Why is being '31 and living at home' smthg to be ashamed of. Esp as a single Muslim female. It's really ok and we shouldn't feel pressured to adopt cultures where at age 18 you're cut off financially, physically and emotionally. Studies show the clear benefits of living in a multigenerational home, esp for children. We were meant to live in tribes, to give our parents company as they age. In Muslim communities it's common for women not to move out unless it's for education, work or marriage.
the fact that he was an imam shook me, even though im completely aware disloyalty comes in every form...im so sorry you had to go through that trauma, but amazed you still have such stron faith mashallah
MashAllah you are so Pretty, don’t take this the wrong way but your blush seems too intense, unless you like it like that. I think it would look better if it was toned down.
@@Catwoman8100 salam sister, if you ever feel like you need to add "no offense", or "dont take it the wrong way" then please know that your statement is 100% meant to offend or will be taken the wrong way = "youre sounding super jealous and couldnt stop yourself from trying to bring down another person is a not so subtle way." If you dont like intense blush, you're more than welcome to tone it down on yourself, or not wear it. I personally love her blush, and love an intense blush on myself too, but even that does not or should not dictate what she should do or think of doing...
In my experience, I hear about infidelity with the Imam’s quite frequently. Some even use the the rights of polygamy as an excuse. For example, some would “marry” a sister only to divorce her days later with a vague excuse or none at all. Most women won’t share that info for fear of embarrassment and or vulnerability in the community. I am a marriage therapist and work solely in the Muslim community, and you would be absolutely shocked by some of the stories I hear on a weekly basis. Unfortunately, I only see the couples after the marriage, and most times are irrevocably damaged. I try to promote counseling prior to the marriage, but most are not interested, and frankly those that don’t have the best intentions will never seek guidance. The Muslim community has long had problems with “men” that are serial marriage and divorcés. They seek out women as sexual objects (sometimes even living completely off of them) and never as partners. They do this under the guise of marriage. In my experience, they often have a history of trauma and or mental health issues from being “raised” by parent(s) that were traumatized themselves. It’s called generational trauma. It’s a cycle of abuse that’s non stop. They are unwilling and or unable to be the provider or protectors of the home, yet expect all their demands met. Some of these “men” extensively learn the Quran & Hadith for several years and with that knowledge they cherry pick what they will apply to themselves. Having the knowledge does not necessarily mean it is applied. Knowing and doing are completely different things. Always remember, we are ALL human and have weaknesses both known and in most cases unknown to the public. So please don’t believe that a person, no matter their title, are not capable of certain acts. As always, Allah alone knows best!
I just found out that my husband had been unfaithful throughout our marriage and I have only been married for a year and a half. Thank you for sharing this. It gives me hope to know that others have been through similar situations and I will make it out just fine.
Allah is with you sister. "he's grief is long who's hope is short" imam Ali. So have hope in Allah that your hurt is for a purpose and your pain will not go in vain...
Well done for standing up for yourself and not allowing yourself to be stuck in an unfaithful marriage. Indian women in particular find it very difficult to divorce and many Asian parents would prefer their children to stay in a loveless marriage than be divorced. Sad times !!
@@dynamicemotions2253 nah, God comes 1st, if your core beliefs don't line with Islam then you need to change that, if they do and he's stepping out, then he needs to go but of course counseling comes 1st. You sisters probably lack brothers or Strong fathers by the sound of it because no one can mess with our family without us tearing them a new one. Family means if ones hurt, then all of us are and you better believe we're gonna fix the hrut
this is so true of entire desi dispora .... my family is guyanese and people feel we are less conservative and this is not true at all .. mostly our families prefer we stay and put on poker face weather we are happy or not because of what will people say
This came up in my recommendations. It's so refreshing to hear a muslim woman talk about these topics. Especially divorce, as its such a taboo subject for us. Also bc other people on here only talk about how amazing thier lives are when in reality, we've all come across some hardships. This was very interesting to listen to. Thank u for posting this, I understand it could not have been easy for u
I know it’s hard to share these things openly, thank you for sharing this with us. I teared when you teared 😥 May Allah have mercy on your grandmother Ameen.
@Exmuslim Sahil😊 Hey, you took some verses from the Kuran but didn't tell the context of them. It's probably your intention to make your argument more convincing and to fool the people. At the time where the Kuran was arriving all men were supposed to work and by doing that this working was not only to finance his life but also to finance the life of his wife and maybe the children. This was the 'normal' structure of a family (nowadays this structure isn't always in a family but this doesn't mean that the following orders are only for the people who have this structure). Resulting in the doubled property for the man. Another aspect is that the woman gets beaten by a man..... yes it sounds really evil if you don't tell it with the context! It says that a woman who disobey to guard in the unseen (in their husband’s absence themselves as well as their husband’s property and honor) and after admonish them and then leave them alone while sleeping and then the order comes to hit them. This hit is only to get them in sense but it's definitely not to hit them till they get injured or something else. I can't explain all verses now so let's have a look at another verse which clearly shows the gender equality between men and women. 49/Al - Hujurat - 13: O mankind! Surely We have created you from a male and a female, and made you nations and tribes, that you may get acquainted with one another (your lineage). Surely the most honorable of you in the Presence of Allah is he who is the most pious of you (not by your race or lineage). Surely Allah is All-Knowing, All-Aware.
You don’t have to apologize for crying. My grandmother was my world. When she passed, it altered the course of my life. May Allah reunite you in Jannah 💖
I just came across your channel. I am a Christian and I know that we have some differences in our beliefs HOWEVER can say that I haven't found a channel where Ive feel so welcomed!! I feel like I'm talking to a best friend and honestly helps me learn so much from different topics! Thank you for sharing all your personal experience. I've learned a lot. May God continue to give you strength. 🙏
@@haesa4863 Stop deceiving others. Islam has clear commands about persecuting other religions and literally killing apostates (“whoever leaves his religion, kill him.”).
While her story seems to be very relatable, as a Christian you and her don’t have the same god. Muslims believe that Jesus was just some prophet. Jesus is the way the truth and the life, no one can come to the father except through him. There is only one way to the Father all other paths leads to permanent separation from God. I hope as a Christian that you believe this in your heart and feel compelled by the Holy Spirit to warn people about the Love of Jesus and the wrath of God that is on all of those who do not come to him through his ONLY begotten son. God is not willing that any should perish but that all come to repentance by trusting in the finished works of the cross through Jesus. Thanks for sharing your story! May you all seek the face of Jesus. He was not just a prophet he is not dead like every other prophet, he rose from the dead and defeated death proving every word of the Bible to be true. Jesus, (Yeshua) Your only way to heaven 🕊
Your profile name describe Mohammed perfectly. He owned several female s3x slaves and he simply married whoever he wanted and even destroyed adoption to steal his son’s wife Zainab. If men have this kind of person who marries children, looks at women as a piece of meat and enables domestic violence, what can you expect of men?
Based on what? 4:6 And if you fear that you will not deal justly with the orphans, then marry those that please you of [other] women, two or three or four. But if you fear that you will not be just, then [marry only] one or those your right hand possesses. That is more suitable that you may not incline [to injustice]. The talk on justice is about finances. Meaning if you don't have the money for a widow don't marry her and steal her kids money. marry other women. If you cant do financial justice toward multiple wives then marry only one or a slavegirl (who presumable has a lower mahr and expectations) If you argue that its an 1 wife is the preferred option then you have to argue that a slave girl is even more preferable to a free woman. Nowhere in the verse is it talking about a woman deciding for her husband how many wives or slave girls he can marry.
Thank you for this! I am 32 never married dealing with heath issues living at home so let’s build a sisterhood around making this ok making divorce etc ok. May Allah bless and keep you and give you the best in this life and the next!
May Allah swt bless you with full shifaa and long healthy righteous life of comfort and ease, may Allah swt grant us all the strength of emaan and protect us and our loved ones from all harm, illnesses and adversity, aameen ya rabbal alameen
I lost my grandma 7years ago and I still miss her every single day and wish I could have one last conversation/hug. My advise is cherish those memories because we will be reunited in jannah on day IA
My ex was/is an Imam. (Married +divorced in 2000, remained friends!) At 56, he’s gone completely off the rails. I can’t describe it. Mania, phone addiction, lying, stealing, mooching. Showing extreme arrogance. Yelling, screaming.
@@Noelleelle Qurstion since I have never interacted with an Imam on a personal capacity. . . how was he? How did he express his narcissism? Please do get into the details if not too much trouble, since I have family who may have an inclination to getting married to Imams and I wish to know from an informed person what it's like.
@@EV-EV-EV I don’t have experience with an Imam. I am not personally Muslim or have any affiliation. My soon to be ex husband is a covert narcissist and like the other person said above. He was addicted to his phone, lied, was arrogant, did not care about my feelings. Gaslighted, manipulated. Other people in public would think he was the nicest person but behind closed doors he treated me awfully. He lovebombed me in the beginning of the relationship and made me think that I was everything he ever wanted.
Thank you for sharing your story. We all have the struggles we face in life and it’s nice to see you using your platform to address this. Not only to address that the life we show online is artificial but to show youngsters that not everything is perfect as it seems as this does affect their mental health. I went through something similar and left my ex at 8 month pregnant. We never spoke after this date and he remarried soon after and never asked to see his child. I also lost my dad when my daughter was a few month old but I thank him for supporting me when I returned back home. There was no stigma, no care what people would say. If you are reading this please make dua for my dad because he really knew the worth of a women.
You are amazing. I am sorry that i will be blocked on Insta and probably here. But i just wanna say that you are amazing. I am Muslim guy from Serbia. My family is Christian. I started learning about Islam 6 years ago. And recently i decided to become Muslim. You are amazing, really. I am very happy that there is person like you in this world. I wish you all the happiness!
May Allah make it easy for you and bless you. I cant imagine how hard it must be for you to become a muslim as a serb. Hold on to Allah. Everything and everybody wont last, but Allah will always be there for you. I hope somehow the serb and bosnian muslims will be welcoming. And if not: the world is big. Wish you the best.
Wowww unfaithfulness & lack of loyalty even though he was an imam at your masjid!! How sad! 😔 We always assume religiosity leads to every other good trait, but it's so sad when it's not the case.
@@UsmanAli-rc7vg brother loyalty here means he wasn't willing to be a dog for her and she wasn't willing to be anything but a foul zaniyyah. Makeup is zina
Growing up as a Pakistani Muslim my mom got divorced and raised us as a single mom but she will was looked down on by the community because she got divorced even though she was not in the wrong. I think these things should be talked about more and should be accepted.
This video really hit home for me. I lost my brother in 2020 and not a day that goes by that I don’t think about him. I regret everyday and blame myself for not spending more time with him or called and asked about him little more. I wanna tell everyone to please spend more time with your loved ones and call them more, because you never know when you’ll lose them. I don’t want you to be in my position and beat yourself everyday for not spending time with them 😪
BURKHA was nacessary in 7th centurie's arab farstreted society,🤗 Prophet had 25slaves and 11wife, and Made his wife the mother of the Ummah🤨, but did not make himself the father of anyone...Other's wife halal for himself🤨... prophet was also farstreted person 🙄
I loved your honesty throughout the video, it is the first step in destigmatizing a lot of "taboo" topics within our community! Praying for your continued happiness and success
BURKHA was nacessary in 7th centurie's arab farstreted society,🤗 Prophet had 25slaves and 11wife, and Made his wife the mother of the Ummah🤨, but did not make himself the father of anyone...Other's wife halal for himself🤨... prophet was also farstreted person 🙄
@Exmuslim Sahil😊 Hey, you took some verses from the Kuran but didn't tell the context of them. It's probably your intention to make your argument more convincing and to fool the people. At the time where the Kuran was arriving all men were supposed to work and by doing that this working was not only to finance his life but also to finance the life of his wife and maybe the children. This was the 'normal' structure of a family (nowadays this structure isn't always in a family but this doesn't mean that the following orders are only for the people who have this structure). Resulting in the doubled property for the man. Another aspect is that the woman gets beaten by a man..... yes it sounds really evil if you don't tell it with the context! It says that a woman who disobey to guard in the unseen (in their husband’s absence themselves as well as their husband’s property and honor) and after admonish them and then leave them alone while sleeping and then the order comes to hit them. This hit is only to get them in sense but it's definitely not to hit them till they get injured or something else. I can't explain all verses now so let's have a look at another verse which clearly shows the gender equality between men and women. 49/Al - Hujurat - 13: O mankind! Surely We have created you from a male and a female, and made you nations and tribes, that you may get acquainted with one another (your lineage). Surely the most honorable of you in the Presence of Allah is he who is the most pious of you (not by your race or lineage). Surely Allah is All-Knowing, All-Aware.
I am 26 gonna turn 27 in a few months… I moved out of my parents place at 24 to live with a partner for two years. I just got out of a unfaithful relationship, and moved back home. It feels a bit comforting for me to know you’re 31 and living with your parents. We’re in a similar boat. Just found your video and it made me feel better ❤️🩹 lots of love from an Asian (Vietnamese) sister!
You should never feel weird or embarrassed to live with your parents and other family members. In fact, we are made to live with our families. It's Western society that created the idea that people must or should move out of their parents home and live alone. Most cultures around the world practice and support the idea of men and women living with their parents and families unless they decide they want to get married. And even when they get married, they don't move far away. They would end up buying homes in the same Neighborhood or community that their parents live in.
I had horribly abusive parents that never wanted me. I left “home” on my 18th birthday. I am extremely depressed and have been for many years. I really feel like if I would have had a loving family that had welcomed me and let me stay until I was ready to leave, my whole life would be better. I hope everyone that has good parents stays where the love is. It’s so lonely being on your own. God Bless all of you and I wish you happiness and success💗
Salaam. What kept me listening to your video was the part about how you close you were to your grandmother... They are the best, aren't they? I lost mine right after my divorce was sealed and she helped me so much when I was grieving then. To this day even, I forget the pain of that period when I think of my grandma... I heard you in the video and made prayer for your gramdmom Alhamdullilah, I ask anyone reading this to do the same for my grandma please as well. Jazakallah khair
So sorry about what you've been through. "When Allah loves His servant, He tests them", so, always continue having the "I can do this mindset" and remember to continue being patient and grateful no matter what! You've done an amazing job so far living your life to the fullest despite the uphill battles. So proud of you! May Allah continue to bless you. I can totally relate about your hardest time because I lost my grandma on March 22nd 2019 and we were absolutely everything to each other. I can't help shed tears everytime I remember her which happens so many times. The good thing is that she will always be a part of me and I get to live the life I would want her to be proud off. It's so not easy though! I miss her a lot! You are right, prayer does help! Keep up the faith sister! May the Almighty grant all our deceased loved ones jannat al firdaus! and reunite us with them in jannah!
May Allah swt make your affairs easy, grant you immense sabr and strength and protect you from every harm, illness and adversity, aameen ya rabbal alameen
Losing my grandmother was also the worst thing that I had to go through and God knows how tough life already was before her passing. I thought the separation from my very toxic ex was the worst thing ever and the scars would never heal but losing my grandma was another level of pain, especially because I wish I did more with her and for her x
Girl, I cried with you on this one. I just lost my brother a couple of months ago, and living life with someone who was so important to you feels like you're being thrown into something you never signed up for. Just know that - even if you HAD spent so much more time with her, called her more, etc. - it would still never feel like it was enough. There is no "enough time" when it comes to a loved one who has passed. But we also cannot spend our lives running from person to person in fear of losing them - that's not sustainable nor is it a healthy way to live. And know that where your sweet grandmother is - how you were with her, the time you spent with her, your efforts for her - I'm certain she feels that what you did for her was MORE than enough. Losing my brother has just reminded me/taught me to prioritize my loved ones more so in my life, and be as fully present as possible with them. Keeping you and your grandmother in my duas
Thank you for sharing, may Allah have mercy on your grandmother. And give her Jannah ❤. I'm sure she is proud of you. Your are a strong sister, Allah is with you. Wishing you nothing but the best❤❤
I and im sure a lot of other women can completely relate to this. Ive been ghosted in the past when getting to know people. The worst ones are the ones who try to come back after ghosting you the first time, putting up a facade they didn't know what they were doing and asking for a second chance... All the while knowing they will ghost you again. It really is awful how some men just dont know how to function appropriately and healthily whilst getting to know and dating a woman for marriage purposes.
BURKHA was nacessary in 7th centurie's arab farstreted society,🤗 Prophet had 25slaves and 11wife, and Made his wife the mother of the Ummah🤨, but did not make himself the father of anyone...Other's wife halal for himself🤨... prophet was also farstreted person 🙄
Thank u so much this is the best,aim 23 single mom ihave 6 yrs old son ilive with my parent,pls pray for me that ican give my son best life,love from somalia🇸🇴🇸🇴❤
This was so well done. 👏 I really enjoyed and appreciated your style & honesty❣️🌹❣️ May Allah (swt) have mercy on your Grandma & bless her with Jannat-Al-Firdaus. Allahumma Ameen. 📿🤲🏻
You don't need my approval sister, but regardless, I still wanted to say, I'm really proud of you for multiple reasons: 1. Willing to be so vulnerable on the internet 2. Respecting yourself enough to not tolerate unfaithfulness from your husband, especially when our culture oftentimes says, "I know you're sad, sister, but trust Allah that your husband will repent. " Which is really damn toxic. And 3. I can't imagine how hard it was to go through your divorce, but going back to my first point, I'm so grateful that you know your value. And you weren't going to allow your husband to take you for granted. And lastly, I know this is really easy for me to say, dear sweet sister, but please don't punish yourself because your husband was a cheater. Much love to you. And I hope, a year after this video was made, your heart is continuing to heal, habibti. ❤️
Jaserah, may Allah give your grandmother a home in jannah. I was very close to my paternal grandfather. May we both be reunited with out beloved elders in heaven. I also wanted to say that I really respect that you were clear & direct in saying that although it is not kind to shun a Muslim who comes out as gay and is seeking guidance/help from the Muslim community, Allah makes crystal clear in the Qur'an that to act on such desires is a grave sin and is not permissible in Islam. I see too many Muslims today saying no, no such acts are fine and we should accept them. I respect your courage to stand by the parameters set by the Qur'an even if it isn't what popular American culture says. Like you said, it is a test of faith. Thanks you for setting a good example for young Muslims.
Assalaamu Alaykum.. loosing a loved one is the hardest thing.. my mom passed 3months ago n u think that in time you will feel better but u just feel worse because it just sets in that you will never see them in this life again n u wish u had done more.. May Allah make it easy for all going through the loss of someone very close to u n may this bring you closer to Allah.. love you for the pleasure of Allah
Don't feel any shame about your situation. Im 33 unmarried with no children. Almost got married at 21 and got cheated on by him. Your inner beauty is something that can never been stolen from you. My relationship with Jesus gets me through life and gives me life. Call on him when you need comfort and help. ❤
Omg I just discovered you on my fyp and I am obsessed. I love and respect how you answered your first question, there are things in life that we don’t need explain to everyone. 💕💕💕
Jaserah you are a beautiful Muslim woman and seem you are the kind of woman any man would treasure as a wife. You deserve better you have nothing to carry shame for.
Completely understand your feeling for your grandma. I just lost my dear dear uncle, who was like a father and a child at the same time to me, my world just crashed. The regrets left kill you inside. Alhamdulillah Allah does not leave us hopeless. We can make dua for our loved ones who went before us. We can make dua we get reunited in sha Allah. Ameen May Allah have mercy on our deceased loved ones. Ameen
Thank you so much for making this video! U have no idea how much i relate to u. Feeling less lonely, it’s good to know i’m not the only one facing this 🥺
I think the reason why people who come out openly are mistreated, is not because of their orientation itself, the bigger problem is the displaying of a big sin so openly and expecting to be supported for this. Whether it's relationships outside marriage or living out the homosexual feelings, as Muslims we do make mistakes but we should treat those secretly and ask Allah for forgiveness. Other then that I like the way you spoke about this issue.
I can totally relate to you in many ways, especially with the death of my parents. They both died of cancer. They lived long, nevertheless. I just wish they were around longer. AlHamdulillah they died with shahadah and that is the comfort that I live on with. May Allah SWT grant them, our ummah and loved ones Jannah Al Firdaus without reckoning. Aamiin.
My mom is a nurse and she used to work in Saudi and my dad had a sales/marketing job and my grandma, dad’s mom used to come off and on to be with us as we did not have our mom living with us. We lived with my dad in India and my mom was working in Saudi. My grandma her name is Khadijah, would come and live with us. She passed away 21 April 2017. I went to India in Nov 2019. I can’t even see the house in which she lives in. I cheat my self like as if she lives in India and I live in US and she comes in my dreams and she is always giving me sweets or food. Not a day goes by that I don’t think of her. I am 43 and still can’t get over her loss. My mom and dad are alive but my grandma has played a big role in my life.
I just wanna say, it’s extremely sad to see people saying “failed marriages or divorce is just part of life” Having a failed/unhappy marriage SHOULD NOT BE PART OF LIFE. I really hope that women of the newer desi generation /Muslim community stop normalizing staying in unhealthy marriages. Y’all deserve to be respected and loved in your marriage. Constantly being miserable is not just part of life. It’s not normal
Habibti that’s not how it works. Broaden your vision and understanding of events and circumstances before commenting. A failed marriage means there was an attempt (marriage) that failed (divorce) and there’s literally no shame or wrong in that. You preach not to stay in toxic relationships so how the hell do you want men or women to leave their toxic spouses without divorcing? Or do you think people willingly marry toxic people with toxic families? Are you God so that you can predict who’s a bad person beforehand to eliminate the possibility of a failed marriage in your life? Your comment makes absolutely no sense. Think before you speak.
@@delivia3474 “I hope the community stops normalizing staying in unhealthy marriages” meaning I support divorce if you’re in an unhealthy marriage. I’m confused as to how my comment comes across the way you’re understanding it. But all I’m getting at is that NO ONE should have to face a toxic marriage, meaning we should create an environment in the community where men and women are treated with love and respect so that we don’t have to worry about entering a toxic marriage. I’m saying that women deserve love and respect and should not have to deal with being in toxic marriages. I’m 100000% not coming across the way you think.
@@delivia3474 Like I’m saying that it shouldn’t be normal for so many women to be in hard marriages and that we deserve to be fully loved without having to worry about dealing with divorce. I’m not sure how else to explain but I’m in SUPPORT of spouses leaving toxic marriages. I am sad that you’d think to ask “Are you God” I’m just saying that we need to do better and treat eachother better 🤷🏽♀️
@@NatashaOmarr what even is the point of your comment then ? You clearly don’t speak English as a first language so maybe that’s the reason you’re not being able to get your point across effectively, but no man or woman can predict who’s a bad spouse before marrying them- thus making failed marriages INEVITABLE, and every experience you go through is indeed a part of life because you couldn’t have seen that coming so it shouldn’t be condemned. Again, think before you speak. And im sorry if that statement offended you
@@NatashaOmarr also your understanding of a failed marriage is very narrow. Not every man and woman have divorced their spouse because they were toxic. There are hundreds of other reasons why a marriage could fail. You can’t say it “shouldn’t” be a part of life. It’s like saying “failing an exam and having to repeat an academic year is so sad it shouldn’t be a part of life”
This vid just popped up on my suggestions and so glad it did. You gave really good advice about making the most of people you love when they are alive. Good reminder. May Allah grant your nan jannatul firdous ameen
Sis, thank you for this video. A lot of people may criticize you for talking about what happened, but basically the same thing happened to me. I have no one to talk to because all my friends are married, and my family wants to pressure me to stay with him because it would make our family look bad. I'm looking for support, even if it's watching this video.
I feel like I relate to you and your situation so much. I just hit five years with my husband. We have children. Since we got married he has always been protective over his phone. Always had a password, never left it, notifications are hidden. Ours was arranged so I really didn't know him at all. Hes quiet and really shut off emotionally. His family were abusive and he moved out with me so I'll always appreciate that but I'm so torn. I'm such a open and social person but he doesn't like to talk much and likes his peace. I'm used to it now but I wonder sometimes if I can live like this all my life although I do feel I love him
Couples therapy might help. Or speak to his mother/make amends with them. My sister (now divorced) used to be married to a guy who didnt really speak much. I think its because he lived alone a lot. She wasnt perfect either but she said sometimes they would just sit in silence. I thought that was quite sad. But she said that was just his personality. When she used to come back to our family home she was wasn't as bubbly and loud (always funny and bubbly) and she said when you get married either the guy becomes like the wife or the wife becomes like the husband. Try new experiences or find out what hobbies he likes and do them together. get him to open up more. xx
@@scarlettkhan9667 my mil is simiakr to him personality wise. Both his parents worked and there wasn't really anyone around to really pay much attention to the kids or ask them how their feeling which is why he still struggles to express himself. So he's bit jsjt like that with me but everyone. We do have things we enjoy like movies which bring us closer. Since moving out my relationship with his parents has improved but their mentality is really toxic. Basicslly can't stand that I see my family and want to be priority. I'm always respectful and visit every few weeks but I keep a healthy distance mentally because I refuse to be controlled anymore. My husband struggles to speak up. I feel for your sister it can get lonely. I was really bubbly and a joker and that part of me isn't really there anymore. I have taken the role of a husband too because he is more timid I have had to take OVER. which I never thought would happen becusse I was spoiled by the males in my family and was used to the complete opposite. I have found him to have been on dating sites whilst I was pregnant. A lot of secret conversations with his fmskly where they would tlak shit about me but he'd gaslight me into believing I was going crazy. How is your sister now
@@me23435 Bless you hun. My sister got divorced. She's british and he was pakistani born. She is back to her bubbly self now. A few men do mess around while their wife is pregnant (not an excuse though) I would improve his weaknesses. Yes he sounds a little unconfident. Sometimes it's not a bad thing to be with a soft partner. Some men are really bad-like controlling or abusive etc. Sometimes opposites attract. Make sure you take care of yourself too and enjoy time with your family/sisters. One of my sisters said it's better when you get along with your mother in law because when your husband steps out of line his mum will kick his ass. Fair enough they might be toxic, but somewhere down the line try and forge that good relationship with them. And dont forget to communicate with your husband and tell him how you're feeling. I think bad parents makes a person lose their confidence. Hopefully you can help him get better. Best wishes xx
Sis, I understand, of course if someone is not being real to you in a serious connection, then clearly you need to cut the person off totally, so I think you did the right thing.
Hang in there sweetie, We’re all here for a reason, God is using you to teach young girls as well as older women about life lesson. InShaAllah God will reward you in dunia and Ahkiraa! 💕
I don’t know why I felt lead to reply but I did. Grief is something that everyone goes thru in their own way but one thing I do know is that as time goes by it does get easier to deal with. My grandma passed before I graduated from High School, I’ll be 40 next yr so she’s been gone for a long time! At first it hurt so bad and I didn’t know how I was going to get over it. Then days went by, and years went by, and life passed by and while I still think about her especially around Christmas bc that’s her birthday and during October bc she passed of cancer and thats cancer awareness month…. I know she’s in a far better place than this world right now. You will never stop thinking about your grandmother but I do promise it will get easier. Oh and btw; I lived with my mom for 6 months while she went thru chemo and radiation that was the hardest thing I’d ever had to do. Now she’s in remission and I’ve moved to Houston (small world). So enjoy your parents we only get one….
Randomly came across this video, but thank you for speaking sense when talking about lgbtq. I’ve seen too many Muslims either saying acting on the feelings is permissible in islam or speaking with such hatred towards them
May Allah have mercy on your grandmother. Just wanted to say that the fact that the Quran mentions homosexuality does not mean that it is something innate in man. It's just a perversity that's been around since man has existed lol
This was so honest and raw. Dude even after I was married we stayed with my parents for a little bit too. We are all at different stages in our life, we all go through our struggles and tests. May Allah keep you strong and may you be reunited with your grandma in jannah. innah lillahi wa innah illahi rajiun
Yeah as a man that makes me sad marriage is not based on respect and fear for God anymore marriage use to be traditional back then us men new are roles it was chilling idk what happened
I’m also living at home at 27 and unmarried, so thank you so much for this video. I was feeling really down for not having my own place and being at a certain place in my life. You’re beautiful and such an inspiration, MashAllah. ❤
Salaam, I recently found your channel and I enjoy watching your content. I also really like your style and clothing choices. I just wanted to say I understand your grief, my grandma passed away in July and it’s still a process that takes time. Some days are harder than others. What really helped me find ease is knowing that one day insha Allah we will see the ones we love again. This isn’t the end. sometimes we tend to make ourselves feel even worse by thinking there’s things we could’ve done more or we should’ve done while they were still alive. May Allah have mercy on your grandma and grant her Jannah and may you find everyday a little bit easier 🤲🏼🤍
Sister, Allah did not mention the story in the Quran to demonstrate that those feelings are "natural". This is a very grave misunderstanding. Please be careful what you spread to your followers, because you will be accountable for this. Rather, Allah meant to show that these people strayed, and then were sent Prophet Lot alyhis salam, to correct them, and when they did not listen after many attempts they were destroyed. Allah is all aware of all times, so Allah knew people like this would traverse the Earth again, and the Quran is to show us - Muslims, how to deal when a situation as this arises. May Allah guide you, and all of us, Ameen.
Maasha Allah great answer, however I agree with the sister about treating them better so they can take the dawah and teaching better. Scarying them away doesn't achieve anything. We should have educational organisations dedicated to this now as this has become a massive fitnah in our Muslim community.
@@nuurajirday409 You are so right, and yes, I fully agree with treating them kindly. I think we can learn from Nuh (alayhis salam) that if one form of dawah is not working, we could also switch it up, until all mediums are exhausted. Personally, I don't think it should be normalised or addressed in Muslim spheres, with the exception of teaching the story of Lut alayhis salam. I believe it will be more effective to keep it as a foreign and outlandish idea where even a student feels embarrassed that they have to hide on themselves and not mention it to their peers. In this way, perhaps a minority will be effected, but overall the masses are protected. A sincere student will seek private consultation. You will notice when working with children, it isn't in the fitrah to have these inclinations.They have been exposed to it in movies, music and fiction books. Main topic of focus among teens and children should be building awareness of Allah, His Mercy, His appreciation in committing to right, His generosity in reward to those who persist in good, and ofc Heaven and Hell. When we build a connection and love for Allah, we want to and have motivation to do right in order to earn His countenance. The Quran must never be neglected in Muslim households, it is our true source of guidance, and has all the answers . Thank you sister in your respect and knowledgeable response, may Allah bless you and your family, Ameen.
feel the same way.. it hit me hard when you explained the love and relationship with your granny.. She was my best friend, she supported me backed me and cared for me more than my mom did. and I know everything happens for a reason, but it was so sudden, she was fine one day and the other she was gone, and i was not even in the country, so I couldnt even say goodbye. I remember how many times she asked to see me while i was literally 5 min away and had nothing to do and I just didnt go and watched movies instead. I feel so bad but I really hope to see her again in Jannah. Biidmillah
Mashallah sister, so proud of you for opening up. Takes soo much courage and effort to maintain the confidence you have. May Allah keep you safe and well and look after all your needs.❤
I'm sorry that happened to you.. You seem like such a lovely and kind woman, you deserve better than that!!! Inchallah you will find a good loyal husband who treats you like a queen! ♡
My grandma was my first mom, Cos she raised me untill I turn 6 then I went back to my parents home. She passed way 12 years ago. And still I cry for her and Remember her every single day. Her food, he smile, her smell, her hug….. I ask Allah to I meet her in Jannah and tell her “ thank u grandma for doing so much for me. And I am so sorry for being spoiled grandchild to u… “ I have so much to say to her.
It's so sad to know that your ex husband was imam too...I mean even after holding a spiritual position he was so secretive and wrong...so hard to trust people nowadays
@@Azab.in.Hellfire Yes yes yes. I am traumatized without even experiencing myself but other peoples stories are enough. I call these kind of guys fuckboy akhis!
In my local Masjid these dawah guys would marry sisters and later leave her with a child, other would cheat on wife with girls outside. Do polygamy marriages and put all wives on Government welfare system. Never trust dawah men.
Oh dear, I feel you, same here, and despites not yet being married only being engaged, having 3 kids and he just leaves you like that, I lost my mind. It's totally normal and thankyou for sharing. I hope you'll find the right partner
Hey there, Never watched your channel but I felt why I came here. I also lost my grandma and I feel you. I still had those same emotions from time to time but how I coped? I felt that missing her so much was affecting my health and if it would gonna continue and I wouldn’t carry on like I should then I would not be doing justice to my grandma legacy which she left in the form of her grand kids. So, in short, it’s going to take some time for you to be able to move on but yes we all going to reunite and when it happens, it should be a proud moment as we lived well and starting from taking care of yourself by forgiving yourself for the things you wouldn’t possibly know. Prayers for you, yours and my grandma. May Allah bless their souls and make us a way of Sadqa Jariyah. Ameen
Also I loved your answer on LGBTQ. I hate it when people go like bruh it's unnatural because it's clearly not like you said it has been addressed and how you easily said you don't judge them and it's their choice, is so admirable! 💕💖
No Muslim is allowed to support Them in Anyway, and supporting them in any way shape or form will land you a fate similar to that of the wife of prophet Lūt عليه السلام, ruclips.net/p/PLidgMLtX6lkEImopB-xrHPpporcDd0Wgk
I saw your video about divorce which has helped me to keep moving on and not settle. I think your sucha amazing and strong person, may Allah bless you and your family❤
Wow! It is sad how someone can be married, live together etc and not even speak. If you had unfortunately you would have had to deal with him. Thank you for sharing. It's so sad how divorce is effecting the ummah.
*It is great that you realized that it is good to live with parents & own family who TRULY loves you. That takes high EQ* Living alone is stupid, dangerous, easy to become immoral & sin. Pray with family, cook with family, learn to get along.. Yet, have own room etc..
Hey Jaserah! Ayhan here, your old friend from houston days! Thanks for sharing your vulnerability! May Allah exalt you always. Sending you all the love!❤️
Remember sister that Allah will give u someone better than him.Forget about that guy u deserve someone better.When Allah takes something away Allah replaces with something better.Hope that helps.
I'm really sorry to hear that you went through that 😔 don't worry sis Allah has better in store for you inshaAllah 😭 you will marry the best man and be happy soon inshaAllah 😌😍💞💞
BURKHA was nacessary in 7th centurie's arab farstreted society,🤗 Prophet had 25slaves and 11wife, and Made his wife the mother of the Ummah🤨, but did not make himself the father of anyone...Other's wife halal for himself🤨... prophet was also farstreted person 🙄
Salaam Jaserah, Your videos are entertaining but it's this video that really resonated with me and I learned so much about you (who knew you'd be Hyderabad too lol!) I'm thankful that I subscribed to you. Your struggles, your decisions, and your regrets but your attempts to keep moving forward as a Muslim girl, you shared it so well and now I feel like I'm so connected to a stranger. Its always good to know we're not alone in our struggles. Prayers to you, your family and your grandmother from another 30 something Hyderabadi American Hijabi.
Why is being '31 and living at home' smthg to be ashamed of. Esp as a single Muslim female. It's really ok and we shouldn't feel pressured to adopt cultures where at age 18 you're cut off financially, physically and emotionally. Studies show the clear benefits of living in a multigenerational home, esp for children. We were meant to live in tribes, to give our parents company as they age. In Muslim communities it's common for women not to move out unless it's for education, work or marriage.
Yea I still live with my parents even tho im working and finished uni. I dont wanna move out until marriage in shaa Allah💙
I lived with my parents until I was 32, alxamdulillaah and saved all my earnings and we bought the house we live now
@@ilhaanf663 wow, yea I never wanna live alone. Either with husband or parents 😂😂😂
Ikr it's not a bad thing
People society pathetic norms
Daughter can live with their parents
the fact that he was an imam shook me, even though im completely aware disloyalty comes in every form...im so sorry you had to go through that trauma, but amazed you still have such stron faith mashallah
Its don't shock me! Remember dawah guys
MashAllah you are so
Pretty, don’t take this the wrong way but your blush seems too intense, unless you like it like that. I think it would look better if it was toned down.
@@Catwoman8100 salam sister, if you ever feel like you need to add "no offense", or "dont take it the wrong way" then please know that your statement is 100% meant to offend or will be taken the wrong way = "youre sounding super jealous and couldnt stop yourself from trying to bring down another person is a not so subtle way."
If you dont like intense blush, you're more than welcome to tone it down on yourself, or not wear it.
I personally love her blush, and love an intense blush on myself too, but even that does not or should not dictate what she should do or think of doing...
In my experience, I hear about infidelity with the Imam’s quite frequently. Some even use the the rights of polygamy as an excuse. For example, some would “marry” a sister only to divorce her days later with a vague excuse or none at all. Most women won’t share that info for fear of embarrassment and or vulnerability in the community. I am a marriage therapist and work solely in the Muslim community, and you would be absolutely shocked by some of the stories I hear on a weekly basis.
Unfortunately, I only see the couples after the marriage, and most times are irrevocably damaged. I try to promote counseling prior to the marriage, but most are not interested, and frankly those that don’t have the best intentions will never seek guidance.
The Muslim community has long had problems with “men” that are serial marriage and divorcés. They seek out women as sexual objects (sometimes even living completely off of them) and never as partners. They do this under the guise of marriage. In my experience, they often have a history of trauma and or mental health issues from being “raised” by parent(s) that were traumatized themselves. It’s called generational trauma. It’s a cycle of abuse that’s non stop. They are unwilling and or unable to be the provider or protectors of the home, yet expect all their demands met.
Some of these “men” extensively learn the Quran & Hadith for several years and with that knowledge they cherry pick what they will apply to themselves. Having the knowledge does not necessarily mean it is applied. Knowing and doing are completely different things.
Always remember, we are ALL human and have weaknesses both known and in most cases unknown to the public. So please don’t believe that a person, no matter their title, are not capable of certain acts.
As always, Allah alone knows best!
A sister called Amaani Noor exposed dawah guys in 2019!!!
I just found out that my husband had been unfaithful throughout our marriage and I have only been married for a year and a half. Thank you for sharing this. It gives me hope to know that others have been through similar situations and I will make it out just fine.
Stay strong Amina xx
Please stay strong ❤
😂
Allah is with you sister. "he's grief is long who's hope is short" imam Ali. So have hope in Allah that your hurt is for a purpose and your pain will not go in vain...
May Allah grant you someone who is better than him, AMEEN
Well done for standing up for yourself and not allowing yourself to be stuck in an unfaithful marriage. Indian women in particular find it very difficult to divorce and many Asian parents would prefer their children to stay in a loveless marriage than be divorced. Sad times !!
But I have to say ,I hve the utmost respect for Indian women who put family first
@@dynamicemotions2253 nah, God comes 1st, if your core beliefs don't line with Islam then you need to change that, if they do and he's stepping out, then he needs to go but of course counseling comes 1st. You sisters probably lack brothers or Strong fathers by the sound of it because no one can mess with our family without us tearing them a new one. Family means if ones hurt, then all of us are and you better believe we're gonna fix the hrut
@Exmuslim Sahil😊 dude there are other things too in which women are given loose
So true ... My mum is worried what society would think or have to say
this is so true of entire desi dispora ....
my family is guyanese and people feel we are less conservative and this is not true at all .. mostly our families prefer we stay and put on poker face weather we are happy or not because of what will people say
This came up in my recommendations. It's so refreshing to hear a muslim woman talk about these topics. Especially divorce, as its such a taboo subject for us. Also bc other people on here only talk about how amazing thier lives are when in reality, we've all come across some hardships. This was very interesting to listen to. Thank u for posting this, I understand it could not have been easy for u
I know it’s hard to share these things openly, thank you for sharing this with us. I teared when you teared 😥 May Allah have mercy on your grandmother Ameen.
Omgg hiiii
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@@shaitanknowsbest3822
Looolll your spelling is a massive joke! maybe people will take you more seriously if you get educated
@Exmuslim Sahil😊 Hey, you took some verses from the Kuran but didn't tell the context of them. It's probably your intention to make your argument more convincing and to fool the people. At the time where the Kuran was arriving all men were supposed to work and by doing that this working was not only to finance his life but also to finance the life of his wife and maybe the children. This was the 'normal' structure of a family (nowadays this structure isn't always in a family but this doesn't mean that the following orders are only for the people who have this structure). Resulting in the doubled property for the man. Another aspect is that the woman gets beaten by a man..... yes it sounds really evil if you don't tell it with the context! It says that a woman who disobey to guard in the unseen (in their husband’s absence themselves as well as their husband’s property and honor) and after admonish them and then leave them alone while sleeping and then the order comes to hit them. This hit is only to get them in sense but it's definitely not to hit them till they get injured or something else.
I can't explain all verses now so let's have a look at another verse which clearly shows the gender equality between men and women.
49/Al - Hujurat - 13: O mankind! Surely We have created you from a male and a female, and made you nations and tribes, that you may get acquainted with one another (your lineage). Surely the most honorable of you in the Presence of Allah is he who is the most pious of you (not by your race or lineage). Surely Allah is All-Knowing, All-Aware.
You don’t have to apologize for crying. My grandmother was my world. When she passed, it altered the course of my life. May Allah reunite you in Jannah 💖
I just came across your channel. I am a Christian and I know that we have some differences in our beliefs HOWEVER can say that I haven't found a channel where Ive feel so welcomed!! I feel like I'm talking to a best friend and honestly helps me learn so much from different topics! Thank you for sharing all your personal experience. I've learned a lot. May God continue to give you strength. 🙏
Welcome sister. It doesn't matter what you believe in. Islam welcomes everyone
amen i’m christian too
@@haesa4863 Stop deceiving others. Islam has clear commands about persecuting other religions and literally killing apostates (“whoever leaves his religion, kill him.”).
While her story seems to be very relatable, as a Christian you and her don’t have the same god. Muslims believe that Jesus was just some prophet. Jesus is the way the truth and the life, no one can come to the father except through him. There is only one way to the Father all other paths leads to permanent separation from God. I hope as a Christian that you believe this in your heart and feel compelled by the Holy Spirit to warn people about the Love of Jesus and the wrath of God that is on all of those who do not come to him through his ONLY begotten son.
God is not willing that any should perish but that all come to repentance by trusting in the finished works of the cross through Jesus.
Thanks for sharing your story! May you all seek the face of Jesus. He was not just a prophet he is not dead like every other prophet, he rose from the dead and defeated death proving every word of the Bible to be true. Jesus, (Yeshua) Your only way to heaven 🕊
@J thanks for the explanation, but there is no other way to God except through Jesus. It’s up to us to believe in that.
Thank you so much for sharing your story. You are so strong!
Salammm!!!!
Ameen
Anything for some air time 😂🤣
Salaam
Marriage must be based on trust, loyalty and being faithfulness!. Its haram talking to other girls/women behind you're wifes back, it's a sin.
And respect
Your profile name describe Mohammed perfectly. He owned several female s3x slaves and he simply married whoever he wanted and even destroyed adoption to steal his son’s wife Zainab. If men have this kind of person who marries children, looks at women as a piece of meat and enables domestic violence, what can you expect of men?
Based on what? 4:6 And if you fear that you will not deal justly with the orphans, then marry those that please you of [other] women, two or three or four. But if you fear that you will not be just, then [marry only] one or those your right hand possesses. That is more suitable that you may not incline [to injustice].
The talk on justice is about finances. Meaning if you don't have the money for a widow don't marry her and steal her kids money. marry other women. If you cant do financial justice toward multiple wives then marry only one or a slavegirl (who presumable has a lower mahr and expectations)
If you argue that its an 1 wife is the preferred option then you have to argue that a slave girl is even more preferable to a free woman.
Nowhere in the verse is it talking about a woman deciding for her husband how many wives or slave girls he can marry.
It's not haram if he wishes to marry a second wife.
Polygamy marriages are corruption
Bravo to you for being classy and not telling gossipy details that are no one’s business
Thank you for this!
I am 32 never married dealing with heath issues living at home so let’s build a sisterhood around making this ok making divorce etc ok. May Allah bless and keep you and give you the best in this life and the next!
May Allah swt bless you with full shifaa and long healthy righteous life of comfort and ease, may Allah swt grant us all the strength of emaan and protect us and our loved ones from all harm, illnesses and adversity, aameen ya rabbal alameen
Divorce isnt ok. It's both genders problem but we can never say divorce is ok specially with children involved
Lol. Make divorce ok 😬. Acuudubillah
Allah throne shakes with divorce so divorce will never be okay. Islam allows it but every other avenue must 1st be exhausted to the max before divorce
True.
I lost my grandma 7years ago and I still miss her every single day and wish I could have one last conversation/hug. My advise is cherish those memories because we will be reunited in jannah on day IA
Aameen
@@shaitanknowsbest3822 may Allah guide you.
My ex was/is an Imam. (Married +divorced in 2000, remained friends!) At 56, he’s gone completely off the rails. I can’t describe it. Mania, phone addiction, lying, stealing, mooching. Showing extreme arrogance. Yelling, screaming.
was he different in public and different in person?
@@EV-EV-EV sounds like a covert narcissist. I got married to one
@@Noelleelle Qurstion since I have never interacted with an Imam on a personal capacity. . . how was he? How did he express his narcissism? Please do get into the details if not too much trouble, since I have family who may have an inclination to getting married to Imams and I wish to know from an informed person what it's like.
@@EV-EV-EV I don’t have experience with an Imam. I am not personally Muslim or have any affiliation. My soon to be ex husband is a covert narcissist and like the other person said above. He was addicted to his phone, lied, was arrogant, did not care about my feelings. Gaslighted, manipulated. Other people in public would think he was the nicest person but behind closed doors he treated me awfully. He lovebombed me in the beginning of the relationship and made me think that I was everything he ever wanted.
@@Noelleelle Did he beat you and say nasty things to you?
Thank you for sharing your story. We all have the struggles we face in life and it’s nice to see you using your platform to address this. Not only to address that the life we show online is artificial but to show youngsters that not everything is perfect as it seems as this does affect their mental health. I went through something similar and left my ex at 8 month pregnant. We never spoke after this date and he remarried soon after and never asked to see his child. I also lost my dad when my daughter was a few month old but I thank him for supporting me when I returned back home. There was no stigma, no care what people would say. If you are reading this please make dua for my dad because he really knew the worth of a women.
May the Almighty give you strengthi will make duaa for you
You are amazing. I am sorry that i will be blocked on Insta and probably here. But i just wanna say that you are amazing. I am Muslim guy from Serbia. My family is Christian. I started learning about Islam 6 years ago. And recently i decided to become Muslim. You are amazing, really. I am very happy that there is person like you in this world. I wish you all the happiness!
Aaah. That’s so sweet
why would you be blocked?
@@lucyhill9125 Ukraine war thing msybe
@@Carolina-rd3gh just shut up pls it’s tiring. Go educate yourself.
May Allah make it easy for you and bless you. I cant imagine how hard it must be for you to become a muslim as a serb. Hold on to Allah. Everything and everybody wont last, but Allah will always be there for you. I hope somehow the serb and bosnian muslims will be welcoming. And if not: the world is big. Wish you the best.
Wowww unfaithfulness & lack of loyalty even though he was an imam at your masjid!! How sad! 😔 We always assume religiosity leads to every other good trait, but it's so sad when it's not the case.
There is always 2 side of the story when it comes to divorce you heard her version but what about the guys.
@@UsmanAli-rc7vg he’s welcome to make a RUclips video and discuss his side.
@@UsmanAli-rc7vg lol...two sides to being unfaithful in a marriage ??? LMAO
@@UsmanAli-rc7vg brother loyalty here means he wasn't willing to be a dog for her and she wasn't willing to be anything but a foul zaniyyah. Makeup is zina
@@ummerfarooq5383 and faithfulness? smh at you defending that
Growing up as a Pakistani Muslim my mom got divorced and raised us as a single mom but she will was looked down on by the community because she got divorced even though she was not in the wrong. I think these things should be talked about more and should be accepted.
This video really hit home for me. I lost my brother in 2020 and not a day that goes by that I don’t think about him. I regret everyday and blame myself for not spending more time with him or called and asked about him little more. I wanna tell everyone to please spend more time with your loved ones and call them more, because you never know when you’ll lose them. I don’t want you to be in my position and beat yourself everyday for not spending time with them 😪
I’m 29 living with my mother and sisters and never got married and I’m still in school.. sorry to hear but ur strong
Your problem is going to school... no man wants to marry an "educated" feminist egotistical woman. A female 19 years old pretty is all they want.
@@Hunredbandz ewww
BURKHA was nacessary in 7th centurie's arab farstreted society,🤗
Prophet had 25slaves and 11wife, and Made his wife the mother of the Ummah🤨, but did not make himself the father of anyone...Other's wife halal for himself🤨... prophet was also farstreted person 🙄
@@Hunredbandz that gets old real quick.
That's harsh I'm sorry sister. I wish you good faith, health, a speedy recovery, beautiful marriage and a family to rejoice your agony.
I loved your honesty throughout the video, it is the first step in destigmatizing a lot of "taboo" topics within our community! Praying for your continued happiness and success
My response to SimplyJaserah on LGBTIQ
ruclips.net/video/hWKP0E9jTmE/видео.html
May Allah swt grant your grandmother Jannat ul-Firdaus. Ameen. It's definitely really hard to lose a loved one.
BURKHA was nacessary in 7th centurie's arab farstreted society,🤗
Prophet had 25slaves and 11wife, and Made his wife the mother of the Ummah🤨, but did not make himself the father of anyone...Other's wife halal for himself🤨... prophet was also farstreted person 🙄
I lost my Mom a month ago and i can relate 100% (BTW, started tearing up with you) Sending you love and strength!
May Allah give you strength and sabr I will pray for you
Mat allah have mercy on all of them. Ameen
May Allah give your sabr and all the dua during this phase in your life.
May Allah have mercy on her soul
@Exmuslim Sahil😊 Hey, you took some verses from the Kuran but didn't tell the context of them. It's probably your intention to make your argument more convincing and to fool the people. At the time where the Kuran was arriving all men were supposed to work and by doing that this working was not only to finance his life but also to finance the life of his wife and maybe the children. This was the 'normal' structure of a family (nowadays this structure isn't always in a family but this doesn't mean that the following orders are only for the people who have this structure). Resulting in the doubled property for the man. Another aspect is that the woman gets beaten by a man..... yes it sounds really evil if you don't tell it with the context! It says that a woman who disobey to guard in the unseen (in their husband’s absence themselves as well as their husband’s property and honor) and after admonish them and then leave them alone while sleeping and then the order comes to hit them. This hit is only to get them in sense but it's definitely not to hit them till they get injured or something else.
I can't explain all verses now so let's have a look at another verse which clearly shows the gender equality between men and women.
49/Al - Hujurat - 13: O mankind! Surely We have created you from a male and a female, and made you nations and tribes, that you may get acquainted with one another (your lineage). Surely the most honorable of you in the Presence of Allah is he who is the most pious of you (not by your race or lineage). Surely Allah is All-Knowing, All-Aware.
I am 26 gonna turn 27 in a few months… I moved out of my parents place at 24 to live with a partner for two years. I just got out of a unfaithful relationship, and moved back home. It feels a bit comforting for me to know you’re 31 and living with your parents. We’re in a similar boat. Just found your video and it made me feel better ❤️🩹 lots of love from an Asian (Vietnamese) sister!
You should never feel weird or embarrassed to live with your parents and other family members. In fact, we are made to live with our families. It's Western society that created the idea that people must or should move out of their parents home and live alone. Most cultures around the world practice and support the idea of men and women living with their parents and families unless they decide they want to get married. And even when they get married, they don't move far away. They would end up buying homes in the same Neighborhood or community that their parents live in.
I had horribly abusive parents that never wanted me. I left “home” on my 18th birthday. I am extremely depressed and have been for many years. I really feel like if I would have had a loving family that had welcomed me and let me stay until I was ready to leave, my whole life would be better. I hope everyone that has good parents stays where the love is. It’s so lonely being on your own. God Bless all of you and I wish you happiness and success💗
@@stephanieann8115 Awww May Allah swt give you ease and comfort Ameen🤲🏻 which country are you from?
Salaam. What kept me listening to your video was the part about how you close you were to your grandmother... They are the best, aren't they? I lost mine right after my divorce was sealed and she helped me so much when I was grieving then. To this day even, I forget the pain of that period when I think of my grandma... I heard you in the video and made prayer for your gramdmom Alhamdullilah, I ask anyone reading this to do the same for my grandma please as well. Jazakallah khair
will do dua for your grandmother x
I lost my grandma 2017 and it still hurts😭😭😭May Allah mercy on their souls♥️
I love your courage, strength, and kindness. Keep being you and sharing your heart and mind. ❤️
Thank you so much for the sweet words!! It means a lot 💖
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So sorry about what you've been through. "When Allah loves His servant, He tests them", so, always continue having the "I can do this mindset" and remember to continue being patient and grateful no matter what! You've done an amazing job so far living your life to the fullest despite the uphill battles. So proud of you! May Allah continue to bless you.
I can totally relate about your hardest time because I lost my grandma on March 22nd 2019 and we were absolutely everything to each other. I can't help shed tears everytime I remember her which happens so many times. The good thing is that she will always be a part of me and I get to live the life I would want her to be proud off. It's so not easy though! I miss her a lot!
You are right, prayer does help! Keep up the faith sister! May the Almighty grant all our deceased loved ones jannat al firdaus! and reunite us with them in jannah!
May Allah swt make your affairs easy, grant you immense sabr and strength and protect you from every harm, illness and adversity, aameen ya rabbal alameen
Amen ya rabbi
Thank you for being so vulnerable. I made duaa for your grandma. May Allah grant her jannah ❤️
Aameen Aameen yarabb 🤲
Losing my grandmother was also the worst thing that I had to go through and God knows how tough life already was before her passing. I thought the separation from my very toxic ex was the worst thing ever and the scars would never heal but losing my grandma was another level of pain, especially because I wish I did more with her and for her x
Same here stay strong 😭🥺
Girl, I cried with you on this one. I just lost my brother a couple of months ago, and living life with someone who was so important to you feels like you're being thrown into something you never signed up for. Just know that - even if you HAD spent so much more time with her, called her more, etc. - it would still never feel like it was enough. There is no "enough time" when it comes to a loved one who has passed. But we also cannot spend our lives running from person to person in fear of losing them - that's not sustainable nor is it a healthy way to live. And know that where your sweet grandmother is - how you were with her, the time you spent with her, your efforts for her - I'm certain she feels that what you did for her was MORE than enough.
Losing my brother has just reminded me/taught me to prioritize my loved ones more so in my life, and be as fully present as possible with them. Keeping you and your grandmother in my duas
Thank you for opening up to us! I’m sure it is hard to put yourself out there like that! I had fun watching and getting to know you better! :)
Thank you so much for watching and supporting me! It means a lot !!
@@simplyjaserah
My response to SimplyJaserah on LGBTIQ
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@@simplyjaserah hi
Do u guys see death anniversary by Christian calendar? We do by lunar calendar
Just curious
Thank you for sharing, may Allah have mercy on your grandmother. And give her Jannah ❤. I'm sure she is proud of you. Your are a strong sister, Allah is with you. Wishing you nothing but the best❤❤
Thank you so much 🥺💖
ALLAHOUMA AMEEEN YAH RAHBI
I lived with my mom until I was 45. Who cares tbh I personally enjoyed living at home.
I am sorry for your loss. Deffo a wake-up call to learn to really truly love and care for those we are close to. May Allah put the ease in your heart
I and im sure a lot of other women can completely relate to this. Ive been ghosted in the past when getting to know people. The worst ones are the ones who try to come back after ghosting you the first time, putting up a facade they didn't know what they were doing and asking for a second chance... All the while knowing they will ghost you again. It really is awful how some men just dont know how to function appropriately and healthily whilst getting to know and dating a woman for marriage purposes.
BURKHA was nacessary in 7th centurie's arab farstreted society,🤗
Prophet had 25slaves and 11wife, and Made his wife the mother of the Ummah🤨, but did not make himself the father of anyone...Other's wife halal for himself🤨... prophet was also farstreted person 🙄
I also think same🙄
@@shaitanknowsbest3822 you are definitely silly and ignorant. You are definitely depressed seek help.
Thank u so much this is the best,aim 23 single mom ihave 6 yrs old son ilive with my parent,pls pray for me that ican give my son best life,love from somalia🇸🇴🇸🇴❤
May Allah make it easy for you and make him the coolness of your eyes. Ameen!! 💖
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Naa bax naayaa
@@Miraculous_Edits-k6c war naga amus
@@Humanity894 war bax gaal iska yeelyohow
Men are not men nowadays they just walk away. Another man's loss is Another man's gain. Don't look back just keep moving.
This was so well done. 👏
I really enjoyed and appreciated your style & honesty❣️🌹❣️
May Allah (swt) have mercy on your Grandma & bless her with Jannat-Al-Firdaus. Allahumma Ameen. 📿🤲🏻
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Loved the time tags, so useful! Please do a part 2! Xx
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You don't need my approval sister, but regardless, I still wanted to say, I'm really proud of you for multiple reasons: 1. Willing to be so vulnerable on the internet 2. Respecting yourself enough to not tolerate unfaithfulness from your husband, especially when our culture oftentimes says, "I know you're sad, sister, but trust Allah that your husband will repent. " Which is really damn toxic. And 3. I can't imagine how hard it was to go through your divorce, but going back to my first point, I'm so grateful that you know your value. And you weren't going to allow your husband to take you for granted. And lastly, I know this is really easy for me to say, dear sweet sister, but please don't punish yourself because your husband was a cheater. Much love to you. And I hope, a year after this video was made, your heart is continuing to heal, habibti. ❤️
Jaserah, may Allah give your grandmother a home in jannah. I was very close to my paternal grandfather. May we both be reunited with out beloved elders in heaven. I also wanted to say that I really respect that you were clear & direct in saying that although it is not kind to shun a Muslim who comes out as gay and is seeking guidance/help from the Muslim community, Allah makes crystal clear in the Qur'an that to act on such desires is a grave sin and is not permissible in Islam. I see too many Muslims today saying no, no such acts are fine and we should accept them. I respect your courage to stand by the parameters set by the Qur'an even if it isn't what popular American culture says. Like you said, it is a test of faith. Thanks you for setting a good example for young Muslims.
Thank you so much for the kind words!!! Ameen. May we both be reunited 💖
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Assalaamu Alaykum.. loosing a loved one is the hardest thing.. my mom passed 3months ago n u think that in time you will feel better but u just feel worse because it just sets in that you will never see them in this life again n u wish u had done more.. May Allah make it easy for all going through the loss of someone very close to u n may this bring you closer to Allah.. love you for the pleasure of Allah
Wasalam love. I’m so sorry for your mother’s loss. May Allah reunite you two and grant her jannatul firdos Ameen 💖💖 praying for you love!!
@@simplyjaserah Ameen..May we be reunited with all our loved ones
@@lilrossybee3671 May Allah Forgive your Mum's Sins and grant her Jannah.
Thanks for doing this video. I can't imagine how hard it must have been for you. Take care. Glad you have such a supportive family
Don't feel any shame about your situation. Im 33 unmarried with no children. Almost got married at 21 and got cheated on by him. Your inner beauty is something that can never been stolen from you. My relationship with Jesus gets me through life and gives me life. Call on him when you need comfort and help. ❤
Omg I just discovered you on my fyp and I am obsessed. I love and respect how you answered your first question, there are things in life that we don’t need explain to everyone. 💕💕💕
Losing my grandma was the hardest test for me too :( May Allah make it easier for you
Jaserah you are a beautiful Muslim woman and seem you are the kind of woman any man would treasure as a wife. You deserve better you have nothing to carry shame for.
Completely understand your feeling for your grandma. I just lost my dear dear uncle, who was like a father and a child at the same time to me, my world just crashed. The regrets left kill you inside.
Alhamdulillah Allah does not leave us hopeless. We can make dua for our loved ones who went before us. We can make dua we get reunited in sha Allah. Ameen
May Allah have mercy on our deceased loved ones. Ameen
Thank you so much for making this video! U have no idea how much i relate to u. Feeling less lonely, it’s good to know i’m not the only one facing this 🥺
I think the reason why people who come out openly are mistreated, is not because of their orientation itself, the bigger problem is the displaying of a big sin so openly and expecting to be supported for this. Whether it's relationships outside marriage or living out the homosexual feelings, as Muslims we do make mistakes but we should treat those secretly and ask Allah for forgiveness.
Other then that I like the way you spoke about this issue.
May Allah grant your grandma the highest rank of Jannah Ameen
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I can totally relate to you in many ways, especially with the death of my parents. They both died of cancer. They lived long, nevertheless. I just wish they were around longer. AlHamdulillah they died with shahadah and that is the comfort that I live on with. May Allah SWT grant them, our ummah and loved ones Jannah Al Firdaus without reckoning. Aamiin.
Amen ya rabbi
My mom is a nurse and she used to work in Saudi and my dad had a sales/marketing job and my grandma, dad’s mom used to come off and on to be with us as we did not have our mom living with us. We lived with my dad in India and my mom was working in Saudi. My grandma her name is Khadijah, would come and live with us. She passed away 21 April 2017. I went to India in Nov 2019. I can’t even see the house in which she lives in. I cheat my self like as if she lives in India and I live in US and she comes in my dreams and she is always giving me sweets or food. Not a day goes by that I don’t think of her. I am 43 and still can’t get over her loss. My mom and dad are alive but my grandma has played a big role in my life.
I just wanna say, it’s extremely sad to see people saying “failed marriages or divorce is just part of life”
Having a failed/unhappy marriage SHOULD NOT BE PART OF LIFE. I really hope that women of the newer desi generation /Muslim community stop normalizing staying in unhealthy marriages.
Y’all deserve to be respected and loved in your marriage. Constantly being miserable is not just part of life. It’s not normal
Habibti that’s not how it works. Broaden your vision and understanding of events and circumstances before commenting. A failed marriage means there was an attempt (marriage) that failed (divorce) and there’s literally no shame or wrong in that. You preach not to stay in toxic relationships so how the hell do you want men or women to leave their toxic spouses without divorcing? Or do you think people willingly marry toxic people with toxic families? Are you God so that you can predict who’s a bad person beforehand to eliminate the possibility of a failed marriage in your life? Your comment makes absolutely no sense. Think before you speak.
@@delivia3474 “I hope the community stops normalizing staying in unhealthy marriages” meaning I support divorce if you’re in an unhealthy marriage.
I’m confused as to how my comment comes across the way you’re understanding it.
But all I’m getting at is that NO ONE should have to face a toxic marriage, meaning we should create an environment in the community where men and women are treated with love and respect so that we don’t have to worry about entering a toxic marriage. I’m saying that women deserve love and respect and should not have to deal with being in toxic marriages.
I’m 100000% not coming across the way you think.
@@delivia3474 Like I’m saying that it shouldn’t be normal for so many women to be in hard marriages and that we deserve to be fully loved without having to worry about dealing with divorce. I’m not sure how else to explain but I’m in SUPPORT of spouses leaving toxic marriages. I am sad that you’d think to ask “Are you God” I’m just saying that we need to do better and treat eachother better 🤷🏽♀️
@@NatashaOmarr what even is the point of your comment then ? You clearly don’t speak English as a first language so maybe that’s the reason you’re not being able to get your point across effectively, but no man or woman can predict who’s a bad spouse before marrying them- thus making failed marriages INEVITABLE, and every experience you go through is indeed a part of life because you couldn’t have seen that coming so it shouldn’t be condemned. Again, think before you speak. And im sorry if that statement offended you
@@NatashaOmarr also your understanding of a failed marriage is very narrow. Not every man and woman have divorced their spouse because they were toxic. There are hundreds of other reasons why a marriage could fail. You can’t say it “shouldn’t” be a part of life. It’s like saying “failing an exam and having to repeat an academic year is so sad it shouldn’t be a part of life”
I think the guy who ghosted you was married btw
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Indeed
This vid just popped up on my suggestions and so glad it did.
You gave really good advice about making the most of people you love when they are alive. Good reminder. May Allah grant your nan jannatul firdous ameen
Nearly 29. Still live at home. So do most of my siblings. Its toxic tbh. But I'd be trapped if I was in an unhappy marriage.
I feel ya 😕
I’m in the same exact situation.
Sis, thank you for this video. A lot of people may criticize you for talking about what happened, but basically the same thing happened to me. I have no one to talk to because all my friends are married, and my family wants to pressure me to stay with him because it would make our family look bad. I'm looking for support, even if it's watching this video.
I feel like I relate to you and your situation so much. I just hit five years with my husband. We have children. Since we got married he has always been protective over his phone. Always had a password, never left it, notifications are hidden. Ours was arranged so I really didn't know him at all. Hes quiet and really shut off emotionally. His family were abusive and he moved out with me so I'll always appreciate that but I'm so torn. I'm such a open and social person but he doesn't like to talk much and likes his peace. I'm used to it now but I wonder sometimes if I can live like this all my life although I do feel I love him
Couples therapy might help. Or speak to his mother/make amends with them. My sister (now divorced) used to be married to a guy who didnt really speak much. I think its because he lived alone a lot. She wasnt perfect either but she said sometimes they would just sit in silence. I thought that was quite sad. But she said that was just his personality. When she used to come back to our family home she was wasn't as bubbly and loud (always funny and bubbly) and she said when you get married either the guy becomes like the wife or the wife becomes like the husband. Try new experiences or find out what hobbies he likes and do them together. get him to open up more. xx
@@scarlettkhan9667 my mil is simiakr to him personality wise. Both his parents worked and there wasn't really anyone around to really pay much attention to the kids or ask them how their feeling which is why he still struggles to express himself. So he's bit jsjt like that with me but everyone. We do have things we enjoy like movies which bring us closer. Since moving out my relationship with his parents has improved but their mentality is really toxic. Basicslly can't stand that I see my family and want to be priority. I'm always respectful and visit every few weeks but I keep a healthy distance mentally because I refuse to be controlled anymore. My husband struggles to speak up. I feel for your sister it can get lonely. I was really bubbly and a joker and that part of me isn't really there anymore. I have taken the role of a husband too because he is more timid I have had to take OVER. which I never thought would happen becusse I was spoiled by the males in my family and was used to the complete opposite. I have found him to have been on dating sites whilst I was pregnant. A lot of secret conversations with his fmskly where they would tlak shit about me but he'd gaslight me into believing I was going crazy. How is your sister now
@@me23435 Bless you hun. My sister got divorced. She's british and he was pakistani born. She is back to her bubbly self now. A few men do mess around while their wife is pregnant (not an excuse though) I would improve his weaknesses. Yes he sounds a little unconfident. Sometimes it's not a bad thing to be with a soft partner. Some men are really bad-like controlling or abusive etc. Sometimes opposites attract. Make sure you take care of yourself too and enjoy time with your family/sisters. One of my sisters said it's better when you get along with your mother in law because when your husband steps out of line his mum will kick his ass. Fair enough they might be toxic, but somewhere down the line try and forge that good relationship with them. And dont forget to communicate with your husband and tell him how you're feeling. I think bad parents makes a person lose their confidence. Hopefully you can help him get better. Best wishes xx
Communication is key. Ask and talk to your husband. Problems like these can be solved if you communicate well with each other.
Sis, I understand, of course if someone is not being real to you in a serious connection, then clearly you need to cut the person off totally, so I think you did the right thing.
Hang in there sweetie,
We’re all here for a reason,
God is using you to teach young girls as well as older women about life lesson.
InShaAllah God will reward you in dunia and Ahkiraa! 💕
I don’t know why I felt lead to reply but I did. Grief is something that everyone goes thru in their own way but one thing I do know is that as time goes by it does get easier to deal with. My grandma passed before I graduated from High School, I’ll be 40 next yr so she’s been gone for a long time! At first it hurt so bad and I didn’t know how I was going to get over it. Then days went by, and years went by, and life passed by and while I still think about her especially around Christmas bc that’s her birthday and during October bc she passed of cancer and thats cancer awareness month…. I know she’s in a far better place than this world right now. You will never stop thinking about your grandmother but I do promise it will get easier. Oh and btw; I lived with my mom for 6 months while she went thru chemo and radiation that was the hardest thing I’d ever had to do. Now she’s in remission and I’ve moved to Houston (small world). So enjoy your parents we only get one….
God, I love you you’re so pure at heart. God bless 🥺❤️
Randomly came across this video, but thank you for speaking sense when talking about lgbtq. I’ve seen too many Muslims either saying acting on the feelings is permissible in islam or speaking with such hatred towards them
May Allah have mercy on your grandmother.
Just wanted to say that the fact that the Quran mentions homosexuality does not mean that it is something innate in man. It's just a perversity that's been around since man has existed lol
Agree.
May your Grandma be granted the highest rank of Jannah and May Allah swt ease your pain and difficulty ❤
This was so honest and raw. Dude even after I was married we stayed with my parents for a little bit too. We are all at different stages in our life, we all go through our struggles and tests. May Allah keep you strong and may you be reunited with your grandma in jannah. innah lillahi wa innah illahi rajiun
Yeah as a man that makes me sad marriage is not based on respect and fear for God anymore marriage use to be traditional back then us men new are roles it was chilling idk what happened
Hey Jaseerah! You should make more videos on how you incorporate keto into your daily life as a south asian. Would love that!!
I may Allah swt grant your Grandmother Jannah , may Allah swt give you Afiyah 🤲🏼
I’m also living at home at 27 and unmarried, so thank you so much for this video. I was feeling really down for not having my own place and being at a certain place in my life. You’re beautiful and such an inspiration, MashAllah. ❤
Such a beautiful soul great seeing great people like you
I lost my grandmother 7 years ago. I understand the hurt yet I have been able to cope through diligent prayer.
Salaam, I recently found your channel and I enjoy watching your content. I also really like your style and clothing choices. I just wanted to say I understand your grief, my grandma passed away in July and it’s still a process that takes time. Some days are harder than others. What really helped me find ease is knowing that one day insha Allah we will see the ones we love again. This isn’t the end. sometimes we tend to make ourselves feel even worse by thinking there’s things we could’ve done more or we should’ve done while they were still alive. May Allah have mercy on your grandma and grant her Jannah and may you find everyday a little bit easier 🤲🏼🤍
It stands out that you said he lied to his parents and was hiding his phone from day one yet you still married him
Sister, Allah did not mention the story in the Quran to demonstrate that those feelings are "natural". This is a very grave misunderstanding. Please be careful what you spread to your followers, because you will be accountable for this. Rather, Allah meant to show that these people strayed, and then were sent Prophet Lot alyhis salam, to correct them, and when they did not listen after many attempts they were destroyed. Allah is all aware of all times, so Allah knew people like this would traverse the Earth again, and the Quran is to show us - Muslims, how to deal when a situation as this arises. May Allah guide you, and all of us, Ameen.
JazakAllah khair 🤲🏻♥️
Maasha Allah great answer, however I agree with the sister about treating them better so they can take the dawah and teaching better. Scarying them away doesn't achieve anything. We should have educational organisations dedicated to this now as this has become a massive fitnah in our Muslim community.
@@nuurajirday409 You are so right, and yes, I fully agree with treating them kindly. I think we can learn from Nuh (alayhis salam) that if one form of dawah is not working, we could also switch it up, until all mediums are exhausted. Personally, I don't think it should be normalised or addressed in Muslim spheres, with the exception of teaching the story of Lut alayhis salam. I believe it will be more effective to keep it as a foreign and outlandish idea where even a student feels embarrassed that they have to hide on themselves and not mention it to their peers. In this way, perhaps a minority will be effected, but overall the masses are protected. A sincere student will seek private consultation. You will notice when working with children, it isn't in the fitrah to have these inclinations.They have been exposed to it in movies, music and fiction books. Main topic of focus among teens and children should be building awareness of Allah, His Mercy, His appreciation in committing to right, His generosity in reward to those who persist in good, and ofc Heaven and Hell. When we build a connection and love for Allah, we want to and have motivation to do right in order to earn His countenance. The Quran must never be neglected in Muslim households, it is our true source of guidance, and has all the answers . Thank you sister in your respect and knowledgeable response, may Allah bless you and your family, Ameen.
@@dokht-eherat8749 wa iyyakum ❤️
Asalamualaikum beautiful said! 🙏🏿💞
feel the same way.. it hit me hard when you explained the love and relationship with your granny.. She was my best friend, she supported me backed me and cared for me more than my mom did. and I know everything happens for a reason, but it was so sudden, she was fine one day and the other she was gone, and i was not even in the country, so I couldnt even say goodbye. I remember how many times she asked to see me while i was literally 5 min away and had nothing to do and I just didnt go and watched movies instead. I feel so bad but I really hope to see her again in Jannah. Biidmillah
I’m glad I’m here first and I’m about to watch!❤️❤️
Mashallah sister, so proud of you for opening up. Takes soo much courage and effort to maintain the confidence you have. May Allah keep you safe and well and look after all your needs.❤
I'm sorry that happened to you.. You seem like such a lovely and kind woman, you deserve better than that!!! Inchallah you will find a good loyal husband who treats you like a queen! ♡
My grandma was my first mom, Cos she raised me untill I turn 6 then I went back to my parents home. She passed way 12 years ago. And still I cry for her and Remember her every single day. Her food, he smile, her smell, her hug….. I ask Allah to I meet her in Jannah and tell her “ thank u grandma for doing so much for me. And I am so sorry for being spoiled grandchild to u… “ I have so much to say to her.
It's so sad to know that your ex husband was imam too...I mean even after holding a spiritual position he was so secretive and wrong...so hard to trust people nowadays
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Cant trust dawah guys!
@@Azab.in.Hellfire Yes yes yes. I am traumatized without even experiencing myself but other peoples stories are enough. I call these kind of guys fuckboy akhis!
In my local Masjid these dawah guys would marry sisters and later leave her with a child, other would cheat on wife with girls outside. Do polygamy marriages and put all wives on Government welfare system. Never trust dawah men.
@@meriambenali ruclips.net/p/PLELnxupXgVCJGRaNnvoQsZ8fJdwzlP6Fr
Oh dear, I feel you, same here, and despites not yet being married only being engaged, having 3 kids and he just leaves you like that, I lost my mind. It's totally normal and thankyou for sharing. I hope you'll find the right partner
You address these questions in such a classy way
Hey there,
Never watched your channel but I felt why I came here. I also lost my grandma and I feel you. I still had those same emotions from time to time but how I coped?
I felt that missing her so much was affecting my health and if it would gonna continue and I wouldn’t carry on like I should then I would not be doing justice to my grandma legacy which she left in the form of her grand kids.
So, in short, it’s going to take some time for you to be able to move on but yes we all going to reunite and when it happens, it should be a proud moment as we lived well and starting from taking care of yourself by forgiving yourself for the things you wouldn’t possibly know.
Prayers for you, yours and my grandma. May Allah bless their souls and make us a way of Sadqa Jariyah. Ameen
Also I loved your answer on LGBTQ. I hate it when people go like bruh it's unnatural because it's clearly not like you said it has been addressed and how you easily said you don't judge them and it's their choice, is so admirable! 💕💖
Allah judge them! are you against Allah if you are, you can't pretend being a Muslim
No Muslim is allowed to support Them in Anyway, and supporting them in any way shape or form will land you a fate similar to that of the wife of prophet Lūt عليه السلام,
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You should think about it again, btw the wife of Lut she wasnt g-a-y but she supported them and God punished her with them i think its a message too !
❤🧡💛💚💙💜
@@halimabenquazou5739 she supported gay people? Or she looked back then turned into salt?
Sat here crying 😭😭😭 inshaAllah i will visit my grandma tomorrow and give her a tight hug
I saw your video about divorce which has helped me to keep moving on and not settle. I think your sucha amazing and strong person, may Allah bless you and your family❤
I’m so happy it was helpful!! I hope things get easier for you 💖💖
❤🧡💛💚💙💜
Wow! It is sad how someone can be married, live together etc and not even speak. If you had unfortunately you would have had to deal with him. Thank you for sharing. It's so sad how divorce is effecting the ummah.
*It is great that you realized that it is good to live with parents & own family who TRULY loves you. That takes high EQ*
Living alone is stupid, dangerous, easy to become immoral & sin.
Pray with family, cook with family, learn to get along.. Yet, have own room etc..
I soo agree
Yeah I’m im my 30s and live with my family… sometimes it’s hard and weird to explain to others BUT it’s safer especially for single women
Hey Jaserah! Ayhan here, your old friend from houston days! Thanks for sharing your vulnerability! May Allah exalt you always. Sending you all the love!❤️
May Allah bless you with a happy future, really appreciate you being strong and open to us x 💕
At least you have supportive parents. Many women are married off by their parents and dont have their support at all.wishing you all the best.
You are amazing sis ♥️ a lot of prayers for u and for ur family. IA we all will meet up again in heaven. Tc and lots of love to you. Keep going 😃
You are such a beautiful soul...you will always be happy in life...You are God's special child !!!!
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You spoke so well on the issue of the lgbtq. Took the words right out of my mouth
Remember sister that Allah will give u someone better than him.Forget about that guy u deserve someone better.When Allah takes something away Allah replaces with something better.Hope that helps.
I'm really sorry to hear that you went through that 😔 don't worry sis Allah has better in store for you inshaAllah 😭 you will marry the best man and be happy soon inshaAllah 😌😍💞💞
BURKHA was nacessary in 7th centurie's arab farstreted society,🤗
Prophet had 25slaves and 11wife, and Made his wife the mother of the Ummah🤨, but did not make himself the father of anyone...Other's wife halal for himself🤨... prophet was also farstreted person 🙄
Salaam Jaserah, Your videos are entertaining but it's this video that really resonated with me and I learned so much about you (who knew you'd be Hyderabad too lol!) I'm thankful that I subscribed to you. Your struggles, your decisions, and your regrets but your attempts to keep moving forward as a Muslim girl, you shared it so well and now I feel like I'm so connected to a stranger. Its always good to know we're not alone in our struggles. Prayers to you, your family and your grandmother from another 30 something Hyderabadi American Hijabi.