From a veteran now 50, hug your kids for as many times as they’ll let you. I’m blessed that my 19 year old son still lets me hug him. Love is nothing to be embarrassed about.
Very wise words, Mr. Varner, and I think the concept you were thinking about was: Saudade is a Portuguese word that has no direct English translation, but it describes a profound, melancholic longing or nostalgia for a person, place, or experience from one's past. It encompasses a deep, joyful connection and appreciation for those cherished memories, even tinged with a bittersweet quality. When looking at a photograph of a past experience you deeply cherished, saudade allows you to vividly and emotionally reconnect with the sights, sounds, smells, and feelings of that moment. It's not just a visual recollection, but a holistic, embodied recollection that brings you right back to that treasured memory, capturing the mix of happiness, longing, and appreciation one feels when reflecting on formative experiences from the past.
As veteran also, solid advice. Regardless of who you are, listen to this and do it. I wish I did this in my 20s. Life would be different. For the better.
Love the one where you don't let go hugging your child first!! That'll definitely be something i don't do. I don't think i do already bc my son is usually passing me away bc i won't let go. 😂😂
Bless you coach it is very true! The older you get the more true it is. The less your vision is the more true it is. You don't realize how much joy you bring every day to everyone.
Yup. My plan was going great until I broke my back. 6 months later I'm on the street waiting on a disability rating from the VA. Worked out in the end but Im still trying o figure out a new plan.
This is the sort of advice young people need (me being one of them). No hustle grind mindset, no superiority drivel, no alpha-male bs. Just real practical advice and steps on how to really cherish life. Thank you!
One lesson I think I would teach myself, to stop the hard lesson that I learned in my mid-twenties is; "Do not try to prepare your troops for the military you know, because it no longer exists."
I like to say life intervened rather than things didn't work out. It makes it more of a detour than a failure. It may suck in the moment, but hopefully we can pivot and make the new path the right path. Always set your retirement savings to be taken out of your paycheck before taxes to reduce your tax burden, and split your paycheck between savings and checking when you set up direct deposit. It really does make saving easier, even if it's a small amount. Best advice I got from my first boss.
My mother in law Hod rest her soul - didnt want ANY pain meds when her kids were around at the last few months of life. And we lived at that hospital hotel at that point, my hubby, father in law, our daughter and I. ( my son was little scared of the tubes and stayed at home. My mother in law kept her promise and said goodbye to him after she past. Ghost/Angels are real. My life experience proved it). She was the one who wanted to always rember to cherish the moments AND she was the one who ALWAYS took pictures. She was a wise woman. And i wish i could go back in my 20s and cherish her more. I met her beforr o dated her oldest son.
That last lesson is why I'm glad I'm glad I didn't have social media when I was young. We lived in the moment so much. They're memories for us, not moments. The pictures we took aren't content, they're frozen memories. I wish younger ppl now could have that
I'm extremely glad I live in an era where everyone (pretty much) has a camera. I have a good memory for how to do things, and general facts and knowledge, but my episodic memory, my life memories, are terrible. No matter how present I am, or how much I enjoyed the moment, I can't hold onto 90% of my memories for longer than 5 years. 😢
For the new generation, enjoy the moment and pictures. But if your posting it for high fives and likes, you're doing it for attention and not truly loving the moment. It's your moment in life to remember, not the world.
When taking pictures develop them, because digital photos are lost to computer evolution. And yes enjoy every moment. I have ONE Army Photo left. Myspace was eventually deleted. Flash drives lost, phones always break. I dont have a strong memory for anything. #DontDoDrugs
Man, that first lesson was like my second "adult" lesson I had to learn 😅. The first was do what you can to turn a negative thing into a positive thing 😊. Cliche incoming: When life gives you lemons, make lemonade. ...On second thought, 90% of life not going to plan may actually have been my first adult lesson. 🤔
@@NickVarn good on you bro. It was to "dog eat dog" for me. Ncos flexing power rather than caring, terrible orders being given, terrible treatment of young Marines. It was awful. Glad you have had a better run than I did.
"90% of your plan isnt going to work out like you want it to" Me: invests my life savings to start a jewelry business. 3 months later: entire world shuts down over the flu.
You need to share your skin care routine. I thought you were 25 or something. Didn't know you got them babies running around. For some reason, guys have it in them to look as mature and older as possible. But you're not getting any younger, so you're winning a losing race
From a veteran now 50, hug your kids for as many times as they’ll let you. I’m blessed that my 19 year old son still lets me hug him. Love is nothing to be embarrassed about.
It’s rare now to find a man that appreciates the simple truths in life like this now. Even less so in the marines. ❤
Very wise words, Mr. Varner, and I think the concept you were thinking about was:
Saudade is a Portuguese word that has no direct English translation, but it describes a profound, melancholic longing or nostalgia for a person, place, or experience from one's past. It encompasses a deep, joyful connection and appreciation for those cherished memories, even tinged with a bittersweet quality.
When looking at a photograph of a past experience you deeply cherished, saudade allows you to vividly and emotionally reconnect with the sights, sounds, smells, and feelings of that moment. It's not just a visual recollection, but a holistic, embodied recollection that brings you right back to that treasured memory, capturing the mix of happiness, longing, and appreciation one feels when reflecting on formative experiences from the past.
As veteran also, solid advice. Regardless of who you are, listen to this and do it. I wish I did this in my 20s. Life would be different. For the better.
Love the one where you don't let go hugging your child first!! That'll definitely be something i don't do. I don't think i do already bc my son is usually passing me away bc i won't let go. 😂😂
Bless you coach it is very true! The older you get the more true it is. The less your vision is the more true it is. You don't realize how much joy you bring every day to everyone.
That was profound and 100% on target Nick!❤
Nick, your humor, wisdom and genuineness will take you far!
The hug with the kids. Hell of an insight from the man that just ate all of their crayons.
Yup. My plan was going great until I broke my back. 6 months later I'm on the street waiting on a disability rating from the VA. Worked out in the end but Im still trying o figure out a new plan.
May God bless you brother and bring light to you
I hope your load is lighter and your path clearer.
Thank you for your service.
Sir, you should write a book, this is good advice
Thank for sharing . I grew up with a volunteer Firefighter Dad . My dad was always gone with the fire department .
Take pictures and also Remember... It's my favorite...
This is the sort of advice young people need (me being one of them).
No hustle grind mindset, no superiority drivel, no alpha-male bs. Just real practical advice and steps on how to really cherish life.
Thank you!
I'm 26 and the first one I learned the hard way.
It has, however, brought some really cool experiences.
One lesson I think I would teach myself, to stop the hard lesson that I learned in my mid-twenties is; "Do not try to prepare your troops for the military you know, because it no longer exists."
Don't be afraid to just live in the moment.
Right on about the pictures. Happy to say I try to always do that.
I like to say life intervened rather than things didn't work out. It makes it more of a detour than a failure. It may suck in the moment, but hopefully we can pivot and make the new path the right path.
Always set your retirement savings to be taken out of your paycheck before taxes to reduce your tax burden, and split your paycheck between savings and checking when you set up direct deposit. It really does make saving easier, even if it's a small amount. Best advice I got from my first boss.
Words of wisdom
Save save save $$. And don't be afraid to take leave and visit someplace OTHER than home every once in a while.
This came in the perfect 👌 timing. Indeed God always come around 😊
Great advice!
I want to hear you turn fully Gunny on someone. You’re so kind and caring, but I know there’s gunny marine in there somewhere!
That Gunny is too tired to yell anymore
My mother in law Hod rest her soul - didnt want ANY pain meds when her kids were around at the last few months of life. And we lived at that hospital hotel at that point, my hubby, father in law, our daughter and I. ( my son was little scared of the tubes and stayed at home. My mother in law kept her promise and said goodbye to him after she past. Ghost/Angels are real. My life experience proved it). She was the one who wanted to always rember to cherish the moments AND she was the one who ALWAYS took pictures. She was a wise woman. And i wish i could go back in my 20s and cherish her more. I met her beforr o dated her oldest son.
Great advice! ❤
That last lesson is why I'm glad I'm glad I didn't have social media when I was young. We lived in the moment so much. They're memories for us, not moments. The pictures we took aren't content, they're frozen memories. I wish younger ppl now could have that
I'm extremely glad I live in an era where everyone (pretty much) has a camera. I have a good memory for how to do things, and general facts and knowledge, but my episodic memory, my life memories, are terrible. No matter how present I am, or how much I enjoyed the moment, I can't hold onto 90% of my memories for longer than 5 years. 😢
For the new generation, enjoy the moment and pictures. But if your posting it for high fives and likes, you're doing it for attention and not truly loving the moment. It's your moment in life to remember, not the world.
When taking pictures develop them, because digital photos are lost to computer evolution. And yes enjoy every moment.
I have ONE Army Photo left. Myspace was eventually deleted. Flash drives lost, phones always break. I dont have a strong memory for anything.
#DontDoDrugs
I was waiting for the end to say Navy: blurbb blurb burb
Automate savings so you forget about 😂🎉
Man, that first lesson was like my second "adult" lesson I had to learn 😅. The first was do what you can to turn a negative thing into a positive thing 😊. Cliche incoming: When life gives you lemons, make lemonade.
...On second thought, 90% of life not going to plan may actually have been my first adult lesson. 🤔
Great advice. Wish military was a better career. You deserve so much more than military.
It’s been what I need. I don’t regret joining.
@@NickVarn good on you bro. It was to "dog eat dog" for me. Ncos flexing power rather than caring, terrible orders being given, terrible treatment of young Marines. It was awful. Glad you have had a better run than I did.
@@badmangames5735 yeah I’ve learned that experience vary drastically in the military. I got lucky
Inspiring
Truth!!!
"90% of your plan isnt going to work out like you want it to"
Me: invests my life savings to start a jewelry business.
3 months later: entire world shuts down over the flu.
The best laid plans of mice and men do oft times go astray. Words to live by.
❤ So true
GySgt Life Coach. Good. Rah.
Amen
Mariana's trench deep. (In my early 30s)
❤
Learned that once I got the boot for refusing the covid vax. Stopped making detailed long term plans after that
Bro you’re 30. You are still very young bro. You still got a long life to live (if you stay safe) Cut the nostalgia
34 is not too young to teach people lessons learned from my experiences.
😢💔
I am 34 and I just got cancer so that was sh,t show 👍🏻😂🤦🏻♀️
buy low sell high
You forgot "invest in bitcoin"
🫂
You need to share your skin care routine. I thought you were 25 or something. Didn't know you got them babies running around. For some reason, guys have it in them to look as mature and older as possible. But you're not getting any younger, so you're winning a losing race