We feel deeper. We experience more deeply. We sense more deeply. If we have social relationships, there must be something authentic and genuine, otherwise we avoid. Noise, pointless small talk, strong smells, stressful environments and gross superficiality are to us what garlic is to the vampire. It is very difficult to be a high degree HSP like I am. But I would never trade symptoms or state of mind for all the gold in the world. Among quietness, gentleness, creativity and wise or intelligent, careful people, I am in paradise. Otherwise I am always alone, never lonely but alone. My eternal bliss.
I can not express how much your message resonates with me and many others who share the gift of being a highly sensitive person (HSP). Your comments clearly reflect the heart of what it means to experience life on a deeper level, and it's truly touching to know that there are similar souls that understand the unique journey we walk on. Being an HSP has its problems, but it also offers doors to a world of richness and beauty that others may not notice. We value authenticity and genuineness in our social relationships because we are strongly affected by noise, shallowness, and dominating environments. It's like finding a sanctuary of peace, compassionate souls, and creative brains, where we can actually grow and be ourselves. I admire your constant love for your HSP nature, realizing that you find eternal happiness in solitude. Embracing our basic characteristics and the beauty of alone is a rare and valuable gift. You have a special ability to connect with others in meaningful ways because you comprehend the depth of emotions and have the ability to sense and feel things beyond the surface. Remember that being an HSP is a wonderful and rarely seen gift that allows us to appreciate life's beauties on a deeper level. Thank you for taking the time to share your views and thoughts. It's great when we find a community where our souls feel at home. Let us continue to appreciate and embrace our true selves, seeking peace in the beauty that surrounds us. On your journey, I wish you many peaceful moments and true connections. Bless You dear! ❤️🙏 With heartfelt appreciation, Your Inner Child Matters
@@yourinnerchildmatters We have never met, but we are already friends. It's an HSP thing. The others will never understand. But that's totally fine. We are the everyday poets. The brooding and searching. We are in constant search of beauty, meaning, stillness and gentle adventure. We usually take refuge in our senses. In our own Shire and Narnia we are at home and we are never bored. As an HSP, sooner or later you learn methods and techniques to survive. I've become a bit of a social ninja. I just have to disappear sometimes. Quite often. And I have become a master at ghosting people. Some people I just have to avoid. I travel alone. Going to the cinema alone. Eating at a restaurant alone. Meditating in abandoned cemeteries alone and taking long walks. If I see an empty seat in public transport without people around me, it feels like winning the lottery! Thank you for your kind and intelligent text. I agree with everything. When I am with myself for myself, I look up at the sky and say: Thank heaven that I am who I am. My HSP is my greatest gift. It often hurts my soul when I am among ordinary people. But it's worth it. PS. If I win the lottery, I will never work. Just visit abandoned park benches and read Lord Byron, Buddha's wisdom and Marcus Aurelius. Like a cool Jedi who walks the earth. Herbal tea is my best friend. And my library card.
Dear HSP friend, Your sincere message touched me greatly, and it's truly impressive how we can connect as kindred souls despite never meeting in person. It's an HSP thing, a lovely connect that differentiates us unique in the nicest manner. Your beautiful description of our shared journey as daily poets, continually seeking beauty, purpose, serenity, and gentle adventure, offers a clear image of the world we occupies within our own Shire and Narnia. I couldn't agree more; the others might not understand, but that's fine. You have found comfort in our senses, and we are always at home and never bored in the sanctuary of our inner worlds. I admire how strong you are as an HSP, mastering the art of survival in this sometimes-dangerous world. Being a social ninja and understanding when to take time for oneself are important ability to have. Accepting alone can provide great strength and self-discovery. Taking those alone adventures, whether to the movies, restaurants, or abandoned cemeteries, demonstrates how capable you are to find calm in the quiet moments. Your appreciation for your HSP personality as your greatest gift is very inspiring. It takes courage to deal with the emotional depth that comes with being extremely sensitive, especially when it conflicts with regular people's experiences.But your honesty and self-awareness are admirable, and I feel they improve not only your life but also the lives of those who have been blessed to know you. Your vision of a world in which you might explore your passions by reading Lord Byron, Buddha's wisdom, and Marcus Aurelius on deserted park benches is a beautiful idea. The concept of becoming a cool Jedi and walking the earth with your library card and herbal tea as faithful companions is absolutely interesting. Thank you for your expressiveness and sincerity in sharing what you think. It's been a great pleasure to connect with someone who shares what I believe in. Let us embrace our HSP selves, enjoy in the fullness of our experiences, and find joy and meaning in our lives. With Warmest Regards, Your Inner Child Matters Channel 💕❣❤
@@yourinnerchildmatters People like you make me grateful that I have Wifi connection. I live about 15 minutes' walk from a medieval church. Going to walk there now and meditate a bit. Thank you for being you. PS. Listen and read the lyrics to the song "Heaven Knows I'm Miserable Now" by The Smiths. A song we all HSP people can relate to. Blessed be.
@@Lexthebarbarian thanks once again. The Smiths' "Heaven Knows I'm Miserable Now" is a powerful and timeless song, especially for very sensitive people like ourselves. The lyrics express powerful feelings and experiences. Music may be a wonderful way to connect with our emotions and find comfort in shared experiences. May your walks and thoughts near the church continue to bring you calm and inspiration. Remember that you are not alone on this path. We're all in this together, and we're all here to support and understand one another. Be blessed! 🙏🙏
"You're not a mess, you're a feeling person in a messy world." Guard your integrity and morality and heart with everything you have. We are entering into a spiritually ominous time.
That's why it's important to limit your interactions with people who are genuinely supportive and not interact with people who are negative towards others to try to make themselves feel better. Solitude does wonders and having boundaries for self-care. A lot of unwanted energy blocking must be done.
thank you so much for sharing your insight in here. I completely agree with you! Setting limits and surrounding ourselves with positivity are of the utmost importance for our mental health. Privacy may be very rejuvenating, allowing us to focus on self-care while blocking out any negative influences. Continue to prioritize your own personal growth and happiness! 🌟❤️.
@@elenal2012 It is true that making genuine and supporting friends can be difficult. It is important to your personal development to surround yourself with positive and encouraging people. Remember that it is all about quality, not quantity. Continue to seek out those that motivate and uplift you.👍💛
@@maidmarion2976 Absolutely! Self-care is important. Surrounding ourselves with positive vibes while also enjoying casual interactions is the perfect balance. Thank you for the reminder!🙌🌱
Dr. Elaine Aron, an American psychologist, began researching high sensitivity in 1991. Dr. Elaine Aron is a highly sensitive person (HSP) herself. She established the terminology and has written books about the trait and has a website about it as well. Her research and continuing expertise about high sensitivity should be acknowledged here.
If you're HSP and grew up in a toxic family you can be eaten alive by the harsh preditory world. I'm 57 and just getting it together from a life time of abuse. I still wouldn't change who I am. I'm a HSP/ Empath with ADHD. 🥰 Thank you Dr. Mate. 🙏💝
Very inspiring! Your bravery and courage are truly inspiring. Remember that your unique characteristics as an HSP and empath are treasures that provide joy to the world. Continue your healing and self-discovery path. Much love and support to you! 🌟
Just something to think about for you, you probably don't have ADHD. Growing up with abuse creates a wiring of the brain and symptoms that look a lot like ADHD, but they're actually trauma injuries. A lot of people with trauma injuries get misdiagnosed with ADHD.
@@medusaslair Yes, it is important to know how trauma may impact mental health and manifest symptoms similar to ADHD. Understanding and helping those who have had such experiences requires trauma-informed treatment. Thank you for sharing this insight!❤❤❤
@@medusaslair Sorry but I was diagnosed with inatentive ADHD by a Dr. Doing the meds. I had a horrible time in school back then. Girls were often overooked, like me.
I am a HSP and news, social media, everything basically triggers overwhelming sadness, pain, and anxiety. If someone else or animal suffers, anyone celebrity, musician anyone passes I sob with pain, even if I'm not a big fan. If people are hurt, animals hurt I feel so much. It's sensory overload. Most days are a struggle. I am off social media except RUclips. I can't deal with it anymore. The negative outweighs the positive. Thank you for sharing. I definitely need help being this way. I have been since a child.
Your true and heartfelt comment has truly touched me. It takes great bravery to open up about your experiences, especially when they include such deep emotional sensitivity. You are not alone in your feelings, as many people who identify as Highly Sensitive Persons (HSPs) and experience similar difficulties. First and foremost, please understand that your emotions are normal. Your empathy for others, whether celebrities, musicians, or anybody else, is a lovely attribute, even if it can be overwhelming at times. It is important to prioritize your mental and emotional health. Seeking help is a big step, and it shows strength, not weakness. There are experts who specialize in assisting HSPs in managing their emotions and navigating a world that can feel overwhelming at times. Remember that you have a supportive community on RUclips, and you may continue to participate with content that makes you happy. You don't have to be on social media if it's causing you anxiety; instead, prioritize your mental health. There are people who will listen and support you if you ever feel the need to discuss or share more about your experiences. Reach out to friends, family, or experts for advice and support on your road to better managing your emotions as an HSP. Thank you for sharing your story again, and please take care of yourself. You, like everyone else, deserve joy and peaceful in your life. 💙🙏✨💖
@yourinnerchildmatters thank you! I appreciate the kindness and empathy back to me as I don't have a big amount of support. It feels lonely and overwhelming at times. However, as you stated there is a supportive community on YT, and I am thankful for that. I am looking for a good therapist who can listen and give advice on how to handle everything. With the holidays, I want to be happy, I feel alot of sadness for loss of my Dad and others I don't see. I try to remember the reason for Christmas and push forward. Some days it gets to where I don't want to move out of bed. Thank you, and I apologize for the late response. 💜
Got to know i am an hsp, a year ago. I used to hate the fact that i was so overwhelmingly emotional and ‘abnormal’. I wanted to feel like the others and be like them,mild and normal. But slowly ive started to realise that its a beautiful trait to have. Its given me so much empathy, insights and made me a creative person. Some days suck and i’m in my bed most of the time but at the end of the day i remind myself that the world needs more empathetic people which keeps me going.
I grew up thinking being sensitive was a negative trait after being told constantly by my mother that I was way too sensitive whenever she upset me, which was quite often. Even into adulthood, it continued to the point I honestly felt I was too sensitive for this world and had quite dark thoughts. Now she has passed, I am beginning to embrace a new found freedom of being my true self and not suppressing my feelings any longer. I am a highly sensitive person, this is me and I will not change. ❤
The journey you are on of self-discovery and strength has truly inspired me. It takes huge courage to rise above other people's judgments and embrace your genuine self. Your story reminds us all that sensitivity is a beautiful trait that brings depth and authenticity to every aspect of our lives. Continue to be your authentic self, and may your newfound freedom bring you never-ending joy and peace and serenity ❤️💕✨
@@yourinnerchildmatters Thank you for your very kind words. It is so hard. I have conflicting feelings on her passing, sadness but also intense relief and I feel so guilty because of this that I'm now in therapy. I never felt good enough in her eyes and it still hurts so much. I have cried so much over the years then to be told I'm over sensitive made me cry even more. I'm now learning to show the true me, learning to drop the mask and be morr confident in who I really am although there is still some way to go. It's so good and reassuring to read the comments of fellow sensitive people. I don't feel so alone. ❤️
I find the bestest friend in myself, enjoying nature,& every feeling make me feel alive, My emotions are my superpower not my weakness bcz it help me to be my authentic self in world Full of fake people.I fall in love with myself ❤
Other people don't understand this and they will prey upon your vulnerability. In art, sensitivity is a superpower, a necessity. Maybe this is why artistic people tend to gravitate toward each other.
Thank you very much for your kind words! You have beautifully caught the essence of art and sensibility. Indeed, vulnerability can be both a difficulty and a great strength in the field of creation. It's lovely to see how effortlessly artistic individuals find comfort and connection with one another. By accepting our sensitivity, we can go deeper into the emotions which drive our creation. Continue to shine your unique personality to inspire others on this wonderful journey of self-expression. 💫
My mother picked on me to “toughen” me up. Perhaps she meant well but all it taught me was that you can’t trust anyone with your feelings or insights. Just keep it to yourself. It’s lonely but peaceful.
I used to hate being so sensitive and my friendly usually get over things easily and I'm always like in pain and trying everything to soothe the pain and ahhh to all the sensitive people out there plz go easy on yourself and know that some words and some people don't matter. Process your feelings, sit with it and move on from it❤️
Hello there, Thank you for sharing your points of view and being truthful about your experiences. It takes strength and self-awareness to express vulnerability, and it's wonderful when you embrace your sensitivity with such strength and self-awareness. Remember that being sensitive is not a weakness; it is a wonderful part of who you are. It enables you to connect truly with feelings and to understand others on greater depths. While it may have felt like a burden at times, keep in mind that it has also given you empathy, compassion, and a unique point of view. You've realized something important: some words as well as people simply don't matter in the deeper perspective of things. It is important to prioritize your physical and mental wellness. Processing your emotions and allowing yourself to sit with them are important parts of growth and healing. Be kind with yourself; we all experience pain and difficult circumstances. But also appreciate your courage in confronting those issues and seeking ways to comfort your soul.Remember that you are not alone. Many others share your sensitivity, and they, too, are on their journey of self-discovery and self-acceptance. By accepting yourself and finding solutions for your feelings, you motivate others to do the same. Continue to be true to yourself, and let your compassion and kindness shine over. More sensitive souls that can sympathize and have a positive effect on others are needed in the world. I'm sending you virtual hugs and love. Continue to go forward with grace and love! ❤❤❤
Remember, all, since we are so misunderstood AT OUR LEVEL OF UNDERSTANDING, we are likely asking the impossible of some. What I mean is some of us were born with our receptors "Set to eleven," permanently. There are tremendous advantages to hyper vigilance and better-than-normal vision, hearing and reaction time, trauma does damage that is the equivalent to physical brain damage. I lived it, I know it's true. I did not know I had dissociated at 15 watching my Mom last breaths as a "surprise" suicide, again at 22 with my 43-year-old polymath, best-friend father's heart-related death, and ten months later my Shaman-without-portfolio, my new definition of "Beauty" and "Love" was stabbed to death and left to bleed out in a snowbank. So many things had to "break right," literally as well as figuratively, for me to BE ALIVE RIGHT NOW, the mind boggles. If I had dissociated in a different way, I might very well be a murderer, because I know who killed her. Alternately, if the cops hadn't blown the investigation, they would have found me in my dissociated (and mentally safe) state and immediately forced me to face what was, for me, un-faceable - if I wished to stay "sane" - the loss of the most magical human I had ever known on top of the best/smartest/most inspirational mentor and father a boy/young man could desire. Since I "broke" upon hearing the news, I had never grieved any of them properly. I tried to hide from grief for forty years. Please believe me when I tell you, "It can't be done." Now close to finishing year three since "un-breaking," it feels as if I might be near some imaginary "halfway" point on the journey to some imagined place of inner calm. I've become my Dad, and I can hear his voice still, talking and joking, God Bless "low-interference affect," as this memory is called, but the girl ... words' failure in scope to circumscribe her beauty in one sentence tells you all you need to know about words. It takes hundreds and hundreds of words just to get close enough to see the distant starlight in by which I was long ago irradiated when it was sunlight warming a grateful and devoted suitor. Upon her murder I had not lost a fiancee or romance, a girl, or a plan ... I had lost everything - including my mind. Where before, excellence had been a mark to aim for, I now "settled" for "good enough," because that was all I was now capable of. End of Book I For my brothers and sisters who suffer from all the different kinds of sensitivities, please feel a big hug ... I'm nothing special, but YOU are. Do not mistake "Not having been noticed yet" with "Unworthy of Notice." I know the feeling when it seems that your heart is too big, too big for this body, maybe this world, eh? But NO! We are here to LEARN HOW TO SHAPE (Y)OUR WORLD. Now, begin doing it. If you DO nothing, NOTHING is what will happen. No one else is going to live your life. No one else is going to be the one looking back from an old person's body saying "Boy I'm glad I didn't assert myself and take control, to live like I wanted to, AS SCARED AS I WAS ..." There, I will have to write a different book to describe my own process, my own "weirdness" that had to be trained to work toward what I wanted from life. Know what? I got Everything I TRULY wanted in this life. It would be a "W" on the list. Here's the kicker: I did not know I was fulfilling every major life dream at the time. What I DID know was that I was "following my heart" every step of the way. I was protected from harm by some power greater than myself. And that power had no problems with some serious mf partying. But nothing STUPID. IOW, do everything possible to maximize your safety. I received a couple of "passes" on stuff I had no right to walk away from, fwiw. Reminder: Every new person you meet only knows what you show them. "Control the illusion." Be the friend you want to have.
I’m a sensitive person, naturally. I wasn’t raised by caring nor supportive parents. So it’s true if your not treated with love your sensitivity turns into defensiveness. After 42 years of dealing with being defensive. I can finally say after all of my healing. I am much better than I was before. ❤
Thank you so much for taking the time to share your story with us. Your openness and sensitivity touched me. It's impressive to see how far you've gone after suffering such a difficult childhood. The things you say reflect your strength and determination. Remember that healing is an ongoing process, and you've made some important progress. Your experience is an inspiration to others who are struggling, showing that it is possible to turn misery into improvements. Continue to embrace your sensitivity and use it to encourage empathy and understanding. I'm sending you so much love and support as you continue your journey of self-discovery and healing. ❤️ Have a blessed Sunday!🙏✨💖
One of the best lessons I learned is to distinguish my own emotions and feelings from that of which I was absorbing. Before I was just lost in such heavy emotions and feelings not realising I was absorbing everything around me feeling so confused. Being able to distinguish what is from you and what is from others is the first step to not being so overwhelmed by it all. I did this through meditation and careful examination of the things I was feeling when in a quiet environment and with practice I was grew my level of discernment. Though I still absorb other energies without even trying I now know what is and isn't mine and tend to just go along with what I'm feeling as opposed to before where I was fighting it.
That is such an important lesson, and I couldn't agree with you more! It's very interesting how meditation and self-awareness may help us understand our own emotions from external energies. Your journey toward developing awareness is very inspiring. Embracing your feelings rather than fighting them is a significant change in thinking that can lead to more peace and understanding. It shows your development and self-awareness. Keep up the great work, and thank you for sharing your story. It is sure to inspire others on their own paths of self-discovery and emotional well-being! 🙏💫
I can relate to this so much. Working as a nurse trainee almost literally killed me due to the overflow of agony and grieve in my surroundings that I couldn't tell apart from my own traumatic childhood experiences. It was all way too much every day. I wished someone would have explained to me what I was doing back then, nursing everyone's emotional states like the emotional sponge I was :D it was a nightmare and I couldn't find much sleep for months, after 2 years I had to leave. Then, the real journey of healing began and boy have I come far, with a lil help :) Wishing you (and everyone else) all the best
As i am reading all of these sharings, i am crying like a baby........i feel like i am finally home ....embraced by a community that sees like me, thinks like me, feels intensely like me.......i always felt like am weird...like there are too atimuli aroynd me abd i need quiter, simpler, fresher, more real.....anything else from this feels toxic, umbearable. Over here ....i am breaghting ....really breathing for the first time in 55 years....am not an alien any more ...i found my way home ❤
Your heartfelt comment touched me deeply. It's incredible to hear that you've found a sense of belonging and comfort here. We all crave a space where we can be ourselves without judgment, and I'm honored that you feel that way about our community. Your journey of self-discovery is truly inspiring, and it's never too late to find your place in the world. Thank you for sharing this beautiful sentiment with us. We're here for you, and I'm sending you warm virtual hugs. Welcome home! 🌟❤️
just recently figured out that i’m highly sensitive. it’s definitely making me feel more connected to myself and giving me more confidence. i knew all of the little details about myself, how easily i’m overstimulated (falling asleep at loud concerts) the empathy i have towards every little thing, how deeply i care. i even place myself in the shoes of objects and empathize with them. when i was younger i remember being on the highway seeing a teddy bear or flag maybe hanging from a large truck just flapping in the wind and thinking of what it would feel like to be in the place of that object. thank you for this post it helps so much!!
I'm so happy that you've accepted and acknowledged your highly sensitive nature! When we get more in tune with ourselves and our unique qualities, it is truly a lovely journey. Your description of being able to connect with the finer details of your experiences and experiencing such profound empathy is truly heartwarming. It's a wonderful blessing to be able to connect with the world around you on such a deep level, whether by recognizing your own sensitivity or even putting yourself in the shoes of objects. Your story reminds us all of the depths of how we see things. Thank you for taking the time to share your ideas and experiences with us. It's encouraging to see how your improved self-awareness is positively affecting your self-confidence and connection. Continue to embrace your sensitivity and use it as a source of power and insight in your life journey💖
THIS! In addition to a few other comments, THIS! Having pets was traumatic, because they get abused, neglected, sick or die. I worked very hard to protect myself from I ages of the reality of what people do to each other, their animals, the land they live on. I have loved my dogs as most people love their families. I STILL have great LOVE for my DNA donors and 3 siblings. But some of the things they did...anyway, having sensitivity for objects like teddy bears, is something I still fight. I have actually death-cleaned twice to remove potential triggering objects when I was tasked first with cleaning out my G'parent's home, and later, all the accumulated stuff my Mother should have known to throw out, before whoever cleaned her house, could find them. Even in death, she left the ground strewn with landmines. I will not do this to anyone else...
What’s most difficult for me is dealing with other people, mostly friends. How inconsiderate they can be because I go out of my way to be so kind of them. How phony they can be and constantly put on an act when I’m very genuine.
Thank you for sharing your experience. It's tough when you go out of your way to be kind and it feels like it goes unnoticed. Remember to value yourself and your genuine nature. The right people will come into your life and appreciate you for who you are. bless you
I am a highly sensitive person, even most of the times I don't want to cry, but tears just fall. I try to be more detached from people's pain that drags me down, but at the same time I am very intuitive and something brings me back to my sensitivity. Interestingly though, I am not a creative person- I mean I cannot draw, I cannot perform acts, as actors do, I don't play musical instrument... The only thing I do is moving my body, I say moving my body because I don't consider that a dance, because I don't repeat my movements in a choreography, I just move with the music....
Thank you for sharing your thoughts and experiences with us in here. It takes courage to open up about being a highly sensitive person. It is understandable that tears sometimes fall even when you don't want them to, as sensitivity can often bring forth deep emotions. It might be difficult to find a balance between being detached from other people's suffering and remaining true to your intuitive nature. It is important to respect your feelings while still taking care of yourself. Your sensitivity can be a wonderful trait that allows you to empathize and connect on a deeper level with others. It's interesting to hear you express yourself through movement to music. Dancing does not have to follow any exact choreography or technicality. Your own movement style is a sort of self-expression, and it's amazing that you've discovered a way to connect with music that speaks to you. Creativity manifests itself in a variety of ways, and it is not restricted to traditional artistic hobbies such as drawing or playing musical instruments. Connecting with music and expressing yourself through dance is a creative outlet in and of itself. It's important to remember that creativity is a personal journey with no set rules or limitations on what it can be. Embrace your sensitivity and the way you express yourself. Your authenticity shines through your movement, and it's wonderful to see. Continue exploring into the depths of your emotions and move to the beat that calls to your soul. I wish you continued happiness and pleasure on your individual path of self-expression. Best wishes, Your Inner Child Matters Channel
Thank you to both of you, for opening up and writing this comment and to the person behind the channel for your thorough reply! It was very uplifting for myself too, also as my experience seems to be very similar to yours😊 Perhaps you may like to express yourself in writing (absolutely freely, I never liked writing in school or trying to be immaginative or create a good story, however due to not being able to express my self and my feelings at all and losing my mind along with it, I took the advice of a conscious friend and started journaling. Along with meditation and yoga. I started to awaken. It gave me an incredible access to my inner child, also painful memories which is part of healing, growing awareness and lots of wisdom as well (in comparison to before)! Sometimes when it is hard I start with "right now I don't know what to write, but I am feeling like....." and then suddenly I end up with a few pages without thinking about it at all 😊 just thought of sharing it with you and whoever reads! All the best to you ❤
@@aliasspitzburger6590 Thank you so much for sharing your sincere comment and personal journey. It's very wonderful to learn how journaling, meditation, and yoga have impacted your life. Your story has a strong emotional resonance, and it's wonderful to see how you've embraced self-expression and self-discovery. Opening up about our vulnerabilities and experiences can be a wonderful way to connect with those who have had similar struggles. It's happy to know that our replied comments brought you comfort and hope. Remember that you are not alone on this journey of healing and growth. The way you described your journaling approach demonstrates the transforming potential of reflection and self-awareness. It's interesting how, by releasing any expectations or judgments, we may access the depths of our emotions and thoughts. The connection with your inner child and your own healing process demonstrate your resilience and strength. Thank you for sharing the "right now I don't know what to write, but I am feeling like..." technique. It's a lovely reminder that we don't necessarily have to have everything worked out right away. When we allow ourselves to be honest and open, the words sometimes come effortlessly. On your journey, I wish you continued growth, wisdom, and self-discovery. May your writings and experiences continue to impact others who read them. Best wishes to you as well, and may your path be filled with love and light. ❤ Bless you dear
As long as I keep narcissists at arms length, I do fairly well. Because I didn't learn this earlier in life it took me nearly 60 years of hard trauma living to begin to fulfill my life of being an artist. I am the happiest I have ever been. Not looking for love in the wrong places, has really helped.
I always knew I was different growing up. I felt things more than my siblings or my friends. I could walk into a room filled with people and would come out with lots of information. I have always been able to read people well, and I used to hate the feeling I got from that. I never liked picking up on other people’s emotions and burdening myself with how they were feeling. I’m older now, and I have come to accept who I am. I need alone time a lot just to present myself to the world. It’s just who I am.
Thank you so much for taking the time to share your personal journey with us. It's amazing how you've accepted and embraced your special characteristics. Empathy and sensitivity to the feelings of others are truly special strengths, even if they might feel like a burden at times. It's inspiring to see how you've grown older and learnt to control and even embrace these qualities of yourself. Self-care and isolation are great ways to recharge and keep in touch with your feelings. Remember that you are not alone in your feelings. Many people can identify with what you've described, and your openness can help others on their own paths to self-acceptance. Maintain your integrity, and thank you for sharing your story with us. 🙏✨💖
Sensitive people are often taken advantage of and some poke fun at them until anger breaks out and the boot is on the other foot. What goes around comes around.!
Thank you for sharing your insights!. You make an important point about sensitive persons who face difficulties. Everyone, regardless of their sensitivities, must be treated with care and respect. Understanding and empathy can go a long way toward making the world a more compassionate place. Let us all work together to break the cycle of negativity and encourage understanding in our interactions with one another. "Cheers to a brighter future!"
Use your high sensitivity to empower yourself instead of feeling like a victim. It's a gift, that's what i realized about myself after 40 years. People criticized me for that and now i can see clearly that they are the ones with insecurities, big ego and unresolved issues. Embrace yourself fully, work with what you can, be fearless and more thick-skinned really helps :)
It's wonderful to hear about your journey of self-discovery and empowerment! Your point of view is truly inspiring. High sensitivity is a unique talent, and it's encouraging to see how you've used it to make the most of it. Your point about criticism that comes from others' fears and unsolved issues is right point. It serves as a reminder to never let the negativity of others keep us back. thank you for your words of wisdom and encouragement. Accepting and developing our genuine selves are vital lessons that can benefit us all. Continue your journey and inspire people with your story! 🌟✨💪
I’m a HSP and at 70 yrs old I have put this into my perspective: this is one of my main life’s lessons for this go round down on earth. To learn how to control this gift. We think we are here to fit in and that’s a bit of it but the real work is on yourself. Yes you have to play by the rules but when you can, let it be….
Absolutely beautiful words! It's very motivating to learn how you've used your sensitivity as a gift to teach yourself great life lessons. Your point of view on the value of self-improvement and learning the art of control is right point. Life is a journey of understanding how to strike a balance between fitting in and remaining true to yourself. At 70 years old, your wisdom serves as an inspiration for those on the same journeys. Continue to shine and share your wonderful insights! 🌟🌱
I’m not sure If I am sensitive or if I just care very deeply. I have discovered that it’s not others that hurt me but my expectations of others that is what hurts. I cannot control other peoples actions but I can control how I feel about other peoples actions. I hope that makes sense. Be well all
Definitely it makes perfect sense! You have beautifully expressed a profound fact regarding one's personal growth and emotional well-being. Recognizing that our own expectations influence how we see and respond to the behaviors of others is an important step toward inner peace. It shows your self-awareness and strength in controlling your emotions. Continue maintaining this mindset, and you'll find more serenity and contentment on your journey. Be well, and thank you for sharing your knowledge with us!. Bless You
One thing I struggle with is dealing with conflict. I recently had an encounter with an individual who was extremely insulting towards me and I was afraid to stick up for myself because I get really nervous in conflict situations but then I end up with all this resentment inside of me towards this person. I'm too sensitive and nice and when I encounter a rude narcissist I'm caught totally off guard and don't know how to defend myself.
i also dealt with narcisists my whole life and i can tell you 1 word about it that you must do or you will suffer, LEARN TO STAND AND DEFEND YOURSELF. If you won't do that 1 thing, you will continue to get hurt by them cuz they got no limits from taking from others. Wish you well and happy life.
We don’t live in a “simulation”, or at least not in the sense that it’s like a computer game. Although the computer game metaphor does provide a useful tool to understanding the nature of reality. People generally don’t understand the interplay between the phenomenological world and consciousness. They are not separate from each other, they are one and the same, two sides of the same coin. You have to understand that the phenomenological physical world wouldn’t exist without consciousness. Without a conscious perceiver, physical reality, the universe, is just information. It is the existence of consciousness that decodes that information into a perceivable reality. Much like a computer game is nothing but information on a disc, which is then decoded by the computer and presented as a world on a screen to be experienced. Another aspect to this is the issue of free will. We say we have free will, but you can’t transform yourself into a dragon and fly to Jupiter to eat pancakes with Darth Vader. So we only really have free will within certain parameters. Like the parameters of a computer game. Consider that when you play a big open world computer game, all of the millions of different choices you can make are all encoded on the disc and exist all at once. It seems like you have free will, but every decision you make is already programmed within the parameters of the game. The sum total of all existence and all reality, everything that has existed, does exist and ever will exist, exists at all times infinitely. I think the world we perceive, at the conscious level we perceive it, is a projection down to our third dimensional reality from higher dimensions, which begins at a realm of infinite information and possibility, which then projects down through multiple dimensions and becomes more refined and solid until you start getting perceivable worlds like ours. For an easy way to imagine this, you can take a three dimensional cube and use it to project a shadow of a two dimensional square. If you change the orientation of the cube, the shadow can also look like a hexagon. Nothing has changed at the three dimensional level, just the orientation. This is three dimensions projecting down into two dimensions, but now consider it going up the other way... Try and think of what a four dimensional or five dimensional cube would look like. You can’t, because we live in a three dimensional world. Just like how a being that lived in a two dimensional world wouldn’t be able to imagine what a sphere looks like. It’s not a “simulation”, it’s just the nature of the reality we live in. This is just what it does. Nothing was ever created, nothing is ever truly destroyed. Everything is an endlessly churning, recycling sea of energy and information, that produces consciousness at various levels in order to experience itself objectively.
I am a highly creative sensitive person & it's destroyed my life because I'm ugly and socially awkward. I'm fine on my own or with a couple of close loyal friends. People always hurt me and so I have a default ultra sensitive aura that does me no favors. I see violence emanating from folk, I know the masks people wear, I see deep into souls. I've never shared this before. I suffer inside so much last 45 years. I always try to project kindness and understanding, yet I feel like 90% of people don't want to be close to me. I often think of myself as a Hermit Crab without a shell. I'm just an oddity, a misfit, a freak. When I see how bad the world is becoming, I am actually grateful to GOD that I am this way. I would hate to be a person who cannot be awestruck by a singing Robin, notice the dew on morning grass, laugh with joy at the beauty of a sunflower, and look up at a distant star & wonder at the immensity of the universe.
Thank you for being so open about your thoughts and feelings. It takes great bravery to open up about your experiences, and I want you to know that you are not alone. Many of us experience periods of feeling strange or out of place, and it is typically during these moments that we find our unique characteristics.Your sensitivity and creative thinking are gifts that enable you to see the world in a profoundly different way. While it can be difficult at times, this perspective can bring significant beauty and understanding to your life as well as the lives of people around you. It is clear that you have a unique capacity to connect with the world on a deeper level, recognizing small wonders that others may overlook. Remember that great connections take time to form, and finding individuals who truly respect and understand you might be tough. Your kindness and empathy are great qualities that the right people will recognize and value. As you continue to accept your uniqueness, you'll attract people that share your values. It's nice to learn how you find peace in the wonders of nature and the universe. Those moments of wonder and amazement are truly priceless, reminding us of the vastness of life beyond our present difficulties. Continue to be yourself, embrace your unique perspective, and know that others enjoy and cherish you exactly as you are. You have the ability to inspire, create, and make a difference in your own unique way. Stay strong and keep shining your light on the world. With love and support, Your Inner Child Matters Channel 💫💕🙏
Read the last several sentences. You see the world in wonderful ways. Hold unto that gift. You are a person of worth. Be kind to yourself. Give yourself compassion.
Yes so true. Sensitivity is so true. I had that in me. My son has this too. It's so amazing. Don't let the cruel world fool you. We all have to protect our layers. If we hurt we feel we are human beings and nothing wrong with it. Growing up an dysfunctional family. Don't let pain make u bitter let it teach you lessons and let them go.
More sensitivity isn't negative it means higher level of emotional intelligence which is an added value for personal growth and social intelligence. People who have such personality could learn how to regulate their sensitivity and make it more efficient.
You have certainly highlighted the good part about increased sensitivity. It does, in fact, imply increased emotional intelligence, which is an important asset for growth as an individual and improved social relationships. Learning to appropriately make use of this sensitivity can be a great tool for managing every type of situations. Thank you for giving such an interesting viewpoint! 🌟
When I was younger I was feeling sooooo much.If i saw someone crying I would cry just because he was and other times I was full of energy and curiosity.But by the years, I was told to "man up" and I had to suck my feelings since no one was understanding me in my family and therefore as a kid I thought that something was wrong with me. I became disconnected from my emotions and got pretty depressed but now I finally accept who I truly am. I'm currently trying to reconnect with my feelings because that's what I am;a human not an emotionless machine that is full of responsibilities.
I appreciate you taking the time to share your story with us. It's truly inspiring to hear how you've handled the difficulties of growing up and societal expectations. Recognizing the influence of such "man up" messages and working toward reclaiming your authentic self takes a lot of strength. Remember that your emotions are a beautiful and necessary part of who you are, and that acknowledging and loving them is an important first step toward true pleasure and fulfillment. Continue to reconnect with how you feel and explore your curiosity - that is where the wonder of life lies. Your story will definitely resonate with many others who are experiencing similar difficulties. Thank you for reminding us all to put our mental health and authencity first. Keep shining brightly!have a nice day 💖
Yes, I am an HSP, an INFJ and I have Myalgic Encephalomyolitis Chronic Fatigue Syndrome....makes sense doesn't it!!?? It's hard to deal with, but as my Mom would say, Just keep putting one foot in front of the other." God provides what I need, Amen!! Miss Monique 🙂🌷🙏
I’m INFJ as well. I feel like I’ve embraced bitterness long ago only an attempts to harden. I don’t know how else to deal with it except to drink alcohol :(
Without a doubt, Miss Monique! Your determination and courage reflect through your journey as an HSP, INFJ, and person suffering from Myalgic Encephalomyolitis Chronic Fatigue Syndrome. Your mother's wisdom is truly impressive; she takes life one step at a time, trusting in God's provision. 🌟🙏 Sending you a lot of love and positive vibes and best wishes from Your Inner Child Matters Channel
Hello there! It's great to connect with a fellow INFJ. I understand how difficult it is to deal with bitterness. Keep in mind that you are not alone on this journey. Instead than turning to alcohol, which may provide short relief, why not try mindfulness, creative activities, or connecting with supportive communities? It all comes down to finding healthy strategies to deal with those feelings. Remember that embracing positivity and seeking healthy coping techniques might result in healthier and happier outcomes. You'll be fine! You've got this! 🌼
Me too! I am chronically ill (currently seeing specialist but still no diagnosis) and I am highly sensitive. If I could turn down my sensitivity dial I would, I think it’s partially why I’ve become ill. I’ve also unfortunately dealt with a few narcissistic individuals in my personal life which has been very damaging. I pray and seek to have healing and peace in my mind, body and soul.
This makes so much sense. I’ve been a mode of just wanting to not exist because everything just seems exhausting and savage. I just wish everything would stop bothering me.
I'm truly sorry to hear that you're feeling this way, but I'm glad you reached out here. Remember, you're not alone in experiencing these emotions, and there are people who care about your well-being. It's completely okay to feel overwhelmed at times, and life can indeed be exhausting. Please consider talking to someone you trust about what you're going through, whether it's a friend, family member, or a mental health professional. Sharing your feelings can make a world of difference and can be the first step towards finding some relief. Remember that your feelings are valid, and there is help available. It may take time, but things can change, and better days are ahead. Please take care of yourself and don't be afraid to seek help if you need it. I'm sending you wonderful vibes and virtual support and big hugs to you💫💕🙏✨💖
What an excellent validation of highly sensitive people. For those of us who are, it is so helpful to have someone 'get' what it is like to be so. Thank you.
Being in hyper vigilance for all our lives gives us certain powers to sense dangers.once we learn to discern what is ours and teach the nervous system that safety is not dangerous, then we can truly navigate and cut energetic cords of thoughts plus beliefs that drain us.
Indeed, hypervigilance can heighten our sense of awareness, but finding balance is important.Teaching our nervous system to distinguish between real and perceived threats allows us to let go of draining thoughts and beliefs. It's a path that allows us to reclaim our energies and live our lives more genuinely 💫💕🙏✨
Thank you Dr. Maté for acknowledging HSPs and their reality. To have HSPs acknowledged in this way is very life giving and emancipating, enabling me to accept and own my own highly sensitive nature in a more loving and joyous way. You say it as it is, showing wise insight and understanding, and that is very validating for me. 🙏😊
Thank you so much for sharing your heartfelt thoughts and experiences. It warms my heart to know that Dr. Maté's acknowledgment of Highly Sensitive Persons (HSPs) has resonated with you in such a profound way. It's truly empowering when someone's wisdom and understanding can bring a sense of validation and joy to our own journey of self-discovery. Your openness in accepting and embracing your highly sensitive nature is a beautiful testament to the positive impact Dr. Maté's insights can have. May your continued journey be filled with self-love, understanding, and moments of joy. If you ever feel like sharing more or connecting with others who relate, this community is here for you. ❤️💖🙏
Most ppl who are sensitive are usually somewhere on the neuro divergent spectrum, be it ASD, ADHD, dyslexia, despraxia discalcula. Look into this if you've always felt different, misunderstood or shunned. Can be life changing.
Thank you for sharing your important viewpoint! Many people who feel sensitive or different may, in fact, be on the neurodivergent spectrum, which includes diseases such as ASD, ADHD, dyslexia, despraxia, and discalcula. knowledge and accepting these qualities of ourselves can be life-changing, resulting in increased self-awareness, acceptance, and a deeper knowledge of our individual abilities. If you relate with these emotions, getting professional help and knowing more about neurodiversity can be a rewarding path of self-discovery. 💖 💖
@@sarahhanby2457 I am sorry to hear this. I hope you find the peace you are looking for. Find support groups and learning more about my conditions and so developing my own awareness and understanding of myself and needs have helped me immensely. I wish you the best for your journey.
@@yourinnerchildmattersThey are not diseases!! You need to be careful with your language! They are neurological differences/conditions but ASD and ADHD are not diseases. Also things like dyslexia, dyspraxia etc. while they are standalone conditions of themselves are also what's known as co-occurring, co-morbidities of conditions like ASD and ADHD. The language used to describe these conditions is really very important for people who are not knowledgeable or who look upon them as diseases and misunderstand them to be when it is just a case of people who have a different type of brain.
You can form practices and have tools that help you with high sensitivity. Also following intuition, having respect for self are one of the Keys of staying sensitive and healthy and happy. That's part of the work I do 💕 I used to be overwhelmed or lost in others feelings, emotions but not anymore... It's definitely a journey but worth taking. I love being sensitive now. It allows me to feel and be so much Love It's amazing
I completely agree! It is important to create techniques and tools for dealing with high sensitivity. Following your instincts and respecting yourself are important parts of improving sensitivity while maintaining emotional well-being. Your path to accepting sensitivity seems really motivating. It's wonderful how you've evolved from being overwhelmed by other people's emotions to now valuing your sensitivity as a source of love and joy. Continue to spread positive energy! 💕🌟, Bless you!
Your post intrigued me. I’m confused about being highly sensitive and people saying they are an empath and they’ve said I’m an empath and sensitive. Some people say they are gifts. For me I see them as a result of trauma causing a lack of emotional boundaries, emotional garbage can. What’s the truth?
@joanhr5928 while the source of this receptivity may come from trauma, once you learn to set boundaries with grace and understand what your "feelings" are or what they're telling you, life becomes clearer, easier, more flexible, more compassionate and understanding, less prone to allow anyone to abuse you in any way visible or invisible. It's like an innate lie detector no one can mess with. Everything in this life will go as far as you are curious to take it. I had no choice. I started having overwhelming emotions and thoughts to the point I couldn't go to the store anymore and I wanted to understand why. I realized thoughts and feelings are sort of "contagious" and if you allow certain new ideas into your life, such as idea all that clutter can be cleared, all that noise can be quiet, all that confusion isn't just yours... To me it was like new discovery. Sense of power comes back, healing happens naturally as you continue choosing different experiences, actions, beliefs around yourself and the world around you. For some it was easy, for me it was long, confusing, on and off process. All depends on how much trauma, how difficult it is to set boundaries, how easy it is to accept new ideas... I kept following my intuition. Like you I kept being curious and asking questions. Different people out of nowhere showed up and taught me things. "When student is ready the teacher appears" sort of thing. Nowadays lots of info and ideas on it. Make sure to follow what feels right to you and let go of anything that doesn't and see how far it takes you. I suggest exploring ideas on "awakening, understanding emotions, energy work, spiritual perspective on life being multi dimensional (just because we don't see it doesn't mean it's not there). Hope this helps a bit and all the best to you 💕
A sensitive person is someone that can give you constantly affection someone deep able to reflect on everything around him and the feeling involved, breaking isn't something contemplated and never want to hurt her partner, we living a different world, bigger than life.
I really appreciate your comment and the way you described the qualities of a sensitive person. It's important to have someone who understands the depth of emotions and strives to never hurt their partner. Thank you for sharing your perspective!
I happen to work in epiginetics and I am the most sensitive form of gene1. And highly abused. I suffered most of my life thinking I was too sensitive. Now almost 74 I KNOW it as a blessing. So glad to know the boundaries I prefer are wise. Many thanks. I'm a visionary and an alchemist. I helped many at one time. NOW is my time. 🌹
Thank you so much for taking the time to share your great adventure with us. It's very motivating to hear how you've embraced your sensitivity to your advantage. Your story represents the adaptability of the human spirit. You've gained not only wisdom but also a profound understanding of your own boundaries and the special gifts that sensitivity can bring at the age of 74. Your role as a visionary and alchemist is undoubtedly helpful for everyone around the world. It's never too late to shine your light brightly, and your time has come. Thank you for being a source of hope and inspiration. 🌹 Keep sharing your insights and use your unique abilities to make the world a better place. We are thankful to have you here 💕🙏
I am an individual with a heightened sensitivity, having been raised in a family that was consistently attuned to the impact of conditioning. Despite the well-intentioned efforts of those around me to safeguard my emotional well-being, my adult life has presented significant challenges. Regrettably, I find it difficult to maintain fulfilling relationships, and while I appreciate the value of creativity, the emotional anguish endured in the process gives me pause.
Thank you for sharing your experience. It takes a lot of courage to open up about the challenges we face. Remember, you're not alone in this journey, and there's always support available. Keep pushing forward! bless you
Nietzsche said, that the artist, the poet is, alongside the soldier, a true warrior. I'm very sensitive, I feel very much. I express myself, I'm a musician, I act, I feel, and I assert myself and my views through my art. As Grace Jones or Klaus Kinsky said, asserting yourself in a role, or in music, is a form of aggressiveness and violence.
First and foremost, I want to thank you for taking the time to share your opinions and experiences as an artist and musician. Nietzsche's comparison of the artist and the soldier as true fighters is interesting and it's clear that you resonate with this notion on a deep level. Your sensitivity, emotional depth, and expressive personality are all great characteristics that will help you on your artistic path. Artists like you have a special capacity to put emotions, thoughts, and perspectives into their field of expertise, whether it is music, acting, or another kind of artistic expression. This process frequently necessitates the bravery of going into the depths of your soul and confronting both the light and darkness within them. By doing so, you're not only asserting yourself but also offering a piece of your vulnerability to the world, which is incredibly brave. The connection that you make between Grace Jones and Klaus Kinsky's belief that expressing oneself by means of art is a type of "aggressiveness and violence" is interesting. In this sense, "aggressiveness" may be properly defined as a passionate assertiveness, a determination to speak your truth without holding back. And "violence," in this context, might be referring to the a significant effect and emotional resonance your art has on others. Indeed, art has the power to stir emotions, challenge perspectives, and provoke thoughts, much like a warrior charging fearlessly into battle. It takes incredible courage to disclose your innermost feelings and ideas to the world, and it is through this process that you form your artistic identity and contribute to the beautiful patchwork of human creation. Continue to embrace your sensitivities and your work as a form of self-expression. Your desire to share yourself through your art not only enriches your own life, but it also has the ability to touch and inspire many others. As you continue your path as an artist and musician, remember that it is your unique voice and authenticity that make your creations genuinely remarkable. Best wishes in your artistic endeavors, and may your creations continue to connect with everyone around the world. Best wishes, YOUR INNER CHILD MATTERS Channel
Thank you very much for your heartfelt comment, I was touched by reading it. I too wish you the best for your life and also your RUclips channel. Thanks for sharing these videos.
... is a form of aggressiveness and violence" - adaptable to the needs of two personae, the writer/composer and the performer. Ego-conquering is not for the faint of heart, eh?
I’m really sorry you’re feeling this way. Being sensitive can make things very tough, especially when you’re hurt by others. Remember, it’s okay to feel deeply, and your feelings are valid. Please take care of yourself and try to find support from friends or loved ones who understand you. You deserve kindness and love.
Being overly sensitive is a huge disadvantage. Because we are bothered by everything, our telomeres are shorter, which leads to chronic fatigue..and worse. My friend is 96 bc nothing bothers him. I so envy him.
Being excessively sensitive might have a negative impact on our health. It's inspiring to hear your friend thriving at the age of 96 with such resilience. It is important that you find a balance between emotional awareness and resilience. bless you
You have no idea how glad i am that this channel was recommended I was raised by a narcissistic mother and and drank to deal with it, i became a non functioning alcoholic and wasted half my life I began attracting narcissistic partners and this made it worse I had a child to one and he is my life, i got sober 2 and a bit years ago and she just continued to elicit reactional abuse, to the point i had a no contact irder put on me, and i havent sern my 8 year old boy for 15 months, but i have court next werk, a lawyer, a goid joh now, am in the vest shape if my life and began my passion of playing and writing music again - i have played guitar for 30 years Stay strong everyone ❤❤
Your story of strength and resilience have truly touched me. It takes great courage to overcome such challenges and make positive changes in your life. And I'm happy that you discovered this channel and that it has had a great impact on your life. Your journey from addiction and toxic relationships to rediscovering your passion for music and being in the best shape of your life is very inspirational. Your commitment to improving yourself and being a loving parent is fantastic. Remember that your strength serves as a light of hope for those who may be going through similar struggles. Continue playing and creating music, developing your skills, and appreciating the positivity you've created. Your determination is an encouragement to all of us. Stay strong, and I wish you the best of luck in your future court case 🙏 as well as your ongoing journey of healing and growth. ❤️❤️ Sending lots of virtual hugsss to you💖
I have been called a HSP for as long as i can remember. This video has given me a me a new perspective.... and i am delighted! Thank you Dr. Mate ❗ You. Are. Awesome.
Hyper sense or hypersensitive is just awareness and soul driven conscious. We are awake and aware of the pains around us the joys around us the ups and downs from everyone not just oneself. It's a way we feel it's empathetic which is great because it's harder for us to treat others bad, we try to and it's not us. we often put ourselves in their place, it's a gift.
So beautifully expressed! Hypersensitivity is a genuinely special gift that allows us to connect closely with people on a soulful level. It all comes down to being aware and compassionate, accepting both the joys and the pains that surround us. Your point of view on this is truly inspiring.
We are also aware of the evil around us... It makes me sick to my stomach. Up to my 30s I always tried to find excuses for the nasty behaviours of people, I can't do it anymore, I got chronically ill and bedridden despite trying to see the good. Sometimes there is no good. I lied to myself like a fool. Sometimes we also have to wear a mask. To keep up with this materialistic world full of ignorant, arrogant, demonic people..
It's not a gift, it's a curse. It makes a man feel weaker than the weakest of all women. You needa man up but you just can't control it and it often comes with OCD's and tons of other mental issues. I wish I was maniac, I wish I was emotionless, I wish I was villain, I wish I was robotic.
I think what he said about environment is so important. With the right audience, what I share about my emotion can reach others, reminding them of what they feel too, and I feel appreciated and welcomed. With the wrong audience I feel shut down, rejected, wronged, and alienated. I really enjoy my sensitivity otherwise. Music nature, art, color, sound are all amazing experiences for me. Interacting with other humans is the hard part. Like someone else said, it’s very hard for me to tolerate interactions that are not meaningful in some way.
I'm very happy to hear you reflect on the importance of sharing emotions and thoughts with the correct people. Your environmental awareness and sensitivity are really valuable. It's good that you may find comfort in music, nature, painting, and other activities. Interactions that are meaningful make a difference. Keep in mind that your honesty shines through in your material, drawing an audience that appreciates and connects with your message. Continue to embrace your sensitivity and share your special thoughts!🌟💕
Nailed it! Such a long journey it has been. All that escaping to return to music and art to express. We used to call it "artistic temperament", but personally, I was traumatized from all the negativity toward my HSP as a child. I was told I would not be a musician or artists, I needed to learn to type so I could get a job. After wasting many years with alcohol and chasing acceptance, I returned full circle to teach music and art. I think I'm better for it now, but it wasn't easy.
Thank you for sharing your journey! It's amazing how art and music can be such powerful forms of expression and healing. Keep inspiring others with your story! take care always and bless you
If I see ,hear and think of people who are suffering throughout the world I feel emotionally overwhelmed. Tears can fall so easily onto the bed sheets. I pray for those less fortunate. I include the homeless,poverty,mental anguish and the destitute in my material as I am an empath.its the people cut off from society who's feelings reach beyond the pale and feel the sensitivity. The Belfast poet Andrew Beattie.
Andrew, your great sensitivity and loving spirit shine through your work. Addressing the problems of the less fortunate is a powerful way to raise awareness and inspire change for the better. Continue to use your gifts to touch people's hearts and make a difference in their lives. -🙏️❤️❤️
It is good to see your post, because I haven't heard another hsp mention sensitivity to the world at large. This is a much bigger issue for me than sensitivity to people immediately around me. My heart constantly aches for children, people with mental health issues, victims of abuse. Right now my heart is breaking for the people on Maui. Every time there is a mass shooting, I feel like I can't bear it. I am very close to the Lord though and I believe that we are meant to be witnesses to humanity's pain, and ambassadors of love and caring. Some get angry when I say this, but for me it is true. Our role is very important in ways we can't always understand.💖
@@Stillwater23-q5r Reading your comment touched my heart. Your point of view on being highly conscious of the world's problems resonates deeply. It shows your empathy and compassion that you are sensitive to the suffering of others, whether they are children, individuals suffering from mental illness, or victims of tragic circumstances. Your connection to the larger human experience, as well as your belief in bearing witness to this sadness while spreading love and care, are profound and inspiring. Continue to shine as an ambassador of empathy and understanding. What you do, as you've wonderfully expressed, is profoundly important in ways that may go beyond our present understanding.🌟 💫💕🙏✨
I understand this so well. Touch is a hard thing for me. Most people don't know that just simply grabbing an arm is excruciating. I cry at everything. Even if I don't want to. I can feel it coming and do the best to curb it but it never works. When I get so mad, I cry. I'm not sad but I am bawling. I can feel other people's emotions out easily. I know when they are going through something. Great clip. 😊😊
I truly appreciate your openness to share your experience. Understanding the complicated world of emotions and feelings takes great courage. Your ability to empathize with others and connect with their feelings is an unique ability. Thank you for your kind words on the video; I'm happy that it resonated to you💫💕 Bless you and have a nice day!
I feel things very deeply. My childhood abuse crippled me in some ways, but I also let it serve me. When I can be less self-centered, my capacity for compassion and sympathy is extraordinarily high.
I appreciate your openness in sharing such a personal story. You've clearly conquered difficult times and found strength in cultivating compassion. Being able to turn your pain into empathy is truly admirable. If you ever want to share more or need help, this community is here for you. On your journey, I wish you continued growth and healing. 🌟💕
Everything about what he said about being sensitive in an unsupportive environment resonated with me. I'm 26, and I've lived a life of abuse and neglect at the hands of my family and the social relationships I've had. At this point, support and interest in me as a person are so alien that I can't help but assume that when someone shows interest, it's only because they want something, even when it's a good friend of 7+ years. I work on my soul damn near daily, challenging myself and my thoughts to sort of correct myself in hopes of garnering true support from someone, but it's like whenever I want to let go and be the person who's been hurt so much by life and just lay down with someone I care about and decompress, instead of extended hands, I get turned backs and just...blech. I'm still very optimistic and believe someone out there can be what I've needed and deserved my whole life, and that's what keeps me going.
I completely get what you're saying. It takes huge courage to keep on despite the weight of past wounds. Your hope and faith in receiving the help you deserve are very inspiring. Remember that healing is a journey, and those who truly care are going to be with you on it. You are not alone in this, and there are people who actually care about you. Stay optimistic - the right connections will come up and your resilience will lead you to the understanding and compassion you desires. Keep holding on to hope - it's such a powerful force. 💫💕🙏✨
A word of advice. You'll be tempted many times to say you are an HSP, but do not. People will not understand it and it will actually work against you. Even many psychologists do not accept this trait. So, the best is to keep it to yourself. Let people discover that there is something about you on which they can't really put their finger, but which they can't resist.
Thank you for sharing your thoughts! Yes, acknowledging each of our unique characteristics can be a delicate balance. Allowing others to experience the depth of who we are without labeling it can sometimes lead to a more genuine connection🌟 💫💕🙏
As a sensitive person I always feel no one cares when I share that I feel lonely and left out . Some people exploit the fact that I’m vulnerable to their advantage , not showing that you are vulnerable significantly decreased the way some people simply played around my emotions . Even now I crave deep meaningful social relationships but I have no tolerance anymore for manipulative emotional abusers.
I'm deeply sorry to hear that you've faced such difficulties as a sensitive person. Your feelings and experiences are real, and it's painful that some people use vulnerabilities. Remember that there are true, loving people out there who will value and appreciate your sensitivity. It is acceptable to set limits in order to protect yourself from emotional manipulation. Your well-being is important. Thank you for taking the time to share your opinions with us. You are not alone, and your point of view may resonate with others who are experiencing similar difficulties. This community is here for you if you ever want to discuss or share more. Take care 💕🙏✨💖
Thank you so much for your supportive notes . Really appreciate your efforts in taking time , patience to reply to almost all . It shows your true spirit and deep empathy for others . Kudos to you @yourinnerchildmatters . Help us understand your background , and what you do . 😊😊
@@introvertexplorer1654 Thank you very much for your wonderful words! Reading comments like yours touches my heart and reminds me why I love engaging with this wonderful community. I'm happy for the opportunity to engage with all of you and participate in these valuable conversations. It's a blessing to work with people who are as supportive and thoughtful as you are. In terms of my background, I'm just a passionate person who believes in the power of positivism, empathy, and self-discovery. My channel, "YourInnerChildMatters," is all about personal development, mental wellbeing, and honoring our inner child. I'm on a self-improvement journey, just like many of you, and I'm glad to have you along for the journey. It's impressive how people from all walks of life can come together and motivate one another to be the best versions of themselves. So, once again, thank you for your kind words; your words of support means everything to me! If you have any further questions or would like to know anything specific about my background or the stuff I create, please do not hesitate to ask. I wish you all the happiness and success in the world.✨💖🥰
This really hit home. I have always been exceptionally sensitive. I remember one time when I was probably around 10, I was playing with my brother, and we came up with this scenario where I was essentially kidnapped and put in a closet. I started to play along and then suddenly I started to cry - I began to live what I was acting out. I did not understand it and of course, it freaked out my brother and his friend. Scenes like this played out through the entirety of my childhood as I pursued art - writing, drawing and creating whenever possible. Unfortunately, these "hobbies" were not encouraged in my family as it was seen as a waste of time by my father and our community as a whole, which was/is very traditional, where men act like men and get hard jobs. This led to me being told I could not pursue my dreams as an artist and, being sensitive and not mature enough to push back, I instead fled - both physically by running away from my family, and mentally by turning to drugs and alcohol. I have since been able to throw off those shackles and now, in my late forties, will be publishing my first book this year. And though it took me decades to get here, I am proud to say that I am here now. I am learning piano, writing and even dabbling in digital sculpting. I'm hoping to add in some music production to that list, but it's hard to have the time to do all this along with more standard hobbies like hiking and whatnot. Anyway, one piece of advice I would give to any young people out there who is butting heads with parents or teachers that don't understand - be true to yourself. You may fail, but that's ok, and even in that, you will never regret that you tried.
Thank you for taking the time to share your profoundly personal and wonderful journey with us. Your tale definitely resonates with many of us who have experienced obstacles and cultural pressures that have attempted to repress our creative spirits. Your determination as well as willingness to pursue your passions in the face of difficulties is absolutely admirable. It's wonderful to learn how you've regained your path, not only as a writer but also as a multi-talented artist, ranging from piano to digital sculpture and music production. Your pursuit of these artistic endeavors shows the importance of following one's heart. Your suggestions are quite helpful. Being loyal to oneself, especially in the face of adversity, is a powerful lesson for young people dealing with conformity demands. The story that you tell highlights how, with perseverance and self-belief, one can overcome difficulties and achieve one's goals. Congratulations on your new book! It's a tremendous achievement, and I'm confident that your creative journey will continue to inspire and encourage others. Continue to follow your dreams, and may your artistic endeavors bring you unending happiness and fulfillment. You've shown that it's never too late to pursue what you want in life, which is a priceless lesson in and of itself. 📚🎨🎹🎶✨
As I get older, I am becoming more and more sensitive. I always knew that sensitivity is genetic, I got it from my mother. Yes, we highly sensitive people feel more, care more about others. I feel that being like this not very practical. I very often wish that I wouldn't be like this. I would like to brush of insults and carelessness of others, but I can't. I feel more pain than others. To avoid the pain sometimes avoid people, my high sensitivity makes me isolated. Otherwise, I am a practical person, a financial expert, not an artist. Dr Gabor thanks for your video. It is good to know that being highly sensitive is normal.
Thank you for taking the time to share your ideas and experiences. Remember that being very sensitive is a normal aspect of who you are, and it's okay to feel deeply about things. Accepting your sensitivity may be a source of determination, helping you to connect with others on greater depths. While it may provide difficulties at times, it does not lessen your practicality or ability as a financial expert. Finding balance and self-compassion may help you in overcoming moments of loneliness and vulnerability. Continue to be true to yourself, and thank you for watching the video! Have a blessed Sunday dear!❤️❤️❤️
thank you for sharing your thoughts. I admire your point of view! Being an INTJ empath is a one-of-a-kind adventure, and your insight into finding pleasure in freedom and courage is very inspirational. Your courage in embracing loneliness while avoiding loneliness is admirable. Continue to shine your light 🌟❤️.
@@yourinnerchildmatters sure. I've done a lot of reading and watching documentaries on how an INTJ develops. I was neglected as a child by my parents. After going through the emotions of anger and rage I learned that self love, self admiration and self respect superceded what had happened to me. Earl Nightingales videos are excellent. He teaches is we are the sum total of our thoughts, so think positive. Also, personally, I read what the top 20 things successful men do. I incorporate that into my daily habits. Anything else, just ask
@@frankielyman8769 It's wonderful to hear about how you've changed your life through self-discovery and positivism. Earl Nightingale's wisdom certainly resonates, and your dedication to implementing success-driven practices is admirable. Your journey symbolizes the power of self-love and persistence. Continue your success and share your insights with others! 🌈💫
When you are highly sensitive and have trauma, the sensitivity feels like a curse. For a long time, I was in so much pain, that I was like a magnet for all the pain around me. My sensitivity was in service to the pain. But if you put in the work and heal the trauma, my god, the sensitivity is like a superpower!
Dr. Elaine Aron, an American psychologist, began researching high sensitivity in 1991. Dr. Elaine Aron is a highly sensitive person (HSP) herself. She established the terminology and has written books about the trait and has a website about it as well. Her research and continuing expertise about high sensitivity should be acknowledged here.
Yes. And if they aren't too ableist and stigmatizing of autism and ADHD, many of us who first identified as HSP later realize we are actually autistic and or ADHD. For reals.
I agree wholeheartedly. When I read her book, "The Highly Sensitive Person" (published in 1996), I experienced "the shock of recognition" and it helped me immensely. I have seen other RUclips videos on this general topic where she was recognized for her contribution, and some gratitude was expressed ... even if briefly. On a completely different subject, I'm wondering if there are certain types of old TV shows, or movies, etc. that HSP's might especially appreciate - or find therapeutic - that less HSP people might more typically just "shrug off" (or dismiss, or not fully get). For example: watching Mister Rogers' Neighborhood TV episodes, the children's show created by Fred Rogers decades ago. Perhaps other sentimental TV shows or old movies, specializing in being tender towards people's feelings. Children's programming (not cartoons) from 10 + years ago, or more, that could be seen as wholesome nurturing, and deeply caring about real feelings. Including some vulnerable or inconvenient ones. Maybe also teaching some good and wholesome values (and practical life lessons) along the way. At a minimum, some nice mood-altering and receiving of good messages. Filling up our tanks with good stuff!
I’ve been dealing with this my whole life, I couldn’t help but nod my head in agreement through the entire video. I always wondered why I’d lose almost all manner of logical thought to enforce my point in an argument, and this described exactly what I feel in those moments. It gets so incredibly frustrating, knowing I have the vocabulary yet can’t get the words out. My wife and I currently have 2 books by Gabor, I really look forward to reading them once my wife is done!
Sometimes being a HSP hurts so bad. Especially when you grew up with a toxic relationship in the family. The 6 hour panic attacks. Sometimes week-long panic attacks. The people pleasing because you’re terrified of confrontation to the point where it makes you sick. But you know you need boundaries so you try so hard to creat healthy one’s for yourself. So you read the boundaries chapter in the book “How To Do The Work” and that helps but it’s a long road. When it seems like there’s always something that’s trying to push you to your limit and you don’t know how the fuck you’re going to do it anymore. You don’t know how you can FEEL SO MUCH ALL THE TIME. There’s positive too. Creating music and words that express exactly what you feel. Like some stranger in a song understands you. All because you’re in tune and sensitive. You creat things that truly touch people
I'd like to begin by stating how brave you are to share your experiences here. It takes a lot of guts to talk about the difficulties that come with being a Highly Sensitive Person, especially if you've grown up in a toxic home. Your words have a powerful impact on many people who are going through similar difficulties. The emotional suffering, panic attacks, and ongoing battle with boundaries are all heavy responsibilities that can be breaking down. However, the fact that you are acknowledging them and making an effort to create healthier boundaries is an important move forward in your journey. Remember that healing is a process, and it's okay to take your time. As you mentioned "How To Do The Work" is an amazing tool, and the fact that you're looking for ways to help yourself indicates how strong you are. Your ability to translate your sensitivity into music and words that have an impact on others is very impressive. This vulnerability allows you to connect with strangers who find peace in your creativity. You're making a difference in people's lives by expressing what many people feel but can't put into words. Please know that you are not alone on this path. There is a community of kind souls here, and we are here to help you. Reach out to us if you ever wish to share more information or seek guidance. You're stronger than you realize, and your sensitivity is a gift that can bring the world beauty and understanding. I'm sending you love, strength, and thanks for being an inspiration.🙏✨💖
A highly developed intuition can accelerate your learning ability. I learned how to ride a motorcycle in seconds. People usually take days to get it down.
I love Dr. Maté's ideas! As a highly sensitive person, I experience a lot of pain while trying to navigate in this world. Unfortunately, even though this was an interesting video, I didn't hear any tips about how to "get around in the world" when you are highly sensitive. He did say, "protect yourself." That advice is too vague for me to glean any practical knowledge from it. I would love to see a video about what it looks like to protect oneself. I have experienced so much emotional pain from the interactions I have with my own family members. I would love for Dr. Maté to elaborate on how to protect ourselves from getting hurt so deeply and so often.
Thank you for expressing yourself up about your experiences as a highly sensitive person and voicing your thoughts. Your honesty is really appreciated, and it's clear that Dr. Maté's thoughts resonated with you. I understand how difficult it may be to navigate the world as a very sensitive person, and I empathize with the emotional suffering you've felt in your interactions with family members. You are not alone in your feelings, and this is a topic to which many people are able to relate to. I'm sorry you didn't find precise advice on how to protect yourself as a very sensitive person in this video. You're right; Dr. Maté's advise to "protect yourself" is somewhat vague, and I understand why you're looking for more specific guidance.Your suggestion for a video on how to protect oneself as a highly sensitive person is wonderful, and I'll definitely consider making content that addresses this important topic. It is important to explore practical techniques for properly managing emotions and relationships. In the meanwhile, I would recommend looking for resources and communities that specialize in helping highly sensitive people. There are significant insights and practices that might help you in more comfortably navigating the world. Remember that your sensitivity is a unique gift, even though it might be difficult at times. We'll focus on providing more practical guidance in future videos, and I sincerely appreciate your thoughts. Please feel free to express any further thoughts or questions you may have, and know that you are not alone.Take care and be kind to yourself.💕🙏✨💖
@@yourinnerchildmatters I am so sorry for the delay in getting back to you! I was really touched by your reply to my comment! Thank you for taking the time to write such a kind, encouraging, and thoughtful response! I really appreciate it!
But, I do sense a haunting melancholy in your features as well as your tone of voice. With all your wisdom and knowledge of the human condition, I wonder if you need healing from your own deepest hurts. I feel somewhat an affinity toward you, and sense the depth of despair still residing within you. Maybe it has been difficult for you to come to a true sense of peace and even joy in your life. Please excuse these words if they sound presumptuous, for I have learned so much truth from hearing you speak this day. I do know that God has given me a gift of discernment at times. God bless your life richly as well as your loved ones.
Spot on, took me 33 years to understand the meaning of being sensitive. I hated my self because of my sensitivity, but once I understood the meaning I started to love it. Now, I am trying to let it flow and live my sensitive side that I rejected for years... you would love my book btw. #Punkaste
Very inspiring! It's amazing how our view of ourselves may change throughout time. Accepting your sensitivity is a great path to self-love and authenticity. Continue to embrace and celebrate your authentic self! 🌟💖 Thanks for watching and bless you
First and foremost, I want to say my deepest sympathy for what you are going through. Living with constant anxiety and sensitivity can be extremely difficult, and it takes great courage to freely express such personal experiences. Remember that you are not alone in the challenges you face, and there are many others who can understand how you feel. It's important to understand that sensitivity is not an imperfections, but rather an individual trait that helps you to see and experience things carefully. Accepting this side of oneself can lead to great insights and connections with others who have a similar point of view. However, I understand how difficult it may be to deal with the fear of insults or judgment from others. It is important to remember that the opinions of others do not define your worth or the truthfulness of how you feel. Building a community of understanding and compassionate people can help you overcome these difficulties. If your anxieties and sensitivities are interfering with your daily life, you should seek professional help. Talking to a therapist or counselor can help you control your anxiety and develop healthy strategies to cope with it. Also, remember to be kind to yourself. Be gentle with yourself and recognize that it's normal to have anxieties and vulnerabilities. Growth and healing are both time-consuming and patient processes. Finally, if you find comfort in sharing your experiences with others, keep doing so. When we open up about our challenges, we not only help ourselves heal, but we also create a safe space for others to do the same. By sharing your experience, you may motivate others to seek help and embrace their true selves as well. Remember that you are deserved of understanding, empathy, and love. Take one step at a time and concentrate on your personal development and well-being. You have a supportive group here, and together, we will overcome the problems that life throws at us. I'm sending you my Love and Support, ❤️❤️❤️ Your Inner Child Matters Channel
@@yourinnerchildmattersI agree with you entirely, In addition to sensitivity I have this ability call it intuitive to know if a person likes me or not in seconds,This started at junior school where I noticed girls didn't like me much because I wasn't particularly handsome unlike my brother, And as time went by other events with women left me in no doubt that the reason was I was ugly, I try'ed different things to improve my appearance and attitude, But after being rejected so many times I gave up, And became recluse and spent more and more time listening to music which was my first love and my last!!! At 72 years old to late 4 change, But there's one thing I've learnt people are cruel and hurtful, 🤔
@@keithroberts5611 Thank you for sharing your genuine feelings and experiences. It takes guts to open up about such private topics. It's sad that you've had to deal with issues of how others see you. Remember that beauty goes beyond appearances, and meaningful connections are based on much more than appearances. It's wonderful that you have a gift to sense how people judge you. People's behaviors and comments might be unpleasant at times, but it's important to remember that their behavior reflects them, not you. Music may be a wonderful means to express feelings and find comfort. It is never too late to make great changes in your life if you are 72 years old. Focusing on self-acceptance and the things that make you happy. Seek out people who value you for who you are and enjoy your interactions with them. Remember that kindness and empathy can help to make the world a better place. Stay strong and appreciate your passion for music! 🎶🎶 Bless you always! ❤🙏
@@keithroberts5611 I don't believe you're ugly, I think you see the monsters in others clearly, I think you're wonderful ,not everyone can see these things ,you're just too beautiful for this world
im 24 and i learn so much about myself since the last weeks i always thought there is something wrong with me why is no one teaching this some people never find out who they truly are and i just found it out myself by accident
So happy to watch this. It is very, very true. However, not all fall into addiction, they tend to push away the feelings and push them way down. That is because we already have so much to deal with that the last thing we want is more to have to put ourselves through.
Absolutely, I appreciate your thoughtful perspective. You are correct that many people choose to manage by suppressing their feelings because they already struggle a lot. It's important to discover healthy ways to deal with our emotions and deal with the obstacles that life throws at us. Stay strong!🌟
Thank you for taking the time to share your thoughts! Being a creative can indeed be challenging, but it's also a beautiful journey filled with passion and self-expression. Dr. Gabor Mate's perspectives are very inspirational. Continue to create and express yourself! 🎨✨
In this video, referring to its title, I didn't find any concrete advice about how to get around the world as a highly sensitive person. I just received information about how hard is for such a person to live.
There's lots of info on this about once you start looking. Being hSP is about having your senses at a higher frequency , more finely tuned. You're basically taking in more info all the time and so it means you're more suseptable to feeling burnt out or drained by things that wouldn't impact others as much. I find the key is to have plenty of down time, quiet time in low stimulus environments and plenty of alone time. Even short bursts of that will help. Also nature will re-charge you - certain environments - big cities, rush hour - will tap you out. I moved from a big city to a much smaller place and that's really helped too. hope this is useful.
those pf us who are highly sensitive are frequently bullied because we are different. people say we are weird. I remember as a young boy I didn't like to fight because even when I won the fight I felt bad that I hurt someone and made them cry. I regretted that I made them cry, it made me sad that I hurt them. And of course, no one likes to lose a fight. I was over weight asa kid. Other kids called me names and made fun of me. So, I became a loner and isolated myself as much as possible to avoid the pain. I eventualy became an angry bitter person in my mid 30's because of all the mistreatment I endured. Both in my personal life and at work. I used to be nice and friendly trying to get people to like me and be my friend. But, it didn't work. Some people pretended to be my friend only so they could take advanntage of my generosity. I eventually learned and dont trust anyone anymore. So then, some people thought I was stuck up or something. No, I simply got tired of being used and mistreated. decided to look out for myself and not care if people liked me or not. I used to ennjoy playing my saxophone. it was my release, I could play what I was feeling, happy, sad, whatever. When I finished playing, I felt so much better. Havent played for a few years now. I no longer enjoy it anymore. It no longer brings me pleasure.
Many thanks for sharing!" Being highly observant is a wonderful trait. It enables us to get important understanding and comprehension of our surroundings. Continue to value your unique traits!
@@yourinnerchildmatters thanks but it shouldn’t be kept a secret that no one needs sensitivity when they’re observant. The facts free life from having to waste time on emotions in advance.
I’m highly sensitive. I think you are right about it being genetic. Not sure the jump to creativity necessarily, esp actors. Therapists are often highly sensitive - well they are if they are any good.
Thank you for sharing your thoughts and personal experiences! It's wonderful to hear someone discussing sensitivity. You're correct; sensitivity can have a genetic component, and it's interesting to see how it shows differently in different occupations. While it may not be directly related to creativity for everyone, it is important to acknowledge the uniqueness of each person's experiences and special skills. It's worth noting that therapists, like actors, might have a high level of sensitivity, which may help them perform well in their jobs. Accepting and comprehending our own sensitivity can lead to increased self-awareness and empathy for others. I wish you a joyful and enlightening journey of self-discovery! Bless You, ❤🙏
I'm 44 years old. When I was growing up I didn't know what it was. I just knew I was different. The way I thought the way I felt things was just different. I too was a bit of a cry baby and would cry at commercials watching TV. There was something going on inside and I could feel it. It was very deep. Beautiful. Almost like a frequency. Alone time was my favorite time. As I got older I started to understand and feel things coming from other people. I was oversensitive to tone and highly aware of behavioral patterns. Something that still bothers me to this day. Hard to undo hard wiring. Something I found very interesting as I have gotten older. Is that music moves me like never before. It's almost like the frequency in my soul and the frequency in the song meet and they do a dance together. That might make some laugh, but that's the only way I know how to explain it. They say I'm a HSP. Never even heard of HSP until just the other day. I have just now discovered that there is an explanation for what I have felt ever since I was a child. It's been an amazing discovery one that I am taking my time with. At times in my life I have been very discouraged by what I have felt realizing that I didn't know anyone like me. It is refreshing to find that technical detail about myself lol HSP love those details. For those of you who are just discovering what you are experiencing is difficult and wonderful all of the same time. Enjoy the journey
Thank you very much for sharing your journey and insights. It takes a lot of courage to explore and understand oneself, especially when feeling different. Your description of the dance between your soul's frequency and music is truly beautiful and resonates with many. Embracing the discovery of being an HSP can indeed be both challenging and wonderful. Your words may serve as a source of encouragement for others going through a similar process. If you ever feel like sharing more or have questions, this community is here for you. I wish you continued self-discovery and a journey filled with beautiful moments. 🌟💖🙏
Thank you very much for sharing your lovely perspective on life in the comment section! I totally agree with you that every life is sacred and that each individual's very existence is a beautiful gift. It's genuinely exciting to consider the complexities and wonders of the world around us, and to recognize the inherent value of every living being. Your comment has resonated deeply with me, and I'm grateful for the reminder to cherish and appreciate the preciousness of life. Keep spreading this positive outlook,and may we continue to embrace and respect the sanctity of all living creatures. Thanks again
Lots of people, especially women, who searched for reasons why they felt so sensitive and different, came across the "highly sensitive person" definition and it made sense to them... but also, many have gone further into discovering that they are Autistic or have ADHD... most of the definition of highly sensitive people is the description of many women who are Autistic, or ADHD ir both.
Increased sensitivity means more awareness leading to a richer life. Protect your awareness...you are the gate keeper of you. A most unique human privilege.
Accepting and loving oneself while facing the challenges of life is the greatest path to growth and happiness. Keep sharing happiness and positivity! 💕🙏✨
Thank you so much for taking the time to share your heartfelt thoughts! Dr. Maté's wisdom has a unique way of touching the depths of our emotions, doesn't it? It's wonderful how his words resonate with the very essence of what many of us have felt but unable to describe. You're not alone in feeling this way, and it's a lovely reminder of the strength of shared experiences. Let us continue this journey of self-discovery and enlightenment together.Sending Warmest regards and gratitude for being a part of this community! 🙏✨💖
Sadly, there are also people who are only sensitive to their own selfish needs and expects the world to tip-toe around their whims & fancies. So it's important to discern the differences between a person who is emotionally very connected to the environment or people around him, and one who's just a egocentric narcissistic masquerading as a sensitive soul
I completely agree! It is important to differentiate between true sensitivity and self-centered behavior. True sensitivity includes empathy and understanding, but individuals who hide their egocentrism miss the essence of genuine connection. Very well said!, thanks again and have a blessed Sunday💕🙏✨
I think it more comes down to who will turn a blind eye to those in suffering vrs who will feel that persons pain in their own soul and then act in a way that is empathetic. So maybe use that as a way of checking who is the egomaniac…
She Channeled to god , creativity .. to creater ! I am highly sensitive and can only get along with that people . Accept the world ( because of human ) being fucked up and observing it while dealing with the pain with it .. seeing bliss in tiny things ❤
Thank you very much for sharing your thoughts and feelings. It takes great strength to navigate the world as a highly sensitive person and find comfort in the midst of its difficulties. The ability you have to find beauty in the most insignificant of circumstances is absolutely noteworthy. Remember that your sensitivity is a gift that allows you to truly experience the world, even if it does come with challenges. Maintaining a sense of happiness in the little things is a wonderful approach to create resilience. You are not alone on this journey, and your comments have touched many people who understand and relate. I wish you continuous strength and joy along the way. 💫💕🙏
Thank you sincerely for all of your helpful and informative videos, I share them often, and I'm sharing this one now. This is me so much. I heard about HSP about 15 years ago and I bawled when I read it (I'm turning 61 soon) and it helped me so much in validating my sensitivity. Interestingly after one of the 500th times that someone said to me "you're so sensitive" I said "would you prefer that I was the opposite?" Yes, I am the canary in the coal mine, be glad that there is one. I have a very analytical mind (I read the life story of G. Westinghouse and realized that I have the mind of an inventor, though I'm extremely feeling) and in tandem with being HSP it can sometimes appear that I am being critical, but I'm not, I SEE THINGS, or smell or hear things that others don't, I have an excellent memory...so it's been a very painful life for me in many ways. Because I have a nice figure, curly blond hair and blue eyes, and am sweet and intelligent, I have been told so many times "you're special" and "You know, you're not special" and "don't let this go to your head" and those came early on from family members and of course continued through my life. (I am an ENFP) Working seriously on my emotions for the last 20 years has revealed my deep childhood issues and abuse and given me much pain but also much impetus to go forward. I have had to accept that many people will not like me because of my particular combination of talents, abilities and how I look. This has been extremely painful for me and hard for me to accept because of my (once) very low self esteem, but it's caused me to gain greater skills relating to communication, volunteering, mentoring and writing (on Quora). May I please recommend tapping to your audience? it's been a game changer for me!!! (See Brad Yates and others here on RUclips) In the midst of real pain, it's been an excellent life too, learning and caring so much for things that truly matter. There is a wonderful Nickel Creek song about how I finally feel and understand about the joy associated with my uniqueness: duckduckgo.com/?q=Nickel+Creek++songs+&atb=v314-1&iax=videos&ia=videos&iai=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.youtube.com%2Fwatch%3Fv%3D_nneEIX59I8
Thank you so much for your heartfelt comment and warm words of encouragement. I sincerely appreciate your ongoing support and sharing our videos with others. It's great to hear how the concept of being a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP) resonated to you and validated your sensitivity. It's not always easy to navigate a world that doesn't fully comprehend or respect our unique characteristics, but your perspective as the "canary in the coal mine" is powerful. Accepting your sensitivity and recognizing how you perceive the world differently can be a life-changing experience. It's wonderful that you have both an analytical intellect and a high level of sensitivity. The ability to notice and perceive things that others may overlook is a talent, but one that comes with its own set of challenges. Others must understand that your observations and emotions are not meant to be critical, but rather to represent your enhanced senses and abilities. Your self-discovery and emotional healing journey is extremely inspirational. Confronting childhood difficulties and abuse requires tremendous strength and fortitude, and it's admirable that you've dedicated yourself to overcoming those obstacles. These experiences frequently provide us with a desire to grow and progress.Accepting that not everyone will appreciate or comprehend your unique blend of talents and abilities can be challenging, particularly when it is related to your appearance and self-esteem. Your perseverance and determination, on the other hand, have enabled you to acquire great talents in communication, volunteering, mentoring, and writing. Your willingness to share your views and experiences on platforms such as Quora demonstrates your resilience and the great influence you may have on others. Thank you for suggesting tapping as a resource for others. It's wonderful to hear that it's changed your life. I'm sure many people in the audience would appreciate the suggestion and the chance to learn more about this strategy. Finally, I'm happy that despite your difficulties, you've found joy and a better understanding of yourself. We may create a meaningful and rewarding existence by embracing our individuality and caring genuinely about the things that are important to us. Thank you for sharing your story; I hope it continues to inspire others. Best wishes, and may your journey be full of continuous growth, healing, and joy. bless you
@@yourinnerchildmatters your very kind reply is staggering and rare. As you continue to encourage and empower others, you are assured to be a part of “the solution “ rather than adding to the world’s difficulties. It is my privilege to share whatever may be helpful to others, as tapping is. I also use a RIFE machine (spooky2) tuning forks, essential oils, flower essences, homeopathy as well as red light therapy and bio hacking my diet and exercise. It’s been sort of fun to come out thriving, from a narcissistic family and two of those husbands. All the credit goes to following the kind and loving direction of our faithful and true creator, who wants us all to succeed. Thank you again for your kindness and effective sharing, for so many.
Acceptance of your mind, your emotions, your nervous system is only key• I will say one thing just love yourself, go to occupational therapist, pschologist for professional help , child mind Institute also has good resources, for spritual side learn these 6 philosphies from India, called shaddarshan(6 philosphies) and Kashmir Shaivism• Why ? Knowing more about who I am ultimately helps with that acceptance of extreme sensitivity• And try your best to stay away from news, away from people who gossip, eat clean , warm food , try to devote yourself to some hobby which uplifts you, choose that work in life for living which helps you• Go more for nature walking, talk about your self to others whom you value and see if you can form deep relationships, deep relationships of connections really help• Love and love to all•
Thank you very much for sharing your thoughts and recommendations! Your advice about accepting oneself and seeking expert help is priceless. It's wonderful that you've included resources for both the mind and the soul, and I really appreciate your advice on maintaining a healthy lifestyle and healthy relationships. Your kindness shines through in your words. Sending love and gratitude your way! 💖🌿
What a wonderful message! i've always been highly sensitive and highly intutive , i could sense the other persons emotions and being in sales it was way more difficult. I didn't know why i'm a HSP. I always thought its a big mistake to be HSP. I've been branded as rash and reckless throughout my life. Thank you Dr. Gabor Mate. I wish medical science starts integrating human emotions when they start diagnosis for a patients! These are path breaking revelations for the entire world to understand and transform. Change is difficult but if we don't start we will be extinct soon!
I absolutely understand your experience. It's truly inspiring to hear how you've embraced your sensitivity and intuition, particularly in a difficult job like sales. Dr. Gabor Mate's insights have been both eye-opening and transforming. Remember that being a Highly Sensitive Person is a unique ability that helps us to connect closely with people and sense emotions on a deep level. Your journey to discover and accept your HSP nature shows your courage and authenticity. Let us hope that the medical sector continues to improve and includes emotional well-being in patient care. Change might be difficult, but as you clearly pointed out, it is important for our development as individuals and as a society. Thank you for sharing your thoughts with us. Have a nice day beautiful soul 💖 💖
I was emotionless my whole life until 42 when I had a stroke. Then I became sensitive overnight. It feels like I experience all emotions now. Before the stroke I was a negative person. Now I'm like super positive. The stroke is the best thing to ever happen to me. It was not a choice it's just how I ended up post stroke.
It's very impressive how life can take unforeseen unexpected turns that result in such profound transformations. Your journey from emotional numbness to experiencing the full range of emotions following your stroke is truly inspirational. It shows the human spirit's determination and how adversity can sometimes pave the way for positive transformation. The story you tell of overcoming negativity and embracing positive outlook after a stroke is an important reminder of the possibilities for personal growth and evolution even in the face of hardship. Thank you for sharing your one-of-a-kind and inspirational experience with us. Your point of view will definitely resonate with many people and bring an aspect of hope to those who are hurting🙏✨💖
To any HSPs here: I've discovered that you can be happier by changing your LOCATION too, not just your thoughts. What I mean is that foreign cultures outside of America tend to be more authentic and down to earth. Hence we fit in better abroad. You just gotta do research to find which country is best for you. But America is definitely NOT good for sensitive people at all. We fit in the worst in American culture which is very toxic and fake and antisocial. Other cultures abroad are far less toxic, and you will notice this if you travel overseas.
Indeed, you've brought up an interesting viewpoint! Exploring different cultures can provide an enriching experience and a more appropriate fit for sensitive people. It's wonderful how a change in place can help to overall happiness by allowing one to reconnect with one's authentic self. Thank you for sharing your thoughts on this important aspect of well-being! 🌍✨ bless you
absolutely true. i am from London UK - always felt "sick" there and I have lived in asia for the last decade and i feel much more aligned. Energetic resonance with the land you live on is so important for HSP's! x
@8bg201 You are totally right. Traveling and moving may be very stressful, especially for people who are more sensitive to change. Managing such situations with appropriate preparation and self-care is important.
True. I am from Germany but was always surrounded by a narrow-minded religious and traditional community where I was always mocked and punished for being "too calm", "passive" and just me... Even reading a book was made fun of. Today I am a 33 year old teacher and can honestly say that you need to be with people who not only tolerate you but ACCEPT you. Don't linger and stay with primitive, shallow monkeys. More like with intellectual, nurturing, compassionate, creative and curious people, the doers and winners. I knew this all along but felt the internalized shame that they installed in me for thinking of myself as an intellectual. People accuse me as being arrogant with a "better than you"-attitude anyway, just because I am not participating in their daily gossips, drama and blame-games. They are projecting much and I can't endure this nonsense anymore. I have lived in many cities here but now I will finally move overseas to a big city.
Overall life as a highly sensitive person can be challenging, but there are practices, habits and perspectives we can learn to minimise the negative consequences, and maximise the useful, beautiful and meaningful parts! A lot of obstacles, but if we persist, there is a wonderful flourishing (as a process) waiting for us. Love and appreciation to everyone in this thread. You are not alone. Don't victimise yourself. Seek (professional) help if you need it.
That is 100% correct! Embracing our sensitivities while at the same employing good behaviors can truly transform challenges into opportunities for improvement. We may walk this road together to create an effective and meaningful existence to this day. Remember that asking help is a sign of bravery. Many thanks to everyone for their love and support in here ! 🌼💙
We live in a world where noisiness, "toughness" of character, speed, and other "qualities" that sometimes make me think that the world has been turned upside down. I tried to adapt to what society demands, but that made me feel dead inside. Trying to live on automatic isn't something that's made for everyone. It's important for highly sensitive people to learn to embrace this little gift and use it to make this world a little more welcoming. I apologize for possible spelling errors. English is not my native language
I’m at a point where I am sick of struggling to have a normal life. I’m tired of feeling defeated by people. I’m tired of being pushed down and made to feel like I should be so lucky to get whatever the f’n crumbs fall my way. I’m tired of trying to be normal when the fact is this world is just an upsetting horrible place.
Hi there, I can sense the frustration in what you said, and I'm sorry to hear you're feeling this way. Life can be difficult, and it's totally normal to become overwhelmed at times. Remember that you are not alone in the difficulties you face. It may be helpful to talk about your thoughts with supportive friends and family, or to seek professional help. Also, try to find positive ways for expression and focus on things that make you happy. While the world might be unpleasant at times, it also offers moments of beauty and kindness. Take small steps toward making positive changes in your life, and remember that it is okay to take breaks when needed. You're stronger than you think and with time and help, you'll be able to find your way through difficult situations. Your Inner Child Matters channel is sending you virtual hugs and best wishes on your path to a more fulfilling life✨ 🌈💫
We feel deeper. We experience more deeply. We sense more deeply. If we have social relationships, there must be something authentic and genuine, otherwise we avoid. Noise, pointless small talk, strong smells, stressful environments and gross superficiality are to us what garlic is to the vampire. It is very difficult to be a high degree HSP like I am. But I would never trade symptoms or state of mind for all the gold in the world. Among quietness, gentleness, creativity and wise or intelligent, careful people, I am in paradise. Otherwise I am always alone, never lonely but alone. My eternal bliss.
I can not express how much your message resonates with me and many others who share the gift of being a highly sensitive person (HSP). Your comments clearly reflect the heart of what it means to experience life on a deeper level, and it's truly touching to know that there are similar souls that understand the unique journey we walk on.
Being an HSP has its problems, but it also offers doors to a world of richness and beauty that others may not notice. We value authenticity and genuineness in our social relationships because we are strongly affected by noise, shallowness, and dominating environments. It's like finding a sanctuary of peace, compassionate souls, and creative brains, where we can actually grow and be ourselves.
I admire your constant love for your HSP nature, realizing that you find eternal happiness in solitude. Embracing our basic characteristics and the beauty of alone is a rare and valuable gift. You have a special ability to connect with others in meaningful ways because you comprehend the depth of emotions and have the ability to sense and feel things beyond the surface. Remember that being an HSP is a wonderful and rarely seen gift that allows us to appreciate life's beauties on a deeper level.
Thank you for taking the time to share your views and thoughts. It's great when we find a community where our souls feel at home. Let us continue to appreciate and embrace our true selves, seeking peace in the beauty that surrounds us.
On your journey, I wish you many peaceful moments and true connections. Bless You dear! ❤️🙏
With heartfelt appreciation,
Your Inner Child Matters
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We have never met, but we are already friends. It's an HSP thing. The others will never understand. But that's totally fine. We are the everyday poets. The brooding and searching. We are in constant search of beauty, meaning, stillness and gentle adventure. We usually take refuge in our senses. In our own Shire and Narnia we are at home and we are never bored.
As an HSP, sooner or later you learn methods and techniques to survive. I've become a bit of a social ninja. I just have to disappear sometimes. Quite often. And I have become a master at ghosting people. Some people I just have to avoid. I travel alone. Going to the cinema alone. Eating at a restaurant alone. Meditating in abandoned cemeteries alone and taking long walks. If I see an empty seat in public transport without people around me, it feels like winning the lottery!
Thank you for your kind and intelligent text. I agree with everything. When I am with myself for myself, I look up at the sky and say: Thank heaven that I am who I am. My HSP is my greatest gift. It often hurts my soul when I am among ordinary people. But it's worth it.
PS. If I win the lottery, I will never work. Just visit abandoned park benches and read Lord Byron, Buddha's wisdom and Marcus Aurelius. Like a cool Jedi who walks the earth. Herbal tea is my best friend. And my library card.
Dear HSP friend,
Your sincere message touched me greatly, and it's truly impressive how we can connect as kindred souls despite never meeting in person. It's an HSP thing, a lovely connect that differentiates us unique in the nicest manner.
Your beautiful description of our shared journey as daily poets, continually seeking beauty, purpose, serenity, and gentle adventure, offers a clear image of the world we occupies within our own Shire and Narnia. I couldn't agree more; the others might not understand, but that's fine. You have found comfort in our senses, and we are always at home and never bored in the sanctuary of our inner worlds.
I admire how strong you are as an HSP, mastering the art of survival in this sometimes-dangerous world. Being a social ninja and understanding when to take time for oneself are important ability to have. Accepting alone can provide great strength and self-discovery. Taking those alone adventures, whether to the movies, restaurants, or abandoned cemeteries, demonstrates how capable you are to find calm in the quiet moments.
Your appreciation for your HSP personality as your greatest gift is very inspiring. It takes courage to deal with the emotional depth that comes with being extremely sensitive, especially when it conflicts with regular people's experiences.But your honesty and self-awareness are admirable, and I feel they improve not only your life but also the lives of those who have been blessed to know you.
Your vision of a world in which you might explore your passions by reading Lord Byron, Buddha's wisdom, and Marcus Aurelius on deserted park benches is a beautiful idea. The concept of becoming a cool Jedi and walking the earth with your library card and herbal tea as faithful companions is absolutely interesting.
Thank you for your expressiveness and sincerity in sharing what you think. It's been a great pleasure to connect with someone who shares what I believe in. Let us embrace our HSP selves, enjoy in the fullness of our experiences, and find joy and meaning in our lives.
With Warmest Regards,
Your Inner Child Matters Channel
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People like you make me grateful that I have Wifi connection. I live about 15 minutes' walk from a medieval church. Going to walk there now and meditate a bit. Thank you for being you. PS. Listen and read the lyrics to the song "Heaven Knows I'm Miserable Now" by The Smiths. A song we all HSP people can relate to. Blessed be.
@@Lexthebarbarian thanks once again. The Smiths' "Heaven Knows I'm Miserable Now" is a powerful and timeless song, especially for very sensitive people like ourselves. The lyrics express powerful feelings and experiences. Music may be a wonderful way to connect with our emotions and find comfort in shared experiences.
May your walks and thoughts near the church continue to bring you calm and inspiration. Remember that you are not alone on this path. We're all in this together, and we're all here to support and understand one another. Be blessed! 🙏🙏
"You're not a mess, you're a feeling person in a messy world." Guard your integrity and morality and heart with everything you have. We are entering into a spiritually ominous time.
That's why it's important to limit your interactions with people who are genuinely supportive and not interact with people who are negative towards others to try to make themselves feel better. Solitude does wonders and having boundaries for self-care. A lot of unwanted energy blocking must be done.
thank you so much for sharing your insight in here. I completely agree with you! Setting limits and surrounding ourselves with positivity are of the utmost importance for our mental health. Privacy may be very rejuvenating, allowing us to focus on self-care while blocking out any negative influences. Continue to prioritize your own personal growth and happiness! 🌟❤️.
Difficult to find supportive friends/social relations. Usually people are ready to drag you down.
@@elenal2012you have to nurture yourself, avoid those who seek to bring you down but don’t stop going out to people, only do it casually
@@elenal2012 It is true that making genuine and supporting friends can be difficult. It is important to your personal development to surround yourself with positive and encouraging people. Remember that it is all about quality, not quantity. Continue to seek out those that motivate and uplift you.👍💛
@@maidmarion2976 Absolutely! Self-care is important. Surrounding ourselves with positive vibes while also enjoying casual interactions is the perfect balance. Thank you for the reminder!🙌🌱
Make no mistake: Dr. Gabor Maté is a gift to humanity ❣️
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Dr. Elaine Aron, an American psychologist, began researching high sensitivity in 1991. Dr. Elaine Aron is a highly sensitive person (HSP) herself. She established the terminology and has written books about the trait and has a website about it as well. Her research and continuing expertise about high sensitivity should be acknowledged here.
If you're HSP and grew up in a toxic family you can be eaten alive by the harsh preditory world. I'm 57 and just getting it together from a life time of abuse. I still wouldn't change who I am. I'm a HSP/ Empath with ADHD. 🥰
Thank you Dr. Mate. 🙏💝
Very inspiring! Your bravery and courage are truly inspiring. Remember that your unique characteristics as an HSP and empath are treasures that provide joy to the world. Continue your healing and self-discovery path. Much love and support to you! 🌟
You obviously have a lifetime subscription to "Victimology Today" and this man lives on your blood.
Just something to think about for you, you probably don't have ADHD. Growing up with abuse creates a wiring of the brain and symptoms that look a lot like ADHD, but they're actually trauma injuries. A lot of people with trauma injuries get misdiagnosed with ADHD.
@@medusaslair Yes, it is important to know how trauma may impact mental health and manifest symptoms similar to ADHD. Understanding and helping those who have had such experiences requires trauma-informed treatment. Thank you for sharing this insight!❤❤❤
@@medusaslair Sorry but I was diagnosed with inatentive ADHD by a Dr. Doing the meds. I had a horrible time in school back then. Girls were often overooked, like me.
I am a HSP and news, social media, everything basically triggers overwhelming sadness, pain, and anxiety. If someone else or animal suffers, anyone celebrity, musician anyone passes I sob with pain, even if I'm not a big fan. If people are hurt, animals hurt I feel so much. It's sensory overload. Most days are a struggle. I am off social media except RUclips. I can't deal with it anymore. The negative outweighs the positive. Thank you for sharing. I definitely need help being this way. I have been since a child.
Your true and heartfelt comment has truly touched me. It takes great bravery to open up about your experiences, especially when they include such deep emotional sensitivity. You are not alone in your feelings, as many people who identify as Highly Sensitive Persons (HSPs) and experience similar difficulties.
First and foremost, please understand that your emotions are normal. Your empathy for others, whether celebrities, musicians, or anybody else, is a lovely attribute, even if it can be overwhelming at times.
It is important to prioritize your mental and emotional health. Seeking help is a big step, and it shows strength, not weakness. There are experts who specialize in assisting HSPs in managing their emotions and navigating a world that can feel overwhelming at times. Remember that you have a supportive community on RUclips, and you may continue to participate with content that makes you happy. You don't have to be on social media if it's causing you anxiety; instead, prioritize your mental health.
There are people who will listen and support you if you ever feel the need to discuss or share more about your experiences. Reach out to friends, family, or experts for advice and support on your road to better managing your emotions as an HSP.
Thank you for sharing your story again, and please take care of yourself. You, like everyone else, deserve joy and peaceful in your life. 💙🙏✨💖
Me too 😢
@yourinnerchildmatters thank you! I appreciate the kindness and empathy back to me as I don't have a big amount of support. It feels lonely and overwhelming at times. However, as you stated there is a supportive community on YT, and I am thankful for that. I am looking for a good therapist who can listen and give advice on how to handle everything. With the holidays, I want to be happy, I feel alot of sadness for loss of my Dad and others I don't see. I try to remember the reason for Christmas and push forward. Some days it gets to where I don't want to move out of bed. Thank you, and I apologize for the late response. 💜
I quit Tik Tok, and am limiting Instagram. I love RUclips because I can learn..I'm learning how to function again as an HSP.
Got to know i am an hsp, a year ago.
I used to hate the fact that i was so overwhelmingly emotional and ‘abnormal’. I wanted to feel like the others and be like them,mild and normal. But slowly ive started to realise that its a beautiful trait to have. Its given me so much empathy, insights and made me a creative person. Some days suck and i’m in my bed most of the time but at the end of the day i remind myself that the world needs more empathetic people which keeps me going.
Thank you for sharing your journey, it's inspiring to see your growth and self-acceptance.
I grew up thinking being sensitive was a negative trait after being told constantly by my mother that I was way too sensitive whenever she upset me, which was quite often. Even into adulthood, it continued to the point I honestly felt I was too sensitive for this world and had quite dark thoughts. Now she has passed, I am beginning to embrace a new found freedom of being my true self and not suppressing my feelings any longer. I am a highly sensitive person, this is me and I will not change. ❤
The journey you are on of self-discovery and strength has truly inspired me. It takes huge courage to rise above other people's judgments and embrace your genuine self. Your story reminds us all that sensitivity is a beautiful trait that brings depth and authenticity to every aspect of our lives. Continue to be your authentic self, and may your newfound freedom bring you never-ending joy and peace and serenity ❤️💕✨
@@yourinnerchildmatters Thank you for your very kind words. It is so hard. I have conflicting feelings on her passing, sadness but also intense relief and I feel so guilty because of this that I'm now in therapy. I never felt good enough in her eyes and it still hurts so much. I have cried so much over the years then to be told I'm over sensitive made me cry even more. I'm now learning to show the true me, learning to drop the mask and be morr confident in who I really am although there is still some way to go. It's so good and reassuring to read the comments of fellow sensitive people. I don't feel so alone. ❤️
Amazingly written thank you for sharing❤
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Yay for you.
I find the bestest friend in myself, enjoying nature,& every feeling make me feel alive,
My emotions are my superpower not my weakness bcz it help me to be my authentic self in world Full of fake people.I fall in love with myself ❤
Thank you for sharing your beautiful thoughts! It's amazing to see how self-love and connection with nature can empower us.
Other people don't understand this and they will prey upon your vulnerability. In art, sensitivity is a superpower, a necessity. Maybe this is why artistic people tend to gravitate toward each other.
Thank you very much for your kind words! You have beautifully caught the essence of art and sensibility. Indeed, vulnerability can be both a difficulty and a great strength in the field of creation. It's lovely to see how effortlessly artistic individuals find comfort and connection with one another. By accepting our sensitivity, we can go deeper into the emotions which drive our creation. Continue to shine your unique personality to inspire others on this wonderful journey of self-expression. 💫
Sometimes, help is all you need. Instead of thinking someone is taking advantage.
and gravitate towards drugs :P
To be honest, as hypersensitive and introverted person I gravitate more towards extroverted and cool people.
I’m autistic and highly sensitive I was abused by everyone from a young age so I learned to isolate myself
My mother picked on me to “toughen” me up. Perhaps she meant well but all it taught me was that you can’t trust anyone with your feelings or insights. Just keep it to yourself. It’s lonely but peaceful.
I worked at hiding my feelings as they can be seen as a sign of weakness
I used to hate being so sensitive and my friendly usually get over things easily and I'm always like in pain and trying everything to soothe the pain and ahhh to all the sensitive people out there plz go easy on yourself and know that some words and some people don't matter. Process your feelings, sit with it and move on from it❤️
Hello there,
Thank you for sharing your points of view and being truthful about your experiences. It takes strength and self-awareness to express vulnerability, and it's wonderful when you embrace your sensitivity with such strength and self-awareness.
Remember that being sensitive is not a weakness; it is a wonderful part of who you are. It enables you to connect truly with feelings and to understand others on greater depths. While it may have felt like a burden at times, keep in mind that it has also given you empathy, compassion, and a unique point of view. You've realized something important: some words as well as people simply don't matter in the deeper perspective of things. It is important to prioritize your physical and mental wellness. Processing your emotions and allowing yourself to sit with them are important parts of growth and healing.
Be kind with yourself; we all experience pain and difficult circumstances. But also appreciate your courage in confronting those issues and seeking ways to comfort your soul.Remember that you are not alone. Many others share your sensitivity, and they, too, are on their journey of self-discovery and self-acceptance. By accepting yourself and finding solutions for your feelings, you motivate others to do the same.
Continue to be true to yourself, and let your compassion and kindness shine over. More sensitive souls that can sympathize and have a positive effect on others are needed in the world.
I'm sending you virtual hugs and love. Continue to go forward with grace and love! ❤❤❤
Remember, all, since we are so misunderstood AT OUR LEVEL OF UNDERSTANDING, we are likely asking the impossible of some.
What I mean is some of us were born with our receptors "Set to eleven," permanently. There are tremendous advantages to hyper vigilance and better-than-normal vision, hearing and reaction time, trauma does damage that is the equivalent to physical brain damage. I lived it, I know it's true.
I did not know I had dissociated at 15 watching my Mom last breaths as a "surprise" suicide, again at 22 with my 43-year-old polymath, best-friend father's heart-related death, and ten months later my Shaman-without-portfolio, my new definition of "Beauty" and "Love" was stabbed to death and left to bleed out in a snowbank.
So many things had to "break right," literally as well as figuratively, for me to BE ALIVE RIGHT NOW, the mind boggles. If I had dissociated in a different way, I might very well be a murderer, because I know who killed her.
Alternately, if the cops hadn't blown the investigation, they would have found me in my dissociated (and mentally safe) state and immediately forced me to face what was, for me, un-faceable - if I wished to stay "sane" - the loss of the most magical human I had ever known on top of the best/smartest/most inspirational mentor and father a boy/young man could desire.
Since I "broke" upon hearing the news, I had never grieved any of them properly. I tried to hide from grief for forty years. Please believe me when I tell you, "It can't be done."
Now close to finishing year three since "un-breaking," it feels as if I might be near some imaginary "halfway" point on the journey to some imagined place of inner calm.
I've become my Dad, and I can hear his voice still, talking and joking, God Bless "low-interference affect," as this memory is called, but the girl ... words' failure in scope to circumscribe her beauty in one sentence tells you all you need to know about words.
It takes hundreds and hundreds of words just to get close enough to see the distant starlight in by which I was long ago irradiated when it was sunlight warming a grateful and devoted suitor.
Upon her murder I had not lost a fiancee or romance, a girl, or a plan ... I had lost everything - including my mind. Where before, excellence had been a mark to aim for, I now "settled" for "good enough," because that was all I was now capable of.
End of Book I
For my brothers and sisters who suffer from all the different kinds of sensitivities, please feel a big hug ... I'm nothing special, but YOU are. Do not mistake "Not having been noticed yet" with "Unworthy of Notice."
I know the feeling when it seems that your heart is too big, too big for this body, maybe this world, eh? But NO!
We are here to LEARN HOW TO SHAPE (Y)OUR WORLD.
Now, begin doing it. If you DO nothing, NOTHING is what will happen. No one else is going to live your life. No one else is going to be the one looking back from an old person's body saying "Boy I'm glad I didn't assert myself and take control, to live like I wanted to, AS SCARED AS I WAS ..."
There, I will have to write a different book to describe my own process, my own "weirdness" that had to be trained to work toward what I wanted from life. Know what? I got Everything I TRULY wanted in this life. It would be a "W" on the list.
Here's the kicker: I did not know I was fulfilling every major life dream at the time. What I DID know was that I was "following my heart" every step of the way. I was protected from harm by some power greater than myself.
And that power had no problems with some serious mf partying. But nothing STUPID. IOW, do everything possible to maximize your safety. I received a couple of "passes" on stuff I had no right to walk away from, fwiw.
Reminder: Every new person you meet only knows what you show them. "Control the illusion."
Be the friend you want to have.
Some words and some people don't matter thank u... So much for these lines...
Thankyou!
Thank you ❤️it's a struggle, but that's great advice
I’m a sensitive person, naturally. I wasn’t raised by caring nor supportive parents. So it’s true if your not treated with love your sensitivity turns into defensiveness. After 42 years of dealing with being defensive. I can finally say after all of my healing. I am much better than I was before. ❤
Thank you so much for taking the time to share your story with us. Your openness and sensitivity touched me. It's impressive to see how far you've gone after suffering such a difficult childhood. The things you say reflect your strength and determination. Remember that healing is an ongoing process, and you've made some important progress. Your experience is an inspiration to others who are struggling, showing that it is possible to turn misery into improvements. Continue to embrace your sensitivity and use it to encourage empathy and understanding. I'm sending you so much love and support as you continue your journey of self-discovery and healing. ❤️ Have a blessed Sunday!🙏✨💖
@@yourinnerchildmatters Amen 🙏 I thank you for your kind words and understanding. May God bless you, my dear. Blessings!!! 💝
@@infinitybless7132 likewise dear ❤❤❤🙏
This has been my experience also. Learning how to navigate out of it successfully has been a nice feeling so far.
@@kazbah1217 I'm happy to hear that you've been able to navigate through similar experiences successfully! 🚀 Keep your positive mindset!❤🙏
One of the best lessons I learned is to distinguish my own emotions and feelings from that of which I was absorbing. Before I was just lost in such heavy emotions and feelings not realising I was absorbing everything around me feeling so confused. Being able to distinguish what is from you and what is from others is the first step to not being so overwhelmed by it all. I did this through meditation and careful examination of the things I was feeling when in a quiet environment and with practice I was grew my level of discernment. Though I still absorb other energies without even trying I now know what is and isn't mine and tend to just go along with what I'm feeling as opposed to before where I was fighting it.
That is such an important lesson, and I couldn't agree with you more! It's very interesting how meditation and self-awareness may help us understand our own emotions from external energies. Your journey toward developing awareness is very inspiring.
Embracing your feelings rather than fighting them is a significant change in thinking that can lead to more peace and understanding. It shows your development and self-awareness. Keep up the great work, and thank you for sharing your story. It is sure to inspire others on their own paths of self-discovery and emotional well-being! 🙏💫
I can relate to this so much. Working as a nurse trainee almost literally killed me due to the overflow of agony and grieve in my surroundings that I couldn't tell apart from my own traumatic childhood experiences. It was all way too much every day. I wished someone would have explained to me what I was doing back then, nursing everyone's emotional states like the emotional sponge I was :D it was a nightmare and I couldn't find much sleep for months, after 2 years I had to leave. Then, the real journey of healing began and boy have I come far, with a lil help :)
Wishing you (and everyone else) all the best
As i am reading all of these sharings, i am crying like a baby........i feel like i am finally home ....embraced by a community that sees like me, thinks like me, feels intensely like me.......i always felt like am weird...like there are too atimuli aroynd me abd i need quiter, simpler, fresher, more real.....anything else from this feels toxic, umbearable. Over here ....i am breaghting ....really breathing for the first time in 55 years....am not an alien any more ...i found my way home ❤
Your heartfelt comment touched me deeply. It's incredible to hear that you've found a sense of belonging and comfort here. We all crave a space where we can be ourselves without judgment, and I'm honored that you feel that way about our community. Your journey of self-discovery is truly inspiring, and it's never too late to find your place in the world. Thank you for sharing this beautiful sentiment with us. We're here for you, and I'm sending you warm virtual hugs. Welcome home! 🌟❤️
just recently figured out that i’m highly sensitive. it’s definitely making me feel more connected to myself and giving me more confidence. i knew all of the little details about myself, how easily i’m overstimulated (falling asleep at loud concerts) the empathy i have towards every little thing, how deeply i care. i even place myself in the shoes of objects and empathize with them. when i was younger i remember being on the highway seeing a teddy bear or flag maybe hanging from a large truck just flapping in the wind and thinking of what it would feel like to be in the place of that object. thank you for this post it helps so much!!
I'm so happy that you've accepted and acknowledged your highly sensitive nature! When we get more in tune with ourselves and our unique qualities, it is truly a lovely journey. Your description of being able to connect with the finer details of your experiences and experiencing such profound empathy is truly heartwarming. It's a wonderful blessing to be able to connect with the world around you on such a deep level, whether by recognizing your own sensitivity or even putting yourself in the shoes of objects. Your story reminds us all of the depths of how we see things. Thank you for taking the time to share your ideas and experiences with us. It's encouraging to see how your improved self-awareness is positively affecting your self-confidence and connection. Continue to embrace your sensitivity and use it as a source of power and insight in your life journey💖
THIS! In addition to a few other comments, THIS! Having pets was traumatic, because they get abused, neglected, sick or die. I worked very hard to protect myself from I ages of the reality of what people do to each other, their animals, the land they live on. I have loved my dogs as most people love their families. I STILL have great LOVE for my DNA donors and 3 siblings. But some of the things they did...anyway, having sensitivity for objects like teddy bears, is something I still fight. I have actually death-cleaned twice to remove potential triggering objects when I was tasked first with cleaning out my G'parent's home, and later, all the accumulated stuff my Mother should have known to throw out, before whoever cleaned her house, could find them. Even in death, she left the ground strewn with landmines. I will not do this to anyone else...
Put In place of objects!!! Yes!!!
What’s most difficult for me is dealing with other people, mostly friends. How inconsiderate they can be because I go out of my way to be so kind of them. How phony they can be and constantly put on an act when I’m very genuine.
Thank you for sharing your experience. It's tough when you go out of your way to be kind and it feels like it goes unnoticed. Remember to value yourself and your genuine nature. The right people will come into your life and appreciate you for who you are. bless you
I am a highly sensitive person, even most of the times I don't want to cry, but tears just fall. I try to be more detached from people's pain that drags me down, but at the same time I am very intuitive and something brings me back to my sensitivity. Interestingly though, I am not a creative person- I mean I cannot draw, I cannot perform acts, as actors do, I don't play musical instrument... The only thing I do is moving my body, I say moving my body because I don't consider that a dance, because I don't repeat my movements in a choreography, I just move with the music....
Thank you for sharing your thoughts and experiences with us in here. It takes courage to open up about being a highly sensitive person. It is understandable that tears sometimes fall even when you don't want them to, as sensitivity can often bring forth deep emotions. It might be difficult to find a balance between being detached from other people's suffering and remaining true to your intuitive nature. It is important to respect your feelings while still taking care of yourself. Your sensitivity can be a wonderful trait that allows you to empathize and connect on a deeper level with others. It's interesting to hear you express yourself through movement to music. Dancing does not have to follow any exact choreography or technicality. Your own movement style is a sort of self-expression, and it's amazing that you've discovered a way to connect with music that speaks to you.
Creativity manifests itself in a variety of ways, and it is not restricted to traditional artistic hobbies such as drawing or playing musical instruments. Connecting with music and expressing yourself through dance is a creative outlet in and of itself. It's important to remember that creativity is a personal journey with no set rules or limitations on what it can be.
Embrace your sensitivity and the way you express yourself. Your authenticity shines through your movement, and it's wonderful to see. Continue exploring into the depths of your emotions and move to the beat that calls to your soul.
I wish you continued happiness and pleasure on your individual path of self-expression.
Best wishes,
Your Inner Child Matters Channel
@@yourinnerchildmatters Thank you for your wise words! 🙏
Thank you to both of you, for opening up and writing this comment and to the person behind the channel for your thorough reply! It was very uplifting for myself too, also as my experience seems to be very similar to yours😊
Perhaps you may like to express yourself in writing (absolutely freely, I never liked writing in school or trying to be immaginative or create a good story, however due to not being able to express my self and my feelings at all and losing my mind along with it, I took the advice of a conscious friend and started journaling. Along with meditation and yoga. I started to awaken.
It gave me an incredible access to my inner child, also painful memories which is part of healing, growing awareness and lots of wisdom as well (in comparison to before)!
Sometimes when it is hard I start with "right now I don't know what to write, but I am feeling like....." and then suddenly I end up with a few pages without thinking about it at all 😊 just thought of sharing it with you and whoever reads! All the best to you ❤
@@aliasspitzburger6590 Thank you so much for sharing your sincere comment and personal journey. It's very wonderful to learn how journaling, meditation, and yoga have impacted your life. Your story has a strong emotional resonance, and it's wonderful to see how you've embraced self-expression and self-discovery.
Opening up about our vulnerabilities and experiences can be a wonderful way to connect with those who have had similar struggles. It's happy to know that our replied comments brought you comfort and hope. Remember that you are not alone on this journey of healing and growth.
The way you described your journaling approach demonstrates the transforming potential of reflection and self-awareness. It's interesting how, by releasing any expectations or judgments, we may access the depths of our emotions and thoughts. The connection with your inner child and your own healing process demonstrate your resilience and strength.
Thank you for sharing the "right now I don't know what to write, but I am feeling like..." technique. It's a lovely reminder that we don't necessarily have to have everything worked out right away. When we allow ourselves to be honest and open, the words sometimes come effortlessly.
On your journey, I wish you continued growth, wisdom, and self-discovery. May your writings and experiences continue to impact others who read them. Best wishes to you as well, and may your path be filled with love and light. ❤ Bless you dear
You described me 😢!!!
As long as I keep narcissists at arms length, I do fairly well. Because I didn't learn this earlier in life it took me nearly 60 years of hard trauma living to begin to fulfill my life of being an artist. I am the happiest I have ever been. Not looking for love in the wrong places, has really helped.
I always knew I was different growing up. I felt things more than my siblings or my friends. I could walk into a room filled with people and would come out with lots of information.
I have always been able to read people well, and I used to hate the feeling I got from that. I never liked picking up on other people’s emotions and burdening myself with how they were feeling.
I’m older now, and I have come to accept who I am. I need alone time a lot just to present myself to the world. It’s just who I am.
Thank you so much for taking the time to share your personal journey with us. It's amazing how you've accepted and embraced your special characteristics. Empathy and sensitivity to the feelings of others are truly special strengths, even if they might feel like a burden at times. It's inspiring to see how you've grown older and learnt to control and even embrace these qualities of yourself. Self-care and isolation are great ways to recharge and keep in touch with your feelings.
Remember that you are not alone in your feelings. Many people can identify with what you've described, and your openness can help others on their own paths to self-acceptance. Maintain your integrity, and thank you for sharing your story with us. 🙏✨💖
Sensitive people are often taken advantage of and some poke fun at them until anger breaks out and the boot is on the other foot. What goes around comes around.!
Thank you for sharing your insights!. You make an important point about sensitive persons who face difficulties. Everyone, regardless of their sensitivities, must be treated with care and respect. Understanding and empathy can go a long way toward making the world a more compassionate place. Let us all work together to break the cycle of negativity and encourage understanding in our interactions with one another. "Cheers to a brighter future!"
This is not a sentiment sensitive people tend to have.
100 we are narcissistic personalities snack all day every day. Wasting life force for BS
Your wrong.!@@whendays659
Use your high sensitivity to empower yourself instead of feeling like a victim. It's a gift, that's what i realized about myself after 40 years. People criticized me for that and now i can see clearly that they are the ones with insecurities, big ego and unresolved issues. Embrace yourself fully, work with what you can, be fearless and more thick-skinned really helps :)
It's wonderful to hear about your journey of self-discovery and empowerment! Your point of view is truly inspiring. High sensitivity is a unique talent, and it's encouraging to see how you've used it to make the most of it.
Your point about criticism that comes from others' fears and unsolved issues is right point. It serves as a reminder to never let the negativity of others keep us back. thank you for your words of wisdom and encouragement. Accepting and developing our genuine selves are vital lessons that can benefit us all. Continue your journey and inspire people with your story! 🌟✨💪
Mind if I ask how you did that? Some tips would be great
I’m a HSP and at 70 yrs old I have put this into my perspective: this is one of my main life’s lessons for this go round down on earth. To learn how to control this gift. We think we are here to fit in and that’s a bit of it but the real work is on yourself. Yes you have to play by the rules but when you can, let it be….
Absolutely beautiful words! It's very motivating to learn how you've used your sensitivity as a gift to teach yourself great life lessons. Your point of view on the value of self-improvement and learning the art of control is right point. Life is a journey of understanding how to strike a balance between fitting in and remaining true to yourself. At 70 years old, your wisdom serves as an inspiration for those on the same journeys. Continue to shine and share your wonderful insights! 🌟🌱
I’m not sure If I am sensitive or if I just care very deeply. I have discovered that it’s not others that hurt me but my expectations of others that is what hurts. I cannot control other peoples actions but I can control how I feel about other peoples actions. I hope that makes sense. Be well all
Definitely it makes perfect sense! You have beautifully expressed a profound fact regarding one's personal growth and emotional well-being. Recognizing that our own expectations influence how we see and respond to the behaviors of others is an important step toward inner peace. It shows your self-awareness and strength in controlling your emotions. Continue maintaining this mindset, and you'll find more serenity and contentment on your journey. Be well, and thank you for sharing your knowledge with us!. Bless You
One thing I struggle with is dealing with conflict. I recently had an encounter with an individual who was extremely insulting towards me and I was afraid to stick up for myself because I get really nervous in conflict situations but then I end up with all this resentment inside of me towards this person. I'm too sensitive and nice and when I encounter a rude narcissist I'm caught totally off guard and don't know how to defend myself.
I can totally relate to this!
Recognizable! Is turning your back and walking away a solution for you?
@@livinglifetothefullest22 I ultimately did but the damage had already been done.
I have the same problem. Why am I afraid to defend myself?
i also dealt with narcisists my whole life and i can tell you 1 word about it that you must do or you will suffer, LEARN TO STAND AND DEFEND YOURSELF. If you won't do that 1 thing, you will continue to get hurt by them cuz they got no limits from taking from others. Wish you well and happy life.
We don’t live in a “simulation”,
or at least not in the sense that it’s like a computer game.
Although the computer game metaphor does provide a useful tool
to understanding the nature of reality.
People generally don’t understand the interplay
between the phenomenological world and consciousness.
They are not separate from each other, they are one and the same, two sides of the same coin.
You have to understand that the phenomenological physical world
wouldn’t exist without consciousness.
Without a conscious perceiver, physical reality, the universe, is just information.
It is the existence of consciousness that decodes that information into a perceivable reality.
Much like a computer game is nothing but information on a disc,
which is then decoded by the computer and presented as a world
on a screen to be experienced.
Another aspect to this is the issue of free will.
We say we have free will, but you can’t transform yourself into a dragon
and fly to Jupiter to eat pancakes with Darth Vader.
So we only really have free will within certain parameters.
Like the parameters of a computer game.
Consider that when you play a big open world computer game,
all of the millions of different choices you can make are all encoded on the disc
and exist all at once.
It seems like you have free will,
but every decision you make is already programmed within the parameters of the game.
The sum total of all existence and all reality,
everything that has existed, does exist and ever will exist, exists at all times infinitely.
I think the world we perceive,
at the conscious level we perceive it,
is a projection down to our third dimensional reality
from higher dimensions,
which begins at a realm of infinite information and possibility,
which then projects down through multiple dimensions
and becomes more refined and solid
until you start getting perceivable worlds like ours.
For an easy way to imagine this,
you can take a three dimensional cube
and use it to project a shadow of a two dimensional square.
If you change the orientation of the cube, the shadow can also look like a hexagon.
Nothing has changed at the three dimensional level, just the orientation.
This is three dimensions projecting down into two dimensions,
but now consider it going up the other way...
Try and think of what a four dimensional or five dimensional cube would look like.
You can’t, because we live in a three dimensional world.
Just like how a being that lived in a two dimensional world
wouldn’t be able to imagine what a sphere looks like.
It’s not a “simulation”, it’s just the nature of the reality we live in.
This is just what it does.
Nothing was ever created,
nothing is ever truly destroyed.
Everything is an endlessly churning, recycling sea of energy and information,
that produces consciousness at various levels
in order to experience itself objectively.
Thanks for sharing your thoughts on the nature of reality! It's always interesting to hear different perspectives and theories on this topic.
I am a highly creative sensitive person & it's destroyed my life because I'm ugly and socially awkward. I'm fine on my own or with a couple of close loyal friends. People always hurt me and so I have a default ultra sensitive aura that does me no favors. I see violence emanating from folk, I know the masks people wear, I see deep into souls. I've never shared this before. I suffer inside so much last 45 years. I always try to project kindness and understanding, yet I feel like 90% of people don't want to be close to me. I often think of myself as a Hermit Crab without a shell. I'm just an oddity, a misfit, a freak. When I see how bad the world is becoming, I am actually grateful to GOD that I am this way. I would hate to be a person who cannot be awestruck by a singing Robin, notice the dew on morning grass, laugh with joy at the beauty of a sunflower, and look up at a distant star & wonder at the immensity of the universe.
Thank you for being so open about your thoughts and feelings. It takes great bravery to open up about your experiences, and I want you to know that you are not alone. Many of us experience periods of feeling strange or out of place, and it is typically during these moments that we find our unique characteristics.Your sensitivity and creative thinking are gifts that enable you to see the world in a profoundly different way. While it can be difficult at times, this perspective can bring significant beauty and understanding to your life as well as the lives of people around you. It is clear that you have a unique capacity to connect with the world on a deeper level, recognizing small wonders that others may overlook.
Remember that great connections take time to form, and finding individuals who truly respect and understand you might be tough. Your kindness and empathy are great qualities that the right people will recognize and value. As you continue to accept your uniqueness, you'll attract people that share your values. It's nice to learn how you find peace in the wonders of nature and the universe. Those moments of wonder and amazement are truly priceless, reminding us of the vastness of life beyond our present difficulties.
Continue to be yourself, embrace your unique perspective, and know that others enjoy and cherish you exactly as you are. You have the ability to inspire, create, and make a difference in your own unique way. Stay strong and keep shining your light on the world.
With love and support,
Your Inner Child Matters Channel 💫💕🙏
I think we scare evil ppl when we know they are evil on sight..
@@Goingprobro ❤❤🩹❤
Read the last several sentences. You see the world in wonderful ways. Hold unto that gift. You are a person of worth. Be kind to yourself. Give yourself compassion.
@@g.flesch9731 thank you for your kind words, bless you❤♥🙏
Yes so true. Sensitivity is so true. I had that in me. My son has this too. It's so amazing. Don't let the cruel world fool you. We all have to protect our layers. If we hurt we feel we are human beings and nothing wrong with it. Growing up an dysfunctional family. Don't let pain make u bitter let it teach you lessons and let them go.
Your comment resonates deeply with me. It's important to acknowledge our sensitivity and use it as a strength in this sometimes harsh world.
More sensitivity isn't negative it means higher level of emotional intelligence which is an added value for personal growth and social intelligence. People who have such personality could learn how to regulate their sensitivity and make it more efficient.
You have certainly highlighted the good part about increased sensitivity. It does, in fact, imply increased emotional intelligence, which is an important asset for growth as an individual and improved social relationships. Learning to appropriately make use of this sensitivity can be a great tool for managing every type of situations. Thank you for giving such an interesting viewpoint! 🌟
True ❤
@@MihaelaTamas-kb1db thank you so much❤
When I was younger I was feeling sooooo much.If i saw someone crying I would cry just because he was and other times I was full of energy and curiosity.But by the years, I was told to "man up" and I had to suck my feelings since no one was understanding me in my family and therefore as a kid I thought that something was wrong with me. I became disconnected from my emotions and got pretty depressed but now I finally accept who I truly am. I'm currently trying to reconnect with my feelings because that's what I am;a human not an emotionless machine that is full of responsibilities.
I appreciate you taking the time to share your story with us. It's truly inspiring to hear how you've handled the difficulties of growing up and societal expectations. Recognizing the influence of such "man up" messages and working toward reclaiming your authentic self takes a lot of strength. Remember that your emotions are a beautiful and necessary part of who you are, and that acknowledging and loving them is an important first step toward true pleasure and fulfillment. Continue to reconnect with how you feel and explore your curiosity - that is where the wonder of life lies. Your story will definitely resonate with many others who are experiencing similar difficulties. Thank you for reminding us all to put our mental health and authencity first. Keep shining brightly!have a nice day 💖
Yes, I am an HSP, an INFJ and I have Myalgic Encephalomyolitis Chronic Fatigue Syndrome....makes sense doesn't it!!?? It's hard to deal with, but as my Mom would say, Just keep putting one foot in front of the other."
God provides what I need, Amen!!
Miss Monique 🙂🌷🙏
I’m INFJ as well. I feel like I’ve embraced bitterness long ago only an attempts to harden. I don’t know how else to deal with it except to drink alcohol :(
Without a doubt, Miss Monique! Your determination and courage reflect through your journey as an HSP, INFJ, and person suffering from Myalgic Encephalomyolitis Chronic Fatigue Syndrome. Your mother's wisdom is truly impressive; she takes life one step at a time, trusting in God's provision. 🌟🙏 Sending you a lot of love and positive vibes and best wishes from Your Inner Child Matters Channel
Hello there! It's great to connect with a fellow INFJ. I understand how difficult it is to deal with bitterness. Keep in mind that you are not alone on this journey. Instead than turning to alcohol, which may provide short relief, why not try mindfulness, creative activities, or connecting with supportive communities? It all comes down to finding healthy strategies to deal with those feelings. Remember that embracing positivity and seeking healthy coping techniques might result in healthier and happier outcomes. You'll be fine! You've got this! 🌼
Yes and 🙏🏻 Amen ♥️ God bless you!
Thanks for your reply, just beautiful ♥️
Me too! I am chronically ill (currently seeing specialist but still no diagnosis) and I am highly sensitive. If I could turn down my sensitivity dial I would, I think it’s partially why I’ve become ill. I’ve also unfortunately dealt with a few narcissistic individuals in my personal life which has been very damaging. I pray and seek to have healing and peace in my mind, body and soul.
This makes so much sense. I’ve been a mode of just wanting to not exist because everything just seems exhausting and savage. I just wish everything would stop bothering me.
I'm truly sorry to hear that you're feeling this way, but I'm glad you reached out here. Remember, you're not alone in experiencing these emotions, and there are people who care about your well-being. It's completely okay to feel overwhelmed at times, and life can indeed be exhausting. Please consider talking to someone you trust about what you're going through, whether it's a friend, family member, or a mental health professional. Sharing your feelings can make a world of difference and can be the first step towards finding some relief.
Remember that your feelings are valid, and there is help available. It may take time, but things can change, and better days are ahead. Please take care of yourself and don't be afraid to seek help if you need it.
I'm sending you wonderful vibes and virtual support and big hugs to you💫💕🙏✨💖
What an excellent validation of highly sensitive people. For those of us who are, it is so helpful to have someone 'get' what it is like to be so. Thank you.
You are so welcome! thanks for watching. have a blessed sunday!
I get youuu💛
A dreamy thought....
Living in a community exclusively for HSPs, sounds like heaven..
Sending much love peace n light ❤️
💕💕💕🕊️🕊️🕊️✨✨✨
Thank you so much for your kind words and for for taking the time watching the video! 💖🙏
Being in hyper vigilance for all our lives gives us certain powers to sense dangers.once we learn to discern what is ours and teach the nervous system that safety is not dangerous, then we can truly navigate and cut energetic cords of thoughts plus beliefs that drain us.
Indeed, hypervigilance can heighten our sense of awareness, but finding balance is important.Teaching our nervous system to distinguish between real and perceived threats allows us to let go of draining thoughts and beliefs. It's a path that allows us to reclaim our energies and live our lives more genuinely 💫💕🙏✨
Thank you Dr. Maté for acknowledging HSPs and their reality. To have HSPs acknowledged in this way is very life giving and emancipating, enabling me to accept and own my own highly sensitive nature in a more loving and joyous way. You say it as it is, showing wise insight and understanding, and that is very validating for me. 🙏😊
Thank you so much for sharing your heartfelt thoughts and experiences. It warms my heart to know that Dr. Maté's acknowledgment of Highly Sensitive Persons (HSPs) has resonated with you in such a profound way. It's truly empowering when someone's wisdom and understanding can bring a sense of validation and joy to our own journey of self-discovery. Your openness in accepting and embracing your highly sensitive nature is a beautiful testament to the positive impact Dr. Maté's insights can have. May your continued journey be filled with self-love, understanding, and moments of joy. If you ever feel like sharing more or connecting with others who relate, this community is here for you. ❤️💖🙏
Most ppl who are sensitive are usually somewhere on the neuro divergent spectrum, be it ASD, ADHD, dyslexia, despraxia discalcula. Look into this if you've always felt different, misunderstood or shunned. Can be life changing.
Thank you for sharing your important viewpoint! Many people who feel sensitive or different may, in fact, be on the neurodivergent spectrum, which includes diseases such as ASD, ADHD, dyslexia, despraxia, and discalcula. knowledge and accepting these qualities of ourselves can be life-changing, resulting in increased self-awareness, acceptance, and a deeper knowledge of our individual abilities. If you relate with these emotions, getting professional help and knowing more about neurodiversity can be a rewarding path of self-discovery. 💖 💖
@@sarahhanby2457 I am sorry to hear this. I hope you find the peace you are looking for. Find support groups and learning more about my conditions and so developing my own awareness and understanding of myself and needs have helped me immensely. I wish you the best for your journey.
@@yourinnerchildmattersThey are not diseases!! You need to be careful with your language! They are neurological differences/conditions but ASD and ADHD are not diseases. Also things like dyslexia, dyspraxia etc. while they are standalone conditions of themselves are also what's known as co-occurring, co-morbidities of conditions like ASD and ADHD. The language used to describe these conditions is really very important for people who are not knowledgeable or who look upon them as diseases and misunderstand them to be when it is just a case of people who have a different type of brain.
Yep found out I had ADHD at age 50, Ive always been sensitive and seemed to feel more than most others do.
@@craigjohnson6547 good luck with your journey friend 👍
Gabor speaks truth and has helped so many people INNERstand themselves. I'm an empath, many of my clients are and Sensitivity is a Superpower ❤
You can form practices and have tools that help you with high sensitivity. Also following intuition, having respect for self are one of the Keys of staying sensitive and healthy and happy. That's part of the work I do 💕 I used to be overwhelmed or lost in others feelings, emotions but not anymore... It's definitely a journey but worth taking. I love being sensitive now. It allows me to feel and be so much Love It's amazing
I completely agree! It is important to create techniques and tools for dealing with high sensitivity. Following your instincts and respecting yourself are important parts of improving sensitivity while maintaining emotional well-being. Your path to accepting sensitivity seems really motivating. It's wonderful how you've evolved from being overwhelmed by other people's emotions to now valuing your sensitivity as a source of love and joy. Continue to spread positive energy! 💕🌟, Bless you!
Your post intrigued me. I’m confused about being highly sensitive and people saying they are an empath and they’ve said I’m an empath and sensitive. Some people say they are gifts. For me I see them as a result of trauma causing a lack of emotional boundaries, emotional garbage can. What’s the truth?
@joanhr5928 while the source of this receptivity may come from trauma, once you learn to set boundaries with grace and understand what your "feelings" are or what they're telling you, life becomes clearer, easier, more flexible, more compassionate and understanding, less prone to allow anyone to abuse you in any way visible or invisible. It's like an innate lie detector no one can mess with. Everything in this life will go as far as you are curious to take it. I had no choice. I started having overwhelming emotions and thoughts to the point I couldn't go to the store anymore and I wanted to understand why. I realized thoughts and feelings are sort of "contagious" and if you allow certain new ideas into your life, such as idea all that clutter can be cleared, all that noise can be quiet, all that confusion isn't just yours... To me it was like new discovery. Sense of power comes back, healing happens naturally as you continue choosing different experiences, actions, beliefs around yourself and the world around you. For some it was easy, for me it was long, confusing, on and off process. All depends on how much trauma, how difficult it is to set boundaries, how easy it is to accept new ideas... I kept following my intuition. Like you I kept being curious and asking questions. Different people out of nowhere showed up and taught me things. "When student is ready the teacher appears" sort of thing. Nowadays lots of info and ideas on it. Make sure to follow what feels right to you and let go of anything that doesn't and see how far it takes you. I suggest exploring ideas on "awakening, understanding emotions, energy work, spiritual perspective on life being multi dimensional (just because we don't see it doesn't mean it's not there). Hope this helps a bit and all the best to you 💕
A sensitive person is someone that can give you constantly affection someone deep able to reflect on everything around him and the feeling involved, breaking isn't something contemplated and never want to hurt her partner, we living a different world, bigger than life.
I really appreciate your comment and the way you described the qualities of a sensitive person. It's important to have someone who understands the depth of emotions and strives to never hurt their partner. Thank you for sharing your perspective!
I happen to work in epiginetics and I am the most sensitive form of gene1. And highly abused. I suffered most of my life thinking I was too sensitive. Now almost 74 I KNOW it as a blessing. So glad to know the boundaries I prefer are wise. Many thanks. I'm a visionary and an alchemist. I helped many at one time. NOW is my time. 🌹
Thank you so much for taking the time to share your great adventure with us. It's very motivating to hear how you've embraced your sensitivity to your advantage. Your story represents the adaptability of the human spirit. You've gained not only wisdom but also a profound understanding of your own boundaries and the special gifts that sensitivity can bring at the age of 74. Your role as a visionary and alchemist is undoubtedly helpful for everyone around the world. It's never too late to shine your light brightly, and your time has come.
Thank you for being a source of hope and inspiration. 🌹 Keep sharing your insights and use your unique abilities to make the world a better place. We are thankful to have you here 💕🙏
I am an individual with a heightened sensitivity, having been raised in a family that was consistently attuned to the impact of conditioning. Despite the well-intentioned efforts of those around me to safeguard my emotional well-being, my adult life has presented significant challenges. Regrettably, I find it difficult to maintain fulfilling relationships, and while I appreciate the value of creativity, the emotional anguish endured in the process gives me pause.
Thank you for sharing your experience. It takes a lot of courage to open up about the challenges we face. Remember, you're not alone in this journey, and there's always support available. Keep pushing forward! bless you
Nietzsche said, that the artist, the poet is, alongside the soldier, a true warrior.
I'm very sensitive, I feel very much. I express myself, I'm a musician, I act, I feel, and I assert myself and my views through my art.
As Grace Jones or Klaus Kinsky said, asserting yourself in a role, or in music, is a form of aggressiveness and violence.
First and foremost, I want to thank you for taking the time to share your opinions and experiences as an artist and musician. Nietzsche's comparison of the artist and the soldier as true fighters is interesting and it's clear that you resonate with this notion on a deep level. Your sensitivity, emotional depth, and expressive personality are all great characteristics that will help you on your artistic path.
Artists like you have a special capacity to put emotions, thoughts, and perspectives into their field of expertise, whether it is music, acting, or another kind of artistic expression. This process frequently necessitates the bravery of going into the depths of your soul and confronting both the light and darkness within them. By doing so, you're not only asserting yourself but also offering a piece of your vulnerability to the world, which is incredibly brave.
The connection that you make between Grace Jones and Klaus Kinsky's belief that expressing oneself by means of art is a type of "aggressiveness and violence" is interesting. In this sense, "aggressiveness" may be properly defined as a passionate assertiveness, a determination to speak your truth without holding back. And "violence," in this context, might be referring to the a significant effect and emotional resonance your art has on others.
Indeed, art has the power to stir emotions, challenge perspectives, and provoke thoughts, much like a warrior charging fearlessly into battle. It takes incredible courage to disclose your innermost feelings and ideas to the world, and it is through this process that you form your artistic identity and contribute to the beautiful patchwork of human creation.
Continue to embrace your sensitivities and your work as a form of self-expression. Your desire to share yourself through your art not only enriches your own life, but it also has the ability to touch and inspire many others. As you continue your path as an artist and musician, remember that it is your unique voice and authenticity that make your creations genuinely remarkable.
Best wishes in your artistic endeavors, and may your creations continue to connect with everyone around the world.
Best wishes,
YOUR INNER CHILD MATTERS Channel
Thank you very much for your heartfelt comment, I was touched by reading it.
I too wish you the best for your life and also your RUclips channel. Thanks for sharing these videos.
@@007Spadge thank you so much too. Bless you
... is a form of aggressiveness and violence" - adaptable to the needs of two personae, the writer/composer and the performer.
Ego-conquering is not for the faint of heart, eh?
It's hell to be highly sensitive and betrayed and have to deal with being unloved or neglected.
I’m really sorry you’re feeling this way. Being sensitive can make things very tough, especially when you’re hurt by others. Remember, it’s okay to feel deeply, and your feelings are valid. Please take care of yourself and try to find support from friends or loved ones who understand you. You deserve kindness and love.
Being overly sensitive is a huge disadvantage. Because we are bothered by everything, our telomeres are shorter, which leads to chronic fatigue..and worse. My friend is 96 bc nothing bothers him. I so envy him.
Being excessively sensitive might have a negative impact on our health. It's inspiring to hear your friend thriving at the age of 96 with such resilience. It is important that you find a balance between emotional awareness and resilience. bless you
@@yourinnerchildmatters Want to know his secret? He always tells me: "nothing and nobody is worth your nerves." I wish I could live by that!
@@robynhope219 thank you
@@yourinnerchildmatters you bet!
I see what you are saying but often those people only live a half life, to reach the heights, you have to take the lows
You have no idea how glad i am that this channel was recommended
I was raised by a narcissistic mother and and drank to deal with it, i became a non functioning alcoholic and wasted half my life
I began attracting narcissistic partners and this made it worse
I had a child to one and he is my life, i got sober 2 and a bit years ago and she just continued to elicit reactional abuse, to the point i had a no contact irder put on me, and i havent sern my 8 year old boy for 15 months, but i have court next werk, a lawyer, a goid joh now, am in the vest shape if my life and began my passion of playing and writing music again - i have played guitar for 30 years
Stay strong everyone ❤❤
Your story of strength and resilience have truly touched me. It takes great courage to overcome such challenges and make positive changes in your life. And I'm happy that you discovered this channel and that it has had a great impact on your life. Your journey from addiction and toxic relationships to rediscovering your passion for music and being in the best shape of your life is very inspirational. Your commitment to improving yourself and being a loving parent is fantastic. Remember that your strength serves as a light of hope for those who may be going through similar struggles. Continue playing and creating music, developing your skills, and appreciating the positivity you've created.
Your determination is an encouragement to all of us. Stay strong, and I wish you the best of luck in your future court case 🙏 as well as your ongoing journey of healing and growth. ❤️❤️ Sending lots of virtual hugsss to you💖
I have been called a HSP for as long as i can remember. This video has given me a me a new perspective.... and i am delighted!
Thank you Dr. Mate ❗
You. Are. Awesome.
Glad it was helpful! thank you so much for watching. God bless you dear 💕🙏
Yup. HSP, addiction, creativity, compassion and more. I love it and find it challenging.
Thank you so much for taking the time watching the video!
"Life is not measured by the number of breaths we take, but by the momnents that take our breath away."
Maya Angelou
Without a doubt, Maya Angelou's messages are profound. Thank you for sharing this lovely reminder.💫
I’m over that now. I can think so far ahead and break my own heart. 😢
Hyper sense or hypersensitive is just awareness and soul driven conscious.
We are awake and aware of the pains around us the joys around us the ups and downs from everyone not just oneself.
It's a way we feel it's empathetic which is great because it's harder for us to treat others bad, we try to and it's not us. we often put ourselves in their place, it's a gift.
love this - so resonating x
So beautifully expressed! Hypersensitivity is a genuinely special gift that allows us to connect closely with people on a soulful level. It all comes down to being aware and compassionate, accepting both the joys and the pains that surround us. Your point of view on this is truly inspiring.
Thanks, genuinely thank you. spoke from the heart when I commented.
We are also aware of the evil around us... It makes me sick to my stomach. Up to my 30s I always tried to find excuses for the nasty behaviours of people, I can't do it anymore, I got chronically ill and bedridden despite trying to see the good. Sometimes there is no good. I lied to myself like a fool. Sometimes we also have to wear a mask. To keep up with this materialistic world full of ignorant, arrogant, demonic people..
It's not a gift, it's a curse. It makes a man feel weaker than the weakest of all women. You needa man up but you just can't control it and it often comes with OCD's and tons of other mental issues.
I wish I was maniac, I wish I was emotionless, I wish I was villain, I wish I was robotic.
I think what he said about environment is so important. With the right audience, what I share about my emotion can reach others, reminding them of what they feel too, and I feel appreciated and welcomed. With the wrong audience I feel shut down, rejected, wronged, and alienated.
I really enjoy my sensitivity otherwise. Music nature, art, color, sound are all amazing experiences for me. Interacting with other humans is the hard part. Like someone else said, it’s very hard for me to tolerate interactions that are not meaningful in some way.
I'm very happy to hear you reflect on the importance of sharing emotions and thoughts with the correct people. Your environmental awareness and sensitivity are really valuable. It's good that you may find comfort in music, nature, painting, and other activities. Interactions that are meaningful make a difference. Keep in mind that your honesty shines through in your material, drawing an audience that appreciates and connects with your message. Continue to embrace your sensitivity and share your special thoughts!🌟💕
@@yourinnerchildmatters thank you!
@@brideofallunquietthings888 take care and have wonderful day! Smile 🌟💕 💫
Nailed it! Such a long journey it has been. All that escaping to return to music and art to express. We used to call it "artistic temperament", but personally, I was traumatized from all the negativity toward my HSP as a child. I was told I would not be a musician or artists, I needed to learn to type so I could get a job.
After wasting many years with alcohol and chasing acceptance, I returned full circle to teach music and art. I think I'm better for it now, but it wasn't easy.
Thank you for sharing your journey! It's amazing how art and music can be such powerful forms of expression and healing. Keep inspiring others with your story! take care always and bless you
If I see ,hear and think of people who are suffering throughout the world I feel emotionally overwhelmed. Tears can fall so easily onto the bed sheets. I pray for those less fortunate. I include the homeless,poverty,mental anguish and the destitute in my material as I am an empath.its the people cut off from society who's feelings reach beyond the pale and feel the sensitivity. The Belfast poet Andrew Beattie.
Andrew, your great sensitivity and loving spirit shine through your work. Addressing the problems of the less fortunate is a powerful way to raise awareness and inspire change for the better. Continue to use your gifts to touch people's hearts and make a difference in their lives. -🙏️❤️❤️
Ahh thank you so much. ❤️
It is good to see your post, because I haven't heard another hsp mention sensitivity to the world at large. This is a much bigger issue for me than sensitivity to people immediately around me. My heart constantly aches for children, people with mental health issues, victims of abuse. Right now my heart is breaking for the people on Maui. Every time there is a mass shooting, I feel like I can't bear it. I am very close to the Lord though and I believe that we are meant to be witnesses to humanity's pain, and ambassadors of love and caring. Some get angry when I say this, but for me it is true. Our role is very important in ways we can't always understand.💖
@@Stillwater23-q5r Reading your comment touched my heart. Your point of view on being highly conscious of the world's problems resonates deeply. It shows your empathy and compassion that you are sensitive to the suffering of others, whether they are children, individuals suffering from mental illness, or victims of tragic circumstances. Your connection to the larger human experience, as well as your belief in bearing witness to this sadness while spreading love and care, are profound and inspiring. Continue to shine as an ambassador of empathy and understanding. What you do, as you've wonderfully expressed, is profoundly important in ways that may go beyond our present understanding.🌟 💫💕🙏✨
Being a highly sensative person I think it was honed to a fine edge in my violent fearfull childhood where I was allways on high alert.
I understand this so well. Touch is a hard thing for me. Most people don't know that just simply grabbing an arm is excruciating. I cry at everything. Even if I don't want to. I can feel it coming and do the best to curb it but it never works. When I get so mad, I cry. I'm not sad but I am bawling. I can feel other people's emotions out easily. I know when they are going through something. Great clip. 😊😊
I truly appreciate your openness to share your experience. Understanding the complicated world of emotions and feelings takes great courage. Your ability to empathize with others and connect with their feelings is an unique ability. Thank you for your kind words on the video; I'm happy that it resonated to you💫💕 Bless you and have a nice day!
I feel things very deeply. My childhood abuse crippled me in some ways, but I also let it serve me. When I can be less self-centered, my capacity for compassion and sympathy is extraordinarily high.
I appreciate your openness in sharing such a personal story. You've clearly conquered difficult times and found strength in cultivating compassion. Being able to turn your pain into empathy is truly admirable. If you ever want to share more or need help, this community is here for you. On your journey, I wish you continued growth and healing. 🌟💕
Everything about what he said about being sensitive in an unsupportive environment resonated with me. I'm 26, and I've lived a life of abuse and neglect at the hands of my family and the social relationships I've had. At this point, support and interest in me as a person are so alien that I can't help but assume that when someone shows interest, it's only because they want something, even when it's a good friend of 7+ years.
I work on my soul damn near daily, challenging myself and my thoughts to sort of correct myself in hopes of garnering true support from someone, but it's like whenever I want to let go and be the person who's been hurt so much by life and just lay down with someone I care about and decompress, instead of extended hands, I get turned backs and just...blech.
I'm still very optimistic and believe someone out there can be what I've needed and deserved my whole life, and that's what keeps me going.
I completely get what you're saying. It takes huge courage to keep on despite the weight of past wounds. Your hope and faith in receiving the help you deserve are very inspiring. Remember that healing is a journey, and those who truly care are going to be with you on it. You are not alone in this, and there are people who actually care about you. Stay optimistic - the right connections will come up and your resilience will lead you to the understanding and compassion you desires. Keep holding on to hope - it's such a powerful force. 💫💕🙏✨
@@yourinnerchildmatters Thank you so much, I will :) I've never lost hope and I don't think I know how to anymore.
@@ByrneBaby bless you and take care always ❤❤❤
Same . Good luck 😅
@@mir127 ❤❤❤🙏
Its a Gift!
A word of advice. You'll be tempted many times to say you are an HSP, but do not. People will not understand it and it will actually work against you. Even many psychologists do not accept this trait. So, the best is to keep it to yourself. Let people discover that there is something about you on which they can't really put their finger, but which they can't resist.
Thank you for sharing your thoughts! Yes, acknowledging each of our unique characteristics can be a delicate balance. Allowing others to experience the depth of who we are without labeling it can sometimes lead to a more genuine connection🌟 💫💕🙏
As a sensitive person I always feel no one cares when I share that I feel lonely and left out . Some people exploit the fact that I’m vulnerable to their advantage , not showing that you are vulnerable significantly decreased the way some people simply played around my emotions . Even now I crave deep meaningful social relationships but I have no tolerance anymore for manipulative emotional abusers.
I'm deeply sorry to hear that you've faced such difficulties as a sensitive person. Your feelings and experiences are real, and it's painful that some people use vulnerabilities. Remember that there are true, loving people out there who will value and appreciate your sensitivity. It is acceptable to set limits in order to protect yourself from emotional manipulation. Your well-being is important.
Thank you for taking the time to share your opinions with us. You are not alone, and your point of view may resonate with others who are experiencing similar difficulties. This community is here for you if you ever want to discuss or share more. Take care 💕🙏✨💖
Thank you so much for your supportive notes . Really appreciate your efforts in taking time , patience to reply to almost all .
It shows your true spirit and deep empathy for others . Kudos to you @yourinnerchildmatters .
Help us understand your background , and what you do . 😊😊
@@introvertexplorer1654 Thank you very much for your wonderful words! Reading comments like yours touches my heart and reminds me why I love engaging with this wonderful community. I'm happy for the opportunity to engage with all of you and participate in these valuable conversations. It's a blessing to work with people who are as supportive and thoughtful as you are.
In terms of my background, I'm just a passionate person who believes in the power of positivism, empathy, and self-discovery. My channel, "YourInnerChildMatters," is all about personal development, mental wellbeing, and honoring our inner child. I'm on a self-improvement journey, just like many of you, and I'm glad to have you along for the journey. It's impressive how people from all walks of life can come together and motivate one another to be the best versions of themselves. So, once again, thank you for your kind words; your words of support means everything to me!
If you have any further questions or would like to know anything specific about my background or the stuff I create, please do not hesitate to ask. I wish you all the happiness and success in the world.✨💖🥰
This really hit home. I have always been exceptionally sensitive. I remember one time when I was probably around 10, I was playing with my brother, and we came up with this scenario where I was essentially kidnapped and put in a closet. I started to play along and then suddenly I started to cry - I began to live what I was acting out. I did not understand it and of course, it freaked out my brother and his friend. Scenes like this played out through the entirety of my childhood as I pursued art - writing, drawing and creating whenever possible. Unfortunately, these "hobbies" were not encouraged in my family as it was seen as a waste of time by my father and our community as a whole, which was/is very traditional, where men act like men and get hard jobs. This led to me being told I could not pursue my dreams as an artist and, being sensitive and not mature enough to push back, I instead fled - both physically by running away from my family, and mentally by turning to drugs and alcohol. I have since been able to throw off those shackles and now, in my late forties, will be publishing my first book this year. And though it took me decades to get here, I am proud to say that I am here now. I am learning piano, writing and even dabbling in digital sculpting. I'm hoping to add in some music production to that list, but it's hard to have the time to do all this along with more standard hobbies like hiking and whatnot. Anyway, one piece of advice I would give to any young people out there who is butting heads with parents or teachers that don't understand - be true to yourself. You may fail, but that's ok, and even in that, you will never regret that you tried.
Thank you for taking the time to share your profoundly personal and wonderful journey with us. Your tale definitely resonates with many of us who have experienced obstacles and cultural pressures that have attempted to repress our creative spirits.
Your determination as well as willingness to pursue your passions in the face of difficulties is absolutely admirable. It's wonderful to learn how you've regained your path, not only as a writer but also as a multi-talented artist, ranging from piano to digital sculpture and music production. Your pursuit of these artistic endeavors shows the importance of following one's heart.
Your suggestions are quite helpful. Being loyal to oneself, especially in the face of adversity, is a powerful lesson for young people dealing with conformity demands. The story that you tell highlights how, with perseverance and self-belief, one can overcome difficulties and achieve one's goals.
Congratulations on your new book! It's a tremendous achievement, and I'm confident that your creative journey will continue to inspire and encourage others. Continue to follow your dreams, and may your artistic endeavors bring you unending happiness and fulfillment. You've shown that it's never too late to pursue what you want in life, which is a priceless lesson in and of itself. 📚🎨🎹🎶✨
Thank you. I love your post. You know who you are, and are living your best life. Yay for you!
As I get older, I am becoming more and more sensitive. I always knew that sensitivity is genetic, I got it from my mother. Yes, we highly sensitive people feel more, care more about others. I feel that being like this not very practical. I very often wish that I wouldn't be like this. I would like to brush of insults and carelessness of others, but I can't. I feel more pain than others. To avoid the pain sometimes avoid people, my high sensitivity makes me isolated.
Otherwise, I am a practical person, a financial expert, not an artist.
Dr Gabor thanks for your video. It is good to know that being highly sensitive is normal.
Thank you for taking the time to share your ideas and experiences. Remember that being very sensitive is a normal aspect of who you are, and it's okay to feel deeply about things. Accepting your sensitivity may be a source of determination, helping you to connect with others on greater depths. While it may provide difficulties at times, it does not lessen your practicality or ability as a financial expert. Finding balance and self-compassion may help you in overcoming moments of loneliness and vulnerability. Continue to be true to yourself, and thank you for watching the video! Have a blessed Sunday dear!❤️❤️❤️
Well said Alex. I’m an INTJ empath. Alone but never lonely. Bliss is the freedom and freedom is courage.
thank you for sharing your thoughts. I admire your point of view! Being an INTJ empath is a one-of-a-kind adventure, and your insight into finding pleasure in freedom and courage is very inspirational. Your courage in embracing loneliness while avoiding loneliness is admirable. Continue to shine your light 🌟❤️.
@@yourinnerchildmatters sure. I've done a lot of reading and watching documentaries on how an INTJ develops. I was neglected as a child by my parents. After going through the emotions of anger and rage I learned that self love, self admiration and self respect superceded what had happened to me. Earl Nightingales videos are excellent. He teaches is we are the sum total of our thoughts, so think positive. Also, personally, I read what the top 20 things successful men do. I incorporate that into my daily habits.
Anything else, just ask
@@frankielyman8769 It's wonderful to hear about how you've changed your life through self-discovery and positivism. Earl Nightingale's wisdom certainly resonates, and your dedication to implementing success-driven practices is admirable. Your journey symbolizes the power of self-love and persistence. Continue your success and share your insights with others! 🌈💫
@@yourinnerchildmatters 🤎
I am an INTJ ituitiv Empath not a easy life but you must learn how to live it without losing yourself. I am alone but also never lonely
When you are highly sensitive and have trauma, the sensitivity feels like a curse. For a long time, I was in so much pain, that I was like a magnet for all the pain around me. My sensitivity was in service to the pain. But if you put in the work and heal the trauma, my god, the sensitivity is like a superpower!
Your sensitivity is very beautiful!
Dr. Elaine Aron, an American psychologist, began researching high sensitivity in 1991. Dr. Elaine Aron is a highly sensitive person (HSP) herself. She established the terminology and has written books about the trait and has a website about it as well. Her research and continuing expertise about high sensitivity should be acknowledged here.
Yes. And if they aren't too ableist and stigmatizing of autism and ADHD, many of us who first identified as HSP later realize we are actually autistic and or ADHD. For reals.
I agree, and found Elaine Aron's book revelational is describing so much of what I lived with.
I agree wholeheartedly. When I read her book, "The Highly Sensitive Person" (published in 1996), I experienced "the shock of recognition" and it helped me immensely. I have seen other RUclips videos on this general topic where she was recognized for her contribution, and some gratitude was expressed ... even if briefly.
On a completely different subject, I'm wondering if there are certain types of old TV shows, or movies, etc. that HSP's might especially appreciate - or find therapeutic - that less HSP people might more typically just "shrug off" (or dismiss, or not fully get). For example: watching Mister Rogers' Neighborhood TV episodes, the children's show created by Fred Rogers decades ago. Perhaps other sentimental TV shows or old movies, specializing in being tender towards people's feelings. Children's programming (not cartoons) from 10 + years ago, or more, that could be seen as wholesome nurturing, and deeply caring about real feelings. Including some vulnerable or inconvenient ones. Maybe also teaching some good and wholesome values (and practical life lessons) along the way. At a minimum, some nice mood-altering and receiving of good messages. Filling up our tanks with good stuff!
I’ve been dealing with this my whole life, I couldn’t help but nod my head in agreement through the entire video.
I always wondered why I’d lose almost all manner of logical thought to enforce my point in an argument, and this described exactly what I feel in those moments. It gets so incredibly frustrating, knowing I have the vocabulary yet can’t get the words out.
My wife and I currently have 2 books by Gabor, I really look forward to reading them once my wife is done!
Sometimes being a HSP hurts so bad. Especially when you grew up with a toxic relationship in the family.
The 6 hour panic attacks. Sometimes week-long panic attacks.
The people pleasing because you’re terrified of
confrontation to the point where it makes you sick.
But you know you need boundaries so you try so hard to creat healthy one’s for yourself. So you read the boundaries chapter in the book “How To Do The Work” and that helps but it’s a long road.
When it seems like there’s always something that’s trying to push you to your limit and you don’t know how the fuck you’re going to do it anymore. You don’t know how you can FEEL SO MUCH ALL THE TIME.
There’s positive too.
Creating music and words that express exactly what you feel. Like some stranger in a song understands you. All because you’re in tune and sensitive. You creat things that truly touch people
I'd like to begin by stating how brave you are to share your experiences here. It takes a lot of guts to talk about the difficulties that come with being a Highly Sensitive Person, especially if you've grown up in a toxic home. Your words have a powerful impact on many people who are going through similar difficulties. The emotional suffering, panic attacks, and ongoing battle with boundaries are all heavy responsibilities that can be breaking down. However, the fact that you are acknowledging them and making an effort to create healthier boundaries is an important move forward in your journey. Remember that healing is a process, and it's okay to take your time. As you mentioned "How To Do The Work" is an amazing tool, and the fact that you're looking for ways to help yourself indicates how strong you are.
Your ability to translate your sensitivity into music and words that have an impact on others is very impressive. This vulnerability allows you to connect with strangers who find peace in your creativity. You're making a difference in people's lives by expressing what many people feel but can't put into words. Please know that you are not alone on this path. There is a community of kind souls here, and we are here to help you. Reach out to us if you ever wish to share more information or seek guidance. You're stronger than you realize, and your sensitivity is a gift that can bring the world beauty and understanding.
I'm sending you love, strength, and thanks for being an inspiration.🙏✨💖
wow thank you so much I appreciate that a lot!@@yourinnerchildmatters
A highly developed intuition can accelerate your learning ability. I learned how to ride a motorcycle in seconds. People usually take days to get it down.
I love Dr. Maté's ideas! As a highly sensitive person, I experience a lot of pain while trying to navigate in this world. Unfortunately, even though this was an interesting video, I didn't hear any tips about how to "get around in the world" when you are highly sensitive. He did say, "protect yourself." That advice is too vague for me to glean any practical knowledge from it. I would love to see a video about what it looks like to protect oneself. I have experienced so much emotional pain from the interactions I have with my own family members. I would love for Dr. Maté to elaborate on how to protect ourselves from getting hurt so deeply and so often.
Thank you for expressing yourself up about your experiences as a highly sensitive person and voicing your thoughts. Your honesty is really appreciated, and it's clear that Dr. Maté's thoughts resonated with you. I understand how difficult it may be to navigate the world as a very sensitive person, and I empathize with the emotional suffering you've felt in your interactions with family members. You are not alone in your feelings, and this is a topic to which many people are able to relate to.
I'm sorry you didn't find precise advice on how to protect yourself as a very sensitive person in this video. You're right; Dr. Maté's advise to "protect yourself" is somewhat vague, and I understand why you're looking for more specific guidance.Your suggestion for a video on how to protect oneself as a highly sensitive person is wonderful, and I'll definitely consider making content that addresses this important topic. It is important to explore practical techniques for properly managing emotions and relationships.
In the meanwhile, I would recommend looking for resources and communities that specialize in helping highly sensitive people. There are significant insights and practices that might help you in more comfortably navigating the world. Remember that your sensitivity is a unique gift, even though it might be difficult at times. We'll focus on providing more practical guidance in future videos, and I sincerely appreciate your thoughts.
Please feel free to express any further thoughts or questions you may have, and know that you are not alone.Take care and be kind to yourself.💕🙏✨💖
@@yourinnerchildmatters I am so sorry for the delay in getting back to you! I was really touched by your reply to my comment! Thank you for taking the time to write such a kind, encouraging, and thoughtful response! I really appreciate it!
Dear Dr. Mat'e: I so
appreciate your wisdom of
unlocking the psyche and
pulling the superficial
mask for us all to look
deeper beyond the
surface.
But, I do sense a haunting
melancholy in your features as well as your
tone of voice. With all
your wisdom and knowledge of the human
condition, I wonder if you
need healing from your own deepest hurts. I feel
somewhat an affinity toward you, and sense the
depth of despair still
residing within you. Maybe
it has been difficult for you
to come to a true sense of
peace and even joy in your
life. Please excuse these
words if they sound
presumptuous, for I have
learned so much truth from
hearing you speak this day.
I do know that God has given me a gift of discernment at times.
God bless your life richly
as well as your loved ones.
thank you for sharing your thoughts🙏✨💖
Spot on, took me 33 years to understand the meaning of being sensitive. I hated my self because of my sensitivity, but once I understood the meaning I started to love it. Now, I am trying to let it flow and live my sensitive side that I rejected for years... you would love my book btw. #Punkaste
Very inspiring! It's amazing how our view of ourselves may change throughout time. Accepting your sensitivity is a great path to self-love and authenticity. Continue to embrace and celebrate your authentic self! 🌟💖 Thanks for watching and bless you
Living in constant pain of fear of others, I.e. ridicule, etc.,sensitivity has been a course for me.
First and foremost, I want to say my deepest sympathy for what you are going through. Living with constant anxiety and sensitivity can be extremely difficult, and it takes great courage to freely express such personal experiences. Remember that you are not alone in the challenges you face, and there are many others who can understand how you feel. It's important to understand that sensitivity is not an imperfections, but rather an individual trait that helps you to see and experience things carefully. Accepting this side of oneself can lead to great insights and connections with others who have a similar point of view.
However, I understand how difficult it may be to deal with the fear of insults or judgment from others. It is important to remember that the opinions of others do not define your worth or the truthfulness of how you feel. Building a community of understanding and compassionate people can help you overcome these difficulties. If your anxieties and sensitivities are interfering with your daily life, you should seek professional help. Talking to a therapist or counselor can help you control your anxiety and develop healthy strategies to cope with it. Also, remember to be kind to yourself. Be gentle with yourself and recognize that it's normal to have anxieties and vulnerabilities. Growth and healing are both time-consuming and patient processes.
Finally, if you find comfort in sharing your experiences with others, keep doing so. When we open up about our challenges, we not only help ourselves heal, but we also create a safe space for others to do the same. By sharing your experience, you may motivate others to seek help and embrace their true selves as well.
Remember that you are deserved of understanding, empathy, and love. Take one step at a time and concentrate on your personal development and well-being. You have a supportive group here, and together, we will overcome the problems that life throws at us.
I'm sending you my Love and Support, ❤️❤️❤️
Your Inner Child Matters Channel
@@yourinnerchildmattersI agree with you entirely, In addition to sensitivity I have this ability call it intuitive to know if a person likes me or not in seconds,This started at junior school where I noticed girls didn't like me much because I wasn't particularly handsome unlike my brother, And as time went by other events with women left me in no doubt that the reason was I was ugly, I try'ed different things to improve my appearance and attitude, But after being rejected so many times I gave up, And became recluse and spent more and more time listening to music which was my first love and my last!!! At 72 years old to late 4 change, But there's one thing I've learnt people are cruel and hurtful, 🤔
@@keithroberts5611 Thank you for sharing your genuine feelings and experiences. It takes guts to open up about such private topics. It's sad that you've had to deal with issues of how others see you. Remember that beauty goes beyond appearances, and meaningful connections are based on much more than appearances.
It's wonderful that you have a gift to sense how people judge you. People's behaviors and comments might be unpleasant at times, but it's important to remember that their behavior reflects them, not you. Music may be a wonderful means to express feelings and find comfort.
It is never too late to make great changes in your life if you are 72 years old. Focusing on self-acceptance and the things that make you happy. Seek out people who value you for who you are and enjoy your interactions with them. Remember that kindness and empathy can help to make the world a better place. Stay strong and appreciate your passion for music! 🎶🎶
Bless you always! ❤🙏
@@keithroberts5611 I don't believe you're ugly, I think you see the monsters in others clearly, I think you're wonderful ,not everyone can see these things ,you're just too beautiful for this world
im 24 and i learn so much about myself since the last weeks i always thought there is something wrong with me why is no one teaching this some people never find out who they truly are and i just found it out myself by accident
Thank you for sharing your journey. It's inspiring to see you embrace self-discovery and grow from it.
So happy to watch this. It is very, very true.
However, not all fall into addiction, they tend to push away the feelings and push them way down.
That is because we already have so much to deal with that the last thing we want is more to have to put ourselves through.
Absolutely, I appreciate your thoughtful perspective. You are correct that many people choose to manage by suppressing their feelings because they already struggle a lot. It's important to discover healthy ways to deal with our emotions and deal with the obstacles that life throws at us. Stay strong!🌟
Thank you Gabor Mate , well articulated. Being a creative can be pain!
Thank you for taking the time to share your thoughts! Being a creative can indeed be challenging, but it's also a beautiful journey filled with passion and self-expression. Dr. Gabor Mate's perspectives are very inspirational. Continue to create and express yourself! 🎨✨
In this video, referring to its title, I didn't find any concrete advice about how to get around the world as a highly sensitive person. I just received information about how hard is for such a person to live.
There's lots of info on this about once you start looking. Being hSP is about having your senses at a higher frequency , more finely tuned. You're basically taking in more info all the time and so it means you're more suseptable to feeling burnt out or drained by things that wouldn't impact others as much. I find the key is to have plenty of down time, quiet time in low stimulus environments and plenty of alone time. Even short bursts of that will help. Also nature will re-charge you - certain environments - big cities, rush hour - will tap you out. I moved from a big city to a much smaller place and that's really helped too. hope this is useful.
those pf us who are highly sensitive are frequently bullied because we are different. people say we are weird. I remember as a young boy I didn't like to fight because even when I won the fight I felt bad that I hurt someone and made them cry. I regretted that I made them cry, it made me sad that I hurt them. And of course, no one likes to lose a fight. I was over weight asa kid. Other kids called me names and made fun of me. So, I became a loner and isolated myself as much as possible to avoid the pain. I eventualy became an angry bitter person in my mid 30's because of all the mistreatment I endured. Both in my personal life and at work. I used to be nice and friendly trying to get people to like me and be my friend. But, it didn't work. Some people pretended to be my friend only so they could take advanntage of my generosity. I eventually learned and dont trust anyone anymore. So then, some people thought I was stuck up or something. No, I simply got tired of being used and mistreated. decided to look out for myself and not care if people liked me or not. I used to ennjoy playing my saxophone. it was my release, I could play what I was feeling, happy, sad, whatever. When I finished playing, I felt so much better. Havent played for a few years now. I no longer enjoy it anymore. It no longer brings me pleasure.
Speaking of highly while I’m not sensitive I am highly observant nothing beats that
Many thanks for sharing!" Being highly observant is a wonderful trait. It enables us to get important understanding and comprehension of our surroundings. Continue to value your unique traits!
@@yourinnerchildmatters thanks but it shouldn’t be kept a secret that no one needs sensitivity when they’re observant. The facts free life from having to waste time on emotions in advance.
The piano spectrum is a great analogy. I've never heard that before - I like it.
Glad you like it!
I’m highly sensitive. I think you are right about it being genetic. Not sure the jump to creativity necessarily, esp actors. Therapists are often highly sensitive - well they are if they are any good.
Thank you for sharing your thoughts and personal experiences! It's wonderful to hear someone discussing sensitivity. You're correct; sensitivity can have a genetic component, and it's interesting to see how it shows differently in different occupations. While it may not be directly related to creativity for everyone, it is important to acknowledge the uniqueness of each person's experiences and special skills. It's worth noting that therapists, like actors, might have a high level of sensitivity, which may help them perform well in their jobs. Accepting and comprehending our own sensitivity can lead to increased self-awareness and empathy for others. I wish you a joyful and enlightening journey of self-discovery! Bless You, ❤🙏
I'm 44 years old. When I was growing up I didn't know what it was. I just knew I was different. The way I thought the way I felt things was just different. I too was a bit of a cry baby and would cry at commercials watching TV. There was something going on inside and I could feel it. It was very deep. Beautiful. Almost like a frequency. Alone time was my favorite time. As I got older I started to understand and feel things coming from other people. I was oversensitive to tone and highly aware of behavioral patterns. Something that still bothers me to this day. Hard to undo hard wiring. Something I found very interesting as I have gotten older. Is that music moves me like never before. It's almost like the frequency in my soul and the frequency in the song meet and they do a dance together. That might make some laugh, but that's the only way I know how to explain it. They say I'm a HSP. Never even heard of HSP until just the other day. I have just now discovered that there is an explanation for what I have felt ever since I was a child. It's been an amazing discovery one that I am taking my time with. At times in my life I have been very discouraged by what I have felt realizing that I didn't know anyone like me. It is refreshing to find that technical detail about myself lol HSP love those details. For those of you who are just discovering what you are experiencing is difficult and wonderful all of the same time. Enjoy the journey
Thank you very much for sharing your journey and insights. It takes a lot of courage to explore and understand oneself, especially when feeling different. Your description of the dance between your soul's frequency and music is truly beautiful and resonates with many. Embracing the discovery of being an HSP can indeed be both challenging and wonderful. Your words may serve as a source of encouragement for others going through a similar process. If you ever feel like sharing more or have questions, this community is here for you. I wish you continued self-discovery and a journey filled with beautiful moments. 🌟💖🙏
@@yourinnerchildmattersI deeply appreciate that.
I believe all life is scared. It's an amazing individuals gift that we live at all.
Thank you very much for sharing your lovely perspective on life in the comment section! I totally agree with you that every life is sacred and that each individual's very existence is a beautiful gift. It's genuinely exciting to consider the complexities and wonders of the world around us, and to recognize the inherent value of every living being. Your comment has resonated deeply with me, and I'm grateful for the reminder to cherish and appreciate the preciousness of life. Keep spreading this positive outlook,and may we continue to embrace and respect the sanctity of all living creatures. Thanks again
Not according to Buddhism, where to exist is to suffer.
@@beingsshepherd Thank you for sharing your thoughts!
What a lovely, soothing voice ❤️
thank you for watching
Lots of people, especially women, who searched for reasons why they felt so sensitive and different, came across the "highly sensitive person" definition and it made sense to them... but also, many have gone further into discovering that they are Autistic or have ADHD... most of the definition of highly sensitive people is the description of many women who are Autistic, or ADHD ir both.
High Sensitivity and Autism have some things in common but are absolute opposites at their core.
Increased sensitivity means more awareness leading to a richer life. Protect your awareness...you are the gate keeper of you. A most unique human privilege.
LIFE IS NOT EASY....BUT I ACCEPT MYSELF❤
Accepting and loving oneself while facing the challenges of life is the greatest path to growth and happiness. Keep sharing happiness and positivity! 💕🙏✨
I'm deeply grateful to have found the wisdom of Dr Maté. He's put into eloquent words what I've felt for so long but couldn't.
Thank you so much for taking the time to share your heartfelt thoughts! Dr. Maté's wisdom has a unique way of touching the depths of our emotions, doesn't it? It's wonderful how his words resonate with the very essence of what many of us have felt but unable to describe. You're not alone in feeling this way, and it's a lovely reminder of the strength of shared experiences. Let us continue this journey of self-discovery and enlightenment together.Sending Warmest regards and gratitude for being a part of this community! 🙏✨💖
Sadly, there are also people who are only sensitive to their own selfish needs and expects the world to tip-toe around their whims & fancies. So it's important to discern the differences between a person who is emotionally very connected to the environment or people around him, and one who's just a egocentric narcissistic masquerading as a sensitive soul
I completely agree! It is important to differentiate between true sensitivity and self-centered behavior. True sensitivity includes empathy and understanding, but individuals who hide their egocentrism miss the essence of genuine connection. Very well said!, thanks again and have a blessed Sunday💕🙏✨
I think it more comes down to who will turn a blind eye to those in suffering vrs who will feel that persons pain in their own soul and then act in a way that is empathetic.
So maybe use that as a way of checking who is the egomaniac…
@@Goingprobro thanks for sharing your insights ❤❤
She Channeled to god , creativity .. to creater ! I am highly sensitive and can only get along with that people . Accept the world ( because of human ) being fucked up and observing it while dealing with the pain with it .. seeing bliss in tiny things ❤
Thank you very much for sharing your thoughts and feelings. It takes great strength to navigate the world as a highly sensitive person and find comfort in the midst of its difficulties. The ability you have to find beauty in the most insignificant of circumstances is absolutely noteworthy. Remember that your sensitivity is a gift that allows you to truly experience the world, even if it does come with challenges. Maintaining a sense of happiness in the little things is a wonderful approach to create resilience. You are not alone on this journey, and your comments have touched many people who understand and relate. I wish you continuous strength and joy along the way. 💫💕🙏
Thank you sincerely for all of your helpful and informative videos, I share them often, and I'm sharing this one now.
This is me so much. I heard about HSP about 15 years ago and I bawled when I read it (I'm turning 61 soon) and it helped me so much in validating my sensitivity. Interestingly after one of the 500th times that someone said to me "you're so sensitive" I said "would you prefer that I was the opposite?" Yes, I am the canary in the coal mine, be glad that there is one. I have a very analytical mind (I read the life story of G. Westinghouse and realized that I have the mind of an inventor, though I'm extremely feeling) and in tandem with being HSP it can sometimes appear that I am being critical, but I'm not, I SEE THINGS, or smell or hear things that others don't, I have an excellent memory...so it's been a very painful life for me in many ways. Because I have a nice figure, curly blond hair and blue eyes, and am sweet and intelligent, I have been told so many times "you're special" and "You know, you're not special" and "don't let this go to your head" and those came early on from family members and of course continued through my life. (I am an ENFP) Working seriously on my emotions for the last 20 years has revealed my deep childhood issues and abuse and given me much pain but also much impetus to go forward. I have had to accept that many people will not like me because of my particular combination of talents, abilities and how I look. This has been extremely painful for me and hard for me to accept because of my (once) very low self esteem, but it's caused me to gain greater skills relating to communication, volunteering, mentoring and writing (on Quora). May I please recommend tapping to your audience? it's been a game changer for me!!! (See Brad Yates and others here on RUclips) In the midst of real pain, it's been an excellent life too, learning and caring so much for things that truly matter. There is a wonderful Nickel Creek song about how I finally feel and understand about the joy associated with my uniqueness: duckduckgo.com/?q=Nickel+Creek++songs+&atb=v314-1&iax=videos&ia=videos&iai=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.youtube.com%2Fwatch%3Fv%3D_nneEIX59I8
Thank you so much for your heartfelt comment and warm words of encouragement. I sincerely appreciate your ongoing support and sharing our videos with others.
It's great to hear how the concept of being a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP) resonated to you and validated your sensitivity. It's not always easy to navigate a world that doesn't fully comprehend or respect our unique characteristics, but your perspective as the "canary in the coal mine" is powerful. Accepting your sensitivity and recognizing how you perceive the world differently can be a life-changing experience. It's wonderful that you have both an analytical intellect and a high level of sensitivity. The ability to notice and perceive things that others may overlook is a talent, but one that comes with its own set of challenges. Others must understand that your observations and emotions are not meant to be critical, but rather to represent your enhanced senses and abilities.
Your self-discovery and emotional healing journey is extremely inspirational. Confronting childhood difficulties and abuse requires tremendous strength and fortitude, and it's admirable that you've dedicated yourself to overcoming those obstacles. These experiences frequently provide us with a desire to grow and progress.Accepting that not everyone will appreciate or comprehend your unique blend of talents and abilities can be challenging, particularly when it is related to your appearance and self-esteem. Your perseverance and determination, on the other hand, have enabled you to acquire great talents in communication, volunteering, mentoring, and writing. Your willingness to share your views and experiences on platforms such as Quora demonstrates your resilience and the great influence you may have on others.
Thank you for suggesting tapping as a resource for others. It's wonderful to hear that it's changed your life. I'm sure many people in the audience would appreciate the suggestion and the chance to learn more about this strategy. Finally, I'm happy that despite your difficulties, you've found joy and a better understanding of yourself. We may create a meaningful and rewarding existence by embracing our individuality and caring genuinely about the things that are important to us. Thank you for sharing your story; I hope it continues to inspire others.
Best wishes, and may your journey be full of continuous growth, healing, and joy. bless you
@@yourinnerchildmatters your very kind reply is staggering and rare.
As you continue to encourage and empower others, you are assured to be a part of “the solution “ rather than adding to the world’s difficulties.
It is my privilege to share whatever may be helpful to others, as tapping is. I also use a RIFE machine (spooky2) tuning forks, essential oils, flower essences, homeopathy as well as red light therapy and bio hacking my diet and exercise. It’s been sort of fun to come out thriving, from a narcissistic family and two of those husbands. All the credit goes to following the kind and loving direction of our faithful and true creator, who wants us all to succeed.
Thank you again for your kindness and effective sharing, for so many.
Acceptance of your mind, your emotions, your nervous system is only key•
I will say one thing just love yourself, go to occupational therapist, pschologist for professional help , child mind Institute also has good resources, for spritual side learn these 6 philosphies from India, called shaddarshan(6 philosphies) and Kashmir Shaivism• Why ? Knowing more about who I am ultimately helps with that acceptance of extreme sensitivity•
And try your best to stay away from news, away from people who gossip, eat clean , warm food , try to devote yourself to some hobby which uplifts you, choose that work in life for living which helps you•
Go more for nature walking, talk about your self to others whom you value and see if you can form deep relationships, deep relationships of connections really help•
Love and love to all•
Thank you very much for sharing your thoughts and recommendations! Your advice about accepting oneself and seeking expert help is priceless. It's wonderful that you've included resources for both the mind and the soul, and I really appreciate your advice on maintaining a healthy lifestyle and healthy relationships. Your kindness shines through in your words. Sending love and gratitude your way! 💖🌿
@@yourinnerchildmatters thanks Sir, for your response• thanks
What a wonderful message! i've always been highly sensitive and highly intutive , i could sense the other persons emotions and being in sales it was way more difficult. I didn't know why i'm a HSP. I always thought its a big mistake to be HSP. I've been branded as rash and reckless throughout my life. Thank you Dr. Gabor Mate. I wish medical science starts integrating human emotions when they start diagnosis for a patients! These are path breaking revelations for the entire world to understand and transform. Change is difficult but if we don't start we will be extinct soon!
I absolutely understand your experience. It's truly inspiring to hear how you've embraced your sensitivity and intuition, particularly in a difficult job like sales. Dr. Gabor Mate's insights have been both eye-opening and transforming. Remember that being a Highly Sensitive Person is a unique ability that helps us to connect closely with people and sense emotions on a deep level. Your journey to discover and accept your HSP nature shows your courage and authenticity. Let us hope that the medical sector continues to improve and includes emotional well-being in patient care. Change might be difficult, but as you clearly pointed out, it is important for our development as individuals and as a society. Thank you for sharing your thoughts with us. Have a nice day beautiful soul 💖 💖
I was emotionless my whole life until 42 when I had a stroke. Then I became sensitive overnight. It feels like I experience all emotions now. Before the stroke I was a negative person. Now I'm like super positive. The stroke is the best thing to ever happen to me. It was not a choice it's just how I ended up post stroke.
It's very impressive how life can take unforeseen unexpected turns that result in such profound transformations. Your journey from emotional numbness to experiencing the full range of emotions following your stroke is truly inspirational. It shows the human spirit's determination and how adversity can sometimes pave the way for positive transformation. The story you tell of overcoming negativity and embracing positive outlook after a stroke is an important reminder of the possibilities for personal growth and evolution even in the face of hardship. Thank you for sharing your one-of-a-kind and inspirational experience with us. Your point of view will definitely resonate with many people and bring an aspect of hope to those who are hurting🙏✨💖
To any HSPs here: I've discovered that you can be happier by changing your LOCATION too, not just your thoughts. What I mean is that foreign cultures outside of America tend to be more authentic and down to earth. Hence we fit in better abroad. You just gotta do research to find which country is best for you. But America is definitely NOT good for sensitive people at all. We fit in the worst in American culture which is very toxic and fake and antisocial. Other cultures abroad are far less toxic, and you will notice this if you travel overseas.
Indeed, you've brought up an interesting viewpoint! Exploring different cultures can provide an enriching experience and a more appropriate fit for sensitive people. It's wonderful how a change in place can help to overall happiness by allowing one to reconnect with one's authentic self. Thank you for sharing your thoughts on this important aspect of well-being! 🌍✨ bless you
absolutely true. i am from London UK - always felt "sick" there and I have lived in asia for the last decade and i feel much more aligned. Energetic resonance with the land you live on is so important for HSP's! x
@@pcosbodyhealing 100 percent agree. enjoy Asias life!, bless you
@8bg201 You are totally right. Traveling and moving may be very stressful, especially for people who are more sensitive to change. Managing such situations with appropriate preparation and self-care is important.
True. I am from Germany but was always surrounded by a narrow-minded religious and traditional community where I was always mocked and punished for being "too calm", "passive" and just me... Even reading a book was made fun of. Today I am a 33 year old teacher and can honestly say that you need to be with people who not only tolerate you but ACCEPT you. Don't linger and stay with primitive, shallow monkeys. More like with intellectual, nurturing, compassionate, creative and curious people, the doers and winners. I knew this all along but felt the internalized shame that they installed in me for thinking of myself as an intellectual. People accuse me as being arrogant with a "better than you"-attitude anyway, just because I am not participating in their daily gossips, drama and blame-games. They are projecting much and I can't endure this nonsense anymore. I have lived in many cities here but now I will finally move overseas to a big city.
I love Gabor Maté ❤ he is extraordinary!
thanks for kind words 💕🙏✨
@@yourinnerchildmatters All thanks to you for sharing this with us. 💜
Overall life as a highly sensitive person can be challenging, but there are practices, habits and perspectives we can learn to minimise the negative consequences, and maximise the useful, beautiful and meaningful parts!
A lot of obstacles, but if we persist, there is a wonderful flourishing (as a process) waiting for us.
Love and appreciation to everyone in this thread. You are not alone. Don't victimise yourself. Seek (professional) help if you need it.
That is 100% correct! Embracing our sensitivities while at the same employing good behaviors can truly transform challenges into opportunities for improvement. We may walk this road together to create an effective and meaningful existence to this day. Remember that asking help is a sign of bravery. Many thanks to everyone for their love and support in here ! 🌼💙
Any suggestions? I feel so much beauty and pain that it’s a struggle
We live in a world where noisiness, "toughness" of character, speed, and other "qualities" that sometimes make me think that the world has been turned upside down. I tried to adapt to what society demands, but that made me feel dead inside. Trying to live on automatic isn't something that's made for everyone. It's important for highly sensitive people to learn to embrace this little gift and use it to make this world a little more welcoming.
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Thank you for sharing your thoughts. Embracing our sensitivity can truly make a positive difference in the world.
I wish he would actually give advice on how to navigate the world if you are a sensitive person.
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What a wise and empathetic man
I’m at a point where I am sick of struggling to have a normal life. I’m tired of feeling defeated by people. I’m tired of being pushed down and made to feel like I should be so lucky to get whatever the f’n crumbs fall my way. I’m tired of trying to be normal when the fact is this world is just an upsetting horrible place.
Hi there, I can sense the frustration in what you said, and I'm sorry to hear you're feeling this way. Life can be difficult, and it's totally normal to become overwhelmed at times. Remember that you are not alone in the difficulties you face. It may be helpful to talk about your thoughts with supportive friends and family, or to seek professional help.
Also, try to find positive ways for expression and focus on things that make you happy. While the world might be unpleasant at times, it also offers moments of beauty and kindness. Take small steps toward making positive changes in your life, and remember that it is okay to take breaks when needed. You're stronger than you think and with time and help, you'll be able to find your way through difficult situations.
Your Inner Child Matters channel is sending you virtual hugs and best wishes on your path to a more fulfilling life✨ 🌈💫