@Ville I can't tell what you're trying to say here. Is it that you don't have pronouns, and we should only refer to you by name, or are you trying to be a troll? Could you please clarify?
I know. I had to pause the video to get myself to a headspace where I could hear the use of "grape" in those sentences and contexts without laughing because I really wanted to digest the information without being disrespectful.
I didn’t even realize I that I have been burning my gender since fifth grade, when i was contemplating gender without knowing what the concept of being trans was whatsoever. My gender has now been reduced to a pile of incoherent ash.
That first moony.maroon one really hit home. As a trans lesbian in a long-standing relationship with a now trans man, I have been PLAGUED by a need to justify and rationalize my affection for a person I cared about long before either of us were out of the closet even to ourselves. It is hard to reconcile this, and while I like to think I've made some progress, it's nice to be reminded that fitting into a box is not my job.
People sometimes forget that the point of labels is to build community and make people comfortable, and the point of relationships is to make people happy. As long as the objectives are fulfilled the "correct definition" isn't all that important. As long as the people in the relationship are happy with the way they describe it, then what right does anybody else have to piss in their cheerios?
For the stuff around 20:40. My boyfriend tells me in all honesty that he knows and values me as a non-binary person but since I am male presenting lot of times, it’s hard for him to not SEE me as a man. And I think that is valid, since it’s not easy to overcome what you experienced and learned about gender for over 40 years. Especially when it’s subconscious things like how a person looks and how you connect it to gender. I appreciate his effort because I know he constantly gives a lot to overcome himself - and also because our native language doesn’t offer gender neutral options, it’s harder to express the relationship to others without giving a big essay.
I'm only 2 mins in and this is THE MOST RESPECTFUL tiktok compilation I've seen so far. The (*) and links, the pronouns, the loud noise warning... thank you so much
@@joshuakelly9390 it’s called subjective humor. it may not be your type of humor but it is some people’s. if you don’t like it then simply do not watch it. it is that easy. have a good day 👍
@@joshuakelly9390 was it? because i thought it was pretty good. meaning that at least one person thought it funny *meaning* it cannot be objectively bad, only subjectively. honestly if that’s not your humor idk why you clicked on this video lol
@@joshuakelly9390 1) i never said i found it the funniest thing in the world. i only said i thought it was funny. there are many things i have found extremely funny & this clip was not quite up there with them. 2) i have no idea what you’re talking about
@@joshuakelly9390 oh no i have been insulted by some random guy on the internet!! this is so sad i am crying so hard you have emotionally devastated me 😔😔😔😔😔
@Please refer to my lawyer🇺🇦 Yea the best way to fix the normative mindset is to stop assumptions and to stop defaulting to one certain idea of one's life. Asking for confirmation should be the more common form of greeting. It's an added bonus of connecting with someone, showing you're truly interested in who they are over what you first think they are.
Exactly, men are so conditioned to not cook, that when some do, they are widely praised, and made famous. While there are countless women who can cook better than the best chefs but don't have the same fame, because cooking is expected of them, and not special.
From a straight man like myself, that's the most stupidest thing I've ever heard. What man is not suppose to cook? Hell, I'm a learn how to cook my foods when I start cooking meat and brown and wild rice. I may just learn how to be a pitmaster cooking beef, chicken, seafood, lamb, but no pork.
it's yet another facet of patriarchy and misogyny. when a woman cooks, its "expected" and "a part of her household duties"- in other words, nothing special. but when a man steps into the kitchen by choice, it's ~high art~ and ~haute cuisine~. This pattern exists all over the place if you look, but especially in things generally deemed "woman's work". The fashion industry is another example off the top of my head- when women sew clothes and care about trends it's simply expected and not worth talking about, but men dominate the fashion world and create most of those trends in the first place
I cannot even describe how glad I am that this video was in my recommended. I am having one of the most dysphoric days I've had in a while and this video is healing a part of me 💗🤍💜🖤💙
thanks for the loud noise warning i actually appreciate it more than people might say its needed sorry if the structure of my sentence was bad, still learning and happy to learn tips
If you're referring to learning English, it's actually really great! English can be very confusing, but from what I can tell your sentence structure is better than some native speakers.
As far as anything that could be adjusted, I would suggest using more punctuation. For example: Thanks for the loud noise warning. I actually appreciate it more than people might think is necessary*. Though it’s still very easily understandable! And don’t worry about it too much, you’d be surprised how many English speakers have trouble with basic grammar.
I personally don't know if a relationship w/ a lesbian would make me feel dysphoric [on the one hand, being w/ a WLW & I'm not a "W", on the other, more likely to enjoy my body w/o assigning meaning outside the scope of them being bodyparts]. But... That last person really opened my eyes to why a relationship like that might make sense for some people. I appreciate having that wake-up call & I'll be informing myself more on that subject. 💕
20:30 yeah speaking from personal experience yeah this is an issue 😭 can relate too hard. Honestly I think it's cause there are a lot of spaces in the gamer community that are actually really toxic, because a lot of "soft bi gamer boys" really have a lot of subtle misogyny and internalized homophobia and they think it's okay to use slurs because their friend knew a goldfish who fit in that marginalized group one time and he said it's okay.
That last one is how I'm coming to feel being transfemme-enby I want to be perceived as androgynous/feminine, but I have lived experiences and genuine damage that only other people who have lived as men have felt. These spaces are supposed to group people who've had shared experiences with one another, so if a trans man needs to go to a women only space, they should not be excluded, or if they need to be in men only spaces, those should be available as well. Trans people exist outside of the constructs society has been built around. If care is truly taken to help us, then the boundaries must be made fluid to allow us to get the support we need, not our identities be made rigid to place us into our roles.
I transcribed this section of p.45, from Females by Andrea Long Chu. (7:32) "In the United States, the man known as the father of gynaecology, J. Marion Sims, built the field in the antebellum South operating on enslaved women in his backyard, often without anaesthesia-or, of course, consent. As C. Riley Snorton has recently documented, the distinction between biological females and women as a social category, far from a neutral scientific observation, developed precisely in order for the captive black woman to be recognised as female-making Sim's research applicable to his women patient in polite white society-without being granted the status of social and legal personhood. Sex was produced, in other words, precisely at the juncture where gender was denied. In this sense, a female has always been less than a person" (Andrea Long Chu, 2019)
32:40 bffr. as a lesbian who used to identify as a trans man (until i realized that label no longer fit me) this response is fucking ridiculous. being a lesbian means a non-man who is attracted to non-men. trans men are men. if you use he/him pronouns and identify as a lesbian because you don't identify as a man that's fine because pronouns do not equal gender. but MEN cannot claim to be lesbians, including trans men. the creator is just throwing around buzzwords but what he's saying makes absolutley no sense. (TW very brief mentions of @$$ault) the creator's second response at 35:49 is COMPLETELY deflecting from the original question (which was a very valid point; men are not and under NO CIRCUMSTANCES should be allowed in lesbian spaces). his point about how lesbians won't allow trans men into OUR communities because we're scared of cis men @$$aulting us makes no sense. we don't allow non-lesbian women into our spaces because they're not lesbians, which is the same exact reason we don't allow trans men into our spaces. BECAUSE THEY ARE NOT LESBIANS, THEY ARE MEN. if a cis man were to identify as a lesbian everyone would tell him that men can't be lesbians, and very rightfully so. i don't see how it is at all different from trans men. if you're going to call me transphobic and say that i'm trying to "turn trans men into lesbians" please don't. just because i no longer identify as a man doesn't mean any other trans men should detransition if they dont't want to; i'm not "forcing lesbianism" on anyone. please do some reasearch and listen to people like me. lesbians are shit on so much by cishets and even other members of the queer community and we just want a break and a safe space free from men and non-lesbians, which has never been provided. if i came off as rude, which i'm sure i did, i'm just exhausted from all the blatant lesbophobia and erasure constantly present. thank you for at least hearing me out and i'm happy to discuss civilly with anyone with opposing opinions.
Resistance to change is counter to protecting queer spaces. The line between lesbian and bi has been blurred too long. Bi and lesbian solidarity ask why not be a bi woman who dates anyone but cishets. Or a bi trans man who dates nonmen.
I think this can also be related to a related problem of just kind of putting a lot of marginalized people into women's spaces because god forbid cis (mostly het) men have to share a space with someone not exactly like them. Did this make sense? Probably not, but I'm tired. Also I think it's relevant to mention that I'm a nonbinary trans man.
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Y’all, I accidentally started a club when I was at school last year💀, it was really sweet tho, it was made of like- all the trans kids in my school who wanted to learn how to wear makeup properly, cause I’m really good at makeup and offered to help teach my trans friend to put some on so she wouldn’t look like a clown, and word got around, so during lunch me and like the 12 trans kids in my school sat in the women’s bathroom while I taught them how to makeup properly. It was great.
okay im from Poland so US laws don't affect me but I watched the interview with Jon Stewart and the Arkansas Attorney General recommended in one of the tiktoks and it's sooooo good i can't!!! His calm disappointed parent/teacher approach works so well, he knows how to argue with stupid people - you literally can't watch the video and say that HE'S the incompetent one!! so thank you for putting a recommendation of that video in this compilation, because it made me really happy!!
3:36 that book actually sounds so fun and silly /pos it's stupid that people don't like it because "people like that don't exist", but what about artemis fowl?? harry potter?? wings of fire?? that one tooth fairy game from my childhood that they turned into a show and deleted the game??? theres so much magic and fantasy creatures in media
tiktok at 20:10 UGH. I KNOW this. Here's a rant. I'm non-binary. I use they/them pronouns. I'm fempresenting and AFAB. I'm 16 y/o and not out to anyone other than my sister and most of my friends, a ton of acquaintances who have been told I'm trans ignore it/use the right stuff for like a singular minute and then go back to the incorrect stuff and I do not have the energy or the space to correct them, and even if I did they would probably hate it and not want to talk to me anymore (I won't care about them after graduation, so idc, they choose to ignore who I ACTUALLY am and only believe a fake presentation, that's their problem not mine). Also, safety, I don't want to be outed to ppl who will call me slurs, I'd rather not increase my mental health issues and decrease my self-esteem. Of course, these acquaintances are cishet people. Although plenty of queer people fuck up all the time, don't apologize for it on their own, etc. I happen to be bisexual. I get a lot of crushes that are cishet white males, unfortunately. It's not that I'm not attracted to any other person, that just happens to be how it is. Ethnicity isn't really important though, since a lot of cultural and racial backgrounds carry the whole gender binary thing, I am attracted to anyone of any ethnicity, but the majority of people in my environment are white. Why this is unfortunate is because the vast majority of those cishet males would NEVER accept me. I KNOW I will not be seen as who I am by most people I'm attracted to. And if they do, it would take a lot of work on both parts. I understand why and it's systemic instead of personal, but I don't want to do that work. I don't want to have to expect, every single time I meet someone, to have to explain in great detail who I am, over and over and over again, with the threat of losing my interest. And seeing them fall out and give up- which people have done. People complaining about how they have to memorize new names and pronouns. It hurts. I like the idea of being the feminine role in a relationship in some situations. But I know, because of the sex I was assigned at birth, the genitals and features I bare or lack, how I present, and the lack of energy and ability to change people's minds or fight them on my basic fucking identity, that the SECOND I am perceived as feminine, I will only ever be perceived as a girl, and that man will always be straight. I hate it. It's how it is, but I hate it. I'm lucky to not have as much as gender dysphoria as a lot of other trans people. But I will always, ALWAYS struggle with social dysphoria, especially if I never change how I look. I'm FINE with how I look, because I can see ME, the KADE. But others look and they see my deadname. It's a terrible feeling and such a thing to confront when approaching dating and social life in general.
This is such a feeling. I feel this in my soul. I'm AFAB and non-binary and fairly femme-presenting. Ppl look at me and see my features and some of my socialized-female behaviors and go subconsciously go, "This person looks and acts how I expect someone with a female body to look, and sex=gender, therefore girl." And one of my jobs is very customer-service oriented. I work with K-12 students in a library. I get really bad customer-service dysphoria. I don't like being addressed as "Miss, Ms., ma'am, ladies." I get that ppl are just trying to be polite, but I get major icks getting gendered in a customer service context. I don't have the time or energy or desire to actively justify my identity and experience. It's exhausting, and in some cases actively interferes with my work. Not to say that being misgendered doesn't have its own mental toll. For me, my experience of being non-binary is sort of like being agender but genderfluid. Overall, I don't really feel like I have a gender, but I flux b/t feeling more masculine, femenine, and enby, and sometimes they overlap. I genuinely enjoy femenine things, and it was only after coming out to myself as non-binary that ai feel comfortable in my feminity. But then ppl's perception of me kind of screws with my head. I genuine enjoy my feminity, masculinity, and enbiness, but they get complicated by how ppl percieve me. Sometimes being excessively gendered can even cause me to defensively present more masculine. Or if ik that I'm going to be in a context where I'll be misgenered a lot, then I will "proactively" default into feeling more masculine. Ik that changing my presentation doesn't affect ppl gendering me, but I guess it gives me the illusion of control. In general, it just makes existing way more complicated, bc making friends, working, casual convos, doctor's visits, dating travel, etc., all hinge around gender perceptions and sterotypes. For example, one time I was at the grocery looking for something in the toilettries for something--idk what. And while overall it wasn't a bad interaction, it was clear that the reason this person asked me was bc they assumed that I was a woman and I guess women know things about skincare?? It's such a weird space to exist in and really complicates my relationship with all kinds of relationships and interactions: customer service, romantic, s*exual, platonic, paternal, and familial relationships. I def have a multi-layered anxiety about dating that partly stems from a potential partner's and society's perception of me/us. Then, as you mentioned, safety's a whole 'nother layer
@@r82033 God, there's not a single thing I couldn't relate to for this, other than my gender identity. We're in the same boat. I feel like I do have a gender, it's just pretty all over the place and unable to be described. Genderfluid, genderqueer, nonbinary do the best to give it some sort of title. Like I feel like nobody knows my gender or deserves to know it or could understand, it's very personal. Sometimes, because of genderfluidity, I do feel super feminine and like a woman and I might even (in the past, anyways) ask for people to use she/her pronouns and feminine terms when referring to me. That confuses people, I think. How can you cry today when the other day you were overjoyed when I said the same things? It sucks, because some days I want to delve back into the whole girl side of things, but I feel... guilty somehow? And now I have a fear too because certain people started misgendering me when they hadn't before I had a very, very feminine day. It's funny because my brain misgenders me all the time too, and I get upset at myself for referring to myself in the wrong way. I'm just so used to everyone doing this. Luckily, I do have a few friends who are so genuinely understanding and most of the time I believe them when they say they see me as Kade. A couple people have even said that they always saw me as genderless. Unluckily, I can never fully appreciate gender euphoria because it is always surrounded and interrupted by dysphoria. There's some things to alleviate this trans pain. Those friends, and the occasional filter that makes me look so ridiculously masculine and androgynous. In the future though, I can experiment with masculine clothing (binders and boxers sound awesome), maybe even makeup, and I'll definitely change my legal name. Hopefully live with a friend who does everything right, when it comes to my gender. Do you experience dysphoria surrounding names? Have you done any name changes, medical transitioning, etc? I'm curious, as this reciprocated essay affected me as mine did to you. I hear your experience and sympathize. It's incredible how strong humans are. We're able to live in social environments that drain us and we feel so out of place. Here's hoping society changes and we people suffer a little less. Only way we can do that is through education and sharing our experiences, I guess. We're trying!
33:30- I’m not trying to invalidate this person’s clear thoughts and experiences, but from what I’ve seen, most of the people who don’t like the idea of trans men and lesbians being together are not weird cis people: they’re trans men. Myself included. It just feels uncomfortable to me and the fact that the guy got so angry at people who just exhibit genuine discomfort at the idea of a lesbian in a relationship with a man who just happens to have a vagina not cool. And I don’t mean he/him lesbians. Am I in the wrong here? Is there something I’m missing?
I think that it's okay for you to feel discomfort, I'm a trans man myself and would feel uncomfortable in a relationship with a lesbian. However, that discomfort is from my own feelings and also that rhetoric of what counts as a woman or not is mainly rooted in racism, where women of color were considered "non-women" or not "female" enough. Which the guy probably understands and caught when he got a lot of messages saying lesbians don't date men, or trans men shouldn't be in lesbian spaces, because some women or lesbians of color weren't allowed in those spaces for a long time. Or at least that's what I've understood based on what people have explained.
as a lesbian i completely agree !! i would never find myself attracted to a trans man because i'm not attracted to ANY men and i think it's a bit odd that there's a distiction. i commented a very long and passionate paragraph earlier but the points the creator made were just a bit strange. "lesbian" means non-man who is attracted to other non-men and i don't see why trans men should fall into that category considering they are men.
This could be called second hand dysphoria, which is feeling invalidated by other people who identify similarly to you doing things that you wouldn't be comfortable with doing yourself. The key is to remember that labels are just shorthand for describing your identity to others. Calling myself a trans man doesn't immediately tell you everything about me, or even my gender. Imo, being so rigid with labels kind of defeats the whole purpose of being queer. Since when do our identities need to make sense to others? Isn't the whole point to be comfortable with yourself? If some lesbians and trans men are comfortable dating each other, that shouldn't threaten your gender or sexuality. If you're not interested, that's okay! Move on and be happy that other queer people are happy too.
@Sofia Collins this has been the porpoise of the bi lable for decades these people are bi not lesbians please don't erase bi people. The blurry line between bi and lesbian leans more towards bi people in lesbian spaces trans men attracted to nonmen in bi spaces.
that's the thing, it depends! there are many trans men who have close ties to the lesbian communities and consider themselves lesbians and date lesbians, and many that would feel invalidated and uncomfortable in those situations. we should acknowledge and accept both, and realize that labels are fluid and mean different things to different people. there are no two trans men who feel the same about their gender, no two people of any identity that experience it in the same way. learn to understand that we all have different experiences and don't force other people into boxes that are easier to understand.
im SO glad i found your channel because the amount of effort that you put into the compilations is so refreshing just the detail of the pronouns for everyone or the warnings that you'll put and you also give resources and credits for queer people to use and that just AMAZING honestly its these things that really make a video and creator special and enjoyable like most compilation channels are extremely lazy with their videos and get millions of view so even though you do get that much I think yours are 100x better!!
@@Lkat. kind of! Got kind of a mixture goin on, but even tho boy flavour was only a tiny bit of the original mix, it seems to have overtaken the rest :)
13:00 I’ve never thought of it that way but like…yeah. My being “closeted” is really just that I haven’t come out yet and don’t correct people when they say homophobic or even just ignorant stuff
thank you for the last ones! it was important for me to hear and understand as a trans nb person! statistics was also impressive! thank you! have a good day 💚
Trans men are women, that's way they are oppressed and suffer vi0lence just as any other woman aut there. Redfems don't say there's something inherently vi0lent in men, it's gender (as a social construct) that makes them like that and a society they benefit from. Also, you can't be trans and NB, given that a transition is always binary. You go from one thing to another.
The cis boyfriends referring to their nonbinary partners as specifically women is so true. My nb friend has seen multiple cis men now who refer to them as specifically a woman and it's always so frustrating. Just respect your partner ffs
33:39 and 35:59 scared me, like I'm getting told off for somethin I didn't do when I'm just a simple omnisexual, gender cooking person trynna make a beanie. What'd I do to my buddies???
10:49 omg surprise Semler cameo !! she's a queer Christian musician, and I highly recommend checking out their music, he's cool as hell! it's been a year and I still cry to their song Late Bloomer sometimes
This comp was awesome! I really loved the last two and I felt like they were so important to hear. I'm trying to make my feminism more intersectional and understand more about the queer experience and how not everything has a "box" to fit in and how things are complex. That creator worded things so great and helped me understand so much more!
hey, i know that there’s a lot of comments on this video already but i wanted to mention this really cool trans documentary i found on netflix, it’s called the dreamlife of georgie stone and it’s really short, like half an hour and i thought it was really good and i know everyone here would probably be interested in stuff like this so yeah i would really recommend people check it out :]
12:37 (to the tune of we didn't start the fire) We didn't build the closet, it was cishet white men, now we're doomed to silence Facts in the form of a joke is my favorite activity
Even though i normally need the loud noise warning, its just so much better when the loud noise warning isn’t also a loud noise because those always freak me out more
I had several lengthy conversations with myself about parts of moony.maroon's videos, some of which were disagreeing with points and explaining why, but I very much appreciate the overall message. Though I don't think most cishet people would really understand half of what was talked about, would need far more explaining, but that's what length conversations are for.
The last 2 tiktoks really made me think a lot about gender - sexuality from a different angle but Im still a bit confused.. Are there any trans men or lesbians in the comments who could share their own views/experiences on the topics of these tiktoks?For context, i am a trans man who's very much binary and straight , and who personally wouldn't choose to date a woman identifying as lesbian. But I respect other lgbt+ people's identities and experiences and I would love to understand better.
See, while I know lesbians ans sapphics who both date and acknowledge trans men, I wouldn't date someone who exclusively identified as those. In my case, while I acknowledge my relationship with women and femmes as a very queer one, the labels of saphic and lesbian are often very binary, and it makes me a bit dysphoric.
based on how he's talking about how queer people can have very complex and nuanced identities that can't be reduced to simple concepts, I'm thinking he's talking about the lesbians that are ""99% gay and 1% straight"" or ""are mostly gay but every now and then they find a man they're attracted to"", or trans men who simply vibe with having a lesbian as a partner. which just circles back to his point that gender and sexuality are complex and unique to each person and can't be judged based on strict labels
@@Mendoxs_ so, bisexuals? Why are some people so against the idea of being seen as bi? It's not as if being bi is a 50/50 split, you can be more or less attracted to either
Oh how wonderful it was to hear the words "Trans men are not our oppressors" from someone other than me shouting it to non-listening ears. So so often, trans men's oppression is ignored, and never spoken about in our community. The relationship that trans men have with male privilege is so so so complex, but it is so often just boiled down to "once you pass, you are an oppressor" which is just not true. For example, in social situations especially, trans men have the capacity to be horribly misogynistic towards cis and trans women alike, and that needs to be discussed. But the systemic power we have as trans people is non existent, and we simply don't have the capacity to be structurally oppressive to other people. And these are just a few examples of the power we don't have vs the power people think we have, which they use to demonize us. We still suffer when it comes to reproductive justice, invisibility in trans discussions and media, infantilization from terfs and fetishization, and like the video said, some of the highest SA rates by gender and transness. We have things completely unique to our experience that hurts us that no one talks about, and it is so refreshing to see another person talk about it, even if that person is also a trans man (meaning, I wish non-trans men would advocate for us too, because as it stands, I feel very alone in this discussion because people simply don't know/understand what we go through as a result of our invisibility) tldr; transmasculine oppression unique to our experiences needs to get talked about so much more than it is in order for the complete liberation of the trans community, and even for our LGB+ siblings
I can't thank you enough for making these compilations. This is incredible and overwhelming. I never thought I could learn so much from these short clips, but a lot of this info is new to me. I think lgbtq+ community will always be able to find surprising ideas that make humanity better. I'm proud that I belong to this everchanging community, and I hope my actions can protect and enrich it
I wish my gender was reversible bread, shape shifting from dough to fluffy bread and back again. But it's so hot right now that my gender bread keeps going bad and I have to start over.... I'm genderfluid and it's too hot in my city so I can't wear my binder without dying inside
20:27 shut up 'cause I know my relationship is that, I know he's straight and doesn't see me as guy (non-binary trans masculine [he/they]) but he treats me so nicely and always respects my pronouns, and doesn't says he has a girlfriend but a partner instead, and buys me food, and makes a 40min trip six days a week just to see me, but he told me he doesn't see me as a guy and that makes me wanna end the relationship sometimes but I don't know, 'cause I love him and it is such a nice relationship, we support each other in everything and talk and watch movies and cuddle… I don't know, mate…
4:25 her normal hair give me vibes of the hair of afrodite/venus in that paint of her birth where she is in a shell, and totally her hair when is taid is how I imagine the hair of helen of troy would be like
@Stop Igbt Aight. Do what you want, buddy. I'm not upset. If anything, I'm just sad. You think that it's fulfilling to make your entire personality hating people. I hope that someday you get positive attention, and that you can learn that hatred and yelling aren't the only ways to be noticed. I hope that you receive praise from someone for your accomplishments, and that you are given the opportunity to learn what love is when it doesn't come with stipulations. I wish for you that you can find hope and love. I hope that someday you can take a look inside, figure out what you're hiding, and learn to love yourself without the need for attention from others. The world is a lovelier place than you might see right now. Give a genuine complement, and watch the person light up. Stay safe, and I wish you the best!
Sometimes I wish the world was silent, then I remember that music is one of the reasons I'm still alive right now. Though, I started learning signl anguage yesterday. I learned the alphabet, number, and whatever the heck serial numbers are. It showed a picture of a barcode, but I don't know why the difference in numbers needs to be specified, if anyone else knows though.
Appreciate the loud warning being displayed for as long as it was!! I often see similar ones that don't last long enough for me to turn my volume down.
11:53 - the end of that tiktok All I do in that situation is when a woman brings up boyfriend/crush, I will respond talking about my girlfriend/crush (using she/her pronouns or really whatever they go by other than he/him) and wait for them to ask or just leave it alone
Howdy. Could someone help me out here? When ‘mooney maroon’ says Lesbians can be attracted to trans men… I don’t really understand that. It might just be my skewed perspective as a pan person but do they mean to refer to lesbianism as a more broad sociological identitarian group? Or in the sense of “women who like women”. If its not the former than I’m hardly sure how that works. Like if there was a trans woman and a dude then that’d be Hetero relationship not a homo one right? Is it just more of a gynosexual/gynoromantic relationship? ‘Gyno/Gyne’ in this instance meaning femininity. But even then thats flawed in a way because not all lesbians are attracted to “femininity” because ‘femininity’ is sort of a nebulous concept. If anyone could explain this too me I’d be very grateful.
I would like to know too because the word lesbian literally means non-men attracted to non-men. And trans men are men. It includes enbies and especially masculine people and multi-gender ppl but not strict men. I really dont like that he equalized gender identity with gender expression, pronouns, and AGAB.. every explanation I see from it is really confusing and just says "well because they say so, labels are dumb" which..... ehhhh. I'm very confused and want to know what these ppl are actually talking about
Question about the last two. Wouldn’t being in a relationship/ being attracted to a trans man as a lesbian either insinuate that you’re bi/pan/non-lesbian or that the trans-man isn’t really a man? Ik that this is just identity politics/policing or whatever but im genuinely a little confused like from my understanding lesbian is being attracted to everyone from enby and a-gender to binary women, doesn’t that just exclude trans mascs/men? Like there was that whole thing a while ago with lesbian men, how is that diff/gen and then for the last one, i didn’t really get his points, why would trans men be in lesbian/fem spaces? Again ik its just politics and policing but i kinda just don’t get it. (Im not trying to br exclusionary, im just confused. Also its not your job to educate me, imma go read the things he pulled up at the end but an explanation from a non-book would be helpful)
i don’t agree with saying trans men and lesbians can be in a romantic relationships cis men and lesbians could not be in a relationship either, and neither can trans men saying they can be together completely gets rid of trans men‘s identity as men
The stuff around the 19:00 really makes me genuinely sad. At first I thought it was going to be about op discussing their happy experience about getting a gamer bf who figured out they were queer through them, which I have experienced but instead it was about transphobia. As someone who is an older trans person I’m begging to all my young transmascs, and just queer people in general, if you are with someone and they do not respect you especially your queerness, you need to leave them. Will find love elsewhere but someone treating like less than human is not love, it’s abuse.
hi! love your videos!!! on the bottom of page 26 of the queer resources doc it says 'south wales' but it should be 'new south wales' because thats what the state that made the website is called :)) -an australian who loves your videos
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gender neutral way to describe a period: LUNAR BLOOD RITUAL
I simply call it shark week lol but your term for it is really cool!
@Ville I can't tell what you're trying to say here. Is it that you don't have pronouns, and we should only refer to you by name, or are you trying to be a troll? Could you please clarify?
@Ville no. Did anyone ask you?
@Ville you're the weird one here for deleting your comments
i just call it the communist manifesto. bleeding red for the red army amirite?
"you good?"
"yeah i'm just on my communist manifesto"
The "Heterosexuals are so slow" is such a mood, one I get every time I walk with my cis straight friends 🤣🤣🤣
THAT TIKTOK MADE ME SCREAM
Walking down narrow sidewalks with an irrepressible need to scream "Move I'm gay" is a daily struggle
I felt that Tik Tok in the deepest recesses of my bones and soul 🤣
@@Soken50 that dude's been replying the same thing to almost everyone 🤦🏽♀️
Still trying to get my gender pure enough that it comes out blue.
JESSIE! WAKE UP, JESSIE! WE'VE GOT TO COOK GENDER, JESSIE!
I read this to the tune of Chrissy Wake Up and I was confused when the lyrics didn’t line up lol
@@pine.app.le-pizz.a Lmaoo
@@pine.app.le-pizz.a same :’)
WAIT WAS THAT A PERCY JACKSON REFERENCE?
@@raphnotryry Breaking Bad lol
Man it makes me so upset that these well informed and emotional videos have to use the words “unalive” and “grape”
I freaking know 😭
@Stop Igbt uh, why are you even in this comment section? I'm genuinely curious how you found this video.
I know. I had to pause the video to get myself to a headspace where I could hear the use of "grape" in those sentences and contexts without laughing because I really wanted to digest the information without being disrespectful.
12:59 god that is so true. you're not the one hiding in the closet- hiding away in secrecy. its everyone else around you shoving you in.
My gender accidentally burnt in the oven after watching this compilation 😬😬
You took my joke :(
/j
I didn’t even realize I that I have been burning my gender since fifth grade, when i was contemplating gender without knowing what the concept of being trans was whatsoever. My gender has now been reduced to a pile of incoherent ash.
@@danas8194 hit for me in fifth too lol
I took my gender out of the oven and thought I’d leave to cool for a bit but then I forgot about it. Now it’s cold and a little stale.
@@aceofspades8474 retoast it and add garlic butter that usually works well with stale bread, probably applies to other ‘baked goods’ too
That first moony.maroon one really hit home. As a trans lesbian in a long-standing relationship with a now trans man, I have been PLAGUED by a need to justify and rationalize my affection for a person I cared about long before either of us were out of the closet even to ourselves. It is hard to reconcile this, and while I like to think I've made some progress, it's nice to be reminded that fitting into a box is not my job.
People sometimes forget that the point of labels is to build community and make people comfortable, and the point of relationships is to make people happy. As long as the objectives are fulfilled the "correct definition" isn't all that important. As long as the people in the relationship are happy with the way they describe it, then what right does anybody else have to piss in their cheerios?
For the stuff around 20:40. My boyfriend tells me in all honesty that he knows and values me as a non-binary person but since I am male presenting lot of times, it’s hard for him to not SEE me as a man.
And I think that is valid, since it’s not easy to overcome what you experienced and learned about gender for over 40 years. Especially when it’s subconscious things like how a person looks and how you connect it to gender.
I appreciate his effort because I know he constantly gives a lot to overcome himself - and also because our native language doesn’t offer gender neutral options, it’s harder to express the relationship to others without giving a big essay.
@Stop Igbt Cool!
I'm only 2 mins in and this is THE MOST RESPECTFUL tiktok compilation I've seen so far. The (*) and links, the pronouns, the loud noise warning... thank you so much
This is why this channel is my favourite, it is AMAZING, lots of work to do all of this as well and I really appreciate it
Yeah this channel is amazing.
what does the * mean
without that loud noise warning i would have jumed out of my skin
9:15 as a non-binary person who is good at math & wears ties this just made me feel so much better (:
@@joshuakelly9390 it’s called subjective humor. it may not be your type of humor but it is some people’s. if you don’t like it then simply do not watch it. it is that easy. have a good day 👍
@@joshuakelly9390 was it? because i thought it was pretty good. meaning that at least one person thought it funny *meaning* it cannot be objectively bad, only subjectively. honestly if that’s not your humor idk why you clicked on this video lol
@@joshuakelly9390 if i had no sense of humor i would find nothing funny. you are seeming more likely of that than me right here right now.
@@joshuakelly9390 1) i never said i found it the funniest thing in the world. i only said i thought it was funny. there are many things i have found extremely funny & this clip was not quite up there with them.
2) i have no idea what you’re talking about
@@joshuakelly9390 oh no i have been insulted by some random guy on the internet!! this is so sad i am crying so hard you have emotionally devastated me 😔😔😔😔😔
12:26 yess! I HAAAATE it when people assume everyone else in the room is straight!!! I relate to this one so much!
@@joshuakelly9390 ok joshua
@@strawberriesandcream7494 glad u agree
... DO I LOOK? Lol
@Please refer to my lawyer🇺🇦 cringe
@Please refer to my lawyer🇺🇦 Yea the best way to fix the normative mindset is to stop assumptions and to stop defaulting to one certain idea of one's life. Asking for confirmation should be the more common form of greeting. It's an added bonus of connecting with someone, showing you're truly interested in who they are over what you first think they are.
"Female has always been less than a person" is such a powerful statements
Never really got the idea that men shouldn't cook or bake because some of the most famous chefs are men
Exactly, men are so conditioned to not cook, that when some do, they are widely praised, and made famous.
While there are countless women who can cook better than the best chefs but don't have the same fame, because cooking is expected of them, and not special.
From a straight man like myself, that's the most stupidest thing I've ever heard. What man is not suppose to cook? Hell, I'm a learn how to cook my foods when I start cooking meat and brown and wild rice. I may just learn how to be a pitmaster cooking beef, chicken, seafood, lamb, but no pork.
Men only cook for pay, women are expected to provide free labor
it's yet another facet of patriarchy and misogyny. when a woman cooks, its "expected" and "a part of her household duties"- in other words, nothing special. but when a man steps into the kitchen by choice, it's ~high art~ and ~haute cuisine~. This pattern exists all over the place if you look, but especially in things generally deemed "woman's work". The fashion industry is another example off the top of my head- when women sew clothes and care about trends it's simply expected and not worth talking about, but men dominate the fashion world and create most of those trends in the first place
Men are literally the best cooks in the world.
I hope my gender finishes cooking soon
it will forever bake in the void. Soon, you will have no gender.
I burnt mine :(
How long does it take to bake something that isn't real?
@@joshuakelly9390 well I know gender is a social construct but -you can play along- 30 minutes on 250° Fahrenheit
What if u just ate it raw like cookie dough
I cannot even describe how glad I am that this video was in my recommended.
I am having one of the most dysphoric days I've had in a while and this video is healing a part of me 💗🤍💜🖤💙
bonjour my fellow fluid
edit: m sorry I'm tired and I forgor the say that I felt this comment
thanks for the loud noise warning
i actually appreciate it more than people might say its needed
sorry if the structure of my sentence was bad, still learning and happy to learn tips
If you're referring to learning English, it's actually really great! English can be very confusing, but from what I can tell your sentence structure is better than some native speakers.
@@commandercorl1544 thank you :D
As far as anything that could be adjusted, I would suggest using more punctuation.
For example: Thanks for the loud noise warning. I actually appreciate it more than people might think is necessary*.
Though it’s still very easily understandable! And don’t worry about it too much, you’d be surprised how many English speakers have trouble with basic grammar.
@@idontknowhowigothere5474 Thank you! :D
I personally don't know if a relationship w/ a lesbian would make me feel dysphoric [on the one hand, being w/ a WLW & I'm not a "W", on the other, more likely to enjoy my body w/o assigning meaning outside the scope of them being bodyparts]. But... That last person really opened my eyes to why a relationship like that might make sense for some people. I appreciate having that wake-up call & I'll be informing myself more on that subject. 💕
20:30 yeah speaking from personal experience yeah this is an issue 😭 can relate too hard.
Honestly I think it's cause there are a lot of spaces in the gamer community that are actually really toxic, because a lot of "soft bi gamer boys" really have a lot of subtle misogyny and internalized homophobia and they think it's okay to use slurs because their friend knew a goldfish who fit in that marginalized group one time and he said it's okay.
That last one is how I'm coming to feel being transfemme-enby
I want to be perceived as androgynous/feminine, but I have lived experiences and genuine damage that only other people who have lived as men have felt. These spaces are supposed to group people who've had shared experiences with one another, so if a trans man needs to go to a women only space, they should not be excluded, or if they need to be in men only spaces, those should be available as well.
Trans people exist outside of the constructs society has been built around. If care is truly taken to help us, then the boundaries must be made fluid to allow us to get the support we need, not our identities be made rigid to place us into our roles.
I transcribed this section of p.45, from Females by Andrea Long Chu. (7:32)
"In the United States, the man known as the father of gynaecology, J. Marion Sims, built the field in the antebellum South operating on enslaved women in his backyard, often without anaesthesia-or, of course, consent. As C. Riley Snorton has recently documented, the distinction between biological females and women as a social category, far from a neutral scientific observation, developed precisely in order for the captive black woman to be recognised as female-making Sim's research applicable to his women patient in polite white society-without being granted the status of social and legal personhood. Sex was produced, in other words, precisely at the juncture where gender was denied. In this sense, a female has always been less than a person" (Andrea Long Chu, 2019)
32:40
bffr. as a lesbian who used to identify as a trans man (until i realized that label no longer fit me) this response is fucking ridiculous. being a lesbian means a non-man who is attracted to non-men. trans men are men. if you use he/him pronouns and identify as a lesbian because you don't identify as a man that's fine because pronouns do not equal gender. but MEN cannot claim to be lesbians, including trans men. the creator is just throwing around buzzwords but what he's saying makes absolutley no sense.
(TW very brief mentions of @$$ault) the creator's second response at 35:49 is COMPLETELY deflecting from the original question (which was a very valid point; men are not and under NO CIRCUMSTANCES should be allowed in lesbian spaces). his point about how lesbians won't allow trans men into OUR communities because we're scared of cis men @$$aulting us makes no sense. we don't allow non-lesbian women into our spaces because they're not lesbians, which is the same exact reason we don't allow trans men into our spaces. BECAUSE THEY ARE NOT LESBIANS, THEY ARE MEN.
if a cis man were to identify as a lesbian everyone would tell him that men can't be lesbians, and very rightfully so. i don't see how it is at all different from trans men.
if you're going to call me transphobic and say that i'm trying to "turn trans men into lesbians" please don't. just because i no longer identify as a man doesn't mean any other trans men should detransition if they dont't want to; i'm not "forcing lesbianism" on anyone. please do some reasearch and listen to people like me. lesbians are shit on so much by cishets and even other members of the queer community and we just want a break and a safe space free from men and non-lesbians, which has never been provided. if i came off as rude, which i'm sure i did, i'm just exhausted from all the blatant lesbophobia and erasure constantly present. thank you for at least hearing me out and i'm happy to discuss civilly with anyone with opposing opinions.
Resistance to change is counter to protecting queer spaces. The line between lesbian and bi has been blurred too long. Bi and lesbian solidarity ask why not be a bi woman who dates anyone but cishets. Or a bi trans man who dates nonmen.
I think this can also be related to a related problem of just kind of putting a lot of marginalized people into women's spaces because god forbid cis (mostly het) men have to share a space with someone not exactly like them. Did this make sense? Probably not, but I'm tired. Also I think it's relevant to mention that I'm a nonbinary trans man.
@@Ollie_nel yes !! women's spaces can't be all-encompassing for everyone that isn't a cishet man
@@isla.g so why call it such an exclusionary term? Lesbian. Non men attracted to non men. That excludes most queer people from far
I love the pronouns in the corner so no one will get them confused, more people should do that 😊
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You should probably pin this
Ty 💚
My God ur comment isn't pinned?! :0 also thanks for the video
Holy shit! That rock-in-shoe analogy hit hard, even though it sounded kinda silly at first lol
Y’all, I accidentally started a club when I was at school last year💀, it was really sweet tho, it was made of like- all the trans kids in my school who wanted to learn how to wear makeup properly, cause I’m really good at makeup and offered to help teach my trans friend to put some on so she wouldn’t look like a clown, and word got around, so during lunch me and like the 12 trans kids in my school sat in the women’s bathroom while I taught them how to makeup properly. It was great.
That's so cute 😭
that would be so good and fun
okay im from Poland so US laws don't affect me but I watched the interview with Jon Stewart and the Arkansas Attorney General recommended in one of the tiktoks and it's sooooo good i can't!!! His calm disappointed parent/teacher approach works so well, he knows how to argue with stupid people - you literally can't watch the video and say that HE'S the incompetent one!! so thank you for putting a recommendation of that video in this compilation, because it made me really happy!!
3:36 that book actually sounds so fun and silly /pos
it's stupid that people don't like it because "people like that don't exist", but what about artemis fowl?? harry potter?? wings of fire?? that one tooth fairy game from my childhood that they turned into a show and deleted the game??? theres so much magic and fantasy creatures in media
"it took me a three minute taylor swift song to get there" story of my life right there
tiktok at 20:10 UGH. I KNOW this. Here's a rant.
I'm non-binary. I use they/them pronouns. I'm fempresenting and AFAB. I'm 16 y/o and not out to anyone other than my sister and most of my friends, a ton of acquaintances who have been told I'm trans ignore it/use the right stuff for like a singular minute and then go back to the incorrect stuff and I do not have the energy or the space to correct them, and even if I did they would probably hate it and not want to talk to me anymore (I won't care about them after graduation, so idc, they choose to ignore who I ACTUALLY am and only believe a fake presentation, that's their problem not mine). Also, safety, I don't want to be outed to ppl who will call me slurs, I'd rather not increase my mental health issues and decrease my self-esteem.
Of course, these acquaintances are cishet people. Although plenty of queer people fuck up all the time, don't apologize for it on their own, etc.
I happen to be bisexual. I get a lot of crushes that are cishet white males, unfortunately. It's not that I'm not attracted to any other person, that just happens to be how it is. Ethnicity isn't really important though, since a lot of cultural and racial backgrounds carry the whole gender binary thing, I am attracted to anyone of any ethnicity, but the majority of people in my environment are white. Why this is unfortunate is because the vast majority of those cishet males would NEVER accept me.
I KNOW I will not be seen as who I am by most people I'm attracted to. And if they do, it would take a lot of work on both parts. I understand why and it's systemic instead of personal, but I don't want to do that work. I don't want to have to expect, every single time I meet someone, to have to explain in great detail who I am, over and over and over again, with the threat of losing my interest. And seeing them fall out and give up- which people have done. People complaining about how they have to memorize new names and pronouns.
It hurts. I like the idea of being the feminine role in a relationship in some situations. But I know, because of the sex I was assigned at birth, the genitals and features I bare or lack, how I present, and the lack of energy and ability to change people's minds or fight them on my basic fucking identity, that the SECOND I am perceived as feminine, I will only ever be perceived as a girl, and that man will always be straight.
I hate it. It's how it is, but I hate it.
I'm lucky to not have as much as gender dysphoria as a lot of other trans people. But I will always, ALWAYS struggle with social dysphoria, especially if I never change how I look. I'm FINE with how I look, because I can see ME, the KADE. But others look and they see my deadname. It's a terrible feeling and such a thing to confront when approaching dating and social life in general.
This is such a feeling. I feel this in my soul. I'm AFAB and non-binary and fairly femme-presenting. Ppl look at me and see my features and some of my socialized-female behaviors and go subconsciously go, "This person looks and acts how I expect someone with a female body to look, and sex=gender, therefore girl." And one of my jobs is very customer-service oriented. I work with K-12 students in a library. I get really bad customer-service dysphoria. I don't like being addressed as "Miss, Ms., ma'am, ladies." I get that ppl are just trying to be polite, but I get major icks getting gendered in a customer service context. I don't have the time or energy or desire to actively justify my identity and experience. It's exhausting, and in some cases actively interferes with my work. Not to say that being misgendered doesn't have its own mental toll.
For me, my experience of being non-binary is sort of like being agender but genderfluid. Overall, I don't really feel like I have a gender, but I flux b/t feeling more masculine, femenine, and enby, and sometimes they overlap. I genuinely enjoy femenine things, and it was only after coming out to myself as non-binary that ai feel comfortable in my feminity. But then ppl's perception of me kind of screws with my head. I genuine enjoy my feminity, masculinity, and enbiness, but they get complicated by how ppl percieve me. Sometimes being excessively gendered can even cause me to defensively present more masculine. Or if ik that I'm going to be in a context where I'll be misgenered a lot, then I will "proactively" default into feeling more masculine. Ik that changing my presentation doesn't affect ppl gendering me, but I guess it gives me the illusion of control.
In general, it just makes existing way more complicated, bc making friends, working, casual convos, doctor's visits, dating travel, etc., all hinge around gender perceptions and sterotypes. For example, one time I was at the grocery looking for something in the toilettries for something--idk what. And while overall it wasn't a bad interaction, it was clear that the reason this person asked me was bc they assumed that I was a woman and I guess women know things about skincare?? It's such a weird space to exist in and really complicates my relationship with all kinds of relationships and interactions: customer service, romantic, s*exual, platonic, paternal, and familial relationships. I def have a multi-layered anxiety about dating that partly stems from a potential partner's and society's perception of me/us. Then, as you mentioned, safety's a whole 'nother layer
@@r82033 God, there's not a single thing I couldn't relate to for this, other than my gender identity. We're in the same boat.
I feel like I do have a gender, it's just pretty all over the place and unable to be described. Genderfluid, genderqueer, nonbinary do the best to give it some sort of title. Like I feel like nobody knows my gender or deserves to know it or could understand, it's very personal. Sometimes, because of genderfluidity, I do feel super feminine and like a woman and I might even (in the past, anyways) ask for people to use she/her pronouns and feminine terms when referring to me. That confuses people, I think. How can you cry today when the other day you were overjoyed when I said the same things? It sucks, because some days I want to delve back into the whole girl side of things, but I feel... guilty somehow? And now I have a fear too because certain people started misgendering me when they hadn't before I had a very, very feminine day. It's funny because my brain misgenders me all the time too, and I get upset at myself for referring to myself in the wrong way. I'm just so used to everyone doing this.
Luckily, I do have a few friends who are so genuinely understanding and most of the time I believe them when they say they see me as Kade. A couple people have even said that they always saw me as genderless. Unluckily, I can never fully appreciate gender euphoria because it is always surrounded and interrupted by dysphoria.
There's some things to alleviate this trans pain. Those friends, and the occasional filter that makes me look so ridiculously masculine and androgynous. In the future though, I can experiment with masculine clothing (binders and boxers sound awesome), maybe even makeup, and I'll definitely change my legal name. Hopefully live with a friend who does everything right, when it comes to my gender. Do you experience dysphoria surrounding names? Have you done any name changes, medical transitioning, etc? I'm curious, as this reciprocated essay affected me as mine did to you. I hear your experience and sympathize.
It's incredible how strong humans are. We're able to live in social environments that drain us and we feel so out of place. Here's hoping society changes and we people suffer a little less. Only way we can do that is through education and sharing our experiences, I guess. We're trying!
33:30- I’m not trying to invalidate this person’s clear thoughts and experiences, but from what I’ve seen, most of the people who don’t like the idea of trans men and lesbians being together are not weird cis people: they’re trans men. Myself included. It just feels uncomfortable to me and the fact that the guy got so angry at people who just exhibit genuine discomfort at the idea of a lesbian in a relationship with a man who just happens to have a vagina not cool. And I don’t mean he/him lesbians. Am I in the wrong here? Is there something I’m missing?
I think that it's okay for you to feel discomfort, I'm a trans man myself and would feel uncomfortable in a relationship with a lesbian. However, that discomfort is from my own feelings and also that rhetoric of what counts as a woman or not is mainly rooted in racism, where women of color were considered "non-women" or not "female" enough. Which the guy probably understands and caught when he got a lot of messages saying lesbians don't date men, or trans men shouldn't be in lesbian spaces, because some women or lesbians of color weren't allowed in those spaces for a long time. Or at least that's what I've understood based on what people have explained.
as a lesbian i completely agree !! i would never find myself attracted to a trans man because i'm not attracted to ANY men and i think it's a bit odd that there's a distiction. i commented a very long and passionate paragraph earlier but the points the creator made were just a bit strange. "lesbian" means non-man who is attracted to other non-men and i don't see why trans men should fall into that category considering they are men.
This could be called second hand dysphoria, which is feeling invalidated by other people who identify similarly to you doing things that you wouldn't be comfortable with doing yourself. The key is to remember that labels are just shorthand for describing your identity to others. Calling myself a trans man doesn't immediately tell you everything about me, or even my gender. Imo, being so rigid with labels kind of defeats the whole purpose of being queer. Since when do our identities need to make sense to others? Isn't the whole point to be comfortable with yourself? If some lesbians and trans men are comfortable dating each other, that shouldn't threaten your gender or sexuality. If you're not interested, that's okay! Move on and be happy that other queer people are happy too.
@Sofia Collins this has been the porpoise of the bi lable for decades these people are bi not lesbians please don't erase bi people. The blurry line between bi and lesbian leans more towards bi people in lesbian spaces trans men attracted to nonmen in bi spaces.
that's the thing, it depends! there are many trans men who have close ties to the lesbian communities and consider themselves lesbians and date lesbians, and many that would feel invalidated and uncomfortable in those situations. we should acknowledge and accept both, and realize that labels are fluid and mean different things to different people.
there are no two trans men who feel the same about their gender, no two people of any identity that experience it in the same way. learn to understand that we all have different experiences and don't force other people into boxes that are easier to understand.
I always just describe my period as "The Blood Moon has Risen!!!"
im SO glad i found your channel because the amount of effort that you put into the compilations is so refreshing just the detail of the pronouns for everyone or the warnings that you'll put and you also give resources and credits for queer people to use and that just AMAZING honestly its these things that really make a video and creator special and enjoyable like most compilation channels are extremely lazy with their videos and get millions of view so even though you do get that much I think yours are 100x better!!
I bought “How To Excavate a Heart” because of this vid and I’m so excited to read it! I’m always up for a sapphic romance novel.
I always appreciate the care you put into these compilations. Thank you!
I'm so proud of everyone in the video and the comments. 💚
Ha joke’s on you my gender’s already out of the oven. It’s just cooling.
Did it turn out well? Mine melted in the oven so I’m stuck with this gender fluid.
@@Lkat. kind of! Got kind of a mixture goin on, but even tho boy flavour was only a tiny bit of the original mix, it seems to have overtaken the rest :)
I envy you, when I took my gender out it was just gone!! Nothing there!!! No clue what happened!!
@@south452 Ah. Maybe your temperature was too high and it turned into ash? Gender is real finicky with temperature sometimes
Mine was a nice feminine creme Brule, now I'm just trying to figure out if i should show my parents, they are critical of these things
*Billie Joel plays*
We didn't build the closet!
13:00 I’ve never thought of it that way but like…yeah. My being “closeted” is really just that I haven’t come out yet and don’t correct people when they say homophobic or even just ignorant stuff
thank you for the last ones! it was important for me to hear and understand as a trans nb person! statistics was also impressive! thank you! have a good day 💚
Trans men are women, that's way they are oppressed and suffer vi0lence just as any other woman aut there. Redfems don't say there's something inherently vi0lent in men, it's gender (as a social construct) that makes them like that and a society they benefit from. Also, you can't be trans and NB, given that a transition is always binary. You go from one thing to another.
12:55 this person is so well-spoken!!!! YES!! THIS!!!!!!!
OKAY BUT THE
"not a girl"
THE ICONIC LINE ISTG
My gender's done, so now I'm putting in the cookies. At least the oven was already preheated.
2:05 loud noise warning is something I've never seen before but desperately need all the time. you're the best, love, thank you
The cis boyfriends referring to their nonbinary partners as specifically women is so true. My nb friend has seen multiple cis men now who refer to them as specifically a woman and it's always so frustrating. Just respect your partner ffs
33:39 and 35:59 scared me, like I'm getting told off for somethin I didn't do when I'm just a simple omnisexual, gender cooking person trynna make a beanie. What'd I do to my buddies???
So well-put about the closet!
For clothes if you have a target their kid clothes are really cool and usually come in big sizes
4:11 this happened to me once google said it should be a 6 minute walk but i get there in 3 minutes±
I put my gender in the airfryer
dad gender
What came out for ya?
I accidentally left mine in the fryer when I put my pizza rolls in what d
3:50 WHAT IS THE NAME OF THIS BOOK!? I NEED TO READ IT!
Check the queer resources? I haven’t checked it myself, so I don’t know if it’s in there, but ya know.
@@rulersreach4n455 I couldn't find it in there, lmk if anyone finds it pls
nooooo i thought this comment would have answers!!!
god the way you edit your videos is SO respectful.. THANK YOU with the whole of my big gay heart 🙏💖
i almost choked on my cocoa when i heard "gaygle maps"
/pos
10:49 omg surprise Semler cameo !! she's a queer Christian musician, and I highly recommend checking out their music, he's cool as hell! it's been a year and I still cry to their song Late Bloomer sometimes
This comp was awesome! I really loved the last two and I felt like they were so important to hear. I'm trying to make my feminism more intersectional and understand more about the queer experience and how not everything has a "box" to fit in and how things are complex. That creator worded things so great and helped me understand so much more!
4:50 I dont have tiktok somebody please I NEED you to go tell this woman her tied back hair is literally some of the most beautiful I have ever seen.
hey, i know that there’s a lot of comments on this video already but i wanted to mention this really cool trans documentary i found on netflix, it’s called the dreamlife of georgie stone and it’s really short, like half an hour and i thought it was really good and i know everyone here would probably be interested in stuff like this so yeah i would really recommend people check it out :]
I’ve watched it and it was such a wonderful documentary, highly recommended
This is an amazing and considerate compilation, thank you so much❤
12:37 (to the tune of we didn't start the fire)
We didn't build the closet, it was cishet white men, now we're doomed to silence
Facts in the form of a joke is my favorite activity
Sorry, 12:57
As a trans guy myself, the power and confidence that last video had was so moving. He’s inspiring, I feel seen and wish him the best :)
those last 2 videos.. UGH /pos
that’s the good stuff💞💞
yes they say very important things
Even though i normally need the loud noise warning, its just so much better when the loud noise warning isn’t also a loud noise because those always freak me out more
I had several lengthy conversations with myself about parts of moony.maroon's videos, some of which were disagreeing with points and explaining why, but I very much appreciate the overall message.
Though I don't think most cishet people would really understand half of what was talked about, would need far more explaining, but that's what length conversations are for.
I forgot to turn the oven on, so my gender is still liquid🫣
mine won't even turn solid it's still liquid!
How cold does it have to be for my gender to turn solid
The last 2 tiktoks really made me think a lot about gender - sexuality from a different angle but Im still a bit confused.. Are there any trans men or lesbians in the comments who could share their own views/experiences on the topics of these tiktoks?For context, i am a trans man who's very much binary and straight , and who personally wouldn't choose to date a woman identifying as lesbian. But I respect other lgbt+ people's identities and experiences and I would love to understand better.
See, while I know lesbians ans sapphics who both date and acknowledge trans men, I wouldn't date someone who exclusively identified as those. In my case, while I acknowledge my relationship with women and femmes as a very queer one, the labels of saphic and lesbian are often very binary, and it makes me a bit dysphoric.
based on how he's talking about how queer people can have very complex and nuanced identities that can't be reduced to simple concepts, I'm thinking he's talking about the lesbians that are ""99% gay and 1% straight"" or ""are mostly gay but every now and then they find a man they're attracted to"", or trans men who simply vibe with having a lesbian as a partner.
which just circles back to his point that gender and sexuality are complex and unique to each person and can't be judged based on strict labels
@@Mendoxs_ him** everyone’s pronouns are in the top right corner btw
@@user-ry4bm5cm4g oh my bad
@@Mendoxs_ so, bisexuals? Why are some people so against the idea of being seen as bi? It's not as if being bi is a 50/50 split, you can be more or less attracted to either
Oh how wonderful it was to hear the words "Trans men are not our oppressors" from someone other than me shouting it to non-listening ears. So so often, trans men's oppression is ignored, and never spoken about in our community. The relationship that trans men have with male privilege is so so so complex, but it is so often just boiled down to "once you pass, you are an oppressor" which is just not true. For example, in social situations especially, trans men have the capacity to be horribly misogynistic towards cis and trans women alike, and that needs to be discussed. But the systemic power we have as trans people is non existent, and we simply don't have the capacity to be structurally oppressive to other people. And these are just a few examples of the power we don't have vs the power people think we have, which they use to demonize us. We still suffer when it comes to reproductive justice, invisibility in trans discussions and media, infantilization from terfs and fetishization, and like the video said, some of the highest SA rates by gender and transness. We have things completely unique to our experience that hurts us that no one talks about, and it is so refreshing to see another person talk about it, even if that person is also a trans man (meaning, I wish non-trans men would advocate for us too, because as it stands, I feel very alone in this discussion because people simply don't know/understand what we go through as a result of our invisibility)
tldr; transmasculine oppression unique to our experiences needs to get talked about so much more than it is in order for the complete liberation of the trans community, and even for our LGB+ siblings
yoo we have the same name!! I have never heard of or met anyone else named Andromeda ever so I was slightly shocked when I read the description
You are the greatest. I live off these compilations
I can't thank you enough for making these compilations. This is incredible and overwhelming. I never thought I could learn so much from these short clips, but a lot of this info is new to me. I think lgbtq+ community will always be able to find surprising ideas that make humanity better. I'm proud that I belong to this everchanging community, and I hope my actions can protect and enrich it
I love the respect that goes into these compilations. It’s a good way to get TikTok content without having to log on to TikTok all the time.
3:26 Summer also does music now and she's really good at it from my opinion so you should look at her other work!
I wish my gender was reversible bread, shape shifting from dough to fluffy bread and back again. But it's so hot right now that my gender bread keeps going bad and I have to start over....
I'm genderfluid and it's too hot in my city so I can't wear my binder without dying inside
I accidentally washed my binder and I’m sad cause I won’t be able to get a new one for a while 😢
@@gergyta9211 Oh noooo, I'm sorry that happened, that's gotta suck! I really hope you can get a new one soon, good luck!
@@AHHHHHHHH. I hope it gets cooler so you can wear yours!
Hello my fellow fluid
I'm in the same situation, but it's cold outside so I'm becoming gender-slush
20:27 shut up 'cause I know my relationship is that, I know he's straight and doesn't see me as guy (non-binary trans masculine [he/they]) but he treats me so nicely and always respects my pronouns, and doesn't says he has a girlfriend but a partner instead, and buys me food, and makes a 40min trip six days a week just to see me, but he told me he doesn't see me as a guy and that makes me wanna end the relationship sometimes but I don't know, 'cause I love him and it is such a nice relationship, we support each other in everything and talk and watch movies and cuddle…
I don't know, mate…
My gender is slow cooking in a crock pot with some potatoes
4:25 her normal hair give me vibes of the hair of afrodite/venus in that paint of her birth where she is in a shell, and totally her hair when is taid is how I imagine the hair of helen of troy would be like
@Stop Igbt ok? you going to burn your house with it or something?
1:52 I experienced this. I could hardly look at myself in the mirror before I got my hair cut
The last one got me so rallied up like preach the the f#cking music drowning out the last part, I was like seriously man T~T why
Thank you SO MUCH for the audio warning!!! ❤
@Stop Igbt Aight. Do what you want, buddy.
I'm not upset. If anything, I'm just sad. You think that it's fulfilling to make your entire personality hating people. I hope that someday you get positive attention, and that you can learn that hatred and yelling aren't the only ways to be noticed. I hope that you receive praise from someone for your accomplishments, and that you are given the opportunity to learn what love is when it doesn't come with stipulations.
I wish for you that you can find hope and love. I hope that someday you can take a look inside, figure out what you're hiding, and learn to love yourself without the need for attention from others. The world is a lovelier place than you might see right now. Give a genuine complement, and watch the person light up. Stay safe, and I wish you the best!
Sometimes I wish the world was silent, then I remember that music is one of the reasons I'm still alive right now. Though, I started learning signl anguage yesterday. I learned the alphabet, number, and whatever the heck serial numbers are. It showed a picture of a barcode, but I don't know why the difference in numbers needs to be specified, if anyone else knows though.
Appreciate the loud warning being displayed for as long as it was!! I often see similar ones that don't last long enough for me to turn my volume down.
i love the fact that you included two two nosy meerkats guests in this comp! we got clara and sunny(twice), meerkats!
Its pretty cool how in the LGBTQ community, the only rules are
-do what makes you happy
-love who you love
-be you
If you find the right spaces in our community at least.
@Stop Igbt Woah, so cool! You're so edgy and awesome1
my gender is in the target boy’s section
I found mine in the toy isle behind the minecraft Lego sets
@@juicebox2430 A squirrel took mine and left it at the top of a tree
@@danas8194 i always hate when that happens
@@danas8194 mine almost died because I forgot to water it
@Stop Igbt is this a failed attempt at a passive aggressive hate comment?
11:53 - the end of that tiktok
All I do in that situation is when a woman brings up boyfriend/crush, I will respond talking about my girlfriend/crush (using she/her pronouns or really whatever they go by other than he/him) and wait for them to ask or just leave it alone
Howdy. Could someone help me out here?
When ‘mooney maroon’ says Lesbians can be attracted to trans men… I don’t really understand that.
It might just be my skewed perspective as a pan person but do they mean to refer to lesbianism as a more broad sociological identitarian group?
Or in the sense of “women who like women”.
If its not the former than I’m hardly sure how that works.
Like if there was a trans woman and a dude then that’d be Hetero relationship not a homo one right?
Is it just more of a gynosexual/gynoromantic relationship?
‘Gyno/Gyne’ in this instance meaning femininity. But even then thats flawed in a way because not all lesbians are attracted to “femininity” because ‘femininity’ is sort of a nebulous concept.
If anyone could explain this too me I’d be very grateful.
yes, i'm also confused and opposing to what the video said i don't want to stay confused, i want to learn!
I would like to know too because the word lesbian literally means non-men attracted to non-men. And trans men are men. It includes enbies and especially masculine people and multi-gender ppl but not strict men. I really dont like that he equalized gender identity with gender expression, pronouns, and AGAB.. every explanation I see from it is really confusing and just says "well because they say so, labels are dumb" which..... ehhhh. I'm very confused and want to know what these ppl are actually talking about
I'm now going to ask everybody when they name a distance "what's that in gay miles?"
love how the back half of this video was just educational, thank you Andromeda !
Nah my gender is still defrosting, not even in the oven yet
Anybody know what the black-deaf-gay-fairy book is at 3:40? I want to read it... 😅
Question about the last two. Wouldn’t being in a relationship/ being attracted to a trans man as a lesbian either insinuate that you’re bi/pan/non-lesbian or that the trans-man isn’t really a man? Ik that this is just identity politics/policing or whatever but im genuinely a little confused like from my understanding lesbian is being attracted to everyone from enby and a-gender to binary women, doesn’t that just exclude trans mascs/men? Like there was that whole thing a while ago with lesbian men, how is that diff/gen and then for the last one, i didn’t really get his points, why would trans men be in lesbian/fem spaces? Again ik its just politics and policing but i kinda just don’t get it. (Im not trying to br exclusionary, im just confused. Also its not your job to educate me, imma go read the things he pulled up at the end but an explanation from a non-book would be helpful)
i don’t agree with saying trans men and lesbians can be in a romantic relationships
cis men and lesbians could not be in a relationship either, and neither can trans men
saying they can be together completely gets rid of trans men‘s identity as men
My friends all forgot my deadname until I ran away from home and it ended up all over Facebook sooooo
The stuff around the 19:00 really makes me genuinely sad. At first I thought it was going to be about op discussing their happy experience about getting a gamer bf who figured out they were queer through them, which I have experienced but instead it was about transphobia. As someone who is an older trans person I’m begging to all my young transmascs, and just queer people in general, if you are with someone and they do not respect you especially your queerness, you need to leave them. Will find love elsewhere but someone treating like less than human is not love, it’s abuse.
Can anyone tell me what the book about the black deaf fairies is called? It sounds so interesting
I think it's called "The Battle For His Heart" by Tanee Hadley (correct me if anyone knows better)
30:48 is that why when people wake up in the morning most our voices are a little deeper??
20:47 I remember learning about cabesa de vaca in elementary school like he was the good guy
Now I need to read that book about black, deaf, gay faries
hi! love your videos!!! on the bottom of page 26 of the queer resources doc it says 'south wales' but it should be 'new south wales' because thats what the state that made the website is called :)) -an australian who loves your videos
Thanks for the loud noise warning!
What show is at 14:30? Looks so fun
10:13 I love this lady she’s great.