I've been there and bought the t-shirt! Once you learn to love yourself and your own company you'll never need to depend on someone else to make you happy again 🙂
Why would any woman want to attract a guy who wasn’t interested in the first place. If he pulls away you had a lucky escape. Forget, delete and move on
In my experience, people don’t always pull away because they aren’t interested. Sometimes I pull away when I’m overwhelmed or sick or depressed or going through something or busy. Sometimes I don’t wanna go through the work to explain that to someone so I just pull away. It’s not a lack of interest, it’s just life.
I wasn't looking for anyone and I was just happy working on myself, affirmations etc and then out of no where he showed up. And I got Matthew's program so I wouldn't mess up. If he texts I text after many hours the same amount. I set up boundaries and it's working
This is powerful stuff and absolutely on point. The more we feel confident in our own self love...the more we will attract potential partners who are confident they love us and want us. Those that fall by the wayside and become challenged or even intimidated by our self love...were never meant for us in the first place. I see it as the universe sifting the wheat from the chaff. It always gave me an indication of where I am within myself when I looked at the men I was attracting..
It depends if he is a narcissist, and then you definitely don't want him back. And have to just move on and try to avoid falling for this type and please look for the red flags and never ever wave them away.
I love Shelly's advice. Also she is so feminine, sweet and beautiful! Hopefully physical beauty can be manifested too through what she's mentioned. Thank you Shelly! And thank you Matthew! ❤
I’ve found nobody loves Robin like Robin loves Robin! I’m a very happy person and people seem to treat me really well. I’m sure my attitude is why people respond so loving towards me. 💗
Love this Chanel, thank you Mathew and Shelly, yes I think I’ll take your advise and practise self love to see if this guy I love, starts to show his love for me
Thank you for that!!! I am honestly looking for signs and wish to do the right things by this soul. I am not going to loose him. But was tempted to teach him a lesson. Only my heart didn’t let me. I should work on myself. Thanks for addressing what to do while you wait!! I am not pulling daisies.
@mathewcoast, this very interesting. I met a guy about 3 weeks ago, he seemed to be into it even at long distance, sexusl energy and he wanted sex chat etc. So as I didnt obliged right away, he wanted for us to meet and spend time together which we did and had a great time together. The thing is that after we had this nice weekend together, he went cold and distant.. so what am I missing?... beside the obvious fact that he got what he wanted and now what??.... This is baffling to me that he communicated that he was looking for a relationship that would be commited and now his actions just say the opposite. Any feedback?? Can you clarify what the heck I should do?? I don’t chase and although i do like this guy on different levels I am not willing to put myself through doubt and heartbreak for anyone anymore...
You gave him what he wanted? I'm guessing "sex"? I've been told that that is the BIGGEST mistake to do!! Hold off on the "sex" part for many months if you want him to continue to chase u and be in a long-term relationship. If u give in too quickly, they lose respect for you and assume u give it up to any man on the first few dates and therefore, you are no longer valuable for a long-term relationship or even marriage.
So how long do you wait and not reach out after a guy retreats without saying why? I still have things at his house lol. If it's over I need to get them. Isn't almost a game that you're playing by doing the same and not reaching out to see what happened? I feel like playing the same game isn't the answer, as adults you should be able to just talk it out.
Here is a thought. Someone can be all and do all that you are talking about, but still be alone and not noticed. Maybe you all need to start doing videos that focus on how men totally overlook, ignore, and devalue the ones you speak of. Teach THEM how to grow the F up emotionally.
Well, most men that watch dating advice videos are overlooked, ignored, and devalued by women... they feel the same way about women that you feel about men. Telling men to grow up because they overlook a woman is like telling you to grow up because you overlook certain men.
@@MatthewCoast you do not know me to judge me saying that I overlook most men. You are also not around me to observe it happening. I totally understand your points and would like the same consideration, without judgment, because we all have different experiences.
I was very loved as child, but my Ex husbands were horrible and got bored with me then became mean& angry. So I am shy with men as lovers, but distant friends I can do
Reciprocal effort but early stages the man shoild put in more. A guy can tell if a woman is needy or devalues herself by her behavior. When ur with a man u should still maintain ur own interests goals, basically be the same as u were before u met them. If ur tired one night and dnt feel like repkyong to his text then dnt reply when u feel better put urself first n they will do thr same in return
Hi Mathew, I have this man that I recently fell inlove with in SG, he is from Ireland, a nice guy that suddenly pull away after he told me that he needs a break and he missing me around. So he drops everything and left his business or project in SG and he told me he is heading back to Ireland to take a break. But he is so distant to me saying he is back in Ireland and crazy busy to catch up with people and family he haven't seen for a long time, and that he is on auto pilot - away from technology when I asuggested him to call me when he is ready to talk and open up himself to me to tell me what is really bothering him.
So if you love yourself so much you don’t need anyone else to love you??? Sounds extreme… I get it to some degree…if you put a high price tag on yourself.. of course others will see the price
But I have this icky feeling that he is still in Singapore. Because he used to send me his location wherever he is when we are together in SG, or video call me when we are not together. But now suddenly he doesn't seem not wanting to reply or trying to ignore my msgs and feel he is pulling away and so distant. Sad and painful as hell!! Thinking he is toying me.
i disagree with the advise to start with "self-love" when a guy pulls away from the female. This is often the cause of the problem. Most females do not put equal effort into a relationship, i think it's because females have the power in todays dating scene with all the social media and the abundance of thirsty men. Analyse your own role in the relationship as a female. What did you "bring to the table" into the relationship with him?
Our community is filled with women who "gave everything" to a man who pulled away and disappeared... the problem isn't what they're bringing to the table, it's being attached to men who don't really like them that much.
I don’t like her…she’s talking about all of these men have treated her so much better?? But you still haven’t landed on one???! Something isn’t adding up wit her method
@mariammalik5931, You poor thing! You sound jealous. She's got great info and is very feminine and highly attractive. Maybe you need to take her course honey! 😉
What if you met in person and he was talking a lot of himself then he didn’t reply back after 2 weeks and then ; he unfollowed you on ig but I messaged him and he still replies back ? What to do ?
I've been there and bought the t-shirt! Once you learn to love yourself and your own company you'll never need to depend on someone else to make you happy again 🙂
Why would any woman want to attract a guy who wasn’t interested in the first place. If he pulls away you had a lucky escape. Forget, delete and move on
So i assume you are in this video just to share your wisdom then
In my experience, people don’t always pull away because they aren’t interested. Sometimes I pull away when I’m overwhelmed or sick or depressed or going through something or busy. Sometimes I don’t wanna go through the work to explain that to someone so I just pull away. It’s not a lack of interest, it’s just life.
@@btstakescareofmewhenimsick4892 lmao right?
@@btstakescareofmewhenimsick4892 😁😁😁😁😁
@@M3GPie I agree.
I wasn't looking for anyone and I was just happy working on myself, affirmations etc and then out of no where he showed up. And I got Matthew's program so I wouldn't mess up.
If he texts I text after many hours the same amount. I set up boundaries and it's working
This is powerful stuff and absolutely on point. The more we feel confident in our own self love...the more we will attract potential partners who are confident they love us and want us. Those that fall by the wayside and become challenged or even intimidated by our self love...were never meant for us in the first place. I see it as the universe sifting the wheat from the chaff. It always gave me an indication of where I am within myself when I looked at the men I was attracting..
It depends if he is a narcissist, and then you definitely don't want him back. And have to just move on and try to avoid falling for this type and please look for the red flags and never ever wave them away.
I only seem to attract narcissist
Women are very proud to be themselves without carrying any burdens of useless men.
I love Shelly's advice. Also she is so feminine, sweet and beautiful! Hopefully physical beauty can be manifested too through what she's mentioned. Thank you Shelly! And thank you Matthew! ❤
You're welcome!
Don't put your identity in anyone else.
I’ve found nobody loves Robin like Robin loves Robin! I’m a very happy person and people seem to treat me really well. I’m sure my attitude is why people respond so loving towards me. 💗
Excellent!!!❤️❤️❤️
Yes you did. You love robin. Just saying. Good luck.
Love this Chanel, thank you Mathew and Shelly, yes I think I’ll take your advise and practise self love to see if this guy I love, starts to show his love for me
This video came at perfect timing ! ❤
Hope you enjoyed it!
Like attracts like. The law of attraction. ❤
Thank you for that!!! I am honestly looking for signs and wish to do the right things by this soul. I am not going to loose him. But was tempted to teach him a lesson. Only my heart didn’t let me. I should work on myself. Thanks for addressing what to do while you wait!! I am not pulling daisies.
@mathewcoast, this very interesting. I met a guy about 3 weeks ago, he seemed to be into it even at long distance, sexusl energy and he wanted sex chat etc. So as I didnt obliged right away, he wanted for us to meet and spend time together which we did and had a great time together. The thing is that after we had this nice weekend together, he went cold and distant.. so what am I missing?... beside the obvious fact that he got what he wanted and now what??.... This is baffling to me that he communicated that he was looking for a relationship that would be commited and now his actions just say the opposite. Any feedback?? Can you clarify what the heck I should do?? I don’t chase and although i do like this guy on different levels I am not willing to put myself through doubt and heartbreak for anyone anymore...
You gave him what he wanted? I'm guessing "sex"? I've been told that that is the BIGGEST mistake to do!! Hold off on the "sex" part for many months if you want him to continue to chase u and be in a long-term relationship. If u give in too quickly, they lose respect for you and assume u give it up to any man on the first few dates and therefore, you are no longer valuable for a long-term relationship or even marriage.
Seriously if the guy likes you more than you do, don’t need any techniques.
So how long do you wait and not reach out after a guy retreats without saying why? I still have things at his house lol. If it's over I need to get them. Isn't almost a game that you're playing by doing the same and not reaching out to see what happened? I feel like playing the same game isn't the answer, as adults you should be able to just talk it out.
Here is a thought.
Someone can be all and do all that you are talking about, but still be alone and not noticed.
Maybe you all need to start doing videos that focus on how men totally overlook, ignore, and devalue the ones you speak of.
Teach THEM how to grow the F up emotionally.
Well, most men that watch dating advice videos are overlooked, ignored, and devalued by women... they feel the same way about women that you feel about men. Telling men to grow up because they overlook a woman is like telling you to grow up because you overlook certain men.
@@MatthewCoast you do not know me to judge me saying that I overlook most men.
You are also not around me to observe it happening.
I totally understand your points and would like the same consideration, without judgment, because we all have different experiences.
What an amazing video. You rock. Thank you!
Glad you liked it!
Thank you, so much both ,watching from philipines
This is a wonderful video. Great advice. Thank you.
Glad it was helpful!
I was very loved as child, but my Ex husbands were horrible and got bored with me then became mean& angry. So I am shy with men as lovers, but distant friends I can do
Hi Matthew and Shelly
What to do when I be so angry and just wanted to stop the relationship. When he playing the pull in and out game?
Unfortunately she didn’t explain it well… plays with words!🙄
Reciprocal effort but early stages the man shoild put in more. A guy can tell if a woman is needy or devalues herself by her behavior. When ur with a man u should still maintain ur own interests goals, basically be the same as u were before u met them. If ur tired one night and dnt feel like repkyong to his text then dnt reply when u feel better put urself first n they will do thr same in return
Exactly she sounds nuts
@My-home-routin,
I disagree!
She was so clear and her explanation on manifesting was so helpful to me! She's fantastic!
@mariammalik5931,
So do you.
Thank you . You are so right.
You are so welcome, Sara!
Hi Mathew, I have this man that I recently fell inlove with in SG, he is from Ireland, a nice guy that suddenly pull away after he told me that he needs a break and he missing me around. So he drops everything and left his business or project in SG and he told me he is heading back to Ireland to take a break. But he is so distant to me saying he is back in Ireland and crazy busy to catch up with people and family he haven't seen for a long time, and that he is on auto pilot - away from technology when I asuggested him to call me when he is ready to talk and open up himself to me to tell me what is really bothering him.
he's seeing someone else
Amazing 💓 thank you friends for that 🙏🏽
Why would you want someone who doesn't want you and told you that with actions? You are Your own enemy
I would not want to retract a man if he's pulling away in the first place.
You have a cute smile 😍
So if you love yourself so much you don’t need anyone else to love you??? Sounds extreme… I get it to some degree…if you put a high price tag on yourself.. of course others will see the price
@mariammalik5931,
What a strange comment.
This lady I don’t like how she is communicating, people want to get to the point, I feel she can coach good in the chakras .
@user-ck9gv5mf1t,
I personally think Shelly is awesome.
You really need to teach men how to behave not women.. 🤔
A lot of men (when I teach them) tell me that I need to teach women to behave and not men... which should I believe?
@@MatthewCoast but that's simple, make neutral videos or include men and women in the videos on how to attract a partner.
Lol! Good one Matthew!
💯💯💯💯teach men how to behave with women
But I have this icky feeling that he is still in Singapore. Because he used to send me his location wherever he is when we are together in SG, or video call me when we are not together. But now suddenly he doesn't seem not wanting to reply or trying to ignore my msgs and feel he is pulling away and so distant. Sad and painful as hell!! Thinking he is toying me.
Trust your gut feeling
@audreyrose1975,
Catfishing?
OK, can we go a little bit more factual and less emotional please,
This is coming from a woman who is actually looking for answers
i disagree with the advise to start with "self-love" when a guy pulls away from the female. This is often the cause of the problem. Most females do not put equal effort into a relationship, i think it's because females have the power in todays dating scene with all the social media and the abundance of thirsty men.
Analyse your own role in the relationship as a female. What did you "bring to the table" into the relationship with him?
Our community is filled with women who "gave everything" to a man who pulled away and disappeared... the problem isn't what they're bringing to the table, it's being attached to men who don't really like them that much.
When my fiancé left me I have never TSM never called him back event never never look back now he see me for who I am and he went
Back now
Please can you tell me how ❤
I don’t like her…she’s talking about all of these men have treated her so much better?? But you still haven’t landed on one???! Something isn’t adding up wit her method
@mariammalik5931,
You poor thing! You sound jealous. She's got great info and is very feminine and highly attractive.
Maybe you need to take her course honey! 😉
@mariammalik5931,
You are rude.
Shelly is married with a new baby.
I went out with a friend (boy) without telling my boyfriend and he saw me there ever since then he changed , doesn't text,call....,.
What do I do
@faithadaga1066,
Well duh!
Hlo
Hi, Nnamugenyi
;)
What if you met in person and he was talking a lot of himself then he didn’t reply back after 2 weeks and then ; he unfollowed you on ig but I messaged him and he still replies back ? What to do ?