Coworkers are NOT your friends: Here’s Why
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- Many people make the mistake of expecting their coworkers to become good friends, and while it sometimes works out that way, in most cases, it doesn't. Here's why your coworkers are NOT your friends.
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Can't say I've ever made a good friend at work. I found way back in HS that sharing too quickly resulted in gossip. Made me too scared to share ANYTHING when I joined the workforce because my *livelihood* depends on my job. It's just wayyy too important to me that no one has material to use against me. I learned my lesson before I even reached college. I have friends outside of work, but never at work.
Yeah it's fairly common which is really sad. Thanks for sharing and for watching 😎
And keep loose talk away from your co-workers. And don't even perpetrate it! Loose talk can lead to gossip, can cause you to be in trouble for gossiping, and can always make an already-bad workplace situation MUCH MUCH WORSE!
I’ve learned this from my last 2 jobs you gotta be careful with these types of people. They’ll pretend to be your friend while low key trying to set you up getting you fired by their mistakes. Don’t get too comfortable around them and don’t gossip. Co workers do not fit the definition of friendship.
Thanks for sharing your experience and for watching 😎!
@@CareersbyJenn Thank you for amazing videos!
Absolutely, I’ve learned this the hard way. Will never get those lines blurred again.
Good to be careful! Thanks for watching 😎
I think in these days of social media people have a really warped definition of "friend". You can still be friendly, cordial, polite and easy to work with but not necessarily be a friend. And just because I don't view someone as a friend does not mean they are my enemy either.
Absolutely true. The term work mates works well. Thank you for your comments and for watching 😎!
You're right on point. I agree with you wholeheartedly. Most people aren't your friends in the workplace and everyone should refrain from sharing too much information about your personal affairs. Sometimes your enemies are the nicest people to your face and then use it against you to their advantage. I only have 1 good true friend to this day that I met at work. We no longer work together, but have been there for each other through our ups and downs in life. Hugging sounds harmless, but this can backfire, especially if you're a male. There are so many frivolous sexual harassment complaints that it's insane. Just be friendly with your coworkers and keep it at that. I once shared with a coworker I had gotten a pretty good raise to stay after I submitted my resignation. Literally 5 minutes after I told her, I got called down to HR and was scolded by my administrator. No one is your friend.
Sounds very frustrating. I'm glad you found one good friend. I have found friends too, but many were situational friends and we didn't stay in contact after leaving the organization. Good to be safe. Thanks for sharing and for watching!
I would say 99.9% cannot be friends. I never make friends at work.
Yes it's a rare thing sometimes for sure. Thanks for watching 😎!
One year ago i became friends with a female co-worker. It clicked really over the top well... chatted the entire day with her for 5 months. I was really emotionally attached to her. Then one day she started ignoring me out of nowhere. I asked what was up. She started yelling like crazy at me "WHAT DO YOU WANT???" .. later she reported me to HR for stalking. I was in shock. Via my teamlead i heard that she called it a rebound relationship... so she abused me. I didn't even know we were in a relationship. Because she already had her next partner ready it was easy for her to ghost me without caring. I have a lot of resentment towards her and she doesn't care / is not even aware of it. I'm now in the process of changing job because I've had enough of it. It's really a good job i have and the company i work for is like holy to me, so it's really unfortunate that such stuff is going on. I'll never be friendly to female coworkers ever again. The main lesson is: Don't get emotionally attached to coworkers. Don't even open the door to that possibility.
Oh wow. I'm sorry this happened to you...sounds awful. Thanks for sharing this and for watching.
Really sorry about what happened to you. Stay as far away as you can from this horrible person.
This lady is a monster.
Amen. Work is not a family. I made one or two friends at my job but everyone else is just colleagues. Overshare kills careers. Just keep hustling and stay focused. Then you can shine on your job and career. Good luck everyone!!
Yes! Thanks for watching and for sharing ☺️
@@CareersbyJenn you're welcome! I like good info on careers and furthering business and aspirations. Keep up the great work!
I work with one lady who sits behind me. I try to avoid her as much as possible because when she talks, she never stops. She’s also way too friendly and in my face. Touches my hair, grabs my shoulder. She’s also very nosy and if I am talking to another colleague about any work issue or mistakes, she’s coming right over and asking what’s happening. She will stare at me away from her desk, waiting for me to turn around so she can talk my head off. She hasn’t gotten the hint that I don’t care.
Ugh. Red flags all the way. That's a challenging situation. Thanks for sharing and good luck with her!
I used to work with someone like that very dangerous. Especially when her daughter lost her job and she wanted rid of me (or anybody) so her offspring could get my job.
This is so true. There are very few people that I have worked with that I cared to keep in touch with. Most of them are either too toxic or your personalities are just too different.
Yes, although I have sometimes made a friend or two I have kept. Occasionally there are gems. Thanks for watching 😎!
True! Me too!
Amen that’s is why I am self employed 🙏✨
Yes, that alleviates a whole set of issues, doesn't it? Good for you! Thanks for watching.
Narcissists are everywhere, eliminate that factor and you are safe to make friends.
Thanks for your comment and for watching!
Co workers are situational colleagues not friends.
Most of the time for sure. Thanks for watching 😎
There is one person I work with who I share things with I would never share with anyone else I work with, and she feels the same way about me. We've worked together for 9 years now and see eye to eye on a lot of things. That's the very miniscule percentage you're talking about. It's very rare to find that type of relationship in the workplace.
It's wonderful when you find that person, and yes, it seems rare. Glad to hear it and thank you for telling us about it!
Good advice! They are competition! Not friends! A lot of coworkers are bullies!
Thanks, and sad, isn't it? Thanks for watching 😎!
Very true. I’ve noticed this especially among people my age. Everything is about competition and comparison and talking sh*t so I just kept my head down.
Yes, wise to do until or unless you find someone you can really trust. Thanks for watching!
This is very true indeed. However, I also found the exceptional person who became a lifelong friend, even after I left the company that we both worked for. We have been friends for nearly 20 years now!
Wonderful to hear and lucky you! It's so nice to find that person when you do. Thanks for watching and telling us about it. 🙂
You got that so right. I had to learn the hard way.
I'm so sorry to hear it 😔. Thanks for watching!
My two best friends i met as co workers over 20 years ago. They are truly kind, caring and compassionate ladies. We haven't worked together for over 15 years. 💖✨ i am very lucky too have made such beautiful friends.
That's wonderful and yes, you are very lucky! Thanks for sharing and for watching! 😎
Has anyone else worked for a company that promotes going out together after work hours, whether it's to the movies or out to eat? I cannot stand doing things with our employees vecause they have proven to me to be backstabbers. Why do I want to spend my free time with these types of toxic people.
Was it mandatory or just highly encouraged?
It's highly encouraged and if you don't participate they act like you're not a team player. The workplace is no different than junior high.
That's challenging for sure.
I’ve already started teaching my teenage daughters the difference between being friends with classmates and being friendly with classmates. I’ve also warned them that anyone who will share gossip with them will also gossip about them. Lessons that will translate to the workplace.
Very wise parenting! Thanks for sharing ☺️
This is so true & something I wish I had known sooner, but glad I'm learning now. In the age of social media, the lines between professional & personal have been blurred.
This advice goes for walking into any group of people, keep it cordial & get to know people really well before sharing with them.
Yes exactly. Good personal boundaries are always the way to begin, because building trust takes time. Thanks for your thoughts! 🙂
Also, with this notion that people in the work places are "like family", you can never call your co-workers "family". In many cases, the dynamics mirror dysfunctional family dynamics that many gossip/clique-loving and boundary-averse co-workers bring into the workplace. I used to think that sharing information about myself and being an "open book" is a way to have connection with others, as I had conflated that with integrity and being true to myself, only to learn hard lessons again and again. I was starved of meaningful connections growing up and saw people who didn't share information at the same level as me to be snobbish and standoffish, but I've learned, albeit slowly, over the years why some people do this. It has been great for my mental health and freeing to say "I don't know" 🙂
Excellent observations...thank you for sharing what you've learned. And thanks for watching 😎!
I get where you are coming from. I used to be the friendly type, but I learned quickly that it doesn't work.
Not sharing information is not snobbish or stuck up; it is a way to keep your business private.
I know a story of a lady who used one of her coworkers as a reference. That coworker badmouthed her to the hiring manager of the new company. The good thing is, she still got the job. And the hiring manager actually warned her to be careful of who you use as a reference. She was hurt because she really thought her former coworker was her friend
Ouch!!!! That's pretty awful. Thanks for sharing 😊
its very true. Never tell anyone (not just coworkers) your personal business. It always backfires.
Totally agree, and be cautious of inviting them to your home or introducing to family or being friends on social media. Definitely there are some who will hug you to test your boundaries. I would not hug a co-worker and any situation with co-workers present is a work situation. Had a work friend for years and I heard her share my personal information to another co-worker. I ended the friendship. Majority situation is not friends.
I'm sorry to hear that and not surprised. Yes, caution definitely advised. Thanks for sharing and watching 😎!
@@CareersbyJenn Yes, it was over 30 years ago so lesson learned early on. Thank you for your videos as I am using them to help others with their professional skills. Many are being sabotaged at work by their work relationships and not even aware.
Oh I'm glad you are finding them helpful. If you have any topic ideas, please let me know!
@@CareersbyJenn Will do, best to you. The content is needed.
Wise words. I'd say it's best to think of colleagues as one of three types: Friends at work (as opposed to real life), people you can get along with, and people you should avoid like the plague. So long as most of them are in the middle category, and hardly any are in the latter, you've got it about right.
Oh I like this! Thanks for this clear idea, and for watching 😎
I really view my coworkers as "chess pieces" and not actual human beings. It's all just a "game". They will stab you in the back at any given moment if it suits them. To me, coworkers are just inanimate objects. They're like a piece furniture at the store. Just cold, barren and lifeless objects who I barely acknowledge. It's best to isolate yourself from everyone at work and only talk to them about work-related matters.
Thanks for your perspective and for watching!
What a tragic way to be for eight hours of the day or whatever your there for
@@peterryan6497 very sad that things have gotten this bad, isn't it?
In my experience, the best is to talk to people as if the boss was listening. If someone gossips I usually say something like: The jungle telegraph is not really my thing, excuse myself and go back to work. People are mostly loyal to themselves, and sometimes to people who are a part of their "clan". I don't share much of my private stuff because it will backfire. Been there, done that.
Good to have a system in place that works for you. Thanks for sharing it! 😊
Excellent video, every word is true. And workplaces are fine once you realise the truth.
Thanks for your kind words and for watching 😊
I've been in the workforce for 11 years now and there's only one person throughout all my jobs that I considered a real friend (not just a work "friend"). She and I spent time together outside of work on the weekends a few times and at work we would talk about stuff that would be considered by most as not appropriate for the workplace. Unfortunately she and I ended up having a bit of conflict and our professional and personal relationship soured a bit because of that. Thankfully there were no other repercussions due to the conflict. Rest assured though, I've learned my lesson, and will go back to my old ways of conducting myself around co-workers: friendly but distant.
Thanks for sharing your experience. Nice you were friends for a while, anyhow and too bad it ended. Thank you for watching 😎!
My ex boss, said welcome to the family! He turned out to be a malignant narcissist! I lost ‘the family’ three months later!
Ewwwww! Good riddance, I bet? 😞 Thanks for watching!
Thanks for advice...
You are very welcome, thanks for watching!🙂
Yes, co-workers are my friends!!!! They’re much better than management team.
Glad you found some friends at work, that's not always the case! Thanks for watching 😎
I've been at my current workplace 12 years and haven't made one close friend and this explains why perfectly
Oh...I'm sorry you haven't, because it's always a lovely thing when it works out. Glad you found this helpful. Thanks for watching!
Coworkers are just a diff type of "friend". The way the bus driver and the 7 11 worker you know is a different type of "friend."
I just do my job and go home
That works for some...hard for others. thanks for watching ☺️!
I always tell people be careful how you treat your coworkers. Many ears after I started working at my job, I met a man and fell in love. My hiring manager met another man. Turns out both men were brothers and we are now in-laws. They are no longer my boss, but it is a funny story to tell.
That's amazing 🤩! Thanks for sharing your funny story and for watching!
Wow ❤
All true. No friends at work. I heard it said that we shud all be family at work. Hell no! Am out of that. Everything you said is true
Sadly yes. Thanks for watching!
@@CareersbyJenn thank you maam. They want to have a birthday club. Not sure what to make of that
Ah. Well camaraderie and celebration can work if there are boundaries and limits...as in everyone contributes to the cake or whatever. That isn't super personal and can sometimes be nice.
@@CareersbyJenn they want financial contributions to facilitate whoever birthday comes along
I have to be so careful at work. I’m even nervous to post on here! My gut tells me to keep my eyes open and mouth firmly shut! I give NOTHING away and never will.
True and I will add that my friend at work was male because women are wicked and vicious. I worked with the same company my daughter did. She is upper management. I never gossiped and keep my mouth shut at all times because I had to set an example of my character. I was an outcast but did my work above and beyond what was expected. Being older in the workforce you understand it just BS game playing and I don't play. I was the one everyone came to for prayers 🙏
Yeah so much unnecessary stuff goes on, doesn't it? Good for you for carrying on professionally.
I learned many years ago that you don't have to talk to people at work about non-work related topics.
Q: Do you have any kids?
A: I don't think our relationship has reached a level of intimacy where I would feel comfortable sharing personal information.
Q: What do you like to do when you're not at work?
A: I like to tend to my own affairs and avoid insinuating myself into the affairs of others.
Q: You don't talk much, do you?
A: At birth, a man is allotted a finite number of words to speak in the course of his lifetime. When that supply of words has been exhausted, so will his life be.
Do I sound like a smart ass? All the more reason not to talk to me.
Love that you have come up with a way to communicate that works for you! 😜 Thanks for watching and for sharing this.
@@CareersbyJenn Actually, I've come up with a way to not communicate that works for me.
@@robertmatthews2009 excellent! :)
@@CareersbyJenn Could you please stop? I only wanted to make a comment, not start a relationship.
I have been asked, why aren't you married? Do you love your mother? Why don't you go out with your friends?
ST TRUE! All my co-workers around me are quick at backstabbing, but act fake nice! Play the same game with them quietly!
Thanks for watching and stay safe! 😊
100% truth!
Thanks for watching! 😎
I’m very nice and chill, but now that I am 25 and been at my 4th job, I came to realise that I’m there to work, get paid and go home. I hope in the future I find a job that allows me to work from home
@@dodongai yes, that would be great if you found something that works for you 😄. Thanks for watching and all the very best!
Be extremely careful what you say at work regarding your private life.
There is a difference between friends and "factory acquaintances."
True. I haven't heard that term before but it works. Thanks for watching 😊
I agree with you. In my case that didn’t work. They were only situational friends, nothing more. It’s hard to find and make friends.
Yes that's true. Thanks for sharing!
Coworkers will twist your words and dine out on your misery! Never show them your stress! They feed off it!
I met my partner at work - Our relationship lasted some good 8-9 years. I recall however that things went a bit toxic in the last 3 years as we had to compete against each other, as we both applied for an internal vacancy.... That had seemed to have rammed a spear in the harmonic heart of our relationship and things turned sour over the following years. Never realised this at that time, but in retrospect it now all makes sense to me. It was a lesson to learn.
We are still friendly but separated. I have a new job and he is still working for the same organization.
Working together while in a relationship can definitely be tricky. Some do it successfully but they are in the minority. Thanks for sharing your story...glad you have a new job! 😎
It's tough but I agree ...
i worked with a group of people for about 10 years when When I joined some colleagues in second start up company they formed I was told i was like family did stop them from turning on me after losing a major client also Hate Xmas parties when Its the one time of year a company that has treated you badly all year acts nice. Been working for 45 years and its so clear that after the job is gone very few will ever try to contact you to see how you are. Regards Trevor
yikes, yes, a very common experience, I'm afraid. Thanks for sharing and for watching!
Yup, experienced these things and it feels terrible.
But i have learned later on that these people do not even matter to the slightest in your personal life.
They are just regular drone workers fighting to appease their managers, and if that means they want to back stab you then they will, its nothing personal but its just the reality of work.
It´ll be an ideal world to simply work on your terms alone or work in a workplace that suits you better, but that´s not the world today.
Perhaps things can change later on in society.
Coworkers are not friends, they´re just chained up in the same situation as you.
What i would suggest people would do is to be neutral with your interactions with your co workers, know your boundaries so these coworkers cannot do anything against you.
Wise words. Thanks for sharing and for watching 😎
I agree they are only out for themselves lol I wish I would not overshared I always do then boom things go south
❤️yeah...that's rough. Thanks for watching 😎
The way to make a friend at work or anywhere you are "forced" to be with people is if you have common interests outside the given situation but it would have to just happen naturally.Otherwise any people you see regurally are just mere acquaintces!
Yes for sure. Thanks for these thoughts!
Even sneeze the wrong way & billy nomates comes to mind. I dont fratenise with anyone from work, but a colleague ive worked with since early 2022 has decide to retire but she did mention it was nice to work with a like minded person, knowing that were covering your back, reliable & the same work ethic, it was a compliment they didnt have to speak of. Nope, stay professional & when its outside work, left it where its safe.
Nice to get such a great compliment from a colleague! Thanks for watching 😎
We don't go to work to make friends
No but it's wonderful when it actually happens. Thanks for watching 😎
Every friendship is situational. TBH.
That's true! Thanks for watching 😎!
I have found that one person. She is wonderful. There is a age difference between us. She is getting ready for retirement, I have a lot of years left..She is truly happy for my accomplishments within the company. Almost seven years, it could be because of the age gap.. Have to be careful I have been burned before and learned the hard way. 😢
That is wonderful 😊! You are fortunate and so happy to hear it. Thanks for sharing and for watching!
And if you are a schoolteacher working with children as your friends - AVOID EXCESSIVE HUGGING ON THESE STUDENTS. Why? The Me-Too movement. If you are caught, not only you could be fired--you COULD BE CHARGED WITH SOMETHING VERY SERIOUS--AND A FELONY---CHILD MOLESTATION!!!
This lady is absolutely right!!!
Thanks for watching 😎
Situational acqantances.
I don't see my co-workers as my friends... but I see them as people I still have to build a foundation with because we work together. And getting along is important because you have to spend most days together.
Very very true. Thanks for sharing your thoughts! 😎
This is why i work alone. 😄
Makes sense. Thanks for watching 😎
My boss says our office is a “family.” 🙄 My real family wouldn’t treat me the way my work “family” does.
Right?? So true in many places. Thanks for sharing.
You can’t choose your collegues just as you can’t choose your family ,therefore collegues=family
😂 well that's one way to think about it! Thanks for watching 😎.
I find it is naive to think co workers are your friends. I had a laugh with one co worker but he was un co operative when I got a temporary promotion. Sulky and argumentative when the regular boss was away. Also co workers seem to repeat anything you tell them.
Well it works out for some people in some circumstances...but for most, it doesn't. Sounds like a rotten experience for you. Thanks for sharing 😊
you know it's actually a Catch 22. If you are very stoic and not sharing anything, then your coworkers will deem you as having an attitude or a chip on your shoulder and then they'll start complaining about you to the boss. So you're F$cked either way. It's a real tight rope to have to walk.
Yes you are right. I would say, trust your gut, and be yourself and just be a little cautious. I'd say it's a "delicate dance". Thanks for sharing 😊
The place I've been working at for the past five years is filled with phony people, with no exceptions. I've learned the hard way not to trust even one of them.
That's too bad it's that way, isn't it? Thanks for sharing and for watching!
Once or twice, my previous employer conducted a Gallup survey with a question, "Do you have a friend at work?" I felt bad at that time because I don't have one. That question I know was a joke. Those surveys are crap and useless.
Interesting...and curious they would ask that. Thanks for sharing!
I respect my coworkers at where I work, but I need to separate work from my personal life. I'd refrain myself from asking about the Simpsons, Pokémon, anime, and sports. I don’t know that makes me a villian if I must do my job.
You need to do what makes it work for you and setting boundaries is a healthy thing to do. Thanks for watching 😎
@@CareersbyJenn Thanks.
Yeah they are...I trust everybody
I recently got an award for working several years at my company. It was to be presented by my boss to my coworkers at the team meeting. I requested to not be presented to me at all, just for my boss in her office alone. I think my boss was disappointed to not present it in front of the team. I did not want it to be acknowledged as my coworker got the same recognition last year and didn't want to rain on her parade. My other coworker is pregnant and I don't want to upset her as the focus should be on her upcoming baby, not on me. I don't talk to them outside of work anyways.
Sounds like you were very considerate of your colleague. Thanks for sharing 😊
Work is business. Is about growing with a company.
Yes thanks for watching ☺️
This is why I'm happy I'm a local truck driver. I just get in my truck , get my trailer/ truck pre tripped and be on my way.
I don't think I could tolerate people in a office or warehouse setting. No thanks.
It's so great we are all different 😁 thanks for watching!
I have had a few situations where I was good friends with a coworker. But he was good friends with everybody in the company. That's not a friend. That's a politician. Making friends with somebody like that is like trying to make friends with a famous celebrity. I find that there are a lot of comparisons between coworkers and neighbors. In my lifetime, I have filed six lawsuits. Three of them were against coworkers. Two out of the three were coworkers from the same company.
Yikes! Yes, wise to be careful. Thanks for watching!
🙏🙏🙏🌎✝️ Be professional. Work stay out of gossip. Work to take care of your family and provide a roof over your family head. A man has to work to provide for his family. Thank God I am healthy.
Thanks for watching and for sharing!
Yes fired The guy that got a promotion. Became a boss fired another. Made up a lie and fired me from my highest paid welding job. 31$ hr. Now I’ve been averaging 14-19 hr for the past few years. The lie was Do you want to come in for overtime. I said yes. Then they canceled last second and told me no over time on SATURDAY. I come in Monday they fire me.
That's pretty low. Ugh.
I would have filed a complaint.
What do you mean my coworkers aren't my friends? Why would they want to add me on Facebook if they weren't my friends?
😂 love it! Thanks for watching and for the morning giggle.
Glad I seen this. I was pure pressure to give a co-worker a ride home twice & I didn’t feel comfortable doing it, but she kept begging that she really needed a ride so I gave it to her, & I tried running to my car the second time to avoid it, but another co worker was like “Don’t leave her here by herself without giving her a ride home” like thats supposed to be my fucking problem . I’m 18 about to be 19 in a month, & she’s 50 years old (And a manager) and I can’t believe she would pressure A 18 year old who recently completed high school to do such a big task like that & I felt like what I did was dangerous & not safe . I don’t work there no more & I Quit that job 4 months ago .
Yes that sounds really inappropriate. Glad you aren't there anymore. Wise to trust your gut and keep yourself safe. Thanks for sharing and for watching ☺️!
Interesting situation. Just curious. Why do you think it was unsafe to do so?
Not sure but he said he didn't. Good to trust those feelings. Thanks for watching!
@@kwadwotuffour5529 Felt it wasn’t safe became I let someone I barely know In my car twice & how am I able to trust the fact that she wouldn’t try to set me up for something dangerous ?
@@iluvshawty gotcha. Understandable. Oh, yeah, sometimes women beg a certain male for a ride so they can seduce or make a pass at them. Etc.
Idk, met both my husbands at work... and im still very good friends with co workers from 2 different states...
That's wonderful! And not how it is for many people, so you are lucky to have found friends at work. Thanks for watching!🤩
That's taking an awful risk. There's a risk of being accused of sexual harassment.
Always depends on the situation. Sometimes it works well and other times not so much.
Should you stay friends with coworkers after you retire?
If they are true friends, and you want to then absolutely! Loneliness post-retirement is real, so as long as the coworkers are people you want to hang out with, then go for it. What isn't going to be fun though is talking about work all the time if they still work and you don't...that might get tedious.
@@CareersbyJenn Thanks for your response. What is your advice about keeping social media friends with ex co-workers? I have a few "friends" from work on social media.... should I "unfriend" them? I don't see them, two are my ex managers....what is your advice?
@@TheKmonta if you aren't socializing with them, then might as well clean up your contact list. I am still social media friendly with a few coworkers I used to work with years ago, but never see...if I was doing a big clean up of my socials, I might remove some of them.
🙏🙏🙏🌎✝️ Your at work to work. No one pays your bills but you. Be professional stay away from work gossip
Yes, well-said! Thanks for watching 😎
NO
😂 you feel strongly about this! Thanks for watching 😎
It is very true
Thanks for watching 😎
Your so-called work friends will soon push you under the bus when something goes wrong do not trust anyone at work
It's sad that this is often true. Thankfully not everyone's experience, but true for too many. Thanks for watching 😎
OMG I was a mess and overshared everything...finances, love secrets..ets...lol...LMAO. Came back to bite me, but I left and am happy anyways..
Glad you are happy! Thanks for watching 😎🙏
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they are the only friends that i have ha
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I gave a new hire at work a ride home
Stopped in front of his apt
Next thing I know I had a CAR 15 in my face I've never seen that many cops
Turns out my assteamed coworker had escaped prison
After that I never had any thing to do with anyone else I worked with
Yikes!!!! That's wild. Lesson learned for sure. Thanks for sharing 😎
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Question: What if a female coworker puts her arm around you? If a female co-worker did, I'd let her slide, because she knows I'm in a relationship.
Totally depends on how you receive it. If it's genuinely friendly and you aren't uncomfortable, it's all good. If you're not comfortable, you can kindly let her know.
Can anyone become your friend?
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I've worked many different jobs and have made friends at work where we hung out outside of work. Never once has this hurt me in any way whatsoever. Maybe I'm in the minority here?? lol. Imagine going through life with so much of your guard up, kinda sad.
Yes, that is wonderful! Not many are so lucky. It is sad for sure. Thanks for your comments and for watching 😎
Jealousy is the main reason you should not try to make coworkers your friends!
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It's not professional.
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