DC pets cartoon movie and…minions 😂😂😂. I thought it was sweet that he already was thinking and making plans. The most beautiful part that I feel honored by is that he takes the time and thought to make plans but he allows me the space to put my thoughts and opinions out there on the matter. Often times I’ll mention something that he hasn’t thought of or an angle that’s different and he is very open minded and celebrates the different approaches. We kind of fill in the gaps. And I knew he was buying the tickets and lunch so I thought I’d help his wallet out by stopping at the gas station and getting us movie candy. It’s honestly a really amazing relationship. But we both have very good communication skills with eachother and vulnerability. I think the hardest thing for me as an INFP at first was having the patience to allow his INFJ layers to be revealed in a natural way. It was so hard…but rewarding. I could see an INFP feeling like discouraged and paranoid because the INFJ takes so long to unfold and feel upset because we are all in. And it would feel like an unjust mistrust from the infj but that’s just they way they are…and if you are patient and consistent they will be all in and not waiver. Where as the infp can be kind of wishy washy based on emotions if they are immature even if they are all in at the beginning. But he’s my best friend and we are so in love and it truly is the daily considerations…not just the texts and cards and stuff…but also respecting that we can’t talk because he isn’t feeling well or needs space or he’s burnt out from work. I want so badly to talk but I know he needs rest… that’s what love is to us…wanting the best for the other person… oh also as an INFP who holds relationships at the top priority of my convictions I would have an issue if my INFJ had issues drawing boundaries with people…if he was out “saving the world” but it was putting out relationship in neglect mode…it would cause problems. Luckily he’s pretty good about that. 🥰 (in a nutshell 😂😂 a big INFP nutshell)
As an INFJ this is so spot on! I didn't even realize wanted to be seen as strong was an INFJ thing.
Yes, this was exactly how I would describe myself. Imagining a future with everyday life experience is the way to be happy everyday.
INFJ here. I don't expect you to see this, but thank you for sounding like you actually like how we are, this is spot on
Sometimes i feel like I only get a crush on someone if they have a crush on me... that's probably not true, but i feel like i can intuitively tell if someone likes me, but my Ti is telling me that it isn't logical to think that they would, and there isn't enough evidence. Lol maybe I should just ask them
I think the point on being seen as strong is really true. I don't like being called cute, even though it's a compliment. Cute portrays me as this soft squishy tiny weak child, thats not me! First world problems...
Oh man, this is spot on as an INFJ! Some insight if you are dating an INFJ . . .
1. I am made to feel like the grinch if I ever even mention that I don't really care about any significant day. I can't ignore that Valentines day was 100% INVENTED by Hallmark to sell cards. The santa that everybody knows and loves, was INVENTED by Coke Cola! That's why he's red and white. The list goes on about the commercialism that is holidays with most of it driven by peoples need to out do each other in either what they received or what they gave. Cough - engagement ring - cough. Don't get me wrong, I don't want to ruin them for others but I always struggle with the double standards of others. They're so intolerant of you being anything less than completely enamored with it. While I exercise complete tolerance by not only keeping my mouth shut, but usually feigning interest to complete your enjoyment of the charade, haha.
2. As you said. I believe in showing my love for someone when it matters = the days that no one sees, the other 350 odd days in the year! Often in some form of service and practicality that you may not even notice has occurred to make your life better in some way. But I have noticed myself without being prompted. Then spending many hours, tirelessly thinking about, researching and then implementing. And as you said, I don't need or want gifts. I just want it to be appreciated and that drive to help not to be taken advantage of. Not in a shrine built of my pictures, fall at my feet kind of way. Just a genuine direct thank you or I love you.
2a. Also stemming from "1", I actually completely agree with sentiments of days like valentines day. In something done just for the sole reason to make someone feel special. But I would much rather (if it was an ENFP partner for example) pick them up from work on after work, give them some loose idea of the type of clothes to pack and take them away for the weekend. That way, we both get to function in our happy place. I get to do a bit of planning of some options of what to do depending on what they feel like. They get the spontaneity.
I would add that every INFJ I have ever met = this works 100% in reverse! I'm always down for an adventure if you have something you want to do. Most of the best things I have done in my life have been with good people just winging it. We are not completely adverse to getting loose. I love it but I need to trust the people I am with. Everything else can be figured out. So anyone who says that INFJ's are boring, set in their ways, too structured = I guarantee they just don't trust you or not enough yet.
3. The avocado thing = One thing you can do FOR an INFJ in that analogy = Before you tell them something. Literally treat them like a computer with a command in front of it.
i.e. I just need to vent and have someone be on my side
Or, I just need to vent and tell me if I'm missing something. Because as you said, INFJ's often see a situation from many angles while also intuitively knowing the most likely way something went down simultaneously.
Or, I don't want to talk about it, I just need someone to listen.
Or every INFJ's absolute favourite! I need a sounding board, this is what I've got, this is how I feel, this is what happened, have a think about it and get back to me, haha
We can be all things, just tell us what you need. Then spew it all out.
End bible. Can you tell I'm INFJ, haha.
It's like listening to myself yup yupyup
@@somelamename3368 yupyup
Facts.
BIG facts.
Thanks, fellow INFJ.
infj's don't like grandiosity. They may be intrigued initially by others who are capable romancers. They might even fantasize about being in that mix, but at the end of the day (and after some grief), they realized that's not them or who they are. This is sort of a double-edged sword when trying to deal (have a relationship) with them. They are consistently elusive and aloof. Ask me how I know.
I don't speak for all INFJs, but personally, I wouldn't say I don't like grandiosity, but what I will say is that it can be kinda suspicious. I often wonder if the grand gesture is really meant to be _for_ me, or if it is meant to get something _from_ me instead. I'd do my best to understand the intentions behind it and go based on that.
As an Entp i must say i love you guysss!
Is this where all the INFJ's hang out?! ^.^
That's pretty cool, to see so many of the rarest type in one place!
I'm an ENFP and I don't think I've ever met a INFJ in person.
You probably have and just didn't know it. Even with a low percentile of the population, the sheer number of people in most places makes it unlikely that you haven't encountered an INFJ at some point. Though it may have just been in passing-INFJs aren't the type to engage others very frequently.
@@AmayIia I've met some online and talked to them, but never otherwise.
INFJ's have an inner toughness at their core, and is often very useful when Se inferior becomes Se aspirational. They can access their ESTP subconscious in a healthy way. Mushy on the outside, yes :)
Yessss when our inner core reveals outside, I spot people get surprised much.
I love that!! Weakness into Strength!! That gets me PUMPED for some self growth. "Se Aspirational" that's sooo dope! It's gives me such hope.
I can't believe you've explained what I could never explain about myself. Thank you
The setting and gestures don’t have to be big because the feelings are big. It makes those mundane things feel magical because they’re associated with the love felt. That’s how I feel anyway, I don’t know if this applies to other infj’s maybe
Yeah!
100%
Yeah. I don't like attention on me. I don't like big ceremonies and displays of love in public. The whole spectacle of weddings and proposal kind of turns my stomach. Not that I don't feel deeply for the person but I also don't feel like other people should know. They don't have to know as long as I know and the other person knows my feelings. She hit the nail on the head with how people celebrate only on the holidays or birthdays. I am random because if the mood strikes or I am thinking of the person I will get something they like and usually it is useful to that person too. I think an INFJ in love is very beautiful because they exude this love. However, down side if they are dark or sad it also exudes from them. Ha ha.
I can relate to all of this! You did a really good job at explaining as well! (I thought you were not an INFJ yourself you definetly have a lot of knowledge surrounding MBTI)
This is pretty accurate. I am tearing listening to your video. Thank you for sharing this information. It's nice to listen to someone who actually reading me... oh well you're so right about the coffee mug which I received from a good friend which I use it a lot.
The answer is yes. They are in denial about it tho. They love quality time, words & gifts/acts of service.
I think you get MBTI better than so many others. Your thoughts are so well put together.
Studding it up, girl!
Thanks for being such a powerhouse, and see you next time
Why am I still a black sheep even around my fellow INFJs. I'm personally a hopeless romantic and I do enjoy the small things like just being together but sometimes I like to do grand gestures.
Omg I’m the same, I’m a complete hopeless romantic, and I think large romantic gestures are great, I love celebrating the people I love and I hope they like celebrating me too! I’m not a huge fan of having gigantic party’s for myself simply because I can have social anxiety and being a host makes me nervous, but I still like my birthday, And Valentine’s Day, and Christmas, and travelling, and adventuring, and being spontaneous and getting lost, who doesn’t? Besides who are others to call those things superficial, conceded, and materialistic, their beautiful! Beauty is valuable, quality is valuable, and people who don’t appreciate the effort that goes into art are the ones who are superficial and conceded
@@queenofalltheflowers2290 Nice to know I'm not alone lol. I like your response. I have a question for you. Feel free to reject this. So my friends and I started a discord server for INFJ's and there are currently 3 of us in it because we wanted to keep it small for now and we're looking for one more member for now. Do you think you'd be interested in joining? If you are interested, reply and I'll post an invite here. Thanks. 🤗
I really enjoyed this one! You had a really good, informative flow going on and the technical things like lighting and audio were well done too. I notice your videos are getting better and better every time! As an INFJ myself, I can agree with everything you said; it's all accurate to my own experience.
would you consider making a video about common miscommunications between different types and how to effectively approach/talk to certain types and what language to avoid speaking to types.
Why do I always find difficulties in order to summarize the things / speeches etc? I always go in details. Do you people face the same?
Dude we are almost 8 billion on this earth. Of course there are people who feel and think like you. Ithink also like this. This comment is just for fun. 😂😂
In short, because of this, yes its either 1 word or too many words.
It's because we have to know how, when, where, and why something works. You are not alone my INFJ friend.
This is so much more relevant to me than most other definitiions.
yes romance= theater, symphonies, good restaurants. walks along beaches, parks. campfires.
7:20 this is spot on.. i mean i dont want to seem braggy but it is really really easy to read to us does someone like us or no.. but i think we tend to manipulate people without them or us realising it..
OMG i feel like you're talking about me. Is it common that INFJs don't like to celebrate their birthday ?
The watcher I would say yes. Being the center of attention of a group at a birthday party or worse, a surprise birthday party isn’t ideal for the INFJ. If one doesn’t celebrate their birthday they can keep themselves out of that scenario,
Yes it is common I also don't celebrate my birthday.
Same
Where was this when I needed it two months ago? Great post
Real Love and compassion are really the strongest thing a soul can do and like you said the fact that people see it as weakness, especially also like you said also INFJ want to be seen as strong; is why we come off reserve. Good job, you got us.
Hey Kate ! This was extremely spot on !! Every single thing you said was true ! Thank you so much for the most perfect description of INFJs in this area ! You must've done extensive research 😛 & we truly appreciate it ❤ I enjoyed watching every second of this video ❤ (and felt incredibly understood :D )
Yeah, so true. I am not into traditional romance. I would love to erase Valentine's Day from the calendar.
I'm an INFJ and I like holidays and birthdays, because it's a reason to get together and have a cozy time in each other's company.
You are spot on. Our biggest problem when it comes to romance is that we wait way too long to find the right situation to adversely ask with out asking directly. Plus the last thing we want to do is exclude anybody. Especially if the person we like might all ready have kids. Cause I am 32 and leftovers is all there is at my age. But it's my fault for not chaseing women when I was younger. Cause all I saw was the work that is needed to keep things going. Now I just don't care anymore. I just like only being called on when they need so thing fixed. Witch usealley leads into a massage, which I really like to give. But not in a sexual way although it maybe. But I do my best to control it. But truth is I know that I will probably die alone and I am learning to accept it. Btw I have only been this direct in lauange the last week or so. Cause I use to try and talk without offending or making people angry, but I realize that I have to be direct cause people do not peice things together.
Wow, this is so true, I even told my mom few days ago that if I date anyone in future, then I will do grocery dating.
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Great insight.
so true all of it. And I think Aladdin is a good fictional INFJ (that's not an old man lol). And Jasmine an ISFJ. But neither here nor there I'm very impressed with the take. And yes, we are strong. Caring I suppose. "they take my kindness for weakness, still coming out strong". -the weeknd. Thank you for mentioning that part.
we do like to be appreciated but don't really ask for it or expect/think of it.. I try to be the "real deal" in everything I do. But when I am appreciated, I definitely do feel appreciative towards that lol but yea, thank you, I appreciate your video :)
I love how my wife is like this. She enjoys long walks, deep conversations, being able to vent or share her enthusiasm about stuff. She loves to figure out what I enjoy doing and to invite me to do that with her. She'll suggest going to the archery range, or arcade, or comic book store kniwing that I'll enjoy it.
I don't think she was surprised when I asked to marry me. I think she realized that I loved her maybe before I was sure myself.
I like the analogy of the avocado. It fits her. She's soft and emotional on the outside but strong and determined on the inside deep down. Following the analogy, one might say that an INTJ like me is the reverse: like a Tootsiepop - hard shelled on the outside but a bit softer on the inside.
"Be next to you doing life". I said that verbatim to my last gf, before I knew anything about mbti or being a INFJ. 👀 ok you have my attention.
As an INFJ myself, she's completely right!
The best for me is when I come home and my wife jumps into my arms. It's not a big thing or even everyday occurence but it is that get right for me.
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My ex didnt understand that im not good at giving gifts and that it gives me anxiety. Maybe if i had known how to explain it, it couldve saved us a lot of hassle... anyways back to watching the rest of the video now lol
The way you emphasized with your body language how alladin talked about jasmine made me think you wanted to feel that way too.
As an INFJ, I don’t like holidays
Omg, the Aladdin comparison is so accurate 😂
Extreme INFJ here: great video! youre beautiful by the way....
TypeMatch: INFJs are like Avocados 😃
Me (INFJ): Ooh~ I wonder where she's exactly going with this one 🤔
TypeMatch: They are soft on the outside but have a hard core; very dense.
Me: I though she was going to say "We're well rounded and delicious. Leave us out for too long and we......turn....br..~own 😅👀". Nope her explanation was better. 🤔😒🙎🏽
Great channel. Subed
This is beyond accurate, i must say.
100% accurate - every single sentence.
Spot on
This makes a lot of sense; thanks.
Infj here-spot on👍❤️
U r a lovely person. Wish I’d met someone like you when I was younger. I could have loved you soooo much.
Spot on! ☺️❤️
Hi I am a male You are really good at this you just told my total personality wow
8-11 good points.
💯 spot on...
so basically, you are a programmer and you are releasing this app? I just have a hunch that is the case. Also, you know the INFJ modus operandi very well. You dated one before? How do you know so much?
Why do INFJs run away from love and romance ultimately!
We don't. We just don't assign value to that which is superficial and prefer an actual valuable bond with someone before pursuing romance. Being in love is not necessarily a main objective of ours. Personally, I generally just want to connect with others.
perhaps we do...@rubani haque why do you ask?
Cos we idealize too much and get disappointed later. Too much over thinking and predicting of future cos uneasiness. We can be very self sufficient ppl so if two persons mean more chaos, we choose our own peace instead
We've also been hurt badly and can see a scenario playing out before it's done, we notice patterns, so are quick to protect ourselves!
I won't speak for all INFJs, but one of the reasons I run away from it is because becoming too attached to someone is scary... opening myself up to being hurt is scary, and sometimes I think (unconsciously) I will focus on what isn't working as a way to push people away so that I don't risk getting hurt.
Hate fake romantic stuff. Red roses are the worst. Valentine’s Day is the stupidest idea ever. Was asked to marry with a ring in my stocking at Christmas in front of my family 😳 yes on useful, needed, wanted gifts.
This is so me...
I can be cheesy romantic to certain people who would appreciate it. My day dreaming normally has a romantic theme in one way or another. EXAMPLE: the song 'Layla' by Eric Clapton was written about(his best friend) George Harrisons wife.(who was the muse of Beatles song "something"(They had an opened relationship because, why would one of the Beatles want that?) Anyway, Clapton wound up pulling off the unachievable by marrying her... with Harrison as best man and Beatles playing the wedding... That shit is like magical.. Something about that is more than special. (Retrospect, that feeling I get from that situation has enabled a few self serving mistakes / regrets.. ) I guess, even if im not doing something romantic at the time, I do value it so much, it drives my passion for ideas or naive, fairytale like framing... I'm a late bloomer in a lot of areas... keeping my child like curiosity is important to me but an adult based logic will always be necessary for actions of change. Idk.. hope something in this chaos helps.
True, for me I'm an INFJ Virgo with Virgo rising......🤔😂 I won't spill the beans, but all together it's 'interesting'.........🤣
As an INFJ male, I never consider myself a romantic person, in fact far from it. But my t/f is almost similar, so that's why. I even don't like fiction, more interested in non-fiction or reality around the world. It makes me seem dry and aloof comparing to other feelers.
Same here. I do not read fiction and prefer documentaries over your typical fiction movies.
The thing is, 'romantic' is portrayed in a million different ways. Even I, an INTP, am romantic in a sense. I just can't understand how it's often approached (like, how do flowers and chocolate touch her heart? My theory: SFJs are satisfied by the 'it's the thought that counts' rather than expecting something that indicates real connection and understanding).
The romantic functions are Fe, Fi, Ni, Ne, and Si imo. Every type has two of these minimum, and INFJs have their lead two as these. They won't be NFP/SFJ level, but generally they'll have the other types beat in this department.
Wow! it's very true for me!!!
You know me more than my x 😂
Infj girls can do all that but for infj male romance is just not a feasible venture. I use to think that I am romantic and stuff but what I have learnt from my experience is that romantic relationship would be just a waste of my life.I just lose myself in these relationships.
I would rather employ my energy into something useful. For self preservation purposes, I chose to stay away from draining romantic nonsense.
I AM
Great video!
I have question about the app:
In what range does the app search for members around my location? How many kilometers?
Omg yes terrible when u find that the test make sense of u as a person. Yes it’s true. Daily everyday things
AS an infj i wish i could get my daydreamer and visions back :'( i have ptsd and since i got it it hadnt been the same and IT makes me depressed 🥺 and anxious. So much brain fog uughh!
To visualise is a suoerpower and without IT my mental health has been a mess and IT has made me overwork myself and never say NO especially to idiots who treats empaths like the jar of sarepta 😐😥
Someone plz halp ! :(
Me in my room after eatin lunch: Let's see, she touches me alot, messes with her hair constantly, laughs at my cheesy dad jokes, likes spendin time with me and about 12 other things I've noticed, oh yea she's crushing really hard.. now all I have to worry about is how to let her down without makin her heart emplode like a dying star...
next to an ENTp they might appear this way..
A little note in your lunchpail goes a long way for and I NFJ just saying
What is INFJ???
For me, when I'm in love and she belongs to me in the real way I'm like a dragon and his treasure, its mine and mine and mine and Not yours and if you try to take it I'll roast you alive enjoying your agonizing screams of brutal pain n agony while laughing at you, I AM a Very greedy dragon and my treasure is Mine and not yours
Me lapis: hey baby I got an idea
Her unknown: what?
Me lapis: let's fuse😃😃😃😃😃😃
God I'd love to be a gem, lapis is such an amazingly blutiful blue golly gee💙💙💙💙💙💙💙💙💙💙💙💙
Fuck Yea Steven universe
Not really
True that “romantic” seems fakeness
I’m an INFP and have an INFJ boyfriend and I just had a nightmare that he proposed to me at a baseball game in front of everyone 🫣🤣🤣🤣. I know that would not happen. Lol
I show him my love in everyday things like sending him real letters with perfume as often as I can… and we text throughout the day and make it a point to call and at least say “goodnight I love you”
I love that even if he’s exhausted and I call (we set a specific time)… he is so sweet and never gets upset…even if I wake him up.
He’s always looking for opportunities to give me little gifts and listens to my needs. Like my ninja foodi finally died and I knew he would want to help me but I didn’t ask him to help…I just told him the “funny” story of how I was making dinner and it finally died on me…. A few days later he surprised me by telling me he wants to get me a new one but I had to “promise to make him some good food”
And it’s funny because I can see how he’s already thought a day and planned it out but acts like he hasn’t…he asks me what I would like to do (to see how our plans line up and to make sure what he’s planning is in line with what I want) but he doesn’t know I know this 🤫🫢
For instance… he knew I was coming to town with my kids and we didn’t have plans yet…(he already looked at the movie schedule but didn’t tell me)
And he asked what I thought about taking the kids to a movie. I said that sounds nice…let me see what’s playing..he said ok… randomly and somehow our conversation spaghettied into all sorts of different movies and stuff and he mentioned how much he hates minions and I absolutely agreed with him. After we got off the phone I looked at what movies were playing and the 2 kid movies available were the DC pets cartoon movie and…minions 😂😂😂. I thought it was sweet that he already was thinking and making plans. The most beautiful part that I feel honored by is that he takes the time and thought to make plans but he allows me the space to put my thoughts and opinions out there on the matter. Often times I’ll mention something that he hasn’t thought of or an angle that’s different and he is very open minded and celebrates the different approaches. We kind of fill in the gaps.
And I knew he was buying the tickets and lunch so I thought I’d help his wallet out by stopping at the gas station and getting us movie candy. It’s honestly a really amazing relationship. But we both have very good communication skills with eachother and vulnerability. I think the hardest thing for me as an INFP at first was having the patience to allow his INFJ layers to be revealed in a natural way. It was so hard…but rewarding. I could see an INFP feeling like discouraged and paranoid because the INFJ takes so long to unfold and feel upset because we are all in. And it would feel like an unjust mistrust from the infj but that’s just they way they are…and if you are patient and consistent they will be all in and not waiver. Where as the infp can be kind of wishy washy based on emotions if they are immature even if they are all in at the beginning. But he’s my best friend and we are so in love and it truly is the daily considerations…not just the texts and cards and stuff…but also respecting that we can’t talk because he isn’t feeling well or needs space or he’s burnt out from work. I want so badly to talk but I know he needs rest… that’s what love is to us…wanting the best for the other person… oh also as an INFP who holds relationships at the top priority of my convictions I would have an issue if my INFJ had issues drawing boundaries with people…if he was out “saving the world” but it was putting out relationship in neglect mode…it would cause problems. Luckily he’s pretty good about that. 🥰 (in a nutshell 😂😂 a big INFP nutshell)