Avoid These Mistakes When Divorcing a Narcissist

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  • Опубликовано: 10 сен 2024
  • In this video, learn the dos and don'ts of divorcing a narcissist. If you're going through a divorce with a narcissistic partner, these tips will help you navigate the process successfully.
    If you're divorcing a narcissist, you need to know the dos and don'ts to protect yourself. Watch this video for essential tips on navigating this difficult situation.--Check out Dr. Clarke's Books and Online Courses:www.davideclar... and Stay Informed: @DrDavidClarke 🔔 Don't forget to hit the subscribe button and ring the bell to get notified about our latest videos on how to leave a narcissist.Follow Dr. Clarke on Social Media:Instagram: @davideclarkephdTwitter: @davideclarkephdFacebook: / davideclarkephdtiktok: @drdavidclarkeThreads: @davideclarkephdWebsite: www.davideclar...

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  • @SLLiberty23
    @SLLiberty23 Месяц назад +22

    One of the most depressing and terrifying things about this - on top of the abuse - is feeling like you are alone and the one losing your mind in this nightmare….. thanking God for you and for sharing this lifeline video 🙂‍↔️♥️🙏🏻

  • @robynaxani6035
    @robynaxani6035 4 дня назад +2

    Exactly what happened to me. Got a protection order but wasn't strong enough and ready enough. Lost all my support and he was worse than ever! Now out of the worst relationship of my life and survived a covert, still here and we are almost 3 years post. Hallelujah God for the sevenfold

  • @leilagomulka5690
    @leilagomulka5690 Месяц назад +17

    Yes. Parental alienation is the number one threat - when you have the worst attorney ever

  • @ellencapozzi2152
    @ellencapozzi2152 Месяц назад +7

    Wish I was watching this 50 years ago. God bless you both for shining the light of God’s truth❤️

  • @unomeecj
    @unomeecj Месяц назад +16

    Paying very close attention, trying to get out now, after 32 years. Your book is on order enough is enough for real

    • @ND-or5so
      @ND-or5so Месяц назад +5

      @unomeecj:
      I hear you.
      David means business and no bull.
      I hope you get the frigg out!
      I know you feel the damage. I just separated from the passive aggressive covert narcissistic husband. Psychological , emotional and mental abuse daily. Then financial abuse was added. These ones can't not abuse.
      became financialabuse etc etc etc any kind of abuse he could use!
      Abuse was daily

    • @Heseesyou
      @Heseesyou Месяц назад +2

      I tell you that if you find yourself being double minded and unstable in all your ways..
      Then it takes longer for God to heal you😢😢😢
      I escape a few of these relationships and got healed and gained knowledge only to be writing you with a landlord that just said he hates himself and wants to off himself. I'm in the mountains on private property with him and I'm with a 4 yr old son that I'm now praying and asking where can I go.. I'm going, but where and how😢
      This property brings me peace as I work 12 hrs a day with my toddler at my ankle and I have to find really hard jobs because alot don't have a safe space for my child to be while I serve my job..
      This property is a hide away for me to decompress with the hrs I have until I have to hit the ground running..
      I trust God.. it will be hard but I need to see this, hear u and others and keep my focus on my exit..
      Please pray for us as I pray for you❤❤❤

    • @pamelacave5515
      @pamelacave5515 Месяц назад

      Plz don't say it will be hard. There's an older book titled 'I Choose Easy World'. Plz look into it.
      ​@@Heseesyou

    • @unomeecj
      @unomeecj Месяц назад

      @@ND-or5so Same thing tonight was afraid for my life.. I'm not only him but my daughter as well. She started slicing her arm. Looking at me like Harley Quinn, saying this is for you. Beautiful, and then he blames me. It's just because I didn't want her cussing me in my own home.She's twenty six years old, I heard she could go to a hotel

    • @ND-or5so
      @ND-or5so Месяц назад

      @unomeecj
      These narcissists start all kinds of trouble. They are poison to the whole family. It sucks how they are such babies they can't ever take accountability. They love to torture us. They get off on giving us pain and watching us suffer and always more problems. Did he ever talk about his childhood? About being mistreated, being abused sexually, mentally, or physically, not wanted, etc.

  • @LS-tw1ng
    @LS-tw1ng 15 дней назад +1

    “The girls will marry narcs” so true. My dad was a narc. I’m currently divorcing one now. I pray to God, my daughters learn different.

  • @watchfinderco.8191
    @watchfinderco.8191 28 дней назад +3

    How do you make a narcissist suffer forever?
    You need to destroy narcissist ego and pride. You need to bring them back to reality. And there is a way you can do that. Without harming them directly. And that is by working on yourself. And going back to being the person you were before you got involved with the narcissist. The person that they were attracted to. And then becoming a better version of yourself. If you do that and let them see it, but you reject their hoover attempts. It will destroy their ego. Because they can't deal with rejection. They can't deal with being ignored. Especially if it's from something that they believe they should have.
    Narcissists find pleasure in breaking you down. They find pleasure in your pain. It gives them satisfaction. So the last thing they want to see is you building yourself up. You being happy. Because what really destroys their ego is when they see that you're not affected by their attempts to destroy you. You're still able to do what you need to do. You're still able to live the life that you want to live. You're still able to laugh and smile. Which means that their efforts have gone to waste. Their plan has failed. They didn't get the result that they were intending for. Because now you're even more successful. You look better than you ever did before. You're in better condition than when they first met you. Which destroys them. Because they remember how good things were back then. That's why they lovebombed you. And they would love to have that again. But if they can't, it will crush them. So you don't need to get revenge on the narcissist. You don't need to do anything to them. Just focus on yourself. Focus on your own life. Focus on building yourself up. Making your life better. And don't let them partake in it. Don't let them be a part of it. That is how you do it.
    All thanks to the cyber expert who was able to investigate his phone and get the me the information and evidence that I need to gain my freedom from the abusive relationship. If you are in a similar situation you can contact him on instagram @dynamoexpert

  • @leilagomulka5690
    @leilagomulka5690 Месяц назад +16

    I was ready to forgive , for being homeless and losing my children for 5 years - and still - after caring for my elderly parents, he sent a shark attorney from Stamford Connecticut- to steal mom’s inheritance and render me homeless once more .

    • @danettedarling4545
      @danettedarling4545 Месяц назад

      @@leilagomulka5690 :(

    • @weronikaasomsson2404
      @weronikaasomsson2404 Месяц назад

      👉❤️When it comes to narcissists- they are one of the big reasons He is stepping in right now!🔥💪♥️ He is coming to avenge!
      👉Innocent go first- all the children of the world will disappear first then the adult believers.🥰 Jesus is coming back to pick up all those who accepted free gift of His death for their sins. Yes, after 2 000 years He is coming back with promised salvation!🙌♥️🥳
      As He speaks through the prophets He is sickened by the world: lies, abuse amd manipulations.
      Before He comes we will see Alaska's back to back earthquakes 7.6 and 7.3, we will also see Germany and Russia exchanging missiles. Jesus spoke of it all through his prophets! 🙌❤️😊
      Jesus removes His believers and then Apocalypse starts, do not be left for that! 🥹❤️You can still call out to Him when kids are gone! Make sure you make Jesus your Lord and Saviour🙌❤️He loves you like crazy! He sees you, ♥️
      😍
      Trust in what He did on the cross for you! He died for our sins and defeated the death by rising 3 days later!
      🙌❤️🥹

    • @kittydflores7223
      @kittydflores7223 Месяц назад +1

      Been there. Done that. Again. And again. And again!!

    • @777Pattie
      @777Pattie 23 дня назад

      Oh no how did the law steal your elderly parents money?? How is that even legal??
      My estranged son-in-law was kicked out of the home I've been providing for my daughter & her 5 little ones (his & her together biological 5) because he refused to provide. He always says he's going to bankrupt me or sue me.
      Sooo now I'm wondering how your husband was able to legally take money that was actually your parents money? 💔

    • @lauriediandrea715
      @lauriediandrea715 3 дня назад

      I’m trying to leave & found that he & NarcMother (he’s an only child) somehow put the deed to his & mine house of 3 years into his mothers name 4 days before our wedding!!

  • @rachaelforeverblessed
    @rachaelforeverblessed 28 дней назад +3

    I couldn’t remain serious the moment he said “right this marriage is trash” lol 😂 he is so honest that it’s funny sometimes. Thankyou for bringing a smile to my face despite this serious topic. @12:21
    It gets funnier to,
    “The church people say Marriage means everything; too bad if you’re destroyed”😂

  • @anitalohar-br6yn
    @anitalohar-br6yn 15 дней назад +1

    You are the best, I've learnt so much from you. You actually know the DNA of narc. You really helped me to make my decision to leave him. Now have filed for domestic violence and divorce. One of the best decision I've ever made to leave him. And yes he's making the whole process so difficult. Apparently I left me house with my 6yr daughter without informing him. And he put all kinds of charges against me, missing complaint, theft charges, kidnapping child charges. By God's Grace I'm out of all these charges, now my cases are on. Thank you for your help and support

  • @danettedarling4545
    @danettedarling4545 Месяц назад +12

    Yes, I would love to see more of your talks together. One thing I can say from having been victimized by both my husband and his ex wife, I had no idea what I was dealing with. I now can look on them with compassion and thank God that I listened.

    • @jacquelineford5503
      @jacquelineford5503 Месяц назад

      Amen, stand firm on every word of God for strength. ❤ pray!!!⚓️

  • @bekind7288
    @bekind7288 Месяц назад +2

    A few months after I divorced the narc, he had a girlfriend who had a 1 year old daughter...she was 23, he was 50 at the time. My teenage son called me from his dad's house (1 mile down the road...) telling me his dad looked through her cellphone and they got into an argument, his dad left to take her home.
    I asked him if he wanted me to come get him, he did.
    Total drama scene when I got there b/c they came back to work it out or something.
    I took my son home. The girlfriend broke up with him a few days later. Smart move!
    Couple years later my now 16 year old son decided he didn't want to stay at his dad's at all after an especially upsetting evening there, he'd had enough. I talked with him more about his dad, the truth without hatred, but the truth is so important. He started seeing a counselor at school. Lord I pray that man decides to move out of state. Maybe he'll meet a Bambi while traveling for work..❤

  • @ND-or5so
    @ND-or5so Месяц назад +12

    David, you are the best!!

  • @danettedarling4545
    @danettedarling4545 Месяц назад +4

    Wow! I’m just realizing that my husband did this to his ex and now I see it with his kids!! And his ex had it put in the custody battle that I (stepmom) CANNOT be with the kids without him around.

  • @leilagomulka5690
    @leilagomulka5690 Месяц назад +11

    What a beautiful ministry you have . Unique and divinely inspired. And inspiring 🙏

  • @leilagomulka5690
    @leilagomulka5690 Месяц назад +5

    I remained penniless for 5 years and now he is going after mom’s estate . Because he lied under oath with “ separate property “ line - in a 50 - 50 California state - after we were married 14 years legally, and I wasted 7 years of my life beforehand ( technically common law marriage) - with a Roman Catholic priest

  • @meredithyoung9200
    @meredithyoung9200 Месяц назад +7

    Why doesn't the church address this? Would have saved me my sanity and 20 years! Grrr

    • @lauriediandrea715
      @lauriediandrea715 Месяц назад +2

      I do an awful lot of service for my church community and have for years. They have never seen my narcissist Hubby with me even once. we had a full church wedding and after that day, he never went back. I’ve stayed way too long and I am definitely in a DV narcissistic relationship. I had just finished up with confession with a priest I rather like as a human being and he asked me if everything was all right and I said no I’m actually at the beginning of getting a divorce. And I said my got a very very bad marriage and he goes well. Does he beat you? I said no and he screamed in my face. The devil hates you. That’s why he wants to separate you and your husband. You’ve got a pray about this. I’ve been married for 31 years. I think I’ve said more than enough prayers and nothing has changed. It’s only gotten worse and worse. Now I know what religious abusive is..

    • @meredithyoung9200
      @meredithyoung9200 Месяц назад +3

      @@lauriediandrea715 Im so sorry. They refuse to look at the devil that is staring them RIGHT IN THE FACE!

  • @Mary-lk8eq
    @Mary-lk8eq 25 дней назад +1

    If breaking up with a Narcissist,its best to merge into little contact, eventually, no contacts.Get a bad ass narc attorney expert to be your mouth peice UNTIL AFTER your case is closed.

  • @Andrea-kw3vo
    @Andrea-kw3vo Месяц назад +3

    Yes , more of these interviews please! Great listening to you both!

  • @chaosqueen9906
    @chaosqueen9906 Месяц назад +2

    Please introduce your guest and this podcast. Thank you!!!❤❤❤

  • @montanagal6958
    @montanagal6958 24 дня назад +2

    In the end, you either escape or die.

  • @cathymiller6670
    @cathymiller6670 Месяц назад +1

    Yes, that was a super helpful video!! Yes, please do more...❤🙏

  • @curtrobinson2733
    @curtrobinson2733 17 дней назад

    I was married to a female communal narcissist. Don't think that a narcissist personality is only men. And yes, they are extremely difficult, to put it mildly.

  • @danettedarling4545
    @danettedarling4545 Месяц назад +3

    ❤ Thank you!! 🙏

  • @WPOASilver
    @WPOASilver Месяц назад +7

    But I do ❤love my life now without Mr military Narc 😅😂

    • @gmb6050
      @gmb6050 Месяц назад +2

      @WPOASilver. I'm with one now that I'm trying to get away from. OMG... Trying to find a lawyer that is familiar with the military.

    • @WPOASilver
      @WPOASilver Месяц назад

      @@gmb6050 Lord Jesus you always send helpers please Lord send my friend help in finding the best lawyer that knows all the loop holes 🕳 in the military 🙏

  • @danettedarling4545
    @danettedarling4545 Месяц назад +2

    Dr. Clark, how do I share a very beneficial tool with you that you may want to share with your audience to help? I’m currently going through it with my husband and you have really helped me get to this point. I’m so grateful for y’all.

    • @ND-or5so
      @ND-or5so Месяц назад

      @danettedarling4...
      Please share

  • @danalee8658
    @danalee8658 16 дней назад

    Most of the time it is not possible to go see 2 or 3 lawyers...It costs around $450 for an hour of their time.

  • @ociana
    @ociana Месяц назад +1

    The boxing gloves come off in divorce.

  • @amywaller2930
    @amywaller2930 28 дней назад

    Love this!!

  • @LyndaDixon-tm7uz
    @LyndaDixon-tm7uz 29 дней назад

    Oh my goodness i have been told so many times im crazy i thought it was my name and they cant even talk about weather and yes that is tossed in my face whenever there was an issue you call yourself a christian

  • @shalynn365
    @shalynn365 Месяц назад

    What about if you can’t work much due to illnesses. I have applied for SADI with a lawyer 2 years ago . He cut me off from marital income a few years ago and stopped paying on the bills in my name that didn’t affect his credit or services so now my credit is in the toilet . I have no money for an attorney or legal advice. And need insurance to live . In 9 years he went from in the hole and me living on my own and worked with him to restore his credit and add to his income . Now he makes excellent money with all the benefits . Now I am 54 with diabetes for 45 years amongst other illness that keeps me from being able to work a job that will sustain me and all my medications and doctors.
    What a fool I was !!
    I need help !

  • @rubyellis.5472
    @rubyellis.5472 Месяц назад

    Who is the counselor you are talking with? What is her name?

  • @cathymiller6670
    @cathymiller6670 Месяц назад

    Could you please link the beautiful woman you gave this podcast with.. Thank you.

  • @nicholecornes1915
    @nicholecornes1915 19 дней назад

    Seriously! I got my husband baptized in Jesus name filled with the holy ghost for TEN YEARS! THEY DONT CHANGE

  • @patjones2082
    @patjones2082 Месяц назад

    💯💯💯💯💯💯💯💯💯💯💯💯

  • @leilagomulka5690
    @leilagomulka5690 Месяц назад

    No one will touch my case. “ because he’s a priest “ ….

    • @Heseesyou
      @Heseesyou Месяц назад +4

      God will touch your case, I pray you will seek him diligently and that the cares of the world won't choke them out.

    • @ND-or5so
      @ND-or5so Месяц назад

      @@leilagomulka5690
      Hire a Jewish or Muslim lawyer.

    • @tainomoon
      @tainomoon Месяц назад +1

      If you can get out with your 50, do it. The longer you stay the more broken you will become until there is nothing left in you. I was 49 years married to a pastor. You won’t win. The longer you stay the harder it will be. Start building your new life and be happy. Stick with Dr. Clark.

    • @leilagomulka5690
      @leilagomulka5690 Месяц назад

      @@tainomoon thank you 🙏

    • @bekind7288
      @bekind7288 Месяц назад +1

      I saved this video even though I divorced him in 2022. You never know who may need it! I have a 'Dr. Clarke' folder ❤

  • @lindawheeler3479
    @lindawheeler3479 Месяц назад

    What is the title of her book

    • @rubyellis.5472
      @rubyellis.5472 Месяц назад

      What is her name?

    • @amyhoppes8006
      @amyhoppes8006 Месяц назад +1

      Don't Let Their Crazy Make You Crazy - Slade Waggoner

  • @shalynn365
    @shalynn365 Месяц назад

    What about if you can’t work much due to illnesses. I have applied for SADI with a lawyer 2 years ago . He cut me off from marital income a few years ago and stopped paying on the bills in my name that didn’t affect his credit or services so now my credit is in the toilet . I have no money for an attorney or legal advice. And need insurance to live . In 9 years he went from in the hole and me living on my own and worked with him to restore his credit and add to his income . Now he makes excellent money with all the benefits . Now I am 54 with diabetes for 45 years amongst other illness that keeps me from being able to work a job that will sustain me and all my medications and doctors.
    What a fool I was !!
    I need help !