4 Years of Betrayal: Woman Discovers Husband's Infidelity & Secret Baby
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- Опубликовано: 18 авг 2024
- Marriage or Mirage with Charmaine & Neek Bey - Episode 12: Today's guest, London from Chicago, the story is almost too painful to contemplate - she was betrayed by the man she loved when it was revealed that he had been living a lie and fathering a daughter behind her back. After four years of marriage, the lies and deception took an immense toll on the relationship, leaving London confused and desperate for direction. She loves her husband but can't move past this period of deep hurt - a hurt that has lingered for two years. London's problem is complex, and as viewers of our podcast, we want to hear from you. What advice would you give London? What would you do if this happened to you? Please help us to help them today! Do you need some advice? E-mail marriageormirage@gmail.com or DM us on our Instagram page: @Marriageormiragepodcast Love, The Beys!
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You can tell her all the red flags and she still isn’t going anywhere. He gaslights her. Telling her she is insecure after HE cheated. She really thinks that’s the only time he cheated. Honestly, one time is enough but she wouldn’t have known about this time if there wasn’t a child involved. He didnt come out and tell her bc he felt bad/guilty about his behavior. He knew it was going to come out anyway. This man knows there isn’t really repercussions for his actions. They separated a few days in the same house. She rather have a cheating man than no man. I dealt with crap like this at 21. I’m not 38 and would never deal with this crap from my husband.
You show people how to treat you.
He put his hands on her. Relationship over!
She needs to stop fooling herself & get therapy. The relationship is toxic & she needs to see that…😢
When you want to leave you will do just that LEAVE. So enjoy the trauma sis until your really done.
Thank God I got out after 13 years. He’s been cheating I know how hard it is to convince yourself but this marriage ain’t it I learned the hard way and it had nothing to do with cheating but us as women have to learn when to let something toxic go. Praying for you let him go
Um....let's put aside the infidelity issue for a minute. Ya'll putting hand on each other? Toxic love is not healthy love. Be encouraged 🙏🏽❤️💚💙💜
I pray she leave him..
This happened to me I was in a 6yr relationship found out 3yrs later he had a son, then come to find out had a daughter too from the same girl, I was gone , he was living a whole 2nd life out here in the streets
I bet he was messing with his daughter mother the whole time. When she asked him to leave you she filed for child support.
Listen him losing her is her best revenge
I hate when a person come to you with their issues and you give them the REAL. They’ll find all the good in that person that has PLUCKED up the relationship!
Gas station underwear is WILD 😩😭
Her idea of a good relationship is problem number one.. she stated several big issues and then stated they have a great relationship
My thoughts exactly. It's sad.
Divorce. He had the nerve to have a whole family out there. Then tore up the house when he was told to leave the home. He's childish.
Try this. Ask to have her on the phone to discuss life as a family. If he say no. She'll have her answer
How many affairs will it take for you to realize you're playing the doormat?
Girl! Sum “wives” will never ever realize that’s what they are…the fall back plan…that man will keep Going out to get side pieces and once that side piece had enuff…he right back to the wife…
Omggggggggg the whole time I’m like “that look like Charmaine… but nah … she not….. but that looks like Charmaine…. “ lol wow.
And since the recording of this me and the lady have met, and he is open with all communication. I took the advice giving by the Beys and saw a change
Honestly, I wish you find and love yourself. When you do you'll look back and listen to this interview like wtf was I thinking. He's good at manipulating and he knows it's just easy to do to you.
So are you OK with the little girl being around you, honestly
@@toriasgurl no I am not and don’t know if I can and she is just as innocent in this as I am
@@londonwilliams9956 Ma'am I understand I couldn't be reminded of him cheating I know it's not the kids fault and I hope this doesn't sound mean , so I took myself out of the equation
But if your gonna stay with him eventually your gonna have to have dealings with the child
Even been got fed up at the end ! 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
Her sons will not respect her period. They're going to think it's OK to cheat on the one they love.
Why won’t my sons respect me they not even aware of the infidelity or the fight I’m lost don’t judge me for looking for help in my marriage this man cheated twice and one resulted in a baby not excusing it but I’m torn because this is a good man a good father and all he made mistakes so I just throw it all away give some advice not judge
@@londonwilliams9956 when you love yourself you'll understand
@@rhondajackson3980 😂😂you have a good day lady
Hell no they won’t! They are going to learn of the infidelity when they get a little older lol. They daddy’s family’s or their new sibling will talk about it lol 😂 they’re going to act just like their dad I don’t know why she thinks differently 😂 this is just to entertaining because this could never be me at allllll
@@londonwilliams9956 he’s not a good man at all lol 😂 he may be a good father but a horrible partner; both ideologies can go-exist. He can be a great dad and not be your partner you know that right? And he’s not even a good day because he literally cut off his own child that he created? He also got violent with you no? It’s giving .. “HES A GOOD AMN SAVANNAH” 😂
This is deep some of the stuff she saying reminds me of my relationship and I’m not even married 😮
I see one issue. She do not want another woman reaping the benefits she's receiving from HER husband. She'll sit in the pile of feces and take the torture instead of letting him know she is worthy of a faithful husband.
He will never allow the two women meeting. He's still f her
He didn't have any respect for her and now he want respect and his family. Gtfoh
What do you mean before the marriage. He was with her when that baby was conceived. He knew he'd cheat the whole marriage. He's pissed off because he got exposed. Period. I was her for two years. Sis dump the cheater and file for child support and spousal support. Let him suffer knowing he f up.
And that is what u call loving urself!!!!!! She commented on my post talking about what happened to “for better or for worst” girl ur marriage has just been for worst lol forget he’s a good father/good provider he’s a terrible husband CLEARLY
oh hell no
Loving repetitive cheater equal lifetime therapy
She keeps saying that he’s a good man and they have a “beautiful relationship” but that is the farthest from the truth. She obviously has self esteem issues and he seems to be a narcissist. I would advise a PERMANENT split and they both NEED to seek therapy SEPARATELY.
I live in Seattle where Black men generally don’t chose Black women. Our lives are very toxic and it’s getting no better. I no longer long for a relationship because I prayed for God to take the desire away. I’ve never been happier. I just feel bad for my 3 of my 5 gorgeous daughters. I don’t recommend that they use my prayer…
Listening to her talking and making excuses regarding her marriage. I see Financial issues being more Important. She will lose her mind daily and he's going to cheat better. He do not respect her period.
We have no financial issues what was you watching
@londonwilliams9956 you made sure it was mentioned and I'm shocked. Hope you have a back up plan. How many women can mess with outside your marriage? Before you're tired. Best wishes to you and your cheating husband. He will cheat as long as you keep forgiving him.
I didn’t mention it listen again she asked what does he do
She need to talk to a certified counselor.
Wait!! 😅 It was 13 years they were together and had been married for 3 years but the baby was 6 years before marriage and the infinite times of infidelity before that? Am I hearing this correctly? Sis, that should have been left alone and on top of that getting beat downs like Tina? I’m just 5 minutes and 50 seconds in and I saw all them 🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩.
What infinite times I know of one before the baby if y’all not go give real life advice don’t judge and the baby is 5 not six listen carefully before you start shaming
@@londonwilliams9956 And ladies; cheating is not a mistake… it’s a CHOICE. And LADIES! Cheating is not a mistake it’s a CHOICE. He chose to cheat . He chose to keep it a secret. His family chose to be loyal to him and keep his secret. He chose to cut off his side family and be an absentee father. Your not leaving. 😅 that’s sad
@London Williams…this must be about you. Ok…so the baby is 5. Does it really make the situation any better? Really and truly I hate to see another woman go through the terrible things that we allow a man to put us through. Notice I didn’t put ALLOW in there on accident. You allowed his behavior and disrespect. I say that to you because we have choices. To stay in a relationship or to leave it. This man has lost respect for you when you allowed it the first time. Understanding that it is ok to give people a second chance; hoping that they will change, hoping this man that we chose to be with wants to save this marriage as much as you do, we trap ourselves in an endless spiral. All this man sees is that he got away with it multiple times and he will keep doing it because you keep accepting it. It takes two to make a relationship work. It’s evident this man has no plans on changing or trying to make it work. At this point there is really no need for advice. If you are seeking advice then there is some intent on your part in trying to stay in this marriage…when it should be left where it is. The beautiful part about life is that we have Choices. Let’s not forget you need to love yourself more than you love this man. I’m sure people have given you advice and you didn’t take it…and @Shayna Clark preach 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾🗣️🗣️🗣️🗣️🗣️🗣️say it louder for those in the back who didn’t hear it.
Go to therapy and include the children to help them adjust to the new addition. They'll have new feelings and might lash out.
@kirkshotton2202 perfect message for her and her sons. She need to let go and get help through the lord and a therapist. She's holding onto her mental and her emotional abuser. She's making him look like a good man. no. A good do not xhest and act like she's wrong for wanting answers and possibly leaving the marriage. Hope she find God and love herself.
y he so mad..
TAKE OUT THE TRASH ALREADY SWEETHEART AND BE UNAPOLOGETIC ABOUT GETTING TRASH OUT OF YOUR LIFE BEFORE IT STARTS TO STINK!!!!!
Wow 😩 So sorry to hear this. Life can throw some serious things at us. We have to know when to work on things or to walk away. Dealing with a lifetime of pain, unhappiness and toxic surroundings can put too much stress on the body and cause issues within you that you don't want. You're sacrificing yourself and have to ask yourself if it's worth it. My heart and prayers go out to you London 😢 💜🙏 Please get therapy to help the situation. You matter and your feelings are valid. Your husband needs to understand why cheating is unacceptable and the problems it causes in marriage or any relationship. Trust is important. Also the physical aggression and violence has to stop. It will only get worse if the both of you keep resulting to it. Make an agreement to walk away from one another and go to another room to calm down before interacting with one another. When we're upset most of us raise our voices and to top it off we aren't listening to each other at the time anyway so.... Wait until calm before trying to address a heavy situation. Also husband has done enough without you involved as a wife. Inclusivity is a MUST. If he doesn't understand or doesn't care to, that's a problem. He needs to do what it takes to make you feel secure, included and aware. He violated the respect and trust BUT it can be fixed with therapy, love, understanding, patience, commitment and him being accountable.
This was kind boring, i love yall Charmaine & Neek.. but the build up for this story had me thinking it was gonna be good, but it done put ne to sleep.
The girl dont want no real advice frl.
You should do a podcast with Don
No
Sounds Just Like My Life!!🥲
How are you dealing?
Please get out. It isn’t ever worth it.
I hope it all works out. Please love yourself first.