@Incognito I was definitely wondering if she was going to get paid for this interview that is his highest viewed and part two has almost 300,000 in 1 day. Hope she has a publicist
Situations like Da'Naia's are why being single isn't an insult and being married isn't always a flex. Just because someone is married doesn't mean they're in a GOOD marriage! They're plenty of wives out here being lied to, cheated on, disrespected, embarrassed and generally mistreated. I hope black women learn to love themselves enough to stay single until they find healthy, loving relationships.
THIS! some people's grandmas had marriages like this throughout their youth, which is why i don't think the number of your years of marriage means very much. it's the quality, not quantity. i have an aunt who testified about her mother sticking with her abusive dad through years of abuse and cheating as if it was a triumph.
Being married is a flex, so is being good picking a man. But most black women can't pick a man because their fathers weren't around because their mother's were horrible pickers
Morale of the story: No matter how handsome a man is, never compromise your self-respect. Never chase a man. Never move to a different state to follow a man. Never tolerate disrespect and cheating, especially before getting married. Have sexual and emotional discipline. Heal before seeking a new relationship. No matter how painful it is to walk away, do it! The probabilities of turning a cheater into a good husband are extremely low don’t think you can change a man.
Exactly….. he wasn’t shit b4 marriage and only got worse, this demon had his wide and child in their home and lived apart from them in his condo! Like huh??!! Buuutt it’s in the past and ahe even look relieved now
@@serious7179 Since he was dark-skin or chocolate that automatically thought he was good looking. The same way they used to and some still feel about every light-skin man. Then their charm plays a big part in it too.
I hate that being a “Good woman “ is based on how much abuse we can handle in the black community 🙄 and I say the Black community because I am a black women and this is what I have witnessed in the black community I’m speaking on my OWN EXPERIENCE WITH MY CULTURE!!!!!!!!
that's because she was in an abusive relationship. Derrick gaslighted her and made her appear to lose her mind. Derrick Jaxn is the face of toxic masculinity
Exactly.. I’m learning that the men who talk at women instead of having healthy conversations with women, like her husband and other influencers I know, are actually masogynistic and slight narcissists. I had a run in with one recently and was so surprised with how he went about things.
@@farmore7105 typical sign language like Kevin Samuels said which is why nobody wants BW you mad y'all follow a man who all men you were lying LOL that's exactly why she got played🤣 WE LOVE WHITE WOMEN 😍😍😍😍😍
When she said “I got 3 therapists” I stood up. Respect. Fix you. So many women don’t have boundaries. She’s not alone. It’s possible to find a real one. Smh.
So many women are TAUGHT to not have boundaries. We are told to submit our boundaries and common sense to what the man wants and this is modeled for us over and over
@ArrogantGoddess I am Good. She’s not there yet. I draw the line at the blind leading the blind, but I respect that she has a lot to teach women who have not recognized the narcissistic abuse that they’re suffering. She did. She can help there, but I’m proud to say I don’t struggle with that. Sadly, most women who do wouldn’t be able to come up with the money. Maybe she will write a book or start telling her story elsewhere. Most people don’t invest in what they really need.
Lmao therapists don’t do anything but sit down and listen to your problems with no solutions to them while getting paid by your insurance. They don’t gaf about you.
She's gorgeous and very intelligent, being with the wrong man will derail a woman's life. we have to do the internal work before we get with a man that will come and build the trauma we haven't worked through.
Forgive me God for even the slightest chuckle I let out of my mouth seeing the memes and clicking on the videos that made a mockery of this woman’s trauma and pain. Even then, I knew this woman was going through warfare. She is SO MANY OF US. Her ordeal just happened to be on display for the world to see.. I’m soooo happy for her walking in her freedom and healing! Not many women make it! Praying continual protection and strength around her mind, peace and joy in her heart, abundance in her spirit! She was dragged in public now she will be lifted up in public! The blessings pouring out over this woman!!!! 🥹😭🙌🏾🙏🏽💯
She’s about to be his KARMA!!! This interview has humanized her in such a beautiful way. I hope she takes her story and wins with it in every way possible! She is deserving of that.
I literally said this while watching this.. specifically about the humanization of this interview & how she’s really about to find a good man after this… if that’s what she wants
Her comeback is a reminder of what happens when good women let awful men into their lives. With Derrick, she was literally losing her mind, hostile and letting herself go. Without Derrick, She’s articulate, well-dressed, beautiful and glowing. Some men will literally suck the life out of you, toss you away, and move to the next. Please beware!
Y’all was sucking his shit up like no tomorrow though. Now that the truth that most of us guys been telling you, has finally come out, now you saying what we been saying for years. 😂😂😂😂
@@Kal-El207Men were not genuine about it. It was not about helping women see the truth. Men were simply upset Derrick “threw them under the bus”. That he was a “traitor” to men. I never watched him, but it’s easy to see why women wouldn’t listen to men when all men cared about, was that Derrick wasn’t playing for “their team”.
@@Kal-El207Some of us didn't know who he was until men kept bringing him up. He was only exposing himself and men who are like him. They're the only ones who are offended. I saw him, laughed and said "He's definitely the guy he's talking about"
She knew exactly what he was. She may have had low self-esteem, but she wanted him and would do anything to get him. I am not seeing a victim. I see an active and willing participant.
@Terry Walker the multiple abortions, the supporting he's lies to the public willingly. sleeping with a men who is sleeping with multiple women I'm pretty sure there were multiple stds in that process. this situation is gross to say the least I don't feel bad for her at all birthing children in that level of toxicity knowing you're a product of toxicity
Once I finally accepted and understood that every relationship that comes into our lives is a direct reflection of the relationship we are having with ourselves, I started to heal.
The amount of respect, empathy, and grace I have for Da’Naia is overwhelming. ❤❤ She is no different than many of us - human, flawed, loving, graceful, & healing. We see you and we honor you, Sista Woman. 🙏🏽❤️
@firstname lastname Straight people spread HIV, too. Spreading ignorance like you're doing creates a false sense of safety that leads people to lower their guard and accept unnecessary risks. HIV and other STIs/STDs are not only spread by DL men.
@@firstnamelastname-tt6kh ummmm no you don’t have to be down low to contact incurable diseases and sleeping with a plethora of woman that are most likely sleeping with other men and that for sure can get anybody and std
When Da’Naia dropped real names I knew she was living with no cares. There’s a wit about Da’Naia and it’s comedic but the pain is obviously there. I’m glad she’s receiving counseling and getting back to her true self. It’s crazy how people and relationships can diminish a person personality, charm, and happiness but God always has us covered.
I was so comfortable on the yellow couch with Laterras that I was able to crack these jokes and unpack the trauma. I was delighted that he caught all my dry humor and could 😂😂😂 with me about some hard life lessons
You did great! I would of done the exact same thing! Humor helps us deal with the pain!!!! Your whole story resonates with me!! Your healing looks good sis!!!!!
When a black women HEALS she breaks generational curses and she heals the future generations! This is what healing and putting in the work looks like! Many of us women have walked her road🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹
@@truthteller4659 I used to live in military housing and those Filipino women their husbands would beat them I saw with my own eyes I have Hispanic friends and they've told me about their husband beating the crap out of them this is not an African-American woman dominated theme it absolutely is not and no woman I don't care what color she is should be abused used beat or mistreated ever see that movie The Burning Bed it was about a white woman whose white husband would beat the crap out of her and grape her he got drunk one night fell asleep after he beat her bloody she got her kids put them in the car and set the house on fire ehile he was sleeping AND IT WAS BASED OFF OF A TRUE STORY
She hit the nail on the head when she said rejection was her issue and soul-tie. That spirit of rejection will have you compromising on so many levels.
I was one of many who called her crazy for staying with him after everything. I underestimated all the factors that were at play, forgetting my own struggles and mistakes I judged her unfairly. Shes beautiful. I could listen to her all day, so erudite and charismatic. Shes glowing, im so so so glad shes broken free and is able to share her experiences as freely and as honestly as she is. Go Da'naia Go💫⬆️
Wow, she did not owe us an explanation but she came out full 100, and I appreciate her for this. I never thought she was crazy, but I thought she was holy holy and he needed to see the outside world. Turns out, this man is completely narcissistic!!! I just unfollowed him! Go queen ❤️
RC Blake's made this powerful statement....The woman who has the power to walk away 1. Gives her soul the space to heal 2. Allows the man to have clarity regarding her value 3. Is able to ponder the errors of her ways 4. Learns her own strengths 5. Recalibrate her soul and 6. Gives God space to bless her!! Keep going Danaia!!
I can’t believe this is the same woman from the videos where she came off as “crazy”. She’s so well spoken and intelligent, and also beautiful! Getting out of that toxic relationship was the best thing she could’ve ever done
Being w & dealing w a person like dj who tf wouldn't become crazy!? If he had delt w the right one, he probably wouldn't b here💯Some women will k!ll over their pain.
LISSSTEN!!! This man’s spirit picked hers out from the JUMP. He knew what type of personality she was giving off when he first saw her, and wanted just that. I thank God for bringing her out in one piece, and bringing her into a place of truth, healing, joy and success after suffering; she recognizes that the suffering was also brought on by her OWN wounds and lusts!❤️
I believe that too Spirits seek Spirits and since she was unsaved in the beginning she became a target Jesus has saved her and covered her and she will have wisdom if she decides to remarry
That part, I would've said something, bottling it up would've killed me, at the point she started passing people on the stairs he must've known she knew.
The best part about this interview is the accountability. She calls him out on his sh*t but also admits she fully participated in it willingly, allowed certain things, and taught him how badly to treat her. That is real growth and healing, when you can look back at a situation and can recognize what the other part did wrong AND admit where you went wrong as well, that's true strength.
Damn that means I must be doing some kinda healing because for the longest while I blamed my ex for our demise but within the last year I've been able to see and admit where I messed up as well... It was hard accepting my part but it got easier when I took my emotions out of it and tried to look at things rationally...guess that means I'm adulting..
Lol it’s funny because when did this man EVER present HIMSELF as a great dude to his wife ??? He literally just gave advice about how men operate and lo and behold, his wife should’ve listened cause did he lie ?
A prime example of how you don’t judge a book by its cover. She is so graceful, classy & simply beautiful inside AND out. I hate that the internet tried to clown her and didn’t even know her but God ! So happy to see her in a better space 🩷 I love to see it !!
She’s a well spoken woman and absolutely gorgeous!!! I hope she builds a platform for herself and really enjoys her new found freedom from that narcissistic man.
LISTEN!! She just connected with a ridiculous amount of woman! Mrs. Jackson, THANK YOU!!!!! We see you and appreciate your transparency. You are just like so many of us (🙋🏽♀️).
@@emmanattu yea I was a bit confused with that. Sometimes ppl, don’t know how to react. I pretty much ignored him and focused on her story! That’s hot I got passed it😅
This part!! That's why it's SOOOOOO important to speak up and out about Narc abuse and narcissism bc we really don't realize what we've been dealing with especially if you're an Empath
@@JuleneSings so when do the cheating, lying men ever get any of your wrath? I get what you are saying and she definitely deserves half of the blame for allowing her low self-esteem and love of money to keep her in this situation, but are you saying that he should be off the hook? One problem that I see is that women continually blame and belittle other women as opposed to nurturing them and trying to help them see the light. Why would you kick someone who is already down instead of kicking the person who committed the egregious act. He was the one who dishonoured his marriage. He was the one who one against God. Why are you focused on the woman?
I’m not sure if this is his interviewing style but I didn’t like how he laughed majority of the interview. She was being very transparent for the first time I wish he was a little more gentle with her.
Her story is an eye opener and would make a good lifestime movie...All you single women, please do not envy anyone's marriage or relationship because you truly never know what is going on.
She came across so well in this interview. Funny, intelligent, honest interesting and self aware. You can clearly see that her other viral moments were when she was probably really going through it. I really like her. I hope this goes to show that you really shine when you let go of dead weight ❤❤
I said the same thing… I didn’t know about it. I came because another channel was talking mess about it but NOooo! This was Amazing! I’m so happy that She has a Safe, Christian Platform where she was able to be herself! 😢She really needed this! 💕 The way he moderated & guided her through was Amazing! Girlllll…. I’m about to runnnn something through the Cashapp for a Gin-N-Coke (I mean Frozen Coke) 😂
The book I bought of his went straight in the trash! This "boy" should have 0 subscribers and supporters and I find it sad to know women, most likely black women still support this "boy".
She is stunning and able to so beautifully articulate herself and her story. I wish her so much healing and happiness in this next phase of life. She deserves it. It’s definitely her time.
@@tancart35 but not every person who has experienced trauma is able to articulate their experiences the way she is. She way she deconstructs everything so well and is so clear in her ability to express herself and her feelings is impressive. This is not about being impressed a non white person is articulate, but rather a trauma survivor regarding her feelings and experiences.
I honestly feel so bad judging Da'Naia. And this interview has shown me how we have become too comfortable with social media. Too comfortable commenting. Judging. Speculating. Her story is the same story of so many Black women walking through this world. Hurt. Rejected. In pain. Simply seeking love and doing whatever they think they can to secure that love. I don't know if she will read these comments but I apologize personally for participating in the hate train. I can't even imagine how it feels to have your worst days, your lowest point, broadcast to the whole world. I pray Da'Naia finds true love and happiness one day. She's a funny, intelligent, brilliant woman who deserves it. Derrick on the other hand... I pray that God has mercy on your soul. You reap what you sow and what he will reap in the future will be painful and humiliating. Keep shining Da'Naia and keep being who you are.
A woman who pays attention to her man knows when he touches her differently. I know exactly what Da’Naia meant when she spoke about that. If you don’t know, don’t gaslight. A woman’s intuition will not be denied.
My mama always said if you go snooping you have to be prepared to handle what you find. Never snooped during my 22 year marriage but I knew he was cheating and so I left. I found out post divorce he was cheating the last 8 years of marriage. Thank God for healing. Thank God for her healing❤️
I’m so happy she’s speaking her truth and rid herself of that baggage. Narcissistic abuse is REAL and it robs you of all your joy, slowly, overtime. It’s horrible and soul destroying. That man did her wrong and then had the audacity, everyday, to speak on women avoiding the very man he is…. As though he’s not! DIABOLICAL!!!! Empathy to her ❤ All the best on your healing journey sis 💞 Your testimony is going to free so many people 🙏🏾
That’s a typical narcissistic person, they are so grandiose. He definitely a evil person. I use to watch all his videos and read his book. Now to see the pain he put her through I even feel betrayed by his lies😢
Wow, she clearly stated she put herself in these situations. It's not just all his fault for what she went through with him. 🤦🏾♀️ She had plenty of ways of escape.
@@tropicallymixed. That attachment "soul tie" is real you have to get to a certain point to finally DRAG yourself from that person with all your strength and start healing having kids did not make it any easier either. It's the most eerie thing to go through.
Her sense of humor is gold😅 and I love how she's telling her story from a free place (no anger, no hate, no malicious intent) she was just ready to 'remove her mask' and she did it by showing up as herself❤❤❤ I love this for her. Looking forward to part 2 P.S thank you @Laterras for being gracious enough to allow her to be free from judgement while creating a safe space for her to be in her natural personable state. Most women show up as themselves when they feel safe
She is a survivor of narcissistic abuse. She is going to be ok as long as she never deals with him again. So many of us have the same story but the best part is getting out.❤ to anyone going through this, I’m praying for you. You will break free!!!
Amen!! Took me 7 years but I'm finally free!!! This was one of the hardest battles I've ever had to deal with!! I lost my 1st spouse to cancer 10 years ago and I jabe destroyed divorcing an extremely unwell narcissitic person was harder than burying my 1st love to cancer.... and that was no walk in the park itself. I now know what it's like and when people say "why didn't she just leave..." they truly don't understand the toll of narcissitic and mental abuse... manipulation and gaslighting can make you feel like you're going crazy ... So thankful she got away safely ❤ 🙏🏽
No, she's not. She knew exactly how Derreck was before she got married, even in college, and she continued to pursue him and still wanted him. Ladies, stop playing victim...suck it up!!
The amount of women apologizing is so great to see. I hope we all including my self use this as an opportunity to think beyond the surface about people
Look how well spoken, intelligent and beautiful she really is. This just shows being mentally distraught and broken can really affect one’s intellect. Da’nai is not slow nor dumb. She was traumatized.
If you suffered narcissistic abuse from a former partner, raise your hand! 🙋🏽♀️ This video resonates with many of us. I pray anyone who has suffered through this type of trauma, gets therapy and finds peace.
I remember thinking to myself, Is “struggle love” inevitable before finally receiving the ring. God, literally said to me “ I NEVER showed you that, I was willing to die for your love, not make you die for loving me.” I’m thanking God for maturing us all in his love to know the difference and gain wisdom. Love You All! Keep Growing and Keep Glowing! 🙏🏾❤️💪🏾☀️
This girl is 🔥 Well spoken, intelligent, funny, poised, graceful, etc! Derrick was probably happy social media ripped her to shreds! I’m glad she is telling her truth!
I said the same! Man, God really used this interview and Danaia to make an impact! This interview is really touching so many of us, a tap on the shoulder for us, and a reminder of where we all have been and the grace we’ve received. She is us and we are her! Such a beautiful spirit. She’s gonna be just fine! ☺️
She seems to be doing so much better than when those clips went viral, which makes me happy. It's incredible how trauma can change you and weigh you down when you're still in it. Glad this sister prioritized her healing.
He was molding her from the beginning. He wasn’t afraid she would leave, he knew she would stay. I’m glad she’s healing and finding her light. She’s hilarious in her story telling. This level of transparency will help a lot of women
@@Ash2beauty Attraction for men and women is not symmetrical. We look for different things. Most women don’t learn until they reach their epiphany phase
@@eveleo5066 ….true. However, who are we to judge? Have you never made a mistake? Acted out of emotion as opposed to logic? I’m sure she’s asked God for forgiveness at this point. I would hate to be judged for entire life’s doing because of one mistake.
Who knew she had such a charming sense of humor. She is such a beautiful person and has such an inspiring soul. I am so glad she's finally speaking her truth and is No longer the shell of a woman we once saw on social media. Her grace and empathy is so motivating. I wish her nothing but peace and happiness.
She unpacked her story owning it..... without blaming him,she is using 'I did this ,I did that.....a clear indication that she is in a good space mentally.May she receive blessings from above n may her testimony help bring light to anyone in a dark place in this season.
She chased him; continued creating soul ties; and manipulated him into marrying her. She used other men to make him jealous. She knew exactly what she was getting herself into. I’m not defending him, but this woman is NOT a true victim. Derick remained true to his character. She was totally on board. Remember he said, she wrote or helped write the books. She wanted the ring, got it, and all the pain that came with it. My main point…. She knew exactly who this man is/was.
@@oneofakind2276 your right, it's called been human. Personally at 45 years old, I can say that I have never allowed a man to treat me like a second choice. However, wisdom teaches me that we do not all behave the same way even after experiencing trauma in our early year's. I have empathy for her and I am blown away by her GROWTH, accountability after the fact (many never get to this stage). She has arrived and not only is she beautiful but she actually has a personality that only now we are we seeing. I wish her all the best and everyone else who is actively seeking healing.
@@haddynjie8068 Has she healed or is she trying to upstage him? Trying to brand herself by playing victim?? Exposing her toxic vindictive behavior to further damage her ex-husband who has recovered from the love spells she cast on him? Is she seeking healing or revenge??? Maybe both 🫶🏻🤔…. Answered my own question…. Good day
@@oneofakind2276You sound so judgmental of her. Thank GOD you are NOT GOD. On top of that she’s admitting what she did AND she was young AND she’s still healing daily (as it is taking her time to be healed completely) bc she did mention she was r**ped so she now understands she should have gotten healing before getting into a relationship with him and she also stated due to that situation it made her act like that bc of not being healed. You must be soooo perfect and have lived a clean life without mistakes. If the ONLY reason you wanted to hear her story is to criticize her why are you here on this platform listening if all you wanted to do was criticize her and please spare me saying you’re not bc your first comment says it all. You gave an opinion than tried to validate your reasons as to why you made your judgmental comment then got the nerve to ask is she healed or upstaging him? 🤔 Make it make sense.
Just like he don’t play about us, she’s a part of the collective. So relatable - we are so strong and powerful even in the midst of re-birth. It’s a beautiful reminder! 🖤🙏🏾✊🏾
The fact that she was able to openly acknowledge the toxic traits she had at the time of their relationship while discussing the hurt done to her is very mature and a sign of someone giving the full truth of the matter. Thank you for sharing this
Girl I must say I repent for all judgement and criticism you received from me even if it was just in my heart! Your story is most of our story in some aspect… we should have rallied around you…. You are not a joke or something that should have been funny… your story was all of ours in some form or fashion. Blessings to you on your journey of continued healing ❤️🩹 and thank you for being brave enough to share it with us!❤❤❤
Many of us judged her harshly after those videos on social media but truth be told, many of us could relate to her story. Childhood trauma, attracting an unhealthy partner, and completely losing herself in the experience of it all.
When everything happened. I went on her IG page and she actually wrote about this on IG. It’s a long read but I got a understanding, I never judge her especially after reading that. If you want to read it you have to scroll all the way down because it was years ago
She defaults to silence. That’s her natural response to trauma. In that space she can protect herself and plan next steps. Think about how many times she has kept things, cried in the closet, snooped and watched quietly. She has a rich and deep internal space that she creates to protect herself. 😢 Her silence 🤫 made her even more easy to target, abuse and torture. He was cruel.
I respect her because this podcast means she recognized that her silence emboldened her and no longer served her purpose. There aren’t many places he can hide. More importantly, she will be more at peace with herself when she chooses to go within.
I am not a quiet person. I have to talk things out. But, I do shut down when I am ashamed of myself. I lose my words. I cling to stillness as my thoughts race. My ex husband benefited from my shame. So, for me - it’s about creating safe spaces and having people I trust around me to preserve my energy and allow me to restore myself and find my words, practice my voice. Trauma is such a thief. It goes for broke. It steals everything you allow. So, I’m constantly addressing it and protecting it from stealing my confidence and joy, which is hard to get back. It’s been 5 years and I have times when I’m triggered by the oddest things, situations and people. I’m set to write a book about my life at that time, I’ve procrastinated on writing because I am forced to relive that dark part of my past. Today - I will find the words and shame the devil.
As a woman of almost 40 years... we have all been this woman in life. For me, it was my ex-husband... we just lower our standards and boundaries for trash. Lessons to learn and move on 🙌🙌❤ well done in your glow and grow up💯
I never was to the extent of what she went through and put up with but I know what you mean. We've all gone through being played, lead on, cheated on, lied to, disrespected and/or staying much longer than we should have. Even in little doses, like if the situation-ship only lasted 6 months. For me, I remember my intuition telling me that something was not right with him but I let my feelings keep me hooked to him. Then I learned that just because we have feelings for someone does not mean that we have no choice except to endure disrespect.
This chapter is called Deliverance. ❤ She has been delivered from the bondage. SISSS YOU ARE BEAUTIFULLY AND WONDERFULLY MADE Da'Naia❤❤❤❤ your sense of humor is 😂😂😂😂
She is the example of the saying, “never judge a book by its cover”. I had so many negative ideas about who she was but seeing this completely changed my mind! Her husband never deserved her and I’m glad she’s free to live her life as her true self. Doing this interview was a good look for her!!👍🏾👍🏾
I saw her as wounded and exploited and used by a demon seed. She was with a predator. He sniffed her out and knew he could bend her tear her and control her because she was vulnerable when he met her. He was like yessssss, perfect victim!
You know what…social media had me really judging this girl. But the episode has shown a different side of her. She’s intelligent. She’s beautiful. She’s funny. And she seems like she’s a very smart young lady. I pray for emotional healing for her.
I laughed at the memes of this lady in her bonnet and I am completely ashamed of myself. I cannot imagine dealing with that type of trauma. I’m glad she was able to tell her story and she’s healing 🙏🏾
@Crystal Joseph I didn’t and my reason is I was going through the same thing. I wasted 15 yrs holding onto a man who dragged me through hell and back. I died trying to give birth to him. September 2023 will make 17 yrs I know him. The love I give to that man I would NEVER give another man that again. I have resolved to spend the rest of my life single.
@@FAMD4SH I am so sorry to hear that! Glad you are in a better space. For the life of me I could not understand why she would stand with a man that put her through so much. But since I started following her I caught on. He broke her and only if someone is in this type of situation they would understand.
I'm so glad she finally sat down to tell her side. I always knew this young lady wasn't as psycho as some folks tried to make her out to be. I hope she continues the healing process for herself and her kids. I am 10,000% sure her EX had no idea she would ever be strong enough to step out and tell her story. He is probably somewhere really panicking. She has a testimony that should encourage so many others and I am rooting for her! The fact that this dude (her EX) still has a large following of women just floors me. Talk about Black Male Worshipping...SMH
I was shocked that he still has followers too. Over 700,000 people are still following him... Yes I had to look just to be sure that my suspicion was not wrong. But also, some people don't feel there is anything wrong with what he's done
You touched on something: her kids. Who knows what they witnessed during the marriage. May they receive the healing they need also from this tumultuous marriage. May we keep them covered in prayer.
She is absolutely lovely! Derick really fumbled the bag BIG TIME. His career will not be the same after this. Da'nai YOU HAVE A MINISTRY MAMA to help many broken women!
I hope his career suffers from this cause right now it doesn't look like he reaped anything he sowed. He needs to get humbled cause he is still on this "guru mantra/relationship coach" out here, preaching a life he doesn't even live. I hope this interview makes numbers. Glad she could tell her story.
Some blogger said when the cheating scandal broke, that she had the power to be bigger than him. They even speculated thar she wrote so well that they wouldn't be surprised if she wrote his books. She could have a huge platform, should she choose that route. I wish her and her kids well.
This is many of our stories. Being rapped, struggling with self worth, settling with a unhealthy mate, trauma bonding and healing for the public to see. No one will know all you felt. What you had to experience. We hear your heart! We love you and praying for you queen. You will win in front of your enemies!
As a Doctor I have treated women before and after abuse. The woman's whole affect changed dramatically from confident to cowering. Their is a tribe of God loving women who try to love their husbands the way GOD designed whose men try to break them. Look at what God made in this beautiful woman. She is radiant❤
She has the same testimony as most women, of any ethnicity. So proud she shared her story because a lot of us assumed she was crazy. But I never doubted she married a dud. If she plays her cards right, she can lead many women out of this toxic manosphere through her stories and lessons learned.
@Coaching By Daisy Playing her cards right is not an underhanded/back handed misogynistic compliment. It’s a fact. She clearly continued to date and marry someone who exhibited “toxic” behavior early so she bears some responsibility and hopefully from now will play her cards right. You sound sensitive and like you’re projecting.
He don’t care. Man like d.j. Move on to the next & use people at their disposal. Their incapable of having genuine feelings. They look for ways to capitalize etc
Unfortunately narcissists don't care. Quite frankly he's in exponentially worse shape than her. She's fully aware of her actions and contributions and has take steps to healing. He's has not. It is a special kind of help to continue through life making the same mistakes and exhibiting no growth.
After watching the infamous "Bonnet" video, I cried so hard for this women. I recognized her pain and took it on, as I have experienced similar pain. Today, I am so proud of her healing and now crying for her joy! Thank you God she has overcome!
Kayla, I couldn't believe this was the same woman from the "Bonnet" video! This is proof that God can heal from the inside out! He is a Keeper!!! She definitely does not look like what she has been through!!
I just wanna compliment the host for handling her with such delicacy, empathy, care and compassion. You made her feel that she could safely be vulnerable under your care to share her story. I'm not gone judge her nor make any assumptions. I'm very proud to her get to this point of healing on her journey, much love to this woman n the host for sharing ❤
@@jesslove8372thank you! He laughed too much and she romanticized the situation if not more. Every time she mentioned a male he asked was she sleeping with that person in such a condescending and immature tone. Not once did he ask her to break down into detail any of the cheating allegations she launched against her husband. I believe that he did all of that but I wished she had went into detail what he did to her like she did when she talked about what she did to keep him around.
This woman is so dang, down-to-earth and the internet made her seem as if she was a crazy fool. I am so glad she was able to speak her truth on this episode. Thank you so much! I hope this young lady truly heals from this experience and I only wish her nothing but the best!
OMG! I’m so glad this interview happened. The world only saw the tail end of almost 15 years of trauma!!! So glad she’s in a much better place spiritually, emotionally, and mentally. 🙏🏾💜
The world saw the tail end because she looked over the beginning too many times smh I'm trying to figure out what everyone else is seeing and hearing from this interview like she was just a victim of everything. She clearly said she played a part in all of it. It is not all on one person, they both play the part in all of this mess and they laugh majority of this interview but nothing was funny.. This is tragic!!
@@84mztoya Like the millions of women who prioritise looks over morals and principles, she made her bed. Also think about the many good men she overlooked and the guy she used in college to get back at Derrick.
@@84mztoya There is laughter from relief as well ... Mr. Whitfield is a healed man now on the other side of his own transgressions and can be more a of a protector and safe place than many of us Black women experience from day to day from men in our community ... there is a lot of relief for many of us when FINALLY we can sit and talk with a man who isn't trying to use us up. Laughing and being relieved and experiencing joy again means we are not going to make camp and LIVE IN THAT TRAGEDY ... it means we are going to move on with LIFE. Mr. Whitfield is moving on. Mrs. Jackson is moving on. Joy and laughter and the relief of being able to enjoy the same is part of the process.
shes actually funny. you can tell shes in therapy, so much self realization. i love hearing people tell us their faults. we live in a world of delusion and ego, its educational to see someone be that transparent.
Grateful for her transformation and awakening. It's clear her husband specifically targeted and preyed on her naivete. Those of us who've seen and experienced the type of "game" he ran on her know. She is strong for sharing her vulnerabilities and story. 🙏🏾
I stopped watching her husband videos out of respect for her. I've heard horrible things about her without knowing her story, but have said there's more to accrpting that treatment. The greatest individuals are built through the most horrific traumas. Blessings sister
Yes, I stayed ON CODE… something many women are to traumatized to do! This man publicly humiliated his wife, and you still continue to listen to his advice and keep him paid? Nah!!! Empathy to this beautiful woman. I know she’s going to be GREAT. Her healing journey is a true testament 💞
@@jpetty2935 he's a proud abuser. It speaks to the state of mind women are existing by viewing his idealism as valuable. Unhealed women or people in general don't realize they are causing themselves more trauma, more hurt and a longer healing process when helping people like him monetize on their pain.
She is so classy, poised, SUPER intelligent and most of all Hilarious! God cover her at all cost. She has such a natural relatable story telling that is going to help save so many women out here. No one should ever judge her because we have all been through similar things like this! I can’t wait for a GOOD man to find her one day and love her in the way she deserves. Awkward black girl is actually the captivatingly beautiful swan!♥️♥️
I’m an awkward black girl that got used due to my naivety and low self esteem. Men preys on young women like that. Sad to see. Y’all younger women please do not fall for the traps.
Wanna show DA'NAIA JACKSON love? Let's blow her mind!
CashApp $DaNaiaJackson
This pinned post should have been the first comment… not just posted 7 minutes ago
Derrick running out of alimony 🤣
Currently out of the country, I'll when I get back to the USA.
Deff showing her love, I hope she makes a lot of content in the future on YT and TikTok. She earned a fan off this.
@Incognito I was definitely wondering if she was going to get paid for this interview that is his highest viewed and part two has almost 300,000 in 1 day. Hope she has a publicist
Her husband is the best relationship coach because he was telling people about avoiding people like him. A serial killer can catch a serial killer
Exactly! In his videos, he was describing himself.
Exactly. I hope she remarried someone that is a million times better than him.
So well said 💯
Listennnnn
FACTS!!!
Situations like Da'Naia's are why being single isn't an insult and being married isn't always a flex. Just because someone is married doesn't mean they're in a GOOD marriage! They're plenty of wives out here being lied to, cheated on, disrespected, embarrassed and generally mistreated. I hope black women learn to love themselves enough to stay single until they find healthy, loving relationships.
THIS! some people's grandmas had marriages like this throughout their youth, which is why i don't think the number of your years of marriage means very much. it's the quality, not quantity. i have an aunt who testified about her mother sticking with her abusive dad through years of abuse and cheating as if it was a triumph.
Being married is a flex, so is being good picking a man. But most black women can't pick a man because their fathers weren't around because their mother's were horrible pickers
@@tabootabletalkpodcast what’s the FLEX 💪🏽? Tell us please 🙏🏽
So true.
💯💯💯
Look at her. Hair. Makeup. Shadow work. Healing. Self worth. I’m proud of her.
Amen 🙏🏽
Me too JESUS is Lord. He is a healer and deliverer for real!
She is barely recognisable! Not just the looks, but her whole state of mind has completely changed! THE SPELL IS BROKEN! OUR GIRL IS FREE!!
Yes! Her energy is so much lighter!
@@taylorspastpresent1014 iiiooik😊
Morale of the story: No matter how handsome a man is, never compromise your self-respect. Never chase a man. Never move to a different state to follow a man. Never tolerate disrespect and cheating, especially before getting married. Have sexual and emotional discipline. Heal before seeking a new relationship. No matter how painful it is to walk away, do it! The probabilities of turning a cheater into a good husband are extremely low don’t think you can change a man.
Exactly….. he wasn’t shit b4 marriage and only got worse, this demon had his wide and child in their home and lived apart from them in his condo! Like huh??!! Buuutt it’s in the past and ahe even look relieved now
Very true and very wonderful statement! And he's not even all that good-looking LOL... I'm not sure why black women were so caught up in him
Amen sister but she was raped she was not in her right mind
Amen!
@@serious7179 Since he was dark-skin or chocolate that automatically thought he was good looking. The same way they used to and some still feel about every light-skin man. Then their charm plays a big part in it too.
I hate that being a “Good woman “ is based on how much abuse we can handle in the black community 🙄 and I say the Black community because I am a black women and this is what I have witnessed in the black community I’m speaking on my OWN EXPERIENCE WITH MY CULTURE!!!!!!!!
FACTSSSSSSS
Exactly!! So true
Sooo True! & Sad
I wish I was a Muslim in the Middle East
@@Javiertorres-k10idiot
Abuse makes the victim look crazy. I'm glad she presented herself well on this platform.
Sadly more judges aren't aware of this for the last 20 years..
@realfreedomofspeech -
Yes. The Bible says it this way: “Surely oppression makes a wise man mad.” (Ecclesiastes 7:7)
She’s lying at several junctures though. She’s just as much, if not worse, of a hypocrite than Derek Jackson. Damaged goods.
@@carpediem4512 Y’all can’t wait to call a woman damaged goods when .. you ..y’all MEN! Are always the culprit of damaging women
that's because she was in an abusive relationship. Derrick gaslighted her and made her appear to lose her mind. Derrick Jaxn is the face of toxic masculinity
We need more Black men who create safe spaces for Black women. S/o to this man!
Exactly.. I’m learning that the men who talk at women instead of having healthy conversations with women, like her husband and other influencers I know, are actually masogynistic and slight narcissists. I had a run in with one recently and was so surprised with how he went about things.
King is trying to make his money. He doesn't care abiut safe space.
Again just like Derrick jaxn y'all like men who tell y'all what y'all want to hear and don't hold y'all accountable LOL
@Mike Mike Man, let it go. Just go get a man and stop trying to vs. battle women.
@@farmore7105 typical sign language like Kevin Samuels said which is why nobody wants BW you mad y'all follow a man who all men you were lying LOL that's exactly why she got played🤣 WE LOVE WHITE WOMEN 😍😍😍😍😍
When she said “I got 3 therapists” I stood up. Respect. Fix you. So many women don’t have boundaries. She’s not alone. It’s possible to find a real one. Smh.
So many women are TAUGHT to not have boundaries. We are told to submit our boundaries and common sense to what the man wants and this is modeled for us over and over
@@chocolatemint9225 part of your statement is true, but Black women are manipulated into being subservient to family, discriminative bosses and so on.
Fix u? Sir u sound like u need fixing
@ArrogantGoddess I am Good. She’s not there yet. I draw the line at the blind leading the blind, but I respect that she has a lot to teach women who have not recognized the narcissistic abuse that they’re suffering. She did. She can help there, but I’m proud to say I don’t struggle with that. Sadly, most women who do wouldn’t be able to come up with the money. Maybe she will write a book or start telling her story elsewhere. Most people don’t invest in what they really need.
Lmao therapists don’t do anything but sit down and listen to your problems with no solutions to them while getting paid by your insurance. They don’t gaf about you.
She is funny, delightful, transparent, self-aware, and real. This interview did her right.
I totally agree!!!
She's gorgeous and very intelligent, being with the wrong man will derail a woman's life. we have to do the internal work before we get with a man that will come and build the trauma we haven't worked through.
Yes ❤
She is the whole package. Dont know why he wasn't satisfied.
She really is, and it did..
Forgive me God for even the slightest chuckle I let out of my mouth seeing the memes and clicking on the videos that made a mockery of this woman’s trauma and pain. Even then, I knew this woman was going through warfare.
She is SO MANY OF US. Her ordeal just happened to be on display for the world to see.. I’m soooo happy for her walking in her freedom and healing! Not many women make it!
Praying continual protection and strength around her mind, peace and joy in her heart, abundance in her spirit!
She was dragged in public now she will be lifted up in public! The blessings pouring out over this woman!!!! 🥹😭🙌🏾🙏🏽💯
☝️- ALL OF THIS
This
Ti this was so beautifully and honestly written! ❤ Keep writing Ti📚 authors recognize authors 🦋
it just shows how evil women can be
Yes!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
She’s about to be his KARMA!!! This interview has humanized her in such a beautiful way. I hope she takes her story and wins with it in every way possible! She is deserving of that.
Nope women reward this behavior like she did to he dropped her.
@@wonderfullyreneeprobably low self esteem lost women.
I promise you I felt that
I agree with you!!!
I literally said this while watching this.. specifically about the humanization of this interview & how she’s really about to find a good man after this… if that’s what she wants
Her comeback is a reminder of what happens when good women let awful men into their lives. With Derrick, she was literally losing her mind, hostile and letting herself go. Without Derrick, She’s articulate, well-dressed, beautiful and glowing. Some men will literally suck the life out of you, toss you away, and move to the next. Please beware!
Y’all was sucking his shit up like no tomorrow though. Now that the truth that most of us guys been telling you, has finally come out, now you saying what we been saying for years. 😂😂😂😂
@@Kal-El207Men were not genuine about it. It was not about helping women see the truth. Men were simply upset Derrick “threw them under the bus”. That he was a “traitor” to men. I never watched him, but it’s easy to see why women wouldn’t listen to men when all men cared about, was that Derrick wasn’t playing for “their team”.
@@Kal-El207Some of us didn't know who he was until men kept bringing him up. He was only exposing himself and men who are like him. They're the only ones who are offended. I saw him, laughed and said "He's definitely the guy he's talking about"
@@Minxii118Yep. Only the exposed ones cared that he was exposing them
@@Kal-El207 I never liked him. I thought he was a fraud.
I was missing my ex until I watched this.. 😫😒 Thank You Jesus !!! 🙏🏾🔥🙌🏾💪🏾
Stay strong, sis!!!
Lmao good for you sis 😂❤️
Amen 🙌🏾🔥💪🏾🤣
@@steffdominique won’t He do it !!! And Ima Obey Him too !!! 🔥🔥🙌🏾🩸😄
Won’t he do it.!
He completely took advantage of her innocence, naïveté and attachment issues. He’s despicable. She was suffering from such low self-esteem 😞
This part!
he didn't take advantage. he picked her for that specific reason!!! That's what makes men lik him ceazy
She knew exactly what he was. She may have had low self-esteem, but she wanted him and would do anything to get him. I am not seeing a victim. I see an active and willing participant.
@Terry Walker the multiple abortions, the supporting he's lies to the public willingly. sleeping with a men who is sleeping with multiple women I'm pretty sure there were multiple stds in that process. this situation is gross to say the least I don't feel bad for her at all birthing children in that level of toxicity knowing you're a product of toxicity
@@terrywalker2437She was a victim. That man cheated on her like crazy and gaslit her.
Once I finally accepted and understood that every relationship that comes into our lives is a direct reflection of the relationship we are having with ourselves, I started to heal.
Deep
Define a good man
So powerful and so TRUE!!!
@@ISaidItIDidIt God defines that. Ain’t no “good” without His validation
boom. you dropped this 👑
It's so nice to see a little bit of Da'Naia's personality outside of being a wife. She's absolutely beautiful, funny, and kind.
The amount of respect, empathy, and grace I have for Da’Naia is overwhelming. ❤❤ She is no different than many of us - human, flawed, loving, graceful, & healing. We see you and we honor you, Sista Woman. 🙏🏽❤️
Thisss truth...she is no different than MOST women.
@@izion515 😂
Facts !!!! ❤❤❤❤
She sounds a lot like me as a young adult. I have such respect for her after hearing her story. I wish her the very best in life and in love 🙏🏽
for real for real cos life has happened to and will happen to the best of us. Phew, the trauma, the triggers. Jesus be a healer.
I need her to write a book and I need Lifetime to make a movie about their relationship! This girl deserves to profit off this trauma in EVERY way.
Glamourising the BS helps fuel others.
Just don't let Tyler Perry get his hands on it. . .
Yep, I totally agree. Squeeze this trauma for all the money it's worth.
@@LYBism But this the type of stuff that goes on with TP movies and then yall try to pretend these type of women and relationships don't exist
With you on that one
The fact that he didn’t give her aids or hiv is a miracle
Or any other incurable STI 🤷
I kept saying that throughout the entire interview
THAT, we don't know.
@firstname lastname Straight people spread HIV, too. Spreading ignorance like you're doing creates a false sense of safety that leads people to lower their guard and accept unnecessary risks. HIV and other STIs/STDs are not only spread by DL men.
@@firstnamelastname-tt6kh ummmm no you don’t have to be down low to contact incurable diseases and sleeping with a plethora of woman that are most likely sleeping with other men and that for sure can get anybody and std
When Da’Naia dropped real names I knew she was living with no cares. There’s a wit about Da’Naia and it’s comedic but the pain is obviously there. I’m glad she’s receiving counseling and getting back to her true self. It’s crazy how people and relationships can diminish a person personality, charm, and happiness but God always has us covered.
I was so comfortable on the yellow couch with Laterras that I was able to crack these jokes and unpack the trauma. I was delighted that he caught all my dry humor and could 😂😂😂 with me about some hard life lessons
I don’t know what everyone else was watching, but I totally understand why you both were giggling. You are hilarious and congrats on your healing!
You’ve healed and it shows
You did great! I would of done the exact same thing! Humor helps us deal with the pain!!!! Your whole story resonates with me!! Your healing looks good sis!!!!!
What a powerful light you are. Laughter is the best medicine.🎉
Sharing your story took courage. Happy to see you healing 💯🔥‼️.
When a black women HEALS she breaks generational curses and she heals the future generations! This is what healing and putting in the work looks like! Many of us women have walked her road🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹
just stay away from black men. Then you will be fine.
Preach!!!
Amen and Amen🙌🏾
Well said
Any person, not just 'a black women'
She’s actually very likeable and relatable. I think every woman at some point has experienced a no good man
Not all women
never to this degree. this is extreme low self esteem like many married black african american women experience 🧿
ABSOLUTELY, MOST of us have had some NO GOOD TRASH a** men
@@truthteller4659 I used to live in military housing and those Filipino women their husbands would beat them I saw with my own eyes I have Hispanic friends and they've told me about their husband beating the crap out of them this is not an African-American woman dominated theme it absolutely is not and no woman I don't care what color she is should be abused used beat or mistreated ever see that movie The Burning Bed it was about a white woman whose white husband would beat the crap out of her and grape her he got drunk one night fell asleep after he beat her bloody she got her kids put them in the car and set the house on fire ehile he was sleeping AND IT WAS BASED OFF OF A TRUE STORY
Many can spot em a mile away and don’t let ‘em pass go. They target the broken women. Then can sniff em out of a crowd of thousands.!
She hit the nail on the head when she said rejection was her issue and soul-tie. That spirit of rejection will have you compromising on so many levels.
Very True!
She completely underestimated her own charm and beauty. But I’m glad she found it. ❤
🙏🏿⚡️
❤
Yes she is funny too, this was unexpected.
Yes she is absolutely beautiful with a wonderful personality. She will be blessed with a good man, there is a silver lining to all of her hurt.
I never thought she was ugly
I was one of many who called her crazy for staying with him after everything. I underestimated all the factors that were at play, forgetting my own struggles and mistakes I judged her unfairly. Shes beautiful. I could listen to her all day, so erudite and charismatic. Shes glowing, im so so so glad shes broken free and is able to share her experiences as freely and as honestly as she is. Go Da'naia Go💫⬆️
Thisssssss
Sas Thyme - I WAS THE SAME, I FORGOT MY PAST AND WHAT COULD BRING SOMEONE TO PUT UP WITH THIS 😢🫣🫤😬
Thanks for acknowledging it. When I saw that she stayed, I knew that religion had something to do with it so I didn’t judge her.
Thank you for adding this comment for me.
Wow, she did not owe us an explanation but she came out full 100, and I appreciate her for this.
I never thought she was crazy, but I thought she was holy holy and he needed to see the outside world. Turns out, this man is completely narcissistic!!!
I just unfollowed him! Go queen ❤️
RC Blake's made this powerful statement....The woman who has the power to walk away 1. Gives her soul the space to heal 2. Allows the man to have clarity regarding her value 3. Is able to ponder the errors of her ways 4. Learns her own strengths 5. Recalibrate her soul and 6. Gives God space to bless her!! Keep going Danaia!!
I love this statement
@@DawnieM IKR! And it's so true. When you're in the thick of it you're stuck. You have to remove yourself so you can SEE clearly and become stronger!
Yes girl! He hit it hard with that message !!!
Which episode is that in?
YESSSSS!
I can’t believe this is the same woman from the videos where she came off as “crazy”. She’s so well spoken and intelligent, and also beautiful! Getting out of that toxic relationship was the best thing she could’ve ever done
I hope she can find a relationship she deserves
Being w & dealing w a person like dj who tf wouldn't become crazy!? If he had delt w the right one, he probably wouldn't b here💯Some women will k!ll over their pain.
@@idrawattention900 he may just find her lol.
God is a God of restoration!
yup so she can be lonely like the rest of us because I dislike happy couples
LISSSTEN!!! This man’s spirit picked hers out from the JUMP. He knew what type of personality she was giving off when he first saw her, and wanted just that. I thank God for bringing her out in one piece, and bringing her into a place of truth, healing, joy and success after suffering; she recognizes that the suffering was also brought on by her OWN wounds and lusts!❤️
She was the perfect narcissistic supply and “back up plan.”
Amen
Girl, when I was listening to her I said the SAME thing.
I believe that too Spirits seek Spirits and since she was unsaved in the beginning she became a target Jesus has saved her and covered her and she will have wisdom if she decides to remarry
I was thinking this same thing. He lovebombed her... & then kept her around to be loyal to him while he did whatever he wanted.
Him not knowing that she knew...he became so FULL AND BLIND OF HIMSELF that he began WARNING WOMEN ABOUT MEN LIKE HIM. Amazing.
This is so true and was so obvious to me whenever I watched his videos.
He's a narcassist, same spirit of Jezebel. He's dangerous. Hope he repents before his expiration date on earth
Self- deception at its finest. YES🤌🏾💯
That part! The delusion was real!
That part, I would've said something, bottling it up would've killed me, at the point she started passing people on the stairs he must've known she knew.
The best part about this interview is the accountability. She calls him out on his sh*t but also admits she fully participated in it willingly, allowed certain things, and taught him how badly to treat her. That is real growth and healing, when you can look back at a situation and can recognize what the other part did wrong AND admit where you went wrong as well, that's true strength.
❤❤❤❤
That's how you know if someone really loves the other person as well. She's not the problem
That’s the only healthy way to actually heal. You need to take accountability for the part you played otherwise you’ll stay a victim your whole life!
Damn that means I must be doing some kinda healing because for the longest while I blamed my ex for our demise but within the last year I've been able to see and admit where I messed up as well... It was hard accepting my part but it got easier when I took my emotions out of it and tried to look at things rationally...guess that means I'm adulting..
@@-Epiphany🎉🎉🎉🎉❤❤❤ yeah!! You get that growth and all the blessings that come with it!!!!
If a man disrespects your parents, leave him immediately.
To be honest, she’s actually charming person.
She’s also beautiful, accountable, and self aware.
I was just thinking that! She’s super likable
Yessss. I was thinking the same thing. Beautiful!!
@🖤Arrogant Goddess🖤 I mean everyone has to use their own judgement and minds
I personally wouldn’t pay for any courses at all.
“Charming” is exactly the word that comes to mind.
Right, this the first time I have ever seen her in this light! She is very beautiful! Wow, he gave her up for a section 8 thot!
This should be studied and analyzed and written in the history books. This is the biggest lesson in "social media is not real"
That part ❤
Especially how the host (who is a self confessed serial cheater) laughs through out the stories of abuse and trauma...
@@sisilili9055 well..
Lol it’s funny because when did this man EVER present HIMSELF as a great dude to his wife ??? He literally just gave advice about how men operate and lo and behold, his wife should’ve listened cause did he lie ?
NOT REAL!!!!!!
A prime example of how you don’t judge a book by its cover. She is so graceful, classy & simply beautiful inside AND out. I hate that the internet tried to clown her and didn’t even know her but God ! So happy to see her in a better space 🩷 I love to see it !!
I feel like the trolling reminded her she deserved better, but we shouldn't be that mean...
@@sweetcheeks4EVER yes exactly but everything does happen for reasons.
true - but he did have her looking crazyyy... it was so sad to see! So happy to see her come out of that!
@@martacataniciu9007 no fr 😩
You are absolutely correct
When a woman can laugh about the trauma you put her through... she's done done😂
Agreed!!😊 I’m so glad she’s arrived at the point.
@ArrogantGoddess huh?
@ArrogantGoddessno one said that. What are you on about
Or still crazy!
She’s a well spoken woman and absolutely gorgeous!!! I hope she builds a platform for herself and really enjoys her new found freedom from that narcissistic man.
This is one of the best comments I've seen.
@@jolietamichal AGREED
YES!!!
AMEN
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She has no idea the amount of women who are being set free and finding their voice. Da’naia if you are reading this thank you ❤
All of this!!!!
Facts!!!
LISTEN!! She just connected with a ridiculous amount of woman! Mrs. Jackson, THANK YOU!!!!! We see you and appreciate your transparency. You are just like so many of us (🙋🏽♀️).
👋🏾👋🏾👋🏾
For real. This is so relatable to me and how I was feeling and how I was thinking when dealing with a decade+ long "situationship".
@@HealthyandFitDigital I married it.. so I can completely relate to that delusional feeling of I won! I’m going to be the wife😒😒. Smh just stupid!
I hate the fact that he finds everything funny 🤨
@@emmanattu yea I was a bit confused with that. Sometimes ppl, don’t know how to react. I pretty much ignored him and focused on her story! That’s hot I got passed it😅
Her story is so insane . All of that drama before marriage was a huge red flag 🚩
Absolutely!! He was a serial cheater and she knew.. then married him..
Yes. Trauma bonding is real. 😢
And she sitting up here letting this fool laugh at her pain and make fun of her for clicks and views. Heal...
Right! And then she stayed 9 years. what kind of foolishness is this! Every woman can do better.
@@freddiemercury8518it’s because she’s healed she can sit their and laugh. 🙄
When people called her crazy, I said she is a victim of narcissistic abuse. I knew because survivors have 'a look'. Look at God! God heals!
This part!! That's why it's SOOOOOO important to speak up and out about Narc abuse and narcissism bc we really don't realize what we've been dealing with especially if you're an Empath
I think she enjoyed the drama. He showed her who he was multiple times and she accepted it I'm sorry
@@faithreader2267 so he cheats on her and emotionally abuses her and yet you still blame her?
@@serious7179 Yes! Especially when you’ve allowed it for over a decade. She literally CHASED after him. Whose else’s fault?
@@JuleneSings so when do the cheating, lying men ever get any of your wrath? I get what you are saying and she definitely deserves half of the blame for allowing her low self-esteem and love of money to keep her in this situation, but are you saying that he should be off the hook? One problem that I see is that women continually blame and belittle other women as opposed to nurturing them and trying to help them see the light. Why would you kick someone who is already down instead of kicking the person who committed the egregious act. He was the one who dishonoured his marriage. He was the one who one against God. Why are you focused on the woman?
When a woman heals “she breaks generational curses;” this resonates deeply! Thank you for this statement Queen 67.
Oooh wee!!
All I know is that he put her at risk, sexually. Some men throw all cautions to the wind. Glad she's healing.
Pin this 📍
I’m not sure if this is his interviewing style but I didn’t like how he laughed majority of the interview. She was being very transparent for the first time I wish he was a little more gentle with her.
Her story is an eye opener and would make a good lifestime movie...All you single women, please do not envy anyone's marriage or relationship because you truly never know what is going on.
I say this all the time 🙏🏾
exactly I say this all the time, we don't know what happens behind closed doors
So true! I try & be grateful for what I have. So many couples looking cute on IG but a hot mess behind closed doors
It would have made a good lifetime movie had she divorced him....HE DIVORCED HER 😩😩😩
@🖤Arrogant Goddess🖤 I do not trust her either , it's all a big show in my opinion. Take care q.
Love that she’s getting therapy instead of relying solely on prayer. The Lord created psychology and psychologists. Peace of mind is priceless
AMEN!! The thoughts prayers and scriptures sometimes are NOT enough. There are actions that need to occur to make it to healing.
She came across so well in this interview. Funny, intelligent, honest interesting and self aware. You can clearly see that her other viral moments were when she was probably really going through it. I really like her. I hope this goes to show that you really shine when you let go of dead weight ❤❤
Agreed! He ain’t good enough for her!
@@lisabee6132sooooooo correct
I agree!! I like her… she could be my friend Lol…
Yes, she's clearly an introvert and they can have awkward moments. Love this for her.
Good for Her! Take your power back! Bless her and their kids future!
This interview really humanized her for me. She’s so funny, and chill, and especially self aware. That’s my favorite thing I’ve noticed.
Agreed! Because her on social media cursing people with bible scriptures, was NOT IT. Specifically because most was speaking up for her.
I said the same thing… I didn’t know about it. I came because another channel was talking mess about it but NOooo! This was Amazing! I’m so happy that She has a Safe, Christian Platform where she was able to be herself! 😢She really needed this! 💕 The way he moderated & guided her through was Amazing! Girlllll…. I’m about to runnnn something through the Cashapp for a Gin-N-Coke (I mean Frozen Coke) 😂
I agree
Yes, I agree Definitely likable
The fact that ALL his adulterous drama was laid out for the world to see and people still listen to his advice is crazy 😂😩
She looks great ❤
I stopped listening to him once all his scandals came out
The book I bought of his went straight in the trash! This "boy" should have 0 subscribers and supporters and I find it sad to know women, most likely black women still support this "boy".
Not me. That's pure deception
CRAZY!
I stopped following him like 5-6 years ago. But I went to his IG today to see and he has >1 million followers still 🤯🤯🤯
She is stunning and able to so beautifully articulate herself and her story. I wish her so much healing and happiness in this next phase of life. She deserves it. It’s definitely her time.
She is, indeed, very beautiful. Her features are incredible.
FYI- you may not know but it’s seen as an insult when people as we are articulate. .
@@tancart35 but not every person who has experienced trauma is able to articulate their experiences the way she is. She way she deconstructs everything so well and is so clear in her ability to express herself and her feelings is impressive. This is not about being impressed a non white person is articulate, but rather a trauma survivor regarding her feelings and experiences.
I honestly feel so bad judging Da'Naia. And this interview has shown me how we have become too comfortable with social media. Too comfortable commenting. Judging. Speculating. Her story is the same story of so many Black women walking through this world. Hurt. Rejected. In pain. Simply seeking love and doing whatever they think they can to secure that love. I don't know if she will read these comments but I apologize personally for participating in the hate train. I can't even imagine how it feels to have your worst days, your lowest point, broadcast to the whole world. I pray Da'Naia finds true love and happiness one day. She's a funny, intelligent, brilliant woman who deserves it. Derrick on the other hand... I pray that God has mercy on your soul. You reap what you sow and what he will reap in the future will be painful and humiliating. Keep shining Da'Naia and keep being who you are.
I think what you said here is beautiful ❤
I think this is so beautiful as well!
This the one
At least you are honest about your judgement
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A woman who pays attention to her man knows when he touches her differently. I know exactly what Da’Naia meant when she spoke about that. If you don’t know, don’t gaslight. A woman’s intuition will not be denied.
I agree 💯 we have that sixth sense ❤
Yup
Mmmmmmmmmmmmm....or says something in a different way...Yessssssssss.
Yeah it’s absolutely disgusting. Especially when they still lie.
A woman’s intuition didnt do nothing for this woman. Why have it if youre not going to use it? Thats the pupse. Its our protection
The fact that she is actually really a sweet and shy girl and he took advantage of it 😢 I’m so glad she’s thriving beyond the trauma
My mama always said if you go snooping you have to be prepared to handle what you find. Never snooped during my 22 year marriage but I knew he was cheating and so I left. I found out post divorce he was cheating the last 8 years of marriage. Thank God for healing. Thank God for her healing❤️
You have to have proof from a biblical standpoint that your mate is cheating before you divorce. There is nothing wrong with what she did.
I rather snoop and leave early than finding out after 8yrs. But I pray to God, I won’t have a cheating husband.
She snooped and knew who he was, but didn’t leave 😶
I’m so happy she’s speaking her truth and rid herself of that baggage. Narcissistic abuse is REAL and it robs you of all your joy, slowly, overtime. It’s horrible and soul destroying. That man did her wrong and then had the audacity, everyday, to speak on women avoiding the very man he is…. As though he’s not! DIABOLICAL!!!! Empathy to her ❤ All the best on your healing journey sis 💞 Your testimony is going to free so many people 🙏🏾
That’s a typical narcissistic person, they are so grandiose. He definitely a evil person. I use to watch all his videos and read his book. Now to see the pain he put her through I even feel betrayed by his lies😢
Wow, she clearly stated she put herself in these situations. It's not just all his fault for what she went through with him. 🤦🏾♀️ She had plenty of ways of escape.
My next message is not going to be well received. But he showed her who he was from the beginning. The flags were no longer red, more like black.
@@tropicallymixed. For sure. I appreciate that she takes full responsibility for being a willing participant in these shenanigans.
@@tropicallymixed. That attachment "soul tie" is real you have to get to a certain point to finally DRAG yourself from that person with all your strength and start healing having kids did not make it any easier either. It's the most eerie thing to go through.
Her sense of humor is gold😅 and I love how she's telling her story from a free place (no anger, no hate, no malicious intent) she was just ready to 'remove her mask' and she did it by showing up as herself❤❤❤ I love this for her.
Looking forward to part 2
P.S thank you @Laterras for being gracious enough to allow her to be free from judgement while creating a safe space for her to be in her natural personable state. Most women show up as themselves when they feel safe
💯💯💯 - I noticed the same freedom in her conversation. This was an excellent interview.
Yes!!!!
Love this! She's really funny!
That's what happens when you heal and are healing, you just release the bitterness and even find humor somewhere in it all.
Exactly
She is a survivor of narcissistic abuse. She is going to be ok as long as she never deals with him again. So many of us have the same story but the best part is getting out.❤ to anyone going through this, I’m praying for you. You will break free!!!
Amen!! Took me 7 years but I'm finally free!!! This was one of the hardest battles I've ever had to deal with!! I lost my 1st spouse to cancer 10 years ago and I jabe destroyed divorcing an extremely unwell narcissitic person was harder than burying my 1st love to cancer.... and that was no walk in the park itself. I now know what it's like and when people say "why didn't she just leave..." they truly don't understand the toll of narcissitic and mental abuse... manipulation and gaslighting can make you feel like you're going crazy ... So thankful she got away safely ❤ 🙏🏽
Amen 🙏🏾🙏🏾
Amen
Amen. 🙏🏾
No, she's not. She knew exactly how Derreck was before she got married, even in college, and she continued to pursue him and still wanted him. Ladies, stop playing victim...suck it up!!
The amount of women apologizing is so great to see. I hope we all including my self use this as an opportunity to think beyond the surface about people
Love seeing black women heal OUT LOUD! ❤
Same. We deserve it
@@BriaBarrows we do!!! Sis is breaking generational curses!
That’s right! All the best to you, sis:)
Love this comment Queen 👑❤🙌🥳💐
@@evezazzle5974 I’m getting ready to film a YT surrounding there convo!!! I really love seeing us come out on the other side!
Look how well spoken, intelligent and beautiful she really is. This just shows being mentally distraught and broken can really affect one’s intellect. Da’nai is not slow nor dumb. She was traumatized.
YES!
If you suffered narcissistic abuse from a former partner, raise your hand! 🙋🏽♀️
This video resonates with many of us. I pray anyone who has suffered through this type of trauma, gets therapy and finds peace.
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🙋🏾♀️ we are here sis. Love and Light to you all.
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I remember thinking to myself, Is “struggle love” inevitable before finally receiving the ring. God, literally said to me “ I NEVER showed you that, I was willing to die for your love, not make you die for loving me.” I’m thanking God for maturing us all in his love to know the difference and gain wisdom. Love You All! Keep Growing and Keep Glowing! 🙏🏾❤️💪🏾☀️
This girl is 🔥 Well spoken, intelligent, funny, poised, graceful, etc! Derrick was probably happy social media ripped her to shreds! I’m glad she is telling her truth!
I said the same! Man, God really used this interview and Danaia to make an impact! This interview is really touching so many of us, a tap on the shoulder for us, and a reminder of where we all have been and the grace we’ve received. She is us and we are her! Such a beautiful spirit. She’s gonna be just fine! ☺️
She seems to be doing so much better than when those clips went viral, which makes me happy. It's incredible how trauma can change you and weigh you down when you're still in it. Glad this sister prioritized her healing.
All of that!!!!
Unfortunately hell will be ripping his flesh to shreds if 😢he doesn't seek out true repentance 🔥🔥🔥
And now social media is seeing her win without Derrick. She is leveling up, healing, and glowing. Her story will inspire so many others
He was molding her from the beginning. He wasn’t afraid she would leave, he knew she would stay. I’m glad she’s healing and finding her light. She’s hilarious in her story telling. This level of transparency will help a lot of women
Like the millions of women who prioritise looks over morals and principles, she made her bed.
she never left, he divorced her and forced her to leave
@@dre22uh men r visual beings right? Y’all go off looks more than we do and truth be told many of u are colorists.
@@Ash2beauty Attraction for men and women is not symmetrical. We look for different things. Most women don’t learn until they reach their epiphany phase
Da’Naia is extremely poised and seems to be a beautiful woman inside and out. I’m so happy she got to speak her truth.
Yessss 👏🏼👏🏼
So true ❤
She wasn't so POISED CURSING and damming ppl and THEIR children because of her cheating azz Husband...
@@eveleo5066 ….true. However, who are we to judge? Have you never made a mistake? Acted out of emotion as opposed to logic? I’m sure she’s asked God for forgiveness at this point. I would hate to be judged for entire life’s doing because of one mistake.
My heart is smiling seeing her smile again ....
Look at this lady, glowing back to the star she was born to be. Thank you Lord for saving her from that weak and wicked soul 🙏
she knew before marriage shes not that much a victim she co conspired...She wanted to win, then i saw the kids imma stay out of it though
Who knew she had such a charming sense of humor. She is such a beautiful person and has such an inspiring soul. I am so glad she's finally speaking her truth and is No longer the shell of a woman we once saw on social media. Her grace and empathy is so motivating. I wish her nothing but peace and happiness.
I was like she is witty n funny buy serious all at once. She has a great personality and will bloom going forward. I'm really excited for her
She unpacked her story owning it..... without blaming him,she is using 'I did this ,I did that.....a clear indication that she is in a good space mentally.May she receive blessings from above n may her testimony help bring light to anyone in a dark place in this season.
She chased him; continued creating soul ties; and manipulated him into marrying her. She used other men to make him jealous. She knew exactly what she was getting herself into. I’m not defending him, but this woman is NOT a true victim. Derick remained true to his character. She was totally on board. Remember he said, she wrote or helped write the books. She wanted the ring, got it, and all the pain that came with it. My main point…. She knew exactly who this man is/was.
@@oneofakind2276 your right, it's called been human. Personally at 45 years old, I can say that I have never allowed a man to treat me like a second choice. However, wisdom teaches me that we do not all behave the same way even after experiencing trauma in our early year's. I have empathy for her and I am blown away by her GROWTH, accountability after the fact (many never get to this stage). She has arrived and not only is she beautiful but she actually has a personality that only now we are we seeing. I wish her all the best and everyone else who is actively seeking healing.
@@haddynjie8068 Has she healed or is she trying to upstage him? Trying to brand herself by playing victim?? Exposing her toxic vindictive behavior to further damage her ex-husband who has recovered from the love spells she cast on him? Is she seeking healing or revenge??? Maybe both 🫶🏻🤔…. Answered my own question…. Good day
@@oneofakind2276You sound so judgmental of her. Thank GOD you are NOT GOD. On top of that she’s admitting what she did AND she was young AND she’s still healing daily (as it is taking her time to be healed completely) bc she did mention she was r**ped so she now understands she should have gotten healing before getting into a relationship with him and she also stated due to that situation it made her act like that bc of not being healed. You must be soooo perfect and have lived a clean life without mistakes. If the ONLY reason you wanted to hear her story is to criticize her why are you here on this platform listening if all you wanted to do was criticize her and please spare me saying you’re not bc your first comment says it all. You gave an opinion than tried to validate your reasons as to why you made your judgmental comment then got the nerve to ask is she healed or upstaging him? 🤔 Make it make sense.
@@marysmith7470 Wake up Mary!!
This interview was perfect. God was not going to allow anyone to exploit her, he wanted us to see the beauty in her like he does!
You said that girl. You’re exactly right!
Just like he don’t play about us, she’s a part of the collective. So relatable - we are so strong and powerful even in the midst of re-birth. It’s a beautiful reminder! 🖤🙏🏾✊🏾
AMEN
She’s your future wife 🙏🏾
Beautifully said❤
The fact that she was able to openly acknowledge the toxic traits she had at the time of their relationship while discussing the hurt done to her is very mature and a sign of someone giving the full truth of the matter. Thank you for sharing this
Girl I must say I repent for all judgement and criticism you received from me even if it was just in my heart! Your story is most of our story in some aspect… we should have rallied around you…. You are not a joke or something that should have been funny… your story was all of ours in some form or fashion. Blessings to you on your journey of continued healing ❤️🩹 and thank you for being brave enough to share it with us!❤❤❤
Yesss! You are absolutely correct!!!!
Amen!
This I feel the exact same!
I agree 💯
Wow I repent as well. ❤ Thank you for being so brutally transparent.
Many of us judged her harshly after those videos on social media but truth be told, many of us could relate to her story. Childhood trauma, attracting an unhealthy partner, and completely losing herself in the experience of it all.
When everything happened. I went on her IG page and she actually wrote about this on IG. It’s a long read but I got a understanding, I never judge her especially after reading that. If you want to read it you have to scroll all the way down because it was years ago
After watching this, you realize she was too good for him
Right and this woman was really suffering.
@@treyveonsheaAbsolutely
I know.... over here repenting. Jesus help us all
She defaults to silence. That’s her natural response to trauma. In that space she can protect herself and plan next steps. Think about how many times she has kept things, cried in the closet, snooped and watched quietly. She has a rich and deep internal space that she creates to protect herself. 😢 Her silence 🤫 made her even more easy to target, abuse and torture. He was cruel.
This!!! Omg! I can definitely identify with what you’ve described as the “default to silence” mechanism used to protect oneself.
I respect her because this podcast means she recognized that her silence emboldened her and no longer served her purpose. There aren’t many places he can hide. More importantly, she will be more at peace with herself when she chooses to go within.
I am not a quiet person.
I have to talk things out. But, I do shut down when I am ashamed of myself. I lose my words. I cling to stillness as my thoughts race. My ex husband benefited from my shame. So, for me - it’s about creating safe spaces and having people I trust around me to preserve my energy and allow me to restore myself and find my words, practice my voice. Trauma is such a thief. It goes for broke. It steals everything you allow. So, I’m constantly addressing it and protecting it from stealing my confidence and joy, which is hard to get back. It’s been 5 years and I have times when I’m triggered by the oddest things, situations and people. I’m set to write a book about my life at that time, I’ve procrastinated on writing because I am forced to relive that dark part of my past.
Today - I will find the words and shame the devil.
Wow I’ve never heard it described like this. This is exactly what I do! Default to silence. Woww.
I drafted my first chapter. Hardest thing I’ve done all year. I procrastinated for six months to write 12 pages.
As a woman of almost 40 years... we have all been this woman in life. For me, it was my ex-husband... we just lower our standards and boundaries for trash. Lessons to learn and move on 🙌🙌❤ well done in your glow and grow up💯
At 43 I’ve never been this woman. Ain’t no way.
Exactly speak for yourself
@@angelagibb642😂😂
I never was to the extent of what she went through and put up with but I know what you mean. We've all gone through being played, lead on, cheated on, lied to, disrespected and/or staying much longer than we should have. Even in little doses, like if the situation-ship only lasted 6 months. For me, I remember my intuition telling me that something was not right with him but I let my feelings keep me hooked to him. Then I learned that just because we have feelings for someone does not mean that we have no choice except to endure disrespect.
This chapter is called Deliverance. ❤ She has been delivered from the bondage. SISSS YOU ARE BEAUTIFULLY AND WONDERFULLY MADE Da'Naia❤❤❤❤ your sense of humor is 😂😂😂😂
I absolutely agree!!! 🙌🏾❤🙌🏾
All of this and yes she is! ❤️
She is the example of the saying, “never judge a book by its cover”. I had so many negative ideas about who she was but seeing this completely changed my mind! Her husband never deserved her and I’m glad she’s free to live her life as her true self. Doing this interview was a good look for her!!👍🏾👍🏾
Someone folks won't get a platform or the opportunity to share their story. Learn from this, never judge what you don't fully know!
@@MissAki1 😂😂😂😂
I saw her as wounded and exploited and used by a demon seed. She was with a predator. He sniffed her out and knew he could bend her tear her and control her because she was vulnerable when he met her. He was like yessssss, perfect victim!
Raise your hand if you for real love her? ✋🏾Keep healing sis because healthy looks good on you!
@@jendayiKa exactly 💯
You know what…social media had me really judging this girl. But the episode has shown a different side of her. She’s intelligent. She’s beautiful. She’s funny. And she seems like she’s a very smart young lady. I pray for emotional healing for her.
Yes I completely agree.
My thoughts exactly. She is an honest soul. I pray God heals her ❤
Super funny! Social media had me judging that woman. So disappointed in myself.
EXACTLY!!
Yep same.. I feel bad about it now.
This is a women that is healing and ready to take responsibility for her part in a bad relationship. I’m so glad she is speaking the truth
I laughed at the memes of this lady in her bonnet and I am completely ashamed of myself. I cannot imagine dealing with that type of trauma. I’m glad she was able to tell her story and she’s healing 🙏🏾
I applaud you for this humble admission. We all learn
Thank you for your honesty
@Crystal Joseph I didn’t and my reason is I was going through the same thing. I wasted 15 yrs holding onto a man who dragged me through hell and back. I died trying to give birth to him. September 2023 will make 17 yrs I know him. The love I give to that man I would NEVER give another man that again. I have resolved to spend the rest of my life single.
@@FAMD4SH I am so sorry to hear that! Glad you are in a better space. For the life of me I could not understand why she would stand with a man that put her through so much. But since I started following her I caught on. He broke her and only if someone is in this type of situation they would understand.
@@izion515 ,
I'm so glad she finally sat down to tell her side. I always knew this young lady wasn't as psycho as some folks tried to make her out to be. I hope she continues the healing process for herself and her kids. I am 10,000% sure her EX had no idea she would ever be strong enough to step out and tell her story. He is probably somewhere really panicking. She has a testimony that should encourage so many others and I am rooting for her! The fact that this dude (her EX) still has a large following of women just floors me. Talk about Black Male Worshipping...SMH
Most women chase fboys … can’t act surprised
Black male worship is so toxic
It doesn’t surprise me with his followers. Broken ppl are looking for a place to be comfortable.
I was shocked that he still has followers too. Over 700,000 people are still following him... Yes I had to look just to be sure that my suspicion was not wrong. But also, some people don't feel there is anything wrong with what he's done
You touched on something: her kids. Who knows what they witnessed during the marriage. May they receive the healing they need also from this tumultuous marriage. May we keep them covered in prayer.
It’s crazy how normal and relatable she actually is. I’m so glad she’s telling her story ❤
Same!
I always thought she was deflecting
Not crazy at all
She came to her senses but make no mistake she was acting crazy
@@MickeyAndMore 💯
This is the perfect example of why ‘#Relationship Goals’ should NOT be a thing. You never know what people are suffering from IN SILENCE.
She is absolutely lovely! Derick really fumbled the bag BIG TIME. His career will not be the same after this. Da'nai YOU HAVE A MINISTRY MAMA to help many broken women!
I hope his career suffers from this cause right now it doesn't look like he reaped anything he sowed. He needs to get humbled cause he is still on this "guru mantra/relationship coach" out here, preaching a life he doesn't even live. I hope this interview makes numbers. Glad she could tell her story.
Some blogger said when the cheating scandal broke, that she had the power to be bigger than him. They even speculated thar she wrote so well that they wouldn't be surprised if she wrote his books. She could have a huge platform, should she choose that route. I wish her and her kids well.
@@MaishaOnTopmy dad was this man… he’s dead now.
@@Trendolyn78 I hope you and your mom have healed from the hurt he caused you guys 🙏🏾 How are you doing since he left?
This is many of our stories. Being rapped, struggling with self worth, settling with a unhealthy mate, trauma bonding and healing for the public to see. No one will know all you felt. What you had to experience. We hear your heart! We love you and praying for you queen. You will win in front of your enemies!
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She didn't just put all the blame on everyone else, She knew her part in all of this..
All the while, you overlooked a good man but compromised your principles for the perceived alpha male.
As a Doctor I have treated women before and after abuse. The woman's whole affect changed dramatically from confident to cowering. Their is a tribe of God loving women who try to love their husbands the way GOD designed whose men try to break them. Look at what God made in this beautiful woman. She is radiant❤
@@dre22 are you a “good man”? What does that mean to you and how do you know they were god men she overlooked?
She has the same testimony as most women, of any ethnicity. So proud she shared her story because a lot of us assumed she was crazy. But I never doubted she married a dud. If she plays her cards right, she can lead many women out of this toxic manosphere through her stories and lessons learned.
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Facts!
@Coaching By Daisy Playing her cards right is not an underhanded/back handed misogynistic compliment. It’s a fact. She clearly continued to date and marry someone who exhibited “toxic” behavior early so she bears some responsibility and hopefully from now will play her cards right. You sound sensitive and like you’re projecting.
You literally said what I thought
Omg when he grows up and realizes what a good lady he lost -- he's going to cry himself to sleep every night. I have so much respect for her!!
No he won’t. He has many women at his disposal , his customer base is still women.
May it scar him for life.
He don’t care. Man like d.j. Move on to the next & use people at their disposal. Their incapable of having genuine feelings. They look for ways to capitalize etc
He is not the type to care.
Unfortunately narcissists don't care. Quite frankly he's in exponentially worse shape than her. She's fully aware of her actions and contributions and has take steps to healing. He's has not. It is a special kind of help to continue through life making the same mistakes and exhibiting no growth.
After watching the infamous "Bonnet" video, I cried so hard for this women. I recognized her pain and took it on, as I have experienced similar pain. Today, I am so proud of her healing and now crying for her joy! Thank you God she has overcome!
Kayla, I couldn't believe this was the same woman from the "Bonnet" video! This is proof that God can heal from the inside out! He is a Keeper!!! She definitely does not look like what she has been through!!
So you pick sorry men and then play the victim because you’re reaping the consequences of YOUR bad decisions.
@@amarshall3221Yeah 10 layers of makeup can do that.
@@bxi1547 damn who hurt you?
@@cb4664 Typical response from females who her called out.
I am glad she chose this platform to tell her story. The host is so respectful .
I just wanna compliment the host for handling her with such delicacy, empathy, care and compassion.
You made her feel that she could safely be vulnerable under your care to share her story.
I'm not gone judge her nor make any assumptions. I'm very proud to her get to this point of healing on her journey, much love to this woman n the host for sharing ❤
He was making too many jokes tho. Can't you read the room dude
@@jesslove8372thank you! He laughed too much and she romanticized the situation if not more. Every time she mentioned a male he asked was she sleeping with that person in such a condescending and immature tone. Not once did he ask her to break down into detail any of the cheating allegations she launched against her husband. I believe that he did all of that but I wished she had went into detail what he did to her like she did when she talked about what she did to keep him around.
Her story is so relatable. Healing is beautiful on her. She’s also very funny. Love her dry humor.
This woman is so dang, down-to-earth and the internet made her seem as if she was a crazy fool. I am so glad she was able to speak her truth on this episode. Thank you so much! I hope this young lady truly heals from this experience and I only wish her nothing but the best!
The internet didn’t make her look like a crazy fool Derrick Jackson did that! Agree with everything else you said.
She made herself look like a crazy fool with that demonic so called prayer she was spewing out at women through the internet. That was all her.
She was a fool for a man but now she appears to have been delivered 🎉
nah he made her crazy!!! I had an abusive husband and he made me crazy too!
He had her looking pitiful and she seemed to be ok with it. She seems totally different now that she is not with that joker.
She looks free, beautiful, refreshed. May God continue to guide her.
OMG! I’m so glad this interview happened. The world only saw the tail end of almost 15 years of trauma!!! So glad she’s in a much better place spiritually, emotionally, and mentally. 🙏🏾💜
The world saw the tail end because she looked over the beginning too many times smh I'm trying to figure out what everyone else is seeing and hearing from this interview like she was just a victim of everything. She clearly said she played a part in all of it.
It is not all on one person, they both play the part in all of this mess and they laugh majority of this interview but nothing was funny.. This is tragic!!
@@84mztoya Like the millions of women who prioritise looks over morals and principles, she made her bed. Also think about the many good men she overlooked and the guy she used in college to get back at Derrick.
@@84mztoya so… your upset that she took accountability for her actions and the role she played in her marriage as well? SMH 😂
@@dre22 🙄 it’s always the men saying “well what about this and what about that”. SMH. If you don’t date women, then just date men and move on 🤷🏾♀️
@@84mztoya There is laughter from relief as well ... Mr. Whitfield is a healed man now on the other side of his own transgressions and can be more a of a protector and safe place than many of us Black women experience from day to day from men in our community ... there is a lot of relief for many of us when FINALLY we can sit and talk with a man who isn't trying to use us up. Laughing and being relieved and experiencing joy again means we are not going to make camp and LIVE IN THAT TRAGEDY ... it means we are going to move on with LIFE. Mr. Whitfield is moving on. Mrs. Jackson is moving on. Joy and laughter and the relief of being able to enjoy the same is part of the process.
I love how honest she was during this interview. What a strong and self-aware woman ❤
She is so likeable with such a genuine spirit. From being dragged to being lifted up! May this be her season to shine ❤🎉
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YESSS! Glory be to God!! “When men are cast down then you shall say, ‘There is lifting up’”!!! (Job 22:29)
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This is a prime example why we all need to be kind. We are all on a journey.
AMEN
Amen!❤
I love when women break free from abusive husbands! You go girl!! Keep healing and growing
You can just tell they aren’t in their right mind while with their abusive husband so when they break free u see the Real them unveil.
@@Keisha2024 it makes me sooo happy because its extremely hard to break free from an abuser especially a mentally abusive partner
shes actually funny. you can tell shes in therapy, so much self realization. i love hearing people tell us their faults. we live in a world of delusion and ego, its educational to see someone be that transparent.
Grateful for her transformation and awakening. It's clear her husband specifically targeted and preyed on her naivete. Those of us who've seen and experienced the type of "game" he ran on her know. She is strong for sharing her vulnerabilities and story. 🙏🏾
That’s what narcissists do
she was a submissive and provided his narcissistic supply. they make the best partners for narcissists because they allow them to cheat in peace.
They met in college surely it was circumstantial not calculated
I stopped watching her husband videos out of respect for her. I've heard horrible things about her without knowing her story, but have said there's more to accrpting that treatment.
The greatest individuals are built through the most horrific traumas. Blessings sister
Same. I could no longer follow him knowing how he treated his wife behind closed doors. I’m so happy she is now free and healing.
I stopped too he’s a hypocrite
Yes, I stayed ON CODE… something many women are to traumatized to do! This man publicly humiliated his wife, and you still continue to listen to his advice and keep him paid? Nah!!! Empathy to this beautiful woman. I know she’s going to be GREAT. Her healing journey is a true testament 💞
Same
@@jpetty2935 he's a proud abuser. It speaks to the state of mind women are existing by viewing his idealism as valuable. Unhealed women or people in general don't realize they are causing themselves more trauma, more hurt and a longer healing process when helping people like him monetize on their pain.
She is so classy, poised, SUPER intelligent and most of all Hilarious! God cover her at all cost. She has such a natural relatable story telling that is going to help save so many women out here. No one should ever judge her because we have all been through similar things like this! I can’t wait for a GOOD man to find her one day and love her in the way she deserves. Awkward black girl is actually the captivatingly beautiful swan!♥️♥️
I’m an awkward black girl that got used due to my naivety and low self esteem. Men preys on young women like that. Sad to see. Y’all younger women please do not fall for the traps.
Yes!!!! I came thinking the same. So glad she is healing and telling her story. She is making him look even stupider.