Suzanne Heywood: What Therapy Taught Me About My Childhood
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- Опубликовано: 23 май 2023
- Welldoing's Book of the Month for May is Suzanne Heywood's Wavewalker: Breaking Free, which charts her childhood experience of
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I listened to your book after reading the Guardian article. I found it utterly compelling. You made it so clear how children and teens need friends and education, not to mention medical care after a serious bash on the head. I related to the struggle to break free of controlling parents who seemed to not really know who I was. Maybe your mother was a boarding school survivor who had never had her choices considered. Frankly, I'm surprised and happy that 10 sessions of therapy were all you needed! I was so angry with your parents.
Interesting how her brother doesn’t support this view, and her parents are powerless to respond to the accusations. It’s also interesting how no one one else has come forward to support this account. Is there anyone at all who can verify any of this, or is all designed to make you believe a narrative?
I guess if you had to find out if he remembered what I remembered just to get a story and use his photos, you’d do anything.
@@WavewalkerBreakingFree I find your username very confusing; why?
I just finished Wavewalker. It was amazingly written and while I did not grow up sailing around the world, I did find parallels of having such selfish parents. Ones in which had plenty of time and money for what they wanted and little money for the basics of my necessities. As an adult, their behavior was deplorable so I felt like I was taking the journey through your lens and mine simultaneously. Well-done.
thank you for sharing some of your experience here
Originally she wrote Wavewalker to talk about connecting with the person who helped her escape that life.
"I had to find out how if he remembered what I remembered."
Can't wait to get this book. How interesting it all is!
I loved your book and am waving it in the direction of many friends and acquaintances! (Thrilled to see it is already in paperback!) Thank you for sharing your story. I believe it will have opened the eyes of many - to your unusual experience; parenting and surviving the errors of parents' ways.
thank you for commenting - really glad you enjoyed Suzanne's great book
Really enjoyed your book and hearing your amaizing story. I was very distressed to read how much you endured physically and mentally because of your parents putting their pursuit of adventure before their children's education and ultimate wellbeing and would have liked more exposition of this as you have on this video.
I had to find out if he remembered what I remembered.
Amazing story/book. Hope its made into a Movie
Most of it is not true or very very different from the reality. If you only knew.
I’ve read your book and thoroughly enjoyed it but felt soo desperately sorry for you not being supported and not loved by your mother, I had the same with my mother and it is devastating.
Yeah. This is one persons take on a situation. Keep in mind that her brother and father don't recognise any of this account. I know who's telling the truth.
I started reading this book just the other day and I’m already so invested
And if people only knew the real story and the things that were massaged and left out to create a victim narrative. The real story was nothing like this.
Yes, I thought your mother was a narcissist and your father as well.
Her mother and father were not the narcissists. She is.
Suzanne's parents did not do anything wrong by sailing throughout her childhood. Her attitude is what made her have such a hard childhood. Her parents were certainly worthy of criticism, but so was she, as all children are. She believes that she didn't have a privileged childhood, vehemently. Ironically, the amount of privilege required to feel entitled to a good education is very great. Throughout all history the kind of education occurring today was reserved for less than a millionth of a percent of the population of the world. Today, you are still privileged if you receive such an education as she felt entitled to. Too bad she had a victimhood mentality and didn't receive the most powerful education of all, which her parents were well equipped to provide her if she weren't so busy imagining them to be her jailers. The curriculum was right in front of her all along, in the sea, in the stars, in the problems and missing solutions. They were on the maps, in the rationing, the poverty and the occasional flourishing. The education she sought at university came from men and women who were doing exactly what they were doing out there on the greatest adventure to ever be unappreciated. The flora and fauna, the habitats, biology, ecology, meteorology, the cultures encountered, the struggles and economies varying with each. For someone who claims to love education so dearly, Suzanne has yet to realize she left the classroom from which all the forefathers of higher education themselves learned, and went instead to learn from those who only ever heard about it, never knew it first-hand. Oh dear Suzanne, you my dear will hear about these things from your children when they arrive at your current age. They will write about these things you could not find the wisdom to be grateful for. Since you would not grow up at sea, grow up ashore. When you write a second book that shares all the lessons your parents and the sea taught, and you didn't learn until sometime after right now, then I will read both of your books. You owe your parents more than an apology. I hope they read this and know that a random guy in Arizona understands what they did, and that there are people out there rooting for their daughter to wake up and find the gratitude required to have that long overdue attitude correction.
@@Wilderness449 That’s the way it is. Parents force children to do what they believe is best, not what the child believes is best. The children revolve around the parent, not the other way. If the parent is self-centered, then the child may have to wait till adulthood when they are able be independent and do what they believe is best. The parents know that in adulthood the child can become whatever they are capable of and are not forcing them to live their dreams. Childhood is not you living your life. Adulthood is. You obey your parents and follow them wherever they tell you. It’s their life, and you’re there to learn. You’re up next, so you better learn before you hit maturity, because then you’ll be doing your life. That’s how it is.
I don't understand how it is a privilege not to have access to medical care and have your life endangered by the reckless decisions of the adults who are supposed to protect you from harm and care for you. As a parent, you are supposed to put the child's needs first, not your own.
@@emiliem.4661 You’re opinion on what qualifies as “needs” and “reckless” lacks wisdom. Her needs were met, not her wants. She was protected and is alive and well today, thanks to them. And who is more capable of surviving a chaotic world… …her or the average person? Obviously her… thanks to her parents. You think like an insurance provider not a parent who wants their children to become the most capable and experienced that they can be. Her parents gave her a treasure. This coddled culture can’t fathom that as easily. They lack wisdom and knowledge of history. Many of their children are a nightmare of ineptitude.
@@ReelworthyAre you, may perhaps, one of her parents? Thou protestes too much.
@@jozina1 No, first heard of this from an article on Facebook. I’m from the U.S. Just felt jealous of the girl on the boat who doesn’t appreciate her childhood. Wish I could afford to offer such experience to my wonderful children. Surprised her lack of wisdom persists into her adulthood so far, and that she can’t trace the roots of her academic heroes back to parents just like hers.
I absolutely hated your parents
You hate people you don't know. None of the rest of her family recognise the events in this account.