Hi. Love your channel. I’m 49 and my male friends in their late 40’s are single. My theory is they can’t afford a girlfriend, or also they have been single for awhile and set in their ways. Also I love Louise Hay! RIP
I don’t think it’s they can’t afford I think it comes down to they don’t really know what they want they think they want a relationship then it lands on there lap and then they realise they have to put the work in and then it’s mmm but sure I want to do that can’t I just have a girlfriend etc
Jonathon, It's painful to hear about the terrible things life has thrown at you. Both your sons are beautiful boys. Maybe one day you'll have your older boy on as a guest. We'd like to celebrate him, too.
I have no interest in the average guy. I was married to an extraordinary man for 4 decades lost to death. My father was a nationally renowned man in his career. So average bores me.
Question; I missed the live but What are the reasons a 45 year old divorced man only want fwb? Im 58 and could it be thats all he wants with me because of our age difference? I actually reached out to him not paying attention to his age and he asked me do i like younger men i said yes if not too young and he said he likes older women???
Question; I missed the live but What are the reasons a 45 year old divorced man only want fwb? Im 58 and could it be thats all he wants with me because of our age difference? I actually reached out to him not paying attention to his age and he asked me do i like younger men i said yes if not too young and he said he likes older women???
BTW Jonathan: Not all girls were allowed to express their emotions growing up. It's a cultural myth put out by th educated class that wrote that narrative. Think of how difficult women's lives were & still are..not so long ago. How many children they had to bear & how many they lost. How they were obligated to marry whoever came along or whowver was chosen by their families for them. How their personal dreams & ambitions & education were verbotin. Girls have to be tough & suck it up way more than boys, except in wealthy classes but still even then more so then men. There was no coddling.
Jonathan, thank you for making these videos and trying to help us all understand each other. The way I see it, men wont commit, because in truth they have no reason to commit to a woman, if they are self-sufficient and can take care of themselves, then really what do they need a woman for other than sex?
Okay but the same can be said for women, no? Women, however, are obligated to watch the body count. There was one woman here once who was enjoying dating younger man, folks really threw stones...she had no desire for a committed relationship.
@@JonathonAslay okay, well my last post got deleted...so I will just say that I think men are all about putting their needs first. And he will see value in a woman who puts his needs above her own. And i'm not falling for their BS excuses about what's wrong with me and the 100 other women they dated before me either.
If someone is going to share about how dysfunctional their ex is, that would cause me pause because they participated and accepted. HOWEVER, if the person goes on to state what they learned about themselves and express self awareness, that’s encouraging. Regardless do not share a lot with someone early on
I dated a man few weeks ago and told me that he has had 4 serious relationships in his life and he never did anything for it to end he treated them all well 😮
@@teresareid5034 I bet from his perspective he did! I would have been curious with the next question, ‘I bet you did, then why do you think the breakups happened’ and he says the silly common response ‘I don’t know’, I would ask ‘Well, what did they say?’
Help.....Question.....local guy my age liked me yesterday. I liked back. We matched. Been doing emails consistently. I sent "any desire to speak at some point?" He wrote, "I'm pretty undecided right now, so probably not now". First urge to unmatch, since it appears he isn't interested. Or should I ask a question re undecided?
@@musicdesign7264 I would just leave it sounds like somebody wants there ego stroked or not really looking for anything etc don’t waste your time just move on ❤️
Phone calls are 1 of my boundaries. When I'm ready, usually just 1 or 2 texts, I say, I would like to speak to you. Mind giving me your #? I always get a yes. Then, after 1 or 2 calls, I expect to be asked on a 1st date. If not, NEXT! From the time we match, I usually have a date within 7-10 days.
14:45 With all due respect, I do not share your view that watching these videos are joining a pity party. Jonathan is sharing his perspective which many of us find interesting and informative especially for people over 40 in the dating world. You’re watching, are you not? Many of us, including myself, ARE grateful for what we have NOW. Sounds like you are your own pity party complaining about this channel and should watch another channel or create your own. I find it annoying people that criticize a channel that clearly people watch and enjoy. So don’t watch then!
If someone is going to share about how dysfunctional their ex is, that would cause me pause because they participated and accepted. HOWEVER, if the person goes on to state what they learned about themselves and express self awareness, that’s encouraging. Regardless do not share a lot with someone early on
Yes definately harder to find someone when your older that want committment
Indeed it is.
What I find to be a challenge is when one wants to discuss a man’s emotions, more often than not he withdraws and goes into ‘denial’.
True.
Avoidant's Are Too Good At Dating -Ken Reid podcast 🌞
Plus we have judgments all the time.
Hi. Love your channel. I’m 49 and my male friends in their late 40’s are single. My theory is they can’t afford a girlfriend, or also they have been single for awhile and set in their ways.
Also I love Louise Hay!
RIP
I don’t think it’s they can’t afford I think it comes down to they don’t really know what they want they think they want a relationship then it lands on there lap and then they realise they have to put the work in and then it’s mmm but sure I want to do that can’t I just have a girlfriend etc
Why You Choose The Wrong People-Ken Reid podcast 🌞
Avoidant's Are Too Good At Dating -Ken Reid podcast 🌞
I agree true❤
Jonathon, It's painful to hear about the terrible things life has thrown at you. Both your sons are beautiful boys. Maybe one day you'll have your older boy on as a guest. We'd like to celebrate him, too.
I have no interest in the average guy. I was married to an extraordinary man for 4 decades lost to death. My father was a nationally renowned man in his career. So average bores me.
And btw, I am not average either.
Sorry for your loss
Question; I missed the live but What are the reasons a 45 year old divorced man only want fwb? Im 58 and could it be thats all he wants with me because of our age difference? I actually reached out to him not paying attention to his age and he asked me do i like younger men i said yes if not too young and he said he likes older women???
Question; I missed the live but What are the reasons a 45 year old divorced man only want fwb? Im 58 and could it be thats all he wants with me because of our age difference? I actually reached out to him not paying attention to his age and he asked me do i like younger men i said yes if not too young and he said he likes older women???
Yes its sinking in
BTW Jonathan: Not all girls were allowed to express their emotions growing up. It's a cultural myth put out by th educated class that wrote that narrative. Think of how difficult women's lives were & still are..not so long ago. How many children they had to bear & how many they lost. How they were obligated to marry whoever came along or whowver was chosen by their families for them. How their personal dreams & ambitions & education were verbotin. Girls have to be tough & suck it up way more than boys, except in wealthy classes but still even then more so then men. There was no coddling.
Good point
Jonathan, thank you for making these videos and trying to help us all understand each other. The way I see it, men wont commit, because in truth they have no reason to commit to a woman, if they are self-sufficient and can take care of themselves, then really what do they need a woman for other than sex?
Okay but the same can be said for women, no? Women, however, are obligated to watch the body count. There was one woman here once who was enjoying dating younger man, folks really threw stones...she had no desire for a committed relationship.
I think there are many more factors at play.
@@JonathonAslay okay, well my last post got deleted...so I will just say that I think men are all about putting their needs first. And he will see value in a woman who puts his needs above her own. And i'm not falling for their BS excuses about what's wrong with me and the 100 other women they dated before me either.
@@JonathonAslay ya gotta dish, Jonathan. Can't say that & run....How about a list?
@@MW-wr7mdYes, agreed. But will he commit? That was the question.
If someone is going to share about how dysfunctional their ex is, that would cause me pause because they participated and accepted. HOWEVER, if the person goes on to state what they learned about themselves and express self awareness, that’s encouraging. Regardless do not share a lot with someone early on
I dated a man few weeks ago and told me that he has had 4 serious relationships in his life and he never did anything for it to end he treated them all well 😮
@@teresareid5034 Steeped in denial.
Send them this podcast.
Why You Choose The Wrong People-Ken Reid podcast 🌞
@@teresareid5034 I bet from his perspective he did! I would have been curious with the next question, ‘I bet you did, then why do you think the breakups happened’ and he says the silly common response ‘I don’t know’, I would ask ‘Well, what did they say?’
@@Sunlightsam24 he did say that one of the relationship ended due to the women’s older son getting in between them and coursing arguments
Soo true❤
Do you know per James Sexton most people remarry within 5 years of divorce?
Yes. James has great information.
That's not true at all...
Not true
I was quoting one of the premiere experts in this field. You are welcome to your opinion. I am welcome to listening to other experts,
@@debraernst6751 🙏
All these pity parties. Be grateful for what you have NOW.
Pity party?
Help.....Question.....local guy my age liked me yesterday. I liked back. We matched. Been doing emails consistently. I sent "any desire to speak at some point?" He wrote, "I'm pretty undecided right now, so probably not now".
First urge to unmatch, since it appears he isn't interested. Or should I ask a question re undecided?
Sounds like an avoidant attachment. Email is a big clue. Is he truly single?
Avoidant's Are Too Good At Dating -Ken Reid podcast 🌞
@@musicdesign7264 I would just leave it sounds like somebody wants there ego stroked or not really looking for anything etc don’t waste your time just move on ❤️
It is tricky! I would ask...
Phone calls are 1 of my boundaries. When I'm ready, usually just 1 or 2 texts, I say, I would like to speak to you. Mind giving me your #? I always get a yes. Then, after 1 or 2 calls, I expect to be asked on a 1st date. If not, NEXT! From the time we match, I usually have a date within 7-10 days.
@@JonathonAslay Ask, sure, but expect something dumb.
14:45 With all due respect, I do not share your view that watching these videos are joining a pity party. Jonathan is sharing his perspective which many of us find interesting and informative especially for people over 40 in the dating world. You’re watching, are you not? Many of us, including myself, ARE grateful for what we have NOW. Sounds like you are your own pity party complaining about this channel and should watch another channel or create your own. I find it annoying people that criticize a channel that clearly people watch and enjoy. So don’t watch then!
Gunshy = avoidant
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If someone is going to share about how dysfunctional their ex is, that would cause me pause because they participated and accepted. HOWEVER, if the person goes on to state what they learned about themselves and express self awareness, that’s encouraging. Regardless do not share a lot with someone early on
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