What I Learned In My 20s
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- Опубликовано: 28 июн 2024
- I turned 30 a few weeks ago. I thought I'd share each lesson I learned in my 20s and celebrate my decade here on RUclips.
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➥ Miami Horror - Real Slow (Alex Young Remix)
➥ Epidemic Sound - Sleep Online
➥ Lindsay Lowend - Ashtray
➥ Epidemic Sound - Berk Jam
➥ KOSMO KAT - An Elegant Punk
➥ Saint Pepsi - Unhappy
➥ Singtank - Give It To Me
➥ sheWont - Watching TV
➥ Harris Cole - Eternal Sunshine (A Sol Mechanic)
➥ Tentendo - Dance With Me (ft. Jordan Dennis)
➥ Animal Collective - My Girls (U.HU.RU Remix)
➥ Singto Conley - Drifting Home
➥ Singto Conley - Calling Your Name (ft. Telepathics)
➥ Moon - Paris
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Sending off my 20s with this reflective video about each lesson I learned. Thank you to everyone who has stuck around and supported me along the way. Let's take a trip down memory lane, shall we? What lessons have you learned in life?
I have been watching you since your UC Davis years and seeing you grow to a mature and a beautiful soul is so heartwarming ❤️
Watching all the late 13 to early 14 vlogs with your new apartment and the dyed short hair with that unique vlogging styles to meeting stephanie and you introducing ben to clothesencounters and all made me so nostalgic and makes me want to be a teenager again.
You have always been like a big sister I never had lol. I just stepped into my 20s and this video really is helpful and I want to say thank you. ❤️
Loved how you told your story, it felt like a mini-documentary 🤍 I’m 21 and always feel so behind, but you make me excited to enjoy the journey of my 20s, Jenn.
✨A few lessons I’ve learned are:
1) i’m the only person who is going to prioritize me and know what i need/want
2) self-interrogation is crucial, be in touch with your feelings/thought patterns - it’s telling you something important
3) i need to communicate, no one will ever be able to read my mind
4) life design is more important to me than searching for motivation or self-discipline
5) my identities & my voice/vision matter, i am bringing something valuable
6) chemistry between people is impt, but you won’t have it with everyone
7) everyone wants to be seen, heard, understood, and loved as they are
8) when overwhelmed, do a brain dump
9) let go of anything you can’t control, there’s nothing wrong with you inherently
10) define your personal small joys, they will keep you going
That everything WILL work out we just need to keep our heads high and keep pushing👏🏾 Thank you for alovely journey I saw myself in your story and I am so excited for what the future holds
It inspired me to reflect on my life lessons. You have evolved a lot and I thank you for mapping it out for us. You always do an extraordinary work on self-development contents!
Jenn, my girlcrush! You have been a huge inspiration of mine for so many years. I've been following you since the Oakland days before you even met Ben...I remember the short brown hair and fish eye lens phase like it was yesterday!
Growing up I didn't have a lot of Asian role models to look up to, but you taught me so much about expressing myself through fashion, working on myself, and not being afraid to be different. I'm so proud to have watched you grow over the years, and to see you flourish into the BOSS you are today.
why am i crying
i was too D: this is such a wholesome vid tho ,, i also just finished a video of urs
ikkkkr and i don't even know her this was the first video i watched from her i-
Me toooooo. FAN SINCE CLOTHES ENCOUNTERS ♡ We love you so much Jenn!
Am I the only guy that cried :/
me too
early 20s are rough. At 20, I felt 80 lol. low energy, depressed, feeling purposeless.
I'm 27 and finally feel like how my twenties actually should feel
Im in my early twenties and thats exactly how i feel. Just waiting for life to happen once im out and on my own!
I am almost turning 26 and I still live with my parents xd
I am also 27 and fully agree with your comment! I would say I "found myself" (and my passion in life which is international travel) at 24 or 25, went through big changes at 23-25, and ages 26 and 27 have been the best years for me as far as self-awareness, self-love, self-progress, and me finding my direction in life (we won't talk about 2020 as a year, though.) Loving my late 20's, just hoping life gets better and easier for all.
Yes! I am 25 and from 18-25 I switched between Jobs and colleges and Styles and Body shapes and still havent quite found me
Oof. Im in my early 20s rn and I definitely feel like in my 80s.
This is the authenticity of RUclips that I miss. Instead of the fake drama and clout chasing, I miss people giving real advice and being honest. As for someone who is 20, I always feel stressed, rushed, and in an emotional rollercoaster. This video has brought me so much peace.
To give you advice, enjoy your life. Do what makes u happy.. life will figure itself out tho.. u just find the answer as time went by. Dont think about like friends or other people that make u unhappy, enjoy your personality, enjoy your time with friends that make u happy , cheers! From a 22 year old girl
What is clout chasing?
There are people like that on RUclips, You just gotta find them
Maybe you should get you algorithm checked. You only receive suggestions of content you consume. This is the type of content I get, the calm one because I consume calm stuff, you cant consume drama content and expect the algorithm to miraculously know that you prefer calm stuff. Basically a , you reap what you sow context. Good day.
@@naria2224 this is a late reply, but its basically seeking influence, popularity, or attention on social media. Many clout chasers involve themselves in controversy
Also it's so dope that you've documented everything - really cool!
I'm only 19, and leaving my teenage years behind scares me, but this showed me that there's so much to look forward to.....so thank you.
I recently turned 20 and I couldn't be happier. I look back at even 5 month ago and I know I don't want to go back since I am better and more knowledgeable than ever. Most people don't realize this. I've never been one to care about others' trends and views that don't relate to me, something most people only realize later so don't worry.
Same 😞. It's hard to accept the true.
Drakesden i think that depends on what kind of teenhood life you had. In my case, i never really got to enjoy my teenage years in to the fullest. I never got to do the things other highschool girls/boys did (sleepovers, prom, friday parties, be in a relationship, road trip with friends etc .,) i pretty much had a bland teenage experience, nothing fun and special and all of that due to me having a strict parent/grandparents and there's nothing i could look back to when I'll reach my 30s, 50s, and so on.. That is why i wanted all those time to get back and just break those rules if i have to.
Just turned 20 and it felt amazing! Don't be scared, it's a new chapter.
Same here... It so hard to grow
The music. The storytelling. The pacing. The rawness. It's a cinematic masterpiece of all your hard work. You did 20 justice!
Yesterday I was about to end it all, today I woke up and watched this video while eating breakfast. Thank you so much for sharing this, it was a reminder to myself that If I did end it yesterday, and I am 21, I would have missed all the progress I could have made to "become the person I always should have been". Thank you so much
We are strangers to each other but I am so proud of you. Never ever again let these thoughts stay in the way of the beautiful expeciences that you could have. You have so much yet to feel, to do and to achieve. Have fun
I just wanna say that I am glad you stuck around!!! 💓 I hope you have reminders of what is good and beautiful and worth staying alive for. I hope you have people who love and support you, and want to see you thrive. // If anything, feel free to message me (even though I'm just another soul on the internet haha) ( ꈍᴗꈍ)
It turns out better
I PROMISE❤
I'm also 21 and last night I was just talking to God and saying, "Give me a reason to stay here because I hate where I am (mentally, physically, emotionally, etc.) and life seems too gray and boring and stressful. I don't wanna be here anymore."
So let's stick it out together and see how much we'll change and our situations will change within a decade
Just keep going no matter how cliche it may be life gets better. Although there are lows, you can’t have highs without them
Okay but no one talks about how your boyfriend, now HUSBAND was the OG. He was there through it all. Although it should be considered normal that partners are there for their significant others, it's simply...not. A beautiful fish among those of the trench of the sea XD
Husband material lol
Right like some s/o's just leave or it's "too much" for them to handle
@@PGOuma yeah when I was 19 I dated a guy 5 years older than me who couldn't have cared less when I ended up in a hospital after blacking out from drinking. Damn I really am gonna start picking men who are emotionally available and less narcissistic and self absorbed 🙃
@@qazedc3 sis not "less" narcissistic or self absorbed, you should say *not* narcissistic or self absorbed. 🙏Raise those standards
@@Forit26 this!
Not that you aren’t anymore but clothesencounters Jenn was an icon, I’m sure many will agree. You literally changed the fashion game on RUclips, the blueprint for a lot of these young women thriving now.
Aww, thank you. T__T
Factsss
Totally agree!!😊
I agree!!!!
You may have just saved my life with this one. Reminding me to take care of myself, and that it’s worth sticking around. thank you
this hit me the same 😭
True
Love yourself
Here if you want to talk. God bless❤
Omg I love you yana
I'm 20 and so lost, confused, disappointed and disgusted with myself :)
BlueBell beautiful. Life will soon balance this out;)
Hey I'm 16 and that happens sometimes but I think the best thing is to try not to get stuck in it. Relax
I’m 20 and I feel this too
Glad I’m not the only one but also :(
18 and same
She really looks like she’s 20
Asian don’t raisin
Black don't crack
@@wishY2K what does that mean 🤨
@@wishY2K ohh I think the original means that despite aging asian people still look good
@@nisayn1929 🤚🏽💀
Wow This is my favorite video you’ve ever made. So proud of who you’ve become in the last 10 years grem ❤️ I love you
Love you so much, grem!
ME TOO!!!!!!
Me too
I just turned 20s for 2 weeks ago. I'm starting make some video on youtube. Please sub, like video to support me. :) Making videos help me more confident. Please suppot me. Love you all.
I love u!!! I v learned a lot from this video.
I cried Jenn SO SO beautifully done! As an OG, seeing you grow into this extraordinary woman with her own issues and a willingness to grow is ahhhh I have no words! Loved the storytelling and editing as well ❤️
yesss agreee u guys arre my fav youtuberss atmmmmmm subscribed and turned on post notifssss:)
@@johannasze4711 if it is a sarcasm you are a genius, but probably not
I’m turning 24 next week and I’m still in my second year of university. I feel like the people around me all got their shit together but I’m still in a mess, with no idea where to go on in life. Thank you for being vulnerable in this video, I felt v moved for some reason. I’ve been watching you since clothesencounters days, such nostalgia 💛
sending you love!💓 It's okay to be figuring it out and not yet where you wanna be. I'm not where I expected myself to be, but I'm working with what I have and learning to better take care of myself haha. It's easy to think ppl have it all together when you just see them in passing, but I've learned that most ppl have invisible struggles (and we aren't as alone in these feelings as we often think).
It's a little late but no one has gotten their shit together, they are pretending to be okay, I also used to feel this way then one day some friends came to talk to me and honestly they were more depressed than me, just keep trying, sending love and light
I am on the same page as you, I will be turning 24 this April, all of my friends are already pursuing Medicine, Law, or Graduate program, and I am still here in my 2nd year for my bachelor's degree.
I have wasted 4 years in college, with that 4 years, almost every year I always shift (change) course because I wasn't sure if this course gonna fit me for the rest of my life. Until I realize that I want to be something and I shift for the 5th time and final course.
Today I am struggling but for sure I will make it.
You'll always feel that way, it's natural! Just know that everyone feels that way, and no matter how "together" they seem, they are thinking the exact same thoughts most likely.
Nah people don't have their shit together.
this made me feel tingly. idk why i feel like i’m running outta time when i’m only 21
I feel the exact same way. And I’m 21 too
It scares me a lot
It amplifies 10x once you over 30..and then 100x over 35.. sorry to say
@@jldp24 that’s fun. i’m just ready to die honestly
@@najma4150 I wish I could insert a happy comment here..but losing your youth and.watchyour paretns become old in front of you.is.not fun. I would say...that youneed to.enjoy your 20s ..if you a female..get serious with a man..dont wait ti.yiu 28..but otheer than that..dont getinto.debt..and try to enjoy your youth before the world stops giving you a second chance. Mid 30 is where the mid life crisis alarms start whimpering
I'm 20 but i have always thought that my life has nothing special or interesting🥺 after watching this i realized i am yet sooooo young
Me too! Im also 20(almost 21)
another 20 yo here! one of the things i've been growing into this year is the realisation that even though we are young, our specific life circumstances are so unique and really truly only our own. your life might not feel special, but your voice, your stories and your impact have greater influence than you know. but you're so right, the world is so big!! and there's still so much to explore 🤩
20 this year too!!! cheers to our twenties ~ wishing all of you happiness and excitement for the many things to come
im literally 17 and i feel like im wasting my time and im getting way too old to do things LOL.
Hi,me too
LOL
Well here I am having a cry at my desk at 4pm on a monday
As a person that just turned 20 and have always wanted to die since early teenage years, this made me cry.
We can go so far, yet our mind makes us think that we can’t. this is very important, thank you, truly!
sending you love and light!!! You matter and your life matters. I know it can be hard to see/feel that though. As someone who had spent a number of years with those thoughts themselves, I understand how bleak it can feel. // if you ever wanna chat, feel free to message (I think yt has a message option?) !! (*˘︶˘*).｡*♡
I always keep coming back to this video every now and then throughout my early 20s. I recently turned 23 and I'm still in a rut,stuck,depressed,not liberated and miserable, idk when life is finally gonna change for me😭
as amother 23 year old i feel the same way!!! i really hope it changes for us soon!!!🫶
This feels so nostalgic. My best friend introduced me to this channel 7 years ago. And since then I’ve stuck to this channel. My best friend passed away due to leukaemia last year Jan 12. Watching this makes me miss her so much! I’m so thankful to her for introducing me clothesencounter. :)
I am so sorry to hear that💔! I hope you are staying strong 😭
It's crazy how she recorded her 20s while we dont
Seeing this, I am going to record my 20s.. well it's a long way there, I just turned 16 a few days ago
@@name4877 really... I can agree to u, but then too it's gonna be a whirl for me as in a yr I will go to college, and currently I'm working for my dream college.. but truly this 16 yrs went by so quick😳😳
@@oopsneha haha im 15 i turn 16 this year
@@oopsneha i turned 16 last month haha
@Vivid hey and i have got two years to go
i'm on this wave length! turning 29 in a few months and feel like it's such a huge transition.
I'm 20 years old . RN I want to move to another country and start a new life.
do itttttt
Yayyy...but just be yourself...do what you want...good luck ❤❤❤
this is me except i am 19 years old.
same man! Damned Covid
go for it! you’ll regret it if you don’t
i literally started watching you in 2010 when I was 14 and an awkward freshman in highschool. you gave me the confidence to break out of my mold and say fuck it to all the people i was so afraid to be judged by. it's crazy. i'm 24 now and have been watching you consistently, every single video without a fail, for 10 whole years. it's weird to think you've been such a constant in my life tho i'm just a mere stranger to you. i'm now chasing my own dreams in LA, but sometimes wonder if i'll ever run into you and be able to thank you for the positive impact you've had on my life for so long. cheers to your 30s jenn
you and me both!! kindred spirits and I know there are so many of us out there
oh wow i'm 26 and this made me realize that I've never done anything crazy/spontaneous/exciting thing in my life....
Hey girl 27 and I am positive you will find what you love! Take care x
I have done some "crazy" and spontaneous shit in my life and I gotta say be careful with what you do. You may regret it lol. Be around people you truly trust. If you dont have those people, go do things yourself and dont trust complete strangers. When I think back, I wish I didn't do them. Better to be on the safe side sometimes.
Mhm excuse me for hopping in so abruptly but sometimes people, at the end of their lives are more likely to regret the things that they didn’t do than the lessons they’ve learned from the things that they did... Even if it were ones that they didn’t think they should’ve learned. It’s the power to get back up at any given situation perhaps that is the moral of the story.
I mean if you look at it from a broader view at the end of your life, everyone has had some good and bad times. One cannot exist with the absence of the other. Being careful or wreckless can have the opposite effect in different situations also depending on how the person naturally reacts to certain things. I always say stick to your gut feeling :)
Anyways, hope you did something today that made you feel good about being here. Take care 🌎
same
please, do something about it, enjoy life, enjoy every moment, breath the moment.
That moment when your 20 now but can’t have a club scene phase cuz of a pandemic lol
Im 24 and I've never been clubbing and anything and I never will. Being sh*t faced at 3am is not living my best life and it shouldn't be a standard that we uphold
Starie Hearts not a standard that we uphold but at least a one time experience to say you’ve done it once🤷♀️
@@evastood4539 most of my uni classmates have alcohol dependency issues from this 1 time experience, 1 girl got pregnant from a 1 night stand, and I know too many girls who have been drugged and then assaulted all thanks to alcohol. Personally that life ain't for me. I try to protect my liver and health, not destroy it ;)
@@evastood4539 I agree to this. I don't want to grow old with too many regrets. I'm old enough to have self-control so 1 time doesn't sound too bad with the right kind of people. Not saying everyone should do it though
Same age as you, waiting till next year to hit the clubs
I’m 28 and I feel like I wasted my twenties to depression and anxiety and now I’m wasting my life due to covid lol
Hang in there!
I am 21 and feels the same way. Wasted 1% of my life locked up in a house
I’m also 28 and I feel the same! I read so many comments like this, crazy how so many of us feel this way. We got this, 30 is a beautiful age
same...
I understand you. I'm not the person to go out naturally, but I had my moments before the quarantine. Just places I would go to to feel better and reconnect with myself.
I saw a lot of people during this pandemic that enjoyed their time alone at home, and actually maybe I would be the same if not for the responsibilities I was obliged to take to help things at home. It's awful. I'm here just waiting for all of this to end and it never ends kjsjskk.
this is amazing im crying
omg what ru doin here 😭 I LOVE YOU
u should be doing one too!!!
♥️♥️♥️
This actually made me emotional, I can't belive i have been watching 7 years of your life, time goes by sooo fast, i subscribed to your channel around 2013, y was 15 and now i'm 22.
I cried with you when benn proposed, when you showed us your broken thoot... i love how bright you are, and honestly wish the best to you and I hope i will get to see you throght this channel for many more years ♥♥
Lots of love from Colombia!!
i have the exact same experience !! i am now 22 and i've been following Jenn since 2013 as well. I cant believe how fast time flies
@@NoraRez I'm an army too hahahahaha !!
Ana why this is a crazy coincidence hahahah I can also speak Spanish ! Vaya coincidencia
Exact same experience!! Am a proud 22 year old now
@@NoraRez muchísima jajajaja
I felt like I was watching a movie. This was a beautiful piece
that was so beautiful and raw :') I'm 26 and feel like I've wasted my whole 20s but I realise that everyone is on their own path.
0:50 *Age 20 - I need to make my own luck*
2:40 *Age 21 - I need a fresh start*
4:03 *Age 22 - I found my passion*
4:58 *Age 23 - I love living alone*
5:52 *Age 24 - I fell in love hard*
7:07 *Age 25 - There's no place like home*
8:05 *Age 26 - I exercised for my mood*
8:42 *Age 27 - I'm going to see a therapist*
9:45 *Age 28 - Alcohol doesn't make me interesting*
11:27 *Age 29 - I'm allowed to take my time*
Meh boring
@@chitrikart2328 no
Thank you. Waiting for this comment
The first one is I need to have my own back, not luck I think
In few years the last point will change, i took too much time and now i have a divorce, baby, dog and wrinkles.
you're 10 years older than me, i'm just hitting my 20's and I feel exactly like you did in 2010. I love this video; it gives me hope
I’m the same !! I start my 20’s this yr and I feel like i don’t know anything and don’t know what I I want to do...
I know right I thought i was alone turned 20 like two months ago and i feel like am where she was at twenty i just hope 10yrs down the line I'll be as a successful as she is
I too turned 20 two months ago and just hope this video helps me in learning something cause it's really time to explore things...
ughh i feel this!!! im turning 20 in a few months
I'm hitting twenty this winter too! Her video literally game me so much hope!
As am going through the comments I realised am not alone who feels lost, confused and depressed in my early 20s (currently 21) especially in this covid time I feel like the future is really blurred
21 too. Graduating college in May after a year of online classes. I feel like there’s no closure for my college experience and like I have no clue what I’m gonna do with my life after this year...
turning 21 this year. I'm as lost, confused, depressed as most of you are (with covid and life) I'm failing at everything with my classes in my first year in architecture, my relationship with my friends and family, lost my job and especially with myself and quarantine making it worse. I've been trying my best to not give in by forcing myself to exercise and to eat but it's getting harder every day, I don't know why :(. I'm glad I stumbled upon the comments that it reminded me I'm not alone that maybe someday it may get better. I hope.
When you’re 25th year feels like a blur because you’ve spent it in quarantine and the days start to blend.
as a 21 year old whos done nothing but be a homebody i feel like everyone else has these fun 20s...
same but we are young and never is to late to experience this thing's
19 here, I can feel you. I'm really of not having all those fun in my 20s...
You're super young and 2020 is a pretty awful year to be 21 tbh. You have a LOT of time to get out and enjoy life.
Jake Payne I'm 18 this whole year and turning 19 this December and i gotta agree with what you said. 2020 is an awful year to be a young adult who's just about to start a life lmao.
I’m 21 and feel this exact way! This was an unprecedented situation and you need not to shame yourself...
when i read "clothes encounters" I GOT GOOSEBUMPS CUZ THAT'S HOW LONG I'VE BEEN AROUND i kinda forgot the name u had
I'm 23 and I feel like I'm already too old to do anything. I feel like a disappointment because I've never done anything great in my life and I've realized none of my dreams... So thank you so much for this video, it helps a lot
You are still so young. Life doesn’t end after 20s, it is just the beginning.💗
you still have time, keep going, keep believing in yourself ❤️
What you learn in your 30's:
Don't subscribe to hustle culture,
6 hours of drinking isn't worth a hangover,
FOMO disappears.
Don’t only focus on career.
I’m still 15 but I’ve always been scared about getting older, and watching this has made me feel so much better about it
Don’t be! Everything will make sense when you get there! It’s actually exciting to grow older and find yourself!
that kinda proves it's in the mind, and less about physical age. i felt the same at 15 though
SAVOUR ITTTT
same!!
sameee im 15 too and i always get sad in my bdays i just dont wanna grow
You are a GEM. To see your journey blossom throughout your twenties is incredible. You are so special and I am beyond proud of you. Thank you for being an inspiration me and so many others. I love you to pieces ❤️
Jem (Jenn)
Growth and maturity is a major thing that happens in your 20s. From drinking to fit in with your friends, to caring what everyone thinks about you, to creating your own self. It's a magical time that I enjoyed too, but am now glad to have moved on to bring out my next goals in life. (A 33 year old)
i'm turning fifteen this year and growing up scares me a lot. to me, you're like an older sister who guides me along the way ! thank you for this video. i truly wish you a kinder year ahead
For me 15th yr was the most educational yr. Don't need to get overwhelmed (ngl I'm lol). Idk where u r coming from but our lives are all connected at the end, so yeah after this huge pandemic try to connect with whatever, ppl or animals or some hobby or some skillset or ur education. It's not necessary but what I see is getting involved keeps u positive and helps get evolve. My 15th yr was the most lonely of all due to this lockdown but there's always something to look forward to, isn't it. Well, I just turned 16 couple weeks ago and at last it's ur life, so it's gonna be totally urs, make the hell u want out of it..
Ps Idk why even I wrote this, but this is just more of a reminder to myself, our lives differ but take it as a letter.
~ anonymous
First of all, I love your pfp and I can tell you have great taste in people ;). Secondly, I'm not that much older than you and it scares me too, but a piece of advice I'd give you is to try to pursue what you what. Don't do what I did and think that it'll happen on it's own eventually or that "it's not time for it happen yet". Again, I'm only around 5 years older than you so I don't know much of anything, but I just wanted to say this. Have fun, love life. Enjoy your own company.
I guess everyone learn things differently... When I hit 30, I felt like it was the worst year of my life, I haven't achieved anything, I still haven't dated anyone, I still live with my mom and dad, I had no close connections no friends no compeers, I was drowned in work and had nothing much going on in my life. I'm 35 now and trying to make everyday seem the best it can, I'm comfortable and blessed that I don't suffer from any kind of emotional traumas, my family is fine, I'm in good shape, and I can afford to take care of the old folks and myself. I do wish sometimes that I could go back to my 20s and change some things so that life as it is for me now could be much more impressive, but that would mean I couldn't have learned what I understood today. The biggest takeaway for me was to understand that self growth is relative, life is beautiful and different, for everyone. Don't stop living, stop only when you are dead :)
You are a gorgeous human being. So proud of you being strong until now. I hope you can keep up another good year ahead 🤗
So happy that you're better now, everything you went through including all the struggles, have all added up to your current being, you will continue to grow and attract the things that are truly meant for you. More wins❤️
Hey, I just wanted to let you know you’re not alone. I had a boring 20s too. I turn 30 in October. I personally don’t think I’ve come to terms with it. It’s like a dark cloud over my past. I barely remember anything. But I think it’s because I had to deal with anxiety and depression. I want to go back so bad and redo things with the knowledge I have now..... but it kind of helps (me) to know that others feel exactly the same.
I'm 23 and am scared for the next 7 years of my life but also excited.
Same here! 23 y/o here and I'm so scared and excited for the next 7 years.
This made me emotional. I just turned 21 early this month, I'm still lost & depressed, and I don't have a passion nor interest in anything.
I feel like I've just constantly been in a battle against myself.
But I'm hoping that with a new year, though not great with the whole pandemic situation, that I'll live my life a little more... me.
I wish more people realized that alcohol isn't what makes their best memories. It's the people around you, and how you feel in those moments.
Alchohol just emphasizes whatever you feel, and the more you drink the less control you have over that, and that may end up hurting you and those around you.
You and Sarah as clothesencounters had such a huge impact on my late teenage years. It’s crazy how far you’ve come!
She's 30 yet she looks so young. I'm 20 yet I've been mistaken as a mother of my two highschool siblings, godness gracious hahahahaha
Sunscreen is key
@@Meg-cc6yc 100% TRUE AHAHA
@@hannahrepollo yesss haha I’m a skin care junkie 😌
@@teacup3370 also anyone can have good skin. Let’s not discriminate.
Thank you for being so genuine, to not be afraid of showing the weaknesses. To show the beauty in the ugly parts of life. I think I've followed you consistently since around 2011. Now 28 myself, you feel like someone I've grown up with. Seeing your businesses grow is inspirational and I continue to aspire to achieve my own successes seeing what's possible from you. Thank you Jenn for sharing your life with us for all these years
"Never in my life did I feel that I was good at anything" idk but tears suddenly started coming out. Maybe because I'm still currently on that phase now and looking at this makes me hope to one day say "this is all what I've been waiting for" :'/
same though. I just turned 27 last week and I wonder when i’ll find it.
@@nancychen5992 :( I don't know what to say cause I'll just be 25 next month and I am just getting more and more stressed out and becoming more clueless
@@patricias.alivio3744 :( I'm sorry you're feeling that way. I think we'll both be okay! We don't really know what future holds, but I guess this is the time to figure out what we like and don't like. The things that I like won't make me a lot of money but there are so many things out there that I might like more? And what if I'm not good at any of it?
Dude. Yes. Like if Jen Im once felt that way, there's hope for us all, right?
@@nancychen5992 hmm I guess for now we just really have to keep on trying... Me I dream of being in Italy. I can't really go there. I am so broke & we are in a pandemic now so I just try to learn Italian. It's just what I can do for now. I really hope things would eventually work out for us and we can figure out or find our way soon...
I know that I'm still technically an adult right now at 24 and I can't wait till I become more confident in myself!!! Honestly I love videos like this because it makes me really hopeful about my future! I feel super stagnant in my life right now but I try to remind myself every experience is a great opportunity to grow as a person!!
Same but 23 lol
24 is sooo young. Take your time! I’m only 26 now, but the growth I’ve felt recently is incredible. We’re not supposed to have everything figured out in our 20’s. Just do what makes you happy & take care of yourself. The rest will fall into place when it’s time. I promise. ❤️
SAME. Im 24 right now and I feel like life is at a halt.
I feel stuck too but I think the corona really adds to that feeling 😪 hoping it passes soon
V.I.P- REVELUV I’m glad I’m not the only one!
This was honestly very interesting to watch. I'm gonna turn 25 next month and it got me thinking (like every year since I started counting), "Have I accomplished enough? Have I done enough or could I have done more?". Me and all my generation are contantly thinking about rushing things, and getting head without looking at what we have at the moment, not to talk about what we have accomplished. Thanks for reminding me that drinking alcohole should be taken with more consideration than carelessness. And also, to take a look back at my accomplishments, so I won't rush too much and miss them.
I remember watching clothes encounters when I was in highschool and thrifting outfits because I saw how you styled your outfits! It was those videos that inspired me to be creative with my clothing. Its 10 years later and i still remember how those videos made me feel about clothes and myself!!
It’s almost ironic how so many people go through similar life stages but when we are in the thick of things we always feel so alone.
Jenn Im - literally one of the OG social media influencers.
I'm turning 21 next month and I loved absolutely love everything about this video. Thank you for being so raw and speaking your truths. You truly inspire me.
I've been here since clothes encounters at 100k subs and it brings me to tears to see how beautifully Jenn has grown over the years, and watch her grow more comfortable in her own skin through the years. She is one of the content creators on this platform who brings authentic value and who's content just kept getting better :')
Most impactful post I’ve seen in 2020. Raw, honest, and open. “here it is.”
I'm currently 24, 25 in two months, I haven't done what I want to because my country is a dangerous place to live so night outs, sleep overs, travelling alone at 20, etc weren't in my list. But a year ago I made the decision of making me happy, physically, mentally and emotionally happy, I cut off people that were sucking my energy. I started working out, a better skincare routine, better eating habits, more family reunions, bought more plants and cooking more. I am indeed happy. I still have a lot to live: traveling alone, falling in love, finding a new job. But I kinda feel sad that my 20 to 22 life was constantly thinking "ugh I have so much college work to do I can't anymore" and I mean, yeah, I had fun from time to time but expectation were high and reality hit hard lol either way, we need to stop stressing. We only have this life. So live on y'all, we should be happy 🌟
I did the same. And my country have the same issue. But did go for girls night out and live few days with my colleagues on training.
But I don't think all these are needed to feel fulfill. As I m introvert
@@bluelotus2021 of course not, everyone is different so others can feel bad not doing those things, I'm an extrovert (maybe an ambivert) but I enjoy staying at home, going for a coffee with a friend, I sound kinda old right? When I was 18 I did wished life would be even more fun and I didn't enjoy 100% what I had haha indeed my life has been always fulfilled but I didn't realize it was.
@@yasminout I agree. I m Introvert. I did enjoy outside life. Girls night out in our way. And visiting different places. But I always prefer stay home.
Due to Bachelor degree and job I visited lots of places.
i guess all south asian countries can relate too. with our culture no sleepovers,no clubbing,no alcohol,no travelling alone basically don't have permission to do anything.and i still couldn't find a way to be independent,its almost impossible
What did you cook Anything interesting!
aw i just turned 21 and this is so wholesome and fills me with so much excitement for what the future holds for me!
I just turned 25 over the weekend, and I love being able to go back to this video to reflect. It's beautiful and transformative to age and I think I'm slowly learning to accept the opportunities that each year brings.
My boyfriend overheard everything and said "hey, she's becoming really good at story telling. Her lessons are paying off."
So devoted to your channel that even my boyfriend knows your story
Congratulations Jenn!! It's so crazy how far you have come, and I can't believe it's already been a decade. Thank you for teaching me how to be confident and getting me in to fashion, me as a 14-old really grew cause of Clothes Encounters 💕💕💕
Something about this video just makes me cry like a baby because it is so moving. I love it.
i'm about to turn 22 in a week and this video pops up in my recommendations reminding me that i must live life to the fullest. thank you i appreciate it. subscribed for sure. you made me tear up lol.
This video was so special, thanks for being so vulnerable !!!
I'm in my 20's and omg, It's so boring and I feel very dissapointed about myself. I hope to grow the way you did!
don't be disappointed!! these things take so much time and tbh this video doesn't show all the hard parts along the way & struggles & feelings of insecurity. it's very normal to feel lost and confused and disappointed in your 20s. don't compare yourself to anyone, particularly not people's lives on social media.
@@tal4976 you are so sweet. Thank u so much!
You have the best age where you can experience things, anything! (make art, music, write, cook, travel, make friends, share your passions and it will grow through the people you will meet and over the years. You cannot make a decision until you've tried it out so don't be afraid. Just live and share and don't be afraid to start small :) This was an odd advice from an old 33 years old woman ;)
@@elsiegatels4060 see that’s great and all but then COVID hit
You still have time its okag, you are more than you think i believe in u!🥺🌸
How cool is it to have documented footage of all of your 20's. Such an informative and well put together video as someone who is just now 20 .
This video was seriously incredible. Never expected to follow along for such a journey when the video popped up on my recommended. The visuals of early 2010s, the artistic journey, seeing that you married a guy from a band I’d actually heard of, seeing you move to different places, relating to MOST of the lessons you learned.... great great video. Thank you
i'm still 18 but watching this made me feel that i should let myself really live my life. thank you for being so open and vulnerable with us, this touched my heart and many others for sure
Live your life and take your time! The beauty of life is finding and creating yourself!!
I just turned 20, and I’ve had 2 suicide attempts, since I was in and out of an abusive relationship for years. This video truly makes me so grateful to be able to continue to live, learn and enjoy life. Which is a feeling I’ve struggled to have. Thank you for letting us into your life. I appreciate how personal and open you are. You’ve grown into such an admirable person. I hope you find inner peace and are more kind to yourself. You deserve nothing but the best. Here’s to entering your 30s 🥳
wow, i really hope you're in a better place right now ! sending you a lot of love ! Never forget that you deserve love and respect ! especially from yourself ;)
Chloé thank you so much, I really needed that reminder
wow, you strong human. you are a warrior. thank you for being here.
Monique Khac thank you so much, you are so kind 🤍
You are precious and a warrior. I wish you find peace and become the person you always wants to be 🙌🏻
I love to rewatching this video whenever I feel some type of way. It’s a kind reminder on how far we’ve come to be where we are now. Feeling sad is temporary, there are up and down moments, as long as we get back on our feet and not get defeated.
I'm half way ending my 20s but I feel like I wasn't doing enough. I know everyone has their own journey/timeline but this video made me realize that I have to explore my life and be who I want to be.
I’m 24 going to 25 and I really enjoyed this video. I haven’t been able to live a life I wanted to because of lack of independence. I couldn’t fully enjoy my early 20s because I was stuck in my parents place (I say stuck since that’s how it felt like). Went to school. Studied. Sometimes hung out with friends when I was allowed to. It was a cycle I wanted to change but didn’t want to make my parents mad or disappointed.
I still am in my early 20s now and the pandemic I think gave me some time to reflect on how i am as a person a bit and who I want to be. It got me into really pushing myself to find jobs in hopes I could get money and finally move out. I love my parents but it’s one of those feelings you get that maybe for my benefit that I become independent. Following their rules and expectations for so long has made me tired and gave me low self esteem. Deep down I know my worth but having doubts I had because of a comment my mom made or the ‘you were so much smarter when you were younger’ comments she’d let out. I still have some years to go and so many more experiences to explore. But this video has made me realize how time isn’t waiting for anyone and not doing anything takes away from that meaningful life that you want. Thank you Jenn.
I spend most of time in my 20-24 attending classes , assignments , internship , job hunt and budgeting expense , doing 9-6 job , ditching dates because i thought it will shoot up my budget which i regret . untill i reach 25 i focused on my carrier , savings etc . Now i am 27 and i wish i could had fun in my earlies and now i am way behind others in the matter of relationships , life goals , etc . Never partied , club , attended concert now i feel wierd or unconnected to do these things .
Have you ever smoked marijuana? Do you know something about marijuana? I have schizophrenia and I would like to smoke marijuana. What to do? Can you help me?
@@juanpedro4083 Marijuana can make your schizophrenia worse. I have a friend with mild schizophrenia and he says that marijuana helps him a lot and he smokes everyday. But he's a different kind of guy lol I'm not sure if it would have the same effect on everyone. If I was you I would be very careful with something like that
She probably thinks you were "smarter" because you were following the conventional life plan they'd laid out to you by going to school, etc. Which no one has a choice in, lol, so of course you're going to do that.
You probably just didn't continue on the path/timeline/life plan they'd envisioned for you and that was their measure of "smart".
You do you though. Don't shape your life around what other people want. Take their guidance where it's relevant and helpful, but ultimately I reckon you know what's best for you.
I am 20 and I feel this comment on so many levels... and college is really hard for me rn because everything is online and I don't understand anything from online classes... I feel like I got dumber lol and the parent thing is the same for me I feel stuck at home
Omg I remember those loafers with the spikes like it was yesterday. I wanted them so badly 😩
also the creepers i really wanted them lmao
I still have them in my closet lol
This video made me cry in such a good way! I experienced turbulent teen years and now, at the age of 22, I can barely recognize my old self and the things she thought and prioritized. I've learned the most life lessons about myself and the world this year, and for the first time in my life I genuinely feel positive about the future. This video was a beautiful tribute to just how crazy the 20's can be and how we are always, always learning and growing. thanks for this
Jenn, you are such a bright and beautiful being! Ever since 2013, I've enjoyed your videos. I haven't seen every single one and haven't invested much time on RUclips since 2016. YET! It is reassuring and encouraging to see the progression of your life and glean from the lessons. You are an inspiration, Jenn Im!
Jenn is more than an RUclipsr. She’s a coach. A mentor. A therapist. A friend who will tell you like it is. I feel like I’ve grown up with her and it’s amazing to see the maturity blossom in front of us over the last 10 years. You’re a beautiful soul, Jenn! Thank you for being you🤍
Never in my life have I wished to be able to go out like this more just when the current situation doesn't allow it. Irony. It shows us how much we should appreciate contact with others- and how fun and exciting contact with strangers can be. When this pandemic is over, I won't take it for granted anymore.
Me either
Thank you Jenn for this. I’m 22 and feel like I’m in a limbo phase of just waiting fo things. I feel so relieved that you felt the same way at 20 and now feel reassured that its just a phase. All I need to do now is just keep going.
I'm 23 and watching this basically confirmed that I have wasted, and am currently wasting, my life. Thank you.
The alcohol part makes me cry... I can literally feel your pain through the screen.... I wish all the best in the future Jenn and most importantly, you deserve everything, so do we.
I’m currently 20 years old and I feel like I’m constantly left behind by the people around me. I’ve been watching you since high school and I’m so happy to see how far you’ve come!! this video really gave me a sense of comfort. Thank you Jenn for sharing your journey!
I feel the exact same
Same, I felt that so hard.
I'm turning 20 in a little over a month, and honestly, watching this video has made me excited for my 20s. For some reason I thought the best years were already behind me, and that scared me because my teens weren't all that eventful. Thank you for making me hopeful, even if by having the good times I'll have to live through the bad as well. It seems to be very much worth it.
one of my favorite videos you have ever created and tbh one of my favorite videos of all time. I find myself coming back here often when I feel lost, or sad
Damn that scene witht he broken tooth got me..
Same even though I lost my entire front tooth lmaooo
I was laughing😂😂
Same,
I also lost my front teeth from a sport
Honestly, getting older is awesome! As I got older I also became more comfortable in my own skin, I feel like I am finally becoming the person I should have been from the start.
Completely! Thanks Nesli!
girl ive been with you since i been in middle school. now I'm in my 20s and its so wild to watch this, having looked up to you since your early stuff. your style and videos brought me out of such depressions. so happy for you and happy bday! may the 30s be amazing
This video is two years old and I rewatch it as if I’ve never seen it before. One of my most favorite videos ever on your channel. As I’m in the last couple years in my 20s, this video makes me feel all the feels that I’ve gone through.
This made me so nostalgic I may have shed a tear 😅 I never realized I've been following you since 2011 and I feel like you are one of the RUclipsrs I've grown up with, thanks for being a big sister 💕
this isn't a vlog, this are the memories, experiences and lessons that Jenn had encountered, and these all are beautiful ❤ it reminds me that all the good and the bad things are still worth treasuring and it was what made us what we are right now, thank you for sharing this to all of us Jenn :)
Hey Jen, I’ve been watching your channel since the beginning, literally when you and Sarah filmed thrift hauls...I was in high school back then but now I am a working professional. It truly feels like I’ve grown up with you. Thank you so much for just being you throughout all these years and I’m so happy about how far you’ve come, and how far you will go,
I love the way you have narrated this video, the steps you have taken to have a change in life and what happens, it happens for a reason! Go you Jenn, keep on inspiring us and spreading love
They say 30s really is when a woman starts to bloom!
I totally agree w this 👏🏼😭❤️
@Ann P wow I will be 25 next month too and my life is also falling apart and mental health just getting worse with self esteem shrinking day by day
@@jesusiskingofmyheart I hope we can agree too when we reach that age 😭
@Ann P I'm 21 and same
LOL YEAH BLOOM WITH AGE SPOTS AND CROWS FEET AROUND THE EYES 😂
i'm 22 and i haven't started to enjoy my 20s and it just feels like i'll never. all i do is study and work, almost got no time for hobbies and my friends are far away. it's lonely and idk how to push things to accomplish my dreams to be happier. feels like i never learned how to have fun.
i loved the video tho, i'm glad you're living your best life!
I’m 20 and I still feel like I’m not enjoying. I feel you. But someday we will accomplish our dreams. And hey if we ever in same state cough Virginia. Hmu! We can make a RUclips video or sum! Trust me I know how it feels about being lonely.
I feel this.... same..
I feel the same way. I can't wait till im on my own to be independent from my strict parents
It’s not too late, you can still make new friends
I'm 22. Will be 23 in 2021 and I'm not having fun either. 18 to now has been RUFF. I got into the school of my dreams at 18, it was such a high. Then... I lost a parent, my family went practically bankrupt, had to be pulled from school, had to move back to my country that I hadn't been for YEARS, lost many of my friends, saw many goals & dreams I'd work towards fall flat, disappointment after disappointment, lost hope and energy and the ability to feel excited. Now I'm finally going to school at nearly 22, moving to London for uni (literally in 8 hours from when I'm writing this) in the middle of a pandemic and national lockdown, leaving my family to go into isolation. I don't know how it will go, I think the first half of this year might be rough. But I hope 23 turns out to be a positive turning point for me. I don't need it to be flashy, I just want to be happy and healthy (mind & body) and secure. I hope I meet people and make connections to replace the ones I lost. Hope I create new goals & dreams to replace the ones I lost. Even as I'm packing my bags, I'm more anxious than excited. I hope I get my excitement back.
I hope anyone reading this knows that nothing is permanent. Good things aren't permanent, but neither are bad things.
This video is gold, Jenn! Thank you so much for sharing these thoughts and moments with us. Really appreciate it 😊
This really reached me, I turn only 19 this years and your always so inspiring for me ! Thanks for sharing all of this with us !