Well a lot of men have early male pattern baldness. Picture going bald up top at 20🥴 I’m glad I still have a head full of hair but then again blandness doesn’t run in my family
I'm not black, but the knowledge of how to take care of our hair, especially for Black women, should be readily available. It would save YEARS of damage and frustration.
We do know how to take care of our hair. We know exactly what to do. Many black women don't have time to take care of our hair or don't want to take care of our hair because of the amount of time it takes to do so. It takes me five hours to wash, blow dry and flat iron my hair every other weekend. Many black women don't have that kind of time so they move to wigs, braids, relaxers or styles that aren't beneficial to the hair.
@@Tippy2forU I think what the go comment was trying to say is knowledge for good hair care should be available to everyone, and it would help a lotta people out🤗 hope this doesn’t come across as rude😅
I remember my hair stylist telling one of her her teenage white clients to stop pulling her ponytails so tight. Of course, the girl protested that it wasn’t “smooth” when she didn’t. Then the stylist showed her where her hairline was thinning/receding and told her she was the one causing it because it was tension alopecia. Her dad chimed in with an “I told you so”. I think it was when that girl heard the word alopecia that she got the message. The stylist suggested she spread the word and have all the other girls look up tension alopecia for themselves.
Yes my mother in the 50s pulled my long hair back so very tight in plats or a ponytail because I had thin, silky hair, and everything (pins, bands) used to slide out. She herself had wavy thick and always got annoyed at my hair. 😢 I have very little hair at my temples now. I did not understand her annoyance, as a child. And felt bad about my hair. It was very straight and she always tried to curl it with a hot curling tongue straight from the fire. I still have the ridges on my head and remember the smell of burning flesh. I have alopecia now, nothing to do with my mother, so I still do not enjoy my hair, unfortunately.
Someone I worked with had that. I do not think she understood what she was doing to herself. Breaks my heart when I see little girls pulling their hair so tight. It happened to me from pulling my own hair back, not even that tight. I wear my hair down way more now.
The fact that she was unaware that she was ripping her edges out...is why as BEAUTIFUL black women we need to educate each other not talk about each other...
I had a homegirl who would always swear to me that her hair "JUST DOESN'T GROW PAST HER CHIN." She said that's just how her hair is and would get mad at me if I gave her suggestions. So I decided to shut my mouth and watch her rip her own hair out of her head with a hair brush by brushing it from root straight to the ends in a single stoke and tear CHUNKS of her hair out in the process. Just the sound of the ripping and shredding made my teeth hurt. My scalp hurt for her. 😢
You got any tips for someone trying to grow out their hair? I have 4c hair and have no idea what products to use. So far, the best results I've had have been with the brand Cantu (I believe) but the products are a little on the expensive side and I don't have the money to splurge right now. At this point, my hair won't grow past the nape of my neck and I know I'm doing something wrong but I just can't place it. I don't wear wigs often and when I do, I don't glue them down, and I try my best to keep my scalp moisturized. I'm at a loss right now, honestly, so any advice would be amazing. Much love. ❤
@@bringmychariot watch RUclips videos on African hair care here on RUclips, it's all there, just watch as much as you can, they all have really good advice on this
@@bringmychariot Edit: i have just learned 4c hair should not be brushed, or maybe can be brushed with gimmicky brushes (i wouldn't trust the sources i saw) or finger combed. The following is for a person whose hair is, i dunno, 1c-2b? Generic white person hair. Please use caution if you decide to generic white girl haircare on non-generic white girl hair. Thank you for listening. As an, admittedly, white person with generic white person hair, here's what i've found Comb daily. Brushes aren't super great but something like a lice comb helps redistribute oils down the full length of the hair and keeps your scalp *and* ends nicer so you're not oily at the scalp and dry at the ends. You're just trying to avoid dry, brittle hair. Lots of shampoos strip way more of the good oils than you'd think (which is why you're always told to condition your hair after shampooing). If you can go less often between hair washes and redistribute your oils in a different way, your hair won't be as fragile. Protective styles is a must. Whether it's braids or covering your hair, the best thing you can do to protect your hair is to protect your hair. I noticed my hair was happier when i stopped using elastics and instead use a string as a tie (if you braid it into the hair before tying it, it stays much better), and not doing it the same way every time (braid to the left instead of right to not always pull on the same hairs). A loose braid at night keeps me from pulling out individual strands that got under my back and pulled when i turn. Wearing a hat or scarf when going somewhere windy keeps dust and dirt from my hair that i later have to work at getting out. I've also switched to a more infrequent wash style where i wash my hair, then after 3-4 days i powder it with corn starch and either add more powder or wash again when it looks greasy. I was once complimented on my nice hair on week 3 post wash with how fluffy it was but i don't have any evidence it encouraging hair growth. Plus, everyone's hair stops at some length. It's based off the individual. It took a long time for me to get my hair from shoulder length to go any farther, then suddenly i realized it was below my sternum. My hair stopped at my hip bone and hasn't gotten any longer for a bit so that might be my max.
@@bringmychariotstimulate your scalp and keep it moist so it's not dry and fragile. Blow dry once a week asks it will pick up the blood flow under your scalp. Eat more fruit and veggies you don't usually Eat because you might have a vitamin/mineral deficiency. Yw
When I was in the Air Force, I had an issue where I'd get little bumps and scabs on the back of my head, right at the nape of my neck. I went to the doctor because I didn't know what it was. The first doctor I saw told me I was probably having an allergic reaction to the products I was using. I changed everything I used on my hair, but 3 months later I still had bumps and they were getting worse. The next doctor I saw was a black lady and when I told her what the first doctor said about it being an allergic reaction, she just laughed. In the military you have to wear your hair up to keep it off your collar and I was pulling my hair too tight. Which was putting tension on those baby hairs back there and causing the bumps and scabs. She gave me some amazing tips for doing my hair up the right way without causing damage. 2 weeks later the bumps were gone! I still use the tips and tricks she taught me 20 years later!
@@Vee8321 She suggested that since my hair is pretty dry, I shouldn't wash it more than twice a week. Always let my hair dry completely before putting it up because wet hair is heavy hair and it will pull against the elastic I was using. Ditch the elastic and use satin or silk to prevent breakage. Never sleep with my hair up. And try using clips or bobby pins to make a loose up do so the hair isn't pulled too tight, which was causing the bumps. Also, stay away from products that have alcohol in them since that dries out hair even more. Now that I'm not in the military, I always wear my hair down. But while I was in the military, her advice was so helpful!
facts. I started losing mine after having kids, didn't know that could happen. the research i did after that....especially once I found out it didn't have to be permanent with what caused mine, then I was REALLY looking that shit up lol
the second she said that she glued her wigs to her edges instead of her skin,,, girl!!! I’m so glad this man is here to help her cause somebody should’ve taught her sooner 😭
I watched a video earlier where a white mom was doing her black child’s hair and the child was moving around a lot. A man commented that all of that moving around and trouble meant that he’d grow up to be a thug. Instead of seeing how tough it might be for someone with tighter curls and all the steps that go into it, how hard and or painful it could be, he decided to be ignorant and judgmental and I can’t thank you enough for just acknowledging that although you might not know about someone’s experience with something first hand, you’d rather learn than make a negative comment. I appreciate you!
I went to hair school and anytime a black woman came in the instructors assumed we had to be aggressive with whatever we did! 😳I had to start going against what they would say because it’s very obvious to me that this type of hair needs extreme GENTLE handling!! No pulling or harsh chemicals this hair when treated properly is gorgeous and enviable!
It really is very sensitive and very gentle hair and has to be treated as such. I’m always asked how are my edges so full and it is because I understand that my hair is sensitive and she needs a soft touch, on top of being spoiled daily. Or else she’ll “act out”, and a lot of people fail to realize that about type 3 and type 4 hair.
@@naiadolling I literally tell my friend she needs to treat her hair as if each strand is made of gold because I see her ripping at it when she brushes it and I’ve come so close to ripping the brush out of her hand!!
@@naiadollingyeah I agree. I see black women across the salon and the hairstylist will be literally RIPPING through their hair and claiming “you can’t have a sensitive scalp with this type of hair” like what?! BE GENTLE
@@HalfNHalf. Omg. They annoy me so much with that. I have 3C/4A hair and had to start doing my own hair because a lot of hairstylists just lack professionalism and knowledge when it comes to doing "black" hair. Type 3 and type 4 hair are literally the most sensitive types of hair around, but people look at how curly, wavy, etc. it is and assume that because it is thick, curly or coily hair that it must be tough. When that actually means the very opposite.
As a stylist, I’ve told my clients to only use silk or satin material on their hair. ESPECIALLY during winter when you have to wear wool coats, hats and scarfs. Coat collars, hoodies and scarfs rub and break off hair at the nape. Hats can break it off at the edges and crown. Put a silk or satin scarf as a barrier. And don’t get me started on the PERMANENT damages of GLUE. Kills the root. No root, no hair. EVER!
How about the glue on eyelashes? I refuse to attach anything to my lashes, and my friends think I am dumb, lol. I have learned the miracles of silk and satin for pillow cases, hat lining, hair accessories, etc. It has made a HUGE difference in my hair's health!
Any glue or adhesive is bad on hair follicles of any body parts. Your eyes are just as delicate as your scalp….if not more( you need them to see). Not sure why your friends think you are dumb for not doing something dumb and unnatural to your body.
I just don’t understand why some black women just refuse to understand that always pulling your hair back in ponytails, wearing wigs all the time, putting heavy weave hair in for braids or whatever is not only damaging their hair but their actual hair follicles!! In healthcare I am now seeing younger teens and even children balding. This needs to be addressed in our communities!! And the way she is acting….. like the ignorance is astounding.🤯
This show needs to come back seriously. I watched the full season in one day. The way he educated on hair the way he restore all of these women confidence was beautiful. I think having him back on tv will be refreshing seeing positivity 😄
So many of us are abusing our edges with glue😳 I bobby pin my wigs on because I only keep them on for the time I'm out. I really don't understand sleeping in wigs...too hot! My scalp needs to breathe!🤗
@Kaela K a lot of people put them directly on their edges and glue it down. common sense would tell you the glue is gonna rip your edges out, but unfortunately common sense isn’t as common as we thought 😭
@Kaela K yessss no one soaks the edges to remove a wig properly. Bc it means you have to wash the wig more often 🙄 but tearing it up just wears the wig out faster anyways. Yes taking it down properly is more work now, but regrowing your hair is a lot more work in the long run 😂
This kind of stuff isn't common sense though? Something that would have to be taught, like how to properly put on a wig or keep your hair safe and healthy, isn't common sense. Its kind of like telling someone math is common sense. It's good if you know it, but not everyone had the luxury of having guardians that knew what they were doing or how to pass on knowledge to their kids. She shouldn't be shamed for not knowing, but you should be shamed for trying to make someone feel like shit about not knowing something they were never taught.
I'll gladly wear my edges puffy each day before subjecting them to this. Why are some black women so against letting their type 4 edges just be type 4 edges? 😭
I don’t know what type 4 edges are, but I presume it’s because that’s how she was taught to do her hair. For me, even though I know they were just being brothers, I’d get teased for my edges or get told by my dad my hair looked a mess and would get real self conscious about my hair not having anything out.
As a Haircare stylist over the years, I found that many black women compromise their natural hair for fad styles. And, today, it's gotten worse. As the client expressed, "when I use glue..." Those lace fronts along with braiding styles are nothing but alopecia waiting to happen. Unfortunately, most clients don't listen to professional advice.
How are you supposed to keep wigs on without glue? Genuinely asking. I don’t like the way my natural hair looks at the moment and want to take care of it while wearing wigs, but it’s affecting my already thin edges.
@aurorethebore this is my point! You should Never compromises your natural hair for wigs! However, I'm glad you asked. All wigs are not created equal. That said, you must shop around and find yourself a 100% silk scarf that you can tie on on head before placing the wig. This will 110% protect your edges. To hold your wig on use hairpins. In the meantime find yourself a good hair care specialist. It may cost more, but it's worth it in the long run...
This is why we need to teach our children about hair care, my mama didnt teach me how to braid and im still suffering the consequences 💀 Girl how are you gonna have the full knowlegde of boxbraids aND cornrows and just not pass that information down. What does she think, the ancestors just picks and chooses who gets the gift?
Yeah, my mum was a great cook, but she never really taught me how to cook. It was sad, that I'll never know the 100s of amazing recipes and techniques. But she was a bitch so idk, go figure. My hair is confusing af too.. It's too fine for braiding, but too brittle to be left as is. I hope I find something that works.. eventually
My mother told me that I shouldnt pull my hair as much especially when its in ponytail or bun cause one day when I get older, I'll sure regret doing it. Mothers knows best.
If she quits now she'll be okay but they have some women that are completely baby but ball around the edges and it won't grow back. Too much damage done from the glue 🤨
We told y’all that the glue was made for cancer patients or individuals without hair follicles! Thank you sir! Do you know how many people I’ve told that too?!
I realized i was ripping out my edges, so I stopped wearing frontals and switched to closures, lost the glue and just let my hair be. Did that for six months and applied oil almost every night since the wig was only held by clips and I could take it off with ease. Now I’m back to braids and in all honesty I like it more than back when I was told braids were my only hairstyle option.
Unfortunately, it takes some of us black women longer than others to learn what's right for our hair. I learned how to properly care for my hair 2 years ago. I'm 31! All the hair I lost because of my lack of knowledge 😑
@@mcdanielvalerie0 the best way is to leave them alone. No tension, tight styles, excessive brushing / combing, edge control etc. You can also try applying an oil like castor oil to aid in thickening and gently massage. Just be consistent, gentle, and patient.
The way she was so confused and unaware makes me wanna hug her, it's almost as if she was embarrassed "Oh-.. oh.. okay" broke my heart, HELP ONE ANOTHER SISTAS PLEASE🙄
Glueless wigs can take out your hair too. The friction will eventually cause them to fall out or thin. Especially if you wear wigs the majority of the time.
@@ebonyapplepy3906 I started wearing wigs when I started transitioning my hair to natural white hair... and used wig grips, which totally broke all my hair at the hairline all around my head. Great at keeping the wig in-place, but destroyed my hairline!
@@g2jnan427 for centuries bW have been told how to wear their hair how to dress how to act. And we are in a period of time when a lot of BW are going natural. Not that it’s any of your business what she does to her hair, I bet you are single and sad. Don’t make biased accusations when men are to blame for even creating these “preferences” and whatnot. Can’t go centuries downplaying OUR hair and telling us how we should wear it, to only flip the script. Women aren’t doing things for BM anymore! Now go ride off into the sunset and straight down to hell.
Finally a hairdresser speaking facts!!!! Love ur natural hair and take care of it it is gorgeous girl! I love that he doesn’t shame either he educates I love you man you’re amazing
the secret is to switch up your hairdo ladies. Wear that ponytail for two weeks - then change to another hairstyle for two weeks. This moves the tension from certain spots of your hair. EVERY hairstyle (even protective ones) cause tension to the hair.
I noticed my hubby had no hair on his lower legs from the constant rubbing of his nylon containing socks. All day while he walks, the material essentially buffs the hairs right off just like that nylon band she uses to put her hair up. Even the way she puts it on, breaks all those fine hairs off. Weave wearers should be aware of how much weight they are applying to the hair. They add many times the weight that the hair can withstand carrying. Be mindful if what you're doing ladies!
Also the flannel when we wash our face and towel dry it. That breaks the baby hairs. Need to dab the hairline dry and moisturise the edges after washing our face
My clients be acting so clueless when I tell them the stuff they're using is tearing up their edges and their hair. I throw the stuff they come in with all the time and give them ponytails and Bonnets and tell them they need satin pillowcases. WE'RE ON A JOURNEY HERE SISTERS! JUST TAKE WHAT I PRESCRIBE!!
I'm not black, but I've got a really weird hair texture. So classic curly advice isn't really awesome for me. The underside is super straight and the top is curly. So everything slips right off my hair. And I cant stand the feeling of gel in my hair. So, I get it when your clients don't always follow instructions. Sometimes it's much harder than doing the damaging thing. And sometimes it just doesn't work for you, no matter how good it is for your hair. I think it's important to work with the people who feel like there's a big barrier in caring for their hair to at least minimize the damage without making it impossible.
@@user-K8TWhite people have curly hair too. Lmao. Look up the curly girl method. Get SILK pillowcases (I even use one for my hair at night because my hair is LONG, thick and wavy and a cap just ain't enough to keep it in while I sleep.) Casaluna is way cheaper than "Slip" brand and just buying 22 momme silk fabric is even *cheaper*
@K I hear you And I don't go off of the classic hair charts all the time either The demographic of my clients is like 99% black and I specialize in natural hair. A lot of the struggles my clients have start with the fundamentals of hair care. I've seen a lot and still haven't seen it all.
Soooo true. I had to tell my daughter that at an early age and she started seeing people of color with baldness when they used to have hair. She takes care of her hair now of course but her type of is not like mine so I had to let her know her hair is beautiful so she doesn’t grow up with a complex about it
As a baby boomer, not one of my high school graduates or college friends had or wore wigs and now as a senior my girlfriends all have their edges. Other than medical issues if you take care of your hair and it will stay.
Elastic isn't good for your hair either as he said so it probably doesn't pull them back but st kills them off a little bit or prevents them them growing
The best part about cutting off my hair as an adult and growing it back out natural was how much I learned about hair by doing my own research, and trial and error on my own hair of course. In all my years going to many different salons not once did they actually give me a consultation and explain what I needed.
She sounds like that because we have such a complex relationship with hair. All the things you do to cut time, cut down maintenance comes at a price. Access is huge. Lifestyle also plays a part. I’m often torn between feeling like my hair looks and feeling like I want my hair to look. Still learning. Still growing.
A hair stylist that cares like him is hard to find nowadays. A stylist that my mom knew for years messed up her hair so bad gluing a wig to her actual hair & edges. I do my own wigs when I want to wear one so my mom called me over to talk about it & I called her stylist out for it as I told my mom to not let her do that to her hair beforehand. Apparently she claimed I was wrong since I wasn’t licensed & yet she has no edges while I still have mine 🙄 I appreciate this man for being honest & caring about his client ❤
Thats because she braiding it up and putting it in protective styles and glueing down her edges. And when it’s in a natural state, she’s pulling it back. Just a lot of tension, not bad hair maintenance all together though.
FINALLY! ONE HAIRDRESSER WITH COMMON SENSE AND KNOWLEDGE!
Who is he
@@sevenhunt3787 his name is Dr. Boogie.
What show is this?
@@Boobye23 My Mane Problem
I preferred a man hair dresser because some of the women I had I would go once didn’t like her attitude
It’s always the bald men that know the most about hair, I sweeeeear 😅
Lmao! Too right!
Well a lot of men have early male pattern baldness. Picture going bald up top at 20🥴 I’m glad I still have a head full of hair but then again blandness doesn’t run in my family
lololololol
TED FROM WHAT NOT TO WEAR
They know how to protect since they lost their own hair!
I'm not black, but the knowledge of how to take care of our hair, especially for Black women, should be readily available. It would save YEARS of damage and frustration.
We do know how to take care of our hair. We know exactly what to do. Many black women don't have time to take care of our hair or don't want to take care of our hair because of the amount of time it takes to do so. It takes me five hours to wash, blow dry and flat iron my hair every other weekend. Many black women don't have that kind of time so they move to wigs, braids, relaxers or styles that aren't beneficial to the hair.
@@Tippy2forU I think what the go comment was trying to say is knowledge for good hair care should be available to everyone, and it would help a lotta people out🤗 hope this doesn’t come across as rude😅
You’re on RUclips and people have mothers and family and friends
@@gettended what does this mean?
@Tiff'sTravels2012 : how can you say that?
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Clearly not everyone knows.
The lady in the video, for example...
I remember my hair stylist telling one of her her teenage white clients to stop pulling her ponytails so tight. Of course, the girl protested that it wasn’t “smooth” when she didn’t. Then the stylist showed her where her hairline was thinning/receding and told her she was the one causing it because it was tension alopecia. Her dad chimed in with an “I told you so”. I think it was when that girl heard the word alopecia that she got the message.
The stylist suggested she spread the word and have all the other girls look up tension alopecia for themselves.
Yes my mother in the 50s pulled my long hair back so very tight in plats or a ponytail because I had thin, silky hair, and everything (pins, bands) used to slide out. She herself had wavy thick and always got annoyed at my hair. 😢 I have very little hair at my temples now. I did not understand her annoyance, as a child. And felt bad about my hair. It was very straight and she always tried to curl it with a hot curling tongue straight from the fire. I still have the ridges on my head and remember the smell of burning flesh. I have alopecia now, nothing to do with my mother, so I still do not enjoy my hair, unfortunately.
@@mariatony40 oh god i hope you’re okay! that “smell of burning flesh” makes me shudder…
Someone I worked with had that. I do not think she understood what she was doing to herself. Breaks my heart when I see little girls pulling their hair so tight. It happened to me from pulling my own hair back, not even that tight. I wear my hair down way more now.
Then what did the stylist tell her to do??? Sometimes I need it up.
Well damn. I'm 48 and learned this today.
The fact that she was unaware that she was ripping her edges out...is why as BEAUTIFUL black women we need to educate each other not talk about each other...
see i have no problem with self love but putting “beautiful” in all caps like that seems like u feel that u better than others
@@ItsMeMiyaT what I meant was ...as BEAUTIFUL black women not me only I couldn't edit it ...
THISSSSS!!!! Please say it again!!!
@@ItsMeMiyaT Snowflake
Even plain black women need to educate each other, everyone does!
My wigs slip and slide but my edges are alive.
😂😂
Try the wig grip or band.
😂😂😂😂😂😂yup💪🏾
Hair pins. Bobby pins.
@@dorib.3367 Bands will affect your edges negatively too. Be careful with them
He didn’t even sound mad. He sounded like he was sad that this beautiful girl was hurting her hair and was exasperated.
I had a homegirl who would always swear to me that her hair "JUST DOESN'T GROW PAST HER CHIN." She said that's just how her hair is and would get mad at me if I gave her suggestions. So I decided to shut my mouth and watch her rip her own hair out of her head with a hair brush by brushing it from root straight to the ends in a single stoke and tear CHUNKS of her hair out in the process. Just the sound of the ripping and shredding made my teeth hurt. My scalp hurt for her. 😢
I could HEAR the sound just reading this. Oof. Bless her heart!
You got any tips for someone trying to grow out their hair? I have 4c hair and have no idea what products to use. So far, the best results I've had have been with the brand Cantu (I believe) but the products are a little on the expensive side and I don't have the money to splurge right now. At this point, my hair won't grow past the nape of my neck and I know I'm doing something wrong but I just can't place it. I don't wear wigs often and when I do, I don't glue them down, and I try my best to keep my scalp moisturized. I'm at a loss right now, honestly, so any advice would be amazing. Much love. ❤
@@bringmychariot watch RUclips videos on African hair care here on RUclips, it's all there, just watch as much as you can, they all have really good advice on this
@@bringmychariot
Edit: i have just learned 4c hair should not be brushed, or maybe can be brushed with gimmicky brushes (i wouldn't trust the sources i saw) or finger combed. The following is for a person whose hair is, i dunno, 1c-2b? Generic white person hair. Please use caution if you decide to generic white girl haircare on non-generic white girl hair. Thank you for listening.
As an, admittedly, white person with generic white person hair, here's what i've found
Comb daily. Brushes aren't super great but something like a lice comb helps redistribute oils down the full length of the hair and keeps your scalp *and* ends nicer so you're not oily at the scalp and dry at the ends. You're just trying to avoid dry, brittle hair.
Lots of shampoos strip way more of the good oils than you'd think (which is why you're always told to condition your hair after shampooing). If you can go less often between hair washes and redistribute your oils in a different way, your hair won't be as fragile.
Protective styles is a must. Whether it's braids or covering your hair, the best thing you can do to protect your hair is to protect your hair. I noticed my hair was happier when i stopped using elastics and instead use a string as a tie (if you braid it into the hair before tying it, it stays much better), and not doing it the same way every time (braid to the left instead of right to not always pull on the same hairs). A loose braid at night keeps me from pulling out individual strands that got under my back and pulled when i turn. Wearing a hat or scarf when going somewhere windy keeps dust and dirt from my hair that i later have to work at getting out.
I've also switched to a more infrequent wash style where i wash my hair, then after 3-4 days i powder it with corn starch and either add more powder or wash again when it looks greasy. I was once complimented on my nice hair on week 3 post wash with how fluffy it was but i don't have any evidence it encouraging hair growth.
Plus, everyone's hair stops at some length. It's based off the individual. It took a long time for me to get my hair from shoulder length to go any farther, then suddenly i realized it was below my sternum. My hair stopped at my hip bone and hasn't gotten any longer for a bit so that might be my max.
@@bringmychariotstimulate your scalp and keep it moist so it's not dry and fragile. Blow dry once a week asks it will pick up the blood flow under your scalp. Eat more fruit and veggies you don't usually Eat because you might have a vitamin/mineral deficiency. Yw
When I was in the Air Force, I had an issue where I'd get little bumps and scabs on the back of my head, right at the nape of my neck. I went to the doctor because I didn't know what it was. The first doctor I saw told me I was probably having an allergic reaction to the products I was using. I changed everything I used on my hair, but 3 months later I still had bumps and they were getting worse. The next doctor I saw was a black lady and when I told her what the first doctor said about it being an allergic reaction, she just laughed. In the military you have to wear your hair up to keep it off your collar and I was pulling my hair too tight. Which was putting tension on those baby hairs back there and causing the bumps and scabs. She gave me some amazing tips for doing my hair up the right way without causing damage. 2 weeks later the bumps were gone! I still use the tips and tricks she taught me 20 years later!
What are the tips she gave you?
@@Vee8321 She suggested that since my hair is pretty dry, I shouldn't wash it more than twice a week. Always let my hair dry completely before putting it up because wet hair is heavy hair and it will pull against the elastic I was using. Ditch the elastic and use satin or silk to prevent breakage. Never sleep with my hair up. And try using clips or bobby pins to make a loose up do so the hair isn't pulled too tight, which was causing the bumps. Also, stay away from products that have alcohol in them since that dries out hair even more. Now that I'm not in the military, I always wear my hair down. But while I was in the military, her advice was so helpful!
@@queenb1119 Thanks for sharing😊
thank you so much for sharing that! i have this issue too!
@@Sunshine_Hime You're very welcome! 😊👍
As a bald man, we're definitely some of the best people to consult on WHY you're losing your hair, since we've done been through it. 🤣👏👌
facts. I started losing mine after having kids, didn't know that could happen. the research i did after that....especially once I found out it didn't have to be permanent with what caused mine, then I was REALLY looking that shit up lol
But men don't generally wear wigs and glue the edges down. Neither do they wear head bands, lol!
The hear loss in men is genetic
the second she said that she glued her wigs to her edges instead of her skin,,, girl!!! I’m so glad this man is here to help her cause somebody should’ve taught her sooner 😭
as a chinese person this was educational, I didn't realize there were so many things that went into maintaining this type of hair
I watched a video earlier where a white mom was doing her black child’s hair and the child was moving around a lot. A man commented that all of that moving around and trouble meant that he’d grow up to be a thug. Instead of seeing how tough it might be for someone with tighter curls and all the steps that go into it, how hard and or painful it could be, he decided to be ignorant and judgmental and I can’t thank you enough for just acknowledging that although you might not know about someone’s experience with something first hand, you’d rather learn than make a negative comment. I appreciate you!
It’s all types, the structure of hair differs, but the outside interaction and elements that cause tension or breakage remain the same
@@rayneakhi-gbade2060 sounds like the man was being racist
I went to hair school and anytime a black woman came in the instructors assumed we had to be aggressive with whatever we did! 😳I had to start going against what they would say because it’s very obvious to me that this type of hair needs extreme GENTLE handling!! No pulling or harsh chemicals this hair when treated properly is gorgeous and enviable!
It really is very sensitive and very gentle hair and has to be treated as such. I’m always asked how are my edges so full and it is because I understand that my hair is sensitive and she needs a soft touch, on top of being spoiled daily. Or else she’ll “act out”, and a lot of people fail to realize that about type 3 and type 4 hair.
@@naiadolling I literally tell my friend she needs to treat her hair as if each strand is made of gold because I see her ripping at it when she brushes it and I’ve come so close to ripping the brush out of her hand!!
@@naiadollingyeah I agree. I see black women across the salon and the hairstylist will be literally RIPPING through their hair and claiming “you can’t have a sensitive scalp with this type of hair” like what?! BE GENTLE
@@HalfNHalf. 😭
@@HalfNHalf. Omg. They annoy me so much with that. I have 3C/4A hair and had to start doing my own hair because a lot of hairstylists just lack professionalism and knowledge when it comes to doing "black" hair. Type 3 and type 4 hair are literally the most sensitive types of hair around, but people look at how curly, wavy, etc. it is and assume that because it is thick, curly or coily hair that it must be tough. When that actually means the very opposite.
As a stylist, I’ve told my clients to only use silk or satin material on their hair. ESPECIALLY during winter when you have to wear wool coats, hats and scarfs. Coat collars, hoodies and scarfs rub and break off hair at the nape. Hats can break it off at the edges and crown. Put a silk or satin scarf as a barrier. And don’t get me started on the PERMANENT damages of GLUE. Kills the root. No root, no hair. EVER!
How about the glue on eyelashes? I refuse to attach anything to my lashes, and my friends think I am dumb, lol. I have learned the miracles of silk and satin for pillow cases, hat lining, hair accessories, etc. It has made a HUGE difference in my hair's health!
Any glue or adhesive is bad on hair follicles of any body parts. Your eyes are just as delicate as your scalp….if not more( you need them to see). Not sure why your friends think you are dumb for not doing something dumb and unnatural to your body.
@@pumibel1720 it goes on your eyelid not the lash so u should be fine
@@Havis_Princess Nahh, I'll pass on that anyway. They make some really good mascaras these days.
@@-love-life3267Those are just the so-so friends. My closest friends have more sense.
I need to see the full video! He seems very aware. I love that. Very sharp and witty ❤
Yesss girl me too
It’s called my mane problem
@@JUPITERSUN888 Full videos by paid subscription
His reactions were everything 😂
She has gorgeous hair but she is doing a LOT to those edges!
It’s crazy cause it’s a simple mistake she’s making. That’s causing a lot of edge loss
@@jaifyre702 verry common mistake.
Gorgeous? Lol it’s nice but damaged 🤦🏽♀️
@@dominiquexo4772 Yes gorgeous.. her edges may be sparse but she still has a head full of dense hair
@@anzbby7283 she would be more beautiful if she shaved her all her hair and let it grow healthier 😍❤️
I just don’t understand why some black women just refuse to understand that always pulling your hair back in ponytails, wearing wigs all the time, putting heavy weave hair in for braids or whatever is not only damaging their hair but their actual hair follicles!! In healthcare I am now seeing younger teens and even children balding. This needs to be addressed in our communities!! And the way she is acting….. like the ignorance is astounding.🤯
Those beads on those little girls hair too. Ton of beads on a little bitty braid.
And all that fake hair just looks tacky and weird
So how should a natural girl style my hair???
In middle school i had my hair pulled tight in an updo. My Dr told me that's Y Amish women go bald from the front 2 back!
@@ANGELSLVME light tension, leave it down to grow in its natural form as much as you can. When you’re home, let it free!
This show needs to come back seriously. I watched the full season in one day. The way he educated on hair the way he restore all of these women confidence was beautiful. I think having him back on tv will be refreshing seeing positivity 😄
when she said “you throwing alll my good stuff away” she sounded just like nicki 😹😹
So many of us are abusing our edges with glue😳 I bobby pin my wigs on because I only keep them on for the time I'm out. I really don't understand sleeping in wigs...too hot! My scalp needs to breathe!🤗
Speak my (non)peace! Wig, overnight...why?!?
Stop wearing fake hair period
@@causeeffect7624 trying to impress the bed mate. Keeping the lie alive
@@jacquiegaskin4311 they have to love you as you are!!!
@@Babyboo-qd8wb for the change up. Don't allow it to rule your life.
it’s the way she’s shocked at what i assume to be common sense, especially the gluing the wig on the edges part 😭 wallah when will my people be free
@Kaela K a lot of people put them directly on their edges and glue it down. common sense would tell you the glue is gonna rip your edges out, but unfortunately common sense isn’t as common as we thought 😭
she wasn't shocked she literally said she knew her edges was coming out because she was glueing them down
@Kaela K yessss no one soaks the edges to remove a wig properly. Bc it means you have to wash the wig more often 🙄 but tearing it up just wears the wig out faster anyways. Yes taking it down properly is more work now, but regrowing your hair is a lot more work in the long run 😂
I really don't think she cares. Just wants to slay those wigs.
This kind of stuff isn't common sense though? Something that would have to be taught, like how to properly put on a wig or keep your hair safe and healthy, isn't common sense.
Its kind of like telling someone math is common sense. It's good if you know it, but not everyone had the luxury of having guardians that knew what they were doing or how to pass on knowledge to their kids. She shouldn't be shamed for not knowing, but you should be shamed for trying to make someone feel like shit about not knowing something they were never taught.
I'll gladly wear my edges puffy each day before subjecting them to this. Why are some black women so against letting their type 4 edges just be type 4 edges? 😭
Yes! I don't even bother with edge control gel. Never have, never will.
I don’t know what type 4 edges are, but I presume it’s because that’s how she was taught to do her hair. For me, even though I know they were just being brothers, I’d get teased for my edges or get told by my dad my hair looked a mess and would get real self conscious about my hair not having anything out.
I had hair long enough to sit on and I found little bald patches. So I cut off all the hair and they're finally growing back. Tension is a killer!
As a Haircare stylist over the years, I found that many black women compromise their natural hair for fad styles. And, today, it's gotten worse. As the client expressed, "when I use glue..." Those lace fronts along with braiding styles are nothing but alopecia waiting to happen. Unfortunately, most clients don't listen to professional advice.
What styles do you recommend for thinning edges?
@@ndeonikabooker5358 it depends on what's causing the thinning. Can you give more information?
Yes please give advice. I also have thin edges 😢
How are you supposed to keep wigs on without glue? Genuinely asking. I don’t like the way my natural hair looks at the moment and want to take care of it while wearing wigs, but it’s affecting my already thin edges.
@aurorethebore this is my point! You should Never compromises your natural hair for wigs! However, I'm glad you asked. All wigs are not created equal. That said, you must shop around and find yourself a 100% silk scarf that you can tie on on head before placing the wig. This will 110% protect your edges. To hold your wig on use hairpins. In the meantime find yourself a good hair care specialist. It may cost more, but it's worth it in the long run...
This is why we need to teach our children about hair care, my mama didnt teach me how to braid and im still suffering the consequences 💀 Girl how are you gonna have the full knowlegde of boxbraids aND cornrows and just not pass that information down. What does she think, the ancestors just picks and chooses who gets the gift?
My mom didn't teach me how to style my hair either so I kept it short..
we're supposed to learn by miosis i guess
My mom tried to teach me but I couldn’t get the hang of it but I learned alternative braiding
Yeah, my mum was a great cook, but she never really taught me how to cook. It was sad, that I'll never know the 100s of amazing recipes and techniques.
But she was a bitch so idk, go figure.
My hair is confusing af too..
It's too fine for braiding, but too brittle to be left as is. I hope I find something that works.. eventually
Go talk to her about it or ask her to teach you. Bashing her on the internet is not going to do anything 💀
No no no stop!!! Your natural hair is so beautiful!!! ❤
He should have told her "You keep going and you are gonna have a hairline like mine sis!" He just can't believe she was doing this to her hair 😮
I love people like this guy. He truly cares!
I prefer men hairdressers
@@Sophisticated8 they are awesome. My hair thrived when I had a male stylist!
@@everybodytalkstodemons5892 I’m sure your hair did ☮️❤️
He was already disappointed about the head band then she told him about the glue😱🤦
@@gaylisahernandez3285 do you know the name of this show?
She has a gorgeous face and a great thick head of hair.
top of the head
And the longest forehead.
Except for the edges, lol.
🍫😍
I love the sassy “mmmm” 😂 so kind in how he explains it but also hilarious when he throws his hands up and walks away. And she’s so cute too 😭
Sis, u got all that beautiful hair❤❤ stop stressing ur edges!!!
I never glue down my wigs, if it falls off, oh well!
😂
😂😂😂 me too
🤣
You'd be mortified. Pins are a thing.
😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂, that's how it was back in the day.
This actually seems like it would be a very good TV show..... No drama no loud mouth and ghetto jumping around just straight educational and friendly
What is the show called?
This was a TV show
@@ms.sophisticated9570 what is it called?
@@axy_cutie If I'm not mistaken its called L.A. hair
@@axy_cutie My mane problem
My mother told me that I shouldnt pull my hair as much especially when its in ponytail or bun cause one day when I get older, I'll sure regret doing it. Mothers knows best.
I use a satin ribbon to do my puffs! Just regular satin ribbon you can get at a craft store, walmart, etc. It works great and doesn't hurt!
Her hair is as beautiful as she is
You will get those edges back in no time
Love your energy❤❤❤❤❤❤
If she quits now she'll be okay but they have some women that are completely baby but ball around the edges and it won't grow back. Too much damage done from the glue 🤨
If she stops they’ll come back. If not she’s gonna look like Jada.
Her edges not totally gone she should be good in 6 months to a year
@@gillianlewis4834 Jada has alopecia.
@@ttyngordon yes I know that, it was a comparison. Lol 😂
We told y’all that the glue was made for cancer patients or individuals without hair follicles! Thank you sir! Do you know how many people I’ve told that too?!
Sis you have beautiful thick hair! I still understand how you feel. ❤
I realized i was ripping out my edges, so I stopped wearing frontals and switched to closures, lost the glue and just let my hair be. Did that for six months and applied oil almost every night since the wig was only held by clips and I could take it off with ease. Now I’m back to braids and in all honesty I like it more than back when I was told braids were my only hairstyle option.
His soul left his body when he did that Walk off😂😂😂😂😂
I wear natural textured wigs and leave my natural hairline out. Natural looking hairline, less clockable wig, edges saved. Win win.
Can you drop some links? My hair could use a break my forehead is already huge lol
I would like to know too 👀
i love their energy together lmao
Their interactions were so funny and non-toxic 😂 I love it
Unfortunately, it takes some of us black women longer than others to learn what's right for our hair. I learned how to properly care for my hair 2 years ago. I'm 31! All the hair I lost because of my lack of knowledge 😑
Do you have any tips on growing edges?
Same here 😢
@@mcdanielvalerie0 the best way is to leave them alone. No tension, tight styles, excessive brushing / combing, edge control etc. You can also try applying an oil like castor oil to aid in thickening and gently massage. Just be consistent, gentle, and patient.
Vitamins and minerals and a good diet!
@@babytt8487 definitely need a good diet to help everything, but if ya diet bad, the hair will not grow. 👍🏼
I'm glad he said something because I've seen people glue those wigs directly on to the hairline 😫😫
Oooh no!!!!
Even the forehead. It could have a negative effect on your skin
Then have nerve to call it a protective hairstyle.
@@smfarrie2943 Wow. A destructive hairstyle.
What are you supposed to do instead? Genuinely asking because I’m new to wigs and my edges are quickly dwindling.
Every tip convicts me. Jeesh, taking notes. 😌
The way she was so confused and unaware makes me wanna hug her, it's almost as if she was embarrassed "Oh-.. oh.. okay" broke my heart, HELP ONE ANOTHER SISTAS PLEASE🙄
Glueless wigs can take out your hair too. The friction will eventually cause them to fall out or thin. Especially if you wear wigs the majority of the time.
Wear a wig grip
Guilty and I wear a cap and velvet bands SMH 🤦🏾♀️
@@ebonyapplepy3906 I started wearing wigs when I started transitioning my hair to natural white hair... and used wig grips, which totally broke all my hair at the hairline all around my head. Great at keeping the wig in-place, but destroyed my hairline!
@@ebonyapplepy3906lol there is no hope for you guys🤦🏼♀️
Because yall clipping them on edges when yours not supposed to do that
I wish BW would realize how beautiful their natural hair is.
It's not allowed in certain places.
Yeah we realize it so go away.
@@bobsburgers8109 Clearly a lot don’t, or so many wouldn’t be walking around edge-less and buying hair that’s not even of their own texture.
@@Cinnamoncupquake I will never understand why, natural hair is gorgeous!!
@@g2jnan427 for centuries bW have been told how to wear their hair how to dress how to act. And we are in a period of time when a lot of BW are going natural. Not that it’s any of your business what she does to her hair, I bet you are single and sad. Don’t make biased accusations when men are to blame for even creating these “preferences” and whatnot. Can’t go centuries downplaying OUR hair and telling us how we should wear it, to only flip the script. Women aren’t doing things for BM anymore! Now go ride off into the sunset and straight down to hell.
Finally a hairdresser speaking facts!!!! Love ur natural hair and take care of it it is gorgeous girl! I love that he doesn’t shame either he educates I love you man you’re amazing
Her hair is GORGEOUS!!! I want to see what it looks like when he's done. I HAVE GOT to find his show!!!
Where is this entire video? I'd love to see more of him ❤️❤️❤️
It's called My Mane Problem if you haven't been able to find the channel. 😊 Interested in watching it myself after this short popped up.
@@JetB91 Omg thanks so much I haven't been able to find it. 😂💜
the secret is to switch up your hairdo ladies. Wear that ponytail for two weeks - then change to another hairstyle for two weeks. This moves the tension from certain spots of your hair. EVERY hairstyle (even protective ones) cause tension to the hair.
That's not the move. That lowers the risk but it's still ripping
I do this I wear clip in extensions for 2 weeks and then get them re done.
You are Absolutely correct!
She’s so beautiful!
Dam, the way he just walked off like "I'm done." Lol
I love everything about this!!!!😂😂😂 "Oh, oh okay!!!😂"
Look at Boogie! One of the best hairstylists from the Bay Area!
I didn't know that! Where in the Bay?
Who is he? Where exactly is he from? 🤔
Yes, I want to know too!!
I'd Love to see you do your Clients Hair. However, I love your Compassion, knowledge, etc.
I need the full video! 😄
The tv show is "My Mane Problem"
This was a PSA!❤
Join PETE: People for the Ethical Treatment of Edges! 😄
I noticed my hubby had no hair on his lower legs from the constant rubbing of his nylon containing socks. All day while he walks, the material essentially buffs the hairs right off just like that nylon band she uses to put her hair up. Even the way she puts it on, breaks all those fine hairs off. Weave wearers should be aware of how much weight they are applying to the hair. They add many times the weight that the hair can withstand carrying. Be mindful if what you're doing ladies!
Also the flannel when we wash our face and towel dry it. That breaks the baby hairs. Need to dab the hairline dry and moisturise the edges after washing our face
@@DarkAngel2512 👏🏾! Very sensible advice 🤗
@@DarkAngel2512 bruuuuuh, never even considered that! You just changed my life fr
@@mpumiontheweb-cw3vs neither had I until recently. Hair is thinning due to ageing so am more aware now.
Goshhhh, love her eyesss😱💜
His face at the end just screams: Lord have mercy!
Yeah that material is death to our hair 😂 I had to switch to a satin-y material when I was doing puffs cause I felt the snap, crackle, pop
All that beautiful hair and she's killing it. This is so powerful. He truly gave her solid advice on better hair care.
It's the gluing down for me😂😂😂😂😂
She is so beautiful, glad she knows better now
My clients be acting so clueless when I tell them the stuff they're using is tearing up their edges and their hair. I throw the stuff they come in with all the time and give them ponytails and Bonnets and tell them they need satin pillowcases. WE'RE ON A JOURNEY HERE SISTERS! JUST TAKE WHAT I PRESCRIBE!!
I'm not black, but I've got a really weird hair texture. So classic curly advice isn't really awesome for me. The underside is super straight and the top is curly. So everything slips right off my hair. And I cant stand the feeling of gel in my hair. So, I get it when your clients don't always follow instructions. Sometimes it's much harder than doing the damaging thing. And sometimes it just doesn't work for you, no matter how good it is for your hair. I think it's important to work with the people who feel like there's a big barrier in caring for their hair to at least minimize the damage without making it impossible.
@@user-K8TWhite people have curly hair too. Lmao.
Look up the curly girl method. Get SILK pillowcases (I even use one for my hair at night because my hair is LONG, thick and wavy and a cap just ain't enough to keep it in while I sleep.) Casaluna is way cheaper than "Slip" brand and just buying 22 momme silk fabric is even *cheaper*
@K I hear you
And I don't go off of the classic hair charts all the time either
The demographic of my clients is like 99% black and I specialize in natural hair. A lot of the struggles my clients have start with the fundamentals of hair care. I've seen a lot and still haven't seen it all.
It's the throwing up of the hands & walking away for me. 🤣
Love that he’s knowledgeable and when he walked away I- 😂
Lmao I know nothing about hair apart from mine and my wife’s but dude funny asl talking about “YOU GLUE THEM DOWN” 😂😂
I will never understand how they don’t understand that THAT is y u have no edges!!
Not all of us black women lose are edges when applying our wigs lol 😂
They're probably just thinking it's a hair product causing the damage.
@@chocolatte522 yea. Nothing makes your hair grow as it always grows but the right products make a big difference
Congratulations on your success boogie from Richmond ca
I think they understand they just don't care cuz tight ponytails does this to
She is so pretty, hope she manage to regrow her edges ❤
Lmao that guilty little face is so funny! 😂
Soooo true. I had to tell my daughter that at an early age and she started seeing people of color with baldness when they used to have hair. She takes care of her hair now of course but her type of is not like mine so I had to let her know her hair is beautiful so she doesn’t grow up with a complex about it
As a baby boomer, not one of my high school graduates or college friends had or wore wigs and now as a senior my girlfriends all have their edges. Other than medical issues if you take care of your hair and it will stay.
This man is keeping it real and he's all about hair knowledge. LOVE THIS!!!💕
Ohhhh I need more of this show
I'm an old white Mamaw, and watching that hurts my heart😢
I hope it comes back!
She is too cute. She has really nice hair too.
When I wore wigs I would sew an elastic band from ear to ear and it would go on at the nape of my neck. No pulls, no glue.
I just had a big ass head
THIS>>> Been using an elastic band for years, way before the the glueless wig trend.
Elastic isn't good for your hair either as he said so it probably doesn't pull them back but st kills them off a little bit or prevents them them growing
I love how he just walked away when she said glue them down😂♥️
She’s absolutely gorgeous
The best part about cutting off my hair as an adult and growing it back out natural was how much I learned about hair by doing my own research, and trial and error on my own hair of course. In all my years going to many different salons not once did they actually give me a consultation and explain what I needed.
You can't have it both ways. You either keep the bands and glue with no edges or change it up
She’s gorgeous!
FINALLY. I've been screaming this . . . especially to my momma. These stylist don't care about ur hair. This one speaks the truth.
She sounds like that because we have such a complex relationship with hair. All the things you do to cut time, cut down maintenance comes at a price. Access is huge. Lifestyle also plays a part. I’m often torn between feeling like my hair looks and feeling like I want my hair to look.
Still learning. Still growing.
Ladies stop damaging your edges with tension and glue🤫 He truly cares!!!
I laughed so hard when he threw his hands up and walked off 😅
I love how she says “o-oh okay…”
A hair stylist that cares like him is hard to find nowadays. A stylist that my mom knew for years messed up her hair so bad gluing a wig to her actual hair & edges. I do my own wigs when I want to wear one so my mom called me over to talk about it & I called her stylist out for it as I told my mom to not let her do that to her hair beforehand. Apparently she claimed I was wrong since I wasn’t licensed & yet she has no edges while I still have mine 🙄 I appreciate this man for being honest & caring about his client ❤
I like this guy! A trusted hairdresser that's concerned about hair care.
Wow this is the best dressed stylist I have ever seen. What a gorgeous tie
She is gorgeous with beautiful hair, I hope she gets her edges back ❤️
She still doing something right. She has plenty of hair. she just doesn't know how to work with natural hair
Thats because she braiding it up and putting it in protective styles and glueing down her edges. And when it’s in a natural state, she’s pulling it back. Just a lot of tension, not bad hair maintenance all together though.
The problem isn’t the rest of her hair, he’s clearly addressing only her edges, which is where the damage is
Bangie b - You're right ⭐👑
Preach it brother!!! You know what you know. It's always hard to convince clients, that they may be the cause of the problem.
I like how gentle he is while making the point clear. Reality shows have too much shaming and negative vibes
Great suggestions for all of us!