I Advised My Trainee About Her Wardrobe Malfunction, And She Reported Me, Claiming I SA'd Her. No...
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- Опубликовано: 8 фев 2025
- 00:00 1st story:
I advised a fellow trainee about a wardrobe malfunction and now have a meeting scheduled with HR due to accusations of SA
08:46 2nd story:
Thinking about not attending my brother’s wedding because of his fiancées prank on my husband
26:17 3rd story:
AITA for kicking out my mom’s boyfriend?
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Story 1 is another example of why some men choose not to interact with women in the workplace
Never interact, never mentor, never help.
This is why men don't help in general. There's even news about it.
Next time say nothing.
1st Story: This is why a lot of men have paranoia about interacting with females in the workplace. Even OP doing his job was turned into something inappropriate. Women like the coworker use the _accusation_ of SA as a weapon when they feel angry, slighted, or embarrassed, knowing the power that accusation holds. Good thing OP's HR department was reasonable in this situation, but the fact that OP had to be so clinical in his language is proof of how dangerous this kind of talk is for men in the workplace.
Story 1: man I’m glad they didn’t pass judgement before getting to the bottom of it. Otherwise, we’d be hearing another “false accusations ruined my life” story
It won’t end there tho. The complainant will spin the story, and make stuff up outside the company.
Nah he just got away coz not enough proof.
The way he keeps dancing around thong too much.. and the fact he had SOME CHAT afterwards.. which is enough for her to creep out and report him...
Its would be different if he would hav made her notice it and Walk away... But he must be tryna score and got nailed....
Talking to womens now is "creepy"? Wow. I agree on the thong part. He could've used a neutral language instead. But to report him for this? She is just looking for attention and you are out here defending her behavior. 🙄@@devhxh1558
@@devhxh1558 IMax whishes they could project like you.
Story 1 poor guy. Avoid that lady like the plague. She comes up to him do what you got to do and walk away 😬
Story #2: “She’s also a Disney adult”
Say no more.
glad we're not playing a drinking game with story 1, i think we'd all be dead
Story 2, Glad they are no contact with her brother and SIL given the fact that he tried delete evidence that would exonerate her husband. I would have been fucking livid.
This is just another example where, woman wears inappropriate clothes and men are labeled creeps for just being there. Women should not be wearing thongs to work. It’s completely inappropriate. She should be sacked.
So... she makes a false accusation and "no action has been taken"?
Ask HR if something was put on record, any record, over this. If yes, sue for defamation of character.
Story one: This could have been a deliberate show to lure attention.
2nd Story: FSIL deliberately created a situation to get a reaction from OP's husband. And she got one. Creeping up on someone in the dark while wearing a mask, _in that person's home_ is the same thing as poking a bear with a stick. This isn't complicated she can't pretend like she's the victim when this problem only exists because FSIL started drama.
I remember a similar story where the sister(?) jumped on the brother/bf’s back in the dark and was pummeled (maybe?) bc he was either mugged or was a veteran, either way he had ptsd. And everyone was trying to downplay his trauma and get him to make peace with his attacker. Months of therapy and progress disappeared and he retreated to his room
You should look up that story. The original one, not the retelling. In the original, he was mugged and got PTSD. The commenters mostly called him a monster that was just looking for an excuse to beat up a woman.
On the retelling he was SA'ed by some bullies for being bi... then commenters were on his side.
Funny how that works.
Story 2: “It was just a prank.” Consider yourself lucky I’m not calling the police or that you’re not lying in a hospital bed right now.
So the only safe option is to let the coworker show her underwear , stay mute because you didn't see anything ....what strange people who escalate a remark to se$ual harrasment ....I thought that harrasment had to be explicit but no ...
Sounds like she set herself up to play victim (for what unhinged reason, I don't know).
Sexual harassment = anything a man does that makes a woman uncomfortable. The looser the definition, the more advantageous for women.
Nah harassment changes on a woman by woman basis. Plus you have to consider how they're feeling at the time and if they find the guy attarctive or not. What isn't harassment today could be harassment tomorrow.
Some women will accusse you of SA if they don't find you attractive, cause they want to get rid of you. I'm a women, but never in a million lifetimes would I do such.
The SIL in story 2 reminds me of my sister. She is constantly doing this type of thing and plays the victim when it blows up in her face.
I’m reminded of this funny vid where a guy gets attacked by slasher characters. He screams but also fights back with fists, small weapons, & big weapons, a natural reaction.
Here we go again
S2, im someone who does like to do jump scares but 1 i only do them on people i know very well (my mum used to get them done on her the most and now i do them on my daughter) and 2 i know there is a chance i will get hit or something thrown at me if they are carrying something and od never do it with a mask on (i just hide round corners and jump out, yes i know it can be childish especially for someone in their 40s but its only done in fun and wouldnt do it if someone had heart issues or they got really upset). If your going to do something like that then you need to be willing to get hit or shoved at the very least
Story 1 is a great example of why employers are afraid of hiring women.
In addition to the fact that they often make offices less efficient
Yes because it's okay for employers to discriminate against all women because one woman is an ahole 🙄
Exactly this. I had a woman manager in my office job that straight told me and another male coworker that it's so much easier dealing with men and less drama 90% of the time.
Story 2. Nta. Well sil wanted to see what he does when someone scares him well now she knows.
Anymore questions
...so... you decide scare someone and get mad at their reaction when they hit fight or flight...
...so.... It's better not to comment and let them embarrass themselves... Ya.. mahes sense
@@seshasatyakrishna5016 The comment is about story 2. I agree with his comment because if someone tried to jump scare me my fight or flight would be triggered. I may scream while doing it but if you try to scare me I will run or react to protect myself.
Story 1 was entirely about her not finding him attractive
Just avoid women entirely if possible. The amount of walking on eggshells that women demand is ludicrous. Safer to keep to yourself and say never say anything at all.
story 2; does no one else think it's concerning sil said op's husband was "so sa-able" ? especially since she attacked him and said it was a prank? ☹️ 24:39
“‘Factually accurate’ and ‘not making someone uncomfortable’ are simply not mutually exclusive.”
If facts make you uncomfortable, I’m pretty sure that’s a YOU problem.
I hate Disney adults
It isn't about her being a Disney Adult, it's about a grown ass woman trying to act like a petulant, spoiled child. She wanted everyone around her to dance to her tune, but only OP's brother was bothering to tap a toe.
She played a stupid (and dangerous) game, and won the prize. The reaction is called "fight, flight, or freeze" for a reason. She picked the wrong one at the wrong time and the wrong place.
@@latonyajefferson9699 Disney adults ARE petulant spoiled children. Just look at a financial audit involving them, they are EVERY ITEM ON THE STEREOTYPE
As do I brother
For the thong, I think I'd refer to it as a thong, or there is a chance I would, I switch up what I call things pretty often. Thongs can be visibly different from underwear if it's showing and I don't think someone is gonna take the time to think of what to call the underwear when they gotta tell a person because you know the longer you take to say it, the longer they are being exposed
for pranks I go by the rule, don't injure anyone, and don't prank at punch or kick level
Story 2: FAFO
"Practical reasons" i.e. to showcase her intellect.
She was wearing a skirt, there are no practical reasons to wear a thong with a skirt, and why was it pulled up so high in the back that it can be seen above the waistband of her skirt?, how did she not know it was showing? 🤔 After I use the bathroom I do a look over in the mirror to make sure everything is where it should be. I think she knew what she was doing but got embarrassed because the "wrong" coworker noticed.
@red_goddess2145 likely.
@@red_goddess2145 right?
story 1: really, really brainless comment, in no way did he sexualize the underwear. He identified it because they have very visible straps when lifted high which is definitely not practical in any workplace. Totally willing to have the ACTUAL practical reason to wear one in the office explained to me but that's so dumb.
The literal only reason to wear a thong is to simulate not having underwear. That is it.
@VRDejaVu yeah I don't see how this is helpful in a work situation lmao
@@VRDejaVu actually apparently swamp ass is a reason for it supposedly which is totally fair but not at all what the comment implied.
@@InTheDemonsWake it does almost nothing against perspiration.
Cotton underwear would actually be more effective... So why not wear cotton undies? Because of the actual use of thongs: simulating no underwear.
Is anyone else annoyed with OP in story 1? Like, the dude can't just call underwear, underwear. It's like some "smart" guy using the latin phrase for shit all the time.
How the fuck is a thong sexualized? It's underwear.
I agree it was his fault
@maxwhite8616 agreed it was all his fault he should have ignored her and not been a nice guy and just let others laugh at her and talk about her behind her back. well he sure learned never ever help a woman they are brave and independent after all
The sexism in these comments.. not surprising actually. “Your underwear is showing” would have been fine, but it’s dumb to not achknowlege that hearing “your thong is showing” is a different tone entirely
A thong is a thong is a thong. It's designed to show as much skin as possible without coverage while acting as underwear. Call a spade a spade, a hoe a hoe, and a thong a thong.
Fucking how???? Its called a thong thats literally the items name if he cant call a hammer a hammer whats the fucking point of the name in the first place?????
This is just another example where, woman wears inappropriate clothes and men are labeled creeps for just being there. Women should not be wearing thongs to work. It’s completely inappropriate. She should be sacked.
Unless you are a prostitute, clothing that simulates having no underwear, or not having underwear at all, aren't work appropriate.
Wanna be a see ya next Tuesday? You do you, but do it on YOUR own time.
S1: I'm just one woman, but guys: emotional intelligence and effective communication goes a long way. Sometimes a man's bluntness can be perceived as creepy or intrusive. OP could've stayed silent sure, but he could've also just pointed at the malfunction, signalled to it with his own body, just say her underwear was showing, get a woman to correct her instead, etc.
I know these sound ridiculous to some, but women get harassed and judged for their clothing more often than men think, so men have to keep that in mind. At the end of the day, this shouldn't deter employers from hiring women or deter men from simply talking to women: just think before you speak. What's so hard about that? You should do that at work all the time anyway.
Are you sure about that? Or is it that woman take comments and sexualize them. I can control my language, and I can control how I interpret comments. I can't control how you take them. Maybe, just maybe, some woman should stop sexualizing comments men, and even other woman, make.
I can call my best friend (male) a slut, and he does not take it a sexual way. A woman would. It's not that it's sexual when I say it to a woman, but that they take it that way, automatically.
Don't start at misogyny. Most of the time, it's just as it is, nothing deeper.
That being said, it does happen. And it's not okay when it does for real. I've never had my comments taken out of character, but I've seen it plenty of times with other people. And I just shake my head, because the woman feels like she was objectified, and the man feels like shit that she feels bad. None of that had to happen.
There’s literally nothing wrong with how he went about it. That’s a YOU problem if you perceive bluntness as “creepy” or “intrusive”. If we have to treat warning you of a wardrobe malfunction as such an extremely delicate subject matter, don’t act surprised when people aren’t full-on being honest with you. And yes, your ideas are terrible and DO sound ridiculous.
Yeah but emotionall intelligence goes both ways
Nobody cares how she looks, they are warning her so that she doesn't look ridiculous, it's like I have a hole in my pants but nobody tells me because they are afraid that I will react badly.
And what happens if she didn't get the signals. What's so wrong about calling them what they are. I was raised by my grandma and she always told me being blunt and direct is good. He warned her so she wouldn't have to deal with being harassed and got accused or harassment. That's not right.
Because there is no definition of harassment it changes between women, also with how your feelings and if you find the guy attarctive or not. The judgement you get on your clothes comes from other women. So don't blame us. If it's men then you are wearing something meant to attract attention and you're getting what you asked for, again don't blame us. Without clear definitions and punishment for those who falsely accuse the only recourse men have is to keep our distance. Women have yelled from the rooftops for men to leave you alone. Don't start bitching because you get what you asked for. So tired of the hypocrisy. This is what women created and wanted and now yall aren't happy. You will never be happy. If you're so fearful about being in public then keep your ass at home. That's a you problem. I'm perfectly fine ignoring your existence.
STORY 1:
Women was right to report him, he clearly dancing around thong too much and must hav brought in much bad taste... Special when he had chat afterwards before leaving her. Which would hav creeped the women out enough to report this.... Its just OP got away and now minimising it all like misunderstanding 🤡
@@devhxh1558 HR says you're wrong 🤣🤣🤣🤣
Bro what
That's great but with that mentality. In that office with the exception of her close friends no one else is going to help that woman unless they're ordered to. She effectively made her self seem overly sensitive. Especially with how fast she went to reporting him for sexual harassment. News flash majority of the dudes and probably a few women are not going to want to interact with her at all in that office. Because what if she misunderstand something simple when they were just trying to help and reports them as well Harriet a simple conversation could have sufficed
@@jestersreign7530 you are missing the fact that he stayed there chatting afterwards... Tryna hit his shot or explore something uncomfortable which made her report this...
@@devhxh1558 so you've never had a co-worker whether male or female that tries to make a situation less awkward by talking about random crap? I've worked with at least 10 people who had a personality like that. Hell I was a guy who told a woman her thong was showing. Know why because other people were staring. Know what she did she thanked me took care of the wardrobe malfunction and moved on with her day. She could have told him what he did that made her feel uncomfortable right then and there. Now she has him and probably anybody else in that office who will hear about this uncomfortable being near her.
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