I’ve had my six year old in counseling for over a year and learned so much. All behavior is communication. The three year old is telling you (the best he can) that he is having big feelings he can’t handle. And remember kids are egocentric so they think all things are their fault so the divorce and all the emotions and feelings that go with that weigh heavy on kids and our state dictates their state. If we are upset then they are upset. Best way to help the little ones is routine, structure, self care so we are ok, and basically shower them with love and the message ; “YOU ARE SAFE, it’s gonna be ok”. From what I can see you are a very naturally gifted mommy and you are doing a lot of this stuff already. I just thought it might help to have it written out in words. God is the source of all our strength, wisdom and love, and I know you have Him in your life. Praying for you girl!!! (My name is Kelly too 😁)
My best advise on tantrums is to maybe redirect the situation! Like if he is throwing his tantrum ask him questions about things he likes to do or ask him what he wants or if he wants to go walk around outside! I just try and ask myself what do I do to calm down! So excited for what the future holds in your channel it’s so exciting to see you grow so quickly I’m hoping the same in my future!
You are not alone sweetie. I’m going through the same thing with my 16-year old and the life change of a divorce. You just do the best you can and know that no matter what he loves you and his little heart knows it even if his stubborn head doesn’t 🥰
I just recently discovered your channel and I’m so glad! I’m also a momma of 2 boys who has been through a divorce and I feel like you’re so down to earth and real. I can totally relate! Really enjoy the vids!
My 3 year old hit a similar phase. I Googled it and WebMD and other sites say it's a normal part of 3. I saw this funny quote that says, 'Be kind to everyone. You never know who lost a battle with a 3 year old!' The struggle is real! My friends who dealt with it too tell me, Stay consistent, keep your yes yes and your no no. It will pass. Hang in there. Congrats on 27,000 subscribers!
Great video Kelly. Lots of prayers and if tantrums get too unbearable maybe you could have a counselor talk to him. They can at least give you tips on how to handle the situation and how you can help yourself deal with all that's on your plate. The way I deal with tantrums is not the same parenting style as maybe you would do. I'm more stern and I don't allow it to get out of control.
I’m 24 and I have a 4 and 5 yr old. Girl I completely understand the tantrums and attitudes. It can be very exhausting and very stressful. I hope all passes soon!! Love your videos ❤️
I'm 27 with a 7, 6 and 3 year old.. they try to get mommy's level with their attitude when I'm having a bad day but it doesn't work on me. It does their daddy though! So... I believe they'll run all over him when they are teens 😂😂
My threenager who will be 4 next month has been having a difficult time listening and has found a new favorite word “no”. He doesn’t really throw tantrums but this is almost on that level. Talking to him use to work now we do corner time and quiet time when he needs to calm down.
Congratulations on 27K subscribers!! You are doing such a good job. You’re an amazing mom & person! & not to mention you are so gorgeous! Love you mama
Hey Kelly, a long time ago a Mary Kay makeup rep showed me how to properly apply makeup cause I had no clue. She told me always apply the concealer BEFORE the foundation. Apply concealer as usual however when you get to the bridge of your nose keep applying doing a little up curve so in the end you've got one connecting line. I used to use mary kay foundation. But I've been using Maybelline foundation products for a little while now, specifically the Fit Me! Shine-Free+Balance Foundation in Classic Ivory shade. I'm keeping you in my thoughts and prayers sweetie. 🙏🙏🙏 I'm a teacher and also have a ton of nieces and nephews so I've seen and heard many terrible tantrums in my time too. Keep your chin up, you've got this! 😚💪😊You're stronger than you realize, you're a beautiful person inside and out. ❤❤🎉🎉
His change in attitude definitely is from the divorce and change in his little life. I know it's hard but it's the only way he can really express himself right now. Just give him some extra lovin ♥ Hope you're doing well in all of this. I love your vlogs ☺
I have 3 year old twins and I'm a stay at home mom. Sometimes it's really hard when they are being a little demanding. You're doing a great job and such a wonderful mother. Congratulations on the growth of your channel. Thank you for sharing!
sandy lash #twinmomclub i have 16 months old twins and i thin it's the hardest thing i've ever done in my life so far. I don"t know how people do it but you rock
Oh dear, I can feel your problems with your little stubborn boy. One moment they can be such little angels and the other the world is breaking apart. I send you a lot of strength. I assume it's especially hard to not have someone at your side to share the struggle with. Probably it's a bit of a relief to share it with your community here. Be sure that all three of you will find your way. Just stay strong and be aware of the fact that your boy is still so little - he is not trying to punish you with his tantrums. It is just his way to handle all of his emotions right now. I am sure, he will settle down in a while.
My daughter isn’t even 2.5 and I’ve been going through this too. I try to walk away sometimes. I feel for you. I think they are still learning to vocalize and control their emotions. But it’s hard. My daughter was upset over me making the bed a few days ago. 15-20 minutes later she fell asleep. I am with you. Hang in there, mom hood is hard.
Hang in there. He is trying to find out how far he can push, or exactly what he’s in control of. It helps to try and not take it personally. He’s still your sweet boy, and he will grow out of it with a lot of love and patience. Be gentle, direct and maintain consistency and a calm demeanor with him during those tantrums. Let him know you aren’t going to stand there and watch him, but when he would like to calm down and talk to you and let you know what he wants or what he’s upset about, then you will listen.
Hang in there girl. Mom life is tough some times but you’ll get thru it. Kane is just struggling with all the changes you guys are going thru but he will eventually adjust. Hope you guys have a great weekend. Praying for you & the boys. 🙏🏻❤️
His Tantrums can definitely be from all the changes but you seem to be a great mama I think you're doing a great job! He just needs all of your love and support and he knows you're there for him. Sometimes when my toddler will have Tantrums sometimes it's because she's trying to show me that all she wants is my attention so in that moment I will sit down with her and love on her and sometimes when he does that that could just be his way of telling you he needs your attention
Omg girl you are not alone!!! My son Lincoln is 2 ½ and the fits are outrageous!!! I find what works best for my son anyway is to sit him on the couch and tell him you need a min to think or calm down and if he gets up I put him back and when hes done crying and kicking whatever it may be we talk about what the problem was! Idk if that will work for your little one but worth a shot !
New subscriber! I have only watched a few of your videos and I love them!! Your awesome and You're an even better mom! I am a proud mom of two, My daughter's name is Lillian and she is 4, and my son's name is Bryson and he is 2! My daughter has been having some crazy meltdowns lately, so I totally get it.
Your doing great!!! I've been there myself, probably will be again.... we never know what god has in store. Just continue praying and living one day at a time God bless
i feel your pain with the toddler tantrums ! i have a 3 yr old and his dad basically moved out before he turned 2 (he is now 3 1/2), he is his wildest when he comes back from spending time with his dad and then it takes a few days to get him "back to normal" my olderst son never knew his dad and was not bounced around and he is waaay more calm
Your makeup looked so good. So natural and lovely. Makes me feel like using make up again. I haven't in many years as I used to have to wear a lot for my work and as a single mum of 3 now I just don't bother
I have two toddlers with autism ( 2 & 4 years old) everyone parents different. But majority of the time they’re just trying to see how you react. Just ignore. I’ve had to deal with 1+ hour meltdowns from my daughter and it was like someone was murdering her. No fun!!! Just put your foot down and don’t break!!! Good luck mama!
We have a local coffee shop that is the same way...blows Starbucks out of the water! They're called Strange Brew ❤️ they called their customers strangers and I just love that 🤷♀️❤️
I heard Kori Robertson on focus on the family say that when one of her kids had melt downs she would tell them they had to go to their room until they had a good attitude which I thought was a good idea. She said that she wasn’t going to let them ruin everyone else’s good mood. I used to do this with my son and it worked
I have a 9 year old son and an 11 year old daughter. It is difficult at times when kids are little. A lot of the tantrums are usually a struggle for power. If you can remember to tell your son that you love him but you don't like his behavior that will help. Tell him that we don't allow tantrums and if he wants to talk about his feelings you will listen. Also, I would not let him continue the tantrums for a long time. When children are allowed to "cary on" they think they are in control. It's hard but, you can do this. God gave you those boys for his glory and because he knows that you are capable of raising them well. I hope and pray that you are able to nip it in the bud and remind Kane that you love him but, he needs to show his mama love by being respectful and not acting out. He can understand this even if he's 3. I work with kids in the nursery once a month who are around 3 and 4 and those young boys really do know right from wrong. Even though they challenge us to see if they can get their way. Praying for you Kelly. 💕
Hey! I love the REAL day in the life! Thanks for keeping it 100% for us other mamas to see. I have 4 kids and one VERY unruly daughter lol. She has had tantrums and defiant behavior since age 3 and is now 4 🤦🏼♀️ we tried it alllllllllllllll. The thing that has helped some is doing daily gratitude with her before bed. And also instead of time outs or always having to correct her behavior we will make sure to Over praise the little tiny things. The more I could point out her strengths and what she was doing that was positive and following direction/rules the more she wanted the praise and wanted to make good choices.
I love your DITL videos 💗 I can see your channel going so far as long as your consistent with your videos. Real people appreciate real ness! I think you need to do a Q&A again really soon.
Congrats on your subs honey💖💖 You're doing a great job with your boys. It's probably all the changes throwing the little man off. Hang in there and I hope you have a great weekend💖💖
I'm a mom and been dealing with temper tantrums for about thirty years. As to what I do it ranges from nothing to running for my life and calling the police. I don't recommend the last method just yet in your case. Hang in there. :)
Your doing great Kelly...kids can be trying some times...just hang in there, take a deep breath, and it will be ok...love watching you...I love how real you are...this is how single parents struggle...again love watching...get some rest because you will get to do it all over again...lol
You’re doing great. My 2nd son did that, he would be bad at school or daycare. He has ADHD so he didn’t have many friends:( His dad wasn’t there for him much & I was married with another baby in my belly so he acted out. This too shall pass! He is 16 now & he still has bad days but doesn’t everyone?! U seem like a very good mommy! God bless!
Congratulations on your channel! That's awesome!! You're my daily motivation whether it's a new video or old one. I watch every day! Love from Tennessee!! 😁😊
That coffee looked so good! I haven’t dealt with tantrums yet with my almost 3 year old (he’ll be 3 in July), so far he’s just in a not listening phase. But with my 8 year old, when she had tantrums I would either redirect her attention to something else, ask her questions, ask if she wanted to go do something else, just to get her to stop, or ignore her. I’d leave her rolling on the floor and walk away lol. I didn’t want to feed into it and give her attention for a negative behavior. At the same time I would try to let her know it’s okay to be mad, it’s okay to be sad, but that’s not how we act. I would try to, like I said, get her focused on something else. When they’re that little it’s hard to “talk it out” but I would try. Hang in there, I’m sure it’s just a phase he’s going through.
Hey there! Oh my I remember those days, and we were not going through the same stressful events. Of course, this is all in hindsight now because you made it through obviously as we see in your new videos. At this point if you get stressed from tantrums, first you have to put yourself in the correct mind set and practice just talking it out in your mind how you're going to manage the tantrum. You may find that your older one will need some attention too as I know mine grew resentful of the time I alloted to the younger one. Now, you have another on the way. You seem wonderfully communicative with them. So they become cognitively aware of their emotions, ask them what's going on, let them know current positives and help them find other options they may have instead of throwing a fit; i.e. becoming aggressive or verbally abusive. See if you can explain how their actions affect others and begin stimulating brain activity with empathy. Basically, you're showing them they have been heard, providing alternative coping mechanisms, and stimulating respect and empathy towards others. BTW, I unfortunately made some mistakes with both childen I am having to sort out, but the good news is that children's brains have plasticity. As long as they are not constantly abused and/or put in highly stressful environments for long periods of time, simple, kind, compassionate, authoritative parenting has shown through research to work. Set boundaries and consequences and be consistent with discipline. But also, show love and listen. I have found really kids just want love and to feel like they're valuable and their thoughts and feelings are valuable. Also, from what I can see in your videos you do show genuine love to your children. Never doubt yourself or your morals. You're a wonderful mom and lovely human being!
I checked and we HAVE ellianos in Jacksonville Fl!!! I'm definitely gonna have to try it out. I found another locate coffee shop with drive thru here in Jacksonville and it was good and alot of great reviews it called Alyona's Coffee. I love finding hidden gems! I use to apply my concealer before foundation but I found i was wiping it off when I did foundation so I've been applying foundation first (and yes love that foundation) and then I apply concealer. Hope things get better for you and your youngest. I don't have kids but you guys current life changes definitely play a role. Just continue to be there for him and spend quality time with him. It will get better. My close friend has 3 kids (3,4 and 6) the middle child she has tantrums issues with and he has the middle child syndrome but he is doing better I believe she had to find time to spend that quality time with him and give him that undivided attention. He is a sweet child. It's not easy raising kids these days. I give moms who truly care for there babies alot of props! Have a great weekend.!!!!
What a lovely natural girl you are, beautiful inside and out. Adorable boys too. All the best honey, enjoy those late mornings and rest rest rest your mind and body. It's so hard doing it on your own, but it gets, easier darling. Your dump meals are fabulous. Thank you for sharing them.
Hey girl a subscriber of mine told me you mentioned ellianos in your video so I had to come over and watch lol I LOVEEEEE Ellianos i get a mocha freezer with no whip and extra espresso :) btw i deal with tantrums too haha I think every child goes through a time when they dont know how to communicate their emotions.
I hate Starbucks! I tried it once and even outside of the building smelled like burned coffee and my coffee tasted burned. Couple of years ago I was sent to survey about Starbucks and it asked about burnt coffee.
Love me some Wendy's frosty!!!! 😍 And I love that you are so real with your videos so nice to see! My son is turning 2 on Friday and he is one to throw tantrums over the littlest things! 🙄 Boys. Lol .
We love cereal than pour milk in it queen !! I was waiting and holding my breath :p is she gonna pour milk than cereal or the other way around ? Turn out you are a QUEEN yes ! Hahahhahaha but in a side note those breakouts on your cheeks are caused by either stress or u touching your face a lot. They will disappear if u drink a lot of water and try not to touch your face. And for stress I meditate before I sleep , like there is those videos that u can listen to before sleeping and I swear its like magic u sleep well and u wake up so refreshed ! 15 minute meditation before sleeping can literally make u feel like a new person after a month . PS: GIRLLLLLLL U ARE GORGEOUS I SWEAR !
My mother always says the terrible two's are nothing compared to the terrifying three's. The Internet has also named this part as threenagers lol very fitting. I've been very lucky that when my son turned 3 in April he made a total shift from being a terrorist to being much more manageable. I think it has a lot to do with me being pregnant and him preparing to be a good older brother, that's all we talk about lately. I kept having to remind myself when he was so difficult in his terrible two's that there's nothing wrong with him, he's just two. I hope this rough patch passes, it'll be nice to look back on in a few years or even months, I'm sure.
I love Dunkin Donuts frozen coffee! I see the same behavior in my three-year-old grandson because he's not going to be the baby any longer. She is due the end of June and he's going to lose it. At 18 months he was diagnosed with cancer behind his eye sockets and right now it's not growing but nobody knows. So consequently we have all treated him like our baby which he is but he's been allowed to do things longer than normal and throw temper fits. I got him a book from Amazon that was inexpensive and it's called I am a big brother. Now Joseph comes in and says hi nanny give me a kiss and a hug and says I'm a big brother! It is not definitely the divorce as somebody pointed out. What would be affecting him more is the baby. Obviously not seeing his father everyday doesn't make him feel great. But not being the baby any longer is the largest problem! :-) dr. Elizabeth MD Ph.D Ph.D
We are on vacation and my 8 year old daughter has been so bad... I feel your pain girl.. I am currently fighting a migraine after the 4th day of her melting down...
Tantrums are hard. My daughter is almost 2 and she has horrible tantrums. Sometimes all I can do is put her in her bed and close the door. Other times I just let her throw a tantrum and let her realize she isnt going to get her way. Being a single mom is hard and then add in tantrums it can make you want to pull out your hair that's for sure.
I’ve had my six year old in counseling for over a year and learned so much.
All behavior is communication. The three year old is telling you (the best he can) that he is having big feelings he can’t handle. And remember kids are egocentric so they think all things are their fault so the divorce and all the emotions and feelings that go with that weigh heavy on kids and our state dictates their state. If we are upset then they are upset. Best way to help the little ones is routine, structure, self care so we are ok, and basically shower them with love and the message ; “YOU ARE SAFE, it’s gonna be ok”. From what I can see you are a very naturally gifted mommy and you are doing a lot of this stuff already. I just thought it might help to have it written out in words. God is the source of all our strength, wisdom and love, and I know you have Him in your life. Praying for you girl!!! (My name is Kelly too 😁)
My best advise on tantrums is to maybe redirect the situation! Like if he is throwing his tantrum ask him questions about things he likes to do or ask him what he wants or if he wants to go walk around outside! I just try and ask myself what do I do to calm down! So excited for what the future holds in your channel it’s so exciting to see you grow so quickly I’m hoping the same in my future!
You are not alone sweetie. I’m going through the same thing with my 16-year old and the life change of a divorce. You just do the best you can and know that no matter what he loves you and his little heart knows it even if his stubborn head doesn’t 🥰
I just recently discovered your channel and I’m so glad! I’m also a momma of 2 boys who has been through a divorce and I feel like you’re so down to earth and real. I can totally relate! Really enjoy the vids!
My 3 year old hit a similar phase. I Googled it and WebMD and other sites say it's a normal part of 3. I saw this funny quote that says, 'Be kind to everyone. You never know who lost a battle with a 3 year old!' The struggle is real! My friends who dealt with it too tell me, Stay consistent, keep your yes yes and your no no. It will pass. Hang in there. Congrats on 27,000 subscribers!
Great video Kelly. Lots of prayers and if tantrums get too unbearable maybe you could have a counselor talk to him. They can at least give you tips on how to handle the situation and how you can help yourself deal with all that's on your plate.
The way I deal with tantrums is not the same parenting style as maybe you would do. I'm more stern and I don't allow it to get out of control.
I have a 2.5 year old and the struggle is real. Just hang in there every day is a new day. You got this!!
I’m 24 and I have a 4 and 5 yr old. Girl I completely understand the tantrums and attitudes. It can be very exhausting and very stressful. I hope all passes soon!! Love your videos ❤️
I'm 27 with a 7, 6 and 3 year old.. they try to get mommy's level with their attitude when I'm having a bad day but it doesn't work on me. It does their daddy though! So... I believe they'll run all over him when they are teens 😂😂
My threenager who will be 4 next month has been having a difficult time listening and has found a new favorite word “no”. He doesn’t really throw tantrums but this is almost on that level. Talking to him use to work now we do corner time and quiet time when he needs to calm down.
Congratulations on 27K subscribers!! You are doing such a good job. You’re an amazing mom & person! & not to mention you are so gorgeous! Love you mama
Aaahhh!! Ellianos!! Yum!! We have one about 20 minutes away and I definitely take advantage of it as often as possible! It's so worth the trip!
Hey Kelly, a long time ago a Mary Kay makeup rep showed me how to properly apply makeup cause I had no clue. She told me always apply the concealer BEFORE the foundation. Apply concealer as usual however when you get to the bridge of your nose keep applying doing a little up curve so in the end you've got one connecting line. I used to use mary kay foundation. But I've been using Maybelline foundation products for a little while now, specifically the Fit Me! Shine-Free+Balance Foundation in Classic Ivory shade. I'm keeping you in my thoughts and prayers sweetie. 🙏🙏🙏 I'm a teacher and also have a ton of nieces and nephews so I've seen and heard many terrible tantrums in my time too. Keep your chin up, you've got this! 😚💪😊You're stronger than you realize, you're a beautiful person inside and out. ❤❤🎉🎉
His change in attitude definitely is from the divorce and change in his little life. I know it's hard but it's the only way he can really express himself right now. Just give him some extra lovin ♥ Hope you're doing well in all of this. I love your vlogs ☺
So sweet what your boy said about the flowers! Those moments make the hard times so much more bareable
Congratulations girl I hope your channel keeps growing your a awesome mom and your so relatable😊 god bless you and your family🌻🌻
I hope things get better with kane🙏your so sweet.
I have 3 year old twins and I'm a stay at home mom. Sometimes it's really hard when they are being a little demanding. You're doing a great job and such a wonderful mother. Congratulations on the growth of your channel. Thank you for sharing!
sandy lash #twinmomclub i have 16 months old twins and i thin it's the hardest thing i've ever done in my life so far. I don"t know how people do it but you rock
@@mydecorandstylec4360 sometimes I just want to cry! I couldn't do it without my husband. He's my rock and always there to help. We've got this 😊
You are a good mom,keep your head up,god bless you and your kids.
Oh dear, I can feel your problems with your little stubborn boy. One moment they can be such little angels and the other the world is breaking apart. I send you a lot of strength. I assume it's especially hard to not have someone at your side to share the struggle with. Probably it's a bit of a relief to share it with your community here. Be sure that all three of you will find your way. Just stay strong and be aware of the fact that your boy is still so little - he is not trying to punish you with his tantrums. It is just his way to handle all of his emotions right now. I am sure, he will settle down in a while.
My daughter isn’t even 2.5 and I’ve been going through this too. I try to walk away sometimes. I feel for you. I think they are still learning to vocalize and control their emotions. But it’s hard. My daughter was upset over me making the bed a few days ago. 15-20 minutes later she fell asleep. I am with you. Hang in there, mom hood is hard.
Hang in there. He is trying to find out how far he can push, or exactly what he’s in control of. It helps to try and not take it personally. He’s still your sweet boy, and he will grow out of it with a lot of love and patience. Be gentle, direct and maintain consistency and a calm demeanor with him during those tantrums. Let him know you aren’t going to stand there and watch him, but when he would like to calm down and talk to you and let you know what he wants or what he’s upset about, then you will listen.
Hang in there girl. Mom life is tough some times but you’ll get thru it. Kane is just struggling with all the changes you guys are going thru but he will eventually adjust. Hope you guys have a great weekend. Praying for you & the boys. 🙏🏻❤️
His Tantrums can definitely be from all the changes but you seem to be a great mama I think you're doing a great job! He just needs all of your love and support and he knows you're there for him. Sometimes when my toddler will have Tantrums sometimes it's because she's trying to show me that all she wants is my attention so in that moment I will sit down with her and love on her and sometimes when he does that that could just be his way of telling you he needs your attention
Omg girl you are not alone!!! My son Lincoln is 2 ½ and the fits are outrageous!!! I find what works best for my son anyway is to sit him on the couch and tell him you need a min to think or calm down and if he gets up I put him back and when hes done crying and kicking whatever it may be we talk about what the problem was! Idk if that will work for your little one but worth a shot !
New subscriber! I have only watched a few of your videos and I love them!! Your awesome and You're an even better mom! I am a proud mom of two, My daughter's name is Lillian and she is 4, and my son's name is Bryson and he is 2! My daughter has been having some crazy meltdowns lately, so I totally get it.
Your boys are precious 💟💟
Lots of prayers for ya'll....
Your doing great!!! I've been there myself, probably will be again.... we never know what god has in store. Just continue praying and living one day at a time God bless
That coffee SO delicious! I'm not sure if there's one of those coffee shops where I am but I'll definitely check it out. 😉😉
i feel your pain with the toddler tantrums ! i have a 3 yr old and his dad basically moved out before he turned 2 (he is now 3 1/2), he is his wildest when he comes back from spending time with his dad and then it takes a few days to get him "back to normal" my olderst son never knew his dad and was not bounced around and he is waaay more calm
Your makeup looked so good. So natural and lovely. Makes me feel like using make up again. I haven't in many years as I used to have to wear a lot for my work and as a single mum of 3 now I just don't bother
I have two toddlers with autism ( 2 & 4 years old) everyone parents different. But majority of the time they’re just trying to see how you react. Just ignore. I’ve had to deal with 1+ hour meltdowns from my daughter and it was like someone was murdering her. No fun!!! Just put your foot down and don’t break!!! Good luck mama!
Congratulations! We love you!❤️
We have a local coffee shop that is the same way...blows Starbucks out of the water! They're called Strange Brew ❤️ they called their customers strangers and I just love that 🤷♀️❤️
I heard Kori Robertson on focus on the family say that when one of her kids had melt downs she would tell them they had to go to their room until they had a good attitude which I thought was a good idea. She said that she wasn’t going to let them ruin everyone else’s good mood. I used to do this with my son and it worked
I have a 9 year old son and an 11 year old daughter. It is difficult at times when kids are little. A lot of the tantrums are usually a struggle for power. If you can remember to tell your son that you love him but you don't like his behavior that will help. Tell him that we don't allow tantrums and if he wants to talk about his feelings you will listen. Also, I would not let him continue the tantrums for a long time. When children are allowed to "cary on" they think they are in control. It's hard but, you can do this. God gave you those boys for his glory and because he knows that you are capable of raising them well. I hope and pray that you are able to nip it in the bud and remind Kane that you love him but, he needs to show his mama love by being respectful and not acting out. He can understand this even if he's 3. I work with kids in the nursery once a month who are around 3 and 4 and those young boys really do know right from wrong. Even though they challenge us to see if they can get their way. Praying for you Kelly. 💕
Hey! I love the REAL day in the life! Thanks for keeping it 100% for us other mamas to see. I have 4 kids and one VERY unruly daughter lol. She has had tantrums and defiant behavior since age 3 and is now 4 🤦🏼♀️ we tried it alllllllllllllll. The thing that has helped some is doing daily gratitude with her before bed. And also instead of time outs or always having to correct her behavior we will make sure to Over praise the little tiny things. The more I could point out her strengths and what she was doing that was positive and following direction/rules the more she wanted the praise and wanted to make good choices.
I love your DITL videos 💗 I can see your channel going so far as long as your consistent with your videos. Real people appreciate real ness! I think you need to do a Q&A again really soon.
I was thinking about a Q&A also! 😊
Congrats on your subs honey💖💖 You're doing a great job with your boys. It's probably all the changes throwing the little man off. Hang in there and I hope you have a great weekend💖💖
I'm a mom and been dealing with temper tantrums for about thirty years. As to what I do it ranges from nothing to running for my life and calling the police. I don't recommend the last method just yet in your case. Hang in there. :)
Your doing great Kelly...kids can be trying some times...just hang in there, take a deep breath, and it will be ok...love watching you...I love how real you are...this is how single parents struggle...again love watching...get some rest because you will get to do it all over again...lol
You’re doing great. My 2nd son did that, he would be bad at school or daycare. He has ADHD so he didn’t have many friends:( His dad wasn’t there for him much & I was married with another baby in my belly so he acted out. This too shall pass! He is 16 now & he still has bad days but doesn’t everyone?! U seem like a very good mommy! God bless!
Great DITL video! I enjoy watching these types of videos! Congratulations on hitting 27K! You go girl!
Congratulations on your channel! That's awesome!! You're my daily motivation whether it's a new video or old one. I watch every day! Love from Tennessee!! 😁😊
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That coffee looked so good! I haven’t dealt with tantrums yet with my almost 3 year old (he’ll be 3 in July), so far he’s just in a not listening phase. But with my 8 year old, when she had tantrums I would either redirect her attention to something else, ask her questions, ask if she wanted to go do something else, just to get her to stop, or ignore her. I’d leave her rolling on the floor and walk away lol. I didn’t want to feed into it and give her attention for a negative behavior. At the same time I would try to let her know it’s okay to be mad, it’s okay to be sad, but that’s not how we act. I would try to, like I said, get her focused on something else. When they’re that little it’s hard to “talk it out” but I would try. Hang in there, I’m sure it’s just a phase he’s going through.
I have a one year old & I struggle so I couldn’t imagine 2 by myself , you got this 🙌🏼🤞🏼
I don't want Cereal!...10 sec later..Hey! I want cereal!!!😂😂😂
Story of my life! 🤦♀️ all day long!
Hope you're doing well sweetheart. loving the content from the UK!
Hey there! Oh my I remember those days, and we were not going through the same stressful events. Of course, this is all in hindsight now because you made it through obviously as we see in your new videos.
At this point if you get stressed from tantrums, first you have to put yourself in the correct mind set and practice just talking it out in your mind how you're going to manage the tantrum. You may find that your older one will need some attention too as I know mine grew resentful of the time I alloted to the younger one. Now, you have another on the way.
You seem wonderfully communicative with them. So they become cognitively aware of their emotions, ask them what's going on, let them know current positives and help them find other options they may have instead of throwing a fit; i.e. becoming aggressive or verbally abusive. See if you can explain how their actions affect others and begin stimulating brain activity with empathy.
Basically, you're showing them they have been heard, providing alternative coping mechanisms, and stimulating respect and empathy towards others.
BTW, I unfortunately made some mistakes with both childen I am having to sort out, but the good news is that children's brains have plasticity. As long as they are not constantly abused and/or put in highly stressful environments for long periods of time, simple, kind, compassionate, authoritative parenting has shown through research to work. Set boundaries and consequences and be consistent with discipline. But also, show love and listen. I have found really kids just want love and to feel like they're valuable and their thoughts and feelings are valuable.
Also, from what I can see in your videos you do show genuine love to your children. Never doubt yourself or your morals. You're a wonderful mom and lovely human being!
I checked and we HAVE ellianos in Jacksonville Fl!!! I'm definitely gonna have to try it out. I found another locate coffee shop with drive thru here in Jacksonville and it was good and alot of great reviews it called Alyona's Coffee. I love finding hidden gems! I use to apply my concealer before foundation but I found i was wiping it off when I did foundation so I've been applying foundation first (and yes love that foundation) and then I apply concealer. Hope things get better for you and your youngest. I don't have kids but you guys current life changes definitely play a role. Just continue to be there for him and spend quality time with him. It will get better. My close friend has 3 kids (3,4 and 6) the middle child she has tantrums issues with and he has the middle child syndrome but he is doing better I believe she had to find time to spend that quality time with him and give him that undivided attention. He is a sweet child. It's not easy raising kids these days. I give moms who truly care for there babies alot of props! Have a great weekend.!!!!
I just moved to GA and we have an Ellianos, I need to try it! 😊
Yes you do!
My 2 yr old wants an ice cream sandwich every morning haha! I go through the same thing every day!! Great video and you r a great mama!
Totally agree about Ellianos!! Starbucks coffee almost tastes burnt compared to theirs. I didn't know that was a chain outside of my hometown lol. 💕
I thought that for the longest time about my ellianos in my hometown too! They are slowly branching out tho! 😄
What a lovely natural girl you are, beautiful inside and out. Adorable boys too. All the best honey, enjoy those late mornings and rest rest rest your mind and body. It's so hard doing it on your own, but it gets, easier darling. Your dump meals are fabulous. Thank you for sharing them.
My three year old right now is way worse than he ever thought about being at two. I’m in the middle of it too and i have no clue what to do either! 😖😖
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Hey girl a subscriber of mine told me you mentioned ellianos in your video so I had to come over and watch lol I LOVEEEEE Ellianos i get a mocha freezer with no whip and extra espresso :) btw i deal with tantrums too haha I think every child goes through a time when they dont know how to communicate their emotions.
I’m so shocked at how many of you know about ellianos! It’s so crazy! Ellianos is the bomb 😜
My son will be 2 in October and his tantrums started like 4 months ago and it's not getting easier! Idk what to do either!
I hate Starbucks! I tried it once and even outside of the building smelled like burned coffee and my coffee tasted burned. Couple of years ago I was sent to survey about Starbucks and it asked about burnt coffee.
I feel your pain! I have a 2.5 year old and a 4 month old. The tantrums are reallll!!
Yes girl Ellianos is where it’s at!!😍
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Love me some Wendy's frosty!!!! 😍
And I love that you are so real with your videos so nice to see! My son is turning 2 on Friday and he is one to throw tantrums over the littlest things! 🙄 Boys. Lol .
We love cereal than pour milk in it queen !! I was waiting and holding my breath :p is she gonna pour milk than cereal or the other way around ? Turn out you are a QUEEN yes ! Hahahhahaha but in a side note those breakouts on your cheeks are caused by either stress or u touching your face a lot. They will disappear if u drink a lot of water and try not to touch your face. And for stress I meditate before I sleep , like there is those videos that u can listen to before sleeping and I swear its like magic u sleep well and u wake up so refreshed ! 15 minute meditation before sleeping can literally make u feel like a new person after a month . PS: GIRLLLLLLL U ARE GORGEOUS I SWEAR !
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My mother always says the terrible two's are nothing compared to the terrifying three's. The Internet has also named this part as threenagers lol very fitting. I've been very lucky that when my son turned 3 in April he made a total shift from being a terrorist to being much more manageable. I think it has a lot to do with me being pregnant and him preparing to be a good older brother, that's all we talk about lately. I kept having to remind myself when he was so difficult in his terrible two's that there's nothing wrong with him, he's just two. I hope this rough patch passes, it'll be nice to look back on in a few years or even months, I'm sure.
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I love Ellianos they have a large selection of sugar free flavors ❤
Love the video! I can’t wait to be a mom 🥑💗
Congratulations sweetie. Sweet boys. Boys are boys. Miss that age. Lol. You stay strong. ❤️🙏🏻👏🏻👏🏻✌🏻️👍🏻😘
My grandson is 3 and he has the terrible 3's. My daughter says it is normal for some children.
You’re from Waycross?
Yes I am! 😊
I knew when u said Ellianos u had to be close to me! lol I don’t drink coffee but ppl seem to love it 😊
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I love Dunkin Donuts frozen coffee! I see the same behavior in my three-year-old grandson because he's not going to be the baby any longer. She is due the end of June and he's going to lose it. At 18 months he was diagnosed with cancer behind his eye sockets and right now it's not growing but nobody knows. So consequently we have all treated him like our baby which he is but he's been allowed to do things longer than normal and throw temper fits. I got him a book from Amazon that was inexpensive and it's called I am a big brother. Now Joseph comes in and says hi nanny give me a kiss and a hug and says I'm a big brother! It is not definitely the divorce as somebody pointed out. What would be affecting him more is the baby. Obviously not seeing his father everyday doesn't make him feel great. But not being the baby any longer is the largest problem! :-) dr. Elizabeth MD Ph.D Ph.D
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Yes..girl..I wanted to put my boy in day care for two days at three! Lmao!
We are on vacation and my 8 year old daughter has been so bad... I feel your pain girl.. I am currently fighting a migraine after the 4th day of her melting down...
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I have a tantrum throwing 3 year old!! She is a mess!! I know how you feel! It's very exhausting!!
So sad seems more couples divorce. It’s sad that couples are not committed anymore
Tantrums are hard. My daughter is almost 2 and she has horrible tantrums. Sometimes all I can do is put her in her bed and close the door. Other times I just let her throw a tantrum and let her realize she isnt going to get her way. Being a single mom is hard and then add in tantrums it can make you want to pull out your hair that's for sure.
Agree Ellianos is yummy!
🤔i thought you were married
I don’t want to be negative but I don’t understand why you moved out and all your stuff is at your old house? It just seems unfair to me.
Sometimes it’s better just to walk away from the memories. I got everything important to me. Everything else was just stuff.
Cute little boys 👍