I wouldn’t want to rush a relationship, but I don’t want to be strung along and end up in a 10+ years relationship. I don’t want to be a girlfriend forever I want to be a wife, and I don’t want to have kids without being married.
I couldn’t agree more! This is exactly what happened to me. Was with my ex for 12 years just to be left in the end. A man that takes so many years to figure out what he wants is a huge waste of time. Come to my life now, this man knew he wanted to marry me in less than a year! It’s so important to be on the same page and I’m sorry, it doesn’t take 12 years to figure that out.
123Charlyn I absolutely agree!!! Me and my husband got in engaged on our 2nd anniversary waited for out 5 th year to get married. We are now together 10yrs and married for 5 yrs with 3 kids between us. Thank you god!! But I know someone who has been with their baby father for 20 yrs and he has yet to marry her smh and she is still waiting even after he had a baby with someone else. You should never allow anyone to play house with you and your heart.
@@Zzz_rose 😑 why he wanted to wait.....why did you want to wait, waiting years on end for a man to make up his mind with excuses after excuses it makes no sense when it may never happen
Same. Im not being strung along. For me atleast 3 years together then engagement but after 6 years no ring bye boo. I have friends who are engaged and have lots of kids with the man but i aint having children w a man i am not married too
My sis in law waited 10 years and ended up giving him an ultimatum. They married but he's a narcissist and stays cheating, lies and disappears on her. She refuses to leave though. They are also raising a kid together. They're now together for 20 years but aren't fulfilled or happy. She was jealous of me because I was engaged in 7 months, married within 3 years. Married for 16 years now. My husband and I knew we were the one for each other right from the start. Ladies when a man loves you, he won't make you wait. He'll be dying to make you his wife and talk about building a life with you all his own without having to push him.
In my opinion, marriage is the ultimate commitment. After a certain age, waiting around for 2 years of more for marriage is just wasting time. Many women linger in relationships for years expecting to be married and it never happens. So perhaps that's frustration, not necessarily being nasty, that has resulted from being strung along for years. Just because Jennifer Lopez has her own money doesn't mean she should settle for playing house. Most grown women don't want eternal boyfriends. They want husbands.
I dont see why people look down on non marital commitments. I feel like when women want to get married they focus more on the title of wife than the marriage.
@@Brooklyn100NY my statement wasn't meant to belittle non marital relationships but I don't understand why women are expected to linger in relationships and not question where the relationship is going. For me, marriage is the ultimate commitment and I believe most women will agree to that.
@@musicqueen6617 Why do you feel like marriage is the ultimate form of commitment? I believe everything married couples do life partners can do as well.
@@Brooklyn100NY marriage is the ultimate commitment because of the following reasons: 1) an unmarried woman cannot carry her "boyfriend's" last name. 2) after a certain age, a woman referring to her partner as a "boyfriend" is extremely juvenile. 3) an unmarried woman cannot make medical decisions for a "boyfriend ". Regardless of how long she has been with him, should an emergency occur, she is NOT the next of kin. 4) there's a greater sense of commitment and more of an incentive to want to work on the relationship. 5) if a death occurs, an unmarried woman has no legal claim to assets. 6) an unmarried woman cannot share medical insurance with a "boyfriend " 7) an unmarried couple cannot file joint tax returns.
Marriage involves two people, so why let the man decide when it’s time. Talk about it, what are your expectations, what are your priorities. Talking is key
JDoe I’ll make sure to let the guys in my unit that got cheated by their wives while we were deployed know about poor Halle Berry and Madonna. I know one guy that came back from Afghanistan with PTSD and became homeless after a divorce. I’ll put him in his place when he hears about Adele. Child support is a scam. None of it goes to the child. The mother spends it on herself, while the father can’t be in his kids life. Every time I see a woman with no wedding ring on in the supermarket with kids and hundreds of dollars worth of weave on her head, buying groceries with EBT, I wanna punch the bitch. Already stealing one man’s money isn’t enough for her. She has rip off the taxpayers too.
I think pressuring causes issues because a man will only do something when he’s truly ready... so rushing things and pressuring him isn’t gonna be genuine... having a conversation on what BOTH of you want is healthy.., pressuring and nagging is not... and you don’t want someone to resent you once you guys take that next step especially if they weren’t ready yet
I don't think it should be on the man's terms when you two should get married. But I think most women don't stop and ask themselves "why am i pushing for the ring?" Many times we pressure because we are being pressured by other's (society) and sometimes we pressure because we are feeling insecure about something and we think marriage will solve it. The right partner will never see it as pressure.
lonnie...marriage is extremely powerful. it's not just about money. when you are a SPOUSE you basically are the first person in the spouse's life. legally. i'm not even talking about emotionally. you make the decisions if your spouse is sick. you get privileges that not even a long-term "girlfriend" does. there is so much weight to it.
@@frizzzx86 - Wrong. A POA -- especially a Durable POA -- supersedes the wishes of a spouse. There are a few entities that carry more legal power than a spouse (like a parent or guardian) and a power of attorney is one of them. While a spouse is an extension of a person, a POA is essentially the one that reflects & represents on BEHALF of a person. Spouse don't always get the final say. If a parent decides to be a part of a decision over the health or inheritance of a child, they can enter a legal battle with the spouse and have a higher chance of winning than if they tried to go up against a POA which they'd have 0 to little chance of winning. A POA's job is to act as the ghost of the person they represent and be their voice when they're gone. It would be as if the parents were fighting against their own kid. Even if I did plan to get married (perish the thought), I'd rather my spouse sign as a POA than to act as my wedded partner. There's nothing more iron-clad.
I don't feel you should have to nudge. Just straight up ask where the relationship is going. If they say not marriage and that is what you are looking for it is time to walk away. Don't continue to waste each others time if you don't want the same things.
I don't think you should be surprised by someone wanting to marry you. You should have had this conversation prior. We are conditioned as women to think that by rom coms but what if you don't want to marry him. Also I love watching Adrienne and Tamera preaching from their soap boxes when in reality Adam broke up with Tamera for a year because she was pressuring him to marry her and Lenny couldn't even be bothered to plan a meaningful proposal opting for a day of reservation after dating her for 5 years. Adrienne even admitted after their split that she had to push for ever step. What I don't like is that she judges other girls who were in her position now that she has a HUSBAND. Girls, if you want to get married to your partner because you feel it's the next natural step in your relationship, have the talk and if he makes you feel stupid about it, then he isn't the right man for you. Dignity above all.
mahsa06 👀 I was thinking why is Tamera and Adrienne lowkey shaming others girls when they were THAT girl lol but at the end of the day, maybe they learned from their mistakes?
Facts! I asked my now husband before our first date if he was looking for marriage and if so, when. Lol. People always ask how I “got” him to propose. I just asked in the beginning and I wouldn’t have dated him if he said something I felt didn’t match what I was looking for.
I think nowadays, after one year of courtship, a man or a woman should know if the matrimony is on the horizon. If not, talk to your partner. In my opinion.
i didn’t push my bf for an engagement ring BUT i did push him for a promise ring. hear me out hear me out! we’ve been together for 2 years and just bought a house together ... a promise ring is the LEAST you could do😆
What's the point of nudging??? Just have a honest conversation about when you want to get married and your expectations. See if they match up with your partners and proceed accordingly.
Guys, and some ladies, need to have a serious talk with themselves if they know their significant other wants to get married. If they don’t want to get married, or don’t see a future with that person after a reasonable time has passed, they need to Stop 👏 The 👏 Relationship 👏 !
I agree with you for the most part but there's two factors to consider: 1) when people establish the relationship, such as high school sweethearts or do things at a young age, then they might be doing it because it seems like the right thing and didn't think it through. 2) is what becomes a reasonable time frame for things. Some people look at their financial status and where they may see their careers going. If one's career says "Hollywood" and the other says "Wall Street", then talking and about the direction of things is crucial; not just to destroys the relationship in the moment.
Before we become serous, I need to know if the man is interested in marriage for himself. If he says no, then we can part ways amicably because there is no point in wasting my time. Afterwards, I'm only going to tell a guy ONCE that I would love to marry him. He has 4 years to propose after we start dating, or I'm opening up my options.
My boyfriend has wanted to get married for years. He's older and I'm younger so I wasn't ready. Recently I've been coming around to it. I'll be 26 this year and I think if he were to ask me I would say yes. The only thing Is he always asks casually. Like if you're not going to do it romantically, get on one knee with a ring then I'm playing deaf TF. He's not that romantic and I understand. In his culture they don't make a big deal out of things like birthdays etc like we (Americans) do but if he can't understand that some things are important to me and I want it the way that I want it well...
I'm sorry I COMPLETELY disagree I understand that when a woman is ready and antsy for marriage nothing is wrong with that, but come on how nasty was she truly being? He obviously wanted to wife her for a reason. If you drop everything including the relationship THEN that person was never for you to begin with it's more to the story than what Tamera is telling I'm just nosey and want to know more cause that just doesn't sound right.
I agree. It's sounds like there's more to this story. Perhaps he just bought the ring to appease her but wouldn't agree to setting a date. Maybe they were together for a very long time and she wanted to move to the next step and he was stringing her along. It's so unfair to expect women to linger in relationships for years and years without knowing whether marriage will actually happen.
@@maiatisdon3529 If you can understand why you wouldn't want to stay with a guy that pressures you into sex why don't you understand how a guy being pressured into marriage would feel?
@@musicqueen6617 THANK YOU!!!!! That's why it's so important for people to see people for who they are before marriage. It's too many holes in the story. All of your points are very valid.
I Didn’t Have To Nudge For A Ring ❗️ My Husband Wanted Me . I told Him early on I give a man two years in a serious relationship & if you don’t know by then 🤷🏼♀️ I’m not going to remind him .
I'm watching this clip right now & it just makes me say thank God that I'll never ever ever ever ever be in that situation# happily single God's plan 🙏
I gave my hubby a picture of the ring and a year to save up for it and to propose 🥰 but he loved that approach he didn’t have to stress if I would like the ring or not and even though he new I would say yes he was still scared I would say no! So it worked great for us!
Tamera...if he had the ring and was just waiting on it while she pressured him? Why? He didn't really want to marry her. Or he wouldn't have gotten a ring and sat on it.
Sibusisiwe Ntshangase well marriage does cost a lot of money. Weddings are ridiculously expensive, then there’s getting a home & moving in together, etc.
@@Abby-kb7rb That's just the wedding. I'm talking about marriage, she makes it seem as if people should marry for financial stability. Money is important in marriage yes but it's not the only important thing so Loni keeps asking why Jlo wants to get married when she has her money and what not. She is not considering the romance aspect of it. You can be rich and still want to marry.
Because she secretly dislike men. Listen to her logic. She said if you are a "WOMAN" and you have everything for yourself, then why ruin it with marriage. If a MAN said the exact same thing on daytime television, he'd have hell to pay from every female in the audience.
Loni has to understand marriage isn't just about being taken care of. Just because they are rich doesn't mean they shouldn't marry for love and honor their commitment. That's what pre nups are for.
I think the larger point missed by the framing of the initial question is that we should stop starting from the assumption that everyone wants to and would be best off married, when all evidence appears to indicate at LEAST half of all participants historically cannot do what they're "supposedly supposed" to do to both (1) be in a marriage and (2) be HAPPY. A significant plurality approaching, if not actually or over, half of all people who marry end up violating the "terms" of that marriage ("cheating", etc.), leaving it (which, kinda defeats the whole point if the whole notion of marriage is a "forever soulmate" or something along those lines--otherwise, why not just cohabit, or not, so long as the two parties see fit, then depart amicably when it's run its course, IF the intent/understanding was never a relationship of indefinite duration), or at BEST "settling" into a comfortable situation that doesn't make them particularly happy (though, to be fair, since they don't divorce or maybe as obviously show their "discontent", this category is probably harder to account for/quantify--but if anecdotal reports are any indicate there's at least a sufficiently non-nominal population of this group for them to be NOT entirely invisible and unknown "as a thing"). Instead of just ASSUMING one should be married, START with the question "why DO I want to be married--what good, what meaning, what significance, does it bring me, if any at all?" As someone who's personally not sure that they want to have kids ever, I do not see any reason marriage would be a move that would benefit me either on a pure numbers basis (I make enough money as I understand the tax code I am unlikely to benefit by marriage, without kids that is at least, for example), or a more "symbolic/emotional" basis--it's far too legally significant a decision to do it JUST because it's meaningful, now matter how meaningful, to someone else for whatever reasons of their own that I have not myself internalized, and I for myself have not found any reason to internalize that would justify it. I don't feel the need the state's approval for my relationships ("romantic" or otherwise) to be "legitimate" or the best they could be. Obliging "groupthink" or "tradition" have never been sufficient justifications for an act to satisfy me. The notion--knowing what at its core the act of marriage legally is and does, particularly--that it is somehow a "romantic" gesture or a way to show care or the like is lost entirely on me--I understand this is a common notion people have, what I do not understand is why it is a common notion that people SHOULD have. Marriage functionally speaking is a mish-mash of legal moves/effects (change to the inheritance of property on death, change to status to children in rights and obligations, change in medical decision making power, etc.) one could for the most part contract into a la carte, PLUS the addition of (even in the most amicable of separations--which as we all know, people are always at their most rational and not vindictive selves at the conclusion of a significant and deeply emotional "romantic" relationship) massive transaction costs of state involvement if (and very often, when) the relationship is dissolved.
For me the moment you talk about weddings, marriage and family life, and visualize that life together, I consider that engaged to be married. Engagement rings are only formality and a bonus.
I agree with with Loni… lmao I’m sorry 🤣🤣🤣. I’m not ever getting married. What’s the point. I value my freedom. I can’t do the every day thing. Im too much of a free spirit. Im not looking to get tied down or have kids. Those decisions shouldn’t be taken lightly.
I wish I could get every MALE to hear and take Lonnie's advise. If you are a man and you have your own money and life...then why ruin it with marriage! Lol Thx auntie Lonnie!!
I don't agree with Loni. Marriage isn't just a piece of paper or a way to make sure someone takes care of you financially. It's a covenant before God to become one with your person.
I had an old roommate who would nag her boyfriend for a ring after only being with him for 2 years! He had told her multiple times that he never wanted to get married and said quote "if you keep waiting for a ring, you're going to be dissatisfied". Idk if they ever got engaged but I suspected he would run for the hills soon.
No she didn't. They dated for 4 years, on vacation She thought he was going to propose one time and they broke up soon after their vacation. A year later, they got back together and dated for like 3 years before Adam proposed.
why is Loni equating having money and being able to care of yourself with marriage??? genuinely confused. i can take care of myself AND make my own money but if i know in my heart i’m going to spend the rest of my life with someone why would we NOT tie the knot? i know she said she doesn’t want to get married but why is she acting like she doesn’t understand why ppl get married, lol
marriage is about love and commitment to one person bc you WANT to spend the rest of your life with them, not money.... that’s why they say “for richer or for poorer” 🙃
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I wouldn’t want to rush a relationship, but I don’t want to be strung along and end up in a 10+ years relationship. I don’t want to be a girlfriend forever I want to be a wife, and I don’t want to have kids without being married.
I couldn’t agree more! This is exactly what happened to me. Was with my ex for 12 years just to be left in the end. A man that takes so many years to figure out what he wants is a huge waste of time. Come to my life now, this man knew he wanted to marry me in less than a year! It’s so important to be on the same page and I’m sorry, it doesn’t take 12 years to figure that out.
123Charlyn I absolutely agree!!! Me and my husband got in engaged on our 2nd anniversary waited for out 5 th year to get married. We are now together 10yrs and married for 5 yrs with 3 kids between us. Thank you god!! But I know someone who has been with their baby father for 20 yrs and he has yet to marry her smh and she is still waiting even after he had a baby with someone else. You should never allow anyone to play house with you and your heart.
@@Zzz_rose 😑 why he wanted to wait.....why did you want to wait, waiting years on end for a man to make up his mind with excuses after excuses it makes no sense when it may never happen
Same. Im not being strung along. For me atleast 3 years together then engagement but after 6 years no ring bye boo. I have friends who are engaged and have lots of kids with the man but i aint having children w a man i am not married too
My sis in law waited 10 years and ended up giving him an ultimatum. They married but he's a narcissist and stays cheating, lies and disappears on her. She refuses to leave though. They are also raising a kid together. They're now together for 20 years but aren't fulfilled or happy. She was jealous of me because I was engaged in 7 months, married within 3 years. Married for 16 years now. My husband and I knew we were the one for each other right from the start. Ladies when a man loves you, he won't make you wait. He'll be dying to make you his wife and talk about building a life with you all his own without having to push him.
In my opinion, marriage is the ultimate commitment. After a certain age, waiting around for 2 years of more for marriage is just wasting time. Many women linger in relationships for years expecting to be married and it never happens. So perhaps that's frustration, not necessarily being nasty, that has resulted from being strung along for years. Just because Jennifer Lopez has her own money doesn't mean she should settle for playing house. Most grown women don't want eternal boyfriends. They want husbands.
I dont see why people look down on non marital commitments. I feel like when women want to get married they focus more on the title of wife than the marriage.
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@@Brooklyn100NY my statement wasn't meant to belittle non marital relationships but I don't understand why women are expected to linger in relationships and not question where the relationship is going. For me, marriage is the ultimate commitment and I believe most women will agree to that.
@@musicqueen6617 Why do you feel like marriage is the ultimate form of commitment? I believe everything married couples do life partners can do as well.
@@Brooklyn100NY marriage is the ultimate commitment because of the following reasons:
1) an unmarried woman cannot carry her "boyfriend's" last name.
2) after a certain age, a woman referring to her partner as a "boyfriend" is extremely juvenile.
3) an unmarried woman cannot make medical decisions for a "boyfriend ". Regardless of how long she has been with him, should an emergency occur, she is NOT the next of kin.
4) there's a greater sense of commitment and more of an incentive to want to work on the relationship.
5) if a death occurs, an unmarried woman has no legal claim to assets.
6) an unmarried woman cannot share medical insurance with a "boyfriend "
7) an unmarried couple cannot file joint tax returns.
Marriage involves two people, so why let the man decide when it’s time.
Talk about it, what are your expectations, what are your priorities. Talking is key
If I have to beg for a ring I don’t want it anymore lol if he’s REALLY your man, he should know at some point that you’re feeling marriage vibes.
Funny how we have a topic surrounded around engagement rings considering OUR GIRL JEANNIE BEANS RECENTLY GOT ENGAGED ♥️
Myronn Coleman - this is an old episode.
luxaholic anonymous i didn’t say it wasn’t...
The real ain’t slick lol
Ladies never EVER force a man to marry you. It won’t end well in the long run. TRUST!
luxaholic anonymous it will end very well for the woman. She gets half of what he has. He owes her alimony and child support.
JDoe I’ll make sure to let the guys in my unit that got cheated by their wives while we were deployed know about poor Halle Berry and Madonna. I know one guy that came back from Afghanistan with PTSD and became homeless after a divorce. I’ll put him in his place when he hears about Adele.
Child support is a scam. None of it goes to the child. The mother spends it on herself, while the father can’t be in his kids life. Every time I see a woman with no wedding ring on in the supermarket with kids and hundreds of dollars worth of weave on her head, buying groceries with EBT, I wanna punch the bitch. Already stealing one man’s money isn’t enough for her. She has rip off the taxpayers too.
I think pressuring causes issues because a man will only do something when he’s truly ready... so rushing things and pressuring him isn’t gonna be genuine... having a conversation on what BOTH of you want is healthy.., pressuring and nagging is not... and you don’t want someone to resent you once you guys take that next step especially if they weren’t ready yet
I don't think it should be on the man's terms when you two should get married. But I think most women don't stop and ask themselves "why am i pushing for the ring?" Many times we pressure because we are being pressured by other's (society) and sometimes we pressure because we are feeling insecure about something and we think marriage will solve it. The right partner will never see it as pressure.
lonnie...marriage is extremely powerful. it's not just about money. when you are a SPOUSE you basically are the first person in the spouse's life. legally. i'm not even talking about emotionally. you make the decisions if your spouse is sick. you get privileges that not even a long-term "girlfriend" does. there is so much weight to it.
That's why you make your partner your Power of Attorney. No need for marriage to do all that.
Loni sounds hurt when she speaks about marriage
*sigh
@@YourMajesty143 power of attorney doesn't even give you half of the power of marriage though....completely different thing.
@@frizzzx86 - Wrong. A POA -- especially a Durable POA -- supersedes the wishes of a spouse. There are a few entities that carry more legal power than a spouse (like a parent or guardian) and a power of attorney is one of them. While a spouse is an extension of a person, a POA is essentially the one that reflects & represents on BEHALF of a person. Spouse don't always get the final say. If a parent decides to be a part of a decision over the health or inheritance of a child, they can enter a legal battle with the spouse and have a higher chance of winning than if they tried to go up against a POA which they'd have 0 to little chance of winning. A POA's job is to act as the ghost of the person they represent and be their voice when they're gone. It would be as if the parents were fighting against their own kid. Even if I did plan to get married (perish the thought), I'd rather my spouse sign as a POA than to act as my wedded partner. There's nothing more iron-clad.
Guy was hilarious and I like that they gave Felicia $1k as well cuz she watches the show.
I don't feel you should have to nudge. Just straight up ask where the relationship is going. If they say not marriage and that is what you are looking for it is time to walk away. Don't continue to waste each others time if you don't want the same things.
Thing is, they won't be honest because they want to string you along. The actions speak so much louder than the words.
Coughing like that wont even be allowed after quarantine.
Yup... she got that party voice.
Marriage isn’t about a woman not having money or success on your own. It’s a personal choice that has nothing to do with money
yeah man, like marriage isnt just about money and status. Its about stability, trust and creating a unit.
speaking of engagements....congrats jeannie!!!!
I don't think you should be surprised by someone wanting to marry you. You should have had this conversation prior. We are conditioned as women to think that by rom coms but what if you don't want to marry him. Also I love watching Adrienne and Tamera preaching from their soap boxes when in reality Adam broke up with Tamera for a year because she was pressuring him to marry her and Lenny couldn't even be bothered to plan a meaningful proposal opting for a day of reservation after dating her for 5 years. Adrienne even admitted after their split that she had to push for ever step. What I don't like is that she judges other girls who were in her position now that she has a HUSBAND. Girls, if you want to get married to your partner because you feel it's the next natural step in your relationship, have the talk and if he makes you feel stupid about it, then he isn't the right man for you. Dignity above all.
mahsa06 👀 I was thinking why is Tamera and Adrienne lowkey shaming others girls when they were THAT girl lol but at the end of the day, maybe they learned from their mistakes?
@@leibnizthI hope they have learned! We shall see with the seasons to come. :)
Well said!
Facts! I asked my now husband before our first date if he was looking for marriage and if so, when. Lol. People always ask how I “got” him to propose. I just asked in the beginning and I wouldn’t have dated him if he said something I felt didn’t match what I was looking for.
@@quitecontrary23that's what a real woman does! 👏👏👏
I think nowadays, after one year of courtship, a man or a woman should know if the matrimony is on the horizon. If not, talk to your partner. In my opinion.
I completely agree with this
Absolutely!! Expecially if you're 30+
"courtship" lol
Jeannie over here unable to talk and needing water is me on the daily 😂 I love her ❤️
They are hilarious picking on jeannie😭 I love their friendship that’s like how me and some of my friends are❤️
ThatgirlAngela this is an old video last mother’s days last year
Juanita Quinonez nobody said it wasn’t 🤣🤣
Tenisa White ^^ right😂
Guy’s personality is adorable
Liisssteen. If James proposes, Loni is not even thinking twice. “YESSSSS!” So 🙄
My friends fiance said every time she nughed him to propose it made him not want too so it pushed it off even longer
Tam is just so gorgeous. 😍😍😍😍
Loni actually kept it 100 in this segment even though she ended up being incorrect about Thomas Markle lol But Guy was still the realest
How was she wrong about Thomas Markle?
@@adimfavourmaris4578 He didn't walk her down the aisle. Prince Charles did instead.
@@mikemapu oh, thank you
@@adimfavourmaris4578 You're welcome!
seeing loni being so excited about Meghan makes me sad :(( it’s a shame the media and the royal family didn’t treat her better
Guy was hilarious!!!!!!! He needs to come cook for a segment!!!!
I miss it when it was just 4 of them. But I do like 5th person.
Chunli Yorke yea the four of them are really great together but I really like Amanda she adds a different vibe and perspective
Amanda is ok the vibe is definitely different though
Amanda and Jeannie speaking is such good TV
I prefer Tamar
amanda doesnt mesh well with them
i didn’t push my bf for an engagement ring BUT i did push him for a promise ring. hear me out hear me out! we’ve been together for 2 years and just bought a house together ... a promise ring is the LEAST you could do😆
Update?
@@shutit4024
Yes, update?
Updateee😅
Completely off topic but anyone else notice Jeannie coughed into her hand then grabbed Tameras hand?!?!? The germaphobe in me freaked out. 😂
What's the point of nudging??? Just have a honest conversation about when you want to get married and your expectations. See if they match up with your partners and proceed accordingly.
Congrats taraji, I been a fan since babyboy...love you
Jeannie is absolutely killin it with that blue! Yaasss hunnnay 🥵
Loni’s Hair is always beautiful 💛
Guys, and some ladies, need to have a serious talk with themselves if they know their significant other wants to get married. If they don’t want to get married, or don’t see a future with that person after a reasonable time has passed, they need to Stop 👏 The 👏 Relationship 👏 !
I agree with you for the most part but there's two factors to consider: 1) when people establish the relationship, such as high school sweethearts or do things at a young age, then they might be doing it because it seems like the right thing and didn't think it through. 2) is what becomes a reasonable time frame for things. Some people look at their financial status and where they may see their careers going. If one's career says "Hollywood" and the other says "Wall Street", then talking and about the direction of things is crucial; not just to destroys the relationship in the moment.
At a certain age waiting more than 2 years ain’t it, leave.
“Why ruin it” lol
This is very interesting. Hope everyone is well and safe
Adrienne's outfit is so pretty !
Before we become serous, I need to know if the man is interested in marriage for himself. If he says no, then we can part ways amicably because there is no point in wasting my time. Afterwards, I'm only going to tell a guy ONCE that I would love to marry him. He has 4 years to propose after we start dating, or I'm opening up my options.
First! And guys we need more likes on this video!! Happy Easter 🐰 and Love The Real ❤️
Please keep uploading Girl Chat Vault videos please. Segments from seasons with Tamar are welcomed as well. 🙏🏼
In Ross voice “MMAAARRRRCCCEELLL!!!!”. Not again...😝
Exactly. Too old for games.
My boyfriend has wanted to get married for years. He's older and I'm younger so I wasn't ready. Recently I've been coming around to it. I'll be 26 this year and I think if he were to ask me I would say yes. The only thing Is he always asks casually. Like if you're not going to do it romantically, get on one knee with a ring then I'm playing deaf TF. He's not that romantic and I understand. In his culture they don't make a big deal out of things like birthdays etc like we (Americans) do but if he can't understand that some things are important to me and I want it the way that I want it well...
Tell him how your feeling. He won't know how your feeling unless you tell him. Best wishes.
I’m just going to be like “put a ring on it babe” but nether of us is ready for that.
I'm sorry I COMPLETELY disagree I understand that when a woman is ready and antsy for marriage nothing is wrong with that, but come on how nasty was she truly being? He obviously wanted to wife her for a reason. If you drop everything including the relationship THEN that person was never for you to begin with it's more to the story than what Tamera is telling I'm just nosey and want to know more cause that just doesn't sound right.
How would you feel if a guy was pressuring you into sex?
@@Brooklyn100NY If I say no, If he decides to stick around well that means he's actually interested in pursuing me and not seducing me.
I agree. It's sounds like there's more to this story. Perhaps he just bought the ring to appease her but wouldn't agree to setting a date. Maybe they were together for a very long time and she wanted to move to the next step and he was stringing her along. It's so unfair to expect women to linger in relationships for years and years without knowing whether marriage will actually happen.
@@maiatisdon3529 If you can understand why you wouldn't want to stay with a guy that pressures you into sex why don't you understand how a guy being pressured into marriage would feel?
@@musicqueen6617 THANK YOU!!!!! That's why it's so important for people to see people for who they are before marriage. It's too many holes in the story. All of your points are very valid.
I Didn’t Have To Nudge For A Ring ❗️ My Husband Wanted Me . I told Him early on I give a man two years in a serious relationship & if you don’t know by then 🤷🏼♀️ I’m not going to remind him .
Loni looks lovely😘
I'm watching this clip right now & it just makes me say thank God that I'll never ever ever ever ever be in that situation# happily single God's plan 🙏
6:05 Did Jeannie say "desperosity"? Lol
zions_child I heard that too! But she said it with conviction so it almost worked lol. But in case she’s reading this, the word is *desperation haha
Tamera Mowry-Housley What happened to your bun?😂😂💕
I think for a minute there he thought his money was about to go to Felicia 🤭😅
When he knows, he knows.
I gave my hubby a picture of the ring and a year to save up for it and to propose 🥰 but he loved that approach he didn’t have to stress if I would like the ring or not and even though he new I would say yes he was still scared I would say no! So it worked great for us!
Same 😂😊 I showed him the kind of ring I like and gave him until the end of the year. He’s already saving up for it ❤
@@iamme7664 congratulations 🎊 🥰
Tamera...if he had the ring and was just waiting on it while she pressured him? Why? He didn't really want to marry her. Or he wouldn't have gotten a ring and sat on it.
Exactly
The Real is so much better with just these four. They should stop trying to add another person in the mix.
Why does Loni talk about marriage like it's about money?
Sibusisiwe Ntshangase well marriage does cost a lot of money. Weddings are ridiculously expensive, then there’s getting a home & moving in together, etc.
@@Abby-kb7rb That's just the wedding. I'm talking about marriage, she makes it seem as if people should marry for financial stability. Money is important in marriage yes but it's not the only important thing so Loni keeps asking why Jlo wants to get married when she has her money and what not. She is not considering the romance aspect of it. You can be rich and still want to marry.
Because she secretly dislike men. Listen to her logic. She said if you are a "WOMAN" and you have everything for yourself, then why ruin it with marriage. If a MAN said the exact same thing on daytime television, he'd have hell to pay from every female in the audience.
@@cherylvaughn2215 You're so right.
Because she had a bad experience with marriage.
ThTs so hot! Adrienne is correct! Beg me boys
The wedding update made me so angry, happy and confused all at once lol. Not sure where Loni is getting those info from.
Damn when was y'all in Dayton. That's where I live
Loni has to understand marriage isn't just about being taken care of. Just because they are rich doesn't mean they shouldn't marry for love and honor their commitment. That's what pre nups are for.
I like Adrienne! So truthful! Maybe biblically she’s trying not to fornicate like yes!
P Feliciano exactly!
Fornicate means to not have sex with prostitutes
Never get engaged to someone who didn’t give you a ring or least something
I think the larger point missed by the framing of the initial question is that we should stop starting from the assumption that everyone wants to and would be best off married, when all evidence appears to indicate at LEAST half of all participants historically cannot do what they're "supposedly supposed" to do to both (1) be in a marriage and (2) be HAPPY. A significant plurality approaching, if not actually or over, half of all people who marry end up violating the "terms" of that marriage ("cheating", etc.), leaving it (which, kinda defeats the whole point if the whole notion of marriage is a "forever soulmate" or something along those lines--otherwise, why not just cohabit, or not, so long as the two parties see fit, then depart amicably when it's run its course, IF the intent/understanding was never a relationship of indefinite duration), or at BEST "settling" into a comfortable situation that doesn't make them particularly happy (though, to be fair, since they don't divorce or maybe as obviously show their "discontent", this category is probably harder to account for/quantify--but if anecdotal reports are any indicate there's at least a sufficiently non-nominal population of this group for them to be NOT entirely invisible and unknown "as a thing").
Instead of just ASSUMING one should be married, START with the question "why DO I want to be married--what good, what meaning, what significance, does it bring me, if any at all?"
As someone who's personally not sure that they want to have kids ever, I do not see any reason marriage would be a move that would benefit me either on a pure numbers basis (I make enough money as I understand the tax code I am unlikely to benefit by marriage, without kids that is at least, for example), or a more "symbolic/emotional" basis--it's far too legally significant a decision to do it JUST because it's meaningful, now matter how meaningful, to someone else for whatever reasons of their own that I have not myself internalized, and I for myself have not found any reason to internalize that would justify it. I don't feel the need the state's approval for my relationships ("romantic" or otherwise) to be "legitimate" or the best they could be. Obliging "groupthink" or "tradition" have never been sufficient justifications for an act to satisfy me. The notion--knowing what at its core the act of marriage legally is and does, particularly--that it is somehow a "romantic" gesture or a way to show care or the like is lost entirely on me--I understand this is a common notion people have, what I do not understand is why it is a common notion that people SHOULD have. Marriage functionally speaking is a mish-mash of legal moves/effects (change to the inheritance of property on death, change to status to children in rights and obligations, change in medical decision making power, etc.) one could for the most part contract into a la carte, PLUS the addition of (even in the most amicable of separations--which as we all know, people are always at their most rational and not vindictive selves at the conclusion of a significant and deeply emotional "romantic" relationship) massive transaction costs of state involvement if (and very often, when) the relationship is dissolved.
Omg! I'm here covering my face when Jeanne started coughing hahaha lord #CoVid19
Prenuptial agreements scare people
I’m from Dayton, Ohio!
Duck a engagement ring. My friend didn’t even get her wedding ring...
For me the moment you talk about weddings, marriage and family life, and visualize that life together, I consider that engaged to be married. Engagement rings are only formality and a bonus.
OH God JEANNIE is so beautiful
Adrienne is such a pick me kinda girl lol like did he call? Did you get the attention you wanted?
And she got picked!
Look who by😂
@@Shad106_ look who picked her though
How am I watching a video posted à year ago on mother's, and today just happens to be.... Mothers day😅😅
I am with A on wanting the man to step up and ask
I agree with with Loni… lmao I’m sorry 🤣🤣🤣. I’m not ever getting married. What’s the point. I value my freedom. I can’t do the every day thing. Im too much of a free spirit. Im not looking to get tied down or have kids. Those decisions shouldn’t be taken lightly.
How can I spend Money when aint got None to give think Lady Think before you ask a question why.......😅😢🎉❤
It’s one thing to nudge for a ring. It’s another to not stop nagging and disrespecting that he may not be ready yet.
I know this is an old clip, but so if James asked, Loni would say no, because they each have their own money?
I think she will say yes and then both of them will sign prenups. If they get divorced, they each leave the marriage with what they came in with
Omg that gay is so awesome
Archbishop of Canterbury Loni........
At 6:05 Jeannie, I'm still looking for the meaning of 'desporosity'.
❤
Bring Tamar back!
0:04 that height difference
Never mind, not first. Sorry🥰
I wish I could get every MALE to hear and take Lonnie's advise. If you are a man and you have your own money and life...then why ruin it with marriage! Lol
Thx auntie Lonnie!!
CHERYL VAUGHN That’s why women can’t handle it
Dayton Ohio that's far from where the show is filmed
Ilove u addrienne
I don't agree with Loni. Marriage isn't just a piece of paper or a way to make sure someone takes care of you financially. It's a covenant before God to become one with your person.
I had an old roommate who would nag her boyfriend for a ring after only being with him for 2 years! He had told her multiple times that he never wanted to get married and said quote "if you keep waiting for a ring, you're going to be dissatisfied". Idk if they ever got engaged but I suspected he would run for the hills soon.
Jennifer Lopez is in love with being in love.
4:09
DON’T MARRY NO MAN WIFF NO BANK ACCOUNT she says. Funny how a man has to be successful while the woman can be 100k in student debt
But didn’t Tamera pressure Adam?
I think when she was talking about a friend she was referencing to her relationship @ 5:33
No she didn't. They dated for 4 years, on vacation She thought he was going to propose one time and they broke up soon after their vacation. A year later, they got back together and dated for like 3 years before Adam proposed.
No she didn't
@@ziziphopetu6292 no she wasn't
why is Loni equating having money and being able to care of yourself with marriage??? genuinely confused. i can take care of myself AND make my own money but if i know in my heart i’m going to spend the rest of my life with someone why would we NOT tie the knot? i know she said she doesn’t want to get married but why is she acting like she doesn’t understand why ppl get married, lol
marriage is about love and commitment to one person bc you WANT to spend the rest of your life with them, not money.... that’s why they say “for richer or for poorer” 🙃
This segment was cringe worthy.... lol
Because men don’t want to stop sleeping around. And I have the same vagina for the rest of his life oh my god that sounds terrible
Adrienne wants to be cardi b so bad 🙄 be yourself girl
Did loni say jrod?
No they not going to die sweety
I agree with everything Loni is saying regarding the whole engagement topic
No they not going to die
Jose and 😀🇮🇪