What makes a Good Wife - Jordan Peterson (Best Motivational Speech)

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  • Опубликовано: 25 дек 2024

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  • @toodee2d
    @toodee2d 11 дней назад +3

    Jordan is absolutely right when he says “ someone to contend with”.
    Genesis 2:18. Help meet- does not mean quiet little submissive homemaker- (ננד-neged) literally means in front, counterpart, over against, before. From the root word nagad -to boldly stand out opposite, to expose predict explain and so forth.
    Conclusion:
    A wife is to stand with her husband when he’s walking upright and doing right- and she is to be the first one step in front and against him when he’s not.

  • @nickjee
    @nickjee 3 месяца назад +65

    Interesting video. My relationship of 5 years ended a month ago. The love of my life decided to leave me, I really love her so much I can’t stop thinking about her, I’ve tried my very best to get her back in my life, but to no avail, I’m frustrated, I don’t see my life with anyone else. I’ve done my best to get rid of the thoughts of her, but I can’t, I don’t know why I’m saying this here, I really miss her and just can’t stop thinking about her.

    • @jean-b8m
      @jean-b8m 3 месяца назад +4

      its difficult to let go of someone you love, i was in a similar situation, my relationship of 12 years ended, but i couldnt just let him go,i did all i could to get him back, i had to seek the help of a spiritual counselor who helped me bring him back

    • @nickjee
      @nickjee 3 месяца назад +1

      Amazing, how did you get a spiritual counselor, and how do i reach her?

    • @jean-b8m
      @jean-b8m 3 месяца назад +2

      Her name is Shelly renee white , and she is a great spiritual counselor who can bring back your ex.

    • @nickjee
      @nickjee 3 месяца назад +2

      Thank you for this valuable information, i just looked her up now online. impressive

    • @joesoap8125
      @joesoap8125 3 месяца назад

      Next time show it less

  • @dawns_swan
    @dawns_swan 2 месяца назад +19

    "She should be on the side of who you could be..."

    • @jeanmm6823
      @jeanmm6823 Месяц назад

      That was powerful to me too. 🫰🏾🫰🏾🫰🏾

  • @tracystreet8338
    @tracystreet8338 3 месяца назад +15

    God is always moving forward. He wants us to do the same Amen. Glory to God Amen 🙏 🙌 ✨️

  • @andrewbosman3065
    @andrewbosman3065 22 дня назад +2

    What an eye 👀 opening - so help me to appreciate my wife that think different as me so I can become a better version of myself please Lord God in Jesus Mighty Name 🙏🙏🙏

  • @InsideOfMyOwnMind
    @InsideOfMyOwnMind Год назад +10

    He ended that one on a bombshell.

  • @jordankaangelova
    @jordankaangelova 29 дней назад +8

    The Bible teaches that a wife should be of gentle and quiet spirit and a woman who fears the Lord. Proverbs 31

    • @toodee2d
      @toodee2d 11 дней назад +1

      You have not read proverbs 31 correctly.
      The Hebrew word for virtuous is not at all talking about a gentle quiet spirit.
      {Chayil -a force, whether of men-means or other resources; an army, wealth, virtue, valor, strength: - able, activity, (+) army, band of men (soldiers), company, (great) forces, goods, host, might, power, riches, strength, strong, substance, train, (+) valiant (-ly), valour, virtuous (-ly), war, worthy (-ily).}
      In fact the word chayil also used for armies. And is used to describe ‘MEN’ as men of valor or Warriors. Not at all in reference to women
      Jordan is absolutely right when he says “ someone to contend with”. And the proof is the in Genesis 2:18. Help meet- does not mean quiet little homemaker- (ננד-neged) literally means in front, counterpart, over against, before. From the root word nagad -to boldly stand out opposite, to expose predict explain and so forth.
      Conclusion:
      A wife is to stand with her husband when he’s walking upright and doing right- and she is to be the first one step in front and against him when he’s not.
      Also- everything about the proverbs 31 woman following that opening statement concerning virtue is about how she runs her house, puts it in order, arranges duties, buys land and makes business transactions.
      Of course a wife should respect her husband. He should also respect her.
      The two should live together in peace, and there should be balance in the relationship.
      Look at all the bold women in the Bible who stood up when the man was wrong- look at Abigail and Nebal- his name literally means “stupid” you can read the whole story yourself… he refused to honor David and she quickly packed up a tribute and met David and bow down his feet.
      And what about Jael-she saved Israel!
      Men always believe that they want a proverbs 31 woman but never take time to study exactly what one truly is.
      However, it’s time women started demanding a Job 31 husband!!
      Eyes that don’t wander, walks upright, deals honestly and fairly, always aware that everything he does is seen by God and every deed will be weighed in the balances to see if he was truly productive and righteous.

  • @anawesomejourney1198
    @anawesomejourney1198 2 года назад +54

    Speak for yourself on this one. Would have loved someone to loyally adore and cherish my current form. And then after that support me on my journey to the next level. But this concept of someone that isn't satisfied with the present and is always looking for the next. Nope that doesn't make me more attached, just makes me think that when I get to that next level I will be thinking about how little support you gave me to get there and how your love was conditional on me getting here.

    • @monk3110
      @monk3110 Год назад +15

      Ppl forgot that everyone is a fixer upper and having a little love while you grow together fosters the best ppl

    • @sanniwartinen3595
      @sanniwartinen3595 Год назад +1

      Exactly! I thought this was really wierd advice also.

    • @raemarie8120
      @raemarie8120 Год назад +10

      I think this is more about finding the balance. If your wife respects and loves you she will do he best to embody these ideas. Love support and be kind, but when you need to speak up to help your partner see certain ways, don't keep your mouth shut. Come to him with thoughtfulness and love, because he probably won't want to hear how he can grow. But then lay out the issue, with examples and maybe even a solution or two. Regardless, whatever it is has to be talked about. It has to be attended to, or resentment and bitterness will build. My husband and I do this all the time. And sometimes it SUCKS to hear how we are falling short, but it's empowering because we realize we can fix it. He and I constantly reflect to one another what ways we need to move forward in, so the relationship with eachother and ourselves don't grow stagnant. It's so hard to love someone who doesn't love themselves. And if they stay a young, uneducated version of themselves the whole relationship, the partner will outgrow them.
      I hope you find your other half one day, and I hope you've prepared yourself to be what they deserve too.❤

    • @anawesomejourney1198
      @anawesomejourney1198 Год назад +6

      @@raemarie8120 Thank you for such a beautiful response. I read every word of it. Very valuable.

    • @Madi_thagod
      @Madi_thagod 10 месяцев назад +6

      I think this video went over ur head . She loves and accepts him as he is , but demands growth , which is loving someone

  • @dearthofdoohickeys4703
    @dearthofdoohickeys4703 16 дней назад +3

    We don’t have to wonder, God explained it from the start: Husbands should love and protect their wives, and wives should respect and support their husbands. That’s all there is to it. People get confused and scared end up ruining their lives because they try to do their own thing, but it never works.

  • @thorie79
    @thorie79 6 месяцев назад +29

    I want peace. I contend with enough things at work everyday. I want a wife who is self-sufficient in most ways. I'm not here to make my wife's life easier. I'm here to take shared responsibility of the kids, and of matters of the home we share.
    I want a wife who trusts me rather than fights with me, but of course, I wouldn't expect her to trust unless I personally deliver success consistently. So I carry that burden. I need to prove that my decision-making is solid.
    A man doesn't want a wife who is a child. A wife doesn't want a man who is a child. It really goes both ways.
    When a man is leading successfully and a woman is cooperating pleasantly, I consider it to be perfect synergy.

    • @dandelionessxoxo
      @dandelionessxoxo 4 месяца назад +6

      Don’t get married and do everyone a favor

    • @CitySlickerBallKicker
      @CitySlickerBallKicker 3 месяца назад

      @@dandelionessxoxo He talks of wanting a wife, rather than being a husband. Such a difference. I am so happy about the lonely male epidemic, it means women are no longer settling for less, saying NO to being treated as second-class humans. Now it is men who realize they need to step up, but they won't...they prefer to be lonely. Women's singleness is a choice, men aren't

    • @UnAnonKnown
      @UnAnonKnown 2 месяца назад +1

      You hit the nail on the head. You can’t ask a woman to follow you unless you have a fantastic history of delivering. Too many men put the cart before the horse.
      Even then though, I’d suggest that debating with you and contending with you isn’t always fighting. Everyone brings something to the table. No one is perfect. She may have insight and experience you don’t and if she doesn’t argue with you, you’ll never receive it. Even if you end up convincing her of your way, the process of debating may sharpen and solidify your current plan in your mind. But these “fights” should be done respectfully.

    • @gestapoid
      @gestapoid Месяц назад

      ​@@CitySlickerBallKickerOh please. I'll grant you there are plenty of loser guys, but look at your side too. Every 6 thinks that they don't have to settle for less, which means they think they deserve a 10, or a 9 if they are really slumming it. Turns out the guy 10s aren't interested in lady 6's. That's when the women decide they need singleness because they refuse to date the male 6's they deserve.
      One other thing - guys don't give a shit about a woman's career, which means all the girl-bossing is meant for other girls, rather than the supposed patriarchy. We aren't intimidated but we aren't impressed either.

    • @newsmailextra4793
      @newsmailextra4793 29 дней назад

      ​@@dandelionessxoxowhy do you say so what do you think man should do

  • @Rastelle7
    @Rastelle7 Месяц назад +1

    This man is after God's heart. He is full of wisdom. GOD BLESS THE MARRIAGES THAT ARE STRONGE AND THOSE THAT ARE NEEDING HEALING.❤❤❤

  • @angelrivera8558
    @angelrivera8558 Год назад +9

    Nothing greater then to be married to a person who is self sufficient had working beliefs and can’t stand as a equilibrium to each other. The family unit can reach to higher life standards of living raise children with the same mind sent in the long run generations of a better living standard in every generation many years later family income grows as time passes

  • @deborrastrom8559
    @deborrastrom8559 Месяц назад +2

    Unconditional love is -> with boundaries, with your own relationship with God that you share easily with one another. Asking each other for support & prayer & help in struggles by listening & giving honest but gentle feedback. Sometimes we are human & have deep sorrows & or hurts or angers. Or we just cannot see the others point of view.
    Gods help in giving us patience & wisdom is as we pray for insite is the only way thru it & it always effects the partner for the good.

  • @Ukfamine2025
    @Ukfamine2025 8 дней назад

    Behind a good man, there is a good woman, and behind a good woman are two good parents.

  • @skrosa007
    @skrosa007 2 месяца назад +9

    I wish I could have a marriage like this, instead I am not allowed to point out anything because the conversation is turned on me and becomes an attack on all my faults rather than addressing the issue I tried to lovingly bring up. Zero willingness to listen to me, and very low respect.

    • @deborahwheelock2305
      @deborahwheelock2305 2 месяца назад +1

      Maybe it’s time for you to realize you just might be in a bad narcissistic relationship. Your description paints him in a selfish light. I’m pretty sure you will find out it’s not You! Research a bit and see if you can find out what you need to know? Definitely remember that you are a beautiful soul and don’t ever settle.
      If you’re noticing a change or pattern protect yourself!

  • @soupystevesguitarartsextra3697
    @soupystevesguitarartsextra3697 4 месяца назад +6

    My wife causes all the arguments and problems in our relationship, then she blames me for them.. I can’t take it anymore, and she wonders why I don’t want to talk to her . I can’t get three words out and she’s all over me, and half the time, it’s about something that happened years ago.
    I’m at the point where I just tell her to shut up and leave me alone.
    I’ll tell her , be nice to me and maybe we can get along. She agrees, and within a minute, she’s back at it,
    I don’t now why, as I pay for everything,and treat her well.
    We do get along at times , but less than we don’t. We’re in our late 60s .
    Some people get lucky, .

    • @gillianjackson9403
      @gillianjackson9403 3 месяца назад +2

      Sometimes we've to take a step back and look within. No disrespect but it appears that you are totally without fault, no one is perfect. Sometimes when we act differently so do others around us.

  • @kimora7964
    @kimora7964 9 месяцев назад +1

    Excellent ❤

  • @FrankHaywood-ks5yg
    @FrankHaywood-ks5yg Месяц назад +2

    Look at you who love you not your money

  • @neillkruger5087
    @neillkruger5087 2 года назад +2

    Excellent...

  • @FranciscoQuinonez-tb7wv
    @FranciscoQuinonez-tb7wv 3 месяца назад +2

    Emotions are baggage. From anger to depression to infatuation, and everything in between. No one on their death bed ever said “I wish I had been more emotional in my life.” It’s all just white noise. Static on the radio. In moments like that, I just turn off my radio when I’m tired of all the static.

  • @purificator1004
    @purificator1004 2 года назад +8

    Answering the title only: "an equaly good husband"
    Now I will watch the video

  • @JancyAntony-i7y
    @JancyAntony-i7y Месяц назад +1

    well said

  • @WarriorsPhoto
    @WarriorsPhoto 4 месяца назад +5

    I’ve never thought about marriage like that, contend.
    That sounds like an adventure waiting to happen. (:😊

  • @ceciliapreziose3783
    @ceciliapreziose3783 20 дней назад

    a good husband

  • @sorandom2028
    @sorandom2028 7 месяцев назад +5

    Women leave the good stable man because they think he is boring...so I approve this message you need to keep moving and improving until you can't

    • @saildoth9183
      @saildoth9183 5 месяцев назад

      fuck those kinds of bitches who ditch a guy over the slightest unfavored qualities about him, same goes vise versa. it is important to note that women and men aren't just 'women' and 'men', they are people. all humans can be equally asshole-ish and/or loyal regardless of gender.

    • @artemisk.2334
      @artemisk.2334 4 месяца назад +1

      I don't think women is the good reason for you to choose to improve yourself.

    • @sorandom2028
      @sorandom2028 4 месяца назад

      @@artemisk.2334 not the sole reason but a reason

    • @MartyMar-yk1ik
      @MartyMar-yk1ik 3 месяца назад +1

      Women don’t leave “boring” men. Women leave men who refuse to communicate with them.

    • @CitySlickerBallKicker
      @CitySlickerBallKicker 3 месяца назад

      Improve yourself without the help of a woman, because men who do, then discard her once they hit their goal post and upgrade to a new model.

  • @priusa8113
    @priusa8113 7 месяцев назад +3

    La Ilaha
    Ila Allah❤

  • @dereksolano2421
    @dereksolano2421 5 месяцев назад +4

    This is a dangerous opinion/philosophy.
    He basically claims that a good wife is more invested in who you could be rather than who you are. This is great when the husband is motivated and has high ambitions and the wife supports that and his aspirations of what he could be. The issues arise when she enters into a marriage loving an idea of what the husband could be or what she wants him to be. Now his job is to live up to her idea of who he should be, and was never truly loved for who he is, and may never fully reach her moving goal post, and consequently, he will never receive genuine love from his wife.

    • @kristalt.7404
      @kristalt.7404 5 месяцев назад +3

      Hi, I just wanted to respond as polite as I can because you seemed misinterpreted the entire point of the video. I think what the speaker is trying to say is, a good wife who loves you... But not the kind of love to the point that she'll tolerate your stagnant self where you're stuck in present and does not have vision for the future. A good wife won't tolerate that, a good wife will love you in a way you'll also love yourself, and loving yourself is correlated to wanting to improve whether it is small or big improvement. Because time moves, we age older, and society and the current of life is also moving forward... A good wife will motivate her husband to move forward as well. That is the point. Btw, I really appreciate your sharing of opinion. I hope you're enlightened by my response. God bless😊

  • @tonyperkins8591
    @tonyperkins8591 Год назад +28

    Read the bible

    • @ITFDAVE
      @ITFDAVE 6 месяцев назад +1

      Which one?
      King James version?
      And would it contradict what is being said here? In your opinion...

    • @kimmieM0927
      @kimmieM0927 Месяц назад

      And then what? Jesus clearly says that marriage is a beautiful covenant between 2 people. Yes the husband is the leader but a wife is his helpmate. To “help” along the way. ❤

  • @aprilhmiles550
    @aprilhmiles550 2 года назад +3

    If you can't trust your husband or self trust in God je will always guide your way

  • @invictusmaneo464
    @invictusmaneo464 Год назад +1

    Tak musíš začít tím, že se prodává :D :D :D
    To znáte...
    Pak si ji koupíte na delší dobu a ona vás neopustí...
    Jeden můj starej dobrej známej mi jednou řekl, že je rád, že s ním není z lásky ...
    Že ví, že s ním je kvůli penězům...
    Kdyby s ním byla z lásky, mohla by ho taky opustit...
    On je totiž realista.
    Není to karikatura odtržená od reálného světa jako vy...

  • @dawns_swan
    @dawns_swan 2 месяца назад

    "contend with"

  • @spice0467
    @spice0467 2 года назад +1

    Dose it only have 9 moments bc he delays the hate coments?

  • @codeChuck
    @codeChuck 22 дня назад

    Duck you, glorified teacher, i lived a miserable life when i worked in a mind industry working at laptop, trying my best to do things that are over my head in telecom, 'pushed myself to the limits', it ended up in me completely mind broken, constantly feeling underperforming. Changed my life completely when I work by hands, the difference is literally life and death.

  • @nyalsingh5639
    @nyalsingh5639 21 день назад

    Sorry Jordan i am already self motivated any woman who challenge my views is against me

  • @anasha5243
    @anasha5243 2 года назад +3

    Isaiah 57:19 I create the fruit of the lips;

    • @edithboozy1000
      @edithboozy1000 2 года назад +1

      Sounds like something a human would write

  • @sanniwartinen3595
    @sanniwartinen3595 Год назад +4

    This is not "what makes a good wife", this is just him praising attributes he appreciates in HIS wife. Not every relationship is the same and not every man has the same needs in a wife or companion. I like alot of what he says but this one missed the mark.. Its just talking for the sake of talking.

    • @Poodlesnpussies
      @Poodlesnpussies 7 месяцев назад +3

      Hes talking about having someone to contend with.. He did make a point you just missed it

    • @CitySlickerBallKicker
      @CitySlickerBallKicker 3 месяца назад

      I bet his wife is sick because of him. Most married womens illness is the result of dealing with the stress of their husband.

    • @nadejdabirladeanu
      @nadejdabirladeanu 3 месяца назад +1

      He talks about the wife who brings out more out of him because he wants more out of himself. A woman is an inspiration to her man, that's what he's describing.

  • @renny404
    @renny404 19 дней назад

    Bro this guy has the answers to all questions gtfo

  • @Granola222
    @Granola222 2 месяца назад +1

    MM ♾️ ❤ 👰‍♀️😊

  • @JaaneJoestar
    @JaaneJoestar 10 месяцев назад

    anyone has more tips on how to be a good wife?

    • @SharityGarner
      @SharityGarner 3 месяца назад +1

      Yes I can help a little, Being a good wife is so vast but to keep it simple just remember to Love and Respect who he is not who you want him to be. Remember why you grew to Love him always. Especially in the Rough times. If you don't feel like you are heard than remain quiet, he will ask believe me. When you answer him or her starts with I feel like sentences not ever blaming him. It takes the pressure off of him and onto the problem to be solved.

    • @EC-yl7xk
      @EC-yl7xk Месяц назад

      A good wife is a chef in the kitchen, a lady in the streets and a freak in the sheets. Tell your husband what you want and feel. Be submissive, loving and supportive.

  • @Itsyolotti
    @Itsyolotti 2 месяца назад

    Hit the gym i kniw its cliche but just do it

  • @jimdigriz3436
    @jimdigriz3436 3 месяца назад

    Wrong. If I have to push myself all day at work, I want to get approval and relaxation. At night. I can tell you work at home

  • @GODISANARCISSIST
    @GODISANARCISSIST Месяц назад

    I deserve a good wife but god doesnt allow it

    • @augusto8632
      @augusto8632 17 дней назад

      Why are you so entitled to think you deserve that?

  • @iYo420K
    @iYo420K Год назад +1

    I think what makes a good wife depends on the culture & society. People all around the world for one thing .
    In USA: what is a woman ?
    What is a man?
    America seems to have evolved to break through to a vision that there are more than 2 genders.

  • @r0ckr00ster
    @r0ckr00ster 2 года назад +8

    Lol this guy is just talking empty semantics and dressing it up as something deep and motivational, who falls for this dribble? 🤣

    • @Tauramehtar
      @Tauramehtar 2 года назад +9

      I die a little inside every time someone says "dribble" instead of "drivel."

    • @LittleWiggles
      @LittleWiggles 2 года назад +1

      Genuinely a lot of people. It’s really sad. Incels be like that

    • @sanniwartinen3595
      @sanniwartinen3595 Год назад +1

      I like Jordon Peterson about half the time, but I totally agree regarding this particular clip.. Reminds me of Oprah, just talking in circles but saying nothing.

  • @dohyawatchin2598
    @dohyawatchin2598 Год назад +1

    A pregnant one

  • @Fish-pi6my
    @Fish-pi6my 2 года назад +1

    🙏🙏🙏😞😞😞💔💔💔💔💔💔💔💔💔

  • @Lars-e8k
    @Lars-e8k 25 дней назад

    Why does Jordan always sound like he is crying, dude has close to zero testosterone

  • @HVYMTL55
    @HVYMTL55 Год назад

    There is no good wife

  • @spice0467
    @spice0467 2 года назад +5

    Omg old man finds it uslfull to emotibaly disregard his wife and fucking loveks how shes actuly a human being that he can abuse 🇺🇲🇺🇲🇺🇲👏👌👏👌👏🇺🇲👁👄👁🤮🇺🇲🇺🇲🇺🇲🇺🇲🇺🇲🇺🇲🇺🇲😩❄❄❄❄🌚🍄🍄👽👽🤓🤓🤓🤓🤓🤓