The Collapsed Narcissist Is Still Predatorial
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The Collapsed Narcissist Is Still Predatorial
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Published: 11/09/2022
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Narcissists want the authority of a king but the accountability of a toddler.
Beautifully well stated!!!
👍
Because they are toddlers with a king complex!
Indeed
This is exactly what my wife and I experienced in court against her ex. He literally wanted us to ask him if we can take the kids to the doctor under my health insurance that he refused to help pay for. And the court didn't know what to say to him at first cause the courts ate not designed to deal with this new species of evil.
About seven weeks after my wife left me and our kids, I called her on the phone to see what she wanted in the divorce. She was hysterical and I could barely understand her. She was unable or unwilling to answer my question. She kept saying over and over, "I can believe how good you are doing." Yes, I was doing ok and doing better every week. I no longer had to take care of her and tolerate her mood swings, her complaining and refusing to help me with our kids and the everyday chores. Realty had hit her hard. Her "exciting" boyfriend was an alcoholic and had serious medical issues. A couple of weeks later she wanted to talk when she brought the kids back from her visitation. I simply told her No and closed the door. I never did miss her.
Well karma is a b**** and that's what she gets much love to you and your kids ❤️
Well Done 👍
Fair play to you.
Dignity is an unknown word for the narcs!!.. God bless you bro!!!....
Good for you and your kids. What you did takes true strength
Yes when you help a narcissist they do not appreciate anything that you do there is no thank you in their hearts
Exactly
Going through this exact thing. I work for one that doesnt pay me on time and is never thankful for anything I do. Never appreciated anything but will complain at the slightest discomfort
Or the “Thankyou “ is as fake as they are
@@KittyCatFurbabiesMaria1972 if you even get one
@@coreyself2983 yes…. The narc I’m with says “sorry” a lot and I say “that’s ur fave word along with ‘I love you ‘, neither of which u mean , cos u wouldn’t treat me like s h I t if u did “……. x
The best way to deal with narcs is to ignore them. Nothing drives them insane more than not being the object of the attention of their intended victim.
They create drama and problems and bring about their own downfall. They have a supportive partner who loves them and they throw it all away.
This exactly
Yep
Unbelievable...
Yes
They will accuse that supportive, unconditional loving partner of not making them feel “safe”. If I wouldn’t have caught her cheating, I don’t know if I would have ever woken up. Almost a decade and 2 beautiful kids later, reality has set in. It’s a tough job to be a cycle breaker. I gotta do it for the kids ❤️🩹
It's like nursing a lion back to health only to be eaten.
Perfect analogy. My malignant narcissistic mother pulled a hoover on me when my dad became ill, and used my empathy to extract a significant amount of money and time out of me, to the detriment of my savings account and the care of my children. NO CONTACT. Even while I was helping them fix up their broken house, they were shaming and blaming me. No more! Ungrateful. Abusive. Amazing. My kids deserve a proper mom, which is something I never had. The generational cycle of abuse must be broken.
True they want you to feel sorry for them, so they can USE YOU . Don't trust them.
I supported the lady i was seeing, to pay for her mother's heart surgery. 5 month later, i married the lady , and found out, that her and her mother are both narcissists. These nasty creatures tried to break me down, and make me their puppet, just 3 weeks after we got married.
Stay away from the narcissists. They don't deserve your time, energy, resources
Hello 🌷 Please don't let them change the good person you are. People like ourselves must be incredibly selective. At 65 I left after 18 years. This person was well known by relatives who highly recommended them. An introduction amidst both sides of the family was arranged. What a heartbreaking nightmare followed the wedding - from day one! I am reconnecting with myself and realizing they didn't get 'It All'. I'm happy by nature. You have your own gifts, young man. Godspeed.
@@beverlytaylor1745 Thank you, ma'am. Thank you
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Wow! That makes so much sense. "They can only have empathy for themselves." That's why they are always the victim. Excellent revelation!
Just like their genetic father Cain, who murdered his righteous brother Abel and then felt sorry for HIMSELF.
He was out of my life but he turned my son against me, my son was extremely protective of him, I was excluded from major things in his life, like his wedding & my grandchildren, he died in his 50's and my son forbids me to mention his name, not real hard to do !
One side of the story.
U only have urself to care about so wtf care about others u less they can give u somehting u want. It is pointless to empathize w others if it takes from urself
They also have alot of "self sensitivity" and they benefit from that by people seeing them as a victim or unfortunate, This Self sensitivity would lead you to believe that they would be empathetic to others but if there is no benefit to be empathetic or helpful to others but they are definitely not! An empathic person's sensitivity is based on feeling what others feel, and narcs sensitivity is only for themselves, Its easy to be fooled that all sensitive people are also empathetic a good way to tell is a narc shows off sensitivity constantly to gain empathy, but trust me they will be the last to have it for anyone else. While an empathetic person tries to hide their own sensitivity because they dont want people feeling their pain, trauma and if a victim may hide all these things, while a narc will display them in the most exaggerated way gaining empathy to use against you as a tool like emotional blood-sucking leeches
Biting the hand that feeds them is a reality….Every Time … 🙏🏼 Can we ever believe the apologies…
NO …. Categorically.
A collapsed narc is desperate and willing to do anything to gain supply. But most importantly, their target lives or safety may be more at risk than before.
True. He was arrested because of domestic violence towards me, and the only reason he didn't get bigger punishment is because I didn't want to testify (I was his wife). He told me that if I don't, he will change, that he loves me, and that he was sorry, and wants his family back. After that, I came back to him. It was torture WORSE than ever.
I escaped second time, and it is final.
Yeah mine told me the same thing.....he assault me a few more times and after I found out he had a new baby with one of his supply he put a knife to my neck and told me he was going to kill me.....I wish I'd known what a horrible person he really was and that every time I let him off the hook he just thought I was stupid I should have left him 4 years ago
I did the same thing for 2 years I was free! I went back and married him. It was pure hell! Cheated, lied, abused me and I got an Order of Protection for a year. I had marriage annulment which he fought 18 months.
Evil….do not go back!
Same here. The sweet talk and fake promises to "change" so they get out of being charged and the case dropped. I wish I knew what I know now...I would of followed through
NEVER DROP CHARGES OR NOT TESTIFY!
197 - agreed! The ONLY way is no contact.....
The irony is that they can never escape their shame and pain because every morning that they look in the mirror, the reminder is looking back at them...
Yep
Unfortunately, an empath will always lift the rock the narcissist has crawled under.......and so the cycle sadly repeats. Stay vigilant everyone.
Simon that woman put me through daily torture.She also screwed my finances up for a couple of years I will date in the future but if she has narcissist traits it's over quick.They can stay under the rock
2 years ago during the pandemic.The ex Narc went out drinking and got arrested for a DUI. Ultimately he lost his high paying trucking job. And had to hire a lawyer and etc. I tried to help him as much as I could. In the end he blamed me, because I was bad luck. Even though I wasn’t there, and I didn’t force him to drink..🙄🙄🙄
NEVER HELP THOSE POS! SAVE THAT HELP FOR YOURSELF!
So very typical!
Right
If he was in high level job and rich he would not of got destroyed for dui like normal folk
They all work as drivers?!!!
I have helped my husband narc get off from rock bottom, now he has meat on his bones, now I am his biggest enemy and opponent. My reward for reaching out is extreme smearing of my name, and why we are now separated...all my doing, in his narc world
The Snake by AL Wilson
On her way to work one morning
Down the path alongside the lake
A tender-hearted woman saw a poor half-frozen snake
His pretty colored skin had been all frosted with the dew
"Oh well, " she cried, "I'll take you in and I'll take care of you"
"Take me in, oh, tender woman
Take me in, for heaven's sake
Take me in, tender woman, " sighed the snake
Now she wrapped him up all cozy in a coverture of silk
And laid him by the fireside with some honey and some milk
Now she hurried home from work that night, as soon she arrived
Now she found that pretty snake she'd taken in had been revived
Now she clutched him to her bosom, "You're so beautiful, " she cried
"But if I hadn't brought you in by now you might have died"
Now she stroked his pretty skin again and then kissed and held him tight
But instead of saying thanks, that snake gave her a vicious bite
"I saved you, " cried that woman
"And you've bitten me, even why?
And you know your bite is poisonous and now I'm gonna die"
"Oh, shut up, silly woman, " said that reptile with a grin
"Now you knew darn well I was a snake before you brought me in"
Wow this was good. Thanks for sharing.
😂🤪
Excellent. Might I just add that a snake is much easier to identify and to stay well clear of
@@simonfleming886 May we always remember the lesson our experience has taught us; stay clear of both snakes & narcissists. 🐍
Also beware of a Scorpio that is a narcissist. Brutal! Thanks Mom for training me well!
I almost fell off my chair when you said 'They will come to despise you for seeing them at their weakest' - this exact thing happened to my old school friend; she supported her vile narcissistic husband through a huge disaster in his career and yet he seemed to hate her for doing it. I just couldn't understand it at the time.
Their tears are not for their families.. yeap she said it.. it's for themselves they grieve. Lolololol.. it's ridiculous because they cause their issues and want people to feel sorry for them
They will NEVER admit to themselves that they need or should be doing things differently. NEVER EVER EVER!
My NO contact NO communication permanent game is like NO other and they ALL have failed at their hoovers so keep your peace, boundaries, happiness, and blessings empath warriors 🙏. Clarice❤️❤️
I've helped many narcissists hit rock bottom, it's my calling in life.
Well hands down to you 👋👋👋👋 It's my calling too. I'm slaying them demons. Much love to you and your family ❤️
Facts🙌🏿
Please share!
Amen 🙏🙌💪
Me, too, I am convinced I am karma for the narcissist . I get to see their karma up close and personal.
Yes you are correct about this and narcissist hurt the ones that help them out of the mud . They are snake 🐍🤧💯
Wow. Great Heads Up. This is so my Mom. She is expert at being the victim and making people feel like helping her; but as soon as she is back on her feet, she's bad mouthing the person that helped her. "They can only have empathy for themselves."
Yes, I did unknowingly fed a female narcissist. It was a disaster, but luckily for me I am recovering
Lucky escape ....
@@flowersofthefield340 very!
I help my wife at her lowest point as a narcissist. She was a severe alcoholic and almost died in the hospital being on a ventilator for 13 days. Now she has totally turned on me as you said in the video. We’re actually getting divorced now. But it is a good thing because I’ve learned a lot from your videos why she treats me the way she does.
Good for you, it takes a lot of courage. I wish you well.
I'm divorcing a narcissist he is in a collapsed state at the present time he is working hard on me and two of our children who encouraged me to stay away from him this video is my anchor
I have not helped a narcissist escape rock bottom because I was once bitten, twice shy. I allowed my mother to go to her death, without helping her, because she’d already shown me that my kindness meant that I was a fool to have been kind, in the first place and that I should be betrayed. So, I didn’t allow it to get to the point of helping her again. I did this, not because I didn’t love her. I loved her more than life and thought I’d die within a day of her loss. I did it because my love and trust for other people was already threadbare and the person I loved most in this world betrayed me, undoing the one stitch that was left, of me unconditionally loving another human being. I did it, because her intent and words murdered a part of my life and soul and was unforgivable.
I can clearly see now, that she’s passed the narcissistic baton to my sister. So, before she gets started, I’ve already begun applying law to mitigate her presence and possible impact on my life. While I know it could be me, who needs help, I suspect she will be first in need and I intend to be nowhere near her (ground zero), if that happens as, I am hyper vigilant, as I go into my older years and know that, if having a narcissist in your life is bad when you’re younger, it’s got to be a nightmare, when you’re older. Life is finite. There’s no continued time to test out to see if a narcissist will change. That is highly-unlikely. A surer bet is that you’ll die waiting.
Private private: I relate to your comment. My older sister who had always used and abused me emotionally; spiritually and mentally got diagnosed with cancer. All my other siblings were close to her in distance but no one was there to care for her. Being the empath that I am I went to do with I could for her. Only planning to stay a few weeks but ending up staying until she died which was a few months. In the time that I was there I cleaned out her horrible unkept condo and got it ready to sell. Went with her to cancer treatments. Helped with her personal needs. I went to the funeral home and took care of her final arrangements. In all of these things she never once said " Thank you " She was angry because I asked her if she was in pain and if she needed medication! These poor souls never change! Not even til their dying day!
@@sajor1847 yes. It is always an unknown, as to who would die first. I also well-recognized that, after my stepfather passed and my mother’s behavior began to deteriorate, one of the issues was that it felt like there might be a subtle competition as to who will die last. Very sad, when your family relationships have been such that your mother would like to set her 2 daughters in competition and, actually, for her to win and for both of her daughters to lose.
Mom died almost a year ago and I have what is likely a very typical scenario, where I’m left with a sister who doesn’t understand what happened and wouldn’t want to. She only knows she’s winning the competition, by thumbing her nose at the court, during the probate process, costing me lots ultimately. She feels that her anger comes from the fact that I went no contact and left her alone with mom. I think the truer reality is that she expected for there to be a domino effect, where mom dies, I die dealing with mom and my sister is left with everything, without ever lifting a finger, during the entirety of her life, because she was never involved in family affairs, before our mother offered her the opportunity to live in the house she was ultimately to inherit there are 2 properties), probably because mom was using all she could to bash me over the head. So, sis was just a tool and didn’t know it. Still doesn’t. Just knows she’s winning. Wouldn’t change much though, even if she was cooperative. We’ve been triangulated by our mother for so long, I wouldn’t piss on her, if she were in fire.
@@privateprivate8366 This is so similar to my family dynamic. I was the one out of 5 sisters and 2 brothers that went no contact years ago. I was the one that was there for my dying sister and even though I helped her not doing it to get anything in return not even a thank you she left everyone except myself anything in her will. I know that wasnt her intention but that the way it turned out I know from learning about narcissist behavior that she did this so that after her death none of them would speak of her in a bad way. Even though all her life no one could stand her and always had nothing but bad things to say about her. Such insanity. There are no words! For some reason I feel so much better sharing on these platforms with others that understand. I felt for so long that I was alone in these experiences .
I won't save them because I will not give them the strength to later come after me. Everyone, particularly, adults should be proactive with their mental health, such as receiving therapy that narcs desperately need. Why should I be a martyr for them, knowing they are ungrateful and undeserving? Sorry, I can't and will continue to ignore their cries.
Ungrateful for sure
U deserving 💯
Yes, I had helped my narcissistic, psychopath ex when he was hitting rock bottom by paying for his room, buying his liquor, and being there for his daughter when he was drunk and manic, only to be discarded and left me emotionally drained. He even helped him move into his new place, but he still diminished and told me to never come around him again! By the grace of God, I'm so glad that was from last year, and I'm saved from a demonic spirit that meant me no good!
My BPD/narcissistic sister became FAR more dangerous after I called her out and convinced my Mom to stop enabling her. She really stepped up the hatred, psychotic behavior, lies, and mood swings. And watch out who you upset accidentally, because they’ll immediately reach out to that person and team up with them against you, using that other person to secretly get to you. That’s what my sister did with another sister, using her as a flying monkey.
I know that my other sister, her flying monkey, will get stung also, eventually. And I will not be interested in hearing about it, because everyone tried to warn her and she refused to listen.
kick them straight in the balls .....
💥🤬
NO CONTACT‼️PERIODT 🙅🏽♀️
Yes. I helped a narcissist through a tough time. I didn't know what she was at the time. I gave her so much support. When she got back on her feet I was discarded.
🙏Lessoned learned. Never again!
That is their true self
No good deed goes unpunished especialy with pathalogical diagnost narcissists, that's all i've got to say.Thank you for your insight.🙂
Exactly what I thought if lol
as sad,evil and disgusting, that it is,...it is true, the demons inside the narc, despise the good in you! It also says in the bible, "whoever pays evil for good,evil will never leave their( narc) house!"
I found that out no🤔
Yes-You help them because you see someone you love in pain and you use your strength and love (and money/ resources) to help them get up again. But then when they are restored, they despise you for the very strength and kindness you showed them and make you the villain; the focus of all their anger with themselves and it’s worse than it ever was. And the cycle continues down…
I just left a Vulnerable Narcissist literally 4 days ago. She doesnt even care the relationship is over and it has caused me so much pain. Feel like I need to reach out but keeping zero contact. There was such an amazing person there in the beginning and I truly miss that version of them🤦♂️
Remember, it was just an act😕
The amazing person they were in the beginning is YOU! ♡♡ They mirror to gain our trust.
Never again I learned my lesson it was very heartbreaking for me
Never. Trust me when I say if they have done something wrong or to hurt you then they deserve to hit rock bottom. Once someone breaches my trust they never get it back.🤔❤🇺🇸
That is a good policy. I've been far too lenient with giving people second chances. Getting too old for that nonsense.....
I had no idea I helped him out if rock bottom/ turns out I was the come up girl… when he got stable based on my resources, he showed me the monster he was. The amount of shock, pain and all completely in a blindsided manner that I experienced, was insane. I’m blessed everyday to have escaped such nonsense
This is why I went No contact, I even deleted all my social media. I literally blocked anyway for him to know if I even still live in the same State.
I believe Rock Bottom is a Blessing for the Narc, a chance Given by God to Repent and CHANGE
We shouldn't interfere, wanting to help the narc is in fact the worst thing to do ! For them and for us...
AMEN!!
Jesus said the only soul that couldn’t be saved is the dark, empty heart. I believe that’s a narcissist. Even God gives up on them - we should, too.
@@chrino21 i am a muslim and for us The Door of Repetance is ALWAYS open... To EVERYONE
Narcs are not All the same... They might be some of them who have been fooled by the Devil because of their pathology...
How can we give up on All of them my friend ????
Jesus was all about Mercy isn't it ?
Let's then show Mercy to EVERYONE💖
my daughter and I had to run for our own safety , after 3 months It appeared that she was genuinely sorry and was more caring, we moved back in and after 6 months she switched back to the same abuse , and after a couple more years and the physical abuse started ( that was new ) I left for good .
Please stay away
They NEVER change.
@@endorphinrider1633 And aging narcissists only get worse.
Right, strangers bail narcs out of collapse which enables them to re-energize and inflate their ego. And they usually turn on those who bail them out if they are around them long enough. Strangers most likely are a one-time encounter, but only if the narc or stranger continues to engage with each other
Do you notice how the wrong party is always the one being “helped?”
@@elcee7800 yes, because narcs have a way of manipulating others into believing they are the victim, and sadly, people fall for it. With that said, most narc supporters, not all, are narc themselves. Narcs naturally congregate and flock to those with similar values and beliefs
Recently I finally let my ex bf vulnerable narcissist have it right between the eyes as only an empath can when they're pushed too far.
I knew I was disregulating but couldn't get a grip. All I could do was text because he wouldn't talk to me. All I could do was lash out in sheer pain and dump years of lying, cheating, and criticism back onto him.
Felt like I was banging on a hard wall of silence. But I know what I said went deep. I may never know how deep because I burned every bridge so he'd never look in my direction again, and now I can focus on recovery.
But a little girl in me cries for the nice version of him and falling asleep in his arms.
You just made me cry!
I understand every word and thought you have written here!!
Sending you all the love and strength that we have we are amazing ❤️🥰🥰❤️
The nice version of them was only a mirror of us... there was no real nice version of them.
It was all an illusion. Stay strong, you've got this 🧡
Living the same story but whenever I feel low I just remember the awful and hurtful things he said to me while discarding me. Then I ask myself...if I would have been at his place, would've I treated him the same way that he treated me? The answer is a big "NEVER". I clearly begin to understand the difference between a nice person like me and a cruel, selfish man like him. That's when my eyes open to see the reality. And that instanty stops my craving for his love.
Keep dreaming. Reality with him is cruel.
To sum it all up and brake it down into it's simplest form, you have there back and they stab you in yours, the story of my life really, I've had a lot of so called friends like that and family too; I've had to learn to turn off empathy over the years even though it was hard at first, but everytime I didn't I ended up regretting it, so lessons learned.
Yes I helped a narcissist when hit rock bottom.They will not appreciate your help they will just use evil against you. Don't do it some people don't want they help be careful.
In a vulnerable situation! Going no contact after being scape goat for 57 years!
Sendind all my love and strenght!♥️💗💖💞
My ex experienced many crises from which I saved her. But once saved she went back to her old ways.
it became obvious that they were just running back to me because something didn't work out after a little while. I've had them come and whisper sweet nothings into my ears as if the good old days were back and I was back in the idealization phase. To instantly devaluing me when there wasn't an argument in the first place. Some of these fools have such an ego, it's pretty evident that all they ever wanted to do was just see if they could have they could have you again if they cared to. Once that question is validated, you are put right back on a shelf. (Talk about future faking on steroids!)
When dealing with narcissism, you should know that it’s not personal. “It isn’t personal” is one of those cliches used to cushion all kinds of bad actions taken by people who need an out for being immoral, but in this case it's truth. Narcissists don’t know how to love; they can’t afford to spare the energy to learn, because they’re always in a state of high emergency, cataloging potential threats and redoubling their defenses. When they claim to love you, it means nothing. They may even think they mean it, but they don’t understand the concept - they can’t feel it. They never attach to you or anyone else. Other people are paper cut-outs to the narcissist, like those cardboard figures of celebrities you pose next to for a selfie. Narcissists value their own children only as mirrors of themselves. Loads of them brag about being a good parent and seek compliments for that only to hide their masks. When they destabilize you or attack you, it means nothing. They are stuck in an endless conversation with themselves, in which you are an inanimate object, to be assigned their own faults and used as a surrogate punching bag for their hatred of themselves. When they toss you out, it’s no more meaningful than a junkie tossing away a needle; when they try to reel you back in, it only means that they tired of the new drug and need a hit of the old. None of this is personal. They’re too terrified to have close personal relationships, opting instead for extraction of admiration from a subservient partner whose range of action they strictly constrain. This is not personal. None of it. The narcissist does not know who you are - it doesn’t know how to know other people. Like the vampire or the chainsaw-wielding creature in the horror film, it’s from another world, bereft of the concept of human connection. Moreover, People wonder why they end up hurt, seriously hurt, and even killed for their own actions. ' - Cara Lee
I hope that my narc is at his rock bottom.....he's currently in jail has been there for 5 months awaiting trial for aggravated assault with a deadly weapon..... He cut my neck with a knife.....he had already lost his job and needs spinal surgery..... everything I ever did for him bc I wasn't struggling like he was .....and I know he hated me for it .....right before he assaulted me he had a kid with one of his young supply ...now he's 59 in jail going to go to prison and a new baby .....I SMH wondering why I ever cared for this horrible person
I'd helped my husband through serious colon cancer surgery and chemo treatment while raising our 3 young children without any of his family's help. He made it through ok. But years later, when my mother was dying and I was going to her side for 2 weeks. He was telling me how he was bored and wanted a divorce. That said, I'm still trying to get rid of him as he just wants to stay and torcher me. When I had sudden serious intestinal surgery 5 months ago, it was such an inconvenience for him. And I believe my intestinal problem is literally because of him. You are absolutely right that normal people should NEVER help these EVIL people. Because they will turn on you.
I hope you're able to get away. My father stayed married to my unempathic mother for 52 years. When he died, she had alienated all his relatives, including his only daughter (me). He died in a house so hoarded with clothes, he only had two drawers for his stuff (in a FOUR-BEDROOM HOUSE!). She didn't buy him any food he liked. She liked to eat tripe and boiled everything. He was the one who cooked and cleaned and still worked a full-time job. She was lazy. And when his health deteriorated, the house fell apart because he was no longer keeping it up. And yet he stayed with her. I felt sorry for him, but even when he was dying, he was defending my mother. She stole his wallet and hid it in her purse, and watched as he yelled at me and accused me of stealing it. Months later, she said, she "found it" in her purse. Narcissists are just evil. They break the Ten Commandments on a regular basis with no remorse.
I would never even dream of helping a narcissist out of the pit they created for themselves.
Nope, never have, never will.
Let them perish in the same misery, pain, and suffering, that is naturally part of themselves.
And more of the pain they cause others.
I just started praying for my Narcissistic daughter, and my innocent grandchildren.
Only because God told me (in heart) to stay NO CONTACT but pray for my family.
That's all I will do, something only God can fix anyway.
I thank God for opening my eyes, and not letting me go through what others have endured from a Narcissist.
I didn't know at first, but the word just hit me (Narcissist)
Those "True Crime" books that I read came in handy.
She gets no relief, not anymore. She had my fatherly kindness, no more relief.
WHY DID YOUR GOD ALLOW SUCH??
You don't sound sane! I feel sorry for your poor daughter!
I wish I’d had known this before I helped the Narc so many times. Being married doesn’t mean nothing to them, he betrayed me in the worst way. Never again .. disgusting stale individuals.
Married to a narsassist, soon to be divorced. Before my awakening to the fact that he was a narssasist...he had a collapse. I recognize this now through educating myself. He accepted help from three families in a church. Two of them were associate pastors and their families. Once he gained their trust, he then triangualted all of them..and caused a complete division among the church. I tried to warn the pastors not to help...but they did so anyway. Today, I recognize the warnings against such predators. Narsassists are truly evil people. Jesus called them out...brood of vipors...be careful!
@Valerie Alexander to some Pastors narcissism is new age ignorance, he was taught with God all things are possible. Talking about the unchangeable narcissist to them is like telling them that God's hands are too short.
Is his name jorge p if so prayers to you
These churchmen (conveniently?) forget the parts in the Bible, where people had become so nasty and wicked that the Lord just, basically, wrote them off - permanently.
They never admit to anything;
they accuse!
Strange but true. People need to know this. If you see a narcissist drowning throw a razor wire for him / her. Don't stretch your hand.
I help 1 because i didint know about narcissism and she turn on me as she get back on her feet
A snake is a snake...🐍🐍🐍🐍 They will bite you no matter how nice you treat them!!
Don't help them. They are the worse ungrateful beings that exist🎯🎯🐉🎭
If you try to warn them they will say that you “made it happen” after whatever does indeed happen.
Narcissist Need to Stop Being Narcissist And Move On And Get Out of Narcissist Group,
I absolutely agree . They can quit being a narc if they wanted to .
Absolutely! Wouldn't the world be so much better if the enablers just shut up, the empaths remained wised-up, and the mental health folks and the lawmakers just sat up!!! If only.....
@@deedeemoore6096 uh huh
With all their endless supplies on top of supplies how do they hit rock bottom
That is exactly what I did I saved a narcissist in her collapse from her ex [red flag ] 28 years ago I didn't know
Because their supplies are lower than them and need help themselves, narc men/ women almost always downgrade with supply .
Yes Yes when I met my narcissistic ex husband he was at his collapse stage got kicked out of his baby mama's house with his nephews he had a nerve to try to raise wow I see so clearly now💯💯
Exactly as she said! My sibling always got herself into these dramas and crisis…she had and has no common sense. my parents and I would always help her out….all the while she told everyone that she was the only one in the family with her sh*t together- we were the dumb f*cks! As soon as she was back up on her feet, she would discard us UNTIL her next emergency. She always repaid my parents and me with evil.
From an early age, she was odd. She wouldn’t talk to me and she always gave me the evil eye. Our aunt told me before she died, looking back, that my sister always thought she was better than me.
My sister manipulated mom out of her life savings, then after mom died, evil sister claimed mom had gambled it all alway. Old bank records proved otherwise. For ten years, weekly, never missed a week, sister swindled with Mom writing her checks. My sister was my parents’ golden child, I was the scapegoat in this dysfunctional family. My parents gave me nothing, I had to pay every red cent of my college- no help from them. I don’t resent my parents because their money is theirs. They can give it to whoever they want. But for evil sister to gaslight me like that, shows that she knew she did wrong and wanted to cover it up. Evi!
From an early age my sister ran smear campaigns on me. I must have had my head up my a**, because - the general pattern was like, my friends would stop liking me after they started to associate with my evil sister.
When our Dad was dying and unconscious, I walked into his hospital room, Evil sat there watching him. She looked like she was getting off on it, Dad dying. She was enjoying it! Actually enjoying watching him die. I didn’t know who that person was sitting there. Pure evil. Her mask was completely off and I saw the demons driving the meat bag.
Afterwards she tried to cheat me out of part of the house and insurance money but couldn’t. Finally the spell was broken. I couldn’t deny it any more how evil she was!
Now I live looking over my shoulder. I’m waiting for that phone call- you know, the one from the damsel in distress- the evil demons get stuffed back down into the meat suit and hide and the sweet, innocent, special little babydoll who wouldn’t hurt a fly image re-emerges- in the sweetest voice, help me, help me, help me!!!!! All the while batting her eye lashes.
BUT unfortunately for this evil creature’s intentions and purposes, my blinders are off and the empathy well has dried up -- no knight in shining armor is coming to rescue her ever again!
Hay we could be brothers. Got the same sister. Mine destroyed a 4th generation farm. All the animals are gone and the fields are overgrown and for what. That's the hardest to understand
@@furtherahead5867 I added some important information about my story. My sister is a sadistic demon, but she appears to be sweet and innocent to people who don’t know her well- in reality she’s a sick, covert narcissist- psychopath. She loved to see others suffer and die.
I don’t know if our sisters are the same, mine isn’t human. Just an empty meat bag driven by demonic forces.
Crazy huh
In the middle of it right now. Kids dad has hit Rock bottom..allegedly. Now I’m “supposed” to help him because we have kids. His hasty decision, trying to spite me, is why he’s where he is now. Let him tell it, if I don’t help him out, I’m doing a disservice to the kids. But it wasn’t a disservice when he jumped States and left me with the kids..💁🏾
I'm going through the same thing except he hasn't hit rock bottom yet !!!!
Do not waste any more energy on toxic people. invest your time and energy in yourself,your kids and those whom can reciprocate,what good you give them!
Thank you thank you thank you Clarice for this breakdown. I could not understand how did I become the enemy. That was one of the most baffling things after he discarded me and I went absolutely no contact. Why the smear campaign? Why the lying on me and saying I was doing to him what he was trying to do to me? I found myself thinking does he really believe all of this stuff that he's telling other people in his smear campaign? I was good to him as long as he was good to me and when he stopped I stopped and I had that right. You just cleared up a lot of stuff that I was confused about. Thank you so much
This is on point 😢
I helped my Narcissist husband after losing his job. We were separated during the time. He pretended that he had changed. We went to counseling with my Pastor and he even started going church and pretended to accept salvation. A member in the church helped him to get employed where he worked and required that he continue to do well.
Well, he did to well for a short while. He would call at night and ask for help in learning and interpreting his job tasks. I helped him faithfully.
He later began leaving the home at night and then Manipulated the Pastor into to telling me to not to be so hard on him when he go out to visit his elderly mother.
To make a long story short, he strayed away and started cheating. I became pregnant with our 2nd child.
After the baby was born, things got worse and worse. He warned me not to talk to the Pastor about his behavior but I did speak with a church mentor for my child. He took it upon himself to call my ex husband to invite him to a daddy daughter dance. My ex husband became infuriated and immediately said I told you not to be talking to the church about my business!
He later moved out and left the 2 kids and me while I was at a low point in my life.
So, yes, a narc do not care about you or their children. It’s all about control and what they want. They do not want their true identity exposed.
I recently came across a quote from a book that perfectly describes a narcissist. I'm sharing it below for all that are interested.
"Above all, do not lie to yourself. A man who lies to himself and listens to his own lie comes to a point where he does not discern any truth either in himself or anywhere around him, and thus falls into disrespect towards himself and others. Not respecting anyone, he ceases to love, and having no love, he gives himself up to passions and coarse pleasures in order to occupy and amuse himself, and in his vices reaches complete beastiality, and it all comes from lying continually to others and himself. A man who lies to himself is often the first to take offense. it sometimes feels very good to take offense, doesn't it? And surely he knows that no one has offended him, and that he himself has invented the offense and told lies just for the beauty of it, that he has exaggerated for the sake of effect, that he has picked up on a word and made a mountain out of a pea--he knows all of that, and still he is the first to take offense, he likes feeling offended, it gives him great pleasure, and thus he reaches the point of real hostility..."
Fyodor Dostoevsky, The Brothers Karamazov
Perfect perfect perfect. I love it
Sounds like Meghan Markle lol!
I saw through it quickly enough. I cut all ties. It ruined relationships as I was painted as the villan, and it ended a budding romance for me too, but the 'helpers' were looking in from a small window. I knew her well and she simply used me and cared little for her husband, myslef and her child. She was on Tinder looking for a new victim to shack up with, after hubby threw her out.
She drained my emotions and resounces - a lot of money. She is old news, I live in a foreign city with no friends now, but it was the right move. CUT!
Sure have and now im still under a therapist 5 years no contact
Nope, and I never will. They chose their path in life.
GOD Will Take Care Of Them Psalm 23 , 92 ,148 Thank You Amen 🙏.
Thank you for this.
The person I know... I think they're be supply isn't being as forthcoming as they were hoping so they've out of the blue started getting in touch again, all "poor me".
Thanks for the warning!!!
Been duped by a narc like that. Very true.
I don't even want to know when the Narc hits rock bottom, I want him to think I moved out of the state. And like you said he will be angry at us for helping him. This is sad
Looking back on my life I wonder how its possible Im like a narc target? I think its they seek above all else loyalty, and empathy because they have none. If you do and they know it and they hit rock bottom. they will want it back - no matter what they did to you
They pretend to be everything we wanted… and we are instilled with ALL the qualities they lack.
My narc eventually ended up in the ER and almost passed away. I stayed with him and visited him everyday. While there, he said that he thought about everything and all of his bad decisions (empathy & sympathy game). However once he was doing better and was released, he left me for another person. This was so hurtful because he actually left me for a downgrade and it was just 4 weeks after my mother passed away and it didn't matter to him at all.
Trash can not treasure you!
Get it!
Zero empathy 😕
If you see a nark hanging from a cliff if he didnt hurt you just ignore him if ge did and dont ask for help ignore him again but if he or she dares to ask for help after they whronged you terribly a kick to.the face is a good responce
Yes. It's painfully true. It happened when I didn't understand narcissism. So, it was very confusing.
Thank You! Blissful Sunday!🌻
Trying help them is like bringing a snake inside out of the cold.
This is the exact story of my last 7 yrs! SMH! But now I know and will be grateful for the lesson and move on! That’s all we could do.
Yes and I'm paying for helping. Rebuilding from scratch. 2yrs strict no contact right after publicly exposing them with videos like these. They have collapsed even worst this time. Thanks Clarice.
The woman turned to the snake "Why did you bite me after I nourished you?" The snake replied "Im still a snake and always will be"
Good factual information coming from my own people, big up the west indies.
Clarice, well done to you for helping others. I been in this position helping narcs by accident, and now suffering for it. I'm ever hopeful, God is good and im healing day by day. Thank u for these videos. Jah bless
With my ex boyfriend and my brother who I'm not speaking 2, they are a narcissistic piece of crap!! I feel free and happy those people are no longer in my life anymore!!
Yes been there done that multiple times 💯blessings to you all
your words could not have rang more true!! Wow!!!
My grandfather is a narc and so is my father , and ive seen some collapsed narcs like the day they are dumped, or getting dumped. They are still entitled but maybe this guy wasn't in a collapse i was helping him, and giving him a ride, and he was still acting entitled and upset i took a road that had more traffic apparently while i was helping him, and supporting him, he was still complaining, and a few years later when i had more healing ,reparenting , and better boundaries I noticed even more clearly when we reconected how much of a narcisist he was total toxic narc gaslighter...... My grandpa is in his 90s and he was really needing empathy the family resonates with me because I am an empath, but now i have 3 years in healing from the trauma of growing up in a narc family system, so like i mentioned earlier that means better boundaries and not letting people project at me, their shit, speaking up for myself and valuing my self. But since i am an empath, they resonated for me to visit my grandpa often and i did , but he was also a taker, i left feeling drained, one time i visisted him in the hospital he was so angry that i wasn't comfortable, and the thing is both my dad and my grandpa live together now and their both narcs so when i go my dad also shows up and that means i have to deal with 2 narcs and they are draining. One is enough for one day, and after i go i need to selfcare a lot , connect with empathic people and pray even because the draining feeling of interacting with a narc so long is a lot. 2 narcs is too much..... So anyway my grandfather needs the support and empathy im willing to call , or visit but i need to do it ever so often and keep boundaries, and he was a little contemptuous at me for not visiting or calling , that was when he was in the hospital so i was like, hmmm, his anger was coming out too, maybe not at me but he was angry in general it wasn't so fun to be around, so he was vulnerable but still his narcisism was sort of present in different ways so it ws uncomfortable i have kept my distance, and would like to call, but i have some stuff present in my life,, that i havent been able, some stuff is triggered i might pay a visit soon... But in regards to the video, yes the collapsed and needy narcisist, stilll is a narcisist.
I'm divorcing a narcissist and I see him going through these things you expressed twice I was tempted to return , but I researched narcissist collapse and two of my adult children told me don't go back it will not be good so I decided it best to stay away from him. Thanks for the encouragement.
Great video.. I learned something today. Thank you!
Glad it was helpful!
There is no pity for the ones who lack empathy
It's exactly what I went through recently,,, fkn textbook!
Exactly like this video explains it!
I helped him up twice after he got drunk and fell over, I am now in a wheelchair because of spinal issues, my mom is taking care of him after he had a surgery but won't take me to the store because of my wheelchair, I have been dealing with my narcissist since childhood.
Excellent wisdom and knowledge and advices you given to people Thank you very much,
Them getting caught cheating is the fastest way for you to become "evil". If you hurt someone who hurts people, you are what's wrong with the world.
I tried to help my mother when she was diagnosed with pancreatic cancer as I thought it would bring her to her bottom. But she "rose again" in a blaze of narcissism as the one who won when she died in a brave blaze of glory.🔥 I was so happy when she was gone, but the narcissism was still horribly alive in the family with father and youngest sister.
More on family Narcissists in upcoming video (Sunday 25th)
@@ExposingtheNarcissist Yay! Thank you... you are always so good at getting at the stuff that makes the rest make sense.
@@CynthiaSchoenbauer Have you seen my latest members community post?
Yes I have tried to help a narcissist in collapse who was also volatile and full of threats after the initial love-bombing and connection - the collapse happened when I left them as I had to go back to my country after we came together in the beginning and when I returned they were an absolute mess. But I was discarded as I did not stand for their volatile behaviour though did try to have empathy for their state. They did not like that I was stronger or that I saw them in their fragile state of darkness which I named and said they could come through it. I was shocked by their abusive and volatile behaviour and so I just walked and left them to it. I have no idea how they are, but I could not stand for being hurt when I came all the way back for them. But I was there for collapse, possibly caused by me leaving the first time, but on my return I could do nothing to help them or I was going down with them. Leaving again probably caused a bigger collapse, I hope no one is hurt in that process. I got out however, I have never experienced anything like it. They said they had all these other (married) people as a way to hurt me among things, but I saw nothing but pain. I guess they were trying to bring me down to their dysfunctional level. I am in a good place with my life thankfully ❤I am enjoying your videos! Still working it out, I think he threw or pushed away something he wanted in the collapse as sabotage and I dodged a bullet. Still was painful.
Brilliant video, Clarice!
Please consider making a video on how the narcissist will use blackmagic and woodoo on their victims.
Thank you!
Omg 😳 I can testify to this
You need mental help ASAP!
Or religion,oops,same diff.
Yeap. He's moved onto an old friend of his. A very good man who actually made a change in his life and has become successful. My X bragingly claims "at least says I take a look at myself" but he doesn't. He has always been who he is. Hasn't changed a bit. Now he's living in a trailer working for him and I'm sure he will cause some trouble eventually in some form or fashion. I've always seen him try and sabotage others. He can't stand to be around humble men for too long. It grates at his inner being lol