I'm sorry to hear that you won't ever tell her what you want to. If it helps at all, I've heard that even saying the words you want to say will help give you the closure you need. It doesn't have to be to anyone else either, it could even be to an empty room, as long as you say what you need to.
Me too. I hate that I relate so much, but me too. You’ve put it into such a straightforward sentence, and I appreciate that. I always hide behind an eloquent vocabulary, but I need to be more concise with people. Thank you.
@@constantscreaming wow i just dropped this comment trying to vent, i didn’t expect someone to relate so much. Hey we’ll be alright, hope you’re doing fine
Everyone's talking about mommy issues, but what this song means to me is my fear of growing up, and just wanting to lie down and die or go back to being a child forever.
i love how i’m casually scrolling as the comments get depressing then see this..this is how i exactly feel and just wanted to say that you’re not alone but honestly idk how to cope with it ether
I was honestly thinking the same. It kind of caught me off guard that so many people interpreted this song as someone being abused by their mother when it felt more like a child never wanting to leave home to me...but everyone does have different lives and backstories, so it makes sense we all get something different from it.
Fr I don’t like how my mom is toxic and not so great but at the same time I love her a lot and I think “oh wow she annoys me I don’t really like her ” but in reality I still care for her because she’s my mom and I don’t know how I’m supposed to feel
I hope you can relate to my comment and understand the feeling it really does hurt not knowing wether to dislike your mom or like her even tho she has hurt you
fr, this song has like some kind of secret instant-cry material or formula or something inside of it, yet i still torture myself by listening to it regularly
It's so weird to have a mother who wants to love you, but needing to reject her. I am not okay, and she needs to know that, no matter how much I need her.
Do you guys ever have a mom who’s been through so much that she’s developed issues too and never got any issues tapped into and helped and she’s hurt you because she keeps projecting her issues onto you and she makes it so hard to love her but she makes it so hard to hate her too because one moment she’s saying you’re her baby and “I love you sweetie” and asking if you wanna go out with her to the new restaurant in town then the next moment shes degrading how you look and invalidating how you feel and screaming at you and one moment you hate her because of it but then you start thinking about how much shes been through for this and those good times yall had as a kid and the “I love you sweetie” and you just feel so conflicted? It doesn’t help when you start not wanting to go out with her or be near her because of these outbursts she has even if you want to go with her in reality and then later on she makes you feel like shit for it and then you feel like a absolutely unworthy fuck up and a ungrateful kid and a disgrace. I just want her to be okay and I just wanna be good enough man.
my mom says she loves me, until i do something wrong, or im not what she wants me to be. i just wish she could love me unconditionally, like normal moms do.
This song really taps into my specific brand of mommy issues, huh? Sometimes I resent her for pushing her expectations onto me, and sometimes I resent myself for not being able to live up to them. It’s discomforting, being cognizant of the fact that she worked so hard to make a better life for me, and of the fact that her emotionally overbearing parenting hurt me in ways that I don’t think I’ll ever fully recover from...
i was suffering so much last year, crying myself to sleep and i just wanted to tell my mom and have her hold me and tell me everything would be alright, but i never told her because i was afraid she’d tell me i was overreacting or something but this is how i felt
Im gonna give some advice. There is no such thing as wasting time. Is it making you sane and happy? If so, it’s a good use of your time. Take it slowly. Try to live for yourself until you can decide to live up to the expectations of others. I know it feels (and is) so incredibly impossible, but just keep breathing and going one day at a time. Whatever your vision of success is, it wont come overnight. “Inch by inch, life’s a cinch. Yard by yard, life is hard.”
No one prepared me for how fucking scary it is to grow up. Everytime I think about the fact that I'm never going to be a kid again or even just be a teenager, I get the most hollow feeling in my heart. I wish I could just sit in my English class again with an iced coffee doodling on my notebook and thinking about where I'm going to go for lunch... I will never get that back.
I’m 25 and I thought the feeling would go away, but it really doesn’t. People expect you to be so grown up at my age, but I still want to be a kid. I want to watch Disney movies in bed, play Pokémon, roll in the grass, play in the rain, build forts…I do those things anyway, but it hurts to think people might judge me for it. It hurts how many people think 25 is SO old too, especially painful because the pandemic took 2 years of my early 20s away. In my mind, I still feel 22
it’s so tiring. i try to please my mom in every single way but still she’s never satisfied. she’s always just reminding me of the bad things. im so tired of it.
Yknow when your mom did a lot for you physically but was always emotionally distant and made you feel bad for everything about you until you hated yourself yet you can't hate her because she had good intentions despite the damage or are you close to her
nothing could ever replicate a mother's feeling. i hate her so much but i still love her and all i want is for her to hold me. i wish she was better. i wish i was better.
People are talking about mommy issues and stuff... I'm about to graduate college and I think of this song as a bit of a quarter life crisis. She's graduated college and she's freaking out because she isnt quite ready to grow up and take on all of these responsibilities. Hence "mom, and am I still young, can I dream for a few months more." She's mourning the loss of her last shred of childhood as she enters full adulthood.
Yeah I agree . I relate to it in the way that I have a good relationship and friendship with my mum but am turning 18 soon and know I’m going to start having to grow up and be independent soon but I don’t want too I don’t feel ready and it’s a similar message that I get from the song .
I came to the comments looking for THIS (since this is exactly how I feel about the song), and all of them are about issues with parents. I was really disappointed because all the vibes other people got from this song isn't how I felt. I showed my mom this song a few minutes ago and she was in tears. I turn 18 in 3 weeks and this song made us both cry. Thank you for commenting what I saw this song as. 😭😭❤
Yes I expected the comments to be about not feeling ready to grow up and wanting to stay in the comfort of home, but loads of people are associating it with mommy issues.
Well, I have a toxic relationship with my parents and I'm also having a life crisis rn because I'm 18, I don't know what to do and I'm really afraid about the future. 2x1
I want her to hug me again. I want her to say I love you back. Please, mom, please. I'll do good in school and I'll do my chores everyday. Just please look at me like I'm five again and just graduated preschool. I want those balloons in our black van back. Please, I'm begging you.
Didn't you say you missed me when I was a kid? I still am, so come get me while you still can or I'll run away when I'm 18 hating you. I hate you but I love you so much.
To me this means nostalgia, wanting to be a kid, wanting your mom to love you like she used to, wanted to have fun intead of wasting your life working until your 75 and can’t move anymore. How I just want her to help me and guide me through life, because i dont want to go through it. I really wish she’d always be by my side
i love her so much... when she’s gone i dont know what i’ll do sometimes i wonder if there’s the type of mommy issues where you’re too attached, if it creates fear of abodonment and make you too dependent on others
There is, I have it. It sucks because if my mom goes into the hospital and I can't visit her for a few days or months then i get into full blown panic mode and cry for hours.
my mom was physically abusive to me and my sisters growing up and it was extremely traumatic. physical abuse was almost daily. it wasn’t even the punching or pushing or pulling or beatings that hurt the worst, it was her words to be honest. now i’m an 18 year old man, all grown, and she has grown too. she’s not the woman she was when she was raising me. she’s different now, i know she is. but i cant bring myself to forgive her. i don’t know why. it hurts so bad. i wish i could.
I understand. Something you should live by is "You can't start to forgive someone if they are never willing to apologize." I'm so sorry this has happened.
Sometimes being in contact with them just makes things worse, even if they are better, or at least appear that way. Just talking on the phone with my mom caused me to get flashbacks, and spiral hard. Sometimes it's healthier to cut them out of your life even if it's painful. I don't know if you have it, but Complex Ptsd sucks and is made worse by continued contact with your abuser.
my mom has done everything she could physically but emotionally she’s never been there, and she still doesn’t get that it still hurts so bad even after all this time
My mother has always been so loving and she always puts herself last. I feel awful for her but I want to be like her. I wanna push everyone ahead even if I get left behind. Thing is, I honestly think I'll never be that kind. I don't want to disappoint her. She makes me feel loved but makes me feel like I'm not good enough as well.
Your mother sounds a lot like mine, I used to end up getting mad at her for not putting herself first. It’s truly magnificent how much mothers are able to handle
Same. I love her so much. And she had a hard time in her life too. She escaped from a war when she was 6. Yes, I have really strict parents. But I still love them no matter what
i’m sorry i don’t fit your expectations mom. i really am. but i just wish you would love me for who i am. i love you so so much for who you are and all i ask is for the same thing in return. but i’m sorry i’m not the daughter you asked for.
My moms been an abusive drunk my whole life and recently got sober. It’s so weird I only see her on weekends and it’s just so weird and normal with her now and this song describes how it feels so perfectly
it’s just so difficult to live in that limbo between lusting after a freedom you’ve never gotten to experience and desperately craving the safety in the arms of a mother who oscillates between loving you more than she could ever love herself and hating you beyond comprehension. it’s her washing your hair for you after you’ve been too depressed to wash it for weeks. it’s her screaming and cursing you out when you softly ask her to turn the volume down on her max-blasting phone because you have a migraine. it’s smiling and contentment and laughing over your favorite show together and “you mean the world to me,” and it’s anger and pain and spammed texts and “why don’t you ever think about how I feel???” shouted over and over in the gaps of rational conversation you try so hard to initiate. there’s always a problem you have to fix or avoid- they’re her problems, and by extension yours of course, because you are an extension of her. you were raised a fixer, a mediator, raised to placate those above and around you enough to be granted the space to breathe in between tidal waves of the guilt and manipulation you’ve grown to find routine. you’re always enough, but you’re never enough, because she is never enough and in her eyes you are, again, an extension of her. you want to let it go, let every incident that makes you flinch at the sound of footsteps steps on a wooden floor go, because she’s been through so much. you know she’s hurting, and for both your sakes you want to hold onto the sweet times you had together in the past, when things were so much more simple. you just want to be good enough for her to finally feel better, to treat you better- to BE better. it’s a fact, though- you love her, and she loves you without a doubt. but does she love you enough to let you go? (im sorry y’all im goin thru it and i started typing and didn’t stop so if this made u lose it a little NO IT DIDNT 👁👄👁)
Mom, I'm tired Can I sleep in your house tonight? Mom, is it alright If I stay for a year or two? Mom, I'll be quiet It would be just to sleep at night And I'll leave once I figure out How to pay for my own life too Mom, would you wash my back? This once, and then we can forget And I'll leave what I'm chasing For the other girls to pursue Mom, am I still young? Can I dream for a few months more?
I want to love her but she never wanted me. She only wants me when its convenient I cant stand it. She says she wants to see me again and its been 6 months since I've even heard from her at all. I miss her but I really really don't. I want nothing to do with her. I want her to love me, but I dont want to love her back. I want to stay away from her. I love her, but I really wish I didn't.
I miss when me and my mom would go out together. When we would have movie nights. When we she still hung around me. When she would treat me like a human. When she loved me. I miss those days. But those days are over. They're gone. I just want her to hold me. I want her to love me again. I miss my mom. I miss her. I want my mom back. I dont want whoever is living with me. I dont want her. I want my mom back. Please.
anybody else feel so shitty because they just want their mom to love them instead of hurting them constantly and they want a healthy relationship and to be able to hug their mom without internally gagging because shes hurt you so much you dont want to care about her but she thinks shes done nothing wrong and you want to love her but the thought of loving her makes you wanna vomit? just me? okay
This song perfectly captures the angst of many college graduates, in my opinion. You spend the first 16 years of your life climbing an academic ladder set up for you, with clearly defined finish lines and paths. And then suddenly you’re thrown into the middle of the ocean, left to fend for yourself and figure out which direction to swim, with no sight of land on the horizons. _Mom, am I still young?_ _Can I dream for a few months more?_
My mum died when I was young. 11 to be exact, 15 days before my 12 birthday. I found this song tonight. I haven’t cried this hard since I found out she was dying, but I’ve never felt so comforted, in pain and unbearably missing her more than ever. To mum, I miss you
I just feel like ill never be the sweet or perfect little girl my mom always wanted, i cant even look at her without feeling guilt or sadness. Her eyes look so tired, its like shes given up being my mama. I miss who she was, i miss my mom. I miss her so much
my mom died from covid a few months ago in november and this song reminds me of how i’m graduating soon and she won’t be able to see it. some times i want her to wash my back and forget it all
My mom went through so much as a child so I understand why she treats me horribly but she always says she does it only because she loves and cares for me . Is it really true though? Putting your child through trauma just because you went through it too? I don’t really understand it but i always appreciate the nice things she does to me
To people here with mommy issues (mine wasn’t perfect, but she did her best, that’s more that I can unfortunately say for many of yours...): is it okay if I adopt you? Your call. I can’t really cook but I can learn to, I can read you stories and come to your games and concerts, you tell me all about your favorite things and you can mess up and you’ll still be my dear. The door, and my arms, are open anytime.
Your comment made me burst into tears, this is all I want from my mother yet I don't, because she's ruined our relationship beyond repair, beyond her doing any of this
i’m moving out of my childhood home tomorrow. my mom has always been my number one supporter in life and i can’t bear to leave her. i’m sorry momma, i love you so much
Hooo boy. This song really hit me. I've been trying to come to terms with the fact that I was basically robbed of my childhood, and being stuck in the past due to mother caused trauma and abuse is robbing me of my present. What do you do when you still feel like a kid, but also incredibly ancient? I'm so scared of dying before I've lived.
Sometimes I think I have a perfectly healthy relationship with my mom but then I realize "Mental and sometimes physical harm is not normal" Then I cry Mommy issues are nice
My moms really sick, so I feel bad if I’m even just a little bit mean to her. But she is so fucking mean, I mean I’m still so young but I have so much pressure on my shoulders, I lived in an abusive household for 6 years, he broke her nose, fractured her pelvis and tried to kill her multiple times, but she stayed with him until a few months ago (we stayed in a refuge for about 6 months) and it just makes me want to scream at her for staying with him for so long and not letting me leave, not letting me escape from the banging, the screaming and all that shit. She is still mean to me. She calls me so many names and makes fun of my weight, but I can’t be angry cause she will be gone soon.
I can’t live up to any expectations set upon me. I’m the oldest for my dad (half siblings) and he expects me to have everything figured out so my younger siblings can follow my path but I just can’t. My mom wants me to achieve heights unattainable for me that no matter how hard I try I can’t reach them.
Everyone talking bout mommy issues (completely acceptable interpretation btw!) but I personally can’t help but feel like this song is about how scary it is growing up. How u wish u could stay an innocent child ur whole life without a care in the world. Or if only growing up could be slower. I just heard this song for the first time a few minutes ago at the time of typing this btw it almost brought me to tears
My mom always tells me I’m so mature and she knows that I can make it on my own bc I’m strong but I don’t want to have to make it on my own anymore. I’ve been doing it for so long. I just want her to be a mom. I want my dad to act like a dad. I’m so tired. I just want to be a child like I’m supposed to be. I’m only fourteen and I’m already so tired of surviving. Please. I’m so tired.
when ur screaming uncontrollably “i wanna die” over and over again and your dad is hugging you and crying and your mom just stares at you deeply and says “clean your room”
i have such a need for validation because i just never received it from my mom when it comes to all the emotional trauma she’s dragged me through. i want her to realize my pain but it hurts to know that if i try to tell her again she’ll never care. i wanna be far away from her yet i still need her to hold me and say it’ll be okay.
This song is all about fear of growing up, she wants to live with her mom forever, no place is more safe or comfortable than our childhood home, omg i relate to this song so much, i'm no longer a little kid...
I've never cried to a song before, but this song just makes me break down in tears. I've always had a fear of change, and especially of growing up, i hate when my birthday comes, because it's just this painful reminder that I'm slowly dying and loosing my youth as my mind starts loosing it's creativity and the world around me becomes dull, that I'm loosing the right to live in this world for free and I'll have to start loosing my life to a stupid job while my parents start to slowly get older and older until i have to bury them, only for me to keep living in this hell of a loop where I have to work to live until I get too old to work, too old for my brain to actually think right, sitting in a rocking chair waiting for my time to come. It breaks me, and so does this song
this song is so so so painful, the way she sings it, the way i resonate with every word. since i turned 18 my parents have encouraged me to move out, literally did EVERYTHING for that to happen. and i understand that it has to happen and i want it but again can i dream for few months more? sometimes it's so hard being the oldest sibling, i have never felt loved, they have always cared only about my achievements, literally never asked about anything apart from school/uni. it hurts but there is nothing that can be done to fix it. i don't love them but sometimes i wish i had the family everyone else has with loving parents and siblings. i know once i'm gone from this house i'll never come back. ever. just let me be a child a little longer. i know it's been almost 2 years but i'm not ready.
ngl the comments makes me cry. my mom is turning 50 In 10 years while I turn in my 20s and I thought abt how am gonna lose her easily but without having a good time with her. I get angry to her for no reason even tho she's just concerned in my life
This song destroys me everytime I hear it. I just want my mom to like me. I want her to love and support me again. I wanna be able to depend on my mother for once, I wanna go to her when things are hard. But I can't. I came out to her as transgender a few months ago, we had already had a bad relationship, but now its worse. I just want her to love me like she used to. Earlier I found a few pictures of her and I, I was like 7 in the pictures. We looked so fucking happy. I just wanna be enough for her. I want her to love me. The worst part is, shes really all I have. My dads dead, I'm technically an only child. I feel horrible because I make her miserable. I've never been the child she wanted
she tries so hard and i see it i can tell how hard she try’s but her efforts aren’t enough. she tried to creat a better life for my brother and i but ended up creating a worse one in the process. i hate myself for not being able to be who she wants me to be and i love her but i need to get away. it’s harder to do when she says i’m all she lives for. i don’t want to hurt her but i can’t keep living like this and i’m scared i will be a mother like her in the future because i’ve never known better. i love her but i hate her and i feel bad for both.
I just want my mother to hold me and take care of me like I’m a kid again because I’m scared and I need my mother but she can’t comfort me as much as need her to -this song makes me cry every time
I'm a senior in highschool this year, and the nostalgia of highschool and middle school is hitting me. I just want to be young again. I've been waiting so long to grow up, get out of the house, and be free, I didn't expect myself to long for the past. It's just heartbreaking to know that we'll never be this young again.
mitski: mom-
me: i'm crying
READ MY MIND
@@alessiaesposito5602 SAME
😭
Me rn
So meaningfully omg 🥺🥺🥺💔😿
why is it so difficult to be loved by the person who’s supposed to love you the most
hoo well ain’t that a sentence
It’s not your job to make her love you it’s her job to love you unconditionally, she just can’t. Somehow..
u said it friend! never say it again. please. I am sobbing
Ikr
omg you destroyed me with these words
this one goes out to all the homies that wanna be a million miles away from your mothers yet only want them to hold you and tell you its gonna be ok
15 minutes ago uh? Are we okay?
@@j.o.g.j no
ouch you called me out :(
LITERALLY ALL I WANT IS HER VALIDATION AND TO BE COMPLETELY OFF THE GRID SO SHE NEVER TALKS TO ME AGAIN 😩✌️
STOP HOW DID YOU PERFECTLY DESCRIBE IT
i have so much to say to her that i never will
I'm sorry to hear that you won't ever tell her what you want to. If it helps at all, I've heard that even saying the words you want to say will help give you the closure you need. It doesn't have to be to anyone else either, it could even be to an empty room, as long as you say what you need to.
@@somebody2809 thank you for this, i'm having a hard time processing it all. i'll definitely try it out
me too. i just wanna tell her everything. why i’m always crying and how it isn’t her fault. i just wanna tell her what happened to me
Write everything you think of down in a letter. Don't give it to her. Just sit in comfort understanding that it was said at all.
Same bestie 😔🤝
She tries so hard and she loves me so much but i just can not be the person she wants, that she deserves
Me too. I hate that I relate so much, but me too. You’ve put it into such a straightforward sentence, and I appreciate that. I always hide behind an eloquent vocabulary, but I need to be more concise with people. Thank you.
@@constantscreaming wow i just dropped this comment trying to vent, i didn’t expect someone to relate so much. Hey we’ll be alright, hope you’re doing fine
hit home
Same
it’s crazy how much i relate to this comment
Everyone's talking about mommy issues, but what this song means to me is my fear of growing up, and just wanting to lie down and die or go back to being a child forever.
i love how i’m casually scrolling as the comments get depressing then see this..this is how i exactly feel and just wanted to say that you’re not alone but honestly idk how to cope with it ether
exactly, me too. i want to be a kid again. i dont want to grow up.
I was honestly thinking the same. It kind of caught me off guard that so many people interpreted this song as someone being abused by their mother when it felt more like a child never wanting to leave home to me...but everyone does have different lives and backstories, so it makes sense we all get something different from it.
Yesss
me too, my friend
Sometimes I think I don't have mommy issues. This song reminds me
It’s not mommy issues. You just had a good mom and miss being with her as when you were a child
@@melman7738 u don’t know them tho that’s not always the case
@@cherrydollray right. I just have a positive mind. sorry( ˘Θ˘)
Fr I don’t like how my mom is toxic and not so great but at the same time I love her a lot and I think “oh wow she annoys me I don’t really like her ” but in reality I still care for her because she’s my mom and I don’t know how I’m supposed to feel
I hope you can relate to my comment and understand the feeling it really does hurt not knowing wether to dislike your mom or like her even tho she has hurt you
no other fucking song makes me cry so quickly.
fr, this song has like some kind of secret instant-cry material or formula or something inside of it, yet i still torture myself by listening to it regularly
fr
frr
LITERALLY, NOT EVEN 2 WORDS INTO THE SONG, IM ALREADY BALLING MY EYES OUT
RIGHT? she just said "mom" and the fucking tears just rolled i didnt even realize
It hurts that she doesn't really see me as her kid, instead I'm more like a bastardized version of the sweet, naive little girl she used to love.
Yes this comment yes same
We all have the same life huh
dis hit me harder than it shouldve
The idea my mom has of me vs who i am vs who i should be
Wait this is literally my mom but replace girl with boy. Coincidentally I'm also nb
It's so weird to have a mother who wants to love you, but needing to reject her. I am not okay, and she needs to know that, no matter how much I need her.
i feel this
i felt :/
Felt this really hard
same :(
This one 🥲
Do you guys ever have a mom who’s been through so much that she’s developed issues too and never got any issues tapped into and helped and she’s hurt you because she keeps projecting her issues onto you and she makes it so hard to love her but she makes it so hard to hate her too because one moment she’s saying you’re her baby and “I love you sweetie” and asking if you wanna go out with her to the new restaurant in town then the next moment shes degrading how you look and invalidating how you feel and screaming at you and one moment you hate her because of it but then you start thinking about how much shes been through for this and those good times yall had as a kid and the “I love you sweetie” and you just feel so conflicted? It doesn’t help when you start not wanting to go out with her or be near her because of these outbursts she has even if you want to go with her in reality and then later on she makes you feel like shit for it and then you feel like a absolutely unworthy fuck up and a ungrateful kid and a disgrace.
I just want her to be okay and I just wanna be good enough man.
God yes you just described it so well. Why do we have the same exact mom
this..this is too specific..i-
@@yinhninnuwai5174 thats mommy issues for you
@@honestyarnold7817 ikr..i wish someone would tell me what this type of mother is
You are very much enough!! Stay strong ILYSMMM
"mom id be quiet" is a line thats so sad to me. this entire song is but. god. something about that. man.
my mom says she loves me, until i do something wrong, or im not what she wants me to be. i just wish she could love me unconditionally, like normal moms do.
This song really taps into my specific brand of mommy issues, huh? Sometimes I resent her for pushing her expectations onto me, and sometimes I resent myself for not being able to live up to them. It’s discomforting, being cognizant of the fact that she worked so hard to make a better life for me, and of the fact that her emotionally overbearing parenting hurt me in ways that I don’t think I’ll ever fully recover from...
Summed it up perfectly wow
yup this is the one
seems we found the brand 👀
Ugh true
Took the words right from my mouth
i was suffering so much last year, crying myself to sleep and i just wanted to tell my mom and have her hold me and tell me everything would be alright, but i never told her because i was afraid she’d tell me i was overreacting or something but this is how i felt
I'm really sorry I hope u have someone u can talk to
OUCHHHH
SAME
same mine always says i’m dramatic and pathetic and that i should get a hold of myself 😍😍😝
I don’t won’t to waste my life, but that’s all I’ve done so far
Find one goal, it doesn’t matter how small. One thing that when you are deign you will look back and say it was fulfilling.
@@beetle7710 i tried. it just dosn't work.
Im gonna give some advice. There is no such thing as wasting time. Is it making you sane and happy? If so, it’s a good use of your time. Take it slowly. Try to live for yourself until you can decide to live up to the expectations of others. I know it feels (and is) so incredibly impossible, but just keep breathing and going one day at a time. Whatever your vision of success is, it wont come overnight.
“Inch by inch, life’s a cinch. Yard by yard, life is hard.”
@@pelican7235 I love you, thank you so much, I won’t forget this!
No one prepared me for how fucking scary it is to grow up. Everytime I think about the fact that I'm never going to be a kid again or even just be a teenager, I get the most hollow feeling in my heart. I wish I could just sit in my English class again with an iced coffee doodling on my notebook and thinking about where I'm going to go for lunch... I will never get that back.
I’m 25 and I thought the feeling would go away, but it really doesn’t. People expect you to be so grown up at my age, but I still want to be a kid. I want to watch Disney movies in bed, play Pokémon, roll in the grass, play in the rain, build forts…I do those things anyway, but it hurts to think people might judge me for it. It hurts how many people think 25 is SO old too, especially painful because the pandemic took 2 years of my early 20s away. In my mind, I still feel 22
it’s so tiring. i try to please my mom in every single way but still she’s never satisfied. she’s always just reminding me of the bad things. im so tired of it.
Im sorry dear
Everything is beautiful and has value!
Dear, as long as you're trying your best that's okay. If your mother takes that for granted she just doesn't understand.
I have the same issue
Yknow when your mom did a lot for you physically but was always emotionally distant and made you feel bad for everything about you until you hated yourself yet you can't hate her because she had good intentions despite the damage or are you close to her
this is exactly how i feel :( im sorry you (& i) had to go through this :(
everyone seems to think this song is mostly about mommy issues but to me it reminds me of this fear of growing up that we all have.
Same
nothing could ever replicate a mother's feeling. i hate her so much but i still love her and all i want is for her to hold me. i wish she was better. i wish i was better.
People are talking about mommy issues and stuff... I'm about to graduate college and I think of this song as a bit of a quarter life crisis. She's graduated college and she's freaking out because she isnt quite ready to grow up and take on all of these responsibilities. Hence "mom, and am I still young, can I dream for a few months more." She's mourning the loss of her last shred of childhood as she enters full adulthood.
Yeah I agree . I relate to it in the way that I have a good relationship and friendship with my mum but am turning 18 soon and know I’m going to start having to grow up and be independent soon but I don’t want too I don’t feel ready and it’s a similar message that I get from the song .
I came to the comments looking for THIS (since this is exactly how I feel about the song), and all of them are about issues with parents. I was really disappointed because all the vibes other people got from this song isn't how I felt.
I showed my mom this song a few minutes ago and she was in tears. I turn 18 in 3 weeks and this song made us both cry. Thank you for commenting what I saw this song as. 😭😭❤
Yes I expected the comments to be about not feeling ready to grow up and wanting to stay in the comfort of home, but loads of people are associating it with mommy issues.
this is what i thought of
Well, I have a toxic relationship with my parents and I'm also having a life crisis rn because I'm 18, I don't know what to do and I'm really afraid about the future. 2x1
Mothers be like: here take some of my undiagnosed mental illnesses, buy 1 get 2 free
oh my god why are you reading my mind??? are we the same person?
Lmao noo the mixture of me crying to this song, hugging my cat and having my cat allergy go wild and laughing to this comment is kinda disgustang
Thank you for making me laugh a little bit while im crying
I want her to hug me again. I want her to say I love you back. Please, mom, please. I'll do good in school and I'll do my chores everyday. Just please look at me like I'm five again and just graduated preschool. I want those balloons in our black van back. Please, I'm begging you.
Didn't you say you missed me when I was a kid? I still am, so come get me while you still can or I'll run away when I'm 18 hating you. I hate you but I love you so much.
this song is like getting hit by a truck of emotions, and you don't even realize it hit you until you're already crying your heart out holy shit
To me this means nostalgia, wanting to be a kid, wanting your mom to love you like she used to, wanted to have fun intead of wasting your life working until your 75 and can’t move anymore. How I just want her to help me and guide me through life, because i dont want to go through it. I really wish she’d always be by my side
If my child starts listening to this im gonna be so broken
I’m a child and I’m listening to this because I’m scared of growing up but I love my mom
real
i love her so much... when she’s gone i dont know what i’ll do
sometimes i wonder if there’s the type of mommy issues where you’re too attached, if it creates fear of abodonment and make you too dependent on others
There is, I have it. It sucks because if my mom goes into the hospital and I can't visit her for a few days or months then i get into full blown panic mode and cry for hours.
It hurts so much knowing that she's now gone. Yet I'm still attached
Songs to make you sad about the eternal passage of time
my mom was physically abusive to me and my sisters growing up and it was extremely traumatic. physical abuse was almost daily. it wasn’t even the punching or pushing or pulling or beatings that hurt the worst, it was her words to be honest. now i’m an 18 year old man, all grown, and she has grown too. she’s not the woman she was when she was raising me. she’s different now, i know she is. but i cant bring myself to forgive her. i don’t know why. it hurts so bad. i wish i could.
I understand
I think we had the same childhood
I understand. Something you should live by is "You can't start to forgive someone if they are never willing to apologize." I'm so sorry this has happened.
i’m so sorry i’m in the same situation shes changed but i still feel hurt whenever i look at her
Sometimes being in contact with them just makes things worse, even if they are better, or at least appear that way. Just talking on the phone with my mom caused me to get flashbacks, and spiral hard. Sometimes it's healthier to cut them out of your life even if it's painful. I don't know if you have it, but Complex Ptsd sucks and is made worse by continued contact with your abuser.
my mom has done everything she could physically but emotionally she’s never been there, and she still doesn’t get that it still hurts so bad even after all this time
My mother has always been so loving and she always puts herself last. I feel awful for her but I want to be like her. I wanna push everyone ahead even if I get left behind. Thing is, I honestly think I'll never be that kind. I don't want to disappoint her. She makes me feel loved but makes me feel like I'm not good enough as well.
Your mother sounds a lot like mine, I used to end up getting mad at her for not putting herself first. It’s truly magnificent how much mothers are able to handle
Same. I love her so much. And she had a hard time in her life too. She escaped from a war when she was 6. Yes, I have really strict parents. But I still love them no matter what
i’m sorry i don’t fit your expectations mom. i really am. but i just wish you would love me for who i am. i love you so so much for who you are and all i ask is for the same thing in return. but i’m sorry i’m not the daughter you asked for.
y'all claim to be alright then listen to this on repeat for 4 hours.
-i'm y'all.-
I can't like its at 369 I'll come back later
@@ulooklost hi come back
Nah
WE are y’all.
i pooed
@@urmomisgay6853 congratulations
My mom died when I was 16... I will be 22 in a few days and I still feel the same about her death... Nothing change, the pain consume all of me
i am so sorry of the loss of your mom i hope you find happy things and meet kind people to ease your pain
That is so painful, certainly. I hope you meet kind people too 💖
I hope things look up for you happy new year
I just know she deserves a better child then me
My moms been an abusive drunk my whole life and recently got sober. It’s so weird I only see her on weekends and it’s just so weird and normal with her now and this song describes how it feels so perfectly
im sure she feels the same way, you should talk to her. it should say something that she got sober though, because it isnt easy
Mom why cant you understand, I'm sorry.
it’s just so difficult to live in that limbo between lusting after a freedom you’ve never gotten to experience and desperately craving the safety in the arms of a mother who oscillates between loving you more than she could ever love herself and hating you beyond comprehension. it’s her washing your hair for you after you’ve been too depressed to wash it for weeks. it’s her screaming and cursing you out when you softly ask her to turn the volume down on her max-blasting phone because you have a migraine. it’s smiling and contentment and laughing over your favorite show together and “you mean the world to me,” and it’s anger and pain and spammed texts and “why don’t you ever think about how I feel???” shouted over and over in the gaps of rational conversation you try so hard to initiate. there’s always a problem you have to fix or avoid- they’re her problems, and by extension yours of course, because you are an extension of her. you were raised a fixer, a mediator, raised to placate those above and around you enough to be granted the space to breathe in between tidal waves of the guilt and manipulation you’ve grown to find routine. you’re always enough, but you’re never enough, because she is never enough and in her eyes you are, again, an extension of her. you want to let it go, let every incident that makes you flinch at the sound of footsteps steps on a wooden floor go, because she’s been through so much. you know she’s hurting, and for both your sakes you want to hold onto the sweet times you had together in the past, when things were so much more simple. you just want to be good enough for her to finally feel better, to treat you better- to BE better. it’s a fact, though- you love her, and she loves you without a doubt.
but does she love you enough to let you go?
(im sorry y’all im goin thru it and i started typing and didn’t stop so if this made u lose it a little NO IT DIDNT 👁👄👁)
This is my first time finding this song and I’m sobbing at the amount of people who feel the same pain as I do.
Mom, I'm tired
Can I sleep in your house tonight?
Mom, is it alright
If I stay for a year or two?
Mom, I'll be quiet
It would be just to sleep at night
And I'll leave once I figure out
How to pay for my own life too
Mom, would you wash my back?
This once, and then we can forget
And I'll leave what I'm chasing
For the other girls to pursue
Mom, am I still young?
Can I dream for a few months more?
Words cannot describe how scared I am to leave my mom.I love her so much I can’t imagine a world without her.
I want to love her but she never wanted me. She only wants me when its convenient I cant stand it. She says she wants to see me again and its been 6 months since I've even heard from her at all. I miss her but I really really don't. I want nothing to do with her. I want her to love me, but I dont want to love her back. I want to stay away from her. I love her, but I really wish I didn't.
I miss when me and my mom would go out together. When we would have movie nights. When we she still hung around me. When she would treat me like a human. When she loved me. I miss those days. But those days are over. They're gone. I just want her to hold me. I want her to love me again. I miss my mom. I miss her. I want my mom back. I dont want whoever is living with me. I dont want her. I want my mom back. Please.
anybody else feel so shitty because they just want their mom to love them instead of hurting them constantly and they want a healthy relationship and to be able to hug their mom without internally gagging because shes hurt you so much you dont want to care about her but she thinks shes done nothing wrong and you want to love her but the thought of loving her makes you wanna vomit? just me? okay
me too
i know exactly how you feel n it sucks:/
Nah I get it man it's actually painful
I want my mom back
Please love of god don’t drink yourself to death please it hurts other people
I want to punch her and yell at her and scream why but I just want a hug right now please
my mum is an alcoholic too :( I feel you xx
@@TheAnimationGirl *hug*
I’m sending you good vibes and love
I better not wake up with puffy eyes in the morning I stg
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I’m sorry mom. You deserve better. I wanna be better for you.
You can tell how much emotion she put in this song
This song perfectly captures the angst of many college graduates, in my opinion. You spend the first 16 years of your life climbing an academic ladder set up for you, with clearly defined finish lines and paths. And then suddenly you’re thrown into the middle of the ocean, left to fend for yourself and figure out which direction to swim, with no sight of land on the horizons.
_Mom, am I still young?_
_Can I dream for a few months more?_
My mum died when I was young. 11 to be exact, 15 days before my 12 birthday. I found this song tonight. I haven’t cried this hard since I found out she was dying, but I’ve never felt so comforted, in pain and unbearably missing her more than ever. To mum, I miss you
I just feel like ill never be the sweet or perfect little girl my mom always wanted, i cant even look at her without feeling guilt or sadness. Her eyes look so tired, its like shes given up being my mama. I miss who she was, i miss my mom. I miss her so much
my mom died from covid a few months ago in november and this song reminds me of how i’m graduating soon and she won’t be able to see it. some times i want her to wash my back and forget it all
i’m so sorry for your loss girl stay strong 🥺💕
She’s still with you, even tho you may not see her. She’s looking down at you and is very proud. Keep your head up 🖤
Im so sorry
My mom went through so much as a child so I understand why she treats me horribly but she always says she does it only because she loves and cares for me . Is it really true though? Putting your child through trauma just because you went through it too? I don’t really understand it but i always appreciate the nice things she does to me
The 4 dislikes are people that cried too much while listening to this
"Mom, am i still young? Can I dream for a few months more?"
*big oof*
To people here with mommy issues (mine wasn’t perfect, but she did her best, that’s more that I can unfortunately say for many of yours...): is it okay if I adopt you? Your call. I can’t really cook but I can learn to, I can read you stories and come to your games and concerts, you tell me all about your favorite things and you can mess up and you’ll still be my dear. The door, and my arms, are open anytime.
Omg you sound so nice I wish you could adopt me💜
Your comment made me burst into tears, this is all I want from my mother yet I don't, because she's ruined our relationship beyond repair, beyond her doing any of this
@@user-pq4hg1bc2s would if I could, absolutely
@@besraai-yingwiles1450 I’m so sorry hun, you genuinely deserve so much better than that.
Mitski really do be helping me cope with my mommy issues tho 😩👆
Same🥰
My mom deserves a better daughter, she doesn’t deserve a wreck like me.
i’m moving out of my childhood home tomorrow. my mom has always been my number one supporter in life and i can’t bear to leave her. i’m sorry momma, i love you so much
Hooo boy. This song really hit me. I've been trying to come to terms with the fact that I was basically robbed of my childhood, and being stuck in the past due to mother caused trauma and abuse is robbing me of my present. What do you do when you still feel like a kid, but also incredibly ancient? I'm so scared of dying before I've lived.
Sometimes I think I have a perfectly healthy relationship with my mom but then I realize
"Mental and sometimes physical harm is not normal"
Then I cry
Mommy issues are nice
this song hurts so bad
This hits me hard
My moms really sick, so I feel bad if I’m even just a little bit mean to her. But she is so fucking mean, I mean I’m still so young but I have so much pressure on my shoulders, I lived in an abusive household for 6 years, he broke her nose, fractured her pelvis and tried to kill her multiple times, but she stayed with him until a few months ago (we stayed in a refuge for about 6 months) and it just makes me want to scream at her for staying with him for so long and not letting me leave, not letting me escape from the banging, the screaming and all that shit. She is still mean to me. She calls me so many names and makes fun of my weight, but I can’t be angry cause she will be gone soon.
Im sorry you have/had to deal with this
im sorry i hope you heal from this
I’m so sorry I hope your doing ok
Im so sorry:(
I can’t live up to any expectations set upon me. I’m the oldest for my dad (half siblings) and he expects me to have everything figured out so my younger siblings can follow my path but I just can’t. My mom wants me to achieve heights unattainable for me that no matter how hard I try I can’t reach them.
Everyone talking bout mommy issues (completely acceptable interpretation btw!) but I personally can’t help but feel like this song is about how scary it is growing up. How u wish u could stay an innocent child ur whole life without a care in the world. Or if only growing up could be slower. I just heard this song for the first time a few minutes ago at the time of typing this btw it almost brought me to tears
It is about her issues with her mom (canon) but I think your explanation is a valid personal interpretation
You can really hear the emotion in her voice and she's really opening up in this song and it's really beautiful to hear it
My mom always tells me I’m so mature and she knows that I can make it on my own bc I’m strong but I don’t want to have to make it on my own anymore. I’ve been doing it for so long. I just want her to be a mom. I want my dad to act like a dad. I’m so tired. I just want to be a child like I’m supposed to be. I’m only fourteen and I’m already so tired of surviving. Please. I’m so tired.
when you want your mom to show you more love than she does
when ur screaming uncontrollably “i wanna die” over and over again and your dad is hugging
you and crying and your mom just stares at you deeply and says “clean your room”
wait did this happen to you?
😰😨
@@chibichan443 yes
i’m so sorry
i am so sorry
shit this happened to me a week ago too.. i hope ur okay
i have such a need for validation because i just never received it from my mom when it comes to all the emotional trauma she’s dragged me through. i want her to realize my pain but it hurts to know that if i try to tell her again she’ll never care. i wanna be far away from her yet i still need her to hold me and say it’ll be okay.
This song is all about fear of growing up, she wants to live with her mom forever, no place is more safe or comfortable than our childhood home, omg i relate to this song so much, i'm no longer a little kid...
I've never cried to a song before, but this song just makes me break down in tears. I've always had a fear of change, and especially of growing up, i hate when my birthday comes, because it's just this painful reminder that I'm slowly dying and loosing my youth as my mind starts loosing it's creativity and the world around me becomes dull, that I'm loosing the right to live in this world for free and I'll have to start loosing my life to a stupid job while my parents start to slowly get older and older until i have to bury them, only for me to keep living in this hell of a loop where I have to work to live until I get too old to work, too old for my brain to actually think right, sitting in a rocking chair waiting for my time to come. It breaks me, and so does this song
This song is the only song that can make me feel something
I JUST WANT HER TO LOVE ME AND NOT CONSTANTLY POINT OUT MY FLAWS ALL THE TIME.
i wish i was able to tell her how bad my mental health is, and to get a hug from her and get told that everything is going to be okay
she loves me so much but my childhood hurt me so much i can’t stay
this song is so so so painful, the way she sings it, the way i resonate with every word. since i turned 18 my parents have encouraged me to move out, literally did EVERYTHING for that to happen. and i understand that it has to happen and i want it but again can i dream for few months more? sometimes it's so hard being the oldest sibling, i have never felt loved, they have always cared only about my achievements, literally never asked about anything apart from school/uni. it hurts but there is nothing that can be done to fix it. i don't love them but sometimes i wish i had the family everyone else has with loving parents and siblings. i know once i'm gone from this house i'll never come back. ever. just let me be a child a little longer. i know it's been almost 2 years but i'm not ready.
great i’m crying about my mom again
ngl the comments makes me cry. my mom is turning 50 In 10 years while I turn in my 20s and I thought abt how am gonna lose her easily but without having a good time with her.
I get angry to her for no reason even tho she's just concerned in my life
This song destroys me everytime I hear it. I just want my mom to like me. I want her to love and support me again. I wanna be able to depend on my mother for once, I wanna go to her when things are hard. But I can't. I came out to her as transgender a few months ago, we had already had a bad relationship, but now its worse. I just want her to love me like she used to. Earlier I found a few pictures of her and I, I was like 7 in the pictures. We looked so fucking happy. I just wanna be enough for her. I want her to love me. The worst part is, shes really all I have. My dads dead, I'm technically an only child. I feel horrible because I make her miserable. I've never been the child she wanted
woah
she tries so hard and i see it i can tell how hard she try’s but her efforts aren’t enough. she tried to creat a better life for my brother and i but ended up creating a worse one in the process. i hate myself for not being able to be who she wants me to be and i love her but i need to get away. it’s harder to do when she says i’m all she lives for. i don’t want to
hurt her but i can’t keep living like this and i’m scared i will be a mother like her in the future because i’ve never known better. i love her but i hate her and i feel bad for both.
This song is like 2 minutes long yet it makes me cry so fucking quick holy shit
I cry uncontrollably every time I listen to this song
i just want her to understand how i feel.
She has such a beautiful voice I can’t comprehend
I just want my mother to hold me and take care of me like I’m a kid again because I’m scared and I need my mother but she can’t comfort me as much as need her to -this song makes me cry every time
Im so tired, shes so tired. Im sorry mom
crying in the club 💃🕺💃🕺💃 and by the club i mean in my bed in the dark at 6 am
Being co dependent on the one person who hasn't left you has to be one of the worst feelings imaginable
i do t want to leave my mom
I usually don't get teary-eyed with songs but this one was almost instant, i felt this one..
this might actually be one of the most painful things to hear rn
the only song that makes me emotional i love u mitski
this song hurts when u remember when u were happy together
every time i listen to this i cry, i don’t wanna grow up :(
I'm a senior in highschool this year, and the nostalgia of highschool and middle school is hitting me. I just want to be young again. I've been waiting so long to grow up, get out of the house, and be free, I didn't expect myself to long for the past. It's just heartbreaking to know that we'll never be this young again.
Here I am once again, willingly listening to this song knowing full well I’m going to bawl my eyes out
Pain