Worked in the school system and majority of kids who were considered ADHD were primarily the kids of parents who had no structure or discipline at home. Instead of doing the work to parent, they took their kids to medicated. There are kids who genuinely ADHD, who cannot focus but they were extremely rare. I only worked with one that seemed to actually have it, the rest were kids whose parents let them run all over them either because they were lazy, or afraid to traumatize their kids by setting boundaries and saying no.
Well respectfully just because you may not think they have adhd it’s a whole process of tests to prove that BUT yes there are parents who do not teach their kids to be respectful and they don’t hold those kids accountable . Now I was never laid hands on in my childhood but I was taught respect or I was punished from playing outside with friends and I taught that same thing to my children . Please don’t say most kids don’t have adhd because there are so many that do but that is NO REASON to NOT teach respect and accountability.
@@AMAnderson-p1k you are extremely ignorant of the way the medical system works if you think that there are any real road blocks to getting a child diagnosed with the ADHD and put on pharmaceuticals. The cases of ADHD didn’t just magically explode in the past few decades. The medical system is driven by profits for the pharmaceutical companies, so there are hardly any safe guards in place to prevent parents from getting their child a diagnosis and put on medication to ensure profits. Also ADHD meds are considered a schedule 2 narcotic, in the same control class as opioids, and in my opinion with almost no long term testing of how the drugs affect the body and brain over prolonged use, and that’s just in adults, they definitely should not be given to children. You are extremely naive if you think otherwise. Majority of ADHD diagnosis’s are a parenting problem and not something wrong with the child’s brain. Go work at a school, with ADHD children. You might one or two of 20 that actually exhibit the symptoms of ADHD.
Comments like this are fascinating to me. If parents don’t discipline their children, I don’t think it’s because they’re lazy. In fact, I would argue that there is no more difficult time to be a parent in terms of expectations of how we parent than today. The pressure to get it right is unbelievable on parents. And I think the kids feel that too, and some kids embrace it and some kids rejected it. So in that sense, I think ADHD is really just a way to explain a behavior that’s getting in the way of you being a perfect parent and having a perfect child .
@@tishthedish1966 exactly. That’s what I’m talking about. The government put fear in the parents so many don’t do anything. And maybe it was a bit risky the way my ex-husband and I raised our children but we did not tolerate the word “no“. But if parents wait until their children are 3-5 before trying to discipline, it’s too late
I think Gen X is afraid of making their kids hate them the way they hate their parents deep down inside but won't admit. The CPS issue is post 2000. Discipline and a beating ain't the same thing.
There is a difference between discipline and abuse and I think we misunderstood that. Children need discipline & structure but different child personalities will need different punishments to correct bad behavior. Nothing really works for everyone and I wish we could embrace the opportunities life provides in the nuances of difference instead of persecuting them. We as the human race have a long way to go.
As a childcare owner for 30 yrs, now retired, I can say there is a correlation between the children's TV shows of the 70's and the 90"s. the way people or cartoons interact. The shows in the 90"s till present the characters "bark", they don't talk. The art of a conversation disintegrates and set the pathway of texts, no conversation or respect. Thanks for sharing your story.
My father was stationed in Germany when I was a kid. There wasn't a law about disciplining children. We got spanked either with a wooden spoon by mom or a belt from dad. "Wait until your father gets home!" was not an empty threat. It put the fear of God in us. We watched that front door. We knew what was coming. I would have rather gotten a spanking or sent to my room without dinner than get yelled at by dad, than getting spanked by his belt. What scared us the most though, is when they spoke in a menacing tone. You know that deep, creepy tone. Being called by your full name was a warning.
@@rhondatrout1360 right!? I would hate when my mom would yell “TraCy!!!“ But sometimes she would deceive me and just say, “Treyyy?“ I would never want to go back and be a child all over again 😂
Yep I grew up in Germany lived there 9 years! We were raised with manners but we were independent, actually played outside! Grew up on high fructose corn syrup 😂😂. I have Gen z kids very respectful & successful children. I didn’t spank them & allowed them to express themselves. They respect me & other adults. I think because I allowed them live freely at home. These kids are much different now.
A lot of us GenX are working more than our parents, supporting our kids and elder parents. We're doing the best we can. During the work week I see my 10 yr old kiddo about 2 hours a day. I don't have a family safety net so if I fail financially our whole family goes down. I wish I had more time to parent. I do what I can in the limited amount of time that I am allowed by my multiple responsibilities.
@@BekkaPoo I commend you for that💯 I definitely didn’t say that we are not working hard. I’m simply saying that we slacked in disciplining our children for a variety of reasons but nonetheless, I just feel it’s what contributes to the disrespect that we see. Thank you for your feedback💞
Ive watched my brother's kids call the police everytime he tried to discipline them. I have lost sympathy for these kids. If they want their college education in prison...so be it. Mine is disciplined and it shows.
Thank you for this. It's so true I don't have kids, but I see it and hear it, in the grocery stores, etc. I also have friends that are Teachers who have told me things and I'm just speechless.
This is a topic top of mind with me. What is more abusive, not truly raising your children to have all the skills for the best life possible or letting them run roughshod wild with zero coping skills? The physical spanking is not a beating. It delivers a rush of endorphins that actually help calm the child and bring them back to present. It gives them their first introduction of true consequences. It's hard to have hope for the future because todays kids are the future.
@@alyscstudjo6909 that’s pretty powerful… The endorphins actually helping to calm the child and bring them back to the present. But I agree with you. The first introduction of true consequences has to start early. If you wait until they start walking and talking, it may be too late. Thanks for your comment👍
Spanking brings endorphines? Common! No 70ies kids got spanked in Sweden and we still didnt have ADHD to the degree 80ies born had. So it sure doesnt come down to spanking. Spanking in school in Sweden is illegal since 1948, and at home since 1978 and rightfully so (all parents had stopped spanking already since the 70ies and maybe even sooner, the law in 1978 was just to stop those who abused kids from getting away with it). Personally i believe more ADHD has to do with over diagnosing, internet addiction and not being taught to do your shores or behave well. You dont need to spank children to teach them taking responsability.
As someone who was beaten as a child (belt, hand, whatever my dad had nearby) that's BS. Hitting a child teaches them to hit, and that anger makes abuse OK. I'm sorry, but I was born in 1965 (first year Gen X). We were raised without parents for the most part, and we were definitely not the best parents, but many of us hoped to break the cycle of abuse we grew up in. I wish didn't know how many of my friends had been beaten and abused. the number is astronomical.
Gen X. Raised a son who is very respectful, works hard and understands what he has to do to get where he wants. I never spanked him once but I was firm in expectations and stood my ground- it is a DAILY, HOURLY job as a parent. Everything is a choice. I am an educator, and like someone mentioned here, a lot of these kids in school who have accommodations, IEP's, etc...need a massive amount of actual parenting and discipline at home. I have parents SCREAM at me the minute I say their kid is not behaving correctly or ask them for their help. You wonder where these kids learn it from? The kids who truly need these things are lost in the all of this, as are the good kids, in school now. I spent more time dealing with trying to accommodate 65 different "need" kids and not getting any teaching done, and then spent after school with the majority of the good kids in my classes, trying to actually teach them. It's backwards and it's exhausting. I can teach anyone, any lesson, any subject. I cannot teach kids basic manners and home skills (I am a middle school educator) by the time they get to me, they are truly lost causes.
@@txspacemom765 thank you for the work you’ve put in as a good parent and good teacher. The older I get the more respect I have for teachers. Especially the more I’m hearing how these kids are treating teachers/adults/other humans🤦🏽♀️🙏🏽💞
" needs" kids, iep's. My child had an IEP and it was never followed. She got bullied all the time by the kids who didn't have them. No teacher ever stepped in to stop the bullying which started in kindergarten. I worked with at risk kids for 10 years. Same. Most of them bullied. Many did have dysfunctional parents stuck in a non helping system and school.was never a safe place for them either. We'll if home isn't safe and school isn't safe, and it starts in the early grades for most of them, what do teachers expect?
@@JaquelineGoodspeed And your child is probably one I would have noticed as a true IEP, or extra help. Teachers are pawns now- We can't even discipline kids- we HAVE To send them to office and they come back with candy. Yep. Please don't blame teachers, blame the system and parents. I know teachers who go so above and beyond. I was hit with a metal stool from a 10 year old, who was never disciplined for it. I never went back.
Nah, ok. My child was 10 when he came to live with me. He didn't start behaving until the "whoopins'" stopped. He used to laugh while getting spankings and go back to doing what he was doing. I was able to bring his other parent around to discipline and structure that didn't involve hitting. It's not easy to do. It takes consistency and dedication. My now succesful 25yo son loves us, takes care of us, is respectful and we have a healthy relationship without my ever having to throw a flipflop. The problem is not that we haven't been beating our children. The problem, is that genx was taught to hide from their problems.
@@sophiesoprano Life is filled with trauma. While I was going through Breast Cancer, I had a psychologist working with me. I hold no grudges. I’m a well adjusted and positive person. And we’re talking about something that happened over 50 years ago. My mother changed a lot overtime. She never even had to put her hands on my kids but she would have been given the right if she needed it. Thanks for your feedback👍
@@TracyAllenVideos thats what I mean. You are propagating for spanking. Its not all just about how well adjusted you are but how you are inside. Edit: If you have forgiven your mum and she has bettered herself that is beautiful. But you can still acknowlege what really happened.
Abuse by definition is to treat a person or an animal with cruelty or violence, especially regularly or repeatedly. No one in my house was beaten we were disciplined. Most Gen X kids understood the difference. There were and are children that are actually abused do not minimize their suffering by equating their experiences to mine.
@@valorie3157 I think I have seen below that corporally punishing your kids was not regarded as normal even in US since the 70ies. (And since 1978 is was illegal for parents and since 1948 for teachers in my country, but most parents believed it was illegal from at least the start of the 70ies due to the exemple set in schools). At least for the current gen x definition 70ies born are in majority, but maybe you feel gen X is an older generation?
1960’s!!!! WHOAH YOU LOOK 30. Gorgeous! I’m a teacher. Yep. I hear it daily. Then I meet the parents and realize why. I’m a 1979 baby. And my two older boys are always respectful. My daughter is respectful but she got a little attitude sometimes. I definitely see the difference because I wasn’t “allowed” to discipline like normal as the kids got older. Had people getting all upset etc.
@@thealethiaco thank you for the compliment🥰 I applaud you and thank you for being a teacher. One of my favorite movies was “To Sir with Love”. They were a disrespectful bunch in the beginning and although he didn’t put hands on them, he was firm but caring. I pray for your safety and that someday you’ll experience a positive shift in being able to deal with children🙏🏽💞
I knew this was gonna happen in 1991 as a senior in H.S., I just looked at my classmates and said they are going to give birth to some monsters. Me, I decided not to have kids. I figured that I didn't wanna raise a mini me after imagining what stress I put my folks thru.
My experience with gen x parents is that they were always OUTSIDE. Out clubbing and avoiding confrontation with their boomer parents. Just moving through life with parental trauma. The kids didn’t respect them because they were always gone and when they showed up, they didn’t know how to interact with kids
I agree. There was a situation in my city where teens jumped a random older woman and stole her purse. Listen back i know for sure in the day that would never cross their minds. Boomers would kill before they let the elders in the community be disrespected and tormented like that. Not saying it worked for every child but its clear the quality of society went down the more ppl got in gentle parenting and being their childs friend. They dont respect their peers either or value life. These kids sure enough will buck at and hit an adult in a minute but they dont even want you to raise your voice . This society is so pathetic they think 10 year olds need privacy on phones they dont pay for.
Such a wise "Grown" child you were. Your scar was a constant reminder for both of you. I'm so sorry. Mom was so young, and you forgave her. I had a similar story with my mom at the exact same age! As a gen x mom to a young adult, I have forgiven her for that moment in time.
I'm Gen X. I kept what I liked about how I was raised and I tossed what I didn't like. But I spank. My kids are respectful, well adjusted, and "normal". When they see other kids acting out, they look at me and say, "ooooooh we would NEVER." Then we laugh and keep it pushin. But I completely agree that not teaching one's children to behave as a child will backfire on not only the parent, but society as a whole. I got spanked as a child, also but not ever with dangerous items. I'm sorry you went through that.
@@seasons365 thank you. Sounds like you have a similar relationship with your children as I do with mine. My kids are respectful and trip off of seeing how other kids disrespect folks but, we just all believe that it’s not the right thing to do but keep it pushing as well👍🥰
Exactly! My kids knew ( we have 6 kids) either you do what’s expected or you have no toys but they were allowed to read no playing with friends for up to 2 weeks. My elders such as my mom my cousins and nieces are teachers and they were taught to respect authority same as my parents taught me but my parents and myself as a parent never laid hands on the kid, we never had to.
More people need to be talking about this. I chuckle, and roll my eyes when Xers get up and talk about how "tough", and respectful of their elders they were, and passed NONE of of those things onto their children. For all the hell we give boomers, we need to give that same energy to Xers. The boomers, for all their faults, actually raised two gens of kids to be successful, well adjusted, and had enough grit to face adversity, and overcome it. Also kids who were raised with respect. Gen z- gen x kids), are some of the most soft, mentally ill/maladjusted, and hateful kids we have on record. Dont know how to communicate. Overly offended. Many of them were neglected, just like their Xer parents were. The same treatment Xers complain about receiving from their boomer parents, they gave equally to their own kids. Not to mention the levels of disrespect. A lot of this nonsense we see in society, and online- redpill garbage, was largely taken up by Gen Z. Great video!
Punishment of children is not the issue. Children, and families don't get enough support from society. This society isn't friendly to families. Judgement without any attempts to make it better, this is called hypocrisy. Generational trauma is passed down. Example: Mom, and dad come from a broken home, both parents watched pedophilia, drug use, domestic violence. How are they going to raise children right, knowing only what not to do?
The problems with whoopings is that some people were not emotionally mature enough to be giving them. A parent could have had a bad day at work so that whooping could have been a stress release for some people, which leads to other problems. Whopping's should be a very last resort for extreme situations. I think that there are sooo many things that can go wrong with always using physical punishment for children. I know your forgave your mom and I know your mom didn't want to hurt you, but should you really have gotten beat for moving too slow or not brushing your teeth right?
The vast majority of the clients I work with who were molested as young children, are actively on drugs and have been since childhood (MANY of whom started using with a parent), and have been to jail and/or prison multiple times and now either have nothing to do with their kids or let them run feral are Gen X. You are absolutely on to something. Fortunately it seems that millennial parents are much more structured. Unfortunately, most older teens were raised by Gen X parents and I’m starting see them for the very same reasons I’ve been seeing Gen X’ers.
Oh Emm Gee... you took the words right outta my mouth. there's more to it tho... as you say, since the 70s its become taboo to physically discipline your children. At the same time no-fault-divorce hit the scene. Those two things have contributed to the mess we are living in today. A child can expect to misbehave without consequences from the primary caregiver. But should that primary parents finally happen on something that would cause the child to rethink his actions, all he had to do is say that he wanted to go live with the other parent. Back in the eighties that was an issue, but it wasn't near as bad as it became in the nineties, when the the split family and most importantly the coutrsystem! became weaponized against parents. Then in the last 20 yrs, it changed to not just a. you can't physically disipline your kid, b. your kid can legally run away, oh no, that's not enough. Now you have to demonstrate that your child is deliriously happy at all times. They are never allowed to be bored, they are never allowed to be idle, and they had better not ever have a single scratch from any activity they do.
The main problem is regardless of whether physical discipline is used correctly or not it was always on the edge of it easily going to far without the parent meaning to do so. This is how folks end up with a bunch of accidental mutilations or deaths. It's also a serious tell that something isn't quite right with the person committing the physical disciple when they're doing it with something very questionable... like a knife. No I'm not throwing shade I'm just making a point. Current parents are gonna have a bunch of issues because they're still trying to figure out SOME kind of system to use for discipline, they don't even have one right now, and most don't even have the time hence the additional chaos and the lack of discipline.
Physical discipline is the best discipline. I will agree. The knife was probably a very bad idea. I personally would never think of that, but it happened. It’s over all is forgiven I think the problem with today’s children as they do not get whooped enough.
That clip at the beginning is from "Everybody Loves Ray" Ray Romano was born in 1957 and is a Boomer. I know the new trend is to try to blame GenX for everything that's wrong in society --now that Boomer-blaming has been played out, but, this sounds like it's all about you. Generation X was born Late 60s to 1980-82 (depending on which chart you're looking at).
@@Datpart100 I don’t know if maybe you didn’t really watch the video but at some point I mentioned that boomers are the ones that taught us this so, it’s just a perspective🤷🏽♀️ Thanks for your feedback 👍
So why can't I spank my parents when they're being assholes then?? Why are they allowed to hit me but I'm not allowed to hit them? They're not special creatures they're just regular human beings like the rest of us they don't deserve special treatment , dumping out a human doesn't make you are special creature undeserving of punishment if you act like a jerk
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Disrespectful kids are what changed my mind about being a teacher. My dad told us why we were getting a whooping
Worked in the school system and majority of kids who were considered ADHD were primarily the kids of parents who had no structure or discipline at home. Instead of doing the work to parent, they took their kids to medicated. There are kids who genuinely ADHD, who cannot focus but they were extremely rare. I only worked with one that seemed to actually have it, the rest were kids whose parents let them run all over them either because they were lazy, or afraid to traumatize their kids by setting boundaries and saying no.
Well respectfully just because you may not think they have adhd it’s a whole process of tests to prove that BUT yes there are parents who do not teach their kids to be respectful and they don’t hold those kids accountable . Now I was never laid hands on in my childhood but I was taught respect or I was punished from playing outside with friends and I taught that same thing to my children . Please don’t say most kids don’t have adhd because there are so many that do but that is NO REASON to NOT teach respect and accountability.
@@AMAnderson-p1k you are extremely ignorant of the way the medical system works if you think that there are any real road blocks to getting a child diagnosed with the ADHD and put on pharmaceuticals. The cases of ADHD didn’t just magically explode in the past few decades. The medical system is driven by profits for the pharmaceutical companies, so there are hardly any safe guards in place to prevent parents from getting their child a diagnosis and put on medication to ensure profits. Also ADHD meds are considered a schedule 2 narcotic, in the same control class as opioids, and in my opinion with almost no long term testing of how the drugs affect the body and brain over prolonged use, and that’s just in adults, they definitely should not be given to children. You are extremely naive if you think otherwise. Majority of ADHD diagnosis’s are a parenting problem and not something wrong with the child’s brain. Go work at a school, with ADHD children. You might one or two of 20 that actually exhibit the symptoms of ADHD.
Comments like this are fascinating to me. If parents don’t discipline their children, I don’t think it’s because they’re lazy. In fact, I would argue that there is no more difficult time to be a parent in terms of expectations of how we parent than today. The pressure to get it right is unbelievable on parents. And I think the kids feel that too, and some kids embrace it and some kids rejected it.
So in that sense, I think ADHD is really just a way to explain a behavior that’s getting in the way of you being a perfect parent and having a perfect child .
I also think a lot of parents were/are afraid to discipline their kids. The child only has to accuse you of abuse and you get locked in the system.
@@tishthedish1966 exactly. That’s what I’m talking about. The government put fear in the parents so many don’t do anything. And maybe it was a bit risky the way my ex-husband and I raised our children but we did not tolerate the word “no“. But if parents wait until their children are 3-5 before trying to discipline, it’s too late
I think Gen X is afraid of making their kids hate them the way they hate their parents deep down inside but won't admit. The CPS issue is post 2000. Discipline and a beating ain't the same thing.
There is a difference between discipline and abuse and I think we misunderstood that. Children need discipline & structure but different child personalities will need different punishments to correct bad behavior. Nothing really works for everyone and I wish we could embrace the opportunities life provides in the nuances of difference instead of persecuting them. We as the human race have a long way to go.
@@LadyAmalthea888 I agree 100%. Thank you for your feedback👍
Gen X and Millennial parents are sadly creating the worst children over ever encountered…the fact that the iPad is their coparent is sickening
Millennial men don't got children, that is female Millennia's who have children.
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As a childcare owner for 30 yrs, now retired, I can say there is a correlation between the children's TV shows of the 70's and the 90"s. the way people or cartoons interact. The shows in the 90"s till present the characters "bark", they don't talk. The art of a conversation disintegrates and set the pathway of texts, no conversation or respect. Thanks for sharing your story.
My father was stationed in Germany when I was a kid. There wasn't a law about disciplining children. We got spanked either with a wooden spoon by mom or a belt from dad. "Wait until your father gets home!" was not an empty threat. It put the fear of God in us. We watched that front door. We knew what was coming. I would have rather gotten a spanking or sent to my room without dinner than get yelled at by dad, than getting spanked by his belt. What scared us the most though, is when they spoke in a menacing tone. You know that deep, creepy tone. Being called by your full name was a warning.
@@rhondatrout1360 right!? I would hate when my mom would yell “TraCy!!!“ But sometimes she would deceive me and just say, “Treyyy?“ I would never want to go back and be a child all over again 😂
Yep I grew up in Germany lived there 9 years! We were raised with manners but we were independent, actually played outside! Grew up on high fructose corn syrup 😂😂. I have Gen z kids very respectful & successful children. I didn’t spank them & allowed them to express themselves. They respect me & other adults. I think because I allowed them live freely at home. These kids are much different now.
A lot of us GenX are working more than our parents, supporting our kids and elder parents. We're doing the best we can. During the work week I see my 10 yr old kiddo about 2 hours a day. I don't have a family safety net so if I fail financially our whole family goes down. I wish I had more time to parent. I do what I can in the limited amount of time that I am allowed by my multiple responsibilities.
@@BekkaPoo I commend you for that💯 I definitely didn’t say that we are not working hard. I’m simply saying that we slacked in disciplining our children for a variety of reasons but nonetheless, I just feel it’s what contributes to the disrespect that we see. Thank you for your feedback💞
Ive watched my brother's kids call the police everytime he tried to discipline them. I have lost sympathy for these kids. If they want their college education in prison...so be it. Mine is disciplined and it shows.
I feel you🤦🏽♀️ Thank you for sharing 🙏🏽💞
Thank you for this. It's so true I don't have kids, but I see it and hear it, in the grocery stores, etc. I also have friends that are Teachers who have told me things and I'm just speechless.
@@cristadowney3919 if you notice, movies and TV shows with children always have a few words of profanity used by the children anymore🤦🏽♀️
As a former teacher, I said the same thing. This is our fault.
This is a topic top of mind with me. What is more abusive, not truly raising your children to have all the skills for the best life possible or letting them run roughshod wild with zero coping skills? The physical spanking is not a beating. It delivers a rush of endorphins that actually help calm the child and bring them back to present. It gives them their first introduction of true consequences. It's hard to have hope for the future because todays kids are the future.
@@alyscstudjo6909 that’s pretty powerful… The endorphins actually helping to calm the child and bring them back to the present. But I agree with you. The first introduction of true consequences has to start early. If you wait until they start walking and talking, it may be too late. Thanks for your comment👍
Spanking brings endorphines? Common! No 70ies kids got spanked in Sweden and we still didnt have ADHD to the degree 80ies born had. So it sure doesnt come down to spanking. Spanking in school in Sweden is illegal since 1948, and at home since 1978 and rightfully so (all parents had stopped spanking already since the 70ies and maybe even sooner, the law in 1978 was just to stop those who abused kids from getting away with it). Personally i believe more ADHD has to do with over diagnosing, internet addiction and not being taught to do your shores or behave well. You dont need to spank children to teach them taking responsability.
As someone who was beaten as a child (belt, hand, whatever my dad had nearby) that's BS. Hitting a child teaches them to hit, and that anger makes abuse OK.
I'm sorry, but I was born in 1965 (first year Gen X). We were raised without parents for the most part, and we were definitely not the best parents, but many of us hoped to break the cycle of abuse we grew up in. I wish didn't know how many of my friends had been beaten and abused. the number is astronomical.
@@barbarafolk1854 you were abused not spanked, big big difference and it's a shame because now we simply cannot separate the two.
Gen X. Raised a son who is very respectful, works hard and understands what he has to do to get where he wants. I never spanked him once but I was firm in expectations and stood my ground- it is a DAILY, HOURLY job as a parent. Everything is a choice. I am an educator, and like someone mentioned here, a lot of these kids in school who have accommodations, IEP's, etc...need a massive amount of actual parenting and discipline at home. I have parents SCREAM at me the minute I say their kid is not behaving correctly or ask them for their help. You wonder where these kids learn it from? The kids who truly need these things are lost in the all of this, as are the good kids, in school now. I spent more time dealing with trying to accommodate 65 different "need" kids and not getting any teaching done, and then spent after school with the majority of the good kids in my classes, trying to actually teach them. It's backwards and it's exhausting. I can teach anyone, any lesson, any subject. I cannot teach kids basic manners and home skills (I am a middle school educator) by the time they get to me, they are truly lost causes.
@@txspacemom765 thank you for the work you’ve put in as a good parent and good teacher. The older I get the more respect I have for teachers. Especially the more I’m hearing how these kids are treating teachers/adults/other humans🤦🏽♀️🙏🏽💞
@@TracyAllenVideos Girl! It's bad! Really bad. Thank you for answering.
" needs" kids, iep's. My child had an IEP and it was never followed. She got bullied all the time by the kids who didn't have them. No teacher ever stepped in to stop the bullying which started in kindergarten. I worked with at risk kids for 10 years. Same. Most of them bullied. Many did have dysfunctional parents stuck in a non helping system and school.was never a safe place for them either. We'll if home isn't safe and school isn't safe, and it starts in the early grades for most of them, what do teachers expect?
@@JaquelineGoodspeed 😢💔
@@JaquelineGoodspeed And your child is probably one I would have noticed as a true IEP, or extra help. Teachers are pawns now- We can't even discipline kids- we HAVE To send them to office and they come back with candy. Yep. Please don't blame teachers, blame the system and parents. I know teachers who go so above and beyond. I was hit with a metal stool from a 10 year old, who was never disciplined for it. I never went back.
Gen X here and yes Gen X clearly made terrible parents
Nah, ok. My child was 10 when he came to live with me. He didn't start behaving until the "whoopins'" stopped. He used to laugh while getting spankings and go back to doing what he was doing. I was able to bring his other parent around to discipline and structure that didn't involve hitting. It's not easy to do. It takes consistency and dedication. My now succesful 25yo son loves us, takes care of us, is respectful and we have a healthy relationship without my ever having to throw a flipflop. The problem is not that we haven't been beating our children. The problem, is that genx was taught to hide from their problems.
@@embertheelder powerful… Thank you for sharing that💞
What you describe is abuse. And an abusive relationship . Ever considered therapy?
@@sophiesoprano Life is filled with trauma. While I was going through Breast Cancer, I had a psychologist working with me. I hold no grudges. I’m a well adjusted and positive person. And we’re talking about something that happened over 50 years ago. My mother changed a lot overtime. She never even had to put her hands on my kids but she would have been given the right if she needed it. Thanks for your feedback👍
@@TracyAllenVideos thats what I mean. You are propagating for spanking. Its not all just about how well adjusted you are but how you are inside. Edit: If you have forgiven your mum and she has bettered herself that is beautiful. But you can still acknowlege what really happened.
Abuse by definition is to treat a person or an animal with cruelty or violence, especially regularly or repeatedly.
No one in my house was beaten we were disciplined. Most Gen X kids understood the difference.
There were and are children that are actually abused do not minimize their suffering by equating their experiences to mine.
@@valorie3157 I think I have seen below that corporally punishing your kids was not regarded as normal even in US since the 70ies. (And since 1978 is was illegal for parents and since 1948 for teachers in my country, but most parents believed it was illegal from at least the start of the 70ies due to the exemple set in schools). At least for the current gen x definition 70ies born are in majority, but maybe you feel gen X is an older generation?
1960’s!!!! WHOAH YOU LOOK 30. Gorgeous!
I’m a teacher. Yep. I hear it daily. Then I meet the parents and realize why. I’m a 1979 baby. And my two older boys are always respectful. My daughter is respectful but she got a little attitude sometimes. I definitely see the difference because I wasn’t “allowed” to discipline like normal as the kids got older. Had people getting all upset etc.
@@thealethiaco thank you for the compliment🥰
I applaud you and thank you for being a teacher. One of my favorite movies was “To Sir with Love”. They were a disrespectful bunch in the beginning and although he didn’t put hands on them, he was firm but caring.
I pray for your safety and that someday you’ll experience a positive shift in being able to deal with children🙏🏽💞
I knew this was gonna happen in 1991 as a senior in H.S., I just looked at my classmates and said they are going to give birth to some monsters. Me, I decided not to have kids. I figured that I didn't wanna raise a mini me after imagining what stress I put my folks thru.
My experience with gen x parents is that they were always OUTSIDE. Out clubbing and avoiding confrontation with their boomer parents. Just moving through life with parental trauma. The kids didn’t respect them because they were always gone and when they showed up, they didn’t know how to interact with kids
I agree. There was a situation in my city where teens jumped a random older woman and stole her purse. Listen back i know for sure in the day that would never cross their minds. Boomers would kill before they let the elders in the community be disrespected and tormented like that. Not saying it worked for every child but its clear the quality of society went down the more ppl got in gentle parenting and being their childs friend. They dont respect their peers either or value life. These kids sure enough will buck at and hit an adult in a minute but they dont even want you to raise your voice . This society is so pathetic they think 10 year olds need privacy on phones they dont pay for.
Such a wise "Grown" child you were. Your scar was a constant reminder for both of you. I'm so sorry. Mom was so young, and you forgave her. I had a similar story with my mom at the exact same age! As a gen x mom to a young adult, I have forgiven her for that moment in time.
I'm Gen X. I kept what I liked about how I was raised and I tossed what I didn't like. But I spank. My kids are respectful, well adjusted, and "normal". When they see other kids acting out, they look at me and say, "ooooooh we would NEVER." Then we laugh and keep it pushin. But I completely agree that not teaching one's children to behave as a child will backfire on not only the parent, but society as a whole.
I got spanked as a child, also but not ever with dangerous items. I'm sorry you went through that.
@@seasons365 thank you. Sounds like you have a similar relationship with your children as I do with mine. My kids are respectful and trip off of seeing how other kids disrespect folks but, we just all believe that it’s not the right thing to do but keep it pushing as well👍🥰
There is nothing Punker than raising a generation of monsters.
Exactly! My kids knew ( we have 6 kids) either you do what’s expected or you have no toys but they were allowed to read no playing with friends for up to 2 weeks. My elders such as my mom my cousins and nieces are teachers and they were taught to respect authority same as my parents taught me but my parents and myself as a parent never laid hands on the kid, we never had to.
We aren’t monsters- we are BEASTS!
Nope little fucking monsters
More people need to be talking about this. I chuckle, and roll my eyes when Xers get up and talk about how "tough", and respectful of their elders they were, and passed NONE of of those things onto their children. For all the hell we give boomers, we need to give that same energy to Xers. The boomers, for all their faults, actually raised two gens of kids to be successful, well adjusted, and had enough grit to face adversity, and overcome it. Also kids who were raised with respect. Gen z- gen x kids), are some of the most soft, mentally ill/maladjusted, and hateful kids we have on record. Dont know how to communicate. Overly offended. Many of them were neglected, just like their Xer parents were. The same treatment Xers complain about receiving from their boomer parents, they gave equally to their own kids. Not to mention the levels of disrespect. A lot of this nonsense we see in society, and online- redpill garbage, was largely taken up by Gen Z.
Great video!
@@th3azscorpio thank you👍😊
Punishment of children is not the issue. Children, and families don't get enough support from society. This society isn't friendly to families. Judgement without any attempts to make it better, this is called hypocrisy. Generational trauma is passed down. Example: Mom, and dad come from a broken home, both parents watched pedophilia, drug use, domestic violence. How are they going to raise children right, knowing only what not to do?
The problems with whoopings is that some people were not emotionally mature enough to be giving them. A parent could have had a bad day at work so that whooping could have been a stress release for some people, which leads to other problems. Whopping's should be a very last resort for extreme situations. I think that there are sooo many things that can go wrong with always using physical punishment for children. I know your forgave your mom and I know your mom didn't want to hurt you, but should you really have gotten beat for moving too slow or not brushing your teeth right?
The vast majority of the clients I work with who were molested as young children, are actively on drugs and have been since childhood (MANY of whom started using with a parent), and have been to jail and/or prison multiple times and now either have nothing to do with their kids or let them run feral are Gen X. You are absolutely on to something. Fortunately it seems that millennial parents are much more structured. Unfortunately, most older teens were raised by Gen X parents and I’m starting see them for the very same reasons I’ve been seeing Gen X’ers.
Gen X were terrible parents by far. The absolute worst from what Ive onserved.observed
Baby boomers created Gen X bro
@@soulbeautiful4586 I mentioned that in the video🤷🏽♀️😆
Silent generation created those 1965-1972
Oh Emm Gee... you took the words right outta my mouth.
there's more to it tho... as you say, since the 70s its become taboo to physically discipline your children. At the same time no-fault-divorce hit the scene. Those two things have contributed to the mess we are living in today. A child can expect to misbehave without consequences from the primary caregiver. But should that primary parents finally happen on something that would cause the child to rethink his actions, all he had to do is say that he wanted to go live with the other parent.
Back in the eighties that was an issue, but it wasn't near as bad as it became in the nineties, when the the split family and most importantly the coutrsystem! became weaponized against parents.
Then in the last 20 yrs, it changed to not just a. you can't physically disipline your kid, b. your kid can legally run away,
oh no, that's not enough. Now you have to demonstrate that your child is deliriously happy at all times. They are never allowed to be bored, they are never allowed to be idle, and they had better not ever have a single scratch from any activity they do.
The main problem is regardless of whether physical discipline is used correctly or not it was always on the edge of it easily going to far without the parent meaning to do so. This is how folks end up with a bunch of accidental mutilations or deaths. It's also a serious tell that something isn't quite right with the person committing the physical disciple when they're doing it with something very questionable... like a knife. No I'm not throwing shade I'm just making a point. Current parents are gonna have a bunch of issues because they're still trying to figure out SOME kind of system to use for discipline, they don't even have one right now, and most don't even have the time hence the additional chaos and the lack of discipline.
Physical discipline is the best discipline. I will agree. The knife was probably a very bad idea. I personally would never think of that, but it happened. It’s over all is forgiven I think the problem with today’s children as they do not get whooped enough.
@user-gn7uw4tq5x Nowadays, cellphones have made parents' indifferent and absent minded.
@@demohidu5946 👍 Thanks for your input 👍
That clip at the beginning is from "Everybody Loves Ray" Ray Romano was born in 1957 and is a Boomer. I know the new trend is to try to blame GenX for everything that's wrong in society --now that Boomer-blaming has been played out, but, this sounds like it's all about you. Generation X was born Late 60s to 1980-82 (depending on which chart you're looking at).
@@Datpart100 I don’t know if maybe you didn’t really watch the video but at some point I mentioned that boomers are the ones that taught us this so, it’s just a perspective🤷🏽♀️ Thanks for your feedback 👍
So why can't I spank my parents when they're being assholes then??
Why are they allowed to hit me but I'm not allowed to hit them? They're not special creatures they're just regular human beings like the rest of us they don't deserve special treatment , dumping out a human doesn't make you are special creature undeserving of punishment if you act like a jerk
You were born in the 90s, stop 🤥!
@@eveharris30 😂💞