Do you feel NEGLECTED in your marriage?
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- Опубликовано: 15 сен 2024
- What are you going to do when you feel neglected in your most important relationships? I'm not advocating divorce, but I am advocating some sort of change. The last thing I want is for either of you to feel neglected, and I realize some of you feel so stuck in your current dynamic. I'm just asking you to seek professional help before the bitterness and resentment build so high that you don't value the marriage anymore. It's so hard to feel like you're the only one who cares about this marriage, it's so hard to feel like it's all on your shoulders as you continue to feel neglected. But sometimes, there are things we can do to help shift the dynamic towards a healthier place. Let's do anything we can, including dragging our spouse to counseling to work towards repair and reconnection, because that's what you deserve.
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Marriage is all about commitment and faithfulness and trust and connection and friendship and intimacy. Are you prioritizing those in your relationship? If not, there's really no point in even getting married. That is how we HAVE a great marriage. That is what LOVE requires of us. They aren't add on's. They are essential to a healthy marriage. You can stay together, but the presence of respect and emotional safety and closeness and playfulness is what makes a relationship thrive. And it's possible for you!
THANK YOU for not being one of those Christians who just says “stay and try harder” when dealing with abusive relationships ❤
Thanks to your amazing videos and your willingness to be transparent and vulnerable, I have taken the step to seek therapy. I am learning how to respond in a healthy way to emotional manipulation from my spouse. I am praying for us both to have healing and to work towards a better marriage, but I know nothing will be better if I don't work on myself first. Thanks for all you are doing!
This is an amazing step! I’m praying for you guys as well!
There's also lovebombing, where your parents emotionally neglected you and then someone sweeps you off your feet so you feel like you've finally arrived and all your needs are met... and then once you're married your special person drop the act. You can't see this coming. You weren't drawn to what you knew, you were intentionally seeking what you were missing and you got DUPED. But they intentionally wait until they have you bonded, committed, and often trapped in some way before they drop the mask and unveil what you've actually married. It's the WORST deception... yet it happens far too often.
Jimmy, ty for your videos. I want to say I'm a good husband. I want to say I do everything I can to show my wife that I love her. Is it wrong that I feel like I go above and beyond, to the point I feel exhausted just to "feel" like I am getting a fraction of that in return? My wife is not personal with me on an emotional level, I never see any kind of genuine excitement when it comes to me being there for her. If she text me during the day, I feel like I am just part of a routine checklist. I don't even have to read the text that she sends me, they are all the same, like clockwork. They never change. Example, I love you, I hope you have a great day. I appreciate that they are sent, but at the same time, I feel like she is just checking off a list. I'm not even kidding. Anyway..... ughh I feel like there is no substance to our love.
Thank you for the reminders!!❤ I really needed this one today!!
Thank you so much for watching =)
So just give up? I picked my relationship. You can't change people only how you respond to it. So disappointed the only answer is to break up.
Absolutely not, at no point in the video do I say just give up. I say change your dynamic towards healthy in any way you can. If you feel chronically neglected, that's not a relationship. Would you agree? That's not a partnership where there is trust and intimacy and connection and closeness. All of that is necessary for your relationships to thrive. You're absolutely right, we can't change them. But we can speak to a professional about how to best change the dynamic in any way we can so that we don't feel neglected forever. Because that's not sustainable...is it?
I didn’t hear that at all in this one & I’m sorry you did. I heard about seeing people as they are and working on myself before a decision like that is made. Being honest with yourself and being prepared to do whatever it takes to either stay or get out.