Dating an Adoptee /What You Need To Know
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- Опубликовано: 6 сен 2024
- Attachment begins in utero, and the process of being separated from a parent and adopted can affect future attachment in various ways. In this video, we discuss romantic relationships with adoptees and the unique challenges you may face.
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Margaret worked with adoption for years and has tremendous insight and experience with it. I highly recommend you do a coaching call with her if your ex is adopted. It will be eye opening!
Thank you for talking about this. I was adopted and have gone through so much healing work and therapy after realizing I needed the help in order to have healthier relationships in all aspects of my life.
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There aren't a lot of coaches online that touch on the topic of adoption and relationships. Great to see some diversity within the coaching world.
We aren’t just coaches. We are all therapists as well. And coach Margaret worked in adoption for years
I'm adopted and have done a lot of work. Still I'm finding myself getting tipped over in a new relationship. I am so jealous of people with big more intact families and sometimes the self hate and anger gets intense. Your video here is both a salve and a reminder that no matter what I'm responsible for my actions. Also that the only way to heal is to keep trying and be loving to my partner and work to maintain trust in them. Thanks!
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I was 3lb premature and was sick, and for years thats what I believed why my parents left me at the hospital in South Korea and was adopted to a big family in America becausei was defective and was sick! I grew up half in IA and half on SC and was bullied for being adopted and different because my family was white Italian with blue eyes and blond or beautiful brown hair, and then me!
As an adult adoptee, I've tried to get therapy only to be turned away. I was told I needed ling long therapy and that through my insurance, they only offered short term therapy. I made an appointment outside my health plan and the therapist never showed up to the appointment. I tried a gain through my insurance and was lumped in a support group for stress. I gave it one last chance last year and found a therapist but after a certain amount of sessions she said we couldn't continue if there was no progress. There had to be a medical need. That was the end of that. I don't think therapy will work. I've attempted to get it for 30 years and always turned away. I certainly hope it's worked for others. Outside of my medical plan, it is cost prohibitive.
My ex wasn’t an adoptee. But she was neglected by both parents. Grew up with her grandma so i think that’s where all her baggage came from. She doesn’t feel secure!
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I have 2 questions. Does this apply also to those whose primary caretakers (mom/dad) left them to be cared by another family member? My ex whom I suspect to be a DA was cared for by an extended family member while his mom was away from them. This external family member also revealed to him that his mom originally wanted to abort him. Add another trauma was their dad abandoned their family. I knew these were one of the reasons why he had such a negative outlook towards life and how that has spilled over to his relationships including ours. My other question is, Im 2 months NC with him after we broke up last August. I'm 78% SA leaning DA/FA. Part of me wants to move on, part of me wants to help him because I care for him. But I'm caught in between whether to break NC just to check in and see if he's interested or just continue NC. He's back in his home country, he also tried an indirect approach to contact me 1 month after breakup which I've ignored. So the 2nd question is, break NC or not to break NC? Hope someone can shed light/clarity.
I’m a 69 year old female adoptee. R.I.P. Ms. Margaret. Here to learn more about myself.
Thank you for the advice. I am in a very weird situation and I have tried to telling him and helping him. No one can help him and everyone has given up because his behavior is abusive. My life has been a huge nightmare since he came into it. He won't do the work and he refuses to listen. His behavior is emotional and psychologically abusive. I am legally disabled however I can maintain a job but the stress and crazy childish behavior is literally killing me. I've tried to be a roommate and he hoover me for sex all the time. It's exhausting. At this point it is deliberate and criminal. Everyone wants to pity him but this is beyond ridiculous. 🤦🏾♀️
I found out about my adoption later in my adult life. Maybe because of this I never had a severe wound from it. Growing up I always felt different and felt something missing but finding out just validated those earlier feelings and helped fill that void, made me super grateful. On the other side of this, I have dated an adoptee, in this scenario he has known since birth and ticks everything you covered in this video. Maybe knowing from a young age triggered abandonment. Great video. 😊 Would be interesting to hear about adoptees dating other adoptees.
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I think this applies to more people than many of us might believe. Even if you weren’t specifically adopted, some of these situations or traits could apply to you or somebody you love. I think in situation where there was a divorce and so you were moved back-and-forth between family members or grandparents might contribute to some of these things. I also think that the fearful avoidant attachment doesn’t always apply to adoptees. They could also very easily apply to people that moved around a lot, especially between caretakers are as children so they never got a consistent caretaker to adapt to. That was my particular case as a child. I did have both of my parents but I was moved between parents and relatives a lot
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I kinda expected more details. I do appreciate the video though.
Do a coaching with Margaret! She has tremendous experience with adoption!
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We argue she told me she needs time, so i start no contact, after 2 weeks told me she wants to break up, shes feels calmer without me, then she blocked ME.When relief stage really started? Any chance to miss me with time if i go into no contact?
Hey hey, it's ya boi here, could we get a video on your Ex being in a non rebound relationship? And being in a relationship that's lasting longer than yours did? Thanks, Craig.
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Hey coach, Love your videos, You’re the best, Please consider more advice on married couples with children,
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99% of the time the adult adoptee was placed for adoption by a teenage mother who’s only choice was adoption. Especially before Roe vs. Wade come to be in the 70’s. Give the birth mothers a break. Most are so traumatized they never have other children. What they would have given to keep their babies.
As an adult adoptee you literally just said that a lot of us would have been aborted. Wow lady. The problem with adoption is that the child was the least considered party in this triangulated relationship. The birth parents are completely protected and the adoptive parents could hide the adoption , been abusive etc. Please don’t speak on things you know nothing about. Adopted children have wounds you could never imagine even if the adoptive family was good as mine was. Shut the hell up!!!
@@lizcarter3113 I know a lot about it. And I am prolife. I just wanted the adult adoptees to know that 90% of birthmothers from back in the day would have given their right arm to keep their babies. I have spent my entire adulthood working for adoptees rights and spent 4 years as the chairman of the foster care review board. But I will “shut the hell up.” I sincerely hope you find ❤️🩹 healing. No one ever sees this side of adoption.
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Are either of you adopted?
Third!