Bronwyn, I really appreciate the practical advice you give for how to deal with gaslighting. A lot of resources identify gaslighting, but very few that I've found give constructive, healthy ways of confronting it. Thank you!
Let me give this one some thought … but while I’m pondering can you think of times when something IS good enough for you? Maybe it’s a sunset or a bowl of your favorite pasta. List at least 3 you can think of. I’ll explain why I’m asking this when u respond. ;)
1) My attitude and behaviour ( it's very needy i feel like i need someone to share my emotions because my parents are emotionally unavailable I guess) 2) my love relationship ( because i feel like i need that person i do love him he's amazing but i want to be more independent and be with him because i want to be with him not because i need someone. 3) my laziness and procrastination ( i don't exercise that often and i delay work sometimes)
Wow my boyfriend favorite one is "you're over reacting but he got another one and I bet u don't know this one he love to blame the moon every single time!!!✋🤣 he said thats why I'm acting crazy uuugghh 🤬
Ugh!! That is not ok. And using the moon as an excuse to make women feel crazy is literally one of the oldest tricks in the book. I would call a massive time out and re negotiate the terms of this relationship specifically in terms of how you and he communicate. If he gaslights you, you end the conversation and begin again once he is ready to listen to you and validate your experience. Validating does not mean agreeing. It just means acknowledging that the other person is allowed to feel what they feel.
Bronwyn, I really appreciate the practical advice you give for how to deal with gaslighting. A lot of resources identify gaslighting, but very few that I've found give constructive, healthy ways of confronting it. Thank you!
Thank you for this beautiful compliment! Thank you for watching and commenting. It means the world to me! 🤗
I sometimes struggle with things like nothing is ever good enough for me
Let me give this one some thought … but while I’m pondering can you think of times when something IS good enough for you? Maybe it’s a sunset or a bowl of your favorite pasta. List at least 3 you can think of. I’ll explain why I’m asking this when u respond. ;)
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Three things good enough for me
1) spending time at home
2) food that i eat everyday.
3) my fav songs
See??? So that statement isn’t true that nothing is good enough. Now … what are the top 3 things you find “not good enough?”
1) My attitude and behaviour ( it's very needy i feel like i need someone to share my emotions because my parents are emotionally unavailable I guess)
2) my love relationship ( because i feel like i need that person i do love him he's amazing but i want to be more independent and be with him because i want to be with him not because i need someone.
3) my laziness and procrastination ( i don't exercise that often and i delay work sometimes)
Wow my boyfriend favorite one is "you're over reacting but he got another one and I bet u don't know this one he love to blame the moon every single time!!!✋🤣 he said thats why I'm acting crazy uuugghh 🤬
Ugh!! That is not ok. And using the moon as an excuse to make women feel crazy is literally one of the oldest tricks in the book. I would call a massive time out and re negotiate the terms of this relationship specifically in terms of how you and he communicate. If he gaslights you, you end the conversation and begin again once he is ready to listen to you and validate your experience. Validating does not mean agreeing. It just means acknowledging that the other person is allowed to feel what they feel.
@@ThisisBronwyn trust me I'm lerning so much from you and I'm putting it on practice 😁
Yeassss!!!!! We are all behind you 100%
Is an acusation of selfish, over reacting, or oweing ever a reasonable concern?