I agree, and most don't accept someone cutting ties with abusive families. In their minds, things can change if everyone set their differences aside and work them out. The problem is the narcs in the family that are creating it, and victims can't control or stop it. When most say setting aside differences, the target is usually the victim and not the narc because the narc believes they've done nothing wrong. Transformation always falls on the back of narc victims. The narc is aware of this, and narc supporters are giving narcs a pass without accountability. However, many narc supporters are narcs themselves, so, naturally, they would take their side. With that said if narc victims want peace of mind, they have no choice but to cut off pretty much everyone in the family unit. I know many will say why cut everyone off? Because narcs use family members as flying monkeys to extract information from the victim that will be reported back to the narc. So, let the narc and flying monkeys have the family unit all to themselves without victims to terrorize and abuse
100 percent correct, the abuse will not end, a narcissists wants to keep pulling you in and they are experts at Gaslighting and blame shifting, no contact is the only way to end it.
@@robertdiminuco689 the thing is some narcs are out there in the world and shining anyway and keeping boundaries and detaching when necesary you can't do much about running into narcs out in the world so sometimes navigating them while staying true to ourselves keeping boundaries and detaching , and ofcourse saving close and relationships with safe enough emotional people some you can cut out completely others exist in the world and we have to navigate stay true to ourselves shine anyway and keep boundaries if necesary at times its knowing who they are and connecting with safe people and keeping it rather brief with the narcs because they can just drain, so keeping it safe bruief casual and for me keeping some boundaries and detachment, for thosee who i cant chose to avoid . hehe cause they exist out there. this is what ive found!
People who say blood is thicker then water, or you will regret not keeping contact & feel bad if they die. THEY HAVE NEVER HAD A RELATIVE WHO IS A NARCISSIST.
The quote is actually "The blood of the covenant is thicker than the water of the womb", so the quote is actually meaning that people whom you are not related to you by blood can be in a closer bond to you than even your parents or siblings. Your family is typically who Satan uses to inflict the most damage to you because they have the most access. All will reap what they have sown in the end though.
Story of my life! Ex husband and ex mother in law and evil sister turned my children against me. My mother who is a codependent knows the damage my sister has done and says nothing to her about it. I’ve been ostracized, manipulated and controlled by these people. I’ve cut all contact so I can heal. It’s been lonely but peaceful. I miss my children and to know the devastating impacts they have over my children is heartbreaking. I pray they learn the truth someday
Yes my child was turned against me as well. I also have cut off all contact with these monsters. My child had such a beautiful personality and they passed down demons into my son just like them. They know that i could have taught my son many good things and morals in life. One day I will show him the lies he's been fed. My son is my heart and I refuse to let him be like them. He will know all the dangers and manipulation he has been fed.
Though most courts decide by default for women, that are encourraged to behaive as narcissist, I see that there's always made an exception for abusive men, because the judge (all court in france only female) is afraid to make him angry, but compensates by ruining good men.result is more male suicide after all is taken, more femicide by the unpunished abuser.
If narcs can't keep control over the victims (adult children) they will go after their children and those close to them. That's how narcs operate because they want to somehow remain in control over victims who cut off contact with them. I am sorry you are going through this, but on a positive note, it won't last forever. Nothing last forever, and life changes.
I've born into a huge family of narcissist. Only one person beside me that i'm sure she was a non-narc. It feels like i accidentally joined the wrong Army in a spiritual war.
I am still looking for my non-narc to help me through as the first one beside my spirit which guides me. But the HUGE family of toxic people is true for me.
I have too many narcissists in my family!! I've been their scapegoat my whole life!! I've had to go no contact with all and low contact with one. It's been a big relief to distance myself from these emotionally abusive, hosts for demons!!👹
I'm at the point in life that it doesn't matter what the relationship is or was, family member, friend, girlfriend, mother to my child, if they are mean to me, they are history. If I was married and my wife pulled this narcissistic abuse on me, I would be single real fast. No one should tolerate abuse, not even for minimal time.
I totally agree but I got a bunch of flying monkeys and narcissists basically a bunch of cluster bees psychopaths too stalking me how do I deal with that
@@taraarrington2285 You need to take steps to separate yourself from these abusive people. They are looking for narcissistic supply, Don't give it to them. The abuse only gets worse, narcissists have no intentions of stopping their abuse. Let me know how it goes.
I am attempting to fade out slowly from my narc parents and family system. Every time I politely decline a family event that I don't want to attend personal power increases!
I’m doing the same thing by foregoing family gatherings. My narcissistic father’s 89th birthday was yesterday and I declined my half-sister’s invitation to gather for his luncheon celebration.
Yes, my father was narcissistic and toxic to our family, my two brothers are the same way, I don’t communicate with any of them ever, it is freedom, and I have a beautiful life. I hang out with positive energy, beautiful people, and they are my family! Thank you Clarice for all your videos!
I was born into a narcissistic family, had the courage to cut ties. Then my children's dad is one, also had the courage to kick him out of our household. Now it's just me and my 2 kiddos!!!.
Membership here helps me feel a family-like bond and warmth with you Clarice and the community here. It is the first place where truth bubbles up and is addressed. It provides a kind of model of what we were all supposed to have in a family. It is like the family that I PRETENDED I had in my head, but now am seeing that I did not have. 👨👨👧👦
IT SPREADS LIKE A MOULD INTO EVERY CORNER OF YOUR HOUSE: Narcissistic Abuse. Brilliant video. This is my whole life!!! My mother has turned my own daughter against me,ruined her engagement to isolate her and along with grooming her with money....now lives with my daughter and my grandchild. I'm completely isolated. They've alienated my little granddaughter's father too. Every day my NPD mother gets narcissistic supply knowing how much suffering she has created.
Alcoholic father, narcissistic older brother (5 years older), and narcissistic mother. I was the designated scapegoat. Mother triangulated my dad against me from birth, then in my young 20’s, she started triangulating my brother against me, as well as my cousin who was a great friend from childhood . Brother married the most hard core narcissistic I have ever met, grandiose! Then I Married a narcissist, and now my 21 year old daughter is one. Live in Los Angeles , go figure. Hahaha. I moved out of state at 55 last month, went no contact with entire family (except my kids), a year ago, and just hoping for the best. 🙏❤
A huge, overwhelming chunk of abuse is at the hands of family members. Family members can be narcs too, and this is difficult for many to accept. We are conditioned to believe that family loves you no matter what they do, and non-relatives are the enemy and narcs. Learned behaviors start in the home for children. The acting mask 👺 is worn not only outside but inside for narc victims. Right, the family unit for some is not in their best interest, and victims are confused about whether or not to walk away from the madness. However, victims hardly have no one to turn to in seeking validation in cutting off toxic families. We are aware that the victim's families are against it, but it's not surprising that most outsiders are as well. Clarice, you are shining a light on this topic that a few are willing to address that gives victims a voice to be heard and understood. For that, I thank you for your extraordinary commentary and the sacrifices you make in creating educational and inspiring videos. Thank you.
OUCH! When top counselors advise you to, "SEVER ALL TIEs", d o i t!!!!!! Or they WILL take everything! I didn't know about NPD and couldn't give up "family"! And now LIVE ON alone, but with the ONE WHO SAVED me out! Peace to you!
This is sooo true about the family. What was supposed to be so good, nourishing, and happy is what they turn into a house of horrors. Thank you for this wonderful awareness. I can do a lot of growth off of this, Clarise. 🛌 This video helps me reach back and see how I learned as a child to deal with others.. and how it was a nightmare instead of a sweet memory of wonder and love. Thank you for this nourishing video that brings me hope 🏚 to give me courage to unroot the horror in my head that was in my FOO (family of origin).
Suicide or murder start to enter the victim's mind. The desire to escape occupies most hours of the day. To choose either of these escape methods dooms the victim even further. To not choose either method of escape is a lifetime bordering on madness. Thanks Clarice.
Theres always gotta be a way out, Ive seen people that had things far worse than me even homeless, imprisoned because of narcs rebound, and recover but it takes time
The Narcissist does want us to succumb to their negativity and self-destruct but we must not let them win. I will be talking more on this in the video due out Wednesday 5th October.
Yes. My mother tricked me. She deeded property to her golden son and that was a secret. I cannot understand why she wanted to hurt me from her grave like that. I never once thought that was possible. It is very devastating.
@@dontbelongherefromanother apparently they do leave chaos behind. I thought i had seen it all with the soulmates and workplace. This is really some messed up s#it.
Richard, my father was a covert narcissist and at age 70 he decided to leave my mom He received an inheritance from his mother and he invested it in among other things his friends Bible book store . So he had to start using it or loose it to taxes. He had everything in place. Attorney's and his brother's children to help him . My poor mother had a heart attack because of this. I don't know how much he was worth but it has to be millions. Our family home was paid off but the first thing he wanted was the house to be sold out from under mom and myself. Luckily our attorney pulled some strings and mom bought him out. After she passed away guess what happened? Yup , I got involved with a covert narcissist. Now my childhood home is being sold by house flippers . The narc decided not to pay his share of rent and then the pandemic hit and noone could evict a bad roommate. Financial abuse and emotional abuse. Threats and noone would help me. He even broke into my house and thank God I was home at the time. He had been gone for over a year and seeing the locks were changed he decided to break in. Guess what happened? The cops sided with him against me. I didn't evict him properly they said. He had left on his own so I didn't have to do anything. Unfortunately I don't make enough money to pay for everything so I needed a roommate. I don't know what to do and I have to be out of my home by the 19th of October. I've never lived anywhere else and now I'm sick. Could use some prayers if anyone here sees my answer. I just want a place of my own with noone else and to have my 3 cats . I can't trust anyone now .
@@jennymccombie9604 i am so sorry to hear about your sad situation and getting kicked out of your family home on oct 19. Definately, you have my prayers. I have been in battle w narcs since boy scouts in 1977. Now i discovered the worst, family betrayal. My mother was very covert. The family and small town thinks she was a saint. They think my monster narc brother is a poor little thing, and they think i am a jerk for going nc w him for destroying my sanity. I am reading in comments that these coverts leave chaos behind them from the grave. In your case, you are grieving your mother and your father is reeking havok. I am praying that you can find a small comfortable apartment and begin rebuilding your life and go nc w your father. Get that monster out of your life at all cost. We just have to trust that God will work things out for us. I read that family betrayal is the worst and it takes between 1 1/2 and 3 years before we can make it to acceptance. For now, we just stay calm as possible and take it a day at a time. May God bless you and restore your peace of mind and sanity.
OMG I am SO grateful that I finally left my family for good. 🙏 Even though it took two years of therapy, healing and accepting, now I can see how much pain and chaos they brought to my life. Now I can see their real faces behind all their fake masks and personas and I am glad that I still have so many years left to enjoy my life in peace. Since I left there has never been more peace and happiness in my life than now. Thanks to healers like you, my therapist and helpful people along the way I can finally walk as a free person. I am so thankful for everyone helping people to understand this craziness and get out of it. You are real earth angels. ❤
She, the cruel narcissist, did and is doing exactly that with people at my old synagogue and with her narc family and entourage…it is sooo painful and so awful! 😱
When two narcs meet... Sounds like my Father in Law and my Daughter he keeps her away from everyone even family she cant even have a fb account, on the flip side my daughter wilfully abandons her whole family to live her "new life" and keep those resources coming - hes a narc for family power, shes a narc for family money on her husbands side - screw everyone else family gangsters is more like it
My dad is a narc i was the scapegoated child an empath highlysensitive the target of his projections, my 2 siblings turned out narcisist. I stayed an empath thank God, and have had a lot of healing and unpacking to do from the family bullshit , even societal bullshit. Nrcs can put an image out doors. I lived 2 yers alone with my narc parent , he was so abusive on the daily. I became an alcoholic just to numb the pain. After getting sober it was a case of what i always knew i drank to cover the trauma of living with a narc parent. I have 3 years in healing from the narcisistic family i grew up in and i was the scapegoat in, it started by finding a safe enough support group, a safe enough person that encouraged me to be more gentle and compasionate with myself, and then i also started learning to say NO and put healthy boundaries to protect myself , against abusive behaviour, thats when my inner child/true self came out more, to express himself because he saw i had his back!!! ITs a lot to heal from but so cool that there are support groups about healing from dysfunctional childhoods , and information about trauma, reparenting, selfcompassion, healthy boundaries , true expression of the inner child unapologetically , taking our space being authentic and shining anyway ..............................
Just remember even if you cut all ties and still have a child, they will use that child to try to hold control. I have called bluff a few times, and still. There is definitely psychological manipulation of my daughter. I have narrowed the big three in the phrase "Projection, Distraction, Deception". The narcissistic cycle must end somehow, maybe the courts could throw away the Duluth model and be required to evaluate every male and female entering family court. I think mental health recognition and red flags should be taught in high school.
I too, have lived this horror and still do after over 20+ years. I went NO CONTACT years ago...and I've stayed there!!! I've cognitively elected to...leave the lot of 'em. I am far stronger than 'they' are. Ironically, the TRUTH is getting out about this now...and I'm grateful for all the help I've received in FINDING THE TRUTH. Finally people are 'comparing notes' on this appalling abuse... it took a while...my teenage grandson (whom I've never met) is the latest in a long, long Narcissistic line. I've learned to release that which I cannot control.I HAD to. My Heart goes out to anyone else whose been through this 'Hell On Earth'...Expose The Narcissists...many are suffering!!! Many thanx for this clip Clarice, blessings to you and yours...
From my experience, it's certain that the more a person exposes themselves to the narcissist, (family, friends, romance) the more they will slowly die, no way around it. They will use you as their weeble punching bag until you don't bounce back anymore and then they simply dispose of you in the trash without a second thought. Unfortunately, some never climb out of the trash because there's no more life left to recover. Get out while you still can. Hard truth.
It only hurts untill you no longer like them. They are relative to you through genetics not friendship find better friends untill you can stand by yourself
I would give this video a thousand likes because it is a great video & people need this information. We the scapegoats of the family are screwed no matter what choice we make. I guess, I couldn't leave my dad. Great video Claries.👍❤️
Yup. My three daughters. I had to go no contact. But my son, the youngest, suffered because of them. I only have one child now. Theird dads, also very long gone.
My parents passed more than a decade ago and I've really seen it all with them. It took time to realize my new freedom, no more defamation, I could live my live, finally!
My wife IMHO is an undiagnosed malignant covert narcissist. I’m currently in the final discard stage. We have 3 beautiful girls together. The only reason I don’t regret ever knowing her. I’m actually going tomorrow and having a R/O put on her and having her removed from the home. Today I was undoing the hose and she came out enraged and said “if you break that hose, I’ll break your face.” She’s threatened to slit my throat, poison me, and beat me with a baseball bat in the past. I really never thought she’d do it. Today I don’t feel that same way. There was a look in her eyes and her demeanor made me uneasy and unsettled to put it mildly. I officially do not feel safe anymore and need to act before our girls and I are breaking news. Thank you Clarice for giving me insight and tools to help combat her tactics.
I have 2 in my family of origine; my father that I grey rock and the sister he trained intensely, that I cut off for good. Living with them was a nightmare. Now I am far away from them and I can breathe at last.
This video describes my family perfectly. This is exactly what I live with on a daily basis. My only way out would be lots and lots of money, or run away and just end up living on the street. They ruined my education twice, they ruined a career that I built for myself, all before I even understood what narcissism was. I'm stuck in a place where I don't fit in and don't have any friends, looking back at what myself used to be, the people who used to see me as having talent and potential, and hoping I can get that life back.
I have been exposing the narcissist since 2012. He alienated my 4 children from me for 12 years now. I barely survived. He had not only my children, my parents, siblings, friends, family and neighbors gang up on me but he also used authority to relentlessly Bully me. The judges, lawyers, therapist, police, priests, school principals, etc......i left the country and he still is gang stalking me through the private courts stealing 3 homes, my marital home. My sisters home and now my parents home. Nobody ever told me how dangerous these people are!!
… where the only escape is death - that’s my ex father in law 😓 . He committed suicide coz of my ex mother in law, then this witch moved to live with us and now I’m getting divorced. I know how toxic she was, she even tried to turn my daughter against me but failed coz my daughter said she couldn’t feel being loved by her.
Thanks for your videos,it's really helping me alot,to decide to leave him,14 years of married .I almost lost my life, I now just started to live a new life with fear 😨
All of my family are narcs, I finally got away in February. THANK YOU JESUS!!!!!!! They are like strangers, they never knew me and I never really knew the real them eaither.
My narc mother turned my brother against my dad & me. I stayed in my family because I didn't know what was going on until it was to late. Both parents are gone now & I haven't talked to my narc brother in 4 yrs. It's lonely to not have a family...I wished I would had walked away yrs ago...I think it would had been easier. These people are cruel to no end.
Make fun of your brother for being brainwashed and use his circular arguments and bad faith arguments as gotcha moments that prove he's brainwashed. It's not bullying if you're trying to unbrainwash him.
I had two narcissistic parents. Life growing up was amazing 🤣. Not actually, but basically, I never knew if I was coming or going or if I was doing right or wrong. I literally could write a book on this subject. At age 17, I graduated from high school, and the next day, I left for the Air Force, never looking back until I had children of my own and felt they should know their grandparents. So fast forward 40 years and my stepfather who never adopted me passed away and that's when I found out I was next in line again for the narcissistic abuse again, there is witch craft mixed in with this as well. This man was also physically abusive with me, but I forgave him and released that from my life. So, through prayer 🙏 and self-help videos like this, I have learned to manage this situation, understand it, and manage it without becoming evil myself, but this has been a learning process as well. The best advice I can give if you have to be in contact with a narcissist is, self help videos, never take anything personal, limit contact, set boundaries and prayer, also seek professional help if you need it. But on a side note, I was very careful with raising my family not to make the same mistakes.
I definitely was raised by narcissistic personalities and so was my wife after 38 years we finally or I should say she finally ended it and she has got two of the four children totally convinced but because of what Jesus did on the cross and the blood and who he chooses to use one has to look to Jesus and not necessarily look at these people as the evil doers like they do us it's our enemy the devil who is behind all of this we must spiritually discern this not that all is going to turn out the way we want but we must be under the blood of Jesus and trusting in Him and his will being done here on the earth thank you for this information but we must trust in Jesus and not just information I do appreciate what you're doing it is hitting us all in the right direction praise the Lord
Well done Clarice. Walked away decades ago after huge struggles with cognitive dissonance. Both parents & their siblings were extremely narcissistic due to THEIR childhood upbringing. Father was disowned at the age of 14 & Mother was middle child of 9 who were raised by their eldest 16 year old sister. Heartbreaking 💔 history yet it was obvious that they KNEW what they did to us was wrong because we were made to keep THEIR SECRETS.
I have seen entire small Midwestern communities controlled by 4 or 5 generations of a couple of narc families. Eventually, the entire community resembles those few narcissistic family groups. The sibling rivalries live on, well beyond the deaths of the original narcissists.
Yes, there's a narcissist in the family. I have the strength to walk out of the family but I'm staying on to protect my one and only child. She has been totally destroyed and weak to leave the nest, but I'm building the courage in her to leave and so I can protect her. Once she's out it will make my exit easier.
I have left my family of origin. I was the scapegoat and now my mother ( the top narc) tries to use flying monkeys to hook me back in. I have to be strong not to go back through the door I have left from. Thank you for this video 🙏
A book of awareness & healing DADDY THROWS ME IN THE AIR - memoir/self-help once the golden child - I became the scapegoat when I became aware & saw truth.. had a highly narcissistic sister who was also a psychologist that had affairs with her clients and lived behind the mantle of the church.. a complete nightmare.. then I escaped..
My narcissistic brother is getting married tomorrow 5th/November 2022 here in Nigeria and I won't attend the wedding. I have been on no contact with him since 2012 and he he didn't even tell or invited me for the marriage. Let's save ourselves from abuses, it doesn't matter who is involved.
Ive been surrounding by Narcs in the family, wife and step son. My ex. My late Narc boss was so close to Made me got fired . They seems to be everywhere. Sad but true. I fight em all like crazy. Guys .. wish me luck.
The worst kind of narcissist is the religious kind by siblings in the family, the judgmental kind, who spreads malicious rumours among family members. This has hurt me beyond belief. But now since I have walked away and denounced even ever having known them, I feel free and the pain has been healed. God has helped me in this, helped to erase the very memory of them. They are not worth my time, not even in my thoughts or memories.
My daughter’s father is the narcissist. I accept that I made a bad choice, but would never change my daughter being here. Fortunately for me, I was able to dodge his financial abuse, chaos and drama throughout the years. It was actually less stressful for me to just raise her alone, and even after letting him off the hook, he is incredibly ungrateful, and blames me for his inaction and neglect. I’m happy that my daughter is 19 years old, we love in different countries, and I didn’t allow his tricks to marry me to work. He is blocked, and will never hear from me another day in his life.
My daughter had a baby at the start of the year. I drove 700km each way to see them (she lives near her father - the narc - of course). I managed to spend a week with them and it was good. I felt so much love for that baby. A few days after I got home I was accused of being potentially dangerous to the baby and cut off. He's taken everything he can from me. My mother is narcissistic and my father is her Flying Monkey. My brother died ten years ago. I've sold my house and am going to distance myself physically and emotionally from the lot of them. The truth will come out eventually.
I'm struggling to walk away from my narcissistic mother who purposely made sure I was financially illiterate. She stole money from me and thinks I won't get passed this but God Favors Me and I'm working towards it
I'd rather die, than go back. And l have made my peace with that decision. My dad has mountains of knowledge, but what use is that, when the trust is broken?
Hi Clarisse. Would you be willing to do a video on We victim survivors who have raised sons and daughters that grew up to be narcissistic? I'm dealing with that right now, and the shame and guilt of watching my daughter grow up to be so cruel, is so overwhelming at times. I am alienated from my three beautiful grandchildren, because my daughter has severe borderline tendencies. Plus, I taught her terrible relationship strategies, and she is married to a family of narcissist and psychopaths. I appreciate any consideration, and of course, I appreciate all of your wonderful videos. Thank you siStar.
Hi, My children are still young so I cannot fully relate. I am very sorry for what you are going through. It sems she have a lot of support being married into a toxic family so that is why it would be easy for her to push you aside. The only way you will probably hear from her is if things start to go pear-shaped. Just don't push for anything. Do not have expectations. Just let her do her thing. Easier said than done but it's all that is in your power to do.
Even though my narc daughter has three young children, I still ended up going no contact. My grandson who was five at the time started beating me up and telling me what a horrible person I am. I cannot babysit kids who are going to be taught to disrespect me and beat me up. My second narc daughter just had a baby I haven't seen. She posts pucs of the back of the child's head only. I have her blocked on social media but my sisters tell me about it. If they think theyre hurting me, theyre not. I spent a lifetime taking care of many kids so I'm completely ok with no grand kids. Good luck with the grandchildren!
Yes, I have. And it is evil. IT IS so tough that I cannot write about it now . My energy is tapped after 2 other comments.. Gro Vera Neste Christiansen from Norway.
My mother tried this. My dad divorced her and me and my brother cut her off at 18. She’s 70 now alone in a box (her house). No friends. When enough family members asked me why I don’t associate w her I wrote it all out sent it to her 300 phony Facebook friends and all family members. That was the last time anyone ever asked
I've seen MANY narcissist impregnate woman. It IS the most diabolical thing they do, among all the other horrific thing's they do to destroy people's lives. Mine, turned his daughter into a narcissist, from another marriage, it's SOOO sad, she has no self esteem, making babies with different men. 😢
Thank you for this video🎯 I am so over Ex narcissistic people 🎭🤡🤥🤷♀️ willing 2 crush their inflated ego🤯 so it's best for me to stay my distance, from my family members 🎭 never could manipulate ,me or change my mind,🤣 on anything.. they're scared to even talk to me🤡 don't waste your energy🚶♀️
Hi thanks for this video. Im in exactly this position. Lucky for me my eldest child escaped this. And is happily part of my live i miss my kids so much but can see their mothet has same tipe of gripp on them they dont want to visit. Even thou the are married since last year. I feel so dumb that i didnt sawthis comming. I wish i knew how to get my children back
My mother stole al my money 25 yrs ago Now i have to live with this 95 yr old controlling narcissist stealing my energy daily and she just wont die I need my freedom
Narcissistic ex husband. His main goal was to undermine my parenting - and remain the lord over the household. I suspect he has issues with his own mother. His father was a narcissist for sure and mother triangulated everyone in the family. I'm not sure if she was a covert narcissist or not - she was afraid of her husband, cut off from having friends or a life outside the home. I refused to 'become' her, although I was - it was so insidious. I'm divorced now and one out of my three kids see the toxicity. I pray for the other two. The ex narc grooms them with money and future faking. It's too attractive for them to resist.
I stopped speaking to all my adult kids as they are all narcs. My ex brainwashed them. It was really hard at first to deal with. Now, I feel happy God saved me. Can you do a video about walking away from a narcissistic family and how to stay away for your own emotional health?
Please see the following videos: Breaking Free from Toxic Family Members ruclips.net/video/4w_DlhRNIXU/видео.html Should You Tolerate Narc Family Members ruclips.net/video/6CRnKkAW6-w/видео.html Why NO Contact Works ruclips.net/video/-AugknOlTSs/видео.html
@@ExposingtheNarcissist also, do you have a video about becoming addicted to the narcissist like those who are addicted to casino games or drugs? People need to know why they stay.
@@theartzscientist8012 I think these 2 videos should address that: When you are still in love with the Narcissist ruclips.net/video/a8QesYX5fjM/видео.html and When the Narcissist lives in your mind ruclips.net/video/BL2hPiA5wTo/видео.html
Thank you, Clarice. Thank you so much for sharing what you have experienced regarding the evil trap the family becomes for the narcissistic spouse. The children and the sane other spouse are trapped. How does the sane spouse get the court to take Narcissistic Abuse seriously? Is there a strong 💪 approach to pursue with a lawyer that will put the odds in my favor in pursuing physical custody?
Yes! Zung! I found her on Utube! Thank you. See the power we have as a community of survivors sharing and helping with our combined knowledge and experiences? The greatest strength 💪 for me has been realizing my experiences were not isolated to me or unique to me. And that the Narcissist targeted me. It really wasn't personal even though it was. The Narcissist casts the net wide and takes whatever fish she can trap in her nets. Me. My two daughters. The Narcissist is a predatory animal. A savage animal. A cruel animal. One that destroys out of pleasure like a blood thirsty Weasel in a chicken 🐔 coup. They will destroy whomever they trap. In that sense it's not personal. But it quickly becomes extremely personal through a series of steps or stages. And then it becomes a "relationship" of Dr Jekyl and Mrs Hyde.
Feeling this cut away from blood reltives now there screwing with my kids and my kids are starting to resent me . People on out side who are Freinds of family of others it's soulfully exsorting.despize blood reltives. I have crap by people I don't know my son's been around some negative people I removed are selfs from to the point I knew I'd end up getting stabbed infrunt my kids . We moved now there useing there monkeys not respecting we cut away for a reason . My son's behaviour as rubbed off on my son and my health as hit rock bottom . Nonsense people I couldn't give a dam about playing along to there crap but there fuckn with me and my kids now .it's like Chinese whisper where they add on sh*t and my son's playing brat.
She said , that's her dream have child with me , and when my daughter turns 2 , she takes her from me move back to her country and and promises of her return and then she start to demanding me of child support, I did helped for 18 months, now I realize it was all lying, I'm missing my little gairl and I'm worried for her wellbeing and don't know what to do ,, evilly people,,,, sad dad
You just had described my daughter and what she’s done, who she is, she will go to any lengths to get supply! Using Kids so so Badly, I want So Badly to get them away from her. I went No Contact one 1/2 years ago…. So She went and had a BABY to get me back in… I didn’t find out about this baby until it was 3 months old…. Kid # 5…… I refuse to acknowledge this kid..! Being I practically raise the other 4…!!!!!!!!!! I miss the G kids extremely much but will NOT go back near her again! Nice try kiddo. 😅
I had to walk away from my son because the mother was a narcissist I had nobody in my corner. Didn't understand what was happening I felt like taking it myself Many of times but i knew i had to become something better. So move far away I try to talk to my son and Take care of my child teach him and put him in the right but this person wasn't having it So it was basically a two on one I cut the cord from him and go no contact from both of them block them delete move forward no No regrets god knows I tried gave him chances but I had enough Of the b******* I feel so free To be me I don't have the answer to no one Or explain myself
Wow-I noticed this right away! It’s like this guy wanted to get every woman he met pregnant. I found that so odd. Do they even realize why they are doing this?
This is my boyfriend's Mother 100%. She is treated like a Ruler. She has created her own world. A Cult where she is held on a pedestal. She isolated her Husband from his family. He has no one but her. He has to do everything she says. Her 5 adult children have been trained to go along with her lies and histrionics. They actually defend her and cover up her lies. They know she abused them, is currently abusing their Father, she abuses the Grandchildren, but they smile and allow it. When I came into the picture I spoke out immediately because she was lying and destroying my life. The entire family turned on me. It was 50 against 1. My boyfriend is the youngest she won't let leave. The other kids got married and moved far away at age 18. They left the youngest there with her as a sacrifice so they could be free. My boyfriend knows no other way to live. His growth is stunted. She instilled severe guilt if he leaves. He believes he has to stay with her. We can't get married or live together. I'm expected to live alone and pay all the bills by myself. Meanwhile she takes all his money. She buys a new car every 3 years. She gets her nails done. She has an endless supply of clothes, shoes, purses. The guilt, greed, wild story telling, obscene behavior, never ends. But this family can't see or doesn't know how to acknowledge it. Through her husband, children, grandchildren, and now great grandchildren she has an enormous group of people to rally around her and bow down to her like a God. She goes to which ever one gives her the most attention, ignoring her other kids. Then the kids compete against each other for who is liked more. She's old so I've been waiting for her to die. But I can't wait forever.
Yes you're right. He has taken her side over me. They even talk in another language when I'm around. I see no future with him unless the Mother is dead. We can only be friends. His Son has chosen to live with me to get away from them. He also asked me to adopt him. I don't let these people bother me anymore. I did lose my boyfriend but I gained a Son. I am self sufficient and pay my own bills. I moved to my own house in a nice neighborhood. I don't know what my future will be but I am glad to be free of the Narcissist Cult.
I had to walk away from a narcissistic family system. The abuse will never end if you stay. Save yourself.
I agree, and most don't accept someone cutting ties with abusive families. In their minds, things can change if everyone set their differences aside and work them out. The problem is the narcs in the family that are creating it, and victims can't control or stop it. When most say setting aside differences, the target is usually the victim and not the narc because the narc believes they've done nothing wrong. Transformation always falls on the back of narc victims. The narc is aware of this, and narc supporters are giving narcs a pass without accountability. However, many narc supporters are narcs themselves, so, naturally, they would take their side. With that said if narc victims want peace of mind, they have no choice but to cut off pretty much everyone in the family unit. I know many will say why cut everyone off? Because narcs use family members as flying monkeys to extract information from the victim that will be reported back to the narc. So, let the narc and flying monkeys have the family unit all to themselves without victims to terrorize and abuse
No contact ever again!
good boundary sweety
100 percent correct, the abuse will not end, a narcissists wants to keep pulling you in and they are experts at Gaslighting and blame shifting, no contact is the only way to end it.
@@robertdiminuco689 the thing is some narcs are out there in the world and shining anyway and keeping boundaries and detaching when necesary you can't do much about running into narcs out in the world so sometimes navigating them while staying true to ourselves keeping boundaries and detaching , and ofcourse saving close and relationships with safe enough emotional people some you can cut out completely others exist in the world and we have to navigate stay true to ourselves shine anyway and keep boundaries if necesary at times its knowing who they are and connecting with safe people and keeping it rather brief with the narcs because they can just drain, so keeping it safe bruief casual and for me keeping some boundaries and detachment, for thosee who i cant chose to avoid . hehe cause they exist out there. this is what ive found!
People who say blood is thicker then water, or you will regret not keeping contact & feel bad if they die. THEY HAVE NEVER HAD A RELATIVE WHO IS A NARCISSIST.
The quote is actually "The blood of the covenant is thicker than the water of the womb", so the quote is actually meaning that people whom you are not related to you by blood can be in a closer bond to you than even your parents or siblings. Your family is typically who Satan uses to inflict the most damage to you because they have the most access. All will reap what they have sown in the end though.
@UnluckyGirl81 that is the TRUTH.
Story of my life! Ex husband and ex mother in law and evil sister turned my children against me. My mother who is a codependent knows the damage my sister has done and says nothing to her about it. I’ve been ostracized, manipulated and controlled by these people. I’ve cut all contact so I can heal. It’s been lonely but peaceful. I miss my children and to know the devastating impacts they have over my children is heartbreaking. I pray they learn the truth someday
Yes my child was turned against me as well. I also have cut off all contact with these monsters. My child had such a beautiful personality and they passed down demons into my son just like them. They know that i could have taught my son many good things and morals in life. One day I will show him the lies he's been fed. My son is my heart and I refuse to let him be like them. He will know all the dangers and manipulation he has been fed.
I am actually frightened for the kids to learn the truth. It is disturbing.
Though most courts decide by default for women, that are encourraged to behaive as narcissist, I see that there's always made an exception for abusive men, because the judge (all court in france only female) is afraid to make him angry, but compensates by ruining good men.result is more male suicide after all is taken, more femicide by the unpunished abuser.
If narcs can't keep control over the victims (adult children) they will go after their children and those close to them. That's how narcs operate because they want to somehow remain in control over victims who cut off contact with them. I am sorry you are going through this, but on a positive note, it won't last forever. Nothing last forever, and life changes.
@@JehudaEwert Narcs use the court system as supply, and flying monkeys
I've born into a huge family of narcissist. Only one person beside me that i'm sure she was a non-narc. It feels like i accidentally joined the wrong Army in a spiritual war.
I love the last sentence!
I am still looking for my non-narc to help me through as the first one beside my spirit which guides me. But the HUGE family of toxic people is true for me.
Narc abuse has a spiritual component which explains why it is difficult to snuff out
Amen! I feel your pain; same here. We non-Narcs can easily recognize who in the family is a Narc, and who isn’t. Hang in there!
I have too many narcissists in my family!! I've been their scapegoat my whole life!! I've had to go no contact with all and low contact with one. It's been a big relief to distance myself from these emotionally abusive, hosts for demons!!👹
I'm at the point in life that it doesn't matter what the relationship is or was, family member, friend, girlfriend, mother to my child, if they are mean to me, they are history. If I was married and my wife pulled this narcissistic abuse on me, I would be single real fast. No one should tolerate abuse, not even for minimal time.
Having children with a narcissist wife changes everything. She will use the children as pawns to get back at you, divorced or married.
@@racebannon96 facts!
@@racebannon96 this is my new normal. Her narcissistic abuse game that the Virginia courts are either blind to or apathetic towards.
I totally agree but I got a bunch of flying monkeys and narcissists basically a bunch of cluster bees psychopaths too stalking me how do I deal with that
@@taraarrington2285 You need to take steps to separate yourself from these abusive people. They are looking for narcissistic supply, Don't give it to them. The abuse only gets worse, narcissists have no intentions of stopping their abuse. Let me know how it goes.
I am attempting to fade out slowly from my narc parents and family system. Every time I politely decline a family event that I don't want to attend personal power increases!
I’m doing the same thing by foregoing family gatherings. My narcissistic father’s 89th birthday was yesterday and I declined my half-sister’s invitation to gather for his luncheon celebration.
Yes, my father was narcissistic and toxic to our family, my two brothers are the same way, I don’t communicate with any of them ever, it is freedom, and I have a beautiful life. I hang out with positive energy, beautiful people, and they are my family! Thank you Clarice for all your videos!
I was born into a narcissistic family, had the courage to cut ties. Then my children's dad is one, also had the courage to kick him out of our household. Now it's just me and my 2 kiddos!!!.
1/2 my family, or more, is cluster B. I walked 43 years ago on the creeps. No regrets!
It's so true it's so vile, I've been through it and........... I rebuke it in the name of Jesus Christ !!!!!
My biological father is a 100% criminal malignant/vindictive narcissist. Love your "Truth Telling" show and education. Thank you
It took me years to get away. Finally I did by moving to another country for a few years. I knew I couldn't stay close by.
I moved to another country too
Membership here helps me feel a family-like bond and warmth with you Clarice and the community here. It is the first place where truth bubbles up and is addressed. It provides a kind of model of what we were all supposed to have in a family. It is like the family that I PRETENDED I had in my head, but now am seeing that I did not have. 👨👨👧👦
IT SPREADS LIKE A MOULD INTO EVERY CORNER OF YOUR HOUSE: Narcissistic Abuse.
Brilliant video. This is my whole life!!! My mother has turned my own daughter against me,ruined her engagement to isolate her and along with grooming her with money....now lives with my daughter and my grandchild. I'm completely isolated. They've alienated my little granddaughter's father too.
Every day my NPD mother gets narcissistic supply knowing how much suffering she has created.
They are sick sick people
Sick monster!
You were just collateral damage so she can live the good life. To hell with you. I bet she loses no sleep
Alcoholic father, narcissistic older brother (5 years older), and narcissistic mother. I was the designated scapegoat. Mother triangulated my dad against me from birth, then in my young 20’s, she started triangulating my brother against me, as well as my cousin who was a great friend from childhood . Brother married the most hard core narcissistic I have ever met, grandiose! Then I Married a narcissist, and now my 21 year old daughter is one. Live in Los Angeles , go figure. Hahaha. I moved out of state at 55 last month, went no contact with entire family (except my kids), a year ago, and just hoping for the best. 🙏❤
Sometimes, that needs to include k7ds. My daughter is an emotional vampire.
A huge, overwhelming chunk of abuse is at the hands of family members. Family members can be narcs too, and this is difficult for many to accept. We are conditioned to believe that family loves you no matter what they do, and non-relatives are the enemy and narcs. Learned behaviors start in the home for children. The acting mask 👺 is worn not only outside but inside for narc victims. Right, the family unit for some is not in their best interest, and victims are confused about whether or not to walk away from the madness. However, victims hardly have no one to turn to in seeking validation in cutting off toxic families. We are aware that the victim's families are against it, but it's not surprising that most outsiders are as well. Clarice, you are shining a light on this topic that a few are willing to address that gives victims a voice to be heard and understood. For that, I thank you for your extraordinary commentary and the sacrifices you make in creating educational and inspiring videos. Thank you.
Narcissists act like a bully, when it comes to conflicts things that let them feel in danger. But they are too analytic to be seen as it.
YES we do have lots of narcissists in the family....it is exactly as you have described it....
OUCH! When top counselors advise you to, "SEVER ALL TIEs", d o i t!!!!!! Or they WILL take everything! I didn't know about NPD and couldn't give up "family"! And now LIVE ON alone, but with the ONE WHO SAVED me out! Peace to you!
God bless!!
This is sooo true about the family. What was supposed to be so good, nourishing, and happy is what they turn into a house of horrors. Thank you for this wonderful awareness. I can do a lot of growth off of this, Clarise. 🛌 This video helps me reach back and see how I learned as a child to deal with others.. and how it was a nightmare instead of a sweet memory of wonder and love. Thank you for this nourishing video that brings me hope 🏚 to give me courage to unroot the horror in my head that was in my FOO (family of origin).
Suicide or murder start to enter the victim's mind. The desire to escape occupies most hours of the day. To choose either of these escape methods dooms the victim even further. To not choose either method of escape is a lifetime bordering on madness. Thanks Clarice.
Theres always gotta be a way out, Ive seen people that had things far worse than me even homeless, imprisoned because of narcs rebound, and recover but it takes time
The Narcissist does want us to succumb to their negativity and self-destruct but we must not let them win. I will be talking more on this in the video due out Wednesday 5th October.
@@ExposingtheNarcissist Thanks Ill be watching it, I suppose theyre like a tic or a leech that needs a host
Vicious cunning wicked evil people
Yes. My mother tricked me. She deeded property to her golden son and that was a secret. I cannot understand why she wanted to hurt me from her grave like that. I never once thought that was possible. It is very devastating.
Narcs have the Jezabel spirit (in Bible). They are demon possessed. Don't take it personal. I'm sorry.
The abuse from narcs extends beyond their death, and they leave a legacy of turmoil for the living to deal with.
@@dontbelongherefromanother apparently they do leave chaos behind. I thought i had seen it all with the soulmates and workplace. This is really some messed up s#it.
Richard, my father was a covert narcissist and at age 70 he decided to leave my mom
He received an inheritance from his mother and he invested it in among other things his friends Bible book store . So he had to start using it or loose it to taxes. He had everything in place. Attorney's and his brother's children to help him . My poor mother had a heart attack because of this. I don't know how much he was worth but it has to be millions. Our family home was paid off but the first thing he wanted was the house to be sold out from under mom and myself. Luckily our attorney pulled some strings and mom bought him out. After she passed away guess what happened? Yup , I got involved with a covert narcissist. Now my childhood home is being sold by house flippers . The narc decided not to pay his share of rent and then the pandemic hit and noone could evict a bad roommate. Financial abuse and emotional abuse. Threats and noone would help me. He even broke into my house and thank God I was home at the time. He had been gone for over a year and seeing the locks were changed he decided to break in. Guess what happened? The cops sided with him against me. I didn't evict him properly they said. He had left on his own so I didn't have to do anything. Unfortunately I don't make enough money to pay for everything so I needed a roommate. I don't know what to do and I have to be out of my home by the 19th of October. I've never lived anywhere else and now I'm sick. Could use some prayers if anyone here sees my answer. I just want a place of my own with noone else and to have my 3 cats . I can't trust anyone now .
@@jennymccombie9604 i am so sorry to hear about your sad situation and getting kicked out of your family home on oct 19. Definately, you have my prayers. I have been in battle w narcs since boy scouts in 1977. Now i discovered the worst, family betrayal. My mother was very covert. The family and small town thinks she was a saint. They think my monster narc brother is a poor little thing, and they think i am a jerk for going nc w him for destroying my sanity. I am reading in comments that these coverts leave chaos behind them from the grave. In your case, you are grieving your mother and your father is reeking havok. I am praying that you can find a small comfortable apartment and begin rebuilding your life and go nc w your father. Get that monster out of your life at all cost. We just have to trust that God will work things out for us. I read that family betrayal is the worst and it takes between 1 1/2 and 3 years before we can make it to acceptance. For now, we just stay calm as possible and take it a day at a time. May God bless you and restore your peace of mind and sanity.
Yes I had experienced narcissism growing up and yes it can mentally drain you
OMG I am SO grateful that I finally left my family for good. 🙏 Even though it took two years of therapy, healing and accepting, now I can see how much pain and chaos they brought to my life. Now I can see their real faces behind all their fake masks and personas and I am glad that I still have so many years left to enjoy my life in peace. Since I left there has never been more peace and happiness in my life than now. Thanks to healers like you, my therapist and helpful people along the way I can finally walk as a free person. I am so thankful for everyone helping people to understand this craziness and get out of it. You are real earth angels. ❤
My stepfather and I chased away his cruel family. We tried to limit our contact with them in years past, but in the end we had to get mean.
She, the cruel narcissist, did and is doing exactly that with people at my old synagogue and with her narc family and entourage…it is sooo painful and so awful! 😱
I am watching this trying to determine if my mother or father was worse than the other 😳
When two narcs meet... Sounds like my Father in Law and my Daughter he keeps her away from everyone even family she cant even have a fb account, on the flip side my daughter wilfully abandons her whole family to live her "new life" and keep those resources coming - hes a narc for family power, shes a narc for family money on her husbands side - screw everyone else family gangsters is more like it
My dad is a narc i was the scapegoated child an empath highlysensitive the target of his projections, my 2 siblings turned out narcisist. I stayed an empath thank God, and have had a lot of healing and unpacking to do from the family bullshit , even societal bullshit. Nrcs can put an image out doors. I lived 2 yers alone with my narc parent , he was so abusive on the daily. I became an alcoholic just to numb the pain. After getting sober it was a case of what i always knew i drank to cover the trauma of living with a narc parent. I have 3 years in healing from the narcisistic family i grew up in and i was the scapegoat in, it started by finding a safe enough support group, a safe enough person that encouraged me to be more gentle and compasionate with myself, and then i also started learning to say NO and put healthy boundaries to protect myself , against abusive behaviour, thats when my inner child/true self came out more, to express himself because he saw i had his back!!! ITs a lot to heal from but so cool that there are support groups about healing from dysfunctional childhoods , and information about trauma, reparenting, selfcompassion, healthy boundaries , true expression of the inner child unapologetically , taking our space being authentic and shining anyway ..............................
So sad, so true. 🧡
Uh huh Leader Narcissist Will Always Turn So Many Thousands of Narcissist Against One Good Person For No Reason,
We are watching Joe Biden do exactly that right now with his speeches
and rhetoric.
@@m998hmmwv7 uhhh
I AGREE WITH YOU 1000% CLARICE, IT NEEDS TO BE SAID SO DESPERATELY!!!!!!!!! THANK YOU SO VERY VERY MUCH!!!!!!!
Spot on 💯%... thank you for bringing attention to the quick-sand effect that happens in a malignant narcissistic family units!
Just remember even if you cut all ties and still have a child, they will use that child to try to hold control. I have called bluff a few times, and still. There is definitely psychological manipulation of my daughter.
I have narrowed the big three in the phrase "Projection, Distraction, Deception". The narcissistic cycle must end somehow, maybe the courts could throw away the Duluth model and be required to evaluate every male and female entering family court. I think mental health recognition and red flags should be taught in high school.
I too, have lived this horror and still do after over 20+ years. I went NO CONTACT years ago...and I've stayed there!!! I've cognitively elected to...leave the lot of 'em. I am far stronger than 'they' are. Ironically, the TRUTH is getting out about this now...and I'm grateful for all the help I've received in FINDING THE TRUTH.
Finally people are 'comparing notes' on this appalling abuse... it took a while...my teenage grandson (whom I've never met) is the latest in a long, long Narcissistic line. I've learned to release that which I cannot control.I HAD to. My Heart goes out to anyone else whose been through this 'Hell On Earth'...Expose The Narcissists...many are suffering!!! Many thanx for this clip Clarice, blessings to you and yours...
From my experience, it's certain that the more a person exposes themselves to the narcissist, (family, friends, romance) the more they will slowly die, no way around it. They will use you as their weeble punching bag until you don't bounce back anymore and then they simply dispose of you in the trash without a second thought. Unfortunately, some never climb out of the trash because there's no more life left to recover. Get out while you still can. Hard truth.
It only hurts untill you no longer like them. They are relative to you through genetics not friendship find better friends untill you can stand by yourself
I would give this video a thousand likes because it is a great video & people need this information. We the scapegoats of the family are screwed no matter what choice we make. I guess, I couldn't leave my dad. Great video Claries.👍❤️
Thank you, clarice, excellent as always!
Much respect and appreciation for your unwavering commitment to this cause. Thank You! Blissful Sunday!🌻
Yup. My three daughters. I had to go no contact. But my son, the youngest, suffered because of them. I only have one child now. Theird dads, also very long gone.
My parents passed more than a decade ago and I've really seen it all with them. It took time to realize my new freedom, no more defamation, I could live my live, finally!
My wife IMHO is an undiagnosed malignant covert narcissist. I’m currently in the final discard stage. We have 3 beautiful girls together. The only reason I don’t regret ever knowing her. I’m actually going tomorrow and having a R/O put on her and having her removed from the home. Today I was undoing the hose and she came out enraged and said “if you break that hose, I’ll break your face.” She’s threatened to slit my throat, poison me, and beat me with a baseball bat in the past. I really never thought she’d do it. Today I don’t feel that same way. There was a look in her eyes and her demeanor made me uneasy and unsettled to put it mildly. I officially do not feel safe anymore and need to act before our girls and I are breaking news. Thank you Clarice for giving me insight and tools to help combat her tactics.
That sounds like the family I grew up in and it does feel like a life sentence, sadly. A very good and interesting video.
I have 2 in my family of origine; my father that I grey rock and the sister he trained intensely, that I cut off for good. Living with them was a nightmare. Now I am far away from them and I can breathe at last.
Great info .. tragic. We are getting educated ..I hope we have started a. New phase w/ narcissism… education can be freedom
This video describes my family perfectly. This is exactly what I live with on a daily basis. My only way out would be lots and lots of money, or run away and just end up living on the street. They ruined my education twice, they ruined a career that I built for myself, all before I even understood what narcissism was. I'm stuck in a place where I don't fit in and don't have any friends, looking back at what myself used to be, the people who used to see me as having talent and potential, and hoping I can get that life back.
59, and no hopes of getting my life back.
I have been exposing the narcissist since 2012. He alienated my 4 children from me for 12 years now. I barely survived. He had not only my children, my parents, siblings, friends, family and neighbors gang up on me but he also used authority to relentlessly Bully me. The judges, lawyers, therapist, police, priests, school principals, etc......i left the country and he still is gang stalking me through the private courts stealing 3 homes, my marital home. My sisters home and now my parents home. Nobody ever told me how dangerous these people are!!
… where the only escape is death - that’s my ex father in law 😓 . He committed suicide coz of my ex mother in law, then this witch moved to live with us and now I’m getting divorced. I know how toxic she was, she even tried to turn my daughter against me but failed coz my daughter said she couldn’t feel being loved by her.
Thanks for your videos,it's really helping me alot,to decide to leave him,14 years of married .I almost lost my life, I now just started to live a new life with fear 😨
3:23 ! You can say that again!! They start in their families with drama, pain and confusion!
All of my family are narcs, I finally got away in February. THANK YOU JESUS!!!!!!! They are like strangers, they never knew me and I never really knew the real them eaither.
My narc mother turned my brother against my dad & me. I stayed in my family because I didn't know what was going on until it was to late. Both parents are gone now & I haven't talked to my narc brother in 4 yrs. It's lonely to not have a family...I wished I would had walked away yrs ago...I think it would had been easier. These people are cruel to no end.
Make fun of your brother for being brainwashed and use his circular arguments and bad faith arguments as gotcha moments that prove he's brainwashed. It's not bullying if you're trying to unbrainwash him.
I had two narcissistic parents. Life growing up was amazing 🤣. Not actually, but basically, I never knew if I was coming or going or if I was doing right or wrong. I literally could write a book on this subject.
At age 17, I graduated from high school, and the next day, I left for the Air Force, never looking back until I had children of my own and felt they should know their grandparents.
So fast forward 40 years and my stepfather who never adopted me passed away and that's when I found out I was next in line again for the narcissistic abuse again, there is witch craft mixed in with this as well. This man was also physically abusive with me, but I forgave him and released that from my life. So, through prayer 🙏 and self-help videos like this, I have learned to manage this situation, understand it, and manage it without becoming evil myself, but this has been a learning process as well. The best advice I can give if you have to be in contact with a narcissist is, self help videos, never take anything personal, limit contact, set boundaries and prayer, also seek professional help if you need it.
But on a side note, I was very careful with raising my family not to make the same mistakes.
Wonderful testimony and advice. Peace and Blessings 🙌🏾
I definitely was raised by narcissistic personalities and so was my wife after 38 years we finally or I should say she finally ended it and she has got two of the four children totally convinced but because of what Jesus did on the cross and the blood and who he chooses to use one has to look to Jesus and not necessarily look at these people as the evil doers like they do us it's our enemy the devil who is behind all of this we must spiritually discern this not that all is going to turn out the way we want but we must be under the blood of Jesus and trusting in Him and his will being done here on the earth thank you for this information but we must trust in Jesus and not just information I do appreciate what you're doing it is hitting us all in the right direction praise the Lord
Well done Clarice.
Walked away decades ago after huge struggles with cognitive dissonance. Both parents & their siblings were extremely narcissistic due to THEIR childhood upbringing. Father was disowned at the age of 14 & Mother was middle child of 9 who were raised by their eldest 16 year old sister. Heartbreaking 💔 history yet it was obvious that they KNEW what they did to us was wrong because we were made to keep THEIR SECRETS.
I have seen entire small Midwestern communities controlled by 4 or 5 generations of a couple of narc families. Eventually, the entire community resembles those few narcissistic family groups. The sibling rivalries live on, well beyond the deaths of the original narcissists.
Yes, there's a narcissist in the family. I have the strength to walk out of the family but I'm staying on to protect my one and only child. She has been totally destroyed and weak to leave the nest, but I'm building the courage in her to leave and so I can protect her. Once she's out it will make my exit easier.
I have left my family of origin. I was the scapegoat and now my mother ( the top narc) tries to use flying monkeys to hook me back in. I have to be strong not to go back through the door I have left from. Thank you for this video 🙏
A book of awareness & healing DADDY THROWS ME IN THE AIR - memoir/self-help once the golden child - I became the scapegoat when I became aware & saw truth.. had a highly narcissistic sister who was also a psychologist that had affairs with her clients and lived behind the mantle of the church.. a complete nightmare.. then I escaped..
The scape goat is the sacrificial goat that escaped. They are hated for being the Truth Teller.
@@Bluemoon-sd8vp hey that's me.
Excellent video. Thank you
Thank you for giving back. It makes me feel that I am in a community and we are working together to pull every last one of us through.
My narcissistic brother is getting married tomorrow 5th/November 2022 here in Nigeria and I won't attend the wedding.
I have been on no contact with him since 2012 and he he didn't even tell or invited me for the marriage.
Let's save ourselves from abuses, it doesn't matter who is involved.
Happy Sunday Clarice !🌺 Thank you 🙏
Ive been surrounding by Narcs in the family, wife and step son. My ex. My late Narc boss was so close to Made me got fired . They seems to be everywhere. Sad but true. I fight em all like crazy. Guys .. wish me luck.
The worst kind of narcissist is the religious kind by siblings in the family, the judgmental kind, who spreads malicious rumours among family members. This has hurt me beyond belief. But now since I have walked away and denounced even ever having known them, I feel free and the pain has been healed. God has helped me in this, helped to erase the very memory of them. They are not worth my time, not even in my thoughts or memories.
My family was too strong for the narc to breakup and she hated that our bond was unbreakable.
My daughter’s father is the narcissist. I accept that I made a bad choice, but would never change my daughter being here. Fortunately for me, I was able to dodge his financial abuse, chaos and drama throughout the years. It was actually less stressful for me to just raise her alone, and even after letting him off the hook, he is incredibly ungrateful, and blames me for his inaction and neglect. I’m happy that my daughter is 19 years old, we love in different countries, and I didn’t allow his tricks to marry me to work. He is blocked, and will never hear from me another day in his life.
My daughter had a baby at the start of the year. I drove 700km each way to see them (she lives near her father - the narc - of course). I managed to spend a week with them and it was good. I felt so much love for that baby. A few days after I got home I was accused of being potentially dangerous to the baby and cut off. He's taken everything he can from me. My mother is narcissistic and my father is her Flying Monkey. My brother died ten years ago.
I've sold my house and am going to distance myself physically and emotionally from the lot of them. The truth will come out eventually.
Excellent 👍 👏
I'm struggling to walk away from my narcissistic mother who purposely made sure I was financially illiterate. She stole money from me and thinks I won't get passed this but God Favors Me and I'm working towards it
Yes Clarice .... My Mother, Step Grandfather, Uncle . All three of them . 🙏🏼💯
Superb. Ty. Yes, I do have a family in my family. My wife… and my daughter is trapped. I don’t know what to do to handle this situation
I'd rather die, than go back. And l have made my peace with that decision. My dad has mountains of knowledge, but what use is that, when the trust is broken?
Hi Clarisse.
Would you be willing to do a video on We victim survivors who have raised sons and daughters that grew up to be narcissistic?
I'm dealing with that right now, and the shame and guilt of watching my daughter grow up to be so cruel, is so overwhelming at times.
I am alienated from my three beautiful grandchildren, because my daughter has severe borderline tendencies.
Plus, I taught her terrible relationship strategies, and she is married to a family of narcissist and psychopaths.
I appreciate any consideration, and of course, I appreciate all of your wonderful videos.
Thank you siStar.
Hi,
My children are still young so I cannot fully relate. I am very sorry for what you are going through. It sems she have a lot of support being married into a toxic family so that is why it would be easy for her to push you aside. The only way you will probably hear from her is if things start to go pear-shaped.
Just don't push for anything. Do not have expectations. Just let her do her thing. Easier said than done but it's all that is in your power to do.
Even though my narc daughter has three young children, I still ended up going no contact. My grandson who was five at the time started beating me up and telling me what a horrible person I am. I cannot babysit kids who are going to be taught to disrespect me and beat me up.
My second narc daughter just had a baby I haven't seen. She posts pucs of the back of the child's head only. I have her blocked on social media but my sisters tell me about it.
If they think theyre hurting me, theyre not. I spent a lifetime taking care of many kids so I'm completely ok with no grand kids.
Good luck with the grandchildren!
This is a great video!!!!!! Perfectly done.
Yes, I have. And it is evil. IT IS so tough that I cannot write about it now . My energy is tapped after
2 other comments.. Gro Vera Neste Christiansen from Norway.
O my God this is spot on.
Thanks!
Awesome! Thank You!😊
Excellent. So true.
My mother tried this. My dad divorced her and me and my brother cut her off at 18. She’s 70 now alone in a box (her house). No friends. When enough family members asked me why I don’t associate w her I wrote it all out sent it to her 300 phony Facebook friends and all family members. That was the last time anyone ever asked
I've seen MANY narcissist impregnate woman. It IS the most diabolical thing they do, among all the other horrific thing's they do to destroy people's lives. Mine, turned his daughter into a narcissist, from another marriage, it's SOOO sad, she has no self esteem, making babies with different men. 😢
Superb. Ty
Thank you for this video🎯 I am so over Ex narcissistic people 🎭🤡🤥🤷♀️ willing 2 crush their inflated ego🤯 so it's best for me to stay my distance, from my family members 🎭 never could manipulate ,me or change my mind,🤣 on anything.. they're scared to even talk to me🤡 don't waste your energy🚶♀️
Hi thanks for this video. Im in exactly this position. Lucky for me my eldest child escaped this. And is happily part of my live i miss my kids so much but can see their mothet has same tipe of gripp on them they dont want to visit. Even thou the are married since last year. I feel so dumb that i didnt sawthis comming. I wish i knew how to get my children back
My mother stole al my money 25 yrs ago Now i have to live with this 95 yr old controlling narcissist stealing my energy daily and she just wont die I need my freedom
Fawk the child part is what I deal with smh 🤦♂️ no wonder why I can’t get peace even though I know it’s been years since my break up
Narcissistic ex husband. His main goal was to undermine my parenting - and remain the lord over the household. I suspect he has issues with his own mother. His father was a narcissist for sure and mother triangulated everyone in the family. I'm not sure if she was a covert narcissist or not - she was afraid of her husband, cut off from having friends or a life outside the home. I refused to 'become' her, although I was - it was so insidious. I'm divorced now and one out of my three kids see the toxicity. I pray for the other two. The ex narc grooms them with money and future faking. It's too attractive for them to resist.
Yes I am struggling with narcissistic wife holding my child along with her parents
There is only one way out and it does not have to be death, it's Jesus! He is the only way to save yourself from a family of Narcissics.
So accurate !!!
I stopped speaking to all my adult kids as they are all narcs. My ex brainwashed them. It was really hard at first to deal with. Now, I feel happy God saved me. Can you do a video about walking away from a narcissistic family and how to stay away for your own emotional health?
Please see the following videos:
Breaking Free from Toxic Family Members ruclips.net/video/4w_DlhRNIXU/видео.html
Should You Tolerate Narc Family Members ruclips.net/video/6CRnKkAW6-w/видео.html
Why NO Contact Works
ruclips.net/video/-AugknOlTSs/видео.html
@@ExposingtheNarcissist also, do you have a video about becoming addicted to the narcissist like those who are addicted to casino games or drugs? People need to know why they stay.
@@theartzscientist8012 I think these 2 videos should address that: When you are still in love with the Narcissist ruclips.net/video/a8QesYX5fjM/видео.html
and
When the Narcissist lives in your mind ruclips.net/video/BL2hPiA5wTo/видео.html
Thank you, Clarice. Thank you so much for sharing what you have experienced regarding the evil trap the family becomes for the narcissistic spouse. The children and the sane other spouse are trapped. How does the sane spouse get the court to take Narcissistic Abuse seriously? Is there a strong 💪 approach to pursue with a lawyer that will put the odds in my favor in pursuing physical custody?
Please see Rebecca Zung channel here on RUclips. She specialises in the legal side of dealing with Narcissists.
Yes! Zung! I found her on Utube! Thank you. See the power we have as a community of survivors sharing and helping with our combined knowledge and experiences? The greatest strength 💪 for me has been realizing my experiences were not isolated to me or unique to me. And that the Narcissist targeted me. It really wasn't personal even though it was. The Narcissist casts the net wide and takes whatever fish she can trap in her nets. Me. My two daughters. The Narcissist is a predatory animal. A savage animal. A cruel animal. One that destroys out of pleasure like a blood thirsty Weasel in a chicken 🐔 coup. They will destroy whomever they trap. In that sense it's not personal. But it quickly becomes extremely personal through a series of steps or stages. And then it becomes a "relationship" of Dr Jekyl and Mrs Hyde.
Feeling this cut away from blood reltives now there screwing with my kids and my kids are starting to resent me . People on out side who are Freinds of family of others it's soulfully exsorting.despize blood reltives. I have crap by people I don't know my son's been around some negative people I removed are selfs from to the point I knew I'd end up getting stabbed infrunt my kids . We moved now there useing there monkeys not respecting we cut away for a reason . My son's behaviour as rubbed off on my son and my health as hit rock bottom . Nonsense people I couldn't give a dam about playing along to there crap but there fuckn with me and my kids now .it's like Chinese whisper where they add on sh*t and my son's playing brat.
So after learning the guy I am still trying to escape from ,is a covert narcissist, I have learned that my mother and her mother are as well.
great video! my thoughts are fxxx a title! use discernment with everyone💚💥
She said , that's her dream have child with me , and when my daughter turns 2 , she takes her from me move back to her country and and promises of her return and then she start to demanding me of child support, I did helped for 18 months, now I realize it was all lying, I'm missing my little gairl and I'm worried for her wellbeing and don't know what to do ,, evilly people,,,, sad dad
Pray for your little girl,… pray without ceasing because God says the earnest prayers of a righteous man availeth much! James 5:16
🙏🙏
you should be care full who you lay down with, and have children with.
You just had described my daughter and what she’s done, who she is, she will go to any lengths to get supply! Using Kids so so Badly, I want So Badly to get them away from her. I went No Contact one 1/2 years ago…. So She went and had a BABY to get me back in… I didn’t find out about this baby until it was 3 months old…. Kid # 5…… I refuse to acknowledge this kid..! Being I practically raise the other 4…!!!!!!!!!!
I miss the G kids extremely much but will NOT go back near her again!
Nice try kiddo. 😅
I had to walk away from my son because the mother was a narcissist I had nobody in my corner. Didn't understand what was happening I felt like taking it myself Many of times but i knew i had to become something better. So move far away I try to talk to my son and Take care of my child teach him and put him in the right but this person wasn't having it So it was basically a two on one I cut the cord from him and go no contact from both of them block them delete move forward no No regrets god knows I tried gave him chances but I had enough Of the b******* I feel so free To be me I don't have the answer to no one Or explain myself
Wow-I noticed this right away! It’s like this guy wanted to get every woman he met pregnant. I found that so odd. Do they even realize why they are doing this?
This is my boyfriend's Mother 100%. She is treated like a Ruler. She has created her own world. A Cult where she is held on a pedestal. She isolated her Husband from his family. He has no one but her. He has to do everything she says. Her 5 adult children have been trained to go along with her lies and histrionics. They actually defend her and cover up her lies. They know she abused them, is currently abusing their Father, she abuses the Grandchildren, but they smile and allow it. When I came into the picture I spoke out immediately because she was lying and destroying my life. The entire family turned on me. It was 50 against 1. My boyfriend is the youngest she won't let leave. The other kids got married and moved far away at age 18. They left the youngest there with her as a sacrifice so they could be free. My boyfriend knows no other way to live. His growth is stunted. She instilled severe guilt if he leaves. He believes he has to stay with her. We can't get married or live together. I'm expected to live alone and pay all the bills by myself. Meanwhile she takes all his money. She buys a new car every 3 years. She gets her nails done. She has an endless supply of clothes, shoes, purses. The guilt, greed, wild story telling, obscene behavior, never ends. But this family can't see or doesn't know how to acknowledge it. Through her husband, children, grandchildren, and now great grandchildren she has an enormous group of people to rally around her and bow down to her like a God. She goes to which ever one gives her the most attention, ignoring her other kids. Then the kids compete against each other for who is liked more. She's old so I've been waiting for her to die. But I can't wait forever.
Cut and run girl he's using you and laughing with her behind your back
Yes you're right. He has taken her side over me. They even talk in another language when I'm around. I see no future with him unless the Mother is dead. We can only be friends. His Son has chosen to live with me to get away from them. He also asked me to adopt him. I don't let these people bother me anymore. I did lose my boyfriend but I gained a Son. I am self sufficient and pay my own bills. I moved to my own house in a nice neighborhood. I don't know what my future will be but I am glad to be free of the Narcissist Cult.