@@WoodenThingsAndStuff I saw your first video a month ago. Now I saw this and subscribed. You remind me of a friend I had when I was studying woodworking. He got away from all of this after he got treatment. He started to seek solution once his daughter was born and for him too, he realised he was running away from something with all that destructive behaviour. It was quite a long journey and it still is, but he has stayed on his path. I believe you can as well.
And life doesn’t care about you being drunk or sober and will come at you with what it’s got regardless. At least now when things happen (good or bad) you can be sure you’re more capable of handling and actually dealing with them instead of coping with booze.
CONGRATULATIONS brother. 10 years cocaine free here, all i can say brother is you have started on a lifelong journey, you are strong, you are loved and you are valued.
Hard to avoid it when you have a contact who can easily get it but I was tired of losing $$$ and not having a return on my investment, which I should say the investment would be my life, but we never think of that part. Been a couple months which is pretty damn good for me and have no urge to go back.
Hey man, total stranger here that happened upon your channel this morning. I recognize your struggle and internal conflict, going through it myself. Almost died in a motorcycle accident last year (alcohol was a huge factor) and it changed my life. 16yrs active-duty military, wife and kids… almost gone in an instant. Sobriety has been challenging, but only good things have come from it. If I may offer some things I’ve learned: -Diet and exercise are necessary. Not some intense program, but a small (and deliberate) choice in what you’re eating/doing will make enough of a difference over time that you will WANT to do more. It just happens. -Happiness doesn’t just arrive, but you may find that you’re calmer on the inside. Use it to gain an understanding of yourself. That perspective will open doors to finding happiness in places you may not expect, usually from things right in front of you. -Take the wins. Be sure to acknowledge your successes (particularly regarding sobriety) and say the words out loud. It’s okay to feel good about the little things AND the big things you’ve accomplished. Best of luck to you. I’ve subscribed and I’ll keep checking in on your content. You seem like a good dude.
Complete stranger here that randomly found your last video. You are incredibly brave for putting this out to the world and I’m proud of you from just seeing your last two videos. Alcoholism and depression has affected my family as well but support and communication is key. Are you talking to a therapist? I did not grow up talking of my feelings but it is beyond helpful. Take care and I’ll be keeping an eye on you going forward!
It takes a little time but keep pushing through man. You stopped a destructive coping mechanism and recognized there’s an underlying reason. That’s a huge step. We’ll be here for you the whole way!
Congrats! Coming up on 5 years here.. it does get easier. It does get better.. I was afraid of AA for the longest time but I’m so glad I found a group and developed a network of guys that think like I do and can call me on my BS.. slow and steady buddy 👊🏻
The universe conspires... never watched your stuff before but here I am. Alcohol-free since August 5th. Have a lot of "me" to work on including starting to see a counselor in a couple weeks. For what it's worth, I can totally relate that things don't seem "better". But they really are, better. Just acknowledging there's a problem and taking this life change step is "better" than continuing an old pattern. Some advice given to me, in regard to the emotional nature of a life change: "When you're going through hell, just keep going." Just. Keep. Going!
Take the time to hangout and talk with your kid if you live in the same area. My father has came to my house everyday after he gets off work so we could see each other and discuss how our day was since I first moved out at 17, I'm 37 now. I don't think he realizes how much I enjoy getting to do this with him and I'm glad he's my father. Dear 'ol dad has had his own bodyshop for the last 40 years so he comes by pretty late and he's really good at his job, lol.
@ he has gone in to detox since I wrote that, and yesterday was the “bad detox day” at 48 to 72 hrs in. It was important for me to be there for him, and I think it helped. I am more optimistic for his future now. Thanks for taking the time to comment.
I’m impressed by your honesty. You are on a path of discovery. Give it time and find help. One day at a time is important. My 18 months of sobriety has taught me you are not alone. Stay strong!
4.5 years for me. Funny thing is the first 6 months of sobriety for me was ten times worse than the years of being a stupid drunk. But it gets better, slowly, I promise. It sucks cuz I thought sobriety would fix everything in my life but it only fixed one problem. Luckily it was the biggest problem.
A lot of sober guys try to sell abstinence as being the best thing ever. Then when people get sober they realise life is still tough and stressful. I think its better to be realistic about sobriety, in that life is still hard and will involve things going wrong.
I stopped a week before I saw your video, and I've been working so much that it helped me stay sober for a month also. Stay strong, and we can get through this.
Life is going to be harder because you wont have alcohol to insulate yourself from everything. Sleeping is just your body adjusting and being sad is just you waking up to the real world. You wont notice liquor stores after a while. Once you readjust you will see how active and productive you will become. I can see you are struggling. Hang in there. 20 years and counting. Love from Spain
I am not going to lie, the first 30 days are the hardest. Your honesty is awesome and well help bring happier days. It's true for all of us, when we quit drinking liquor stores and beer ads suddenly seem to be everywhere. You got this. It's cheesy but very true.... One day at a time.
Disclaimer: I never really had a problem with alcohol, I "only" drank too much. So my experience may not be representative for a problematic drinker. But for me after about 2 months some weird changes happened. The brain started to change. And after listening to Huberman and Peterson explaining how alcohol works long term, it made sense that it took a while for the effect to kick in. So when you are still struggling, there is probably a peak ahead of you after which things become a little more downhill, a little easier.
Fellow woodworker here. 67 yo and one who’s been on fluoxetine for years for depression. Sleeping is essential. I often get up early but nap later because I recognize when I’m tired. I do not drink or drug and am a new subscriber because you are now sober. Let’s see what we can do together in a new reality.
Sir, if I may, I'm not much of a woodworker but I know about the subject at hand and I'm just a little younger than you so I thought I'd chime in to say 2 things. If you've been taking a medication for years to treat a problem you still have, that's a failure. Time to rethink. After all of you're not living right, what exactly are you asking of the drug? And reality isn't going to be any different now that you've decided to be sober. I'm sure you know that but it could launch false or mal adjusted hopes to not see it for what it is. And I really hope you don't get involved with AA. No offense to them but the whole "it's not my fault I have a disease " is just a lame attempt to dodge reality.
@@WoodenThingsAndStuff I treated depression the same way for a while - I think it's okay to do if you don't let it keep you in that nasty pattern. Use it as a transition.
@@WoodenThingsAndStuff”can’t drink if you’re sleeping” is just fine this early on. Folks in AA have a saying (just kidding, they have A LOT of sayings) that goes “fake it till you make it”. Staying clean is always the best choice, even when it doesn’t seem/feel like it.
Hats off to you for sharing your struggle and honesty. I have not touched a drop in 16 years. I’d never believed 16 years ago it would be possible to accomplish the things I have. A person learns a lot about himself during the journey. Cheering for you brother!
Don't let that idea that "things are no better " fool you. I lost five years of sobriety thinking that, and until very recently had been back at it for years now. Things WERE better and I didn't appreciate it. I'd be willing to bet things are better for you too. Just not having to deal with the crap alcohol causes makes it better.
First off. Congratulations on one month. I think that’s huge. Proud of you. There is no shame in seeking some mental health help. It has helped me in the past. I didn’t think I needed it and could handle it on my own but was talked into it. Anyway it can help. You don’t know me but trust me. It’s worth it, for you.
Absolutely putting this out publicly is a powerful way to keep yourself accountable. Shake the negative habit. Seek to heal/treat the underlying issue(s). You're clearly a decent, talented, and most importantly a worthwhile person. Keep it up!
This was a great video, man. Thank you so much for it. The way you indexed how their was/is an underlying problem below the alcoholism resonates with me profoundly and I think many many other people. Your transparency is commendable.
I think AA only really helps those who are already religious or thinking about it. I personally hated AA, because of the religious sub messages. I got a counselor that had been through similar addiction problems and that was a much better experience.
XXXVIIII years in AA as an agnostic, once you become a junkie/drunk the booze is the primary problem- it’s why you’re a drunk. Good luck kid it takes a few years before you’re in a place to deal with that you were a mope.
@@DrewDiaz I’m just saying it helped me to talk to someone about why I drank. It doesn’t have to be AA. I’m 4 years sober now, will I drink again? I don’t know but I know where that path leads. I get up each day and think about the important people in my life. And how I could easily loose all of them. It’s hard some days. I’m not a religious person but I have to keep strong willed for them and myself. I wish you all the best ✌🏾
@@jmoe6402 by the time I was 16 I was a daily drinker & I drank because I was a drunk, not because I had a scary second grade teacher- that’s what I’m saying. In 38 years I’ve known a lot of folks who tried & failed on their own, who stopped going to meetings and ended back on the pipe or the bottle, and never got right because they thought they were unique…
The food part is easy…go carnivore..it’s has made me extremely happy all the way around.. Food is a large part of life and does not need to be complicated.. carnivore is easy… eat to live instead of living to eat.
When I got off drugs one of the things I did was ride my bike down this big ass hill in my neoghborhood as fast as I could, and then I would get off and push the bike back up the hill and I swear it was what made the difference for me. It helped me sleep which was the toughest part of it, for me.
Always coming back to see how you are doing. Family and I are wishing you all the best, knowing it's not easy and admiring the effort and bravery to do this so openly. Thank you for helping some of use not feel so alone.
Brother, great job so far! Sounds like you're doing some more reflection, reflection is great! Can I suggest swapping some of your nap sessions for walking sessions? Simply go for a nice long walk at any old pace. Look for gratitude in the trees you pass which provide you such a great outlet in the way of your woodwork. Breathe that fresh air. It like two bird with one stone, decompress and add some healthy physical activity to your day! Keep it up, you brave soul! You've got a little army in your corner!
You are amazing, just realizing the changes you have to make are big stepping stones. Finding a new route home with no liquor stores is huge and means you have the ability to beat this. Its still early in your new life and sleep is better than booze! Stay busy and stay positive!
keep it up. For me, I got on antidepressants, did a truckload of counseling and quit drinking. For me, all of those things went hand in hand. Stay strong.
I just saw your post a month ago. I'm so glad to see this video. It's not quite the same, but I just quit weed fairly recently after 20 years of smoking when ever I could. I live in Oregon and that means toking every 30 minutes. Thank you man for opening up to us and being a pillar of strength for the rest of us. God Speed!
Alcohol, food, sleep are good distractions to keep you away from completing projects. The desire for having the perfect project is overwhelming and sometimes getting wasted is an excuse to keep us away from finishing that project that you’re not satisfied with. I think my problem is the obsession with having everything perfect and the best.
Congrats on 1 month! That's a huge deal. Please keep us updated on how it's going. It really helps people who happen to be going through the same thing.
Well done … super proud of you Sir!!!! ❤❤❤🎉🎉🎉 One day at a time. Clarity of a sober mind will help you to fix what’s making you as or seek help to fix what’s making you sad. Sober is a massive accomplishment my friend, recognise the good every day. Not drinking each day is a huge massive win!! Xxx
Wow! I’m so proud of you, I know this wasn’t easy, but it’s a big accomplishment and you can celebrate that. Sleep is normal right now and that’s ok your body needs that right now and it won’t last long. You’re doing great, and making good decisions, just be patient with yourself and be kind to you. You’re amazing!
In early sobriety it felt, for a long time, like my mental health was getting worse-- not better. There was so much that I was angry about. So much that I wasn't working through while I was drinking. All of that had to be confronted. When you are drinking to treat anxiety, you are not treating the anxiety-- only paying the interest on it. But all of that gets better with time and effort my brother, and having a hobby that you're passionate about gives you a head start in this regard; a lot of newly sober guys don't have a hobby, and it is recommended that they pick one up as an urgent priority. Action is a great remedy for sobriety-related discomfort.
I just came across this series of videos and wanted to say congratulations. Seems you have a very clear perspective on yourself, your challenges, and where you need to get to. I hope you realize just how big of an advantage that is for you. The term "You got this" seems trite... but you do. One more human out here who is rooting for you.
congrats on the 1 month being sober, sounds like you need AA, and get a sponsor and start a twelve step program it has helped me for 38 years clean and sober, just take it one day at a time
Right on he needs the program and a sponsor for sure! Need a support team otherwise, your bouncin around on the wagon and a big bump could be a big fall.
I think Steve O said he resents it when people call alcoholism a disease. He very wisely said that alcoholism is just a symptom of the actual underlying disease that causes it, like depression, etc.
MAN, you are right about alcohol intake. Alcohol, food, sex, games, spending or whatever we use is for self-medication. It is an attempt not to drown. On the other hand alcohol is a depressive agent so it was making you feel worse in the long run. Keep up this game :D
You are so brave and I love you for being so open to share this battle. So many are struggling so know you are not alone and keep being a light for yourself and others 💕
Dude, go to a meeting. It helps. Get a Big Book. As far as confronting the roots of your depression, that's something only you can sort out. Identify it and apply as many perspectives to it as you can, understand it and let it go. Weigh issues against time. How long will this effect me? A day, a year, forever? Don't give up on sobriety. It becomes a powerful thing the longer you go. Good luck!
One thing that really helped me quit the booze, was eating a lot more fruit to not only soothe those sugar cravings that come with, but to also help repair and rebuild the body and mind.
It's weird how much I crave sugar. Was never really a "sweets" guy, always more of a "salty" but the past month has been all about the cookies and chocolate. Fruit is a good idea. Thank you.
@@WoodenThingsAndStuff You’re welcome! Fruit does take the cravings away, (the more you can eat the better imho) It’s tough for a week or so especially if you normally don’t eat fruit, but then the body shifts and you really start to look forward to it every day. Good luck and God Speed to you my Brother.
Thank you for your honesty. I hope you stick with it and that it will become more satisfying over time, as it did for me. The first month was the hardest. What helped me was eating better and going for long walks in the mornings and/or evenings to clear my head. Your comment section is great, use it for what it's worth. I never made a video but get a lot of help myself reading the comment section of other people's sobriety videos. Onwards and upwards!
I'm 1 year sober on October 29th and I want to let you know that it does get better with time. I had to get used to "staring into the abyss" so to say. Its a really hard to go sober because when you are unhappy or want to run from your problems you cant, you have to face them head on. But in the end it makes you stronger and It is absolutely worth the trouble and the pain. Getting sober and eating healthy were the best things I ever did for myself. Hang in there.
I really appreciate these vids. It took me at least three months to feel 50% human. Sober people I respect suggested not to worry about what i ate, how much I slept, etc. Having an alcoholic mind, all I ever thought about was what I was effing up - all those reasons to drink. I went to bed at 6pm for a month not to drink, the healthiest option in front of me. Keep on brother. It takes what it takes. It takes time. And time takes time.
Stumbled upon your video after your accident, I appreciate your journey and honesty! You are doing great! One day is a miracle and you have managed to string over a month of those miracles together! You have great insight! The skills and behaviors will come, just keep working! Thanks for making my day!
Wow! I love your courage and strength. You are amazing! You are not only helping yourself by making these changes, but you are putting it out there for others to walk through it with you. You're going to get support from your followers, as well as helping others who need to take the same steps you are taking. Kudos to you for having that strength and courage. My husband is a recovering alcholic and drug abuser. God helped jim break the cycle. We are praying that you will continue toward healing from mental issues as well as addiction(s). Its not easy, but its worth it!!!
Well, you're looking focused and your attitude has improved noticeably. You may not feel happier, but as you approach life from new angles you may find more happiness. Give yourself time, celebrate your progress, and just keep moving forward. Good going!
I feel your struggle man. I've had one, two or three day runs of sobriety, but always seems to go back to it. It sucks. You should be VERY proud of making it a month, that's no small feat.
Good things happen when we are honest with ourselves. We can always lie to people to make them feel good but it doesn’t help US. Good days ahead for you my friend,
Keep it up Mike! It's going to take a while but you will absolutely feel better. And yes you're effecting us in a great way making some of us like myself wanting to do the same thing brother so thank you so much man. Again I'm 49 years old and need to do what you're doing and keep checking in. I subscribed to your channel the last post you made because of your honesty. You got this Mike please keep it up, I'll be checking in man. God bless
Hang in there ! I did the road you're travelling 5 years ago. I felt exactly the way you're talking. Turns out as I got older, my ability to deal with stress had melted into anxiety and depression. Booze worked until it became the problem. Now it's my meds and my guitar and life is awesome!
Good work, friend. You say that things are no better... but you've been sober for a month... so that's really true. Do you exercise at all? Do you ever walk around in the woods or at a pleasant natural area? Those are both things that have helped me to stay away from hard drugs... hiking helped me a lot when I was quitting fentanyl and pills.
I need to do that more. I live in one of the most beautiful places on the planet. I used to go forpretty frequent wanders in the woods. Will try to get back to that. Thanks.
Second video I watched same night as the first that I saw your declaration video. I like the updates and also think it helps you stay vigilant in those super hard times. You just strike me as a very honest and passionate man with great hand based skills that most folks lack now a day. Still in my prayers and still going strong happy to see that.
Congrats man!! 1 month is a huge milestone. I'm about 11 months sober and just wanted to let you know it got WAY better after about 4 months. Those first few were pretty rough. Everything felt extremely boring. Time slows down and you start to think "will this ever get better? Will I ever be happier?" and I promise you it gets SO much better. By the way, I'm in my 30s and have struggled with depression since I was a teenager. The sadness is real man. Don't worry about all the other stuff right now (eating problems, etc.) just focus on the sobriety. One day at a time, one step at a time. Anyway, I'm rooting for you and hope the best. Keep on keeping on, you'll feel awesome in a few months. Take care of yourself brother!
Bless you brother, I hear you, and I can relate. First and foremost, may I just say with the upmost respect, that whatever else happens on your life's journey/story, and I sincerely hope that you find peace and contentment, that it takes a man to stand up and be counted as you have done. Judging from the multitude of wonderful comments (I've barely scratched the surface reading them) you have touched and inspired so very many people. Ripples. And you are quite correct in saying that you/we/I are not alone, despite it often feeling the opposite. It would appear that you not only build beautiful items with wood to hold and use, but you also build bridges. Again, bless you brother. Speaking only of myself, I don't presume to speak for others, what you said about alcohol (or whatever one's poison(s) of choice is) being the symptom and not the cause was spot on, and one of the few things that I have discovered that I feel that I can state with any degree of certainty. I am, and will remain, a work in progress. This eternal war with self which I am engaged in has some parallels with actual real world conflicts, there's been instances of sabotage and a lot of collateral damage. Namaste my friend, you're so much better than you know. Or give yourself credit for. P.S. I'd only meant to say thanks (I arrived here by chance, or not?) and I ended up writing an essay. Sorry bout that.
Congratulations on your month, one day at a time. The liquor store & cannabis stores that are everywhere are insane. Looking forward to the new videos as I am one of the new people:) Take care.
Right on! You’re doing it. The alcohol was only the vehicle, the problem is always us but leaving alcohol allows us to think about it clearly. A month is a baby step. I big baby step no doubt but you need to keep grinding. Happy is oversold. It’s just one of many emotions. Sad is always gonna be around, just let it be there and get comfortable with it. Content is king and achievable and all it takes is a different outlook to the same old externals. Keep on with your struggle.
Hey man, I've been struggling to quit drinking, too. Something that motivates me through some of my depression is my 6 month old son. Maybe having a companion that depends on you like a dog would help. Anyway thank you for your videos on this. You helped me when I was struggling.
I have a son, too...but he's a teenager now so he doesn't "need" me like he used to. Still actively spend time with him, though, which always makes me happier.
You seem very intelligent and your thinking is straight. You'll get through this and the other side will be a HECK of a lot better! Remember that it's ok to ask someone for help, if you need it.
Coming up on two years sober here and it’s still a struggle despite making some progress. Alcohol wasn’t the cause of my issues (despite it being directly responsible for some, dui) like depression and bad anxiety. Instead, it’s my coping mechanism like a child’s security blanket that I use to calm and soothe myself when things go south and/or sideways. Thank you for sharing with this video. I don’t pretend to have things figured out yet, but it’s getting better.
I don't know you, but I'm so damn proud of you.
@@JoseSotoCanHelp I appreciate that. Thanks.
@@WoodenThingsAndStuff
I saw your first video a month ago. Now I saw this and subscribed.
You remind me of a friend I had when I was studying woodworking. He got away from all of this after he got treatment. He started to seek solution once his daughter was born and for him too, he realised he was running away from something with all that destructive behaviour. It was quite a long journey and it still is, but he has stayed on his path.
I believe you can as well.
The best part of being sober! Getting up in the morning after a great nights sleep, with no hangover.
I can do that after 6 beers, everyday. I have to figure out another way to wean off.
Indeed
.... yes.
Yes !And not be ashamed over foolish behaving because of beeing drunk !
The worst part is knowing that that's as good as you are going to feel all day.
Don't mistake better for easier. You are thinking clearly and your perspective has growth. Never underestimate the power of perspective.
I like that a lot. Thanks.
And life doesn’t care about you being drunk or sober and will come at you with what it’s got regardless. At least now when things happen (good or bad) you can be sure you’re more capable of handling and actually dealing with them instead of coping with booze.
CONGRATULATIONS brother.
10 years cocaine free here, all i can say brother is you have started on a lifelong journey, you are strong, you are loved and you are valued.
So you don’t miss being up all night and feeling like shit and knowing you don’t have any more drugs ?Complete waste of your life.
YOOO! That is very impressive. Well done and stay sober! Congratulations to you as well!
Hard to avoid it when you have a contact who can easily get it but I was tired of losing $$$ and not having a return on my investment, which I should say the investment would be my life, but we never think of that part. Been a couple months which is pretty damn good for me and have no urge to go back.
Great job . My dad just made 39 years and is the best father ever since he stopped
I got 10 months dude. Keep it up man.
Hey man, total stranger here that happened upon your channel this morning. I recognize your struggle and internal conflict, going through it myself. Almost died in a motorcycle accident last year (alcohol was a huge factor) and it changed my life. 16yrs active-duty military, wife and kids… almost gone in an instant. Sobriety has been challenging, but only good things have come from it. If I may offer some things I’ve learned:
-Diet and exercise are necessary. Not some intense program, but a small (and deliberate) choice in what you’re eating/doing will make enough of a difference over time that you will WANT to do more. It just happens.
-Happiness doesn’t just arrive, but you may find that you’re calmer on the inside. Use it to gain an understanding of yourself. That perspective will open doors to finding happiness in places you may not expect, usually from things right in front of you.
-Take the wins. Be sure to acknowledge your successes (particularly regarding sobriety) and say the words out loud. It’s okay to feel good about the little things AND the big things you’ve accomplished.
Best of luck to you. I’ve subscribed and I’ll keep checking in on your content. You seem like a good dude.
I appreciate your insight, the comments on this video are the most positive thing I've seen on RUclips in years.
Wow, I am really impressed by the wisdom in this comment. Thank you!
@@Somun-aI was going to say that.
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You have 12000 friends on your side. Keep going day by day. We’re with you.
Complete stranger here that randomly found your last video. You are incredibly brave for putting this out to the world and I’m proud of you from just seeing your last two videos. Alcoholism and depression has affected my family as well but support and communication is key. Are you talking to a therapist? I did not grow up talking of my feelings but it is beyond helpful. Take care and I’ll be keeping an eye on you going forward!
7 years, was hard at first but completely worth it. In my prayers brother.
Well done - congratulations 🎉
@@Judi-AustralianEmptyNester thank you.
It takes a little time but keep pushing through man. You stopped a destructive coping mechanism and recognized there’s an underlying reason. That’s a huge step. We’ll be here for you the whole way!
Thanks, friend!
Congrats! Coming up on 5 years here.. it does get easier. It does get better.. I was afraid of AA for the longest time but I’m so glad I found a group and developed a network of guys that think like I do and can call me on my BS.. slow and steady buddy 👊🏻
Way to go, sir.
Thanks!
The universe conspires... never watched your stuff before but here I am. Alcohol-free since August 5th. Have a lot of "me" to work on including starting to see a counselor in a couple weeks.
For what it's worth, I can totally relate that things don't seem "better". But they really are, better. Just acknowledging there's a problem and taking this life change step is "better" than continuing an old pattern.
Some advice given to me, in regard to the emotional nature of a life change:
"When you're going through hell, just keep going."
Just. Keep. Going!
THIS may be your positive legacy. My son is medicating something, drinking and sleeping. Existing, not thriving. Thanks for putting this out there.
Take the time to hangout and talk with your kid if you live in the same area. My father has came to my house everyday after he gets off work so we could see each other and discuss how our day was since I first moved out at 17, I'm 37 now. I don't think he realizes how much I enjoy getting to do this with him and I'm glad he's my father. Dear 'ol dad has had his own bodyshop for the last 40 years so he comes by pretty late and he's really good at his job, lol.
@@darksu6947 Thanks, we have made plans to build some shelving for his room. A small project, but acorns start small too.
@ he has gone in to detox since I wrote that, and yesterday was the “bad detox day” at 48 to 72 hrs in. It was important for me to be there for him, and I think it helped. I am more optimistic for his future now. Thanks for taking the time to comment.
@@TheAy7531 I hope he finds his way through this.
The algorithm brought me here, but even as a stranger I'm proud of you! Keep up the great work Mike!
Me too!
I’m impressed by your honesty. You are on a path of discovery. Give it time and find help. One day at a time is important. My 18 months of sobriety has taught me you are not alone. Stay strong!
4.5 years for me.
Funny thing is the first 6 months of sobriety for me was ten times worse than the years of being a stupid drunk. But it gets better, slowly, I promise.
It sucks cuz I thought sobriety would fix everything in my life but it only fixed one problem. Luckily it was the biggest problem.
A lot of sober guys try to sell abstinence as being the best thing ever. Then when people get sober they realise life is still tough and stressful. I think its better to be realistic about sobriety, in that life is still hard and will involve things going wrong.
I stopped a week before I saw your video, and I've been working so much that it helped me stay sober for a month also. Stay strong, and we can get through this.
Thanks, friend. And congratulations!
Your honesty and openness is an inspiration. Your insights on this will help others the same way your woodworking does.
Thank you
Life is going to be harder because you wont have alcohol to insulate yourself from everything. Sleeping is just your body adjusting and being sad is just you waking up to the real world. You wont notice liquor stores after a while. Once you readjust you will see how active and productive you will become. I can see you are struggling. Hang in there. 20 years and counting. Love from Spain
I never really found booze stores themselves to be a trigger, just boredom and sadness.
You’re building awareness, excellent work man!!!
I'm terrible with wood working, but your sobriety videos are what got me subbed. Congrats on nearly 2 months btw
I am not going to lie, the first 30 days are the hardest. Your honesty is awesome and well help bring happier days. It's true for all of us, when we quit drinking liquor stores and beer ads suddenly seem to be everywhere. You got this. It's cheesy but very true.... One day at a time.
The second 30 days don't seem to be any easier. haha.
Thanks for your support.
Disclaimer: I never really had a problem with alcohol, I "only" drank too much. So my experience may not be representative for a problematic drinker. But for me after about 2 months some weird changes happened. The brain started to change. And after listening to Huberman and Peterson explaining how alcohol works long term, it made sense that it took a while for the effect to kick in. So when you are still struggling, there is probably a peak ahead of you after which things become a little more downhill, a little easier.
Fellow woodworker here. 67 yo and one who’s been on fluoxetine for years for depression. Sleeping is essential. I often get up early but nap later because I recognize when I’m tired. I do not drink or drug and am a new subscriber because you are now sober. Let’s see what we can do together in a new reality.
I'm just frustrated because I'm using sleep as "can't drink if you're sleeping!" rather than actually being tired.
Sir, if I may, I'm not much of a woodworker but I know about the subject at hand and I'm just a little younger than you so I thought I'd chime in to say 2 things. If you've been taking a medication for years to treat a problem you still have, that's a failure. Time to rethink. After all of you're not living right, what exactly are you asking of the drug?
And reality isn't going to be any different now that you've decided to be sober. I'm sure you know that but it could launch false or mal adjusted hopes to not see it for what it is.
And I really hope you don't get involved with AA. No offense to them but the whole "it's not my fault I have a disease " is just a lame attempt to dodge reality.
@@WoodenThingsAndStuff I treated depression the same way for a while - I think it's okay to do if you don't let it keep you in that nasty pattern. Use it as a transition.
@@WoodenThingsAndStuff”can’t drink if you’re sleeping” is just fine this early on. Folks in AA have a saying (just kidding, they have A LOT of sayings) that goes “fake it till you make it”. Staying clean is always the best choice, even when it doesn’t seem/feel like it.
Hats off to you for sharing your struggle and honesty. I have not touched a drop in 16 years. I’d never believed 16 years ago it would be possible to accomplish the things I have. A person learns a lot about himself during the journey. Cheering for you brother!
Thanks very much!
Don't let that idea that "things are no better " fool you. I lost five years of sobriety thinking that, and until very recently had been back at it for years now. Things WERE better and I didn't appreciate it. I'd be willing to bet things are better for you too. Just not having to deal with the crap alcohol causes makes it better.
First off. Congratulations on one month. I think that’s huge. Proud of you. There is no shame in seeking some mental health help. It has helped me in the past. I didn’t think I needed it and could handle it on my own but was talked into it. Anyway it can help. You don’t know me but trust me. It’s worth it, for you.
Absolutely putting this out publicly is a powerful way to keep yourself accountable. Shake the negative habit. Seek to heal/treat the underlying issue(s). You're clearly a decent, talented, and most importantly a worthwhile person. Keep it up!
8 years for me. Mental and physical state are a million times better. Worked through a ton of stuff and totally worth it 💪 press on man
This was a great video, man. Thank you so much for it. The way you indexed how their was/is an underlying problem below the alcoholism resonates with me profoundly and I think many many other people. Your transparency is commendable.
Good job, dude! Keep it up! 2 weeks for me. 1 day at a time!
Just hit one year. You got this!
Congratulations!
Be bless for that décision, congrat. For mayself I am sober since 1982 after a payer meeting
AA meetings helped me. It helps to talk to others that are going thru what you are.
Weirdly religious
I think AA only really helps those who are already religious or thinking about it. I personally hated AA, because of the religious sub messages. I got a counselor that had been through similar addiction problems and that was a much better experience.
XXXVIIII years in AA as an agnostic, once you become a junkie/drunk the booze is the primary problem- it’s why you’re a drunk. Good luck kid it takes a few years before you’re in a place to deal with that you were a mope.
@@DrewDiaz I’m just saying it helped me to talk to someone about why I drank. It doesn’t have to be AA. I’m 4 years sober now, will I drink again? I don’t know but I know where that path leads. I get up each day and think about the important people in my life. And how I could easily loose all of them. It’s hard some days. I’m not a religious person but I have to keep strong willed for them and myself. I wish you all the best ✌🏾
@@jmoe6402 by the time I was 16 I was a daily drinker & I drank because I was a drunk, not because I had a scary second grade teacher- that’s what I’m saying. In 38 years I’ve known a lot of folks who tried & failed on their own, who stopped going to meetings and ended back on the pipe or the bottle, and never got right because they thought they were unique…
The food part is easy…go carnivore..it’s has made me extremely happy all the way around.. Food is a large part of life and does not need to be complicated..
carnivore is easy… eat to live instead of living to eat.
When I got off drugs one of the things I did was ride my bike down this big ass hill in my neoghborhood as fast as I could, and then I would get off and push the bike back up the hill and I swear it was what made the difference for me. It helped me sleep which was the toughest part of it, for me.
Always coming back to see how you are doing.
Family and I are wishing you all the best, knowing it's not easy and admiring the effort and bravery to do this so openly.
Thank you for helping some of use not feel so alone.
Brother, great job so far! Sounds like you're doing some more reflection, reflection is great! Can I suggest swapping some of your nap sessions for walking sessions? Simply go for a nice long walk at any old pace. Look for gratitude in the trees you pass which provide you such a great outlet in the way of your woodwork. Breathe that fresh air. It like two bird with one stone, decompress and add some healthy physical activity to your day! Keep it up, you brave soul! You've got a little army in your corner!
You are amazing, just realizing the changes you have to make are big stepping stones. Finding a new route home with no liquor stores is huge and means you have the ability to beat this. Its still early in your new life and sleep is better than booze! Stay busy and stay positive!
keep it up. For me, I got on antidepressants, did a truckload of counseling and quit drinking. For me, all of those things went hand in hand. Stay strong.
Thanks for your support!
I just saw your post a month ago. I'm so glad to see this video. It's not quite the same, but I just quit weed fairly recently after 20 years of smoking when ever I could. I live in Oregon and that means toking every 30 minutes. Thank you man for opening up to us and being a pillar of strength for the rest of us. God Speed!
Alcohol, food, sleep are good distractions to keep you away from completing projects. The desire for having the perfect project is overwhelming and sometimes getting wasted is an excuse to keep us away from finishing that project that you’re not satisfied with. I think my problem is the obsession with having everything perfect and the best.
Congrats on 1 month! That's a huge deal. Please keep us updated on how it's going. It really helps people who happen to be going through the same thing.
Keep it up
I hope you find the things that bring you joy. I'm proud to share a world full of people like you!
Well done … super proud of you Sir!!!! ❤❤❤🎉🎉🎉
One day at a time. Clarity of a sober mind will help you to fix what’s making you as or seek help to fix what’s making you sad.
Sober is a massive accomplishment my friend, recognise the good every day. Not drinking each day is a huge massive win!! Xxx
Wow! I’m so proud of you, I know this wasn’t easy, but it’s a big accomplishment and you can celebrate that. Sleep is normal right now and that’s ok your body needs that right now and it won’t last long. You’re doing great, and making good decisions, just be patient with yourself and be kind to you. You’re amazing!
I don’t know you but I’m happy for your ability to stay strong
Thanks! I'm trying!
It's a good start! Talk to the people who know stuff and can help you figure out your next steps. Well done!
In early sobriety it felt, for a long time, like my mental health was getting worse-- not better. There was so much that I was angry about. So much that I wasn't working through while I was drinking. All of that had to be confronted. When you are drinking to treat anxiety, you are not treating the anxiety-- only paying the interest on it. But all of that gets better with time and effort my brother, and having a hobby that you're passionate about gives you a head start in this regard; a lot of newly sober guys don't have a hobby, and it is recommended that they pick one up as an urgent priority. Action is a great remedy for sobriety-related discomfort.
Hang in there my brother. You will make it
I just came across this series of videos and wanted to say congratulations. Seems you have a very clear perspective on yourself, your challenges, and where you need to get to. I hope you realize just how big of an advantage that is for you. The term "You got this" seems trite... but you do. One more human out here who is rooting for you.
congrats on the 1 month being sober, sounds like you need AA, and get a sponsor and start a twelve step program it has helped me for 38 years clean and sober, just take it one day at a time
Ask a recovering alcoholic, I completely agree. I do Celebrate Recovery which is a faith based approach. I also still do outpatient rehab.
Right on he needs the program and a sponsor for sure! Need a support team otherwise, your bouncin around on the wagon and a big bump could be a big fall.
@@elusivelectronI agree with CR and a good faith based step study! I will be praying.
It's really helpful to see a guy like you saying you have a problem. People act like as a man we should just get over it. Everyone needs help in life
I think Steve O said he resents it when people call alcoholism a disease. He very wisely said that alcoholism is just a symptom of the actual underlying disease that causes it, like depression, etc.
That is the case with most addiction cases, no matter what substance or activity we're talking about, I very much agree with Steve O.
MAN, you are right about alcohol intake. Alcohol, food, sex, games, spending or whatever we use is for self-medication. It is an attempt not to drown. On the other hand alcohol is a depressive agent so it was making you feel worse in the long run. Keep up this game :D
You're looking much better! Rooting for you. Pray to the Lord for strength.
You are so brave and I love you for being so open to share this battle. So many are struggling so know you are not alone and keep being a light for yourself and others 💕
Dude, go to a meeting. It helps. Get a Big Book.
As far as confronting the roots of your depression, that's something only you can sort out. Identify it and apply as many perspectives to it as you can, understand it and let it go. Weigh issues against time. How long will this effect me? A day, a year, forever?
Don't give up on sobriety. It becomes a powerful thing the longer you go.
Good luck!
Good on you! You’re not alone. I’m working on 2 weeks. Finding a like minded community can help. Sometimes easier said than done. ❤
One thing that really helped me quit the booze, was eating a lot more fruit to not only soothe those sugar cravings that come with, but to also help repair and rebuild the body and mind.
It's weird how much I crave sugar. Was never really a "sweets" guy, always more of a "salty" but the past month has been all about the cookies and chocolate. Fruit is a good idea. Thank you.
@@WoodenThingsAndStuff You’re welcome! Fruit does take the cravings away, (the more you can eat the better imho) It’s tough for a week or so especially if you normally don’t eat fruit, but then the body shifts and you really start to look forward to it every day.
Good luck and God Speed to you my Brother.
@@christopherlee4796 For me it was endless cups of sweet tea
Oh MY!! I thought it was just me, lol. I eat fruit almost every day now.
You are in our prayers to stay sober. 21st I will be sober for 2 months and I have never looked back.
Thank you for your honesty. I hope you stick with it and that it will become more satisfying over time, as it did for me. The first month was the hardest. What helped me was eating better and going for long walks in the mornings and/or evenings to clear my head. Your comment section is great, use it for what it's worth. I never made a video but get a lot of help myself reading the comment section of other people's sobriety videos. Onwards and upwards!
Thanks friend!
As a kid how has watched my father deal with 8 years of heavy depretion, i am incredibaly proud of you and i wish the best of luck stranger
I'm 1 year sober on October 29th and I want to let you know that it does get better with time. I had to get used to "staring into the abyss" so to say. Its a really hard to go sober because when you are unhappy or want to run from your problems you cant, you have to face them head on. But in the end it makes you stronger and It is absolutely worth the trouble and the pain. Getting sober and eating healthy were the best things I ever did for myself. Hang in there.
I so wanna give him a hug and say brother you're so so strong 🫶🏼✌🏽💪🏻🤲🙏🤞
Hell yeah man! Good for you!!!! IT IS NOT EASY, but it does get better. It takes courage to understand yourself and face it.
I really appreciate these vids. It took me at least three months to feel 50% human. Sober people I respect suggested not to worry about what i ate, how much I slept, etc. Having an alcoholic mind, all I ever thought about was what I was effing up - all those reasons to drink. I went to bed at 6pm for a month not to drink, the healthiest option in front of me. Keep on brother. It takes what it takes. It takes time. And time takes time.
Stumbled upon your video after your accident, I appreciate your journey and honesty! You are doing great! One day is a miracle and you have managed to string over a month of those miracles together! You have great insight! The skills and behaviors will come, just keep working! Thanks for making my day!
Wow! I love your courage and strength. You are amazing! You are not only helping yourself by making these changes, but you are putting it out there for others to walk through it with you. You're going to get support from your followers, as well as helping others who need to take the same steps you are taking. Kudos to you for having that strength and courage. My husband is a recovering alcholic and drug abuser. God helped jim break the cycle. We are praying that you will continue toward healing from mental issues as well as addiction(s). Its not easy, but its worth it!!!
You are worth making whatever changes to better your life. YOU ARE WORTH IT!
Well, you're looking focused and your attitude has improved noticeably. You may not feel happier, but as you approach life from new angles you may find more happiness. Give yourself time, celebrate your progress, and just keep moving forward. Good going!
I feel your struggle man. I've had one, two or three day runs of sobriety, but always seems to go back to it. It sucks. You should be VERY proud of making it a month, that's no small feat.
Congratufuckinlations. Thats a huge step. Im currently struggling with addiction myself. ❤❤❤ Best wishes
Thanks!
Good things happen when we are honest with ourselves. We can always lie to people to make them feel good but it doesn’t help US. Good days ahead for you my friend,
Keep it up Mike! It's going to take a while but you will absolutely feel better. And yes you're effecting us in a great way making some of us like myself wanting to do the same thing brother so thank you so much man. Again I'm 49 years old and need to do what you're doing and keep checking in. I subscribed to your channel the last post you made because of your honesty. You got this Mike please keep it up, I'll be checking in man. God bless
Congratulations!! Keep doing what you are doing, You got this! Stay positive and stay blessed.😇
If your doing it now without a hospital your doing great. I had to be tied down for a week. Keep on keepin on.
Please hang in there brother, you are a beacon of hope for so many. Thank you for being so honest. Cheers from Michael. Australia.
Hang in there ! I did the road you're travelling 5 years ago. I felt exactly the way you're talking. Turns out as I got older, my ability to deal with stress had melted into anxiety and depression. Booze worked until it became the problem. Now it's my meds and my guitar and life is awesome!
I'm proud of you! Stay strong man!
Thanks. I'm trying!
I really appreciate you sharing your story, I think more people need to hear more stuff like this.
Hell yes. You are an inspiration. One day at a time my brother.
Good work, friend. You say that things are no better... but you've been sober for a month... so that's really true. Do you exercise at all? Do you ever walk around in the woods or at a pleasant natural area? Those are both things that have helped me to stay away from hard drugs... hiking helped me a lot when I was quitting fentanyl and pills.
I need to do that more. I live in one of the most beautiful places on the planet. I used to go forpretty frequent wanders in the woods. Will try to get back to that. Thanks.
Keep going 😊 You looks like a gentleman and a nice person. Don't let ghosts trap you and you can keep going.
Second video I watched same night as the first that I saw your declaration video. I like the updates and also think it helps you stay vigilant in those super hard times. You just strike me as a very honest and passionate man with great hand based skills that most folks lack now a day. Still in my prayers and still going strong happy to see that.
Life on life's terms..cheering for you brother
Thanks very much!
You can do this. We are all here for you. 🎉
Thank you!
Congrats man!! 1 month is a huge milestone. I'm about 11 months sober and just wanted to let you know it got WAY better after about 4 months. Those first few were pretty rough. Everything felt extremely boring. Time slows down and you start to think "will this ever get better? Will I ever be happier?" and I promise you it gets SO much better. By the way, I'm in my 30s and have struggled with depression since I was a teenager. The sadness is real man. Don't worry about all the other stuff right now (eating problems, etc.) just focus on the sobriety. One day at a time, one step at a time.
Anyway, I'm rooting for you and hope the best. Keep on keeping on, you'll feel awesome in a few months. Take care of yourself brother!
Great honesty and fair play to putting this out - there's loads of people I bet including myself who can relate to this. Thanks.
Bless you brother, I hear you, and I can relate.
First and foremost, may I just say with the upmost respect, that whatever else happens on your life's journey/story, and I sincerely hope that you find peace and contentment, that it takes a man to stand up and be counted as you have done.
Judging from the multitude of wonderful comments (I've barely scratched the surface reading them) you have touched and inspired so very many people.
Ripples.
And you are quite correct in saying that you/we/I are not alone, despite it often feeling the opposite.
It would appear that you not only build beautiful items with wood to hold and use, but you also build bridges.
Again, bless you brother.
Speaking only of myself, I don't presume to speak for others, what you said about alcohol (or whatever one's poison(s) of choice is) being the symptom and not the cause was spot on, and one of the few things that I have discovered that I feel that I can state with any degree of certainty.
I am, and will remain, a work in progress.
This eternal war with self which I am engaged in has some parallels with actual real world conflicts, there's been instances of sabotage and a lot of collateral damage.
Namaste my friend, you're so much better than you know. Or give yourself credit for.
P.S. I'd only meant to say thanks (I arrived here by chance, or not?) and I ended up writing an essay. Sorry bout that.
Congratulations on your month, one day at a time. The liquor store & cannabis stores that are everywhere are insane. Looking forward to the new videos as I am one of the new people:) Take care.
Thanks!
Congratulations man keep up the good work. It ain’t easy but keep on doing. What you’re doing
Thanks very much!
Virtual hug, sir! You've got this! Depression sucks, but the fight against it is worth it.❤
I saw the before and now I see you look 100% better. Good on you brother. Keep it up.
Right on! You’re doing it. The alcohol was only the vehicle, the problem is always us but leaving alcohol allows us to think about it clearly.
A month is a baby step. I big baby step no doubt but you need to keep grinding.
Happy is oversold. It’s just one of many emotions. Sad is always gonna be around, just let it be there and get comfortable with it. Content is king and achievable and all it takes is a different outlook to the same old externals.
Keep on with your struggle.
Hey man, I've been struggling to quit drinking, too. Something that motivates me through some of my depression is my 6 month old son. Maybe having a companion that depends on you like a dog would help. Anyway thank you for your videos on this. You helped me when I was struggling.
I have a son, too...but he's a teenager now so he doesn't "need" me like he used to. Still actively spend time with him, though, which always makes me happier.
I can relate so much brother. 11 years sober here. Keep it up. It gets better.
You seem very intelligent and your thinking is straight. You'll get through this and the other side will be a HECK of a lot better! Remember that it's ok to ask someone for help, if you need it.
Coming up on two years sober here and it’s still a struggle despite making some progress. Alcohol wasn’t the cause of my issues (despite it being directly responsible for some, dui) like depression and bad anxiety. Instead, it’s my coping mechanism like a child’s security blanket that I use to calm and soothe myself when things go south and/or sideways. Thank you for sharing with this video. I don’t pretend to have things figured out yet, but it’s getting better.