It's also difficult for a 25 year old Muslim man to get married. It's insanely expensive. The bride's family is either asking a ridiculous amount of money (dowry) or a house outright paid off. I mean, which young man has that, and even if you do, would you sign up for something like this? The demands put on young men are ridiculous. Lots of men simply can't meet those demands, so it doesn't materialize.
This hit hard and has rattled me. I have come close sooooooo many times with women and have had multiple chances with them literally begging me for it, but I couldn't do it for fear of eternal damnation... and it's taking its toll. I could easily just marry any girl who is remotely interested, but that isn't fair to me or her if I'm not into her. I don't think I'm asking for much in a wife, I just need mutual attraction. I just crossed 30 and can relate to these issues. I feel totally and utterly helpless. May Allah save myself and other brothers struggling with me. This pain is unbearable.
@@KrimzunFlare can't you find someone you are attracted to? You need to ask yourself why? Is it because you demand something you can't afford, like the sisters who are average but think they are entitled to exceptional man.
Don't listen to these people bro, it's ridiculous to marry someone your not attracted to. What's the point in marrying a girl who can't satisfy your needs and you won't want to satisfy hers, that would just be a waste of time. Its not much to ask for to be in shape and take care of their appearance, if they can't do in order to get married then unlikely they'll do it once they're married. If they're begging for it then thats a good sign that your far more attractive than them and they know that they can't get someone else close to you. From your profile pic I can see you look a reasonable attractive and in shape guy tbh. I've been in your situation a few times on these apps where women blur pictures and try to delay showing pics till they hook you in emotionally, when you finally see the pictures they've used filters or the pictures are from years ago. Then they try to delay meeting up with you in person but they wanna speak on the phone everyday. Women want men out of they're league, same as men. Just be patient, 30 doesn't meant anything, its just a number
I totally relate to your analysis brother. Being single at my 30 and never experiencing intimacy with a girl turned out to be very difficult for me psychologicaly. May allah relieve me from that.
@@badisariche3422 I am younger than you guys but totally relate to your stories my brothers. It gives me inner strength by knowing I am not alone in this struggle. I am glad that you guys pulled it so far. May Allah give us sabr and may he forgive us.
To those brothers who are unmarried and may stay unmarried for whatever reasons, be happy because your loneliness is an opportunity to spend time with Allah!! Spend your time in the mosque, learn Arabic, read Quran, do dawah work, community work, go abroad and do some voluntary work helping deprived Muslims etc. Your loneliness can be a great opportunity for you to get close with Allah and do good deeds.
OMG, this is EXACTLY to the letter what happened to me and I am currently 33!!! I even thought about going to a doctor but was too embarrassed. Just like Mahdi Tidjani said, I became really fussy and started saying that my potential wife has to be so and so and I always tried finding excuses to not marry someone I could not find attracted to and many of these women were very good sisters, they were good looking, educated, religious etc but I was just not willing to settle down in search of better because I thought that I waited so long, whats a couple more years to find the "right one". Then my parents became frustrated and went back to the home country and found a girl; they would not listen to me, my excuses etc etc they said that I HAVE to get married to that girl because Everyone has found her good in every single way and that it would be abnormal for someone like me to not find her worthy. So here I am, now after so long, forced to settle down. Because honestly, its too ridiculous. Younger men; DO NOT ever get into my situation ever. Establish yourselves by 25, and just get married because for us muslims, there is simply no other way like dating or committing other types of zina.
the problem is strictly economic and societal, young people aren't given any shot at working and making wealth and have to obtain useless degrees, and the wealth is being held away from them by the older generation
The issue with men being in their 30s and still unmarried is that a lot of sisters will only consider a guy no more than 5 years older than her...so if you want a girl in her 20s and you look considerably older than 35 it's probably not going to happen
@@jijomh3428 its probably the price the womans families are setting like 10k to 20k along with the mendi for himself then he has to pay for half the wedding plus a dawri for which is set from 7 to 10k on average I've seen both my uncles get married off and their total spend was like 18k to 21k for everything like the mendi then the engagement then weeding plus 10k dawri for the woman unless u have good negotiation with them then u should be fine
@@FA9082 Cap. A lot of women like a guy to be considerably older. I've seen countless women in their early to mid twenties only open to guys in their thirties
@@baba_q5848 i agree. when u own super big company with a list of divisions, that you cant even publish have websites /advertise for clients because of jealously and other things , life becomes suepr werid May Allah help us - Abdul Traya
@@jenny-DDare you a Muslimah? What is wrong w marriage it prevents us from grave sin of unmarried sex which is also a 2 headed snake it can lead to 2 things when it gets outta control, 1. Unplanned childred 2. STDs if wreckless
Bro, You are absolutely on the spot except for one thing. Many young Men been cought in haram release since the age you've been married, you're talking about a different generation that've been exposed to all kinds of fitnah. Me and most of my peers at some point of thier lifes "if they couldn't get married or got carried" shift the release from one haram to another that's all you can do. I'm 30 and i feel intoxicated if i don't see my girl for 2weeks, exactly my limit. Thx alot for speaking for us man you're always on the right balance of things, much love ✌️
where I live you need to actually own a big nice house (not even a small one) and have to make good money in order to get married, the standards are ridiculous. and everyone is getting married 28+ at minimum !!
If you don't have a big house, make a lot of money, nice car, have a high degree or multiple degrees then you won't be considered. The standards have gotten ridiculous.
@@N.F.E. time to stick to celibate mindset, marriage has became crazy expensive, it's gonna happen but it will take most of us years to be ready, one thing I know for sure, imma get every penny's worth out of my marriage, if you have high standards you better meet those standards yourself when push comes to shove.
Very interesting how much empathy you have for Muslim brothers who are unmarried and having a hard time getting married -and in the same breath, you belittle women who are unmarried and suffering from the same thing in this Dunya!
if you feel you've been ignored by girls in your current location, look elsewhere. insanity is doing the same thing and expecting a different result, and the years will go by faster than you think if you don't take decisive action.
I think 30 hits different because everyone else is getting married and have children,and also nobody is your friend because everyone is married so you have noone to hang around with except 20year olds ,the 30 year old friends are all reaching that mature time and I'm still figuring stuff out phase for so long!! Even after getting two degrees in something I don't actually like but I done it so now I'm on another venture like business ,lol ahh , Allah knows best .I believe there is a plan for me or something will happen that will put the puzzles together hopefully one day
Rather than watching these depressing RUclips videos, just get off it and work on yourself and trust Allah. Don't be so attached ton it. Infact be totally detached and live your life to fullest. Life is way to short to obsess and worry about these things. Life is too short to moan about and be complacent.
That would require being ABLE to, I have epilepsy, almost never leave the house, my family have put so many safety precautions on me, I have no job experience, had left university during my second semester and I feel lured to Haram, feel useless, Incapable and suicdal. All your points require someone being capable and having other strengths to put your hope in and protect you, I struggle with the trought: IF (huge emphasis on the if) I can get through this life with this life on the right path Allah will regard well, but will I manage or will I dig myself deeper into haram? (The thought that maybe I should settle for a less painful level or hell before I earn a really painful level of hell, I struggle to find hope, but know Allah is possible of everything, ask dua, but feel like Allah' plans to give me what I want and try to stand firm and survive, but don't feel I will manage.
@@GulliversFlo Bro, at the end of the day, mathematically it has to make sense. What you're talking about is not a real solution for mass. Some of us will be lucky but the rest will suffer in this degenerative society. When most of our Muslimah women are looking for rich guys to fund their lifestyle and being tricked, very few really can have such stable family and life style. It's supply and demand. You're asking for A, but A is not there anymore, all are Bs. Now you will have to keep fighting to get A unless you're born to an extremely rich parents or you will have to do Haram first!! This is not a solution brother for the majority of men who are struggling through this.
@@ProvideProtect I try, I'm trying to find a job despite not caring about the field whatsoever but seeing nothing else accessible. I've been asking my parents to help me find a wife and been making muslim marriage site accounts. When you feel locked in and don't see ways to leave that situation, it's not easy. I can be praying often, but I need to accept that God has his plans and I nust work hard to take my tests and accept that I can't open doors God has closed. Remembering my Lord and my family are my wills to live, remembering the tests of the prophets and that Allah only gives tests we can handle is strengthening, thinking about what I have already gone through is strengthening. This world is a test, I often find an analogy of excercise nice, short term pain for long term gains.
I disagree but understand as I have come across sisters who don't like a guy in their 30s I kid you not I got rejected for being 5 years older by one girl. But I know it would of been a mistake marrying in my 20s I matured late no different than most men these days. I gain wisdom and knowledge to find the right women and is now married. My advice marry at your peak but don't be too picky focus on three things mine was is she loyal, has good values and is attractive. God willing you find it just have a open mind and open heart just do your homework on female nature and don't be naive
I´ve also kind of given up. 35 and still a virgin and unmarried. Pretty brutal. Never talked to a woman due to social anxiety. I KNOW I will never get married, but I still believe it can change if Allah wills
We spent our twenties busy building career, once we are ready to marry all the women from our generation were taken. Younger girls are doing Only fans and Zina everywhere. If you are unmarried man in 30s better stay unmarried for rest of the life.
I totally agree. I am 31 now, I been trying to get married since I was 24-25 (first time i got a serious job). Now I look back, my bar was sooo low man, I wanted to get married really bad. I have courted sisters, by the will of Allah I have turned from marriage almost last minutes. It never happened. Now I am grown man with better position in life, the quality of woman I want is high, the age is lower. My confidence level and life experience has grown and it is really affecting me to settle with an "onion". I used to get attracted and excited over every girl, I was really interested, and wanting to marry. But now... Almost nobody excites me
Reading this I felt like I was reading my own situation. This life isn’t easy. May allah grant us all the right spouses that are good for us and our families. Ameen
the prophet peace be upon him said those who don't desire his sunnah are not from him, and marriage is a great sunnah that completes our deen mothers are honored in islam, not women with diplomas and six figures.
Why are some people so obsessed and triggered by a Muslim woman who happens to be educated and making good money if she is God conscious, has proper intentions and is not infringing upon anyone’s rights? I think this mentality is what needs to be addressed in men. You should choose your wife based in her deen character and she conducts herself not rule her out based in her education and career. This is so foolish and contrary to our deen which encourages men AND women to be strong believers and to be keen on pursuing what benefits them. Allah SWT will question a single woman who had time money and education on how she used it for the sake of Allah. And he will question the mother on her responsibilties toward her children and raisinf them upon the faith and so on and so forth. So the issue is a matter of priorities depending in where Allah SWT puts us in each stage of life. So please stop demonizjng educated and financially successful strong Muslimahs. Instead, do better and become even more successful as a brother so that you will not feel insecure or like you’re not enough when you’ve married her
This made me cry bro i used to relate to this so hard but for now fasting and pursuing my purpose is my survival. Your onion example reminded me of when sheikh Assim said if one struggles to not fall in haram he should lower his standards and just get married. What do you say about this akhi? Do we get married to someone we are not attracted to? To save ourselves from haram?
@@alghurraba Sister, if he does marry a divorcee, no virgin girl is gonna marry him to be his second wife, unless he turns out to be a hypersuccessful man. Virgin girls have options. It would prudent to get a virgin as a first wife, then for a second wife, a divorcee. But yes if one is desperate, get what you can.
@@alghurraba fair points. But men should be careful about divorcees as there are ones who initiated their divorce. The availability of men desiring such women encourages more divorces. Widows are different and some divorcees are good as well.
@@Pagalchhagal "the availability of men desiring such women encourages divorce" wdym? if it encourages sisters who are in abusive marriage to leave then that's W
@@alghurraba "are you sure all.." if you have reading problems stop posting comments here find something better to do. I didnt realize you were a feminist chameleon and you lost credibility.
I got married at 24. I wish I had married earlier. No matter how long I have waited, I would have never had enough to get married. So please brothers, get married early and grow old together.
@@Manaiike I finished my graduation and told my parents that I wanted to get married. I never had high demands. We met a few families, which helped both sides to understand if we were all the same. When both families agreed, we went ahead. It didn’t take more than a week. I always believed if you are honest then you always find the same. Rest you trust on Allah as He knows the Best. Hope that helps.
There are a lot of things that I disagree with in your content. But this video is genuine and I can now understand why you may be passionate about this topic. As a woman listening to your perspective and the struggles men are going through it is definitely an eye opener and helps us understand men and why they behave in anger and frustration sometimes.
My guy, if you don’t have access to sex the halal way through marriage, the prophet Muhammad recommended fasting and remaining chaste. Yes it takes alot of will power and self control but it is jihad al-nafs and it is doable. Allah knows best.
I'm past age 30 and at this point I don't know that marriage will happen for me. I wasn't in a good situation to do so and I was doing things I shouldn't have been doing. I have made mistakes. It would be nice to get married but given the way things have gone for me growing up, I feel as though marriage won't happen for me.
My brother, i will be absolutely BLUNT with you on this. One of the ways of shaytaan to catch you, is that he targets your hopefulness. Do not give shaytaan what he wants. Losing hope is giving the shaytaan what he wants. Never ever say "marriage won't happen for me" ever again. Do not lose Hope in Allah. As long as you are alive, you can make things happen!
I'm 31, unmarried, committed lots of haram. Im sick and tired of it and now want to have a marriage inshaAllah. Dont give up, keep striving for the halal.
@@samik3184 with Tauba and good intentions inshallah great things well happen to you I hope you find the women that well make your life the best it can ever be
I blame the parents. i keep telling my parents i want to get married. And the answer is always "Finish all your college degrees first." THEY ARENT EVEN BOTHERED TO LOOK FOR A MAN FOR ME. I have a man in mind. but they have rejected him numerous times
@@Nadia-gi5ux If you truly love him and hes a good man, why not just marry him. Family is important but if they are stopping you from your own future/happiness i wouldnt suggest it.
It's just as bad for muslim women if not worse. You should do an episode on non married muslim women. This is where you'll find the hikmah of polygamy. It's an epidemic
See the problem is men are supposed to be PROVIDERS for females but by the time they reach that age is close to 30 since most don’t finish school or get to save $$ to buy a house till then. So by the time they start looking at age 30 or up, it’s a lonely process particularly if those males don’t have rich family.
I've been of this impression that men really don't care of their age when it comes to marriage esp. before 40s. But here this video. May Allah bless all my brothers and sisters with best spouses and children and a happy fulfilling life and may they reunite in Jannah.. Aameen 🤲
I had no choice for marriage. I´m a 35-year-old man. Virgin and unmarried. Unfortunately, I suffer from severe social anxiety and avoidant personality disorder. That has lead me to never talking to a woman before. I live on my own. I hope I get married one day. I have never been around a woman before...
Don't worry. There is a solution. But first understand that you suffer from nothing you don't choose to suffer from. If you accept that, I can counsel you in a few short sentences back to health, if Allaah wills, and it is your choice to accept or reject.
Jahhylia days left me futureless, I had a very wild bad adolescent and a broke infancy coming from a broken home. I was raised under the impression of being an Outlaw bastard, and all I did was run the streets. I had all the fun Let's say. Or maybe not that much of fun, now that today I'm a practicing Muslim. It's been years now, since I left that life, but it's becoming unbearable, especially when summer comes. Jahhylia left me Uneducated, skill-less and all the negative you can put. I have tried to get married, no one gives their daughter for Deen nowadays. And I can't blame them. I can't even give Mehr, buy a ring, or whatever. I feel Hopeless, helpless At times is so depressing because I don't want to engage in Harram The deed ain't worth it, but it's a meccessity!
Subhan'Allah, I've noticed that many people who reach the age of 30+ and find themselves unmarried were usually people who wasted their prime years in unserious relationship(s). Those prime years could have been spent getting to know people for the sake of marriage for max a few months, and getting the nikkah done once they're satisfied with a match, instead of wasting years on long-term haram relationship that didn't amount to anything in the end
Not everyone who is single after 30 is in that situation because of past "haram" relationships. That's a very narrow minded way of looking at your fellow Muslims and not to mention the sin of accusations. Some people have had to deal with the loss of a parent, may have had to become sole breadwinners of their family due to the remaining parent being disabled etc. Such was the situation in my case where my dad passed away from a sudden heart attack and I was forced to care for my sick mother, while also holding a job to pay the household bills. Allah swt tests everyone in different ways. It would not be possible to leave my mum and run off to get married, because there is no one else to look after her as she needs 24 hour care.
If a man is married to a beautiful lady & after some years of marriage his wife starts to ignore about taking care of her appearance i.e not to put nice dress or makeup even if her husband likes it or asks her to do it. She even puts on weight, wear unattractive clothes even when they both are alone in the bedroom, does things that turns the guy off i.e doesn't brush her teeth which causes her mouth to smell. She knows what her husband wants (dress, makeup, jewelry etc) but kinda ignores his desires or fantasies. So, what should he do? He feels the pain inside that his desires have been crushed because he knows that it's only his wife who can fulfill his desires in a halal way. He loves her & she loves him too but she just seem to ignore his intimate feelings.
In islam, in this religion woman already taught how wife should be, by your story the woman or the wife doesnt have that knowledge yet, but i dont agree with putting a weight coz if you rich as her husband you could get her to go to the nutrition doctor to lose weight in a healthy way, coz not every woman has an easy way to lose weight after giving birth they need help from professional, so you could do something in that as husband help your wife to get her body back not just by criticizes her without solution, coz in islam the husband play the role to give solution for every problem his wife has.
@@tjc4085 Men prefer natural beauty but that which is maintained. If you try to stay improper, messy then that will put the man in off mode. So you cheer him up, a women (wife) should get herself some nice dress (not some fancy one but something that is eye catchy), use perfume, get her hair right & a little makeup will also add stars to her beauty & when a man gets home after work & he finds dinner ready, house clean & his wife in this way than it's like a paradise for him.
@@biologiteacher3470 Agree with that but there are certain things that men look for & they have told their wives about their likes & dislikes & women have more sense & knowledge about what her man wants & what he doesn't. So if a women has gained or lost weight due to some illness then it's definitely not her fault & she deserves the relaxation & help during her tough period. It's the man's duty to assist & help her in all the areas he can even with children + houseworks. But of she is healthy but too lazy to look after herself than what should a man do? He can just ask her to do what pleases him. After all he cannot drag her to the gym or forcefully make her to look good if she is just stubborn to care about his likes. Some women after marriage think that now they don't need to stay in shape or look good because they have found a husband & "mission accomplished" but a man always want his wife to be in the best beauty possible. It keeps his mood calm, not wanting to distract & stay focused.
@@WaqarAhmed-qg6ur is ur wife a house wife or does she work too? This dressing up sounds like alot to ask if she’s working a job too. Trust me dressing up isn’t comfortable for women so it’d be asking for too much unless ur providing 100%!
This goes straight against every single semen retention benefit there is. I would've believed most of what Mahdi said if I didn't try retaining myself. If you do not ejaculate, the body actually USES the resources within the seed (Calcium, magnesium , potassium, zinc, proteins and whatnot) if you retain it. How come one does feel empowered, brainfog-free, full of motivation after a month of retaining your seed? This is not subjective btw, this is objective. Almost every single man in my environment has said this not to mention the entire movement behind nofap reports the same. I don't say don't ever have sex, but Mahdi makes it seem like being celebate is physically unhealthy. Which is utter bullshit ofcourse. Most things he is promoting (like becoming fit and dominant) is directly linked to celebacy. Contradictory of him to say these things. Oh and IF there's a need for the body to release, then wet dreams exists.
@@Bobsanders453 I've been researching Mahdis videos just to get a solid view about him before I judge him and I agree with you two, if you're able to control yourself you'll not get "pain".
Hot damn brothas, dudes ain't women, we ain't got no biological clock. 30s, 40s, and beyond ain't nothin for a man, never has been, never will be. Not saying to postpone marriage, but success trumps all. Don't fall into sin, get successful, and there's no reason you can't get a young chaste woman. If you have low self esteem, there's a tsunami of unwed, neverwed, childless 30+ year old muslim women out there, and they're looking harder at the clock than y'alls. Don't trip. Don't fall into sin. Pray more.
Diff for Muslim men, people look at u a little funny, question if you’ve had haram relationships etc., it’s not the religious advise to delay marriage either sooo yh it’s not gonna make u look good if ur looking for a good Muslim women too. Perhaps a woman who doesn’t care for deen will be happy that u have money but otherwise, u see religious families often getting sons and daughters married young
@Shuayb Islam Everyone shootin blanks then cuz I don't know what world you're living in where it takes 5 months for a young lad to make a child or 2 years for a 40 year old to lol. Of course men age and lose out on vitality/test/etc, but it's over for women in their late 30s while it is far from over for a good man in his late 30s. It's common out here for elders in our African community to grab a 2nd/3rd wife late in life and have more children into their 70s. If you as a man are declining as fast as a woman, you got serious health issues and are probably losing your bullets daily to porn and sin.
@@tjc4085 It's cool to, but if you find yourself unable to find a good woman while you're young, and you got self control, don't trip by putting yourself mentally in the same boat as women is what I was trying to say. Of course it's good to marry early, and you should by all means to prevent bad outcomes.
learning from multiple youtube videos about relationships, men under 30 normally are not ready to get married when regarding to money, age 20-30 is the time to start saving money, invest, and prepare for the next step in life (marriage), especially living in western countries where women are very delusional wanting from their partners, and the current state of economy adding to that pressure with soaring inflation, high living cost etc. in my opinion, starting to find a marriage near and past 30 is the norm right now. feminism and toxic muscularity also making it worst for us men. i am 34 un married, wasted my time during my 20s just to purchase and invest in a house which most people unable to do...and im glad my hard earn efforts is paying off. men age like fine wine while women have expiration date as they get older (harder making babies)
Dude im 26 Im going to find someone inshallah by 27 who wants to build with me not me kill myself by myself ive been killing myself since 20-26 I want my wife my friend my teammate.
@@muradshawar yeah bro wish the best for you. I suppose you are financially stable by 27. Hope you find a good woman who can support you, avoid women who are materialistic. Good luck
@@andangsudradjat7379 Inshallah we both find good woman . In charlotte NC most of them are materialistic man . Not to mention home priced have ballooned . By work with me I mean the first 3-4 years we combine incomes and work on getting the home paid for . Thing is not many woman want to do that they want to spend the money on BS things . It might be easier for me to try and find online job and go overseas Ill be way happier outside USA and can always come back if I have to.
Alot of the brothers here had the chance but didn't settle down or realize that if you were fit and aesthetic you could easily have commanded your wife the same. And none of the brothers here were ambitious enough to even consider polygyny. Get a good humble religious 1st wife then marry the 2nd one with great beauty.
Wow a lot of you are HURTING in the comments. I beg you all to seek help and not give up. Allah’s plan for every individual is different. We all have different tests and trials. What we must do is make sure we overcome those challenges or learn to cope with them. For the sake of your health, do something small every day to change your mindset. May Allah make it easy for us all
and if your not 6ft tall and making 6figure and handsome look i am from florida it sucks too get married those are requirements for women in 2022 i am 31 years old and single cause one women requirements are crazy in America. also i might go over seas too marry but i wont bring my wife too america i live with my wife so she wont get corrupted by feminism
Allah says quoting Ibrahim's(A. S) saying in the Quraan "Only the disbelievers loses hope from Allah's mercy" So the scholars said losing hope from Allah's mercy is disbelief and don't let any Shaitaan lead you in doing so
I believe you are referring to the prophet Ya'qoob alayhis salaatu was salaam Surah Yusuf, Verse 87: يَا بَنِيَّ اذْهَبُوا فَتَحَسَّسُوا مِن يُوسُفَ وَأَخِيهِ وَلَا تَيْأَسُوا مِن رَّوْحِ اللَّهِ إِنَّهُ لَا يَيْأَسُ مِن رَّوْحِ اللَّهِ إِلَّا الْقَوْمُ الْكَافِرُونَ "O my sons! Go you and enquire about Yusuf (Joseph) and his brother, and never give up hope of Allah's Mercy. Certainly no one despairs of Allah's Mercy, except the people who disbelieve."
Man, I have had this exacttttt same problem in my life! Except, I’m not Muslim, my dilemma sucks even though I am not Muslim because I simply am anti masturbation, an anti porn. Therefore, I can only physically sleep with a beautiful woman or else I won’t be satisfied. But I do get inteeennnssseee urges an it pisses me off
looking at my married friends who complain on this and that, and a lot of divorced couple around me with kids. and now, looking at your video. Totally 2 different world. different views. So yeah, you are 50% rights and 50% wrong
Im enjoying the single post 33 year old life. Me and Allah (swa) all the way, yet i will have to get married at some point, it is Sunnah! And I love Sunnah. I am enjoying the solitude of my life living on my own, going to work, praying and fasting and eating less and not going out except to see family. I hope to find a wife that will join me in getting closer to Allah (swa) and not push me far away from Him, Allahumma Ameen
If marriage doesn't happen it's a reason you can't find a good spouse nowadays because majority women are influenced into social media and high demanding. I will get married in Jannah inshallah
I am 27 years old, my older brother and his wife completely ruined my marriage and caused drama which led to my divorce. His wife did a lot of damage and stirring up against my wife, I believe she was super jealous of her, she also said something evil that she wants to drink my wife blood, thats how much hatred she had, What do I do next time if I get married again? She still comes around my house to see my mum.but I dont talk to her, I need help. I am also muslim too.
Assalamualaikum brother u should fight against the evil with the powers of Allah n in this Alim Ulma ekraam the scholars of Islam can make ur connection high with Allah it's different that Allah gave u toufeeq to make a direct connection with Allah
My parents are not doing anything to find me a wife . I don’t know how to tell them . I have hints but I am embarrassed. Living abroad for 8 years alone . I am 26 .
What if that man is not financially stable and i cannot afford even the mahr and he will not be able to take care of his wife like she deserves ? Any advice.
My brother, Get. Good. Go out there and earn some more money. The answer is more. In the meantime, you have to fast. Its not a choice, its a requirement from our Prophet may peace be upon him. The world today makes it very very hard for young men such as us to earn the right to enter the door to marriage. Our requirements to a women to marry are three; must be able to give shelter, must be able to provide food on the table, must be able to provide her with clothing. Go, go and go earn your marriage! Its not a problem to be poor, its a problem to stay poor!
You need real life experience and look at the sunnah. I used to think the same way but it is imperative you marry as soon as possible the Will of Allah is supreme
Lmao shutup Mahdi, Abu Huraira r.a stated single until 40s to take care of his mother. Stop giving people fomo, life is about acquiring jannah, pray Allah makes that easier thru a pious spouse but if it doesn’t happen, then that’s ur test
Man's comparing the most pious of men and women to normal blokes. Men were God fearing and extremely hard working and the women had lower standards for marriage.
It is no way harder for men to marry in their 30s at all because that's when they have like 30k stacked and could easily get married to a 23 year old easily but for women it is way harder because she loses 80% of her fertility and looks and is way harder for the family to put like a 10 to 15k dawri for her
@Shuayb Islam its still the same yeah for men it got harder because now women want more but the mens investment in younger virgin fertility still stays the same if u are Muslim u should be ashamed that u still don't know this
@Shuayb Islam He is well updated, a women in her 30s lose her fertility way faster, and she ages quicker due to loss of collagen, and she has lesser options.
@@dailydeen5742 nah. Ur wrong. A woman in her 30s is still gonna have interested males. Have u not seen the stats tor men and how hard it is to get attention. Also, the beauty industry has advanced sooo much, women know how to keep looking young at 30. Im shocked at the number of women at 30 who look good these days so that’s not a concern but the fertility thing might be. Truthfully, women have until 35 until they’re in real trouble with fertility as that 10% could still holdout.
@@therepublic7708 it’s not impossible tho. The cut off is 35+ and most women are having kids in their early 30s. It’s possible with all the info we have out there. I would say the age to be worried about fertility is actually late 30 for women. My grandma has kids in her 40s as well. Someone women come from families where it’s just possible. Not a novelty at all.
Pray, earn, jihad,Be with your wives(marry 2 to 3 women atleast) and repeat. Men who lived like this have lived a glorious life. But unfortunately gone are those era of glory.
Brother Salam amualakum .. it’s really hard now of days to get married Muslim women as so influence by social media their expectations are so high are only will to married that 1 % men everyone is invisible..
Do Muslims believe in sexual transmutation or sexual alchemy? Basically redirecting the sexual energy with meditation, conscious awareness and relaxation
@@Dhuxul9 No? You may want to check out Saudi or some other big cities in the Muslim world. Plenty of scandals. I am not condoning it. The only difference is, in the West it's more open (and accepted?) and in the Muslim world it's all behind closed doors. Just like the alcohol and the child abuses in madrassas. Don't get me started...
The perfect age for Muslim male to be married is 23 to 26 in this modern times, I would say after 28 it gets hard and after 34, very very hard for a Muslim male to get married. Muslim female perfect age is modern times for her to be married 18 to 22, anything after 22 becomes problematic, i wont state why for controversial reasons.
I'm 26, I want to find a wife but have epilepsy, no job experience, dropped out of university in my second semester and have barely left the house in the last 8 years, my parents have set safety precautions for my seizures. The only skill I can find in myself is my skill with kids, but my epillepsy also makes me worried I could injure my niece and nephew. I keep finding myself lured into Haram masturbation and seeing pornography, I've felt hopeless, try to rely on Allah? But have even considered and attempted suicide (I was yhinking I can't get heaven, let's settle for the least dangerous parts of hell before I dig myself into the worse levels, maybe I can die with only the sins of porn masturbation and suicde and dodge worse sons like disbelief or zina) I keep repenting and thinking that my only hope is to find a wife, but I have no reason for a wife to want me, no way to find me and my parents won't bother trying to arrange meetings. My wife has become either my phone or my couch. At least video games can keep me busy and my niece and nephew give me a will to live.
Bro where are you from? Your situation is lietrally 1:1 same with mine, except for me not having epilrpsy nor nieces or nephews! Im also going to get 26, never worked, finished school with 22, broke up university after 3rd semester, prepating for another university, not really social active, i have like 0 friends, also played video games a lot ( i quit for now and dont intend to ever play again, i started body-exercising) and my parents literally been the worst at parenting me until 18! Between 18-22 i was extremly overweight and when i asked for help from mom and dad they denied! I never forget that, up from that time i have serious depressions coming and going because of my life! I was never ok with short height and also i have been teached islam very wrong! And also i wanted to have a wife! I had so many occasions getting a girlfriend and didnt, because i knew it was haram, but now i dont know why but i feel guilty being a muslim for trying to do halal things, because its impossible, especially if you became more conservative over the years. And i thought about suicide a lot as well. I made up my mind if within 1 or 2 yeara nothing changes in my life, i will take this as granted and Allahs will and i will give up all of my dreams and try to be happy with it! My parents made big mistakes whrn i warned them back in my 18s and them never listening to me and i was just very obedient, because i thought it was haram to be against parents. But i think after this or next year im done with life, not intending to suicide, thats why i started doing sports and im also gonna look gor other hobbies! Otherwise i will end up in zina, video games and suicide and also drugs! This is 100% guaranteed, i know myself
Rubbing one out in Islam is debatable. Many scholars such as Dr. Shabir Ally doesnt consider it haram. Also if it hurts then just masterbait. You should not be in pain. And yes, i agree. Definitely try to get married by age 25 or before
I have yet to know if any Muslim woman, rich or poor, in any country, divorced or widowed or a virgin, who would marry a rich man along with 3 other women.
@Samir Very, very sad to think of women having to “tolerate” their marriage and their husband for the rest of their lives instead of actually liking either (let alone loving).
Bro i am nearly 30 and have a fantasy of going for married women it always happens i like the chase and i feel like if I was getting married i would cheat instantly any advice?
If from the USA or western nation, just make your money then go an Muslim nation and get married… meet a woman at the masjid and most importantly don’t be weird
They should go just for the "taqwa" or iman based women who may be uneducated, village women even they dont share common lifestyle. This modern system made post puberty marriage complicated, but post puberty se* isn’t. So a 14 year old girl or less and similiar old boys does se* without marriage which is healthy for body (not for a family though). But it is better than living as a muslim virgin for 20+ year old aligning with this individual based society. It is high time, we get out of this system and demand a community based system thats not based on individualism, friendly towards martial relationship and family. The system is the main evil, not men or women. but to dismantle it, we as men & women should sacrifice our worth, demand, intelligence, asset etc. Just to bond more relations, make more babies that will make our community based society strong & united. Until then, we also have to fight this evil.
For some reason, the topic of modern women only wanting the top ten percent of earners reminds me of the Yennish, who are one of the last surviving tribes of ancient nomadic Celts in Western Europe, who survive by blending in with the homeless people and living like hunter-gatherers in the fringes of modern society. They have a unique arranged marriage cycle in which different generations marry first cousin, then second through to fifth, back and forth between paternal and maternal sides. The cycle eventually starts many generations later. And if the sacred cycle is broken, they are no longer considered Yennish by their families. Some groups survive through pouching and goat herding in the mountains, some through trade and crime, but all try to pretend that Germans don't exist and live like it's still 200 BC. They call themselves the last descendants of the pre-germanic Helvetians. My main point is that there should be a balance, and our modern society, particularly the West, is on the opposite side of the spectrum from the Yenish gypsies. We place a great value on wealth and feel that we cannot get married until we are rich, even if we can clothe and feed our families, yet the Yenish chase a life of extreme poverty amongst the wealthiest nations on earth and get married in their early teens. Both ways are too extreme, one should try to gain wealth and not be poor, but should not waste our entire lives trying to save money for a family that will never come because we waited too long. Inshallah, we Muslim brothers and sisters should view our lives with death in mind, knowing that our time is short and we must make good use of it, neither wasting it in poverty nor loneliness, and our sisters should realize that it is foolish to base your happiness off of winning the man lottery!
Hi 🖐️, Im 38 yr old single, i just Reverted to Islam now. Well challenge is challenge. Allah will guide to my wonderful life partner. Inshallah 🤲
InshAllah
Ya inshallah but i will not lie bro i stuggle alot , i suppose i wish i had found islam much younger so so badly .
I’ll pray for you brothers. Allah keep your hearts and eyes steadfast on what matters the most, the rest shall follow inshaAllah.
insha'Allah you'll get married bro, you're new to Islam and even born Muslims struggling into their 40s!
Ameen
It's also difficult for a 25 year old Muslim man to get married. It's insanely expensive. The bride's family is either asking a ridiculous amount of money (dowry) or a house outright paid off. I mean, which young man has that, and even if you do, would you sign up for something like this? The demands put on young men are ridiculous. Lots of men simply can't meet those demands, so it doesn't materialize.
May Allah make it easy for young men and women to get married 🤲
May Allah increase our rizq and may He SWT ease parents hearts 🤲
@@ji_ho1309Sustenance
This hit hard and has rattled me. I have come close sooooooo many times with women and have had multiple chances with them literally begging me for it, but I couldn't do it for fear of eternal damnation... and it's taking its toll. I could easily just marry any girl who is remotely interested, but that isn't fair to me or her if I'm not into her. I don't think I'm asking for much in a wife, I just need mutual attraction.
I just crossed 30 and can relate to these issues. I feel totally and utterly helpless. May Allah save myself and other brothers struggling with me. This pain is unbearable.
@@alghurraba Why do you think I'm rejecting these women? I'm simply not attracted to them.
Hehe kinda in the same boat ..I missed so many opportunities that felt I could have taken!
@@KrimzunFlare can't you find someone you are attracted to?
You need to ask yourself why? Is it because you demand something you can't afford, like the sisters who are average but think they are entitled to exceptional man.
@@abdirahman292 I don't think I'm asking for too much. They don't need to be a model. Just need to be attracted to them.
Don't listen to these people bro, it's ridiculous to marry someone your not attracted to. What's the point in marrying a girl who can't satisfy your needs and you won't want to satisfy hers, that would just be a waste of time. Its not much to ask for to be in shape and take care of their appearance, if they can't do in order to get married then unlikely they'll do it once they're married. If they're begging for it then thats a good sign that your far more attractive than them and they know that they can't get someone else close to you. From your profile pic I can see you look a reasonable attractive and in shape guy tbh. I've been in your situation a few times on these apps where women blur pictures and try to delay showing pics till they hook you in emotionally, when you finally see the pictures they've used filters or the pictures are from years ago. Then they try to delay meeting up with you in person but they wanna speak on the phone everyday.
Women want men out of they're league, same as men. Just be patient, 30 doesn't meant anything, its just a number
I totally relate to your analysis brother. Being single at my 30 and never experiencing intimacy with a girl turned out to be very difficult for me psychologicaly. May allah relieve me from that.
Assalamo alaikum! I´m 35 and I have the same story. How are you doing now?
@@badisariche3422 I am younger than you guys but totally relate to your stories my brothers. It gives me inner strength by knowing I am not alone in this struggle. I am glad that you guys pulled it so far. May Allah give us sabr and may he forgive us.
It's definitely difficult for those who are unmarried but the body does release naturally through wet dreams
28 and single I'm started to feel this now day by day and believe me I have tried everything even flew abroad and that didn't work
To those brothers who are unmarried and may stay unmarried for whatever reasons, be happy because your loneliness is an opportunity to spend time with Allah!! Spend your time in the mosque, learn Arabic, read Quran, do dawah work, community work, go abroad and do some voluntary work helping deprived Muslims etc. Your loneliness can be a great opportunity for you to get close with Allah and do good deeds.
OMG, this is EXACTLY to the letter what happened to me and I am currently 33!!! I even thought about going to a doctor but was too embarrassed. Just like Mahdi Tidjani said, I became really fussy and started saying that my potential wife has to be so and so and I always tried finding excuses to not marry someone I could not find attracted to and many of these women were very good sisters, they were good looking, educated, religious etc but I was just not willing to settle down in search of better because I thought that I waited so long, whats a couple more years to find the "right one". Then my parents became frustrated and went back to the home country and found a girl; they would not listen to me, my excuses etc etc they said that I HAVE to get married to that girl because Everyone has found her good in every single way and that it would be abnormal for someone like me to not find her worthy. So here I am, now after so long, forced to settle down. Because honestly, its too ridiculous. Younger men; DO NOT ever get into my situation ever. Establish yourselves by 25, and just get married because for us muslims, there is simply no other way like dating or committing other types of zina.
the problem is strictly economic and societal, young people aren't given any shot at working and making wealth and have to obtain useless degrees, and the wealth is being held away from them by the older generation
I just hit 30 two month ago and I agree and disagree with you.
Nowadays it’s all about money 💰 so many youth can’t afford marriage due to this
yeah! you are right
The issue with men being in their 30s and still unmarried is that a lot of sisters will only consider a guy no more than 5 years older than her...so if you want a girl in her 20s and you look considerably older than 35 it's probably not going to happen
So are you saying you in your 30 you can't afford to get married
@@jijomh3428 its probably the price the womans families are setting like 10k to 20k along with the mendi for himself then he has to pay for half the wedding plus a dawri for which is set from 7 to 10k on average I've seen both my uncles get married off and their total spend was like 18k to 21k for everything like the mendi then the engagement then weeding plus 10k dawri for the woman unless u have good negotiation with them then u should be fine
@@FA9082 Cap. A lot of women like a guy to be considerably older. I've seen countless women in their early to mid twenties only open to guys in their thirties
Non sense. Im 41 not married. Imagine being married today.... with the non sense. This a blessing.
You speak truths
brother you dont have to marry from your country. marry a girl from traditional country.
@@baba_q5848 i agree. when u own super big company with a list of divisions, that you cant even publish have websites /advertise for clients because of jealously and other things , life becomes suepr werid May Allah help us - Abdul Traya
@@jenny-DDare you a Muslimah?
What is wrong w marriage it prevents us from grave sin of unmarried sex which is also a 2 headed snake it can lead to 2 things when it gets outta control, 1. Unplanned childred 2. STDs if wreckless
I honestly think I'm destined to remain single for the rest of my life. Or hopefully I'll be able to get married before 40 inshaAllah
Amen I isha Allah 😊
Which is not worth in the 40, if that happens to me , id better stay alone until i die
I am from India. I have never been married. Been celibate whole life. I am 37.
Do you plan on getting married at some point? Or do you think you're destined to be single for the rest of your life?
Same scenario here bro. 😊
Balls aching!? WTF, Mahdi got some stories!
You are absolutely right !, one of my relatives is over 30 unmarried and he finds no girl attractive or pleasing.
Bro, You are absolutely on the spot except for one thing. Many young Men been cought in haram release since the age you've been married, you're talking about a different generation that've been exposed to all kinds of fitnah. Me and most of my peers at some point of thier lifes "if they couldn't get married or got carried" shift the release from one haram to another that's all you can do. I'm 30 and i feel intoxicated if i don't see my girl for 2weeks, exactly my limit. Thx alot for speaking for us man you're always on the right balance of things, much love ✌️
where I live you need to actually own a big nice house (not even a small one) and have to make good money in order to get married, the standards are ridiculous. and everyone is getting married 28+ at minimum !!
If you don't have a big house, make a lot of money, nice car, have a high degree or multiple degrees then you won't be considered. The standards have gotten ridiculous.
@@N.F.E. time to stick to celibate mindset, marriage has became crazy expensive, it's gonna happen but it will take most of us years to be ready, one thing I know for sure, imma get every penny's worth out of my marriage, if you have high standards you better meet those standards yourself when push comes to shove.
I agree, that happens here in UK too
where you live akhi
@@Yusuf-df6qe NA
Very interesting how much empathy you have for Muslim brothers who are unmarried and having a hard time getting married -and in the same breath, you belittle women who are unmarried and suffering from the same thing in this Dunya!
Hope the females out there are watching this ,,,
Why?
Im 37 and not married, its been a very, very difficult journey for me.
if you feel you've been ignored by girls in your current location, look elsewhere. insanity is doing the same thing and expecting a different result, and the years will go by faster than you think if you don't take decisive action.
I want your advice how did you stay all this time without a wife? Am 22 and am really struggling I think about sex all the time
Same here brother
May Allah ease you my brothers, put ur trust on Allah bruv
@@omaralkayal7598 nothing but natural!!! What is stopping you from marriage?
I think 30 hits different because everyone else is getting married and have children,and also nobody is your friend because everyone is married so you have noone to hang around with except 20year olds ,the 30 year old friends are all reaching that mature time and I'm still figuring stuff out phase for so long!! Even after getting two degrees in something I don't actually like but I done it so now I'm on another venture like business ,lol ahh , Allah knows best .I believe there is a plan for me or something will happen that will put the puzzles together hopefully one day
Don worry I'm 40 and it's ok to be single I've given up
Rather than watching these depressing RUclips videos, just get off it and work on yourself and trust Allah. Don't be so attached ton it. Infact be totally detached and live your life to fullest. Life is way to short to obsess and worry about these things. Life is too short to moan about and be complacent.
Exactly. Remember, this bros main objective is views and engagement as we’re doing right now
That would require being ABLE to, I have epilepsy, almost never leave the house, my family have put so many safety precautions on me, I have no job experience, had left university during my second semester and I feel lured to Haram, feel useless, Incapable and suicdal.
All your points require someone being capable and having other strengths to put your hope in and protect you, I struggle with the trought: IF (huge emphasis on the if) I can get through this life with this life on the right path Allah will regard well, but will I manage or will I dig myself deeper into haram? (The thought that maybe I should settle for a less painful level or hell before I earn a really painful level of hell, I struggle to find hope, but know Allah is possible of everything, ask dua, but feel like Allah' plans to give me what I want and try to stand firm and survive, but don't feel I will manage.
@@GulliversFlo Bro, at the end of the day, mathematically it has to make sense. What you're talking about is not a real solution for mass. Some of us will be lucky but the rest will suffer in this degenerative society. When most of our Muslimah women are looking for rich guys to fund their lifestyle and being tricked, very few really can have such stable family and life style. It's supply and demand. You're asking for A, but A is not there anymore, all are Bs. Now you will have to keep fighting to get A unless you're born to an extremely rich parents or you will have to do Haram first!! This is not a solution brother for the majority of men who are struggling through this.
@@MHShah17 Stop playing victim akhi. Be strong and take control of your life.
@@ProvideProtect I try, I'm trying to find a job despite not caring about the field whatsoever but seeing nothing else accessible. I've been asking my parents to help me find a wife and been making muslim marriage site accounts.
When you feel locked in and don't see ways to leave that situation, it's not easy. I can be praying often, but I need to accept that God has his plans and I nust work hard to take my tests and accept that I can't open doors God has closed.
Remembering my Lord and my family are my wills to live, remembering the tests of the prophets and that Allah only gives tests we can handle is strengthening, thinking about what I have already gone through is strengthening. This world is a test, I often find an analogy of excercise nice, short term pain for long term gains.
I disagree but understand as I have come across sisters who don't like a guy in their 30s I kid you not I got rejected for being 5 years older by one girl. But I know it would of been a mistake marrying in my 20s I matured late no different than most men these days. I gain wisdom and knowledge to find the right women and is now married. My advice marry at your peak but don't be too picky focus on three things mine was is she loyal, has good values and is attractive. God willing you find it just have a open mind and open heart just do your homework on female nature and don't be naive
Marriage has become so difficult Wallahi, I have given up.
It's not worth it, focus on making money and improving your life
I´ve also kind of given up. 35 and still a virgin and unmarried. Pretty brutal. Never talked to a woman due to social anxiety. I KNOW I will never get married, but I still believe it can change if Allah wills
We spent our twenties busy building career, once we are ready to marry all the women from our generation were taken.
Younger girls are doing Only fans and Zina everywhere.
If you are unmarried man in 30s better stay unmarried for rest of the life.
Totally agree, marriage today is not worth it
Not all young women are doing OnlyFans. This is a negative attitude. Find a girl from a different country with Islamic values. Don’t look to the West.
I totally agree. I am 31 now, I been trying to get married since I was 24-25 (first time i got a serious job).
Now I look back, my bar was sooo low man, I wanted to get married really bad. I have courted sisters, by the will of Allah I have turned from marriage almost last minutes. It never happened. Now I am grown man with better position in life, the quality of woman I want is high, the age is lower. My confidence level and life experience has grown and it is really affecting me to settle with an "onion".
I used to get attracted and excited over every girl, I was really interested, and wanting to marry. But now... Almost nobody excites me
Reading this I felt like I was reading my own situation. This life isn’t easy. May allah grant us all the right spouses that are good for us and our families. Ameen
I would like to second this brothers. As I get older my standards have increased with age as I'm in a better situation in life alh. @@Anon1991
the prophet peace be upon him said those who don't desire his sunnah are not from him, and marriage is a great sunnah that completes our deen
mothers are honored in islam, not women with diplomas and six figures.
Why are some people so obsessed and triggered by a Muslim woman who happens to be educated and making good money if she is God conscious, has proper intentions and is not infringing upon anyone’s rights? I think this mentality is what needs to be addressed in men. You should choose your wife based in her deen character and she conducts herself not rule her out based in her education and career. This is so foolish and contrary to our deen which encourages men AND women to be strong believers and to be keen on pursuing what benefits them. Allah SWT will question a single woman who had time money and education on how she used it for the sake of Allah. And he will question the mother on her responsibilties toward her children and raisinf them upon the faith and so on and so forth. So the issue is a matter of priorities depending in where Allah SWT puts us in each stage of life. So please stop demonizjng educated and financially successful strong Muslimahs. Instead, do better and become even more successful as a brother so that you will not feel insecure or like you’re not enough when you’ve married her
This made me cry bro i used to relate to this so hard but for now fasting and pursuing my purpose is my survival. Your onion example reminded me of when sheikh Assim said if one struggles to not fall in haram he should lower his standards and just get married. What do you say about this akhi? Do we get married to someone we are not attracted to? To save ourselves from haram?
@@alghurraba Sister, if he does marry a divorcee, no virgin girl is gonna marry him to be his second wife, unless he turns out to be a hypersuccessful man. Virgin girls have options. It would prudent to get a virgin as a first wife, then for a second wife, a divorcee. But yes if one is desperate, get what you can.
@@alghurraba I agree. This should also be said to sisters who are struggling to get husbands. They should be open to polygyny. It may not be ideal.
@@alghurraba fair points. But men should be careful about divorcees as there are ones who initiated their divorce. The availability of men desiring such women encourages more divorces. Widows are different and some divorcees are good as well.
@@Pagalchhagal "the availability of men desiring such women encourages divorce" wdym? if it encourages sisters who are in abusive marriage to leave then that's W
@@alghurraba "are you sure all.." if you have reading problems stop posting comments here find something better to do. I didnt realize you were a feminist chameleon and you lost credibility.
Some muslims scholars went on jail. So how did they do ?
Fasting !!! You are not married, you fast or you will do haram
Make a parents friendly version of this video bro
I got married at 24. I wish I had married earlier.
No matter how long I have waited, I would have never had enough to get married.
So please brothers, get married early and grow old together.
Brother, can you explain the process in which you met and found interest in your partner 🙏?
@@Manaiike I finished my graduation and told my parents that I wanted to get married. I never had high demands. We met a few families, which helped both sides to understand if we were all the same. When both families agreed, we went ahead. It didn’t take more than a week.
I always believed if you are honest then you always find the same. Rest you trust on Allah as He knows the Best.
Hope that helps.
@@FawadBilgrami how long have yall been together now?
@@slicker1260 17 years now الحمداللہ
Ain't got time brother I'm tryna make it onto Forbes
Sorry bro not sure what podcast you heard that from but a vasectomy doesnt poison the bloodstream. Excess sperm is absorbed by the epididymis.
May god bless all men n women to get married ❤
Amen
There are a lot of things that I disagree with in your content. But this video is genuine and I can now understand why you may be passionate about this topic. As a woman listening to your perspective and the struggles men are going through it is definitely an eye opener and helps us understand men and why they behave in anger and frustration sometimes.
My guy, if you don’t have access to sex the halal way through marriage, the prophet Muhammad recommended fasting and remaining chaste. Yes it takes alot of will power and self control but it is jihad al-nafs and it is doable. Allah knows best.
I'm past age 30 and at this point I don't know that marriage will happen for me. I wasn't in a good situation to do so and I was doing things I shouldn't have been doing. I have made mistakes.
It would be nice to get married but given the way things have gone for me growing up, I feel as though marriage won't happen for me.
My brother, i will be absolutely BLUNT with you on this. One of the ways of shaytaan to catch you, is that he targets your hopefulness. Do not give shaytaan what he wants. Losing hope is giving the shaytaan what he wants. Never ever say "marriage won't happen for me" ever again. Do not lose Hope in Allah. As long as you are alive, you can make things happen!
I'm 31, unmarried, committed lots of haram. Im sick and tired of it and now want to have a marriage inshaAllah. Dont give up, keep striving for the halal.
@@samik3184
with Tauba and good intentions inshallah great things well happen to you
I hope you find the women that well make your life the best it can ever be
Why?????
ANY NEWS?
Good topic brother and also a topic which is rarely discussed and is a real issue.
Another informative video. Much needed.
I blame the parents. i keep telling my parents i want to get married. And the answer is always "Finish all your college degrees first." THEY ARENT EVEN BOTHERED TO LOOK FOR A MAN FOR ME. I have a man in mind. but they have rejected him numerous times
As long as its halal, what is wrong with marrying him? Your marriage is contract before God, not anyone else
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your over 18? your parents dont own. make your own decisions..
@@Nadia-gi5ux If you truly love him and hes a good man, why not just marry him. Family is important but if they are stopping you from your own future/happiness i wouldnt suggest it.
@@ethanjonas7044 wish it was that easy to just make my own decisions. im not allowed to.
It's just as bad for muslim women if not worse. You should do an episode on non married muslim women. This is where you'll find the hikmah of polygamy. It's an epidemic
الله يوفقك ويسعدك ويرزقك من حيث لا تحتسب
See the problem is men are supposed to be PROVIDERS for females but by the time they reach that age is close to 30 since most don’t finish school or get to save $$ to buy a house till then. So by the time they start looking at age 30 or up, it’s a lonely process particularly if those males don’t have rich family.
I've been of this impression that men really don't care of their age when it comes to marriage esp. before 40s. But here this video. May Allah bless all my brothers and sisters with best spouses and children and a happy fulfilling life and may they reunite in Jannah.. Aameen 🤲
I had no choice for marriage. I´m a 35-year-old man. Virgin and unmarried. Unfortunately, I suffer from severe social anxiety and avoidant personality disorder. That has lead me to never talking to a woman before. I live on my own. I hope I get married one day. I have never been around a woman before...
Don't worry. There is a solution. But first understand that you suffer from nothing you don't choose to suffer from. If you accept that, I can counsel you in a few short sentences back to health, if Allaah wills, and it is your choice to accept or reject.
Jahhylia days left me futureless, I had a very wild bad adolescent and a broke infancy coming from a broken home.
I was raised under the impression of being an Outlaw bastard, and all I did was run the streets.
I had all the fun Let's say. Or maybe not that much of fun, now that today I'm a practicing Muslim.
It's been years now, since I left that life, but it's becoming unbearable, especially when summer comes.
Jahhylia left me Uneducated, skill-less and all the negative you can put.
I have tried to get married, no one gives their daughter for Deen nowadays.
And I can't blame them.
I can't even give Mehr, buy a ring, or whatever.
I feel Hopeless, helpless
At times is so depressing because I don't want to engage in Harram
The deed ain't worth it, but it's a meccessity!
keep yo head up king
@@muslimtomcruise thank you bro, may Allah bless you on The Day we shall be brought forward to His Might, burdened with sins, guilt and regrets
Are you revert brother ?
@@justxho i hope to see u there bruh
@@zainahmed6791 No Zain, I was unguided and lost. Never payed attention to religions what-so-ever before
Thank you brother. May Allah reward you
Subhan'Allah, I've noticed that many people who reach the age of 30+ and find themselves unmarried were usually people who wasted their prime years in unserious relationship(s). Those prime years could have been spent getting to know people for the sake of marriage for max a few months, and getting the nikkah done once they're satisfied with a match, instead of wasting years on long-term haram relationship that didn't amount to anything in the end
Some of us have been serious for 10 yrs and it hasn’t worked out one way or the other
Not everyone who is single after 30 is in that situation because of past "haram" relationships. That's a very narrow minded way of looking at your fellow Muslims and not to mention the sin of accusations. Some people have had to deal with the loss of a parent, may have had to become sole breadwinners of their family due to the remaining parent being disabled etc. Such was the situation in my case where my dad passed away from a sudden heart attack and I was forced to care for my sick mother, while also holding a job to pay the household bills. Allah swt tests everyone in different ways. It would not be possible to leave my mum and run off to get married, because there is no one else to look after her as she needs 24 hour care.
IM FORTY AND STILL UNMARRIED 😢
Same I'm 40 and not married been rejected by all women I approach so given up. Pakistan women are disgusting and sin so can f off
May Allah help you insha Allah
@@BarakaAyo-i3z Ameen wa iyakum
God he takes bloody forever to answer a simple question.
If a man is married to a beautiful lady & after some years of marriage his wife starts to ignore about taking care of her appearance i.e not to put nice dress or makeup even if her husband likes it or asks her to do it. She even puts on weight, wear unattractive clothes even when they both are alone in the bedroom, does things that turns the guy off i.e doesn't brush her teeth which causes her mouth to smell. She knows what her husband wants (dress, makeup, jewelry etc) but kinda ignores his desires or fantasies.
So, what should he do? He feels the pain inside that his desires have been crushed because he knows that it's only his wife who can fulfill his desires in a halal way. He loves her & she loves him too but she just seem to ignore his intimate feelings.
In islam, in this religion woman already taught how wife should be, by your story the woman or the wife doesnt have that knowledge yet, but i dont agree with putting a weight coz if you rich as her husband you could get her to go to the nutrition doctor to lose weight in a healthy way, coz not every woman has an easy way to lose weight after giving birth they need help from professional, so you could do something in that as husband help your wife to get her body back not just by criticizes her without solution, coz in islam the husband play the role to give solution for every problem his wife has.
This is confusing to read as a female… I thought men didn’t like women who wore makeup and preferred natural?
@@tjc4085 Men prefer natural beauty but that which is maintained. If you try to stay improper, messy then that will put the man in off mode. So you cheer him up, a women (wife) should get herself some nice dress (not some fancy one but something that is eye catchy), use perfume, get her hair right & a little makeup will also add stars to her beauty & when a man gets home after work & he finds dinner ready, house clean & his wife in this way than it's like a paradise for him.
@@biologiteacher3470 Agree with that but there are certain things that men look for & they have told their wives about their likes & dislikes & women have more sense & knowledge about what her man wants & what he doesn't. So if a women has gained or lost weight due to some illness then it's definitely not her fault & she deserves the relaxation & help during her tough period. It's the man's duty to assist & help her in all the areas he can even with children + houseworks. But of she is healthy but too lazy to look after herself than what should a man do? He can just ask her to do what pleases him. After all he cannot drag her to the gym or forcefully make her to look good if she is just stubborn to care about his likes.
Some women after marriage think that now they don't need to stay in shape or look good because they have found a husband & "mission accomplished" but a man always want his wife to be in the best beauty possible. It keeps his mood calm, not wanting to distract & stay focused.
@@WaqarAhmed-qg6ur is ur wife a house wife or does she work too? This dressing up sounds like alot to ask if she’s working a job too. Trust me dressing up isn’t comfortable for women so it’d be asking for too much unless ur providing 100%!
This goes straight against every single semen retention benefit there is.
I would've believed most of what Mahdi said if I didn't try retaining myself. If you do not ejaculate, the body actually USES the resources within the seed (Calcium, magnesium , potassium, zinc, proteins and whatnot) if you retain it.
How come one does feel empowered, brainfog-free, full of motivation after a month of retaining your seed?
This is not subjective btw, this is objective. Almost every single man in my environment has said this not to mention the entire movement behind nofap reports the same.
I don't say don't ever have sex, but Mahdi makes it seem like being celebate is physically unhealthy. Which is utter bullshit ofcourse. Most things he is promoting (like becoming fit and dominant) is directly linked to celebacy. Contradictory of him to say these things.
Oh and IF there's a need for the body to release, then wet dreams exists.
Exactly. I've never had any pain or whatever. After a while the thought just goes away.
@@Bobsanders453 I've been researching Mahdis videos just to get a solid view about him before I judge him and I agree with you two, if you're able to control yourself you'll not get "pain".
@@MrTrialandError the pain is definitely a real thing. Bad enough you fall over on the floor and can't stand up.
A man like me will get blue balls so no it doesnt work.
@@piraat070 for how long can you stop ejaculating before having blue balls ?
Hot damn brothas, dudes ain't women, we ain't got no biological clock. 30s, 40s, and beyond ain't nothin for a man, never has been, never will be. Not saying to postpone marriage, but success trumps all. Don't fall into sin, get successful, and there's no reason you can't get a young chaste woman. If you have low self esteem, there's a tsunami of unwed, neverwed, childless 30+ year old muslim women out there, and they're looking harder at the clock than y'alls. Don't trip. Don't fall into sin. Pray more.
Diff for Muslim men, people look at u a little funny, question if you’ve had haram relationships etc., it’s not the religious advise to delay marriage either sooo yh it’s not gonna make u look good if ur looking for a good Muslim women too. Perhaps a woman who doesn’t care for deen will be happy that u have money but otherwise, u see religious families often getting sons and daughters married young
@Shuayb Islam Everyone shootin blanks then cuz I don't know what world you're living in where it takes 5 months for a young lad to make a child or 2 years for a 40 year old to lol. Of course men age and lose out on vitality/test/etc, but it's over for women in their late 30s while it is far from over for a good man in his late 30s. It's common out here for elders in our African community to grab a 2nd/3rd wife late in life and have more children into their 70s. If you as a man are declining as fast as a woman, you got serious health issues and are probably losing your bullets daily to porn and sin.
@@tjc4085 It's cool to, but if you find yourself unable to find a good woman while you're young, and you got self control, don't trip by putting yourself mentally in the same boat as women is what I was trying to say. Of course it's good to marry early, and you should by all means to prevent bad outcomes.
Facts. Men can still get in 30s and 40s as long as a man has game , and has shut together.
learning from multiple youtube videos about relationships, men under 30 normally are not ready to get married when regarding to money, age 20-30 is the time to start saving money, invest, and prepare for the next step in life (marriage), especially living in western countries where women are very delusional wanting from their partners, and the current state of economy adding to that pressure with soaring inflation, high living cost etc. in my opinion, starting to find a marriage near and past 30 is the norm right now. feminism and toxic muscularity also making it worst for us men. i am 34 un married, wasted my time during my 20s just to purchase and invest in a house which most people unable to do...and im glad my hard earn efforts is paying off. men age like fine wine while women have expiration date as they get older (harder making babies)
Dude im 26 Im going to find someone inshallah by 27 who wants to build with me not me kill myself by myself ive been killing myself since 20-26 I want my wife my friend my teammate.
@@muradshawar yeah bro wish the best for you. I suppose you are financially stable by 27. Hope you find a good woman who can support you, avoid women who are materialistic. Good luck
@@andangsudradjat7379 Inshallah we both find good woman . In charlotte NC most of them are materialistic man . Not to mention home priced have ballooned . By work with me I mean the first 3-4 years we combine incomes and work on getting the home paid for . Thing is not many woman want to do that they want to spend the money on BS things . It might be easier for me to try and find online job and go overseas Ill be way happier outside USA and can always come back if I have to.
Alot of the brothers here had the chance but didn't settle down or realize that if you were fit and aesthetic you could easily have commanded your wife the same. And none of the brothers here were ambitious enough to even consider polygyny. Get a good humble religious 1st wife then marry the 2nd one with great beauty.
Wow a lot of you are HURTING in the comments. I beg you all to seek help and not give up. Allah’s plan for every individual is different. We all have different tests and trials. What we must do is make sure we overcome those challenges or learn to cope with them. For the sake of your health, do something small every day to change your mindset.
May Allah make it easy for us all
Falling into the haram is easier today than ever, the helal away is harder than before and the "sisters" have nothing better to do than to support it.
You are right, after 30, one starts to filter out 90-95 % women
and if your not 6ft tall and making 6figure and handsome look i am from florida it sucks too get married those are requirements for women in 2022 i am 31 years old and single cause one women requirements are crazy in America. also i might go over seas too marry but i wont bring my wife too america i live with my wife so she wont get corrupted by feminism
If you can’t get a woman that’s on you. Especially if you have money and a good lifestyle you need some game.
@@MomoAfterDark it ain’t even bout the game it’s the quality of women as well
@@johnelway9879 very true
yeah american modern women of today have lost it
Allah says quoting Ibrahim's(A. S) saying in the Quraan "Only the disbelievers loses hope from Allah's mercy" So the scholars said losing hope from Allah's mercy is disbelief and don't let any Shaitaan lead you in doing so
I believe you are referring to the prophet Ya'qoob alayhis salaatu was salaam
Surah Yusuf, Verse 87:
يَا بَنِيَّ اذْهَبُوا فَتَحَسَّسُوا مِن يُوسُفَ وَأَخِيهِ وَلَا تَيْأَسُوا مِن رَّوْحِ اللَّهِ إِنَّهُ لَا يَيْأَسُ مِن رَّوْحِ اللَّهِ إِلَّا الْقَوْمُ الْكَافِرُونَ
"O my sons! Go you and enquire about Yusuf (Joseph) and his brother, and never give up hope of Allah's Mercy. Certainly no one despairs of Allah's Mercy, except the people who disbelieve."
The sisters will remain unmarried with their wrong mindset. no manners sisters! no manners !
These sisters have caused all the issues we face as an ummah
Don't generalize. Sometimes some sisters may find it harder to marry due to bad luck maybe
@@sophiesumleen7872 Luck? Luck doesn't exist. Only Qadr exists.
and the redpills lol
@@samadmiah6427 what an ignorant, narrow minded, hateful and misogynistic statement to make.
What is it in background? Recite quran or nasheed?
Please name
JazakAllahukhir
Man, I have had this exacttttt same problem in my life! Except, I’m not Muslim, my dilemma sucks even though I am not Muslim because I simply am anti masturbation, an anti porn. Therefore, I can only physically sleep with a beautiful woman or else I won’t be satisfied. But I do get inteeennnssseee urges an it pisses me off
I'm 38 & been holding back for 8 years after my talaq. It such a jihad to find a wife, I rather die as a martyr.
looking at my married friends who complain on this and that, and a lot of divorced couple around me with kids. and now, looking at your video. Totally 2 different world. different views. So yeah, you are 50% rights and 50% wrong
Nah once you hit 30 and unmarried call it a life brother
I agree, life gets much better after 30 when you're single
I'm 40 hhh don't worry all good
Im enjoying the single post 33 year old life. Me and Allah (swa) all the way, yet i will have to get married at some point, it is Sunnah! And I love Sunnah. I am enjoying the solitude of my life living on my own, going to work, praying and fasting and eating less and not going out except to see family. I hope to find a wife that will join me in getting closer to Allah (swa) and not push me far away from Him, Allahumma Ameen
Move to Miami. Do it now.
If marriage doesn't happen it's a reason you can't find a good spouse nowadays because majority women are influenced into social media and high demanding. I will get married in Jannah inshallah
I am 27 years old, my older brother and his wife completely ruined my marriage and caused drama which led to my divorce. His wife did a lot of damage and stirring up against my wife, I believe she was super jealous of her, she also said something evil that she wants to drink my wife blood, thats how much hatred she had, What do I do next time if I get married again? She still comes around my house to see my mum.but I dont talk to her, I need help. I am also muslim too.
Live in your own house or rent a place
Reconcile with her and just stay away from your sister in law...move out of town
Assalamualaikum brother u should fight against the evil with the powers of Allah n in this Alim Ulma ekraam the scholars of Islam can make ur connection high with Allah it's different that Allah gave u toufeeq to make a direct connection with Allah
My parents are not doing anything to find me a wife . I don’t know how to tell them . I have hints but I am embarrassed. Living abroad for 8 years alone . I am 26 .
It’s so over
Don’t feel embarrassed tell them I need a women or find one yourself then do nikkah😂
What if that man is not financially stable and i cannot afford even the mahr and he will not be able to take care of his wife like she deserves ? Any advice.
Enjoy that money on yourself. You worked hard for it. Why spend it on a woman who is always looking for the next big and best thing.
My brother, Get. Good. Go out there and earn some more money. The answer is more. In the meantime, you have to fast. Its not a choice, its a requirement from our Prophet may peace be upon him. The world today makes it very very hard for young men such as us to earn the right to enter the door to marriage. Our requirements to a women to marry are three; must be able to give shelter, must be able to provide food on the table, must be able to provide her with clothing.
Go, go and go earn your marriage! Its not a problem to be poor, its a problem to stay poor!
@@WavScorn259 jazakallah khair akhi for sincere advice.
A blue collar worker deserves love and marriage. Why marriage only for the rich and middle class.
@@piraat070 Sounds good on paper but unfortunately thats not how the world works
i disagree. you can get a way hotter bint after 30 than before. men gotta be built up before they attract women.
You need real life experience and look at the sunnah. I used to think the same way but it is imperative you marry as soon as possible the Will of Allah is supreme
@Samir You're right bro, but im talking about the West where its hard to follow sunnah because everyone is insane
The younger ones don't mind the age difference actually as long as the man is fit and is financially stable
@Samir For those that cannot afford it. They have no option bro. Doesn’t matter of it’s healthy or not
Lmao shutup Mahdi,
Abu Huraira r.a stated single until 40s to take care of his mother. Stop giving people fomo, life is about acquiring jannah, pray Allah makes that easier thru a pious spouse but if it doesn’t happen, then that’s ur test
I agree. This guy is too Dunya oriented lol.
Man's comparing the most pious of men and women to normal blokes. Men were God fearing and extremely hard working and the women had lower standards for marriage.
I am living this myself.
8:15 no thats why nocturnal emissions exist
am 35 and not married
How to find that job in saudia? Can you please drop the link? I worked in beijing for 2 years
It is no way harder for men to marry in their 30s at all because that's when they have like 30k stacked and could easily get married to a 23 year old easily but for women it is way harder because she loses 80% of her fertility and looks and is way harder for the family to put like a 10 to 15k dawri for her
@Shuayb Islam its still the same yeah for men it got harder because now women want more but the mens investment in younger virgin fertility still stays the same if u are Muslim u should be ashamed that u still don't know this
@Shuayb Islam He is well updated, a women in her 30s lose her fertility way faster, and she ages quicker due to loss of collagen, and she has lesser options.
@@dailydeen5742 nah. Ur wrong. A woman in her 30s is still gonna have interested males. Have u not seen the stats tor men and how hard it is to get attention. Also, the beauty industry has advanced sooo much, women know how to keep looking young at 30. Im shocked at the number of women at 30 who look good these days so that’s not a concern but the fertility thing might be. Truthfully, women have until 35 until they’re in real trouble with fertility as that 10% could still holdout.
@@tjc4085 actually at 30 women lose most of their eggs by than it becomes ir become extremly difficult.
@@therepublic7708 it’s not impossible tho. The cut off is 35+ and most women are having kids in their early 30s. It’s possible with all the info we have out there. I would say the age to be worried about fertility is actually late 30 for women. My grandma has kids in her 40s as well. Someone women come from families where it’s just possible. Not a novelty at all.
Pray, earn, jihad,Be with your wives(marry 2 to 3 women atleast) and repeat. Men who lived like this have lived a glorious life. But unfortunately gone are those era of glory.
Life isnt a paradise. Those people were also tested in life
@@MH-bf4uu Competely agree with you. May we all succeed in our tests.
Brother Salam amualakum .. it’s really hard now of days to get married Muslim women as so influence by social media their expectations are so high are only will to married that 1 % men everyone is invisible..
Where is the entire podcast?
No money no wife , money is owns everything even people and their minds im 28 and i wish i had a wife
Do Muslims believe in sexual transmutation or sexual alchemy? Basically redirecting the sexual energy with meditation, conscious awareness and relaxation
What happened with those muslim guys who have the chance to get married but they rather visit for a quicky?
How can a Muslim man do that? Sounds like very un Islamic to have s3x without marriage
@@Dhuxul9 Then you don't know how to Muslim world operates, I am afraid
@@mathisnotforthefaintofheart I’m from a Muslim country and never heard of such thing actually
@@Dhuxul9 No? You may want to check out Saudi or some other big cities in the Muslim world. Plenty of scandals. I am not condoning it. The only difference is, in the West it's more open (and accepted?) and in the Muslim world it's all behind closed doors. Just like the alcohol and the child abuses in madrassas. Don't get me started...
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The perfect age for Muslim male to be married is 23 to 26 in this modern times, I would say after 28 it gets hard and after 34, very very hard for a Muslim male to get married.
Muslim female perfect age is modern times for her to be married 18 to 22, anything after 22 becomes problematic, i wont state why for controversial reasons.
Thats just your damn opinion. Speaking of specific numbers, you're so specific as if you know it all like God.
I'm 40 so hhhh
I'm 26, I want to find a wife but have epilepsy, no job experience, dropped out of university in my second semester and have barely left the house in the last 8 years, my parents have set safety precautions for my seizures. The only skill I can find in myself is my skill with kids, but my epillepsy also makes me worried I could injure my niece and nephew.
I keep finding myself lured into Haram masturbation and seeing pornography, I've felt hopeless, try to rely on Allah? But have even considered and attempted suicide (I was yhinking I can't get heaven, let's settle for the least dangerous parts of hell before I dig myself into the worse levels, maybe I can die with only the sins of porn masturbation and suicde and dodge worse sons like disbelief or zina) I keep repenting and thinking that my only hope is to find a wife, but I have no reason for a wife to want me, no way to find me and my parents won't bother trying to arrange meetings.
My wife has become either my phone or my couch. At least video games can keep me busy and my niece and nephew give me a will to live.
Bro where are you from? Your situation is lietrally 1:1 same with mine, except for me not having epilrpsy nor nieces or nephews!
Im also going to get 26, never worked, finished school with 22, broke up university after 3rd semester, prepating for another university, not really social active, i have like 0 friends, also played video games a lot ( i quit for now and dont intend to ever play again, i started body-exercising) and my parents literally been the worst at parenting me until 18! Between 18-22 i was extremly overweight and when i asked for help from mom and dad they denied! I never forget that, up from that time i have serious depressions coming and going because of my life! I was never ok with short height and also i have been teached islam very wrong! And also i wanted to have a wife! I had so many occasions getting a girlfriend and didnt, because i knew it was haram, but now i dont know why but i feel guilty being a muslim for trying to do halal things, because its impossible, especially if you became more conservative over the years. And i thought about suicide a lot as well. I made up my mind if within 1 or 2 yeara nothing changes in my life, i will take this as granted and Allahs will and i will give up all of my dreams and try to be happy with it! My parents made big mistakes whrn i warned them back in my 18s and them never listening to me and i was just very obedient, because i thought it was haram to be against parents. But i think after this or next year im done with life, not intending to suicide, thats why i started doing sports and im also gonna look gor other hobbies! Otherwise i will end up in zina, video games and suicide and also drugs! This is 100% guaranteed, i know myself
Rubbing one out in Islam is debatable. Many scholars such as Dr. Shabir Ally doesnt consider it haram. Also if it hurts then just masterbait. You should not be in pain.
And yes, i agree. Definitely try to get married by age 25 or before
Just rub two out
Give me money and i will marry 4 wifes all in one
It's all about the money my friend some have it and some not
I have yet to know if any Muslim woman, rich or poor, in any country, divorced or widowed or a virgin, who would marry a rich man along with 3 other women.
@Samir Very, very sad to think of women having to “tolerate” their marriage and their husband for the rest of their lives instead of actually liking either (let alone loving).
That very thought sounds like literal Jahannam on Earth.
@Samir Yes, and Ertugrul, and Mohammad Ali. The top 0.01% and better. But not just the top 1% or 0.1%.
@Samir I agree with all of that except for where you said my view is warped lol.
These men hardly exist.
Bro i am nearly 30 and have a fantasy of going for married women it always happens i like the chase and i feel like if I was getting married i would cheat instantly any advice?
From experiences and my wide observations, qhat goes around will come around. Stay within the boundaries of the laws of Allah, bro. Fear Allah.
Onion 😂😂😂
If from the USA or western nation, just make your money then go an Muslim nation and get married… meet a woman at the masjid and most importantly don’t be weird
Marriage is the worst thing to happen to people. Their lives just get destroyed.
Inshaa ALLAH i hope i never get married.
Assalamualaikum but only bcoz of marriage ur iman will get mukammal or else it will b half for ever
İt's Hadees Prophet says he/she who don't marry r not from one of us
Brother it is hard for anyone. Just put your trust in Allah he will find us a pious, chaste wife with good manners
salam what's the soundtrack name?
A lot of this info is subjective and based on your opinion brother, with all due respect.
They should go just for the "taqwa" or iman based women who may be uneducated, village women even they dont share common lifestyle.
This modern system made post puberty marriage complicated, but post puberty se* isn’t. So a 14 year old girl or less and similiar old boys does se* without marriage which is healthy for body (not for a family though). But it is better than living as a muslim virgin for 20+ year old aligning with this individual based society.
It is high time, we get out of this system and demand a community based system thats not based on individualism, friendly towards martial relationship and family.
The system is the main evil, not men or women. but to dismantle it, we as men & women should sacrifice our worth, demand, intelligence, asset etc. Just to bond more relations, make more babies that will make our community based society strong & united. Until then, we also have to fight this evil.
Ameen brother 10:08
Mahdi Tidjani here aka....
For some reason, the topic of modern women only wanting the top ten percent of earners reminds me of the Yennish, who are one of the last surviving tribes of ancient nomadic Celts in Western Europe, who survive by blending in with the homeless people and living like hunter-gatherers in the fringes of modern society. They have a unique arranged marriage cycle in which different generations marry first cousin, then second through to fifth, back and forth between paternal and maternal sides. The cycle eventually starts many generations later. And if the sacred cycle is broken, they are no longer considered Yennish by their families. Some groups survive through pouching and goat herding in the mountains, some through trade and crime, but all try to pretend that Germans don't exist and live like it's still 200 BC. They call themselves the last descendants of the pre-germanic Helvetians. My main point is that there should be a balance, and our modern society, particularly the West, is on the opposite side of the spectrum from the Yenish gypsies. We place a great value on wealth and feel that we cannot get married until we are rich, even if we can clothe and feed our families, yet the Yenish chase a life of extreme poverty amongst the wealthiest nations on earth and get married in their early teens. Both ways are too extreme, one should try to gain wealth and not be poor, but should not waste our entire lives trying to save money for a family that will never come because we waited too long. Inshallah, we Muslim brothers and sisters should view our lives with death in mind, knowing that our time is short and we must make good use of it, neither wasting it in poverty nor loneliness, and our sisters should realize that it is foolish to base your happiness off of winning the man lottery!
This is some BS you are throwing out there
You need to focus more on prayer!