7 Reasons The No Contact Rule Can Work On Everyone

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  • Опубликовано: 6 сен 2024
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    1. Reactance
    2. Stages Exes Go Through During No Contact (Calm, Worry, Anger, Confrontation about loss, Hope)
    3. Unpredictability Raises Perceived Value (Our brains love unpredictability because highs are higher than if we got the desired reward all of the time. It helps release dopamine and creates more investment.)
    4. Zeigarnik Effect
    5. Information Gap Theory
    When something changes from being a known state to an unknown state, we become more curious. Your ex is going to make some assumptions about you after the breakup, especially if they were the ones to break up with you. They assume you’re going to be obsessed with them and every time you get in touch with them this almost feeds that assumption. That’s when you start doing the No Contact Rule, they’re no longer having that assumption.
    This creates curiosity and they want to know why you’re not talking to them creating an information gap which also leads to theory number three
    6. 90% Of Our Success Stories Have Utilized A No Contact Rule
    7. The Attachment Style Factor.

Комментарии • 64

  • @jacquelinema8137
    @jacquelinema8137 3 года назад +6

    im so lost, todays my 31st NC and im feeling so low, glad this video exists! thanku!! ill stay strong!

    • @jmanley1486
      @jmanley1486 3 года назад +1

      I hope u got through NC. I feel ur pain!lol Convincing myself that NC is going to get me the ending that I want... im in it the 2nd time, its easier now. I f'd up so much not listening & following through that the NC is a break I, myself, didnt know I really needed. I hope you see a turn around soon if u havent already.

  • @MeowMeow-sy2mi
    @MeowMeow-sy2mi 3 года назад +11

    Man, I am getting early to these videos 😂 3 weeks into no contact. Originally I was just going to do the 21 day one but it's hit that and I'm not ready yet! I have some things I want to finish before I reach out. Extended to 30 days now unless he messages me before then :)

    • @mwenyasikazwe5827
      @mwenyasikazwe5827 3 года назад +1

      i am also 3 weeks in and decided to make it longer... its not been easy though especially with the amazing things I have been able to do in the time I have been on my own

    • @MeowMeow-sy2mi
      @MeowMeow-sy2mi 3 года назад +4

      @@mwenyasikazwe5827 it's weird to be working towards so much and wish I could be sharing it with him. All I've posted on social media is some selfies and a painting I did. He doesn't know all of the things going on in my life and that my life is wonderful. I don't post that stuff. I figure if we reconnect, he can know then. Right now, I definitely want that information gap! Plus, we'll have more to talk about then too.

    • @mwenyasikazwe5827
      @mwenyasikazwe5827 3 года назад

      @@MeowMeow-sy2mi that's amazing... working on my self allowed me to get my first contracted client for my farms produce... work on other business concepts I was not focusing on during my relationship cause I found myself putting so much energy into fixing the problems I had at the time... I am proud of you for holding out that long

    • @chaolletteocconor1655
      @chaolletteocconor1655 3 года назад

      @@MeowMeow-sy2mi Love's life true love never die, i know a great and powerful healer that can get back your ex or crush without delay just within 48hours he helped me too immediately

    • @chaolletteocconor1655
      @chaolletteocconor1655 3 года назад

      @@MeowMeow-sy2mi +=1=(=9=3=7=)=8=2=6=2=4=8=9

  • @celestinerichardson3280
    @celestinerichardson3280 Год назад

    Honestly my first ex, block me , it’s true to helping u move on but it works, he came back after 3 years I lost feelings. Don’t be focus when they came back live ya life.

  • @Amctothemoon
    @Amctothemoon 3 года назад +3

    Just tried it after 4 months and asked , looks like she’s moved on and with some one else
    No contact doesn’t work all the time

    • @iamauroraborealis
      @iamauroraborealis 2 года назад

      If your ex or you start dating someone else soon after the breakup, chances you get back together are close to zero. Replacement is a thing. It distracts and the person has no time to sit and feel sorrow when they experience new positive emotions with someone else. Just no point for them to go back. Unless they're once unhappy in new relationship, then they may come back. But do you want to be someone's backup plan?

  • @82cdr
    @82cdr Месяц назад

    well now i have watched alot of you videoes you catch people be the way you explain things and just your bodylaungrage is amazing you fun 😂 i have learned alot thank you.... sorry the miss pellings english is not my first laungrage

  • @DAISUKIDAISUKE
    @DAISUKIDAISUKE 3 года назад +3

    I waited two months and he still didn't want me back 😔 it doesn't work on everyone. If they don't want you they don't want you

    • @bichthanhnguyen8097
      @bichthanhnguyen8097 3 года назад +2

      Well, the first thing I want to talk to you that it's the time to you change yourself, such as your mind, your body, your behavior,..... Because when you and your ex break up, it also has a reason. And this time is for you realize the reason why. If you don't change anything after that time, your ex comeback and you also break up again. Thanks for your reading.

    • @gutsandgrittv5076
      @gutsandgrittv5076 2 года назад

      Make yourself unbreak-up-able and you will have many lovely bees buzzing around you! Your life will dramatically level up. (Speaking from experience!)

  • @broflo3875
    @broflo3875 Год назад +1

    Day 374 of No Contact. Still waiting but I have hope.

    • @Wildanimal864.
      @Wildanimal864. 4 месяца назад

      Man it’s over come on now you know it is 😭💀

    • @broflo3875
      @broflo3875 4 месяца назад

      @@Wildanimal864. I still have hope though. She'll come around.

  • @l.k.1111
    @l.k.1111 3 года назад +2

    Yes! This! OMG...that explains it perfect!

  • @Nova-tc6jv
    @Nova-tc6jv 3 года назад +4

    I have been in no contact for over 90 days now but every time my friend and I hang out, she posts pictures of us so my ex sees what we’re doing and comments on them. Is this still considered NC? Is her posting about me affecting my chances?

    • @chaolletteocconor1655
      @chaolletteocconor1655 3 года назад

      Love's life true love never die, i know a great and powerful healer that can get back your ex or crush without delay just within 48hours he helped me too immediately

    • @chaolletteocconor1655
      @chaolletteocconor1655 3 года назад

      Message him on Whats>App

    • @chaolletteocconor1655
      @chaolletteocconor1655 3 года назад

      + 1 ( 9 3 7 ) 8 2 6 2 4 8 9.

    • @chaolletteocconor1655
      @chaolletteocconor1655 3 года назад

      + 1,,,( 9 3 7 ),,,8 2 6,,,2 4 8 9

    • @krustykrabmenoy
      @krustykrabmenoy 3 года назад +2

      As long as you're not asking your friend to do this, then no. And it's probably good that your ex sees you doing fun things.

  • @jessicabiancardi6350
    @jessicabiancardi6350 3 года назад +1

    What if you already have a secure attachment style???

  • @rendylynn
    @rendylynn 3 года назад

    What about if your ex is dating someone else during no contact?

  • @joanydegraaf436
    @joanydegraaf436 3 года назад +3

    Im aplying it for a couple days now on my ex. We broke up like two weeks ago. but his birthday is coming up in a few days. So what should i do? Congratulate him on his birthday or not?

    • @chaolletteocconor1655
      @chaolletteocconor1655 3 года назад

      Love's life true love never die, i know a great and powerful healer that can get back your ex or crush without delay just within 48hours he helped me too immediately

    • @chaolletteocconor1655
      @chaolletteocconor1655 3 года назад

      Message him on Whats>App

    • @chaolletteocconor1655
      @chaolletteocconor1655 3 года назад

      + 1 ( 9 3 7 ) 8 2 6 2 4 8 9.

    • @chaolletteocconor1655
      @chaolletteocconor1655 3 года назад

      + 1,,,( 9 3 7 ),,,8 2 6,,,2 4 8 9

    • @krustykrabmenoy
      @krustykrabmenoy 3 года назад +5

      Don't do it. If they broke up with you, give them the break up. Great quote: "If your presence wasn't enough to stay, gift them with your absence."

  • @amandaadler8431
    @amandaadler8431 3 года назад +1

    Doing the no contact and after a couple of posts on social media (showing my growth kind of posts) .... he deleted me from all of his social media.

  • @somebodysomewhere358
    @somebodysomewhere358 3 года назад

    Too late, already made all mistakes. I don’t think they’ll go through the stages anymore. Or can it still work?